Busy, Yet Pretty - Stress Management 101: How to Stop Worrying, Work/School Pressure & Prioritizing Self Care

Episode Date: February 24, 2025

Stress and worry is the most common feeling in today's day in age. It's time to not necessarily remove ALL stress but how can you realistically lower and manage stress that airse? In this episode your host, Jadyn Hailey shares the importance of tools and perspective when it comes to stress and worry. Tune into this episode with a lavender matcha latte, as you begin to DESTRESS.   Current Obsessions: - peonies!!!! - gingham everything - focus on growing your business Shopify     Become your own dream girl with me!! : - 7AM MORNING ROUTINE | hot pilates, healthy breakfast & working from home - Instagram: Jadyn's Instagram & Busy, Yet Pretty Instagram - Busy, Yet Pretty Groupchat  - Tiktok: @Fairyjadyn - My Amazon Storefront: Jadyn's Storefront - Outfit Details: My Closet       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my love. Welcome to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. If you are new here, welcome on this show we talk all about how to become the best version of you and ultimately live your dream life. And we also talk about fun things like morning routines and love the color pink, love shabby chic, love honestly anything that just makes you feel good and interesting. So anyways, on this episode, I'm very excited because it's something that we all need, whether that you're in school or in work or just general, we all feel stressed. And stress is something that can take over not only our life, but our happiness and our day-to-day. And our stress can also impact other people because the way we portray and the way we project how we feel can go on to others. So we want to make sure that

stress can be managed. And it's not the easiest to manage stress. I'm not going to lie. But let's be real, there's so many ways that we can try to manage it better and take control of it better because we don't want to live our entire life feeling stressed from things that aren't that big of a deal or if it is a big deal. We want to know how we can actually enjoy doing that task such as school or work. So if you're feeling stressed today or right now, just know that you are not alone. We all feel this way. But let's get into our weekly review so we can get into talking all about stress. This week, I hosted my first little tea party for my friends and it was so nice.

I'm in my hosting era, so I have just been loving to host. I hosted a few little intimate brunches and vision board parties for a few of my LA-based audience and listeners. So if you want to be invited to a future event, let me know and let me know what city I should do next. Another thing this week is I have been really dialed in. I feel like on my last episode, we talked a lot about how to tap into productivity and would you rather have a year of progress or a year of excuses. And I feel like this is just our year. I can feel it. It's the start of a new chapter for us.

we got this and lastly this week is I have been just trying to realign with my goals even though it's a few months into or two months into the new year it doesn't matter how many months we are into the year we can always still realign with our goals and start fresh because the best time to start is now now and to my current obsession so my current obsession of the week is baby doll style puff sleeve dresses and tops I think they're so cute I'm wearing one right now but just the look of a baby style top to me. It's just adorable and so feminine. Another current obsession at the moment is making sourdough. I'm in my sourdough era and I know a few of you guys are as well. So it's nice to see how you guys are making your sourdough. But I've been loving making it and I'm not going to lie. The second loaf

came out perfect. So I'm really excited about this new journey. And my last current obsession at the moment is MEJ clips. I love them. I think they're so cute and they're so chic. If you haven't seen them before, they're just like really cutely styled clips with like little bows on them or little butterflies. So, so cute. Now on to my goal of the week. My goal of the week at the moment is to make a notebook of how I feel every single day of my cycle. I think it's really important to track how you're feeling so you know what stage of your cycle you're in and cycle sinking is so important. So that's something I'm really trying to practice lately, whether I'm trying to note when ovulation is or when I'm getting a headache because I feel like a lot of us get headaches before a period, but

just noting all my symptoms. Another goal of the week is to practice having less caffeine because caffeine can definitely contribute to stress, which we will get into today. But even if it's matcha, having a little less matcha because sometimes the caffeine will get to me and I'm just so jittery and having all that caffeine in you can actually cause more stress to your body and your mind. So it's really important to wean off of caffeine when you're just having a little too much of it. But honestly, I feel like this is all of us, but I swear caffeine or whatever our daily drink is, which most likely has caffeine is the highlight of our day. So it is hard to not have a matcha every single day, but, you know, just trying to be mindful.

And my last goal of the week is to finish off my taxes. I try to go ahead of time and start early, but somehow you always run into some issues when it comes to taxes. So if you haven't done your taxes yet, get started now, so you're done early. Now on two, your affirmation of the week. I am safe and okay. I can allow myself to relax. I love that affirmation so much because sometimes we're so amped up and frustrated and nervous and stressed and we forget that we can allow ourselves to relax. We need to allow ourselves to relax because if we don't give ourselves time to refuel and recharge, we're not going to be able to perform our best throughout the day. Now on to your self-love question. What brings me the most

peace during stressful times? I love that question so much and I really recommend asking yourself because whether that's an activity or doing something such as calling your mom, whatever it is, it's good to be mindful of these tools, again, which we will get into today, but being mindful of what really helps you as a little quick fix that is healthy and natural, such as taking deep breaths, calling your mom, whatever it is that you can go to when you're in time of stress. Now on to your challenge of the week. Be aware of what stresses you out the most and note it to yourself if needed. I love that so much because sometimes we just don't know what stresses us out until it happens. So it's really good to be mindful of it and kind of realize what is the energy

drainers and what are the energy givers in your life? Because let me tell you, if you're trying to keep something around, whether it's a person or a thing or a bad habit, that's an energy drainer, it's only going to continue pulling you down. Now on to the podcast review. If you want to be featured on next week's episode, make sure you leave a podcast review over Apple Podcasts and leave a rating over Spotify. This review is from Jay Day. I think that's how you say your name.

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and it being a comfort or some sort of motivation to you in your day, it just what makes my heart feel so full. So thank you so much. And without further ado, let's get into today's episode. So today, we're going to talk all about stress management 101 and how to stop worrying, because stress and worry are like a two-in-one package. You're not going to have just stress and you're not going to have just worrying.

It is honestly very similar, but two different things because stress can cause worry and worry can cause stress. So we're going to talk about stress and worrying and prioritizing self-care and also work-in-school pressure because I can only assume that a lot of stress you have stems from work or school or maybe relationships. That's also another big trigger. And of course, meditation is great in general practices and methods like that. they work, but I understand that not everyone enjoys meditation, and I feel like many of us are sick of hearing, just meditate to get rid of your stress, because it's a very general thing to recommend. And yes, it does work, but not everyone enjoys it. And that's okay. Honestly, I like meditating.

I don't love it. There's other things that make me feel less stress than meditating. So sometimes that's not our go-to, and that's okay. So I'm going to share with you extra different type of ways other than the general ones that can help you manage your stress and lower your stress with both general methods, but most of all methods that aren't talked about as much, that can truly just be a saving grace when it comes to worry or stress. You're going to hear me say stress a lot in this episode, but stress can come from anything and can come from school, work, relationships, and also the unknown. That is something where a lot of people don't talk about enough is sometimes we stress with uncertainty and the unknown. That's something I struggle.

with when I don't know my exact plans for next week, I sometimes can get stressed about that because I'm a big planner. It's in my personality. And sometimes the unknown can cause stress. And when you have stress going on in your mind, it can also manifest into physical pain in the body, which many of us, you probably have experienced this maybe even recently, but you probably have felt before you're like, why is my neck killing or why is my back hurting or why is my head hurting for no reason? For no reason. in. And that can even come in a form of a panic attack or tiredness from being in overdrive. But stress can impact how we feel. You may even feel and be one of the people who your eye kind of twitches when you're stressed. That happens to me. I'll be like, why is my eye twitching? Oh,

no wonder, I've been really stressed lately. And let me tell you, stress is normal and stress is okay. And we actually need some stress in our life because it helps us balance how we feel. But in today's day and age, we are overly stressed. So it's good to have as least the amount of stress as we can. But again, stress is normal. But when stress takes over your life and is impacting your health and your happiness and your day-to-day, that is not normal. But again, it is not uncommon. So something my mom taught me that I found very important to realize when trying to heal stress

and start managing your stress better is prevention before the problem. There's many things that you can do to be prevention to stress and prevent more stress from coming on. So that's staying ahead with your homework, not waiting until the last second. Things like that is prevention before the problem because the problem is you not getting your homework done in time. So what can you do to prevent that? Something you can do is working ahead and getting it done earlier. Maybe you have a hard time with your room being really dirty or your house being really unkept. The problem is your house is mess.

and how can you prevent that? Tidying up every single day before you go to bed. Something that you can do to prevent a problem is going to benefit you in the long run and your future self will be thanking you. So do things to prevent you from getting in that position and you need to begin setting yourself up for success. I don't know your situation and we all have different stress triggers and things that form our stress.

And again, I don't know your lifestyle and I don't know what has happened to you and I don't know what's causing you stress or worry because worry and stress can be caused from many different causes. But the common denominator is stress. We all have stress. And it's for many of us taking over our life. So how can we manage it better? Because the goal of being stress-free is very hard and unreachable. Maybe one day you'll be fully stress-free. But the goal of being, how can I manage it better, is going to be more productive than thinking, how can I fully get rid of all of my stress. I'm going to let you know some of my favorite ways that you can stop stress from starting and also stop stress in its tracks because a lot of times we need a quick fix of something

that's going to stop stress when we didn't even realize it was coming on, but all of a sudden you were just piled with work and you're like, oh my gosh, how am I going to be able to do all of this? I've mentioned this in past episodes before, but you need to start viewing things less serious and in the perspective of it's not the end of the world. Many times we feel like, oh my gosh, this is undoable. It's the end of the world. Trust me, I felt that way and you have felt that way. But we have to kind of break things down and realize this is not an original experience.

As much as we think we're the only one going through this, let me just tell you, and this is not to diminish how you feel, and this is not to say what your feeling is not valid because that is far from the truth. But it's to realize that somebody always has it worse. and it's kind of not great to think like that, but it's almost like, you know what? I would take my position more than somebody else's, and that says a lot.

That can help you be like, wait, you know what, this is doable. I rather have my position than somebody else who has it worse than me, and let me just break this down into steps. Maybe you forget to do your homework. It's not the end of the world. Maybe you didn't complete all your errands. It's not the end of the world. Let's say you failed and am really important.

and test. It's not the end of the world. You canceled on your friend last minute. It's not the end of the world. This too shall pass. Remember that. This too shall pass. So whatever it feels like this is the worst thing ever happening to me, you felt that many times in your life. There's many times that you have felt this is it. And look at all those times that have passed and you're here today, you're okay. Things work out. Your hardest and biggest stressor right now will feel tiny. years from now, or even a year from now, or even a week from now, it will feel so small, even though it felt so big at the moment. And if nobody has told you lately, I want you to know that I am so proud of you. There's things that you've gone through that you should be so proud

of yourself, even if that's waking up in the morning. You should be proud of yourself, getting up and brushing your teeth. Be proud of yourself for every little thing that you do. So understand that your hard work will never go unnoticed. Even if you feel like nobody's congratulating you. You don't need someone to clap or to congratulate you that you got out of bed today. Do that for yourself. Be that for yourself. Do it for you. Don't do something for yourself for the validation of someone else giving you applauding for it. Do it for yourself. Get out of bed. Get out of bed. Get ready. Do your work. Work hard for you and not anyone else. So whatever you've been going through or whatever tiny steps that you've taken, be proud of yourself. Because if no one's told you, tell yourself.

do a task as hard or as little as it is, from getting a good grade on an exam, to taking the kids to school, to just getting up in the morning and brushing your teeth. Whatever that task is, show gratitude and proudness to yourself that you showed up for yourself today. Because let me remind you, you are the only person who can show up for you the way you have the potential to show up for yourself. And a great way to prevent stress from coming on or stopping stress in its tracks is movement. And again, that's almost like recommending meditation. It's a very general recommendation. But you sometimes you kind of think if it's general and a known recommendation, it's maybe because it works. Okay. It works. But again, this is just a general one that I'm recommending,

but movement can be so important towards stress and your mental health. And it doesn't need to be boring. Stop making movement boring. Find something that you can enjoy. Maybe that's a color walk where you go on a walk with yourself or a friend and pick a color as like an intention before your walk and maybe you want to spy everything that's yellow on your walk. So you're going to be looking around on your walk and try to spy everything that's yellow because it's your color walk. So maybe you see a yellow flower or a yellow billboard or a yellow butterfly. Doing that makes you be mindful and it also gives your brain and your head a chance to stop. put on the brakes, stop thinking about anything else that's stressing you out, and just be present in the moment. And one of the best ways to de-stress is connecting with nature. So I feel like a color walk where you're getting the best at both worlds where you're getting a little movement in, and you're also connecting with nature is honestly the perfect way to distress. I can't be the only one who has this dream item of theirs that they always see,

whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top, and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere. That's me with this one, vintage Duny and Burke bag. I literally was looking everywhere for it and I somehow found one on a Poshmark. But not just one. I found multiple of them at such a good price and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces. They really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now.

Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy, and go in Pashmark to add to your new spring wardrobe. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use code Bizzy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase. Or shop now at Pashmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K.com slash busy. I can't be the only one who has this dream item of theirs that they always see, whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top, and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere.

That's me with this one, vintage Duny and Burke bag. I literally was looking everywhere for it, and I somehow found one on a Poshmark. But not just one. I found multiple of them at such a good price, and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces, they really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy and go in Poshmark to add to your new spring wardrobe. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait.

Download the Poshmark app and use Code Bizzy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase. Or shop now at Poshmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K.com slash busy. One of the biggest ways to prevent stress is to not over-schedule. And I really want to highlight this one because when you over-schedule, you're just putting more and more and more on you. And this goes for both work and personal life. Be mindful of not over-booking and over-scheduling plans with friends. And most importantly, stop over-scheduling tasks because when you start putting down 10 tasks a day, okay, I need to go today. start a business. I need to clean my entire house. I need to go to the library and find a new book I need.

I need to. And you're listing all these millions of different tasks that you need to do in one day. You're not going to get them all done, obviously. Nobody can get all that done because you only have such limited hours of the day. And let alone, imagining that you aren't home all day long and you work or you have school, you already have limited hours throughout the day at home. So why are you scheduling out so much things to do when you're just going to leave yourself disappointed at the end of the day realizing you couldn't complete it all. Setting too many tasks in your day will leave you disappointed at the end of the day because you can't get everything checked off because you simply couldn't do it all and it's not that you couldn't do it. It's that nobody could do that much.

You are doing yourself a disservice by over scheduling because every day that you set too many task for yourself, you're going to end each day feeling unproductive and disappointed in yourself because you couldn't simply complete at all. Stop biting off more than you can chew. You'll achieve more by scheduling out what you can realistically do each day in your said hours of the day that you have. So instead of listing 10 different tasks every day on your to-do list, set three main intentions slash goals or task for each day and prioritize those three. And if you can achieve those, you can then afterwards go on to the additional task that you want to complete. But instead of just waking up each day, seeing 10 tasks on your schedule, it's going to throw your cortisol levels

out of whack. You're going to feel stress. You're going to feel overwhelmed because you're going to think, how am I going to complete all this today? So work smarter, not harder. Scheduling out. Scheduling out three tasks and completing three tasks are going to be a lot more beneficial than scheduling out 10 tasks and getting done zero. And if you have extra time in your day, then afterwards you can go to those extra tasks that you want to complete. You'll also wake up every day and seeing your to do-do lists, you're going to feel a lot less overwhelmed and you're going to think of it much more doable, having three realistic goals than seeing 10 goals and feeling to yourself, where do I even start? When it comes to work hours, of course, work as much as you can to fulfill your

income but also it's very important to realize to not overwork yourself because you can only work so much until you hit a breaking point and of course i understand i'm not in your position where you may feel like you have to work more hours to support yourself but if you tend to find yourself seeing work or school as almost like a hobby where you're doing above and beyond sometimes you don't even realize but you're kind of starting to run yourself dry and ragged because you're overworking yourself in an overdrive where you're all of a sudden going to hit rock bottom and need that fuel to pick yourself up. So don't overwork yourself because that only pushes you back from your happiness. We always say, I'll be happy when something. I'll be happy when I achieve this.

I'll be happy when I finally have my dream house. I'll be happy when I finally travel to Europe. I'll be happy when I am a straight-a-student. It's important you catch yourself when you begin to say that because we're always going to thank you. that when we achieve this or we achieve that is when we'll finally achieve happiness, but that's not the truth. Because when you finally achieve that one thing, you'll already be on the next thing saying, I'll be happy when I achieve this when I achieve that. It's never going to end because you'll always be happy when. So it's important to realize that you need to be happy now. Now is the time. And something that I love where I kind of relate to this type of thing is

Ina Garden always preaches to not save things and use them now. Don't save things. for special occasions. If you have a dress that you love that maybe is a little more pricier, don't save it for the perfect day because the perfect day is now. There's going to be no perfect day. You're going to get new things. Stop saving them. Stop saving time you could be happy by using it now. So stop waiting for you to finally be happy when you become a straight day student. Start finding that happiness now because when you achieve being a straight day student, then it'll just be a cherry on top because who knows you may not even achieve that and then what are you going to do never be happy your whole life no you have to start living in the process and enjoying the process it's also a climb it's like the mountain is the very top that's where the goal is enjoy the climb up enjoy the view up there because once you get to the top of the mountain okay you did it now you're going to want to go climb a higher mountain after that so you have to enjoy the process on the way there So in conclusion, be mindful of enjoying the now.

You need to stop stressing about things that you cannot change. Don't give me wrong, it is in our nature to just stress and worry about things that we cannot change. We all do it. But for you and to be kinder to yourself, you need to let that go. So you need to stop stressing about things that are not in your hands. Don't be stressed and worried about what the blood test results are that you just took. And don't get me wrong. We all do that.

But try to manage your stress on that. Let go of the stress that you have about your blood test results. Let go of the stress about what the exam results that you took are going to be. Let go of that stress and worry because you stressing and worrying about it is not going to make the results come to you any quicker. And it's also not going to change the results. All that's going to do is pull you down more, put more stress on your heart, your mind, and your body, and cause more problems for you rather than, and letting go and you can think to yourself, whatever you're worrying or stressing about,

what is the worst that could happen? If you have a speech coming up that you're really nervous to speak in front of the class, because public speaking can be scary. If that's something you're scared of, what's the worst that could happen? Seriously, what is the worst? Okay, you mess up on your speech.

Even if you peed your pants while doing your speech because you got so nervous, okay, the world didn't end. What does it matter? You're not going to know these people the rest of your life. It doesn't matter. Stop being so hard on yourself and stressing yourself out when you don't deserve to have all this stress and worry on you. So what's the worst that could happen? Once you realize that and you think of the worst, okay, yeah, maybe you don't want that to happen to you. But it's not the end of the world. And if you think what's the worst that can happen and that thing really happens to you, so be it. you take each step as it comes.

Again, you being in a bad situation or being in a bad experience is not original. As much as you think you're the only one in the world thinking or feeling this way right now, you're not. And that's not supposed to diminish how you're feeling, but it's supposed to make you feel better that we're all feeling certain ways. This has happened to someone else too. Do you think that you tripping in public is you're the only one who ever trips in public? Let me tell you, millions of other people have had that happening.

to them today. So if you can think to yourself, if the worst of the worst did happen, I'm not the first one in the world experiencing this right now. Many people have. This is not an original experience and I can get through this. If someone else can, I can definitely as well. Many people have been and are in the same exact position as you are right now. So allow yourself to let out your emotions and how you feel and what's built up because it's really good to cry. It's good to cry. It's good to journal out your emotions. It's good to talk to someone because sometimes when you talk to people, it just feels like a heavy weight is off your chest. But allow yourself to get that emotions out and then pick yourself back up and tackle each step one step at a time.

But again, what are the odds of the worst of the worst happening? Most likely it's not going to happen. So don't think that far. That's another thing. Stop thinking so many steps of head of you. Think about what's in front of you right now. I'll be so honest with you. I struggled and still struggle with health anxiety. And that's something where I always think I have something with my health wrong. And I definitely have little things. Like I have gas issues where I have like a lot of trap gas in my chest. But that was something where I always thought I was having a heart attack because I didn't know what that feeling was. So for a few years, I, and I still to this day, we'll feel that once in a while. but I would always think this is a heart attack.

This is it. This is a heart attack. And then I would go as far as what I would want my funeral to look like. Look, I would map that out in my head. Think about that. You're planning your death. You're planning so far ahead that doesn't need to even, your mind doesn't even need to go there right now.

Sometimes we can just let our mind wander and wander and wander without stopping. It's like a ball rolling down a hill. It doesn't stop. It just keeps going. And then that's our thoughts, where it just keeps going until we finally have to make it stop. We have to make it stop at a point. And that's where we need a quick fix, which I will get into a few of my favorite quick fixes. But back to what I was saying with my health anxiety, it would get so bad where I'd be planning so many steps ahead, thinking I was truly dying, when I would go to the doctors every time and they would say, you're not having a heart attack, you're just having trapped gas.

We can tell. And in fact, it was trapped gas. And so many times and days and months, I spent planning my death when I did not need to be. So stop letting your mind go to the worst case scenario as possible and start thinking of the best case scenario because most likely it's not going to be the worst case scenario that happens about what you're stressing about or worrying about. It's not. So start instead thinking what is the best case scenario and if you just cannot get past the

thought of what if the worst happens and if the worst happens, then you take each step as it comes, but instead of going chapters ahead, focus on what's right in front of you. So don't waste your years stressing about the unknown or worrying about something that may not even happen to you. Another thing is, again, when it comes to pain being manifesting into the body, if you are extremely stressed about things or worrying about things, you can also start worrying about a feeling that you're feeling that's actually being caused by stress. And what I mean by that is you may be thinking, why am I sweating? or why do I have a headache? Why is my chest hurting? And all these why, why, why? When you have to go

dig a little deeper and realize maybe this is actually caused by stress, am I overly stressed right now? What is on my mind? Let me take a second to debrief what has been going on the past few hours or days and allow my mind to take a relaxation time. If you're overly stressed or worried, you can begin having stress in the body because it manifests into the body. You may have panic attacks. You may have headaches or eye twitches like I said earlier. So allow yourself not to get to that point and start doing prevention before the problem. And it's easier said than done, but stop worrying and start living. And when it comes to stress coming on and sometimes, like I said, you need a quick fix at that very moment. Here's some of my favorite ways that you can stop stress in its tracks and practice these

things when it starts to come on. So it doesn't go into tumbling into worse and worse where you have a panic attack or it doesn't tumble into being a full-on stress case where you're hitting rock bottom because we don't want to hit rock bottom. Why do we have to hit rock bottom to change? We need to do things that stop us in the moment and not have the all-or-nothing mindset because we don't want to be either I'm at no stress or full-on stress. A little stress can happen and you can stop it before it gets into being horrible. One of my very first recommendation is take breaks. You need to take breaks and that could be any sort of break, whether you're at work or school or at home. You can try to do these in your own way that fits the environment you're in, but maybe that's you making a matcha, making your coffee, getting an ice-cold

sparkling water, or going on Pinterest and having a little scroll, calling a loved one, or like I said, do a color walk. And another thing I really do recommend, even though I just recommended Pinterest, but try to have your breaks not be on your phone because sometimes all it is is like a band-aid on how you're feeling and it's not allowing your brain to actually take a break because when you are stressed and then you go to your phone all of a sudden you're getting all this new information while you're scrolling so the best way to do is a hands-on thing or a real thing where you're not actually feeding your brain more information and more thoughts than you already have when you are there for yourself to lean on and fall back on is when you'll begin

to realize that stress is no longer in control of you, but rather you are in control of the stress. So something that's really important is you need to start prioritizing sleep. And I know that's another general one, but you have to start prioritizing sleep because that is going to help you function better throughout the day and rationalize things better. Because when we don't have enough sleep in our body, in our system, we start to have a more on edge in a rational way of thinking throughout the day. Another thing is always eat, breakfast and meals because something that is very typical is skipping breakfast in the morning. Trust me, I have had my fair share of skipping breakfast in the morning years ago and throughout

the day, I never felt as good as I did when I had breakfast. When you start morning off with a healthy breakfast and again, try to make it where it's like nutritious, healthy, but not low calorie. We're not doing that. I'm talking, have a hearty, healthy breakfast for you to have energy and calories throughout the day to give you that energy to work and give you that fuel that you need to get everything done. Another thing is don't leave self-care as an option in the day. Sometimes we think of self-care like, we'll do it at the end of the day if I have time. I'll do it if I have time between my afternoon. The thing is, self-care needs to be as prioritized, as work, school, and as your needs for somebody else. Maybe, of course,

you want to put your kids first, and that's important. You put your kids first. But something that I think is so important, as if you were to refer to what they say in the airplane when you're about to take off is they say, in the case of emergency, put your mask on first before you put on your kids because it will help you better assist them. If you want to assist somebody better, whether that's a husband, your boyfriend, your parents, your children, whatever it is, you have to care for yourself. You have to care for yourself in order to better help somebody else.

So taking time for yourself is not selfish. It's necessary, especially if you want to help somebody else. So stop making self-care as a way if you have time and instead make it as a priority because that's going to help you refuel your mind, body, and soul and give you that recharge to keep going. Something else that is really important to get your minds off of things is organize. It is crazy. much organized can be free therapy. Not only is organizing shown to be good for your mental health, but it also helps you tidy up your space. So put on a podcast or your favorite songs or a

movie in the background and just start organizing, declutter, empty your space, because also when you do this and set yourself up for success in your workspace and you don't have a messy desk or a messy room is when you will have a clear mind. Because when your space is clear, when your home is clear when your kitchen is clear is when your mind will be clear and easier to think and you'll be able to work better. You can't work well in a messy environment. A toolbox. You need a comfort plan toolbox. And what I mean by that is for both when stress is about to come on and you need a quick fix or to prevent stress, so prevention before the problem, you need things that you can pull out at any time to help you manage your stress. So provide a comfort plan for you.

It's almost like what tools are going to be able to help you support not getting stressed out and to support any worrying moments. So take time to decipher what are energy givers to you. Maybe that's podcast or baking, journaling, gardening. Have those ideas on hand for when needed because sometimes we forget what our tools are and what really helps us and it's good to remember that. So we can stop what we're doing at that moment or schedule out time throughout the day to do that to help support our mental health. And another good one, of course, this is a general one,

but breathwork. Breathwork is extremely important, and it doesn't need to be a full-on breathwork class somewhere. And it doesn't need to be you even having to search up videos on how to do it. It could be as simple as you doing it at that very moment when you're feeling stressed at work or school or out throughout the day where you breathe in three times, count to five, and you breathe out. Nobody has to know, nobody has to see you do it, but it allows your mind to give yourself a relaxation time and to almost snap out of how you're feeling right now and realize you're reseting, it's okay, and you got this. It really just gives you that pause and reset button that you need throughout the day. And when stress comes on, it's also good to remind yourself that this is not the first time that you have been stressed and this is not the first time you have run into a hard problem. and think about every single time where you have been stressed,

you thought it was the end of the world, and it hasn't, and it all worked out. This is another one of those cases. Whatever stress or case that you are dealing with right now is going to be another thing that two shall pass. It's going to pass. It's going to be figured out, just like all the problems that you have had in the past. It's going to be another one of those. Another one, which I had mentioned earlier in the episode, but reduce your caffeine intake.

And another thing that I feel like goes hand in hand with this, but practice low-impact workouts rather than high-intensity workouts because sometimes we can do really high-intensity workouts thinking that we're doing a justice for ourselves. But actually, it can be too much stress on our body at that moment with however we're feeling throughout the day. So maybe a low-impact Pilates workout is going to be better than a really intense five-to-10-mile run.

Something that personally helps me when I'm stressed and I do this whenever I start to feel stress coming on, and I also like to do it in the evenings, but a massage gun or just kind of like lightly, but lightly hitting slash tapping myself where it's almost waking up the circulation in your body and getting your muscles feeling a little more relaxed, and it can really just take that stress off of your back and your legs and your arms. So just lightly like hitting or tapping yourself to kind of wake up your muscles. And that also ties into being aware of your nervous system. Most of the things I shared can be things that help regulate your nervous system, but there's also so many more techniques that you could do that are little quick fixes.

And I want to share a few quotes that I love before we end the episode, but this one is really important. Worrying is like walking around with an umbrella waiting for it to rain. I love that so much because, again, we think so far ahead. We think worst case scenario, rather than thinking best case scenario and just thinking about what's right in front of us, not so many steps ahead. So again, worrying is like walking around with an umbrella waiting for it to rain. And another quote that I loved is, whatever is going to happen, whether we worry or not. I love that so much again, where it comes to, it's not always in your hands. So sometimes you have to let it go.

If it's not in your hands, then it should not be in your worries. And another one of my last favorite quotes is, it's easy to feel overwhelmed when you're so focused on the future that you forget about today. I love that so much, and I really, really hope this leaves you feeling motivated and realizing it is okay. You're not the only one who feels stressed. You're not the only one who's in this situation. I promise you because you're not having an original experience. Don't worry. Your friend is stress. Your mom is stressed. Everyone is stress. We all are. And the best thing we can do is not get stress out of our life necessarily. I wish we could, but the best thing we can do is know how to

manage it. So I hope these have been helpful on how you can manage your stress when it starts to come on and prevention before the problem. I love you guys so much. And if you enjoy this episode, please share over your TikTok or your Instagram. I always repost. So make sure to tag me. And I am so beyond grateful for all your guys' support. We have many exciting episodes coming soon. So stay tuned for that. Also, I'm going to have an episode soon featuring you guys and your voices. If you have any question, it's going to be like a little call-in episode. So if you have any questions or recommendations that you want, let me know and send me an audio message to the busy at pretty Instagram, around 15 to 45 second audio message.

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