Busy, Yet Pretty - Take Yourself On A Date

Episode Date: March 15, 2022

Have you prioritized a time recently, dedicated to taking yourself on a date? Your host, Jadyn explains exactly how beneficial self dates are. This episode will give you ideas on how to start taking yourself on simple dates to a cafe or on a walk, as well as top tier independent dates such as solo trips. Be ready to get all dressed up for you only, as you take your Busy, Yet Pretty self on a date.   Jadyn's Social Media platforms: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jadynhaileyy/ & https://www.instagram.com/busyyetpretty/ - Youtube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCx48PsDdAossgZjWWnXbvvg - Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fairyjadyn - Shop my Closet on Motom: http://www.motom.me/?referral_id=2otTRBb5O&client_group_token=c2cad9169bb6afa9af7a4b70abf24aad - My Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/jadynhaileyy --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/busyyetpretty/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my dolls. Welcome back to the Busy at Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jane and Haley. I hope you all have been doing great and having a lovely week. Happy Monday or whenever you're listening to this, but I hope you all have been doing great, having a great mindset, and a lovely week. Let's get into today's episode. Starting off with our weekly review. This week I have been trying to be okay with not always working, I sometimes forget to practice what I preach and as I should with the 80-20 rule, I need to set some scheduled time aside to just relax and not be working as someone who is a freelancer as being a content creator is my job. It is very easy to just always work because you don't have a required set schedule by a company giving it to you. It's your own schedule so it's very easy to fall into the working 24-7 so I definitely would love to make an episode

on freelance work one day soon but definitely want to schedule some time to just relax and not do any work. Some days just call for putting on keeping up with the Kardashians and relaxing with some chocolate with my mom. Another thing, I have been trying to figure out my birthday plans for next week. The 17th is my birthday. So I'm trying to figure out what I want to do for my birthday. I am so lost because I always have so many ideas of what I want to do for my birthday and what I want for my birthday throughout the year. But when it comes time to my birthday, I cannot think of a single thing. Like, I think that happens to everyone though, but I have no idea what I want to do yet. So I am going to figure that out. But I am going to figure that out. But I

I think I want to go strawberry picking the day before my birthday, which I think would be fun. So I may do that, but we will see. Another thing was I went to the farmer's market. That was really fun. I go to the farmer's market every once in a while, but lately I had gone with my mom and it was so fun. We found such lovely produce and we have a fully stocked fridge of great, pretty colorful produce that I have been eating. and it's so good and I'm so happy that we started shopping at the farmers market. People say that the farmer's market is less expensive than like sprouts or Trader Joe's or whatever,

but my farmer's market is like two times the price of Trader Joe's or sprouts. I'm not sure what farmer's market you guys are going to, but mine is in fact pretty pricey, but we still love to shop at the farmer's market. I also have been going downtown quite a bit. I love going downtown and been going to brunch and lunch with my family. So going downtown is one of my favorite things. I love the city. So just being downtown makes me so happy. So I've been doing that and yeah, that's honestly been my week. Okay, so my current obsessions. My current obsession right now is try new coffee and lattes. I love cappuccinoes. The Those are my favorite. I have just became a coffee fan this year, but back in November, I literally

discovered cappuccinos for the first time. I know. I'm so late to the train. Hello. But I love them and they're my favorite right now. But I've been loving cappuccinos I always get with oat milk or almond milk. But just trying new coffee and lattes, especially particularly, from little cafes that are local make me very happy. We love Starbucks as well. I cannot lie. I always have to get my ice shake and expressor there. I am a Starbucks fan. We all know. But another thing I've been loving is Asaibals. I think I said this many times in the past episodes, but Osceibles have been revolving my mind right now. They are so good. I have been on my fruit phase right now and am not complaining because one fruit is so good for you and two it's so

good and cute and pretty another thing which is so random but i have been loving off white colors kind of like beige and tans and like the color of white but like off white i don't know why but i've been loving like creams and i think they're just so pretty but that is something i've been loving i think mostly in clothing. I've been picking a lot of like cream colored clothing to wear. I just think they're so pretty and I love those colors. And another thing is bows in my hair. Love putting bows in my hair. Put a little ponytail and I slip on a little bow and I just think ribbons are just so pretty. Let's get into the goal of the week. My goal of the week, which I had been trying to look with my mom this morning is to buy an espresso machine. I need to get an espresso machine in the house. We always

spend so much money on coffee and it's time to stop and make your own at home, which I think I'd have so much fun making in general at home, but that is something I definitely would love to do. Another thing is taking more walks outside. They are so good for your mental health. A Hot Girl walk is so essential to making a happy mindset and I just love walking outside. I used to walk like around the house and stuff but walking outside is unmatched because you're hearing the pretty birds and looking outside and getting nature. I love walking outside so that's something I definitely would love to start doing more. Another goal of the week is to get a more organized schedule as I mentioned in my weekly review.

I am not the best right now at scheduling time for time off and time of working. So this morning I tried to rearrange my entire week and say I'm going to a cafe this day to at the podcast or I'm going to do Instagram photos this day. I am just very burnt out from sitting at my desk every single day, all hours of the day. So I think changing up the location where I do my work. and just having a better schedule in general will help me so much be able to accomplish more and like the 80-20 rule you will accomplish more by doing less. Okay, a quote from my five-minute journal,

you should never do something kind in hopes of recognition. Do it because it's right and do it because it makes you feel good. I love that because it's so true. Do things and great things out of because it feels right and it feels good to do it rather than hoping to get something in return or being recognized for it. So I love that quote so much. And moving on to a self-love question. When was the last time I pleasantly surprised myself?

Explain. Pause this episode and journal this question and really tune into what it's asking. Okay, to get into today's episode, today's episode is on taking yourself on a date. This topic is aimed towards all audiences, so single or in a relationship. I currently am in a very healthy relationship, but I always take myself on dates. So I am someone who both when I was single and when I'm in a relationship have taken myself on dates. You need to start taking yourself on dates because there are so many benefits to taking yourself on a date.

It's so healthy to create a relationship with yourself as to be so excited to go on a day. a date with yourself as if you were going on a date with someone else. I know that most often when people go on a date, they get so excited, get all dressed up, feel so good about themselves, and that is something you should be feeling the exact same way when going on a date with just yourself. When taking yourself on a day, you may feel insecure the first time doing it, which is so understandable because it will be your first time, probably alone at a restaurant or out of date, being, you're not talking to someone or interacting with someone in front of you, but you will be in your own head and be with yourself, which is better than even being with

someone on a date. Personally, I have taken myself on quite many dates and taking myself on dates allowed me to gain much interest in myself and really appreciate the loan time I have. So anytime I'm alone, like, I'm not depending on anyone. This is very, very like a self-fulfilled feeling. Like I just love being with myself. So if you struggle with being completely independent or struggle with being okay alone, I think taking yourself on a date is so necessary to helping you gain that feeling of fulfillment of being alone.

After taking myself on dates, I feel as if I'm never alone because just being with myself feels like enough. This will help you enjoy your own company. and gain independence and self-sufficiency. Another thing is, when taking yourself on a date, this helps boost your confidence by far. I realize the more I've done things independently and taking myself on dates,

I've felt so much more confident being alone. That is something I've definitely taken away from going on dates with myself. Taking yourself on dates will allow you to be more in tune with your thoughts and with yourself. I feel like I've had such valuable time when taking myself on dates because it's allowed me to really think about what am I thinking about what's bothering me, what am I wanting to achieve my goals, my current thoughts, because when you're at home, it's so easy to just pick up your phone or be occupied by other things. But taking yourself

on a date and just being with your thoughts alone, help you address thoughts. And I think it's just so nice to help you organize how you're feeling inside your head. When taking yourself, on dates, it does not need to be a Michelin Star restaurant. Again, it totally doesn't have to be a restaurant, but I think restaurants are key to really feeling the independence. And I think it's one of the top tier dates that you could take yourself on because it's so traditional to go on a date with someone else when you're at a restaurant. So I think going on a date with yourself at a restaurant is so, so impactful. When taking yourself on a date, dress up as if you were going on a date with someone else. So most often when going on a date, I assume most of you guys like to get dressed

up and get in a cute outfit, do your makeup, or whatever you like to do. I really recommend getting dressed up as if you were going on a date with someone else because it's going to make you really feel as if you were going on a date. It may feel so intimidating to tell someone it's a table for one, but honestly, so many people take themselves on a date, you're not even realizing it. I'm sure you've been in a restaurant where multiple people, had taken themselves on dates and it was a table for one but you did not even realize it. Once in a while, someone may ask you a question or ask why you're eating alone, but be confident with your answer and say you chose to have a table for one and you're taking

yourself on a date. People don't necessarily mean it rudely if they're asking, oh, why are you eating alone? But they just may wonder, it's just a table for one. You are not looking for anyone to sit down, so don't even think about it, buddy. Okay, so don't use your phone on your date. Don't use your phone, your computer, or whatever it is. This date is to spend time with yourself. Would you be on your phone if you had a date with your boyfriend? I assume no, hopefully. So don't be on your phone when you are on a date with yourself. Treat it as a real date. Especially do not call or FaceTime someone because that totally changes. is the purpose and meaning of going on a date with yourself because you're basically going

on a date with someone else when you're talking to someone else on the phone. But I really recommend to not sit on your phone at the restaurant and really just enjoy your time with yourself and treat it like a date as you would with somebody else. I think headphones are acceptable if you want to listen to a song or a podcast, but having social awareness of people around you in public is good to accept that you are independently there, which is why I'm not so very fond of the headphones, but it's totally okay if you want to start by listening to a podcast or listening to some music while you eat,

whatever makes you feel comfortable. And another thing is, it's so normal to be nervous and to need a push to go on a self-date. Because most often you would be going with someone else, you're constantly conversating, you are with yourself on a self-date. There is nobody else except for you. So it's totally normal to be nervous. I think it's good to be nervous because it's going to be something to achieve and get over that hump of nervousness of taking yourself on a date. Leaving the restaurant

or leaving whatever place that you took yourself on a date on, you will feel so unbelievably happy and satisfied. I've never left feeling sad or down. when taking myself on a date. Think about things and be to myself and really enjoy time with myself. I know I've been speaking about taking yourself on a date at a restaurant, but taking yourself on a date does not necessarily mean going to a restaurant. It can mean anything personally. I love taking myself on lunch dates or going to little cafes, then going shopping. When Ryan is at school, I always ask him to drop me off at the Orange Circle in Orange County, if you guys know where that is, but I adore the Orange Circle, so I always have him drop me off there.

The Orange Circle feels like a mini downtown, if that makes sense. So I always have him drop me off there. I walk around for a while and then I go stop at my favorite cafe, which is Kiki's Corner. I get my matcha and I get a little muffin or croissant, and I then love to go shopping at the Antique. mall, which is a few stores down. I always feel so happy doing that because I'm spending time with myself and most often when I'm on lunch dates, I will put a podcast on. I try not to be on my phone that much so I can really enjoy time with myself and the outside and just shopping and enjoying my food. I asked you guys over my Instagram story, what are some ways that you take yourself on a date

if you do take yourself on a date. It was about 50-50 on my poll that I asked, do you take yourself on a date? And most people voted no, but the people who did vote yes, they replied some great ideas where you guys can take yourself on a date. Number one, coffee shops.

I love cafes. Getting coffee is something that brings me truly happiness or going to get a green juice. So whatever it is, I think just going a little place is so fun to grab a coffee or drink. Another reply was going to a spa. That one is so good because I think spas are mostly for going independently anyway,

so it's definitely not weird to go alone. So going on a self-date to a spa is one, you're doing something fun because you're getting a massage or whatever it is, and two, it's a really nice starter to get into taking yourself on a date because most people go to the spa alone. Cinema or a movie, that's great as well. Starbucks and reading a book with a drink. I love that one.

Again, you don't always have to not have something in front of you, like a phone or something, but I think just having a book even is great because you're a little unattached from social media or whatever it is on your phone that you're looking at all the time. Just sitting in a little cafe reading a book is so smart. Getting your nails done. I always go alone and get my nails done.

That's, again, another very, very normal thing to go alone to. So getting your nails done independently is so fun. And I usually just pop in my headphones and listen to a podcast while I get my nails done. Another thing is, is yoga on the beach. I love that one because, one, I've been getting into yoga so much. It's so therapeutic and so relaxing. just sitting by the beach and feeling so relaxed. A picnic.

I love that one. I used to have self-date picnics all the time in the summer. I used to go on little grass fields and lay out a blanket and then cut up a ton of fruit and then have a little croissant. It was my everything and I had some music playing. That was one of my favorite things to do during the summer and I'm so excited to do that again once it gets hotter out. That's another way that you're not in a social setting and you can do it.

really be with yourself at a picnic and no one has to be there so it's another great starter to taking yourself on dates. This one I've been wanting to do so, so very bad, but it's taking yourself on a date at a little staycation or a local hotel. I have been wanting to stay at a local hotel so bad and having a little mini staycation because I would have so much fun. I already know it. That's probably one of the other top tier ones of taking yourself on a date that you can move up to if you're still nervous to take yourself on a date. So definitely having a independent staycation would be so fun. Another one that someone said was going on a drive. I love that one because going on a drive is just so nice and relaxing. I do not have my license. So the only time

I've been in the car is with someone else. But I am very sure that going on a drive alone, seeing pretty scenery. It would just be so relaxing and nice. Another one is a museum. You can just walk around and just really be with yourself. Nobody cares that you're alone. A lot of people go to museums alone because they have to for school or whatever. So going to museum is super nice. Going to brunch. Someone said getting their hair done. Another person said a jazz club. I love that one. Going to a jazz club. I love that one. Going to a jazz club would be so fun to go on a little self-date. Shopping, that's a must. And most of the time, I even prefer shopping alone because I can really, like, think about what I want, not feel rushed.

And independently shopping is honestly the move. Someone else replied, not really dates, but taking time off in the day for myself. That one's really nice. Sometimes people don't have time to take themselves on a date. So just taking time off for yourself and prioritizing time for self-care is so, so nice. Another person said, I take myself on the date every day just by being in my own presence. How amazing is that? I love that one. I love this one. Someone said, look at pretty houses. That is so cute. I love that. Just the thought of going on a walk, looking at pretty houses. That is just precious. I love that way of taking yourself on a date. That is just such a recommendations that my followers do. Taking yourself on a date looks many different ways.

Personally, I think the most impactful and top-tier way of taking yourself on a date is at a restaurant. I never left a self-date feeling disappointed. I always felt so happy and satisfied that I spent time with myself. I did this a lot when I was single, taking myself on dates, and I still prioritize time, take myself on brunch dates at a cafe or shopping. But I it is, even though I'm in a relationship. I go on dates with Ryan multiple times a month, but I still prioritize time to take myself on dates, so I still have that relationship with myself just as I did when I was single and do fun things independently. If a restaurant date seems scary, I would say start with a cafe or a brunch or a movie. That is an easy way to start off taking

yourself on a date. You will leave feeling so happy that you spend quality time with yourself, I promise you. And if you do, just do. decide to take yourself on a date, please message me or DM me a photo of you on your self-date. It would make me so happy. Thank you guys so much for listening. You guys have no clue how thankful I am. Every single day, I love waking up to all the beautiful messages I receive on how busy at Pretty has impacted you and all your story reshairs and your TikToks. I just love seeing you guys listen to the podcast. Please feel free to rate and read. review over Apple Podcasts. I seriously love reading the reviews and they make me so happy and as well

as rating over Spotify. Please feel free to check in my Instagram. It is Jaden Haley, double Y. It is linked in the show notes as well as the Busy at Pretty podcast Instagram. Feel free to go follow. Thank you guys so much for listening. You guys are the best and stay busy yet pretty. Bye, sexies.