Busy, Yet Pretty - The Confidence You NEED For This Summer

Episode Date: June 10, 2024

It's summer and without doubt we could ALL use some extra confidence. In this episode your host, Jadyn Hailey helps put body image in perspective and gives you the ultimate confidence you need for this summer. Whether you need some extra confidence for your upcoming beach day or confidence for a upcoming brunch date, this episode has you covered. Get you matcha latte with almond milk as you tune into this episode.  Current Obsessions: - fruit yogi bowls - laying in the sunnnnn! - For my gals with businesses!! love Shopify Become your own dream girl with me!! : - Instagram: Jadyn's Instagram & Busy, Yet Pretty Instagram - Busy, Yet Pretty Groupchat  - Productive Day In My Life: WATCH - Tiktok: @Fairyjadyn - My Amazon Storefront: Jadyn's Storefront - Outfit Details: My Closet Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my love. Welcome back to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. This episode, I am so excited for you to hear and talk about with you today because it is almost the summer. It's practically summer now. Almost everyone's at a school. Everyone's switching on to summer mode and I am so excited. But there was a topic that was so requested by many, many people. And thank you, Nellie V for requesting this over the Busy Yet Pretty Broadcast channel on Instagram. But the topic is a topic is. is the confidence you need for the summer. And let me just say, me, you, your friends, your family, every single person can use some confidence for the summer. So I'm really excited to get into this episode. But without further ado, let's get into the weekly review. This week, I have been really trying new routines and have been continuing new routines I've been trying out,

which I have been loving. I'm going to be doing a summer routines episode soon, so stay tuned for that. And another thing this week is I have been reorganizing my space and I've got new furniture, new sheets, and feeling better than ever. Not going to lie. Another thing this week is I've been getting ready for summer. Of course, I feel like we all are. We're all excited.

And I have a feeling this is going to be the best summer yet for us. It's going to be a 2013 styled summer, long hair, booty shorts, pink, and the Victoria's Secret Fashion show is going to have. so this is just gonna be the most perfect summer. Now on to the current obsessions. My current obsession at the moment is Caudus cheese. I tried it again because as you guys know I've been not having dairy for a while to see if my skin got better. My skin got so clear. I tried dairy again. Skin is definitely breaking out again. But I hate that I would actually take a breakout for cottage cheese because it is that good. Another current obsession right now is early nights in. I am someone who always likes to stay in, but some really early nights just watching sex in the city and

eating chocolate is ideal for me. Another current obsession of mine is the Tauta rice wash cleanser. I've talked about this before. Literally my favorite cleanser ever if you were someone who has sensitive skin, but also wants a very nice deep wash but still have like really glowing complex and elasticity. I can't say that word, but you know what I'm saying? Elastic looking skin. you will fall in love with that cleanser. And my last crumb session right now is lightweight exercises. I've been loving using light weights. I personally like the bala bands because they're cute and they're really easy to use.

But doing lightweighted workouts are really good for your bones and longevity. Now on to the goal of the week. My goal of the week right now is to finish planning the LA meetup. I am really, really excited to have the LA meetup with you guys. It's going to be a first come first serve type basis of an RSVP and it's going to be very intimate so we can all really chat together and I'm so excited. So if you're in the SoCal area and want to know more details on this, join my broadcast channel over Instagram and I'll be sharing more details on it soon. And another goal of the week right now is to switch completely to loose leaf tea. I feel like loose leaf tea is just much better for you since you're not using the backs.

as the bleach is just going into your tea. So I'm looking to switch fully to loose leaf. And my last goal to week right now is to plan out the rest of the summer episodes. I have some really exciting episodes on your way for the summer. So be excited, be ready to feel motivated, feel your best yet, and become the best version of you. Now on to the affirmation. I wake up with pure happiness, great health, and peace every day.

I love that affirmation so much, and I think it's so good to just affirm that to yourself. Now on to a self-love question. How can I use my spare time this summer to improve my life? I love that question so much because sometimes we do have that spare time during the summer and it's so great to use that time wisely to become a better version of you and improve your life. Now on to the challenge. Take a moment to pause and practice box breathing whenever you start to feel anxious.

Box breathing can be really helpful for whenever you're feeling anxious and I really recommend you trying that. Lastly, we are getting into our podcast review. If you want to be featured on next week's episode, please feel free to leave a podcast review over Apple Podcasts. Also, please, please, please rate over Spotify. It really, really helps the show, and I'm so grateful. The next review is from, hopefully, I'm pronouncing this right,

Selmer Cam, and she said, Such a great podcast for girls and women alike to listen to. Shows all you busy yet pretty girls out there that you can manage it all. And she titled her review, Great Role Model. Thank you so much summer. That makes me so beyond happy and I'm so beyond grateful. And yes, my busy pretty girls can manage it all and whatever they desire. Now without further ado, let's get into talking about the confidence that you need for the summer. Let's be honest, we all could use some confidence this summer and every single summer. Every single day, every single season, we all could use confidence, but especially

in the summer. Whether it's needing confidence for wearing your bathing suit out at the beach, feeling confident at the lunch date with the girls, or even feeling like a hotter version of you, there is never too much confidence that you can have. Let's face it, body image can be so unbelievably irrelevant in the summer because, and same goes for not feeling like your best self in the summer. Whether you don't like how your boobs look in your bathing suit, your waist looks like in your crop top, or how your thighs touch and your jeans shorts, it does not matter. We all have our little flaws and insecurities. And first of all, they're not flaws. They're flaws on our own minds, but they're actually perfect things about us that we are yet to love. But what I was saying is,

it is very easy for us to feel a bit subconscious in the summer because we're wearing smaller clothing to fit the weather. And not only that, you're seeing other people that you may start to compare yourself to. But the worst thing that you could ever do to yourself is hide. We all have had at some sort of stage in our life, or maybe even right now, this is the stage you're in. But the stage of wanting to hide away in bigger clothing to not show off your body or you want to avoid social hangouts that have to do with being at the beach or the pool and honestly just hibernating all summer long. What you need to realize is you have to stop wasting your life and your summer by hiding away and hibernating because you don't look like the Instagram model that you follow. The beauty of humans is that

we are all the same in one way. We're all different and I think that's so beautiful is that every single one of us are different, but there is something that we are all so similar in. And that being that we all have insecurities. I swear to you, we all have something we don't necessarily love about our appearance. And the beauty of that is nobody knows your insecurity. You don't know other people's insecurity. If there was a line of people and you had to guess everybody's insecurity, I bet you you could not guess everybody's. Same goes for someone looking at you. When you're with friends or anyone, you may tend to crack a joke about your insecurity to kind of put yourself down. I feel like we've all done this before. Let's say you don't like how your hair looks that day. You'll purposely say that you don't

like your hair to the people that you're around. But you doing this is just a blind comfort to you because what you're trying to do is that you're trying to show that the people you're with, that you are aware of your insecurity and we can laugh at it together, laughing at it with you before they can laugh at you about your insecurity. But here's the truth, sweetheart. They didn't even know what your insecurity was until you drew the attention to it. What we feel about ourselves projects on how we display and portray ourselves. Life is too short to be so wrapped up in how you look. Trust me, I am guilty of it, you are guilty of it. We all are. We all want to feel good and hot and trust me. Your appearance is important because it does affect your confidence.

But when you start to prioritize your appearance over your enjoyment of life, that's when it becomes a problem. Because have you even stopped to think and appreciate that you have the opportunity to even have a summer? Literally, you right now, you're safe. You have a roof over your head. You have water to drink. You have most likely a family and friends. And if you don't, at least you have yourself, but you have things to be grateful for in life. I know it's cliche, but you have to put this into perspective. Of course, how you feel about yourself is valid if you don't like something about your hair, your body, or what you look like. But you have to take a second to how fortunate that you are. You live once. You're living this date that you're listening on

right now once. You're listening to this at this moment once. You are living life right now. Stop trying to get so wrapped up in everything and start remembering that you only have the present in the future. You cannot get back time so stop wasting it and start enjoying the beauty of life. And hello? You are hot. When you take care of yourself, that's hot. When you eat healthy, that's hot. When you work out, that's hot. When you have a little tea at night while you do your skincare, that's hot. The more you do for yourself, you become hotter. The more you love yourself, you become hotter. You have to stop thinking of outside validation and start thinking of your own validation. Start validating yourself and falling in love with yourself. Something I always like to

refer to is, is when you think of a popular person in high school, think about that when you were back in high school. The popular person would always be liked by everyone. And of course, the popular person like themselves. But because they love themselves so much, everybody else loved them. Think of everybody at the school loving that person as opportunities and the right people loving you. When you love yourself and fall in love with who you are, you are going to attract outside opportunities, great people, amazing things all to you. But the first step is you. You have to love yourself first. You are gifted, your face, your body, your personal beauty. So stop trying to change it. Don't get me wrong. This is not an anti-Botox filler surgery type of saying. I'm just saying to you,

stop wasting time trying to look like someone else because I swear someone else is wishing they looked like you I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see whether it's a bag a sweater a top and you're like I just need that but it's like sold out everywhere that's me with this one vintage duny and brick bag I literally was looking everywhere for it and I somehow found one on a posh mark but not just one I found multiple of them at such a good price and I was like wait this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces. They really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy and go on Pashmark to add to your new

spring wardrobe. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use code busy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase or shop now at poshmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K dot com slash busy. I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see, whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top, and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere. That's me with this one, vintage Duny and Brick bag.

I literally was looking everywhere for it and I somehow found one on a Poshamark. But not just one, I found multiple of them at such a good price and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces. They really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy and go on Pashmark to add to your new spring wardrobe, new deals and stuff.

new deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use code busy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase. Or shop now at Pashmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K.com slash busy. If you have been around for a while, you know the story with my podcast where I almost didn't start it, which is crazy to me because to think that I wouldn't have been where I am today if I didn't start, all the what ifs and doubts can just add up and be the one thing stopping you between you and getting the dream that you want and let's say starting a business is you and you want that dream

business of yours you have the idea but all your what ifs and doubts can add up and feel so overwhelming but one of the best things that's going to help you get through that roadblock of what ifs is having help and assistance that's why if you're thinking about starting a business start it with Shopify. Shopify is the commerce platform behind millions of businesses around the world and 10% of all of e-commerce in the U.S. from household names like Jimshark to Allo Yoga to brands just getting started. I love Shopify because it just helps in all aspects of your business, from product photography to marketing to managing orders. They really just cover it all. And if you get stuck in the process, don't worry. They have 24-7 customer support, which is so needed. So with that said,

it's time you launch fast perfect later and it's time for you to turn those what ifs into with Shopify today sign up for your $1 per month trial today at Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty go to shopify.com slash busy yet pretty that's shopify.com slash busy yet pretty if you have been around for a while you know the story with my podcast where I almost didn't start it which is crazy to me because to think that I wouldn't have been where I am today if I didn't start, all the what ifs and doubts can just add up and be the one thing stopping you between you and getting the dream that you want. And let's say starting a business is you. And you want that dream business of yours. You have the idea, but all your what ifs and

doubts can add up and feel so overwhelming. But one of the best things that's going to help you get through that roadblock of what ifs is having help and assistance. That's why if you're thinking about starting a business started with Shopify. Shopify is the commerce platform behind millions of businesses around the world and 10% of all of e-commerce in the U.S. from household names like Jimshark to Allo Yoga to brands just getting started. I love Shopify because it just helps in all aspects of your business, from product photography to marketing to managing orders. They really just cover it all. And if you get stuck in the process, don't worry. They have 24-7 customer support, which is so needed. So with that said, it's time you launch fast,

perfect later. And it's time for you to turn those what-ifs into with Shopify today. Sign up for your $1 per month trial today at Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. Go to shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. That's shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. And if you're thinking, Jaden, nobody is wanting to look like me. Trust me. I want to look like everyone else, but nobody would ever want to look like me. Okay then, at least your future self wishes they could look like you. What I mean by that is one year old, all shriveled up, you'll wish you could look like what you do at the age you're at now. My love, you will always want what you can't have. So start loving what you do have. This is your friendly reminder that the more you do for yourself

and provide for yourself, the more secure, aka confident you'll feel. That goes to you. for self-care, eating healthy, working out, affirmations. Everything. Take yourself on a solo date. What are you doing? I have solo dates with myself all the time. I practically live my life as a solo date. But no, seriously, you have to take yourself on a solo date. Because when you start dating yourself, that's when all is going, everything's going to be fixed. Okay. You need to start falling in love with yourself. It's so easy for us to want to seek validation and get the green light from other people, but when are you going to give the green light to yourself? You also need to stop speaking about yourself so negatively. Stop venting to others about how insecure you are or how much you hate something about you.

I'm not done. And I know this is a hard habit to break, but you need to stop thinking negatively about yourself as well. Of course, if you have a negative thought that comes to your head, It's going to come to your head regardless. But the point of not thinking negatively about yourself is when the thought comes into your head, do not take action on it, thinking about it, or trying to change something about you in person physically. Instead, when the negative thought comes into your head, replace it with a positive thought about yourself. The more you talk and think highly of yourself will impact how you feel and view yourself. Aren't you tired of beating yourself up?

aren't you tired of not living life because you're so insecure about how your boobs look in your bathing suit top or how your waist looks in the crop top or your thighs are looking no one is inspecting you as you are you are not inspecting your friend's body as she is doing to herself stop looking so deeply into your looks into your appearance into your everything all it's doing is hurting you i promise you if you were to go look really, really close to my thighs, they're cellulite. On the sides of my thighs slash hips, I have stretch marks, but I like to call them tiger stripes. But we all have our little things that have been looked at from society as imperfections and flaws, but they're not. They are what you make of them. So it is so important for you to actually work on yourself love and take a look inward.

I have many, many episodes about taking a look inward, trying to start your self-love journey and how to start yourself love journey. If you want to go back to past episodes, but I'm also going to do a self-love journey episode again soon because, again, no one could have enough self-love for themselves. And the more you surround yourself with positive things, the better you're going to feel. I know I have so many business listeners in here. And I know the feeling of putting so much time, to something and nothing is better than getting recognition from things that you put out and create. Shopify is a global commerce platform that helps you sell every stage of your business. For those who have a business who put so much time into their own work,

you want your items to be bought and sold and found by the right audience, which is why I love Shopify to do just that. And you're not having to go source people out and find people for you. Shopify helps you do that so easily. It's truly no hassle when we're coming. with Shopify and that allows you to sit back, relax, and focus on your own craft rather than just trying to sell your items for your business. Shopify just makes it so, so much easier. Whether you're selling Pilates equipment or even Macha, Shopify helps you sell everywhere. Shopify helps turn browsers

into buyers with internet's best converting checkout. What I love about Shopify is how no matter big you want to grow, Shopify gives you everything you need to take control and take your business to the next level. For my gals who have a business in trying to take it to the next level, try Shopify. Because businesses that grow grow with Shopify. Sign up for a $1 per month trial. At shopify.com slash busy yet pretty, all lowercase. Go to Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty to grow your business no matter what stage you're in. Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty.

Shopify is the commerce platform revolutionizing millions of businesses worldwide. Something that I really, really recommend you do is create a summer. mood board over Pinterest. I have a summer mood board, quite a bit of them. If you look over my Pinterest, if you need some inspiration, but create a summer mood board to get yourself excited for summer. When you see a girl in a bathing suit, having the body that you want or your dream body, don't look at that as, gosh, I hate my body. I wish mine looked like that. Look at it as, she's gorgeous, end of story. I'm gorgeous, end of story. And if you're thinking in your head that you want to tone up maybe like somebody else's body and get a little more fit to feel stronger.

You can do that. Again, I am someone who likes to work on their appearance and so does everyone else. So if you want to take time into your appearance, that is great because it will help your confidence. But you always have to remember that your health and your happiness and your enjoyment in life should always come above your appearance. So the minute you start to feel affected by how you're starting to do too much for your appearance and starting to be unhappy to look good, that's when you need to stop because you're doing a much

bigger harm to yourself. Lastly, I want you to begin in romanticizing your life and not romanticizing anybody else's life except for yours. This is your time to live with happiness and to enjoy your life. And let me just say that doesn't come from scrolling on Instagram until 3 a.m. Being sad that you don't look like the Instagram models that you follow or and enjoyment from life doesn't come from getting validation from others, pure happiness, confidence, security, and love will all come from within. You have to realize you are the only person who's going to be there for you. You are there for you from the start and to the end. But if you're going to treat yourself and constantly be insecure about yourself and not allow yourself to live life is when you're actually not there

for yourself and nobody's there for you. It's time for you to live the best summer yet, your hottest self yet and feel great about yourself. If that means posting photos of yourself and your bathing suit on social media, go do that. If it means going to the beach and running around in the sand, do that. If it means going shopping for new summer clothes, do that. And remember, going shopping, I don't necessarily mean buying hundreds of dollars of clothes. You can also go to a thrift store. I am very thrift deprived. I got to go to the thrift store because Jaden is in desperate need of some new vintage summer pieces. So just remember, life is what you make of it.

You are here once. You were alive once. Your future self is going to wish they could go back and wish they could have enjoyed life what you're looking like now because you're not going to look like this one day. So enjoy what you look like right now. You will always want what you can't have. When you're 80, you're going to wish you looked like you were 50.

And when you're 50, you're going to wish that you looked like how you did when you were 30. And when you're 30, you're going to wish like how you looked like when you were 19. So just remember, life is life. We're all going through it. We all have our insecurities. But it all matters how we make the best of it. So go have the best summer yet.

Feel confident. Feel sexy. Feel happy. And most of all, do not forget to stay busy yet pretty.