Busy, Yet Pretty - The Importance of Self Respect & Advocacy as a Woman

Episode Date: April 11, 2022

In this episode, Jadyn explains the Importance of Self Respect and Advocacy as a Woman. Situations will arise in life where having self respect for yourself and being your own advocate is necessary, especially as a woman. Jadyn shares her advice on starting a journey to having self respect and advocacy, as well as situation examples. Grab a chai latte and tune into the episode to advance your outlook on  the importance of Self Respect and Advocacy as a Woman.  Jadyn's Social Media platforms: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jadynhaileyy/ & https://www.instagram.com/busyyetpretty/ - Youtube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCx48PsDdAossgZjWWnXbvvg - Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fairyjadyn - Shop my Closet on Motom: http://www.motom.me/?referral_id=2otTRBb5O&client_group_token=c2cad9169bb6afa9af7a4b70abf24aad - My Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/jadynhaileyy --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/busyyetpretty/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I hope you all have been doing lovely as always and been having a great, healthy, happy week. I am really excited about this episode, so let's get straight into the weekly bullet points. Starting off with our weekly review. So this week, I had finally gotten my tummy health back on track, which I'm so happy about. I have been struggling with that, so I feel like my quote, gut health, we're calling it tummy health though, is finally starting to get back on truck, so very happy about that. And another thing is, I tried an avocado smoothie, which I've never had a smoothie with avocado in it before, and it was life-changing. It is literally so good.

I tried the smoothie from nectar, and I got the avocado smoothie, I think what just is called. The smoothie is avocado and it has like spinach and everything like that, but I said no to the metabolism boost, which came inside the smoothie. And I also added a pineapple to it, which I did not know how that would taste. I feel like pineapple and avocado would crash and not do so good, but it was amazing. Try the avocado smoothie from nectar if you haven't already or make it at home because it's unreal. And another thing I did was I had beginning to get back on my workout routine, which I'm very happy about. I love working out so much and I was really missing working out. It's a part of my morning routine and I feel like it just really awakens me and I just love it so much.

Okay, moving on to the current obsessions. My current obsession right now is my new Starbucks drink that I discovered. Well, it feels like I discovered it, even though I do. didn't because I, well, here's the thing. I had the idea of this. And if you already know, Ryan, my boyfriend, works at Starbucks. So I came to him with this idea and I don't think he's actually made any drinks like this before. So we thought it was an amazing idea. So I felt so creative. Like I just founded a brand new drink. But then I searched it up and people get it already. So whatever, but it feels like I made it up. So we're going to say I made it up. Anyways, but it's the

Passion Tango Tee from Starbucks with sweet foam in it. It's literally amazing. I feel like it just gives the entire feel of summer and I just love it so much. What I do, I get the Passion Ice Tango tea as a grande and then I say an eventie cup and then do one-fourth of the foam and it just is so good. I love the sweet foam in it because it definitely is very like tart if you don't have anything with it but it just makes it taste so good and it tastes like summer. I just love it so, so much. But definitely try it and if you like it sweeter, then I would say add some pumps of vanilla or something inside of the tea. But I personally don't love really sweet drink so I feel like it just tastes so perfect and nice.

And then you can also add milk in it too. I was going to try adding oat milk one time. I definitely want to try that very, very soon. Okay, another current obsession is my coconut-based yogurts. I have been loving coconut-based yogurts. I feel like the texture is just amazing. I am lactose intolerant and I have been all my life, but I get pretty sensitive to dairy products,

but some dairy products are totally fine. But something that is really hard in my stomach is yoga. I have been loving coconut-based yogurt, which doesn't hurt my stomach because it's not dairy. And my favorite brands right now is harmless harvest, siggies, and there's one other one. I forgot, but I posted it on my story. But seriously, coconut-based yogurt is so good. If you haven't tried it, you need to try it. Okay, another current obsession is my mind-your-business planner.

I finally got a new planner. My days were running out on my old one. and I'm so happy because my mom actually pre-ordered this on my birthday last month and I was like, oh, dang it. Like, I wish I got that for my birthday. I'm like, it's okay. Like, I'll just order it myself. And I almost ordered it, but it actually was pre-ordered. So it had to ship. And it came just in time right before I decided to order it. So my mom got me the mind your business planner. It comes in this like really cute like case and I just love it so much. Definitely check it out if you're looking for a new planner. And I just love the layout. I think it's just so nice. I am next obsessed with fresh face and no makeup

looks. I have just been loving not wearing makeup for the past few months because it's been like winter and cold out and stuff. But I've been also trying to incorporate makeup into my routine again because I really do love makeup and I think it's a fun way to just like feel cute, whatever, enhance your features. And I have been loving just putting makeup on again, which makes me because I don't do it every single day and I'm just doing makeup for myself, but I just have been letting makeup on once in a while again. Another current obsession is my gold hoops from Amazon. So for my birthday, I asked for these gold hoops from Amazon. I love these earrings so much. I linked them over my Amazon storefront, which I have it linked in my link tree if you go to my

Instagram. And they just are so comfortable and light and not like heavy weighing on my ears. and I just love them so much. They're so cute and I'm ready to wear them for summer. My goal of the week. My goal of the week is to get some more sleep and even if this means sleeping in past my alarms, I wake up every day at 6 o'clock because I really like the feeling of waking up early and getting my day started. But I feel like sometimes when I go to bed at like 11 or 12, I need to sleep at least one more hour and wake up around 7. I definitely wanted to prioritize going to bed earlier again, which I think is super important when getting routine on track again for getting more sleep. Another thing that I've been trying to work on right now for my goal of the week is organizing my bathroom drawers.

I really want to buy some cute acrylic bathroom containers and organizers for my cabinets in my bathroom because I feel like when you're more organized, your life just feels naturally so much more put together. And my bathroom drawers are one thing that is a literal mess that I need to get organized very soon because it's on my mind. But definitely organizing containers. My last goal of the week is to acknowledge that I need relaxation time. And I think I do this quite a bit, but I need to start really just acknowledging that, okay, this is time to rest. I want to talk about this in the future of being a freelancer and how just work. Instead of a nine to five, it's like you just work 24-7.

And like, how do I not answer an email that I see at 11 p.m.? It's just so easy to jump on the email and answer it rather than, okay, I'm just going to wait and answer this tomorrow, which I feel like I want to start setting more hours for myself and saying, okay, this is the time that I'm taking time for myself and not doing work. so definitely something I want to work on. Okay, a quote from my five-minute journal. Far too many people are looking for the right person instead of trying to be the right person.

That is so true, and I love that so much because when you are fulfilled with yourself, you will have such an easier time attracting people that you enjoy yourself. So I just love that one so much. Okay, a self-love question to ask yourself. What haven't I given myself permission to feel recently. Feel free to pause the podcast and journal that question.

I think that's such a good question to journal and really take time to ask yourself. Okay, next is our Apple review from podcast. Thank you guys always for leaving reviews on the podcast. It makes me so unbelievably happy. As I said in the past episode, I'm going to start reading off some of my favorite reviews. So this week is from Marley. Marley said, I really love listening to this podcast to get motivated to live my best life. It also feels like a chat with a friend. It's really the perfect podcast. Oh my gosh, it's so sweet.

Thank you so much, Marley. I love that so much because I really try to be personable to every single one of you. I want this to be a very safe space and I want this to feel very authentic and genuine. Know that I have nothing but good intentions for you guys. So this makes me so happy. and I am so glad you are appreciating the podcast, Marley. Okay, let's wrap up the weekly bullet points and talk about today's episode. In today's episode, I really want to talk about something that I personally feel all women should have and acknowledge. And that is the value of self-respect and advocacy as a woman. So most often, learning self-respect and advocacy, you learn those traits from being taught and learned throughout life

and mostly early stages of life. As you grow older and have self-respect and advocacy really stems from how you were raised and that plays a big role because if someone is constantly preaching self-respect to you and being your own advocate, then you will learn to have that. But it really depends on how you were taught growing up. I was very lucky to have my mom teach me a lot about self-respect

and she taught me a lot of knowledge on having self-respect and advocacy as a woman. And I am so happy for that because I truly do have so much self-respect for myself. And I am my own advocate because of the things she's taught me. But I would love to share some of those things with you guys today. Self-respect and advocacy plays an important role for lots of things in life. Most of the things including jobs, relationships, school, and honestly, lots of other various situations. Something to think about is if you cannot behold self-respect and advocacy for yourself, take time to determine what is stopping you from having that and not allowing

you to confidently carry those traits. Because a lot of times insecurity can stem from not having self-respect for yourself or being your own advocate. I think that's really important to target what is stopping you or if it's possible insecurities because targeting and working on that specific thing will help you then have a better self-respect and advocacy journey. The hard truth is, is that many people in this world don't always have the best intentions for you. And it can be easy to be taken advantage of, especially as a woman who does not feel very confident in herself or as a younger person. And that's where self-respect and advocacy really plays a big role. Having self-respect for yourself and being your own advocate can really help you avoid bad situations, as well as lead you to good situations.

So having self-respect for yourself, if you are not sure what that really is, it's internally knowing you are beyond worthy of what you think you should be treated as and want to be treated. If you're unsure of what that really means, it's to internally know that you are beyond worthy of being treated how you want to be treated. So not tolerating disrespect directed towards you and all of that. An example of self-respect would be saying no or giving time for yourself, treating yourself as you want to be treated or as you would treat a loved one. Another way of self-respect is not giving yourself or your time away to others who you don't think deserve it. Having self-advocacy is very similar, but it plays a different role because when you have self-respect for yourself, is when you can be your own advocate.

So it's almost like the second step in my vision of how it works. But having self-advocacy is playing the role of speaking up for yourself. So to be your own advocate, you have to have self-respect for yourself. So some examples of self-advocacy can be speaking up for yourself in situations. Another one can be showing up for yourself, kind of like standing up and defending yourself in situations. Another one is asking or requesting for things that you think that. that you deserve, whether that's a job or work or school. So a good example is if you have a job

and you believe that you think that you should have a raise, then you can approach your manager and being your own advocate and tell them why that you think that you should have a raise. And that's being your own advocate for yourself. Another one is not relying on someone else to voice your opinion or your thought for you in situations. Not everyone can read your mind and you shouldn't have to rely on someone else to speak your opinion. I think lots of girls struggle with this, especially in early years, such as like teens and young adults, which is very normal, being insecure and not confident, and then that means you don't have any self-respect for yourself, and you're definitely not your own advocate.

So I think those are definitely reasons that happen in the early years of like teens or young adults. I personally have lots of self-respect for myself and in my own advocate, so I feel like I am happy to speak on this because I would love to help others feel the same way. So self-respect is especially necessary in situations with people who may look at you as weaker than them or able to be walked on. Think about this. If someone already has a big ego and thinks they're better than everyone else and they want to go pick on someone, they're going to pick on the person who is most likely able to be walked on and looks weak. and is not able to stick up for themselves rather than someone who's actually going to defend

themselves and be their own advocate. So if you have self-respect for yourself, others will respect you. I think it's really common for women to struggle with self-respect in situations that include men, well, specifically men who have toxic masculinity and see women as under them and not as worthy. It's a shame, but there are many men who think of women like that. As well as lots of other great men who are very much not like that, but for the men who are like that, it's really important in situations to have self-respect for yourself. So an example is you as a woman are at work and your manager needs you to volunteer to help work the

weekend. So let's say a male co-worker states that you can work the weekend even though that you never said that and he literally is just saying that because he doesn't want to work the weekend. So he puts you up for the job. And one, you never said that. And two, you already. had plans for the weekend. So this is where self-respect and advocacy comes into play because you can either say that you never said that and are unavailable this weekend, or you could swallow your tongue, cancel your plans, and work the weekend. What do you want to do? Do you want to work the weekend and cancel your plans? Or do you want to have a fun weekend as you planned, but you have to stand up for yourself? The thing is, it may seem scary having to be your own advocate, which is so normal because

it's not very comfortable having to always stand up for yourself. But the thing is, when you be your own advocate and attend to your own needs, you will gain respect for yourself, as well as gaining respect from your own peers. The only way to start being treated how you want to be treated and to receive what you want is to start being your own advocate. You have to truly have self-respect for yourself to be your own advocate. It definitely has a lot to do with confidence because you need confidence in yourself to have self-respect and I'm not saying you have to have zero insecurities to have self-respect for yourself

because every single person on earth has insecurities and that is totally normal and that's how the world works. I have insecurities. You have insecurities. Your friends have insecurities. Everyone has insecurities. It doesn't matter about that, but you can still have self-respect for yourself while having any insecurities. So basically what I'm trying to say is it's definitely a process for you to truly believe that you are worthy and have lots of value, but practicing self-love can really help you, which is why I said before even starting your self-respect and advocacy journey, start having self-love for yourself. So here are some of my personal favorite tips to start incorporating on your journey to having self-respect for yourself and being your own advocate.

So number one is spending time alone and to enjoy your presence. I think it's really important to really enjoy your presence and learn to spend time alone because when you spend time alone with yourself, you learn to become your best friend. If you were to look at your friend who you enjoy spending time with, you really value and respect them, right? So when you spend time with yourself, you start to value and respect yourself. And I think it's really good to start loving, spending time with yourself independently. Whether that's a self-date or just having a night in, whatever it is. I have a self-date episode a few back, so if you want to learn of some ideas on taking yourself on a date, definitely listen to that. But I think spending time with yourself

independently is very important. Another thing is not comparing yourself. It really leads to putting yourself down when you start to compare yourself and to seeing yourself as under or not as worthy as the person you're comparing yourself to because you are wanting that and you think that you're not. So it's really good just not to compare yourself. You can appreciate what someone else has, but don't compare your life to theirs, if that makes sense. So another thing is, is practicing positive self-talk. Definitely self-love plays a huge role, as I said. So being positive to yourself and having positive self-talk is very important, whether that's an affirmation or just talking to yourself in the mirror. I love affirmations and I think some good ones that are

examples are I deserve all the opportunities I aim for. Another one could be others respect me because I respect myself. And I get a lot from Pinterest. If you need affirmation tips, I have an affirmation board. And I just love affirmations because it really helps you believe that you are what you're affirming when you're reading those affirmations off. Definitely affirmations is a good one that can play a role in helping your self-love journey. Another one that I think is one of the most important things is setting clear boundaries to others, especially when entering a new environment. When you go into a situation, setting boundaries is so, so good because it lets them know you have respect for yourself and you're being your own advocate and you're

showing what you are able to give of yourself. So I think that's with a job. And let's say you really want to do good in this job, but you want to have your weekends off. Instead of saying, I can work every single day, say, I can work five days a week and weekends I am unavailable. And that shows clear boundaries and it gains self-respect from others. And I think it's really important to just set boundaries. Another one is commit to your values and don't let anyone else's opinion sway your way of thinking or your opinion. Just sticking into what you believe in really is a strong value to have. Okay, another thing is, is viewing yourself worthy of all your boundaries, goals, and opinions. I think that is one of the most important things because

when you see yourself worthy of everything that you think of or dream of or all your boundaries, it makes you have a lot of self-respect for yourself and that helps you be your own advocate. When you see yourself worthy of all those things, no one else's opinions can sway what you think. I think lots of women experience a lack of respect or lack of being their own and situations at least one point in their lifetime. So I think it's so important to really know your worth and stick to your boundaries. I definitely know this is a journey. So first start on yourself love journey, then start on your self-respect and advocacy journey. I promise you you will feel so proud of yourself and feel just so much more confidence when you had these values.

I'm so proud of you guys and I really hope these tips to help you on your self-respect journey and advocacy. I hope you all have a lovely week. Please feel free to rate and review the podcast. I adore the reviews so much over Apple. They make me so happy, and I will be reading one-off a week. And please feel free to leave a rating over both Apple and Spotify. Also, please tag me in any TikToks of you guys listening to the podcast. It makes me the happiest ever, as well as any Instagram stories or any Instagram post. Feel free to tag me. And I, I, I always read and answer all the sweet DMs that you guys send in about the podcast. It truly makes me the happiest ever reading them.

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