Busy, Yet Pretty - The Perfect Guide To Valentine’s Day With Yourself

Episode Date: February 9, 2026

Whether you’re single or celebrating with someone you love, there’s always space to become your own Valentine. This year, let Valentine’s Day be more than romance. Let it be the beginning of your self‑love era.In this episode, Jadyn Hailey shares empowering ways to prioritize yourself, practice meaningful self‑care, and build a deeper relationship with you.Sip a cozy matcha latte and tune in as you prepare for a Valentine’s Day centered on confidence, self‑worth, and genuine self‑love.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oh, hello, my love. If you're new here, welcome to the podcast. This year, we're going to lock in and just become a happy version of herself. There's so many exciting things we're going to talk about this year, and I'm so excited to have you. And most importantly, welcome to Bidsey Yet Pretty. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. I'm very excited about today's episode.

Also, if you're tuning in from Spotify, make sure to leave a comment. I always love replying to you guys in the comment section. And let me know what your new year goal is. So I want to give a big thank you to anyone who shares over their TikTok and their Instagram or your Instagram stories of the show. I just love seeing you how you guys listen to the show and it just makes me so happy. Now without further ado, let's get into today's podcast episode, which is on you need to become your own Valentine.

Whether you're single or in a relationship, you need to treat yourself and become your own Valentine's Day has a rep where boo-hoo and just everything. Everyone gets the sympathy card if you are single. And let me just say, first off, regardless if you're single or not, Valentine's Day is not about relationships. Let me rephrase that. Valentine's Day is not about romantic relationships

with a significant other, but it's also a relationship with yourself and love in general. Valentine's Day could be about love meaning loving your mom, your dad, your friend, your co-workers, strangers, and most importantly yourself. So you don't need to have a romantic, relationship to celebrate Valentine's Day. So relationship or not, this year, it is time you become

your own Valentine. There is no better time to truly indulge and do all the self-care things than now. I find that so many girls actually start their self-love journey on Valentine's Day, especially the single girls, but any girls in general or whatever you identify as, you are able to start your self-love journey at any time. There's no timestamp or the right time you should be starting but now now is the right time but because it's valentine's day it's you know love is in the air and i feel like this is the best time actually too because it gives us that little push and shove to finally start let me just say self-care is going to allow you to strengthen your relationship with yourself and ultimately show love to you think about yourself like a beautiful hydrangea if you didn't

water her or show her love you know showing love to her would be watering her if you you did not show her love, she wouldn't live. Same with a child or your friend. If you wanted to have a good relationship with them, you would nurture them. You would give them love. So you have to be doing the same to yourself. You need to stop putting yourself to the back burner because this is 2025. We are not treating ourselves less on our priority list. And when it comes to treating yourself and nurturing yourself, it's very easy where we're just like, oh, it's okay, I'll just do it a face mask and call it a day. Self-love is more than just a face mask. It goes beyond the surface, goes into the layers and deep layers of getting into your emotions and really tapping in and knowing

yourself. So with that said, do not cut corners when it comes to being your own Valentine. It's easy to disregard going out and just letting the holiday go by or just let it be a holiday where you spend time with you and your significant other, which I feel like is the majority of people, you know, Valentine's Day, you spend it with your significant other. So if you are in a relationship, set aside time to be your own Valentine as well. Make this your own holiday as well. And of course, you do not need to wait until Valentine's Day to do this. You could do this today, any day this week. And of course, any month or any year. It doesn't have to be a holiday for you to find an excuse while you should pamper yourself. You should do that any day,

guilt-free whenever you want. But the first step into being your own Valentine is romanticizing your life. And I know you were so sick of hearing that because I say it. Everyone says it. Romanticize your life. But you have to romanticize your life. That comes from all different aspects. If you have a little sparkling water, put it in a wine glass.

When you get ready in the morning, put on your favorite music that uplifts you. After you're done getting ready, kiss the mirror with your lipstick. Treat yourself like a main character. And I know that sounds corny, but you really do. Stop being the side character in your own story. I know you idolize some people. We all do. But start idolizing yourself because you are your own best friend

and you have to start viewing yourself as that. And not only as your best friend, but start viewing yourself as your own main character. You're not a side character. You're not an extra. You're the main character of your own story. you would treat your significant other or your loved one with so much love and kindness and you'd just pamper them and take that to the next level. So why would you not do that for yourself?

Start putting yourself and your needs on a pedestal. Go above and beyond for yourself. Even if someone thinks it's so extra, it doesn't matter. They don't have to do that then. They can go do what they want. But you know what you're going to do? You're going to treat yourself with love and go above and beyond for yourself. almost like to think of it like this. You know the feeling of when you kind of idolize someone or you

kind of really, really care about someone. So you kind of begin to walk on eggshells for them. You want to make sure everything's perfect and right for them and they're comfortable and happy and satisfied. So you kind of walk on eggshells. Do that for yourself. Be so incredibly involved and attentive to yourself that you put yourself on such a pedestal where you will be embarrassed if you did not care for yourself like this. When people don't treat me with respect, I get secondhand embarrassment that they have that audacity to not treat me with respect because I will treat anyone the way I want to be treated. I want to be treated with respect. And you do too. So why are you not treating your own self with respect? So begin getting secondhand embarrassment

from your own self if you don't treat yourself with that love and respect as you deserve. Something we tend to do for Valentine's Day is we write a note to a loved one or we write a note to our significant other. And another thing that we do for Valentine's Day is we receive a note from someone special that we love. But this time, I want you to, of course, write your significant other a note and write your loved ones a note. But at the same time, write yourself a note. Write a lengthy note to your future self to open. It's truly the perfect gift. I've written myself notes in the past that I could not even tell you what are on them,

but I'm still going to open them in a few years from now just to see what I had said. It's like the perfect gift. But write yourself, your future self a note. It's the perfect gift and you can give it to yourself a few years down the line. Or maybe if you had kind of a rough pass, and I know we talked about this in my last episode on how to heal the unheeled parts of you, but if you've had maybe a hard childhood or a hard past, write yourself a love letter to your past self. There's things that you can do to nurture your past self and your childhood and maybe things that

were not the best for you. There's so many ways that you can nurture that and kind of start to heal those parts of you. I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere. That's me with this one vintage Duny and Burke bag. I literally was looking everywhere for it and I somehow found one on a Poshmark. But not just one. I found multiple of them at such a good price and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true.

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But not just one. I found multiple of them at such a good price, and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces. They really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now.

Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy, and go in Poshmark to add to your new spring wardrobe. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use code Bizzy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase. Or shop now at Poshmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K.com slash busy. If you have been around for a while, you know the story with my podcast where I almost didn't start it, which is crazy to me because to think that I wouldn't

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treat yourself and have that extra self-care day. So if you have some extra money, go get your nails done. Go treat yourself to your favorite matcha or coffee and then go get a manny pettie or maybe you can go all out, get a massage, get your hair done as well. And you may be thinking those are all very materialistic things. But let me remind you, when you do material, hello, when you do materialistic things, even such as buying a new purse for you, getting your nails done, getting your brows done, doing anything along the lines of that, in the end of the day, it's making you feel good. So whatever makes you feel good is what you should be doing. There's no rules to self-care and stop taking things so seriously

because whatever is going to make you happy is the perfect self-care. Okay, this is something that you may not look as as self-care, but the feeling that you get after is just so fulfilling, and it just almost feels like you had a self-care day. But it's working out. Go to a Pilates class. Go on a hike. Go walk along the beach or go take a yoga class.

Post-Pilates feel is unmatched. I'm telling you, after you get a good workout in, you just feel uplifted. you feel awake and you feel motivated. It's as simple as saying, you will never regret a workout. And of course, another thing that is perfect to do

to be your own Valentine for a little Valentine's Day is go on a picnic, take yourself to lunch, go get a new book and your journal, and then go make a cute little cheese spread for yourself on a little picnic on a blanket and a park, safely, of course. But go do little date activities

that usually you would do with someone else because we can tend to find ourselves waiting for someone else to take action and do that with us when really all we have to do is go do it ourselves. You need to spoil yourself. Go buy yourself a bunch of flowers or maybe two bunches or three, but some flowers that you love and make a cute bouquet for yourself to have on your dining table or in your kitchen. Go buy all your favorite chocolate candy. Go buy everything. Go indulge and treat yourself to all your favorite little foods and sweet treats. And while you're out at shopping, go get the ingredients to make dinner for yourself. If you plan on staying in. So maybe if you're planning on staying in, get the

ingredients you need to make a heart-shaped pizza or even pasta with the heart-shaped noodles. And if you like wine, grab yourself a nice wine or maybe you're like me and prefer a little mocktail. Go get yourself a sparkling water and some juice and fruit to make one. We kind of forgot. I feel like in this day and age that cooking and baking is hobby. It's fun. It shouldn't feel like a chore. So get creative. If things didn't come out perfect, who cares? Laugh about it. Eat it or don't. And move on. And most importantly, whether you are going out or staying in, dress up for yourself. When it comes to being your own Valentine, it's not just the day, the week, or the month that you take this time for yourself, but let this

be a wake-up call to you, that you need to begin caring for yourself like this. This is going to be a way that you actually nurture yourself and you're going to become more confident. It's going to make you happier and you're becoming more self-invested in yourself that it makes you want to work harder for you. It makes you want to have more motivation. It makes you want to do more things because you put yourself on a pedestal. Don't forget that nobody will show up for you the way you have the ability to show up for yourself. When you stop wishing you had something or a different life is when you're finally going to start living your life. When all you do is wish you had someone else's life or wish you had something else, you're wasting away all the time that you could have spent taking

action towards achieving that life. This is a little foreshadow to next episode, but would you rather have a month of progress or a month of excuses why you didn't? Ask yourself that. I'm going to repeat it one time. Would you rather have a month of progress or a month of excuses why you didn't? You need to stop waiting for the perfect day to start loving yourself because today is the right day. Today is the perfect day. And it's not even today. It's now. Right now you can start loving yourself. So like I said, stop waiting for the perfect day to start loving yourself and start taking care of you. Start eating healthier. Start working out. Start being kind to yourself. Start having a morning routine. Start scheduling your evenings to do what do. Do what? You do.

decompresses you. Start investing in yourself. Listen, my love, you will always find a reason to not start and procrastinate it. Start being there for yourself and having your own back. Take action and finally begin falling in love with yourself and your life rather than wasting the days and letting them pass you up. Okay, I went off a little motivation tangent right there, but back to the Valentine's Day in SPO. If you plan on staying in, order in your favorite food, or if you bought things from the store earlier, cook some dinner, then do that, but take some time with it and don't rush it. I want you to really enjoy the process. Look at this like cooking and baking as a hobby and not like a chore. Or if you do go out, take yourself to a nice restaurant and get all dressed up and be confident when you say table

for one. But if you planned on staying in, eat your dinner, cook your dinner, take time with that, and then it's time for you to go indulge in your sweet treats. So go eat your pint of ice cream. Go bake some cookies. Pour your soda or your Diet Coke into your wine glass. Light a candle, dim the lights, do all the romantic things to impress yourself. You would do this for someone you love. So you love yourself, so impress yourself. Again, do not cut corners just because you're not having to do it for someone else.

You're doing it for you. You're the most important person. Impress yourself and don't cut corners thinking, oh, it's fine. I don't need to, you know, go do this. need to get dressed up. I don't need to go light a candle. Yes, you do. You need to do that because you would do it for someone else. Now you're going to go put on your favorite rom-com or your favorite love movies or of course my favorite, your Nancy Myers movies, any good movie just to set the tone of your night. And you can also use this Valentine's Day self-time to pick up a new hobby or a new craft

or do something that you wanted to try one day but haven't had time for. So maybe that's painting, drawing or a personal favorite scroll on Pinterest. If you were single and are really wanting to be in a relationship, I feel like many people can just tend to get bummed during this time of a year. And during Valentine's Day, you can be seeing your friends out with their boyfriends or you see your friends with their husbands and it can feel you know, bumming when you don't have that and you want that. And if you're one of those people, let me just say, do not, and I repeat, do not go call. your ex who treated you poorly or your situation ship. No. You can open your notebook and make a list of

your dream man or dream woman with all the non-negotiable traits you would want that person. Don't go spending time reaching out to people just because you're desperate right now and you want someone to spend Valentine's Day with. No. Go right now, open your journal, write down everything you want in a dream significant other, whether that's what they look like, the traits they have, their morals, just whatever your dream person looks like. And also doing that on Valentine's Day, you may get some extra luck with that because it's the day of love. Remember, Valentine's Day is not just for romantic relationships, but all relationships. That can be your friend, your family, and most importantly yourself. So this is a holiday of love, not just a holiday of relationships

with other people, but a holiday of love for you. So take advantage of this holiday, this gorgeous, this holiday of Valentine's Day as the start of a new beginning of loving yourself and love the life that you're creating for yourself. I hope you love this episode as much as I love talking to you today. I feel like Valentine's Day is just such a fun holiday and sometimes we can just feel bummed about it or we can just feel like well what do we do. It's an awkward holiday. I'm not really sure what to do other than spend time with my boyfriend or my husband or maybe you're single and you have no one to spend your holiday with. But it's your good reminder that it's time for you to be your Valentine. There's no rules to Valentine's Day, but it can really just be the perfect start

to get started with your self-love journey and loving the life that you're creating for yourself. Also, I'm not going to lie, I'm very excited for next week's episode, which is all on motivation, which is I know your favorite type of episode. So stay tuned for next week. But if you love this episode, make sure you repost to your Instagram story and send it to your friend, send it to your family, and repost it over TikTok. I always love reposting all the things that you guys should. of the podcast. But let's get the word out that all of us should become our own Valentine. I love you with all my heart. You're my Valentine, to be honest. And do not forget to stay busy yet pretty. M-h.