Busy, Yet Pretty - Time To Recover From Your Eating Disorder & Find Yourself Again

Episode Date: October 9, 2023

My love, it's Time To Recover From Your Eating Disorder & Find Yourself Again. Don't waste another day not cherishing the beautiful life of yours. In this episode your host, Jadyn Hailey shares the reason why YOU should recover from your ED. She dives into her experince with recovery and what eating disorders really are. Tune into this episode with your favorite food as a child and lots of love for yourself. My Fall Wardrobe Staples (code: BUSY) Jenni Kayne Favorite Activity to do at the moment Babbel Start your business with Shopify   Jadyn's Social Media platforms: - NEW: Productive Day In My Life: WATCH   - Instagram: Jadyn's Instagram & Busy, Yet Pretty Instagram   - Busy, Yet Pretty Groupchat    - Tiktok: Jadyn's Tiktok   - My Amazon Storefront: Jadyn's Amazon   - Shop my Closet on Motom: Jadyn's Closet Favs     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my dolls. Welcome back to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. This episode has been very highly requested and I'm really excited to talk about today's episode because this topic is just so important and there's so much significance to this. Without further ado, let's get into our weekly review. This week, I have just been getting back on routine. I'm back home feeling good. For my health, I'm just taking it everything day by day. There's something so exciting. yet a bummer when getting back on routine. But once you're back on routine and everything's in order and organized,

it feels so good. But other than getting back on routine, I have just been enjoying the fall weather. When I say fall weather, I mean just the fall season because it is literally 90 degrees out today and I'm dripping sweat. I have so many fall outfits in mind,

so I'm just waiting for it to get cooler, but I am really enjoying the fall season and taking things slow. And lastly this week, I've just been really trying to prioritize my peace and happiness. I've been watching a little TV at bed, eating my little desserts while watching a show, doing an extra face mask, just doing little things to make me feel good. And when you take that time for yourself, it will improve your life so drastically, and it all is worth it. Moving on to my current obsessions.

My current obsessions right now is long sleeves, despite the very, very hot weather. I've been loving long sleeves. I just think they're so cute and classy. Another cramp session is wearing my hair down. I'm just really trying to get that fall look in with a long sleeve hair down, trench coat on. The whole thing, I just think it's so beautiful. And this fall, I am prioritizing cute fall outfits. I've been looking through my wardrobe, getting rid of old clothes to bring in new ones. And this fall, my wardrobe is all going to be.

my favorite Jenny Kane. Jenny Kane to me is literally the definition of minimalist, classy, golden class girl wardrobe. It's perfect for the fall and I have a Jenny Kane sweater. Not only are they so cute and so minimalist and chic, but they are so comfortable. Their aesthetic is literally my inspo board for fall and just having a golden class girl wardrobe and lifestyle. They are truly one of my favorite brands and I recommend them to everyone. Find your Forever Pieces at jennykane.com. And the busy yet pretty listeners get 15% off your first order when you use code busy at checkout. That's 15% off your first order at J-E-N-N-N-I-K-A-Y-N-E dot com.

Promocode Busy. Time to spice up your closet this fall. They're just so cute and cozy. I love it. Moving on to my last cramp session is practicing driving. I've been practicing in the parking lot with my mom. and let me tell you, one day soon, I am not going to be a passenger princess anymore. I'm going to be a darling driver and I'm so excited.

I'm just so excited for a new journey of my life to be able to drive. I know that sounds funny, but I put it off for so long and it's now something that I'm really trying to just lock down, get done, and it's going to feel so good once I finally have my license and that will just be something I checked off my list. Moving on to the goal of the week. My goal of the week is to decorate more for fall. I got a cute little cinnamon broomstick from Trader Joe's and it smells so good with the best cinnamon fall aroma. I added some pumpkins in my apartment. I really encourage you to find some cute little fall decor to make it feel like the season. You can make it yourself a little DIY or maybe go thrift some cute little home decor. Another goal of the week is to plan a little fall girl's night. I feel like that'd be so cute to like carve some place. pumpkins, fall baking, the whole thing. And my last goal of the week is to try a new pumpkin spice latte. I've been cafe hopping trying to find the best pumpkin spice latte.

So if you know a good one, let me know. Because I love trying new places. Moving on to the affirmation. I'm living as the woman I've aspired to be. I love that affirmation so much and it's so good to affirm that to yourself that you are the woman that you've always aspired to be. Moving on to a self-love question. What do I love most about my body? I love this question so much because today it really ties into body positivity and the episode. Lastly, is the challenge. I challenge you to go out of

your comfort zone this week in a social situation. I love that so much. So if you're a little homebody, trust me when you bite the bullet and actually try to go put yourself out there, it can feel so rewarding once you've gone out of your comfort zone. Because going out of your comfort zone, because going out of your Comfort zone means growing. Lastly, is a podcast review. This review is from V, and V said, I can still recall what life was like for me before I found this podcast. I was depressed, felt ultimately isolated, skipped meals, had so many insecurities,

and just having such a negative mindset. I feel like I was practically drowning in negative energy around me. I was surrounded by toxic friends and never got to go fully show compassion to my family or anyone really. Out of all the things I could be doing to help me, I was addicted to just sitting in my room on social media and TikTok for days on end. Keep in mind that this was back when I was in middle school, stuck in this never-ending solem cycle for years on end. By the spring before transitioning to high school, I realized that I needed to change if I want to live my life to its fullest potential. After a lengthy time scrolling on Pinterest for motivation, which is just too amazing, I stumbled upon a video recommendation that recommended others to listen to the busy young,

Pretty Podcast. Fast forward about six months to my first month of high school. I'm now loving practically everything about myself. I've left all toxicity in my life and wound up finding a new group of people that pushed me to be a better person every single day. I show my love and compassion to my friends, family, and even strangers on the street since I feel like I'm living such a rich golden-class girl life. Honestly, I'm just too amazed at how far I've come from listening to these episodes Jaden makes. From once drowning in negativity, I'm now starting a new period of my life in high school with such positive energy resonating around me. I truly am thankful for all these lessons and tips I received from this podcast. Hugs and Kisses V. V. That review touched my heart

more than I can even say. Not only did you describe everything so perfectly, but you brought me through a series of emotions that left me feeling just so unbelievably proud of you. I'm sure. I'm truly just lost for words of how amazing you are and you should feel so accomplished. You are so beautiful and just so amazing and your life sounds like the most golden class girl life and you did the biggest favor for yourself. I'm so grateful for all the love and support my love. And if you want to be featured on next week's episode, please share your story over Apple Podcasts and I would love to read it and share it on the next episode. Now without further ado, guys, let's get into to today's episode. Today's episode, I want to talk about how it is time for you to recover

from your eating disorder and find yourself again. This episode is directed to all eating disorders, but I'm just going to be speaking from my perspective of the eating disorder that I experienced, which was anorexia. This is a trigger warning, although this is not going to be talking about anything promoting eating disorders, but if you're sensitive to this, feel free not to listen. But this is an episode that is all things positive for recovery and my experience. So I hope this episode is a big hug for you knowing that you are not alone with an estimated 28.8 million people struggle with eating disorders at least once in their life. One including me, maybe one including your friends, maybe one including your parents, maybe one including your cousin. So many

people struggle with eating disorders and you could be blind to it or maybe they're not open to you about it or maybe you are one of those people. But I promise you, you were not the only one feeling this wherever you are with your relationship with food, whether it be a little restricting or a full-blown eating disorder, this episode is for you. To give a little brief rundown, if you're new, I struggled with anorexia nervosa a few years back and it was the worst time of my life. At the time I was younger and lived with my parents, so thankfully it was able to be caught pretty quick within just a few months of me going downhill. But recovery absolutely changed my life for so many different reasons,

and it's amazing how recovery can absolutely change your entire life. The alone, cold, depressed feeling that eating disorders give you is incomparable. The loneliness is so loud, and the thoughts are just constantly going. It's truly just a battle that you're fighting alone between you and yourself. If you have an eating disorder, it may feel like that. That is your only option in life moving forward. Amazing to me how much your mind can change while you are in the depth of an eating disorder versus when you are fueled and have nutrition in you and you can think right.

One thing a lot of people don't realize is that your brain chemistry literally changes when you have lack of nutrition. You're not able to act rationally or think realistically. and to think that I was at the point where I was okay dying during my eating disorder, and now looking back, I am like, how did I ever think that? How could I have felt that? But lack of nutrition literally changes your brain chemistry. Let's say you're restricting or have an eating disorder and in your head you're thinking,

I can definitely think realistically right now. As much as you think you are, you aren't. You may think you have everything under control with your eating disorder. You can restrict when you want, you'll eat when you want. but I promise you, you don't. Recovery will literally awaken you and revive your life. And I swear on everything, if you give it a true shot, it will. Food is beautiful.

It fuels us, keeps us alive, keeps us healthy, brings us joy. I can remember how infuriated that sounded when someone told me that. Whether it was a doctor or my mom or somebody who was trying to help me recover is just telling me how food is good, food fuels you. But in your head, food feels like the enemy. Trust me, I thought my experience was original until I listened to other people and everyone feels the same. Your thoughts are not alone. You are not abnormal. It is so common to feel like there is no way out.

And personally, I felt there was no other way out and I did not want another way out. As much as I hated my eating disorder, I was okay with what I was doing because it was an addiction. Eating disorders are an addiction with food and food. behaviors. The best decision of my life was just giving recovery a shot. Give recovery a shot. Don't do it for the doctors that telling you that you need to recover. Don't do it for your parents. Don't do it for your friends. Don't do it for your husband or your boyfriend. Recover for you. You are put here for a reason. Do you think starving yourself is worth your future, your life, your relationships, your happiness? No, it's not worth it.

In the depth of my eating disorder, I thought to myself, well, when I'm a lot of my eating disorder, I thought to myself, well when I weigh X amount, I'll be finally happy. Trust me, I hit that weight. And no surprise, I was so depressed and I just kept going and going and going. That's what an addiction is. When you have an unhealthy relationship with food, food tends to be on the top of your mind 24-7, to the point where you can't even direct your mind off of it. And if that is a symptom for you, the only way to change that is begin to keep.

heal. I used to be obsessed with the scale. I would weigh myself over 20 times a day, every single second just checking in, what do I weigh? And when I began recovering, the doctor told my mom, the first thing is she cannot weigh herself. She has to stop weighing herself. So my mom took out the scale from the house, but I was so desperate to feed my addiction of weighing myself that when I would be at the thrift store, I would go look for scales to weigh myself and to look back and see how crazy and how sad that is truly just breaks my heart and realize that I was in a full different mindset and I was not thinking realistically. But like I said, the scale was an addiction for me and by cutting out a huge contributing factor to my addiction of my eating disorder, which was a scale, had such

a drastic impact on my eating disorder to help me recover because that contributing factor was not in my environment. If something that contributes to your eating disorder and addiction, to your unhealthy relationship with food, get rid of it. If comparing yourself to Instagram girls or Pinterest feeds your eating disorder, then delete the app. Remove contributors from your environment no matter how hard it is. It's hard to cut the ties with it, but I promise you that is the biggest step you will make in your journey to recovering. I thought I would never be able to go an hour without weighing myself, but I haven't weighed myself for years, nor have I checked or wanted to wonder what I weighed, because I don't let a scale be an option and I don't allow that to be in my environment.

You need to begin to cherish yourself. You have to stop hurting yourself, okay? You are so lucky to be alive and not only be alive, but most likely that your body works properly like you can run, you can jump, you can make yourself food, you can breathe. You're able to do typical healthy human things, yet you're hurting your mind, body, and soul. How sad is it that the beautiful person in the mirror is being treated this way?

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There are many different reasons why an eating disorder or unhealthy relationships with food can develop, and most often it's from an underlying problem. Let me just tell you, not eating will not fix you being insecure. Not eating and getting skinny will not make you secure as much as you think it would. It won't. I promise you. When the time comes, you hit the weight that you want to weigh. It will not make you happy.

When you're old and on your deathbed, you'll finally realize that it was not. worth it. It was not worth treating yourself this way. You'll think how you look so beautiful, but you didn't take the time to actually see it. Of course, I have my insecurities and which certain parts of me were different, and so do you. But when I'm on my last day of my life, the last thing that's on my mind is how much do I weigh or how do I look? It will be how did I live my life? Did I treat myself with love? Did I enjoy my life to my fullest? And let me say when you have an eating disorder, you will never be able to live your life to your fullest if you always refuse to recover. And this does not at all go to say, do not take time in your appearance or take time to feel

your best with how you look, but do it in a healthy, loving manner to yourself and approach it with love instead of restriction and hate. Eating disorders change you into someone that you aren't. As much as we don't see it at the time, I promise you, you are not that, okay? That is not you. but yourself deep down will always still be there it will always be there and how deep you are in your eating disorder it is never too late to find her again recovery has changed my life recovery has led me to the life i live now i got my spark back and you could literally just see the light in my eyes and i found myself again it healed my relationships i was happy again i have energy i have confidence i feel good i look good i feel happy my entire world changed and did a 180 once I chose to recover. I now have energy to do work and achieve my goals. Recovery led me to living my dream life and becoming my dream girl. I promise you, you will receive success, happiness, life back to you when you choose recovery. Every single thing is possible that you

ever dream of once you recover. The only thing that's stopping you is your eating disorder. The most important thing is what is the root cause of your eating disorder? You have to stop taking action with your behavior with food to mask and cover up what you're actually feeling deep down, but instead target the root cause and work on healing that problem. If the cause is that you hate how you look, you're insecure, someone called you ugly, lack of control of aspects in your life. Maybe one of those is the causing factor to your eating disorder, but target the root cause and work from there. Stop taking the easy way out and masking and numbing your pain with an addiction that is slowly killing you. It is so important to be open to people who are supportive in your life,

such as your mom, your friend, anyone who gives you support, approach them how you're feeling, what you're struggling with, and you both can work from there to getting back to your old self again. Or if you don't like the old version of you, create the new version of you. The healed, recovered, feeling good, best version of you. Maybe you don't have anyone supportive in your life. Then it's important for you to be your own advocate and reach out for help yourself. Find specialists in your area. Join eating disorder recovery groups.

Put in the work and put in the steps. You are meant for something so big and beautiful in your life. And let me tell you, your unhealthy relationship with food is not you. Your eating disorder is not you. So from the bottom of my heart, please, please give recovery a try. Just give it a try, okay? It's not going to be easy. Let me just say that because recovering was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.

But I promise you, if you give recovery a true, committed chance and try, you'll get your spark back. I love you guys so much. I really enjoyed recording this episode. recovery means so much to me and sharing my experience with you guys and hearing how it's helped you guys in the past motivates me to keep on sharing. I'm so grateful for you guys

and so, so unbelievably proud. There is so much out there for you. Stop letting an eating disorder. Stop you from becoming the best version of you and living out your dream life. I promise you if you put the time into it, you'll be so proud of yourself. I would love to see you guys share this episode

on your story or your ticker. or how you listen to today's episode. I love when you guys share how you went on a walk, you were on the train at school. Like, how do you listen to the podcast? Tag Jaden Haley in the Busy at Pretty account so I can repost and then pick one of you to have a little drink on me. I love sending out a little Starbucks gift card to one of you guys by the end of the week who's reposted the podcast. I love you guys so much. I'm so grateful for you. Recovery will absolutely change your life and do not for it to stay busy yet pretty.