Busy, Yet Pretty - You Failed? So Here's What To Do... (Rejection & Not Achieving Your Goals)

Episode Date: April 28, 2025

You didn't get the job? You didn't live up to your expectations? They didn't like you back? And? In this episode your host, Jadyn Hailey shares how we all measure success and failure differently. What does failure mean to YOU? Tune into this episode with a matcha latte and cookie, as you reflect on your "fails" and how to move forward to succeed.    Become your happiest version of you, with me!! : - 7AM MORNING ROUTINE | hot pilates, healthy breakfast & working from home - Instagram: Jadyn's Instagram & Busy, Yet Pretty Instagram - Busy, Yet Pretty Groupchat  - Tiktok: @Fairyjadyn - My Amazon Storefront: Jadyn's Storefront - Outfit Details: My Closet   - focus on growing your business Shopify     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my love. Welcome to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. If you are new here, welcome. This show is all about how to become the best version of you, live your dream life, and honestly, just a comfort show to tune into when you need motivation, when you're feeling down and you need a little uplifting. We're just here for all topics, all things transparency, and I'm really excited for this episode. this episode is going to be on what happens when you fail and how to move forward because when you fail, it can feel so unbelievably like rejecting. And that's what it is. It's rejection. So whatever you failed in, whether that's a test or in a career job, whatever it is,

failing is not permanent. Okay. So I want this episode to be motivation, a reminder, and also give you that sort of confident boost to try. because if you don't try, you'll never know if it was meant for you or not. That said, I'm very excited for today's episode, but let's get into our weekly review. This week, I have been honestly rotting a bit in just bed and I've been just relaxing a lot. I feel like during certain phases of my cycle, I'm a lot more tired than usual. And it's just one of those weeks where I will be sleeping at 3 p.m. the afternoon for a nap time with my cat.

and that's all I need sometimes. Another thing this week is while I've been in this like bed tired phase right now, I've been watching a lot of TV. And one of the things I've been watching is White Lotus. I know this was popular or it's still popular, but this was being really talked about like a few months ago when the finale came out. But I have never watched it before. So I started the first season, hated the first season.

I thought it was hours of my life just wasted after watching that. It was not good to me. But then I watched the second season and loved it. I don't know if anyone else has watched it so far yet or watched any of the show yet, but I'm looking forward to season three now, now that I like season two. And another thing this week is I have been trying different foods out. I am sensitive to a lot of different foods, such as beans, onion and garlic, eggs, and gluten. those are my main triggers, but I just started incorporating beans into my diet.

It's not going great, but it's not going bad. So I feel like you can sometimes introduce things that you're sensitive to with your stomach later on in the future. That's something I was super sensitive to dairy and I reintroduced it into my life. And it works perfectly now. So I feel like when your gut lining and your stomach is more healed at certain times, or maybe you're just someone who runs sensitive to certain foods, you can just try on an air to see what works for you and how you feel.

Okay, now on to my current obsessions. My current obsession at the moment is sparkling water. I love all different types of sparkling water. I used to be a hater of sparkling water. Did not like it. And now I love it. And like a little wine glass, so good. And it also just is so refreshing with the meal.

Another current obsession right now is cute. I would say they're called not wicker hats, but cute little basket hats. I think they're so cute and they're just little sun hats that you can throw on. And I think it just gives the cutest summer spring look. And it also reminds me of Nancy Myers style, which I of course love. Another current obsession right now is hydrangeas. I feel like this is almost every single current obsession of mine. But this is your sign to get yourself some flowers.

and it just elevates your room, your house, your kitchen so nicely. Also, another thing you can do is get cute herb plants. Every week I always get some basil to replenish in my kitchen. And the plant just looks so beautiful in your kitchen. And it also just is so nice to be able to pick off little herbs throughout the day when you want to add it to your snack, your lunch, your dinner. And it just is so beautiful on the counter. Okay, my last current obsession at the moment is this room

and linen spray from dead cool it is literally the best smelling room spray i don't like a lot of room sprays just because i try to limit my use of fragrances because i don't like to inhale a lot of fragrances just for my hormones and my overall health but i will treat myself sometimes and do a little spritz and one of my favorite things is using this dead cool room spray it's like room and linen spray it is so nice it reminds me of almost like the smell from like Brandy Melville, they spray on their clothes. I think they use a Chanel fragrance on the brandy clothes, like a mix. But it kind of just reminds me of that. It just smells so fresh, so clean.

And I love it. I'll spray it on my clothes also just because it gives that, like, clean laundry scent to it. Now on to the goal of the week. My goal of the week right now is just to allow myself to have better balance in taking things slow. Sometimes you have to schedule out time. in your day to make sure you take things slow because again we are so built to just hop right into our work right in the morning and really scheduling out time and I feel like something is not going on your phone in the morning is so important I have not done it yet like I am all talk no show up

for myself when it comes to that I always will I'll try to wait like 20 to 30 minutes still barely even reach that I'm like oh I'll wait for a few minutes and it's like five minutes and I'm like okay, give me my phone. But I think it's really important to not just jump to your phone in the morning because you were destined to see things in the morning that one is going to just spike your cortisol with stress and seeing all this blue light right when you open your phone. But not only that, it's really important not to try to see things that are going to bring you down in the morning.

And whether that's emails or that's, you know, a text message or something on social media you see, you're destined to see something that doesn't make you the happiest. So you don't want to start your morning off like that. Okay, I want to touch on this really quick midway through our intro because I feel like I've been thinking a lot about this a lot. And I wanted to open up to you guys about this really quick because I feel like this is something where I always love transparency. I think transparency and being open about things are one of the most beautiful things.

And that's something I really, really. like strive for because I've been open about past things whether that was my eating disorder or anything really my bullying experience and that's helped so many of you guys and something I'm currently working on I kind of wanted to share with you guys since we're all in our own journey with things and I think it's important to be open so if you want to skip this feel free to skip to about 10 minutes away from this right now as someone who's very all or nothing and that's something I've worked on many years not to be. I have the very much mindset to do all or nothing.

And I feel like that runs for many people who have struggled with eating disorders. It's very all or nothing. And a lot of different things. Things just operate differently if you have that mindset. And when it comes to the health and wellness space, something I keep seeing lately is a lot of fear and fear put into things. Don't get me wrong. I am someone who is really careful about not using plastic cutting boards or microplastics and all these different things.

But if you are someone who runs with the very all or nothing personality, it's very hard to not just live in balance and allow yourself to do other things. That's why I feel like eating disorders kind of tumble because you want to start eating healthy. Then all of a sudden it's full fled. You're barely eating throughout the day or you're only eating really healthy. things which turns into orthorexia. And I feel like the same thing with when it comes to like the health and wellness space right now lately. There's a lot of fear mongering things, whether it's from

like toilet paper because of the bleach. There's so much things. It's very hard to unlearn and untrain yourself from things when you know so much. So for instance, I consume a lot of like health and wellness things and I love it. I feel like that's something. It's a hobby. I love learning about health and wellness when it comes to, you know, the negative side of things that people don't know or how certain things are made or created. And when you live and when you know all these type of things and how things are made, it makes you really scared to use those things. They're really scared to do certain things. Just like I was talking about room spray and fragrances. No, I don't think anyone should be spraying fragrance on themselves every single second of the day

because that's probably not that good for you. But don't be fear, it's so much fear to use something because sometimes things that are going to feed your soul and make you happy are going to make you much healthier than being scared of everything and not using anything. I feel like I'm going off on a tangent and this may not make perfect sense, but as someone who struggles with a lot of OCD tendencies of a lot, like I have extreme death anxiety. I feel, okay, I'm really just going off on a tangent now before we get into today's episode. but I have struggled with death anxiety for almost a year now.

And it's very hard not to be scared, especially going to bed at night. And I just think of all these things where, oh, do I have an underlying condition? Do I have this? Do I have that? And I'm really grateful for my relationship with food. That is something I'm so grateful that I have perfectly in control of. And I have such a healthy relationship with food. but when it comes to things such as, you know, using cutting boards or using certain dishes because it may contain lead,

a lot of different random things that are true and that do have things like negative effects to it and like laundry detergents and all those things. I think it's good to be cautious and aware, but also not fully throttle yourself into it because that's something that happens when you have an all or nothing mind. you kind of get two feet in. You can't go one foot in. You're two feet deep. And I have been forcing myself to use things that I wouldn't typically use to break a lot of those fears, such as, you know, using fragrances and stuff like that. I'll use a ton more of things lately, even though it's not necessarily benefiting me,

but it's also benefiting my soul in ways and I can't have that fear. So it's been nice to be aware of that. and I feel like there's a lot of podcasts and just creators who, you know, we'll talk about a lot about this who are full deep into it. And don't get me wrong, I love being aware and I love talking about certain things how to live a healthier lifestyle and feel better about yourself because there are things you can do in your everyday that you can cut out and add into your life that will make you feel better. And I talk all about that. I love those things. but also at the same time living in balance is the best thing you can do.

Eating fast food is not going to kill you. Eating it every day is not going to be good for you, but eating it in moderation is great because it feeds your soul. It doesn't necessarily have to benefit you. Using certain things in your kitchen, such as a non-stick pan, I wouldn't use that every single day, no, but it's okay if you need to use it for a certain recipe. So that's something I've been trying to make aware of and try. trying to be more using things outside of my comfort zone and doing certain things outside of my

comfort zone. Even though it's not benefiting me, it's benefiting me in the way of not going to allow all this fear into my life. And that's where I feel like my death anxiety comes in a lot is I think a lot about what happens after life and what happens when it comes to after you die and what is there really heaven and all these things. I have been not religious. quite a while now. It's been years since I've gone to a private school, which really just changed my relationship with God and my relationship with how I view afterlife and everything. And I feel like afterlife is something that, you know, we all are kind of nervous of or we, it's all just an unknown. And I really want to do have peace of mind, whether that's from religion or something else.

I really do. I am trying to figure that out on my own journey right now too. But anyways, my death things anxiety really comes also from my health anxiety, which I always think, do I have an underlying condition? Do I have this? So of course, on the outside, it may look like I struggle with nothing, and I am one of the best versions of myself for sure versus past other years, but we all struggle with our own things. I struggle with extreme health anxiety, extreme death anxiety from like OCD and I want to be transparent about it because people don't talk about that as much and I don't see this talked about very much especially in today's day and age when it comes to a lot of people are into health and wellness such as myself but trying to do it in balance living in balance

and I know I went off on a huge tangent right now but I just really want to be transparent and if you guys are struggling with this as well whether it's death. health anxiety or afterlife anxiety feel free to talk to me you can always DM me or best of all you can actually just message in like the busy yet pretty community chat over my broadcast channel and i love just how we're so open with each other we're very transparent wanted to share in case of any of you guys are struggling with this know it's going to be okay we all got this we are all on our own journey and our own path but without further ado i just wanted to throw that out there but let's get into the next thing, which is our self-love question. Okay, now on to the self-love question. What is something

I can do today that is going to make my younger self proud? I love that question so much because sometimes we live for many different versions of our self, but one of the most important versions we could live for is our younger self and our older self. So our eight-year-old self and our 80-year-old self. Now on to your affirmation. I love the person I am today. I love that. So, I love that. So, much because I feel like we a lot of times just are waiting for us to become a better version. And we are becoming a better version. But a lot of times we are just waiting and waiting for a different thing and waiting for something rather than realizing today, today I love this version of myself.

Even if it's not ideal and there's things that could change, I still love my version of me today. Now unto your challenge of the week. Buy yourself flowers and buy someone else you love flowers this week. I love that so much because buying someone flowers can just make their day. It seriously is just a few dollars to make someone simply happy and changes their day. The amount of times I bought my mom flowers just randomly if I've gone to the store, it just makes me so happy to see her happy when I bought her some flowers or if you just

pick some flowers going out somewhere, you can go on a walk, pick some flowers for someone. It can really just make their day. Now on to the podcast review. If you want to be featured on next week's episode and make sure to leave a podcast review over Apple Podcasts and rate over Spotify. Also, you can now comment on Spotify on the episodes. So if you listen over Spotify, feel free to comment. And I love commenting back to you guys on there. This review is from Caroline.

And Caroline said, as a teen who struggles with ADHD, anxiety and depression, this podcast genuinely has changed me for the better. I downloaded Apple Podcasts just so I could leave a review and encourage others to listen. This podcast is so motivating while fun. I love listening to your voice, talk about chic things, and Jaden, you are honestly my role model and inspiration. I strive to be you. I have a podcast called The Glow Up Guide, and you're the one of the people who motivated me to start it. Thank you so much, and I really believe you have changed my life and providing me with plenty of entertainment. Love you.

Thank you so much, Caroline. so much for your sweet review. First off, I am so beyond proud of you and I'm just so grateful for all your support. I love how this has been in entertainment and comfort to you because my motivation to do this is to make you guys feel comfortable and motivated because I know what it feels like to be so alone and feel so alone when I was going through both my bullying school experience and my eating disorder experience. So I just want to be that safe place for you guys and that place where you leave happy and motivated. But I love you so much and thank you so much for your review.

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It just feels like it's the end of the world and nothing can be worse than our position now. Really, sometimes we think there's nothing that can be, there's nothing that's worse than my position. But let me just say, that is untrue. It could be a lot worse and I swear to you, so many people would trade their best day for your worst day. Or for instance, you feel like it's the end of the world and you're basically just, signing your death and just keep digging your grave deeper than it already is. A lot of times we think, well, I'm already in this deep, so I might as well make it worse. Or you think, okay, well, I've already messed up this much.

It doesn't matter anymore. I can mess up everything else. And when you quote failed, the first step you need to do is have realization and touch base with reality. Because when you really think you hit rock bottom, you're really not rock bottom and it most definitely can be worse. Again, your worst day, someone out there would trade their best day for your worst day. So that just reminds you that somebody always has it worse and your situation could always be worse. So be thankful for where it is right now because you would not want it to get any worse than it is.

And to circle back to the word fail, failed, failure, all the fails, what do you define as failure? because failure has lots of different definitions. And I want to know what do you define failure? Because is it being rejected? Is it somebody saying no to you? Is it being declined from a job that you applied to? Is it not getting the validation that you expected? Because we all define failure differently because we're basing the word and the definition

off our experience. We're marking our experience, a certain experience that we personally have as a failure. So I want to know how do you define failure? Think about that. Because if it's being rejected, is it not getting the validation you wanted or if it's not getting the job that you applied to? If it's rejection that's a form of failure to you, let me remind you that that was not in your control. There's times where we are going to be rejected from things, whether it's a job, somebody telling us no or the guy we like not liking us back. There's going to be rejection in your life, but you can not make the word rejection be the word failure. Those are two different things because let me just

tell you, rejection is redirection and I know you're sick of hearing that probably, but it's true. You were just putting and stamping on the word failure to that and you're putting that as a fail. When it's not a fail, it's just redirecting you to what's actually meant for you. Genuinely, why would you want something that doesn't want you back or why would you want something that's not meant for you? I swear to you, rejection. is just a part of your story. It seriously is because it may feel like deep down, well, that was the right option. That's all I want. And that was the right thing that was meant for me. But guess what? That wasn't the right thing. It wasn't meant for you. Even if you want that, you'll realize one

day why you didn't have that and think, oh my gosh, thank gosh that didn't work out because if it did, it would not lead me to where I am today. There was a time and place where I was in love with someone I was with and I thought I was going to marry them. We had planned to move to New York and I was going to go to school there. And this was just as my social media and podcasts were really starting to take off. And I figured out they were cheating. And when that happened, I was like, I could have stayed in that relationship and been disrespected.

But I also could leave and figure it out. And guess what I did? I left because I wasn't going to have. have someone disrespect me. So I was like, you know, thanks. Got to go. I'm going to figure out my new path now. It's going to be a lot different than what I expected my next few years we're going to look like. But this is not for me. I'm not going to allow someone to treat me like that. So I left. And guess what? It's led me to where I am today. I would have never moved. I would have been living in New York or would have been living still at home if I were to stay with this person.

if that path worked out. Thank God that that didn't work out because it would not have led me to where I am today. I probably wouldn't have had my podcast as big as it is today. I wouldn't have had so much in my life and experienced so much if I were to stay in that small bubble that at the time I thought was the only right path until I got forced out of it. When I forced myself out of something I was comfortable in and thought, you know what, I'm going to have to figure it out. and I'm going to figure out a new path for myself, it was so eye-opening because at that moment,

I felt like that was the only right path. And then look where it led me. That's why I want you to know where if you get rejected from a job, if you get rejected from whatever it is, let me remind you that it's not rejection. It's a redirection. One, it's out of your control. I also, when I applied to school in New York, I also was rejected from the school at that time. I was like, what the heck? Why am I being rejected? Guess what? I think, gosh, didn't go to that

school because it led me to where I am today. I'm telling you, even if it feels like at that moment, you knew the right path for you, you knew the right position for you. And you're so disappointed why it didn't work out. You're going to look back one day and be like, thank God I didn't go through with that because it would not have brought me to the right position and right path to where I am today. Of course, I didn't love what happened to me when I was bullied when I was younger and I didn't love that I had my eating disorder. Nobody who has these experience loves that they had it. But I think it's always anything negative in life, you could always find the positive out of it. And let me just say, I'm so grateful that I had gone through this experience and made it out strong to inspire and

help others. That's where this podcast was started is from my own experiences, feeling what it feels like to feel alone, feeling sad, going through real life experiences that are not talked about enough. And now I get to share that with you guys and get to share and help you guys and comfort you guys. And look, even the person who left the review on the podcast said they made a podcast and I inspired them to do that. It's a domino effect. When you make someone feel good, they're going to feel good and want to help someone else feel good. So if you're seriously hung up on something you were rejected by, you have to stop and think to yourself, this is not failure.

This is redirection because you're not, this was not the right path. Even if you think it is, I promise you there's something better out there for you. If you were to have gone through with something that you were rejected by, because I was just saying how, why would you want to be going through with something that doesn't want you back? So if you were to have gone through with what you were rejected by and gone through that path, you would never have been presented the better opportunity. You would never have known it was out there because you would just think, oh, this is the right thing, this is the right path.

I'm going to do it anyways, even though it rejected me. I'm going to continue on. Meaning if you happen to get that job that it didn't reject you and stuff, then that would be your path. That would be your path. But you wouldn't have known what was out there. Stop taking rejection to heart. Okay, it's not personal. And if it is, if someone's using personal feelings against you, then so be it. Again, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you back? Okay. Let it go and start building your new path because there is something better out there for you. When I get presented with a brand deal opportunity with good money, of course, I get so excited and I'm like, oh my gosh, I have my mind fixated on it. I had a six-figure opportunity presented to me. and I would just praying, I would book this because I really wanted to book it, and they chose

a different creator instead. And of course, it's easy to think and feel bummed out about it. But instead of feeling bummed out and wishing I could change the situation, I moved on because I knew there was something better coming my way. At that moment, it can feel so devastating because maybe you worked yourself up to get excited for something. But again, that was not meant for you because there's something better out there for you. You have to realize that you're going to hear more knows in life than hear yeses. And that goes with every successful person. If you think of even actors and actresses, a lot of times they say they hear so many more

knows, of course, than yeses. And that's just how it is. You're going to hear more knows than yeses. And when you hear the yes and it's the right thing, that was the right thing for you. So you can't be caught up on something else or you're never going to know what else is out there. Don't settle for what you think you want when what is meant for you is on its way. So when rejection strikes, just to be open to what's on its way. Let's say your form of failure that you have in mind is you not reaching your goal.

So you couldn't reach your goal, you didn't succeed in that. So to you that's failure, or not getting the grade or score that you aimed for or you didn't live up to your expectations. In results, failure from your own doing and not from someone else is doing. because rejection, that's going to be failure from out of your control that's someone rejecting you or something rejecting you. This is your form of failure where it was in your own doing. You didn't live up to your expectations. You didn't reach your goal and you didn't get the score that you wanted. Let me remind you that we all measure success and failure differently and we all have

different definitions of how we define failure. So your definition of failure may be, someone else's success. What I mean by that is let's say your goal is to write seven paragraphs today, but you only were able to complete five paragraphs. So in your eyes, you failed. But while someone else is aiming for to complete three assignments, your five assignments that you did is so beyond successful in their eyes. So understand the way you, someone else, your friend, your mom, your dad, your cousins, me, we are all viewing and defining the word failure based on our own expectations of herself. And again, to remind you that failure is the key to success, not one successful person had an easy climb. Okay, let's say maybe they inherited lots of money from their family.

Maybe it's a little easier successful climb to start their business than someone who has no money. but let me just tell you that every single successful and happy person did not have an easy climb. If you want an easy route, then take shortcuts and stay in your comfort zone because you will never grow and you'll never achieve anything. And at the end of the day, let's say you feel that you failed. Regardless of what you define as failure, you felt that you failed. So in your eyes, you failed. What you do from there is you need to pick yourself up and know what. and move forward. You have to almost create like a mental tool like boxing your head. So you have

these tools on what to do and where to move forward when you get in these positions of feeling that you failed. Allow yourself to be frustrated and bummed out for a few hours of the day or the week. But give yourself a week max. Don't wallow endlessly and just think, oh my gosh, this was the right decision. That was the right person for me and all these things because you wallowing and crying is not going to change anything, I am all for embracing your emotions because you need to. You can't shut it out or it's still going to be there in the back of your head. But allow yourself to have those emotions come out, feel the feelings, be bummed, be sad, but then move on because it's not going to change if you just sit there.

You don't want to live your life and sadness. You want to live your life in happiness. And I want you to be able to pick yourself up to move forward and create a better, even better path from there. So once you're sad and you're bummed, then reflect and see that you can move forward and try again because you can learn from those experiences and your mistakes. You also need to focus on what you can control. It's very easy to focus on what are they going to say, what is this person going to say, do I get the job, do they like me back?

All these different things, it's easy to think what's going to be the outcome based on what they choose or what the end result is going to be. but that's not in your control. Do your action, do your part, then let it go. Because when you're so caught up in what the end result is going to be, you're not going to be letting yourself live. Okay, you're going to be so wrapped up in one thing. You have to realize that focus on what you can control, okay? So set a new goal and path moving forward when you feel like you failed,

but set a new path moving forward with steps that you need to take to achieve that thing. Failure is temporary. It's not permanent. It's a temporary setback. That's all it is. It's a temporary setback. But it's our human nature to feel like it's some huge thing when we fail or some huge thing when we're rejected or when we didn't achieve as much as we thought we were going to.

You can't change the past, but you can change moving forward. So really think about that. Don't be caught up in the past and think of what can you do moving forward. Take this past failure to be your new strength. moving forward because when you get back up and try again, this won't be your first rodeo. You're already going to know what it's going to be like, okay? You already know the steps you need to take. You already know what the situation looks like.

You're where. You know the environment. You know how this goes. So don't feel like when you get shot down, you can't try again. You have to try again. You have to pick yourself back up. Even if you get rejected from a job interview and you're like really out of it. in wanting that same job, interview again at that same job.

You can do things at that same path multiple times and try and put your effort. And you know, if you keep being rejected, okay, try a different thing out. But don't give up just because you're rejected. Don't give up just because something doesn't work out once. Maybe it didn't work out because it wasn't according to their timeline. It has nothing to do with you. Same with a relationship. Maybe that person didn't want to move forward with the relationship.

because they had a lot of things going on in their personal life. But you know, maybe a few months down the line, they're much more open, open-minded to the relationship because they're much more organized than everything in their life. People do things on their own timeline, and you have to realize if your timeline looks different than theirs, it may not work out. And that goes for jobs, relationships, everything.

So don't shoot yourself down thinking it's because something you did or yourself or you're not good enough. for the job, the person, the whatever, because it all has to do a timeline. It's like a puzzle. Everything's like a puzzle. What's meant for you, you're going to fit that puzzle piece. And if it's not meant for you, maybe you'll fit it another time, but it's not right now. At the same time of you getting back up and trying again, I want you to look and observe others who have achieved those things and who have achieved the goals that you want to achieve. because what you can do is look, observe, and learn from their experiences and integrate that into your

life and think, okay, they took these steps to get where they are today. How can I do these same things into my life to get to where I want to be? Something that's really important when you feel like you failed is remember your why. Realign with your why. And I've talked about this before, but having a purpose and having a why is your driving passion and why you take action. You're not going to take action when you don't have a passion or a why. Okay, so think of why do I want this.

Why am I wanting this job? Why am I wanting this person? Realign and think of your why because that's going to better motivate you to get back up and try again. Another thing you need to do when you feel like you failed is start a new routine. Form a new routine around these goals. So if you think, okay, I want this. this job, then start incorporating into your day in your new routine, things that can help you learn more about this job and better fit that job. Because if you just think, gosh, I'm just

going to try again and I'm sad, but I'm just going to try again, I guess. But you put no effort into it. You have to, in order to get that thing that you want, you have to come back better than ever, okay? Come back again, even better, more informed, better equipped, better, more confident with it. You have to come better with your skills, everything. You can't just come back the same version you did the first time or you're probably going to get a no again. So you have to come back with your skills, feel equipped, feel confident, and that's going to do such a change going back the second time. Another thing in life to remember that progress is a goal, consistency over perfection. It's so easy to feel like we're not completing something or we're not achieving something. We all have a vision

board. I look at mine every day. It's hung up on my wall. And, you know, I have my visions, my goals. They're really big, but I've achieved them before. I've achieved many of my vision boards that I didn't think I would achieve anything on it. I did. You have to just think, okay, I want this goal, but don't make that the goal. That's the end goal, but don't make that the main thing you're thinking about every day. think about what steps can I take to better myself and get progress because consistency over perfection. If you start and then it doesn't work out, you feel like you failed and you don't get back up, then you just signed your death for that and it's not going to work out. As long as you're getting some bit of progress, even if it's not a lot, even if it's 0.1% of progress,

that's better than nothing. And when it comes to progress, I want you to, of course, prioritize your personal life and self-relipped, care time for you and your routine because going 100% and leaving yourself burnt out, tired, no motivation, no creativity, it's going to just leave you feeling sad and drained and it's not going to work out. Give the effort that you're able to give. Don't overgive yourself and pull from other energy factors of your life. So if you have a family to come home to or a spouse to come home to. You can't give all your energy to work. Give as much as you can to your work. But don't pull from your energy that you want to give to your family when you come home.

You don't want to give all that energy also to work. You want to save some energy for that. Reserve parts of you for each thing and only give as much as you can for that part. For work, portion out what energy that you can give and save some for your own life or you're going to feel draining, you're going to feel tired and burnt out every day. Lastly, a quote that I love that I really want to share with you is failure is your opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently. I love that quote so much and I really hope you feel motivated and remember that how you define failure is your own definition. We all define failure how we define it and it's going to look different for all of us.

You did not fail. This is just a temporary setback. Okay? You can pick yourself up and try again even better. And also, there's a better opportunity and path for you out there. I love you so much. And if you felt inspired by this episode, please share over your TikTok and Instagram and tag me because I always love reposting.

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