Call Her Daddy - 118- "I Am That B*tch" (ft. Rickey Thompson)

Episode Date: April 28, 2021

This week, Father Cooper is joined by actor, comedian, fashion icon, social media personality, and co-host of the "We Said What We Said" podcast - Rickey Thompson. The two sit down to discuss the impact of careers in social media and the pressure to remain relevant... all while protecting one's private life. Rickey discusses his experience growing up in North Carolina; a story that began with bullying and isolation, and ended with him as prom king. The duo discuss moving to LA and Rickey's dating life... spoiler alert-he is recently in a committed relationship! They continue on sharing best and worst sex experiences, Grinder vs. Tinder, playing games in and out of a relationship, and so much more. TUNE IN THIS WEEK. ENJOY.

what is up daddy gang it is your single father alex cooper with call her daddy what the fuck is up daddy gang it is your founding father for another episode of Call Her Daddy. We're back, bitches. Daddy gang, it's April. Which is shocking. Because do you know what that means? Next month is May.

You're like, no fucking shit. And then let me guess. The next month is June, you stupid bitch. No, I know that. But do you know the importance of May? May marks us coming up on a full year of the single father era. Let's fucking go. It literally feels like we blinked and it's been a year and it really has exceeded my expectations. And hope you guys feel the same I know the show has been sometimes comedy sometimes more intense like we've had such an unbelievable year of trying different things with this show and I've had so much fucking fun and thank you for all supporting me through that but as I'm now looking like you're supposed to do at

what the future holds guys what is your five-year goal? What's your 10-year plan? Write it for me. Tell me now. Okay, that's what I'm thinking about for Call Her Daddy as this season is wrapping up and we are shortly going to begin a new season. The question is, where do we want the show to go? What do we want the show to be? And what I do know for certain is I want to continue to see this platform be a place that people feel comfortable and excited to come on the show and tell us about their personal journey in their lives. So this week, Daddy Gang, I'm interviewing someone amazing. And just like the last few weeks, Mia Khalifa, Holly Madison, Madison Lewis, I've been excited and nervous as i'm trying to push both myself and the show to help my guests tell their stories and ask all the right questions so that you guys

are both entertained and the guest has an amazing experience so on that note daddy motherfucking gang don't let us stop now bitches because we've got another fucking great one on the way introducing today's guest he is smart he is entertaining he is funny as shit he is successful and it was an absolute pleasure sitting down with him this week here is ricky thompson yeah i am motherfucking honored to be sitting with you right now no seriously oh my god wait daddy gang we did a little um zoom conversation just before because i like to do that get to know each other make sure you're not a psycho i'm not a psycho we vibe that was good and i think we passed the test we did i'm not crazy no maybe a little but like

it's gonna be fun but i like it though exactly so so we were we had a good vibe and i think that today is going to be so fucking fun yeah you are actor comedian internet personality yes but on top of that the dancing the fucking twerking the motherfucking fashion icon that you girl no ricky literally i was looking i was like that's why i was dying so daddy gang before we got here i was looking at some of your videos and i was like freaking out because you do your video on youtube where you look at people and what they're wearing yeah and then you kind of like dissect like hey not the look or like that's look and i'm kind of known um for literally wearing the same thing every day, sweatpants, t-shirt.

And I came here today being like, destroy me, rip me apart. Literally tell me how awful I look and like rip my outfit apart. It's not bad at all. I was going to show up in sweatpants too, but I was like, let me impress you. Oh, you are impressive. You're impressive. You got the bell bottoms. You'll be sexual.

So no, so thank you. Okay, thank you. So it's not that bad. You exude confidence in every fucking way. Yeah. The fact that Beyonce sent you the Ivy Park collection. Yeah. Like, where did that take you in your life?

Like, how did that make you feel? Like, literally, I just literally was just, I wanted to die because I couldn't believe it. Right. Because, okay, so when I got the package sent to me, I was like, okay, like, it's all just PR, whatever. You know, you know, people get your address, whatever's in PR.

Yeah. And then I had someone who worked in like the adidas section or whatever and they're like oh my god no she actually sent you like the full rack like she handpicked you she's like i have to send ricky one i was like what so miss beyonce she's watching so yeah have you ever met her no never i've never met her but i know she knows who i am so i love that well you can go to sleep happy at night. I know. No matter the bullshit. If someone fucks you over, you're like, but Beyonce knows who I fucking period. So, OK, let's get into number one. I wanted to just get into like I used to have this saying and I haven't said it in a while, but I would always say like, knock it off.

Knock it the fuck off with the khakis. I think khakis and cargo shorts are the most disgusting fashion trend. So ugly. They should only be worn on the golf course, if that. Yeah. And I want to hear from you because you're iconic in the fashion space of, like, what are some go-to knock-it-off trends for you that you can just, like, breathe and share to everyone so they never do it again? Knock it off. What is disgusting to you?

You know, it was very cute in the moment, and I feel like the girls are going to get mad at me by saying this. I'm sick and tired of seeing the baggy jeans in Jordans. I'm sick of it. I'm sick of it. I'm sick of it. That has become so big. Girl, everything. I'm like, okay, girl.

Same outfit. We get it. Same outfit. We get it. The crop top with the baggy jeans. Girl. And then the Jordans. Yeah, that's it.

Is there anything else like for summer that you're like, I don't want to see anyone in that ever again? I mean, literally the basic crop top, I would have to say. Like, I just want to see like something different that you're like i don't want to see anyone in that ever again i mean literally the basic crop top i would say like i just want to see like something different you know thank fucking god i didn't wear a crop top okay everything that you post is so positive i literally go to your page and like smile and i like feel better about my fucking day when i go to your page and i think everyone does and i think you know that because i'm pretty sure i read a quote that you were like i go to my own page yeah you literally get your own shit i'm assuming you obviously have bad days like the most of us have you made a decision to not post your

bad days on social media like has that been a boundary you set for yourself or like do you ever post negative stuff like when you're struggling um i tend to really keep that um privately to myself because i okay i'm the type person i hate sympathy i really do i hate when someone oh my god i feel so bad for you like are you sure you're okay like do you need something i hate because i think i feel like it's fake i'm like no like so i keep my private shit to myself and then when i feel better i just start posting again but like yeah have you ever had moments where you're like i'm kind of want to be done with social media yeah me too yeah honestly especially right now really like during this social media world and time right now i just feel like you have to be

careful for literally everything everything everything and that scares me because there'll be one thing you do wrong could really end your whole entire career and i'm like i'm always trying to like make sure i'm doing everything right i've been looking back to my old shit and i was like okay that's anything that was like offensive but it was okay during that time right and like i've gone back i've deleted videos and like i don't think that joke was right i feel bad but then i would tell my friends about it like ricky that wasn't really anything serious but i'm terrified because girl everyone is getting canceled for everything people are getting canceled for things that they said in their past comedians are having made jokes that now they're getting canceled for everything. People are getting canceled for things that they said in their past. Comedians are having made jokes that now they're getting canceled for those jokes back in the past that may have been like socially acceptable at the time, but now aren't.

It is fucking scary. It is. I have said to my parents even some days like I wish I could delete my Instagram and literally like fall off the Internet face of the earth and be like, where did Alex go? Yeah. Because it gets so you're right. It's one the criticism of if you say anything wrong, you're then you're canceled, you're done. And also just like the pressure. I think can you talk a little bit about the job of being on the internet? Because I think sometimes people think it's so easy. Oh, my gosh. And it's kind of the complete opposite. It's rough. I would say

like the most hardest thing is staying relevant like that's the thing like that right there that's my biggest fear is becoming irrelevant like what like you know you did all this work and then all of a sudden people forget about you don't you also feel like i have this thought all the time i will be laying in bed and you can work 24 hours a day non-stop like i always feel like you're never doing enough with social media someone's posting another youtube video someone's posting another vlog like you're never doing enough with social media. Someone's posting another YouTube video. Someone's posting another vlog and you're behind in the game. And so it's like the constant stress of like, oh my god, am I relevant?

Do I need drama? What can I do to move the needle so that people don't forget about me? And that is psychotic. Because we're essentially looking for, not our validation, but we're getting reinforced and validated by likes and comments. And if those start to dry up, then it's like our self-identity dries up. And that's it.

And people forget about you. And I also hate that the fact of our jobs, we can never take like a day off. You take a day off. It's like, if you take a day off on social media, it's like you missed like a full year. It's crazy. Your algorithm goes down.

Everything. The comments are down. It's just, it breeds this constant neurosis of like, am I doing enough? Why am I not doing enough? And like, how do I stay relevant? That breeds some psychotic thoughts. It does.

I don't love it. So let's kind of dive into like who you are, where you're from. I know you were born and raised in North Carolina. Can you walk me through being born and raised there and your experience growing up there and like who you were back in the day? Okay. Well, back in the day, I was not this person at all all like literally was not this person um i was a shy kid i didn't talk to anybody at a very small group of friends like literally i was not a social butterfly like i was such a loser like literally stop yeah thinking of you as shy is crazy i was so shy like i literally

would be so afraid to talk to people like if i knew somebody at the mall and I saw them, I would hide. Wait, why do you think you were shy? I mean, I guess because also I was really bullied. I was bullied a lot. So I feel like that really took a toll on me. I felt like if I didn't speak, people would think like, oh, he's not here. So then I wouldn't get bullied. So that was like, yeah.

Dude, that is crazy. That is some deep shit. Yeah. To be like, if I don't't speak i won't get bullied do you think you are where you are today because of now being able to turn the bullying into a positive force to be like fuck those people kind of yeah for sure but like in the heat of the moment i know in middle school i got bullied a shit ton and i know that it is still an insecurity of mine to this day that i don't talk about a lot but it does drive a lot of the things that I do and the way I act.

And sometimes, I don't know, I think it does fuck with you at a young age if you're constantly being put down. So you didn't have a lot of friends? Mm-mm, not at all. Okay, so when did it turn into who you are today? Well, I was posting Instagram videos right before Vine had came out. Remember when Instagram first got those cute little videos or whatever? I was like, okay, cute 10, 15 seconds. I was like, okay before Vine had came out. Remember when Instagram, like, first got those cute little videos or whatever? I was like, okay, like, cute 10, 15 seconds.

I was like, okay, cool. So I was making videos in high school, and my friends and family were like, oh, my God, we love you. You're so funny. And then my best friend in high school was like, you should really get on the app Vine. I was like, girl, what? Like, no.

I was very scared because I'm like, this is to the world. And I was like, like, am I going to do that? So then I started posting on Vine, and then, like, literally, like, over the months, like, in junior year, end of junior year in high school, and then senior year, I started, like, getting really big. Like, I became, like, the most popular kid in school. Wait, you went from being shy to then posting videos on Vine? How did that transition?

Like, you were doing it, I guess, by yourself, right? Yeah, I was doing it by myself in my home, like, in the bathroom or whatever. I just felt like I was like, you know what, hey. And then when I saw that other people around the world, I think that was one thing about it, too. Okay, me being in, like, North Carolina or whatever, I just felt like I was like, you know what, hey. And then when I saw that other people around the world, I think that was one thing about it too. Okay, me being in like North Carolina or whatever, I was bullied. But then seeing people like from Australia and the UK, oh my God, we love you, we love you. I'm like, wow, like these people here who are bullying me,

I don't give a fuck. Right, fuck you. All around the world, you bitches know who I am. Right, you're like the motherfuckers in Australia think I am that bitch. Yeah, exactly. I don't even give a fuck about the people in school. Exactly, exactly. So when I was doing that, I was like, the motherfuckers in Australia think I am that bitch. Yeah, exactly. I don't even give a fuck about the people in school. Exactly, exactly. So when I was doing that, I was like, okay, cool.

And literally, maybe middle of senior year, I was the most popular kid in school. I was that bitch. I won prom king because of it. Yeah, success story. Yeah. You're like, so bow down, bitches that bullied me. You're not prom king. Go fuck yourself.

Wow. So did you go to college or no? You just got right into the creator world. I got to get right into the creator world. I like literally moved to LA right after high school. Okay, that is amazing. I applaud you and I'm inspired by you for admitting the getting bullied when you were younger. Do you have any advice to people that are going through

that like right now listening in their rooms because i know i had some hard moments of like and i didn't really have that much social media like people weren't talking about bullying and mental health back then i feel like on social media and i feel like i love to use my platform whether it's encouraging people to get into therapy or whatever but like when you think back to that younger self getting bullied like what do you wish you could have told yourself um i wish i could have told myself to really just not give a fuck because these people in school literally don't matter in the future. You're literally not going to see them probably ever again. Ever again.

Like what? People are like, oh my God, are you going to your 10 year class reunion? I said, the fuck? What? Disgusting. What? I'm like, do people do that? Like, what?

Are you good? I'm like, no, that's it no they can follow me on instagram that's it oh and they all do like oh my god ricky we love you bitch fuck you isn't that so fucking oh it's rewarding but also it's like so annoying when you see people slide in that we're fucking assholes to you in the past i remember this one guy that bullied me so fucking hard at indoor recess all the time like literally would physically hurt like try to hurt me oh my god it was it was bad and i would be like i saw then he went to the same college as me and all of a sudden i had a glow up in college and then he tried to fucking come and like try

to hang out with me i'm like i remember what you did to me in middle school and you know what the thing is they don't they don't they i did that right i'm like are you fucking serious that stays with us for life literally it. It's fucking trauma. Girl. Yeah. Okay, so you're not going to your high school or your elementary school reunion. No, no, no. I love to see it. I love to see it.

Okay, so North Carolina, then you moved to LA. Mm-hmm. Did you know anyone in LA? I did. Oh, okay. How? I like, I mean, I was just friends with people like from Vine and like online, everything like that.

So I just really made like a really close group of friends because the people back home I don't really talk to anymore. Got it. The people I made friends with online are my best friends or whatever. They're the reasons why I moved to LA. So I had a really cute clique here. So I really wasn't scared to move here. That is the positive of social media, finding your niche communities that accept you.

Exactly. And then, of course, everyone wants to now be friends with you because you have the success, finding your niche communities that accept you. Exactly. Where back in the, and then of course, everyone wants to now be friends with you because you have the success, but the people that were like, no, we fuck with you and we ride with you even when you didn't have all the success, but you guys like found each other through social media.

Literally. This is Call Her Daddy. Sex podcast. Yes. We're going to take it up a notch. I know we already had this conversation before filming, but I want to transition into the conversation of sex. What are your pronouns?

How do you sexually identify? I identify as he, him, and I'm gay. Yeah. Woo! Woo! Yeah. Woo! You are the moment, bitch.

You are. You're literally an icon. Ricky, can we talk about you coming out? Oh, my God. Yeah. Because I think it's educational for people who haven't had to come out that can now listen and learn how to be a better ally. Yeah. And then people that are listening to this podcast that may be struggling with how do I come out? How do I gain the courage? Someone sitting here like you that has this confidence.

Can you kind of walk us through when you knew that journey and what it looked like from your personal experience? Yes. I feel like I've always knew, but I didn't know like what the fuck was wrong with me like i remember like growing up i used to date girls all the time like all the time but just to cover up like that feeling i was like why do i feel this way about a girl i'm like okay like she's cute whatever but i feel like more of like a best friend but when i saw like guys i was like wait this whole different feeling or whatever so i mean i played the straight role like all through high school until i moved to la wow yeah i was like i'm not telling anyone like anything about me at all and i was like what the fuck like why so when i moved to la um i had this best friend at the time and he was out and proud of ever i was like wow like this is so cool and i was just so scared of being

myself i was like i'm sick and tired of like having to go on a date with a girl and not feeling that or whatever i like want to date guys so i remember one one day, I was like, you know what, I'm just over it. So I tweeted it. I was like, oh my god, I like guys or whatever. And then people were like, oh my god, Ricky, we knew, bitch. Like, oh my god, congratulations. And then the next day, my family called me. You put it on Twitter before you told your family.

Yeah. I fucking love you. I was like, yeah. So my mom called me. She was like, did you tweet something? And I was like, what? I was like, you know about Twitter? I was like, what? She was like, yeah. So my mom called me. She was like, did you tweet something? And I was like, what? I was like, you know about Twitter? I was like, what? She was like, yeah, like, you know, your dad was working. My dad's a barber. And somebody walked in and was like, oh, my God, congratulations to your son.

He was like, what are you talking about? He was like, oh, he showed him the fucking tweet. And I was like, oh, my God. And she was like, you know what? Like, I'm not mad that you're gay because I've always known you were gay. I've always known. But what hurts me in the family is the fact that you felt you were more comfortable coming out online instead of us.

And then when I think about it, like, like over the years, I feel bad because that is true. Like, I bet that was a slap in the face. Like, I felt comfortable telling the world before I came and told my parents, like, they knew me since day one or whatever. So, you know, they took a moment away from me for a second. I was like, I get it, whatever. A week later, it was, like, all fine.

Like, I was just so afraid of telling, like, my Southern Christian family that, hey, like, I'm gay. Growing up, I didn't see a lot of gay people in my family. So I was like, I didn't want to be the first one because, you know, cousins talk, uncles talk, aunts talk. And I was like, I don't have time for that. But I was like, you know what? I'm going to come out when I move to L.A. I have my own money. So I don't have that horror story because, you know, cousins talk, uncles talk, aunts talk. And I was like, I don't have time for that. But I was like, you know what? I'm going to come out when I move to L.A.

I have my own money. So I don't have that horror story because, you know, like some kids who come out, their parents kick them out. They end up on the street or whatever. I don't want that to happen to me. So, yeah, I really wish I came out earlier, but I'm glad I did it on my own terms. I think one that's commendable that you decided to go forward regardless of what you thought maybe your family was going to say and then it's amazing to hear that they eventually came around they were like we love you we knew this did you ever think that your family knew oh yeah i knew i like i

remember growing up and my mom was like are you gay and i was like no no no no no no no no like i remember oh my god oh third grade year my parents found gay porn on my computer i was like oh shit i was like damn damn you're like where did that come from i'll say what like i didn't know i was like what because i knew how to clear like the search bar but not the history yeah i was like oh my god fuck fuck fuck and i was like girl. Did you think before you came out on Twitter at all, like, should I call my parents? You're like, no, I'm just fucking doing it. No, I'm just going to do it. I was like, I'm tired of hiding it.

And like that, after that day, I was like downloading Tinder, Grindr. I was like, well, I'm gay now, y'all. What's good? Yeah, like, watch the fuck out. I'm coming for the fucking streets. Let's go. Hey, yeah, the streets are calling my name.

Wow. Okay, so when you dated women in high school, dating girls, so was your, I'm assuming your first sexual experience was with a woman. Yes, yes, yes, yes. It was. Was that, can you explain that to us? Oh my God, it was so fucking weird, honestly.

Like, we were like making out, and then she's like, I'm ready. I was like, hmm. You're like, oh, no. I was like, oh, okay. And like, I remember like I went down and like, you know, give her a little something, something. And I was like, how do I do this? I was looking at my hands like, what the fuck do I, like, what?

I'm sorry, but a guy is just, you know, up and down, mom. Yeah, dude, a vagina? Girl, that's what you gotta do with that. It's so complicated. Oof! Dude, bro. You're, like, disgusting. I can't.

I was like, what? So, but you had lost your virginity to a woman. Oh, no, no. I lost my virginity to a guy. Like, full on. That was like a hookup. I guess I lost my hookup virginity to a girl. To a girl. But then you lost your actual virginity to a guy. Oh, no, no. I lost my virginity to a guy. Like, full on. That was like a hookup. I guess I lost my hookup virginity to a girl. To a girl.

But then you lost your actual virginity to a guy. Yeah. Okay, that makes sense. I also commend you so much because I think so many people listening, the way that you talk about when you spent all those years and you're saying the one thing I regret is like maybe not coming out earlier, your internal battle that you dealt with with yourself. Like, when did you ever tell anyone in those years that you were gay like did you ever like say it out loud that's like such a like

something so serious within yourself like an identity thing that you would want to probably share oh my god right i did i did i told my best friend kelsey she's still my home girl love her shout out kelsey hey kelsey girl but um yeah i remember this like before i moved to la i school, and I went to, like, this social media convention or whatever in, like, New York. And I saw this guy who I, like, liked or whatever, but I didn't tell anyone I was gay. So I remember I was drunk as fuck, you know, a young teen. I was, like, sitting in my bed. I was like, Kelsey. She's like, what, Ricky?

I'm gay. She's like, oh, bitch, I know. I was like, oh. She's like, finally. It felt so good to say. I was like, okay, cool. And then I remember that I told my sister after that, and she was like, oh, my God, I love this.

I finally have a gay brother or whatever. And then, you know, I just worked up my courage. Do you think that advice for, because that's helpful to know, by you telling someone, do you think that helped a lot? I don't want to speak on your experience, but do you think? Oh, no, it actually really did help. Like, honestly, just really coming to the truth of just saying it. Right.

I was like, okay, just say it, Ricky. Like, it's really not that big of a deal. That was my biggest fear of saying it. I always knew I had this feeling, but I never wanted to say, I am gay. Right. Mm-hmm. I would love to hear you talk about, I think a lot of people, the biggest fear is their family. Yeah.

Yeah. And that, I think, if you could quickly touch on, like, the dynamic for yourself of deciding, I love my family so much, but I got to make this decision for myself. Like, anyone listening that is listening in their headphones right now, like, oh my God, I wish I was Ricky.

I wish I could do this. Do you have any type of advice of how to handle that family dynamic? Yes. I honestly feel like you have to think about yourself. Like, you actually have to. Like, your family is amazing. You love them.

But figure out, like, if it were to go left, you're the only person you have. Like, that's it. Like, you know, a lot of people don't have that great support system, so you have yourself. Like, you're the person who gets you up every day in the morning. You're the person who, like, really, like, understands how you feel, whatever. So you really have to think about yourself at the end of the day i like thought about that for the longest time i felt bad but at the end of the day i was like i was happy because i did it on my own terms that's what you have to do do you think

we've progressed in a way that someone like i feel like it's we're getting there but we're not fucking there at all um because i feel like we're such an archaic thing to think back to, like, why we live in such a heterosexual, heteronormative world now that it's like you're supposed to go to college, have a family, have kids, and then do everything in that lane. Do you feel like it's getting a little bit better where you feel like kids, now that you were in your age of high school, may feel a little bit more accepted to come out

or do you like how do you feel um i do like looking back on it i wish like the world was how it is now right i feel like now everyone's over here trying or whatever like you know you hear stories you watch youtube videos you see on tiktok everyone's just like being out and being free yeah like that's the thing that i wish it was normalized back in the day. Like back in the day, it was like a very like consecutive type thing. Yep. Like, you know,

you'll watch TV shows and you'll see like gay people get beat up or like, you know, they'll have somebody, they'll have somebody on the show who's trans, they'll get murdered or whatever. But like now it's like, it's normal. Like it's literally nothing.

Like it's like, okay. Yeah. It's just, there's just sexual preference. Don't you also feel like, yeah. Cause I feel like social media,

like regardless in general, when you are struggling, there's way more of a community. Yeah. Although the fucking haters are rough as fuck and getting the hate comments. That, for me, was a journey. I remember my brother helped me so much with it because people are fucking ruthless.

When you have people being like, you're not funny, kill yourself, you're fucking stupid, you don't belong. It is a choice that we decide to put ourselves on the internet. And I think that you are helping so many people. I try to help people. I try to empower women, men, whoever listens to the podcast. But it also is like there is the negative side. Yeah.

Regardless of whether you have 100 followers or 1,000, what is your go-to mentality when you see the hate comments? I mean, first of all, if your profile picture is, like, a celebrity or, like, or just blank. Right, a dog. Something. A car. Yeah, and that's you have zero followers, whatever. You're a troll.

I don't give a fuck. Like, I don't care. Like, it took me a while to get that way. But, I mean, I just laugh at it. I'm like, wow. Honestly, sometimes I laugh at hate comments. I'm like, wow, you came up with that? Clever.

Clever. I'm like, wow. But you're also on my page. Yeah, you're on my page. You're giving my views. You're making me money. Yeah, I love it. Honestly.

I'm like, okay. The biggest thing is just really to not give a fuck. And I know that's like so like difficult at some time. But you just have to really keep telling yourself that. Because like these people don't do shit for you like they're not wiping your ass they're not paying your bills they're literally just trolls that's literally it you have to keep your head up honestly like okay you hate on me or whatever i always say like if you're hating on me i'm doing something right i always say like if you're hating on me i'm doing something right that is such a

good fucking point it's like the more that you're causing anyone to talk about anything like whenever i see people being like this fucking episode sucked like this was well i'm like well you listen you listen and i see last week you also said it sucked but you keep listening yeah i'm clearly doing something right even though i'm pissing you the fuck off i'm doing something right oh i love when i piss them right it gets me going yes do you see yourself staying in social media your whole life? No, not at all. I'm actually, oh my God, I'm actually like, I'm going to still be there or whatever, but

I'm really trying to cross like that path. I'm really trying to be like an actor and be like in that real life celebrity-esque type of shit. I don't want to mess around and having to post all the time. I feel like I've done it for seven years and I'm so happy with all the support and I love it, but I feel like I'm at the point now,

I'm 25, I'm tired of yelling at my phone. Girl, I'm tired. Dude. I'm tired. I don't think people realize It's exhausting. You have to act so animated.

You do. And it's real, but it's like it is draining. It really is. It really is. I'm like, I've reached a peak in my life where I'm like, you know what? Hey, I'm ready to do something else. Like I really am. I'm really ready to. I mean, I started my whole social media journey to become an actor.

That's what I did. I was like, I need to get my name out there. So hop on social media. But for doing this for seven years straight, you know, yelling at my phone, letting you all know y'all are all bad bitches, whatever. Ricky needs a break. I need a break. talked about earlier you were in this like hole it's like a black hole once you get into this world like i've had friends be like oh i kind of would want to try and like just prepare yourself because you're signing up kind of for a little bit of hell like yeah so many perks don't get me wrong like it is unbelievable but you're putting yourself out there to get scrutinized by millions of people and your the opinion of others is what drives your success. Yeah. That is kind of fucked.

It's very fucked. It's very scary too. It's like literally crazy. It's so, like I feel like with me, when I look at it, I'm like, wow, my career is ran by all these millions of people. Yeah. So if I don't give them what they want,

they're done with me. Do I still have a career? And that shit right there scares me. That's such a good point. I always, I think people think it's crazy. I still, I have, do you have your dms open yeah i do too and i have had to find a good rhythm of like reading them but then also knowing like you're gonna come across hate and occasionally and then you gotta just be like oh not reading that one yeah but when you oh um when you i i think that's i do think it's profound that you're saying like you're going to try to

move out of it can we talk about TikTok for two seconds because I had on a TikToker last week two weeks ago and I don't know if you know about all that TikTok oh yeah I know oh yeah the t-girl so I do sympathize for those young kid, not kids, young adults that are trying to navigate that journey on social media. I feel like do you put that much about your personal life on social media or are you just doing more positive? I would do more positive. I feel like like literally when I see like all these younger people on TikTok or whatever, I feel like y'all have to keep your business to yourself. Yeah. Like, literally.

I know you feel like, oh, yeah, I'm on social media. I got to give this to my fans. No, you really don't. Like, honestly, I feel like, would that all happen? I was like, that should have been left behind closed doors. 100%. Like, I would just never, like. I struggle with that.

Yeah. My show, at the inception of it, was exploiting my life and my stories. And I felt one side of it I do love because I felt like me, if me being vulnerable and sharing things about myself will help anyone out there, then I feel like that's a win. Yeah. But I do think I've had to rewire my brain a little bit to be a little bit more protective of my personal life because this shit has affected some of my relationships yeah like some of the guys that i've dated have been

like i don't i can't do this like you're i you just like i yes i just skull fucked you but i don't need the world to know that i was skull fucking you last night because my job is gonna find out my goal so it's like you found a pretty good balance yeah i did i was like okay i can let y'all know about like my personal experience or whatever. But I just like, you know, I just don't want to like fully like I was afraid to let people know about my boyfriend. I was so terrified. I mean, people know about it, but it's just like.

Are you going to ever post with him? I feel like I told him I was like, I would like wait like a full like maybe year off Valentine's Day. He's like, are you serious? Like I was like, honestly, you don't understand like the life of social media. Because once you open that can up, girl, that's it.

Everyone now has an opinion on your relationship. And I've thought about that too. Like I have a boyfriend right now and I will never post him on social media. Period. Yeah. Ever. I've done it before and I've seen it's announced on Google and now, and like people, and I'm not acting like I'm like this big fucking deal.

But when you, it regardless, whether you have a thousand, want whoever yeah you open yourself up to posting your significant other people are going to have opinions literally it is it's also bad too because like now we live in a world where people think trolling is fine so you'll have trolls who try to get with your significant other or try to dig up the most lowest dirt ever did you know about this I'm like oh god like and then it drives you drives you insane you're like wait did he do this yeah and then you start to go insane and it's and it's so it it's so unhealthy yeah but if you can try to keep your relationship separate from the

job i think that i think that's the best but it took me learning like have you ever posted a significant i did i did my first boyfriend i did and the comments that he would get were honestly awful it was like one i like got him a lot of followers and then i'd be broken up so i was like yeah you have that or whatever yeah but it was like i remember when i posted him and i was so excited i would post like all the time and then people go to his page that you're not posting ricky enough are you cheating what the fuck we're gonna find out your real t what's up what's up and he was got scared about it he was like ricky this actually scares me like there are people like know about us but they're over here like threatening me in my dms everything like that and i was like what the fuck i even have like oh i can't stand it i've had other guys like

if i post my man and he's fine as fuck i've had other people who support me will try to fuck him yeah i'm like i'm like bitch look oh my god i love your videos but your boyfriend's hot so what's that yeah where does your brain go when that happens? I go to war for it, girl. Okay. Like, literally. I'm like, you know what? Don't let this cute face fool you, honestly.

Don't mess with my man, period. Like, if you know we're good over here, don't try any shit with me. Like, I hate that. I've messed around. I've had, like, bitches over here be like, oh my God, like, did you know, like, Ricky, like, fucked my friend, like, last week, though? And he was like, well, we didn't get together last week. Oh, oh, oh, I just wanted to let you know about that like i've had people like mess around try to tell like wow tell lies yeah

i'm like what the fuck you talking about like them as oh he fucked him last week but literally in reality i fucked that guy like me like two years ago wow so you've had a lot of people try to break up your relationship because they're jealous they're like oh ricky doesn't deserve a guy that fine i do so they'll do that oh yeah girl yeah that's yeah i don't fuck with that if you ever try mine i'm fucking you up like period like i have like i feel bad people oh my god like i don't like confrontation like i don't want to talk about bitch let that bitch know totally like stop i agree with that have you ever cheated on someone never never i i've never done it. Yeah. Never. I'm like, girl, that's karma.

I've never. It is karma. But like, the thing is, I've been cheated on before. And this is what, this, my boyfriend, he's so great. I'm like, would you ever cheat on me? He's like, Ricky, I would never do that to you. Like, I know what you've been through. I'm trying to build this trust with you.

Like, I want to show you, like, I'm going to be the guy that you've always wanted. So when he told me, I was like, yeah. But do you ever you ever get like do you think because you've gotten cheated on like i find myself sometimes like acting a little fucking psycho like oh yeah i'll have a dream oh yeah me yeah and i will have a dream about like i wake up and i'm like i had a dream about him and his ex-girlfriend flirting in front of me and i wake up and i'm like mad i'm like i'm annoyed with him he's like what what and i'm like i just some i don't know something feels off and he's like literally i love you so much nothing is off like i want to marry you like what the fuck and I'm like mad I'm like I'm annoyed with him he's like what what and I'm like I just some I don't know something feels off and he's like literally I love you so much nothing is off like I want to marry you like what the fuck and I'm like I don't know I don't know bitch can never be too fucking sure you gotta be ready sorry do you think you're a little because of the past do

you think you're a little like always on guard yes all the time and I feel I feel bad for him I'm like really do and I'm like I know I'm fucking crazy and I'm so sorry, but this is just something that I've been dealing with where like, I have been through so much shit with guys and they put me through hell. So I'm like, I'm always just have my guard up. But I feel like, you know, now I'm learning to really just like breathe and relax. Breathe. Breathing exercises are great.

Do you feel like at times, cause I always use, I actually still stand by it. I do think in my life when i'm dating men love the crazy like i think a little bit of crazy it's fun yeah but do you think you are you someone that plays games or no um okay i don't know i don't play games but i will say sometimes i love like a little confrontation i love it i'm like come on fight with me a little bit like come on like i love it what would. I'm like, come on, fight with me a little bit. Like, come on. Like, I love it. Like, what would you fight over?

Like, oh, my God. Like, I remember one time there was this girl that was trying him. And I was like, this bitch. Like, she was like, oh, my God, you're, like, so attractive. And she put her hands on his face. And he didn't, like, swat it down. So I was like, bitch. I got so mad. So, like, we got back to, like, my room or whatever. And he was like, are it down so i was like bitch i got so mad so like we

got back to like my room or whatever and he was like you're good i was like you know what no i don't like how that bitch touched you like what's up right he was like ricky you're i'm literally with you right now i'm not about to do this to you i was like but i'm pissed he was like you need to calm down but it's fun like it's fun a little bit because you know it's not going to escalate to the point of like him act he didn't cheat he didn't do anything there but it is fun Like it's fun a little bit Because you know It's not going to escalate To the point of like Him acting He didn't cheat He didn't do anything He wasn't there

But it is fun To get a little bit of friction I love it I'm like I'm trying to like Calm down on that But I love like I think it's hot

When he gets angry I'm like I do too And I think when people Are like Alex You're weird Because people were like Oh my god

You're in a relationship now Like are you boring Like how do you go From going from the crazy To like being I'm like When did I say The crazy's gone

I never said the crazy's gone and i never said the game stopped the games may be a little bit more less manipulative and a little less like ending of the world right type shit but i'm still always playing a little bit of a game in a relationship because i do think it helps spice shit up it does it does it does okay so we're on the same page yeah it keeps it like the ball rolling or whatever right i mean i don't do anything like too crazy or whatever like someone like damn i want to break up with you. Right. And also, I'm somebody, I need reassurance a lot.

Okay. A lot. Like, I need them to tell me, oh my God, that you love me. What are your love languages? I think I love the touch and just the quality time. Okay, so if there's physical touch, if he's being more affectionate towards you, and then the quality time for you. I'm waiting for the person that shows up and is like gifts what's that like girl

i'm like where's my fucking birkin i'm like hey i want my iced out ap like you know i'm gonna start telling men that like that is my love language so they get the fucking hello get the gift i say the same like quality time words of affirmation is great and then i'm like oh fuck i should have said gifts i'm like hey you know a little something i never like i'm not like hungry because i'm like i'm like i told him i was like i can get my own shit period but like a little something would be cute would be cute i'm okay but ever since i told him that like now he like gets me flowers and that and i love that i'm like what the fuck i love it like when i saw him in New York this past like week or whatever

he came to my hotel and he had flowers for me I was like oh my god you're so romantic anyone listening if you get someone flowers it really does change it really does

it's so little and it does so much I'm like wow wait do you like morning sex or night sex better or day sex is that like oh girl

it's like all around the clock honestly so you can never stop I love it I love before dinner oh dude Ricky it's like all around the clock honestly like i love it i love i love before dinner oh dude ricky it's kind of funny that you're saying that because i will never get my mother you're like how are you bringing your mom into this my mom i remember said when you have kids like my mom's like when we had kids we started to realize that sex before dinner was

it because then one you're going to fucking dinner and you're eating a shit ton but with kids then it's like you're gonna be too exhausted yeah so they would fit it in before dinner and then i started to realize that just because of the amount that i eat at dinner and i'm like i don't feel sexy post like bolognese exactly literally so i'm like i feel like pre dinner sex because then there's also like you don't have to like stress on it if you're if you're too tired after oh that, that's kind of hot. I love it. Or, like, I love, like, before, like, if you have dinner plans, like, somebody else, whatever, and, like, we're a little bit late. I'm like, I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry. I was just a little. You know, sorry. I'm like, oof, yeah, girl. That actually is encouraging me. I haven't had pre-dinner sex in a while, and I'm thinking I need to, like, re-engage with that one. But what do you have? I actually do, do like morning sex.

Okay. Morning is cute though. And I wasn't, I wasn't as into it until I met my boyfriend who's so into morning sex. And at first I was always like, I'm too fucking tired. I like sleeping. But now it is kind of a great way to start the day. Oh, it is. Like if I have an orgasm, like I can, I can do anything.

Literally. I am that bitch. I love it. I'm going to have the best fucking day. I'm going to be so productive because then I'm not fully thinking about sex all day like literally do later tonight like if you have a two in one day or three in a day but like at least one in the morning you know like all right i got my shit done literally it's everything i love getting woken up by it i'm like oh here we go do you oh there it is do you like shower sex no me either

i fucking hate it okay i was in london and i had sex and i don't know what it is but something about the soap that i've been washing my body with and then we started fucking and it was like one of those that like it's a tricky one because if it has like the perfect bench like yeah you think so not only did the soap literally give me a yeast infection but my knees were on like the concrete um thing girl and my knees i look like i went fucking like sledding on concrete like i look like a fucking loser for literally two weeks straight i was bruised and then i had like i was scabbing and it was a fucking disaster it's awful i don't think more i think like shower sex kind of fucking sucks it's awful and it's like all the water

in your face it's not really all that type of hot i'm like drowning or whatever i like i want to come not in the water. Literally. Let's switch it to the bedroom. Exactly. That's all I want. Okay, so you're on the same page because I think some people get really annoyed by, do you like 69?

I love it. I think it's so hot. I'm like, oh my God, I love it. I never liked it until I started liking it recently. Really? Because I think I never did for me i we i was always on i was always on top okay and i now like being on bottom oh yes girl i know yeah i didn't realize like the difference because i always felt when i was on top like i wasn't getting maximum

opportunity and like i just felt like something was wrong but like once i started doing it opposite and like he's holstering himself up, it's way fucking bad. Okay, so you like 69. You fuck with 69. I love 69. Is that your favorite go-to like foreplay situation? Um, is it my favorite? Um, I don't know.

Okay, it's not my favorite. I love like before. Like I like the build up before the 69 moment. Yes. Like the whole like dry humping type thing. Oh, fuck. And like you just feel it. Just like getting it.

And you know what? It seems so, I remember when I look back, I'm like, oh, I think it like I at one point thought it was too, not immature, but like it was too middle school dry humping. Girl. Like if you're fucking making out and you're like rubbing up on each other, you, I can already start. I'm like, by the time I'm taking my pants off, I'm like, oh, I'm so fucking wet. Right?

I'm like, I gotta clean up on aisle me. Oh. Okay, we, that is kind of great. Okay, wait, yeah, give us the tea of, like, your foreplay, because, so you like to start on the dry humping. I love it. Brilliant. I love it.

Like, let's say in the morning, like, my boyfriend would mess around, like, they'd grab me, like, from my neck. Yes. And, like, start, like, dirty talking to me, and it's, like, just, like, just body on body. My eyes turn around, we start making out, you know, our legs, like, intertwine with each other. neck yes and i started like dirty talking to me and it's like just like just body on body my eye turned around we started making out you know our legs like intertwined with each other and i'm like fuck like this is so fucking hot do you love dirty talk i love it i'm like give it to be disgusting like are you super vocal oh super vocal have you ever had someone that you're like can you please

speak the fuck up yeah like like mutes yeah mutes in bed i'm like um hello and how do you have you ever said literally like like how do you get someone to try to speak? I think a lot of girls and men write in like, my partner is fucking mute. That's the fucking, that's like a huge turn off. Cause you never know if they like it or not. Yes. That's the thing.

It's like, give me a grunt or something. Something. I'm like, hello, say, yeah. Even a fuck. Oh, I love that. Right? Like, oh fuck. And you're like, oh fuck.

Yes. It gives you the confidence. Oh, what the fuck okay so you like to dirty talk yeah um okay what is the least annoying way okay for straight women to be like living for the gays i got a gay best friend like i know that gets annoying like right Like, please, like, I. Girl. Like, please, stop. Yes, tell us. Educate us. Okay, do you want, like, what I hate about it?

Yes. Okay, I cannot stand, like, when a straight girl's like, oh, my God, bitch, yes, honey, I'm living for you. Oh, my God. Like, who are you fucking tonight? Like, what are you, oh, my God, my best friend, he's gay. You want to hook up? Right? Hot.

Or I'll get girls like, oh, my God. Like, I like watching guys fuck. Like, that's hot for me. Like, would you like that? You've had girls say that to you? Yeah. Oh, yeah, for sure. I'm like, what the fuck?

I'm like, girl, I'm just trying to chill with you. Like, what? You're like, why are we talking about this? Yeah, for real. I'm like, what the fuck? I'm not like asking you like, oh, I want to watch you fuck. Yeah. I'm like, weird.

Like, what the fuck? I feel like with straight girls, I feel like the reason why they do it is because they're afraid of offending us. That's the thing. I feel like they think, like, if we talk like y'all, maybe we can be on the same level. But I'm like, no, because I like gays and girls. Like, we're here. Right.

We understand. We're like, oh, my God. Men are fucking annoying. Like, what the fuck? Like, hey, we can chill, whatever. But yeah, that shit is so annoying. But we're not one and the same. No, no, no, no.

What do you think would be your ideal world to be like this is how you would like it to go like bitches that are like oh well my best friend is gay it's like shut the fuck up sit down yeah um so you're just saying chill more like friends and stop you i it's like you're you're saying they're almost using it as like a little trophy yeah it's like shut the fuck up yeah i'm not asking to watch you fuck your boyfriend so don't ask me like oh i like watching it like what i'm like it's weird i'm like what the fuck i just really just wish like a lot of girls just treat like gay guys like we're regular like you know all this will come like bitch you down like all the time like you don't say oh my god like what's t girl what's i'm

like just be like yeah what's up like hey like like how girls talk to their girlfriends can y'all talk to us right like what's a t what's a t it's like shut the fuck up you've said tea in the past fucking five sentences literally reel it down so you think they're almost over heightening it because they're afraid they feel nervous like oh my god i don't want to say the wrong thing to you because you know people like they look at us in a way like oh my god like i can't offend you or whatever but like literally we're so strong now like honestly a lot of times people really don't offend me. Like I've heard everything in the book. So I'm like, you know, yeah.

What do you think if you could educate anyone on like, what do you think they're afraid of saying to offend? Do you know what I mean? Like I know what you're saying. They're kind of walking on eggshells. So they try to ramp it up. Like, hey girl, tea, tea, tea, tea, tea. Just like shut up.

Literally, I think they do that. It's because they want to make us feel comfortable. They feel like if they just talk to us like regular, like we're uncomfortable or whatever. But I'm like, no girl. You're literally a human. Like we're shut up. Literally, I think they do that because they want to make us feel comfortable. They feel like if they just talk to us like regular, like we're uncomfortable or whatever, but I'm like, no, girl. You're literally a human. Like, we're just chilling. Literally, I'm like, hey, what's up?

Like, oh, my God. Like, if I say, like, I feel like, oh, my God, girl, what's up, girl? Like, I get it. Like, you know, if I don't do it, though, but. But you, that's also, I think, how you talk. Yeah.

So I think I get what you're saying. It's like, don't adjust. Yeah. The way that you would normally talk with a friend. Mm-hmm. When Ricky comes out with you, like, girl, what's the tea? Don't be like, oh, I got the tea. Like, would you say that to your friend?

Like, yes, bitch. I got the tea. I'm like, enough. Now I actually don't want any of the tea. Please leave. Okay. I think that clarifies a lot because I do think like you said back in the beginning, like it right now, I think a lot of people feel like we're walking on eggshells.

Things are changing. Times are changing. And I think it's good to educate on that's really helpful like i will take that moving forward like i'm not i'm not the girl on the street that's like give me the fucking tea but but i i understand what you're saying so i appreciate you clarifying that yeah um so your first sexual experience hookup girl first sexual experience though like actually losing your virginity was to a man yeah what age were you i was 18 oh yeah so you were in la what was that like because i was gonna ask you

worst sexual experience best sexual experience you gotta hit us okay okay this is my best sexual experience okay go so what this was should i tell like my first time i lost my virginity whatever okay yeah okay i once i came out whatever i or whatever, I, like, downloaded Tinder. And, like, I met the, like, literally hottest guy ever. And I was like, this is, like, my dream man. And we ended up dating or whatever. He was, like, from Texas. He was, like, this football type guy. So, yeah, girl.

I was like, wow, I'm coming out. Look what I get. Like, what? So, yeah, from Texas. Oh, my God. Texas men are so fine. I'm getting horny. Girl.

Oh, my God. So, yeah, like, we met up. And then we tried to hook up. And then it was, like, okay God. So, yeah, like, we met up, and then we tried to hook up. And then it was like, okay, cute. And then, like, we started dating, and then he came back. And then, like, we finally, like, actually fucked. And I was like, oh, my God, wow. I was like, wait.

It wasn't that bad. Okay. But I was like, this is, like, you know, it's the first time. Like, I don't know what's good or whatever. Right. Later down the road, girl. Do the way you just said that. Girl. Later down the road. Later down the road. So. Do the way you just said that. Girl.

Later down the road. Later down the road. So, like, now I'm not a single man anymore. Thank God. Yeah. Mm-hmm. I got a man, girl. Yeah.

We've been talking for, well, okay, I've known him for, like, two years. We've been talking for a year, and we started dating in March of this year. Congratulations. So, like, thank you. He's really everything. Like, I've always wanted him. Like, I've always wanted him. How long have you him how long have you known him i've known him since like 2019 i met him in a bar and i was like it's him for me it was isn't it the best when you meet someone at a bar literally because it's like there's there's something so much more romantic so sexual so hot about it

it's so much better than i'm sorry a dating app i've met a lot of my boyfriends on dating apps but there is something about meeting in person and that like chemistry like they know nothing about you really it's like oh like yo what's up i'm like oh worst sexual experience oh worst sexual experience um where do i even begin oh my god girl i've had so many like awful sexual experience i feel like it was like this moment in copenhagen oh my god i feel so fucking bad about this oh my god why if he's listening oh whoop he's not hopefully he's not he was like oh yeah I remember that so basically what happened was in Copenhagen I was like you know I'm really just trying to find like some international dick I was like okay who am I gonna go to or whatever so I went on Grindr and I met up with this guy and I was like

okay like he was kind of hot muscular or whatever I was like all right cool my best friend Denzel was like if you want to do it like just do it I was like but we don't have any different rooms he's like just go in the bathroom and do it I was like all right right, cool. My best friend Denzel was like, if you want to do it, like, just do it. I was like, but we don't have any different rooms. He's like, just go in the bathroom and do it. I was like, all right, cool, whatever. Okay, that is a fucking amazing friend. Right? I love him. I love him.

I love him. I love him. Like, bitch, I live for you. Whoa. So basically, I invite the guy over. And I was like, okay, cute. Uh-huh. We go in the bathroom.

And, you know, we start making out, whatever. He's filling me up. I'm like, all right, like, I'm ready for this. I pull his pants down. No. Girl. No. I have never smelled a dick

no so fucking bad i was like like i was like trying to like hold my vomit in he was like what's wrong what's wrong what's wrong i was like um food poisoning like i was like oh um um oh my god i'm freaking out he's like why i was like look i have never hooked up with a guy before shut the fuck up i was like i'm so scared he was Shut the fuck up. I was like, I'm so scared. He was like, oh my God, seriously? I was like, yeah, this is my first sexual experience. Like, I don't know what to do. Like, what am I supposed to like grab it or whatever?

He's like, you've never had sex with a guy. I was like, no, never. He was like, okay. Like, do you want to, we sat on the bathroom floor for like a cute 15 minutes discussing like what gay was. He was like, okay, like, do you want to, we sat on the bathroom floor for like a cute 15 minutes discussing like what gay was. He was like, okay, like, I don't want to like take your virginity away from you. I feel like you should find someone you're in love with. I was like, yeah.

Yeah, I regret this. You know, you should probably leave. Yeah. And take a motherfucking shower. Literally, like, what the fuck? You're coming to my hotel room and you want to mess around and fuck me with a stank dick? Get out of my face. That is, it's so underrated.

Yeah. Because it's like, why do guys not know that their dick smells smells that's like when a girl doesn't know her vagina smells i'm like how do you not know i'm like bitch i know where mine stinks right right i'm like i know when something's off yeah so like how does someone not anyone listening please daddy gang fucking fix your shit if it smells there's usually something wrong literally get that shit checked out exactly okay so best worst love that so you're you're not single now yeah what were you before you met him like what do you know you're looking for in a partner oh my god girl i was in for anything i was like damn i just really want to be wiped up like i'm sick and tired the streets were my home girl literally i was like i'm there i'm here i was running them and i got sick and tired of it i was like honestly you know i'm like

done with this i remember this friend of mine like we were at this warehouse party and when i'm at a warehouse party girl i'm looking i'm like all right who am i going home with like what's like i'm it's like a game yeah like let's go i'm ready and i remember he put me to tie he was like do you do this like every weekend i was like what do you mean he's like i just feel like you're always in the prowl how does that feel for you and i was like i was like oh my god do i look like that like from the outside looking in so you had like a come to jesus moment yeah like oh fuck i was like i I was like, oh, my God, do I look like that? Like from the outside looking in. So you had like a come to Jesus moment. Oh, fuck.

I was like, I need to keep my legs closed. So you were just like, but also don't you kind of think that those moments like I even say it for myself. I had moments where I was like living it up, like going for anything that I wanted. But then I think that those moments allow you to then settle down. Yeah. And to appreciate a relationship. It's like ebbs and flows like girls that get out of relationships, guys get a relationship it's like then you go back to the streets yeah but it's like this like ever flowing thing but you're right now excited to be in a relationship i'm so fucking

happy it's something i've always wanted like i remember when i tweeted about it people's like oh my god ricky finally i'm like damn oh yeah no i'm congratulations thank you that is like have you do you think in relationships you are healthy like Like, what are your relationships in the past? Like, toxic, not toxic? Oh, my God. Like, this is, like, the best relationship I've ever been in. I have been in some fucked up relationships. Really?

Like, fucked up. I've met some guys who have messed around and used me to the T. And I'm like, what the fuck? Like, I remember one time I was talking to this guy. I flew him out, and he was fucking another guy in L.A. Staying at my house. Yeah, girl. How did you find out?

I saw him on Grindr. I was like, what the fuck? You were like, I just paid for you to come out here. house. Yeah, girl. How did you find out? I saw him on Grindr. I was like, what the fuck? You were like, I just paid for you to come out here. I was like, yeah. He was like, I really want to be with you, Ricky, or whatever. And I saw him on Grindr. I was like. Did you kick him out?

I did. I was like, you got to get the fuck up out of here. Actually, you want to know this? Yes. This is the sad part about it. Oh, God. Before I could. Oh, my God.

Okay, girl, let me see you in. Let's go. So basically what happened was I flew this guy out, whatever. We were talking. He was here. Da, da, talking he was here and then I caught him on Grindr I didn't say anything about it so I was like you know what if he's on Grindr I'm right here so what's good after he got on Grindr he goes in the bathroom was there for like a cute 30 minutes I was like okay he comes to the bathroom I'm like it's very hot in here he was oh yeah I took a shower look at my shower the shower is dry You know exactly what he was doing

Exactly Yeah Yeah So I was like what the fuck So then after that He takes a shower actually Comes back to my room He's like

Wait for everyone that doesn't understand What you're saying Say what you're saying Girl he was jacking off in the bathroom He had to really get off that bad That he wouldn't fuck me So he was like I'm gonna jack off in the bathroom

I was like what the fuck The shower was dry The room was hot I knew exactly what you did Why are you in the bathroom. I was like, what the fuck? The shower was dry. The room was hot. I knew exactly what you did. Why are you in the bathroom for 30 minutes? Why the fuck did I fly you here and you're going to be jacking off in the fucking bathroom? That's what I thought.

But before, he was like, oh, yeah, I'm going to blow your back out. He never did. So when I tried to hook up with him, he was like, I have to tell you something. I don't like you like that. I don't like you as a friend. I was like, okay. So I kicked him out and I bought him a plane ticket home. That's so nice of you. I was so nice. You know me, girl. I was like, let like let me be not never again i'm not that bitch anymore just a weak

ass bitch right now it's okay so i bought him a flight back home and um he like blocked me and then i found out he was like in la for like another week like some other guy i love how he blocked you i know like wait wait that should be you blocking him exactly um that you're like, sir, the actual shower is completely dry. It's completely dry. So I don't know what your definition of motherfucking shower is. Like what? But it didn't go down. Yeah, I knew exactly what you were doing.

Okay. Yeah. I know that this is not your burden to bear, but I think there's huge misconceptions that I think this platform is a great place to debunk them yeah the concept of being top or bottom okay i would be interesting to hear from you on um i think people love to put things in boxes yeah and so when a lot of people think that the the more masculine is always going to be top more femme is always bottom and I think that it's clearly a spectrum and I would love for you to kind of walk us through that and like break that down oh wow okay so first of all I feel like everyone is just everything honestly everything I've met like

the most masked guys and they're only bottom I'm like okay okay I was like oh now my little ass gonna talk to you whatever although you twerk like a motherfucker you know hey you know how to do it so yeah and i know like a lot of like femme guys who are like mass tops like they're like i don't want to do that i want to be like a top so i'm like yeah it's either or honestly that's why i think it's also so fluid in the sense of like you i also bring it back to like i know some girls that are like the quietest in the room you wouldn't expect shit and then they fucking get on that dick and bounce around. It's everything. Or there's men who like to be the sub. And you would think they're like the CEO of a company, but they really aren't going to

be Dom in the bedroom. They're sub. So it's like that's it's kind of similar. Yeah, it's not. It's sexuality. There was a guy that wrote in. He actually didn't write and he made a video for me. And he is identifies as gay.

He goes to Penn State University. OK. And he I know he wrote in he actually didn't write and he made a video for me and he is identifies as gay okay he goes to penn state university okay and he i know he wrote in and basically told a series of stories about multiple times going on grinder yeah and having a relationship with men and then going and finally finding their instagrams and finding out that they publicly were identifying as straight and had full-time girlfriends. Oh, yeah. It happens all the time. Has this happened to you? Slash, can you give advice and, like, walk us through that situation?

Because I feel like he was like, this happens all the time to me and it is so fucking hard because I feel almost like sometimes an experiment that it's, like, not fair to me that I'm getting treated as, like, a secret. Yeah. And then he's publicly at a party with me, like with his fucking girlfriend and he won't talk to me. Yeah. Oh my God.

That happens all the time. Yeah. Like literally in the gay community, like we have a lot of like men who just want to experiment. And I feel like we're honestly fucking tired of it because like you want to experiment. Okay. Do you, but just don't pick me honestly. Yeah.

So yeah. I mean, it happens all the time. It's happened to me a lot of times. I've messed around. I've talked to straight guys who like, oh, like you i like you i like you we hook up and it's just like bro like i don't roll that way i'm like what the fuck like why did you you know right then how did we just yeah exactly i feel like the key things you really have to like know like if they won't show you their instagram they have a secret like yeah like they're not gonna

fully like up front with you whatever whatever. You have to do that. Before you hook up with them, really, like, stalk the fuck out of them. See what's up with them or whatever. Check their Twitter. Check their Instagram. Be fucking crazy, honestly. You have to. I tell girls to do that.

Okay, if you are dating a dude, if you're dating a girl, whoever the fuck you're dating, look through their shit first. Literally. Because he may have a girlfriend. She may have a, like, it's the same everywhere. It is. Like, make sure you do your work work you have to really look at it and another key thing is if they're only like hitting you up like around like 12 a.m one got it to wid yep you know you're not the main

bitch honestly you're a secret you are if they're not gonna hang if they don't say let's go out to dinner or no so have you so you have experienced that have you do you would it usually be in you found out through instagram i found out the instagram or like i'll find out like at a party like oh yeah i'm talking to this guy whatever and i see him with a girl i'm like oh my god what you're like he's like oh yo bro i like your videos i'm like you also like my fucking dick yeah i'm like what the fuck yeah wow. Wow. Okay. So, because I do, I could see in college situations, it's hard to, because he was like, I feel just so uncomfortable. Then he's left to feel weird at the college party when the guy's with the girlfriend and

you're like, wait, I was just with you last night. Yeah. That's the worst feeling ever. You feel disgusting. And it's like, oh my gosh, I've had situations where like the guy will have a girlfriend and she's like, oh my God, like you've helped me out through so much like literally like when he put me down you were there for me and i was like all right you're like i'm so yeah okay okay so i and i also think that's again regardless of whether sexual orientation like when you find

out you're basically getting used yeah the feeling is crippling because then it does affect you moving forward in every other relationship can you walk us through dating apps because bitch we need to talk about grinder culture because can you break it down for us bumble ass bitches yes um like how are you sliding in like what's your slide-ins when you're on grinder like tell us a tea oh my god when i was when I was that girl. Oh, my gosh. Wow. Back in the day, when I was, like, a Grindr girl, you know, you just go on and, like, you see all different type of guys in your area. So it's like, okay, honestly, first of all, go on Grindr.

You only go on Grindr to fuck. Like, people over here, like, oh, my God, I want a date. Don't go on Grindr to date. Like, it doesn't work like that. So, yeah, it would be, like, a bunch of pictures, like, just different bodies, you know, some are, like, unknown't work like that so yeah it'll be like a bunch of pictures like just different bodies you know some are like unknown profiles like the dl guys or whatever they don't post their face they don't like they're anonymous or whatever oh okay because like for i feel like if i saw a guy just posing his body like i would be like wait what where's

it like what's your face yeah you're saying that's normal on grinder yeah no face no case period yeah okay so you know hey when i was on grinder i yo, yo, like, what are you into? I'm into this. Can you host? Meaning, like, can I come to yours? Right. Can I come to yours? Whatever.

Then, you know, you meet up with them, you do the deed, and that's it. Okay, my best friend, one of her best friends identifies as gay, and he was like, Grindr, we are so much, his experience on it is like it kind of what you're saying like we're way more straightforward like if i'm on bumble or whatever dating app like if someone slides in even on tinder like if you slide in sexually it's like freaks girls out like it's like nope not no why are you so you're saying like it's usually you would just go in and that's it you know what you're doing okay like anything or they'll just send you a dick pic like you into this i'm like oh yeah i almost kind of like wish like it's usually you would just go in and you know what you're doing. Like anything. Or they'll just send you a dick pic. Like you into this.

I'm like, oh, yeah. I almost kind of like wish like that's at least you're more straightforward. Yeah. It's the fucking point. Half the time I have girls writing in there like I have been on this dating app now and we've been talking for three fucking weeks about his goddamn grandma and his fucking apple tree. And he's like, she's like, what the fuck?

Like, let's get off the dating app. So at least so you're saying it's way more straightforward yeah like literally it is what do you think what is your because for my slide-ins that's interesting because it's obviously different like different my slide-ins usually i would try to be funny with it i'm assuming that's maybe not the way you slide in like what are you what was your go-to slide-in i was like you're hot that's all i'll do love he's like oh wow you think so i'm like yeah he's like how hot and then i was going to a girl that's like yeah okay that i really i think every girl is like okay wish this was more straightforward for us like Let's all do love. He's like, oh, wow, you think so? I'm like, yeah, he's like, how hot? And then I was going to a girl. That's like, yeah.

OK, that I really I think every girl is like, hey, wish this was more straightforward for us. Like half the time I'm like, let's just get to the fucking point. Except sometimes it comes off creepy. So it's not creepy on Grindr. It's like, let's get to the fucking. That's it. Like Grindr is literally just meant to fuck. That's it.

What do you think is next for you in terms of like, are you a secret project? Like girls online, like secret project. What is next for you in terms of like things we can look for? Um, you know, I project like girls online like secret project what is next for you in terms of like things we can look for um you know i am like my acting career like that's the thing but i've gotten like a lot of like positive things coming for that have you gone to like auditions oh yeah girl i've gone audition i've gotten the callbacks whatever and i'm like oh my gosh like i feel like now like i'm really ready to it's time it really is like during like 2020 i like really had like a realization like

okay ricky like how much more can you do yeah and like i'm really ready to go to the next level like i think it's time i think that's inspiring because i think a lot of people from the pandemic actually felt worse and less motivated so it's nice to have someone on that's like i actually took this and i'm like ready for 2021 yeah i am going to like seize the fucking moment literally i was like you know what i need to make some changes like honestly i'm like ready for 2021. Yeah. Like I am going to like seize the fucking moment. Literally. I was like, you know what? I need to make some changes. Like honestly, I'm like, this is cute or whatever. I'm like, I love it.

I'm so thankful for like everything that I've accomplished, but I'm really ready for the next. I want to do something different. Like I need a change. I need it. I think that anyone listening, if you needed that little extra like oomph and you were like thinking you wanted to change,

you were looking to change something in your life, do it. Do it. You have to. Take the risk. Do it or You have to. Take the risk. Do it or whatever. Ricky. Hey, girl.

Thank you so much for coming on Call Her Daddy. It's been an honor, a pleasure. I can't wait to see what's in store for you for your career. Oh, my God, girl. I'm excited for both of us. Hey. Thank you so much. I live for you.

Daddy gang. That is it for this week's episode thank you again ricky i had such an amazing time interviewing him and i hope you guys enjoyed go show him love in his dms next week god i'm so excited we have a lot of fucking people lined up and i just found out that something that i've been recently extremely passionate about, if you follow me on Instagram, you probably know what I'm talking about. There is a chance that I may be connecting, let's say, with a guest that I never thought that I would be able to get on this podcast. And they will be coming on and spitting fucking facts and wisdom in our face. So the next few weeks are going to be fucking amazing.

And I am so excited. Next week's guest, let's just say professional athletes are a fan favorite and have been a fan favorite, not only on this podcast, but in my heart and in my life. Let's just say next week is going to be a nice motherfucking surprise. Daddy gang, you know the motherfucking drill. I will see you fuckers next Wednesday.