Call Her Daddy - “Block him” - My therapist

Episode Date: July 14, 2021

This week, we begin the episode STILL in the fucking Hamptons. You thought things couldn’t get any wilder from last week? Oh, you thought wrong…get ready to meet the neighbors. Once Father Cooper ...finally makes it to Chicago she changes the pace up a bit and sits down with Lauren to discuss some therapist approved dating advice. Big Al and Lar chat about blocking, second dates, deciding what your type is and so much more. But of course, Chicago couldn’t come to a close without one wild night out. Father Cooper finally has her debut on stage and delivers an impromptu performance. Last, but surely not least, Big Al meets up with the daddy gang in Chicago for a LIVE questions of the week. Buckle up, because this episode is filled with surprises.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Before we get into this week's episode, Daddy Gang, you know the drill. No dad left behind, okay? And this is the last week that I'm going to basically be telling you this because next week I am officially only going to be found on Spotify. Daddy Gang, start listening to Call Her Daddy and your other favorite podcasts, but Call Her Daddy only on Spotify. Daddy Gang, start listening to Call Her Daddy and your other favorite podcasts, but Call Her Daddy only on Spotify. It's free. You just simply download the free Spotify app, you sign up for free, and you search Call Her Daddy, press follow, and from now on out, Call Her Daddy only on Spotify starting next week on Wednesday, July 21st.
Starting point is 00:00:50 What is up, Daddy Gang? It is your founding father, Alex Cooper, with Call Her Daddy. Thank God we're fucking back, baby. What the fuck is up, Daddy Gang? It is your founding father, Perk. For another episode of Call Her Daddy. You know, it sounds almost like a broken record at this point,
Starting point is 00:01:18 but once again, I am sitting here before all of you, happy to be a fucking live, okay? I don't know what I did. I don't know what kind of fucking karma I fucked with, but somebody's got to hit out for me. Okay. Daddy gang, the plan was to start this episode in Chicago, Chicago. I love you, but that's not the case. And that's not reality. I'm about to take you back to last Tuesday night. You guys remember Lauren and I had just uploaded the Hamptons episode and the two of us that Tuesday were about to sit down and watch a movie. And then a storm started raging.
Starting point is 00:02:03 Thunder, lightning, pouring rain, wind. And then the power went out, which meant the Wi-Fi went out, which then meant we had absolutely no cell service because our house was nowhere near town. So in order for us to have service on that trip, we had to either be in our home on Wi-Fi or when we left, wait 15 minutes to get service once we hit town. So on that stormy Tuesday night, we had no car. We couldn't call an uber we were trapped in our home alone in the pitch black in a house completely made of windows with no curtains surrounded by woods and four other houses and unable to contact anyone and we were freaking the fuck out. required screwdriver dude there's no way do you think there's a flashlight in the basement i don't
Starting point is 00:03:26 know i'm not going down there i'm about to record come over here let's just fucking record dude i'm freaking the fuck out i hate this i want to leave sit down hold on hold on okay hello hi um we how do i even explain this we just lost fucking power yeah but the issue okay i don't give i we've gone through fucking shit where we haven't had power we have no fucking service we are in the middle of the hamptons no service no power no car yeah no car and we have no way to fucking communicate with anyone right now and our house is creepy as fuck yeah giant windows everywhere and they no curtains well we said last okay last week i told you guys yay like there's guys across and they can see into our house now
Starting point is 00:04:11 it's turned creepy we never met these men and there was like a bunch of younger dudes now there's like older dudes i'm assuming they had one guy there was like one younger i don't even know the situation there's men across from us there's four houses surrounding our house right now. And it is getting pitch black right now. Like this started right when it was getting dark. We have one candle in this lantern. We have no fucking food also. Cool.
Starting point is 00:04:34 So Laura and I are sitting here freaking the fuck out because we're off the grid. Yeah. This is literally how horror movies start. I know. Thank you. Thunderstorms. Stop stop power goes out and i
Starting point is 00:04:47 and i want it like no cell service the neighbors are just fucking looking in at us yeah i would not care if we just lost power and look at our phones yeah and i was like texting my boyfriend like hey everything's good or like hey like can you get us Lauren, what the fuck? Lauren. I can't open the door. I can't open the fucking door. Dude, don't. I don't think you should open the door.
Starting point is 00:05:13 Here. You go. Dude, Lauren, only crack the door. Crack the door. But how should I open the door? Just crack it and just be like, hello. There is a man. Dude, there's a man.
Starting point is 00:05:44 Okay, close the fucking door. Okay, close the fucking door. Dude, close the door. What the fuck? Dude, what? Is he leaving? He's gone? Wait, he's still... Should we like... What the fuck? I wish we had curtains.
Starting point is 00:06:00 What did he just say? He was like, hi, I'm your neighbor across the street. That's not the neighbors from the house, though. No, this is across the street. We've never met these neighbors. Those are the people with the fucking motorcycles. We have no, we have no recalls. There have been men across the street that we kind of, it's like their house.
Starting point is 00:06:12 They've been doing just laps. Okay, there are men that we've seen, but their whole entire house is covered by like trees. And he was like, he was like, I just wanted to check, like, did you lose power? Like, are you okay? What do you mean, did you lose power? You can see into our fucking house. There's not a single light on. You can literally see in our house that was weird no that's fucking weird it's like he like what do we like it's like he wanted to come over here
Starting point is 00:06:36 because he's like confirming that there are two girls alone here dude you should have been like i feel like we should have said something like stupid like oh like hold on like I think my boyfriend is calling like we should have like acted like a guy was here or something I don't want to stay here tonight right but like what are we gonna do hi update um lauren and i just we've been sitting how long ago fucking 30 minutes maybe um lauren and i decided to barricade the house prepare for battle dude um we are officially losing it yeah um it's not it's like funny but it's no it's not funny but it's funny do you know when you're like We are officially losing it. Yeah. It's not. It's like funny, but it's no, it's not funny, but it's funny.
Starting point is 00:07:32 Do you know when you're like deliriously like we can't now we're starting to laugh. It's better. It's like a defense mechanism. It's better to laugh about our death than cry about our impending death. Yes. So we took bed sheets from my bag because we know that we're going to bunker down in your room. So we don't need my room anymore and we're we just took duct tape and now we have completely hung up uh all the sheets over the windows which is making me feel a little bit better yeah i feel a little less like
Starting point is 00:07:55 we're getting washed yeah same you know what i don't like what that the you have a sliding glass door like they could just i figure yeah my room just to all the rooms do they could just like knock that open like i don't know what you say the man yeah i think we just get in bed and cuddle up maybe we can dose ourselves out with uh nightclubs sleep but then we won't be alert if they come we need to be alert i'd rather be fucking out good night good morning alex peed the bed i did i did i was gonna say i did not i did like good morning daddy gang um she woke me up and she was like lauren no no we were woken up at 2 a.m because the power came back on at 2 a.m so all the lights like jolted us awake and i'm you're like lauren i'm like what and you're like i'm sleeping on a towel
Starting point is 00:08:51 a hand towel why a hand towel i didn't i woke up at 2 a.m and i'm laying there with like you were already on the towel at 2 a.m so you sneaky got out the middle before that and tried to cover the evidence i want to be first before i tell the story i want to be very clear i don't just like pee the bed it's only like every month no i do not the amount of means are like alex p's bed i I was, I was, I was sleeping and I kept hearing noises. Stop. I was hearing noises and I kept getting scared. And you kept letting out little dribbles. Or was it more extreme?
Starting point is 00:09:39 I kept like in my sleep having night terrors. You know how like you think a man is there. And because of obviously how fucking scared we were I was so fucking terrified I thought I kept hearing noises and in my dreams I was then literally having nightmares about our actual situation and then I peed myself and then I peed myself and I woke I woke up from literally peeing with Lauren and in the middle of peeing I realized and i woke up even more scared and then i didn't know what to do so i walked into the bathroom and i've used all the towels at the end of our trip so the only thing left was a hand towel and i walked over to my side of the bed
Starting point is 00:10:15 i didn't know what else to do so you also just didn't even bother to put on clean underwear and you woke up and you flung off the blanket and your ass naked on top of a towel i was a little fucking really comfy cozy i was discombobulated i didn't like rip off okay we're leaving the hampton we're leaving we left our mark here you left your i did i'm literally like ready to get like fine like 50 like they're gonna be like you literally soiled into our mattress i peed my pants goodbye hampton and we're leaving bye we are packing up the next time you guys are gonna hear from us i will have showered i will be fresh underwear and a diaper to be safe and we will we're leaving the hamptons we destroyed the hamptons and then the last night it destroyed us goodbye new york
Starting point is 00:11:01 i love you but i need a fucking break bye bye hey hey hey baby we're in fucking chicago it feels great i feel better i like the vibe a little bit more i haven't peed here yet i actually really like the vibe i think being in a hotel is making me feel safe um we have a doorman obviously it's a hotel and we're we're lifted up they can change the sheets we're lifted off the ace lauren i'm cutting off your microphone leave me alone this is my podcast um i am looking good today i'm looking stunning i put some fresh underwear on we're in chicago and uh it's time to get drunk tonight we are going to nobu nobu nobu nobu nobu also what song is that i don't i don't think that is i think it is i don't think there's anything with nobu yeah it is anyways
Starting point is 00:12:02 we're it's good because we're staying at no boo and we're going to dinner at no boo so maximum opportunity to get really fucked up um we have to take the elevator like three flights down it's gonna be perfect um so we're gonna get ready for that soon and we will check back in hopefully tomorrow morning we'll have lots hopefully i get a shocker a finger in the butthole and the vagina at no boo we've been watching sex life the show and lauren and i are fucking horny we keep like laying next to each other watching the show like looking over each other we're like i am ready to get fucked my boyfriend has been getting disgusting messages he's like where did this come from i'm like i am watching sex life i'm lauren lauren we're both getting like really horny we're like okay get of the bed. We're just laying in bed together.
Starting point is 00:12:46 Watching porn basically. Literally. Okay, we're going to get ready for dinner and we will keep you guys updated on how our night goes. Daddy gang, Chicago daddy gang. I will see you hopefully tonight. Good morning. Good morning, good morning, good morning. We have our voices and we... I have, sort of.
Starting point is 00:13:14 But I'm coming. It's always just bad in the morning. Good morning, daddy gang. Voices and dignity intact. Yeah, we do. We did. We were, like, pretty good last night. I think it's because I live here and I have, like, friends here.
Starting point is 00:13:24 So, like, I don't want to, like like ruin my reputation oh right right right yeah lauren was like hey like let's not burn it down fully so the first night we figured be chill be chill be chill yeah yeah so let's let's not even recap our night oh yeah and let me take it like a shower and then Okay. I'm showered. I'm scrub-a-dub-dub-clean. I'm laying on the couch. I'm watching Lauren open some goldfish. She's reclining. She's looking sexy. And we're just, I'm actually not even hungover.
Starting point is 00:14:01 I want to watch Harry Potter. And let's catch up talk to me big layer oh how about this here's the fucking update of the morning Lauren and I both had therapy yesterday we made it we made it baby we did not cancel and we don't usually like debrief our therapy sessions together no it's more like hey like I know you had therapy if you want to talk about it like I'm an open soundboard like open soundboard for you yeah hope you're good yes and so and then there are some times we're like oh I want to talk about this like I think this is interesting so Lauren was like um this morning she was like hey like I was thinking about my therapy session and like there was a lot of really interesting things that
Starting point is 00:14:41 came from it like I this was a lighter one for me yes there you go and she was like i like do you want to talk about it like i think it's interesting and i'm like sure like do you want to podcast about it and she was like totally i think it's like really relatable so lauren take it away my therapist was just like spewing advice yesterday okay i'm ready because i have no idea yet i'm letting you guys in on this we're doing another girl talk segment we're sitting on the couch yes alex hasn't heard any of this okay here we go um so i started my therapy session by telling my you look so intent right now I'm like staring you like literally into this hole I'm like okay why here we go um so I started my therapy session by telling my therapist that I had made plans to see my ex he last minute uh canceled and I was really upset
Starting point is 00:15:20 and I ended up blocking him and like when I told her that I was like oh like I feel embarrassed even saying like I'm 26 years old 26 years old and I block someone classic therapist what do you think she said why are you embarrassed yes I love it I'm like trying to think of what my therapist would say to me and um I was like I don't know like it feels like immature to block someone that like I like that I need that heart of a boundary to like not talk to them or like push them away and she's like I don't know I think that's like a thing that happens sometimes like when you're with someone and your lives are so entangled sometimes you need like that like clean break yeah it's like okay cool like making me feel less guilty about like blocking someone right so
Starting point is 00:15:56 lesson number one like don't feel guilty about blocking like I think if you have to do that you have to do that dude that reminded me when you also said like being embarrassed saying it do you remember what I used to say about my therapist like I would lie to my therapist yes because I was debating am I even gonna tell my therapist that I was gonna go meet up with my ex and then I blocked him yes and then you were like wait why wouldn't you tell him that I mean why wouldn't you tell your therapist that and it's like I've always said this if anyone's in therapy like I don't know I think it's because like you still, no matter, even if you're in therapy, you still have this want just like anyone in the world, like to present. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:16:33 Present a certain way. Yeah. And then you're like, wait, I'm paying this person to literally listen to my issues and be nonjudgmental and to give me advice about it. Like what you could. And they can only give you advice if they're getting the whole picture. Like they're only going to like, they can't give you the full advice if you're giving them like a skewed version of the truth exactly so it's like that was another thing that
Starting point is 00:16:50 took me a while to learn like you don't need to lie to your therapist like they're literally they need the whole truth and they're not there to not saying it's easy to just to sit down yeah but yeah well i think one that's actually that like makes me feel better like i've definitely it's also hard for me sometimes to block people because i'm so fascinated because I like want to know what they're gonna say so sometimes it's like I should then have the strength to be more mature to block why do I care what that person's gonna slide in and say if you're really done with it then block them speaking of like strength that's something else my therapist said she was like I think based on your past and like you feeling out of control growing up and kind of like strength, that's something else my therapist said. She was like, I think based on your past and like you feeling out of control growing up
Starting point is 00:17:26 and kind of like not being in control. I think for you, that was like your sense of like reclaiming power and like feeling in control of the situation. Like, hey, like now I'm stepping in. Like you kind of threw me out of control when you canceled on me. And like now I'm stepping in and like reclaiming that control, which is something she was like you might have needed in that moment based on like your past. Wow. So the blocking was way larger than like me just being like a petty bitch yes you were
Starting point is 00:17:50 more so being like no you don't have the control like yeah fully in control of my life and i would make the last decision because i was spying remember i said i was like checking and like obsessing over like what is he doing like in the car i had asked lauren we were like finally like dude we're like both coughing sorry um now lauren's sick um we were both we were we were in the car on the way home from the hamptons from the hamptons and i was like i wonder like god like the weather was so shit in the hamptons like i wonder where it was like like what was the weather like for your ex-boyfriend and you were like it rained the whole time and i was like what except on fourth of july yeah at
Starting point is 00:18:23 8 p.m the rain cleared and i was like lauren and she was like i know how bad that i was literally stalking that much that i was looking at the weather the weather so i could imagine like really like yeah is it raining on his parade right now so okay that makes sense like maybe the sense of blocking has more to do with like an actual sense of power yeah and yeah or whatever it means to someone yeah like what it represents um but she did she was like you realize like that it's gonna come with repercussions right and i was like what like what like what and she was like well if you had a friendship and now he's like you've blocked him he's gonna go to text you and real maybe maybe right hope yeah one day
Starting point is 00:19:01 he's gonna go to text you and be like what the fuck yeah like i'm blocked and like she was like block she also said like blocking can be temporary like maybe you block them for three months to kind of like get that clear like clear space like don't talk for three months cold turkey like and see where you're at that's what i thought like somehow by you saying what your therapist is saying it's almost making me feel better also that like maybe blocking isn't that immature like yeah ghosting is a whole different thing and yeah I want to talk about that I wrote my thesis on ghost okay yeah we could talk about ghosting but like blocking maybe is actually a I would go as far again it's situational but like maybe a block blocking is a mature thing
Starting point is 00:19:41 like that's something you could do I think I did this for myself yeah like yes my initial reaction was being a petty bitch yes yes we heard you yes I'm enraged I know I was like I know that makes me laugh every time you know I've had therapy now and like now I'm looking I think it was more of a me thing like I didn't like the way that I was feeling after that situation yeah okay that actually makes me feel better like anyone listening like I think we're actually changing the entire thought process around blocking. I don't think we should so quickly jump to associate blocking someone as something that's immature. And please don't get me wrong. Like it is absolutely immature. If you're like, it's your boyfriend and you're in the middle of a conversation and you just like
Starting point is 00:20:22 block him. Like, no, you need to to have that conversation you need to be mature and not just block them but if it's some situation where you have that final conversation and everything is supposed to be wrapped up but either you can't stop reaching out or they can't stop reaching out that's where it blurs the lines and makes things more difficult and maybe blocking is the answer and that's the healthiest way to go about it so blocking in this case it can be good at times it's situational so then like you guys know i've had a lot of shit to talk about in therapies like this is actually the first time we really talked about my relationship in therapy which was wild yeah wild so i'm like okay like let's just like dive into this like let's start like unpacking like my relationship. Let's start unpacking, um, like my future dating history. Like how is this going to like affect my
Starting point is 00:21:09 future dating history? And I was like, do you think I'm going to be like the classic girl with like daddy issues? And like, it sounds like a joke, but I'm like, am I like, she was like, what do you like? What type of guy do you think you're attracted to? And I was like, I think I want someone like older and like very stable, but I'm like, that sounds like I want like a dad. Wow. And I'm like, do you think that like I'm looking for something like I never had? Like I never had that stability growing up and like never had like I was like really like I've always been taking care of everyone.
Starting point is 00:21:35 Like I've never been taken care of in my life. And I'm like, am I going to like just project that and like look for the wrong person based on something that like I miss when I was growing up? Dude, I'm like staring at Lauren. This was a light therapy session for me. We yeah, I'm always like jealous. Lauren's like my therapist will like literally go like an hour and a half with me. I'm like, what the fuck? The 50 minutes? She's like, no, she goes over with me every time. That's fascinating. Yeah. And she was like, hold up. She was like, one thing I want to caution you with, and I think that just highlights the more that you know you're this applies to everyone the more that you know yourself aka going through
Starting point is 00:22:31 therapy you're then going to be able to go through your dating experiences and able to discern whether you're like okay am I pursuing this person because they've got a great personality and I vibe with them or are you literally going after someone and like into their personality and the traits about them because it's fulfilling something that you haven't dealt with from your past because that is where you pick someone and it's fucked up and it's not right I also just respect you Lauren like being open like I feel like a lot of people would don't want to be like oh I have daddy issues like the fact that you're being introspective enough to just I'm like tell me do I yeah do I have daddy yeah but she was like I think something really really great that anyone should do when they're starting dating is make a list of negotiables and non-negotiables
Starting point is 00:23:13 for you like what is something that you need in a partner and what is something that like you just cannot tolerate and I think we have both I know that me and you both have one of the same like this person has to have it what is it um therapy yeah so i was like i think i need someone who is in therapy who has been in therapy or is open to therapy and is like and is willing to at least work on themselves and she was like well why do you think you want someone in therapy here we go i know why did you say because she's like you have to keep like going deeper and deeper like what does this represent and like here we go. I know. Why did you say? Cause she's like, you have to keep like going deeper and deeper. Like what does this represent?
Starting point is 00:23:48 And like, you're going to keep driving you like to the core of like, what essence of a person are you looking for? And I was like, I think I want someone with like emotional intelligence. Like that's something that's really important to me. Like I, like I want to be able to sit down and like have a conversation. I think,
Starting point is 00:24:02 I think like intimate conversation is more important to me than physical touch i agree like to me you need to be able to like almost like fuck my mind before you fuck me like i need to be so mentally stimulated by conversation wait so did you come to a conclusion of what your type is you need someone smarter you can we say you told me the other day no no we can say maybe maybe just cut it out and pending if i sound like i think no no you're not an asshole Lauren I think so I came to her and I was like why am I like an education snob yeah I was like if I'm a dating app and I see like an ivy league like I like left immediately don't even read anything like oh she shook me you want to know what she said what she was like hold up take a walk with me how old are you when you apply to college oh what 16 17 so you're 16 you're 17 what's a huge
Starting point is 00:24:49 factor if you get into college money your parents where can your parents afford to send you so she's like lauren you're judging people on decisions they were making when they were 16 and 17 how much money their parents had she's like all my friends that go to ivy league schools the joke of ivy league schools is half the people there are legacy or bought their way in which led us to our next conversation which i thought was like a profound point she was like i don't want you to get caught up in that kind of stuff i want to like i think people forget like to be in the moment like on their first day your first initial reaction on a first date is to try to make the person like you like on their first date. Your first initial reaction on a first date is to try to make the person like you,
Starting point is 00:25:27 like trying to like prove to them that they should pick you, like that like, hey, like I'm worth your time. But like when you're trying to get someone to like you, you're not in the moment, you're not attuned to how you're feeling in this person's presence. I was like, cool, you just rocked my world. Damn. That makes me think and kind of makes makes like puts a mirror up to my face
Starting point is 00:25:48 a little bit because I do remember like I used to date and I would go on first dates and be so excited for first dates which I know a lot of people are like wait I don't get I used to get excited but it was only because I felt like I was playing not like a character but I like knew exactly the lines I was gonna say and I would go off of like whatever they liked I would pretend to like and I would pretend to be interested in and I was appeasing all of their wants and their needs and their interests and I wasn't even like being myself and then I would I remember I would like go home and they would text me after like I had the best time and I'd'd be like, I knew, I knew what I was doing, but like, I didn't even enjoy myself. They didn't know anything
Starting point is 00:26:28 really about me. And it was like, why was I doing that now? Obviously through therapy and like just being more mature and older, I get it. It was fun. It was for a purpose. I was pretending to be someone that I wasn't just for the game of courting and getting this person and making, like getting that high of like yeah like they want me like I did it now that I'm older I'm sitting here and I'm like okay listen I will not I will never take back like if you are someone that's in college right now and you want to fucking date the captain of the fucking football team or the goddamn guy on the hockey team and you're gonna have to fake it till you make it a little bit to like pretend you're
Starting point is 00:27:04 fucking interested in what he's saying because socially it's gonna work for you. I will not. That's what my therapist said. She's like, when you're in college, it's like a popularity thing. She's like, you're not in college, Lauren. Okay, so that's why I'm saying,
Starting point is 00:27:16 Daddy Gang, if you are still in the collegiate world or you're in high school, life is different. when you're in college it's different like you have all these shared interests and like you're in the same world like when you're in the real world and like out of college like it's not you don't have that stuff I that okay that makes sense because I get for social gain like gonna try to date someone and then obviously you'll break up if it's like not meant to be but those decisions i used to make were so yeah for like status or for my therapist literally was like it's a popularity
Starting point is 00:27:52 contest when you're younger and you grow up hopefully you realize life is no longer a popularity contest like literally over and over a week what we kept saying was dating is hard and it's wild and it's like but she was like you should look at dating as an experience like get to know yourself better that's such a good point yeah dude you had a fucking good therapy oh i'm not even done she gave me so much more wisdom wait i agree though anyone in the dating game especially i think coming out of this pandemic of course love hot girl summer and everything but i also do get like there are people that are coming out of this pandemic and they aren't just looking for hookup culture. That's another thing we talked about.
Starting point is 00:28:28 Like maybe for the first time now, I'm like in regards to I think what you're about to say, like like feeling like that biological clock. Like, yeah, Chicago, I'm the only one of my friends who's single, dude. It's like that pressure. Like, should I like be like trying to like date more seriously? Should I be looking for someone? No, no. Guys, to you, Lauren and everyone listening, dating is not linear. And it's also everyone has a different path. Like you just got out of a huge breakup. No shit. You are looking around and people are in relationships, but they may have been single for so long. You haven't been. And it's not that you need to be single if you find the right person that's amazing but people get way too caught up in comparing themselves to what others are doing specifically when your friends are all on the same page you got to do what's right for you and I think you and I have talked about right now you need to focus on you and then your other and then your
Starting point is 00:29:19 friends clearly they're at a different stage in their life and then like we got onto the topic of like second dates so I'm like I feel like i'm like really critical and like harsh with like second dates i'm just like i'm waiting for that moment and i think a lot of people do like and we have this assumption that like you should see stars on the first date and my therapist laughed in my face when i said that she's like sweetie yeah she was like honestly like i if you see stars and you become a fat infatuated on the first date that's dangerous because you're gonna immediately put up blinders because you think this person is like it and you're gonna ignore so many red flags and then you're gonna get five months in and be
Starting point is 00:29:56 like fuck i'm in deep and now these things that i don't like shit so she was like i she was like unless the first date is a complete wash where you're like oh my gosh this is a shit show she's like I urge you to always give the second date wow yeah okay and oh my gosh you wanna know keep going yeah I'm like whoa I feel like I'm in a therapy session right now so um she used the term roster she was like you're like do you listen to I know just tell me like I think in regards to giving people a second date she was like you're like do you listen to color dad i know just tell me like i think in regards to giving people a second date she was like in doing so you also need to have a roster and i was like what you were like are you alex alex you're like alex are you my what's that what um yeah because she was like one i think you can get these blinders on and these like seeing stars too fast
Starting point is 00:30:47 where you get tunnel vision and if you have more than one person two to three people you can compare it's an easy black and white comparison do I feel my because you're in dating you're always putting yourself first do I feel better in this person's presence or this person's presence and it gives you like a taste you just like you got to get like a taste. You got to build your list of negotiables and non-negotiables. And like, it was hard for me to sit there and think like in the moment, what are my negotiables? What are my non-negotiables?
Starting point is 00:31:13 She's like, you learn those through experience. So through dating multiple people, maybe you'll get something like, oh, I love that one. Yeah. Something like that guy had, and like, I really want that. That's something I'm going to add to my list. And like, what are your non-negotiables? I definitely know one of my main ones that I learned through past
Starting point is 00:31:28 relationship was like I cannot be with someone that has a temper I I was literally about to say this same exact thing it triggers me like it gives me to like it's something I talked about in therapy like it triggers me to the point where like I shut down and I can't converse like I can't speak like I literally am like I shut down and I can't converse like I can't speak like I literally am like I shut down mine is that's so interesting because I could I get that for you and mine is the opposite where like and I know for my own shit and like my dynamic growing up mine is I get to a level that I don't like with myself if someone if, if my partner has a temper. Oh, you'll match their energy? I will match it and I will. I will shut down.
Starting point is 00:32:07 You will match it. So that. What other non-negotiables? What is another one for you that's a non-negotiable? I said Republican, but we can't put that on the podcast. Stop. Stop. Dude.
Starting point is 00:32:21 Like, I cannot take it. People are going to be like, i'm unfollowing you lauren it's fine you can unfollow me this is fascinating i know daddy gang make your list yeah send us your list maybe i'll get some more things to add to my list yeah like the last like big thing she like left me with she was like i think the biggest thing you need to like sit on and like keep in the back of your head and I think the bigger more relatable aspect of this is like evaluating not just your past relationship like like uh romantic relationships but all relationships in your life because all relationships are going
Starting point is 00:32:57 to have some type of similarity some type of like cohesion I guess is the right word yeah so she's like she even talked about like the relationship i had in like my nannying job the relationship i had in my family the relationship i had with my past boyfriend she's like in all of those relationships they weren't great but you stuck in there way too long and like you've embedded in you that like you're good at weathering like bad storms and like i know exactly what like dance to dance and like what stones to step on to like move around to like be fine and a bad thing and she was like i think you need to know that because i think moving forward you wouldn't get out of that relationship quick enough so i think that's the fuck the phone fuck it's probably the fucking food wait dude you were just having a
Starting point is 00:33:41 moment wow well i lauren is going to get the food but to wrap this up because we're about to eat breakfast and then we're gonna go on a trolley um if you guys remember the other week we were like we are going on a trolley and we will be wearing shin guards because it's called a shin dig and you have to wear shin guards on your fucking shins but to wrap that up i kind of am like uh definitely inspired definitely inspired. Thank you, Lauren. And I feel like I'm now also going to take this into my next therapy session. Now it's time to ramp it back the fuck up. Time to drink, time to have fun and time to kick the shit out of anyone's shins that
Starting point is 00:34:19 don't show up in this trolley with a pair of fucking shin guards. See you around town, daddies. We'll be, we'll be cruising in this trolley with a pair of fucking shin guards. See you around town, daddies. We'll be cruising in the trolley. Good morning, good morning, good morning. There's a man next to me again. A man who lost his voice. Laura now lost her voice too. I'm in pain.
Starting point is 00:34:43 I need you to go back to L you're like leave please um last night i want to be so clear lauren and i left here to go on a trolley and we were like we're just gonna go on the trolley for three hours and we're gonna come home and we're gonna watch like harry potter and do like a little marathon and we're gonna eat dude we're gonna eat some like cat we're gonna eat food and we're gonna like cuddle and just relax because we have the live event today what do you guys think happened what do you think happened lauren and i got off that trolley after lauren's vagina and thighs were wrapped around a man's head as she straddled him and was on the trolley bopping and hopping on his fucking shoulders then we took shrooms can you imagine we're like then we accidentally took shrooms again no we then get
Starting point is 00:35:48 off the trolley and we go to this bar and everyone's at this bar and lauren are like we're like not enough not enough not enough and so we leave the group and so we're like let's go and find the most poppin bar there is and let's try to get in. So we start running through the streets of Chicago. And lo and behold, we find this one bar that looks pretty great. And there's a really long line. And so what do you think I do? We pay to get in? We pay to get in.
Starting point is 00:36:20 We go in, we go buy a drink. Something comes over me that I'm feeling so ready to rage. Like I was on a different tilt. And Lauren, you at first were good. You were like, oh, should we go home? And I was like, not enough. And I start plotting. I'm like, who is going on that stage?
Starting point is 00:36:44 And they're like, a rapper coming on no he was a country singer oh i'm happy left i fucking hate country dude there was a country singer coming on stage and his name was scott all of a sudden can i open this god i literally had too much like of encouragement like'm like, can I please open for Scott and introduce Scott? So there we are. So I look at Lauren and I say, Lauren, oh, just so you're on board, you're coming on stage with me. And Lauren looks down at her shin guards. I was teetering a fine line of blackout at this point.
Starting point is 00:37:26 Lauren's like what i'm like you if i'm going up there i need you to at least be standing there for like moral support like i'm not going up on the stage but i have not planned it people prep for like months to even like intro like this type of show i'm like i'm not going up there alone so lauren any videos you see of me on that stage from that night do not judge me dude people were zooming in on your fucking shin guards being like why is lauren on stage with jean shorts sneakers and shin guards and so i just start going i'm just and honestly it was so dope because daddy gang was just like hyped the fuck up that like i barely needed to say shit everyone was just like in a fucking mood we did like a 10 second chug together i obviously gave a nice
Starting point is 00:38:09 shout out to the gluck gluck 9000 and then we we left and we the manager drove us home oh my god i forgot the manager and his girlfriend drove us home it was so fucking fun and um and it was amazing so shout out to the Daddy Gang. You literally made it so easy to go up there. You guys were just like bopping and screaming. And I was obsessed with you. And it was so. You all now also have strep throat.
Starting point is 00:38:34 Stop. And we all have strep throat tonight. Okay. I'm about to do something that I have never done in the history of Call Her Daddy. I'm about to do a live questions of the fucking week, baby. And the people that are asking the questions are you, Daddy Gang. The Daddy Gang of Chicago is meeting me at a secret pop-up that I put together at a place called Luminati's. It's an iconic deep dish pizza place in Chicago. They were amazing. They're giving us
Starting point is 00:39:12 a secret room, a certain amount of Daddy Gang. I'm DMing right now. They answered a question on the internet correctly. I'm DMing them. They are going to get a code word. What do you think the code word is? It's Henry. Of course you go up to the security guard, you say, Henry, they let you into a private room and there I will be doing a live questions of the week with you. Let's fucking go. Okay. So I'm sitting here editing the podcast and I now need to make a little disclaimer. Doing my first live in-person podcast, note to self, the daddy gang and I were so fucking out of control and so loud. Moving forward, podcasting equipment is not going to cut it. We are going to need stadium equipment.
Starting point is 00:40:00 And what I mean by that, guys, is I'm listening to the audio of the live show. It is so loud. We are screaming. So I apologize. I am so happy, honestly, with how it went. And I wish you guys could have all been there in person. But now in hindsight, realizing that you guys are like listening in your AirPods, I apologize for the noise. I tried to salvage some of the questions that sound more of like a podcast rather than an actual um live chanting concert um so shout out to the daddies that were there with me you guys literally were the funnest of time and I wish everyone listening could have been there but for everyone now that's listening on the podcast I tried I I saved um I was able to salvage some of the audio and I hope I don't, we don't hurt your ears. Just know it was a great fucking time. The idea,
Starting point is 00:40:48 the effort was there and stadium equipment is on, is in my Amazon cart. Just hang in there and turn your audio down a little bit. Name. Oh my God. Hi. Okay, wait, what's your name? Do you have a boyfriend? Yes. You do. Long distance, that's my question. Oh, give me the tea. Okay, so, I've been with my boyfriend four years, decided I want to up and leave my life, go to Chicago. Fuck. Right, no, same.
Starting point is 00:41:20 Love my boyfriend more than anything, we're doing long distance. Okay. But I want to, like, spice it up. I want to be a nasty bitch. I'm used to, like, spice it up. I want to be a nasty bitch. I'm used to, like, being very introverted. Yes. And, like, I want him to come here and, like, be on his little leash and want to come back. We love the leash. And, like, he is already trying to come every weekend.
Starting point is 00:41:38 He, like, wants to. Do you feel like he's feeling insecure because you're living your best life? He is. He is, yeah. He's, like, feeling a little bit like, wait, I want to be a part be a part of this right right because he sees my life here he's like this is amazing bougie awesome i love it love this for you was it hard to have a conversation with him that you were moving um no he's like super supportive okay it's actually really healthy so you i was about to say like do you feel scared because it's four years no not with my relationship no so you want
Starting point is 00:42:02 advice of like how to spice it up while he's away and then when he comes and how to play yes okay my number one thing that I will tell you that I've been doing recently which is like fucking nasty but I like it yeah I've done all the I've done all the stuff ladies so like the classic like which I think sometimes girls get freaked out I think guys like obviously the classic when you send him your underwear and like send a dirty text with it and like write it down but let's ramp it up a little bit i recently have been watching porn and i will literally tell him a specific time code of a porn clip is this too much okay i love it like also tell me if this is way too aggressive he's gonna like read a message be like is this my girlfriend like yes yeah okay yeah yes so you can be like, is this my girlfriend? Like, yes. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Yes.
Starting point is 00:42:45 Yeah. So you can be like, I'm thinking about you right now and I'm watching this and I'm like masturbating and I literally want to do this when you come here. So you're almost like combining him being away and that's something to look forward to. But send a time code, whether it's like a really hot position during like the porn while like they're in doggy or like sucking some, a girl, like a hot girl sucking dick. And you're like, I want to do this to you or I want you to do this to me send him the time code of the porn and then have him watch it and then start dirty talking while he's watching the porn yes yes yes let's go yes where are you
Starting point is 00:43:20 from how old are you um I'm from Michigan originally, but live in Chicago. I'm 23, almost 24. Do you have a boyfriend? I do have a boyfriend. Actually, he's moving long distance. Yes. Okay, so wait, what is your question? So my question is, what would you suggest for people who want to spice up their sex life but are on antidepressants or other drugs that suppress your sex drive?
Starting point is 00:43:40 Like, I'm in the best mental phase of my life. Yes. But, like, the anti-anxiety meds just bring down the sex drive and he gets that totally understands it supportive he does not push me or anything but like I want to have sex but my body is just like no we're like we're so calm we're so not anxious I mean I am the happiest I've ever been on it right but like the one thing that it's affecting yeah and he doesn't even care but it's just like I feel lame now I'm 24 I'm not really having sex as much as I used to and it's like I should be and I know there's no shoulds but like no I get it oh also because you're saying like you want to yeah
Starting point is 00:44:14 it's just you feel like your body isn't like telling you right it's not there and like he doesn't want to push me because he's a great guy so he doesn't want to come on to me and then get turned down when I'm just really not in the mood so we kind of are in this like imbalance of like sometimes I want him to come on to me to put me in the mood and be like oh yeah we should be doing this but then I'm like then he doesn't want to get turned away so we're in this weird like limbo the first thing that makes me happy for you is like the fact that you're saying you have a partner that is like so on board yes with your situation what comes to mind is because I never want to speak from like experience I've never been on antidepressants I've had friends though and I think it's like my suggestion would be finding
Starting point is 00:44:55 things that would put you in an environmental like mood that like again is elevating the happiness is elevating the romance between you so like maybe you set up like a really really cozy night where you're like you get all this like good food you get a movie night you are lighting candles and so it's almost like the environment is like amping up that you're saying you're lacking and so you're almost like giving yourself like sensory things around you that make you feel sexy. Like maybe go shopping that day. It's all about like every step of the day. And again, you may be like, but wait, I thought I wanted to do it tonight.
Starting point is 00:45:32 And like, I'm not in the mood. Great. You can fucking light the candle the next night. It's not like it's like one and done. Like it's almost like put not put pressure on yourself, but put moments that allow you to like feel sexy feel romantic feel connected and then maybe and even if it doesn't happen that night right then we're just cuddling and we're hanging out and having fun yeah and it's like a little bit more foreplay towards you eventually wanting to do it I also think I heard you saying like there's nights that I don't want him to come
Starting point is 00:45:59 on to me because I don't want him to feel like rejected but then there are some moments where like wait I do want him to come on to me I think it sounds like you've really open communication yes you could even say like I hate it's like corny to be like a code word but like I've been there before that's actually a great idea right the code word so it doesn't feel like I have to come on to him where he's just kind of like yes I like say like I don't know bamboo and then he's like oh hey let's go away from the bamboo you're like sausage and you're like whoa wait but that's because like you want to still have that like courting thing and like you want to feel like he's right onto you yeah it's got to be he's like well how am i supposed to know yeah i think a code
Starting point is 00:46:33 what should the code word be i like okay fruit okay yeah we're like papaya um wait i feel like it should be something that's not like oh an awkward like you like bacon like it needs to be something that's like almost just like vegetarian it could be something that's yeah yeah oh you could even yeah the mood the mood is nice or like oh i like that well i like the mood it's nice right and then it kind of yeah like this mood is nice and you are almost saying like and that's like not a weird like the mood, it's nice. And then it kind of, yeah. Yeah, like this mood is nice and you are almost saying like, and that's like not a weird thing to fucking say. He's not going to be like, it's like
Starting point is 00:47:09 and he gets the cue. Yes, perfect. Yes. Okay. I love you. Thank you. That was such a good question. Oh my gosh, I love you. I love you, of course. Okay, so I'm in a little bit of a sticky situation. Tell me. So, one of my best friends was standing up in a wedding, and she was the maid of honor,
Starting point is 00:47:28 and the best man in her started going on dates and hooking up, you know, whatever. And so she comes to me, like, later on. Like, they've been together for maybe, like, a month. And then so she's like, oh, my God, let me show you on my Instagram. I'm like, all right, well, you tell me his Instagram. I'm going to creep. So I'm creeping his tagged photos. All of his tagged photos are with a girl that used to be in my sorority in college.
Starting point is 00:47:50 So then I creep her. They've been dating for two years in an apartment and have a dog together. So not only is he dating one of my, like, trying to date one of my best friends, he's also currently dating for over a year a girl in my sorority. And I know all this, and I don't know what to do I like felt a vibe when you came up here like this girl's got something oh yeah wait oh fuck okay wait so you were at the wedding no I wasn't there she was my best friend stood up in the wedding she was the maid of honor and he was the best man and then they started dating after that yeah they started hooking up going on dates whatever and she had no clue until I was creeping I was like wait I recognize wait and on the girl's page are there all couple pictures
Starting point is 00:48:35 from your sorority yeah but she's private so the other girl couldn't see so I followed her because she was in my sorority okay what is your question because I have so many things happening here I don't know how to go about this okay i almost feel like do you hang out with the the one that was a maid of honor a lot yeah she's my best friend the girl my story i don't like to talk to anymore because i'm dude you have if it's your best friend you have to tell her yeah right but how do i go about this be on your phone on instagram and be like oh my god look at this girl from my old sorority wait isn't that Todd or whatever his name is? And it's an entire Instagram with her boyfriend.
Starting point is 00:49:09 Dude, I get it. To be real and more sensitive, I'm sure in that moment you were fucking shocked. And you're like, fuck this. Yeah. I was about to say, first of all. I'm going to expose. I'm going to expose. I think if this was like Lauren and she starts dating a guy, which you're not
Starting point is 00:49:26 allowed to date anyone yet. You're not allowed to do that yet. But if this happened, I think you literally genuinely, because I think she will be more hurt if she knows you were sitting on this and didn't tell her. I think you should literally the next time you're with her be like, hi Kate or whatever her name is and be like, Kate, I'm going to be really honest with you. I was just perusing the gram and came across this girl from my sorority. And I need you to see her profile. And just hand her the phone, maybe.
Starting point is 00:49:54 So what about the girl in my sorority? Do I tell her? Fuck the girl in your sorority for a minute. Sorry. Hold on. Because we can deal with her in a minute. And she's not doing anything wrong either. It's like you first have to take care of your immediate best friend because this is gonna be like
Starting point is 00:50:08 fucking awful for her to hear you can't you can't take care of them both right away like you're not gonna dm her and be like hey my best friend is dating your boyfriend and like maybe don't blow it all up at once let's do like a slow play with this thing like first address like who you're closest to yeah and see her reaction then i think once you guys talk because maybe she's like i'm just never gonna talk to this dude again yeah then you could turn around and dm the girl from your sorority or if she's like i want to go catch this motherfucker in the act that's how she is get in the car and then you're like oh fuck but i know that where like the girl in the sorority maybe you'll give her a heads up that you're conspiring to ruin his life
Starting point is 00:50:45 and ask if she wants to be a part of it. So I think I, you're like, okay, you're psycho. Sorry, my wheels are turning. I'm like, ooh, ooh. I really just think it's always like, you have loyalty to your best friend. Not that I'm not saying you have loyalty to the other girl because this girl's done literally nothing wrong.
Starting point is 00:50:59 It's just, I think it's always better to address something head on and not try to like move all the pieces all at once. Like see what she says, kind of take her lead on it. Cause I've seen friendships get fucked up because it's approached in a wrong way. Like I've literally lost a friend cause I told her her boyfriend was cheating and she was like, no, he's not. I hate you. And I'm like, well, I don't, I don't want to fuck your boyfriend.
Starting point is 00:51:22 What do I have? I have no skin in the game. Like I'm just telling you, but girls, I think it's hard. It's because it's an embarrassing feeling. And then you work from like a different place when you're embarrassed and you get defensive. Definitely. So just be loving and just hand her your phone. Like just look.
Starting point is 00:51:35 And then like sit there. Like, and just like try to. How are we doing? Exploding this. Yeah. Like, yeah. Okay. Boom.
Starting point is 00:51:42 Yay. Hi. yeah like yeah okay boom yay hi we were talking about how we like thought we were losing our jobs because oh yeah um i'll bleep out your name just so that we like really we were like i have been drinking i have been on a better you've been on a seven day bender longer than seven i think 10 days at this point okay tell me what's going on in your life are you in a relationship what's happening i am oh i feel like i'm in like the opposite of everybody else we're like i've never been in a real relationship oh okay and i've only been in a hoe phase okay baby so now that i'm in a really serious relationship where it's like we both have said like you know we're done we'll probably be getting married like we're like each other's you know person which is so fucking cheesy um no it's not it's cute I kind of feel like I'm going through an identity crisis where I'm like
Starting point is 00:52:35 whoa I'm in a relationship like what can I do what can I not do like am I becoming boring like am I hanging out with my friends enough? Like, it just feels so weird. And then I don't have like that freedom of just like, do whatever the fuck you want. Yes. And I feel weird. Like, what does this mean?
Starting point is 00:52:55 I think like, wait, how long have you guys been dating? Um, five months. Wow. Okay. Wait.
Starting point is 00:53:01 And you already know you want to get married. It's been a hot minute. Yeah. But we both have like, and it's going amazing. Yeah. It's really good. But you're just you want to get married? It's been a hot minute, yeah. But we both have like... And it's going amazing. Yeah, it's really good. But you're just like fully like, I actually...
Starting point is 00:53:09 But I'm like, who the fuck am I? Right, right, right. You're like, this is great, but like, what the fuck? Yes. Okay, I actually think that's really normal. Everybody is always wondering, like when you're single,
Starting point is 00:53:20 you're like, oh, I want to be in a relationship. Unless you're in your situation where you're like, I want to be single, baby. But like once you're single for a while, you're like, all right, I want to be in a relationship unless you're in your situation where you're like I want to be single baby but like once you're single for a while you're like all right I want to we're human beings naturally we want to connect with another human being that's like natural we aren't like simps for wanting to have a fucking boyfriend like or a girlfriend that's normal I think though now then when you get into it I've had that we're like then once you are in a
Starting point is 00:53:40 relationship and we're in our 20s we're still in that weird phase of like watching the single friends. But then I'm like talking to Lauren and Lauren's like, wait, now all my friends are in relationships and I'm the only single one. Like, it's almost like we can never win. Yeah. Everyone,
Starting point is 00:53:53 when you're in a relationship, you're probably like, I'm so happy, but I also want to be over there doing like, Oh girl shit. And it's like, there's never, there's never going to be a moment.
Starting point is 00:54:03 I feel like until we're like hitting that peak of like of once all of our friends are now married with fucking children. In the meantime, before your friends get knocked up, what we can do to mitigate the damage is I think you have to find a balance. Because you're going to start to hate all of it if you fully are like, I am housewife, hear me roar. And you're sitting on the couch me roar and you're like sitting on the couch every night and it's like girl go to the bar yeah you can still be hoey like listen I've said it to my boyfriend like there's some I maybe I don't say this to him um you can you can still like innocently flirt a little bit when you're out with your girls like if I'm a wing woman to Lauren I'm not gonna be like I have a boyfriend please do not look at me like yeah when i'm out with lauren i'm like talking to the guys
Starting point is 00:54:48 and it's that i get my fix from that of like going out with my single friends don't look at your single friends like you don't want to hang out with him because now you're in a relationship and you feel like the odd man out yeah use it as like they give you that sense of host still you're like oh i can still hoe it up a little bit yeah and i'm gonna go and i'm gonna talk to the guys that they're talking to you just don't have to I can still hoe it up a little bit. Yeah. And I'm going to go and I'm going to talk to the guys that they're talking to. You just don't have to like suck their dick. You know what I mean? We can,
Starting point is 00:55:08 we can cut the line. So you're still being loyal. You're still being faithful. You're still getting a little bit of that home moment. Like go out. Yeah. Just don't like actually like physically hoe. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:55:18 Just mentally. Yeah. Why is it? Once you get in a relationship, all these guys like come out of the fucking woodwork and they're like, Oh my God. Now they see you're in a relationship. Like, are you free? I know.
Starting point is 00:55:28 Where were you? I know. But again, I always think about this long term, short term. Cool to have the attention in the moment. Do you want to be sitting with that guy on the couch? And do you think it would be the connection? Exactly. Hoe it up.
Starting point is 00:55:40 Just not physically. You still can. I think that's a new tagline. I love that. Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you. Hi, Mike. I feel, like, very pressured now.
Starting point is 00:55:54 No, oh, my God. You've heard, I feel like all of you also, by the way, have been so amazing, and they've opened up in such, like, an amazing way, and I feel like you guys have been so vulnerable, and I really respect you guys for that, and I hope that you can feel the same mine's not as personal but I think it will reach out to the male crowd oh so COVID has taken a damper on all of us and stuff like that so now we're all getting out and going out again but I feel like it's been neglected in the podcast. Does your opinion still stand true of no khakis?
Starting point is 00:56:28 Oh, my God, Mike. It's so crazy to have someone in person staring at me asking, like, can I not wear khakis? No, ever since 2019, I threw them all in the garbage. He's like, I heard you. Yeah, but now that we're out. I have to get these things fucked off. I just feel like for maximum opportunity to get a dick wet,
Starting point is 00:56:56 it's not for a woman to have to pull down a khaki. Like, we don't want to have to, like, unzip the khakis. It's like, it literally kills moods. Like, we were saying, your buzzword should not be, bacon like when i'm like oh man i'm so horny and then i'm like the cargo khaki it's something and listen maybe you're gonna find like i don't know like do you have something sentimental about khakis you love now you're like ever since i found my shades of black gray and blue and that, and that's been it. Honestly, to men listening, it's nothing personal. I'm always trying to maximize you getting fucked,
Starting point is 00:57:31 are you having a good time, are you looking your best? And I just know that no man has ever walked into a room and I've been like, God damn. And he's been wearing fucking khakis. It's just fucking true. It's literally the truth. And I want to stay real with it save the khakis yeah for the golf church golf awesome boom that wasn't that scary oh my god
Starting point is 00:57:52 that was a good question great question oh high-waisted bikinis are back khakis are so fucking out no khakis ever okay let's see let's see well long story short okay so i met this guy on hinge i am like casually dating around met this guy on hinge and we texted for a little but never met him again had my roster going and i was like okay this is getting too much so just stopped texting him we never met so i was I was like, whatever. His profile was average. It was fine. And then me and my friend went to dinner one night. And I was like, holy shit, that guy is so fucking hot.
Starting point is 00:58:33 I need to meet him. That's my man. And so then he came up and talked to us for a little. And I was like, I think his, I can't say his name. I figured out that his name was the name that I thought it was. So I was like, how the fuck do I know this person? And then he just introduced himself and then went back to his table. He's with work friends.
Starting point is 00:58:52 So then we were like, okay, now we need to go to his table to keep talking. So we went back to his table and all of his work friends were like, do you realize that you are the one who ghosted him a couple months ago? And I was like, fuck. Was that the Hinge guy? It was the Hinge guy. Didn't look anything like his profile. Clearly, it looked similar.
Starting point is 00:59:11 But he was, like, I think he was, like, a 5 out of 10 on Hinge, but, like, 11 out of 10, like, in person. And I was like, well, that's. What is this guy doing? Literally, I was like, fuck me. And you could tell his vibe was off. He was like, yeah, this bitch. Like, I can't talk to her. So tell his vibe was off he was like yeah this bitch like I can't talk to her so then you should have been like buddy I know you are not a good salesman I know like what the fuck I know so then we talked for like a week after that then he ghosted me so
Starting point is 00:59:39 we were like okay whatever now we're talking again We went on three dates now. But we're getting to the point. This is the question I'm trying to ask. So now I, like, obviously this whole time there's been, like, tension of, like, me liking him. Him liking me. Blah, blah, blah. Now we're, like, actually going on dates. But now that I actually really like him, how do you go about, like, I don't want to just fuck him. Like, I've been there.
Starting point is 01:00:02 I've had the whole face. Like, I've been there. We haven't had sex yet. We've done other things, but I am so bad at just being like, no, like I'm not really ready to have sex. Like what,
Starting point is 01:00:12 how do I casually go about like hooking up, but like not going there, but without it seeming like I don't want to go. Like I want to, but I'm just like, you're trying to slow play. Yeah. You're not,
Starting point is 01:00:22 you're not looking at this. Like he's just like another fuck. Yeah dude you're like wait I like literally want to maybe make this more yes exactly I think that's great yeah I think I always with guys like that I think like you like you said you're doing other things has he like been acting like he's like why aren't we having sex no not really but you can like you just feel the tension when you're like hooking up and stuff but then it's like how do you casually be like well okay not I think you can I think you can play to the relationship and I think you can use it and you can joke about it like I don't know like I don't want to get ghosted again yeah I don't know if I'm gonna go again like let's feel
Starting point is 01:00:57 the mood that's true I always like I think that guys get insecure when you're not that we owe them anything like this is why I'm not having sex with you but guys when you just keep pulling away after like the fingers been in there long enough and it's like why aren't we fucking we've done everything but i think you have to lightly joke do you say it before you start like hooking up making out whatever i think you i sometimes do it when you're making out okay like be hooking up be up, be on the couch, like be getting hot and heavy. And then when you can tell he's trying to do more, kind of like push him down and like lightly be laughing. But like, I'm just not ready for that.
Starting point is 01:01:32 Like, I'm just too nervous. You're going to ghost me again. Yeah. And make it kind of like a game. Okay. So then that almost can linger longer. Yeah. And then obviously you're probably going to want to eventually have sex.
Starting point is 01:01:42 Yeah. Oh yeah. Yeah. I get what you're saying. You want to like get like have a little time before you do. So I think that you joke at the relationship, not in an asshole emasculating way, but just more of like a playful,
Starting point is 01:01:53 like hold on. I don't know. Yeah. Like flirty. Whoa, calm down. I don't know what's happening next week and I don't want to get ghosted. A finger is enough.
Starting point is 01:02:01 And then like go back to making out. And he'll feel that you're like being playful, but also you're like leaving it open for the future but you're just like being careful yeah and then they get a little nervous because they're like wait what but you're like still on top of him and then you continue to make out with him so you're giving vibes i'm into it but then he still knows just chill yeah and then it guys be like okay dope yeah and if anything then it's gonna make him like want you more yeah Yeah. Love that. Thank you. Of course. Oh my God. I love you guys. Thank you so much for coming.
Starting point is 01:02:28 I'm never going to forget this. Wow. Okay. Daddy gang. Not only is this episode coming to an end, sadly, but the world tour, it's actually not coming to an end. Lauren's staring at me. She's like, please let it come to an end.
Starting point is 01:02:44 We're putting the world tour on pause and that is the best thing for my liver and the best thing for my relationship. I'm flying back to LA. My boyfriend's coming back to LA. I'm going to be reunited with him, Henry. I have a couple interviews in LA that I'm very excited to reveal to you. And then the next trip that is on the world tour list is either Cabo or, and this is the big shebanga bang, this is the big shebanga. I think I'm getting a big group of my friends and we will be going for my birthday in August on me on a PJ to fucking Vegas. Daddy, mother. I know she's like, fuck daddy, motherfucking gang.
Starting point is 01:03:40 I will see you fuckers next Wednesday. Again, only on Spotify. We're officially exclusive next week love you guys

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