Call Her Daddy - Catherine Paiz: My Husband Cheated with 20 Women
Episode Date: May 28, 2025Join Alex in the studio for an exclusive interview with Catherine Paiz. Catherine finally addresses all of the cheating rumors, reveals why The ACE Family ultimately fell apart, and opens up about whe...re she and Austin stand today. Enjoy!
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Daddy gang, welcome back to another episode of Call Her Daddy. Today I am sitting down with
Katherine Pies. If you are a fan of the ACE family, then you already know exactly what we're about
to get into. But for those of you who may not be as familiar with today's guest, I'm going to catch
you up, okay? Katherine and her ex-husband Austin McBroom started the ACE family YouTube channel in 2016.
They were essentially the first family vloggers
to ever do it and people were so obsessed with them.
To this day, they still have 18 million subscribers, okay?
So for years, everyone watched
Katherine and Austin's relationship play out online.
We watched them get engaged, have kids, move into new homes, and they documented every
aspect of their lives on YouTube.
Now throughout their relationship, there was a lot of controversy.
There was financial turmoil and there were tons and tons of cheating allegations. But to the public, they always put up a united
front until they suddenly stopped posting and revealed that they were getting a divorce.
For the past about two years, they have been basically not really addressing anything.
And there are so many unanswered questions. How often was Austin actually cheating?
Was Catherine aware the entire time?
What was going on with their finances?
And what is the truth behind the drug allegations?
So, Daddy Gang, I am excited to give Catherine
the opportunity to speak on all of it today
in long form for the first time.
Let's get into it.
What is up, daddy gang? It is your founding father, Alex Cooper with Call Her Daddy. Catherine Paez, welcome to Call Her Daddy. Thank you.
Okay. We've got a lot to talk about, obviously. You and your ex-husband, Austin McBroom,
started the Ace Family, which quickly became quite literally the biggest family YouTube channel
ever to exist. And then suddenly you guys went dark. And I think everyone has a lot of questions,
which we're going to get into. But first, I just want to know, how are you doing?
I'm doing good. I feel like I'm in a new place in my life. And I'm just so excited just to like,
be free with myself and just be authentic. Not that I wasn't authentic before. I just feel like
I'm at a just a new stage. Yeah. Yeah. You and Austin's last video together was almost two years ago. I know.
I didn't even know that.
Almost two years ago.
Okay, that's crazy.
Which is crazy because I feel like for so long, people watched you every single
day. Like you were on our screens for so long. So to go for two years, it's been a
long time. Why are you ready to talk about all of this now?
I think for me, it's like, I felt silenced for so long
and it wasn't like someone was silencing me.
I was silencing myself.
And I think that for all those years
of just not being able to just speak freely
and just like really sit with myself,
it was really hard, Alex. It was really hard, Alex.
It was really hard.
And I think that now I'm just so healed from all of my experiences,
not just my relationship, all of the traumas and all the experiences that I faced early on in my life.
I've just healed so much through all of them, truly, like actually, truly.
And I just healed so much through all of them, truly. Like actually, truly. And I just feel so alive.
I feel like I can really just be myself and it's okay.
You know, it's okay to be me and sit with myself.
And I wrote a book.
Yes, you did.
I wrote a book about, you know,
some of the experiences that I had early in my life into
my adulthood.
And I think through my healing and through writing of this book, I really just like came
back to myself.
That's really beautiful because I think so many people always say like, why now to people?
And I actually was interested to know like, why now?
And I can feel your energy.
And like, I think a lot of people who have been your fan
for so long have wanted you to get to this point
in your life, but I do know a lot of it is a little messy
because I just obviously saw some chapters got released
of your memoir and then you have your ex-husband Austin
coming forward and he's already commentating on, this is a lie, this isn't truthful, this is exaggerated.
How did you feel when you saw him kind of publicly coming out and trying to put down
essentially this book?
Yeah, I feel like that's already an indicator of why I never expressed myself,
through all those allegations of cheating and fidelity
and all those things.
It's like, I was so afraid to speak up.
I was so afraid to say, I'm an idiot.
Like I just didn't see it.
Or I was so afraid to say,
I'm trying to hold the very little piece
that we have in our family. I'm trying to hold the very little piece that we have in our family.
I'm trying to keep that together.
I'm trying to shelter the very little piece that we have,
you know, and for me, it was like, you know,
I'm just, I'm embarrassed.
I don't know what's true or not.
There are so many things that aren't true.
It's really hard to like, differentiate
what is true, what isn't, until I really found out.
Okay. We're going to go all the way back because I feel like we know you as the ACE family.
We know you as Katherine, a part of the ACE family, but I think it's important and you
talk about this in your book. I wanna just lightly talk about your life
before all of this.
Describe like what was your experience growing up
in your family dynamic?
Yeah, so my mom was born in Nicaragua.
My dad is Panamanian.
They met in Panama.
They were teenagers when they met.
And you know, they had a lot of hardship.
They had a very toxic relationship,
just like any young couple that is new to a country, new language, new everything. They
didn't have family, they didn't have friends. And so, the first half of my childhood, my
dad was a single dad, my mom took herself out of that toxic relationship and moved to Florida.
And so, I knew she did that for the best of the family.
And it's interesting,
because I had such an awareness even as a child
that I knew she's doing the right thing.
You know what I mean?
I knew that as a child.
And I'm like, I know my mom is doing this for us,
for the bigger picture.
My parents didn't have much money, really nothing.
And I had this really weird relationship with money.
I remember thinking like,
you know, my mom would say things like,
we don't have the money for that or we can't do that.
And I remember looking at her and thinking, I'm going to make a lot of money one day so that
I can do all the things that I want to do, and I can support you, and I can support my
family.
It was this drive that I had inside of me.
So many adults, you get to that place where you're like, what was lacking in your childhood
that then you were craving?
Because whether you had friends that
had it or you were told you couldn't have it, then it's almost like that goal in your
head, which then we'll get to because then you eventually got all of that.
And sometimes it doesn't mean that that is the thing that brings you happiness, but when
you're young and you have this vision, it's like you're going to go for it no matter what.
I'm interested though, hearing you talk about your parents having a toxic relationship,
how did their marriage impact you at a young age of how you viewed love?
Yeah, hugely.
Oh my God, that's such a good question.
You're so good at this.
Thank you.
Stop.
Okay, so I feel like when my marriage was going downhill, we didn't have good communication.
That's one thing I, you know, I take full accountability is
and I had the worst communication.
And I'm still working on it today.
I think I've gotten a lot better.
But when I look at my parents,
I thought I don't wanna be another couple
that doesn't make it. You know, I don't want to be another couple that doesn't make it.
You know, I want to be, I want to have that traditional love.
You say your I do's and you're in there for, you know, till death do us part.
That was like kind of my, the way that I saw it, you know.
Also having children, you know, you want your children to grow up with both their parents.
And that was my dream. It's like, I want to be able to have that family.
And when we had it, you know what I mean? And I thought, oh my gosh.
Like, I remember one morning, I remember thinking like, did I make it?
Like, looking around, I remember, did I make it? And I was like, well, why do I feel so empty?
["Darling, I'll be there for you"]
Let's talk about Austin.
Can you tell me how you guys met? Like how did that all go down?
Yeah, I moved to Los Angeles. I had this fuel to move to Los Angeles. I was super excited and
I bought a one-way ticket. My friend invited me to an all-white attire party and I walked in
and I saw Austin from across the room. Austin McBroom from across the room.
And I looked at him and I thought, I don't know why, but I feel like I know him.
So interesting.
And she introduced us and we shook hands and that was it.
And then I took an Uber home and I didn't talk to him.
So about a month later, he had messaged me on, I think like Twitter or something.
He was like, Hey, I'd like to send you something. And I didn't respond. him. So about a month later, he had messaged me on, I think like Twitter or something. He was like, hey, I'd like to send you something.
And I didn't respond.
So a month went by.
And then he messaged me again and he was like,
hey, I'd like to take you to dinner.
And I almost didn't go.
I was like, I don't know why,
but something's telling me to go,
but I'm just like, I don't know, I don't know.
And so I'll never forget that morning, he was like so, oh, he goes, do you like sushi?
And I said, no.
He's like, okay, well, me neither, but I got us a reservation at Nobu Malibu.
And I said, okay, that's nice.
Like in my head, I'd never been there before, so I'll go.
So we go and we're sitting across from each other, you know, we're by the ocean and we're talking.
He was asking me a lot of questions about me. I thought that was really nice, you know.
He's a young college student. It was like he was going into senior year of college playing D1 basketball.
And he's talking and all of a sudden like I just don't hear anything. And I'm like, oh my gosh,
that is a person that I'm going to have children with and that is a person that I'm going to have children with, and that is a person that I'm going to marry.
And I knew it in that moment.
Like, nothing could tell me otherwise.
What was it about him?
It was just a feeling.
It was just this feeling.
It's like this inner knowing.
And I thought, I just know it's him.
Okay.
You write about in the book
that the first time you have your first kiss is the same
day that you both also say, I love you. Were you nervous at how fast it was moving? No. No. Why?
Because it was just meant to be. I saw this thing recently. I don't know who said this. I'll find
out and let everyone know. But she said, when you meet the one or when you
meet someone that you're meant to be with, you skip the dating phase. So it's like we just went
from like meeting each other to being like we're married kind of thing. You know what I mean?
Who said I love you first?
He said it first.
Did you say it back immediately?
Immediately.
And so it didn't freak you out at all. You didn't feel like it was like love-bomby at all You were just like this is this is it. This is it if you had to pinpoint it back then
What do you think was different about Austin compared to all the other guys that you had dated?
well one he doesn't care what anybody thinks and I think I find that so attractive and I
Feel like that's like my inner self is like, I don't give a shit what anyone thinks.
But he was like that person for us and our dynamic,
taught me a lot.
I also think, he's very, he's just very motivated.
He's a very motivated person.
And I was just so attracted to the fact
that he was so free with himself.
And I never met anyone like that.
Actually, the only person that I know close to him is my brother.
And I always said, oh my God, you and my brother need to meet because you guys are so much alike.
How soon into your relationship did you get pregnant?
Like two months. It was so quick.
And what was your reaction? What was Austin's reaction?
So it's interesting because the day before we found out,
we were at a restaurant and his friend just had a baby.
So he was showing me the newborn photos
and I was looking down and I was like, oh my gosh,
like, would you want to start a family one day?
He's like, yeah, I would love to have kids one day.
He's like, you know, maybe in the future, you know?
And he goes like, we'll start a family one day.
And I was like, I know, maybe in the future, you know, and he goes like, we'll start a family one day. And I was like, I know, like I feel it, you know,
I feel a family for us.
Just, I just knew it, but I didn't know
I was pregnant already.
How did you tell him?
He was right there in the room.
I, he was in the room, he was sitting on his belly,
you know, scrolling on his phone.
And I thought, you know, I feel nauseous, you know,
I feel kind of sick.
And he thought, well, maybe we should take a pregnancy test.
And I'm thinking like, nothing's going to happen.
And I took the test and immediately I stood up.
I didn't even think about it.
I just stood up, hey, and I threw the stick at him by like, close to him on the bed.
And he's looking at, he's like, I'm like, yeah, I think we're pregnant.
And he's, and it was, the lines were very faint, so we couldn't tell for sure.
But just his reaction and just the way I slept,
I slept so good that night, I didn't even think about it.
I'm thinking we're good, no matter what.
You started this YouTube channel, obviously,
shortly after that she was born.
How did you guys decide to do this?
So when he was in college for that last year,
I decided to move in with him.
I was pregnant for that whole year.
And he had a roommate, like someone that was kind of there
just to help with that last year of college
because he was playing D1 basketball
and he was still going to school.
And then I was pregnant.
And so he was kind of just there to keep tabs and make sure
that everything was good. And he was the one that said, hey guys, like you guys should really start a
YouTube channel. And he's like, you know, your videos are going viral on Facebook and people
are making money off of them. And I'm thinking like, what? Cause we would make like cute little
homemade videos, you know, of him talking to my belly or just us being funny and goofy or whatever.
And he's like, people are taking your videos
and monetizing your videos.
Why don't you guys make your own videos?
And I thought, can we do that?
You can make money off your videos.
I'm like, what?
Like that's so crazy.
And at the time, you know,
his dreams were to play in the NBA.
And that summer, you know, he got with the wrong agent
and he did a couple tryouts,
one with the Lakers, one with the Knicks.
And just, it didn't work out.
And we thought, what are we gonna do?
Either you go play overseas in Greece or something,
we move the bait, we go as a family.
But nothing is set in stone.
We don't know what that looks like.
And so then that's when we were like, let's start YouTube.
Back in the beginning, once Elle was born,
whose decision was it to make her a part of the content?
It just came naturally.
Yeah, because I didn't film my birth with Elle.
It was like, you know, we just private, you know, just,
I mean, we filmed on our phone, you know,
we weren't making a vlog.
And I think like, it just made sense because we're so hands
on with our child and we, I was not going to get a nanny.
I'm like, I'm going to raise my daughter, you know,
I'm finally have my daughter here, you know?
And I thought, well, we can make contact with our daughter,
you know, we can just naturally organically share our journey.
Did you have any hesitations in the beginning or later on about putting your kids on camera?
Never.
And you know why, Alex?
Why?
Because back in the day, it was really new, like YouTube, it's been a thing for a while, but we were really like that, like,
I hate to say the word, but I feel like we kind of pioneered
that like family vlogging experience.
You know what I mean?
That's like, we were the first to do it
at that magnitude in that way.
And it was like, I, it was like,
when this monster of like social media was sharding,
you know, sometimes I think back and I'm like,
oh my God, am I part of that,
this craziness that's going on now in the world, you know?
Because obviously, I'm sure you've seen it,
but like there are people that accuse you in Austin
of exploiting your kids.
Like, what do you say to that?
Yeah, I just think that like,
when we first started, it was so pure.
It was like pure intentions.
It was like, obviously we want to make a living, you know?
Like anyone wants to make a living, you got to work.
But it was more like, we're just being present
with our family, our daughter.
And it's interesting,
because we would make these elaborate videos
and we found out very early on that people enjoyed our family, our daughter, and it's interesting, because we would make these elaborate videos, and we found out very early on
that people enjoyed our family vlogs,
our simple family vlogs sitting on the floor.
Those would get more views than our big elaborated videos
we would spend money on and doing.
So it was just like, well, people just want to see us.
They just relate to us.
Maybe they see themselves in us.
So much of your success is through your children.
Did you guys have a big conversation
about setting them up with money
and like putting money away for them?
Or was it more just like, it's all the families?
Yeah, no, they have their separate bank account.
Actually very early on in my career,
I think 2017 when Elle was about a year old,
we got her a bank account, you know?
Yeah, I think that those were the conversations
and things we were having.
But in terms of like exploitation and stuff,
like that never crossed our mind.
That was like, like, I don't, I just feel like
we were just the beginning of something new.
How do you feel about it now?
You know, we're in the age of technology.
And you know, it's like, there's no right or wrong, I don't think.
Like I think that like if people choose to keep their private certain private things
away from social media, that's beautiful.
And I think that if some people choose to do it the opposite way, I think that that's
beautiful too.
I think that everything's meant to be I think that everything's meant to be the way
that it's meant to be.
Once you guys kind of started really becoming yourselves
and people knew the ACE family, like on a good month,
can I ask like how much were you guys making?
So there was a period we were making like,
we were making seven fingers a month.
To me, it was like I was numb to it.
Truly.
It didn't make any sense.
I was going through this phase in my life where I just felt so disattached.
And now I look back and think, oh my God, I would have done so much with that.
I would have invested. I would have bought my mama's house,
my dad's house, I would have done this, this and that.
And it's like, we just didn't have the right mentors.
We didn't have the right tools.
We didn't have, we had a lot of yes men around us
and we just made really bad business decisions
along the way.
Once you guys started filming everything all the time, when did it start to feel like
you weren't just filming parts of your life,
but you were living to film and get content?
Like, when do you think that switch happens?
Because I feel like for a lot of creators,
it happens.
Oh, my gosh, yeah, there is moments where I'm like...
Because, you know, like, big reveals and and stuff, like people want to watch those.
That's a great clickbait.
And so, you know, it was genuine for a long time.
It was like, okay, like he's genuinely surprising.
He's genuinely proposing to me.
Like it was like, wow, like this is so crazy that we can capture such a big, milesome, big moment
and we can actually look back on it too, like it's filmed.
But then also having so many eyes on you,
I didn't know back in the day, back in the time,
now I know, but I didn't know
that I was not protecting myself.
But the moment that I realized where I don't know
if this is real or not real, I don't know.
That must have happened genuinely.
There was like a big moment for me.
It was when my second daughter was born.
I just felt this disconnection.
And it was like, I actually don't want to film this,
but like, I know that people are waiting for it
because they've invested so much.
And there was this fine line of like,
do I put my foot down and just like live in the moment
or do I also, so, and then he was holding the camera.
So it made it easier, but then it was like, is he here though? Is he present?
So that was like a big moment for me.
And did you end up releasing a video?
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
How did you feel about it?
I was just like really numb and empty at the time.
Yeah.
Did you ever find that you started to not be clear if Austin was doing romantic gestures for you
because he was filming it so it would look good for you guys as a couple?
Or were you like, wait, is he actually doing this romantic gesture and he just happens to be filming?
Oh, totally. Yeah, there was moments where I'm thinking like, I don't know, like, you really surprised me, you know,
or it's like, and then it was like, me kind of having to follow with that, like, surprise.
And then I'm like, I feel like I'm a clown in a circus. You know what I mean?
Right. Because you couldn't just naturally be like,
like, if my husband surprises me, of course, I'm going to be surprised. But then you kind of like,
chill for a second after me.
Wait, when did you think of this?
But you have to, you see the camera.
So then it's like, keep it going, call the kids down, get everyone around, let's run
to the backyard.
And it's like, you're a production.
Yeah.
And it's theatrical.
Which feels like you probably were on this hamster wheel where it's like you can't get
off this ride almost. And you, did you and Austin ever have a conversation
being like, let's set boundaries of like,
what we should keep private and what we shouldn't?
There might've been moments where we kind of talked about,
but to be honest with you, not really.
Like, I just, we didn't have that communication
within ourselves, yeah.
In the book you write that Austin made a lot
of financial decisions without asking you
and that it was so extreme you would check your bank account
and see six figures missing.
Where was all the money going?
Yeah, there was moments where, you know,
I'd see some money coming out and it was, you know,
to pay this, pay that.
And it was like, I didn't feel like I was having that,
like wife, like that partner, that husband and wife
conversation about our finances.
And it would be heartbreaking to look at the bank
because I was very well aware of what was in there.
And it's like, where did that go?
Like, what's happening?
Or like, one thing as well, it's like little things
that, you know, things that I would never think to pay for,
like a private jet, for instance, you know?
That personally for me wasn't something I would ever do.
Like if I had never met him,
I would have never been on a private jet today.
I'm like probably never, you know?
Because I'm thinking like, I'll just take a regular flight.
But little moments like that.
But it seems, which makes me sad for you,
because I feel like that, unfortunately,
is a lot of people's experience, where you're like,
I didn't feel like it was a partnership
when it came to finances, and yet you were 50-50
and making all this money.
Like, did you ever go to him and be like, Austin,
I feel a little bit in the dark here.
Like, we need to have... Yeah, for sure. and how did he react when you would bring that up?
Oh, you know, I'm sorry, you know, I didn't want you to worry.
And I don't know, I just feel like, you know, I get it.
But it's like, that's not what a marriage is about.
A marriage is about talking about these very deep things that really affect our children
and our future.
When you make certain investments, the goal is to at least make your money back.
And so, that was really stressful for me.
That really caused a lot of stress and strain in our relationship.
That's what I was wondering, because I know you write a lot about the home foreclosure
that you guys went through, which was so public.
And so many people were talking about it, like, are they broke?
What's happening?
And you put a lot of the detail beautifully in the book.
But like, overall, when you look back at that moment in your life, what did losing that
house represent to you?
So leading up to that moment,
I felt like there was a lot of things
that I was losing control over, right?
My family, my relationship, our career, everything, right?
There was a lot of narratives
and things that were being said.
And I was really strong.
And I was like, you know, I'm going to be strong and you know,
I'm going to keep fighting and we have our home.
You know, we have our home.
Our kids are happy. They're healthy. We're healthy.
Everything's fine.
And so one day I wake up and I get a phone call.
It's my father-in-law.
He said, Kath, and the house is under foreclosures all over the news.
I'm like, what do you mean? What do you mean?
He goes, well, your loan ended and no one's gonna,
it's a jumbo loan, no one's gonna accept you.
You don't have the certificate of occupancy.
But I'm like, but I've been paying the mortgage
every month for three years.
Everything, what do I need to do?
What do I need to pay?
I'll save it.
What do we need?
There's nothing you can do.
It's under foreclosure, it's gone.
You have 30 days to move out.
Oh my God.
Yeah.
And it was heartbreaking.
I cried in ocean.
And it's crazy because out of all the things
that were happening in that era,
that was the thing that really broke me
because I was looking for a home my whole life.
It's like, I just wanted to feel like I'm at home.
Can you explain to me,
because I'm sure people are really confused and want a little bit of clarity on, like,
there was so much going on behind the scenes,
obviously, that people didn't know, like,
what was it really like between you and Austin
when the cameras were off?
When the cameras were off,
I wouldn't say that there was much of a change.
I think, if anything, at least I can speak for myself,
I feel like I was pretending.
You know what I mean?
It's like, I feel like I was just so disconnected
from myself, not like everything around me,
but like within myself, you know?
And I was like, all of this happened so fast.
Like I gave birth, we started a YouTube channel,
it grows overnight.
I'm a new mother, I'm newly married.
There's all these eyes on us.
There's so many people that want things from us.
And it was just a lot of things.
And so when the cameras were off, it was more like,
I'm just gonna sit here and breastfeed my baby and just like scroll on my phone.
Like I never went out.
I never hung out with my friends.
I hardly saw my family.
I was in a really dark place.
Let's talk about the cheating allegations.
So over the years, there were so many different allegations
of Austin cheating on you.
And it was a pretty constant conversation online for a couple years.
At first, how much attention were you giving to these rumors?
And did you even believe them when it first started?
When it first started, my heart sank.
I'm like, oh my gosh.
Like I remember like sitting with my, oh my gosh, like, is this going to happen? You know? And then it was like, oh, well, I see him. I'm with, oh my gosh. Like I remember like sitting with my, oh my gosh, like is this gonna happen? You know?
And then it was like, oh, well I see him.
I'm with him every day.
Like we're co-parenting, we're married,
we're business partners.
I mean, when is he gonna have time?
But it's really interesting.
I was telling my mom the other day,
I remember when I was 16 years old
and I walked into a room with the TV was on
and there was, it was that talk show, Tyra Banks.
And there was a lady who said,
if a man has enough time to go into the bathroom,
he has enough time to cheat.
And it just stuck with me.
And I thought, does he have enough time to cheat on me?
You know what I mean?
And so that was kind of like the beginning.
It's like, I don't know what's true or not.
And you know what?
I'd even have moments where we'd be laying in bed,
you know, just falling asleep. And I'd get a text from a random number. Your husband is out at a party with me,
da da da. And I'm thinking like, he's right over here. So there's moments I didn't know what to
believe. There's some things that are true. There's some things that are distorted. There's some
things that are not true. So it was really hard to tell. And in those moments, did you,
because I know you're kind of saying
your communication wasn't great.
When the allegations started,
did you bring it up to him at all?
Or was that another thing that you guys kind of were like?
Yeah, no, no, no, I brought it up.
And what was his response in the beginning?
Oh, you know, that comes with a territory
and let's not respond
because we're just going to add fuel to the fire
and it's not true.
I'm like, okay, you know, and...
And you trusted him?
I did. Yeah, I really trusted him.
When you look back at the very beginning,
like the very beginning allegations, do you believe even then he was cheating?
No.
Can you take me to the moment where you found out about he was cheating?
And then we'll dial it back to like all the others.
But the first big moment you're like,
oh shit, he's cheating.
Where were you?
What happened?
["Diamond King"]
The first big moment you're like, oh shit, he's cheating. Where were you?
What happened?
Yeah.
So there was a couple, there's like quite a few moments, but there was a couple of moments
where I was like, I'm heartbroken.
Like the first one, let's go to the first.
So you know, I don't remember exactly the
first, first moment because I feel like there's just so many, but, um, there was this one moment.
I had just had my daughter, my second daughter, she was about six months old or something.
And he was like, Hey, I have to go to Miami for a meeting. And, and I go, please. And I'm the type of partner where I love
for my partner to feel free.
Like I trust you, go, you wanna go on a trip,
you wanna go boys trip, whatever you wanna do, go.
Like that's just my personality.
Now I look back, I'm thinking like,
I should change some things up a little bit
and care a little bit more.
But at the time I just had a baby, I was tired,
I was filming every day, I had another baby,
I was taking care, changing diapers, breastfeeding, breastfeeding all my kids,
five years straight. So, super exhausted, super tired, you know, and so he said,
I want to go to Miami. And I said, you know, you go, you go on your trip.
And I remember calling my mom and my mom saying, I would never let my husband leave
when my baby's just a couple months old. Like, you're, I don't know, you're different.
I'm thinking, oh, well, I don't know. I was like, you know, I think he deserves it. He's been working so hard. He edits, people don't
realize he edited every single video on our channel. We didn't have an editor. So I thought, you know,
he deserves to go out. Like, it's okay. He wants to go on a business trip, whatever.
I remember that business trip, like it was yesterday, that business trip. He called me
quite a few times where I felt like,
you're calling me a little too much.
Like, I was just like, I don't know, like, it's okay,
go have fun, you know?
And he pocket dialed me accidentally.
And I heard women in the back, a couple women.
And I thought, okay, well, okay, well,
I guess my husband's hanging out with women.
I'm thinking, whatever, hung up the phone,
continued my day. A couple of months
go by and this blonde male makeup artist makes this video on YouTube talking about my husband
and how he was in Miami and there was this group of people and there was all these girls
and there was this bow and all these, and to be honest with you, it's still till this day, I never watched the video.
But I have gotten that like information from some good friends who watched it for me and were able
to like process it for me and help me process it. And I was pregnant in that moment. And I had to,
I had to listen to that and I, nobody knew I was pregnant. I was having my son.
And I remember bawling and thinking, is this true?
And even if it's not true, why are people saying this?
This is like so detailed.
And I believe, you know, I didn't believe the horrors,
but it was like, am I just being stupid right now?
Like, am I just really not sitting with this?
Or do I vindicate Him?
Do I vindicate our family?
And that's what I did.
And I think back at my old self, I think, poor girl, like, I wish I could hug her today.
Like she was just going through so much and she,
the old version of myself just wanted to protect
that little piece we had in the family, you know?
And I would see it in his eyes and I'm thinking like,
I don't know, like something's not right,
but I'm going to have a baby
and I have to focus on the baby right now. So I wasn't know, like something's not right, but I'm going to have a baby and I have to focus on the baby right now.
So I wasn't sure, right?
And that was a big moment for me because there was some things that were being said that just, it just made a lot of sense.
It was all adding up.
You know what I mean?
And did you confront him?
Yeah, I did.
But not in a way where I was like,
it was more like, how do we fix this?
Because this is not true.
And he's like, yeah, that's not true.
Da da da, that's, you know, whatever, this guy,
and he's making things up and oh my God,
he's trying to extort me and this and that.
And you know, some of those things were true,
some of them weren't.
And I thought, how do we fix it?
And I was, I was just lying to myself. I knew deep inside, something of them weren't. And I thought, how do we fix it? And I was just lying to myself.
I knew deep inside, something didn't feel right.
But then a couple months later,
we were filming this thing called Vlogmas on YouTube.
People film every day for the month of December.
And we had done it, it was like a comment thing.
I remember.
We would do every winter.
And this was in December.
And I was, you know, at that point,
I was about three months pregnant with my son.
I didn't know I was having a boy yet.
So I was pregnant, I wore baggy shirts
and like, you know, like I'd wear bigger shirts
because I didn't want anyone to know yet.
I wanted to keep it to myself,
especially because there was all this like negativity
going around about him.
So I'm like, I'm just going to keep this to myself.
And then there is this moment that changed everything for me.
Oh, I had a dream. I have a lot of dreams.
Very symbolic. I'm sure you do too.
Yeah.
I had a dream where I was walking into my bedroom.
The bedroom I was sleeping in, we had this massive long 10 foot bed.
I'm walking into the room and there's this,
he's sitting in the bed and there's a woman
with this beautiful blonde hair.
I just see the back of her and she turns around
and she's this demon.
And I woke up from that nightmare and I was crying.
I was like, oh my God,
that was the worst nightmare I've ever had.
Like I literally, there was a demon on my bed
and the whole day felt eerie. It was so eerie.
It was so weird. And I didn't tell anybody.
And I was just like, that's so weird.
Couple of hours later, we start filming
and we go to this studio to get my daughter's first haircut.
She was a year old. she's getting her first haircut.
And he, you know, our assistant,
who's Austin's friend from back in the day was there,
was Austin and myself and our daughter.
And we walked in, there were some fans and they were like,
can we take a picture?
And I'm like, yeah, yeah, like let's finish filming,
you doing this and we'll take the photo.
So they're all waiting there and you know,
everyone in the salon knows who we are and stuff.
So it was just, you know, regular moment where they're filming.
He's filming our daughter's first haircut.
And I'm kind of like, I'm taking photos for myself, for my phone, you know,
like, oh my gosh, like taking the photo and then like a movie.
My camera, I mean, my phone dies.
It just goes black.
And I look at him without a thought and I go, give me, give me, give me your phone, give me your phone.
Let me take a photo.
Cause you know, we're going to miss the moment.
She's getting her first haircut.
As soon as my hand grabs that phone,
mind you, I had never, never looked in his phone.
Ever, ever, never.
I grabbed the phone and it felt kind of weird
cause I'm like holding his phone, right?
Like, it just felt odd because I knew maybe there had maybe things he was hiding.
I didn't want to look.
Yep.
As soon, Alex, as soon as I grabbed the phone, like out of a movie, this long text comes
through.
If you really love your wife, you wouldn't be da da da da da.
And I like my, my brain scanned it, but I wasn't able to read it fully.
But in that moment, my heart drops.
I'm pregnant.
There's people watching us.
The camera's on.
It felt like, it just felt surreal.
The assistant looks, notices, looks at him.
He grabs the phone from me and instantly deletes the message.
And I thought, oh my gosh, it's true.
Oh my God.
Yeah.
And I was calm, very calm.
And we've, you know, we paid and we finished.
I wasn't in my body anymore.
My like, I wasn't on earth anymore.
We walk out of the store or the salon and I said,
Austin, who was that?
And he's like, it's somebody, it's nothing.
Please tell me who that was.
I saw the text and I kept replaying what I could have done.
Should I run to the bathroom?
Like, should I like take it?
Like, I'm like, what should I have done in that moment?
Like tackle him and read it.
Like, I was like, I didn't get to fully read it.
But you saw enough that it said,
if you really love you, you'll need your wife.
It was an emotional, I saw enough to know instantly,
this is an emotional relationship
he's having with somebody.
This is a woman that is having a relationship
with my husband.
And we got in the car and you know, then my voice got a little,
who was that?
Oh, lower your voice, the kids.
And I'm like, okay, and I'm calling myself, the kids are in the car.
Let's like, I mean, have grace, right?
Say strong, poised, get home.
We get home, blacked out.
I was like yelling, screaming, tell me, please, please just tell me who that was.
Please just, I feel so stupid. Just tell me I'm having a baby. Please just tell me.
And I ran out of the house. I got in my car and I just started driving and I didn't know where I was driving.
Just driving. Crying and ocean bawling. I couldn't even see where I was driving and I thought I need to park somewhere.
So I went to a park, parked at the park, put my hands on the wheel and I said,
God, if you hear me, please tell me what to do.
And in that moment, it's so interesting because I knew that one day I'd have a son and that I would name him Steel.
There was like this inner knowing. And when I had that conversation with God, and I was really just like a point of just,
I'm surrendering.
Just tell me what to do.
And I heard this voice and it was like,
You are having your son.
There's a reason you named him Steele.
You have to stay strong for this whole pregnancy.
And just don't make any impulsive decisions.
Just keep going.
Just keep this in the back of your mind.
It's going to live there and it's going to, you're going to see everything's going to
make sense, but don't make any big decisions right now.
And I went home and I acted like nothing.
Wow.
I acted like nothing.
I was, you know, I didn't talk to him for a couple of days.
I think that was the longest we'd ever gone without talking since we met.
I think, I think we went like two, three days.
And then I texted him and I was like, we need to talk.
And we went, we took a drive, we met in the middle of a street and we got in the car and
he told me who she was and he showed me
And I was like, okay, so that was the girl you were talking to a couple months back
Now it's all making sense. Like you said you were talking to a girl that needed help with snapchat
I'm thinking like why is a married man talking to a woman about snapchat?
Like snapchat wasn't even monetized in the day. Like what are you talking about? Like what are you doing?
I think okay. This is making sense. Okay, this is making sense. Okay.
So I thought, okay, well, what do we need to do?
Like, how can we move on from this?
Like, what do we do?
Like, I was like, and I didn't tell him this at the time, but I thought, I can forgive him
because he's crying out for help.
And I can, I, because at the time I was, I wasn't religious.
I'm still not religious.
You know, I'm, I believe in Christ, but I'm not bound by like religious structures.
But I was very like, you stick to your husband.
I was very like traditional in that sense.
And I don't know who made me like that, but I was just that way.
And I thought, okay, maybe I can forgive him.
And so, as the days went on, then we went on a trip to Hawaii.
Someone said we should go there because that's where the heart chakra of the planet is,
and maybe we can get some healing.
And so, we went to Hawaii, and then that's when I had posted that I was pregnant,
thinking, I'm getting bigger now and I need to post. And yeah, it's a secret that I was carrying inside of me. And I wanted to like scream
out loud that I was going through this, but I couldn't.
Listening to you say this though, Catherine, like so many times now, you've said the minute
you find out you're like, how can we fix this? How can we fix this?
And I think it does connect to what you've been saying of like, you're on this hamster
wheel, you're out of your body, you're all this happened to your life and you're just
going and you can't even like stop to be like, are you okay? Like, do you? It's almost like
you, it sounds like you weren't even like feeling like you were just like, how do we
fix this? It's like almost like your business.
You're like, how do we fix this and move forward? How do I stay by my man and move forward?
I'm wondering though, when you're saying all this, like, is he apologetic in the car when he's
speaking or is he keeping it more like brushing it under the rug? It's not that big of a deal.
I'm going to be honest with you, it never felt apologetic ever. Yeah. And you know what's
interesting is, even through our divorce, even through everything.
I never heard him say the words, I cheated until about a week ago
when that first chapter of my book came out.
I've never heard him say the words, I cheated.
And when I heard the words, I was like, oh my God,
finally I heard it.
Thank you so much.
That was all I was waiting for.
Thank you.
That's all I needed to hear.
You could have just said it to me. You could have just been honest with me and just told me.
But it was like I was being gaslighted. Like it wasn't actually happening and it was like,
and yeah, I think that finally hearing those words was so healing for me because it's like I wasn't going crazy.
It was everywhere. Everyone was saying it.
Why do you think He decided to finally say those words? Just because you were officially calling Him out?
That and because now I understand the whole picture. I get it.
I think a common theme for him was,
because if you really think about it,
what kind of woman sleeps with a married man
whose whole identity is based on being a married man
and being a family man, you know?
So I kept thinking, I kept going through those things
as well as like, women are really like that, like women.
And so what I was thinking was,
he must have been telling this woman that I didn't care.
And in that video he posted last week,
out of everything he said,
I mean, everything was false, right?
Or distorted or whatever.
But the one thing he said that really, really just like, it was like a punch to the gut,
was that He said that, yes, I cheated and she was okay with it as long as I said, you don't embarrass me.
And that is not true.
I never, ever, ever said that.
I would never say that. And I would never want my kids to think that that is okay to cheat on your husband or your wife.
And I will make sure that I raise them and that they know that they never ever do that because that is so wrong.
And you never cheat on the person you love.
And I would never in a million years say that.
So that was really hurtful that he said that because I'm like,
are you just accept it? People would understand that better. He's putting the blame back on you.
That's him taking no accountability. Think about that. The first time he acknowledges that he
cheated the end of his sentence, he can't just say I cheated. Yes, I cheated because she told me,
just don't make me look dumb.
AKA, you were allowing him to go
and have all these relationships
and you're sitting here being like,
I would never, Alex, I would never do that.
And I think now also understanding
like how you write in the book,
you kind of talk about like once the first
you really got the concrete evidence,
then more came out.
How many more did you find out about?
I know, I know personally of women.
Don't know them personally, as I'm friends with them,
but I know who they are.
And I would never say their names.
Never, never, never, never.
I would never, I'm not that kind of person.
But I know of many.
Many as in like?
I know for sure of three. Like for sure, for sure.
Have they ever reached out to you?
No, but they're out there in the world acting like that never happened probably. And I know the truth.
How many do you think there are?
I don't know. I saw some headline things saying he said there was 20 or something.
I don't know if that's true or not.
Because I didn't watch his full video, but I don't know if he did say that, kind of trying to cover himself.
Yeah.
Because I think when he saw the beginning, the first chapter of my book, he thought maybe that I wrote a lot more about him,
but I kind of didn't, in a sense.
Like, to be honest with you, it's a memoir about my life.
But I will say that when you write a book, you always put the hardest part of your journey
in the beginning of the book, right?
To catch the reader, to really draw them in.
That's just something that, as writers, is common.
And so, he really got it backwards.
I wanna ask you, there were some like viral cheating rumors
that I wanna just like get your opinion on.
Tana Mongeau recently revealed that she covered for Austin
after you found lipstick in Austin's car.
What really happened there?
So she, in Austin's car. What really happened there? So, she covered for him, which I believe that is probably true, definitely happened,
because I remember we had a Lamborghini at the time. I never drove that car.
And I got in one day as a passenger and I noticed there was a lip liner.
Lip liner or lip gloss, something like that.
And it wasn't mine.
And I'm like, who's is this?
He's like, oh, so-and-so got in my car the other day and his girlfriend was on the lap
and I drove them down the street to get into their car.
And I'm like, I don't believe you.
At this point now, I don't believe you. Like at this point now, I don't believe you.
It's like, I'm going to call him right now.
And so I guess she was there.
And yeah, I think, you know,
I think her publicly talking about that is hurtful.
Why didn't you call me, message me, tell, oh, hey girl,
I was there on that phone call.
I just want to let you know, you know, that wasn't true.
It was also rumored that Austin would hire nannies
so he could sleep with them when you weren't around.
Do you know if this is true?
No, we never had a nanny.
Never had a nanny.
Grandma.
Okay.
Did you ever get confirmation
if the infamous yacht orgy happened?
Yes, I actually did.
Yeah.
Wow.
And that was when he butt dialed you that weekend?
That was that weekend.
Yeah.
How did you get confirmation?
Through a friend who's married to a guy that was physically there.
Wow.
Yeah.
Years later, by the way, when it didn't matter anymore.
It just like, it was like, oh, really?
Oh, okay.
That's the best of me.
Right.
You're like, shit.
I guess it did happen.
Did Austin really bring his mistress to a charity event you guys threw together at the
Staples Center?
Yeah.
So there was this girl,
the girl that I was talking about earlier,
the one with the long text, so that was her.
Since that information came to light,
Austin has completely denied it,
said he would have never brought a girl there
that never happened, like what do you say to that?
To me, it's like, why lie about that?
But now I know, like you can lie about a lot of things
that aren't true, so I'm like, okay, well, because the thing is, is that I knew that writing this book,
there would be some kind of like retaliation or some, some things that are said.
I knew that, you know, something would come from this obviously, because, you know, I
wrote a book.
I didn't know what magnitude that I wasn't aware of, but it's interesting because I saw it and I thought,
this is not me, you know, like this is, I'm past that. Like, I truly feel like it was a test.
Truly. It's like, you, Austin, you could have handled that differently.
You know, you could have said, I saw, I saw, see, she has a book out, you know, and one of the things he said is I didn't tell him about the book.
The thing is, when you go through a divorce, you don't really tell someone what you're doing.
You know what I mean? And I had been promoting the book for actually for two years. I've been talking about it. So he had seen it. I think if I would have mentioned the book to him privately, he may have wanted to try to stop me from doing it. So it was
just something I didn't, I mean, it's doing me, you know? But yeah, I think that him, he could have
handled it differently. He could have said, you know, I just saw that, Catherine, my ex-wife, she has a book out,
and he could have said something along the lines of,
although I don't totally agree with what she said,
I guess there's always different sides of the story
and I wish her well.
And I'm not proud of the things I did,
but we've both moved on and whatever.
I just feel like the staple center moment for him
to try to say that wasn't true.
It's like, again, Austin trying to reclaim this narrative
because specifically that, I think because there's footage
of you and your family, and it was such a core of who you guys were
to the world, it makes him just look like an absolute fucking monster.
If you're going to cheat cheat can't you just go
do it in private like you have to put Katherine and your children through this and so I think
it must be him trying to reclaim the narrative a little bit and like litigate like well no I
didn't bring her here but I brought her it doesn't fucking matter. Well the crazy thing is it did
happen and that's where I found out all the lies. So like that moment was a significant moment in my life.
So of course I'm going to talk about it if that was life changing for me because I was
pregnant when all of these things were going on and I got confirmation from one of his
family members saying, I told him not to bring that girl and da da da da da.
And I'm thinking like, what you knew too?
Like I'm thinking like, oh my gosh,
like I'm just being blindsided over here.
Like I had no idea, like truly like,
yeah, I've been seeing the rumors and the narratives,
but oh my gosh, like, why can't you tell me?
Like, why don't you talk to me?
Like-
Was this before or after the text incident that you-
That was around the same
time. Okay. So that's when it all started to like, yeah, and then to go to this event
and have that woman there. And now he's trying to say no. Okay. Austin recently tried to
justify all of his cheating by saying you guys weren't having sex. What was your sex life like at the time?
So, sex intimacy is very, very sacred to me. Like, more today than it has ever been.
When I found out that there was cheating, I checked out And I said, my body is a temple. And I refuse
to allow anybody to come near my temple if he cannot be honest and truthful and loyal.
And it was like, I'm checked out. And it is true. And I actually wrote it in the book. I put the
same exact, put four years, it was four years.
It was actually more like five years, if you think about it,
because...
Five years of what?
Of not being intimate with him,
because just to be completely transparent and honest,
because I do feel like a lot of women and men
can relate to this, but I was going through a lot of postpartum, you know, your body changes,
you know, breastfeeding and you're taking care of multiple children. And so we had my
daughter and then we had, you know, I was pregnant that whole year and I was, though
the cheating allegations, all the things, and I thought, you know, I don't know. And
then I got pregnant with my son and I'm thinking like,
maybe we can make this work.
Maybe this is not what it all seems to be.
And we had just moved into a new house and we're like,
maybe we can have the family that we're always meant to have,
the family that we're portrayed to the world.
Maybe we can really be that.
And I got pregnant and then that was a,
and then I found out he was cheating on me and that was it.
That was a never, never, ever, ever like.
Never again.
Never again.
And did he pursue you at all?
Like did he try?
No.
And that's how I knew that there was cheating going on.
Right. Right.
Yeah. And you know, now, now I know how that's not normal.
At the time, I thought, you know, we're going through a lot, you know, there's a lot of bad
things happening around us. You know, we have children, you know, and we're overworked and
we're tired and we're stressed
and we are anxious and all these things.
And now I think back, I'm like,
even when I would like, we would kiss,
it just, it was a disconnection.
And I thought, this isn't my husband.
Prior to all the cheating allegations,
like did you have like a healthy intimacy life with Him? Yeah. Yeah. I think that that's what part of, you know, our love and our bond.
It's like we are so deeply connected, like, in all ways.
And yeah, I'm a huge part of this problem, though.
It's like I take it full accountability on being in a relationship with someone
and not also pursuing intimacy,
because although I was disgusted
and I didn't want to be intimate,
I didn't have these very serious conversations.
Like, hey, maybe we should go see a therapist.
Like, maybe we should do couples therapy.
Maybe like, this is a normal going like another year
without being physically intimate.
It is such an important part of a marriage and a relationship.
Was it the cheating that really broke down your marriage
or were you guys rocky before you found out and with the allegations?
It was a cheating.
There was nothing else.
Could handle anything.
I have to ask, Austin said you weren't having sex
because you believed you were the Virgin Mary reincarnated.
What is your response to that?
It's really hurtful because
it's just such a strange thing to say.
For years in my spiritual journey,
everyone in my circle and everyone knows how deeply connected I am to Christ and to Mother Mary. More than ever today, I feel like I
can connect to her, always. And I think that's just his way to just throwing jabs, just trying to make me look crazy, you know, try to paint a picture of, she's crazy.
Yeah, it's just, it's kind of sad.
During all of this, I think this is something
that's very sadly relatable,
but you didn't confide in anyone, right,
for most of the time.
How did you decide not to tell your mom or anyone?
My decision was solely based on the fact that I didn't want that to change people's perception of Him
because I thought that we could heal and we can get to a better place.
I didn't want to say something and then them like have so much, you know, information.
At the end of the day, it's like, it's almost like gossip, like, you know, gossiping.
And I believe, I truly believe that gossiping is poison.
And so I thought, you know, this is my marriage and I'm going to, I'm just going to keep it to myself
because I need to figure it out within myself.
When I decided that I wanted a divorce, that's truly when I told my parents and my family,
it's like, I want to get a divorce.
And they were very supportive of me. Was it like eating you alive, holding this on by yourself?
Yes. And for a while it was, but I felt at one point, I'm like, everybody knows,
you know, it's like, everybody knows. It's, it's, it was like, it started to become so obvious.
I, I do think, which I'm interested to hear your opinion on this,
like, I think there was a point where the public was almost shifting to being like so frustrated,
almost with you, because all of these women are coming forward with like pretty detailed, tangible
stories and you guys are posting like a United Front, nothing's going on.
How do you think not acknowledging all of it publicly impacted your reputation?
It deeply impacted my reputation. It deeply impacted my reputation. I felt like I was like in a fishbowl and like I couldn't like, it's like all these eyes
pressing in on me and I'm thinking like, oh my gosh, I don't know.
Do I, do I protect or do I say my truth?
And then my whole life changes.
You know what I mean?
And it's like, I always thought about my kids first.
Like, I need to be a mother to them.
I need to mother them.
Their mother needs to be happy, healthy, laughing, playing.
Like, I don't want to, I don't want to like have two separate homes right now.
I don't want to have to figure out what I'm going to do for a living now
because we've been doing this for almost 10 years.
You know, we've been doing this for so long. And it was just me trying to just
like navigate that with myself. Like I didn't want to make these big impulsive decisions publicly.
And I think that's totally fair. I think like, I get why people would start to be like,
hello, like, do you know, like, what are you doing?
Like say something or leave or say I'm staying with him.
Even though I think-
There was moments where I'm like, I'm gonna leave tomorrow.
Like I'm gonna do this tomorrow.
And I'm just not gonna look back and I'm just gonna go
and I'm gonna find a place and you know,
we won't film and people are going to wonder
what happened to us.
That, like, I had those moments.
Yeah, I had those moments.
But I think what was the hardest part about all of it
was that he would never admit to it.
And I thought, well, if you're not admitting it to me,
you're not going to admit it to the world.
Right.
So that was the hardest part.
Right. It's almost like you were in this, like,
gaslighted situation where this person is telling you it's not happening.
And even though in your heart, you know it's happening, you also are presenting as United Front to the world.
And it's like, am I going to say it and then he's going to deny it even though the whole world knows it.
And I've been and I'm pregnant and I don't want to leave and I have kids.
Like it's such a complicated situation.
And I get with social media people just judge on the surface.
I've done it, you know what I mean?
Another thing too, Alex, is another big thing
that I had in the forefront of my mind.
And I look back and think like,
oh my gosh, I shouldn't have been thinking like that.
But I felt like if I broke the family,
I'm thinking like, I'm needing to break the family for this,
then I'm going to break everyone's heart. I'm needing to break the family for this, then I'm gonna break everyone's heart.
I'm gonna break millions and millions of people
who watch us and who sees us as this powerful,
power couple, and I'm gonna break everyone's heart
because this isn't real, this isn't true,
this isn't what people think it is anymore.
And I also didn't want people to bash him
because I'm like, as much as he hurt me, as much as I feel like I got stabbed in the back,
like, I can handle that. But like, can you handle the scrutiny and all this? It's like, and clearly not of why I didn't want to speak up,
because I don't want the father of my children to get this public humiliation.
But then, over the years, I thought, well, he already got it.
You know, I need to do what's best for me.
I can't keep living in a lie.
I can't not address the big elephant in the room.
I also will just say, and I'm sure so many people watching right now are feeling this,
like, I have so much respect for you, even trying to protect him,
because I think a lot of people understandably would be like,
fuck you, fuck you.
And the fact that you, again, chose to put your family first
and not yourself first,
and you really looked at the big picture.
Like I think a lot of women,
and especially mothers will be able to be like,
I think I would do the same thing.
Yeah.
You talk about a breaking point,
because I think at some point
we're all like the cheating and what,
when did you know this marriage was completely over
and how did you go about telling him?
There was a conversation that we had right before he had this big boxing match.
It was like, it was like our event.
And then he was like the main person on the card.
And the night before, I felt, I felt like something was about to happen.
I don't know. It was like this intuition feeling like, Oh my God, I to happen. I don't know, it was like this intuition feeling
like in my gut, I'm like, I don't know,
something feels really strange about tomorrow.
Like the fight was gonna be the next day.
And we were in the living room and the lights were down,
the kids were sleeping and I said, I'm not happy.
And he's like, why are you talking about this now?
Why are you doing this now?
I have a fight tomorrow, like, can't you just be this now? Why are you doing this now? I have a fight tomorrow.
Like, can't you just be a little bit more sympathetic
to, you know, and I was like,
but I had to say it right now.
I just, I'm really not happy.
Like I genuinely don't feel good, Austin.
Like I don't feel, something doesn't feel right.
And oh, you know, we can have,
we could have had this conversation after
and this and that.
And then the next day he got really sick right before his fight.
He had a 103 fever.
He was really sick.
It didn't, it felt like a message.
It didn't feel like he just randomly got sick.
No one else got sick, but Austin.
And I walked into, they were saying on Airbnb, it was like the whole team,
you know, the everybody for the fight,
and they were getting ready to get in the Sprinter van
or the bus.
And I came in, hair and makeup done.
I'm like, hey, what's going on?
He's like, come into the room.
He's like, feel my forehead.
And I'm like, oh my gosh, like, you're,
he's like, I have a 103 fever,
it just came a couple hours ago, I don't know.
And I'm like, well, what are you gonna do?
I was like, you can't fight.
He's like, no, I have to, like, I can't not. And mind
you, we just had this conversation about yesterday, like this gut feeling, like something doesn't
feel right. And like, I feel like what happened that night in the fight was very, it was like
a mirror of what's going on in our internal life. Can you explain just if people didn't see the fight?
Yeah, so basically, he got really sick. I went out into the floor, you know, we're all watching
them on the ring and he got, the first time he got knocked down, I thought, oh my God, this is the
first time I've ever seen my husband crumble. And my heart stopped. and I wanted to scream and cry and yell and just I hated,
I hated that moment.
And then there was a voice and then he got knocked down, it was a second one and then
a third and then a fourth and then a fifth and he just kept standing up and I kept thinking,
oh my gosh, this is who he is.
He always stands up when he falls.
And I heard this voice and it was like, it's okay.
He's having an ego death.
He has to go through this, hold space for Him.
Everything's going to be okay.
And we left the ring.
We got in the ambulance.
He was completely disoriented.
He just kept saying the words, I need water.
And I was like yelling at the paramedics, please get him water.
He's just, he's thirsty. He's thirsty and needs water. And they're like, no, it's against protocol.
We can't give him water. We have to wait to get him into the hospital and check in and this and that.
And so that happened. And then the next day he was feeling better. I grabbed his hand and I posted
a picture of us holding hands and I was so ready to let go the day before.
And I was like, telling the world, I'm still here for Him.
And it was like this moment of like, yes, we are not romantically together in that way,
but I still respect Him as the Father in my children.
And no matter what, I will always stand by His side.
And it was like that kind of energy.
So then it was almost like I was okay being in the relationship as a family, as like,
I'm here, we're a team.
But it was like we were not a team.
You were still lying to me.
When did you tell Him you wanted to divorce?
So, we had talked about it a couple of times.
I never said the words I want to divorce.
I never said those words ever out loud.
We had the last conversation we'd had on separating,
we actually talked about him getting another home
and I was getting another home
because we were actually planning on leaving the rental
we were at.
And you know when you have like really deep conversations
about making plans and then they just don't fall through?
So it's kind of like that kind of thing.
And then the stress of like life
and all the things that it brings, you know?
So that wasn't like, we weren't like, like we weren't trying to get that it brings, you know? So that wasn't like, we weren't like,
like we weren't trying to get that done quickly, you know?
Because usually when it comes to an end,
you want to make, you want to get it done, right?
But we hadn't reached that moment of like,
it's an urgency, we need to do it right now.
When I had that realization that it has to happen right now,
I have to stop waiting for the right time
because there's never gonna be a right time.
The moment is now.
And I had that realization when it was on my 33rd birthday.
So this is really interesting.
My whole life, like ever since I was a kid,
I always said, 33 is gonna be the biggest year of my life.
And I would say that just like jokingly in my mind.
And I thought 33 is gonna be the biggest year of my life. And I would say that just like jokingly in my mind. And I thought 33 is going to be the biggest year of my life.
And then I turned 33 and I was talking to my dad and I was like,
hey, I really want to go to this retreat in Brazil.
And he was like, I want to go with you.
And I was like, perfect.
Like me, you and Ryan will go to this retreat, you know?
And I booked my flight on my birthday.
And in that moment, you know, Austin and I, it was done. We just didn't make the,
we didn't put the wheels in motion
to officially divorce and separate, but it was there.
And it was clear.
But you knew you were separated.
We were separated, for sure, because it was so obvious.
It was like, it was in the air.
It was like, we hardly saw each other.
We stopped filming.
So there was no like big moment
that you were both like, we're done.
Let's go our separate ways.
Well, there was, because I went on the retreat.
And then when I came back,
I had this massive, expansive experience.
And I got back, I landed back into LA.
He picked me up. I got in the I landed back into LA, he picked me up,
I got in the car and he looked over, he said,
Oh, how was it?
And I was like, good.
And in my head, I'm thinking like,
like he doesn't understand what I,
where I just went, what I just did,
like he doesn't understand.
And I thought, that's okay,
we just, we were different places vibrationally
now. And I was like, if I'm going to say it, I'm going to say it right now. I got in the car,
closed the door. How was it? We're driving out, literally driving out of the airport.
And I said, I said, I need to talk to you. It's okay. I was up. I was like,
Austin, I need to talk to you." He's like, yeah, what's up? I was like,
it's not a secret that our relationship is done and we're both unhappy. You know, I've been unhappy for a long time. I know you've been unhappy for a long time and I want a divorce.
And he's driving. Okay. He's like, okay. I was like, oh my gosh. All right. Well, I was like, oh my gosh, I'm so happy.
I was like, I was like, I, you know, I'm on your team and I love you and I want to do
this right.
And you know, it doesn't have to get ugly.
I pray I don't want it to get ugly.
And I said, and I said these words, I said, let's discuss an exit plan together as a team.
Like, let's do it together.
He goes, yeah, yeah, we could talk about it, you know, and I was like, because it's funny
because my realtor the other day sent me a house that's for rent down the street from
where we're living now.
And I thought, oh, okay, cool.
He's like, yeah, it's interesting how life works.
And I was like, yeah, I was like, have you seen the house?
He's like, oh, I'm going to see it next week.
And I'm like, okay, cool.
And then it was just kind of like, okay, like, we're going to do this.
Why did you guys never make a video to kind of like talk about your separation?
Because that was kind of like your guys thing.
Well, I didn't want to make a video because if he wasn't telling me the truth
without the cameras rolling, he's for sure not going to tell the truth
with the cameras rolling.
So I thought, well, I'm not going to do a video with you side by side.
If you can't say I cheated on my wife and, you know, led us to this path where both,
we both have made mistakes, I would share my mistakes, you know, like I didn't have good communication, you know, I,
you know, I wasn't there for him, maybe when he needed me emotionally, you know, and all of these things.
And I thought, he can't be honest, so I'm not doing the video.
And then he came out and said that you didn't want him to make his own video explaining the breakup from his point of view.
And I guess that kind of answers it because you're like, you're not going to tell the fucking truth.
He didn't tell the truth. He said, there's things that I regret, but it's like that could be anything.
And then not to mention, so this is the thing about that.
And I'm just going to be completely bluntly honest because at this point, just my throat
chakra is open and I'm just going to be me.
When we discussed the divorce, I said I'd really like to do a joint statement.
A lot of people sometimes they do statements,
it's just easier, you know?
And he's like, oh no, no, I wanna make a video.
And I said, well, I don't wanna be in your video,
so I'm not gonna do that, I'm gonna make a statement.
He goes, oh well, give me a chance to make a video
and I'll show it to you and then you could tell me
if you like it, and if you like it, then I'll post it.
And I thought, I'm gonna give him the benefit of the doubt. I'm actually curious to see what's in that
video, right? I was really curious. So I'm like, make the video. So it took a month for him to
actually make it. And I'm like, okay, I get to see it. Oh my gosh. Like, I'm so curious what he said.
And I was in the room, in the office room, and I was watching it and just blunt, like honest, honest to God,
I was watching the video and I thought,
this is like social suicide.
Like, I genuinely feel like this is going to make him look so bad and I love Austin no matter what.
And I care about him, truly.
So I'm thinking if he couldn't at least say the truth, because people love truth. People love when people are honest and vulnerable.
And he wasn't doing that.
It was like, he was going around the truth.
And I looked at him, I said, I don't like the video.
I was like, if you post that, go ahead.
If you post that, it doesn't look,
I'm just going to be honest.
Because at that point, it's like, I want to help you too.
I want you to move on in your life too.
I don't want you to be, to have this energy around you.
Right, but people are going to call you out
and be like, you're lying.
Like this is a big fat lie.
Like we know you're skirting around the actual thing.
Yeah. So then I said, I don't like it.
So he recorded me saying that.
Why do you think he recorded you?
I mean, I'm just finding this out, by the way.
Just because you didn't know he was filming.
No, I think it was because he thought, well,
this is what I think.
I think he was never planning on posting the video.
I think he made it.
So, and again, I don't know, right?
This is just my speculation.
I think he made it knowing he wasn't gonna to post it, but made it so that,
because he knew I wouldn't like it,
because he knows me, he knows me, he's been living with me, married to me for years.
I'm the mother of his children.
And I think he recorded me almost purposely to get those words out of me,
so that maybe later in the future, if he ever needed it.
And he, yeah, I mean, he got it in 24 hours.
He had it there in his phone.
It was almost like ready to go.
And when I saw that, I thought, oh my gosh,
can other people see this?
Or am I the only one who sees, like?
That's crazy that he's like secretly recording you.
Manipulative.
It's manipulative.
And it's illegal.
Well, that's what I was told too. And I thought, well, I don't want to go that route because,
I mean, we were filming each other and doing pranks and things throughout the day. And then
he would say, well, we used to film each other. And then the fans would say, well, you guys were
always filming each other. And I thought, oh my gosh, can my book just come out? I'm like,
I just want to move on, truly. One of the biggest conversations online right now
is around your ayahuasca use. When did you start taking it? In that really dark period of my life,
my marriage was going downhill, I lost my house, my business partners
scammed me, many, many things were happening in our internal lives, our family, our friends,
all the things. I just had a baby. I was really in a really dark place.
And my brother had been doing this very sacred medicine work for many years.
And he would tell me all the time, you know, Catherine, one day, like,
when you're ready, I'll be here for you.
And it's a solo journey.
And all it took was one night of ceremony, and I had a full Kundalini awakening.
I remembered everything. It completely changed my life. So it's a very powerful tool.
I think a lot of the conversation online, because of what Austin kind of said on his Snapchat rant,
is about your kids and wanting to know, have your kids ever been in the home while you're hosting at-home ceremonies?
No, absolutely not. That was a lie.
I think that because He knows how sacred and how much has impacted my life,
I think that that was the one, that jab that like, I know that means a lot to her, so I'm going to say this.
And maybe a couple years ago, it would have been more hurtful.
Now it's more like, oh, you know, just,
but no, that's not true.
I think that people will throw stones
at things they don't understand.
And I think that's what happened with Austin.
Has anyone ever expressed concern to you over using Ayahuasca?
No, no, never.
Have you and Austin ever done it together?
No.
Okay, can you please explain Austin's allegation
that you quote, turned him into a mermaid?
Oh my God, I love this one.
I literally can't believe that just came out of my mouth.
I'm like, is that a thing?
Okay, tell me.
So a couple of years ago, we were always making content.
Like Austin has dressed up so many times as an older woman,
as like just funny skits and stuff.
So there was, when I started my skincare line,
I wanted to do a fun mermaid photo shoot.
And I thought like, oh my God, this is so cool
because I'm making a sunscreen
and it took me a couple of years to get here
and I wanna do something really fun and exciting.
So we went to Hawaii and there was this girl that I reached out to that wears, she wears fins.
And she's like, oh, I have so many. We'll do the campaign around the mermaid idea.
And I thought that was so cool. So I think that's what he's talking about.
But you don't think you're a mermaid?
No. I mean, I think that I'm connected to the mystics and the, you know, just these different starseed systems.
And I'm just very connected.
And I think that that, you know, I like to live authentically and I like to share my journey, you know.
I'm just, I'm very connected to these things.
But I think when people were just making fun of it and you thought, oh, I'm going to use this and just extra paint her look crazy, you know.
And it's like, I think for me, it's just funny now.
I think maybe a couple of years ago,
I would have been like, oh my gosh, that's,
I hate that he said that, but I don't care.
There has been a lot of speculation online
about an overlap between your marriage with Austin
and your relationship with your new partner, Igor.
What was the timeline there?
So, I met him on my Brazil retreat.
Met in the middle of the Amazon.
You know, I'm very honest just with my journey.
Like, I think for a long time, I was afraid of sharing timelines
because I was so in the limelight and on the camera all the time,
and it's like the timeline started to kind of scare me a little.
Now I own them.
It's okay.
Like, it was over between us.
And it had been many years of us just not having this emotional, intimate marriage
that I thought we were going to have.
And I'm going to be honest with you,
right before I went on that trip, like the months leading up to that trip,
I kept thinking I have so much baggage. When we divorced, because I felt it coming, when we officially divorced, nobody's going to want me. I have three kids. Like I'm, like I'm, you know, in this space
and people are gonna just see me as, you know, ace family mom, you know, or whatever. And I thought,
you know, who's gonna, who's gonna take me seriously? And, and I don't want to date. I'm,
I don't, I'm not a dating type of person, you know? And I thought, you know, I'm just gonna be alone
forever. And I thought, you know, I'm okay. It's okay. Like, I don't need anyone. I feel complete and whole in myself.
And I remember saying that to myself.
And in that retreat, you know, it was a four, it was a, I was there for 10 days and it was four days of the practice.
And on the third day, just, I'm like, oh my gosh, like, I don't have as much baggage as I thought I did.
I think it was all in my head.
I really started to sit with myself.
And yeah, I met him at that, in that experience.
It was a friendship.
It was like never imagined
that anything would ever go further,
ever in a million years.
Like if you would have told me, like, a year ago, two, or a couple years ago,
that I was going to meet someone, I thought, me? Me meeting somebody, who?
What does he look like? What does he do? Like, what is, how do you speak?
Right.
And I've never felt so safe in my entire life.
safe in my entire life. And I feel like I earned it because I spent so many years just being there and just like, just feeling empty and just, but I really had to pour into myself.
I really had to do that.
How do Austin and Igor feel about each other?
I can't speak for Austin because I don't know.
I think, I think like what he's done publicly to kind of just,
like, he got him a shirt on Christmas that says something about stepfather or something.
And I thought, okay, is he doing this for the Snapchat or is he doing this because he actually thinks he's stepfather-worthy.
You know?
Have you met Austin's new woman?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I met her, yeah.
I met her about a year ago, I think.
How do you feel about that? I met her. Yeah. Okay. I met her about a year ago. I think yeah, how do you feel about that?
I like her. I think honestly, um, I
Feel like my kids are the best like they're the best judge, you know
And they look come and give me information. I don't even ask. Oh, we just did this with Alexa today
I'm like, oh my gosh
Like like did you guys have fun and like just kind of seeing their like interactions and how they talk about her or anybody for
them or just anyone.
I get good vibes, you know?
And I think at the end of the day, it's like people meet each other where they're at.
So that's them.
That is their journey.
And I don't judge.
I don't have any judgment towards that.
Okay. last question.
If you could just kind of give like a final statement
to the ACE family who's watching
and who's been on this journey since your first place
where you lived with Austin and when you were pregnant
and all the things and they've been here for so long,
and they felt maybe like we've lost them
and things have changed and everything,
which change is good.
Like, what do you want to leave a lasting message
with them today?
I would say, forgiveness is key.
Yeah.
Thank you so much for coming on and talking about this
because I know there's so much behind all this
and that's why I'm happy I got to sit down with you today.
And like I had said earlier,
like I'm sure at some point I've watched and judged
and been like, what's going on?
And it's like, so nice to hear you sitting here
and like talking through why you made the decisions you made
as a mother and a woman and someone who really wanted
to stand by her husband and you explaining things
is so relatable, Catherine.
Like so much of what you said today,
I think women are going to relate to
and they shouldn't feel shame over staying.
They shouldn't feel shame over whether they got cheated on
then they stayed or they cheated and they left.
Like everyone's journey is their journey.
But I think when you've talked so beautifully
about you did what you could do at the time
and it was your best.
And now you're also at a place in your life
where you never thought you would be.
You just said, I never thought I'd find another person.
I thought I'd be alone.
I thought I had all this baggage.
And turns out there's another chapter and then there will be another chapter and another
chapter.
So I'm just so happy that you trusted me with your story and I'm really excited for everyone
to read your book.
Thank you.
Thank you for coming on. Thanks for watching!