Call Her Daddy - Do I Focus on Him or My Career?

Episode Date: June 16, 2024

Join Father Cooper for a special Father’s Day Sunday Session. Alex gives a toast to her own father and reflects on the stress she put him through when she went through her “bad boy” phase in high school. She talks about her upcoming summer plans in Nantucket and what exactly she will be up to when she goes to Paris for the Olympics. It wouldn’t be fathers day without some advice from Papa Cooper. Alex breaks down how to balance a career and a relationship and talks about how some people may not live to work - and that’s okay. She offers her take on what it means when your partner’s family has hesitations around your engagement and gives the hard truth about what’s going on when your boyfriend only wants to see you once a week. Lastly, Big Al has a PSA for all the birthday divas out there that may be a little controversial. Enjoy!

Sunday morning, fight this callin', do-do-do-do-do-do-do-do. Every Sunday's fight this day. Ah! What the fuck? That was pretty good, right? Daddy gang, welcome back to another episode of Call Her Daddy. It is officially the most important day of the year. No, it is not my birthday.

It is not the day that I came out of Lori's vagina. It is the day for the fathers. All of the fathers around the world, I would just like to say from one father to another, happy motherfucking Father's Day. Okay. The thing is when I think about Father's Day and obviously being a father to millions around the world, it's such an incredible gift that was bestowed upon me from you guys anointing me as your father. And the thing is, is like how many motherfucking deadbeat dads are out there, you know? And I take with great pride that I feel like I have really taken on this incredible journey to be a father, to not one, to not many, but to billions. I love Imagine of Colorado. He

had billions of followers. No, millions of people. And I feel like when I reflect back on how I became this resilient, supportive, incredible father that I am to all of you today. I really do have to give credit to the OG and the OG would be my own father, Mr. Brian Cooper. Dad, if you are watching this, I'm assuming you are watching this in the living room, relaxing, maybe having your cup of coffee, watching this, smiling proudly, honestly enjoying the fuck out of retirement. God bless you. I love you. And I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you so much for never giving up on me because in my demon years of being just an absolute raging psycho, specifically from freshman year to senior year of high school, I would say it really got bad that sophomore year when I met that one

boy. I understand. I put you guys through hell, but I just want you to know, thank you because you have taught me what it means to be a good dad and to be a good father. And the daddy gang thanks you. Okay. From the daddy gang and me to you, happy father's day. Dad, I love you. It's funny because growing up, my mom was always the one kind of just like handling the boy problems. And when I was dating a boy, my dad would be like, you go, like you go deal with it. And my mom would like, I could like hear them talking outside of my door. Like you go deal with her. No, you go talk to her.

Okay. I'll talk to her. Okay. Okay. Okay. And I'm like, just both of you come in. And my mom would always be the one that was dealing with me as I was sneaking out and ruining everyone's lives.

And what I will say is I will never forget. I started dating the bad boy in at the public school when I was going to this private school. And my parents really thought like, of course, if we lock her up enough at a private school, she's going to have to like hopefully find a guy that like has a trust fund, drives a Porsche and like comes from a good family. I'm like, no, no, no, no. I'm going to date the bad boy that does drugs and like really can just like ruin my life. Classic. And so I remember my mom had basically given up. She was like, I don't know much how much more I can do for her, Brian. Like I have really put everything I know into this child and she still is buying ladders off of eBay to climb out her window and to go

see this fucking boy that's going to ruin her life. And I will never forget, I'm sitting at my desk in my room on like my Dell desktop computer. I'm playing, I'm on, what the fuck was that thing called back in the day? Oh my God, it was LimeWire. I'm like illegally downloading like the new Hannah Montana song and also listening to Eminem and like raging with my tits out. Um, not actually, but just like raging and like being emo. And my dad knocks on my door and he comes in and he sits down on my bed and he's like, Hey Alex, um, I, I just, uh, I just wanted to talk to you. And now it was just like awkward in general having those type of conversations with my father

because my mother and I were having them all the time. When my mom would be driving me to soccer practice, she would be like talking to me and pouring all the good juices and lecturing into me. Just like, please do this, do this, do this. But my father and I like never really had that relationship. He always left it to my mom. So the fact that my dad was coming in and like sitting down

and I will never forget dad shout out. It was one of the most awkward moments in my brain. You probably don't even remember it. I literally hear my dad say, um, so, um, um, you know, I, um, I, I know that you want a, um, a boyfriend. And I'm like, dad, like my ears are burning at this point. I'm like, no, dad, stop. I'm like a sophomore in high school at this point. And he's like, no, no, no, no, no. And I'm like, are you about to have the sex talk with me? Like what that? He's like, no, oh my God, no, no, no. I'm not having the sex talk with you. I just wanted to say, you know, I know you want a boyfriend and I know you really like this boy, but your mother and I, and he goes on this diatribe of like, basically why not to date this kid. And what's good for me as I think about like one day becoming a parent and it's like,

how do we know how to parent well? Because as much as my parents tried so fucking hard to make me not see this boy, it honestly only made me want to see him more. Like it just was like, you're dangling this motherfucking carrot in front of my face and you're saying, don't eat it, don't eat it. So I'm going to fucking eat it. And so my poor parents, my dad just sat there. And I, I of course know that like Lori was like listening in on the door as my dad was like, we just want you to be safe.

And like, we just feel like maybe he's not the right fit. And like, you know, with soccer and like, you're trying to get a scholarship and like, you can't get in trouble like the other kids like everyone I don't know if you guys had this but like I felt like every fucking friend of mine every single person in high school was getting underage um tickets and you technically like got arrested and then you would get an underage ticket and my parents were like you cannot have that because I now looking back they told me it goes on your record like does a fucking underage drinking thing go on your record obviously if you have like a DUI I am assuming but like an underage drinking ticket does that or were they just trying to scare me dad you know what not

happy father's day to you you were lying but I honestly I do really like I did really respect them because they were genuinely just trying to be like, Alex, don't fuck up your life for a boy. And naturally when someone says that to you, you're like, I will never fuck up my life for a boy. And then naturally I started to fuck up my life for a boy, but he was worth it. He was loving my life. No, he wasn't. It just felt like it at the time. So shout out to Brian, because I just remember dad, like you trying to have that like awful, awful, awful boyfriend conversation with me. And it was one of, in my brain, the most awkward, awkward, like you trying to have that like awful, awful, awful boyfriend conversation with me. And it was one of, in my brain, the most awkward, awkward, awkward conversations that I've ever

had with you in my entire life. And thank God that dates back so fucking long. Okay. Big Bri, I love you. And you are, you are the best dad in the world. And I really appreciate you sticking through this Call Her Daddy era with me. I know when the show first started, you were not able to listen to the episodes. You kind of got the cliff notes from mom.

Understandably, you didn't need to listen to the Gluck Gluck 9000 episode. But what I do know is now you tune into my episodes every week and I love your support and I love you. So happy Father's Day, Dad. Okay, so let's talk about what else is going on. Oh my God. Wait, I completely forgot to acknowledge. I have officially deemed this room, the new Sunday Sessions room. If you guys are not watching this, I am in what kind of looks like a green, moody, vibey library. And the thing is, is I haven't read one of these books behind me, but it's motivation. You know, it's motivation to get that vocabulary up where it needs to be and really hit a new stage of intelligence. So God bless. I used to record my Sunday sessions in this room in my house.

That was like, I don't know. It was makeshift. And I was like, why am I recording here? And it was just like, I wanted to record here. So I'm very excited. I feel like this is like a new era for Sunday sessions. It's giving like father is fathering. And it's kind of like, this is kind of like grandfather vibes.

You know, when you look at me with all these books around me, it's giving wisdom. It's giving maturity. It's giving dark academia. It's giving, it's literally not giving our dark academia, but it's just giving, you know, and I felt like more at home here. So I'm happy that we're all feeling cozy today. Today, let me actually see if I have any other life updates aside from, you guys okay so my best friend Jackie is getting married soon and it's fun because I don't know if you guys have those group chats with your friends that like are very consistent and we all live kind of in different places but we have this one group chat it's me

Kristen Lauren and Jackie in this group chat so all of us have been getting ready for her wedding and it has been so fun because we're all in the group chat trying to figure out like what dresses are we gonna wear? And I will say, I'm so happy. Like I loved my wedding, but it's so fun to be on the other end of it now where Jackie, Kristen, and Lauren were all texting in our group chat,

like what are you guys wearing? And they were sending pictures about like what they were gonna wear to my wedding. And now that I'm no longer the bride, I'm really enjoying like, Jackie, I love you, but I am enjoying not having all the pressure and like the, oh my God, like I'm not going to just, I'm not going to, it's not going to be my event. And so I'm excited to just like be a supportive friend and be there for my best friend and be there with my friends and just like have fun and party. And so I have a lot coming up, I would say this summer.

I don't know when this is coming out, but I am going to Nantucket this summer, which I'm really excited about. Matt and I went to Nantucket for the first time last summer. And I remember we were trying to decide like, what do we want to do for our summer vacation? Because basically, like, I, everyone at our company, as I'm sure a lot of companies obviously do, like, we get off for 4th of July. And we're like, OK, what did we want to do? And so last year, we decided that we were going to go to Nantucket. And I remember so vividly how we decided on this was growing up on the East Coast.

I just feel like such cozy vibes with like an East Coast summer. But I think spending a relaxing time in like the Hamptons, for example, the Hamptons is like so fucking bougie in terms of like I feel like everyone kind of just like wants to be seen there and like everyone like is you're like putting on your best outfit and you're like trying to like, it's just like very seamy and I'm not shitting on the Hamptons. Like I think the Hamptons are super fun for partying specifically in my opinion. Like if you want to party, I would maybe go to the Hamptons, but if you want to actually have a relaxing time, I wanted to try out Nantucket or Martha's Vineyard last summer. And so I was

like, Matt, I love you. We don't need to go to Malibu. Let's not go to Santa Barbara. Like, let's try an East Coast summer. And Matt grew up with his family going to this like camp in Maine and he had great experiences there. So I was like, okay, let's do an East Coast summer. And so last year when we went to Nantucket, I will say it was one of the most relaxing, incredible vacations I ever had because I was like, we just sat and did nothing other than eat lobster rolls and just relaxed. And it was fabulous. So we're going to do Nantucket again this summer and I'm going to the Olympics, you guys. And what's so crazy to think about with the Olympics is like, obviously I grew up watching the Olympics and I was an athlete. So I would like watch with my whole family, like just so excited to see the standout stars of that. like everyone with the Olympics. It's like,

you start to kind of just like recognize like who are like the best of the best. And, and it's so fun to watch these people like then become celebrities and everyone in the world knows them. And so I just remember it was so fun growing up watching the Olympics and to be able to go to the Olympics now and to be participating with NBC. Like it's a really, it's a really like surreal feeling. And I feel so grateful for this opportunity. Like NBC Universal and I basically are teaming up and I'm going to be doing my own like watch party basically on Peacock. If you guys didn't know this, here we go. So the Olympics, I'm going to be going to Paris. I'm going to have my own show, I'm going to be going to Paris.

I'm going to have my own show and I'm going to basically just watch the sports kind of like red zone. You guys know red zone when you're like watching football and it's all like the highlights. I'm going to basically be doing that for all the sports. And I'm just so excited, like Paris in the summer. And it's going to be just such an incredible experience. And I actually just was recently interviewing these two incredible, incredible beach volleyball players. Shout out Sarah and Kelly. I think that interview will come out soon on NBCU. But I am meeting these athletes and they're such incredible people. And I'm just so excited to watch the U.S. hopefully dominate. And yeah, so I'm getting ready for all of what summer has to offer me, you guys. Okay, Daddy Gang. So I figured for Father's Day, there's absolutely no other gift that I can give you that would

be better than a good old fashioned Chris Jones of the motherfucking week. I just feel like I know that you guys are going through it as am I in different ways in my life. And we're all going through it. We're all trying to survive. So what can I do? I can answer some of your questions and we can just kind of talk about what the fuck is going on. Okay. Switching careers for a man. A daddy gang member wrote in and said, I just graduated from college and I'm currently deciding what I want to do for my career. I always thought I would go into medicine, but ever since I met my boyfriend, I realized that I might want a career that would give me more work-life balance. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and I have

never believed in a relationship more than this one, but I can't help but feel like I am giving up a girl boss career to follow a guy how should I approach this decision okay here's the thing I everyone is different and I think that's what's really important as we get older is like I will admit like I see so much understandably conversation around women and careers now and it is such a fucking privilege that we actually are able to work like it's so refreshing that now we are starting to be taken a little bit more seriously obviously we still have like pay gaps and all the things but like we have made progress ladies we can vote although we just basically lost autonomy over our bodies um that's a whole other conversation um but like we've made progress and so I think understandably like women are excited and we want to be able to do whatever the fuck we want if we want to work if we don't want to work like we we just want to have the

option and that was not something that people that came before us as women like had the privilege of. And so I think that there though, unfortunately is, and I've seen it online, like there's just a lot of pressure. I feel like for some women who are like, I kind of want to be like a stay at home mom. Like there is not only is there nothing wrong with wanting to be a stay at home mom, that is a fucking full-time job in itself. And I feel like women feel, I think some women, one, feel anxious that they may be judged if they don't do maybe what some of their friends are doing. Like, oh, I'm not girl bossing hard enough. Babe, if you don't want to girl boss, and also I fucking hate the name.

I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I hate the word girl bossing hard enough, babe, if you don't want to girl boss, and also I fucking hate the name. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I hate the word girl boss. But like, if you don't want to have a really like intense career that is like takes a lot of your time, that's okay. My only advice when it comes to this though, is I want you to always make a decision based off of if you lost this person tomorrow, whether they ghosted you disappeared, or you literally just like lost them. I'm not saying like died. Oh my God. I mean, you could pretend he died tomorrow and like, how would you feel? Well, not only how would you feel, but like, how would you go about it? Like, would you be upset that you didn't follow medicine? What I'm trying to say is I hope he's alive and I hope he's fine. I want you to just make sure that you're not enjoying

the just like immediacy of falling in love and you're not just like leaning too hard into oh my gosh I'm just really enjoying the perks of being a girlfriend and like loving living with someone and living this life that is amazing but then all of a sudden when that dies down will you start to be like hmm I wish I did maybe follow my career? Or are you actually just saying like you're recognizing that the medical field is just too much for you and it just doesn't really fit the lifestyle that you want? Like I guess I would just say, and I don't know if this is realistic, because you're not married and you don't have children yet, I would just encourage you to really try to make the decision in a way that has no impact from this partner that you're

currently dating. You've only been dating a year. A year is a long time. I don't want you to regret anything. And so maybe you do try to just pursue something in the medical field that you had wanted to do. You can always stop. Or if you're like having like anxiety around this career, then maybe it really does have nothing to do with the guy and merely it maybe it is that like this is not something that you're interested in. I think my advice is just you need to differentiate. Is this because you're in love

and you're enjoying this lifestyle with someone, which again, there's nothing wrong with that, but I wouldn't want you to give up on a career because of this like temporary, really exciting time. The first year of dating is so fun. Like, are you kidding me? I remember when I met Matt and there were times where it was like, oh my God, he was going here for a movie. And I was like, fuck, like I have to stay home and I have to do this interview. And like, of course, I fucking love my job. But when you're like being swept off your feet and you're like having that first year romance honeymoon stage, are you kidding me? I would fucking love to like not be doing my job

and like fucking mail it in and just like fucking marry rich. Okay. And be like, Ooh, I did it. Like I think there's, you just have to know within yourself if you are passionate about this, or was it a decision going into the medical field that you thought you had a passion and you're recognizing it kind of actually gives you anxiety but I do just think it's a larger conversation for women of like we need to stop comparing ourselves like I personally find a lot of my fulfillment and I feel like my purpose in life, a lot of it is my job. Like I don't look at this sometimes like a job and I feel so fortunate that this is my friends recently and I one of my friends was talking about how like she works to live, not lives to work. And I was like, oh, my God, like I like live to work. Like I love working. I don't even see my job as work. Like I feel so fortunate and we were all having a conversation about how like it is so incredible it was four girls and two of us were like we love our job and it like gives us such purpose and it's

part of our identity and then the other two women were like oh my god I don't like hate my job but I so don't like if I could stop working tomorrow and like just be given a check to like live a stay-at-home mom life or just like even live like an at-home life and not have to work, I would immediately not work. And I think that's so okay. Both dynamics are so fucking fine. Like amazing if you're so passionate about your job and if you're not passionate about it, that's also okay. I think recognizing which you relate more to can help you kind of make this decision. Are you giving up a career that you actually love and you have wanted your whole life, but it's kind of hindering your

ability to spend time with this new boyfriend? I would say pursue your career. I would say you've always loved this. You've wanted to go for it. Go for it. And if he's the right guy, he'll always be there. And you guys can figure out times for date nights and you can figure out times that work that you guys can spend time together. Matt and I both work so many hours and we carve out time all the time so that it's like us time. So I would just say, think about it and maybe don't completely just go cold turkey and like give it up.

Like maybe you should pursue it for the next year just to make sure that you're not giving up on something that you really enjoy and that really fulfills you. Okay, here we go. Next question. My boyfriend and I decided to get married and we are very excited about it. We've been together for nine years and feel ready to take this next step. We immediately told our families and everyone seemed happy for us. But the next day, my boyfriend told me that he received three calls from his mom and sister asking him if he was sure. I don't know how to take this. They're his family, so I definitely do not want drama, but it made me feel bad. They're being very supportive and even helping with planning. But in the back of my mind,

I can't stop wondering if they don't like me. Should I address this or let this go? Okay. My first note, babe, is like nine fucking years. You've been together for nine years and you're curious if they like you or not. I'm going to go ahead and say, revisit the last nine years. Context clues. Did they treat you like a little piece of shit or were they giving you that good love? Were they giving you like a little piece of shit? Or were they giving you that good love? Were they giving you that like good family treatment? Because what I will say is I'm assuming you know from those nine years your relationship and where you stand with these people.

And if you don't, I would say that's probably a problem, which means you're not close with them. And then I would say, why aren't you close with them? Totally fine if it's proximity, maybe you don't live near them, but it sounds like you guys do live near them. So I would say, listen, I don't know the context, but I will say this. If you have had a wonderful nine years with this man and you found this out from your partner, I have two notes, which I'm curious about actually as I'm thinking about this. Number one, I think that it's okay for parents to ask and family

members to ask if you're sure when you're making a really big life decision, obviously, you know, like getting married is a very serious thing. And I think understandably families are going to be extremely just like protective of their family member and wanting to check in. Like, are you sure? Because listen, I'm not judging, but I'm based on the facts that you dated for nine years. You have been together for almost a decade. Some people would be like, why did it take you guys so long to get engaged? And so again, I know I'm not in the conversation of your relationship, but my worry as I'm thinking this through is has he throughout those nine years not proposed because there have been things in the relationship that he has expressed to his family he is hesitant

about and he's hesitant to start a future with you and get married because of these things? And are they reaching out to him basically saying like, are you sure? Because they're basically checking in to see like, have these things gotten resolved? Because I don't think after nine years, if he has been literally the happiest person in the fucking world. This motherfucker is a jolly green jumping gene, bean, gene, gene, bean, gene. Gene, bean, gene is jumping for joy. Maybe his name is Gene. You and Gene are getting married. Picture this. And every motherfucking Thanksgiving and Christmas and Easter and holiday and Hanukkah and whatever the fuck religion you are, maybe you're a fucking Buddhist bitch, okay? Whatever you're dangling with and dancing with, maybe he's been the happiest

motherfucker alive, okay? Nine years of bliss, okay? And maybe then I would say, if his parents are asking, if he's sure, that doesn't make sense. That doesn't fucking make sense. Nine years. You know what I mean? There's something missing here. Why have you guys waited nine years to get married? Have you guys had a conversation? I don't know. And again, I'm not being judgy. I actually am just curious, like, oh, nine years together. That's a pretty fucking long time. Like, have you guys talked about having a family together? Has he bitched about you to his family? Something is missing here. Something is missing. And then my only other inclination about this that is family. Something is missing here. Something is missing.

And then my only other inclination about this that is a little off is why did he tell you? If this motherfucker intends to marry you, why did he tell you? Oh, he's just like dumping his fucking trauma on you being like my parents said this to me. And then he leaves you with like no conclusion. I think you need to have a conversation about it because no matter what, this is gonna be weighing on you.

And this is one of the biggest decisions of your life. You're about to legally bind yourself to this motherfucker. And who knows, maybe Gene has been talking a little fucking dirty, dirty about you for the past nine years. And then finally, God forbid he like is like, oh, well, I guess I'll just fucking mail it in. Like I haven't found anyone.

Oh my God, I'm sorry. I'm like, I don't wanna make you spiral. But I don't know, Daddy Gang, like, well, I guess I'll just fucking mail it in. Like, I haven't found anyone. Oh my God, I'm sorry. I'm like, I don't want to make you spiral. But I don't know, Daddy Gang, like write in, like my worry for you is just like after nine years for his parents to be like, are you sure? And his mother and his sister and everyone calling, what are we missing? I would really be like, finally, motherfucker.

That's really, finally, let's get the show on the road. Like I would be more on that end rather than like, are you sure? Oh, do we need another decade to fucking figure it out? But I'm really sorry because that just sucks. This is supposed to be like an incredible time and happy time in your life. And I can imagine seeing them helping,

trying to plan like the wedding and stuff. You're like, bitch, you just fucking talk shit on me. Like go fuck yourself. No, I don't want you to come fucking dress shopping with me. You fucking whore. Yeah. Fuck his sister. No, I'm just kidding. Um, okay. Next question. This is about different preferences on how often to hang out with your boyfriend. Okay. How do I tell my boyfriend I want to spend more time together for contacts? I felt like my ex-boyfriend's lowest priority and I

would only see him once a week. So when I started seeing my current boyfriend, I made what I was looking for very clear. I don't need to see him every day, but I want to hang out at least three to four times a week. At first things were going great, but now we're definitely seeing each other way less. I don't want to be clingy, but how do I ask to spend more time together? Ooh, that's fucking tough because I guess I would need a little bit more context of like, how old are you? Are you in college? Are you in high school? Are you out of college? Because here's the thing. I feel like in college, I saw this person all the time. Like any of the guys that I dated in college, like literally what else are you doing? I'm like leaving the dining hall.

Where are you at? Leaving English. Where are you at? Going to the party. Where are you at? Want to come over? Like every in between fucking practice and everything. You're like, where are you?

And so although of course we would have nights where like maybe he would go to like dinner with his family if they were in town. Like you're never not going to a party without your boyfriend unless they're like fucking sick. So like college breeds kind of this like codependency where like it's weird almost if you don't do everything together because what the fuck else are you doing in college? You're like masturbating, going to class and having drama to deal with. I would say if you're out of college though, I understand this because I have actually had this conversation recently with one of my friends who is starting

to date this new person and they kind of like recently made it official. And so now I'm like, ooh, like do you guys, like do you guys hang out on a Monday night? And we were just kind of talking about like, what is the right amount? And I feel like you have to just have an honest conversation. I think three to four times could be great for you. I think every day could be great for you if that's what you want. Or I personally think once a week is literally like absolutely not acceptable. I would be like, what are you doing every single night? And the thing for me and everyone is different, but one of the things for me that I would really love about a partner is like, I think there's like multiple different aspects of being in a relationship

when it comes out to hanging out. So I need my like movie nights, ordering food, some wine, movie nights, chilling, relaxing, and like just like spending quality time together. That's like one aspect of a relationship for me. I think the other aspect of the relationship is like going out and being social together. So going out to dinners with our friends, going on a double date, going to a dinner party, going to work events. Matt and I, I would say every week Matt and I are going to, and I know I'm married, but I'm actually talking about when

Matt and I were dating. Matt and I would go to at least like, I would say one dinner a week with friends. One dinner a week that was work, even though I tried to blow Matt off every fucking time he asked me to go to a work event. I'm like, oh my God, it's so weird. Like I feel like, Ooh, I feel like a little sniffles coming on. And then there's family and family is like, once you are dating someone, I'm assuming, you know, his mom, you know, his dad. And so like family dinners, like Matt and I, I would say almost every other Sunday are going to his grandmother's or his mom's house and we have family dinners. Like this Sunday, as you're all watching this, I will be at Matt's brother's house. They're throwing Father's Day. And so we're all going to be there and we're like having a big dinner.

And that's what comes with being in a relationship. So I would say to you, you could have a conversation with him because as I'm saying that, I'm like, how does someone only hang out once a week? If you're dating, that literally means that you're like barely like integrated into each other's lives. Because what is he doing every single night? Is he hanging out with his friends without you? I think when you start dating and you're getting more into adult relationships, like you need to hang out with his friends. It's weird if he's always having boys nights. I understand in college that is like a whole fucking thing of like, we're going out with the boys still then. I mean, yeah, is the, is the one girl that's annoying. That's like, I'm going out with him and all the boys,

like let him have a fucking boys night. Those are probably the people that are like I'm going out with him and all the boys like let him have a fucking boys night those are probably the people that are like getting a little too anxious like he's gonna cheat at boys night let him have his boys nights but if his boys nights are every fucking weekend you're never invited bitch like during the pandemic Matt would always play in this poker league and he would either go to a friend's house or he would host it and I was like he would always be like do you want to come hang out and I'm like Matt what kind of crazy bitch do I look like no I don't want to be the only fucking person with a vagina sitting there watching you guys fucking jack each other off and like fight about fucking poker I don't care about that I'm gonna use this time to catch up on Grey's Anatomy but I did like that he invited me I'm not gonna lie I was like oh like I like that you I like that, you know, that you appreciate me enough and

you trust me enough that like I can come hang with all of your friends and you won't be like embarrassed by me. But no, I would rather fucking go hang out with my girlfriends or go fucking lay on my couch or FaceTime one of my long distance friends for five hours while you're fucking losing all your money. So for you, my biggest concern is how are you not hanging out more often? And for sure, I understand there are some people that like they don't have work shit. OK, fuck work shit. What about social shit? Like, I think I would say to you, start to carve out in your brain what you would ideally

like. You said that you and your boyfriend hung out like three to four times in the beginning and you were so happy about it. My only concern is I feel like this sounds like more like a situationship if I'm being honest. I feel like situationships you almost like the sex is so good in the beginning and you're like kind of like it's fun you're hooking up and then it can start to wean off. That's natural. You don't owe each other anything. To have your boyfriend like slowly start to wean off more I'm worried for you this kind of means like this could be more of like the end of the relationship vibe rather than like you need to have a conversation.

So before you have the conversation, I think my first problem for you would be why are you guys not hanging out more? And I get it if let's say he just got a new job and he is so, so, so busy. And it is like, babe, I am in my grind right now. Like I am literally working such insane hours. And when I get home, I literally just want to lay in my bed and just like go to fucking sleep. And like, I'm so exhausted. I'll see you on the weekend. I can kind of understand that like a little bit, but I still would say like I kind of like okay then like let me just come over and like let's lay together and like not to be a dick like okay so do you not want to get like fucked at least like that could be nice like after a long days of work like I'm down to like come over

as your girlfriend and like get mine and you get yours and then don't talk and go to fucking bed like I don't know like I know there were nights where I was so fucking busy and I was doing two podcasts. At one point, it was kind of weird during the pandemic. I would record sometimes two podcasts in a day, which is just like not good for the mental health. You're like, how much more can I fucking say? You will start to like hate yourself because you're like, shut the fuck up. I'm talking too much. And Matt would be like, let me just come over. This is when we didn't live together. And he would like, let me just come over. And I'd be like, Matt, like, I'm going to be a really bad version of myself. And he was like, let me guess. You want to get in bed, eat snacks and watch your

shows? And I was like, yes. And he was like, perfect. I will come over and let's just lay together and I'll watch your shows with you. And I was like, oh my God. And what naturally happens though is he'll come over and he'll bring me extra food and we would lay, we would have sex. And then slowly I would get so relaxed that then I would be like, how was your day? And even those like hour to 30 minutes alone together before we would go to bed, it was, we were connecting and we were spending quality time together. And that's important in a relationship because guess what? When you get fucking married and you have kids and all those things, like your alone time just dwindles

and so right now being in the best stage being in the dating phase like bitch this is supposed to be when you're just like up each other's motherfucking assholes obviously like I always say independence and having alone time with your friends and having alone time is important but I worry for you like why is it dwindling you know, why are you not hanging out more? Why did it go down to less than three times a week? Like I'm assuming what two in one. So I'm sorry. You're feeling this way. That really sucks that you're not feeling like he's prioritizing you, but I don't think he will know that unless you say it. So I think it's you sitting him down and you expressing, hey, I love you. I think, I don't know, maybe you don't love him. I'm assuming you love him

if he's your boyfriend. And I think you can just say, hey, and obviously cater this to like your dynamic, but you can say, hey, I love you so much. And I was reflecting back on the beginning days of our relationship because if I'm honest, like I kind of miss you. And it's weird to say I miss you because you're my boyfriend. Like why am I missing you? And I realized like we haven't been hanging out as much as recently. And I wanted to just check in with you of like how you feel about that. Because I think think I mean you could go two ways you could just go right ahead and say that you're not happy that you're not hanging out as much but I think you saying you miss him is like a sweet loving way instead of

being like why don't we hang out as much and I think once you approach it like I miss you and then ask him how he feels about it you're kind of gonna probably get your answer from whatever he says imagine if his response is literally like yeah I've just been like super busy. And like, honestly, I'm not going to lie. Like I don't have as much time anymore, blah, blah, blah. Bye. Literally bye. And I think that's when you can be honest being like, I have to be honest with you. I don't know if that's going to work for me in a relationship. Like I look at a relationship and I want to have connection and I want to be each other's primary partner and I want to be together and I want to have fun and I want to have nights together. I want to have nights socially. And like right now it's like I'm barely

seeing you. So I do think, God forbid, that happens. It's kind of on you to decide if that's the type of relationship that you want I personally would not be able to handle that but I also know people do long distance but again what's crazier is like I bet people would write in long distance and say they talk more than potentially you talk to your boyfriend who lives like down the block from you and that makes me sad for you um and if he says listen like I'm not gonna lie I've noticed too. And I'm really just been so busy and I've been stressed and like, I'm so sorry. And I'm so sorry you've been feeling this way. I think that's great. And sometimes people just need to recalibrate. I think sometimes we can overthink things and life is fucking stressful. And like,

it's so exhausting having a job, having friends, having family, having a relationship. Like, how do we juggle all of it? I don't know. But I'm sorry. That really sucks. And I don't know. I feel like once I get a boyfriend, I'm just like, it's weird if we're not hanging out at least every other night. Why does he not want to hang out with you more than once a week?

You know? My boyfriend's best friend is getting married on my birthday next year. My boyfriend is the best man, so obviously we would never miss the wedding. We did tell them that's my birthday though, so they are aware, which is why the fact that they planned their bridal party weekend retreat on my birthday this year is so annoying. I take birthdays very seriously and already had plans for me and my boyfriend. Should I cave and just celebrate without my boyfriend this year so he can go to this event? Or should I say something and ask him to skip it and spend time with me instead? Okay, I am the wrong person to ask this because I'm sorry. I don't give a fuck about my birthday.

Obviously, I'm really happy I'm alive, but I really don't give a shit about my birthday, which I don't know if that's weird being a Leo that I don't care about my birthday, but I really don't give a shit about my birthday, which I don't know if that's weird being a Leo that I don't care about my birthday, but I really don't give a fuck. And so I'm not going to lie. You may not like my answer, but this is my honest answer. You should get your fucking ass to your boyfriend's best friend's bridal shower and the next weekend celebrate your birthday. Like I think what you're forgetting is you're one person and I understand you were birthed that weekend and God bless. And I'm so happy you're also alive with me here on this planet earth. Okay. But sweetheart, this is a bridal party, which means there are people coming from out of state. There are planners. There are caterers. There are multiple,

multiple, multiple, multiple people and things that these people are having to plan in order for it to be this weekend. And because it is a year out from their wedding, maybe this is like sentimental to them and they wanted to do it exactly a year out. I don't know. But when it comes to weddings, like I love you to death. I don't know you, but I love you to death, but I'm going to be real. Um, you saying it's so annoying. They scheduled it on my birthday weekend. I don't think they're planning anything around your birthday because as adults, who the fuck plans anything around other people's birthdays? Like, Ooh, like I'm S I don't want to like go on this trip because it's your birthday or it's, it's like, Oh my God, my, I'm pretty sure it was someone's birthday at my wedding.

And like, they didn't bring it up and I'm sure they celebrate. Like, I really worry for you. I worry for you that this could come off like insensitive and bratty. This is the thing I will say. Okay. Ready for this. You, I hope you live a very long life. I hope you live until a hundred years old. Every single year of your life, you get to celebrate your birthday. How amazing is that? For someone who loves their birthdays, you get to celebrate every year. You get to make it your birthday motherfucking month every year. If you love your birthday so much, I'm assuming you do a birthday month, right? So what I would say is every year you get to celebrate. These people are getting married once.

Hopefully, who knows, they make a divorce. But they're getting married currently once in their life. And so to think with love that for two years on your exact birthday, you may need to suck it up and support your boyfriend's best friend and their life and celebrating their life together. I'm gonna go ahead and say, suck it the fuck up. Okay. And that may be controversial to all my birthday people out there. I can't relate. So I don't know. You don't need to take my advice, but I would say this is being a little dramatic. You can easily, easily with you and your boyfriend the night before or the night after or the weekend

before or the weekend after you can celebrate your birthday. Put your fucking boyfriend in birthday jail. In my brain, this is what jail would look like. And every single weekend before that bridal party, make him celebrate your fucking birthday. Honestly, if I ever dated someone that did that to me, not only would I break up with them, I would block them and I would fucking literally shit on them for the rest of eternity in my brain. That's just me. Yeah, I don't think that you can make this about you. Unfortunately, all jokes aside, I really feel like you have so many birthdays that you can celebrate. This is unfortunate. I understand you and I hear you that you take your birthday really seriously. But I think we got to move on from this. And my only

other question is maybe, just maybe um you should look inward of why this is so upsetting to you because maybe you are just one of those people that really gives a fuck about the birthday so much and it's just that or maybe like do you feel like your boyfriend's not giving you as much attention recently so like you're using your birthday as an opportunity to connect with him and make like get attention I don't know that could literally not be the case you literally just may love fucking birthdays you are literally the mother fucking birthday queen bitch you are the birthday girl how about this would this make it better obviously you're a fan of you know the show obviously you're a supporter of the show love you love it here happy birthday

to you I wish I fucking knew your name. I feel like you're like a, you're like a, let's call you Margaret. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday. Happy birthday. Happy birthday to you, Margaret. But guess what Not everything Is about you And life Is not fair

So it's time For you To put on Your big girl pants and get the fuck over it. I fucking love you. I'm sorry if I was just a cunt, but like I fucking hate birthdays. I think they're so fucking stupid. We were born once. We don't need to celebrate every fucking year. I'm happy to be alive. Let's keep it fucking moving.

But Matt, if you don't give me a motherfucking birthday gift, I will literally kill you. Anyways, yeah, birthday gifts are great. But like, you know, not everyone needs to fucking give a fuck about your birthday, Margaret. OK, and how about that? You just got a happy birthday sing along from Alex Cooper on call her daddy, clip this and fucking show it to the bridal party and be like, guys, it's my birthday. Can we all sing along to Alex this year? Make it about you. I'm just kidding. If you fucking did that, I would literally like break up with you. If I was your boyfriend, honestly, love you. Love you to

death. Move the fuck on daddy gang. That is it for this week's episode here's the thing father is back oh I'm just so fucking happy I have this new room it makes me feel so cozy to be in here I feel like I'm like I don't know I feel like it's so different than the call her daddy studios which I think is fun and exciting obviously the color daddy studios are pink and fun and flirty and this is very like oh let's get cozy let's talk about the real shit. Let's talk about fucking bitches that love their birthdays. And let's just fucking really tell the tea of the tea. Daddy gang, I would just like to say thank you so much for always supporting the show. Being a father means more to me. And honestly, this is my first Father's Day as a married man, which is very exciting.

And I'm quite excited. I feel like my dick grew an inch and I'm feeling fucking good as shit that Father's Day, Father's Day feel pretty fucking good this year. So I love you all to all of my daddies out there around the world. God bless you. Anyways, goodbye. Shout out to you, Margaret. Shout out to everyone else that wrote in this week. I have so many more questions that I could have answered, but I just feel like I'm not going to lie. It is Father's Day. So I think I should go treat myself to a little motherfucking cocktail and go have some good sex because everyone should have some good sex on Father's Day.

Daddy gang, you know the motherfucking drill. I will see you fuckers this Wednesday. Bye-bye.