Call Her Daddy - Euro Tour 2022: Life Updates

Episode Date: June 29, 2022

Father Cooper is back at it again with a SOLO episode. Should you or should you not post your partner on social media? Alex gets personal, sharing the true reason why she will NEVER post her boyfriend on the internet. Speaking of social media, Alex takes a stand on influencers and their ability to influence… it may be controversial but someone needs to say it. Heading into summer single? Dreading the apps? Hate going on first dates? Father Cooper is your resident hype woman, and here with the best advice you’re going to need before putting yourself out there. Alex gives a major life update that comes with advice on how to handle changing family dynamics. This episode was recorded prior to the Supreme Court ruling that overturned Roe v Wade. Call Her Daddy supports a woman’s right to choose and Alex will address this topic in future episodes. RESOURCES FOR FINDING A CLINIC: AbortionFinder.Org ProChoice.Org RESOURCES FOR ABORTION PILLS: HeyJane.Co MyChoix.Co RESOURCES FOR FINANCIAL HELP: AbortionFunds.Org ProvideCare.Org RESOURCES FOR LEGAL HELP: AidAccess.Org ReProLegalHelpline.Org

Hello, Daddy Gang. Before you listen to this episode, I need to make a statement. This episode was recorded last week, before the Supreme Court voted to overturn Roe v. Wade. This ruling took away a woman's constitutional right to have an abortion. As a result, states have already started to fully ban or severely restrict access to legal, medically safe abortions. To put this in perspective, the highest court in the United States decided women are less than equal and incapable of making decisions about their own health and welfare. I am horrified, disgusted, and very sad. There is so much more to say on this injustice. Call her daddy will always support and defend a woman's right to equality and her right to fucking choose. Daddy gang, please educate yourselves as we move forward

and educate each other together because this conversation seriously matters. We matter. And we will not accept a less than equal status. In the description, you'll see I have provided the basics, some information that will help you grasp what the fuck is happening. And I will be covering this topic at greater length, but knew that I needed to say something before airing this episode. I love you all and there's more to come. What is up daddy gang? It is your founding father Alex Cooper with Call Her Daddy. Hello. Can you guys let me know if you can fucking hear me? It's Alex. I'm podcasting from bed today. I'm currently in London and I think I'm doing an Australian accent with a hint of fucking cringe. Hi guys, it's Alex. Welcome back to another episode of Call Her Daddy Gang. Okay, I have so much to update you guys on. I have not talked to you

guys about what's been going on in my life for a while. And so I figured, let's sit down on Papa's lap. Come on, sit on Papa's big fucking lap, baby. Okay, so I am currently in London, as I said, but we're gonna rewind. I kind of have kicked off this long, long travel situation. And I want to bring you guys along for the ride. Okay, so let's get into it. Another solo episode of Call Her Daddy. All right, here we go. So a few weeks ago, I left Los Angeles and the stress that was upon me, such first world problems. I'm aware, okay, but I'm gonna talk about it. The stress of packing.

I was leaving for over a month and for me, packing, I was freaking the fuck out because if you guys know me, my holy grail, my go-to, my uniform is sweatpants and hoodies. It's what I'm comfortable in. It's what I podcast in. It's what I go on dates in to my boyfriend's dismay. And it's just how I live my life. But something about

this trip I really wanted to just be. The word edgy doesn't fit the description of how I view myself. I would just say I wanted to at least put on like clothing that wasn't with an elastic waistband. A concept would be to button my pants a few times on my trip. So I wanted to try to like channel cute girl energy and feel good about myself, right? Because all the clothes that I buy, I never fucking wear and I always wear my sweatpants. So I was like, Alex, let's dip into that closet. so daddy gang I did not pack one and I am saying this honestly I did not pack one pair of sweatpants I don't know if that sounds startling to anyone but if you know me it's shocking even my boyfriend when we got here was like babe let's just go buy you a pair of sweats like he could tell I've been like a little unhinged because whenever we get back from like eating breakfast, eating

lunch, eating dinner, naturally I want to put on my sweats and I have nothing to put on. So I'm just putting on the robe and the hotel slippers, which is doing fine. But like I'm someone that gets very cold often. And so I'm just trying to find my rhythm in jeans. And so the first leg of my trip was going to be to fly to New York City and to go to the Hamptons. Flights right now are absolutely getting fucked. I just feel really awful for flight attendants and everyone working right now in the airports and for the airlines. Like these people are working so fucking hard and I was so upset because people started screaming at the women that were like running the front desk to get to board onto the plane and I wanted to take my turkey sandwich and slap it across this man's

face he's like ma'am why are you lying to us let us on the plane I wanted to be like shut your little small fucking dick and shove it up your asshole I was just so mad because I'm like these women are trying so fucking hard they're super understaffed I don't know I just felt really fucking bad and I just feel like everyone needs to be a little nicer to everyone that's working in that industry right now it's like they went through hell during COVID of people literally threatening their lives like I look at like flight attendants I get it you. You're like, you know, I thought it was really fun to travel the world and help people on the planes. Now my life is at stake because these fucking psychopaths don't want to wear a mask. Yeah. It's always fun to go back to New York, but I will say something about

this trip. I kind of felt like, Ooh, I am thinking I'm liking my Los Angeles life and I love popping into New York, but I don't know if I would want to full, full time live there anymore, which is crazy for me to say because up until that point, I think my boyfriend was like, hey, babe, I know we're buying a house together, but like want to just triple check because you constantly talk about how you want to live in New York. And that is the truth. I think when I left New York, I had like really mixed emotions about it. I realize now living in LA, like New York, you really do take pride in that living in constant fight or flight mode 24 fucking seven. And I love going for like a long weekend but there is something really relaxing

about having a backyard you know and and being able to walk in grass outside of your house so I think I'm actually really liking LA which is good because I did just buy a house there so that that is very good god forbid you live somewhere you hate, which anyone that's moved to a new city, I would really say this. You got to give it a little bit of time because you don't have the understanding. And I moved there in COVID. No shit. I was like, I fucking hate this place. What am I doing here? I didn't know anywhere to go. I couldn't go anywhere. I think you got to give a little bit of time. Have no fear if you're miserable and you've just moved somewhere. Don't worry. You'll find friends. You'll find your footing. You'll find your go a love hate relationship with it.

I truly there's so many things I actually like do love. And sure, a couple times it's crossed my mind. What a fucking average place to be born. But you know what? I turned out all right, right? Well, you know, so I go to Pennsylvania and I saw my family, which was so so fun I got to see my mom and my dad I would say it's also fun being an adult adult now and having a relationship as an adult with my parents so I will give you guys some personal insight my mom and I have been best best friends for the past I don't know like when I'm 27 so, I would say seven years, we've been best friends. And I stop at 20 because then, no, 18. No, I would say 10 years. Nope. No. My mom and I have been best friends for the last nine years of my life, taking it back to about like 18 years

old once I went to college. My high school years, you know, we ebbed and flowed because once I got involved with boys, she really was just like, can you not ruin your life? And please don't get pregnant. And why are you sneaking out? And Alex, why did you buy a ladder off of eBay? Dad has his credit card. You literally have a retractable ladder hanging out of your window. You fucking. You got to do what you got to fucking gotta fucking do okay I was the girl that was ready for college is what I always tell my mom now I'm like aren't you so happy I drank and I fucked in high school so I wasn't the girl that blacked out the first night at college she's like no like uh no anyways so my mom and I have always been so close because I think we are so so similar

and we're we've always been so close except for that weird high school phase where I was like a psychopath and she was like just trying to help me not ruin my life. But recently, I have been feeling that transition that people have talked about, but I guess I didn't really understand it because I'd never gone through it, which is how your relationship with your parents change when you become an adult and how your parents have to adjust to you becoming an adult. My mom's gonna be like, thanks for blowing up my shit. No. And she's been handling it so well. But I think both of my siblings live on the East Coast and I was the first one to move really far away to the

West Coast and be living there and having my boyfriend now and being in a really serious relationship and buying a house. I'm doing all these big things and you know my career is going really well and so I think in a way I'm really feeling this year has felt like damn I'm really like adulting in a way now that like the first person that I go to is not my mom anymore. I go to my boyfriend. Like he's the person that if I'm going through something, if I'm upset, if I need business advice, if I need friendship advice, if I need, you know, to just talk through something that's like weighing on me, like whatever it is family wise, like I'm going to my boyfriend. He's kind of my immediate now primary go-to, which is what every parent hopes, right? My family loves my boyfriend. They're like,

I don't know how you found this man after all the men you've dated. It's truly remarkable that you ended up with this healthy, stable, successful, sweet, intelligent man. See, that was the plan the whole time. I always knew, guys, that I was one day going to find someone healthy. Well, I also thought maybe I'd end up alone, but that's for another episode. But now finding my boyfriend, there's nothing hotter to me than him. And this level of this man that is such a fucking adult and is so hot and successful and thriving and is treats me like a fucking king yes but I don't even know where oh my mom right so so my mom and I I think kind of had this weird moment where I kind of pulled back because I realized we're so close if I'm gonna really go all in and be an adult I kind of pulled back because I realized we're so close. If I'm going to really go all in and be an

adult, I kind of need to pull away from my mom for a second so that I can actually lean in and not be going to my mom for everything still. Right. And so we kind of were like not talking as much and neither of us was saying anything. And I would say it to my boyfriend all the time. I'm like, I feel like I don't know what's going on with my mom and I and he'd be like just call her and I'd be like no and so this process had been gradual and building ever since I moved to LA and I think there started to be this feeling of animosity no that's not even the right word but like we just I think both were kind of like annoyed with each other of like well why aren't you reaching out well why aren't you reaching out and I knew she was trying to give me space and I was happy she was giving me space so I didn't want to call her I now recognize I was avoiding I was avoiding having any communication with my mom

because I didn't know how to talk to her in a way that still felt real and authentic to the relationship we've had for the past 27 years of my life, but reflected the fact that I was becoming independent. She didn't need to run damage control in my life anymore, which means we need to establish a new relationship. So this has been going on for like a couple months. And then when I went home, my dad was cooking dinner. And my mom and I kind of went in the backyard on the porch. And we were just talking. And we both brought it up immediately because we're best friends. We're like, okay, what is going on? Why are we being so weird? And I hadn't seen her in so long. And we immediately talked it through. And it was like such a relief to get it off both of, I could tell both of our chests because we both had been thinking it, we missed each other. But at the end, we concluded where my mom was like,

I know you love me. Like you're never not going to be my daughter. But my mom was amazing. And she was like, I knew what was happening. It's scary that you're so far away that at times, like the only way that I'm knowing what's going on in your life is by looking at your Instagram story. And that made my heart break because we used to talk not just every day, but multiple times a day. So we reset the boundary. We text throughout the week. We FaceTime. I'm in my family group chat way more. And she now has reset her boundaries of she used to blow my shit up. Like I would have 90 texts from my mother and it would just stress me out that I'm like, I'm not fucking answering that mom. My mom now has reeled it in. She doesn't

bombard. And I feel so much fucking better now that we've gotten to this place. So I would just like to say to anyone listening, I think when you get older, you have to reset the boundaries because you technically don't need your parents anymore. It's not healthy to rely on them for anything also, right? As an adult, you got to go out there and do your own thing. And eventually, I want to create what my parents created. And I want to have my own family and whatever. So my mom is an incredible mother. And as I've gotten older, she's become more of a friend because she's like, I did my job. I did all the parenting I could. Now it's kind of like letting you go and fly and do your thing. And hopefully, everything I taught you sticks and you hold true to the person I think I raised.

So going home was really therapeutic. You know, this is something I just thought of that also happened while I was home that I think is really interesting. It is so nice to have a partner that my family likes. There was multiple instances this trip where like I had to go take Henry on a walk or go feed him for dinner and I forgot a pair of running sneakers. So I had to go buy sneakers and my boyfriend just stayed with my family the entire time. Oh, hi. Want to hear the kicker?

On Sunday before we left for London we were in Philadelphia my boyfriend and I go to my parents house to just have like a cozy Sunday and I was like I'm gonna edit the Spencer Pratt episode so I can't really hang out on the Sunday guys and but I'm expecting my boyfriend's just gonna be downstairs watching fucking golf with my parents or whatever my brother is like oh do you guys all want to go see top top shelf I don't know I don't give a fuck about that movie Top Gun and my boyfriend's like yeah let's go my boyfriend my brother my sister my mom my dad all go to the fucking movies together and I stay home to edit the Spencer Pratt episode. I didn't think for a fucking second about it until this moment, actually. I'm like, oh my God, maybe this

really is telling how fucked up my past relationships were. But I don't know. What do you guys think? I think that's a pretty big step for at least myself like this is a um this is a milestone where like I wasn't sweating bullets like I'm not kidding you in the past if that was happening I would have been like you know what it's okay I'm gonna come with you guys I'll bring my laptop I'll sit in the back row I'll put it on the lowest brightness setting and I'll just edit during the movie don't you you guys worry. I'll bring my headphones. Like I would have been spiraling, but I didn't. And I think that's a really cool sign. And so I don't know. I think anyone just gauge for yourself. Like, are you constantly on edge any minute, even if you just have to quickly go get a water bottle

from a different room and you're like stressing that they're alone with your family, guys, everyone listening, please take one thing from this podcast. You shouldn't feel like you have to manage your partner in social settings or around your family. That I think is a huge indicator. Like if you cannot leave your person alone with the people, even your friends or your family or your coworkers or people you care about in your life, that's probably a sign that maybe that person isn't right for you and vice versa I'm actually realizing sure you can be worried about what your man is going to do in front of your family you could also in your head at times be like what the fuck is my family gonna do in front of my partner and fuck this shit up and make me look bad and what I can say to that is if this is the right person for you you should not be stressed about managing

your family around your partner at a certain point I have felt in a really healthy and the right relationship and I think this happens for everyone if you're in the correct like fit of a relationship you get to a level of comfort that you no longer are thinking about that shit with your partner like some relationships you're totally thinking and I've been there you're like oh my god I'm taking him to a wedding and oh my god my mom is gonna dance like a freak or oh my god my dad is gonna make those awful jokes and I'm so embarrassed and I'm already thinking ahead of time of how I'm gonna manage my family but when you're in the right relationship, you get to a point where you aren't thinking and you can just be. And you know that that person

is with you no matter what. And anything outside of just the inner core dynamic between you and that person is not going to affect your relationship as long as you two are good family shit is fucking wild so I don't know just make sure like are you constantly over stressing about how they're viewing you or how you're someone's viewing them like that's not a great sign another thing to think about that I I had posted this a while ago on social media and I want to have a conversation about posting photos with your partner on social media I posted a story about this let me try to find it when did I post that oh my god I'm just trying to find my fucking Instagram post. I wish I didn't fucking post so much on fucking social media. This would be much easier to find.

Okay. Should you post your partner on social media? I posted something about this on my story that I want to read you guys because it was a couple weeks ago. And just to give you kind of like where my head was at. Someone asked me, why don't you post with your boyfriend and stuff? He doesn't want to be in any pictures on social media? And my answer was, I post so much about my life. It's nice to have a private part that isn't open for comments and opinion not that I don't think you guys would be so supportive and so loving I just think it's important with how much we all share on social media no matter how many followers you have I want to be so clear like sure I'm saying like oh I share a lot of my life well don't we kind of all everyone that has social media a lot of us I share a lot of my life. Well, don't we kind of all everyone that has

social media, a lot of us are posting a lot of things that normally people wouldn't know about unless we posted it. Right. And so I just think you have to draw a line somewhere about what you keep for yourself and not posting my relationship. I felt has been a very healthy decision for me. So let me take you back to the beginning of my relationship because it was a little bit of a journey to get to this point. I talked about our relationship on Call Her Daddy from day one. You guys have heard about it. Before I even went on a first date with Mr. Sexy Zoom Man, before I even met this man in person. I had already podcasted about him. But to me personally, I feel like the podcast is different than posting a photo of us on social media. You cannot zoom in on that shit. You can't comment

on that shit. It's anonymous. So for the podcast, because that because that's I guess like a form of something public I felt comfortable with talking about my relationship and I've talked to you guys kind of about like the boundaries of what I feel good talking about and what I don't really talk about but overall I was like okay I'm good with the podcast but Instagram. I felt the minute I met him and the minute our relationship progressed and I saw I'm like, this is way different than anything I've ever had. I didn't want to post anything on social media with him. I never wanted there to be a photo of us and nor do I ever want there to be on social media and I am aware that I would probably get more views more likes more downloads if I exploited my relationship and tried to monetize off of it

and was couple goals and was posting all these photos because we've got some great photos but I don't give a fuck about that shit I don't care about likes I don't care about comments I don't care about engagement and I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks about my relationship except for me and my fucking boyfriend the point of social media is for validation and I will go toe-to-toe with anyone that wants to dispute that concept it is for fucking validation and so whether you're posting so your ex sees it, whether you're posting so your ex friend sees it or your friends see it or your colleagues see it

or your coworkers see it or your family sees it or guys see it so they give you likes and you get attention because you're feeling like shit about yourself that day or you wanna prove that you're having a good summer over other people or you wanna prove that you're sad that day so you get the text from the person that was an asshole to you so they apologize faster. Every single step of social media is to get validation and get attention. ulterior motives in past relationships of posting and why I was doing it in order for me to know if this person was really the one for me and I really actually even fucking liked this guy I knew for myself the relationship needed to only be influenced by my own brain and by my

own opinions and by my own feelings and I knew the minute I uploaded something that was over and I just I don't know I just feel very protective over it and it's like it's like when you take a selfie and people are like oh it's just for me well if it's really for you then why are you posting on social media just keep it in your camera roll and press a heart on it and go back and look at yourself and remember that cute outfit or that you know what I mean and I'm not again I use social media I post on it I'm not I'm just saying for my relationship I just knew like this was really sacred to me and I needed to make sure why the fuck am I why would I post him I don't want someone to write into me and be like this is fucked up Alex because I post my boyfriend and are you saying like, I don't have a healthy relationship because I post my boyfriend?

No, I'm not saying that. I would just ask people, why do you post that person? I am sitting here today saying I will never post my boyfriend on social media ever. But when I posted this, I had some women messaging me saying, I love your confidence. But Alex, I'm a little concerned because my boyfriend doesn't post me. And I get insecure that I'm not on his page. And like, I'm like, does that mean other girls are DMing him? And it's kind of like a way for him to hide me so that he can have girls thinking he's

not in a relationship. And then they can be like, sweetie, you're in the wrong relationship. If you need your partner to post you on their social media page in order to feel safe in a relationship, you are not in a healthy relationship. If your partner can make you feel that insecure by not posting something about you and you're left spiraling at night being like oh my god I've posted him five times this month he hasn't he won't even post me on his fucking story and when he does he makes it close friends so only our close friends can see why is he doing you're in the wrong relationship again if you told college me not to post this one thing of the guy's arm to indicate to the baseball player that I was, oh, you ditched me tonight.

I'm out with another fucking dick. I get it. You're also maybe in a different stage of your life and fuck it. Post whatever the fuck you want. If you're in that stage where you're like, oh, I'm so not looking for anything serious and this is all a fucking game. Baby, I played it with you and I support you. I support you and I salute you. Are you kidding me? The amount of effort and strategy that went behind some of my Instagram posts to piss off a man and it always worked. They always would slide in. Like I get

that version of shit. I totally get it. If you're at a point in your life where you're like, oh, the games are just beginning. Let the match begin and I'm going to win. Bitches, I love you and like thrive and do your fucking toxic shit. Love it. But I'm just at a very different point in my life now because I feel like I really, I outdid myself with the games. I want to press pause on the games and just not feel on edge and just actually get to live and enjoy some health for a minute, you know? And now you could also be listening to this thinking, I actually post my fiance or my boyfriend like every other month or every month. And I can say I have a really great relationship with it. And the only people that follow me are like my really

close friends. And I want them to see that we went to Mackenzie's wedding in Rhode Island. And oh my God, people can message me and be like, wait, oh my God, how is she? Like I forgot her from college. Like, holy shit, you guys are so close. That's so fun. Like if it's a way that you feel you can connect because when you're in your twenties and your thirties, you can disconnect from people and you may want to still stay close and you want to kind of give it as a OG Facebook days of like, I just want to update the people that I'm really close with. Sure. But maybe don't you think you should just text them instead? Like I would just like to say, guys, liking someone's Instagram post is not being a good friend and reaching out. Having a FaceTime call, catching up, speaking to that person, that is a real friend.

If you just like each other's posts on instagram all i say is just be mindful about it that's really what it is it's not that heavy it's more just like be mindful about it and to wrap it up that's where i can say to you guys i know my relationship i know how i feel about my boyfriend and i know how he feels about me leaving the messiness of social media out of it makes it so much easier. We all know at this point social media is bullshit. Like fully most of it's fake. So do you really want to put your relationship in that cesspool and be a part of that bullshit? I was thinking about this the other day. I saw a TikTok and they were like complaining about the Kardashians and they were like, they've really set an unrealistic expectation. Like now they're getting their BBLs reversed, the whole thing. And someone was like, it's just so fucked up how they and they were like they've really set an unrealistic expectation like now they're getting

their bbls reversed the whole thing and someone was like it's just so fucked up how they fuck with the like um young women's like body expectation blah blah blah and i paused the video and i literally just stared at my phone and i felt like a fucking loser but i spoke out loud and i literally just said so stop looking at it stop looking looking at them. You are consuming. You don't see the Kardashians on the street. Stop looking at them. And I think that we almost are like giving them, and I'm not talking about the Kardashians like specifically, I just saw that was one TikTok. I'm just talking about the model industry and all of it and the influencers and the photoshopping and all of it. If it is affecting your mental health so much, stop looking at it.

Put your fucking phone down. Take some responsibility. I remember Mel Robbins when I had her on. That was one of the best fucking episodes when it was like how to, you know, survive your 20s, feeling so lost and and she was like who do you follow on social media are you scrolling through tiktok every single day and just looking at these women with these incredible chiseled torsos and this perfect hourglass and this beautiful hair and this beautiful skin and it's like you just feel like shit about yourself stop scrolling stop go read a fucking book people are still having a hard time understanding it's fake and so if you can't differentiate stop fucking looking at it i also have done this where i literally go on tiktok and i was gonna wear a crop top that day and i'm scrolling through and i'm like

how does that girl's body look like that and i I'm putting on a fucking hoodie. Oh, Alex, what an idea. Don't fucking open TikTok that morning and put on whatever the fuck you want and walk outside. You're going to look fucking incredible. Own it and enjoy your summer and don't be fucking stressed out about what you're wearing. Why am I stressed out? Because of what I'm seeing on social media. We're constantly blaming all these people. That's life, right? We don't agree with people's politics. We don't agree with how people treat. Hey, you don't like someone in the way they're treating you. Then what do you usually do? You don't hang out with them again. If you don't like the way that your social media feed is looking because it makes you feel like shit

about yourself, how about you just unfollow some people? I'm protective of myself with it and I'm protective of you guys. I've literally had experts on this show that are like please have your listeners understand what this is doing to our brains I don't want to ignore the facts I just feel like it's my fatherly duty to give you guys this reminder especially going into summer to just cleanse out your feed and be mindful of how it's affecting and influencing you because I love you guys and I love myself and I want to feel better and I know seeing people comment a lot about it I was like wait you allow yourself to decide what influences you an influencer isn't an influencer if you're not fucking looking at what they're influencing

towards you okay that I mean guys an influencer is not an influencer if they can't get access to influence you. Boom, put that on a t shirt. So daddy gang, oh, I will say the last stress of my life. You know, I'm just keeping it super real right now. Guys, you know, I am the palest motherfucker. But yeah, so I need to spray tan before I go to Italy because it's just not an option to look the way I do. I look like I'm covered in sunscreen that wasn't rubbed in on the beach. So I got a spray tan a week ago in London from a girl that is not from the UK. She's from the United States. And when I found out her solution was from Malibu, I was like, um, yes, get over here. But now it's already worn worn off and so I need another one before I go to Italy okay this may not mean anything to you guys but it means something to me

so I am waiting for the break time woman to show up I'm chilling I'm chilling and I hear the knock on the door I'm in my robe I saunter to the door I open the door and I recognize this woman I don't know where from immediately it's like when you see your teacher in the grocery store and you're like Mrs. McKenna like why are you near the produce like where is your fucking stick and your chalk anyways I'm like why do I know this person so I just let them into my apartment I immediately realize where I know this person from she was on the bachelor and I'm standing there and I just say I'm like were you on the bachelor and she was like yeah I was on Matt season like the most recent fucking season and shout out I'll I don't think she'll give a fuck if Victoria um like

Queen Victoria the girl that would like to refer to herself as queen, whatever. And I'm like, wait, you spray tan. Also, wait, don't you live in the United States? Wait, why are you here? What? And she was like, yeah, girl, like, I'm just like doing my thing and like, uh, Europe this summer. And like, I learned how to spray tan during COVID and I am dumbfounded. I'm like, it was so out of context. And then I was also like, wait, bitch, do you actually know how to fucking spray tan? Or like, what are your credentials for spray tanning me right now? And she's like, imagine she's like, oh, just a new hobby I'm taking up for the summer, like just vibing. No, she actually knew what she was fucking doing. And she gave me a bomb fucking spray tan. And she got the solution from Malibu that didn't fucking smell. My boyfriend, he's like, I will invest.

I will invest in a spray tan that does not fucking smell. My boyfriend hates it so much. Anyways, so Victoria, shout the fuck out, left the UK. So I'm currently on the hunt for a new spray tan person in UK. Hit me up. By this time, I'll be fucking gone. And I'm trying to get my nails done because I haven't gotten them done in 12 weeks. And I'm getting harassed on the internet where people said that I have little chody fingers

and they're disgusting and I need to get a fucking manicure. Sorry, I don't give a fuck about that shit. Okay, Alex, deep breath, sweetie. You need to, I feel like I have been speaking so fast this entire episode. And guys, let me tell you about this. And let me tell you, I need to just take a, take a breath, maybe a sip of water. Um, but I'm going to ramp back up because I have another thing that I need to talk about. Okay. And this, this, this is a topic I feel very, very strongly about. So just bear with me this week. We're, we're cruise

controlling. We're talking fastest bucket summer. I'm excited. Here we go. Attention, attention. Really long. I've been doing this so long. That's a Beyonce song. I want to call my single ladies to the dance floor. Oh, oh, hit it when it hurts.

Oh, oh. Listen to this. Single women come to the front of the line. You're being summoned by your father in a not creepy way, okay? I want to have a little one-on-one talk with you right now. If you are single and you are going into this summer and you are just trying to get some dick or pussy, it can be so exhausting being single. I have really marinated in that zone for many years of my life at a time.

And I remember thinking to myself, I just want to find a fucking partner sometimes because this shit is so fucking exhausting. And what I want to do is help you guys change your mindset. I want you guys to look at dating as an opportunity for yourself, not to look for a match not to find the love of your life not to find prince charming because we know all those fucking disney movies were absolutely a crock of shit and fell right into the patriarchal society that we fucking live in i want you guys to look at it instead of trying to find a match go into into it this summer, empowering yourself. You should look at dating as another activity that you're doing in your life to better yourself. It's like, hey, don't worry about the person sitting across the table from you. If you listen to this show, you are a bad

fucking bitch. And I would like you to think about a strength you have just think about something you're good at and when I'm talking about strengths like someone listening to this right now be like I am the best fucking dater and like I hate right now where my career is and I feel like shit and that's the one almost like pothole that happens on my dates when they ask me about my fucking career and I want to start sobbing at the table no one gives a fuck if you know like you're struggling with your job if you can articulate to that to someone I think everyone can fucking relate at one point in your life you've struggled with the job and vice versa maybe you are so fucking good at your job daddy gang and you're like um Alex I know I am the worst fucking dater I clam up all of a sudden I don't even know what

to order on a date I'm like so fucking awkward I'm stumbling over myself I'm not even being myself I just want to cry and leave and go home hi why don't you talk about your job why don't you talk about the one thing that you know you're like oh I can fucking hit this and I'm not saying you know pull up the presentation you're working on at work maybe that would be a little bit of a snooze fast but you know what I mean like lean into your strength so then it builds you up everyone is so hard on themselves with dating and if this many people feel this way you have to recognize the person sitting across from you also is thinking these things about themselves. And I think that is such a good humbling moment of like, hey, sweetie, you ain't alone. Not that you need to articulate that, but I don't think that's weird if you're like, I suck at first dates. So, you know,

excuse me if I do a couple of weird fucking things. I'm just trying to keep it together. If you use humor, if you're a funny person and you're bad at dating, kick into gear. Now, don't go to the asshole route because I've done that before where you take the humor to the point where like they're like do you even want to be here like you seem miserable I'm like oh my god no I was just using my humor to combat the fact that I am so insecure right now and I want to go home and put my sweat pants on and I'm so so so unhappy with myself but you're great also I think this is another thing I've been seeing this in my dms recently everyone is getting really really tired of the apps it's

from like post-covid burnout I think on covid on covid yeah um covid the platform no that was a disease we're talking dating apps during, we couldn't physically go on dates. And so people were really cooking it up on the apps. I mean, I think people were having photo shoots in the basement with their mom taking their new dating app pictures because it was like, what else am I going to do? People were really losing their minds. And the thing that they were doing was the dating apps. Now we're back in the world and I think people are like get me the fuck off these things I need a different way to interact with people I'm sick of fucking social media like we did it so heavy in COVID that it's like I literally want to throw my phone in the river maybe I'm the only

person that feels that way I think this entire episode is me being like social media will literally kill you and everyone's like honestly couldn't be happier on it I'm so healthy and like you seem like you really need to be at the fucking therapy this could be true and I am in therapy and every week I talk about social media I'm spiraling do you want to know how many times a week I will be sitting in my room and I'll be like, oh my God, I remember that restaurant. I want that bread and that appetizer so badly. I wish I could go there. Yeah, you could just call make a reservation. Oh no, I don't want to leave my house. But like the idea of going sounds really good. Oh my God. Santa Monica beach is so fun and like to take Henry it would be so nice

so go oh no oh god no I just I just want to look up pictures on google of it it's a 15 minute fucking drive from my house I think about all these things that I want to do and then I don't do it and it's like this summer I'm forcing myself do you know how many times I've driven past this one smoothie place and I have such social anxiety of just like talking to a hostess. I'm like, I've always wanted to go to this smoothie place in LA, but I don't think I can get out of my car and ask the woman for the matcha cacha because I would rather just keep looking at it when I drive past it. And maybe one day if my boyfriend's in the car, he'll get out and get it for me. I'm just trying to articulate that I encourage everyone because I'm doing it for myself. And it's been something I'm working on is put yourself out there.

So when you're getting out there this summer on these dates, you have to just go into it. Like, first of all, you're going to have so much confidence because you have nothing to lose this is a first date you don't owe them anything you don't care if they don't like you or it's amazing if they do there's the stakes are so low because all you are doing is going into it so fucking confident and ready to just build another experience in your repertoire of dating so that the next fucking date you're like oh I remember this or when you're in the fucking uber ride oh my god I feel it you are you're nervous you're overthinking all of a sudden by the fifth uber ride to that next fucking first date you're like oh sir can you turn up that Beyonce song I'm about to bump back here and I'm gonna sip my little nip and I'm

gonna get fucking ready to get litty titty at this fucking date. It starts becoming habit and it's just easier to do. So daddy gang, you're going on these dates for you. You're going to get reps in. This is a motherfucking sport, bitches. And we're about to win this shit. Okay. And you may be starting out and you're third string. Okay. And we are not third string on Call Her Daddy, your first string. But to get to first string, you need to fucking get some reps and you got to practice a little bit. So put yourself out there, put yourself in uncomfortable positions, because as you continue to do that, all of a sudden, like I said, the Uber ride gets easier. Then all of a sudden you sit down and maybe you're like a little less confident at first. Like,

what drink do I order? Oh, my God. I you used to be like, what drink is like a cute drink to order? Shut the fuck up. Yo, you like beer? You like vodka? You like straight shots to the face? Hey, can I get a Guinness? Don't be insecure because what you're doing is putting yourself out there to make yourself a better version of yourself and you will get more confidence.

I promise you, I got really good at dating through trial and error. I had some awful fucking dates in my life. And then all of a sudden, after like the seventh awful date in a row, I went on in New York City. I was like, I have these men in front of me that are whack as fuck, but I'm great. I know my drink order. I know the topics I want to talk about. I know I have my jokes that I go to. I've got good story time. I've got good banter. I'm a good listener. Like I was like, fuck yes, Alex. I'm focusing on my fucking strengths. And that is the word of your father this summer. You bitches think about that strength. I'm super funny. I'm super outgoing. I can read a fucking room and I'm super funny I'm super outgoing I can read a

fucking room and I'm quiet I'm quiet and then I come in with the banger or I am such a good listener I'm a very sincere person and people always come to me for advice whatever it is use that strength and translate it into the date and I know it's weird because they're a random fucking human but exactly they're a random fucking human that if it doesn't work out you don't have to see them again but what you know is you are about to fucking level yourself up from that experience daddy gang you are going to conquer the summer i love you guys so much there is not an episode next week i'm going to be in italy i will just don't worry i'll give you guys all the updates when i'm back but then there will be an episode the next week after that so technically I will see you motherfuckers in two

weeks goodbye