Call Her Daddy - I’m Engaged

Episode Date: April 26, 2023

This is not clickbait. Hi Daddy Gang, it’s me Alex. This week I am revealing every detail of my engagement, starting with the identity of my fiancé. As always, I want you to feel a part of this intimate moment with me, so I’ve included behind the scenes footage from the day I got engaged. I love you all, I wouldn’t be where I am today without you. Enjoy…I sure as hell did. Call Her Daddy Apparel is here. Shop the Spring '23 collection at  shop.callherdaddy.com

What is up, Daddy Gang? It is your founding father, Alex Cooper, with Call Her Daddy. Holy shit. Daddy Gang, we have so much to discuss today. You saw the title and the title is real. I'm engaged. I know. I know. I'm a little shocked too, I will say so myself. And even coming on here, I will be real with you. In the five years now that I've been doing Call Her Daddy, when I started the show,

I never fucking in my wildest dreams. I don't even know if it was dreams or my nightmares. I don't know what it was. But back then then I never fucking thought that I would be sitting here. One, probably even telling you I was in a healthy relationship and two, now being engaged. It's not clickbait. It's real. I have a fucking ring on my finger. I still can't really get used to it. There's a lot going on. And I bet you guys are like, hey so so happy for you what the fuck bitch we did I would the last thing I would have expected is you to tell us you were engaged you guys were probably expecting me to break up with him before us get engaged and I realized that because I kind of

haven't talked to you about my relationship for a really long time I think the last life update I did was like we live together we bought a house. And even then you all were like, huh? Like you bought a fucking house with a man that you're not married to. So let's get into it because I realize I owe you an explanation. A big, big, big explanation. The first explanation is who am I engaged to? Who is this this man who is the man that took me off the market who is the man that gets the gluck luck for the rest of his life yeah you're lucky bitch I always refer to him I always have little nicknames for all my past lovers Slim Shady door number three the Canadian they come and go this one apparently is gonna last I hope forever 50%

of marriages do end in divorce so let's just keep I'm already fucking cursing myself before I get married I call him Mr. Sexy Zoom Man and again it's Zoom as in the video chat not zoo he doesn't work at the zoo although that would be an incredible job. Zoom man. But let's start with the basics. What is his real name? Because I'm going to just tell you fucking everything. His name is Matt Kaplan. So I'm going to just start calling him Matt. Hi, Matt. Matt is my fiance. And I want to now tell you guys some of the fun stuff, like how he proposed. So how did matt propose he proposed on a friday and just to give you guys i know you guys are gonna be pissed at me but like i he proposed over a month and a half ago and so i have been

keeping this to myself for a month and a half which was truly so fun and i'm so happy that i kept it for myself and just my family and my friends. But then after like a week, I was starting to like twitch because I was like, I've been doing interviews, not being able to wear the ring and people are asking about my relationship. And I just have been like, I need to fucking tell the daddy gang. So he did it on a Friday. He like left early in the morning. He usually brings me coffee every single morning. We'll come in. He's like very romantic and sweet and cute. He didn't bring me coffee that day.

And I was like, what the fuck? I texted him. He's like, sorry, I had an early meeting. I had to go, babe. Like, love you. Have a great day. Whatever. I'm like, great.

I'll see you tonight. Let's have a wine night and just chill. Little did I fucking know. I go to my studio and I have a photo shoot for W Magazine. And I was told this photo shoot was going to be for a piece in W Magazine. And we just have to take a bunch of pictures. So I show up and there's like outfits galore. And all of a sudden this person shows up and they're doing my hair, my makeup. And they're like, we have to do your nails. I don't think anything of it. My nails are always disgusting. I have these press-ons. You'll probably see one fall off at some point

today. I'm getting the full pampered treatment. But again, disgusting. I have these press-ons. You'll probably see one fall off at some point today. I'm getting the full pampered treatment. But again, I'm about to do a photo shoot, so I'm not thinking anything of it. I start doing this photo shoot and little did I know this was a fake photo shoot. Okay. Matt and Kate Bailey, who is my publicist that you guys have seen in the Milan episode, conspired and they were like, how the fuck are we going to get Alex to look presentable for these engagement photos?

Like, I'm especially on a Friday. I know I'm staying with Matt. I'm going to do no makeup, hair in a bun, disgusting. B.O. Like, you could not see me look worse than when I know I'm just going to be chilling with my boyfriend on a Friday night. So they're like, how do we get her to look good? Fake a photo shoot. Number one. So I go into this photo shoot. I get all my makeup done. We're going through the photo shoot. And then all of a sudden

it's starting to get like kind of late. And I will say I send some desperation from one of the publicists there being like, let's do another look and another look. And I kept being like, I just kind of want to go home. Like, don't you think we've had had enough like also the direction of the photo shoot made no fucking sense and I've been honest with you guys I really don't like photo shoots it's my one thing that I'm very insecure well I have a lot of insecurities but that's one thing in work wise I'm like I'm not good at photo shoots so immediately I'm like there's no creative direction why am I doing this photo shoot none of it really made sense of course it didn't make sense it was a fake this photo shoot? None of it really made sense. Of course it didn't make sense. It was a fake fucking photo shoot.

And so then they were buying time and I didn't know this. And they're like, let's do one last look. We need you to be holding a prop. So I'm like, it's Friday. I'm going to fucking light a joint and have that be my prop in the photo. And like, let's get fucking lit. Like, I'm just going to be high. And then like, so be my prop in the photo and like let's get fucking lit like I'm just gonna be high and then like what so I start smoking in this photo the photographer didn't know I was getting engaged that night but my publicist did and she's being such a fucking

narc she's like give me the joint like stop smoking and I'm like it's good for the photo like I'm getting high as fuck and she in her mind is like you're about to get engaged bitch and I refuse to let you show up high out of your fucking mind when he proposes but I didn't know I'm like it's Friday she's like I don't want you to drive high I'm like I'll just chill here then I'll go home Matt doesn't give a fuck meanwhile they wanted to do it perfectly at 5 30 sunset the whole thing so I'm getting high she finally rips out and she's like oh sorry I lost it it's whatever I stopped smoking finally the photo shoot ends and I'm trying to rush everyone out the door

everyone's like being so fucking slow I'm like let's go people don't you want to enjoy your Friday night clearly not I get in the car finally and I text Matt before I start leaving I'm like what time are you going to be home he's like 5 30 I'm like perfect I'll be home at like 5 20 let's open that bottle of wine and he's like can't wait can't wait and finally I get home and I drive up and Matt's car is not there so I'm like I'm home first great I go in through our laundry room I'm holding like a water bottle my keys my phone like I have like my hair in my mouth because it's stuck in my lip gloss like just not thinking anything of it and I open the door and all of a sudden there are candles everywhere and there is a laptop sitting with a sign that says play me what is this that says, play me. And Adele is playing all throughout our house. Now, you might think

in that moment, I was like, I'm getting engaged. I swear to you, daddy gang, I didn't. Something had recently happened that I was convinced Spotify was sending Matt and I condolences for something personal that had happened. And I thought they were like, Spotify is great to me. So they'll always send like flowers or whatever. So I walk in and my first thought was like, oh, wow, Spotify is being so cute. Oh, my God. Like they sent like I should wait for Matt to like see whatever this is. And then 10 seconds in, I'm like. But why is there a card and a fucking computer that says play me? What the fuck is the computer doing here? So I say, oh, fuck Matt. I'm just going to play it and see what's happening. And I press play on the computer and it's Matt. And it's a video of him in the same exact outfit that he wore on our first zoom meeting he had like the bandana for covid for his mask he had like his outfit on the he literally was

spitting image of what i looked at when i first met him on a zoom meeting and my heart dropped into my ass. A part of me was like not still registering what was about to happen. And this sounds like, I'll be honest with you guys, Matt is, I was going to say one of the most that retract is the most romantic person that I have ever met in my life. Like I feel so blessed. I'll come home some nights and it's like flowers and candles and like, just like wine nights and him being so thoughtful. So I'm not saying I thought this was just about to be another beautiful night that Matt put together. But my mind did kind of go to like, we had been going through a lot of personal stuff that I'm like maybe he's just

trying to reset the mood like let's have a good week I was trying to think of everything except for am I getting engaged because I will say I was in a little bit of shock and just trying to be like is this actually happening is this actually happening and I'm not going to tell you guys all the details but he basically talks for like two and a half, three minutes about our relationship and is basically saying like, Alex, you are the love of my life and I can't imagine my life without you. And we've been through so much. You make me a better person. Like he does this whole thing. And at the end, he's like, but I feel like there's one thing missing and I'm hoping that you can help me figure it out so look down and there is a card and I want you to follow the card so then the video stops and all of a sudden now I'm like

I think I know what's happening but I'm still like in denial I'm like what's going on and then I see from the fucking corners of like the darkness, Aaron, who is my videographer, comes like into the corner with a camera. And I literally am like, what the fuck is going on? And he's like, I don't fucking know. We literally started working together like a week before this happens. He's like shaking. He's like, I don't know.

I don't know. Open the fucking card. So I'm like, OK, here we go. So he's filming me. I open the card. And at this point, I know what's happening, but I'm still in shock. And I'm just like, again, guys, I thought I was coming home to a wine night. Like I'm not expecting this at this point because we've been going through a lot emotionally

that I'm like, it's not going to happen tonight. I open the card and it is a full fucking scavenger hunt. And it takes me to like go to the place in our house where we and then it would be something really cute that like you guys don't need to know the details but it was like a cute thing so I immediately like the kitchen I go up to the kitchen and the first part of the kitchen is over like 25 photos framed of our firsts I I'm gonna really pass out. I'm so... I literally feel like I'm about to faint.

The first time we ever went to Hawaii together, the first time we went to Santa Barbara together, the first time we got our dog Bruce together, the first time that we had sex together and we've like a kind of an interesting photo of that day. Like every single first we ever did, he framed framed or if he didn't have a photo of us he framed the memory of the ticket or something it's all first in the kitchen so now I'm like I'm gonna fucking die and so Adele is blaring through our house he then I open the next scavenger hunt

I go to another room it's all of my favorite foods pizza cheetos like all of the food all over and then pictures of us at places that we love to eat and dinners that we will like remember forever. And like a dinner that he told me like he loved me for the first time, like all this crazy shit. Thank you. And it was room by room by room and the entire house was filled with these huge candles everywhere, and finally, the last card took me to my closet, and he laid out my engagement outfit, and this is why I love this man. It wasn't heels. It wasn't a dress. It was my unwell sweats with a card that said, put on it's chilly outside and meet me by the buddha i need to clarify this guys there's a buddha in our house we bought this house and there's this

giant giant like 500 pound buddha that we felt would be really bad luck if we move it from our house like i feel like that's just awful luck like get rid of the bud the Buddha and then like our life just changes forever and like nothing goes right ever since we leave the Buddha out of our house. So we kept the Buddha. So when you see these photos, guys, just know I'm not Buddhist. Maybe one day, you never know. But I'm not Buddhist and there's no sentimental value to this Buddha. It just happens to be there. But we have this area that we've kind of made this like courtyard area near the Buddha. It's a really relaxing area. Sometimes we'll have coffee in the morning there together. And it says, go to the place where we like meditate, relax and like whatever. And I knew exactly where he was. He was with the fucking Buddha. So this is like a long trail to get there.

And I have to go down these steps and through these trees and I look down still Adele blaring candles lit on every single step and he was standing underneath the canopy with roses everywhere candles everywhere and Henry and Bruce are dogs in little bow ties and at this point I'm like I I am going to throw up like what like I needed to just get to Matt that's what everyone said it's like we thought it would take you like 15 minutes to get through the house I was like running through each thing of like I just want to get to Matt I just want to get to Matt and I see Matt and I'm like at the top of the stairs and he's like hi baby and I'm like oh and he of the stairs and he's like, hi baby. And I'm like, and he's like, he's holding the fucking box. And I'm like, fuck. And so I just like run down the stairs. I go to him. He doesn't say anything. He just gets on one knee and he says, make me the

happiest man in the world. I love you you so much I can't imagine my life without you you're my person you're my best friend you're my soulmate you're the best sex I've ever had and you mean everything to me in this world please marry me I love you and I I don't even think I said yes actually now that I'm thinking about it I was like what and I'm just like freaking out at him and finally I I finally calm down and I look at him and I'm like absolutely he puts the ring on my finger and we're both sobbing we're just like hysterical Henry and Bruce come up to us we just start kissing all the good things and it was like truly the best, best moment of my life. It was such an incredible moment that I think I never pictured how this would happen. I've, I've never really like thought of this from a young age, like how I would want it

to go down. And I will say like, Matt is so creative and thoughtful and he knew I wanted it to be private, but I also had told him like, which we'll get into. I told him he was allowed to do this. That will come later on. But I told him like, just make it our own, but make it private. It couldn't have been more perfect. So we cheers champagne and we go upstairs.

Music is playing. We're having fun. We're cheersing. We're doing all the things. And he said, okay, go pack a bag. We're going to stay at the Bel Air tonight, which is a hotel in L.A. And we are going to go to this dinner at the Four Seasons first, though, that someone told me is like amazing. We're not this private chef and we're going to go to a dinner, the two of us.

And I'm like, oh, my fucking God, this is perfect. I need to call my parents, though. And he's like, you can call them later. Like, let's just like, no, no, no. I have to call my parents. So I FaceTime my parents and they're in bed and they're in bed together and it's like it's like late in my mind in Pennsylvania and I'm like mom and dad like I'm engaged my parents look shocked they're like what the fuck like Alex we're so happy for you Matt we love you and I'm FaceTiming them and I'm like should I call my siblings and they're like just go have a good night call them tomorrow and I'm like okay I love you guys finally we've cried

we've drank a bunch of champagne he's like we're gonna go to the Bel Air and I'm just excited to go have this dinner alone and like honestly just talk to him about like how did you do this how long have you known like what was the set like I'm just ready to just like be alone with him and sitting in this room and like grill him so we're on in the car I'm in shock and we roll up to the four seasons which is where we were going to get dinner and I'm walking holding his hand just like looking at him looking at him talking and I turn the corner and there's one more surprise surprise. Matt had flown in my entire family, all of my best friends from childhood and his entire family were standing there in the room. We were about to have dinner and it was a huge fucking party. And he surprised me one more fucking time.

I'm like, no more fucking surprises. My parents, when I thought they were in bed in Pennsylvania, they ran upstairs to their hotel room because they're like, I bet she's going to call us. My poor parents. Everyone's like, she's not going to call you room because they're like, I bet she's gonna call us, my poor parents. Everyone's like, she's not gonna call you. My parents were like, well, we wanna be prepared if she calls us. I think we can just prop these pillows up more

and she'll never know. I thought you were home. I was about to send you the photos that Erin sent me. They were in bed. I call my parents, thank God they were like, my dad put on a pajama top. My mom got under the covers in the Four Seasons in California. Little did I know, I thought they were in Pennsylvania.

And they're like, congrats, Alex. They rip off the sheets. They put on their party outfits and everyone went downstairs and we partied. I had no idea anyone was in town. They had been in town since Wednesday. My parents went, picked up the ring with Matt. My best friends had been there. Like, everyone was in town. And it was truly the most, like, memorable, loving experience that I have ever, ever had in my life.

And it was, it was perfect. And I will remember it for the rest of my life. Matt's here. Come, you can come in. Hey, me. Come here. Hi. Come on. Come on hi i'm recording the engagement episode oh wow okay how's that going i gave them your identity i said it's not coplin get ready

daddy gang knows you can't fuck it up now bye love you Bye. Love you. Woo! Okay. I'm really happy that I got that off my chest. I feel like I just had a therapy session because I was feeling a little bogged down from not telling you guys about that. I was feeling really weighted and now I feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest. The daddy gang knows that I'm engaged. That's all that matters. What? Lauren, if you're only listening to this in video lauren is raising her hand lauren's been here the whole time of this episode lauren's raising her hand in the corner can i help you sweetie i just think i have a lot to contribute here i have a lot of thoughts like about like your engagement i was gonna say you're reminding me of the type of person that's like does anybody object and lauren's like i object you you want to talk about my engagement yeah i was a huge part of it let's go i thought you'd never ask oh okay we have to get you a chair

wait maybe we should move you actually want to come on literally asked you this morning if you wanted to come on and you're like no no no like you wanted to come on, and you're like, no, no, no, like, Alex, this is about you. Well, I needed to, like, add some things into the story here. Right, she's feeling now a little more comfortable. She's like, you go do it, and maybe I'll pop in. Now you want to... We cannot film this like this. Let's move the room.

Let's put the two chairs back in, like, normal. Oh, and then I'll sit there, and you'll sit there. Well, no, that's where I sit. Well, I have a few thoughts did you write interview questions yeah let's go stop Lauren only Lauren okay here we go. Move back.

This is so uneven. People probably think we have, like, people that do this for us. No, it's just us. This is really fucking heavy. Eight men delivered that. Eight men delivered this, okay? Stand up and get some like leverage i feel like that's like let's go

no lauren you have to go we have to shimmy you have to go this way and then i'll go you should be that way yeah two hours later you know what i was about to say like sitting in this seat with like the cards i have like butterflies in my stomach like imagine if there was someone actually famous in front of me no i swear you are isn't it weird yeah it looks like kind of chill but when you're actually in this room and there's all these lights yeah like it's it's intimidating yeah i feel like i'm like i'm like oh house is gonna go are you ready are you ready alex cooper welcome to call her daddy am i supposed to say thank you for having me yeah you're welcome thank you for having me on the show

let's get into it so let's go back to your childhood how did the wounding of your inner child that resulted from years of intense bullying impact the relationships you were unconsciously drawn through throughout your life you're such a dick i love it it's like call her daddy what happened in your childhood let's go from the beginning who fucked you up why are you the way you are when i was writing that i was like how how many words can I put into one sentence? Child wounding. I love it. No, yeah.

Thank you for having me here today. And I will not be answering that question. Now. Later, you will. You're interviewing me. I am. Watch me. I'm going to start interviewing you.

I'm like, you can't even. Don't even try, Lauren. So I know that your engagement was stressful for you in the moment of like having no idea what was happening. But you have no idea how stressful it was for me. Yeah, I'm like, Lauren, let's talk about what you were going through. No, but actually, yeah, so Matt texted me. He only gave me a week notice. So Matt texted me a week before and he texted me and was just like, Lauren, secret convo. And I was like, what the fuck? Like, and secret convo and i was like what the fuck like does secret convo mean like i can't think of anything else it would mean besides an engagement but mind you the last time like i had spoken to you about marriage like we hadn't talked we don't talk about it often but

like the last time we talked about it probably like six months prior you were like still a little like on the fence and then we talked about it a year prior and you were like no I'm not getting married like I don't believe in marriage so you were startled I was like like what's going like is he about to tell me he's proposing but does Alex even want to get married so I call him and like while I'm on the phone with him I'm literally like wait Matt like not to be like an asshole but like have you talked to her about marriage like is she gonna say yes and he's like no no no like don't worry we like she's gonna say yes I was like okay phew like I could take a breath knowing that like you weren't gonna be like blindsided I was like whoa whoa whoa

like do I need to like have some like one-off like so like what are your views on marriage these days so to top it all off like you were in Milan for Fashion Week the week prior to getting engaged. And Matt was like, I have to do it now. Like I can never pull off a surprise with Alex. Like she's too in the know with anything. Like if I have any chance of pulling this off, it's going to be like setting everything up while she's in Milan. And I was like, okay, like that makes sense. But you come back from Milan and you're like texting me.

We're like calling each other. And you're like, I've literally never been each other and you're like i've literally never been more tired in my entire life like i don't even want to work this week i literally cannot wait for the weekend just to like take a gummy not leave my house and like not leave my bed i'm like oh okay cool like little do you know that like all of your family and friends are like about to surprise you and you're about to be engaged so i'm like is she gonna say yes is she gonna be happy that all of us are in town? Like this is like a shot in the dark.

How is this going to go? Okay, now hearing it from your perspective, that's very stressful. Oh, trust me. I like, like I was like talking to my boyfriend and he was like, do you think she was like, I'm like, she has negative, like in all history of engagements, like this woman has negative idea that she's about to be proposed to. So we're Friday. I'm in L.A.

This is the day of your engagement. I'm in L.A. Matt was an angel and like put us all at the same hotel. It's like me, Kristen, Jackie, your mom. Like we're all at the hotel. We go and have lunch together. Your mom's like, I went and picked out the ring. The ring is beautiful.

She's like, is Alex going to say yes? I'm like, I hope so. yes and i'm like i hope so like we're just in the dark because like you were we're gonna get there but like you were having conversations with matt and like you guys didn't know we didn't know about probably should have told you yeah um so we were just like we're here and if she runs out screaming and it's a blowout like we're here for that too like you never know what you're gonna get with alex cooper fuck fuck so it's like engagement time and like none of no one has your location so like we like didn't really like know to like know when to expect you and like i was so

anxious and nervous that i didn't eat lunch because i was like what's gonna happen like this is like a big anticipation there's a lot of like moving pieces and unknown factors here and then i got so excited once you showed up that i didn't eat dinner then we got hammered then we got hammered lauren halfway through the night you were like can i do a speech no i know this is you became like another woman in this moment i like i got so nervous no you got so excited I like pulled you like not even pulled you aside I casually said to you like you know like I have a few words I could say and you're like oh like a speech and I'm like I mean it's not written anywhere but like I've been thinking through some things and you're then you're like oh and then you

pull me close you're like are you gonna embarrass me? And I was like, no, I don't think so. You become a woman on a mission. There is. So we were like in the back corner of the lounge in the Four Seasons, kind of like have like our own area. But like we didn't like rent out the space. It wasn't a private event. So like it was a Friday night in L.A. at the Four Seasons Lounge. Like people were there like having their drinks.

There was a live band playing. You go to the live band and you shut down the live music and then my friend wants to give a speech everybody needs to relax you shut down the music you gather i think there's like 25 30 people at like your engagement celebration you gather everyone in a large circle and then you go you push me into the middle I don't have any like I don't even have like a notes on my phone like nothing is written well to be fair you were like pretty fucking confident I had a little liquid courage at that so yeah it's also just cute because I think these are moments in life where we're best friends we've been best friends since we were so young but like

there's not many moments in life that you get to just like do something like that for each other and I think it was cool too because like I was so a part of like the evolution of you and Matt's relationship and like that's how like I opened the speech and um daddy gang I guess I'm gonna do my speech for you right now yeah it was really good um I was like do you want me to like give the beginning story yeah okay um i was like so when i met matt i was at a really weird point in my life i was coming out of a seven-year relationship and i was living on alex's couch and that's when you and matt like had just met we're just starting talking like in the phases of like facetiming every night so I was facetiming Matt every night I was getting to know Matt with you and I remember one night where you and Matt were facetiming and nothing like profound was really said it was just like a

fun we were having some wine he was in Canada filming a movie and like we were just like hanging out on like a Saturday night it was COVID so like it was like a FaceTime hang and you hang up the FaceTime and I just start crying and you're like Lauren like what what happened what's wrong and I was like whoa like I want to find someone who looks at me that way and talks to me that way and like that was a FaceTime and I could feel that through like a face time like you're lucky hold on to that from that moment onward like forward Matt set the caliber of the type of guy that like type of man that like I knew that I needed in my life and that was the next part of the speech which in theory like I really should have because then I

started listing things that you and Matt taught me about a healthy and good relationship and you know you know, in theory, like those are things that probably I should have had listed because I was just coming up with them on the spot a little drunk. And I was like, Matt and Alex taught me what a healthy sex life was. My mom was just like, oh, my dad was like, oh, and I was like, people have that reaction. And I was like, what the fuck? You know who this person is? I'm like, mom, you listen to my fucking show fucking show oh and you know who else was in the room i was so into my speech that like you know like when you're like speaking and like everyone around you was just like blurry and

like you're just like speak words speak words so like we're in a circle and like like i said like the four seasons was like it was a full swing and friday night like going morgan freeman was there he joined the circle and he did not want to walk through while Lauren was in the middle of her speech so he's standing in the fucking room and so Lauren's giving her speech and Morgan Freeman just stops and is like listening to Lauren's speech and smiling and looking at Lauren and then Lauren finally finishes her speech and he just like goes around and I'm like do you know who was just watching your speech and I'm like no because I was just blacked out what did I even what did I even just say just now best night of my life like I

couldn't have been happier it was truly the most fun weekend of my life and I will never forget it so let's go back to the beginning you have a lot of new listeners who may not even know who mr sexy zoom man is tell them how the two of you first met it was in the middle of the pandemic and my agent called me and he was like, we should do a Call Her Daddy TV show, like a scripted series. Like we should do something about it. And I was like, I just don't think that it's like the right time. Like I want to focus on the podcast, but sure, I'll have some meetings with producers. And I remember I had like a string of four producers that I had to meet.

One was like the producer of Gossip Girl, the original one. And I was like geeking out. But a lot of these producers were like older people. So I was very just like, like I was not thinking of like anything sexual, obviously, when I'm talking to these men. And then my last meeting was with Matt. But I Googled him and I was like, wait, he's young and he's hot. I immediately I'm like fuck I need to put makeup on in a push-up bra and a tight shirt and look fucking hot as shit so like in these other meetings I'm like hi I'm Alex and then I'm like oh fuck like let's go so in those 15 minutes I make myself look hot and I get on the zoom and I'm just staring at him like I'm staring at his square thank god you can't tell what you're staring at. But he had this like humble confidence about him that I was like, I had just been fucking

with losers. I was dating guys that were just so insecure. And I think there was something about Matt that just made me feel very like, wow, he's such like an independent human. Like you could just tell he's like good on his own shit. Like he's confident. He's successful like that was the initial attraction is like he is a very whole person it appeared and I assumed how

did you progress from that zoom yeah to a first date because I'm assuming he didn't leave that zoom being like oh yeah she's the one no yeah he was like not interested in me and I was like that's my husband um not actually but I was like I'm into it I also was like not interested in me. And I was like, that's my husband. Not actually, but I was like, I'm into it. I also was like in a lull where like I kind of wasn't talking to like all my old side pieces, people. The roster was small. The roster had completely disintegrated to like three guys that I was like kind of done with, bored with. And so I remember that night, my mom was in New York City with me randomly staying with me and I googled him and looked up every possible interview that I could watch of him that's what I used to do with

these athletes is I would like look up every interview watch them study them watch their body language so while I'm creepily watching this video of him speaking at like an NYU conference I will never forget it he had like this hot like gray t-shirt on he looked great I get an email from him and this is the next day after we had our zoom and I get this email from him and it's like so are we making this tv show or what what I didn't realize is he told me the people at his company were like Matt you don't understand I know you don't know what her brand but like we need this show like please like make it happen make it happen and he's like okay so he emails me are we are making the show or what and then he's like if you're ever in LA let's have an in like let's have

a meeting and I was like I'm actually gonna be in LA next week were you actually gonna be in LA yes that was my series I didn't know if you were like okay like I'm yeah I'm booking a flight right now yes theoretically like it works out I'll be there next week I'm like that's so weird I'm booking a flight right now. Yes, theoretically, it works out. I'll be there next week. I'm like, that's so weird. I'm like on Delta, like book, book. I get on the plane and I go to LA. Matt and I first were going on this business meeting to Matsuhisa, which is this sushi place. And-

That's where the meeting was set for? Yes, that's where the meeting was set for. He picks me up. I get in his car. I remember being so, and this is how I knew I fucked with him. This is like so fucked up. My brain was still a little toxic. I get in the car and he's on a work call and he's like, sorry, like I'm on a call. And I'm immediately like, fuck me. Like not being

like, hi, Alex. So nice to meet you. Like eventually you'll see Matt like treats me amazing. But in the beginning he was also kind of like playing it coy. So he's on this call, sitting there, sitting there. Finally he hangs up and he's like kind of like playing it coy yeah so he's on this call sitting there sitting there finally he hangs up and he's like kind of like not really talking to me and i do a classic me trying to make the guy insecure and i was like are you nervous and he literally looks at me and goes not at all why would i be nervous and i'm like it usually worked on every guy he'd be like well kind of he was like not at all why would i be nervous and i'm like and i'm like i don't know and he's like is that your real hair color and i'm like oh he hit you where it hurts i was like what and then he goes and like do you are those is that you're also your real hair because i had extension at that time now again i know i'm getting into

real detail but like let me just give you guys the tea I at that point in my life this is this is going to come back around to make sense in this story but let me just say I had some extensions in okay there's nothing wrong with extensions but I lied and I was like oh yeah this is all my real hair because I'm like who cares because my hair was healthy I just had a little clips okay a couple clips in I was like I don't because I at that point I don't even go listen the point was is I you lied I lied so I lie and this is gonna come back around to bite me in the ass so I lie but I'm like whatever my hair is healthy I just have like a couple that's what every girl says like yeah bitch then why do you have them in so we get to Matsuhisa and so we sit down and here we go I am like I'm gonna have sex with this man at one point in my life but it's still a business meeting at this point business meeting now if I

brought Madden right now he would be like I had really no idea what call her daddy was when I met you so we start talking and you guys have to keep this in mind which now I can say to you guys because I feel like you guys I feel like the daddy gang can probably feel the difference from like who I was when I started the show to where I am now I'm relaxed I feel the difference you know I'm taking pauses I'm not trying to like scream and like come up with stories just for stories but I was selling the Call Her Daddy show at first. So we start this meeting at Sushi and Matt is like, so tell me about the brand. Like what do you think the show would look like? And I am like, let me tell you this. I'm like being the Call Her Daddy girl. I'm like flipping my hair. I'm like, let me tell you about this. And

like the sucking the dick and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And Matt's just like, okay, okay, okay. 15 minutes goes by and I'm like putting on a show. And he's like, let me tell you about this. And like the sucking the dick and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And Matt's just like, okay, okay, okay. 15 minutes goes by and I'm like putting on a show. And he's like, I mean, your brand is like phenomenal. Like it is very impressive what you've built. But if I, can I be real with you? And I was like, sure. Up until this point, just keep in mind, every single person business-wise in my life was like, you should do the show.

And I think, again, I can just kind of be honest and say this like something about this industry is like anyone everyone wants to just get their paycheck and get their percentage and it was he was the first person he looked at me he said can I be really honest with you and I'm not just saying this because I don't think this is the right fit for my my company I don't think you should do the show right now and I was like what why and again this could just be a paycheck for Matt like and he was like because you need to focus on your podcast again I had not signed my Spotify deal yet like nothing he's like you were at Barstool at this point still at Barstool by myself and he was like you need to focus on Call Her Daddy the podcast that this could eventually come just keep doing what you're doing keep the main thing the main thing keep doing what you're doing the minute he said that I was like I totally agree should we

get like another drink like oh wait okay and like tell me more about yourself so like your fit and Matt literally goes what just happened and I was like what do you mean he's like no no no I will never forget it we were talking about this the other day he was like what just happened and I was like what do you mean he's like no no I will never forget it we were talking about this the other day he was like what just happened and I was like well I'm done like I'm done pitching like that was my caller daddy's chick now I'm just being myself and he was like what and he said he said in that moment for himself that was the moment where he's like oh this girl is like way more complex than I fucking thought he not to say he thought I was dumb but he was like this girl's just like kind

of fucking bimbo that's like talking about sex and he was like in that moment I realized how smart you were and I was like immediately captivated I was like oh fuck this fucking little girl from Pennsylvania is not just fucking and sucking and talking about blowjobs or whatever like this is like a shit essentially this is legit like she's building a show and a brand and she knows what she's doing and then immediately it turned onto a date and I was like so if we're not gonna make the show like who made the first move that night what'd you do I was I remember saying something like so if we're not gonna make this is what I said I said we're not gonna make the show but I want you to know you're on my show this week and he was like excuse, excuse me. I was like, yeah, I was podcasting about you before

saying I'm so excited for our business meeting, our date. And I'm like into you. And like, I would like, let's just hang. And he was like, kind of down, like he just smiled or whatever. And so we immediately just start flirting. We get so fucked up. We have sake, we have beer. And I remember at one point in the dinner, Matt put his hand across the table and was just like like started holding my hand like we are kind of fucked up at this point like maybe liquid courage we just both started getting so cozy it was one of those dates where like by the end I was like have we been dating for a year like we felt like like without a doubt it's like oh I will see you again absolutely I love someone that's so forward like yeah it was so the right vibe I'm getting

butterflies right like we were like leaning towards each other we were talking I asked him all about his past and like so then I was like finally the dinner and see you were asking about the childhood back then exactly it's nothing new it's nothing new it's not just for the show guys I'm like what happened in your childhood why are you the way you are and so he takes me to the bathroom and we go through the front door and I'm peeing texting my my mom vigorously like, he's perfect. I'm obsessed with him. He's perfect. And then he texts me. He's like, I'm out back. I will never forget it. It was like the best moment of my life. I come out of the bathroom and I turn and it's like a long hallway to the back of the parking lot. And I see Matt and he's just standing there and I walk out to him because

we're gonna go get our car from valet and he grabs me pushes me up against all grabs my face and starts making out with my face now so hot so great however he starts putting his hands in my hair and I'm like my extensions my fucking extensions and then i'm like i'm so obsessed with this guy i'm like i don't want to start this relationship on a fucking lie it's too early to be called out for a lie so immediately we're like having truly like the most hot like a picture of it actually felt like a movie like pushes me up against the wall like makes out goes up in the tracks and i am like fuck me what do you do I immediately do the thing remember I used to say this on color daddy if if you don't want them to feel your extensions have them finger you like

there's no he fingered you in the parking lot no no no he didn't finger me but I basically grabbed his hand and like put it I just put it down and then I put my hand in his shit I was I mean I would have hands I put his I put his i started giving him a blowjob i basically pulled his hand down and you know where you do that where you hold their hands so tight like i'm holding his wrist so it can't go farther crushing it and then i pull it down and then i go up to his neck so he couldn't get up and around immediately i did block the classic block like do not get up in and around my tracks we can't start this on a lie okay we get in the car we make out before we leave valet he then this was the best part and then i can stop because i could go on forever but basically matt had told me he had to leave the next day for canada because they were going to start shooting

a movie we get in the car and i'm like damn like when's the next time i'm gonna see you and he was like you're gonna kill me but i know i told you like we had to do dinner tonight i'm actually not leaving for canada i'm gonna be here for the whole week and i immediately why wasn't he leaving for canada because oh because the actor got covid oh so he was like so now we had to push it a week so immediately immediately in my head, I'm like, holy fuck. Like, we're going to get a week of just like, I'm going to fuck this man at the end of this week. Like, I need to have sex with him. Like, I was just getting great vibes.

It's all too good to be true. I got to see how. Exactly. And usually like, I don't, I, and it's not like a, it was just a thing I always did where I never really slept with a guy for the first like month or two with Matt I was like this is so not going to be based off of like I just need to see our chemistry because this is almost too good to be true we get back to the hotel he's like can I come up for like a nightcap drink I'm like absolutely not I'm like I can't fuck him on the first night so we make out in the

car I send him away so Matt texts me when I get up to my hotel room I still have the screenshot and it's heart eyes and he's like you're amazing and I was like staring at it just like lying in bed just staring at it my sister was staying with me in LA at the time we were staying in this hotel together and I walked into the hotel like I'm in love Catherine like obviously like not actually but it was like that high of like I had been on so many bad first dates and then you're in COVID having no success and it was like I couldn't believe how lucky I got that I found this guy that was hot and successful and like so I was just so attracted to him like how is this real and so he texts me and he goes hard eyes and he's like you're amazing and I was like that was everything and then we just like left it at didn't hear from the next day and then next day on Wednesday, he texts me in the morning and he's like, what time

you coming over? And I was like, God bless me. I'm going to fuck my man's night. So I, I, I went over that night. No, I didn't fuck him. But sorry, Matt. And sorry, Steve and Lisa, Lisa his parents love you all I go over for like tacos and we go in his hot tub green margaritas the green margaritas they get you fucked up and we

just did everything but sex and that is probably when I knew that this would be the man that I spent the rest of my life with how do I say this he was technically skilled Matt Kaplan I have never had a guy eat me out I have never had multiple orgasms not I know I've never even had an orgasm from a guy eating me out let's just say like excellent excellent i i was i left the next day blown away i was like still orgasming still orgasm i was like this is the craziest thing and then he was like why don't we go to santa barbara for the weekend and i was like wait what and he's like it's covid you're going back to new york soon like let's let's see what's up and we were like damn okay yeah and then the rest was history so let's talk about marriage because throughout this entire episode i've been saying how i had

no idea if you were even going to say yes and that had nothing to do with matt and everything to do with you because for years now you've been telling me your family your friends that you weren't sure if you were ever going to get married or if that you even believed in marriage yes that is true and I was very upfront with Matt about that since the beginning of our relationship when did you begin to like question marriage like if that's some if like that was something that you believed in I think I I and I maybe it's because my mother is kind of this way like I just always was like um questioning everything in my life which when I was younger got me in a lot of trouble but like I just never wanted to conform to like if someone was telling me to do something I would always be like why

and most of the time people can't tell you the reason and then you're like well why would I do that like that was a nightmare for me in like high school and stuff I got in a lot of trouble but like marriage to me was never something I dreamt of I can't explain it to you because my parents are so in love and and are have been married for like so many years and they had such a beautiful marriage when I was growing up. My individual sense of self and being my own person and being strong and in a healthy relationship with myself is so important to me and has always been more important to me than a partnership. And I think that when I me than a partnership and I think that when I think about a partnership I think about someone that adds something to my life and we have this beautiful partnership and we add to each other's lives but we don't need a piece of

paper why don't we just choose each other every day and I think marriage is so thrown around like it's time people don't know each other people are cheating on each other one person is so thrown around. Like it's time. People don't know each other. People are cheating on each other. One person is so unhealthy in the relationship. One person doesn't even love the other person. You see it's used to like we'll be stronger together. And it's like anything that you don't. That's what my mom always said.

Anything that bothers you about a partner will only get 10 times worse if you marry them. Don't think it's going to fix shit. Like you weren't willing to say yes to marriage if you weren't like a million, million, million, million, million percent sure. You wouldn't like if you were in a situation you're like well I love him and I could see myself spending the rest of my life like that was a no like that would be like oh. The concept of settling to me is the most common thing I think of people that I see and it breaks my heart for people because it's like so many people are like we've been dating for five years like what am I gonna do start over yeah absolutely I have people in my mom's life that are in their 60s that are like I'm miserable my mom was like you have almost 30 more years of your life. You're going to stay

with him 30 more years. You're going to be miserable. Like, I think I just have always looked at it as for more of like a practical, realistic rather than fairy tale. And maybe that's bit me in the ass because maybe I've come off a cold in relationships, but I like it because I feel like by not having this idealized expectation of being like I want to get married and of course all the fun things that's but half the people want a wedding because they want a wedding they're not even happy with the person sitting across from them at the wedding I set an expectation for myself of I'd rather be alone and I kind of think I got in my head with that and I was okay with it and I thought I would be I would have someone give me sperm and I literally was going to have kids if I hadn't found someone.

I was like, fuck it. I'll like find a good donor and I'll like have my own fucking kids and my own life. And like, I just think my happiness to me is way more important than fulfilling and checking off some box that society deems as like the picture perfect thing. Like I worked really, really hard on my like self-esteem and my self-worth and like hating myself when I was younger I got to this place where I was like I finally am happy with myself and where I'm at my life I'm not gonna settle in any other aspect if someone's coming in like they better make it better or I'm not interested I feel like growing

up and like idealizing marriage unconsciously like pushes you because you just get excited about this like exciting thing and it pushes you to be like well like maybe I'm like still like this far from making the decision but I'm excited so I'm just gonna take the jump yeah that's that's so interesting because I how I knew it was real with Matt is I'm like I don't even care if we don't have a wedding. I don't need a wedding. I don't even need a ring. I was like, I don't I why my view changed on marriage was I know I want to have children with this man. I know he's going to be an incredible father.

And I think that my view changed when I knew wholeheartedly within myself that there is no settling in this dynamic. There is no losing 0.1% of myself and there is no compromising in terms of who I am and what I believe in. Of course, there's compromise in a relationship in terms of like how you work together to form as one but the moment that I realized oh I'm one like I know this sounds insane because you really feel like you can't like I am 100 if it was there could be more than a hundred percent I am 100 percent with Matt. I can like say anything. I can be my worst self, my best self. I can be annoying. I can be gross.

Whatever it is. And it's not just a comfort thing. It's like we love each other as two human beings. And we're so good on our own. And coming together, we're just better together he makes me better I think I make him better and so that was the moment I knew like I don't have to change anything other than I'm gonna be happier with this person by my side that was the minute I knew like I also know he wants to get married. Matt wants to get married. And there's also something in me

where I was like, I also want to make him happy. And it's not now that I'm doing something for him. I now have gotten to the place where I genuinely believe that marrying him does not go against anything. And I actually think it's beautiful to change your mind because my version of marriage was not what it is now my idea of what a marriage would be is not what it is now because I found that and everything that I saw growing up or thought of or thought I would have to do is out the window because I'm creating my own version of what my own marriage is going to be and I fucking love it wow I'm like you answered all I don't even have another question to ask how did you tell him like you were ready it was funny I don't know why it just came to me it was it wasn't I will say it wasn't a moment where I was like oh my gosh was it like that so

raven like you're like like oh you're nasty, I was literally like, I just remember it was kind of what I just talked about. I had, we'd been just so good and in this rhythm. And he had said to me months prior, I love you no matter what. We don't have to get married. Like, if that is what you truly want, like, I just want to be with you for the rest of my life. And I want to create a family with you and keep creating memories. And I love you.

And like, we don't need to get married. Would I love to marry you, Alex? Yes. It would make me the happiest man in the world. But I'm already the happiest man in the world. Like, don't feel pressured to do it. And then I was like, okay. I was like, when I need someone to allow me to make decisions for myself.

And then I'm like, okay. So what happened was we were so good for so long. And I will never forget. I was sitting in therapy one day and I was just smiling. And my therapist was like, tell me, hello. And I was like, I think I want to get married. And she was like, huh, that's wonderful, Alex. Like, what changed?

And then I talked her through this. And was like she literally started crying my therapist started crying because she was like oh my god like your icy heart has just it's thawed it's it's red and she was just so happy for me and um so I remember we went to Giorgio Baldi in Santa Monica highly recommend 10 out of 10 if you want to splurge it's like the best fucking pasta ever and we go and this is a random Friday night Matt's like fuck me the craziest week like I want to take you on a date like get dressed up we're going to Giorgio and so we get there and we get a glass of wine and I'm like I need to tell you something and usually when I say that it's bad so he's like fuck like what and I'm like no I need to tell you something. And usually when I say that, it's bad. So he's like, fuck, like what? And I'm like, no, it's good.

It's good. Like you can breathe. And I said, I want to let you know that I will marry you. I love that. He's literally like, oh, you will? Like as if I'm like, yeah yeah but I said like you and then me being such a fucking like control freak and I was like so here's how I want you to do it no I literally said like so I you know you can obviously take it from there and he's like what change and I

was like I just know with us like you have been so supportive and you have never pressured me into any decision and you've always allowed me to stay true to who I am. And like it means so much to me that you're not trying to make me conform to something that you want. And I know also like I've made compromises for things that Matt wants. So it's like we've met each other in this beautiful middle. And I just thought like now that we both are still so at the point where we couldn't get closer and we're like we're there.

Let's do this cool fucking thing. That's a celebration of our love. And I said, so you can do it. And he was like, he got so red. He got so excited. He like how quickly after that conversation, what did he propose? So that was in November. He told me that was in November.

So December, January, February, March. Oh, he got moving. OK, so no no so this is why it happened so fast so after that Matt like skips out of dinner he's like fuck yes like yes she's fucking told me I can do it and I didn't tell now back no one of this fucking interview I had told my mother I'm so sorry and to my father like you'll never walk me down an aisle which I still don't know if you will I don't know if I want to do this whole like aisle thing I just can't but I'll figure it out but I never told anyone in my life that was close to me that I told I never told them hey guys just so heads up I changed my mind I want to get married right so

Matt we're very close with this couple and she is in the jewelry diamond business. And Matt just kind of put feelers out to her and was like, hey, if you find a diamond, that's right for her. Perfect. Hit me up. Just take your time. Like there's no rush, whatever. She calls a day later. later and Meg is like Matt I am staring at a vintage 1920s cut that like they do not make

anymore so he gets it and then he's like I don't want to sit on this ring like let's do it and then he starts planning so then the last story that comes is my poor poor poor parents get a call from Matt and my parents answer and they're like hello Matt like what's going on and Matt's like you know um I got a ring and I wanted to I know it's a little like old-fashioned traditional but I wanted to ask like how do you yeah you down like can I ask Alex to to marry me and my parents look at him my poor father my mother literally go pale white and they're like oh Matt sweetie we love you we would we would love for you to ask her um but do you think she's gonna say yes and poor Matt is like yes Mrs.

Cooper Mr. Cooper don't worry like um yes I got the green light I got the green light and my mom's like you sure little did they know we had this conversation and so when I walked in that day and I see the zoom thing and I press play I felt so happy because it just felt like here we fucking go like here we go and what I do know is like I don't feel any well that's not true we have we've been having really I mean not that we don't have great sex but we've been having like really good sex but I don't feel any difference in terms of like again that's why I think I'm happy that I allowed myself to have this idea of this is not going to change anything this isn't going to change how he treats you

this isn't going to change your love this isn't going to change your sex life forever like this means nothing what do you how do you treat each other what is your communication do you love each other do you like this person do you even like you know what I mean like that is when I knew like this is great. So fun. But like I'm just happy that like we're going to be together and we're going to make it work and hopefully, you know, start a family and like do the damn thing. And everyone keeps asking me about my fucking wedding. I was just going to.

Dude. But actually, I do have a few. I mean, more than a few last questions. Do I get to throw a bachelorette party? Are you going to have a wedding? Are you going to get a prenup? Are you going to take his last name? Those are a lot of questions, Lauren. Let's save that for another episode. Bye.