Call Her Daddy - Paris Hilton: Sex Symbol, Slut Shaming & Sliving (FBF)

Episode Date: June 13, 2025

Paris Hilton on Call Her Daddy? That’s hot. Join Alex as she goes to Paris Hilton’s house for a sit-down interview. Paris reminisces on some of her most memorable 2000’s moments and what dating ...was like in her early twenties (hint: you were probably ghosted or blacklisted from every club). She also tells the story behind that iconic photo of her, Lindsay Lohan, and Britney Spears and talks about her long-term friendship with Kim Kardashian. Paris explains how she was typecast as the “dumb blonde” on The Simple Life and how she felt that character defined her for the majority of her career. Alex and Paris also discuss Paris’ leaked sex tape, how that impacted her romantic relationships, and the horrible slut shaming she had to overcome. Finally, Paris gushes over her marriage and how her husband is completely different from anyone she dated in her past. If you want even more of their love story, you can check out season two of Paris in Love now streaming on Peacock. Enjoy!

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Starting point is 00:00:00 This is Paris. Paris Hilton. Paris. This is Paris Hilton. Paris Hilton. Paris Hilton is the it girl. That's hot. She's been in the news nearly two decades. An illicit s*** tape starring Paris Hilton hit the internet this week. Became one of the most recognized faces on the planet. Come on, let's go to Paris' I wanna rock. More than 13 million people watched her show, The Simple Life. Have you ever had a real job? No. All the things with social media, first person was Paris Hilton. You created that person to sort of get through.
Starting point is 00:00:33 She literally gave me a career. My life has been so public. I've been talked about in such cruel and mean ways. I've been through hell and back. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Paris Hilton and her husband got married in November of 2021. The birth of your son. And surprising the world with her second baby.
Starting point is 00:00:52 And one of the highest paid DJs in the world. In her new self-titled memoir. In season two of her reality show, Paris in Love. This is a whole new phase in my life. I just feel like a different person. Transforming and just becoming a new person, growing in ways that I couldn't even imagine before. F***. You guys know what's happening.
Starting point is 00:01:34 Let's go, Daddy Gang. What is up, Daddy Gang? your founding father, Alex Cooper, with Call Her Daddy. Paris Hilton, welcome to Call Her Daddy. Thank you. I am so happy we're finally doing this. It's long overdue. Congratulations, you just had a baby, girl, London. How are you and Carter feeling? We are just so happy.
Starting point is 00:02:07 I just feel like my life feels so complete. She is so beautiful. And it's just so cute to see Phoenix with his little sister. And I've always wanted a daughter my whole life. I've always wanted to have a little girl named London. So the fact that she's here now is just everything. You kept it a secret from the whole world and your family. I'm curious, like, how the hell did you keep it a secret?
Starting point is 00:02:32 Was there ever a moment where, like, the secret was almost blown? No, I'm very good at keeping secrets. And I just feel like my life has been so public. Everything I've done has just always been so out there. And I just really just didn't want any of that outside chatter. I didn't want people discussing my children
Starting point is 00:02:52 before they were here. It was just, I don't know, I just wanted to have something for myself for once. So did you, it was just you and Carter that knew? Yeah, just Carter and I. No one knew. Like it was, it was a fun, like, I don't know, like secret to have with each other, I guess.
Starting point is 00:03:08 Okay, well, congratulations. Paris, you're an icon. You were the queen of the 90s. You're still the queen. You're the original influencer. Like there's truly, we could do a nine hour interview. You're like, bitch, get the fuck out of my house. But when I think about my audience,
Starting point is 00:03:25 I think about this younger generation who obviously knows you. But I feel like they know you through certain iconic moments they see maybe in pictures, but they don't know the backstory to things, or they know you now, obviously. So I kinda wanna take a little walk down memory lane. Okay, here we go.
Starting point is 00:03:41 Do you ever Google yourself? Yes. I was Googling you this morning and I'm like, every trend, I feel like that was like huge in the early 2000s, you were starting. Like everything you were putting on, people were going, people were buying. So I'm curious, if you had to pick three top trends
Starting point is 00:04:00 that were like, they're your most iconic staples, what would you pick from the 2000s? Definitely my 21st birthday dress. The Swarovski cover, Julian McDonald dress that I've seen so many people recreate it where for their 21st birthdays or birthdays and that dress is just, if I was a dress, I would be that dress.
Starting point is 00:04:18 That for sure. I love the little skirts I used used to wear the mini skirts. Should be the size of a belt, because life's short, take risks. And the floor track suits. That's why I came out with my own line. All of these iconic things that you wore, do you archive your stuff?
Starting point is 00:04:39 A lot of it, yeah. Like you have, do you have any of the razor flip phones left? Yes. The sunglasses? The sunglasses, the sidekicks covered with Swarovski crystals. Holy shit. Will you ever let London use some of your archive?
Starting point is 00:04:55 Is she gonna have to kind of like do her own thing? I definitely have been saving pieces for her. Like throughout my life, I've always kept things for one day for my daughter. I don't wanna wear some of the outfits for a little bit. You don't? Too much. What is one thing that you definitely are like,
Starting point is 00:05:10 I've saved this, I wanna give this to my daughter. Just like different pieces that I've got from like Dolce & Gabbana, Versace, just like beautiful dresses that I know one day when she goes to prom, she's gonna have like these epic dresses to wear. I feel so bad for all the girls at that prom. She's gonna be like, oh my God, she has arrived.
Starting point is 00:05:29 I think about your social life back then, okay? And like truly when you were younger, you were the like running the socialite scene. Obviously your last name holds a lot of weight, but like how did you get into the scene? How did you get into these clubs? How did you become friends with these celebrities? Well, before I moved to New York,
Starting point is 00:05:47 I was living in LA my whole life. And then I moved to New York when I was 16. And I had lived such a sheltered life before that. My parents were so strict. I wasn't allowed to go out. I wasn't allowed to go on dates. I couldn't go to school dances. So then I moved to New York.
Starting point is 00:06:01 I'm living in the Waldorf Astoria. All of a sudden, my sister and I are getting invites to all these club openings, parties, premieres, these huge events, and we're getting sent all these designer clothes. And then we met Noah Tepperberg and then started going to all of his clubs almost every single night.
Starting point is 00:06:19 And it all just happened that way. It just kind of just me going out. Did you ever worry about like upsetting your family of like, I'm gonna go the complete opposite way of what every maybe other heiress is doing of like acting proper and like being a good like Catholic girl? My mom was so strict, but I was just such a rebel.
Starting point is 00:06:39 And I think because she was so strict, it made me rebel even more. And I think just being an Aquarius with my ADHD, I'm just like, I have a lot of energy and I just loved going out. Like I didn't care if my mom would be like, okay, you need to be home at midnight. I would figure out a way to like sneak out at night,
Starting point is 00:06:58 put on a wig, like run down 30 flights of stairs at the wall door, sneak into like a cab, go downtown. I just had like this thing called clubitis, where I was obsessed with clubbing. Also, I'm thinking about you casually just living in a hotel. Did that make it harder to sneak out or easier? Harder, because my parents would tell the security,
Starting point is 00:07:18 they'd tell the concierge, the front desk. Everyone who worked at the hotel was on the lookout for me. That's why I came up with all these disguises. I would take a Barbie doll, put it in my bed, have the hair sticking out with the pillows in case my mom checked on me at night. I just came up with the sneakiest ways. So if my daughter London ever figures out anyways,
Starting point is 00:07:39 I know every trick in the book. Yeah, that's so true. I'm wondering, do you think you're gonna take the same parenting style? Do you think you will be hard on her? Are you gonna go easy breezy, like, oh, have fun at the club, sweetie? I'm gonna be, I always was upset with my mom
Starting point is 00:07:54 because she was so strict, but now that I am a mom, I can totally understand. I'm gonna be so terrified when she becomes a teenager and wants to go on dates and wants to go out, just because I know how it is and just how men are and how people are. So I don't want to be so strict where she rebels too, so it's really a hard thing.
Starting point is 00:08:15 Back then, I feel like wherever you went, paparazzi followed. And there is, I would say arguably one of the most iconic photos to this day in history is a photo you just reposted on your Instagram. It is you, Britney Spears and Lindsay Lohan in a car. And I'm like, I think it lives rent free in every millennials head.
Starting point is 00:08:39 It's like, it's been on t-shirts, it's been on coffee mugs, like you name it, you've seen this photo. What were you guys doing that night? Like where were you guys going? Where were you? Just like fill us in on a little bit. We were at the Beverly Hills Hotel and one of the bungalows and Brittany and I were there
Starting point is 00:08:56 and these guys were just being so annoying and we were just so bored. So we went into the bathroom. I was like, all right, we're just gonna like jump out this window and get out of here. And so we locked the bathroom, I was like, all right, we're just gonna jump out this window and get outta here. And so we locked the door, jumped out the window, and then started sneaking out to the car, because I hate saying bye to people
Starting point is 00:09:13 because then everyone's like, oh, why are you leaving? And then it's a whole half hour of having to say why you wanna leave, and I'm just the type that hates confrontation. So we basically snuck out the window, we were walking to the car, and then all of a sudden just got blasted with all this paparazzi. And then Lindsay came over and then we were all in the car together. And dude, I had no it was just
Starting point is 00:09:36 like a normal night out like we weren't doing anything. And the media the next day like made it out to be like this huge deal like vilifying us like we're bad people. It's like we're just young girls going out like everyone else does and running away from boys. We're just Irish exiting from the Beverly Hills hotel. It just happens to be Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, and Paris Hilton.
Starting point is 00:09:59 No big fucking deal. It's so cool and I can imagine you, it must feel so kind of cool to see like so many people still are obsessed with these big moments. Are you still close with these people? I was writing with Lindsey like two days ago I invited her to this party. She's coming to LA in a few months so we're gonna make plans to see each other, the babies. And then I was talking with Brittany like three days ago as well and
Starting point is 00:10:25 we were planning a girls night she wants to come over and we just play dress up and hang out or just it's really fun. It's cool to see like you're all in such different phases of your life now you guys have babies and to still be able to just like have fun and like catch up. I think it makes all of us in the world like we can sleep at night knowing the girls are thriving. Let's talk about another iconic person that is one of also the most famous people in the world, Miss Kim Kardashian.
Starting point is 00:10:54 I'm looking at Google and I'm seeing you guys like walking in again, getting paparazzi together. And it's so crazy to see that like you guys were friends back then. How did you guys meet? We've known each other since we're little girls because our moms were best friends growing up our entire lives. We both went to Buckley with each other and then just became close like 2000 something when I moved to my house on Kings Road and a family friend of ours, Faye Resnick was my interior designer.
Starting point is 00:11:26 I was moving everything from my one house to my other house and she's like, Kim is amazing, she's so organized. She's gonna come and help you. And then we just became best friends. We had so much fun together, started traveling all around the world. And she was the one who was very organized and I was the one who was very disorganized.
Starting point is 00:11:43 So we made an amazing team and we just had the best time together. It's just cool to see now all of you again going in different directions, like Kim, what she's built, what you have built. It's cool that you've, back in the day, were going and drinking with these girls and partying and now everyone kind of has built their own empires.
Starting point is 00:12:02 And I love that for the girls. I love it. Just to see so many of my friends and so many women building their empires and their businesses and just girls are taking over the world. They are. How did you navigate dating in your early 20s when so many eyeballs were on you?
Starting point is 00:12:17 Did you even enjoy yourself? It was hard to have any privacy because from the moment I left my house till I went to bed at night, there was 50 cars waiting outside with paparazzi. So I had no privacy whatsoever. Anytime I'd be at an event, if I even spoke to a guy, like, all of a sudden,
Starting point is 00:12:35 the next day, I would say that we were dating. Like, there's just been so many things in the media of guys that I didn't even know I maybe met once, and then the media would just make up all these stories. And just having to trust someone because a lot of these guys wanted that attention. So it was hard to figure out who to actually trust. Would you say you were the type of girl
Starting point is 00:12:58 that was a relationship girl or a single girly? What were you up to? I feel like I loved relationships. Like me being in love, like that's my favorite thing. But I also would get bored so easily. So I think back then I didn't even know who I was and I didn't trust anyone. So it was kind of just like, I don't know. And so many bad things would happen to me.
Starting point is 00:13:26 People would cheat on me, humiliate me, and then I would have not only be humiliated, then publicly all around the world, people would be talking about it. So it was just really hard to let anyone in. Like I had such walls around my heart that I never truly let anyone in. If I was to ask your sister or your best friend,
Starting point is 00:13:47 what was it like dating Paris back then? What do you think they would say? What were you like in a relationship? I was very loyal, it was fun. We were going out every single night too, so it's hard to really have a serious relationship when you're every night going to a club, something's happening.
Starting point is 00:14:08 And then a lot of times I would just be so over the person that again, I hate confrontation, so to break up with them, so I would just ghost so many people. So I think that a lot of people would say that I was definitely a heartbreaker and a ghoster. I love that you're like, I really didn't wanna end relationships. So it was like, I'm just gonna ghost them.
Starting point is 00:14:28 And what would you just like not answer them ever again? Never answer them again, basically. Did you ever make sure that a guy couldn't get into a club? Yes. No. Yes. If anyone fucked with me, I would tell every single club, do not ever let him in.
Starting point is 00:14:43 I don't even care if I'm not even there. Just like totally blacklist them. Baller. Yeah. Like if you cheat, you basically can't go outside. Yes. Cause like you won't be able to get into even restaurants. You started at the clubs in Paris,
Starting point is 00:14:56 it's like also restaurants in LA, restaurants in New York. Oh wow. That's like some power that like, I feel like all the ladies watching are like, Oh, I wish I had that power to be able to do that. Do you think you had a type during your twenties? Like if you could like, if all of them were in this room, was there a type happening over there? Paris? I don't know. I look back and like a cringe at some of these people and like, what the
Starting point is 00:15:20 hell was I thinking? Why? What were they? Like What? I was just like beyond, like I don't know. I just look back at some people and they're just like, not good guys. I don't know. I'm at the worst when you're like, why did I let them say forever that they dated me? Yes, I hate that. It's just humiliating.
Starting point is 00:15:38 Or some of the male models are just, yeah. Interesting, not the vibe. Okay, we gotta talk about The Simple Life. During this time in your life, you get on a reality show and it's The Simple Life and it's with you and Nicole Richie and it premieres and like it was literally the biggest thing. I remember like it had like 13 million views an episode
Starting point is 00:15:59 on network television on Fox. Like it was unheard of how insane this show blew up. Do you ever rewatch the show? Yes. You do. All the time. Tell me all your thoughts. Wait, can you tell for anyone that's like younger
Starting point is 00:16:13 that hasn't watched it, can you give like the premise of this reality show? The Simple Life is basically about two best friends who go to these little small towns and took away our money, our credit cards, our cell phones. We have two best friends who go to these little small towns and took away our money, our credit cards, our cell phones, and we basically live the simple life. But we have so much fun together
Starting point is 00:16:34 and constantly getting fired from every single job and just like going and just like having these crazy adventures all across middle America. Tell me what you think when you re-watch it. I just laugh so much. I think that show is just so hilarious. Nicole has came over a couple times and we go into the movie theater room together
Starting point is 00:16:57 at her house or here and just watch the episodes and just both just laugh so hard that we're crying. Did you enjoy filming it? Yes. How much of the show was actually real? All of it. just both just like laugh so hard that we're crying. Did you enjoy filming it? Yes. How much of the show was actually real? All of it. All of it.
Starting point is 00:17:09 Especially the first season, they didn't let any of the camera people talk to us. Like if we'd be like, what do we do now? They're like, no, like no one was allowed to tell us any directions, nothing. Okay, so the less like glamorous side was, I remember you said, I think it was in your book, you said like, the producers came to you and they were like,
Starting point is 00:17:27 play the dumb blonde, like play it up. And I think what was so interesting is like, that is then like, it is kind of like how America then saw you, it's like this like rich, dumb blonde girl. How did you handle the misconception of you back then when everyone thought you were actually this dumb? Well, with the simple idea, yeah, the producer said, Nicole, you'd be the troublemaker.
Starting point is 00:17:48 Paris, you'd just be the dumb blonde and basically play into what people would assume that we were. And I would just put on that character. And I think because of what I had went through when I was a teenager, it was almost like this mask or kind of like a protective shield in a way and then when I would go and do interviews on like the late night shows and everything people expected me to continue being the character because it would be weird if all of a sudden I was just myself and then
Starting point is 00:18:20 I just kind of got like stuck in that character almost. And it was difficult sometimes for people to have so many misconceptions and assume that I was something that I wasn't. Yeah. But I don't know, I also just was like having a good time and laughing all the way to the bank at the same time. So it was fine. That's what I think is so fascinating is like,
Starting point is 00:18:44 I remember middle school, it was like cool if the girl was dumb, like it was like hot if the girl's just like dumb. And I now look back at that and I'm like, what? I can see obviously what the producers were doing, it was so brilliant, but I think for your real life, did you ever start to like resent that character? Not resent it, but sometimes I would just be like,
Starting point is 00:19:06 these people have no idea. But something I've always loved to do is prove people wrong. And I know that I've definitely done that now and people can see that I'm not a dumb blonde. I'm just very good at pretending to be one. I couldn't agree more. I feel like in your documentary,
Starting point is 00:19:24 I feel like we got to really see so many different sides to you. And actually, I think a lot of people were like, oh my God, we had no idea this whole time how smart this girl is, how aware she is of this brand that she's built. And I think I remember something people were so fascinated by was when you kind of talked about
Starting point is 00:19:42 the two different voices you will use and kind of interchangeably, there's the high pitch and then there's the more chill voice. And I'm curious, how do you decide when to do which voice? It's something that I've been doing for so long that I can't even control it. When I get shy, the voice will go up higher. And then when I'm just feeling a little bit more relaxed,
Starting point is 00:20:06 it's more lower. But sometimes I have to tell myself like Paris, just talk in your normal voice. But I just, I don't know what it is. It just, I think just from so many years of doing it, it's just become a part of me. Like you did the high, higher one for so long, that I think that's why in the documentary,
Starting point is 00:20:23 you were more in your like normal tone. And I think that's why so the documentary you were more in your like normal tone. And I think that's why so many people were like. Yeah, they were shocked. What does your most like authentic version of you look like? Me just chilling and like my tracksuit with my socks, no makeup, hair pulled back, puppies all over me. And just being at home with my socks, no makeup, hair pulled back, puppies all over me, and just being at home with my husband and my puppies and my babies. I love the specificity of the socks.
Starting point is 00:20:53 Yeah, I love socks. Watch that be like the one thing that trends from this episode, it's like, I love socks. Socks are hot. So I was like, I love socks. Socks are hot. Okay, I do wanna talk to you about one thing that I think was very huge, sadly, in pop culture. You have spoken about a lot of really traumatic
Starting point is 00:21:22 sexual experiences that you've had in your life, and I think so many women have been able to connect to you even more because of how open you decided to be, especially in your documentary. It was like, it was incredible. One of the things that I think was really like so public was when you were 19 and you had filmed a sex tape with your current partner at the time, your boyfriend,
Starting point is 00:21:46 and then a few years later he decided to leak it without your permission. And obviously the concept of like revenge porn is so huge nowadays of women struggling to like have any autonomy over their body essentially. Can you take me back to the moment when you found out that video had been leaked? Can you take me back to the moment when you found out that video had been leaked? Where were you? Who were you with? How did you find out? That was one of the most painful experiences of my life.
Starting point is 00:22:33 I was with my sister Nikki and we were in Australia and I got a call from someone on my team and they told me that one of the entertainment shows received a 30 second clip and I did not believe it. I was like, what? I'm like, that has to be fake. Like there's no way, because I didn't even remember making it. And then they sent it to me and just, I just like felt like my whole world was ending.
Starting point is 00:23:02 Like I was in hysterics crying. I didn't know what to do. I didn't even want to fly back home to LA because I knew as soon as I landed there would be so many paparazzi and reporters waiting. And I kept changing my flight and just staying in Australia with my sister. I didn't know what to do.
Starting point is 00:23:18 They wanted me to go back to LA because the Simple Life was about to come out. I was supposed to go on a press tour for that. I was like, there's no way I'm doing that. I canceled everything. And then just going back home, I just didn't want to leave my house. I was so depressed.
Starting point is 00:23:34 I was so humiliated. I felt like I had let down my family, my little brothers, my sister. It was just, I put so much shame on myself. And now being an adult and looking back, I just realized that shame should not have been on me. I was a teenage girl, someone who I loved and was with in a relationship and who I trusted.
Starting point is 00:24:00 This was pre-internet, pre-social media. I had no, he promised me no one would ever see it. It was just one of the most traumatic things I've ever experienced. Looking back now, today that would all be illegal. People were so vicious and so mean. Just the whole world watching it, laughing about it, every late night I was just talking about it, making jokes,
Starting point is 00:24:31 and it's something that will haunt me for the rest of my life, just one night with someone who I loved and trusted. I'm curious, like in the moment, because what's so frustrating about sex tapes is what you're doing is what everyone does. You're having sex, you decide to film it. But can you take me to like,
Starting point is 00:24:50 how did you feel about it when it was being filmed? We had been together a while and he was pressuring me and be like, oh, let's do a tape. And I was like, no, I don't want to. And then he was like, oh, hey, fine. If you won't do it, I'll just call someone else. And kind of like threatened me in a way like, okay, if you won't do it, I'll just call someone else. And kind of like threatened me in a way like, okay if you won't do it,
Starting point is 00:25:08 then someone else is gonna come here and do it. And I was just so dumb and so like young and naive that I gave into it because I was scared that he would have someone else come over. But now looking back, if someone would say that to me now, I'd be like, fuck you, like I never wanna fucking look at you again. So it just makes me, I don't know,
Starting point is 00:25:29 sad for myself that I let someone manipulate me like that. And now for the rest of my life, people are gonna judge me on that and assume that I'm a slut because of one night with someone. That's what's really fucked up. And I feel like I've, every time any woman is like exploited in media, I feel like it takes
Starting point is 00:25:51 so many years for people to have the conversation about like the slut shaming that you endured. Like, can you talk a little bit about like how you handled? Like everyone was like you, I remember you wrote in your book, I wrote it down. The world thinks of me as a sex symbol and I'm here for that because symbol literally means icon. But when people saw that sex tape, they didn't say icon,
Starting point is 00:26:11 they said slut and they said whore. Like when you look back and now even having like a daughter on like yourself, like how do you think that should have been handled? I think that they should have looked at it in a way like this is a teenage girl. Like we shouldn't even be talking about this. Like this person should be in jail.
Starting point is 00:26:34 And the fact that people were just so mean and like thinking it's funny, like it was just, it was disgusting just to have to see just what, I don't know, just misogynistic people, people just being so judgmental and I don't know, everyone vilifying me and then celebrating him. Like it was just, and then for people to think that I was in on it as well,
Starting point is 00:27:05 that was the part that pissed me off the most, where people thought that I was involved in this, because that was the last thing that I would ever want in my life. Like I always looked up to all these amazing women and I felt like when he did that to me, he took all that away from me and I could have never been the person who I wanted to be.
Starting point is 00:27:23 Yeah. I feel like something about being this like, yeah, sex symbol, this like hot woman that everyone looked at in not even just America, the world. Like, I'm curious, like how you felt about yourself and your sexuality behind the scenes while everyone else was like getting off to you, watching your sex tape, talking about your body, your looks, how did you feel? It just made me scared about anything that had to do with sex.
Starting point is 00:27:53 After that, I was so closed off. I didn't wanna hook up with anyone because I was just nervous. I would date people, but I would only kiss them because I would just be nervous to do anything else. And then the whole world is assuming, oh, she's the sex symbol, but deep down inside, like I didn't even want to let anyone do anything to me.
Starting point is 00:28:17 But everyone, because of that tape, assumed that I was like doing that every night with people. Right. Yeah, that's something that I remember I struggled at the beginning of my show was like, I remember I went through a really weird period with sex because I felt like I was speaking about it so openly that then when I met guys, they thought like,
Starting point is 00:28:38 oh, she must be doing some crazy shit in the bedroom. And it's like, sure, if I love you and we're having a great intimate bond, but like there was almost like a pressure I started to feel like I was putting on myself and I'm curious, like reclaiming your own sexuality, like how did you handle connecting with a man? It took me a while, just like people even gave me
Starting point is 00:28:59 the nickname of Miss Blue Baller and that's what people would call me because I wouldn't do anything. But then in the public, people assume something else. And then I kind of just, I don't know, played into the character and like doing the Carl's Jr. commercial, doing all these really sexy shoots.
Starting point is 00:29:20 So kind of like exuding and like showing this kind of sex symbol vibe. But deep inside, I didn't feel that way at all. Yeah, it's so weird, like men will never understand. It's like, there's a way to like, yes, progress in the world through your looks and through like in moments like playing the game, but then it also doesn't like negate the fact
Starting point is 00:29:42 that like you are a human being and like you are going home at night feeling so over sexualized. And it's just like there's, it's a hard dichotomy of wanting to be seen for who you are, but also recognizing we still live in a man's world, so you're going to play the game in some moments. And I think the sex tape thing, I agree with you. I think it was like, it's the perfect example of like how wrong the world is
Starting point is 00:30:06 with like, why was it all about you and how much of a slut and a whore you were that what, you had sex with your boyfriend. It's like, why is he not like a predator at this point for like putting something out like that? And I think it, I don't know, I just get frustrated when like the narrative is still so skewed. Like we still see it to this day,
Starting point is 00:30:23 if something comes out about a woman, you're not being like, well, who put it out? Well, the man did. It's all on the woman. So I appreciate you sharing that, because I just think it's important to, you are now a mother and you have built this empire. And I do think it's important sometimes
Starting point is 00:30:39 to talk about these things, because it reminds people something from your past that felt like the end of the world in that moment. It does not define you. I appreciate you talking about it, because I know it's a lot. Thank God it's a different time. I feel like there's just been,
Starting point is 00:30:53 there's a lot of work to do, but I think there's been a lot of progress. And also I think it's really amazing that you're so open about talking about things, because that, I don't know, when I listen to your podcast, that's why I was scared to do your vlog. I was like, oh my God, I'm so not used to talking about sex and things.
Starting point is 00:31:12 But you, I think it's amazing how you use your voice and you really inspire others to just be open about who they are. Thank you. Okay, we're gonna play a little rapid fire. Okay, what is a recent purchase that you spent too much money on? Don't lie to me. At Chanel in Paris during Fashion Week,
Starting point is 00:31:34 but it actually wasn't my money. My husband is so sweet. He's like, I want you to have like a pretty woman moment. I was going on a sister trip to Paris with my little sister and for her birthday. So he's like, here's my credit card, go and spend whatever you want. And it was our 46 month anniversary.
Starting point is 00:31:55 So it was just so sweet, cause no guy's ever done that to me and said like, here's my card, like go and Chanel and buy whatever you want. So I guess that wasn't me, but. What did you buy? Everything. I bought these shoes, so much jewelry, so many purses, sunglasses.
Starting point is 00:32:11 Just like, it was so much fun. What? I love you. You're like, I didn't even, I love how my question is what did you spend? You're like, and it wasn't even my money. Ladies, that is the way to do it. Take his card.
Starting point is 00:32:25 Thank you, daddy. Have you ever been like the one that was like having to buy boyfriends shit? Like were you always the one that was like the breadwinner? A couple people. Those models, ma'am. Yeah. I feel like it's just not attractive.
Starting point is 00:32:45 I just, I don't know. Right, like get your own credit card. Yeah, it's just not attractive. I just, I don't know. Right, like get your own credit card. Yeah, it's beyond. Like there's been some people I just like lose all respect for them. And then you're just like their total boss and you're just like, I people like actually like ask you for things or money? Yes.
Starting point is 00:33:21 How do you navigate that? I hate saying no to people so I sometimes I just give it or I ghost them. No. Paris. I was literally gonna say, are you ghosting the people? It's like an aunt that's like, Paris, can I have this? Just ghost.
Starting point is 00:33:34 No, if it's someone who's like, I feel bad for them. And like, they're like a nice person. But then there's other people who are just greedy, who don't wanna work. And they're just like, Ghost. Yeah. Ghost.
Starting point is 00:33:45 Okay, what is a guaranteed way to give you the ick? That. That. That. Greedy bitch. That. And when people are really sweaty and they come up and they wanna give you a kiss on the cheek,
Starting point is 00:33:58 or it's like the European way and they go twice, or in some countries it's three, so it's like sweaty, so I'm just like, like you know you have sweat on your face. Why are you doing this to me? And that happens a lot. And like you have what I can say is like afterwards, I'm like, I need whoever, like whatever skincare you're up to over there.
Starting point is 00:34:17 You don't need any sweaty lips, but like I like need all your, can you tell us your skincare routine? Well, it's my skincare line. Right, right, right. And I'm just obsessed with anything to do with skincare. My mom taught me all about it when I was eight years old. So just using the serums and the eye creams. And now with all this tech,
Starting point is 00:34:36 I built this living spa downstairs. I'll show you it after. It's like this full on spa that has all this equipment and you'd see in a medical place with huge machines and hyperbaric chamber, cryotherapy machine, hydrofacial, these lasers and things that tighten your skin. I've never done any Botox, I've never done a filler.
Starting point is 00:35:00 I'm 100% natural. Wait, so do you go down there like every morning? When I have time. You're like, bye Carter, grab your coffee and be like, four hours, let's get into it. I do it on the weekends, but then like during the week, sometimes if I'm doing calls or emails or things like that, I can just like kind of lay in one of these things
Starting point is 00:35:20 and kind of just multitask. I'm such a multitasker. Do you ever do zoom calls from like the chamber? Yes. The chamber is amazing. It looks like a spaceship. It can fit four people. Do you think that your friends really truly love you or are they just coming for the spot? Because I'm like Paris, what are you doing this week? Yes. Wow. Okay, that's amazing. That's like goals. Okay, what is your biggest insecurity? Just how shy I am. I get, especially like being out,
Starting point is 00:35:53 I get so socially awkward. And ever since like the pandemic, it's like gotten worse where I'm just so shy and I wish that I wasn't that way. Like why? Cause you think people would expect something different when they meet you? I don't know, I just get really just weird. I don't know, I'm just very shy when it comes to
Starting point is 00:36:14 speaking with people and meeting new people. And sometimes I just get so overwhelmed with so many people coming up. So I wish that I was more confident in that way where I wouldn't feel so shy or like my cheeks get so red. And I hate that. You're doing great, sweetie. Thanks.
Starting point is 00:36:30 You're doing great today. When was the last time you cried? Last night. What happened? That was a good cry. I was on the plane and I just posted a video on TikTok of my little baby. And just reading the comments,
Starting point is 00:36:44 people are so sweet and just showing him so much love and just the things that they're saying to me just touch me so much and it just makes me cry. Yeah, we cry like every day reading people's messages. And just reading people's messages saying like, you inspire me, thank you for what you've done using your voice and just girls and people who have been through the same thing as me
Starting point is 00:37:05 and just hearing just how I touch people like that just touches me so much. I'm such a sensitive person. That just reminded me, like, I feel like you're someone that doesn't address drama. Like you're kind of like, don't care, don't give a fuck. And I, can I ask you kind of about like your decision recently, there were people being like absolutely disgusting
Starting point is 00:37:23 and awful online about your son and you spoke up about it. Like, how did you decide to say something? I feel like my mom of their instincts came out. Like, you could say what you want about me, but this is my little innocent angel, an infant. And the fact that there's people that are that sick in the head that they're gonna go and talk like that about a little baby was just so wrong and just so hurtful and I Actually just wrote back a comment on tik-tok to someone and then the press took that and then Yeah said that I made a statement, but then after someone asked me and then I've just said how I felt Yeah said that I made a statement, but then after someone asked me and then I just said how I felt.
Starting point is 00:38:05 Cause I just don't think it's right. And I think it's just so cruel that people would be mean about a little baby. It's like disturbing how like casual people think it is to just like leave comments that are so nasty on people's pages as if it won't affect you. And I think sometimes, especially if you have a lot of followers, people feel like you don't see it,
Starting point is 00:38:23 but here you are sitting being like, I love my fans. I read so many of their comments. I am crying on the plane because they're being so sweet. So obviously you're gonna see the mean ones. And I agree, I think when, especially when it's not about you, it's like, it's your platform. You know people are gonna like come at you, but when it's about a baby, you're like,
Starting point is 00:38:39 what the fuck is wrong with you? Yeah, like you have serious issues. What is something people would be surprised to find in your home that they wouldn't expect? The big alpaca when you walk in. Wait, what? It's not real. It's, Kim and Chris and Chloe, when Phoenix was born, delivered this like huge alpaca that is seven feet tall.
Starting point is 00:39:06 It's the cutest thing in the world. So I have it in the front entrance next to my big, like this big giraffe that has a chandelier coming out of it. Oh my God. It's really cute, I'll show you. Do you have a specific love for alpacas or it was just a random? I love alpacas.
Starting point is 00:39:23 Okay, and so they knew that. And so they're like, here you go. Wow. I will say, I did, your photos around your house are fabulous, but like there's so many photos of you around this house that I was like, I wanted to like take a picture of everything. I'm like, you look amazing in all of them.
Starting point is 00:39:38 Is Carter like, can we throw one up of me? He has one of me and him. There's one of him. It's a painting I got for one of our month anniversaries. And it's like the picture of our first kiss, but our first public kiss at this Christmas party. We'd been dating a month and we were just like making out. And then Paris Jackson was like, can I have your phone?
Starting point is 00:40:03 And took like a bunch of pictures of us that are so cute. Cause it was like our first pictures cause we were only dating like a few weeks. So I was not like, I'm like ask him to take pictures. And she took them and those are pictures always cherished. So I had them painted. That is so sweet. Wait, did you own this house before Carter,
Starting point is 00:40:22 you and your relationship? No, I was living at my other house. Oh, so you moved in here and you said, Carter, back up. All the photos that were gonna be of me, you just relaxed. He loves it. He loves it.
Starting point is 00:40:33 So sweet. It is really sweet. Actually, he's way better than the guy being like, I want mine up there. You're like, oh my God. If there was a guy who had pictures like this, like how I do everywhere, I would, you were so beyond. If you had ended up with had pictures like this, like how I do everywhere, I would, you are so beyond.
Starting point is 00:40:46 If you had ended up with the model. Yeah, exactly. What is the craziest rumor you've ever heard about yourself? There's lots of those as well. One of the craziest was people once said that I was dating Michael Jackson. Oh.
Starting point is 00:41:02 Which was just the most random rumor ever. So I've known him my entire life. My mom and him were best friends growing up since they were 13. So he was like part of my family. And then I don't know how it came out, like one article wrote one day that we were dating and that was just such a random thing
Starting point is 00:41:19 because he was like my uncle. So I was like, what? That is probably, I don't know if I'll ever be able to ask someone that question again on the show and get a more iconic answer than, oh, the fact that everyone thought I was dating Michael Jackson, okay. I think it's so, so adorable that you are married to Carter,
Starting point is 00:41:39 but you guys have known each other for 15 years and you didn't start dating until 2019? Yes. Talk to me about that day, like what made you change your mind? I wasn't even looking to date anyone. I was single for a year at this point. I went home to the Hamptons for Thanksgiving
Starting point is 00:41:56 and then my mom said, oh, I'm gonna go to my friend's house for lunch. Do you wanna come with me? And I was like, okay. And I walk in and I see this guy sitting there and he's got the biggest smile. And then he was just so sweet. He was with his mom and he was just so attentive with her.
Starting point is 00:42:13 And I feel like you can tell a lot about a man by the way he treats his mom. Because you know that he'll be a great husband and father one day. And he was just so different from everyone else. Like he was just like this sweet, cute nerd. And just so, I don't know, I was just like getting all like nervous and shy
Starting point is 00:42:35 and we had lunch together that day and then we came back that night for Thanksgiving dinner and I was just like thinking about him all day, like Googling him, like looking him up and then seeing he was this brilliant businessman. He was someone I'd known for so long, but I feel like timing is everything,
Starting point is 00:42:52 and I was not ready for a nice guy back then, because I didn't even know who I was at this point. And this was right before my documentary was about to come out, so I was on this whole journey of self-discovery out. So I was on this whole journey of self discovery and learning who I was. And then that night I was having dinner and then I was like, let's go outside.
Starting point is 00:43:12 We went outside and I just went for it and just started making out with him against the tennis court, chain link fence. And ever since that night, that was it. We've never spent a night apart after that. It was like, it was hot. It was hot. I love also that you're saying like he wasn't like,
Starting point is 00:43:34 what you normally went for. Like, can you give girls advice listening of like, they're stuck in their ways, they have this one type, they think it's their type. Like, why should we sometimes venture out and go for something different? I'm just so happy I went for someone different because someone who's their type, like, why should we sometimes venture out and go for something different? I'm just so happy I went for someone different because someone who's not in the scene,
Starting point is 00:43:49 not in the industry, he doesn't care about fame, doesn't care about any of that, is a total opposite of anyone that I've ever been with. And I feel like if you're dating the same type of guy and it's not working out, maybe it's good to try something else because you never know. And now I've never been happier.
Starting point is 00:44:07 I just feel like I found my person, my other half, my home. I feel just so at peace. Before I was just always just like wanting something else and like always looking to see like what else was out there and I never was settled down. And with him, it's like I just I know that we were meant to be like I feel like my grandma and his dad are in heaven and they like talked and we're like we need to like hook these two up
Starting point is 00:44:35 like something like I feel like it's really fate. It's amazing. How long did it take you for him to like to show him like the real Paris? I had never really shown myself to anyone, so it was just like, he came over the next night and we had a date at my house, and he's like, I wanna get to know the real Paris Hilton. And I was just so shy. And I drank a bottle of rosé. And then I was able to like be more comfortable with him.
Starting point is 00:45:06 And then we just started getting closer and closer. Paris. But it was, yeah. It was like the first time I had really done that. I don't know, I was like. It's amazing. You kind of like, I guess that's kind of what, yeah, like how you would know is like,
Starting point is 00:45:19 you kind of just went right into it and knew as opposed to like, you could be talking to someone for years and you've never shown them like the fact that it was kind of like the next night, you're like, all right, let's start. Like that's amazing. What qualities does he bring out in you that you now like about yourself
Starting point is 00:45:34 that you maybe didn't get to like, like exude when you were in other relationships? Just, he makes me feel just so safe. Before I was always just on edge, I was always like, oh my God, this person's gonna do this, they're gonna cheat on me, they're gonna do that. And with him, I just know that's not gonna happen. So he just makes me feel calm, like I could be myself.
Starting point is 00:46:00 He lifts me up in so many ways and supports me in everything that I wanna do. And he's also just, he's so organized and so smart. And then he just helps me be my best version of myself. I feel like I've never felt just happier, more fulfilled with my business, with my personal life, with just everything. Like we're custom made for each other. When you were saying that, that you feel so safe,
Starting point is 00:46:32 I was like, where did I see this? Didn't you have like a MacBook for every single boyfriend you had? Yes. No. Can you explain this logic? Every single boyfriend you had in your life, you would get a different MacBook
Starting point is 00:46:45 for that period of your life. Yes. Explain. This was... Because before my boyfriends would get so controlling and so psychotic, they'd be like, I need to look through your iCloud or iPhoto thing and wanted to look through the albums and everything.
Starting point is 00:47:03 And if there was any picture of an ex or a guy, they would start erasing it, screaming, going crazy, throwing the computer at me, hitting me. It was terrifying. I dated so many assholes and really abusive people. So I just had trauma. So I was like, I need to get a new computer every time because they're gonna go into it.
Starting point is 00:47:26 And I didn't want to erase all my memories. I think that's fucked up when people make you erase shit. It's like, okay, we all had a past, it's okay. It's like, memories are good. What is a mom skill you have that people would be surprised to know about you? That you're like finding yourself like now in motherhood, you're like, ooh, I kinda have have this down or I'm good at this
Starting point is 00:47:45 Or I like this about myself I'm good at bedtime lullabies Just like I can put him to sleep so easily just by it's holding him and singing stars are blind Give me a little something right now. Go ahead. I'm gonna close my eyes. I'm so shy. I can't even do it in front of you. Stop, stop.
Starting point is 00:48:09 What am I doing? Stop. What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing?
Starting point is 00:48:16 What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing?
Starting point is 00:48:23 What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing envision it. I heard like a little like even. Oh my God, that's good. That was actually good. I did it yesterday. Honestly, as long as it's putting him to bed, you're good. Okay, last question. Obviously your fans are so obsessed with you. They will follow you to the end of the earth.
Starting point is 00:48:39 What can they expect next? I know you just referenced the book, but like tell me everything about everything. What are you doing? What can they expect? Well, the you just referenced the book, but tell me everything about everything. What are you doing? What can they expect? Well, the book is going to be turning into a TV series with A24 and the Fanning sisters producing it with me. This is what we've all been waiting for is we need to watch this on television.
Starting point is 00:48:58 And you knew that, but you had to wait for the right moment. That is amazing. Oh my God, I'm going to be glued to the TV. That is so, so exciting. And so you're gonna be helping produce. Yes. So we're just getting the writers right now and I'm just so excited for this project.
Starting point is 00:49:14 And my new album, I've been in the studio. Sia, executive reducing my full album. So that she's gonna be here tonight. I love her so much. She's most brilliant songwriter of our time. I'm so honored to be working with her. Meghan Trainor has written me so many epic songs. The album is so sick.
Starting point is 00:49:36 Here to save pop music. She's back! Paris, I can't thank you enough for coming on. It was like truly well overdue. Everyone is going to be obsessed and just thank you for giving me your time. And I'm just so happy that we got to do this. Thank you. Thank you.
Starting point is 00:49:50 Thank you. Thank you. Woo! ["Dreams of a New World"]

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