Call Her Daddy - Working With My Best Friend (ft. Laren)
Episode Date: July 9, 2025Alex and Laren finally reveal how and why they started working together. They also open up about the inner workings of Call Her Daddy, how they maintain their friendship, and what it’s like getting ...to build successful careers together. Enjoy!
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What is up, Daddy Gang? It is your founding father, Alex Cooper with Call Her Daddy.
Daddy Gang, welcome back to another episode of Call Her Daddy. Today, I am joined by none
other than the producer of Call Her Daddy, my best friend, Lauren McMullen.
Wow.
For anyone that didn't watch my documentary
on Hulu Call Her Alex, one of the reveals
in the documentary is that Lauren has been
the producer of Call Her Daddy and has been working with me
for over four years.
And a lot of you, actually, most all of you were shocked. I have never talked
about this publicly. We have kept this a secret and we've kept it private. And today we are here
to get into why we decided to keep it private, why we never shared it with the world, the reasoning
behind it, and also what it's actually like to work with
your best friend and the process of Call Her Daddy. We are going to walk you guys through
what we do every single week in working together. So I think we should just get into it. Let's
tell them how this came to be. So I think we have to go all the way back to 2020
in the pandemic.
And first, again, I think everyone knows this
is at this point, but Lauren and I have been
childhood best friends since we were about six years old.
Yeah, second grade.
Second grade.
So six years old, Lauren and I have been best friends
and we have grown up together, we played soccer together,
we made movies together, we didn't go to the same
high school or college,
but we've been best friends our whole lives.
And in 2020, when I was producing and editing
and hosting Call Her Daddy on my own,
it was the pandemic and I was by myself living in New York.
And it was a pretty dark time,
I think I was really struggling,
there was a lot going on online obviously with Call with Call Her Daddy, and I was pretty isolated
in New York City at the time,
and Lauren happened to be going through
a breakup at this time,
and Lauren was trying to figure out her next move.
Am I gonna have to move home?
What am I gonna do?
And I remember saying, Lauren,
just move into my apartment with me.
Like, this will be beautiful.
Let's live together again,
because we had lived with each other at one point.
And so you moved in. And at this point, explain to the daddy gang what you're doing. I'm hosting this
raunchy sex podcast and you are doing what? I had just finished Teacher America. So my undergrad
degree is in neuroscience. I never intended to be a teacher. I did two years of Teacher America where I taught fifth and eighth grade science in Newark, New Jersey. I did my two years and then I was in grad
school at Columbia getting a master's in clinical psychology because I wanted to go on and get
a PhD and be a therapist. So when I moved in with you fresh off my breakup, I was in my first year of my master's program
and I was nannying for a crazy family on the side
to make money.
So then Lauren and I moved to Los Angeles.
We decided we were done with New York for a little bit.
We wanted to try something different.
Lauren wanted to get away.
I wanted to get away.
I knew it would be better for Call Her Daddy.
I would get so many more guests in Los Angeles.
So we got on a plane and we headed to LA and
we moved into this home together. And then the school I was teaching at had
reached out and was like, our neuroscience teacher quit, we can't find
anyone who can teach neuroscience. We'll let you teach entirely remote. Can you
teach neuroscience to these high schoolers? And I'm living in California teaching children in New Jersey.
So my first class was every day at five in the morning.
And then I'd be done work at 1 p.m.
So you'd be waking up to like go record Call Her Daddy at 1 p.m.
And I'd be finishing work for the day.
We knew no one in LA.
I didn't have a car.
It was COVID.
It was locked down.
There was nothing to do.
So I'd be like done work like, hey, Alex hey Alex, what are you doing for Call of Daddy?
I'll help, I'll watch you.
I think this is when we really started to feel
like, oh my God, I missed this part of our friendship.
Lauren and I, as you guys will watch
in the documentary as you watched,
we fell in love with two things at a very young age,
soccer and making movies and music videos.
And that was our genuine passion. And so you getting to come back into that world, I think
was so exciting for both of us, because it also kind of rebirthed a part of our relationship
that we had lost in a way. And so we both just leaned in and we started having so much
fun. And so when I signed my deal with Spotify, that was six months into us living in the house,
I would say. And that obviously changed my life forever. And it changed, I felt like everyone's
lives around me just because it definitely put me publicly in a different stratosphere. Like I felt
like there were, there was more attention on me. There was a bigger conversation around money.
Again, I think people don't really know this,
but I didn't have a team.
I was still editing my own episodes.
It was fully just you at that point.
Yes, there was no writers and these interviews.
I was writing all of my interviews.
I was editing all of these things.
I was like, you know, I'm now making enough money
where it's dumb, how am I not paying people to help me? And that I think
was the beginning of the start of it all. Do you remember like the first real conversation
post Spotify?
So we sat down and you were like, I want to have something more consistent, something
more formal. What are you interested in? What are your next moves?
Because at that point I had graduated
from my master's program and I wanted to go get a PhD,
but I decided I wanted to take one more year
before applying so I could do more research
and get my name published on more papers.
Oh, right.
So I was like, wait, this kind of works out really well.
You wanna go into your first year of Spotify,
having people around you that you trust,
feeling comfortable, not starting just like building
a whole team from scratch and not knowing anyone.
So I'm like, this is perfect.
I'll take my gap year with Call Her Daddy.
Why did I forget?
That's how it started.
Yes, you were like, for sure in your head,
you were going to go to grad school. And
there was going to be one year that you were going to work with me. I was going to get a
freelance rate and bill you for like my hours weekly at a freelance rate. And then on the side,
I'd also be doing my psychology research and trying to get published in more academic research.
To give everyone more context, this moment of me being like, okay, I'm gonna hire you for a year.
It really was us being like,
let's just do this for one more year together.
It'll be so fun.
It was kind of the perfect setup for both.
It made you feel more comfortable
going into your first year with Spotify.
And it gave me consistent paid work
while I tried to just write and apply to grad school.
But in no way did we think this was long-term.
But now that I was gonna be billing you hourly
and tracking my hours and having deliverables to me
and actual deadlines to hit,
it did start to become more real at that point
where at this point now you are my boss
and there is a differential between the two of us.
It feels a little bit different
than me just sitting
in the corner, giving you thumbs up, laughing and saying like,
oh, tell that funny story, tell that joke.
Like now I'm like researching the guests you're having on.
I'm pitching topics I think you should talk about.
Like I'm spending real time doing like actual real work
and it's feeling more real.
And at that point, we kind of had to have a conversation
of like, okay, if we're gonna do this one year
and do it right and not leave feeling resentful
that you felt I took advantage of the situation
and was just using you for money,
or that I felt I didn't have clear expectations
and I'm not really set up for success.
We have to treat this more real.
And that's when we had the really hard conversation of,
I think I need to leave LA.
I needed more things of my own.
I was living in your house.
I was relying on you and Matt for plans.
I was working for you.
And like I...
We needed to shake it up.
And it was beautiful to see you go to Chicago
and still to this day be fucking thriving.
Like that was without a doubt the best decision
I think you could have ever made for yourself
picking that city.
I feel like you have had such incredible success there.
You've had such a support system.
Like it's been beautiful.
So I'm just so happy that it actually ended up working out.
Yeah, I think that's like the best thing we ever could have done.
And I remember we podcasted together being like, I'm moving to Chicago.
Oh my God.
And we told the daddy gang, we're like, I'm moving to Chicago for a job opportunity.
The job opportunity was call her daddy.
And I was moving to Chicago so that we could give it a real chance.
And we didn't fuck shit up by like being up each other's like assholes 24 seven.
Oh my God. I forgot that we publicly said that. I'm sorry you guys. That's like a little
white lie we told. Sorry. But so then we, okay, so now let's explain in that moment,
why did we not tell the truth about why you were going to Chicago for a job?
Because at that point we truly thought it was going to be a one year thing. Like imagine
in my mind, we're really conceptualizing
this as like, this is my gap year
before I'm going to get a PhD.
And we thought it would just be really confusing to people.
And we're like, we work together and now we don't.
And like knowing the way that the internet spins things,
I think people would immediately be like,
oh, they're not working together anymore because
shit went down.
Alex is not a girl's girl and she ruined Lauren's life.
Yeah, look, Alex did it again, kicked Lauren to the curb.
No, literally.
So yes, facts.
That's what people would say.
So it was very easy.
We were like, okay, great, we'll keep this under wraps
and love you and come visit all the time.
Lauren moves to Chicago, I'm in LA,
and the minute she leaves,
we just hit the fucking ground running.
I think the next big moment was-
The year mark.
The year mark.
We were coming up on the year mark
and I'm sitting in LA being like,
there was a part of me that felt in my gut,
holy shit, I have never had more fun in my life
working with someone and I have never had more fun in my life working with someone
and I have never felt at such ease
and we just have the best dynamic.
And I think I selfishly was like,
oh my God, I actually can see it.
I can see how this could work long-term.
But if I put my selfish wants aside
and I also put my work aside, if I put on my best
friend hat as Alex from Young Alex and you being my best friend, I was like, but what
does Lauren want?
Because I am living my dream.
I am living everything I could have ever wanted.
I love my job so much, but does Lauren feel that same way?
And is Lauren going to want to do this full term? And I started to get worried that, but does Lauren feel that same way? And is Lauren gonna wanna do this full term?
And I started to get worried that, I'll be honest,
I remember when I look back,
I was worried that you understandably,
cause we've talked about this on the podcast before,
like you were enjoying understandably the work,
but the money I think was so, so much security for you.
I think you were starting to be like,
fuck, it's so nice to like comfortably afford my apartment
and get to do all these things.
And so I started to-
Because money was a huge stress in my life growing up.
Yes, and I think I started to worry as your friend,
like, fuck, is she feeling this, which is nice,
but is she forgetting how much she wanted to go
and get this PhD?
And is she going to choose this life because of the money, not because she genuinely wants it?
And I started to feel a little bit of guilt where I was like,
am I pulling Lauren away from her dream? Because I'm living mine.
And you said that to me, we have like a really real and honest conversation at like that year,
Mark. And you were like, at this point, I really can't imagine doing this without you.
Because you were trying other people,
like we were kind of planning for my departure.
So you were trying other people,
you were interviewing other people,
you were having other people come and freelance with you.
And it just wasn't the same.
Because I know you so well.
So like, I have this insanely unfair advantage.
And like, I can look at something immediately
and be like, Alex would never say that.
Alex doesn't agree with that.
Oh my gosh, Alex would hate that.
Yeah, you just can't teach that
because it's just you've been my sister my whole life.
So it's like, so finally we had a really honest conversation
where I voiced all this to Lauren
and I remember just going back and forth being like,
as selfish as I wanna be that I want you to know I value you more than you know
and I would love you to do this literally until the end of time with me
I need you to be honest with yourself and take time to really think what do
you want yeah you were like I could never live with myself if we look back
in five years and I feel like I tore you away from your dream.
So I went and I talked to my therapist about it for a while.
We were kind of talking about why did I want to be a therapist?
I wanted to be a therapist because what you'll see in the documentary, my dad passed away
from suicide when I was in college. He suffered
from bipolar disorder for my whole life. And so that's what drew me to that. But more than
that, I just wanted to have deep, impactful conversations and I wanted to help people.
And I was talking to my therapist and I was like, well, if I stay on this show,
I will have deep impactful conversations. And I think I'm going to impact and help more
people than I would if I was just a therapist. Like Alex was reaching millions of people
a week.
That was like, I will never forget. I almost wanted to start crying where Lauren came to me
and was like, it just clicked for me.
Like there's so much we can do with this show
and there's so much work to be done.
And especially you had said like the direction
I already feel you pulling it in.
The show was changing.
Yeah, and it just felt like, holy shit, let's do this.
Yeah, like it was kind of all,
like the stars were kind of like aligning
in like a weird, beautiful way.
And in that moment, we weren't like,
let's do this for the next 10 years.
It really again was kind of like, let's see how this goes.
Because again, you were so young, we were like, Lauren,
if in two years you decide you don't wanna do this anymore,
you can still go get your PhD.
Like, so I was, I think I was at 27 at this point.
Yes, so there was time.
And again, just for context,
unwell, the company hadn't been started.
It was still just me at Spotify.
And so we started.
And I remember offering you,
where were we when I offered you your salary?
I remember exactly where I was.
I was sitting at my kitchen table
and I almost fell out of the chair.
I literally remember being like,
okay, so I'm gonna give her like a full-time salary.
You were my only employee basically.
So I was like, uh, and I went in and I like pitched you
and you were like.
Yeah, I'll take it.
Yeah, for sure Alex and we just started.
And let's talk about how you first started
because I think now being able to say like,
you are the head lead producer of this show.
I did not start there.
No, she did not.
So when Lauren came in, you really took on the research role.
So a lot of what Lauren was coming in and helping me do was there's so much information obviously about the guests that I will be
interviewing and Lauren was a beast with research because that literally was like
my master's degree for clinical psych I was just cranking out research and
cranking out papers so like I can research and I can write and so then
talk to people a little bit about like what your first position was and like what you did.
So if you had a guest on and the guest had an autobiography,
I would read the autobiography,
essentially turn it into a book report and present to you
and like brief you on the person's life.
And then I started getting like more systematized
and like I made you like a research system
where like I made like a memo,
where it like breaks out like fast facts about them,
put their life into a timeline, put in angles I think you'd be interested in,
put in things I think you should avoid talking about.
And I would kind of like talk to you about the person and like get you.
I would just brief you on the person and kind of pitch to you
like what I think would be interesting for you to talk to them about. Yes.
And that was kind of the start of it.
Slowly, it has completely changed in a beautiful way.
As my Spotify career continued,
we then started Unwell.
And once we, Matt and I started Unwell
and our company started to grow,
Lauren and I recognized that there were so many more
tentacles of the business
that I was being involved in.
And so I was like, I need you to take on a bigger role for call her daddy.
And so what that looked like was Lauren started now to in researching, she would write the
full first draft of the interviews instead of me now.
And so she was doing the research and she was writing these episodes.
And then she was also helping me
with all of the social media organization.
So I would have a vision of how I wanted to roll.
I'm very specific about how I wanna roll out
who the guest is, what I want the teasers to be,
what I want the promo to be.
And so Lauren would start working with our editors
on crafting the promo, writing a script. This is what the promo to be. And so Lauren would start working with our editors on crafting the promo,
writing a script. This is what the promo should say. This is at the time that this needs to get
uploaded. At that point, I started like kind of touching everything. Yes. And finally, I think
once we realized we needed more people on our team is really when you took the next jump of your career, which was we found truly one of the most talented writers,
I think we've both ever worked with to this day.
We stole her from CNN, from the news world.
Shout out, Chase.
We love you.
And she came on and changed your life because.
I was talking about this with Chase recently
because she was like, I cannot fathom
because now we have like a, we have more researchers too
which is really helpful because with my background
I make us take the research so seriously.
Yes.
And they were like, how the hell were you doing this alone?
We, well, we don't know, but we got-
I would start, I would start work at 6 a.m. and probably work until 9 p.m. And we don't know, but we got- I would start work at 6 a.m.
and probably work until 9 p.m.
And we wouldn't stop.
Like we were obsessed.
But again, we loved it so much that it didn't-
I never would wake up and be like, fuck my life.
Like I have so much work, fuck Alex.
I was like, this is so exciting.
We have three interviews this week.
I have three books to read this week.
We gotta get it done.
And three interviews to write this week.
And so finally, once Unwell was up and running,
I think it was very clear now that we needed to yet again,
reconfigure and systematize
because we now do have an editor on Call Her Daddy.
And although there are some weeks that I'm like,
I will be personally editing this.
Like for example, the Kamala Harris interview,
I was like, no one can touch this.
I have to edit this on my own.
Those are moments I'm still doing final edits or whatever,
but we now have someone who's helping with edit.
Shout out Alex T, love you.
Love you.
What I will say is I think there's a lot of people
on the internet, which makes me laugh.
Understandably, I get why people would think that though,
again, is because when I signed with Spotify,
when I signed with SiriusXM,
I think there's this idea
that there's these corporate big wigs
who are like handing me the cards and saying,
say all of this, and I'm just like this host.
And meanwhile, it's like, when you're,
for literally my entire Spotify time,
when you're reading these questions,
it's us.
Like it's us putting this shit together.
And now as we ventured on, it's yes,
it's literally me, Lauren,
and one to two other young women in their twenties.
And we're all doing basically a round table.
We're talking about what we want the interview to be.
And then we've got a, someone's going to do the research,
someone starting the prelim on like
what the interview flow will be.
We're doing multiple drafts.
We're having Zoom meetings every week.
We're going through, oh, I don't like this.
Let's change this.
Let's move this up here.
This topic should hit harder.
Let's move this to the front.
And then I go and I do the job.
And so it's so collaborative.
It's so rewarding.
And the interview process
has become such a well-oiled machine, but it's taken a lot of work to get there.
So why don't you talk a little bit about what you do every week?
With having Unwell Now and you doing so many things beyond Call Her Daddy, I handle anything
logistic related to Call Her Daddy.
So anyone on the Call Her Daddy team reports to me
and I manage the entire team.
And I'm essentially the person who makes sure
from booking to the editor, to the social media team,
to the research team, to the interview being written,
to communicating with PR reps,
to making sure that episode makes it on
upload it on time that I'm handling like everything making sure everything is
happening and everyone is doing what they're supposed to be doing so that
now you are purely thinking about nothing besides the creative and it's so nice
the way that you are able to keep the ship running and sometimes you'll have
three interviews in a week. Yes.
And it's insane.
Chaos.
But it's amazing.
And we love it.
Yeah.
I was going to say like, I've never felt so fulfilled.
Never felt so stimulated.
I've never felt like I've done something that's had this much of an impact before.
Like we're saying how like we work insane hours, but like I never wake up dreading my
job.
I sometimes like wonder like, Ooh, like how did I like clock like a 14 hour day yesterday
and like not think twice and like I don't feel burnt out.
It's because like I legitimately like love this job so much and I care so much about
this job.
And I think like one of the coolest things is how much autonomy I feel like I have.
I feel like that's like a big factor in like loving my job.
Like I can have a therapy session where I'm like, I just had the best talk of my entire
life and I can be like, Alex, like, I think we need to talk about this.
You're like, okay, go write an episode or I'll read something and I'll be like, this
is important.
Go write an episode. It's such a rewarding process that I think looking back
on the days that I obviously took such pride
in doing it all on my own,
I think I now take so much more pride
on not doing it all on my own
because I think getting to share the joy
of what this show does every week
with other people who get to be a part
of the behind the scenes, it is indescribable, the feeling.
Like I know it sounds sappy, Daddy Gang,
but like getting to give you guys interesting, fun,
engaging content every week,
and it all is coming from the hearts of us
and a few more other young women in their twenties.
It's so fucking cool that we are creating
these conversations and it's coming from this
just genuine place of like we're literally saying
some of these ideas are because we were at a dinner
and then it turns into an episode
that's getting millions of views.
I'm like,
let's talk also now about, I think, one of the biggest questions that we have gotten online since announcing that Lauren and I work together is how the hell do you guys have a work-friendship balance?
Because that just seems like it is a disaster waiting to happen.
And I completely understand why you would think that. So let us tell you about it.
I think that like we kind of described in the beginning days when it was just us,
we are extremely, we've always been very communicative.
And I think although this may sound weird,
once we kind of got our rhythm
of how we wanted to work together,
like literally of just like, are you getting paid?
Are you quitting your job?
Okay, now you are getting paid, now you have a salary.
What is my job role?
What are my like day-to-day responsibilities?
Yes, once that happened, when we're just working,
it is the easiest thing in the world.
And I will say it is easier than when we were kids.
Like when Lauren and I were children,
we had such a passion for filming and writing scripts
and creating these worlds together.
And the two of us, like my mom says in the documentary,
when the two of us were in a room, it was almost too much.
We both were so creative and passionate.
And so we- We were staying up until like 3 a.m.
like in your dad's closet editing like as children.
And taking it so serious.
And so when one of us had a vision
and the other disagreed,
we would butt heads more back then being like,
no Lauren, like that won't keep the viewer engaged.
And you're like, but Alex,
it looks better if it's like this.
We were so much more combative when we were younger.
Now it's like, it's like this. We were so much more combative when we were younger.
Now it's like, it's just seamless.
I think something that may sound counterintuitive
is I think it's actually easier that there's a hierarchy.
And in theory, and we can get into this more in a minute,
in theory, you are my boss.
And I think that does make it easier
because at the end of the day, it's your call
and I'll defer to you.
It's not like we're like co-hosts,
like arguing back and forth
of like what we're gonna talk about.
And at the end of the day,
you're the one saying this shit.
Like I'm not gonna force words out of your mouth.
It's your voice and it's your show.
And like I'm here to help push us forward
and make us better and guide you and help you.
But I'm not gonna tell you your views
and beliefs on something.
It's a good point.
Like, I feel like you've always been so respectful
of as invested as you are,
you know when it's like, okay, but it is your call.
And, but again, like we are so in-sympathetic
with almost everything.
And I never wanna get in front of the camera
if we haven't talked through something where I'm like,
but what do you think about it?
And then even if I hear your piece and I disagree with you,
I'm gonna speak it out to you.
And if you disagree with me,
I don't think I've ever gotten on camera
with us being in disagreement and being like,
well, I'm gonna say it anyways, ever in my career. And there is, I feel like rarely moments,
but there have been moments where the team
will say something to me and I'll be like,
guys, I totally hear what you're saying,
but I'm gonna disagree with you guys on this one.
And I'm gonna just go for it.
And that is the beauty of, it's my show, I can do that.
But I do think it's very rare that I go against the grain
of the team and it's just when I'm having a feeling,
most of it is when it comes to marketing and social media.
I feel like I have this pulse on it
that sometimes I just have this feeling
and I've gotta go with my fucking gut.
I think another thing is how we maintain a friendship
and a working relationship is during the work week, we are very professional.
Like if we get on a Zoom,
like we're not shooting the shit on the Zoom.
Someone, if someone like not in our company got on the Zoom,
they would have no idea that we're best friends.
Like we are very-
No, but no.
Yeah, we really save our like catch-ups
because our current situation is I come to LA
for a full week every month.
So that becomes more where we merge the two.
Yes.
I stay in your house.
We have dinner every night together.
We are-
Jacuzzi, hang, smooth.
And we are like the minute we'll be like, okay,
it's like 6.30, should we stop working?
And they'll be like immediately we close our laptops. 6.30, should we stop working? And they'll be like, immediately we close our laptops,
we go in, we watch a show, we drink wine,
and we can turn on friend mode immediately.
But that is just because I think of the years of repetition.
Again, when Lauren moved to Chicago,
we kind of had also in her send off a conversation of like,
our friendship is so solid.
We have been friends for basically our whole lives.
Neither of us are worried about our friendship.
Let's really pour into this career.
Figuring out what is our working dynamic
and what is our working relationship.
And to do that, it's really confusing
if we're working together during the daytime
and you're trying to have the strength,
or not even strength,
but you're trying to feel comfortable enough to tell me,
I don't like that, or that's not good enough.
And then a few hours later,
we're shooting the shit about like,
do you like this outfit?
Like that was confusing in the beginning,
where we needed to just figure out,
how do we get comfortable of having working conversations?
And having them side by side
with friend conversations was difficult.
But now we're like fucking experts.
I know we're so fucking good at it now.
We can, if it's five minutes before and I'm like, wait, are you on a zoom?
And Lauren will be like, no, I just got off my last zoom.
I'm like, wait, get on the zoom link before everyone gets on because I want to hear about
the date last night and we'll quickly talk for five minutes.
And then everyone else on the team gets on and we're like, hello everyone.
And we pretend we didn't talk for five minutes
and it's like, we can shut it on, shut it off.
I think it's also been really important to us
because I recognize that as the owner of the company
and as the host of the show,
I can make all these calls and I think I have such a respect
for you and awareness for you that I don't want our dynamic to ever impact the way other people on the team or at the company feel about you.
And I think obviously it was easy when it was just the two of us. But now I never wanted you to feel like, oh, fuck. I can feel that other employees are like, oh, Lauren just gets special treatment
or Lauren gets to do this
because she's Alex's best friend.
I think if you asked anyone at our company,
they would say one, without a doubt,
Laura McMullen is the hardest working person
at this company.
She will do anything and everything to get the job done.
You are so brilliant.
Everyone respects you.
And so I think if there is a moment, yes, of course,
where they're like, where does Lauren stay
when she comes to LA?
Well, of course you're staying in my house,
but it doesn't rub anyone the wrong way
because I don't think, one, when we're in the office,
we don't speak like we're friends.
You are the producer of Call Her Daddy.
People will hear me on Zooms being like,
Lauren, that doesn't look good enough.
Can you please circle back with the team?
I need like three.
Go fix this and make it better and come back.
Yeah, I think I can say the reason you and I
have had such a successful outcome in working together
is because this isn't a friendship.
It's you are my sister, like truly.
Like again, in the documentary,
you see see the ties
that our families have, the relationship,
basically from fucking diapers together.
This isn't something that if we get in a fight,
then you're just out of my life or I'm out of your life.
We are together forever.
And I think it has allowed us to lean
into the professional aspect in a way
that we have such unwavering respect for each other
that nothing could come between that.
Because when it has, and when we've had issues,
it is immediate, we're on the phone or we're in person,
we'd be like, let's work through this.
And it has been pretty seamless.
And I can imagine a lot of people on the internet
being like, how, I mean, of course I have like the looming cloud
of the one really public fallout with a woman.
And I feel like that has obviously tainted a lot
of people's opinion of me.
As a friend?
Yeah, as a friend, even though that's the only friendship
people publicly saw.
Of yours?
Of mine, that they thought they knew the whole story,
understandably, because we did a incredible job
of what our job was, and it was marketing this friendship.
But I think it was just, it's just hard,
because I can understand people would try to
compare the two almost, in like,
Alex, how did you not learn your lesson
of working with friends?
And like, it's just so different.
I think that's difficult for me to sit back
and watch and read.
And I'm assuming there'll probably be those type of comments
when this comes out, like, oh, how'd you not learn
your lesson, it's gonna happen again.
And like one, like we were saying,
like I've known you for 25 years.
I think people forget that you knew her
for a year and a half in total.
It's just a very different situation
and I'm really proud of our friendship.
And I think every friendship in my life,
I almost always look at us as like the model friendship
because I think the way that we communicate,
the way that we respect each other,
the way that we are honest with each other
and loyal to each other has allowed us
to put ourselves into what maybe some people
would understandably think would be a difficult situation
to put a friendship under that kind of pressure.
And the fact that we've thrived and has been,
I think, a testament to how hard we work
at being with each other through it all.
I agree. We asked the internet if you guys have any questions for Lauren and I about working together
and so we are going to answer them today.
Lauren, do you want to read some?
What is the coolest experience the two of you have gotten to have together since
working together? The Olympics was obviously very fun. The Olympics was insane. Like I think,
especially with our sports background, I think the two of us getting to go and produce a show
for Peacock and it was so much fucking work. It was so much work, but it was so rewarding.
We won a fucking Emmy for it.
Oh wait, oh my God.
We won an Emmy.
Wait, I forgot, did we never tell anyone that?
No.
You guys, we won an Emmy.
Lauren and I are both gonna have Emmys in our offices.
Yeah.
I forgot that.
So it made all of the blood, sweat and tears worth it.
It was so much work, but it was really rewarding.
And I think I'm really proud of us
because trying a new format, doing live, it was, yeah,
Olympics was pretty fucking cool.
Okay, what is Alex's best and worst quality as a boss?
Oh, okay.
And then you can do it about me.
What is my best and worst quality as an employee?
Okay, you go first.
Okay, your best quality is how much you care,
because I think it's really palpable
and the expectations are high and the standards high.
Obviously, that's what makes the show one of the best in the world.
But I think how much you care and how hard you work
inspires everyone on the team.
And I think the whole company is inspired.
So you're inspiring so many people on a daily basis.
And then also the whole daddy gang.
Oh my God, love you.
Love you too.
That's really sweet.
Okay, now you're about to hit me with the worst.
Your worst quality is your fucking typing skills.
I fucking knew you were gonna say that.
I don't like, no, I don't know if you like
skipped typing class all of elementary school,
Lori Cooper, like what were you doing to your daughter?
But she cannot type.
No, I purposely changed the settings on Google Docs
so that she can't get in and access them
because she'll fuck them up.
I'll make like a chart or a diagram.
You like put caps lock on in the middle of a sentence.
You have like punctuation in the middle of a sentence.
Like it's, I need to like.
No, Lauren like gets angry with me.
She'll be like, stop typing.
Cause I'll have a thought or when I'm talking so fast
and you can only type so fast.
So then I pick it up and I try to add on what I'm saying.
And then you're like, Alex, stop it.
Get out of my documents.
Cause Lauren's very specific about her formatting
and her documents.
And I come in and I just crush your fucking soul.
I don't also know why I never learned.
I for some reason always use caps lock, not shift.
So then I'll be in caps lock and I'll look up and like,
oh fuck, no, it's bad.
And even like in your work slacks, like,
even in your work slacks, well, we don't slack each other.
Like our company has a strict policy for work life balance.
We talk on slack, but we will tax.
That's the one thing that like we go around.
We're inappropriate.
Yeah, we tax, we don't slack with each other.
But when you slack, you're so like, I guess it's good blunt
but like you just always seem so angry on slack
where I'm like.
And then you always sometimes will call me
and be like, wait, you good?
Oh no, yeah, I'm bad.
I'm a bad text.
You're bad with your fingers and words.
Leave the words to your mouth.
Truly.
You're not one for the-
I will say it's an abomination
when I get it in those documents.
It's bad.
I just feel like, yeah, it's not my strong suit.
No.
Okay. My favorite thing of working with you, two things,
but only because I have to say it,
even though I'm kind of taking yours,
but it's a different version, which is,
when I started Call Her Daddy,
I genuinely never believed someone would care
about the product as much as I do.
And I know it is unrealistic for anyone to care that much,
but you are second to none.
Like I know if there is something going on and it's 3am and I
call you and I'm freaking out about something with Call Her Daddy, you will do anything no matter
where you are in the world, no matter what's happening, you will drop everything and you put
Call Her Daddy first always and it makes me just feel so supportive because in it being my show,
I understand someone wouldn't love it as much as I do
and it really does feel like you care as much as I do.
So that's number one.
Number two, I think it has been such an incredible process
watching you become a boss and from starting in research and now growing to people
reporting to you and reporting structures and how much they respect you as a boss.
I know something Matt and I had wanted you to work on the past like two years was being
more direct and being not confrontational,
but just being able to have these hard conversations, whether it's a layoff, like you've had to,
Lauren has had to lay people off. Lauren has had to have honest conversation. If work isn't
up to par, Lauren has had to, you've just had a lot of growing, I feel like in the past
two years since unwell has started that I do think has allowed you to step into this
executive role in a way that has
changed the way I think people see you in this space again as you're not my best friend you are
one of the best highest people at this company And you are there for a fucking reason.
It has nothing to do with you being my best friend.
It's cause you're really fucking talented.
Okay, we're gonna get emotional.
Okay, your worst thing, if we're gonna be nitpicky,
ever since someone bought you your headphones
that you edit with, or you're like doing your notes with,
what do you think I'm gonna say?
Every time I call you on the phone,
you sound like you're underwater
and you're going in and out, you're spotty
and I can't hear a word you're fucking saying.
So I'm calling Lauren after like a debrief
of a fucking interview.
And every time I finish my interview,
I get into my car, we have this ritual.
I call Lauren immediately.
And I zoom into the interviews
and I listen to the interviews live.
And then I call her and as when it's on the top of my head,
we go through every single question that I asked
and Lauren is at her computer and I debrief every question.
Oh, that wasn't interesting.
We're gonna get to cut that one.
Oh, we're gonna have to cut this down.
Their answer wasn't that interesting.
Oh, I wanna move that to the front
and I give Lauren all these notes.
And Lauren sounds like this.
Oh, I wanna move that to the front.
And I'm like, Lauren?
And she's like, sorry, sorry, turning off my AirPods.
Sorry, Apple, I don't know what the fuck is going on,
but it is.
I think it's not an issue with my phone too, maybe.
Yeah, something's going on.
I literally am like, Lauren, you're like, sorry, sorry,
disconnecting, disconnecting.
That's my biggest pet peeve of you.
Oh, great.
It's like literally so minimal.
You're a bad typer,
and I wear headphones during conversations.
Yeah, it's fine.
Okay, what else?
What is the most awkward conversation
you've had to have at work?
Oh, I know this.
The most awkward conversation
the two of us have had to have at work?
Yeah, I know this.
Okay, go ahead.
So back like we were saying
when it was just the two of us,
I asked you for a performance review.
Why did I forget about this?
Cause I blacked it out.
Yeah.
Cause I fucking blacked it out.
You were like, I don't really like, we don't need to do.
I'm like, no, no, no.
Like I need to like know like what are like my next steps
to grow and how I'm doing.
And like, we need to have an honest conversation
about things I need to grow on and how you feel about me
and the company.
And for context, when she says company,
this is before-
Unwell.
Unwell has started before we have 70, 80 people
working at this company.
So it's me and Lauren and Lauren's like,
let's sit down for a review.
And I'm like, sure, let me pour myself a coffee,
even though we talk every minute of the day.
And I was like, Lauren,
I don't know if I can do a performance review.
And she was like, just try.
You guys, I wish we would have fucking recorded this Zoom.
We both show up with notes that we both wrote.
And we-
Yours are probably disgusting.
No, it's fuck you.
And you can tell we're both reading off of our notes.
Cause Lauren's like, I'm gonna advocate for myself now
and pitch as to why I deserve a raise.
And I'm literally sitting there and be like, okay, go ahead.
And you can tell Lauren's like reading off of her computer.
And then I-
Here's my growth, here are my strengths.
And we're both dying laughing. You're like, no, stop. We need to be serious.
OK, one of the questions is, is her name Lauren or Laren?
Her name is Lauren, but her nickname is Laren.
Because my mom was so Southern.
She'd be like, Laren!
Laren!
What's one thing you didn't know about each other until working together?
That's hard.
Go ahead. Mine's hard. Go ahead.
Mine's like kind of deep.
When you're good friends with someone, like obviously you celebrate their successes and
you know their accomplishments and like you are like, I did this at work today and I accomplished
that.
Like when you get to like see it and witness it on a day to day level, it's like a whole
different experience.
And like I obviously knew you were creative
and I knew you were smart, but like,
you're like brilliant and you're like a genius.
And like, I am constantly in all of you.
And I'm just like, damn, how'd she think of that?
Lauren, you're literally gonna make me cry.
Thank you.
No, I feel the same way about you.
I think working with you, I always knew you were so smart.
And obviously like we
in living together when you were more in the academic field, I was always just so inspired,
but it's hard tangibly to be like, I'm not in that field. I don't know what a research paper
is supposed to sound like or look like. And I always knew you were so brilliant. And
we always talked about that, like how you just took after your dad in that way.
Like he was so fucking bright.
It was like inspiring to be in rooms with him.
And I feel that way about you,
like, and now getting to work with you,
the way that you are so good at multitasking
and yet giving somehow 100% to every multitask that you are so good at multitasking
and yet giving somehow 100% to every multitask at the same time.
Like you juggle so many things at once
and you're so eloquent and calm.
And I don't know, it's just really fun to watch
something that wasn't like your natural thing
that you wanted to do in your life,
become something that you are beyond talented in,
it is really cool to see you take it on and conquer it
and make it look like you went to fucking school
for this shit.
So I don't know, it's just really cool
to watch each other grow.
And like, I think that was a moment where,
so when the premiere of the documentary happened,
I think Lauren and I were just so, you were both just so emotional because again, this
is a documentary, yes, about the rise of Caller Daddy in my life and then you are a huge part
of it.
But I think a lot of that documentary was so full circle for us because of how long
we've been doing this together.
And so there was so much emotion tied into it.
And our best friend, Kristen,
who is like the third in our dynamic from childhood,
who was in our childhood videos,
the three of us getting to come together,
I think was such a beautiful moment for me,
because I, when you are having a lot of accomplishments,
sometimes you forget to pause and really stop
and be like, if you knew this at 18,
you wouldn't even believe it.
And so I think being around you has also allowed me
to stop and really be more present
because you remind me of childhood
and you remind me of home.
So it's like, I can hole out of being,
I'm like executives around me
and all these people from Spotify are serious, whoever it be.
And when I look at you, it brings me back to childhood
and it makes this job still feel like a mom and pop thing
that like hasn't gotten too big and out of my control.
And it still is my baby.
And it still is something that is all
that's coming from the heart.
And I think that's what I'm excited about that people know now that you are working
with me.
I hope it gives people more clarity, whether you hate the interviews or love the interviews,
like it's us.
And it's not some big corporation that's writing these things and I'm just regurgitating, like
it's us and like it or hate it,
I'm really proud that we haven't strayed
from the basement to now.
Like it is always gonna be us.
Look at that ending.
That was good.
I think that's where we have to end it.
You guys, I am so, so happy.
We finally got to get this off our chest.
Now no one's gonna think Lauren just like doesn't have a job
and just like is randomly in LA.
Oh my gosh, I know, for like the longest time,
all the comments were always like,
how is Lauren always with you?
Like, how does she like travel around?
Like, does she even have a job?
Right.
I have a job.
Lauren works at Call Her Daddy and Unwell.
And it's just now, I guess, the beginning of you guys
knowing this next chapter of our life.
I don't think we're slowing down anytime soon.
I think we're just ramping up.
Oh, there's so much coming.
Get fucking ready bitches.
Love you guys, thank you so much for tuning in.
I will see fuckers next Wednesday, goodbye. Thanks for watching guys!