Calm Parenting Podcast - Stop Fights Over School, Screens, & Chores: 5 Tips
Episode Date: August 4, 2020Your response to everyday situations can be the difference between a defiant, angry child and a confident one. Learn how to de-escalate situations, get kids off screens, and motivate them to push thro...ugh when work gets difficult. THIS WEEK, YOU GET EVERYTHING WE'VE EVER CREATED FOR 75% OFF.This includes our No B.S. Program, Marriage Mentoring, Celebrate ADHD Package, and ALL of the Audio Programs on our website. You get absolutely EVERYTHING we've ever created. Click here to learn about our Back To School Sale! Please share this podcast and our Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/CelebrateCalm/ Want more content like this? Join our newsletter by texting CELEBRATECALM to 22828 or visit https://www.celebratecalm.com If we can help you in any way, please reach out to Casey@CelebrateCalm.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Am I a bad parent?
Right?
You're going to project into the future.
How are they going to be successful?
And what happens when tensions ratchet up as they probably already have?
And what happens if you have a child who's already shut down, but good luck getting him
motivated to do his schoolwork?
How are you going to handle all that?
That's what we're going to
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So here's the genesis of today's podcast.
I am recording this on Sunday evening because we live on the Carolina coast and there is
a hurricane, probably tropical storm coming.
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prep, you got to prep, you got to prep. So I started thinking through, okay, we've got kind of a storm
coming when school begins back, because you're going to have a lot of different issues going on
with school, with your kids on screens all the time, kids who shut down, all the tension. So I
started thinking and making a little
list of like five things, five ways we need to prepare for this. And there are things you can
begin doing now. And some of these things are already happening, so may as well get to it right
now. I'm going to hit all five things today, and then in future podcasts, I'll go do a deeper dive
on each one of the five, so we can really, really kind of get a hold of this and prepare
for it, be proactive, or in many cases, just try to de-escalate things that are already
ratcheted up.
So number one, your anxiety.
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So we get the same thing without all the germs. So number one was anxiety. So there's a mom on a, and a bunch of moms actually on a zoom session. We're like,
I can already feel my anxiety rising because I can, I know what's coming. My kids are not going
to want to do their schoolwork. And some kids are not going, some kids are gonna do great with online learning.
They're like, so I don't have to go to school?
Awesome, because I've got a lot of anxiety.
I don't really get along with kids my own age.
I don't like all the negativity that goes on there
and all the fluff.
If I can just like do my work online, boom,
I'll be done in a couple hours each day.
And that's awesome for some kids.
But some kids, you're going to fight with them all the time. And that's awesome for some kids, but some kids you're going to fight with
them all the time and it's going to be difficult. And so you've got to start prepping for this.
And I want you to start working with on, so number one is working on your own anxiety.
Here's one simple thing that I want you to begin working on. Stop projecting into the future
because you are going to look at this child resisting you
and not doing things that you look at. You're like, that's so easy. Look, I know you know the
answer to that. If you would just focus, you would be done in 45 minutes instead of it taking three
hours and you're going to lecture and get upset. And guess what? No one learns well while someone's
standing over them with their arms folded across their chest, lecturing them about how they're not trying and
if they would apply themselves. That's your own anxiety. There's no guilt, no blame in anything
we do, but if you want things to change, you've got to deal with yourself first because you're
going to dump a lot of anxiety on this child who probably already has a lot of anxiety and your
words, watch your words that come out of, why can't you ever focus,
right? If you would just apply yourself and those are not motivating words, those are words that
cause kids to shut down. And I understand this because you're looking at them like, why does it
have to be so hard? But a lot of times you're projecting your own stuff onto your kids and
you're projecting into the future. And I want
you to work on that for the next week. Let's stop using those phrases. Let's notice when
it's more about my anxiety because watch what happens. Our anxiety communicates to our kids,
you're not actually capable of being successful because look, you're not doing it well. And I'm
projecting into the future and saying, you're not going to be successful then either. Well,
why would he even try? And you're just going to have to control that. Know that that's a
natural thing. Look it's a very natural thing for parents to be anxious about their child's future.
But if you want things to change you have to control that. Otherwise you will sabotage their
future. When you get anxious you create the very outcome that you dread. And you do that
through your negative words and through lecturing and communicating that I don't think you can be
successful. So let's work on that. I've given you language before of I believe you're capable,
which is really, really important. Number two, this is going to be a tough one, but we're going to have to learn how
to jumpstart your child's brain. Because many of you have kids who, when they wake up, they're just
not ready to go. And we're going to sit them down, which is usually a horrible way to do their school
work. And we're going to start on them and expect them to get into it right away. And they're going
to resist. And you're going to have
to learn how to manage. You may have heard me say this. You have to learn how to manage their energy,
not their time. Doing homeschooling, online schooling for the strong willed kids and kids
who have different brain structure and maybe ADHD and some other things on the spectrum, it is not about
managing their time. And you will drive yourself and them crazy if you try to do that. You may have
a brain that works like that. You're very linear and logical and you work in a very linear way.
And you sit down, you start work at nine and you're done at five. And that's awesome.
But most of your kids are not like that. They work on momentum. They work on their energy,
not on their time. And you're going to have to create successes. And if you have our ADHD university program, I want you to begin listening to that. If you don't get it, because it's
fantastic. Even if your kids don't have ADHD because we go over how their brains work
and they work differently than yours work.
And you're gonna have to figure out
how does their brain work
and how can I take all the things that frustrate me
and frustrate my child and give my child tools
to overcome those frustrations, right?
To learn how to stimulate the brain in positive ways,
to figure out how to help them with recall, to process information more quickly, right? All
those things, you've got to learn how to do that. So please listen to that. If you do not have it,
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jumpstarting the brain, specifically on that. And anybody who orders the Get Everything package,
and by the way, thank you to those who have already ordered it. We have record of you. We
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we have. We'll show you how to jumpstart. If you need help financially, if you need help with one
of the other packages that we have, just look on the website, email Casey at Celebrate Calm.
We will help you. It's what we do. So I want you to start working on that, of thinking of, you know what you can begin
doing? Watch and observe your kids and notice how they learn best. Notice when they're listening the
most. Notice what they normally do on an everyday basis. If you're a child, you have a kid and you
walk in the room and he's just randomly lying upside down off the sofa, make a note of that.
If you have a child that likes to spin a lot, instead of getting frustrated, make a note of that because we can use that.
We can use that to get kids to do their schoolwork.
If you have kids who love being in confined spaces and they crawl under things, good.
Guess where we're doing our schoolwork?
Underneath something. We're going they crawl under things. Good, guess where we're doing our schoolwork? Underneath something.
We're gonna crawl underneath it.
Or we're gonna have them spin
while we review vocabulary words.
I want to use this stuff.
You have a child who's very physical, we can use that.
If they like music, good.
We can use all of these things.
So this week, begin observing your kids
and begin making a list and feel free,
especially if you get one of the packages, feel free, email me and say, hey, I've got a kid who's doing this and we'll try to put together something very specific, but I'll handle that in a future
podcast as well. Number three, setting clear expectations for the coming school year. Now,
here's one of the hardest things you're going
to have to deal with is getting screens under control. Because what happened in most families,
and this makes perfect sense, is March hit, kids came home from school, now they've got all day,
nobody was really prepared to do online schooling, the schools weren't really prepared for that.
Now you've got a kid home 24 hours a day.
What's he going to do all day? Because you can't go outside and play with your friends, right? So
everybody just kind of went to like, well, just play your screens. Not everybody, but most people,
and there's no judgment on that, right? That is a very difficult time. And it made sense to say like,
well, he's not going to like read a book for 15 hours a day. So most of your kids have
gotten used to in these last five months being on their screens a lot. And it's going to be
difficult to go cold turkey as soon as school hits back because it's become a habit to go to.
I'm going to do a whole podcast on that, But I encourage you to begin getting that under control to start limiting that.
And here's the thing.
You can't just cut it out.
It doesn't work.
Hey, you know that thing you've been doing for five months or the last five years almost
nonstop?
Guess what?
Don't do it anymore.
You are going to have to replace that.
And you're going to have to meet the same internal needs that are being met when your
kids play on their screens.
There's a social aspect.
There's brain stimulation.
There's a challenge.
There's a sense of achievement, of accomplishment because they're very good on their screens.
It's the way they connect with their friends.
And there's all kinds of needs that are being met when your kids are on their screens.
And so you're going to have to replace that, meet those same needs with other activities.
It's not always going to be fun.
Some of your younger kids,
this all ties together.
Some of your younger kids,
if you're doing online schooling
or working with them at home,
you're going to have to get very active.
And they're not going to want to do it
and you're not going to want to do it.
But we had 1,500 kids in our home
and when I tutored them and taught them
and they came to our house and we did schoolwork, the first thing that I did is I put a backpack on
their back, and we went for a hike. And they didn't like it. And they complained because it
was summer, and it was hot, and it was humid, and they were itchy, and it was sunny. And I didn't
want to do it. I just want to stay inside and play with my Legos and my screens. Of course you do.
It's human nature. Nobody likes doing things that are difficult.
By the way, it's not just your kids.
So don't get on them like,
well, my child just shuts down whenever things get hard.
Of course they do.
You do too, right?
Nobody wakes up like,
I hope I encounter a lot of challenges today
that really stretch me out of my comfort zone.
That's not normal, okay. And so that's one
of my favorite phrases on the No BS program is, of course, it's difficult. Of course, like normalize
this stuff. Of course, you don't want to get off your screens. Of course, you don't want to go
outside and do exercise and do a hike with me. But we made the hikes fun because we hid stuff in the woods and
we hid stuff all over the neighborhood. And we did schoolwork underground in drainage ditches
because we called them sewers and little kids love anything that's nasty. And we mixed it up
and you're going to have to do some of those things. But I promise you, you're going to be
like, oh, but that's so hard. Everything in life that's worth doing is,
it's going to be a little bit difficult, most things. But here's what I want you to know.
It's a heck of a lot easier to do it than literally fighting with your child and being
upset and angry at your child and having them not talk to you for the next nine months, right?
So when you compare things like that's hard, well, hard compared to what,
right? And so I'd rather do a little bit of the hard work. By the way, when you do the hard work,
you know what you're doing? You're modeling. You're modeling for your kids because guess what?
They know you don't want to be out there doing this stuff either, right? Everybody's like,
can we just go back to the way it was? And for some of you, going back to the way it was, was pretty awful to begin with, because you have challenging kids. So anyway,
I want you to work on these things. Let's start working on that. We'll go into more detail. By
the way, if you get the programs, we have an entire program on getting kids off screens.
Going Amish on your kids and cutting off electricity is an option, not a bad one. You'd
never regret it. But for most of you, it's not going to happen. And just saying no is important,
but you're going to have to replace it and kind of go through all the different ways we can replace
screens with other things that stimulate your kids' brains. Number four, you got to start to
de-escalate because some of you, it's been escalating
because you've been stuck in the house forever for the last five months together.
And guess what?
You're not getting any relief because this is that time of year when parents are like,
man, I hate to admit it, but I can't wait till the kids go back to school.
Well, guess what?
They're not.
Or they're going to go back and it's going to be part time.
So we get this great email from this fireman. guess what? They're not, or they're going to go back and it's going to be part-time.
So we get this great, I get this great email from this fireman and very, very instructive. So here's what he basically said. He's like, my wife for years has been telling me like, you need to be
the fireman in our home, right? Because that's your job and you're awesome at putting out fires.
But then when you come home, it's like you escalate.
It's like you pour fuel on the fire.
And he was like, I never really understood what she meant because I'm a good dad.
It's just I expect my kids to listen.
And when they don't listen, well, I start to get on them.
But it was nothing that my dad didn't do.
And so he said, my wife convinced me to get your package of CDs, so I was listening to the dad's CD
and it hit me. He said, when I'm at work and I respond to a call, we prepare. We don't charge
into the building. We stop for a moment. We assess it. We look at the structure. We look at
where's the wind, how's the wind blowing, from what direction,
how hard is it blowing, right? And we come up with a plan. Before we storm that burning building,
we have a plan. And he said, it hit me when you were going through this on your programs of,
at home, I just charge into the fire, the emotional fire, and I don't have a plan. Because that's one thing
as a little aside here. We talk about having a plan. Have a go-to plan. Not if, but when things
escalate in your home. When your child melts down because it's going to happen. What are you going
to do? What's your plan? You can't just make something up in the moment because we're like,
you know what? You need to be quiet right now. i don't know why you get upset like that escalates things have a plan
so because when you don't have a plan you pour fuel on the fire and this firefighter by the way
thank you for your service pretty awesome what you're doing um he said emotions, I'm finding, are much harder to put out sometimes than an actual fire. Because in
a fire, we try to deprive the fire of oxygen. But what I've learned is I talk a lot when my son
and my kids are getting upset, and I actually fan the flames with my own oxygen. So he said he started coming up with a plan. And this is a,
look, this is a beautiful, beautiful thing. When you picture a dad who for years has rushed into
the emotional fire and his kids have been upset and he dismisses it and gets upset and yells at
them. And what have they learned? I can't count on that. I can't count on my dad because he just,
he just gets upset at me all the
time. And those kids start to shut down. But here's a dad who took this to heart, who now is coming up
with a plan. This is a beautiful, beautiful thing. And with his one son, his son's name is Caleb,
which by the way is an awesome name, right? If you've got a child named, we have so many
strong willed kids named Jacob. Caleb is a very popular one
because Caleb is like a go-getter kind of name, right? So he's like, so now he comes into the home
and he assesses it. He can read body language. He's slowing himself down so that before he reacts,
he can assess what's the oxygen level in here? What's the intensity of the heat? What's
going on? How's my wife doing? How's my son doing? And now he can take a knee or he comes in, changes
his body posture and his tone of voice and says, Caleb, I could use some help outside. Because his
other job, the firefighter, he, he does landscaping on the side.
And he said, my son is one of those kids that you mention in your podcast, in your materials.
He loves to shovel mulch. He loves heavy work. He loves the sensory pressure. So watch what's happening here. This is really cool. The dad has learned that all of this isn't about just his kids and his family getting upset.
He has so much control by controlling himself.
And now he's bonding.
Watch, this is so cool.
He's turning moments that used to be a time of yelling,
and I don't know why you can't do this, and son, you better shape up.
All those dad lectures, he's now bonding with his son over something they both enjoy. And he's calming his son down.
And they found their new routine is they go outside. So I emailed him and said, okay,
so let me play devil's advocate. What happens when it's raining? What happens when it's snowing
where you live? What's happening? He goes, I don't care. We go outside. If it's muddy out,
all the better because we try to see who can get muddier.
And he said, and I like his attitude because he's kind of a tough guy. And he said, well,
I'll counter that with this. Some of our best times have been when it rained because now we end up wrestling in the mud. And my wife at first didn't like it. And I told her, watch, this is so
cool. He told his wife, he said, look, you get one of two things I can come in escalate things and you can
kind of manage everybody's emotions and be resentful or I can calm our son down and we just
have to deal with some mud right she's like I'll take the mud but isn't that a beautiful thing of
now his wife gets to look out and see my watch almost creates a little bit of a tear thing a little
bit of a choke up in my voice because I picture this with Casey how I did it wrong for so long
and then we started to bond over the difficult times during the difficult times and now there's
this father and his son bonding and getting messy and doing this and building things and shoveling
mulch and now he's helping his son and his son's listening.
And he's like, and his dad said, it's working.
So he said, I hope you don't mind, but I took your CDs to the station house.
I play it now for the other guys.
And many of them are very skeptical, but one by one, they're coming in saying this works.
And he asked for me, he said, I've got a guy, actually a couple of them struggling in
their marriage. Is it okay if I share your materials with them? And my answer is yes.
If we can help more people by all means, do it. It's the beauty of the downloads that you get is
you can share it across multiple devices. And if we can get, look, if we can get a firehouse
filled with these guys and we can get them to learn to lead their kids to calm and actually and with
their wives connect emotionally with their wives that will change lives right they'll change the
whole firehouse this is a cool cool thing so his final note by the way he said um when my wife
started showing me their materials i was all skeptical and i looked i was like that's expensive
we don't have to pay for that i don't make make that much money. But he said, I do my landscaping business
and I figured, look, I'll do one or two extra side gigs.
I make enough money from that and I'll pay for it.
And the byproduct is my son now
is helping me in my landscaping business
and I'm teaching him how to run a business
and invoice and how to sell and do all these things.
It has been an awesome, awesome thing and it's changing his family. And so to the firemen out there,
this one in particular, kudos to you, my friend. That's hard work and you're doing it. You're
changing generations of kids and families. You're changing your family tree, right? It's a cool thing. So I encourage you, get on the same page.
Learn how to de-escalate situations.
It doesn't have to be that hard.
In fact, it's not that hard if you'll do it
and you'll change your tone of voice
and you change your body posture
and you have a plan, it's awesome.
Number five, and I'm not gonna spend time
because I'm coming up on 25 minutes here
and I don't wanna make this too long.
You've gotta work on rebuilding the relationships. Some of you have been on your kids, on your kids. It's not all your fault. You've got difficult, challenging kids, but you do not
have a good relationship with this child. And so over the summer, you can kind of let things go,
right? Because there's no pressure with schoolwork and you let your kids kind of float and they can
go and they can run around and they can be on their screens. But now we're going to have to start asking things to them. And now we're going to have
to be in close proximity. We're going to have to start working on tough things. And if you don't
have the relationship, nothing else works. Remember, we want connection before compliance.
It is relationships that change behavior. Consequences will not work with your kids. You've already seen
that. If consequences worked, you wouldn't be listening to this podcast. So I want to rebuild
that relationship. You're going to need to accept your child as he is. I'm going to give you one
quick thing from the No BS program. It's releasing your child. It is a very, very, very, very powerful
concept and very, very influential. It is a beautiful thing to do to,
I release you, child. I release you, son. I release you, daughter. I release you from the expectation
that you need to be just like me. I release you from the expectation that you need to do things
the way I do them. I release you from the expectation that you should do things or be just like your
brother or sister or your peers or other kids. I release you from that and I release you to be the
person that you're supposed to be. And this all ties in because when you release your child and
accept them as they are and you learn how their brains work so you're not imposing how you do
things on them and you learn how to de-escalate
and you learn how to control your own anxiety so you do the opposite instead of dumping your
anxiety you start speaking over your child that i believe you're capable i've seen you do these
things you have a great future ahead of you because of the wisdom to see into the future
i've seen you be persistent i I've seen you overcome things.
You've overcome things that we don't even know about. And you've got courage down there and
you've got all these great, right? When you can start reversing that and speaking these things
into your child's life so they actually know that you enjoy them and that you like them,
because that's a big part of this is learning to actually like the child who challenges you all the time.
And I'm not saying it's easy to do that all the time,
but it's a lot easier than having a lifetime
where you're just disjointed
and don't have a relationship with this child.
You can do it, because I didn't like my son
when he was younger.
I didn't like him at all.
He was difficult.
Everything was difficult. He was
too emotional, always upset, couldn't do anything I asked. I wonder, how is he ever going to be
successful in life, right? How's he ever going to keep a job? And I didn't like him when he was
little. But I love my son. I like my son. He's one of my favorite people on the planet. I like who he is. I like the fight in him. I like sometimes
that he comes back at me. I can appreciate that now because it's that very quality that makes him
a beast in so many areas of his life. So work on those five things. If we can help you, reach out
Casey, C-A-S-E-Y at CelebrateCalm.com. If you want us to do a Zoom session for your families, for your school, for your teachers,
foster, adoptive care, email us.
It's so affordable right now, and we're helping so many people in a different way
without giving them our germs.
It's awesome.
If you get the No BS program, if you get the Get Everything package,
it includes the No BS program, we will be sending you an extra video that I'm going to do just for you this week. If you don't want that Everything
package, we've got other packages on sale. And if you need help specifically, email Casey
at CelebrateCalm.com and just say, hey, here's what's going on in my family. Here's the age of
the kids. What can you do for me? And we will customize materials for you because that's what
we live to do. So thank you. There's a coming storm,
but guess what? It's going to be awesome. You know why? Because we're going to turn something
that used to be negative into a positive. Carry with you that picture of that dad and son wrestling
in the mud now instead of wrestling and fighting all the time. Now they're bonding together. You can do that with your kids.
And that's what we wanna help you to do
so you can enjoy them.
Thank you for listening.
Thank you for being a good parent.
Thanks for working so hard at this
and let us know if we can help you, okay?
Love you all, bye-bye.