Change Your Brain Every Day - Is It Undiagnosed ADHD or Unresolved Emotional Trauma? Her Shocking Brain Scan Results with Tianna Robillard

Episode Date: March 23, 2026

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I was in a relationship for two and a half years. He proposed and then I found out a month later that he had been cheating on me. I almost felt like it broke my brain because I didn't realize the stuff that I learned people actually do. It's affecting me even more now than it did after. I just believe things that aren't real.

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Whenever you feel sad, mad, nervous, or out of control, I want you to write out what you're thinking. The feelings that I feel right now, I never used to feel growing up. I never was like off kilter in like any way. I was very balanced as a child and then turned 16, 14, 15, 16, and then boom. You were assaulted. When you were 16. Can you talk about it?

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So, welcome, change your brain every day. We have a very special episode. We're going to do Scan My Brain with Tiana Robloid. Yeah. And I'm so excited that for the last couple of years, you've been following me and we've been following you and reached out and wondered, should we look at your brain? Yes. And why did you agree to say yes?

Well, I reached out and said, can you look at my brain? Because we don't know what's going on in there. There's, you know, I'm experiencing like really high highs, really low lows every now and again. I think I've been recently diagnosed with ADHD. And I think the word that was used was severe. So I actually don't. Which who knows? So I just started medication for my first time at the beginning.

it this year. And did it work? I think it's working. I am one of those people I'm like scared to rely on medication. So I think that's why I've been so not wanting to take it for my whole life. But it's working. Yeah. I'm on like a low dose. I take like five milligrams of what? Of Adderall, I think, the off-brand one. So yeah. And it helps. I feel like it quietes my thoughts. Like I like there's so many thoughts all the time and it like puts them in categories where I can like pick which one I want to listen to. You know what I mean? You're probably like, no, that's not how it works. I love that. Well, when stimulants work, it activates your frontal lobes and your frontal lobes actually help you organize things. When your frontal lobes are sleepy, then it's like you don't have a break

on your brain. But the question I have, because I know the ADD stuff came up. So I've looked at your scans. I've read your history. I have all sorts of notes. And it sounds like now you have ADD, but it doesn't sound like you had it growing up. No.

And that's not how ADD works. That is what I was. So it usually means something else is going on. Yeah. I fully accept that. that truth. Because growing up, I was locked in. Like, I never had a problem in school.

I never had a problem. It wasn't until about 14, 15, that I realized, oh, no, like, why am I not going to class? Why am I not doing homework? It was never my thing. I was always on it. And then randomly just switched one. So what happened? The only thing I can think of is, like, possible home trauma.

Like, um... I didn't have my, my dad and my mom divorced when I was five. And then I got a stepdad from like six to like 13, 14. And that was about the time they had their divorce. So he like raised me alongside my dad too up from afar. And so I think that divorce was hard. And you were how old when they got divorced? I think 13, 14.

Yeah. Okay. So about the time things begin to change. Then it's also tough because it's also the time. that's also the time I enter high school with, like, so many other schools and people. So I don't know if that played a part in it, too. I don't know. You know, sometimes when people get diagnosed later is they were so bright that school came so easy. And when they had to start working, they didn't have the right focus or the right habits.

And all of a sudden, they're like terribly. ADD, but it's not like I did my homework and now I'm not. I went to school and now I'm not. That usually is either head injury or emotional trauma. Yeah, it felt like emotional almost because I didn't have the, it was like I almost didn't have the drive to like get up and go to school or do my homework after school. But you had it before.

So ADD, typical ADD is it's inherited. It comes from either your mom or dad. You can see it clearly on one side or sometimes both of your family. You have it from the time you're a little girl. But girls tend not to be diagnosed like boys. They're diagnosed like one in five because boys bring a lot of negative attention to themselves, misbehaving, the hyperactivity, the impulsivity, the restlessness. and people go, you, something is not right with you.

But girls, not so much. Yeah. And still there's gender bias, I think, that people still sort of expect, oh, he's going to have to take care of a family someday. We have to get him help. She's really cute. We hope she marries somebody nice, which is not rational because women, if anything, do way more than men because women are primary caretakers for the house.

They're primary caretakers for children. And they're still, you know, at least here in California, you're working outside the house nine times out of ten. Yep. So when I read your history, excellent student until high school. Mm-hmm. Won, like, an award for my whole county type of thing. Like, it was like the one award to one student in the whole county.

And I, like, won that. And that's not a small county where you're from. No, Wackham County, no. It was like a really big deal for me. And that was an eighth grade. And then I left middle school, went to high school and everything shit at the fan. Excuse me. It all went bad.

It's very visual. Yeah. But now executive challenges, focus, distractibility, organization can be hard. Yeah. Poor memory, forgetfulness. Periods of low moods. Yeah. can be self-critical.

Mm-hmm. And I think anybody on social media has comparison stress. It's tough because I'm now in my third year of social media, doing it as a full-time job. And it's tough to know my stress levels and the anxiety that I feel. It's tough to know if it's from work. Like, I know it's from work, but what degree? So I don't, and I don't have that answer.

Like, I used to be a lot more chill of a human before social media. And now there's comparison. There's like, you don't get an off moment because if you chill on the couch, I could be editing something. I could be making something. I could be creating, you know, doing research. It's just, it's tough. I feel like.

It is. I mean, there's a court case going right now. Does it create mental illness? And, you know, I think as a psychiatrist, I'm also a child psychiatrist. It absolutely creates mental illness. The scrolling, the dopamine, it destroys dopamine neurons because it's always hitting them, boom, boom, boom, boom. And developing discipline around it is so important.

So you see it as a job, not as you. Yes. Yeah. And then, of course, there's a haters. I have plenty of them. Me too. But some of the haters aren't real. They're actually these bot farms.

I just view them all as bots and then I'm good to go. I'm like, oh, that's a robot. It's fine. Yeah, no, I would like pop up and do an Instagram live. I hate Dr. Amen. It's like, why? I know, I know. I'm like.

All we're doing is spreading some joy and knowledge, okay? We don't need. We don't need that. Right, but joy and knowledge does an inquiry. increase engagement like hate and controversy do. So the algorithms element that. Well, to that point, not that we care about my status online, but I'll make it quick. I came up online pretty quick from a like bad relationship, like a public like scandal.

And so there's that whole thing of trying to keep relevant. in a sense when I'm in a healthy, happy time of my life and, like, grow on social media or grow in my job when there's no scandal. Like, there's no, there's nothing keeping people there except for, like, I'm just trying to, like, bring entertainment to my platform. But you're right. That doesn't get the growth or the views. So what happened with this scandal?

I was in a relationship for two and a half years, and he proposed. and then I found out a month later that every, like he had been cheating on me for... Oh, that was actually one of the traumas I wrote down. Yeah. It almost felt like it like broke my brain because I didn't realize the stuff that I learned could act like people actually do. Like I didn't realize. And now I'm in like a happy relationship and it's really, it's affecting me and even more now

probably than it did. The hurt did after because I'm like almost getting... I just believe things that aren't real. I can fully make stories in my head that aren't there and aren't real. And I can make anyone believe them. It's scary. And has anybody taught you how to not believe every stupid thing you think? Yeah.

I'm in like therapy and I have a psych. But yeah, I do. I like can sit back and realize, okay, the thought that I'm thinking is insane, like step back. The chances of that being like real or logic. or slim, so I have to just, like, trust myself, but it's tough. It makes me feel like... See, with all the thoughts, I actually like it when my patients write them down. Yeah. And then assess them. Yeah. So I call them ants, automatic negative thoughts. The thoughts that come into your mind automatically and ruin you. It's like an infestation.

Yes. And so you need a little ants spray. And the thoughts are worse. So the ants are worse. So the ant infestation is worse the last 10 days of your cycle, if you've not slept, if you've not eaten and you have low blood sugar, then the ants come. And so every day, we win, have a good day, or we learn. And if you're just curious and not attached to the noise, it's just basic training for our minds. And you can like teach you, it's like repetition. Like you can like, okay, because. Just like, so your sweetheart was basketball player. Yeah.

Well, he didn't learn how to shoot free throws by doing one. Right. He did them thousands of times. And even in his last year playing, he practices them over and over. We have to develop that same skill for our mind. Like, I still have crazy thoughts. Yeah. I just don't believe any of them.

Yeah. That's the key. It feels like when a thought comes in, I have to believe it. It's the weirdest thing. Like yesterday, I had a whole hard mental day of, like, where I'm positioned in, like, my career and, like, my, the industry. I can just, I'm doing great. But in my head, I'm like, oh, I'm a complete, you know, failure. And then I believe it.

And then it's, like, spirited to the soul. So we're going to talk about ants. I love talking about ants so much. So comparison stress. Yeah. You were assaulted. when you were 16? I was, yes.

Can you talk about it? Yeah, I it's, I don't know if I was going to ask you about this because I actually don't know if I'm actually affected by it. Like I don't know if it's subconscious. I don't really think about it in my day to day.

But it was a situation that happened where I was drugged essentially and was like taken advantage of by four different three or four different men and I didn't know in the time that that was happening until almost like pictures of what like in my head of what happened like came like two years later and it all pieced together for me whereas in the moment I just I don't know if I just didn't know

what was going on type of thing and I ended up meeting these guys I guess two years later again and they were like and I had introduced myself I didn't even know them I just didn't even like I just didn't remember anything. It was like, I think I just blocked it out. I don't know. But I don't know if I'm emotionally affected. I don't feel emotionally affected because I just like numb it maybe. Did the school problems start before that?

I would say, I would say so. It was kind of like I was kind of just didn't have like a male figure in my life for those four years. So I was just kind of... And tell me about being drugged. What was this situation? I was still at this point. I was 16. I was scared of drinking still.

Like, I didn't want to, like, I had to, I just got my license. I just got my car. I was, like, one of those people, I didn't drink and drive. My mom freaked me out about it. So I was, like, going to this party, essentially, or like this little get together. And had, like, one drink and then I was going to leave. And they were like, just take this last. Just take one more shot with us, one more shot with us.

I was like, oh my gosh, okay. So I take it, and then it was history after that. I have no idea. I just have glimpses of. Then you woke up where? From what I can remember, I woke up there in the morning, and I just, like, got out of there. And I think people were asleep still, and I just. Was your mom freaked out because she hadn't heard from you?

Maybe a little bit. I was always doing something. I was like a good kid, but I was always out doing something with friends. Like she, I was the last child of three. So my. Yeah, we were way more about the first one than the last one. She just like let me kind of go. She didn't really have to worry.

I'm one of seven. Oh my gosh. And my older sister, she's in trouble for everything. Like wore a bikini, the smoke, whatever. And by the time Joanne came along, the seventh one, they didn't care. Yeah. Right. My older sister's, I think she's bitter about that.

So, yes, there's trauma. And it sounds like your body kept the score, but your mind didn't know about it. Yeah. That makes sense? Yes. Yeah. In the therapy you've had, how long have you gone for therapy? I went for two years and then took like a year break and then just started up again two weeks ago.

And what do you guys do? in therapy. We are not in the same state anymore. So I have a Zoom call every week. But I have done, what is it, EMDR or whatever? I don't know if it was very intensive. It was me holding like two vibrating nuggets. Yeah, that works.

And just kind of saying how I feel about things as it was going on, I think. Yeah, no, that doesn't sound like it works. Or like, I think I was getting asked questions. I was trying to, I don't know, I forget. But it was, I don't know. It feels good to talk to somebody. How many times did you do that? I think two.

Yeah, you didn't do it here. What I do when I do it is like take each five years of your life. I want you to write down what awesome things happen. Yeah. And what awful things happened. That seems like it would be awful. And then go after. the awful ones. But I always want you to balance it with my life has both. Every life has both.

Yeah. Right? Because if you just talk about the problems, you feel like a problem. Yep. But EMDR is you actually, there's a whole process around it, but you bring that stuff up in the eye movement or it's alternate hemisphere stimulation. That's what you were doing by holding the vibrating things. When you bring up the trauma, it helps both sides of your brain process it. And then it calms it down. Yeah. And did you ever do it around the rape? I don't think so. Because consciously you're not aware of it, but your body's completely aware of it. Yeah. Yeah. I feel like it's just one of those things like, oh, it happens. Like, whatever. Like, but I don't feel it. But I feel like I wonder. If the feelings could come up,

where would they go? I don't know. Maybe my stomach or something, I don't know. Like where would I feel them? Where would they go? I mean, yes, where would you feel initially? But then if you could come up out of your body. Yeah.

Where would they go? Away. I don't know. I'm not sure. And if you saw those four guys again, how would I feel? No. Where would the thoughts go or where would the feelings go? Yes, yes.

I don't know. Yeah, because I would imagine there's some rage there. No, it's so weird. So someone drugged you, violated you, shared you. Yeah. There's no rage. I feel like there should be, right? And I just, I don't even, I don't know if I let myself even get there.

What would happen if you did? I don't think anything. My experience is it would free you from some of this. Yeah, really, from all the. Yeah. But when you repress it, it comes out other ways. It comes out in a sad day. It comes out in a panic attack.

out in headaches. It'd come out in stomach aches. Because, I mean, yeah, because the things I'm feeling I've never used to feel growing up. I'm sorry? Because, yeah, it would make sense. The feelings that I feel right now, I never used to feel growing up. I never was like off kilter in like any way.

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at change your brain, change your pain book.com. Orthorexia. Yeah. Tell me about that. Same time period, enter high school. I was in competitive cheerleading, which you're obviously surrounded by a bunch of females all the time, and you're starting high school and you're trying to be whatever. What was your position?

Base. Your base. Yes. And did you have any concussions? I don't think so. Not that I remember. I've definitely been hit in the head. I don't think I had a concussion though.

But yeah, I think it was just this feeling of like, oh, I need to be, it started off being like, I really need to be healthy to like be where I want. And then you start eating healthy and then it turned into like, oh, I can't have one bite of a cookie. Otherwise, I need to go like run a mile. It like turned into that. So it turned into an eating disorder. Yes. Which I was told us. I mean, I was admiring it.

Because, you know, I always say, you know, 30% of my work is just getting you to eat right. Yeah. If you eat right, your brain works better. Yeah. And I have a saying, I only want you to love food that loves you back. Yeah. Right? You've been in a bad relationship so you know what that's like.

Now you have a good relationship. Yes. I want you to have the same relationship with food. Yeah. Yeah. But not over the top. Right. Yeah.

Right. And I think I agree. People go 80, 20, and I'm like, no, you don't like yourself that much. Maybe 955 would be better. Lots of caffeine. Oh, my gosh. Yeah. Yeah.

So I'd try to limit that. Probably 100 a day, 100 milligrams a day. Oh, my gosh. That's like. That's like a latte, right? It's like a latte. Oh, no. And not a triple shot like my normal.

That's like a double. And especially not with Adderall. I know. Because it decreases the effectiveness of Adderall. So caffeine and Adderall compete for the same receptor sites in the brain. I mean, not completely, but yes, they're competing for dopamine. Yeah. And if you really want the Adderall to be as effective, I think I would do less.

Okay. And I make something called peak energy that's actually made with a caffeine metabolite called parazantham. I think it's smoother and it doesn't create the problems that caffeine creates. Yeah. And then nicotine? No, I don't do well with it. I tried. Okay.

So you're not using nicotine gum? No, it was, it's probably maybe once a month type of thing. Okay. And it's like a two milligram one. Yeah. It's a big online thing now, a lot of influencers. Nicotine's awesome. Yeah.

And it's a lie. I wanted to know about that. And you don't like THC. No, I hate THC. Oh, okay. So if I'm taking like a, like, I'm taking these things called early birds once a night. And they're like less than three. milligrams or whatever, but a lot of CBD.

So CBD is okay. Okay. THC and some people literally they lose their mind. Me, when I do a lot. But I also can't sleep. So why do a little? I can't fall asleep. I'm like, think of my worst, deepest, darkest thoughts before bed to the point where I'm like,

I'm scared to go to sleep. So if I just take that to relax, then I maybe all can fall asleep faster. That's my theory. Well, what if you took each of those deepest darkest thoughts? and took them captive. How do you do that? Like don't believe them. I know.

Or write them down. I want you never to be afraid of your thoughts or your feelings. But to go into them rather than away from them. There's a cool trick called Havening. Have you ever heard of it? No. It's super cool. And there's a website called havening.org.

It's a very simple EMDR-ish treatment where you go into the bad thought. Oh my God, my life is going to end. My life is going to end. Do this or this. I like this. What, this one? Not that. Never that.

But, I mean, I'm a fan of tapping. There's an app, the tapping solution. People like it. But no, havening is this, or it's just this, where you go into the bad thought for 20 or 30 seconds. And then you keep doing it while you take your brain to Disneyland or to the mountains. Or you start directing your brain to something you love while you're doing this. You slow your breathing. it'll calm you down and put you to sleep.

But if you're like, oh my God, I have this thought. It's like, I had the thought. This is funny. But it's, my brain's very creative. Yes. And we have a German Shepherd and I love him. But he doesn't like me that much. Really?

He loves my wife. It's like ridiculous. He loves my wife. She comes home. He just like loses his mind. I come home. It's like, hey, dude. But if she's not at home, he comes and hangs out with me.

So I had the thought one day. Well, if I killed her, he would like me more. I'm not going to kill her, right? And I've said it to everybody. Yeah. It's on record. It's just a stupid thought. Your brain creates stories.

It sucks when they're so... And it just lies to you. But they're so logical sometimes. Like they're so... I have like nine reasons to back up why that thought is going to be real. So give me your worst thought. Well, yesterday I just thought about how I'm not good at what I do. You're not good at what I do?

Yeah. Look at these and tell me which ones you have. All of nothing. I'm either all great or all awful. That is what I have. That's just what you said. Sometimes there's something where I'm like, I am literally the best thing, this, that's grace is earth. And the other days I'm like, oh, I'm literally, why am I here?

What is this all for? I have that. When the world is gray. Yeah. So just saying. Less than. Yep. Of course, because you're on social media.

Yes. What's just the bad? Where like 10 things, 10 things happen, eight of them were good. You're focused on the two things. I have such a great audience that I love so much that are so loyal. And I only, the only comments that run in my brain are the bad ones. You know,

you actually don't know, probably. You probably trade yourself not to do that. What's a guilt beating? Me beating myself. Thinking in words like should, must, ought, have to try and motivate your behavior with guilt. And the secret is whenever you think you should do something, ask yourself,

want to do it, or does it fit my goals to do it? And if you don't want to do it and it doesn't fit your goals to do it, don't do it. Don't do it. That's great. Labeling, yes. Fortune telling. Yeah. It runs in your brain. It runs your brain. Mind reading. I can, I feel like I can read everyone's brain in the room. Yeah. No, I can't. No, you can't. That's not true. I have 25 years. of education and I'm a skyatrist and I can't read anybody's brain. You know whose brain, you know, who has to suffer from this the most is Adrian right over there. I'm like, oh, he made one wrong move. I like, I know exactly what he's thinking. Poor guy. No, I don't. And then I assign that feeling to him.

That, all of it, all of it, all of it. You are going to get so much better. Thank you. I believe that. So here's the exercise. Five questions. If you just remember, memorize tattoo, don't tattoo, but five questions. And the first one is, is it true? So if we write down your thought, which was, I'm not good at what I do, right? So that's your belief. I'm not good at what I do, which is all or nothing.

That's the end. Okay. And Carlos did our show. And that was his thought I'll get Alzheimer's like my dad. So I'm not good at what I do. First question, is that true? No. So if one is no, two is automatically, though.

Two is it absolutely true? No. But three is how does that thought make you feel? I'm not good at what I do. It makes me feel, yeah, anxious and scared. And small. And small. And ineffective.

Yep. Powerless. Yep. And like envious maybe a little bit too. Yeah. Yeah. How does that thought make you act? Freaking not good.

Like grasping scarcity mode. Just I'm not happy, you know, living. I'm not living in my truth. And so the outcome of that thought is suffering. Yeah. So a thought that you know. is a lie, your brain attaches to it. So the fourth question is, well, how would you feel if you didn't have the thought? Yeah, like free to just create and be. You'd be happy. Yeah. And how would you act?

You'd create? Yep, motivated. And the outcome of not having the thought? Happiness. Yeah. My favorite question. So one is, is it true? So whenever you feel sad, mad, nervous, or out of control, I want you to write out what you're thinking. Okay. Have the discipline to manage your mind because you want to be great. Yeah.

And that requires a mind that tells you the truth. So this isn't positive thinking. It's accurate. thinking with a positive spin. Yeah. And your brain could be more positive. We'll talk about that. So is it true?

Write it out. Identify what kind of and. Is it true? Is it absolutely true? How does the thought make me feel? And then I like to add, how does it make you act? What's the outcome? How would I feel if I didn't have the thought?

What that teaches you, it's your thoughts that make you suffer. Yes. And if you can, in someone that has a great brain, it's the programming, it's not the hardware. Yeah. Does that make sense? And I totally feel, that's like really validating. It's the programming.

That's very validating. You are going to get so much better. And so how does the thought make me feel? How would I feel if I didn't have the thought? The fifth question, which I dearly love, is take the original thought, I'm not good at what I do, turn it to the opposite,

I am good at what I do, and is there any evidence that the opposite of the thought that's torturing you is in fact true? Yeah. Tell me. I have, I'm good at, I have people that want to...

How many followers do you have? 2.3. Million? Million? I have that going for me. Like the size of Seattle. Yeah. Whoa.

Whoa. Yeah. Okay. So that, yeah. I would think that way I'm doing okay. That people value you. They want to hear what you're up to. Oh, that's, yeah.

Yeah. So if you focus on. that, I am good at what I do. What happens? I feel like I can do more. If you want. See, the other one, you have to do more. Yeah. Right. Exactly. And you don't sleep. Yeah. So which one makes you more open, more loving, more your real self. Thinking that what I do I'm good at. Yeah. Yeah.

Because that's where the evidence is. Yeah. If you did that exercise that you and I just did a hundred times on your worst thoughts, you would stop having bad thoughts. Yeah. Because you would take them captive. Yeah. Just because you have a thought.

has nothing to do with whether or not it's true. Yeah. Whether or not it's useful, whether or not you believe it, I'm not killing my wife for the damn dog. Right. It's just a stupid thought. Yeah. That's not true. Yeah.

I feel like right now they topple on top of each other so I can have like. Yeah. No, I want you to write out your worst thoughts. Yeah. And then right. rather than be afraid of them so you have to drug the ants into submission. Right? I mean, that's what THC does.

That's what alcohol does. It drugs them so you can go to sleep. Right. Totally. It's you just eliminate them. You get a little anteater that's patrolling your mind. Yeah. Just looking for the truth.

I feel like this is like a common thing. Like what just for It's so common It's like our thoughts eat us all alive Like that doesn't seem Because we live in a society of undisciplined thinkers That part In part because of the news

Yeah Because it's so biased one way or the other Yes And they're doing it on purpose Because if the peasants are fighting with each other They don't see what's happening Yeah Social media

the negative news. And there's nowhere in school. I was 28 years old in my psychiatric residency, and I'm just sitting in the back of the class, and a professor said, you have to teach your patients not to believe every stupid thing they think. Yeah.

And I'm like, but I believe every stupid thing I think. Yeah. Yeah. And that's where suffering is. Yeah. Yep. I believe that. And you don't have to suffer.

and it's not positive thinking. It's not like irrational. Right. Like the orthorexia, there's a part of it I loved. But then if I'm not perfect, I'm no good at all. Yes. And that's terrible. Yeah.

And I would love for you to write down those hundred bad thoughts and send them to me. Okay. Because I love killing ants. Yeah. It's like one of my favorite things to do. Like, is that true? Really? You know that's true? The only people who should be predicting the worst are contract lawyers. So your lawyer should be protecting you and that the contract predicts what could go wrong.

Yeah. And then you need to stop. Yeah. Because negativity is bad for your brain. Like why do we all just get so... But if we go back to the unconscious assault, that drove. legions of ants and you didn't even know where they came from because you blocked it. It's like, oh, I don't think that affects me when internally the rage is probably murderous and you blocked it. Yeah.

Yeah. Because I was sort of hoping when I said if the feelings could come out, where would they go? like chop them up. And I find when patients can get it out, yeah, they calm down. Mm-hmm. Because they're not holding. The disloyalty that I've had in my life, too,

I feel like just makes you believe, like the thought of like not being good enough or like not being good at what I do or it all just is validated, I feel like. It's not. but it just makes you feel like that. But I can't control. Other people do. I can only control. And do you have that thought?

I'm not good enough. I think that's like the basis of like everything wrong with me. The basic thought. I had Justin Bieber. That was his thought. I had Miley Cyrus. That was her thought. And I looked at Miley and I've been her doctor for like 15 years and love her.

And I'm like, if you're not good enough. Nobody ever will be. Right. Yeah. Yeah. And then she got the Grammy. It's crazy to have the numbers and the awards and whatever. It doesn't even matter.

It's like it's at the core. Like no matter. I keep saying like, well, what new milestone do I need to get to like feel like adequate? There's this great book. You should read it. It's called The Gap in the Game. It will help you so much with this concept. The Gap is looking at what you don't.

have measuring your self-worth going forward. Yeah. The game is looking at how far you've come measuring things backwards. So we look at your 14-year-old self that was cut in class and not doing her homework and sort of a mess. Yep. Right? Yep. to where you are now,

holy smokes, she would be so proud of you. She would. Don't you think? Yes. The gap is I'll be successful when, and this is just my life, I'll be successful when I'm 18,

or when I publish a book, or when I have a New York Times bestseller, and I have 12. You said I have 12. And I'm like, oh, well, now I need a number of, number one, New York Times bestseller. Right? And I have one of those.

Wow. No, that's misery. Yeah. This is suffering when I have to do that in order to be a worthy human. Yeah. The better question, the question I want you to ask is not this one. I'll be successful when you're already wildly successful. This is the hedonic treadmill, chronic stress.

This is the question. I know I'm being successful when. I know I'm being successful when I'm connected to my wife, my kids, my grandkids. I know I'm being successful. I'm taking care of my body. I know I'm being successful when I'm doing purposeful work. Yeah. Like in this moment, I'm being successful because I'm being useful.

I feel like taking time to like actually do the work. work to like write things down and like actually believe and even read or like think this way. That's what I'm missing. I'm like being lazy. I'm being undisciplined with my thoughts. I'm not taking time to. Don't attack yourself. Just go.

Exactly what I do. Just go. No, I'm going to get the book. I'm going to read it. Yeah. And I'm going to follow through. Yeah. Because I love myself.

Yeah. Right. Right. Now. Let's talk about your skin. We do a study called SPECT, and SPEC looks at blood flow and activity. It looks at how your brain works, and it basically shows us three things. Good activity, too little or too much.

Okay. And then my job is to balance it. Here we're looking underneath the brain, so the top is the front part, bottom is the back. These are your temporal lobes. should just be full even and symmetrical. And this guy is going to be very important because one of the hits you got to your head

left on impression. And that left side. Oh my gosh. Oh, wow. And so right away when I saw good student knot, I'm like, did she have a concussion? And you don't need to lose consciousness to have a bad brain injury.

Yeah. And if you're base, the flyers are hitting you in the head. Yep. Right? It's just part of, how do you learn to do it right by doing it wrong? Totally. And then having good coaching. I have a granddaughter that's in cheerleading.

Is she an all-star? About her. She's like going to the Anon Convention Center and like doing all. I did 11 years. No, she's seven. That's when I started, seven. Yeah. Okay, well.

I'm anxious. Yeah. I know, I know. All right. Wait, so you looked at your head trauma. Yeah. Okay. Wow.

And then here, this shows us the active parts. Blue is average. Red is the top 8%. White is, I'm sorry, red is the top 15%. White is the top 8%. And it should be here. And we're going to see a different pattern for you. So if we look at this, we have a stunningly beautiful brand.

I would, and it's not a line, I promise. But you see how it got hurt here? Yeah. And then here in the back. What the heck? At some point, you got whacked here, and it bounced against the opposite side, and it hurt here. Now, it's totally mendable, but we need to mend it. So THC is not going to be helpful.

You're right. So we have to fix this. And the cool thing is, it's fixable. Yeah. That if you do the things I say, four months, six months, your brain's going to be better. Yeah. Oh, my gosh. So I want you to be hopeful.

Okay. Okay. Now, here, if we go back to what we want it to look like. Oh, no. Okay. This is busy. Everything else is quiet. Your cerebellum's fine.

Uh-huh. Your emotional brain is up. Uh-huh. And it's in this diamond pattern. So worry, anxiety, feel it in your body. This is past trauma. So I publish a monster study on post-traumatic stress disorder, childhood trauma. And that's comment down.

The middle is the emotions, emotional part? Mm-hmm. Okay. Well, they all sort of work together. Mm-hmm. So mood, worry, anxiety, feel it in your body. And so my job is to calm it down. So my job is to fix the other one and calm down the diamond pattern.

Okay. And I would like you to talk to your therapist about doing more EMDR and see if she knows a treatment called ISTDP, intensive, short-term, dynamic psychotherapy. It's a rage therapy. And it's for people who block their emotions, but then they come out in these other ways. We're going to get so much better. What are we talking for brain health? Are we talking like, are we talking like, like if there's a scale, am I up on the better half?

Am I up on the better half? You've been rated your whole life. I was really expecting to see holes. I'm not even joking. Which we do, which we actually do. So if we didn't have this, you're like a 10. Your brain is stunningly beautiful. But it got hurt.

Yeah. So just explain this a little bit more. I think from a past concussion, mood instability, irability, memory and temper problems. On that spot. Yeah. You're right-handed? Yeah. Yeah.

Dude. Well, what the heck? But you see how if your brain isn't as healthy as it could be, that could negatively impact your relationship. And potentially you could lose the love of your life. And nobody, no marital therapists look at people's brains, which I believe is insane. Yeah. Because how would you know if you don't look?

That's another one of my biggest fears. So I mean, talk to your psychiatrist. Okay. If I was your doctor, I'd give you happy saffron. I got some. I ordered it off TikTok shop off of your link. So I want you to do three a day. Okay.

And I'd begin to kill the caffeine. Oh, God. And peak energy, try it. Okay. So if you think it's a good enough replacement. Okay. In 35 randomized controlled trials, saffron, the dose I haven't. happy Salfron is found to be equally effective to antidepressants.

So quit the Welbutrin. Talk to your doctor. If I was your doctor based on your scam, I don't think Welbutrin would be my favorite choice. And I like Welbutrin. Okay. And you just have that over-focused worry part that sometimes, and we scanned you on well-butrin. I know. I didn't take it to, right. But yes, it's in my, you're right, you're right, you're right. Wow. I do loop. I do,

sometimes adderall is not good for me because I get in a thought and then I loop that thought. Yeah, the Adderall, I think I would kill. You didn't have it today, right? No. Yeah. I'm not a fan of it. I'm a huge fan of you being really serious about being an ant killer. Yeah. about you developing this internal process. That needs to be like a daily workout, honestly. Yeah, but you know, if you do it 100 times, you don't have to do it every day.

But periodically, I still do it. It's like, is that true? So a bad thought comes into your head right away, you know, to just go, is that true? What I do immediately is I flip it. My wife never listens to me. My wife does listen to me. Oh, yeah, she listens to me. Take notes.

it's so good for communication because you just don't believe everything that your brain creates. Yeah. And consciousness, many people believe the brain is a receiver. Mm-hmm. And you're getting all the noise from the universe. Yeah. And it might even be your trauma.

It might be your mom's trauma or your dad's trauma. you know, there's a great book called It Didn't Start with You about generational trauma. I just want you not to believe every stupid thing you think. Okay. Real quick, what do you think about PMDD? I think it's real. I think it ruins some people's lives.

And we have something, I was going to write that down, PMS relief. I think I have it pretty bad. So let's try that along with the happy Saffirin has been shown to be really helpful with PMS. PMS, or, yeah,

PMS relief, we get some of the best testimonials. Okay. So happy Saffron three a day. And PMS relief the whole month. Okay. And the really high highs I can feel and the really low lows I can feel.

I can feel when it's about to dip. Like I'm like, okay, here it comes. And I'm in the like, and that's from that side. being not well. Partly.

And part of it is the emotional trauma from the past. Okay. And the past concussion. Mm-hmm. And the hormone shifts. Yeah. And so we just have to deal with each of them. This was fun.

I'm not crazy. I'm going to be okay. Would you look at that? You're going to be better than ever. And then share it. We also have a cool app called Brinford Life, 5.0. It's got hypnosis audios. It's got a whole kill-the-a-a-a-a-ant section to it. It's got a 30-day happiness challenge. You guys should do it together. It's like five to seven minutes a day for 30

days increases happiness by 32 percent. Oh my gosh. And I teach you all the things that you and I've talked about today. There's like a whole day on Aunt Kelly and a whole day on positivity bias training. Okay. The big idea is if you want to keep your brain healthy or rescue it, we have to prevent or treat the 11 major risk factors that steal your mind. And Bright Minds is the acronym. So B is for blood flow.

Low blood flow is the number one brain imaging predictor of ADD, depression, Alzheimer's. disease. And so I want you to love your brain. And brain health is three things. Brain envy, you got to care about it. Now, I guarantee you, since you saw your brain and you saw it was beautiful, but could be better, you're going to take much better care of it. Right. So brain envy, got to care. Avoid things that hurt it. Do things that help it. Just got to know the list. And so anything that lowers blood flow, caffeine, nicotine, marijuana, not exercising. It's bad for your brain. And so exercise. And then some of the supplements I give you will help boost blood flow. Retirement and aging, I mean, both of you are so young, at least compared to me,

but always be learning new things. And so when you go, oh, you're not good, a better reframe, how can I be better? Yeah. Every day you win or you learn. And if you have that mindset, you can stay in the moment rather than in the future with fear or the past work. Yeah. When or learn. Inflammation.

Do you take good care of your teeth? Yeah. Yeah. You're beautiful, deed. Thank you. But flossing is a brain exercise. Yeah. I really believe that one, yep.

And are you taking an omega-3 fatty acid? No, well, I'm taking just ritual prenatal. I'm not planning to get pregnant, but I've just been taking that. And I think that has omega-3s in it, but I don't know. I'm going to give you a really great multiple vitamin. It'll be great prenatal because it'll get your brain ready to have babies. Yeah. A brain boost?

that works in six different ways, and that will help here. Okay. And an omega-3 fatty acid. Okay. We'll do that. What runs in your family? I don't know. I don't think anything.

Crazy, really. Okay. Whatever runs in your family, you just want to be serious about prevention. Like, I have obesity and heart disease in my family. I'm not overweight, and I don't have heart disease because I'm on a prevention program. Yeah. So this is just about being serious. You want to protect your head?

Are you doing anything now that potentially could hurt it? No, no. I've always been really scared about head stuff. Good. It's a sign of intelligent life. Yeah. Toxins. So you want to avoid exposure.

How much you're drinking? Probably at this rate twice a month. We don't have like a casual drink at night or anything. we'll just have one or two, like big nights a month. Okay, so. One or two months is not a big deal. Your ovaries, you are born with all of the eggs you will ever have. And whatever happens to you turns on or off certain genes that increase or decrease the vulnerability in your babies.

And so whenever you're making a decision, is this good for you? for my baby or bad for it. I absolutely, yeah. Yeah, it's 50. And I'm 30. I'm turning 30. Oh my God. I mean, I almost remember it. I got to check on my eggs, maybe.

Maybe four, where is I? I was in Washington, D.C. I was in my training program. Almost remembered it. Do you have known this app, Think Dirty? No. Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes, for household stuff. allows you to scan your personal products.

And that matters, whether it's dishwasher stuff or hand soap. There's a company I like called Ecos, Earth-friendly products and make the Ecos brand. It's at Walmart. It's just healthy stuff. Read the labels of anything that goes in your body or on your body. Sons, huge fan of saunas. So, that's part of it. And then mental health, kill the ants.

So helpful for you. You'll teach this. If you start teaching people to not believe every stupid thing, it'll help calm your nervous system. Your nervous system's on high alert. It is, yeah. Yeah. That's what happened to you when you were a teenager.

I'm convinced. Yeah. All right. So I love this diagram. When people come to see me, they have good days and bad days, but they're not the same. And then I give you a program, you get better. I've been doing this for 45 years and I love it. But nobody just gets better.

They're better and then not better than not better, not so much. we always want to learn from the downtime. So rather than this damn stuff doesn't work, it's, what did I have to be today? Yeah. Did I believe every stupid thing I thought? How's Adrian doing? Where am I at my cycle?

I just always want you to do this student. Yeah. Because soon you'll have good days and bad days. They're just not anything like this. Yeah. Makes sense? Mm-hmm. That's great. No.

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