Chewing the Fat with Jeff Fisher - Ep 142 | The American Dream - Bridget Phetasy Is Living Hers...

Episode Date: July 6, 2019

Bridget Phetasy who is a former Playboy Advisor and is now presently a Comedian/Writer. She contributes to a variety of other outlets including Tonic, the Federalist, MEL Magazine, & many other online publications. In this episode of Chewing The Fat, she talks about her life and how she continues to figure it out as she goes along.  You can follow Bridget's journey and listen to her podcast, "Walk-Ins Welcome" by clicking here: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/ricochet/walkins-welcome Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To Chewing the Fat, a little American Dream segment with Bridget Fetasy, who is decided to wander around the studios. Were you wandering around the museum taking a look at all the artifacts? I haven't seen it yet, no. Really? Did the KKK guys scare you off as you went into the dressing room? I just kind of put my head down and kept moving. Don't worry about that cage with the ISIS prisoners in there. I was like, I don't know what's going on here.

And the rest of it is just as bad. So if you have an opportunity, walk by and just kind of look out of the corner of your eye, like, that's really bad person. It's really bad person. That's not supposed to be that way. So anyway, Bridget, thank you for coming. It's good to see you. You know, I was perusing some of the internet covering, find out to find out what's up, you know, who you are and everything. I still have that question.

Who are you? I'm a writer. I'm a comedian. And I guess now a media personality. Media personality. I like that. I don't. No?

No, it's fine. It's just funny because it's like I feel like I kind of accidentally tweeted my way into the center of the culture wars. Well, it worked for you, right? It was an accident. Really? I mean, just finding your way? I just was honest. And I was always a writer and or wanted to be a writer.

Then I started writing actually my first writing gig ever was in my small town when I was living back east. I lived in a little resort town where my family's from. And then I had a weekly column and I got in tons of trouble writing this column. So the writing was on the wall. And this was 10. Why did you bad mouth Uncle Bill's restaurant? That's exactly what it was. I wrote a piece about restaurants and everyone was outraged.

It was. It was. It was so funny. You can talk about how bad the school systems are and the roads are and crickets. And I wrote about breakfast places and it was like two days of hate mail. So that was shit And then, you know, I wrote a piece about a whale that had been beached and why wasn't anybody

kind of speaking up about what we do with this whale. And what did they end up doing with the whale? I'm fascinated because, you know, it is... They like put it on a truck and then they brought it. Yeah, somewhere to decompose. Because you remember back in Washington or Oregon back in the 70s, they blew one up? Oh, yeah.

Where the news crews were all out there and people from the city came and they blew it up and everybody got bombarded with whale parts. That is fun. Normally if they do that, they'll like drag it out to sea and do it. Yeah, yeah. But yeah.

And I just read a story. There's more and more, this is starting at whales. I just read a story about, and I thought, why am I seeing all these stories about whales? Because they're all beat. There's a big surge of them being beach.

They're dying. And Japan is starting to fish them again. Started yesterday or today. No. And I thought, that's it. That's why, because they haven't been hunting them forever. Why are we back to killing the whales? That's a whale.

I thought we were saving the whales. I was just down in Cabo, actually, in January, and they were migrating, and they're just so gorgeous. Well, you know, one of the stories that I saw, and all of a sudden I was, I'm getting all these whale stories. One of the stories I saw was that a cruise ship was, as now they're being investigated because they were believed to be traveling to fast around a pot of whales. And the captain's like, no, no, I saw him. I saw him. We were slowing down.

We did everything, right? What are you talking about? But I didn't even realize that they had, you know, protocols. A pot of whales, slow down, back up, get away, everything. And now the people were saying, no, he was going way too fast. And he was getting too close to those whales. Oh, people on the cruise? Yeah.

Oh, God. We're investigating. We're investigating the captain now. Oh, my goodness. It's so sad. But, hey, save the whales. Save the whales. Save the whales.

I mean, they didn't do anything. that we know of. That we know of. Okay, so you're back east, you got kicked out of your town for right and bad things about the Bill's restaurant. And then I came grateful. I know. And you go out west and, I mean, you're an author, you're a comedian. Well, I was a waitress for a long time.

That's all you did? I mean, you were in California. That's what they do then, right? I mean, you moved to California and you become a waitress. That's exactly what I went to California. I used to tell people that when people would be like, Why are you here when I'm waitressing? I'm like, I'm living the dream.

I moved to L.A. to become a waitress. That's what you do. That's what you do. And so I moved. Someday George Clooney's coming in and I'm being recognized. Someday George Clooney's going to wait tables. He's just hoping that he can get there, but he hasn't quite yet. So I moved there.

I moved there. The first time I moved out there was to be an actress when I was 19. And then I moved back and got kind of trapped in the restaurant. runt rut and had a whole lifetime. We call them the dark years. Really? We being my family and friends and I just got a little dark. Did you find drugs?

I got married. Oh, my gosh. Wow. You're like, yeah. What are you know? Those are dark years. I've been through those a few times. Anyway.

So then I moved back to the West Coast. I stopped in Park City, worked a season. Yeah. In the resort area. And then back to L.A. And I was planning on being a writer, but more hoping to be in comedy, writing on shows or whatnot. And started doing stand-up comedy kind of as a dare. Somebody dared me to do it.

And then I... It's fun. Yeah. It's so fun. I've done it a couple times. It's fun. Yeah, I love it. It's a good outlet for me.

I like to say outrageous things. and I used, when I first got on stage, I felt so, it was very terrifying, but I also felt so liberated. And I was like, why didn't anyone tell me all these years that I was saying crazy stuff at the Christmas dinner table? Like, you know, Bridget, there's an appropriate place to say these things. You can maybe even make a living doing it. Oh, that's just Bridget. They drive home after Christmas. Yeah.

Was Bridgett again? Jesus, you can't shut her up. Yeah, it's true. Next year we're going to put her at the kids table. I can't take it. Yeah, put her back with the, we can't leave her with the children, though. Oh, yeah. See if she could do something in the kitchen.

Whatever. That's where I'm my happy place. So you found comedy on the stage, but did you ever start writing for TV at all? Or did you ever get break the glass through that? No, I still have not. I started, I wrote, I have many scripts. It's up egg to crack. It is.

And then I probably have tweeted myself out of that dream. Oh, that baby. Because I'm a little too center. and I would say the writer's rooms are pretty far left. I'm not, I just think people might be like, I don't feel safe. I don't feel safe when they're. But I will go throw up a milkshake on someone, you bastards. Anyway, go ahead.

I probably got a milkshake on throwing on me. So I ended up writing, I always wrote. I had a website and I always wrote on it before it like disappeared. and moved to France. It's a long story. The website moved to France? Yeah, it just banned it. And my web designer said, oh, it's, I think they moved to France.

I was like, I didn't realize websites could do that. Yeah, it's an amazing thing. I thought it was called the World Wide Web. Yeah, so Fetacee is just, the name of my website was Fetacea.com. And it's just apparently, you know, somewhere in the med, smoking a cigarette and eating a bag yet right now. but I always wrote on that and then I was writing on Medium

and I was tweeting jokes and somebody put me in touch with an editor at Playboy who was a comedy editor and then I pitched a piece to them and they moved me to the culture editor and I said and he took it and it was my first paid gig in 10 years since my column at home

and then I kept begging them for a column and they wouldn't give me one. This is Playboy, right? Mm-hmm. And this was April of 2012, 2015. Okay. So not that long ago. No, not that long ago.

No. And so then they had a great idea to give me a column. After you bitched at them enough? After I begged, they were like, hey, we have a great idea. Why don't you have a column? And so then I had one for two years there and wrote all about sex and relationships for men. And it was, I loved it. I loved it so much.

It was so interesting writing for men. You lived sex in the city with Playboy. Kind of, yeah. I mean, it was interesting too because it was such an interesting time to be writing for men. This was like the dawn of me too. And it was just such a weird time to be writing for a male magazine. because it wasn't like the good old days where it was kind of cool. Playboy was now,

it's now seen as this kind of relic of the patriarchy. Dinosaur and the daughter's running it. Yeah. Well, she wasn't running it anymore. Really? It was Cooper, the son. Yeah, I mean, the whole family thing was falling apart for the whole thing.

Yeah. Anyway. So it was kind of seen as this relic and I felt like men weren't, and men were kind of under attack or not even kind of. And we can't even say, hey, that blouse looks great on you today. You, pastor. Me too. Hashtag me too.

Yeah. So I, that was great. It was really cool. I would ask men, you know, how they were doing or what was wrong. And I would get a thousand word essays from them because I don't think anybody was even asking them. Right. And then from. That's a lot of mail to go through.

Oh, it was. It was. Did you have a due person helping you? No, it was all me. I still have a lot of them. They're just so interesting. And then I ended up kind of... Some day you write a book with those.

Yeah, I wrote... And then I kind of fell into writing about politics because I started... I would write things for Playboy and get all this backlash that I didn't expect to get because I just didn't know. I didn't know that this culture war was going on.

I hadn't really been on Twitter. I started getting on Twitter in 2013. And I wasn't in... political Twitter, so I had no idea. So your cultural awakening really came from social media. I love it. It did, actually. It did.

But it was more actually getting mobbed by people on social media. So I would write a piece and say something about like, oh, you know, I, women, women, one of my first pieces that kind of went viral was women date assholes because you're a pussy. And sorry for the swears, but that was the name of the piece. And in it, I said, you know, we want to. a real man. I didn't know that you couldn't say real man anymore. I didn't even know this. I didn't get that memo. I didn't go to college. So I wasn't like indoctrinated with all of the woke

kind of speech. You didn't get the NCAA letter from them that they set out to everybody, nothing. So I would get these, be getting attacked and I would be getting attacked by like the men's rights activists and the far left feminist at the same time. And that was a, it was a quick education. Yeah. But that was what kind of, I just felt like there was a population of the kind of red-blooded American male that was not being spoken to. There was a lot of them that were standing there going, what? Yeah. What male magazine even speaks to that?

Mail magazines don't give a shit about men. No, they do not. They don't. They don't even speak to them. There's such a huge, not. I mean, male magazines are putting out articles. I did a story this morning on the morning show about. how they're using a new cocktail so that men will be able to lactate and breastfeed.

I'm sorry, chest feed. So you'll be able to do that. I want to kill myself when I hear stories like this. It's not, I'm sorry, no. I mean, that's your mail magazine now. That's your male magazine now. I want to kill myself. No, no, no, no, about chest feeding.

Well, you two can chest feed. No, no. I'm sorry. Call me old fashioned. This might be the thing that makes me conservative. It might be all that stuff. I feel like, and that was kind of what happened was like the gender stuff. I was like, okay, I can admit that gender is a social construct.

Part, you know, we treat boys and girls differently and that maybe there's part of it that is a social construct. But when you start talking about like biology and sex as a social construct, you lose me completely. Bye. Man can't have babies. I feel like I'm living in. a test, like it's, we're in like a Truman show and they're just

trying to trick as many, they're like let's see how many people we can get to admit that boys and girls aren't different. That's how it feels that way sometimes. You're right. And I'm like, I'm not playing this game. No. At some point. I'm drying the line. There's the line of the sand right there. No. Thousands of years of biology.

At some point, right? You've got, at some point you do have to, you do have to stop. And that's where the line is. You know, instead of going over the cliff. At some point, you've got to say, wait, no, I'm not going to jump off that cliff with you. It's so interesting. I'm rereading this book I'm obsessed with called Mediated by Thomas de Zengotisha.

And it is. I've read, like, I love that book more than, no, I've never read it. I was like, really? No one's ever read it. He wrote it in 2006. It's all about how the media shapes the world you live in. And when I wrote it, when I read it in 2000, Thomas de Zen Gotisha. I love that guy.

Go ahead. He's the greatest. I hope I get to interview him. And he talks a lot about postmodernism, which I didn't understand at all when I read the book. Now that I've interviewed people like James Lindsay who did the grievance studies papers, those fake academic papers. Yeah, they put them all together, just see what they get away with, how many they are. So he talks a lot about postmodernism. But in mediated, he talks about how everything is, when everything becomes representational, we live in this.

It's not about what's real versus what's false. It's about what's real versus what's optional. And I was like, oh, I think this gender stuff is the logical extension of over mediation essentially where everything is an option and everyone gets to just choose what their identity is even. It doesn't matter. No. It's what you feel. That's what it is. Yeah, it's crazy.

It's crazy, though. I guess sometimes I do feel like an old lady screaming at the clouds, you know, like, this is crazy. You people don't know what they're talking about. Yeah. And if you talk to normal people in America, they've never heard most of this stuff. You think so? I mean, I want these writers to drive around America and ask Americans what they, what they think, if they think boys and girls are different.

Well, I think, no. Well, no, I think, I think you're on to something that I think people, they know about it. They just don't recognize it. You know, they're like, that's crazy. And we, I've moved out with my life. I've got, I've got, I've got, I've got to take care of my family. And I've got to, you know, I've got the cattle to take care of. Or I've got, I've got the kids, PTA me to go to.

And I've got, I've got things to do. But then what happens is that it kind of, I've become kind of obsessed with these little rabbit holes. I go down of micro-shamings, I call them. So there are these little shamings that are happening all over America. because so maybe the gender stuff will infiltrate a mommy group on Facebook and then someone will step out of line and someone will get shamed out of the mommy group. Or there's another example of this woman, she had a farmer's market booth and somebody determined that she was a Nazi, I don't know how. And now they're writing, there's 75 people who have, 750 people who have signed this petition to get her farmer's market booth shut down. And so...

Just because someone thought she was a Nazi. Yeah, because someone decided that she said something on... She's a gamer and she uses Nazi language. I don't know how they determined it was her. They saw her hand or something. I mean, it's crazy. And so now they're trying to get her farm... She sells corn.

And they're trying to get her freaking banned from the farmer's market. And this is a stuff around like... But is she a Nazi? I don't think so. I mean, maybe, maybe. And does it matter? Does it matter if really? It matters if she loses her ability to sell her corn.

Yeah, sure does. So these are the things that I'm kind of fascinated by, micro shaming. Because that's where when you're wondering how Trump is going to win another election and the left is like, it's impossible. I don't see how that could happen. I'm like, yeah, well, go talk to little Susie who got her farm shut down because a bunch of people decided they saw her hand. and she was the one connected to this racist speech on Twitch.

Like it's crazy. That's the reason. That's the reason that, you know, the man got elected the first time around. Yeah. I know I'm breaking some political rules here on chewing, but that's okay because really that's people got him elected because they were tired. Yeah. Tired of the micro-shaming.

Yeah. Tired of the whole, the big picture. And Trump was the guy saying, It's all fake news. Screw them. I'll never forget it. I'll never forget talking to a family member. And I found out they were voting for Trump and I was so curious because I was coming from

L.A. And I was in this bubble and my family is generally pretty liberal and Democratic from the East Coast, old school. Old school Democrats. Saying for the Kennedys, you know, like my grandma. I have in-laws now from this dark period of my life marriage that are in-law. involved in that same quarter. Yeah. And I didn't realize one of them was going to vote for Trump.

And I asked them why. And they said, you know, they had various reasons, Hillary, et cetera. But then at the very end, they said, I'm just so effing sick of being talked down to by late night. And I was like, there it is. There it is. There it is. That's what we're missing. There it is. And I went back to L.A. and said, we're missing something.

Well, look, I mean, really, we did the same thing here at the Blaze. I mean, I was part of Glenn's radio show at the time during the election. And in the beginning, it was during the whole walkup to the election, we weren't really big fans of that. Right, right, right, right. And, I mean, we separated a lot of people. Oh, interesting. He hurt a lot.

Yeah. It was a big move and it took a while for everyone to really kind of realize, okay, that's why he got elected. That's what we missed and that's what we were missing. I mean, you know, I mean, heck, even as a joke, I endorsed Jim Gilmore. I mean, it wasn't a joke. I mean, it wasn't a joke. I mean, I'm voting for love. I think love is great.

She actually, I got, okay. I know Chris isn't here so he's not going to start playing the political music. so you get some of it, ha ha. But I love, she was actually right. Yeah, I love her. You know, with her, when she told the rest of the dingleberries on stage with her, that if you think all this policy talk is going to be Donald Trump, you're out of your mind. No, she's totally right.

She's right. He didn't win by policy talk. He won by saying, make America great again. She was right. I mean, I know I got it. I understand love is going to win with Mary. I understand that, you know, we're all, we all just need to get along. I love that they were making fun of her, like, mid-Atlantic accent,

where they were saying she was like a character. I mean, we live in a South Park episode. I don't know how anyone can take any of us seriously. I do, though. I know. And then there are moments where you kind of have to, obviously. But for me, as the comedian in me, I just feel always like, I can't. It's so ridiculous.

And funny. And funny. All right. So you've got Bridget Fetasy is joining us here on Chewing the Fadgett. You got a comedian, columnist, whatever we cover. We haven't covered author. An author on the list is on the list. So how many books have you got?

None. I'm writing one. None? I have not. None. I thought you had one of the hunting cows or whatever. What was that? No, I'm working on that.

Do you see men as like hunting cows? That's for my female. But then it got kind of. So that one got pushed back because then now I was going to write the divorce dudes guide to dating. The divorce? Dudes guide to dating. Okay. Love that.

Because I wrote this piece and realized that there are all these men who got married pre-social media and dating apps. And they're being released into the wild like baby seals into like these shark-infested waters. And they don't know anything. They just don't know anything. It's a disaster. I just wanted to go out. They just wanted to go on a date and they don't know how to do it. You know, they're like, what does slide into the DMs even mean?

I'm just trying to guide them. This is swipe right, baby. It's all you need to do. It's good. They don't know. And I always joke that I want to have, if I was a marriage counselor, I would just take my dating apps and sit down with a couple and be like, are you sure this is what you want? You really want to do this? You want to enter in?

That's a good point. Just swipe with me for a while. Swipe with me. Here, 45 minutes. Let's swipe and talk to some people and you can see what you're in for. Are you sure your marriage is that bad that you need to do this to yourself? You don't. No, I don't think you do.

Nobody knows what they're getting into. No, they don't. You're right. That's a good point. Go back. Go back. Go to marriage counseling. Make it work.

So this is the book you want to write that you, I know that. I saw an interview with Rubin. Yes, with Dave Rubin. That where you talked about where you gave up Twitter. Oh yeah. For Lenn.

A, my first question of that, part one, is did you make it the entire 40-some days? I did. And I found God. Again? Or found him for real for the first time? Again, but kind of for real. It was really interesting, actually. It was like, of course, I accidentally found God giving up Twitter for Lent.

But I'm sober, so I've given everything else up. So Twitter is my last, Twitter and coffee are my remaining vices. Just caffeine? Yeah, just get the caffeine and get on Twitter and get that dopamine flowing. I haven't smoked in seven months. I could do you see it. I watched Reality Bites the other night. Do you remember that movie from the 90s?

I haven't seen it a long time. I haven't either. They played it at the graveyard in L.A. they do these awesome movie screenings. and I have not wanted a cigarette so badly. They smoked so much in that movie. And there's so many shows. And they made it look so cool.

There's so many shows that I watch that I love. And they just smoke. Really? Even now? Like what? There's plenty of shows on Netflix and Amazon where they're producing their own content that they smoke that I love that are great shows, but they're smoking throughout the whole show.

It drives me crazy. Yeah. Smoking's hard. Not really, but I mean, it's just. I've, you know. Seven months is huge. I've quit heroin and smoking was harder for me to quit. Well, you know, you say that.

And I want to talk to you about that. And then we'll get back to the author book. Well, my part two of the question. Okay. But because I was still, you still haven't told us exactly how you found God. But I've watched a ton of shows about addicts and kicking of habits, whether it's heroin. math, you know, those sad drugs. Yeah.

Heroin, of course, being the kingpin. I think so, yeah. Top-notch. But they all... I think meth is really gnarly, too. And even alcohol, but... Our alcohol is too. When they, when you're in that window and you're giving that up, they all smoke still.

Yeah. They all smoke. It's called, what's it called risk management? Is that what the term is? Or, no, harm reduction. So they figure if you... That's less than. Harm reduction.

So they figure if you... We'll get to that once we get past this. Right, right. If you're going to smoke cigarettes, okay, at least you're not mainlining, you know... Right. We're good with that. Right.

No problem. Yeah. So... My doc was, you know, well, could I choose some nicotine gum? That's fine. Just no smoking. Interesting.

No vaping. No vaping. Why no vaping? He didn't... The lung guy was like, no, I don't want to do none of that. I'm so, you know, they say the vaping is okay and I'm so skeptical about it.

It hasn't been out long enough to do the studies. I know. Which bows well to the, how can it be that bad, right? Because it hasn't been out that long. But everyone kind of leans toward the other side. I know. I know. Yeah, I agree with the doctor on that, I think.

But I have had a lot of friends who said vaping help them quit smoking. Well, and that's, look, and that's what the big company, as long as we were down the vaping, the jewel. that's their deal, right? I mean, they've pulled their advertising against, pulled it all, and they're saying, okay, we don't want anything to do. They're trying to stay in business, but they don't want anything to do with kids. They say, hey, we're just for adults and we're more for adults that are trying to quit

that as nasty cigarettes come to us. Right. So there's your harm reduction, right? Right. And they just ban them in San Fran, I think. I know, yeah. Because they love that tax revenue. from the cigarettes.

Yeah, well, you got to have a, they still want to be able to put your cigarette out and poop. So you're fine. Yeah, exactly. There's like human feces all over the sidewalks. No vaping. No vaping.

Jules not allowed. All right. So we'll back up to a finding God by accident. Oh, yeah. So you gave up Twitter, you went to church. I did go to church. And you, well, of course. Weirdly, talk about a God moment.

I was a church. And I come home and I have this email. And some person who records. who recognized me from Twitter at church. At church, nice. He was in town visiting me his parents. And he said, he sent me an email. And he said, I think I saw you at church.

Did you take a snag? Did you have a side shot of you in the pew? So I went, but it was so quiet and it was an addiction. You know, like anything, I was suffering from withdrawal symptoms. And I'm like, what am I withdrawing from attention? But it literally is attention. How pathetic is that? You gave up Twitter, but did you give up your phone?

I mean, you still had your phone. I still had my phone. Did you just get rid of the app on your phone? Yeah, I just never logged in. My cousin changed my password, so I couldn't log in even if I wanted to. You didn't log out of the app. She would still post things for me because I still had a podcast and I felt like it wasn't fair to my guests to not promote them on my platform.

That's not right just because I need to like take a break. and so she would post my podcast and yeah then but I felt a lot of when like with any addiction you realize I was realizing how addicted to it I actually was and all this stuff came up particularly feelings of worthlessness and just being uncomfortable in my skin and really the only thing that I was also really heartbroken at the time too so that was kind of happening simultaneously. And that triggered all these feelings of rejection and self-worth stuff, all of the same moment. But I couldn't really turn anywhere. So I turned, I'm spiritual and religious anyway. And I don't, it forced me to kind of, I joke that God has always been a bit of a booty call for me. I kind of

am like, call on him when I need him. And I said, I need to like have a relationship with God. You know, I need to move into. something more than a booty call. Yeah. I'm going to need more. And it wasn't me determining that he wasn't my, you know, I wasn't his booty call. He was mine. So my relationship to him was as much or as little as I wanted it to be.

And I just, and then I did actually find a lot of comfort. And it was, again, kind of unexpected. I just didn't know what else to do. So I started just being more in touch with God. And it wasn't bad. It wasn't and I felt great. And those 40 days were really instructive, I think, moving forward in terms of when social media makes me feel a certain way now, I know that I need a break, it's time to log off.

Generally, when I'm looking at everyone on social media and saying, like, oh, I hate you all and I hate, because normally I try to have fun and try to keep it somewhat light or at least at least provocative or kind of incisive, but if I'm, if I'm hate it. hating everything and hating myself and hating humanity. It's going to come across. I mean, we see that in plenty of people's Twitter accounts. Yeah. Even the other day I tweeted something around like, feeling nihilistic.

And like three people were like, are you okay? I'm like, okay, it's time for a break. Yeah, it's time for a break. So how much now do you, where are you at with one of the things that comes with some of that is listening to yourself? And a lot of people ignore that for whatever reason. and some people, you know, that, well, I should have listened to myself. I should have told myself.

I knew that was wrong. I should have listened to myself. I know. How far along are you in that? You're never going to hear anyone say, oh, I never should have listened to my gut. You will never hear those words. You'll always hear, oh, I should have listened. Should have listened.

I knew that. I knew that wasn't right. I think that one of the eroding forces of tribalism is that it destroys your trust in yourself because it takes personal responsibility and puts it on the group and then creates this other problem that you're constantly fighting. And so you stop listening to yourself. You start focusing outward, you know, in 12 steps and in therapy, they always say put down the mirror, put down the microscope and pick up the mirror. And I love that. And so I definitely know, and that whole idea of when when you're pointing your finger, there's five pointing back at you.

Oh, yeah. Yeah. When you're pointing at someone, there are five people pointing at you. And generally the things that the people that aggravate me the most, I'm the most interested in because those are the people that I kind of have to, I'm like, hmm, there's probably something in me that I need to look at here, that they're irritating. Bridget Fetacea joining us on Chewing the Fat.

All right, I know we've been yap, yep, yep, yep, and I've been keeping you. So you're still podcasting? I am. I know, you know, we're here. We'll let you hawk some of your goods here, hawk some of your goods here at the farmer's market. Yay. So you're still podcasting. You're only doing one podcast.

You're doing multiple podcasts. What the hell are you doing? I saw the name of a couple of podcasts. Oh, yeah. I used to have one bench. That was a relationship one. Yeah, yeah. So the one you're now in is walk-in's welcome, right?

Don't tease me. Yeah. Don't tease me. That's anyone, it's all about grit and resilience. And so I interview people and I just asked them their own story, their own personal struggle, how they overcame it, how they overcome their own demons. Has everyone overcome it? I mean, everyone that I've talked to. Yeah.

Yep. I don't want to talk to a bunch of whiny victims. But even if you're not about there, it's got to be, I mean, those people aren't probably going to talk to you. I'm just talking out loud now. But I mean, there's got to be a lot of people out there still struggling that aren't whiny victims. Oh, no, totally. They're still struggling. And just because I'm in a place right now where I might be more settled doesn't mean that I haven't been through dark times even in the past two years.

I think that, but yeah, I get a lot of emails from people all the time just talking about how the podcast makes them laugh, but also makes them do a lot of soul searching. So I think it's a mixed feeling about it. They're like, I like it, but it makes me uncomfortable and think about myself and think about things I don't want to think about. but I think it's always good to self-reflect. So are you doing that whenever you feel like it? No, once a week. It's on RICOchet, actually. Yep, and iTunes, anywhere you can find podcasts,

but Rickashay hosts it. And that's once a week on Thursdays it drops. And I'm on Twitter all the time at Bridget Fetty. and I'm performing in Newport at the comedy festival in October. I'm all over the place. I love that. I'm still writing. I'm writing stuff online all over the place.

What other than just, it's still writing, I mean, you have to write even if you're going to do any kind of comedy bits. I mean, those don't just, surprisingly, those don't just happen. No, they don't. It's funny how that works. It is funny how that works. So are you feeling like you can let your, who was it, your sister-in-law or your sister run your Twitter account and give it up for a while? Well, I, I, I feel strong enough.

You think you own it now? No, I mean, no, I don't think that I'm stronger than coding, you know, that, than algorithms. That's like thinking you're stronger than advertising. People are like, no, I'm not affected by that. And the minute I see a Taco Bell commercial, I'm like, I want tacos right now. I'm so susceptible. Every single one of my podcast advertisers,

I pretty much end up becoming a customer. They have to. Like the biggest sucker. That's not being a sucker? No, I definitely like, I love, it's like, oh, Green Chef, try it out. And I'm really pissed now. Is Taco Bell advertising on your podcast? No.

Oh, my God. Green Chef is. they're great Bridget I mean I don't know it's great to talk to you it's great to meet you it was fun I could sit here and talk to you for another hour to do you know where you know where to find me

I really appreciate it thank you very much alright I appreciate it Bridget Fetacy fascinating I really could talk to her for a lot more and there's only so much time in a day thanks for listening to Chewing the Fat remember to subscribe to Chewing the Fat it's available wherever a free podcast are sold

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