Chewing the Fat with Jeff Fisher - Ep. 47 | The Mann's Are in The House | Guests: David Mann & Tamela Mann

Episode Date: November 27, 2018

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You're listening to Chewing the Fat on Demand. All right, welcome to Chewing the Fat. A special edition of Chewing the Fat. We had a great time this afternoon, and you can watch on Instagram, Jeff Fisher Radio. You can go there and enjoy a little bit of fun with David and Tamila Man. David and Tamila Man. Now, I kept saying her name wrong, and in the end, after it's all said and done, we're all done with the internet. And we made, you'll enjoy the podcast because we joke around about me not going to make the whole podcast without saying her name wrong.

And of course I don't. I'm an idiot. But in the end, we're saying goodbye. She's walking out. I should have just told you to call me Tam. You think? What is the tab? What is a Tam?

At the end, it's all done. She gives me the easy name. The whole time I've got to remember it's Tamila with a T. Pamela only with a T. Like, I could never get it right. Because I was he almost got stabbed.

I was mispronouncing Tamala's name. I almost did it again. But no, let's see what got you as you say. It's Pamela. It's Pamela with a T. Yes, Tamila. That's good. David and Tamila, man. Yes, Jim. That is it.

Jim, you got it. Thank you. It's Tamela. You want to go out on a lemon bag. 20 bucks that you're going to say it wrong again? You want to shake on it? 20. You'll say it again before we're done. Go ahead.

Tamela. Yes. Tamela. No, don't write it. Never mind. I'll bet you're off, man. So you guys are out talking about Us Against the World, the Love Project, and the new book, Us Against the World.

You've been married for 30 years. You've brought your family with you. Your family is with you. This is just some of them. where's the rest of them? But wait, there's more. Yes, a lot more. How many?

Well, we have five kids and we have 12 grandchildren. Wow. That's fantastic. It's a lot. That is a real lot. That's why you have to continue to buy the book. Yes, please, by the book. David and Tamila.

And so look, I was actually reading where I was making a little bit of fun earlier where it talked about your awards for both of you. And I'm surprised that, you know, been together for 30 years and yet I don't even know why she keeps you around David I don't either because I love him Jeff he's my best friend and look if it wasn't for him honestly

I wouldn't have those awards because I was too afraid to honestly stand out on my own and singing wise it's like I was comfortable just being in the background but he pushed me to stand out front and by him pushing and help him guide me that's how accomplished those awards in all honest I'm good for something He helped me get them.

But never mind. You're good. Stay there. You're fine. You're fine. So you just got back off the tour. Yes. And you're home for what, the holidays and then you're back on tour or you're not even home for the holidays? So we thought. So we thought. But then there's this other opportunity that came up, Tala Perry, decided we're going to go on the road for one last time with Medea's farewell tour. Wow. And our character is Mr. Brown and Corr. We hadn't been on the road. With him. It's over 10 years. Over 10 years. And so we're hitting the road. The first. dates January 18th in Oakland, California. So we start rehearsaling a couple of weeks, well, like a week or so, actually.

So you don't have, it'll be a small holiday. Yes. But it's okay. Work, I love to work. Yes, he does. Jeff. I'm okay. Yes.

Please don't encourage him. Okay. I mean, I like to work too, but I'd rather, I don't know. Not work. Not work. Amen to that. It could be worse. You know, you could be not working.

So that's a good point. That's a very good point. I get reminded of that from my wife often. How long you've been married? To this one. I don't smoke, but I might need something. She knows. She knows her days are close now.

Oh, my God. Oh, you're going to get in trouble. Are these cameras? I hope she's not watching today or listening. No, she knows. She knows. Johnny, please. She knows.

I'm not saying anything. I got a hush mouth on that one. That's all right. She'll be fine. So how long? You guys may need to read that book. 17, 18. Something like that?

Jeff, that's a long time. 18 years. It's not too long. 30 years. 30 years? I was like, you know. That's the next one. Yeah.

Anyway. Yes, what's next? Go ahead. Please. Let me help you out. There you go. Notes. The book. Us against the world. Our secrets to love marriage and family. Yes. I need to read this, right?

So to keep her around. Yes. And keep you around. So what do I have to do to keep her around? Tell me the most important thing I need to keep her around. Our foundation has started on our friendship. We started out as friends and he's still my best friend. And then there's love. And then there's in love.

So you can love somebody and not. be in love, but I'm in love with him. And you have to make her your priority. Is she your priority? Is she like the reason you get up? Yes. Why are you shaking? You almost shook your head. I mean,

yes, David. I'm going to have to get your numb and call your wife and talk to her about you. No, we need this number to just keep up with him. I mean, yes. Do I get up in the morning? And that's what, yes. To see her?

Oh. To love to look, turn over and look at her. Oh. But I love to turn over and kiss him and say good morning. Yes. Okay. Next question. I love my wife.

Okay. It's just a joke. I know. No, really, honey. It's just a joke. I was just joking. I'll be home tonight. Okay.

You better go on. So, really, I mean, that's the most important, isn't it? It is. Aside from, you talk about the friendship and the love and the in love. Most relationships, marital relationships, you know, you start out in love and you work your way backwards. You start out in love and then you're, then you love, and then it's a friendship, and then it's kind of like.

And then it's, you know, become roommates. Yeah, and then you end up, you know, like me, talking about, oh, this one. See, but the But really, it should work the opposite way Or at least you should try to fight for that Right? No joke. When you have a foundation that's built on friendship Everything else will work

Because honestly we wouldn't be together Had we not been really good friends Right And had we not been like ride or die friends Our relationship probably wouldn't have lasted Because there's never been a fight Oh what? Not fight but some arguments

arguments. Well, you might call it an argument a fight, but so... Well, I call a fight and somebody punching in the face. Ain't none of that. There's no right. None of that. But arguments, yes. And I mean some disagreements. And that's the thing with us being, for 30 years, we've had some ups and downs. And that's one reason

too that we wrote the book. We're not trying to paint a perfect picture here. And our family is super blended. So we talk about our family being blended and that you can work through these things and make it even after 30 years and still like each other after 30 years and be in love with each other as well. What's some of your secrets?

Some of your secrets and, you know, the secrets that you share, I know you're going to have some, you know, there's going to be a couple of things that are actual secrets. But the things that you're willing to share. My thing that I'm willing to share that it's really us is we try to outdo each other doing for each other. That is one of our secrets for each other that we've learned over the years because nothing goes lacking, nothing goes wanting. Everybody's needs are being that met and their wants are being met as well. So though that way, there's nothing left out. And even like we were just talking about the whole argument, there has to be, you know,

because you're going to argue. There's going to be there. But it has to not be, you know, to the point where I'm going to make sure you know that I'm right. Right. It has to be so we both can get a clear understanding. I mean, it's a fact. The man is right.

Well, I mean, most of the time we are, but we can't argue that way. No. You're trying to get me in trouble with you. Woman America. You cannot always be right. Facts or facts. When you do, you have to make sure that you're trying to get an understanding. Yes, go ahead, baby.

Because I always make sure I just shake my head, yes, so she can get an understanding that this was a good. No, I don't do that. No, when we're in those heated discussions, you know, a lot of times you're trying to make sure you get your point across. And that shouldn't be the case. It should be, look, let's make sure that we're both getting an understanding of why we disagree. But it's okay to disagree. Let's just figure out, I didn't know. Sometimes she told me someone's like, I didn't understand that that's what you were saying.

Or that's how you felt. Yeah, I was in the heat of the moment of, yeah, you know I'm right, right, right. She said, most of the time she says yes, but no. No. She knows. Right. She knows. A lot of times.

You know. that sometimes that either one could be wrong yes either one of us could be wrong but you know what to be the peacemaker and I've learned to you know talking about being a peacemaker in here and you know I just I'm just want to be committed to my vows and we just renew we do you know we talk about renewing our vows to ourselves to just say our vows over again to that we remember what we're staying committed to right that's most important and you know I find you know you have such a large family and you have grandchildren and you have so much going on around you, I imagine that it's difficult a lot of times to find the time for you. It can be.

For us, though, we've made the commitment that we're first and everything else falls under us. Because if we're not together, we're not on one accord, then nothing else is going to work. because you see those couples that have like dedicate their lives to the kids and the kids it's all about the kids and making sure the career is great and then once the kids are gone

and you're in the house by yourself then what? Yeah. Now you guys have to figure out how to like each other and by that time you're old and you're like I don't even feel like and I'm going to my room, you go to your room.

What? Or it's kind of like you fell apart and you don't know who each other is anymore or who each other are so it's the way you want to say it. Right. So it's just you get to. got to, I think like making each other a priority in our marriage has really helped build our marriage

and to show a great example for our kids of what they can even start with with their families. And we're super blended, like super blended. We have two kids together. I have two kids that have from previous relationships and we have a niece that we adopted. So we're super, super blended. Yeah. So that, trying to make that work, trying to make a blended family work. Now, that's hard work. It's difficult. What? I mean, I have an older son from another relationship, you know, another one that I,

yeah, I get rid of her. Yeah. And I got rid of her. And the couple of us. Yeah, see, you got. You're going to get in trouble. Everybody. But I understand what you're talking about as far as the difficulties with it.

Yeah. So in 30 years. In 30 years. What's the biggest struggle? You've had the arguments and you've had the kids and you know there are times when you want to, you know, kick the kids in the rear and kick him out the back door. Or evict him. We've had some of it.

We've got to be. What's the number one struggle? Because is there one that just sticks out to you that we just, you didn't think you were going to get over? And it took, you know, almost everything you had to get there. Well, that's blending the families. Because when you're talking about blending. bringing other, because when you, people don't realize when you blend families, you bring multiple mothers, if they get married again, now you got the other grandparents.

From that other side, then this set of cousins. Everybody wants their piece of the pie too. And the number of growth. And you're talking about holidays especially can get rough because now you got to go stay with your mom this Christmas and the next part of the day you come with your daddy and, you know, it just starts to be overwhelming, especially to a kid if the parents aren't on one accord. That's true. And that's generally what happens. And so we had our

struggles with that for a while. Yeah, because you have the other. And then everybody wants to run their, everybody runs their house is different. So it's like the kid, every time they come back, it's like you have to reprogram them. Because we have to reprogram hours every time. That's not how we do it here.

My mama said, I don't care what your mama said. But see, I made it a point. Never to bad mouth my daughter's moms in front of them. Now when I went to the back room what?

Yeah but I made it a point Okay daddy yeah she's great yeah and I never let them talk about their moms to me right they could never come to me and tell me

their mom how bad they were and what's going on yeah yeah now I already you know in my mind I was saying I already knew the problem

but I made you think I'm not there exactly But I made sure that they knew like, okay, look, this is, we're going to try to make this work. Now, when I go to the room, man, she must be out of mind. Of course she's crazy. Of course she is. Yeah.

So we made it work. Good. All right. So the next in line is the Tyler Perry Project. You start rehearsals and that goes into gear in Oakland in January. January 18th. You're still, you're still, have the book, Us Against the World. I have not read it and I apologize.

No worries. We're here to tell you about it. I have not read it, but the David and Tamila man. Us Against the World. You're going to give me 20 bucks before we're done. No, I'm not. Yes, you are. And you have the CD, us against the world, the love project.

What else? What else are we pushing? We've got to tell you about the CD. We even did the CD to the book. They're both the same name. Do I have to listen to the CD while I read the book? You can. Now, be careful.

Like chapter to chapter or something? Kind of sort. I will tell you, let me give you this claim. It's hand in hand. Claimer. When you're listening to the CD, make sure if you don't want to have kids, make sure y'all are protected because it's baby-making music. It is.

It is. It's baby-making music. What if I read it alone and listen to it alone? You can have some alone babies. Thank you. Oh, my goodness. But a lot of the songs. I've had a lot of those in my life.

A lot of the songs. Make sure have a good linen. Are based on some of the stories that we tell in the book. So we're talking about our lives. even in the songs. So it's like one song on here. I did about David. It's called Mason Jard.

It's talking about me as a young girl because I never really had bar friends growing up and I've always been a thick girl. So it's like I never thought I would have somebody that would love me. I'll all thick at this table. No doubt about it. Yeah.

So but I finally found a love that I can cherish and I can put in the Mason jar like you preserve forever. So that's what that's on. And I kind of like the thick because normally, I mean, you're on chewing the fat. You want to chewing the thick.

We make you, I like the cheek. You like thick. Right. Yeah, it doesn't work as well. Chewing the fat. But I mean, yeah. There are several songs in there.

Like, there's, I love you. I love you too, Dave. I love you back, man. Don't look at me like that. Well, don't look at me in the eye. If you listen to the music, I got to turn this way with you.

I'm going to talk to you this way. I just felt tingly. Oh, my. Well, hurry up and tell him about the song. Shut up. the CD on? Yes. No.

Can we play some music from the CD? And dim the lights. Oh my God. Dim the lights and I felt some kind of way. So can you tell them about this? Maybe it's the way you have your hair parted.

Thank you. What's left of it. I know. It's okay. You know what's missing. You know what's missing in the Tyler Perry world is a fat white man. Well, you, Jeff, you would definitely fit.

So I need to, you need to get me a gig. We need to. You would definitely fit. We'll make it work for it. You're committed timing is great. It's really good. So back to the CD. Oh, okay.

The song I love you. The song I love you comes from one of the chapters in the book called a knock at the door. So the knock at the door is five years into our marriage, a career is great. Everything's going good. There's a knock at the door. It's the constable. I knew it was the police. You know, was it the way I knocked?

Yeah. Maybe it should have knocked like this. Yeah, you should knock soft. I should have knocked softer. That's the ex girl. That's the ex. Yeah. And the knock at the door was them serving me papers saying I had a child from a previous relationship. Yeah. Prior to us getting married. But how do you tell your wife that? No kidding.

Yeah. You're telling me. So once she got home, I had to actually break this news to her. And it wasn't good. Went well? It went well. It was like what you said. It was a rough patch for a second. I think it did it go well? It was a rough patch. You're still alive, so I'm guessing it went well. Well, well, and it's still been 30, it's been 25 years. So, I mean, the thing is, is after he sit me down and explained to me, because my problem

was in the beginning that it was like, okay, how am I going to deal with the mother? It has nothing to do with the child. The child doesn't ask to be here, so I can't hold anything against the child. So it's like, how am I going to deal with this? No, she wasn't beautiful. David sent me down. David sent me down, and he told me. Because most people always call their kids beautiful.

But you, Jeff, see, there's a comedian. They were hideous looking. Okay. Because I were mine. Okay, you two guys are comedians. Okay, thank you so much. Thank you so much. Nobody looks at the crib and says,

oh, look at somebody. They're going to rob the 7-Eleven. They don't. They really don't. They do. The kids do, do that. Nobody looks at the crib. So, David sent me down and explained to me that it was going to be,

that's how the top, the title of this, my album and the book came, is he set me down and told me that it, The kids are going to leave, but no matter what, I'm going to be a stand-up father for my kids, but it's me and you against the world. So when he told me that, and he really, I felt his. A little time to settle in a little bit. Yeah, but I felt, I mean, I felt his heart, and I believed him, and he's been a man of his word,

that he's taking care of me and put me first, and then the kids, and taking care of the kids. Taking care of her and the then ugly kids. Right. Oh, my God. It's okay. I don't want to. I mean, they turn out to be, as you can see. They're kids.

My kids are kids. They turned out to be pretty. They're good-looking young ladies. They sure did, Dave. Yeah. They are. Wait a minute. Don't start because they will get on the mic.

They don't mind. They look, look, look. They sure did, Dave. Her word is, she be cute. They turned out to be beautiful young ladies. They've been very kind and very great. Yeah. What happens a lot is, though, and you are proof of that, though.

And you are proof of that, though. See, a lot of ugly kids grow up to be good-looking. They do. That's true. They turn. That's what we call that. It turned out to be me. And then that's where you brought me.

You are who you are. What happened? You are you? I still think I'm cute. Well, you know, I thank God for time because, yes, I've changed in a better way. I've always, I must have been a beautiful baby. No, sir. And a beautiful adult.

I'm special. I worked it out. David and Tamelman, thank you. You said it. 20 bucks. What did he just? You said Tamila. No, you said Tamela.

All we got to do is run it back. I'll take my 20 bucks. I'll take it in one so I can make it rain up in here in the studio on the blaze. I'll take all of it. Get him 21s. He owes me. Jeff, thank you. I hope.

Y'all please pick up the book. We also have an audio version. Now, Jeff, does they say your name right? Yes. She says her own name. I say my own name right. He's embarrassed because he got it wrong. But it's okay, though.

It's okay. You're not the only one who's ever done that. So it's okay. So it's okay. so bad right now. We're chewing the fat right now. He's chewing it up. He's about to spit it out. But it's all good. But y'all make sure you pick. Yes. David and Tamla, man. No, don't beat it in now. Give me my money.

Please pick up the book, Us Against the World. I think you to love marriage and family. Download it. You can get it at any year out. You can see who always try to keep me together, right? I'm trying to keep both of y'all because y'all are terrible. I hope the people are enjoying themselves. These guys. Are the cameras even on? No, not for this. No, God. You scared me. When they do their other videos. Yeah, they don't let me other cameras.

They don't let you on that? Why? That's the other show, slapping the fat. Because I got caught slapping it. And they shut up off now. You was, yeah. Oh, you was breaking it down? That's why I was happy to see somebody else in here.

That's thick. No, I'm not fat. I'm thick. I'm not fat. I'm thick. No. Watch. Mama, it went over your head.

Oh, it did it? Yes. You have a blonde moment. Don't worry, Mom. Well, my hair is brown right now. It was blue. It was blunt early. Once again, The book, Us Against the World,

Our Secrets of Love, Marriage and Family, The book is available everywhere. The audio version is also available. Us Against the World, The Love Project, the new CD from David and Tamila. You know, this is the first time that we actually sang together on a full album. Wow.

Yeah, she finally forced me. I got him. I mean, everybody had been requesting us to write a book and also do the CD. So I finally got David in the other. Take us out with a song then. Let's end this thing with you two singing together. Do a mason jar.

Do a little bit of mason jar. are. Don't make me ask again, we'll shut this thing down. Good love, good love. Sometimes we get stuck on our own our love. Good love to our bitterest way you must listen. Communicate but listen to one another.

That's called Good Love. It's the new single out right now. Thank you for having on. Thank you, Jeff. Jeff, thank you so much. J-E-F-F, Jeff. It's so good to be chewing the fat with you. It could be spelled with a G.

Okay. But actually it says Jeff on the cup. Yes, Fisher. Thank you, man. Chewing the fat, remember, subscribe, rate, review. It's very simple. Had a great time with David and Tamla and their kids.

They're really fun people and hope to be able to spend a little bit more time with them in the future. So if you can enjoy, Enjoy the book, Us Against the World. Secrets of Love, Marriage, and Family, 30 years. Amazing. But all that aside, subscribe, rate, and review.

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