Club Shay Shay - A Special Galentine's Day, We listen and we don't judge, spicing up the bedroom | Humble Baddies

Episode Date: February 14, 2025

In this episode, Sharelle, Ashley, and Alexis break down Galentine's Day, share their best tips for spicing up the bedroom on Valentine's Day, play "We listen, We don't judge," play "Would you rather," discuss the issue with love bombing, and much more!02:11 - Show start02:35 - Gal-entine's day edition14:04 - We listen, we don't judge30:48 - Hot girl headlines39:18 - Unfiltered, unfollowed47:00 - Humble baddies mail(Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.) #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Valentine's Day is here and we're celebrating with a special Galentine's Day edition. Love that. Look at me. I'm over here getting ready to get excited. It was getting real hot and spicy up in here. You know, we went to the gym. We in the bedroom. We got shorty. This is the big ones. Hey guys, we are back with another episode of Humble Baddies. Yes. I'm Shara Rosado.

What's up? I'm Ashley Nicole. And I'm Alexis Walsh-Stoddemeier. And we are the Humble Baddies. And. Yes, you guys. Love is in the air. Yes it is.

Valentine's Day is here and we're celebrating with a special Galentine's Day edition. Love that. While Valentine's Day is often about romance, Galentine's Day is all about celebrating friendship. Yes, it is. Self love and the amazing women in our lives, like you two ladies. I love y'all. I love y'all too. Whether you're single in a relationship

or just want an excuse to have fun with your girls, this episode is just for you. Yes. Welcome. We're gonna dive into what Galentine's Day really means, how people celebrate it. Ladies. Yes.

What does Galentine's Day mean to you and do you celebrate Galentine's Day? Galentine's Day to me means time for self-reflection, self-love, really just about, really Alexis. I feel like I like to take time to really dive into me, whether it's quiet time, a spa day, staycation, or go to the beach, or a combination of all of the above, my favorite meal. I feel like it's good just to really tap into your soul and yourself. So to me, that's what Gallentine's Day is.

Array, on the other hand, my oldest daughter, I'm still cleaning up confetti around the house because she hosted a little gathering for her cheerleader girls from school. And they really indulged in like bringing desserts and a favorite dish and just really just had time together with each other and play games and stuff like that. So I see what they did there and I liked that. They were in PJs. They were just really coordinated

and had some fun time together with no boys. No boys were allowed. So, yeah, yeah. What about you, Ash? To be honest, I've never celebrate Galentine's before, but I've seen it like over the years. I've seen you put in my house for Galentine's. We did a gal. That was Galentine's.

Yes. Oh, shit. I didn't know it was Galentine's? That was Galentine's? Yes. Oh, shit. I didn't know it was Galentine's. Because I thought we were like blue or something. No, I'm talking. Did you come when we did the Galentine's? We were on the roof and did a little vibe at the house? Sure. Wow.

Go invite me next time. I will. We better get an invite. Yeah, I've never. I don't think I've ever done a Galentine's day. But I've seen, I don't think I've ever done a Galentine's Day. But I've seen like people, you know, host different things. Like I've seen people have like people come hold like concerts and dinners and like they get all dressed up and it's like really, really cute.

So I would definitely like be into it. But Phil, we've been together. He caught me when I was young. Yes. We've been together. He caught me when I was young. So we've been celebrating Valentine's Day together for the past 16 years. Yeah, so, but I mean, I'm down to do a Galentine's. Invite me, Alexis.

I want to come to a Galentine's. I'm actually doing one and you guys are invited. It was the last minute thing I was talking to Ashley. I was like, we should do something, like a Galentine's day. So Wednesday I reached out to the chef. Yeah. Okay. We're gonna get y'all some pajamas. They don't have to be matching,

but I'm doing a little special thing at the house for y'all. Beautiful, that's so sweet. It's gonna be cute. We're gonna have fun, get drunk, y'all go back to y'all means. If we have one, I mean. I think that's a good thing about Galentine's though. It's inclusive

because for a single gals, it can be a little bit like intrusive and very much sad around this time of the year, just because it's commercialized holiday that's all over the place. You walk into Walgreens, you see the candy shaped hearts, like with the chocolates in there, the flowers, you know, in your workplace, everyone sees balloons and flowers being delivered and gifts and all that kind of stuff. So you can get a little lonely and sad around this time of the year.

I'm not getting lonely. I'm taking serenity to Nickelodeon studios. Oh, that's going to be fun. I'm going to have a mommy daughter. Gallant times. Yeah, I think it's good that you make the holiday what you want of it. I mean, it's about love.

So there's so many different types of love, different ways you can display love. So I think that's cute. You know, you spending time with your daughter, your daughter spending time with her home girls, you having the Galentines for all the girls. Like I think that's, that's great. I love that for us.

Yes, it's gonna be beautiful. I don't think guys do like Galentines, like a- A Gaian-time. A Gaian-time. They don't care about none of that stuff. But did you know that, is it Valentine's Day? It's the most money spent.

It has to be. Really, over Christmas? Oh damn. But they go all out. Cause they want the- Roll out the red carpet or the Like the gifts and do do everywhere do women bother do y'all but do you buy your your man something for Valentine's? Um, if you know Phil is not like a gift type of person. He just wants some good ass

Wop later. I thought you were going to say some good ass head later. I was going to say Ashley. He want it all. Yeah, that's what he want. I know that's right. Yeah. And we ain't got time to do the, what you call it? What?

The starfish. Oh, no, no, no. No cockroach. No, she said cockroach. Ain't no cockroach in that night. Ain't no starfish in that night. Ain't no starfish in that night. He could get some wop that night. Okay, so then there's preparation.

You can be ready to go. Have a good time. Are you bringing out your, um, What? The tools. Oh yeah, everything comes out. Everything comes out. Do the kids go away?

We go, like usually. We'll do like a staycation. See, that's what I'm talking about. Go book that hotel, y'all. Get away, leave them kids. It's not for them this time. Exactly. I love that for you guys.

That's mine. That's right. No, why not? Come back. With a little punch. Cause they said November, right? Is it Valentine's Day? I'm a November baby. And then Scorpio Oh no, no. Cause they said November, right? Is it Valentine's day? I'm a November baby, so I was definitely.

And then the Scorpios come in from Valentine's day. No, no. What you doing for Valentine's day, Leigh? I don't know yet. I mean, I haven't decided. You got options? I do. I don't know if it's gonna be sand or snow.

You wanna be booed up or what? Are you sure? She said she got options. I don't mind being booed up. I mean, it's a time to give love and receive love. Wait, what do you want to do? I'm open. It's whatever.

Like if someone is like, let's go out or let's go away. I can do a quick- Hey, let's get away and get a room on the other side of town. I'm down for all of that. So, but it needs to be planned a little bit so I can like, you know, bring some, some, some, what's she bringing? Accessories.

Oh Lord, what accessories? I need to know. No, I mean, it could start with clothing. So some, some, I feel like. Negliges. Yes, some lingerie. We have some accessories like that. And maybe some toys. See, some lingerie. We have some accessories like that. And maybe some toys.

See, I'll pull up with a trench coat with nothing under. Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. It's okay. It's okay, you know. Look at me, I'm over here getting ready to get excited. Okay, okay, sexy legs. For the pregame.

Look, the viewers need the leg spurt. What they gotta do. Oh, the leg spurt? Oh my goodness. The sex leg spurt. The sex spurt. Yeah, I justxpert? Oh my goodness. The sex lexpert. The sex lexpert. Yeah, I just like, I like the element of surprise. I also like just the teasing and just like the show of it all.

That's cute and sexy. Yes. And I just want to have a good time and have some good time. Do you bring like dessert to the bed? No, that's messy to me. Like I don't need dessert. I'm the dessert. Have you ever had Pop Rocks?

Pop Rocks where? Tell me about that. You gotta get the Pop Rocks. What are the Pop Rocks for, Sherelle? You put them in your mouth. Put them in your mouth. I do or he does? You put the Pop Rocks in your mouth.

So then there's a lot of... Yes, it's popping while you sucking. Sucking and looking and sucking and looking. Okay, then it's the dirty addition of humble baddies. I like Pop Rocks. So you saying bring some something. I thought you're going to meet say something like some syrup or some honey, some whipped cream. You should have a little goody bag for your Galentine's.

Oh, I should. For the girls to bring that bag. Oh, that's a good idea. We should do that. So Galentines would be before Galentines? Some numbing. Numbing cream? Yeah, but like. This is too much work.

Numbing cream? For the mouth? Some people can't take it. Some, you gotta. For the mouth. Numbing. I've never heard of it for the mouth. Man, like when you slough.

Where do you put it if you don't? Other numbing cream I've heard for like the anal. For anal. Numbing for the anal, I ain't never heard of that. Girl, this is too much, okay. Why is it too much? Listen, you gotta- I don't know numbing for the mouth. Numbing makes you slub more

and being like when you slub. Okay. This is a lot. Is it though? Okay, well this is a dumb conversation. Look, don't a dull conversation. Yeah, I am. Let's have it.

It could be that or it could be the La Portier over here. Oh yeah, we gotta put some La Portier in the bag. I think it could be a combination of both. Put some La Portier in the bag. But you know. They can get things started. I'm telling y'all, get y'all some La Portier. The La Portier just turned everything,

like it's like a heated, like a warm sensation. And ready to go. Yeah. There's something about that kayak, and do something to you. You know that yak, the good brown, that good brown gets you right. You gotta stay away from that right now,

that should've get you in trouble. All right, y'all, so back to Galentine's day. You gonna put the goodies in the goody bag. I got you. I got you. Okay. Okay. You let her know.

We're gonna take you to a whole nother level, sexy lady. I don't mind. Y'all are crazy. All right, you guys. We always get your DMs, your suggestions on what we should talk about. So today we listen and we don't judge. We listen and we don't judge. So we're going to talk about it. The rise of love bombing.

Have y'all ever heard of love bombing? Yeah, I've heard of it. I've definitely heard of it. Is it real romance or is it manipulation? I think it is manipulation. But how do you know the difference? Ooh, that's a good question too. Like a sub question to it.

I don't know, love bombing, like an example of love bombing would be like over-ex exaggerating something, right? I feel like if you can't follow up and you can't be about what you're speaking on, then don't say it. I feel like you're exaggerating, you're getting my hopes up. And to me, that's a turnoff if you can't deliver.

I don't want it. I don't want it if it's not real. Exactly. I mean, that's how I feel about that. What about you guys? I think, you know, if something comes off too good to be true in the beginning, that's like a red flag. So, I mean, I don't know.

I think a woman or anybody who is looking for love and then finally meets somebody that they feel like is giving them everything that they need and they're, you know, doing all the things with affection and the gestures and everything like that. I feel like it can feel like it's real. But I think sometimes we have to take off the rose color, what do you call it?

Glasses. Yeah. And, you know, just be a little realistic. Like, is this something that somebody can sustain? You know, or are they right? Or is it just they're just trying to make me like them? Like, they're just doing things to make me, you know? Yeah, almost like they're representing you. They're representing you. Yeah, exactly.

I feel like it's kind of hard because when I first met Chad, he was, I mean, he's still doing wine and dining and everything. So I wouldn't call it love bumming. I felt like it was like true. Consistent behavior. Yeah, but it's still consistent behavior when we were together. Like he always, I mean, in the beginning, he was like going extra, extra hard. Like every week I would wake up with something new. It was awful. I think that he felt like he love bombed you. I don't know, because I mean, he kept that behavior.

Like it wasn't like, it was just temporary. So he sustained it. He sustained it. So it wasn't a love bomb. It wasn't, I wouldn't say it was a love bomb. Okay. But it's like, how do you know, when does it come to an end when someone love bombs? I think when they show you that if they don't get something from you and then they try to

take it from you to punish you or... So basically they doing it until they get what they want. And so they basically gained control of you. Yeah. Like, here are these big gifts, here are these big wishes and these big things. And then now that I've got you, what are they actually chasing after? Now that they've captured you that way. And then would it become manipulation once they feel like they want to regain you and

get you back so they go back to doing the thing? Is it still love-vomiting or is it now manipulation? Yeah, it's both. I think it's both, it's one and the same. But I think like, I don't know, for me, I feel like when somebody's doing too much, I just automatically, I'm like, but who are you really? You know, if I can't, if it's so much

that I can't really tell, like, and I'm not getting to know who you are and like the reasons why you love me or like me outside of like you giving me stuff and I can't figure out the reasons why I really like you outside of the stuff that you're love bombing me with, then I think that's like a cue to be like, what is this?

Right. I respect, I seen this, I was listening to this guy talk, and he was basically saying, like, I'm not going to overdo it. I'm not going to give you expectations from as a man and not, you know, not follow through with it.

So you're going to, how I treat you when I first meet you, this is what you're going to get. I like that. Throughout the duration. Throughout the duration what you're going to get. I like that throughout the duration. Throughout the duration. So if I'm not texting you like that, then that's what you're going to get used to that. And he said that he had problems with women, like dating women,

because they felt like he wasn't serious. It wasn't that he's a busy man. And I don't want to promise you something that I can't continue to do. And I was like, you know what? I respect that. I respect that because a lot of men love bomb. Like they go over the top to get what they want.

And once they got it, once they got what they have, then it's, you know, you get complacent and it's not the same. I feel like courting is essential to this. Like courting, like old school courting. Let me show you what my intents are. I prefer someone who's consistent. It's very attractive and you mean what you say,

you say what you mean. To me, I appreciate someone who's intentional. Like I feel like when you're, we're having dialogue and conversation, I like the phone calls, we're having dialogue and conversation. I like the phone calls. I like the little text messages. You be on the phone with your legs in the air twerking. I like all of that shit.

Like talk to me on the phone. I do, I get my 3 a.m. wake up calls. Like, hey babe, I'm just, I just made it in. I'm just wanna talk and you look up at like 30 minutes. I like that because I came up in the era of that, like on the phone, if we can be together. With the clueless phone. Yes, you better have the extra, extra, extra long cord

because there's only two lines in the house. If you were lucky, you would pull it into your room, one hang up, like one ring, one hang up, and then you like call back, like real quiet, you know? Or nights and weekends, that's when you can turn up. So I come from that era of just like that intention. So I appreciate that because we do all live busy lives. And I feel like when people are transparent and they're open

and honest about their time, then they're like, OK, well, I can text you little quick thing, you know, you start to know your schedule or they know your schedule. I think it becomes sexy and kind of flirty when you're like sending like your little timestamps of just what you got going on. And that's the best feeling. Like how do you let that feeling continue to last? Like the butterflies and the just being,

what are things that you can do to continue that? Like when you first meet someone to have that same feeling five, ten years from now. Is it possible? Ash, you want to answer that for us? How to keep the butterflies? Yes. And is it possible? Because I feel like it is. I mean, I feel like I don't have butterflies anymore. I have excitement. I have I don't have butterflies anymore. I have...

Excitement. I have, I don't know what you call it. It's not butterflies. It's definitely different. It's definitely a more mature feeling. It's not butterflies. It's like a sense of like safety and home. Like reassurance. Yeah, it's like at the end of the day,

I know where home is. I know, I just have this sense of like feeling safe. You know what I mean? Yeah. Secure. I love that. So I think. I still, you know, where I'm excited to, you know, not necessarily it's not excitement. I wouldn't say it's excitement. It's just literally for me, a piece of mind, a piece of home.

When I get back to the house, you know, I know like he's home or if I'm out and he calls me like, you know, it's him checking to make sure I'm safe. Like it's just for me, it's like a safety thing. Like I know somebody in the world is always making sure I'm good. Right. Um, and for me, yeah, I mean, that kind of like Trump's butterflies. They kind of, that grows into something more. But I think just making sure that you guys still relate on an everyday basis,

because we're together all the time. We live together. You know, he's retired, so he's home. So, you know, it's not the same as like, you know, when you go days or whatever, without seeing somebody like I see him all the time. So it's not like the same excitement, but just being happy to have somebody to share life with, to share like experiences.

Like I still get excited to come home and tell him things that I've done or things that I'm excited to do. So for me, it just, it's different now. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. I love that. I like the chase. I like the butterflies. Yeah. I love that. I like the chase.

I like the butterflies. I love all of that. Like, I want to keep it going because I feel like I see older couples that are really in love and I attain to that like you know, just where you can dance if that's what you started off doing and sharing music and vibing together and or traveling those shared interests. I feel like that is a goal of mine that I want to sustain and be able to like look forward to in my relationship going forward.

So I like that. This one is for you, dating while healing. Ooh. This one for you, Lex. Can you truly find love without being 100% healed? I believe so, only because I feel like no one is ever 100% healed. And I would even say that despite if you've been married, divorced, we all have as humans,

we have different triggers. We have different experiences in different ways that we move because of whether it's how we were raised, what influences. Yeah, everybody has something they have to heal from. Exactly, exactly. And to me, it's always daily struggles too. You know, it could be something today, it could be something another month from now. And so to me, it's just like, I feel, yes, you can.

To me, it's more about where you are in your heart and what are you willing to give. What space, what capacity is left, right? But don't get it, I feel like don't get it twisted, like start dating and you're not over that relationship because that's what a lot of people tend to do. Oh yeah, you have to give yourself grace. You definitely have to give yourself grace and time.

A lot of people get caught up in going to the next without fully healing and recovering from the previous relationship. Of course, it takes time. Yeah, it definitely takes time. But I also have talked to friends now that have said, you know what, Alexis, I see that vibrancy in you now where it's more attractive compared to there was

a little grayer vibe before, because I'm just coming off of X, Y, and Z. This Lex that I know now from the Lex when I first met is totally different. And I love this Lex right now. It's like you own it. Like you just come in a room and it's just sunshine. Thank you for that. And that's what I love about you.

Like you're very, you're very secure in who you are as a woman. No matter what you've been through, you can't see it because you've overcome all that. And I just love that. Like every time you come next to us, I feel like it's nothing but sunshine. Thank you. And that comes from healing. That comes from doing the work. That comes from really like therapy, talking to myself,

self-love, reassurance, and really just opening up and really discovering that spark of who I am as Alexis. Because I feel like in any relationship, you want to be a whole. And I pray and hope that my partner is a whole too. That way we can come together and really be secure in ourselves separately to create that one whole together. So that's what I tamed for. So I'm there. I'm like, I'm ready and I'm open. So we shall see what happens. I'm happy for you Lex, I love this Lex.

Thank you, I love this Lex too. It's so beautiful, the sexiness, it's like it's a different type of vibe from when I met before. I'm in my essence right now. I just feel like I've done my work. I've done, I put in the work and I'm at this space now where I'm just open.

And I'm like, there was some sad times, there was some heavy times, but I'm so aware now of who I am. And you overcame it. I did, I did. And whoever can tap into this space right now and catch this butterfly, good luck to them, you know, cause they'll be blessed.

Right, yeah, I know that's right. So listen ladies, I mean, we all have, I mean, you've been in your, you're still in your relationship, but we have, you know, we've overcame the hurt and it's another side. It's sunshine. It is, it's sunshine. It's just, what do they say?

You know, weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. So it comes in the morning. Yeah. Amen. So it happens. I'm a prime example and a witness. So that's one of my testimonies for sure. My last one, long distance relationships in 2025.

I'm down for that shit. Yeah. Yeah. I actually, honestly, I wouldn't, I would be down with a long distance relationship. Yeah. I'm down for that. Just because I have my home

that I'm sharing with my children right now. Like. It feels good to be by yourself. Yeah, I like that. I like when they're away. I like when they're with their dad. I like when I have my time. And to be long distance is cool,

just because absence makes the heart grow fonder. And so, it's the anticipation of when we're gonna meet next. That's how, when Chad and I was together, it was, I was in Tampa, he was in Miami. And it was just, it was excitement to, oh, I'm going to see my baby. I feel like it's more excitement and the long distance. And then you still get, you're still able to get back home

and just have your own, like you don't have to deal with someone 24 hours a day, like, okay. Because we're nurturers too. We like give a lot. We the one that we might want to make sure that good. So it's good to like, kind of like look forward to that. I like that. Yeah.

I know a couple actually who were married for seven years, lived apart because they both had their own separate lives, finished building a home together while they were in this relationship and have just now moved in together after seven years. Oh wow. Of marriage. So like I see it and they love it.

They love it. And I'm down with that. I can see that happening. I'm not mad at that. I think I wouldn't be mad at it either. You know? I like the same one. You would do the marriage too?

Yeah. Long distance marriage. Absolutely. Just because I'm on this, my trajectory of where I'm at as Alexis, whoever my partner is will understand that. We are in and out of the country at times and where I'm at in my space

and just where I am with my children, there's things that they need. And whoever invests in me and understands who I am, I'm like down to really accommodate them because I want them to accommodate me. Whether it's travel and we can, I love that. Getting to hopping on a plane, doing a quick 48 hours or trips and tapping in real quick.

Look, you know, meeting up for a date night somewhere in the middle, I'm down for that too. That's fun. It's exhilarating. Showing up in a trans coat with nothing on my back. You know. Okay, sexy legs. As long as they know, you know, security, they don't pull me over to the side.

Right. Something's beeping or something. I have to do a real strip shirt. What you got a bullet on it? Oh my God. Yeah, I might. That's what I've heard. No, but low key, it's just, I like that. I would be open to it. Just because it's 2025, and been in this space,

and the fact that we travel so much. I meet people in the airport, I meet people in these parties, these events, and these exclusive vibes. So they have their life going on, and that's attractive. You know what I'm saying? I got things going on here in Florida. I'm a Miami girl right now.

So it's like, but I'm also a travel friend too. So. Okay. Hint, hint. Look at that little laugh. Look at the vibes. I'm sorry I'm starting to get red on you right now. You ain't never seen Lex blush this much.

You know, we're talking about love. You know, we're exuding love over here. And this is my month. This is my birthday month. Oh yeah, it is your birthday month. Yeah, my fourth. A little freaky little Pisces. I am.

Ooh, is that what they say about us Pisces? They say them Pisces are freaky. We are fish, you know. They are the true definition of a sex expert. Sexpert. Or Lexpert. I like that. I don't know what y'all are talking about right now.

But now it's time for the Hot Girl headlines. Ooh. But actually, I would rather play a game. Are y'all down? I'm down. Oh, because it's the Galentine edition. I mean, y'all got me going, so. Oh, I'm a little nervous.

I got some questions for y'all. I'm a little nervous. I'm ready for games. I like games.'all got me going, so I got some questions for y'all. I'm a little nervous. I'm ready for games. I like games. OK, so the game is called Would You Rather? OK, so I'm going to give you. Oh, like back in the day basement?

Would you rather? Wait, what is back in the day basement? What y'all used to do back in the day in the basement? In the basement. Would you rather? I'm just saying, I'm throwing it out. Get your mind out the gutter. No, I'm just playing, actually.

Yes, it's Would You Rather. I'm going to give y'all some scenarios and you gotta let me know what you would rather do. Would you rather date someone who's amazing in bed but terrible at communicating or someone who's an incredible communicator but average in the bed? You gotta be good in bed.

Good in bed but he sucks at communicating. This is tough. Cause I know how to carry a conversation, baby. I just need you to be good and bad. But communication, I feel like it breaks up relationships like immediately. Like you can help somebody get better in the bad. I mean, we ain't doing nothing but dating

and it ain't like we getting married. I don't know. I feel like foreplay starts at hello. Ooh. You know, like, so the communication is part of like the, like that little bit of that spice. You know what, that is true. You know what I'm saying?

Because with women. Yeah, if it doesn't get you here first, down here it's not gonna get wet. So I feel like communication is a big deal because then you can communicate what you like and don't like and what you don't and don't want. Exactly. What you need and don't need. You know what I'm saying? So that we can work on that.

But what if they know how to give it to you? That's what I'm trying to tell you. Like I can work with the like, oh, if they can. OK, what if what if they what if they're a good communicator and. What is this? Maybe he... That's not the question. He said average.

No, let's make it interesting. Cause average can make it, let's make it interesting. So just average sex. No, no, no, we're finna make it interesting. It says average in bed. No, but we finna make it interesting. Oh my goodness. What if he's a great communicator and he's...

No, probably not, probably not if he's a great communicator and he's... No. Probably not. Probably not. It's a pass. It's a hall-ass. It's not even a game. It's okay. He's a tickler. A tickle with no pickle.

Okay, thanks. Okay, okay, okay. Next one, next one. Why are you rushing the question? Wait, hold on. We didn't finish. Because we all know we don't want nobody with a little... No.

No. No. No. No. No. No. Okay, thanks. Okay, okay, okay. Next one, next one. She's real tickled up. Why are you rushing the question? Wait, hold on, we didn't finish. Because we all know we don't want nobody with a little. But we gotta add, let's go.

But communication. Well, with a pickler. A tickler. Oh my goodness. A tickler with a good communication. You don't want it. Yeah, I can't do it. That's easy. Don't nobody want that.

I like depth. Huh? I like depth. No, we're't do it. That's easy. Don't nobody want that. I like depth. Huh? I like depth. No, we're going to say no. Everybody wants that. Don't nobody want that little intimate. Well, everybody ain't blessed with it. But you also don't want anything ginormous either. I'd rather have something ginormous than a little tickler.

I don't think so. You'd rather go big, big dog. Like you'd rather go like crazy. Ain't nothing that big now. Oh, no, no. So you would rather have a tickler than big dog. No. With the influx of toys and like other things,

I feel like you could work with a smaller penis compared to a bigger one. You can work with the tickler. I don't want to. Give me the communication. Give me the foreplay. Give me the other things. I don't know if I could do it.

I don't want a small. I don't think I could do it. I don't think I could do it. She said she want a big dog. She don't want a puppy. She want a big dog. Okay. All right.

Can we move on now, please? We can. Yes, we can. Can we move on now, please? We can. Yes, we can. Would you rather have an intimate encounter in a public place or a private location? Or private? I would do public. I would definitely do public.

It's fun. That's fine. It's the excitement of... Okay, so have you done it in a public location? Yes. Dressing room. Okay, what about you? A private bathroom in the back of a club.

Okay. I've done it on an airplane. Airplane? Private. Oh, you really got them high-miles. Private, yeah, my high-club. You, let's part of the my high-club. I ain't even do that yet.

Okay, would you rather have a secret admirer or a confident person who makes their intentions known immediately? I don't mind the secret admirer that is going to eventually reveal themselves. Like we gotta, I need to work towards it. I want someone to come up to me. I don't, I'm not, I don't go after as often.

I feel like I want someone to be interested in me. And if it's mutual, then I'm like, oh yeah, let's, let's lock in. Let's see what's up with this. What do you want? Secret admirer or a confident person who comes up to you immediately? I like playing the cat in the mouse.

OK, elaborate. Tell me. I would like a secret admirer. So you want someone to just not reveal who they are. But give you all the hints, give you awesome vibes. But like, you don't even you want them to you want. You want to figure out who it is. It depends. That's what I'm trying to say.

What are the grand reveal after all these things? Let's say, for example, no, let me you know, secret. Yeah, you would like that man who was messaging you that time. No, I need to know. I can't finish situation. I don't think so. I need to know. Yeah, you need to know.

And if they pull up on you and then they show like interest and all of that, then yeah. I need to know. So there you go. I need to know too. I want to know what's up, but come after me. If you want this, come get me. Last one. Would you rather be blindfolded or tied up during a spicy encounter?

Both. Oh, shit. Why choose? Both. All right. That was easy. Both. Oh, shit. Why choose? Both. All right. That was easy.

Because that element of surprise is there. And your senses are heightened. Because if one of your major senses is taken away, then each, you know, your taste, your hearing, your smell, your touch, everything turns up a bit. Yeah, I like that shit. Both. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Tie up and blind for me. This whole episode. And give me a safe word. All right, y'all. Thank you for playing. I like that. We need to do a little bit more of that, Ash. All right, I'll catch y'all next time.

We'll dive a little deeper into Would You Rather. Yes, yes. What do we have now? Like... And so would you rather? Yes, yes. What do we have now? Like... This is a segment of Unfiltered and Unfollowed.

Ooh. Yes, yes. The wedding invite snub. I mean, we all feel some kind of way when we're not invited somewhere, right? A girl you considered a friend gets engaged, plans a big wedding, but doesn't invite you, but still watches all your IG stories. Follow, unfollow, or block?

Um, I wouldn't... I would keep following her. I feel like we're still friends. Not everybody's invited to everything, especially like life events. Weddings are big. Weddings are very... Expensive. Exactly. Expensive. Exactly, expensive, all the things. They're for, you know,

whoever the bride and groom wants to be there. So I wouldn't take it personal. Yeah, I wouldn't take it personal unless it's a close friend. But if it's just a friend, you know, they have who they want to invite to their, and like Ashley said, they are expensive. Nothing to take personal. Yeah, cause you never end, like Ashley said, they are expensive. Yes. Nothing to take personal.

Yeah, because you never know. Like, you know, it could be an intimate wedding of 10. It could be or it could be whatever. So we don't know. We don't know. I like that. The toxic podcast, bro. A guy you went on a one day with starts a podcast where he rants about how modern women bring nothing to the table. Do you follow back, unfollow or block? starts a podcast where he rants about how modern women bring nothing to the table.

Do you follow back, unfollow or block? It's a lot of those. Child, we'll be unfollowing the whole goddamn Instagram. If we did that. Yeah, I feel like everybody, you know, has an opinion. Everybody wants to share their opinion. And if you disagree, if you disagree with everybody and everything, like you won't have any friends, you won't have, you know what I mean?

It's like, it's your right to feel how you feel and say what you wanna say. You know what I'm saying? You can't take everything to heart. Now, if it's something like, you know, there are some topics that we can really like stand on and be like, okay, I need to set myself apart from this person.

Yeah, but if it's just, you know, it's a lot of dumb stuff on the internet. I feel like you just have to filter it out, let it go in one ear and out the other. Yeah. Sherelle, what do you think? You want to talk about? I feel like it's just a podcast. Like they're entitled to their opinions, just like we are entitled to our opinions. We have a podcast, so it's nothing to get mad about.

That's what it's for. That was their experience. Exactly. I like that. What about the ghosting comeback? Someone who ghosted you six months ago suddenly pops into your DMs. Hey stranger or hey big head.

What are we gonna do ladies? Ignore. Yeah. Cause six months is a minute, right? That's a lot. They see you popping, they see you maybe a new haircut, new vibe, right? Yeah. That's a lot. They see you popping. They see you maybe a new haircut, new vibe, new vibe, like new fit. Yeah.

Yeah. Ignore. Ignore? Yeah. I like that. What about the ex's new boo? Your ex's new girlfriend follows you first, likes all your old posts and comments so pretty. What are we doing, ladies?

From a pic two years ago. That's so weird. Two years ago. That's weird. Yeah. What are we doing? I would probably ignore that too. Yeah. Ignore.

I would ignore that. That's awkward. They're a fan, right? Yeah. Fan behavior? Yeah. Okay. Weird behavior, weirdos.

Okay. The one who owes you money. They still haven't paid you back, but they're posting luxurious vacations, brunches, and concert tickets. What are we doing ladies? I'm calling them, messaging them, where is my money?

Exactly. Where are my coins? Exactly. You're doing a little bit too much over there. The income tax done hit, I need my coins. So not only are we, we're gonna still keep following. Yeah, and we're gonna follow up. Yeah, follow up.

Absolutely. Follow up. Or pull up. And lastly, the gym selfie overload. Someone posts 15 gym selfies a day, plus every workout set. Are we following blocking or is that too much? What are we doing? I mean, if there's something that they do

and it's their, how they get paid, it's motivating. So it's lifestyle. Yeah. I'll be like, okay, they got some new. I feel like I wouldn't unfollow or anything. But sometimes people do overpost. You got me. I mean, I love to mute. I'm not going to hit you. Not for gym selfies, because like I need motivating like for gym.

But if somebody's posting, for instance, them always shopping or always like spending money frivolously, you know, that's something that I need to work on. So I might like mute them because I don't need to be seeing that. Like I have to be conscious of the stuff that I'm taking in every day. So if it's something that I feel triggers me

and it's something that I'm trying to work on, like if I see them going out to the club all the time or drinking all the time, and it's something that I'm personally trying to work on, then I might mute them or unfollow. Understand. But going to the gym, I need to do more of. Listen, I see Sherelle in the gym,

and you motivate me, by the way. I have my little gym post that y'all do, and then I throw up the deuces. I like that. You motivate me, I'm gonna hold you. I'm like, mm, them legs. I mean, see what Sherelle's doing today. I need to get that workout in, in that fit.

So I'm following. I don't mind it. Some people do be doing too much, but you don't be doing too much. No, you don't. Some people be, yeah, some people be doing too, too much. I'd be in the gym like, girl, you need to stop. And then they'll pull their pants up tight so they little camito or moose stuff up your shoulders. That is crazy. What is you doing over there? One time Phil bought me those leggings

where it like scrunch up in the booty. Not the camel toe. And I was like, I cannot wear this to the gym. Not the scrunching. Yes. Wait, what do you call it? The scrunch booty? The scrunch booty.

Is that what it's called? I just can't do it. I just feel like if you see too much, like you can see all of my ass up in the crack. You know, you can see all of that. I have some of those. I cannot wear those. I think I would turn that gym upside down.

I can't wear those. I don't even have a big old booty, but I just still feel like I'm trying to match. I wear some of them, but it's not too much of a scrunch. It enhances it for sure. Yeah, it does enhance it. You think people wanna be like? I love my low cut, my low back cuts,

where it's like the whole back is out, and then it's a low cut. I am not cute in the gym. When I work out, I look a hot mess. Yeah, there's nothing cute about it. Yeah, me either. I'm locked in, but I get cute sometimes. Yeah, I do not be cute.

The hair be spreaded out. The clothes, I got all my old Nike stuff from when Phil had his Nike contract. I got brand new Nike stuff. It's old, but it's new. But it's not like the cute scrunch booty and all the new like cut outfits that they have. I don't have none of that. Look, the gym has turned into a fashion show.

It has. Like you gotta come in there matching from head to toe. It's a club at this point. Even the prison gyms. And I go to a prison gym. You go, oh wait, a what? Prison gym. Where it don't look.

Please tell me what. It don't look good on the inside. It's a lot of free weights. It's like rugged. Not the prison gym. Yeah, we call it the prison gym. You got trap music in there and you would not just get it. You and they're locked in.

Locked in. Even the prison gyms turning into a fashion show. I'm not mad at the motivation though. Like I'm here for it. Let me see what's going on. I want to see progress. I want to see the vibes, all of that. Yes, yes, yes.

Listen, I'm coming out with a little bit, a leg video. So y'all make sure y'all stay tuned. Let us know. You do have some beautiful legs. Thank you. Well, ladies, it was getting real hot and spicy up in here. You know, we were in the gym, we in the bedroom, we got shorty, it's a big one.

All this kind of stuff. What do we have next, ladies? Sherelle, what you got for us, sis? Listen, y'all, I got the humble Betty's mail. Oh! And we thank you guys for submitting. We make sure we, you know, we find someone, we pick it. We don't know what it is until the day of.

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washing his clothes, helping him daily, he keeps mistreating me. He throws things at me when he's upset and he recently started hitting my legs with his cane. I understand he's likely frustrated, but I'm reaching my breaking point. Do you think it's time for me to walk away since he can't? Now Rhonda.

First of all, was Thurshae talking about is it time for me to walk away since he can't? Now Rhonda. First of all, was that Shay talking about is it time for me to walk away since he can't? Was that Shay or not? Am I dripping? Rhonda! This you gotta get some distance, okay? Let's start with that first. I don't care if you're paralyzed, disabled or whatever.

You shouldn't be. Nobody should endure abuse. Like there's no reason for that. If he can't use his words, then it's an issue. It's a problem. So I definitely think that you should step away. Make sure you find like a safe space. You know, you should be able to find a safe space

so that you guys can figure out your situation. And if he can't figure out a way to discuss whatever y'all issues are, then it's time for you to walk away for sure. Run away, run away. Yeah, I agree with Ash. Like it's time to go. Maybe he needs some therapy of some sort because- If you're the caretaker and this person is dependent on you, that's abuse. Like there's ways to communicate, there's verbal ways. Yeah, I don't like that. I don't like that Rhonda. You might have to let him go. And he needs to get some help.

If he's frustrated, he needs to find better ways to deal with his frustration, not hitting you. And I know they have assistance for that, given the situation. There are people who can handle the influx and the up and down of behavior issues. That sounds a little deeper. I'm nobody's doctor or anything like that.

But when you're starting to abuse others emotionally and mentally and they're taking the time to help you, that's not good. It's not good. On a serious note, yes, he needs help and you need to get away from that relationship because physical abuse is not it. And we don't condone it like, and you shouldn't either.

You shouldn't take that. So definitely run away. Yes. Don't walk, run. That's the end of it. That's our humble baddie's mail. If you all have anything that you want to submit, send over to us.

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