Club Shay Shay - Ari Fletcher’s Wild Statement, Unfollowing Your Ex, & Giving The Silent Treatment

Episode Date: January 27, 2026

What’s good Truth After Dark family! We are back at it again with another dope episode! Paul takes a Ro Sparks pill live on the show, they react to Ari Fletcher’s wild statement, unfollowing your exes, and so much more! Get ready for a spicy episode of Truth After Dark! Tune in 📺  #CLUBSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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You know what? I'm asking you. I'm asking you. I asked you a question. Have you been shitting on? Right. So that's ridiculous. Don't ask me no shit like that, Paul.

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Paul Peasy just took a row spark. I just took a roast barks, y'all. I just took a roast, y'all y'all be to tune in to what i took what logic laws and what he said laws lost in and y'all have to tune in what i'm putting down so you can pick it up lord i'm nervous yeah um okay so let's get straight into some stuff so basically there is a woman on instagram and she was like i have a very sure way to tell you if your man is a liar or not right a sure way like you know how they say, like, I have a way that's like,

tried and true. Whether or not your man is a liar. Period. Point, like, she said, this always works. You're going to know if your man is a liar. You're going to know whatever, right? Off the jump. From jump. She said, if your man is dozing off and he's full blows, snoring everything. And then he wakes back up and you're like, baby, were you asleep? And he's like, no, no, no, I wasn't asleep.

She said he's a dirty dog liar. Because why would he lie? about that. Me personally, I don't agree with that. I think that's crazy. But so many women were like, oh, my God. He wasn't asleep. He was resting his eyes. Snoring? Resting his eyes.

You snoring when you rest your eyes? What time is it? It don't matter. It do matter. The point is she saying he's lying. It do matter. That's what I'm trying to tell you. How y'all going to speak on men? I've been in this situation. If it's 2.30, I'm resting my eyes. I wasn't sleep. And you snore when you rest your eyes.

I was listening to the TV. I didn't want to see it. want to listen. So you snore? You can hear when you're snoring? I can hear what I'm snoring, yes. I can hear the TV. I'm actually watching hearing it. And then I wake up like 15 minutes.

Like I know everything was going on. While you wake up, I thought you weren't sleep. How are you waking up from not being asleep? Because I was resting my eyes. So that means you open your eyes, you don't wake up. So I wasn't sleep. I was resting my eyes. So you don't wake up.

You open your eyes. You just said I wake up. Waking up means you were asleep. Well, people assume that when you close your eyes, you sleep. Right. So it's indicative to say that. I opened my eyes. I didn't just wake up.

Yeah, okay, so I just opened my eyes. So you don't think that's a way to show if a man is lying? She is way off with that. Way off. If y'all go for that, then y'all are following the wrong advice from people on Instagram. I think so, too. I agree with that 100%. I think that's...

She said, if you wake up, yeah, no, no, come on. So I'm going to show you a clip of this woman, right? And then you could react to it. Okay. This is the one. Men that are hyper fixated on this idea that women expire after the age of 30 are pedos. What the f f*** do you mean you are a whole ass grown ass man and you don't like a grown ass woman? Huh?

What do you like? Actually, don't answer that. I already know. You need to stay away from all schools, all playgrounds, and all children, boys and girls immediately and forever. You guys tell on yourselves every single f***ing time you make a comment on a grown woman's age. You're expired after 30. You're a monster. You are a monster and you need professional help.

You actually need to go to jail. And then if you get out, you need to go to hell immediately after. You're a sick. Individual. Not only are screws loose, but they're completely f***icing. Completely witnessing. You guys should be so ashamed and embarrassed to even say these intrusive thoughts you have out loud, right? You should get some professional.

help if you don't find women that are your age of age attractive. Yeah? Yeah. Okay. I hope you heard that loud and clear. I mean, how much more this I have to hear? I've already made an opinion on this. See, first off, you just skip the whole goddamn decade, girl.

So if a guy, say, past 30, you are pedophile? So if you mess with somebody, 29? that don't make sense. That don't make sense to me. Come on now. Don't don't. She's been hurt. You can tell that.

She got some pain in her heart. She must be cooked. Most of what I must call her cooked. Talking about you a petty if you don't mess with somebody over 30. Like, what, girl, you're cooked. Girl, man. I need you to come on this show and explain yourself, whoever that was. Because she got some animosity in her heart.

Calling Gats Petty. You should go to jail. You should go to hell. So if you, 45, you can't date a 29-year-old. 28, 27, 26, 25? I mean, that is a big age gap. Like, if I was 45... You're a grown-ass woman.

You're a grown-ass woman. Yeah, but if I was 45 and I was dating a 25-year-old, I would feel that that was strange. I would feel that it was weird. Because I have a nephew that's 25. But still, how is it strange if you've grown? Only Americans think like this. Let's not get into like that.

No, it's true. Only Americans. It's always been... Overseasease, they marry women that are... They marry girls that are 14. That's what you're saying. Right. And that's their culture. Right. And that's okay. But who's to say what's the proper age? Who's to say? Well, it's about your law in your country. Because like, if you go back in the days where guys, kings were marrying, you know, based on family. And I don't know what the age is. And I know there's laws in America. There's laws in all these different countries. Me personally, I think that there is something to an age gap. Like, I think 25 is the number.

For me, 25 is the number. 25 is the lowest I'm going. I don't care if I'm 78. 25 is the lowest. Let me tell you something. It's not about the laws. It's about the fact that up. No, to you.

Because no, it's not to me. It's to everybody. But I'm saying if the laws is 14, let me talk, because I just let you get your stuff off. If the laws is 14 and you want to date someone that's 14 because the law says that's okay, that's something mentally wrong with that man. And I'm going to tell you why.

Because at 14 years old, I was a 14 year old. You had daughters that were 14. At 14 years old, you know, just like I know, they have no business dealing with no grown-ass man. That is disgusting. Because, number one, you're not fully developed mentally. You don't even know your own body. You don't even understand your menstruation cycle.

You don't even understand how you operate. No, I'm going off into... No, I'm never saying nothing. No, but what I'm telling you, it doesn't matter. When you're... I was a woman, so I understand how it feels to be at all these different ages of being a woman. How do we get from 25 to 14? Because we're talking about the laws in different countries.

In different countries, you said it matters what the law says. That's what matters. In different countries, it's okay to date someone who's 14 years old. We're talking about the law. I don't know what these laws is in these other countries is. It's different. It's different. It's different.

I didn't say that. You got to rewind this. Rewan. I didn't say that. You didn't say the kings and the queens were dating young girls. They were dating young girls. I don't know the age. The ages were young.

They were 14, 15, 16 or 18 or not, I don't know. But even at 18, when I was 18, I didn't know nothing. Like, I was not developed in that way. And it's just, to me, I had no business dealing with a, like, that is sick to me. And on so many different levels, because if you want someone who's 18, to me, it shows me that you just want someone that is not mentally mature, that's not developed, that's just going to let's go with the okey-doke and just be with whatever. If that's what you want, cool.

But at the same time, it's like, if you want to have an actual relationship and not just like a dictatorship, then you should want someone who actually can talk to you that can understand the world on a different level. At 18, you don't understand life like that. Like, I'm sure you. I mean, you have daughters. That's 17, probably going to be 18. What age do you numbers? You know how kids operate. You look at your daughters as grown women to deal with 50-year-old men.

No, you don't. You look at them like they barely still know how to breast date. teeth at that age. They still don't know how to take care of themselves fully at that age. They still need me to take care of them. They still need me to do all this stuff for them. When you see actual kids grow, you know that that's not. Why are you closing your eyes?

What are you so? I'm listening. No, go ahead. Say what you want to say. I'm listening. Like for me, when I see that because I'm nieces that are that age, when I watch those people, what? I'm listening.

Because you look like you want to say something. I will say it when you're done. I'm done. I'm done. You done. Yes. I get what you're saying. But it's like for me, I'm not into that teenage and grown man thing. I completely agree.

But also, man, you got to understand. Like, I don't see, like, when I was in high school, it was girls in my school that was like 16, 17, grown men picking them up. Who when you say grown with it, like 23? I don't know. You're grown to me. You're driving. You got a whole beard.

Being 23. I don't know. And dating someone who's 17 is different than being 45 and 48. But I said 25. I said 25. You're saying you would date someone who's 25 and you're damn near 50 years old. So they're 25 years younger than you. That is like ridiculous, crazy age.

That's not ridiculous. What age are you a grown woman? You, you, it takes you a minute to really. So 25, 25. I just think that me when I was 20. At 25? It's not done. It's like I have no business being with a 50-year-old man when I'm 25.

If she likes them, like you act like that don't want what I don't happen. It is what it is. I don't really care. But my daughter, when she was 25, I pray she don't come home with a 50-year-old man. That would be, I would be looking at that man crazy. It don't matter how y'all look. A man. And when you're older, it's a difference.

Whether you look cool or not, there's a huge difference from a man that's 35. Just like you say there's a huge difference with women. Oh, there's a huge difference. difference from a man. A man who's younger and a man who's older, it's a very big difference. And just like you say, women are cooked over 30 and all this stuff, it's the same thing. Like, men who are older operate way differently than a man who's younger. But it's okay for a woman to date a young man. I don't think that's okay. I literally think it's disgusting and disturbing. I say that all the time.

I think it's extremely wrong. It's, y'all double standard everything. I don't double standard it, but you're the one who said double standards are okay. Did you not? Yeah, it depends on what side or something. It's okay for a woman to do it, but it's not okay for a man. Yeah, that's the double standard we talk about. Right. So you think it's okay for a man to do that and a woman not.

I don't think it's okay for a woman today, though. I think we don't look at it the same. Yeah, I can agree with you. And let me just say this. What the girl said about men being pedophiles because they like that, I think that's ridiculous. That's super ridiculous. And I don't agree with that at all.

Like she's taking it way far. Girl, get your shit together because you're just saying anything for click base. I don't know what her name is. It's not relevant. You pulled the route. Yeah, but I don't care about what her name is. The point of the matter is you saying that to me is like just categorizing a group of men to be pedophiles is very, very reckless to stay on the hang of that. We're going to do all of this in the edit.

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Like sexually Physical turnoffs Emotionally What turns a man off Woo Man What turns a man off Physically by the woman?

Yeah Sexually Sexually emotionally emotionally anything like what are some turnoffs like being

what is a situation though but what's the situation we gotta come up with the scenario first date your girl your wife second third day we just met

like it's levels to it because my like your girl can do something that's a first day can't do right you know what I'm saying

so let's talk about the first day what are instant it's like like little things. Like, it could be little things. Like, for instance, if I want a date in a first date with a man, right? And, like, I get it, like, not all men are gentlemen, so they're not going to necessarily open the car door. Okay, we know that. That's, like, wishful thinking

with a man, right? And I don't expect that every time. But, like, we're on a first date, and if a man is, like, chopping it down, getting in the car first, getting comfortable, and I'm in my heels just standing there. What you mean? What? That's blowing me. And you never unlock the car for me to get in the car immediately, no, because you're inconsiderate. Like, let's say, like, the man is talking to someone and, like, moving slow, and he just has you sitting at the car door like this.

And where he at? He's moving around. He's getting to his door, taking a long time. Then he gets in the car, closes his door, gets comfortable, and then unlocks the door, and you're just standing there in your heels. Like, a first day, I'm never talking to you again. And that's a small thing as a woman.

What kind of car is it? It doesn't matter. Why is it? Yeah, that's bad. No, it doesn't. I don't care if he was in a Bentley. Don't ever. He got the Rose Royce, baby, whatever you got.

If I'm standing there in hills, while you get comfortable as a grown-ass man. And put a seatbelt on and then put a seatbelt on and get comfortable and adjust. And then unlock the door, you're blowing me. You petty as hell. That's not petty. Most women will do that.

It's called being a gentleman, but I guess that's a lost part in this society. What if he had to clean the seat? He had to clean the seat. He didn't. He didn't. Unlocked the door way before that. You should see. your woman standing there that's so inconsiderate men don't think about those things a woman got

dressed she put on heels she got cracking for you it's cold outside you're standing there you're waiting you're waiting so it's over it's like it's like you're a grown-ass man that did not consider me those little things i could just i could foresee in the future like this is the thing i'll give you a second date to see if you're going to do some shit like that again because i give people a little chance like let's see if you just that was just a one-off you was drinking was vibed and you just did some weird shit. So he must say got one of the, so all right, so he ain't got that car to when he walk up to the door unlocked?

No, I mean, your side, the one person's side unlocked. That's what I'm saying. He just walked up. He didn't even grab his key. But no, that doesn't happen. Even the rangerover doesn't do that. Yeah, dude. No, it doesn't.

You stand at that door. Trust me. Until it's unlocked and the handle comes out. It does the passing, the driver's side. And then you want to get out, your ass crack is showing. Once the ass crack is showing, once the ass. shows when you're getting out the car, that's blowing. Who for a guy?

As a man. The guy? Yeah, no. I don't want to see an ass crack as a man. And I don't want to see no like draws, ass out. Why is your ass out? Like, if your ass is out. Okay.

You're doing too much. Damn, I guess for me, if this is a first day, you wear tennis shoes, you blow on me. You coming in some Jordans. I don't give a damn thing. The nice of Jordan, you blow on me. That is blow me. First date, I'm taking you the mask throws. some Jordan's on.

I'm like, what? Like, come on, throw the heels on. This is the first D's Nate, right? Damn, what? I'm coming in with some Jordans. I'm not crying. Gotta blow me.

I'm gonna be like, man, you know what? I'm gonna re, I'm gonna be like, we ain't going here. I'm gonna have to take you somewhere else. I'm gonna adjust on based on how you dress. I'm gonna have to take you to end and out.

No, we ain't going to Mastro's, not like this. No, I'm good. That's going to turn me off. Then another thing, what? What on some physical? What? Another thing that's going to drive me, that's going to run me low.

The first day, second day, where are we at with it? What are we looking like? Anyway, first or second? First day, second day, third day, whatever. Yeah. All right. I don't like the fact if we go to the restaurant and no, this is the thing.

This is going to blow me. You don't tell me you vegan before we go out. That's going to blow me. Don't tell me. I didn't look up. I didn't got you to the best spot. Now you're telling me you vegan and all of this. I'm like, damn, I got you to the best steakhouse.

And you ain't even tell me that. That'll blow me. I mean, I can work with you. But like, damn, come on. You got to give me better communication. Yeah. Okay. Is that there?

And then if you ain't having no drinks with your boy, then I don't even know if we can date. Damn. I mean, we got to be able to have a glass of wine. Some damn. Like, damn. You know, like, I was in a relationship with someone, my ex was a vegan and he was a vegetarian and he didn't drink.

That ain't going to work for me. But he was a gangster, but he didn't drink. And we had a ball, though. I didn't gangstom. No, just because you don't drink. Or he steak. No, yeah. No, his thing was like people had to be high or drunk.

He was like, I feel like in L.A. Because he was from New York, Brooklyn. He was like, I feel like in L.A. man, have to be drunk and high to like want to get crap. Like, what's up? He was like, I don't have to be drunk. Huh? To talk to her females?

No, to like other men, like he'd be on, had on a swivel. No, we just out having a good time. But if someone has a good personality and they don't need to be lit, then they don't need to be lit, because I feel like, you know. I mean, I didn't date. I didn't date a girl who didn't do none of that. And it was cool. It was cool.

So I don't feel like that you have to drink. But that was a long time ago, over decades ago. So now it changed. So now it's just like you have to have liquor. Because I could be a vibe without no liquor. I can have a ball. You got to have a glass of wine. Well, you got to be on my vibe.

You got to be on my energy. Let's have a glass of wine or something. Come on. Let's go. We ain't doing nothing tonight, you know. Come on now. Like you over there, look. square.

Come on now. Let's kick it. What's going on? That's crazy. What if I'm on some like, I'm on a like detox, honey? I'm getting my life. All right.

I'm going to hit you up after your detox. How long your detox is going to be? What? Two more three, three more weeks. So, okay. Let me see what else is going on. Oh, a relationship now. No, let's say you're in a relationship with a person is like,

y'all started out drinking and hitting it. And they're like, look, I'm not going to be drinking for like three, four months because I'm trying to get on a serious thing. Okay. I'm detoxing, I'm vibing, you're going to be like, I'm cool. No, you good. I respect that. How you respect it then, but you can't respect it by dating someone.

Because when we're dating, when I get you a couple of drinks, you're going to tell the truth, and I'm going to learn a lot about you. So that's going to tell me a lot. This is going to be crazy. I don't know about this one. Okay, I guess. I think another thing that's a turnoff to, too, this is a turn off.

If I go out with a man that's first, second, third day and you're sloppy, motherfucking drunk and you're a grown-ass man, that's out for me. What? Like, you're supposed to be... How am I looking to you?

And you're just sloppy. And it's funny because my home girl, and she's going to be bad that. I said this, but she went on a date with someone I know, and I actually hooked them up. And they were out, and this man passed out,

feigning on the ground at the club or something. And she said she never looked at that man ever again. He was so hurt. He was called me like a woman. sorry, I love her, I don't know what to do. She was like, I can never take, I will never look at this. That happened to me before. You feigning? No, I went out

on the day, and the first day, she fainted. I was good. Now, people be good off of that. I'm cool. I'm sloppy, drunk. And you know what I'm crying? You know what it was crazy too? She wasn't even drunk or nothing. She just fainted. Look, she didn't even have no drink. The drink didn't even get there yet. It was like I had a cigar or something

and she fainted because of the cigar. And I was like, and I was with a couple of the homie, I was like, get her up out of here. They're going to think you dragged her down. That's what I'm saying. That's why I was like, they don't think I did something. So I was just like, no, we can't, I can't do this. It was all on cameras and stuff.

And it was just like, no, I can't. No, you know what? What if you're on a date with a girl and she falls down the stairs? Twice in a night. Let's say she fell down one time. What date is this? How many days? How many days?

She fell down the stairs And then she got up and her ankle was weak So then she fell down again twice in one motherfucking night How many dates is this? First date It's been a week First date for a week I'm good

I'm like you know what I can't do this She over here She's tricky She's tricky I'm like What's going I can't take you nowhere

Damn What if she's like, I never fell? This is like crazy. Like, I promise you, I haven't felt it years. What you don't understand is your girl is a reflection of you. If these motherfuckers looking at me seeing my chick fall all the time, they're going to be like, damn people. What if she's like, it's a one-time thing?

I never, ever fall. I haven't fallen in 10 years. It's my shoes. She's lying, though. My shoes have me crazy. It's hooking on the things down my ankle week. Like, damn. No, we're good.

We're good. No, I feel that. If I'm on a day with a man in the first week and he fell. Twice? Twice. I'm never dealing with that. He fell twice. And then a man is so big.

Why he keep falling. And a big ass man just falling. He just falling all the time. He's just falling all the time. It's not all the time. You understand? This is an impression you make when it's at the beginning. It's the first week.

Like you, you're blowing me. Like, damn, you're falling? You dropping? You're spilling. What have you really messed out on someone so good? All right. How about this? You're on the first date.

And he accidentally bumped the wine and it's spill on your dress. But it's a great date. I would see him again. I'll be pissed. And then what if he's like, I'm going to buy you a new dress? Yeah, we crack you.

It's all white and you're supposed to go to the Chris Brown concert after. You can't go home and change. Why? So now he's like, we're going to miss the concert if you go home. We missed the concert. It's okay. Just miss the concert. I'm going to be all right.

Like, I'm not trimmed. I'm no concert that hard. I'm not tripping. I'm no Chris Brown. And at the end of the day, that's a great concert, I'm sure. But it's just like, cool. The usher concert. I don't care who it is.

Like, I'm going to be all right. I'm not pressed for nothing. And at the end of the day, if it fell and it's a great day, and I'm vibing, and you're like, look, I'm going to get you a new dress. Because if you're not going to get me a new dress, that's blowing me. He's like, I'll take it to the cleaners. Yeah, I can do that too. I'll be cool if you're going to take it to the cleaners.

Yeah, if you take it to the cleaners, it's cool. I'm going to take it to the cleaners, whatever the world. What if he's like, I have a whole bunch of dresses in my trunk. I'm like, this is crazy. He a player. I will blow me. That's what I'm like, you know what? You're blowing me.

He's like, no, it's my sisters. She hasn't been here. I'm going to say, no. He got. He got work on deck if you got a bunch of dresses in his trunk. Anyways, if prescribed new sexual health patients get $15 off their first order of sparks on a reoccurring plan. Connect with the provider at row.com slash TAD to find out of prescription. Roe sparks are right for you.

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How many days it lasts? Huh? It's not going to last for days. It's a few hours. Who's being hard for three days? Like, this is crazy. That's how these things work, girl. You don't know how these things work?

Well, I'm not 50-year-old man, so I wouldn't know. Have you dealt with this before? Like Viagran things? Yeah, I'll try to. They last for days, though. I don't want to do it. Ask D Nail, D Nail, no, too. They last for days.

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Wait, and then you have to put them like under your tongue or something. That's what I do. Man, they're kind of sweet, too. It tastes kind of like candy and medicine at the same time. Why would you take that right now? This is crazy. This is the Roast Sparks segment. Okay, go ahead.

So I got to let everybody know what they're doing. Are you going to come back with an update? They got to watch the next episode for the update. The what? The next episode for the update. Make sure y'all tune in. Let y'all know what's going on. Lord.

Look, let me take it straight because you don't stress me out. You can't be a host and be stressed out. I can be what I want to be. No, you got to be able to deal with the heat. You got the boots on the night, the knee thigh high. You got the thigh high boots on the night, I'll see. Stop. Why you got the thigh high boots on the night?

Is it with my outfit? You go with your outfit. Yeah, it does. Let me see. Stand up. They look cool. What are you see? You don't never want to see your outfits.

Everybody see my office when I'm back outside. When you back outside. You back outside? No, I'm just saying like when I'm walking through life, people see my office, but I'm not going to stand up and do a whole thing on the show. That's just crazy. I thought this was after dark.

Yeah, that's cool. You got your toes out. They already got feet picks. Okay? That's enough for them. Anyways, back. to what we're saying. So Ari, money bag, yo,

G. Herbos baby mom and money bag yo's girl. I've been seeing stuff on her. A lot of Lederie. Fletcher, she said for the right price she would definitely let someone shit on her period. Carisha was like, no, young Miami was like, no, I would not do it for no price. Like she was like, P, yeah. But Rari was like, girl,

you have the right price? Yeah, I'm getting shitting on 100%. I don't give it down. Where at? Everywhere. Anywhere. There's no perimeter. Damn. People are getting shit to know. I told you.

People are getting shit on. We talked about this. Yeah. You ever been shitting on? I ask a question. Ari said she is a price. You know what? I'm asking you.

I asked you a question like. Have you been shitting on? Right. So that's ridiculous. Don't ask me no shit like that. Well, you're saying that's the thing going on with girls now. Like this is not a thing for men. No, men.

In Dubai? The whole part is they shit on you and you shit on them. They like to be shitting on too. What's your price? I don't have a price. I'm not getting shitted on. I already told you this before. Like, no one is shitting on me.

Like, I will not degrade myself on that level for no money. There's a lot of other things I could do to get a few dollars than get shitted on. But he was like, yeah, I got this $30,000. $30,000 to get shitted on? You sound ridiculous. No. I think that's the going rate. That's what they've been saying.

I'm not getting shit down for $30,000. 30,000? What have you done for 30,000? What would you do for 30,000? Not much. I'm going to say that right now. No. That's crazy. I'm not doing much for 30,000. For 30,000. Outside of like, for my man, like. Would you do the Vince Carter on True After Dark for 30,000? Yeah. Well, you'll do something in for 30,000. For 30,000 to do a 360. That sounds stupid as hell. If they want to fund 30,000 for that, cool, run that. Run that up. Girl, you got to get your hustle up, 30,000. That's a good amount of money.

For fully clothed standing up for 30,000, anyone would do that. That sounds too much. Yeah, but you said I wouldn't do much for 30,000. But I'm saying, like, for 30,000, as far as, like, anything that's not fully clothed or sexual or favors and all that or whatever else, I'm not doing none of that. Like, I'm not a whore. You cannot buy me. I didn't. Nobody said no sex.

No, I'm just clarifying that in case anyone was confused. He was going there without. So a man on Pop the Balloon was saying that there was a woman that he had picked or whatever. Yeah. She had on an outfit. And it wasn't like crazy revealing, but it was just like a little jumpsuit, showed a little curve, showed a little body. And he was like, you know, on a scale to 1 to 10, how revealing do you think your outfit is? And she was like, probably like 6 or 7.

And he was like, okay, so how revealing do you dress typically? She was probably like six or seven And he was like, okay, well, I like you Would you be willing to tone that down If we were in a relationship? And she was like, absolutely not. Why would not do that? Like, I'm not going to be willing to do that actually.

Do you feel like when a woman gets in a relationship She should start toning down how she dresses? I think if he liked her like that Then what you What you're looking for, bro? Like, everybody's going to expect. they cars. This is what you liked about her, right? You liked her in the

six or seven range of her dress. So now you get what her, you want her to go to three, four, and then now when she had the three four, you're going to be like, this ain't what I met. I need you to do stuff how it was when you met.

Like, I don't like that. Like, and it's vice versa. Like, for a girl with a man, this is how I was when we met. Now you want me to go back to the three, four. This is what I was Oh, and that's where things get misconstrued in relationships because you like that. That's the reason you like me because you liked how I dressed. You don't know me from that we just met, right?

You like my look. So what do you know about me that saying that I need to tone it down? And we just set a few words to each other. But you like this. And now that's controlling. It really is. Like, because I like, shoot, I can look at a woman. be like, damn, she's cracking.

She got a whole suit on. We love to say this. Like, for real, I'm like, damn, I'm sophisticated. I like that. Now, if you go from that to, like, being all revealing, I'm like, damn, what happened to the look I met you in, you know? And if we get together and be a couple, I'm like, man, I liked you when I met you like that.

I get it. But, like, if you met her like that, you knew what you like. You're just trying to, like, tone her, down for what? I mean, turn her up. Yeah, I feel like in my past relationship's issue would be like wearing bright colors.

Like I wasn't allowed to wear bright colors. Like blue or green, like a workout outfits or anything because it was just like, oh, it brings attention. But that was like, oh, you can't wear that. You was cool with that, right? Yeah, I was okay with it. I was like, all right, cool, you know?

Or like... You didn't feel like it was controlling? No. No, it was cool. Or if he was just like, oh, don't wear that. Yeah. Okay. Like, oh, you're not wearing that tonight.

Like, okay, cool. You know, like, whatever. I don't think that that's a big battle for me to fight. Like, I just feel like that's whatever. Like, if you're not comfortable, then, okay. Like, it is what it is. You're a man. So sometimes when I wear things, I'm not looking at it as like, ooh,

something to something. Like, you know, little things that I don't look at. Like, so if you feel uncomfortable with it, then I won't wear it. Yeah. Like, it's just very simple. For me, I think that's an easy compromise, just in my opinion. But everyone is different. So everyone has a different opinion on what they prefer.

You know, or like a man will feel like if you're with me, you could wear whatever. But if you're not with me, you're going out to here with your home girls, then like, this is crazy. Yeah. You know, so it's just, I guess it just depends. There was a viral list of careers going around. around online that is a do not date list of careers. Or men or women. Both.

Personal trainers, athletes, content creators, nurses, firefighters. You just name half the world. This is who says, I guess you can't day half the world. This is the list. And they're basically saying like these, these professions are the most. Traders? Like promiscuous of all of them, basically.

So what else? Truck drivers, personal trainers, photographers and models, rappers, police, entertainment. Security, athletes, pastors, teachers, and contact creators. You said everything in the entertainment field then. That's pretty much covered. Well, the police isn't technically entertainment. That just covered the whole entertainment field, though.

So take away the entertainment field. Then you got people who work for the city, which is like security and police. Like, and then what? Drug drivers. Like, what are you looking for then? Teachers. What are you looking for then? What's, what's, you just said the whole population of America.

No, I mean, there's like people in finance. There's people in HR. There's people in real estate. There's people in, and there's a lot of more professions, you know. There's people in, you know. All a part of what that list was, too, though. It's associated with that list. Not finance.

Where is finance associated with that list? Where's HR associated with that list? Girl, you was not getting nobody in finance. So, calm down. No, that person who said that. I'm so good. I was like, what? Oh, no, no.

So what they're saying? They're saying that you should not date these people because these people are horrors. And they're going to cheat, and they're just not good people to be. be around, you know, you're on that list. I guess technically, if you want to consider me a content creator, I'm on that list too. You hold that list too. Influencers. Like, what the hell? The same thing.

She's talking about herself because she probably put influencer on her Instagram page. That's what it is. Like, come on, don't contradict yourself. I mean, I think that you date who you date. If they rock with you and you cool, then it don't matter. You know what I'm saying? But they do say like nurses and personal trainers cheat all the time. and flight attendants.

They say those are the main jobs. It's funny because it's a viral thing on TikTok where flight attendants be like, it's like this thing where they say how many bodies I have when I started doing flight attending. And it'll be like three. And it's like how many bodies I've had now that I've been a flight attendant for a year.

And it'd be like 25. And then they'll put the little man and the woman. They'll be like five women, 25 men. And it goes, like so many women are doing that viral like, baby getting it cracking on the flight attendant. They're traveling now, going to this country, that country. I'm eating this food. I'm meeting people on the flight.

Yeah, yeah, I mean, no, they ain't meeting them on a flight. They're meeting them where they get. No, I heard they meeting them on the flights. They meet them on the flights, too. They're meeting them at where they're at. They're going to stay like, I got two nights and over here in Franswa. Let's see. Are we, we, we?

You know what I'm saying? They're like, you know what I mean. So, damn, come on now. Okay, so there's a viral meme. Another viral meme? Yeah, it's a lot of them. means we got. And it says, and it says, if you're in a relationship, I should be able to tell by looking at your IG feed. A lot of y'all look single, but you're not. Why don't y'all like posting

your significant others on your page? To keep my relationship private. I don't need nobody in my business. I don't need nobody DM in her. I don't need all that attention coming to my significant other. We know. That's all that matter. I don't got to floss you. I don't got to let the world do all of that. Come on, man. That's, that's lame a lot of the times. I mean, like,

because you're putting yourself out there for criticism, you're putting yourself out there for other people that hate. You're putting yourself out there for people who, like, criticize for people to, like, try to get at your girl or discredit you or, and all of that. Like, then that's where creeps come in at.

Like, people who publicize their relationship, all the time, that'd be like the beginning of the end, for the most part. I mean, I will say this, like, I've been in relationships that were on my Instagram or whatever. We posted each other. But it wasn't that serious because maybe, like, we're not celebrities, so it's probably different for you. Yeah, it's different for me. But, you know, for me, like, I don't know. I don't know.

I don't know. I don't do, like, family. Yeah, I'll do, like, family, like, oh, we're with my family. We all took a picture. And then it's like, oh, I'll post that. Or, like, it's like, it was. was just easy because it's like I was with this person for so long we're together like I'm not hiding it I'm just like posting stuff

and you're right there cool reviving cute little stuff but it wasn't an issue you know I think the hardest part is like if you break up then you take all the pictures down and then it was in your business and they're like damn well what happened why you got not together anymore it just brings up too much questions whatever whatever but you know like whatever like I don't think that it matters matters to me, like either way, to be honest. So is it okay to follow your ex or people used to date when you're in a new relationship on Instagram?

Is it okay to follow people you used to date? Or your ex? That's not a big deal to me. Okay. So you don't mind if someone like they follows their ex or people they dated. It's not a big deal. Okay. So you're like whatever.

I don't even like searching to see if you even doing it. But what if you know the ex and you know she follows him and she's, He's liking all his pictures and stuff. Why are you liking the pictures? Why are you following him? Because I don't got time to go through the unfollow. Every fucking body. I mean, you know who your exes.

Damn, how many people you dated? Talk about everybody, millions of people? Yeah. No, I didn't date millions of people. Then how was it so many people then? I mean, I could have been out with like 25 girls on one day. What? What?

Yeah. You were out with 25 girls. No, I'm just saying like, date, like, when you get to sing, I could have just been like one day with them and be like, I never talked to them. Yeah, but your ex is different. To me, I don't follow none of my exes. I feel like my exes, I'm not following you on Instagram. I'm not keeping up with the Kardashians.

I don't have to see what you're up to, what you're doing, what new tattoo you got, what car are you by? I don't care about none of that. It don't even matter because they're not in my algorithm because I'm not liking their pictures, so I'm not even seeing them anyway. Yeah, I feel like. they in the algorithm, that's saying something different. Like, if you're like, hey, look, and we scroll it and your X coming up on the algorithm,

yeah, let's talk about it now. But if you just following them, I'm not even tripping, but if I see you in the algorithm on the scroll, that that's telling me that you comment and or liking them. Because people fall completely out of my algorithm. Like, I don't see them, and I might be following them for years, and I never see them. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? You know how that work.

So I don't think that's a big deal. This is the more or less segment brought to you by price picks, where you can win real cash by picking just more or less on your favorite players. Use code T-A-D and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. So we're going to play a game today, and you're going to tell me what do you think is more disrespectful? Okay, so what do you think is more disrespectful? Hiding your phone or going through your partner's phone? hiding your phone I mean I don't think

what do you mean hiding your phone like hiding and you can't look at my phone like being weird like just you know someone's overly like protective like I think it's more disrespectful to go through your partner's phone truthfully

like if they go in the other room and you being all sneaky and shit like come on man just be like damn what is it like before I even go through your phone I'm gonna know something as up because I don't even have to I don't even have to do all that to know

you can you like when you're around somebody so much and you know their tendencies and you see how they move, you're going feel it in like your conscience. You're going to feel it like something ain't right. Something is off. Something is, you know, it ain't really moving like it was moving before. And, you know, now you being all with, like, I'm going to know, like, it is something going on.

Your conscience speaks. And if you don't listen, and it'll just fly over your head. So I just think it's disrespectful to be sneaky about going through somebody found. Just ask, like, you know, there's something going on? What's up? Read the room. Feel the temperature. Like, who, who you been with?

Like, what's going on? Talk about it. Like, why we ain't this? Why are we, it's going to be signs of everything. Definitely. Before you even have to go through somebody phone. And when you address that, you're going to be able to tell, like, you know, whatever it is, you're going to figure it out.

Yeah, for sure. You know, you got to do all of that. If you don't, then you don't know your partner. I agree. I think going through your partner's phone is really disrespectful. It's an invasion of privacy. You don't know what that person has in there. It could be stuff like personal about someone else's business.

Like it's just a lot. And personally, I don't rock with that. And like you said, there's signs. Like, I always feel it ahead of time and know. And I'm just like fall back. Like, you know, I could feel it. I don't need to do all of that. Yeah.

What do you think is more descriptive? texting your ex. Happy birthday, my love. Or deleting messages from somebody else knew? Deleted messages from somebody else knew. Yeah, like you're dealing with someone, you're being sneaky, you're deleting the messages, or texting your ex. Which was worse? Someone new or texting your ex.

Deleting new. Like, what's new? A new person. Like, why is there new if we're together? Why is there a text messages if we're together? Because it might be a respect factor. There's no respect. You don't have to respect your ex.

Like, that's weird to me. Why are you texting an ex that you don't have nothing? no... If you don't have no connection to your ex? You don't have no connection. Like no kids? Yeah, no kids. Okay, if it's no kids,

is it more disrespectful to text your ex happy birthday, my love, or something new? I think they equal. I think it's the same thing. Okay. What do you think it's more disrespectful to vent to your friends

about your relationship and tell them like negative stuff or to vent to the opposite sex? it's way more disrespectful to to vent to the opposite sex because if it's opposite sex you vent to unless it's like you got a gay dude right you know

a lot of gay a lot of girls vent to like they gay friends yeah that would be your friends but that's the opposite sex yeah but gay we know gay is different don't don't it's both bad for me

because now it invites like that negative energy and that negative type of like, just aura into your relationship because they always going to ride on your side. They're going to be like, girl, you don't need him. And then the dude going to do the same thing too. Like, well, you know, I've been telling you. You know what I'm saying?

Well, it depends, though, because I think I got super lucky because my friends will tell me like, bitch, you're dead wrong. Like, I'll literally ask my friends like, am I tripping? Like, before I would even approach my partner, like, I'll text them like, is this crazy? am I tripping? And they'll literally, like they'll literally be like, you tripping, chill.

But like there's circumstances too. But like say like you vent into like your man's best friend. That y'all cool. He's like your brother. He's like your brother. He like your brother though.

He like your brother though. That's crossing the line. I don't think that's crossing the line. I think that's weird. I think if you talking to his best friend and he trusts y'all together and y'all like brother and sister, I don't think that's a,

I don't think that. I think that's really weird. Because think about this, don't, like, you got to listen, though. You got to pay attention. So you got to, like, thinking, like, damn, who else know him better outside of his partner, his best friend? So, like, you be like, man, what do I have to do? What do you think? You're talking to him.

And he giving you some real-ass game. Like, you know what, man, he's been going. He might tell his best friend something. He ain't told you. Like, man, you know what? He ain't want to tell you, but he's going through some, like, turmoil with this and that and all of that. just, you know, bear with them. It might can help.

You know what I'm saying? Yeah, but that's because your best friend is always going to be on your side, so it's biased. Like, I feel like it, even if the man is wrong, my best friend's going to, like, promote that you stay with me, that you make it work, even if it's like, no, man to the therapist. They get a therapy. But he might give you some game, too, about, like, you know,

some things he might not want to tell you. I get that. I've done that before. I understand. I get it. So why are you off it? I'm off of it because it always gets tricky. It's always a tricky situation.

He tried to get at you now. Nah, but it just creates a weird life. And you're friends with the best friend's girlfriend too. You're friends with both of them. That's really gets tricky. You never supposed to vent to the best friend's girlfriend. No, no, no, but you know them. We all cool.

Like, you just be like, we all cool. You know what I'm saying? I mean, I never did that. I'm just trying to hypothetically speak or, you know, just kind of like say that's a situation. to where that can be a thing. You know, I've never done that. Like, I ain't never called my boy,

a wife, and be like, man, you know, I'm going through it with such and such, I've never done that. But I can see a situation to where that can, like. I mean, I've done that before, for sure, because it's been years with this person and they're, like, family at this point. Like, our whole family.

Yeah, like, what if you're taking, like, vacations with all of them and stuff? And, like, the whole family, it's like, it's not weird. I'm telling you, you're looking at it, like, on some young, like, high school. I'm not looking at anything on high school stuff or college stuff. Okay, so what's worse? What's more disrespectful?

Lying about where you are or lying about who you're with? I think it's more disrespectful to lie about who you're with. Because, you know, some cats don't be one to tell they woman. I'm at the strip club. You know, I'm at the spot with the homies. But I'm with the, like, I don't know, it's just a certain situation. I know you don't like me being here, but then I'll tell you later, like, you know what? I lied.

I was at the strip club or I lied. I was more of them because who you with, that's way more suspicious now. Because I like, the people you're around, you like, because you're going to like start coming up with stuff in your mind. But, like, where you at, you know, you can, you can go, you can come clean with that. It just made be a spot you don't like me to be at. And I just like, man, I was at here. I was right here, you know, it wasn't nothing. But I don't want to tell you at the time because I didn't want to argument.

And I was with Wu-di Wu, he can confirm. But, like, saying people who you win, that's tricky. That's tricky. That's like, oh, no, that's, uh-uh. I think that's why. What about you? What you think? I think lying about who you're with for sure is more tricky.

Yeah. Because who the fuck are you with that you got to lie about it? Yeah. Who are you with that you got to lie about it? Why about that? Why are you lying about going to the strip club either, though? Because you probably said, I don't like you doing all that. But then it was the homies and I just wanted to go.

And, you know, they was all like, damn. Oh, you got, you know, you, you wear the panties in the relationship. And you can't do nothing. You know what I'm saying? Guys get peer pressure like that from their homies. People need to understand who they're in a relationship with more and adjust. Because if you're with a relationship with someone who likes to go out all the time, or y'all are always hitting it,

that's because that's what he likes to do with or without you. He's going to be outside. So it's like, if you know you have someone like that and that's not your vibe, then I don't know why you're rocking with that person because that's what the person's going to do. What about talking bad about your partner when you're mad or giving them the silent treatment?

Talking bad about your partner when you're mad. Yeah. It's way more disrespectful than the side. I take the silent treatment. I'm going to say the silent treatment. If I get the silent treatment, I promise you like that's almost like I'm going to break up with that person. That's like one of my highest non-negotiables.

If I'm messing with someone and they're silent, it is though. That's bad. You know, the silent trip is like a form of like major disrespect. Like you're going to ignore me intentionally. No, I'm cool on that. Like I'm, that's like to me, I'm so cool on that. that. Like, I can't tell you how much that bothers me. Like, I could deal with a lot of stuff. I'd rather

you argue with me, talk it out with me, figure it out with me. But if you're going to ignore me for a day, if you're going to ignore me for days, like, get a new girl. By the time those days are up, I'm cool. Like, I promise I'm cool. If I ever give somebody the silent treatment, that's because I am going to say something that I might regret, and it's best that I stay quiet. Not for I'm going to say something that's going to be breakable up with. If I have this. Breakable up with. Yeah, breakable up with.

If I have to say something. So I'll just like take the high road. I'm like, I'm going to shut up because I'm, I'm dangerous. If I got the side of the treatment, and you bring out the silent treatment because I'm like, you know,

it's best for me to be goddamn quiet. Because I'm going to say something that's going to really break us up. So I'm going to just keep it quiet. Yeah. I don't like, I don't talk with science. I'd rather someone. will tell me like, yo, give me like a minute.

And we're good, just give me a minute. All right, so three words. It's good. Give me a minute. Like, we're good, but give me a minute. I just, I don't want to say nothing. Break up a bullet with it. And then walk out of the room and slam the goddamn door. Anyways. That's the same thing. Side of the treatment.

So what's more disrespectful? Staying in contact with someone who you know wants you or pretending that you don't know their intentions. Staying in contact with what? Staying in contact, like you're still cool with someone and you know they want you. They know you know y'all have like a vibe or something and you know they're on you and you still cool with them

or just pretending like I don't really know that they want me. Like not acknowledging it. As long as you keep the boundaries, I don't know about that. Like say that one more time. What's more of a red flag? What's more disrespectful? Disrespectful.

Stay in contact with someone who wants you. Like, y'all are talking, y'all are cool, and you know they want you, or pretending you don't know someone wants you, like, you don't know their intentions. That don't make sense. Stop there. Yeah, it does, because you're pretending like, nah, what, like, this is cool. Like, they're not on that. You're tripping.

Like, you just think they want me, they don't want me, but you know, you know. Because you know when someone wants you, for real. It's a, it's a, it's a, it's a, it's a, it's a, it's a delusion if you don't. If that's the case, like, think about any girl who has any contact with a guy or, or like, like, every guy at some point of knowing this girl is going to want to get at them. But as long as you keep it stiff arm out in the distance, then what you're going to do about that? So that's not staying in contact. What does it like stand in contact mean? Like how often?

Whenever. Once every six months? Anytime. Like whenever you want to. This should not be that hard. This is hard. Come on. Like what?

It really is. It's really not. For me personally, I know like if I'm in a relationship, if I was in a relationship and I have men that want me and they're texting me like, hey, what's up? Like literally, I just. had a situation where I was out with somebody that I was dealing with and I saw this guy and he said what's up and he was someone that I dated very briefly and he knew I was with this person and then every day you're texting I fumbled shake my head what's up did you tell your person

hey what's up did you tell your person yeah I did I did I did so like this is crazy so why are you texting all the time now. Like, are you crazy? Like, you saw that I was with this person. I've never had that situation. But men are, that's what I'm trying to tell you. Men are like that. So if I'm cool with this person,

mind you, this is not even a person I slept with or anything. It was just someone who had interest in me. And I never wanted them. Like, it was a cool. And you're just every day like, damn, you look so good. I fumbled. And it's just like, ignore, block. Like, I'm blocking.

Why am I not blocking that person? I've never had to deal with that. But as a way, woman, that's what I'm saying. Women deal with that. So it's disrespectful to stay in contact with that person. Yeah, for a woman. It's like, men.

But men are the ones doing it. Men are the ones doing it. So it's not, it's not. What? Okay, we're moving on from this. Anyways, thank you to our good friends at prize picks, America's number one sports pick app. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5.

Okay. Yeah. So A-Sap Rocky, he said that when he met his, if he met like his girl earlier, he feels like he wouldn't have been ready, timing is super important when you beat a woman. He's like, you know, like if I know I would have probably messed this up, if it would have been earlier in my life when I met her. And he was like, and I also feel like the right woman in your life is amazing because it like takes the blindfold off of your eyes. Like she'll tell you like, that's not really your friend for real, or this person is trying to do this, or this person is trying to do that. And he's like, you know, his woman, like, has changed his life so much for the better. Oh, that's dope. Yeah, and he's talking about Rihanna, obviously,

because him and Rihanna are together. And he said that in his other relationships. And she'll make it easy when you're a woman a millionaire, too. Right. Easy to take the blindfolds off. But you know what? They look like they have an actual really dope relationship.

I ain't she neither. I ain't shit. She got too much resources to find out if I'm cheap. I'm good. I'm good right now. I'm a settle in. I'm settling in. I'm settling in.

It seems like he genuinely actually rocks with her for real, though. Like, it doesn't seem like. I'm rock with her too. Yeah. That's Rihanna. You're horrible. Anyways, let's do a fan question and then we're going to wrap it up. That's crazy.

That's wild. That's wild. That's Rihanna. She's building there. When a woman says that, she's so trifling. She's such a gold digger. She only wants you for money. She'd on her to see if she loves you.

But a man, oh, I'm rock at work with her because she's a millionaire. Like, that sounds crazy. Like, how it sounds crazy? Because if a woman says it, it's crazy. It's like a gold digger. But we know. But we know. What do you mean we know?

We know. Like how you can't just love that girl? Because we don't get the same opportunities as the women get because there's more rich men than rich women. So when we get a chance to do it, we, that's city boys up. Anyways, let's get into the fan questions before we wrap up. So someone said, I'm not even going to name their atts because I just don't want to put them out there. I really like my man and our relationship is good, but he doesn't go down on me much and it's starting to bother me.

I don't want to make him feel pressured or awkward, but I also don't want to keep being unsatisfied. Should I say something or just accept that this is how it is? Woo! I personally, that's a hard one because I love that. a lot. So I feel like if it's something that you really feel that you want and need then you should talk about it.

You know what I mean? Because like that could drive you to be like super unhappy in your relationship. She got to say it. Yeah, that's what it is. Like, hey, baby, I like that. Why are you so short? No, I'm just saying like,

because if you're in a relationship and it's good, then tell them. That's simple. That's an easy one. I say easy fix. You know, this ain't difficult at all. But how do you tell a man that? Like, she probably...

Like, baby, I love when you go down. That's one of my favorite things. What if he's like, I don't really like that? What you mean? What he's like, that's really not my favorite thing. You gotta do things in a relationship that you don't like to do. I don't want no one going down on me that doesn't like to do that. That's awkward for me.

Then I'm in my head, like, I have to tell this man, which means he doesn't really like it, which means now I don't even enjoy it because now I don't even enjoy it because now I'm in my thinking he's so distraught down there. That's not what a relationship is. You got to understand any relationship, any successful relationship, whether it's business, man, with his wife. Like, you got to do things like you don't want to do to make it work. Like, if he, like, I need you to get up at 5 in the morning.

Get up at 5 in the morning. If you want to be with that person, if you got to do, like you got to do stuff that you don't like to do to make shit work. But what? But I don't want anyone. doing something sexually that you don't like to do. Like it's anything though. It's going to be things you don't like to do.

But we're talking about sexually. That's what we're talking about. It don't matter. It don't matter what it is. I think that sexually, I don't want anyone going down on me that doesn't like to do that. I feel like that's going to make me feel awkward. And you could tell him the performance that you don't like to do it. The performance is lacking. The performance is lacking.

He got a show that he like it. You know what I mean? Because it's like, you know. He got to show he like it. You could tell him. Tell when a woman is unenthusiastic about giving you head. It's like, oh, hurry up. Like, or a woman who's into it.

She's moaning. She's getting into it. She's catching a vibe. Like, it feels different. And women feel the same way. Why did you commit? Maybe he was doing it and he fell off. Maybe you knew this already.

But maybe it fell off, though. You knew this before y'all got into us. So who far does that? No, what if he stopped doing it? Yeah, he's doing it with somebody else. Okay, so a man says, I pay for dates. He's doing it with something.

He's crazy. Don't need these people. That advice and tell her, now she's going to be thinking her man is doing it with someone else. Don't say that. A man said, I pay for dates, I plan things,

I show up emotionally, but sometimes I feel like my girlfriend just expects it and doesn't really acknowledge it. How do you bring up feeling unappreciated without sounding like you're just keeping score? Like, I do this, I do that. That's a tough one. Because that one, like,

It's just like sometimes you get a relationship and you try to explain to them and then they look at you like you complaining when you really just like damn I'm just you know like damn I ain't keeping a score but like you know what's up?

It just seems like it's loft-sided out here like for real that'd be a lot of relationships man because a man girls and that's a girl getting comfortable that's what my most relationships start to be the beginning of the end when girls start to get hella comfortable they stop doing the shit that they used to do and

shit started getting lopsied and he's still doing the same shit and then you know it's just like damn she just got comfortable and unappreciative before she was thank you I appreciate you all man you was doing shit then then you got comfortable that's how most relationships in I'm telling you

and man just want to feel as a man we just want to feel appreciated like damn show me and but how appreciating that is reciprocate the energy like don't just keep just taking take and taking like reciprocate like, damn, what are you doing in this? He's just constantly doing stuff

and he's like, damn. And that's when these other little motherfucking chicks creep in and it's like, I do that for you. Like, I'll do that for you. Why do they know that though? Why are you complaining to another woman about the relationship?

That's the problem. Because he blowed and I try to tell them. And that's when a girl starts complaining to a man and he's like, oh, she don't go down to you? I'll do that for you. I'll do that for you. Yeah, same shit. shit, have a conversation and talk about what's lacking before you.

When he had the conversation, he'd go over ahead and it's complaining. This is what, this is what that leads to after that conversation. Well, he said he hasn't had the conversation yet. Well, have the conversation, my boy. He's asking how to have it. Have the, so how do you have this conversation? Just tell her like, look, man, I'm just like, man, I feel unappreciated in this. Man, I just feel like I should be your king.

I should be, you know, I should be, you should be making me feel like I'm that guy and I ain't been feeling like that. When you say that, then see how she moved. If she's just distanced, then you know it's something else going on. All right. That's a good advice. Okay, one last one, and then we're going to wrap up. My boyfriend has a child, and I respect that he has to communicate with his baby mom.

But sometimes it feels like she's doing extras. She'll send pictures of herself with the kid and not just the child alone, and it feels intentional. Am I being insecure, or is it something that I should address? I think you addressed that. Be like, you don't need no. pictures with y'all in it? Like, you don't have to be in the picture.

Like, I appreciate that you send the pictures, but like, he got to, he got to take it like, no, I don't, don't see me the ones. Just send me the ones of my daughter or my son. Like, I don't need you to be in it because I'm just doing too much. You know what I'm saying? Address it. You got to address, we got to just, as relationships, we got to address our feelings. We can't go behind closed doors.

We can't talk to our friend or. guy friend or girlfriend. Like, no, address the situation. That's the only way things is going to pan out. When you address the situation once, twice, three times now and if things don't change, then

that's when it starts being an issue. Things got to change because this is how you feel. Like, if we feel a certain way and the communication got to get better, that's why we don't have these relationships like we used to where people were staying together 20, 30 years, having them because the communication is off. People can't deal with

Should people quit too easy? What about last time when we talked about this? You said that you should avoid conflict and not have communication. Because you were like... What is it based on? Just anything. The question was if your woman feels like bothered by something, should she address it or should she just avoid conflict?

It depends on what it is because you've got to also pick your battles. Yeah. Like is it worth me even complaining over this little bullshit? That's what I'm saying. So is it... Like it depends on what the battle is? is. That's what we got to understand as a relationship couples.

I'm not going to be picky over every little thing. Now let me see your messages with her. Let me see how you communicating back. Are you sending pictures back with you in it? And like, like, you know what? If there's nothing and you looked at it and you see what the, you know what, this isn't even worth it. Like, we got to do

better with picking our battles. Like, the battles don't add up because it's going to be too many battles to what we're doing. I'm good. You know, it ain't even worth it. Yeah, I get it. I think I'm going to say this to close it off. Our most viral clip till this day, and I was just thinking about it, is Dr. Cheyenne Bryant saying that dealing with a man with children is like being in a polyamory relationship. And it's crazy how big that clip is. That clip has like 500,000 likes and so many retweets,

and it still gets crack until this day, and it's crazy how so many people and women resonate with that. You know what I mean? And I didn't understand it, but I get what she's saying. You know, it's hard when you deal with someone to have, like, kids and stuff because you realize that that, like, what she's trying to say is, like, you got to deal with shit. Like, you got to deal with baby bobbas, you got to deal with different things.

Depends on what it is. You got to deal. You got to deal with the, well, you do. Because you have to deal with the whole, a factor of, like, your man having a whole part of your life that you're not involved in. Like, you got, like, if you don't have kids, you don't have that.

Like, you also deal with the fact that you'll never have like your own family with that person, meaning like this is not the first time this person already lived this life, had kids, this is you, like that's not as exciting to be like, oh, you're having a kid. Like it's a different dynamic and I feel like so many women deal with that and they, like, so many women related to this and it's crazy because I just was looking at this yesterday. And I was like, damn, people were feeling that. And I feel like it's so important in a relationship for that to be understood and like the

to be addressed and everyone to be on the same page because if not, it's hard. So I feel like with this situation, you have to communicate it and you have to talk about how you're feeling because if this is someone you really want to be with long term, then you got to be able to address this. And he has to make sure you also feel comfortable in the situation. Because if you don't, then you're never going to be able to be with someone long term. That's a reality that you have to accept. This person has children.

And you have to, if you love him, you're going to have to love his children. be a part of his life and that's important so address it talk about it get into it and i think that that's the best move and paul says the same thing so keep sending in fan questions we really really really really love the fact that you guys send these questions in we want to do like a little hotline one of these days we'll let you guys know about that and we have a live show coming up so if you're in the los angeles area we will give you all the details soon thank you guys for all your support we love you. We appreciate you. Like sure you like, subscribe,

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