Club Shay Shay - BET Awards Reaction ! + Musk & Trump breakup, Clarissa Shields-Angel Reese beef | Humble Baddies

Episode Date: June 12, 2025

Ashley and Alexis react to the biggest headlines from the 2025 BET Awards including Kevin Hart hosting, the tribute to 106 & Park, Clarissa Shields and Angel Reese beefing, and more! Later, they discuss the recent falling out between Elon Musk and President Donald Trump, Tisha Campbell revealing she had a mommy makeover, and much more!01:41 - Intro10:49 - BET Awards reaction18:39 - Tisha Campbell on Mommy Makeover28:41 - Elon Musk vs. Donald Trump37:00 - Humble Baddies Mailbag52:40 – Humble Pie(Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.) #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an iHeart Podcast. What's up, what's up, what's up? What's up, what's up, what's up? Hey, how you been, sis? Another episode of the humble back podcast. I'm your girl, Ashley Nicole. And I am Alexis Walsh-Stattemeyer, and we are the Humble Baddies.

Humble Baddies. Happy Wednesday, Ash. Happy Wednesday, Lex. Welcome home. I'm so glad. Humph day. Just taking care of business. I had a me day, a solo day yesterday.

Okay. Went to care of all kinds of stuff first and then went and just went to the beach, got service on the beach and just had wine and lunch and then went to the spa. Yeah. Ended with a spa, like this good 90-minute massage. Oh, it was just wonderful. It was something I needed for myself and I feel so rejuvenated and better. And I do this from time to time,

but my body was saying, Lex, you need to take a time out and relax. I feel like from cheffing it up on the weekends and it's standing those long hours, it's turned into my, you know, I'm starting to have back issues. And so like I'm learning how to- What's it talking about issues? I don't know.

But it's from standing, it's knife work, it's just moving around, it's constant movement. So my body's adjusting to the new change. And so I'm fine with this. So now I know how to adjust myself, my posture and take care of my body, drinking water, as well as getting these massages. I need them. So. So you want this internship. This is no joke. Like you really in there.

Comment up like. Shuffling it up like you're going.. Like, you gotta come see me this weekend. I'm gonna come. I'm gonna come. I'm out of town. I was out of town last weekend. I'm out of town this weekend. I'm out of town next weekend.

But I'm coming. I'm coming. I just gotta figure out when I'm coming. But I definitely wanna come support you. I already, I've already had your food, so you know. That's my food. Well, the good thing is this is technically my food, but not really my food, you know what I'm saying?

Because it's the restaurants, but... I get it. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. But it's a good thing I come out and support you up here. Um, and I can't wait, like, just to see you in your element, see you doing your thing. I mean, I know you've been working so hard. I will run into you at Soho House working on your homework and your tests. Then I will call you and I will see you, you know, in

the kitchen doing your assignments. So I know how hard you've worked on this. And you're almost at the end. So I can't wait. I can't wait to come to support. I'm excited. I'm excited. Thank you so much. And we missed you on Monday.

Yeah, girl. You know, it's hard out here the summertime, you know, to get into traveling. But this weekend wasn't about me. It was all about my husband. They have an alumni program for the Raiders. He played for the Raiders actually only for one year out of his career. He played for 10 years, but he played for the Raiders for one year. And what I love about the Raiders organization is they really take care of their alumni. And I can't say that for any other organization.

And, you know, he played on four teams. Um, so I know that's, I can't account for all the organizations, but I haven't heard of any other team taking care of their, not just their players, their current players, but their alumni the way that the Raiders organization does. So they fly the alumni, if you play for one game, child, you're once a Raider, always a Raider. They fly you and your caregivers, so if that's your wife, if that's your mom, your bestie, your cousin, them, whoever, they

bring you out and they have a whole wellness weekend. And they check you from the rudas to the tuta. If you need a mental health therapist, they set you up with somebody. I had an ultrasound on my heart. Oh, wow. They're doing mammograms, they're doing hearing tests, they're doing everything that you need to make sure that you're being checked out.

Cause you know, somebody's got them, they wanna go to the doctor, even though they have all these benefits and stuff, provided for them. Men can be stubborn and not make the appointment. So I just love that they bring all of that to the facility and, you know, they offer everything they need right then and there to get it done. And then it's just nice to, for the alumni to feel wanted because, you know, the NFL's

like it stands for not for long so crime is done and then lights is off those lights are off so it's just a beautiful thing to see how we look here for the alumni and I mean when I say they're legends there they're players who played in the 70s you know it's all age groups and just to see them supported and loved on and educated, because they bring, they have an expo. They bring people to teach them about, you know, not just their bodies, but what's the problem,

how to deal with things. You know, it's just a beautiful weekend to come together and to support them in that way. So shout out to the Raiders Organizing Team. The Raiders for real, I like that. That's actually dope. Is this the annual thing they do? It's the annual thing they do.

And then they also have an alumni weekend. So in August, they bring everybody back out. And it's more of just like a fun weekend where they set up different events and the guys can just hang out and you can bring your loved one with you. And I do want to say the ladies have a presence there. They do have a back for the women.

Ladies play hook. I know you met a toy girl since she was there. The off the field NFL lives was there. So our presence is there. We have a place there. We're supported. We're there to give support. So, it's just all in all a beautiful, beautiful thing that they have going on. And I hope the other teams pick up on it because all the players need it.

That's amazing. You call it a caretaker that was able to reap the benefits too, because that is so necessary. Whatever your spouse or someone like mother, whoever needs this, that weekend or those few days, that's crucial too. So I think that's great that they're involving whomever that person chooses to be there with him and get some treatment as well, because it does take a village. And you know, you can't forget about. Yeah, you can't forget about. You can take care of your Raiders.

So I think it's important and it's beautiful what they have going on, to really think about every little thing like that. It's amazing. They really do a great job, great job with that. So that's what I was doing this weekend. It was all about the Raiders and their alumni. And I love it.

Like, I had a great time. I can't wait to go back in August for their alumni. We go to a game and we just get to hang out and have a lot of fun. But it's in Vegas. The Raiders are in Vegas now. When we were there, when we played for the Raiders, we were in Oakley. Mmm. Big difference.

Yeah. I didn't say it. Mmm, big difference. Yeah. I didn't say it. Now you have Vegas. You get Vegas. We get Vegas, so, you know, a little Vegas weekend every now and then. Cool, you know what I'm saying? I had a little Vegas here and there, but you know... And it was just you two? No kids, right?

No kids, girl. Oh, so y'all had a nice little weekend away. Yes, we love that a nice little weekend away. Yes, we love that. Hey, good little week. Went to all their restaurants. And wellness on the island. It was nice. And you know, I was born in Vegas, so it's like...

I don't feel attached to it in any way. You know, my dad was in the military, so I was born there, because he was stationed at Nellis Air Force Base. But I just, every time I'm in like, oh my God, I can't believe I was born here. Like, it's just so weird. Like I don't feel any kind of like connection. I'm very much an Atlanta girl.

That's where I claim. Little Chris performed while we were here at our hotel. So that was really cool. That little piece of Atlanta there. Yeah. So it's a great weekend, girls. It's great. I love that. I love that. Well, I'm glad you all were able to get away.

I'm glad that y'all got your health checked out and your mind right. And here we are back again. So I love that for y'all. Well, so speaking of Luda, the BET Awards was this past, what was that? Last night or the night before? Last night, I believe. That's crazy.

I feel like my days are just... I see. But yeah, I thought Luda Chris was there and he did the usher. They did a tribute. And it was, I mean, I thought the words this year were very reminiscent. Is that the word? No. Reminiscent of? Like, that's not the word then.

What you thinking? What you thinking? That's the word that you saying where it reminds you, oh, nostalgic. Oh, okay. That's what I reminds you of nostalgic. Mm, okay. That's what I'm having to say, nostalgic. It just like reminded me of like a word show back in the day because they did like the Heart Tribute, you know, they had a little bow out for former theater shows.

So, it's in part. Yeah, and when I was in that. Yeah, I like that. It was nostalgic. That is the word. It was very reminiscent of going back in time when we were there and we were asked for videos. Because now our children are looking at videos, you know, on... Watch me, bro!

No, it's not the same anymore. They're watching streamers, they're watching video games, they're watching other people play video games. It's just, you know. They're watching streamers. They're watching video games. They're watching other people play video games It's just you know Oh different out. I remember we were sitting on it And yes, I couldn't wait to turn the TV on I watched one of six and part and watched that thing down The numbers ain't changed. It's so long It didn't matter because I needed to watch it all the way down to number one And that's how we learned how to dance to low-key, you know

We wanted to know what who was wearing the best sneakers, what the best jewelry was. They were into, remember the jerseys, the oversized clothes and the fashion. And, you know, the newest trends. Like, that's how we got our trends, was literally tuning in to that. And so I like, um, shout out to the BET Awards though,

because it does bring back like that essence of who we are and we're so much, you know, we are R&B, we're soul, we're rock, we're hip hop, we are gospel, you know, all these, all in country, all of these territories, pop, you know, rock, everything you can imagine, jazz and all of that. So we, I just love to see it because it is nostalgic, how it does take us back.

Cause I love that they brought out like Kirk Franklin, you know, I feel like I was watching it with Asada, the parts that I did get to see. And she was like, who's this? I'm like, oh, this is the education level, you know, because now our kids are going back and singing these songs that have been remixed and Yeah, I know my parents are like we've heard that before like, you know, maybe somebody remixed the Marvin Gaye vibe or something but like

like when our generation Sample songs we knew the original to like we heard our parents, you know... Those are from our parents though, too. Yeah. Like, we heard it. These kids, these things, they think they know everything and that this is a song that just came out. Like, maybe, no. This done been remixed two or three times. Yeah, yeah.

Honey, bye. It's like, but it's like, at the other end of it, it's giving artists streaming other end of it, it's giving artists streaming, you know, again, their songs that were older too. Like I was looking at my daughter's TikTok the other day and she had reposted like this song right now. It's Jeansy and Akon, Soul Survivor. And now it's like trending on TikTok.

So it's like taking off. She's like, Mom, this is a dope song. I'm like, what? We've been there and done that already, but it's back. So here we are. You know, it's new to them. And they're the ones streaming. So it's like low key. It's just like, it's helpful on so many levels.

Hey, it's the new way. Yeah, but the beats, he was dope. The parts I did see, they did a tribute to Jamie Foxx, who was well-deserved after the year he's had. And just, I forgot about his hits. He's a comedian. His songs as well as, you know, he acts. So I mean, he's just a, I was just like, hey, you know, he is so talented and has Oscars. So like this guy is top level.

And I mentioned, he just came back from that whole health scare. So I'm glad he was able to, you know, receive his flowers while he's still here. And that's what I feel they do. Because we definitely get overlooked. You know what I mean? Yeah. But yeah, that's good to see everybody. That was a good pick.

Sometimes with the tributes, I feel like they're a little like overdue or like, like they think this is, but you know what? That was a good, a good pick for, for this, um, tribute for this award. You know, what about the, um, the fashion? The fashions are always a hot topic at the BET awards. There were a lot of risky outfits. Some looked like Fashion Nova, some looked like, you know, I don't know, they didn't take enough time.

They didn't pay the stylists. They coined this year. Some of the people had a lot to say. Somebody said that, what's her name? Young Miami. They said she was giving, oh no, the comment was, I guess she don't got them ditty coins no more. That's her dress wasn't, you know.

I didn't see Young Miami's dress, but that was rude in that night. It was rude, but it wasn't given. Her dress was not. Mm, I didn't see it. Yeah. I know who I can tell you who did look good, though. I thought Kiki Palmer looked phenomenal.

Okay. From hair to toe. Um, I also thought Latoya Luckett looked really good. Those are the two pieces that I thought. I love that dress on her and her hair, just everything. So I look at the full thing from, I look at the full image from hair all the way down to the toes.

You know what I mean? You gotta see the full look. Yeah. I thought they were pretty dope. Tisha Campbell, they didn't like her look either. They said she looked like that fish from that one kids movie. But they were also talking about how she recently got a mommy makeover. And they were saying that she kind of maybe threw her friends under the bus because she

was like, yeah, I told my friends to go get a mommy makeover and they didn't. She named them. I can't remember who she bet. But people were just like, why would you tell other people's business like that? Like, okay, you got a mommy makeover. You don't need to tell everybody else business. And also they were on her. They were like, you didn't just have babies. So is it a mommy makeover or did you just go get a BBL? Which one is it? She looked good. You know, I feel like everyone, especially in Hollywood, has some nip-tuck maintenance something, right? But the beautiful blessing is about it is you do what you want to do to your body on your time at the end of the day. So whether it is a BBL, a snatched waist, some breast implants, some you know, facial, whatever you want to do for yourself, do it. I mean, it is what it is.

You're going to have people who are going to compliment you and you're going to have people who are going to hate on you. It just is what it is. But it's about you at the end of the day, what's your confidence exuding. And it's about them coins too, you know what I mean? Like, she probably is seeing herself on television. She is a public figure. And I feel like, again, people are gonna be like, ooh, she looking rough. She need to go get nipped and tucked.

Okay, maybe she wasn't ready for it at the time. Thank you, Matt, because she was putting her friends' business out. Like, oh, I feel like to go. To do the same? And also, they were just like, girl, that's not a mommy makeover. Your kids are grown.

You got a little mom, but I guess... No. ...a secret mom. Yeah, no, it's just you went and got your body there, and you gotta be to yell, or like, oh, just say that. It's okay. Like, say that. I know I'm talking about like, low-key recently,

like for example, Kylie Jenner has been more open about her plastic surgery. Exactly. Yeah, and I'm like, is that really a difference to y'all? Like, are y'all really gonna run out and say, oh, I've worked the 440 CC just like Kylie Jenner, right? Yeah, they will. That's crazy to me.

They will, and their doctor's gonna be like, um, she has a different body, she has a different everything, and... Oh, right. ...though you can't have it, we gonna give you what we can give you. That's so interesting. The amount of weight that, you know, anything that these celebrities say have on their fans, you know?

It's scary because what if she was like, you know what, I'm going to crack now. Like I do crack on the weekends. So y'all gonna go be crack heads now? You know what I'm saying? It's just like... Whatever they say goes. And if you're not teaching, you know, that's why you gotta monitor these, these, these but we crack heads now. You know what I'm saying? It's just like, whatever they say goes. And if you're not teaching,

that's why you gotta monitor these handhills at times, because it's harder out here for anyone in general now. Like people are telling you, like I looked up and people were getting news off of the gram now of social media. And it's far from true. People have this propaganda, like all that stuff going on, propaganda going on, I'm sorry.

So politics is now being involved. Then this is how you're spending money. It's influencers, it's lifestyle, it's cooking techniques and this health scare, and this way of accessing this. And now you can click and shop and then it comes right to you. So everything on this handheld device is becoming a source of everything. It's a therapist, it's a moon tracker, it's a grocery counter, it's everything you can

imagine. So it's making people spend money and you spending the most money when you see advertisements. And at the end of the day, social media is an advertisement. Yeah. Pick what you want to buy. I just recently bought some Kylie Jenner lip. See what I'm saying? It could be her lip. Like that's why do you think she became a billionaire was off of the influence of her

followers and posts and also being in these places and then having like her lip kit, you know, became very popular that she had her lip kit. You know what I mean? And then we're like, wait, well we've been, we've seen your lips pre and now. You know what I'm saying? Post. So we know that's not from these lip kits, but most people didn't know that. You know what I mean?

So it's funny. It works. She had a little laugh and still in dreams. Yeah, yeah. But you know, shout out to Tisha though. Like do whatever makes you happy. She look good and I'm sure she seems happy. And, you know, it's probably a fuel from a lot of things too,

because she's also recently divorced from her husband of however many decades and life partner. So, like, this is a rejuvenation time. This is when you get your snap back in your mind right and really get your mind, get yourself together, because she's now back out there. So be your best self back out there in the streets. Yeah, I think for the most part, I think the men looked the best on the BET red carpet

this year. I think the men really, they came with it. And there were a lot of African designers as well. And I just wanted to put that out there. I loved to see that. Yeah. I loved seeing KJ Smith. She accidentally gave out her, the gender of her baby. You know, KJ, she plays on that show, Sisters. Oh, yes, yes. I did see that. You know, K.J., she plays on that show Sisters.

Oh, yes, yes. I did see that. I did see that. I've been told everybody she's having a baby girl, so congrats to her. I mean, it's a whole bunch of like little things that I just love to see that make the BET Awards seem just a little bit more like in touch, more personable, more, I don't know, what we love as, you know, while we tune into BET. I feel like it's getting back to the roots, you know? It's making everybody feel more human again, you know? I like that, I like that a lot. Especially, it's just the resurgence

of how popular it's becoming, and I love it for us. You know, I love that I could sit with my daughter and explain to her who Vashonti is. You know what I mean? Like, I'm like... Who is Vashonti? You know, all these people, just like, who is this mommy? But then there was a few, obviously, like there are Drakes and Kendricks and Party Next Door.

Right, you got her first BET Award at this show. Isn't that something? Yeah. Overdue and love at the same show. Isn't that something? Yeah. Overdue and love at the same time. Very much overdue, yeah. So, like, here we are. Because, you know, to me, that's what really matters the most. Yeah, we talk about the Oscars, we talk about Tonys,

we talk about the Emmys, we talk about Billboard Awards, all these other ones. But to get it from your people on black entertainment, television, you know, Ran By For Us, you know, all of these things, you know, at the end of the day, we're going to take care of our people and we're going to always support us, you know, and it's time that we keep giving those accolades out and really putting us in the forefront because we definitely get forgotten about all the time. So we have our own platform.

If you don't have it, build it. So here we are having our own platform where you can excel and have awards and be recognized. I think it's awesome. I think it's beautiful. It was a good show. Kevin, Kevin Hart. Kevin Hart hosted. Yes. He's always hilarious. Always. He's consistently.

I love Kevin Hart. I think I've seen every single one of his stand-ups when he's coming to town. Yeah, he's a good one. He's funny to me. Yeah, he is funny. I love that scene. And bringing the bridging of the generations too, they had Druski and Kastanat there. So, like, Asada perked up when she saw that.

She was like, okay, you know. Yeah. I love it. They have both. They have both. Oh, I saw a clip where Kastanat ran into Wale, like in the hallway or something, and he didn't know who he was. Then Wale went up to him and looked like, yo, the people are stripping because you didn't know who I was.

Kaif Kanaan was just sitting there like, okay. But that's like, now there's one, if somebody doesn't recognize me, I'm going to play that off. I'm going to act like, you know what I mean? Like I don't want to make it more of an issue. To me, that's making me more awkward than anything.

That's no offer. And he was mic'd up so like, and have streaming when he said this so you can hear. It's just, that was just embarrassing to me. But that's just another, you know, situation of where the two generations are crossing. And, but I like the older guys, we got to stay relevant. You know what I'm saying?

So if class and I don't know who you were, it's the problem. Okay. While about class and I, you don't know who you were. You know, you could use a little bit. So I'm saying, I would never address it though. I just would not. I wouldn't walk off like that didn't happen. You know what I'm saying?

I would have played it off. But yeah, I don't know. I thought it was a, it was a great, great show from the flip side. So I didn't get to see the whole thing. Okay. So I didn't get to see the whole thing Okay, so moving on Let's talk about Elon Musk and Donald Trump and their little billionaire beef they've been having So

Tech bros were too rich to be messy, Elon Musk and Donald Trump decided to square up on social media. The drama started with jabs about intelligence, turned into a full-on Twitter war, and ended with Elon tweeting with rep like a man who finally read his screen time report. So, what started this beef and how did it spiral into a billionaire petty knit? Well, we have two egos and these narcissistic behaviors now joining forces,

it's bound to be some conflict at some point because now the diva comes out, the power of authority comes out, as well as... Being figured. Yeah, pretty much. And so with all of that being said, very predictable that this was going to happen to the extent that it's going.

You know, it's like, I thought it was interesting how Elon became a part of the Oval Office, you know, meetings and just there anyway. This is not a surprise to me just because everything in this presidency, especially with this president and when he was before last, he's always done things that have been going against our democracy and also laws, and rules, and regulations that have been put in place for before time. So he's just inventing this a lot as he goes along. So with it being said, the disrespect that came with this is like what's done in the dark comes to the light. So this was bound to happen because not only did, you know, the president give power to this, you know,

entrepreneur and scientist billionaire, let alone gave him that, that confidence of like, you can sit next to me in the Oval Office and now I'm catching phone calls with the head of Germany and the head of this, you know, China and this, and this, and this, and you know, it's business involved, you know, it's, you know, an exchange of funds and some contracts going on. So with that being said, the fact that he was throwing out them jabs, Elon was on X,

talking about he's in them files, I'd love to see it because President Trump was 100 percent saying, believe the White House, believe the White House whenever we put out these statements. Okay, we're going to believe this. All right. Because you were the one that vouched for this man. You were the one that had him up there when you were getting inaugurated.

You were the one that has also put your name and stamp on some contracts with this man and you put them out there in the forefront and introduced us to him on this level. So you know what? We don't believe everything we see, all right? And not only that, I'm just, again, I'm not surprised. It's very predictable. This is just how everything has been. And I feel some kind of way, like the fact that

I'm just like, I knew this was gonna just, this is gonna happen. You know, I just feel like, let me just sit this one out. You know what I mean? Like, and just observe. We just don't observe this because, you know. Yeah, I think- Be careful what you ask for.

That's it. Yeah, I think they're both, you know, they've always been who they are, you know? So we can't be surprised that now they're beefing and having little petty Fight, but it's still so embarrassing. I feel like every day it's just Trump does something like it's just so embarrassing that this is the president of the United States

It's been embarrassing the last hundred and sixty days What you talking about ever Ever since that inauguration, when he didn't put his hand on the Bible, it's been embarrassing. It's been embarrassing for the days of people in power. We didn't hear from them like that. It was their people, their PR, their whoever. This is the President of the United States of America, 1X with Twitter fingers.

Are we surprised? He's with Twitter fingers. Like what? Are we surprised? He's big Twitter fingers. He's been saying you're fired and had these shows and his name everywhere and buildings. And how did we get here? Top culture. President. It's our president.

Of course. He wants a reality TV star and whatever. He just is America. And I asked Twitter for years. Like, I can't take him serious. How do y'all take him serious? How, or how didn't we get here? You know, Elon, like, don't y'all have something else to do? Like, ain't y'all business busy, you know, with some business stuff?

We gotta have business. This is the most powerful country in the world, the Frank world of the United States of America. That is, Ethan, Elon, stop, went down so bad. I know people who went out and bought Teslas because why not? It's cheap now.

You know what I'm saying? Like, I mean, I don't know. It's just, it's all a joke. It's all funny. I can't take anything serious anymore with this president. I saw a meme that said somebody had their passport and a little sticky on it. As soon as like you open it, it says,

I apologize in advance, but I don't condone what's going on in our country. Let me in. Something like that. It was crazy. It's embarrassing. There's whole... They're protesting in LA and other... Rioting, and protesting, and being put to the side, and sprayed, and rubber bulled. Yes.

Horrible. And y'all got Twitter fingers. Y'all are really beefing right now. When, okay, I just can't. I can't. Indictable. And deflecting. Yes.

But again, you got to believe people when they tell you they're going to do something. For sure. All right, let's move on to Humble Baddie's fan mail. Yeah. Okay. The wedding was cute, but so was I. Want me to read it? Oh, you can read it. Yeah, want me to read it?

Let me read it. Sorry, I know you read it. I thought you were... Alright. The wedding, okay, Humble Baddies mail. About that time. Dear Humble Baddies, I showed to my cousin's wedding looking fine. Be face, body on display, energy unmatched.

Halfway through the reception, the bride told me I was stealing attention. It said I should have dressed more respectfully. Girl, it's giving hater in heels. Now the aunties are calling me petty. Was that wrong for looking too good or was she just mad I was glowing harder than her highlight? Signed the cousin that whispered about, but can't sit next to. Okay.

So was the bride insecure or does sis low key cross the line? What'd you think? Okay. So I do think there is an etiquette for a wedding. Okay. So I don't think you should outdo the bride. You know, I think you should not wear white. I think you should, you know, follow whatever dress code that they put in the invitation. So I do think there is a dress code that you should abide by. You should make sure that the bride is the attention grabber of the event. Period. But if you're fine, you're fine.

So it don't matter. If I show up, you know what I'm saying, I'll be cute wherever I'm at and whatever I'm in and however I show up. So if, you know, if I followed all the rules and the bribe feels some kind of way, I think and if they say something, it might be an insecurity thing because I know if I'm getting married, I'm going to, my attention is not on anybody else and what they got on and whatever. Beyond me saying hello, how you doing? Thank you for coming, girl.

That's all the energy I really have for you. I'm not into checking out and seeing somebody else look better than me at my wedding. So if it got to the point where they were addressing other people, the family is addressing people for how they showed up looking great at their wedding, then I think that might be more of an internal problem. I think y'all are putting too much energy into the wrong things. You need to take a better look at the situation,

what's going on, what's important. You know what I mean? Now I did see the other day this video going viral. It was two girls riding in a car and it was the girl driving. It was her birthday and she was crying and she was upset because her friend in the passenger seat she was like girl you look so much better. It's my birthday. Why would you wear that? You know, you got more body than me, you can't be wearing stuff like that, and it's my birthday, and I'm up for having fun, and da da da. Like she was really upset and crying,

like hysterically, because her friend that showed up looking real good on her birthday. And, you know, my friend sent it to me, and we just kind of had a conversation about it, and I was just like, you know, first of all, Fran was wrong for posting that, you know, recording her and posted her friend in that very distraught, vulnerable moment, but at the same time for me, that would have been the end of our friendship. You know what I mean?

So I guess, you know, posting her being hysterical, it don't even matter. Cause at this point we not gonna be friends no more because, huh, like how are you gonna be mad because I showed up in the body that guy gave me for our vlog, whatever. You know, like I can't change my body. I'm gonna wear what I wear.

You know what I mean? And it's your birthday. You shouldn't be upset with me because of how I look. I don't, I don't know. That's's weird to me and her friend was like really upset like she did it to hurt her So I feel like you know situations like this is more There there's some internal work that needs to be done if you feel That pressed and insecure to say it and Because we all have our insecurities. Like, you know, I'm a human, I've definitely been out with my homegirls and looked at my

outfit and then like, oh, girl, you listen, this ain't it, you not cute tonight. You know what I mean? Like we all have our insecurities. We all have our moments where, you know, we want to look better or whatever. We all have that. But when you like start acting on it and speaking on it And making it an issue to me. That's where it's a problem And I think that that's something in internally that you have to work on

But like I said Now our dress code there are etiquette there are things that we as world Need to do, like, girl code. You know what I'm saying? I agree with you as far as the point of, um, you know, as a bride, well, my first wedding, I, um, there was a dress code. And I feel like the whole point is to have a dress code

and to have it respected. One, that my dress code was very much unconventional. It was wear black or white. And, or the combination of both, it is what it is. That's a normal dress code. Like, to tell people, like, okay, I'm not at a wedding. Black usually, okay, depends if that's the attire, but you don't usually see black, right?

And then you don't see white. Because the bride has to be in white, but I already had four children already out, so it was not giving white for me, but y'all be great. You know what I'm saying? So at the end of the day, like, I had a dress code, but at the same time, I was so confident in myself and what my dress was, you know, what I had going on and my changes and things like that, where I was focused on me.

I know who I invited to this wedding. And the whole point was, I also know that I have some dope friends, you know what I mean? I want y'all to show up and show out because it's giving... It's a festival, it's a party, it's a celebration. I don't have time. I want to make sure everyone's having good, a good time, they're having good food, there's great entertainment. I'm not worried about...

The only thing I was worried about is if you didn't come in the dress code. Meaning, you know, black or white. And we low-key, I'ma be real with you, I had some backups in the back just in case. We had extra suit jackets and we also had dresses, like two dresses that were either, they were in black. So just in case if things were in different sizes. So just in case some things were popping off

because respectfully, you gotta adhere to the bride and groom's request. Now, I'm not stopping a wedding. I'm not confronting anybody at my wedding unless they did something very foul to me or was not invited something, right? But I'm going to have people handle that, you know? Second of all, I'm not letting that interrupt

and really just kind of change my energy either about this person. You know your girl is fly. You know your girl is fly. You know your girl got body. You know how she dress like it is what it is. You know what I mean? Like, you got to expect that. You got to expect her, you know, to be herself and show up.

Now, you know, so, you know, it really is about the, you know, the bride and the groom in this moment. People do want to take away from that, but, you know, I really is about the, you know, the bride and the groom in this moment. People do want to take away from that, but, you know, I'm not letting it, I'm not letting it kind of change up my mental or really my energy at all, because she didn't deserve it. She doesn't deserve to have that moment. Now, you know, spotlight it even more on this young lady.

You know what I mean? The guest. You know, I just think it was just kind of petty. But yeah, cause first of all, wedding, you know, they'd be expensive. Sometimes you got to go out and buy your outfit. You got to show up. You sit there, you might have to go out of town. Yeah.

I will say that I'm against any kind of way other than like grateful that they're there, you know As long as like you said they respected like the dress code You know, um And even if they didn't I still I just feel like it's tacky to You know meet a guest at your own wedding with any kind of negative energy because that's like more from your day You know Any kind of negative energy because that's a look on your day We're not moving I also want to you know bring attention to something that really don't even matter anyway It's one time planning about you and your new husband and yeah Oh, yeah

Did a humble baddie writer? Chill no, it's a no you can't be doing that to your guests. I would say that anybody else who's worried about something like this, you need to be confident in yourself. Always dress in a way that makes you feel confident. Don't try to dress like other people, because when you do that, it shows you're not as confident.

You gotta find your own style. You gotta find something that compliments yourself, that makes you feel good, that makes you feel comfortable, and no matter what anybody else got on or whoever else is in the room with you, you just gotta worry about yourself, okay? Don't worry about nobody else.

Sometimes somebody else is gonna be, look better than you, and that's okay. That you okay. And that's okay You're not you. Oh, okay And that's when you put to be like damn granny look good And then she gonna be like girl you too and then that's it and then boom That's it. That's the end of it. Well, yes you this then have you been have ash. Have you ever been an accidental? Main character somebody else's even Hmm Ash, have you ever been an accidental main character at somebody else's event?

Hmm. Yeah. Yeah. It's awkward, it's strange. But also, you know, you can't help it if that's the energy you get when you walk in the door, you know what I mean? You can't help that. But also, I think it's a way of going about it, when you realize, okay, it's a different

way to handle that situation. I feel like when you realize, okay, everybody's excited that this energy is here. I feel like there's a certain way to handle it. You know what I mean? You have to be humble about the situation. Yeah. You got what I'm saying? And it shows.

You have to just be a warm, welcoming person. And I feel like then it radiates and it rubs off onto everybody else in the room. And then everybody else feels comfortable. Everybody else feels better. I mean, it's just really how you... That's really what made character energy is. It's when you can walk in a room

and make everybody else feel better. You know? Yeah. That's what I love. Yeah, I love that too. So, yeah, that could happen. love. Yeah, I love that too. So yeah, that could happen, but it's all in how you receive that and how you reciprocate it at the end of the day. Reciprocate that main character energy,

that main humble batting energy, okay? Reciprocate it, cause they can rub off onto the room. Like good energy, bad energy, all of that rubs off. So, reciprocate it. Yeah. Yeah, I like that. Yeah, okay. So, is that it?

Did we answer the question? Yeah, yeah. I mean, was the bride insecure or did Sis Lowkey cross the line? Both. Yeah, yeah. Is there a limit to how fine you should look at somebody else's big day? You can't mute your energy, your aura, or your fineness.

Please don't. Let's not. Let's not. And I feel some kind of way as anybody who's a host said, you know what, Lex, Can you tone it down? I'd be like, you know what, I'll tone it off. Yeah. I'm not coming.

That's weird. Oh, my God. It's weird. I think we're older, too. I feel like we're older, sis. And, like, I only expect, like, Ash, I only expect you to come, like, ready. Like, I expect you to be T. Like, I'm like, that's my, that's my girl.

She gonna be dressing dope. And you expect me to be on part two. Cause matter of fact, if you come in any other kind of way, something's wrong. You know, I'm gonna be like, I don't know. I don't know. Are you okay?

I want them to be like, damn. That's a crew. That crew. Yeah. Who the single one or what's going on? I mean, that's who we want. You can tell those girls who only hang out lit, like one girl is a 10 and the rest are like four and a half.

We can, we know, we can see that. We read through that. That is the insecure girl right there. Cause there's no way that you can be hair done makeup done outfit like And your friends ain't put together cuz oh my friend now I'm gonna be like girl take that off of where it is Yeah, you know, I'm gonna give you my heels my clothes whatever the so we can you know match my energy You know what I'm saying? Like cuz I know if we friend not comes out of ten you like what I'm wearing, you know what I'm saying?

Oh, I don't know your style. We know who you are You know, so if you see a girl and she's hanging out with her friends and she's like the baddest one by a long shot. Then to me that's things like you're a pick me, you wanna be seen, you want the attention. All of that, yeah. But we can see that and we don't like that. That's not being a humble daddy. No, we don't like that.

You would let your girl go out with her hair messed up or something, the makeup ain't right, her lashes forget or something. Then you learn how to be a friend. Yeah. Here you go. So don't be that girl. And that's that. Yeah.

Okay, do people expect you to dim your lights so they can feel bright? I'd say it's the wrong people. It's never the, you know, it's never your inner circle. If it's the circle and they want you to dim it, you know, going back to what we said, then that's not the proof for you. I'd rather you tell me I'm slacking. Yeah, like, you know, tell me I'm slacking. Like, are you off today, Lex?

Like, what's going on? You know what I mean? Like, hey, pull today, Lex? Like, what's going on? You know what I mean? Like, hey, pull me to the side. That's more the energy I need. I think, but we're also older too. Like, you know what I mean? We don't have time for that. We're just happy to see each other and have a break or, you know, ready to, you know, have a good time, have a good meal and whatever. have a good time, have a good meal and whatever. No, that's crazy. You need to get new friends if that's- Yeah.

That's a weird thing. That's weird. Yeah. All right, so the close up Humblebatties episode tonight, who needs to be humble this week? Let's wrap this show in a Humblebatties way by handing out this week's humble pie. Who showed their ass online this week and who needs a reality check?

Hmm. I'd say it's bittersweet to me. It's Elon. Okay. He should have humble pie, but actually I'm okay that he exposing some things. Okay. So that's the bittersweet humble pie. I'm here for it. Humble pie.

Yeah. Oh, that's my mum calling me. Let me ask her. Hey, mom. Hey. No, but I'm doing a podcast. I got a question for you. I got a question.

Who do you, who needs some humble pie this week? Yeah, who's been showing their ass this week and needs some humble pie? It's always Trump, always Trump. See, I'm with mama, but OG daddy, yes. Always trying to say the same thing. John Henson. Oh, you're right.

Who else? Steven, with the sports man, I can't stand Steven Henson. Oh, what'd he do? He was talking about something. Okay. He do something about something. Okay. I'm thinking about somebody. Yeah. Okay, so Donald Trump and Stephen A. Smith,

y'all need some humble time from literally Elon Musk and Elon Musk. Yeah. I start to feel a lot of space feels, cause he mad. That's why I don't take out my toys and go home. Petty, petty, childish, childish. All right, dang, okay, bye.

Well, thank you all for joining us and mama making a appearance. I appreciate that. Mama Dr. Roberts, joining us on humble baddies today. I appreciate that. I'm a Dr. Roberts. You're joining us on Humble Baddies today. Yes. Thank you all so much for tuning in. As usual, make sure y'all like and subscribe and comment and follow.

I'm Ash3Nicole on everything except for Snap. I think I'm Ash3 in the store, Nicole. You can write to us at contact at humblebaddies.com. And where can they follow you, Le? On Instagram at Alexis underscore Stoudemire. Awesome. All right, y'all. We'll see you next time. Thank you so much. Have a good night, everybody.

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