Club Shay Shay - Drea Nicole & Lex P Discuss Marriage, Getting Cheated On, & ATL Strip Clubs

Episode Date: December 22, 2025

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Welcome, hello, beautiful people. Welcome to another episode of The Truth After Dark. I am your host, Zazaar Faraday. Paul AP Period And tonight We have two very special ladies Who run the podcast game

Launched a hit TV show Sold Out Tours And shot commercials With Summer Walker clock it These are two ladies Not to be played with Please welcome Lex P and Drainikov poor minds

Hey That was an introduction Every time people intro list We always be like we did all I know On the real Come on girl Get the song

Get a song. We did. We did. We did. I love it. Well, thank you guys for joining. I really love y'all. Thank you.

You have such a genuine, cool spirit. Like, your chemistry together is just dope. Like, I really love your content and people really rock with y'all. So, you know, that's incredible. Thank you for having you. Thank you for having you. Of course. How did y'all meet?

We met. We love this story. So we met in Houston. Okay. At the strip club. Okay. We were both working at the strip club. We were bartenders, not dancers.

We were barstenders. It was like my first real bartending job. I had never really bartending before. So, you know, I was just making like the typical Henny and Co. Okay. Cranberry vodka. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.

That's what you come to me for. She had been bartending for a minute. So she was a little more experienced. Yeah, I'm seeing. Yeah. Yeah, I'm pulling them up And we had been working together for a few months And we, I don't know, we would speak

Like we were saying high to each other But we never really had like a conversation Until one night I had a customer Who was just asking me for like the craziest shit Like Bob Marley's and stuff I'm like, who the hell know how to make that? But he was just trying to talk to Dreya He was trying to talk to me

He was trying to hollet at me And he was tipping really well He was. But he was asking for a lot of stuff that I'm like I don't know how to make this I remember he ordered a Manhattan Who was a Manhattan in the Strip club.

Right, right. What are you doing? And so I'm like, look, like, hey, girl, if you, like, help me make these drinks, we could bust this money down because he was giving me, he was getting me so much money. He was tipping her, like, $100 every drink that she gave. He only gave me, like, $2,000 that night. Yeah. And then me and her, I was like, okay, we could bust this down.

We could split it. And I was making them strong, too. I was like, yeah. I'm going to double it. And we just stayed friends after that. like we remained cool I ended up moving to Atlanta a year after we met the whole year I was there me and her would still communicate all the time and then I convinced her to move to Atlanta and yeah yeah and then how's y'all decide to do the podcast um I think we would it sounds so common now

because everybody's like oh my gosh we're so funny we need to start a podcast but honestly it was like people every time we would go to a bar be having a conversation people around us would just start listening to our conversation chiming in and like my ex at the time the guy was dating at the time he was like man y'all need to record this this is funny yeah because we had started a youtube channel we used to be on there doing muckbangs beauty content all type of stuff and he was like no this is what y'all need to record so we recorded the episode and like it got like a hundred views which was good for us because everything else was getting like too yeah i was like we did it we had gone to something yeah yeah so

honestly after doing that it just stuck and then my friend she had a popular podcast at the time and she was like hey do y'all know about podcasting turned into a podcast and um honestly we've had so much help along the way of people just being like this is a good product y'all need to keep doing this and helping us brand it because it was wind down Wednesday which is so generic but we were like okay let's brand it as poor mine yeah that's dope and not everyone like there's so many podcasts but not everyone could just they think anyone get on a mic but not everyone has that the interesting conversation that just captures people and y'all really do have that like y'all are hilarious and funny like and just a vibe and you don't have to have guests it could just be y'all and people listen yeah and that's big because some people are guest driven that's dope we started off doing that like for the first we actually just really started having guests within the past two three years yeah yeah for a long time it was just her and I just recording by ourselves solo I love that that's kind of been like what our model is Because we're like, you want people to fall in love with y'all.

Right. You know what I'm saying? You get it. You know? You get the vision. Yeah. Because when you guest driven, you can run out. Yeah.

Like, when they fall in love with you, the guests is a bonus. Right. You know what I'm saying? And that's how we feel. But, like, yeah, I think you guys have been doing fabulous in this space. Thank you. I'm definitely a fan. I've seen clips have come up.

A lot of y'all and I just have me cracking up. Yeah, we could. Thank you. He was like, they're so fun. When she said it, I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah. He was like, yeah, I know who they are. I was like, no, I love that. Are y'all in relationships?

I'm not currently. I was for like two and a half years. Okay, I saw you say that on Joe Button and that you were. So now you're not. I'm not. I'm single, but. But. Yeah.

I mean, I'm single. I'm single. Somebody about to be bad. Somebody about to be bad. My ex, he still be, he was texting me earlier, but. So, but y'all been on and off? So, or y'all were? We were on.

Okay. But then as of, I would say, this year, we've been on and off. Okay. So do you think that this is off permanently or are you going back on? You know, I don't even want to lie. I'm not sure just because him and I have to be in close proximity to, like, a lot of the time. Okay. Because we work together and stuff.

Okay. I don't know. So you're like, I don't know. We might get back together. Yeah. I heard that, okay. It's hard out here. It's hard out here.

It is. Dating is. What about you? Yeah, I'm in a relationship. You know, we figure it now. I always say, but I'm not married. Like, I'm 36. So I think it's so weird to be like, oh, yeah, I have a boyfriend.

So it's like, technically I am single. I'm not married. Because what are we doing? You know what I'm saying? What are we doing? So you feel like if I'm in a relationship but we're not married, you're single. Well, I mean, I say single because, like, With, like, paperwork, that's what I put.

You can't put you got a boyfriend. Yeah, you got it. But I mean, as far as, like, I'm not going out with other men. He's not going out with other women as far as I know, Nick. Because don't play with me. Don't play with you. But, yeah, I think, like, at this age, it's kind of like, you know, I am with somebody. But it's kind of like, you know, I'm too old to be like boyfriend, girlfriend.

So how long have y'all been together? About two years. What do you think the timing is? And does it change on age for you? you think the timing is for you to be like hello like are you going to propose and if not I'm moving on like what do you think oh we at that time yeah because of the age is that what it is okay well no to be honest I think I've always felt that way okay I feel like men know at least that's my opinion yeah I be feeling like they know like it don't take 10 15 years

for you to figure out if you want to marry somebody so what is the what is the year damn To me, when you start to get close to that three-year mark, nigga, what the fuck you're trying to do? Right. I agree. That's what I feel like you got to live with each other first though. Because when we get to five years, if we're still not, you say what? I think you got to live with each other first.

You know, a lot of women have a rule of like, I won't live until I'm married. Women have that rule. I don't have that rule. I don't have that rule. I live before I marry. You don't know nobody. I need to know you. I need to live with you.

I'm not mad at that, but I feel like it needs to be a plan. Like, because I feel. feel like sometimes if you move in with the guy, because I've lived with somebody I've dated before, and I feel like if you live together, it's kind of like they get comfortable, like, babe, man, we don't need to go to that cool house. Man, I love you. What's that got to get the white people involved

for? Why we need the paperwork? I'm trying. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Because they get comfortable. They feel like, why do I have to do this? We're good. We're in the same house. What more do you want from me? Common law, Mary. Yeah, they do. So I feel like, I think it needs to be like, everything needs to be aligned. Like, is there a proposal that's

about to happen at least we need to be engaged in living together so you feel like there should be a plan like hey i want to move in this is the time we should start living together because i think that we're getting to that point once we live together we should now be getting engaged like that should be a conversation you feel like i think i don't need no roommate yeah yeah you want a plan you want a man with a plan and you must to be vocal well i notice with men though they do a lot of their own inner thinking and they don't really express their plan all the time you know like they could have a plan like oh I'm gonna let's move let's do this but they don't always sit down and communicate it and be like

hey this is what we're doing because men don't operate like that I feel well you better let me know because time it's chicken like this the thing like you all like for men I'm gonna speak for the man because we just we kind of live in the moment you know what I'm saying it's not like I'm a coma here and I got the plan laid out for you here we go after two years we're gonna get engaged and then after three years

I'm gonna marry you and then after four years we're gonna have a kid we don't got the paper we don't got the paper for that. Right, right. We in the moment, we just, we don't even know we even love with you. It is just, we get slapped over the head. Like, damn, I love her. Yeah. Like, damn.

How did that happen? Yeah. You know what I'm saying? It's just like, you know, but I truly feel like you don't, why is marriage even important? Is marriage important? Is that important? Is that something you're saying, that's what I want to do? Yes.

I face age, yeah. I think when I was younger, I definitely didn't care as much about marriage as I get older. I do because I also look at marriage. like it's a business 100%. So it's a business. It is. It should be about love

but also you need to be with somebody where it makes sense on paper. And I say, I look at it like this because my parents were married and my dad passed away and when my dad passed away

my mom was taking care of because he had everything in order. And I think about like if they wouldn't have been married he could have had cousins and everybody else that's coming from the woodworks fighting her for what was hers

but they don't recognize that unless that piece of paper says, hey, everything belongs to her. So you see that a lot of times. Somebody passes away and it's like, oh, he survived by. And they be like, oh, this whole, his little friend. Yeah. His long-time companion. Long-time companion.

Or like, you know you have this intimate relationship with a man that you've been building for all these years. And then he dies and you like, no one is even taking you serious. You're like, wait a minute, he's the person. He talked to me about everything he wanted to do, everything he wanted to do, everything he needed me to put together but then you get cut out completely and sometimes they have people

that just want to take advantage and you're like damn I really want to help and make sure this is straight your kids are straight these people and I can't even do that because now it's like no one's taking me serious you know so I think that that's for that's how I look at it

and if something was to happen to me vice versa because your partner is the most intimate person that knows you the most no matter what because you're with them every day you tell them everything so I would want vice versa something happened to me you should be able to be like, I know this is what she will want.

And I saw that. I think it's a union before God. It's a beautiful thing. You know what I'm saying? Like it's something that you know, a lot of people some traditionally do it in a church. Like, this is a beautiful moment and it's like, I don't look at marriage or something scary or a bad thing. I look at it like another

step in life that's, you know, a progressive. Yeah, I agree. I don't know. I just feel like if it's something that you want, you just need to stand 10 toes on it. Because also, I think a lot of women and their biggest fear is wasting all of that time. Like, you're with a man for five years and y'all don't,

you're trying to keep it cute and you're trying to play coy, so you're not really bringing up the fact that you want to get married. You're letting him do it on his own time or hoping that he will. And then now y'all five years in, six years in, seven years in, he's still having married you, you tapping your foot, like, what's going on? Then say y'all end up, that's seven years you spent with that person. And you really wanted marriage or you really wanted marriage or you really wanted. kids and it never happened.

This is what I'll tell you this, and I started to break you. But I feel like after 33, he'd get one year. I ain't mad at it. Of living with each other, though. Okay. Live with each other. One year, he got to make a decision. I feel you on me.

I'm not mad at that. I think that's cool. I think that's what it should be. But do you think men respond well to ultimatum? So that's kind of like an ultimatum. I got to do something else. Mm-hmm. Because like you just said, what?

Five years go by. Yeah. Well, six years go by, but check this out now. say like you together three four or five years why jump because we're good right now right is everything good no it's not

why not everything I want to be married and I'm not hell no shit I mean the woman's going to be in for you it's good but the woman's in her head every day like am I not worthy enough why doesn't he want to marry you why doesn't I have this like god forbid a man's been married before then you really like oh wait hold on

Watch it in three. And he really ain't going to be in no rich. Exactly. So then a woman starts to get in her head, so it's not good for a woman. But like my best friend, her fiance, they met and in a year he proposed to her

on his birthday. I like getting married in February in Jamaica. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, I feel like when you're older, a man just knows if he's rocking with you or not. But then she said this. It's a business, right? So say, he treated like a business too.

So say like, all right, I'm going to get us this house and put it in your name. Boom. All right. I'm going to do a couple things in your name. Is there a rush now? Is there still a rush when he's starting to do stuff?

Okay, my will, your name. Like now what? Well, my thing is. You can kick back a little bit. You can kind of like, okay. You know what? We don't got to get married. But he did a couple, couple things that like if something happened, then I'm good.

Right? It's a business, though. Because, to be honest, I'm not putting no house in my name for us and we not married. That doesn't make me. I'm nervous. Yeah, that is true. And now we're broken up and now I have the mortgage in my name. Oh, pay for it.

And why do I have to do it? Like, it's giving, it's giving you illegitimate. Yeah. It's giving you ain't got your shit together. Why do you got a whole other family? Yeah, because why I need to be in my name? Because I just want to make sure if something happened, baby, like, you know, you know, somehow. No, no, no, no.

It's our name. When I tell you, the red flags will go up, part of medically. Yeah, to me, that would be. Like both of our names could be on the house If we decide to buy at home and live together Or he's gonna have his name on the two then I mean but he can get a smart businessman It's gonna make sure his name is on the house too

So if you're doing that it's like what you up to? If you just wanted to be a my name And you don't want to have no parts legally Mm-mm I'm gonna be questioning the fuck out of this shit Something in the milk is real score Yeah something right Yeah something the water ain't clean

Okay Good luck if you think they're reing but do you think but do you think that the woman the idea of like a man like proposing to you and wanting to marry you and do this in front of all these people is that something too like more than it just being a business do you feel like damn i feel special like this was yeah you know like i feel like women want that moment because you want to feel like wow you really thought about this you got on your knee you did this and for that i think women also they love that like you know that's something i think i just like the ideal of marriage

I mean, and I think men will only go to those type of lengths When they really love you and are choosing you I think it's about feeling like you love me enough That you're choosing me out of all of these other options Yeah And it's not I think a lot of women do love the idea of just being like I got the ring, I'm married A lot of women do love that idea

For sure But then there's someone who really just love that man And you're like I want this man to choose me And want to do that And I don't want to be in a space where I'm like Are you going to propose to me? I'm not doing that way I would never do that with a man.

I'm not doing that. Yeah, that's going to blow me. And it's the guy not going to feel authentic. Like I force you to do it. Now you resent me later on. I'm not doing that. Like, if you don't want to do it. You know how when it's on game day, you might be tired, beat up, life throwing doubles at you.

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safety info okay guys this segment is brought to you by rose sparks so we're going to talk about intimacy okay i want you to rank these in order from best to worst okay morning sex daytime sex or nighttime sex oh so oh man that's a good one i think uh i'm gonna rank morning number one Morning, I agree with that. Why is morning number one? No, because that's the start of your day. And, you know, I just feel like when you wake up and you have that intimacy in the morning, it just flows throughout your day.

You feel good. You know, you just got to, you're positive, you're smiling. You just, everything, feel like it's just, you're going to have a great day. Okay, so it sets the tone for the day. It sets the tone for the day. You're like, hey, all right, you know, we got it in. It was cool. Man, I'm feeling good.

shower, get ready. I'm ready to take on the day. Period. You know what I'm saying? Okay. That morning time be hidden than this. So like second is probably going to be that night because it's a little, you could be a little more romantic at night because, you know, nighttime is a vibe.

Right. You know, and you just like, you, you just like, you might throw some roses, a bath, candles, night time give you all that type of feel. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? could do so much at night movie dinner wine drinks lay down back passage all of that yeah and it just hits at night so that's second and you know during the day it's just like I feel like a daytime hit it's like a quickie type situation right just like a quick one too yeah you know what I'm

saying so that's how I'm a rank up from one to three okay I think I'm gonna do the same nothing is better than like a morning sex rollover like ooh roll over like oh roll over hit it hit it boom man ma'am then you're cracking for the day you know what i mean i love a morning sex and i love a wake me up sex like i'm waking up to it is a vibe like i'm waking up like oh okay okay cracking okay and then for sure nighttime i'm gonna say nighttime like you said it's like more sexy and vibe and then yeah daytime sex is like all right let's get it in real quick but it could be cool if you just you know all right like we both feeling it let's get it in So, okay, another ranking, shower sex, beach sex, car sex, or bathroom sex.

You're making this up? I'm making this up right now. You just made, how you know, you got it? No, rank these, which one? Sex in the shower, sex in the, on the beach, sex in the bathroom real quick, like, boom, baby, let's go to the bathroom. You know, or sex in the car. I'm going to say sex in the bathroom one that's one okay why is that one well I feel like that's a situation where you got the mirror right there you know what I'm saying if ain't nobody around I say it's in

your crib or your apartment or wherever it is not a public bathroom not on now that that's not a public not a public bathroom talking about like in the crib or a part of you know something that where you could just like that mirror here okay so you can see the mirror see little reactions from each other right there hands might be on the window you're like oh okay it's like it's hitting okay so that's one for me for sure and then you said shower will be second okay it's just something about the shower you know that's just you know you like that suds you get the suds going yeah shower wash your partner and y'all get it cracking so I'll say the shower's number two and then you said what the beach or the car I'm gonna say the beach is third uh I don't even know if I

ever done that on the beach wait yes yes yes well I don't know maybe I can't remember if so but like then I think oh hey damn cars come on the car is uncomfortable car has to go last the show I agree with that for me because I'm tall it's just too uncomfortable for me I would say probably a car is going to be last for me shower is cool but shower can get tricky like shower is to me overrated because y'all are trying to get the position

and then if you're with someone that's like super tall and you're not the same height like it'd be a whole situation you'd be trying to get shit lay here, lay here you'll be uncomfortable then you can't even focus on getting it cracking like shower is tough to me might be too wet yeah slippery it's this is that you're trying to get it like

I like it, but I think that it's just, like, overrated sometimes because, you know, like, I'll still get it cracking in the shower, but I need, like, it's not my first one. I don't think. I would probably say bathroom was going to be one, but like you said, not a public, because that mirror, okay, cool, that hits. And then maybe, I don't feel like these are good options. I'm going to say, like, beach, if you're on a vacation hitting it, it's warm, yeah, I'm hitting that beach. Yeah, the moon out. You warm out there. Yeah, you know what I'm saying?

So that, then shower, then car. That's what I'm going for. Period. I think that's a cool light. You should have gave better options. You got to be like jacuzzi. Okay. You give the options.

What's the options? You just made them up up. Yeah, I just came up with them. You give three. Oh, all right. So let me see if you can rank these. Okay. Rank these in order.

Okay. Props. Like toys A video Okay Like making a movie A tape Okay

Or like Bondage Okay You went all the way that I think you're going to be like J-cuzi Like No

No No Go on let's go write those So you said Bondage is like what Like someone's tying you up And this and that Right

Yes Yes Okay, I can get with that. I'm going to say toys, bondage, and then what was the last one? Sex tape. Sex tape. I'm going to go to those three. Sex tape is third.

Sex tape is third because sex tape is cool, but sex tape has to be like you trust this person, you love this person, and you guys know, y'all not ever going to be on some releasing. Well, you're going to do it with somebody that you love it. That you know ain't on those stuff like that. Yeah, for sure. So, I mean, sex tape is cool. I'm totally with that. Like, you can watch your back when you're not with the person.

Boom, boom, boom. Like, that's cool, you know? But I also feel like, okay, maybe, yeah, maybe that's my order. Sex, toys. You know, those are cool. What is your order? Well, probably, like, toys and stuff. Yeah.

You know, like stuff that's like, like, you know, you get the cream or the, or the feather, the blindfold, stuff like that. Okay. Tank cups, you know what I'm saying? Stuff like that. I'm cool with that. That's one. And then I'll say sex tape is two.

Okay. And then I go to bondage where it's just like, oh, got you tied up to the thing. Yeah, tied up to the thing or something like that. The bondage gets intense. It's not just tied up. It's giving whips and chains. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't know if I don't know about all of that. I don't think I ever done that.

I never did that before. I'm willing to try things, but that's intense. But yeah, okay, those were cool. I thought you were going to hear this with, like, jacuzzi in the movie theater. Have you ever had sex in a movie theater? I don't think so. That's a lot. Yeah.

Okay. Where's the craziest place you ever had sex? Man. I don't know, maybe, I don't know the plane. Okay, the plane? I feel like that's normal, though. I never had Texanana plane before. That's not normal.

I mean, when you do, like, when you do, like, private jets and stuff like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, then that makes a difference. We're talking on a public plane in that bathroom, tight as hell. Yeah, that would be crazy. That's blowing me, so I'm not doing that. Yeah, so, like, place are used like, damn, what? Maybe, like, I don't know. I don't know the plane.

Okay, the plane is cool. I'm not mad at that. All right. Private jet, though. Yeah, okay. That's not like a private jet, though, honey. Okay, well, anyways, this segment, like we said, was brought you by Roe Sparks. If prescribed new sexual health patients, get $15 off their first order of sparks on a reoccurring plan.

Connect with the provider at row.co slash TAD to find out if prescription Roe sparks are right for you. But to a point that what he made, like, we had this conversation with a married couple that came on our show before and he was like, do you want to be a bride or do you want to be a wife? Yes. Because it's a big, it's a lot of responsibility to be a husband and to be a wife. That's a lot. You know what I'm saying? They always say get with someone who doesn't just want a husband, but they want to be a wife. And vice versa.

Get with someone who doesn't just want a wife and he also wants to be a husband. Yes. Because a lot of people just want the idea of like, oh, I'm a wife now. I have a ring now, and they don't even be happy. Right. Or they don't want all that comes with it because shit ain't always going to be sweet. But that's what you signing up for

when you decide to marry somebody. Like it's the good, the bad, the ugly. Exactly, the bridge or the poor. And baby, once you marry me, honey, I'm not divorcing. Oh, we're doing it. We're going to figure this out. Like, go take a walk, take a nap,

come back, and we're going to talk about it. We're going to be all right. Like, I'm not doing no divorce. Not at this age and not at this stage, man. If I was like, I'm not doing that. Like, we're gonna be blocked. We got here for the rest of life. You, we, we dying together.

Yeah, I'm with you on that one. We die and you die, I'm dying the next day. Like, we're done. For real, I'm not playing that. Yeah. So. What's the worst way you, and y'all been in like probably several relationships. Oh, several.

Several. A lot. Let me ask you this. So now I'm hearing her talk and I'm hearing y'all, you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Never leaving the next man in marriage and everything because, you know, y'all getting older and everything. So what's the worst way you found your man

cheated or has a man ever cheated on you? Now, you know damn well. Right. You know damn. You're not crazy to be cheated. Yeah. I'm just saying, what's the, wait, what's, how did you find out? How did you find out? How did you find out?

I'm in Inspector Gadget. My last relationship, the thing is with my ex, he has a type. First of all, he has a type, like, me. Every time you say that, I always know exactly who you talk about. Because he has a type, me, his baby mama, the girl he was cheating on, all look alike. Triplets, hate to him, and grown. They do have a similar aesthetic.

Yes, like, so he didn't follow a lot of people at the time, and this was so crazy. He actually left me at his house because I came in town last minute, and I used to always stay with him when I would go home. And so he was like, hey, babe, I already had something playing. I got to go do something, blah, blah, blah. So I was like, okay, cool, I'll just be at the house, whatever. So I don't know what made me just, like, something in my spirit. That intuition, I was like, what is he doing? Because if I'm in town, why you didn't just push it back, move something around, you know?

Like, you couldn't change your schedule, whatever. So I went to the people he was following. And I was just scrolling, and I seen a brown-skinned big-booty bitch. I said I. That's her. That's her. It's her. I mean, I didn't even have to click.

I clicked on her page. I went and looked at her story, y'all. They was at the Dallas Mavericks game, having a ball. He in the camera like this. No. Oh, he was torts up. He was letting her record him is nudge. Yes, she was like this.

Why would he let her record? That's crazy. That's sloppy. Oh, my gosh. You were sloppy. But, you know, isn't there something about going through a following list and you just know which one? I knew it. You just always know as a woman.

I've seen memes about this. As a woman, you could just look and be like, I feel. I know it's her and I know they're messing around. You just know certain things or you know a certain vibe like you know and men don't realize

that we know what kind of girls you like for me. Like we know it. Like my man now I know his type. So that's how I see a bitch I'm like you know my nigga, you know him? I know, do you know this nigga? Oh, man.

I don't know. I feel like for me it was my friend telling me because the guy that I was dating he was like in the same vicinity with somebody who knew the girl I was cool with and he called her and told her that he was up there with a girl

but not to be like on no messy shit just like kind of letting her know who was up there. Yeah, to be cool, be cool. Yeah, like she was just, she was basically just like oh yeah, he told me so and so and so was up there and so and so was up there and he was up there with this person and that person and this is my friend but we wasn't really friends like that.

She didn't know that was my man yet, basically. And she told me. Just on some chopping it up. Just letting me know who was up there at the place. And so I'm just like, what the fuck? He up there with who? And I tried to keep it real cute because like I said she didn't know that was my man. So I'm like, what the fuck?

So I called him and I asked him about it. And then he was like, oh no, that's crazy. People be lying. I wasn't up there with her. Yes, the fuck you weren't. Oh, my gosh. Because then I went, looked at the girl's story. And she was indeed in the same place as him.

Oh, yeah. No, no, no, no. Now, okay, have y'all ever seen somebody you know? Like, let's say you have a home girl. She ain't your best friend, but you like know her man. And he's out on a date with someone else. What are you doing? I'm saying, that's a tricky situation. You better pay. I don't know. Because I just feel like stuff like that just get real touching. It gets touchy. And they start to blame you in a minute. Like, hold on, girl, you was lying. Do da, da, da, da. That's why it's. hard but what if it's your best friend what you do you know if it's my best friend I'm telling you that I've seen your name I'm taking a picture zoomed in yeah because I want him to know that I like I would walk up to the table

hey how you're doing like yeah I'm doing too I'm like hey what you're doing up here yeah who is this time yes 100% nice to meet you 100% but that's a best friend that's only a best friend

because certain women my man he can't do no wrong girl you all have been You don't even know what we got going on. I was like, never mind. Yeah, I was trying to help you. I don't be getting involved if I see someone. But this is the thing, you can't look from afar and go tell because you don't know what that is. Yeah.

I will say that though, because I was going to say my mom told me this story about how when her and my dad first started dating, my mom had four brothers. So one of her brothers, he was in the Navy. And, like, when he would go away, she would drive his car. And so one day she ended up picking him up from the airport. when he got back and I guess somebody that was cool with my dad seen her picking him up

from the airport and then called my dad and was like oh yeah I seen your girl at the airport picking up this man and they were hugging

and X, Y, and Z and then coming to find out it was my uncle but my dad trust my mom so he believed you have to trust because people

will put things in your ear and you can't assume that you have to know exactly what it really is if it's my best friend I don't care what it is I'm just letting you know, honey. I'm just letting you know he's with somebody.

I don't need context when it's my best friend. I'm just letting you know this is who he's with. Okay, that's his sister, cool. Yeah. It's not going to be no beef. That's why you only do that with your best friend. You don't do that with nobody else. It don't matter if it's your best, like, yeah, that's your best friend.

But like, your best friend could be he over here, arm around this girl walking through and he lived, but this is his cousin, but he's family, his family. But also, if that's your best friend and that's her. man she'll already know oh he outside with such and such like you know what i'm saying you know they're gonna know if i tell her like hey girl i seen yo dude he was outside oh he was with x y z because you know where he was at that's why y'all got to stop lying exactly and your best friend's not gonna be mad at you because it's your best friend you're gonna be like okay girl yeah he's out actually he's out with his cousins and that's his that's his but a man like

a man we're not gonna tell you every step of the way yeah we ain't gonna tell you i'm out with X, Y, Z, X, Y, Z, Z, Z. There's like five of us. We're going to say, we're going to go here. And I'll be out for a little bit. Yeah, it's not a hugged up, but it's like, say, like, you're in a section. It's like a couple girls. Like, this is where y'all really make, this is why y'all get.

All right, y'all, y'all rolling with this. Say, yo, man, he out with his boys. It's three of the boys. Okay. They got a section at the club, but it's like four girls in a section. Without me? Okay. They don't know without you.

I'm coming. But look, but look, where am I? You at the crib. While he out with a bunch of girls? No, he's not with the girls.

His boys. His boys. I'm not going to lot. Stuff like that doesn't bother me. Like, I get it. You can bother me. I mean,

think about if your man is outside, they don't want to be in a sexual with a bunch of niggas. Like, if it's innocent, like women are around, y'all drinking, having fun,

that's cool. But as long as it stops right there. Nothing. I don't want a woman to ever feel like, oh, yeah. Because a lot of times, It ain't about him. It's about how I was with Drey a man last night.

He was all in my face. They love to do that. Girl, be excited you to date a nigger because you dated. You did that. I see a guy man and he was all in my face. Exactly. It's like them having a little one-up for you. The men don't realize that women are calculated and they do that shit on purpose.

They know and they'll literally go and then that's how you get caught up because the next day they were like, girl. And even if you weren't doing anything, like as a man, you can never be too friendly. you can't because a woman's going to flip that as he was on me he was trying to flirt with me and then everyone else is going to interpret it as that so now she's going around talking about your man is flirting and even if it's not the truth and she forgives you it still just feels it don't feel good for a woman like I don't feel that you know what I'm saying like you ain't what is your example of a man being too friendly like where is you cross the line oh I don't know because you know I'm not going to lie I'm a little lax when he comes to that

Like I'm a little relaxed when it comes Because I feel like my ex He was real flirty Yeah But people also tell me I'm really flirting too And I think people will think that I'm flirting with them And I'm not even trying to Just because of my head

Yeah, just because of my energy and stuff And he knows that and he giddy And it's the same with me So I feel like it doesn't really bother me sometimes Whereas other women that I'm friends with They would shut that shit down When they feel like they man is being too flirty or too friendly.

I don't really mind it because I feel like it goes with knowing your man. The man I was with, that's where it stopped. Like, he's gonna be friendly, but he ain't doing nothing else. It ain't leaving right there.

Yeah. Once it's done. But it just depends on the circumstance in my opinion too and woo's around and what's why. Like don't, you can't just be making me look and feel stupid.

Yeah, that's where I draw the line. But like I also agree where it's like, you're going to say stuff, you're going to do stuff you're going to live, you're going to hit it. Like that's just a part of life. You know, like, you can't be too uptight with a man. I agree.

And I'm just not an overly jealous person. Like, I think that, first of all, bitches be fine. They're looking good. That's good. Yes. I can acknowledge that. You know what I mean? So I don't expect my man to not look.

I saw something online the other day. And this lady was basically saying, like, she don't want her men looking at anybody. She don't want him looking at other women, looking at their ass. That's a little crazy. Because I heard a girl tell me she was like, my man can't be around like pretty girls. I don't allow him to do. First of all, girl, you can't control a man.

He's going to see pretty women. You're not the most beautiful woman in the world. So none of us are. There's always going to be someone prettier, better body, this and that. Just like there's going to be a finer man, a richer man, everything. So you have to be secure into your own shit. I don't like to control and micromanage that. That seems so miserable.

I'm going to be stressed out I can't I can't control that you be around one matter of fact be around the baddest bitches in the world and still choose me about that be around the baddest bitches and be able to be like I'm cool

like that's what I want you know what I'm saying like be around that and then still choose me then I'm cracking you know what I'm like and I also feel like you get the best version

of your partner when you let people be themselves like you're not supposed to let that nigga disrespect you right you know what I mean he shouldn't be sure trying to holler at no women or nothing inappropriate while you around and stuff and you're seeing it and you just being cool with it but you if he if he like looking I don't know

I just don't care about that I don't yeah I don't bother me I don't want a nobody breaking no neck to look at nobody when that's going to blow me if a nigga is like yeah yeah but even if a man like I'm with a man he's like oh you know oh you're a pretty girl or like you just I don't care I'm like whatever but if you look like then I'm like this is crazy now it's a bit much Yeah. Now you're trying to get custody. It's a thin line between somebody being flirty and somebody being thirsty.

Yeah. I don't want no thirsty. Let me ask you. So y'all walk in. Go ahead. One more. Y'all together, boom. Mm-hmm.

That's cool. A little glim. Yeah, a little blind. Because I probably, she, fine. I'm probably going to blend soon. Boom, boom. No, that's too much. Yeah.

You move that shoulder, nigger. That shoulder, nigger. That shoulder. That shoulder. Yeah. No, the first time you went like this. The second time you was like, I, I, I, no. We know how to do it though.

Because a dude, we'd be like, what's she doing all that? Now, we're in Atlanta too. So it's a lot of that. I'm like, God damn. It's a Tuesday afternoon. Yeah, we do. I look at women all the time. I'm like, okay, she's hitting got a little big body to.

Like, I'm very friendly. I love people I be chopping. Like, so I get it. And I'll even be like, oh, look at that. I don't do stuff like that, but don't break no neck. Yeah, don't break no far. Because now you're taking it too far. And now she's already thinking like her.

Because you know what I hate as a woman? When I'm out and I see a girl in her man and he's staring me down. It's so embarrassing for the girl. And it's like, wow, I would never want my man to do that. I'm going to feel crazy because I'm looking at him, looking at me. So you're staring him. No, you feel someone. You feel.

You feel. I'm like you know when somebody is staring at you. You feel it. It's very. uncomfortable. And then you see it and it's like you with a whole woman and you just staring down and then you feel stupid for her like embarrassed like damn I get secondhand embarrassment for you

girl and I hate that and I don't want that. Don't be doing that because women like that one up. Yeah, girl. He was on. I can have them. I still just staring. That ain't just a look. He's just like whatever. But why are you staring? Staring is crazy. A glance acknowledging is she fine with staring. You know what's crazy? My friend, one of my

closest friend told me a story. She was on vacation with the man she was dating at the time. Okay. They went to, like, Mexico or something. They're at a resort. Okay. They're like hugged up in the pool, kissing. Okay. And I think he had eventually like, got up, went to the bathroom or something. A girl was like, hey, I just want to let you know

your man is winking at me. And, like, she was like, she had to tell her, she was like, it ruined the trip. What are you doing? Literally, while they're hugging, he was looking at another girl and winking at her, staring at. Yes, I swear to God. That is. That is.

It's crazy to me. That's what I'm saying. So it's just like, yeah, you got to draw that line somewhere. You got to draw the line. Because it's like, yeah, a look is a look. But sometimes when you know when somebody's staring you down, a stare down. You for sure know a staring down. It's like, what are you looking at?

And you know a break neck. Those two things, it's like you're doing too much. Do y'all, would y'all bring a third into your thing, into your relationship, like just for a night or something? I don't like Coochie. Keep that shit away from me. And so, see, when I was younger, I used so. Like, I had a girlfriend before.

Okay. So, I don't know. I'd be saying once I get married and me and my ex have, like, talked about this before. Like, I don't know. You might be open to it. Maybe like a little girlfriend. Why? When I get older, I don't know.

Like, so an extra girlfriend for both of y'all. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Why is he your ex right? Because it's clear that you still have something there. Oh, wow.

Look, look. I think. I feel like we. just or not in alignment with the things that we wanted currently. Which is what? Which is like, where the fuck is the ring, nigga? Okay. That's just how I feel at this point when it comes to me and him.

And I feel like, you know, he is marriage-minded. He wants to get married, all of those things. But I think he has been, like, jaded, like most men in a lot of, from previous relationships. So I just think he's apprehensive. and he's really big too on he already has a kid so he doesn't want to have another kid without being married first because he's like I don't want to be no two-time baby daddy

so I'm like okay I respect it so we're the ring in because I'm also ready to pop babies old period so we just you know not in a line so you give him an ultimatum like we're going to be getting married or we're not going to be together oh well I don't feel like I gave him an ultimatum but that's why we're broken up

because we're just not on the same page and I feel like he know where we stand with it so I feel like for you she built something right here and when you build something with somebody and you have a history and it's like you're comfortable and it's like damn I don't want to tear it all down to start all the way over and then that's a whole other process that's a whole other five years for something else yeah and and it's like You want it to work. It just feels like, but you're just not sure. But then it's like, damn, if I could start something new and start building somewhere else,

damn, to start the rebuild is a process. But do you really feel like you should stay for that reason? Because then you do have situations to where women get out of long-term relationships and they end up meeting the love of their life and get engaged in like a year. Like she said, you just said. That was living with my best friend. She has her old baby daddy. He's this, that, that.

She left him. was like, I'm not dating, whatever. Went on one day, married, engaged. Because you get, you get, like, the thing is, when you,

when you break up with somebody, you have that initial of like, I need to be with somebody. When you're with somebody, you like, you make a mistake. You can make a quick mistake. Yeah.

You know what I'm saying? Because you resented that person now and now you're looking for something quick then I'm, oh, I found somebody quick. Yeah. Now it's a mistake. But that's not always the case, though,

either. A lot of people do that. But no, a lot of people do that, but people, she like, took a break for like a year from dating in general and then she literally was like

I'm so comfortable alone I don't even want to date like I don't want to I don't even care to me with nobody and then boom it hit her in the face type thing you know because you do hear those stories about women and then boom they're with the next man it's like wow you're doing

all of this you're ready to marry you're not playing games with me or whatever I don't know I don't know with men and I don't know how much time you let a man slide with stuff if you want something he's not willing to give it to you then do you let it go I don't know

and I think that's where in life you never really know if you're making the right decisions you know and I think that's sometimes the scary part about life you never really know like okay is this the right decision that I'm making I hope it is

because then you also on the other side have women who leave relationships and then they don't never find nobody else yeah that's true I doubt that's going to be your situation I thank you I agree I feel like women it feel that way and I'm like me and my home girl say that I'm like look at your track record how long

have you ever been single in life you haven't been single for that long like you you're gonna get a new man but outside of that being single is not scary no it's not like a bad thing like I really enjoy you know the freedom that I have of like living alone living alone sometimes and so it's like being alone is not scary and it's not like oh my gosh the most horrible thing ever either so I feel like it's a win-win either way if I find my my husband and we have kids and live happily ever after that's cool but if i'm by myself i'm cool with that too you know yeah you have to be okay with that yeah i don't know that i would i think it's because i have community like life is not meant to be lived alone it isn't but i'm not alone though

like for me like i have such a strong community like me and my sister are like extremely close i have my nephews i have my friends you're really not alone you got your circle yeah i have you know but it's nothing is different than having one person in that household yeah it is yeah And knowing, like, you have that one person you call on. But I agree with you. Yeah, community is important. People always make me feeling like being alone is such like a, they make it like a sickness. Like, oh, you're single.

Why she ain't got no man? Oh, my God. There's something wrong with her. Yeah, what's wrong with her? They always say that's like, what's wrong with y'all? Yeah. It's the real question. That's why we don't want to deal with y'all.

Like, how about that? Yeah. Because it's easy. People think, oh, it's so hard to get a man. You can get a man if you just don't want to be alone. You can get a man. Is that amazing? That is the easiest thing to get.

It's getting a quality man. Yeah. Getting a good man is hard. It's hard. Getting a man. There's a statistic that says women want, women are more attracted to men who are taken. And men are less attracted to women who are taken.

So like when a woman is knowingly taken, less men, which I actually can feel that. Like if you're knowingly public or, you know, whatever, less men, get at you. I need to shut up then. I'm single, y'all. I need to shut up. I'm not going to talk about that. They say that, but even Cardi B.

had said that. I'm glad. I'm just, don't get fucking. But less men, honestly, like even Cardi B said that. When she was married, no men were getting,

they were cool. Like, oh, hi, she wasn't getting men at her like that. But when men are married or men are taking women want them more because they're like, oh, you can be a husband. You can be a boyfriend.

I might be cuter than her. I might be able to take her man. Why can't he be mob? boyfriend. He has the ability to be a husband and a boyfriend and a relationship person. So it makes them to a lot of women more attractive. I think there's a lot of truth of that too because I think it's so interesting all the time when a woman has a child with a man they were together. Then they break up and then she ended up being the side bitch to her baby daddy. Oh yes. Because they'll do that. Because they'll do that. Because how you go from being the

main to the side girl. Yeah. Women go from being the main to the side all the time. So the baby mama becomes the side to the man once he gets a new girl or a wife or whatever and then yeah i'm not but you was once the girlfriend do you feel like if your man cheated on you with his baby mom is that uh like would you get back with him for that no that's a cheat you can't do because i feel like you still have feelings yeah yeah and y'all have a kidding this is someone you're going to have to deal with forever so you can't just be like i'm gonna cut her off babe i'm never going to talk to her again no i don't deal with that that's the one line where it's like now would you take a man back if he cheated?

No, not now. I used to not, yeah, I used to, like, kind of not care, but I think now... What's levels to cheat? Yeah, so the game said that there's levels to cheating. Did you all see that? Okay. So, let's talk about it. So, you know, some people say that cheating to them is anything that you do that you can't

tell your partner about. Okay. I'd be more self-thilling like he's physical. Yeah. For me. Emotional to me, cheating is actually worse. It is worse. Emotional is worse, but usually if it's an emotional connection, they're fucking.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's true. What if, what if it's like your man is sending somebody money and helping them with stuff? You care up, bitch, yeah. That's worse they fucking. Yeah, they hit him up. That's worse money. That's worse they fucking. You're paying this bitch bills?

Yeah. You really like her. Yeah, you really fucking with her. Or what if a girl hit him up like, hey, I really need help, my car or something, something, can you send me some money? I'm cool. And they had sex, but they never had nothing to say. No, but you're about to have sex wire if you give up to.

You're about to. You're warming her. Yeah. You're warming her eyes. Or even if y'all had sex once or twice, she's hitting you up, da-da-da-da. What if your man has a home girl that he's, that he sends money to? Is that okay? A home girl that he's sent money to?

And they're not. Where's her nigga? Yeah. She ain't got one. Where's her job? She needs a little hell. It sticks economy. If you need help one time, cool.

I'm not opposed to like, my man helping one of his friends once but sending her money consistently no that's a problem not a consistent just like a man sending a woman money is blowing me in general like if you know unless it's your family members or something like that what like this she ain't sitting here having sex with you and doing this and doing that right what what but is it like a cap thing like what if she need $200 till pay day you're saying like is there a cap oh what's the I think you should be hitting a man who's single and available to be

giving you money and not someone else's man. That's fair. Like who's building a life and an empire to get. Like it's not his responsibility to take care of another woman. Like if it's to the mother of his children, that's different. Yeah, that's definitely different. She got a carbook. Like, yeah, that's different. You can send your baby mom money

for stuff. I don't think that that's a problem. But just a rant, like a home girl. Yeah. And I realize what's cheating too, I used to be like, oh, I can get over it. You don't. like for me personally like I used to be like in relationships and like he would cheat or something and do something I'm like oh my gosh I forgive him we're going to move on from this and even if we did move on and he becomes the perfect guy he changes it's still in the back of my head and I'm just

like you know what I don't think I can forgive this I think this is actually a deal breaker for me are you a person that bring it up though like you can't get over it and then you bring it up like when y'all having other arguments yeah like in my last situation yeah that it happened because I realize I'm not over this. Like I can't get over it and I won't get over it. You know what I'm saying? Now, I've had situations like with somebody I'm dealing with like we're on and off

and like we were off and they were like maybe dealing with somebody and stuff like that is different. Like if we had an off period and you were dealing with somebody else like it's going to hurt my feelings that make me mad but you didn't cheat on me because cheating is just different. I don't know. It just hits me different. Do you have levels of cheating though? Like what is it?

Like what is like if a man is like oh, you know, he went out. Let's say his home girl's in town. He went to go get drinks with her, but he didn't tell you. Like, if that's your home girl, why are you not telling me? Right. Anything that you do behind my back, I wouldn't necessarily categorize it as cheating, but you're being, you're being dishonest.

You're being sneaky. There's no trust there. You know what I'm saying? You don't trust me not to not trip. I don't trust you to be honest. So it's like, what are we doing here? So anything that you do behind my back that you're being sneaky about is dishonesty. so I just, I can't do it.

Is this cheating? Let me shout out. Say like, he goes to the club with his boys. He gets drinks, so he just meets a girl. You pull up to the club and you walk in there, you see it's a girl on his lap. As soon as he sees you, he push her off. Yeah. What are you doing?

At the club. At the club. Not a stripper. Like, if it's a strip club, I don't care. No, I've seen this happen, though. He just met the girl. seen this happen you friendly that's why we were talking about earlier why she walked in look she walked in he thought he saw a ghost he was oh exactly if he pushed her now I'm

really suspicious why are you pushing up but let me tell you something because he saw you get off even if he didn't push her is that cheating a woman sitting on my van's lap is cheating yeah because what are you yeah like I said you being friendly as hell because again Now you have a conversation like, no, we just met. She's like, she right there. She's like, yeah, I don't know, yeah. So even more reason why she's sitting on your lap, we just met her? We were just vibed and there was no other seats.

But say I never walked in the club, was you going to come home and tell me what happened? Like, man, I was at the club and this girl sat on my lap. We're not going to tell you that. Exactly. Of course not. But why would we need to tell that? Why we want to start an argument? Because I like to fight.

See what I'm saying? Why do you want a girl sit? Okay, let's answer this question. If you walk in the club and. And your girl has a man, and she's, I mean, she's sitting on a man's lap. If I walk in and my girl is sitting on a dude lap, I'm good. Exactly. But it's, okay, on men condition, but they cannot talk about me.

I can't stand that about men. Men can be smiling in a girl's face, flirting. A moment a man even comes talk to you for two seconds, they'd be like, what was that a comment? What was y'all talk about? Damn, but you could be key, keen, like, no, no. Man, do the most. A girl sitting on somebody lap. You're going to go.

No, no, no, look. If I see it, I'm not even going to approach her. I'm going to look and be like, oh, that's what she on. All right, I'm going to go play the bar over here. I might go start talking to something else. Like, all right, yeah. Now I'm going to start flirting right here now. I'm about to do it right here.

I'm about to walk over here. I'm like, oh, hey, come here. Come here real quick. Hey, hey, hey, hey, how are you doing? I'm sorry. How you're doing? How you're doing? Like the end of the relationship if you started, yeah.

But get what? He had every excuse for when a girl was on his life. But this is the thing. Right. Yeah. Every excuse. When it's hell's on my life, I said, this is what I saw. I'm saying.

But let me ask you this. Are you leaving a man if you see that? So let's say you come in the club. The girl is sitting on his lap rubbing his head. And it's not about the action. It's about how it makes me feel. And what I, every time, now every time you step out, I'm like a big rubbing on his head.

Now you're thinking every time he goes down. Every time that's miserable. I don't want to, every time you step out the house, I don't want to be like. Damn, I wonder what he's doing. That's not fun. So the actual action of it is the bigger picture and it's the after effects of what you did. You know what I'm saying?

But you can get over. No, I can't. No, it's a respect. Now, here's another scenario. Okay. So that's not cool. But it's cool if you walk into the strip club and she's twerking on them. Yeah, she's working.

We don't love the strippers. They do not want them niggas in there. They do not. Well, sometimes they actually. do but I feel like he's on big tips though that now he's

this is an appropriate setting to do that it's a strip club and also too no like you know like you know I'm thinking like this is a strip club you come here to do that

so we already know what to expect and I like my man going to the strip club and nobody he right there getting all rock he right there getting

he can come on like that's good I'm good he good I mean obviously I just feel like if a girl One is dancing on you.

You're going to. That's going to happen. That's going to happen. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. There was a band. Yeah. That's not cheating. But look, he's in the back room.

We in the back back room with her though. You know, now you're doing too much. No, he just, he's just private. No, the private dance is not necessary. Get out there with everybody. There's too many people on him. No. No.

A private dance is crazy. In the back on. He can't get a private dance. You too horny. You're too horny. You get in a little head. You get a little egg back there. That's blowing me if you're in the back.

You won't know me in the back. It's crazy because I just came to the realization there was a viral me like guy and he was like when guys tell me to go to the strip club, they're like, oh, you want to go get hard in the club together? And I realized like, men are hurting the street. They are. I didn't know that. Why wouldn't I know that though?

They used to walk up to the bar like water wings, just let me get that lemon pepper. No. I don't know why I was so naive to not realize like because I'm not getting like turned on, But obviously, I'm not, you know, whatever. But I'm, like, thinking like, y'all are just hard. All the y'all would hear this. All standing around together, just hard to go. Just hard as hell.

When we're coming here for it in. And y'all live in Atlanta, right? So I used to live in Atlanta, honey, and my homegirls worked at Onyx, and she was cracking, okay? This was back 10 years ago. But them strip clothes is no joke in Atlanta. I didn't see them eating each other. Everything. Oh, yeah.

Everything in Atlanta. Toys. I'm like, oh, y'all are having. pornos shoot right here. Yeah, it gets crazy. And they be butt naked. They just be having it out. If you go to the-walk around, just hitting it out. Yeah. But I mean, if you go to a strip club of Atlanta is, what's more cracking? Atlanta, Houston for the strip club. I've never been in Houston's strip clubs. I'm biased because I worked at one of the really popular strip clubs for a very long time. And now when we go back, we always go to Area 29. We always

are my Area 29. We love Area 29. It's a good time. But to me, I'm not going to lie, Atlanta strip clubs be more popping because the girls out there be really. dancing. They do be professionals. They be climbing the pole. Jumping. They be doing the tricks. The Houston girls, they just fine. They know they find. They're going to do a little shake their little one.

They get that leg. They get that laid up. They know that's all they got to do. Yeah. Okay. So before we wrap up, Paul has some viral clips and I want to know what y'all think. I'm not going to lie. I was very scared to come here today.

I was. Because I was like, oh, my God, he's going to say something crazy. And I'd be like, oh, my God. Everyone who comes is always like, you're so nice and you're so cool. I've never said he's talking crazy. Yes. He talked crazy, honey. I was scared.

I was scared. I'm only with me and her. Okay. He talks crazy. But with other people, he don't do that. So he said cheat to see if you love your, you have to cheat on a woman to see if she loves you. What do y'all think of this? I know.

Why is that the go-to? Yeah. And why do I have to struggle for love? I think, you know, I think that's a big misconception. People think that they have to go through a lot with a men Or a lot with a woman For y'all to be compatible Or to make sure that y'all supposed to be able to make it work

Like I feel like why can't it just be smooth selling from day one But I'll say this to a point Because I think sometimes you do have to go through things To make it work, right? Yeah, for sure But it don't have to be cheating Like I have like I had a situation where like

His grandmother died And it's like, you know How do you suffer? You got to see how somebody goes through something. You know, maybe something that's happened with you financially and you're going through a season or maybe I'm going through a season. Like, we can go through things.

You ain't got to go, fuck another bitch to see it. Let me see how strong she is. Exactly. No, there's a lot of things that can happen in life that can test our relationship outside of cheating to see if we can weather the storm. I'm not saying, like, initially like, hey, all right, you know what? I'm going to go see.

I'm going to let her catch me and let's see. Let me test her wheel. I ain't initially saying that. but I know guys that's found out because like I'm talking about like people in my position motherfuckers are a hell of money that's me that's that's already known say like shit he'd already got a hundred million yeah now I mean you how I know that you know you ain't like the rest of right you know what I'm saying you're chasing checks out here or something so what I got to do to know this well how do you how do I find out and what I'm I'm dumb I'm dumb as hell because I'm

just, I'm just, I like girls, whatever. I'm just like, oh, she's fine. Damn, she got a good personality. Oh, go, let's let's be my girl. Yeah. You know, dumb motherfuckers out here. So how do I know for show that she ain't about to just try to get me from my shit? I don't think you really know.

I think you have to give it time and really get to know the person and vet them properly. I think a lot of the time men and women just fall head over heels really early and you don't really know this person, you know the representative. you have to give you time time tells all people can only keep up a facade for so long first few months yeah a year in

you gonna see the real then yeah they say after six months you can't hold on to your representative for too long and man like you've said before they actually do be knowing they just decide like I'm gonna stay because she cool with sex cool she pretty they be knowing for real after a while

they're like yeah she ain't but you already I can deal with that I can deal with it you know she's not going to really be with you she ain't rolling with you you die she's going be taking that money and smiling and laughing to the bank but you know when a woman is genuine who she hangs around how she operates the real friend she got the people she talked to like you know you know because and then it's like yeah a lot of times women be go dear because i truly do believe and get you a lot of times these men get you a woman that got something to lose they got her own business they got her own things going on outside of you you know what I'm saying when you

have a woman who has something to lose and things going on, it's just like, yeah, it's cool that you have money. It's a plus, but it's not why she's here because she got her own going on. She knows how to run a business. She knows how to talk to people. She knows how to do things. She's adding value to your life because she wants to. You know what I mean? She's not just like, oh, spend this money. Also, someone will be like, no, don't spend that, babe, save this, do this. Like, you peep that, yo, she really rock with you. Like, don't, don't get it twisted. Like, there's other ways. There's a lot of ways. There's a lot of. I got a cheat.

The list is so long, well, it's very, very long. Yeah, it is. Okay, so Paul also says that he feels like women overseas are better to be in a relationship with. He didn't say it, but I'm summing it up. To be in a relationship with, they're just more submissive. They want a family. They want to do, like, the passport.

So I was going to say you support the passport. I don't even know who the passport boys are. She brought that up. And that's my first time ever hearing of her. Really? I said that the women over. sees have more traditional family values than American women. Okay.

And you know what? I'm not going to say you're wrong, but also on the other side of that, the men are more traditional as well. So they're doing that because they're raised in the household where it's like I'm taking care of the household. I'm being a man. I'm being a leader.

We were forced to be independent. So yeah, there's no men in the house. So yeah, I have to pay the bills. I have to be strong. I have to be, I'm going to be a more militant and a little more argumentative because this is how I run my house because ain't no man in here.

Y'all be going to get some milk and y'all never come back. So it's like the society and the culture is a lot different here because we were forced to be the man of the household and independent. So yeah, those women are going to be able to be more submissive

and listen more because they hold family in the house. Literally they raised their family, the grandmother in the house, the grandfather, everybody in the house together. They got help. And the men are running the bills and this and that and the woman have their position to play. And they already see that that's what it is.

You're like, oh, this is what it is. Okay. And guess what the men don't wait three years to marry you for you? They're going to be like, we're having a family, we're getting married, this is your house. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. But when them overseas women come over here, they got an agenda, baby. That's the difference because I've seen that.

They come over here, baby. They're doing the same thing. Everybody else doing it, okay? They want that check, too. They want that check, honey. And that's all you guys. Take me shopping. Oh, you this?

Oh, yeah. They're coming over here for a reason. Yeah. Period. Point blank. Melania did it too good. She said, I didn't mean to be the first lady. I just want to be a little chick.

That pussy got on some trouble. Ended up getting on the White House. You know what I'm saying? Nobody knows how to speak English. She's on Merry Christmas like, girl. I'm crying. Okay, y'all. This has been fun.

This has been so fun. We're going to wrap up with a little segment. Okay. Okay. This is the daily fantasy segment brought to you by price picks where you can win real cash by playing daily fantasy. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. So the segment is I'm going to ask you to. What is your fantasy in a relationship? Not sexually it can be, but like what do you want more of from your man? Like what do you wish men knew about women? Like what do you wish they did less? Like I want them to know more of. Like for me, she asked me this. What do I want more from the one? Like, let's stop talking so goddamn much. I know. And that's a tough one for us.

You know what's crazy? It's not talking. Why is crazy you said that? I tweeted one time and it went viral because, like, I was at dinner with my man. I was trying to be, like, romance. And I was like, babe, like, what's your fantasy? Like, what do you want, like, for me to do? He was like, to be like, to be my.

I said, oh, yeah. That made me up. And we're thinking our personality is everything. They love our personality, we chopping, we laugh. He'd be like, shut up. And they just want us to be quiet. It's crazy. But it's like sometimes what?

Do you're just supposed to sit there, mute all day? You know what I'm saying? You know, I don't know. I think that sometimes we think that we're coming up with a solution or we think we're helping and they be looking at it like you being combative. But we're not trying to be combative. We really think we're helping the situation. That's what it is.

It's like you always have to question it. But it's like, I'm not questioned. I'm just thinking like, can I also come up with a. a different solution or bring this to your attention because sometimes you don't remember this like and then they're like you just always to question me and you don't follow your capacity but it's like I'm just trying to help like always he told he said it's okay because I'm not always looking for an answer that part like sometimes I'm just talking to you I get like I don't necessarily want you to come up with a solution or to help me but us is

with me we just can't help me we can't help me we can't help but we'd be like, well, didn't you say you didn't like that? Like, girl, I just said I'm going here. Right. But I'm just telling you what I'm saying. I think for me, like, what I would like more is just like a balance. Because he's like a workaholic and stuff. And so it's like, I'd be having to make him take a break.

Like, literally, I'd be having to make him sleep and go get a facial, go relax today. So I wish, like, they would, men would find more of that work-life balance of, of like relaxing sometimes but I get it like you know when you just are in hustle hustle mode I understand that but I think life is all about balance because you don't want to look up and you're like 60, 7 you're like damn all I did was work like all I did was work like I meant travel or do nice things like just for yourself even yeah yeah for sure yeah I think that's something that I think yeah what about anything less from a man like they don't want Must to be quiet.

Less talking. I don't know. Less. What could they do less of? I think I said I would like a man to be like less. Like I don't know how to put this in the right term, but like stop holding shit in so much. Oh, okay. You know what I'm saying?

Because they'll let shit build up and you don't even know. And it could be small. Like you could be annoyed by the smallest thing I do. Like, babe, can you go do this or turn off the light? And it's just like, I hate when you ask me that. Like little stuff and then they get all mad and it just boils up and they're irritated. It's like just tell me sometimes like communication, communication, more communication. But you know what I've realized, I think men don't like doing that though because then when

they talk too much, that'd be a turnoff for some women. Like that'd be like, oh, he nagging, he's sassy. Yeah, I'm complaining. But I think that's so crazy because like if this is your man and somebody you're dealing with, like I be wanting you to tell me what's wrong and what's going on. I do too, too. I want to hear every thought. Everything.

Bring it. What else? What were you going to say? Don't forget. Say it. I want to hear everything a man got to say. But men have said that like even my past relationships, a man has told me like, yeah, you act like women act like they want to hear your problems. But once you start giving the problems, they start respecting you less.

And I don't find that to be true. Yeah. Because the more I know, the more I can anticipate your needs and help you and help us grow, you know? like I'll say this I definitely want you to tell me but then I think it gets to a point and this is just people across the board like yeah how many times you're gonna bring it up though the same thing yeah that's over and over and over because we gotta come to a solution yeah then it gets to a point to where it's like okay damn yeah like now what we gonna do about it and I got us as women we're naturally that way this is cool but what are we gonna do about it like I understand how you feel but let's come up with a solution I like to be a solution-based person. Same, same. Okay, I love that. Well, thank you to our good friends at Price Picks,

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