Club Shay Shay - Humble Baddies - Hour 1: Sharelle, Alexis & Porsha react to Claresa Shields saying she doesn’t have sex for 6 weeks before a fight!

Episode Date: May 20, 2025

Sharelle & Alexis are joined by W.A.G.S star Porsha Berto react Claresa Sheilds going absentee before a fight, and Rapper Bossman Dlow responds after trans influencer Timmy Bandsome claims he sent flirty DMs and offered hush money & much more!10:33 - Claressa Shields abstinence before fight36:52 - Bossman Dlow Allegations(Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.) #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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let all the people know that my girl can sing. Yes, she can. Go ahead and hit one note for me. Don't start. Of course, I can't. I'm not finna hit. You know, I'm not playing. He says she's not in the mood.

Say it for the choir. I'm not. Y'all are not about to play with me. It's not. Baby, you can bring. Go ahead and hit that one more time. What's up, what's up, you guys? What's up, what's up?

We are back with another episode of Humble Baddies. Yes, we are. Girls, come around, I'm back. Y'all miss me? Oh! You have Alexis out of my arm in the building. And... our girl, Portia Wick, a special guest. Special guest. Portia was hungry. I told y'all my baby was downstairs crying.

Oh, you can feel him. I know you can feel him. Hi, baby. All that breast milk you pop, you still got a freezer full of it. Oh, he's eating it. He's eating it. Aww. He's so cute. See, Porsche's a humble baddie, okay?

Humble baddie, fan of mom. Yeah, I love it. I love it. Porsche. You got to hold on to me. Yes, we love it. I love it. We get you Portia. You got who my tea. Yes. We love this. Well, our girl Ashley could not make it today. We got our girl Portia and Alexis in, and we got some tea to talk about today, you guys. Yes, we do. Here we are.

Y'all ready to get into it? Well, we should. Everybody be like, we got a good job. That's what I wanted to say, Shirelle. She knew how to get to the tea. I we should... Oh, everybody y'all be nice. We got a good job. That's what I'm saying, Sherelle. She's ready to get to the tee. I want to know how my girls are doing.

I mean, we see, we might be breaking the internet over here with Porch, you know, being a mom and breastfeeding, you know, live. I love this for us. Breastfeeding girls? This is who we are. That's all I am. Yeah, know, live. I love this for us. This is who we are. That's all I have. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yes.

But speaking of being a mother, I, my second child, graduated high school yesterday. Congratulations on your graduation. And my diploma. I'm very excited because all these nights of studying and telling him to be, you know, studious and clean your room and be on time for school and not be absent and all these things, as far as rearing them and getting them ready for the real world, I, we made it. You know what I'm saying? It takes a team effort and a village.

And my aunt and uncle are in town. They came from St. Louis, Missouri. And came into, I mean, just celebrating all the family. I love that they still livestream graduation. So everyone that couldn't make it is able to see it live and cheer, have their watch parties and all of that too. So it was just a beautiful day. We gave him his car. He has a car for graduation.

The car he wanted for a couple years. So that was the agreement. We get a diploma, you get a car. So he is now in the streets, so y'all get sent out an extra prayer for me. You know, it's not easy having two out there now driving. Is he picking with his car? You mean like, almost like now he want to be cleaning there

and all this kind of stuff? Or like... Like, what type of car he wanted? And he was like, I want this type of car. Well, he was like, this is the car I want it. And he's been consistent with it. It hasn't changed. And it's his dream car, you know, and what a blessing it is.

Can y'all adopt me? I mean, I'm a graduation. Can y'all adopt me? I know, right? Well, I have two more to go. I'm halfway there. But you know, after those cars come trickling. So now my driveway is like a parking lot. You know, it's lit over here. You know what I mean? I know. But it's just taking off another pressure for me, because now it's not. Well, my daughter is here, my son is driving.

Like, they have their own lives and I can't imagine. My goodness. Yeah, yeah, so I'm excited. It just was a beautiful weekend. What about you? Oh, that's amazing. Well, I have, it's been crazy for me. I've been traveling and getting ready.

All my family is coming in tomorrow. My daughter graduates on Thursday. Yes. Okay. Ari. Yes. So she's made up her decision. She's going to go to. Don't roll your eyes. Be supportive.

Still indecisive. I don't know. It's between Alabama A&M and Be supportive. She's still indecisive. I don't know. It's between Alabama A&M and Bethune. That's great. I want her to go to Alabama A&M. Yeah? The Bulldogs. The Bulldogs. But, yeah, she's amazing.

She's at home relaxing until graduation. But she's been a big helper taking denim to his baseball practice. I got her her car for Christmas. Yes. She was making good grades and I promised her that if you continue on, you can get her little dream car with the Tesla. So she was that. But it's helpful.

So helpful because when you need errands run. That's right. Listen, because when you need errands run, that's right. Listen, Sir Ariana, go get in. I'll be like, do you want me to stay in your car? Because I got the app on my phone, I'll stop it. Listen. I know that's right. I love it, I love it.

But, um... And y'all kids grown, graduated, driving, got lives. Then I'm trying to attend tomorrow. Um, we had celebrated his birthday party yesterday and it's just been going. Summertime is about to start. Yeah. Other bonus child, Shade, congratulations to her. She, uh, graduated early from, uh, Redview.

I couldn't make it, but she got to live. So shout out to Shade. Shout out to Sade. Shout out to my girl Legacy, my girl finished kindergarten. She had her graduation or whatever. She stepped across the stage. My girl. We can't talk about that, mom.

She's going into first grade. I mean, you know, I don't know. I don't really know how I'm supposed to feel about it, because I'm like, oh, it's fun watching her grow up because she kind of wants to be just like me, and she wants to put on makeup and do what mommy does and go where mommy goes. So it's cute, but it's also just like, girl, relax.

Like, you just got here. Why are you growing up? They grow up so fast. What are you doing? So fast. You know what I mean? Yeah, it's like you, it's beautiful to cherish these moments though, because all these milestones, we work so hard as parents and these children work so much.

They're working hard too. And all we want to do as parents is enhance the next generation. And we're doing that. And I want to plod you off because we doing it ladies. You know, this is not easy. You know, you see it, we got a multitask. We are, we're doing so much and our plates are full, but at the same, yes. See the benefit, the baby's happy now. The baby's good, you know? These are all benefits, beautiful benefits of being a mother. So shout out to our babies graduating. I love it for us.

All the graduations. Yeah, it's a lot going on in this May. It is. But it's good. It's good to have the family around and cheer on and congratulate and just have that energy leading into summer, you know? It's like the finale, you know what I mean? Like, we made it, everybody.

Like, we getting up early in the morning, and it's a lot, you know? It's a lot finale, you know what I mean? Like, we made it, everybody. Like, we getting up early in the morning, and it's a lot, you know? It's a lot with these schedules, and... But you know what? I am so happy school is about to be over. I'm tired of waking up 6 o'clock in the morning. It's a lot. Your kids don't get up early in the morning during the summer because mine's gonna be up regardless.

No. What? Mine sleep in. They eat everything. In my sleep. What? I sleep in. They eat everything. They'll sleep in, especially because they don't play sports. Serenity just, Serenity is sleeping regardless. She acting like she has a double shift job.

She's taking a long nap. What a double shift. She go back to sleep, her behind sleeping, wake up at like 9 30 10 and then she take her nap around six o'clock. She probably wake up around. She'll be waking up soon. But they sleep in over here. Oh, your hands crazy.

Everybody in my life is childish. Okay. Everybody in my life is childish, okay? Everybody in my life is childish. But you're the main childish one. I love it. I am. You are, of course. You're the rain leader. Yeah, you have a good time.

I play a lot. I play a lot. Okay, a little, a little. I love it. You know? We can't spit. It's all good. That's because the tea is hot.

The tea is hot. Okay, let's go. Of course, I want to hear your advice on how you would feel about it because you experienced We can't spit. It's all good. And then too, because the tea is hot. The tea is hot. Marcia, I want to hear your advice on how you would feel about it, because you experienced this. Let's talk about our girl Clarissa Shields on no sex for six weeks before a fight. Oh. So, when it comes to prepare for a fight,

every athlete has their rituals. But Clarissa Shields, the undisputed queen of boxing, just dropped the gem that had fans raising eyebrows and nodding in respect. In a recent interview, Clarissa said she doesn't have sex for six weeks before a fight. Not for superstitious reasons, but because, and I quote, I release it in the ring. Period, Clarissa. Okay. The buildup. Okay. But I haven't heard this a lot. I mean, when my ex was prepared for his fight, I mean,

it was no sex. I feel like somebody created that whole thing and made it seem like it was, it is what it is. Like if you, oh, if you have sex before you fight, then you're gonna lose your fight. Yeah, no, that's a real thing. Yeah, I was about to say medically, I'm sure. You know? They did a study on it.

It works for some people. There are some fighters who throughout camp, they will have sex. And it doesn't... They feel like it doesn't affect them, it doesn't bother them, it doesn't whatever. There's other fighters who are very strict about it, who they will go the full... And she's doing a six-week camp because she fights often. For fighters who don't fight as often as she does,

which is literally everyone, they have eight, 10, 12 week camps, usually eight to 10 weeks. And they don't have sex during that time. Because again, like you said, you know, scientifically, it's about the testosterone, it's about the release and fighters will tell you like, yeah, I was, I was going to go spar in the gym and I had sex, you know, before I went to the gym and I had no legs. it's kind of like... Yeah, it's tiring. No legs. Like, it's something, I don't know what... But... The legs will give out on them after they bust that quick one.

Like, they will go to the gym and it will be a wrap. So typically, you know, with Andre and I, we didn't for most of camp. Like, he goes away for camp. So if he went to camp today, he'd go to Vegas. He'd go to Oakland. He's not gonna be here anywhere near me. When we first started dating, he was doing camps. You might break that. You might break it. It's a distraction. It's absolutely a distraction.

And just everything else too. You want to lock in for sure. When I was in Tampa and he was doing camps in Winterhaven, his camp, like his, you know, his cousins, his everybody around him was very much like, For sure. When I was in Tampa and he was doing camps in Winterhaven, his camp, like his cousins, everybody around him was very much like, -"Okay, you need to stay away from her, she can't come." -"Shout out to Polk County." Shout out to Polk County. Girl, I was in the siding on a fly in the Polk County,

an hour on the road, and I woke up in the middle of night, just so we can duck off and do a little something in the car and not finish. You know what I mean? It's not exactly the finishing that's the problem. The release. It's the release that's the problem. And we will play them games up until like week four. Once they got to like week four...

It was nothing. Then it was like, okay, girl, now you gotta relax. Now we gotta relax, because he's off. Damn. It's serious, you know what I mean? Gotta lock in. Then it was like, okay, girl, now you gotta relax. Now we gotta relax, because he's all... Yeah, it's serious, you know what I mean? Gotta lock in. But like now, like if he goes to camp now, it'd be eight weeks and it'd be nothing.

It'd be two months, three months, nothing. Nothing at all, nothing. I feel like basketball is different, just because it's just so many games. I mean, I think it's... And it's also per person. You know? Whatever your routine is, whether it is like a meal, a nap, a coffee, a massage, whatever, you know? I don't know if it's like, you know, it's per athlete too.

Their mental, their emotional as well, you know? You can't... You really can't... With basketball, football or boxing is very intense. Absolutely. You're in the ring for minutes and rounds. So constantly moving, constantly. Like other sports, other sports, it's a team effect. So you have a time to take a break. I mean, with boxing, I understand why people say don't do it. And I don't know.

Well, because you can't protect. But I think it's just the athlete mentality. Amy Robach and TJ Holmes here. Diddy's former protege, television personality, platinum-selling artist, Danity King alum Aubrey O'Day joins us to provide a unique perspective on the trial that has captivated the attention of the nation. Aubrey O'Day is us to provide a unique perspective on the trial that has captivated the attention of the nation. Aubrey O'Day is sitting next to us here.

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From Campside Media and iHeart podcasts, listen to GoBoy on the iHeart radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Whatever makes you weak or whatever makes you not focus or not be competitive and be at your peak level, you're going to withdraw from. You're going to, you know, that's the discipline of being an athlete. Like I know what my body needs. I know when my body hurts and I know what hurts my body. And if I want to be the best and you know, being competitive, you want to win.

So if I think this is a weakness or it's been told it's a weakness and medically it's been a weakness and my trainers and my... It's embedded in your energy of like, I'm not playing around because I want to be the best and I'm gonna let them know. Now, you get to the point where you even have like... Again, that's why like, let me just put this out there, like smoking, for example, was lifted, you know what I mean?

In certain sports because it's not affecting performance. It must be. If a whole league, one of the top businesses in the world, is saying it doesn't affect play, then, you know, go for it. But that's per player. So I just think it goes off of also, like, you know, what gets them to lock in and what they also feel comfortable with because they want to be their best. I feel like with boxing that aggression is just more necessary than it is

in all those other sports. Like, you need that aggression, which is very interesting because I feel like when women don't have sex for a while, do we get that? Because I know it's the testosterone buildup for the men. Yeah. You gon' see, you be angry. But I don't think I be angry. I might be irritable, but I ain't.

Irritable. Clarissa being a bitch ass, you know what I mean? Like, I don't think it's doing enough of that for me to where I'm really finna beat a bitch up. Yeah, me either. I mean... But you never know, like, all the aggression you have, and you need to release, you releasing it out on, and it's not like she's angry, but she's releasing it.

It's like a... It feels good. It's a pleasure. It's an endorphin. It's an endorphin. To take it out. So it's not like she, oh, you know, I'm about to beat this bitch ass because I ain't had no sex. And it's only like she, oh, you know, I'm about to beat this midget because I ain't had no sex. And it's only six weeks. Like, let's be real, you know? Like, it's only six weeks.

It's only six weeks. It's only six weeks. It's not the same as six weeks to a man. Six weeks to a man is like, bitch, I'm about to die. Six weeks to a woman is like, oh, man, I ain't had sex in six weeks. And then you go on about your business and do something. That's what the standard is post having a baby anyway.

It's like six weeks. But who follows that? Anyway, I'm still gonna push it to eight. Y'all follow the six-week standard. The eight-week standard. Yes. Psycho. Why do you want somebody running up in there after that?

After all of that chaos and all of this? It retracts back. Like, it... Yeah, we know that. It's not about the retracting. It's about the trauma of... The trauma. Yeah, the post-trauma. Oh, my God.

After three and a half weeks, don't nobody still be thinking about what came up out of there. Three? This is insane. Everyone, we do not recommend this. Not three. I do not recommend. I am not the only one who didn't wait the full month.

We know you're not the only one, but you're the only one out of those three. So how long did you wait? Three and a half weeks. You're insane. Bro, I but you're the only one out of those three right here. Okay, so how long did you wait? Three and a half weeks. You're insane. Bro, I took a mirror to that thing three weeks later and I was like, Right when I stopped bleeding. You're... Sure.

You're still, you're, and you're still healing. That's too much. It's too much. Shut up. No. Shut up. No. Jarell, that's me.

That's... Okay. Shut up, that's me. That's... Okay, Jarell, that's me. I say it all the time and I always forget where it came from. I know you think about me. Jarell. Jarell. I don't know where that came from.

Let me tell you what, nah, I'm not gonna tell you where it came from. That was funny though. That was funny because we was somewhere. We was somewhere and you told me. Oh, we were in Ashley's backyard. We was in Ashley's backyard. I must say it's something out of pocket. Yes.

You said something out of pocket. Wasn't it balloons? And Alexis said, -"Sure, Rae." That shit is so funny. -"Yes, yes." Because you said something like, I don't know. People say what I'm saying now. This is confidential information. I know what I...

Off camera, we'll talk about it. I ain't gonna say what you said, but it was funny, but Alexis... Oh, shaw-rah! It was the balloon exercise. Bro, I hollered. I'm still hollering. Yeah, I am dying. Okay. Yeah, I had to let Sherelle know.

I was like, I was. Sherelle got a cat made of titanium, talking about three weeks. That's. What is that? Three and a half. You know, they call me Wolverine because I heal so fast.

Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Oh, girl. That's not. Well, I'm like, yeah, sure. You gotta hit him with it. That deserves it. I mean, like, if I get a scar or stitch...

Uh-huh, yeah, sure, yeah. Yeah. Anyways. Anyways, so yes. Studies have shown that for most people, sex doesn't impact physical performance in a negative way. As long as it's not right before competition, and we're talking, like like within two hours of game time Yeah, no, okay, so two hours

Well for boxing I feel like maybe a few days before I'm not getting anywhere near him It's so funny. Sometimes we watch our boxing fights and we see like the walkout So we see the the arrivals of the fighters in there with their wives and their kids and stuff. Andre's just sitting there shaking his head like, oh, he gonna lose. Because he just... Yeah, distracted.

It's like you can't have nothing soft, you can't have nothing around you that makes you soft. You can't have nothing around you that makes you like, oh, you can't have your kids around you, you can't have your lady around you. Nothing soft around you. He just feels like you just gotta go in just deprived of anything comfortable. All comfort has to leave the world before you go fighting.

He will see these men walking into the locker room, holding that lady hand, and he'd be like, what is he doing? I understand that completely. It's a curse. The struggle. The best wines struggle the most in the rough, rugged, you know, the soil coming through. Yeah. You better go. Come on, Analogy.

Get that out of my wine. My girl feels just... Get that out of my wine. She knows some stuff. Eat you a bottle. She knows some stuff. Eat you a bottle. BOTH LAUGH BOTH LAUGH All right, you guys. So, Clarisha Shields cuts off sex six weeks before a fight, but she's not alone in the world of the intense

and sometimes bizarre pregame rituals. Let's run through some of the wildest athlete habits we can find. So, this is like a rapid fire style. So, I'm gonna give a scenario, and y'all say whether it's, you know, a ritual, like, okay, I understand it or not even out of curiosity way. Michael Jordan wore his UNC shorts under every Chicago Bulls uniform for his entire career. Call it superstition or style, Either way, they were lucky. I get it. Yeah.

I get it. Andre did the same thing. I get it. Serena Williams bounces the ball exactly five times before her first serve, and she has to bring the same shower sandals to every tournament. Yes, OCD. Yes. Yeah. Yes.

Yeah. Yes. Repetition. Wave box, Hall of Fame baseball player, ate chicken before every game. Literally every game, teammates calling him the chicken man. Muscle memory. He is.

That man is greedy. I'm all greedy. No. I don't know if I'm gonna say his last name right, but Brian Erlacher. Erlacher. Erlacher. You used to watch reruns of Golden Girls the night before games.

Nothing like Betty White to get your game face on. I understand this and I'm gonna tell you why. Tell me. I've heard of people watching comfort shows. It's like shows that you've seen, you know, every episode, you know, everything that's gonna happen, but you all watch it and you play it, it's like background noise. It comforts you, like, so if you have anxiety,

like, before you're gaming, and you watch something that's familiar, it calms you down. Because it's, like, triggering a memory of, like, I like this, I know what to expect and comfort. It's a warm hug. I'm only saying this because I have comfort shows, but when I'm stressed, I put on Grey's Anatomy

and King of Queens and Living Single. I have comfort shows. So I... I wonder if I'm doing this subconsciously. Grey's Anatomy and King of Queens and Living Single, I have comfort shows. So I need to know. I wonder if I'm doing this subconsciously. Like, I'm always, like, putting on Martin. Oh, my goodness, me too. At nighttime, I have to watch Martin.

So there you go. You wanna know why? Because you're trying to calm down so you can go to sleep, it's comfort. And it gets our minds off of everything else. Because I'm sure we've seen it 50 million times. Thousands and thousands of times. And I can continue to watch it over and over again. Yes.

And it's still funny. All right. Tiger Woods always wore a red shirt on Sundays. Why? His mom told him red was his power color. And it is. I mean, I guess. Red is a power color, you know? And it became a signature. It made him the highest paid golfer, you know, endorsement wise, and also the most

recognized. I mean, I started liking golf because of Tiger Woods. I mean, I feel that, red. And he used red. I get it. Yeah, I love it. Yeah. Stand out. Jason Terry used to sleep in the shorts of the opposing team

the night before a game. Talk about getting in your enemy's head or maybe just their laundry. It's giving fetish. He's nasty. Yeah. It's weird. Now, that's not... That's a lot of laundry and a lot of shorts,

like, to collect all the teams and just remember to pack it. That's like some extra stuff. That's weird. It is. That's like more effort than the game, it feels like. Right. A lot. Rafael Nadal, I don't know if I'm saying his name right. Man's got a whole routine.

Two water bottles, angle just right, towel touches, even how he crosses lines on the court. It's a ritual ballet. This is why men need therapy, because they would be diagnosed more. It's a ritual ballet. This is why men need therapy because they would be diagnosed more. These people have OCD. Okay. Yeah. These are some weird ones.

Some of this is just a little OCD, just a little touch, angle. But every single one you've named are like top in their sports at some point. Two water bottles. Angle just right. That's interesting. I feel like we could diagnose that. And tennis is an individual sport, so he has to lock in and do this, you know?

But what they have, the two water bottles angle just right and the towel's touching it. His peace of mind, his comfort. I guess the point is athletes will do whatever it takes to feel locked in. Whether it's no sex, fried chicken, or grandma sitcoms, if it works, it works. I think so. That's what I was gonna say. It's working, so do that.

Oh, that's what I'm saying. Every single one, if it's Serena, we know she's the goat. So I mean, keep wearing them flip flops, baby. That's true. The hygiene, no? Did y'all have- I'll bring my old shower shoes anyway. Did y'all play sports?

Yes. I was a pre-sport athlete. Y'all had any rituals or anything that y'all did that was stereotypes or whatever it was? Before I went on stage, I used to have to have a Pepsi. Well, go drink a Pepsi and let us see you act like you're on stage right now. And hit it one little note. First of all, I'm not allowed to have Pepsi anymore. Because my husband says it's bad for me. First of all, I'm not allowed to have Pepsi anymore. What is?

Because my husband says it's bad for me. And it's, he took away my guilty pleasure. And it is bad for me. He's right. It is bad. It's so, it is so good. Ooh, ooh, ooh, it burns. Get a little Pepsi every now and then.

Ooh, it burns. And you get that good burp. You know, when you drink the first little swig of it, and then that burp come out, and it's like... That's all you need? Yes, that's all I need. I'll be like, okay. I think, because when we met, I used to drink them all the time. Like, all the time. My daddy used to work for Pepsi.

He worked for Pepsi for 35 years. So, like, my entire life was just... Pepsi, bruh. Pepsi. I have pictures, and this is so embarrassing. And this is no shade to my mom and them, but I have pictures of me with like what they called watered down Pepsi in my bottle. They indoctrinated me. They like I was really on that oil.

I was really on that oil. You probably had two, you probably had two silver teeth in front of your mouth, two dragon up. I had two silver teeth and I should have had four. I should have had. You know, you can tell a bad little kid when they got a good, all at the time, they fall on the bottom, full of caps. Break shit and top and full at the bottom. Full of... caps. Nothing but break shit and eat sugar.

That's all I'm allowed to do. Yeah, so no, I'm not allowed to. So no, I'm not gonna drink a Pepsi. Abandon my household. I, what did I do? So, in high school, it was, I just wasn't into, I didn't have any vices like, you know, alcohol or any of that.

And I would sleep a lot. I ate bad. But the only thing I could think of is, um, I had this little tigger when I would run track. And since it was an individual sport, it just caught my nerves a little bit. So, I just kept it with me for that. So, I think that was like a little tigger. It was so cute, a little that.

And then the only thing I could, another thing I could think of was, it wasn't really a ritual, but I got used to it. And then it was when I was running the marathon in New York, I would train with music. And so I started getting like my playlist down and all of that. And that would get me through my running for training. And then the day of the marathon, I was, everything was charged up.

I was ready to go. And I started listening to the music, but then it was so much energy around with all the people that were running and then everyone that's in the city and cheering for you in bands and all of this. So I ended up not even running the marathon with my music, which I had trained, so I was a pleasant surprise. I still made it, but like, totally thought I was dependent on this and ended up, you know, completing it.

Amy Robach and TJ Holmes here. Diddy's former protege, television personality, platinum-selling artist, Denity King alum Aubrey O'Day joins us to provide a unique perspective on the trial that has captivated the attention of the nation. Aubrey O'Day is sitting next to us here. You are, as we sit here, right up the street from where the trial is taking place.

Some people saw that you were going to be in New York and they immediately started jumping to conclusions. So can you clear that up? First of all, are you here to testify in the Diddy Trial? Aubrey will offer her opinions and expertise based on her firsthand knowledge. From her days on Making the Band as she emerged as the breakout star,

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us also reconnecting to our childhood in some sort. You said I look how youthful I look because I never let that little girl inside of me die. I go outside and run outside with the dogs. I still play like a kid. I laugh, you know, I love jokes, I love funny, I love laughing, I laugh at myself. I don't take myself too seriously. That's the stuff that keeps you young and stops you from being so hard.

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and come to understand how it helps inform the ways in which we experience the region today. Listen to The American West with Dan Flores on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. In 1978, Roger Caron's first book was published and he was unlike any first time author Canada had ever seen.

Roger Caron was 16 when first convicted. Has spent 24 of those years in jail. 12 years in solitary. He went from an ex-con to a literary darling almost overnight. He was instantly a celebrity. He was an adrenaline junkie, and he was the star of the show.

Go-Boy is the gritty true story of how one man fought his way out of some of the darkest places imaginable. I had a knife go in my stomach, puncture my spleen, break my ribs, I had my guts all in my hands. Only to find himself back where he started. Rodger's saying this, I've never hurt anybody but myself.

And I said, oh, you're so wrong. You're so wrong on that one, Rod. From Campside Media and iHeart Podcasts, listen to GoBoy on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. For basketball, I didn't have anything, but for track, it was kind of like your insulate. So I was a 400 runner. And right when the done go off, I would start saying my ABCs every time I ran the corner. Really? And then go to... And it basically time me, it pays me where I was at each time. So like if I get to J and I'm at a certain amount

and I'm not where I need to be, then I know. But it also would keep me from getting tired because I'm thinking about how to beat my PR. Yeah, yeah. And you don't want to dump that trigger, that gun either, you know? Like that used to scare me when you coming out the block. Yeah, everything. Oh, I get it. Those nerves.

I still think about it still to this day. We went we were, you know, we were supposed to be number one in state for the four by one. And I was in ninth grade, I was the first litig. And I jumped the gun because I was so scared, because I was running with all varsity. And I was at sixth state, and we were projected to be number one, beat state record and everything.

And there was so much pressure on me, and I was so scared. And I jumped the gun. And they still talk about this crap to this day, like, oh, if I ran into one of them, they like, dang, man. I remember when you jumped the gun, you lost us. You made us lose state. So it was crazy.

So I'm just terrified every time I hear about a gun being jumped, never again did I jump a gun. That's interesting, Sherelle, because it's like, I have those triggers from back in the day too, that I still think about to this day, like you said. Because I'm like, I mean, I didn't ever jump the gun, but like, it's just you don't, you think about all these things when you're down in those blocks, and you just,

there's so much pressure in track, you know? And then I'm still messing with the one. And you have so many fans from different schools, you're out there talking stuff, there's so much pressure in track. And then that's great. And then that's so messy with the one. And you have so many fans from different schools. You're out there talking stuff. It's co-ed. It's a lot of energy out there. You know, you want to show off. You want to beat people. Like, it's a public event, low-key.

You know what I'm saying? It's talk is mess. So I get it, Sherelle, that pressure. It's like... It was crazy. Yeah. Yeah. With. Yeah. With my friend. Oh, Shereel. She said they so magical with me.

I'm traumatized every time I go to track meets, I'm traumatized from it. And that's what's on the web. You're happy being sad. Wetting. Jesus. You got a crush, you know what I'm saying? You want to just, you want to beat the girl next to you, everything.

Yeah. Crazy. All right, let's get into it, y'all, with the speculation with Boss Man D-Lo. D-Lo, why you say his name? Boss Man D-Lo. Mm-hmm. You know what that is like?

What's it? Yeah, Sherelle's gonna take the lead on this one. I guess it'll be Reggaeton? No! What? Yeah, sure. I was going to take the lead on this one. I guess it'll be reggaeton. No. No. Yeah. Let me hear it. Let me hear it.

I'm getting me. Valley Park down in the district. I'm going straight to Galleria. Okay, I do that. I've heard it. Yes. See? Way off.

All right, you guys. Let's get into it. The timeline has been on fire. Every single one of you. I've heard it, yes. See, way off. All right, you guys. Let's get into it. The timeline has been on fire. Ever since allegation dropped about Bossman D-Lo allegedly

messing with a transgender woman. And the reactions, they be in some mixed chaos. They going crazy on Twitter. They been going crazy this whole weekend. I was like, what's going on? I was being nosy, going to the person's page and they is just running their mouth.

What? When we say the timeline folded like a lunch chair, we mean that some people are out here acting like he caught a felony charge just for who he might've slept with. Let's be clear, nobody even confirmed anything yet. He hasn't said anything, but he's basically saying, like throwing shots out there, like basically I'm a real white and if I catch you, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

He just posted that today. I'm being nosy, y'all. I'm watching. So basically what happened was, allegedly, the transgender posted screenshots of boss Mandy Lowe sliding into her DMs. And it's just a question mark. And I guess they exchanged numbers and they started communicating and I guess she got mad because he told her to fly out to Orlando and he didn't offer to pay for it. He wasn't giving her no money. And from the messages, it was like, dang, why everything got to be about money? We can't just kick it on cool bobs, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So, you know, oh, girl, about her money, she like,

uh-uh, you ain't about to play me like that. I'm about to expose you. So she went on this whole little rampage over the weekend and just started spring-shining all that messages. Now the fans are like, how you supposed to be rapping about this and rapping about that? And you messing with a transgender. Uh.

Wait, so they did meet up or they did not even meet up? They didn't meet up. They were... I don't... It didn't say that they met up. They was just communicating via... They were planning to meet up allegedly. Okay, and is it known that this... Um, that she is transgender on her page? Yeah, she is a ho, you go.

Okay, I have to check it out later. Yeah, you gotta look at it. Baby, she got a body. So now there's screenshots. So it doesn't have to be my question. Uh-huh, apparently she's very popular too, but I don't think she's, you know, did any changes with her, her body.

She, she may have enhanced her booty, but everything else is still the same. What were you going to say, Porch? You said your question was what? And my question was your question was, is does everybody know that she's transgender? So he knew. Yes. I mean, you can look at it. And one of the messages, it said something like that because she said he knew I was a

man, like I was a transgender. Okay. So maybe that's, he's denying that he's, I mean, is it just a speculation thing? Or is it more like... I mean, nothing happens and he's just, he's not admitting that he even talked to her. Because to me, I wouldn't have said anything. There's just power in silence.

I don't think he said anything to her. He just basically was throwing, uh... saying something, like, kind of shutting it down. He didn't shut, but he didn't shut it down. Just like, kind of like, keep my name out your mouth. I'm a street YN, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. My thing is, I feel like in today's society, why do, first of all, like everyone, a lot of people are curious, especially in that industry. And why do I feel like why do men get so much, it's so much uproar, I can't even talk tonight, uproar when a man is basically, you know, is exposed. But women, it's like, it's okay, it's cool with it.

Why is that? Well, we're definitely in an over sex society in general. You know, whatever your profession is, especially if you have status and wealth and notoriety, you're a target regardless. So at the end of the day, people have their own preferences. What they do behind closed doors is really none of our business. your target regardless. So at the end of the day, people have their own preferences. What they do behind closed doors

is really none of our business. It becomes public when people are screen-shotting and running their mouths and doing all the excess stuff for attention, for clout and everything like that. So it makes it even harder just in general to start trusting and really trying to get to know someone. So you have to be careful on the gram.

A lot of relationships have developed on the gram or just social media in general. So it's a way to meet people. You can be in your bed scrolling and running to someone's DM and connect with them. So it just becomes messy when it you know, it becomes public. Because technically we wouldn't even know. A DM is a direct message between two people in your house,

in your car, wherever you are on your phone. So, you know, we didn't know about this. We shouldn't have really been knowing about it. And here we are. I think the biggest thing is people put so much time. It's like you created a, You did a felony or something. Like you are judged so bad because you choose to go with the same sex or something that's not common.

You know? Well, if that was something they could open about before, it wouldn't be weaponized. But because these things are happening... Behind closed doors, then she felt like she could weaponize it and she did because the industry, yes, the industry is open to those ideas, but not for black men, not for pop artists, not for whether you are a rapper or an athlete or famous in any regard, even if you are a normal, everyday working black person,

it's still unacceptable, you know what I mean? As progressive as we like to think that we are, as a whole, we're just not. Not really, you know what I mean? So, no, he shouldn't be... It shouldn't be all of what it is, but it is. It is. He, you know, is presenting himself as a straight man and there's something to be said for a man, you know what I mean? Who wants to be with another man that hasn't fully transitioned. Like I don't really know the rules, but in our community,

you need to fight for your rights. And it's really hard to see the in-between when it comes to our black men. And that is just, that's just what it is. And you know, he wasn't, if that is the truth, and he was trying to get at her, and that just happens to be his preference.

It's a very silent preference, very silent preference. So she weaponized it and she knew it would work and it did. But what kills me is like, I normally don't expose people, but I'm exposing him because you're exposing people. Stop saying you don't expose people when that's what you're doing. Now you're just ruining for yourself because now ain't nobody gonna want to deal with you. Apparently she had dealt with other athletes and she claims he's the only one that she exposed. And the whole point was because he was gonna fly her out, but then had her pay for it.

No, he asked. Yeah. He told her she should pay for it. No, he asked, yeah. He told her she should pay for it. I guess he wasn't coughing up money. That's what I got out of it. All right, the people gotta be careful. You gotta be careful, like... Well, this is really not that serious.

It's not, to me, it's not serious enough if you were going to expose somebody. It certainly wouldn't be because of that. You know what I mean? Like that ain't enough to potentially ruin someone's reputation and career. But come on now. Kito, what are you doing in here? Do you think the hip hop community is ready to accept

openly LGBTQ relationships? why or why not? I mean, if you come out that way, yeah. Yeah, that's what I feel. I was gonna say the same question. When you accept it and you speak your, you tell your own story, and it's more acceptable. But when you live in this fake life, like, you know, you like opposite sex

and you're against all that, then, or you rap about something that you ain't doing, then of course people are gonna be all over you. I think we're long ways away, a long, long, long ways away from that being something that is embraced in our culture. I agree. On that scale, you know what I mean? Yeah. That's true. Levi, daddy's calling.

Amy Robach and TJ Holmes here. Diddy's former protege, television personality, Denity Kang alum Aubrey O'Day joins us to provide a unique perspective on the trial that has captivated the attention of the nation. It wasn't all bad, but I don't know that any of the good was real. I went through things there. Listen to Amy and TJ Presents, Aubrey O'Day, covering the Diddy Trial on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. And it's gonna take us to heal us.

It's Mental Health Awareness Month, and on a recent episode of Just Healed with Dr. J, the incomparable Taraji P. Henson stopped by to discuss how she's discovered peace on her journey. I never let that little girl inside of me die. To hear this and more things on the journey of healing, you can listen to Just Heal with Dr. J from the Black Effect Podcast Network on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts,

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