Club Shay Shay - Humble Baddies - Hour 2: Sharelle, Alexis & Porsha react to Dave Portnoy allowing his ex wife access to his account!

Episode Date: May 20, 2025

Sharelle & Alexis are joined by W.A.G.S star Porsha Berto react react Barstool President Dave Portnoy allowing his ex-wife access to his bank account, and we also answer some Humble Baddies fan questions, and much more!01:38 - Dave Portnoy’s ex-wife has access to bank account39:34 – Humble Baddies Q&A(Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.) #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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All right, our next segment is about none other than Dave, I can say Portnum, the bar stool and the founder of Po Kuzma Barstool. So Shani Sharp did a interview with him recently and it just, it went crazy. His comment in regards to, he still allows access, allows his ex-wife, ex to have access to his account. People was going in on him. Yeah, they were.

And I even put my two cents in and ended up with like over 17,000 comments. It sure did. Or likes. Bro, I saw it. That's a good man, Savannah. That's a good man. Yeah, I was like, and that's why he's blessed. You know, let's be real. He's the owner of Barstool, the founder of Barstool Sports.

And, you know, this is also a stigma in our community too, I feel like. Because it was the men were the ones that was like, chiming in on what I said. And what I said by he is the reason why he's blessed is because, you know, I don't know if they have children or not, but he's protected and providing still. Like she was there, he said it. He was like, I believe in loyalty.

And I couldn't afford a hamburger. And here she is right there supporting me. And you know, what did Drake say? Started from the bottom that we hear. And he said they broke up by the time he really made it and he wanted her to enjoy that. You know? Like, it's no fun on a yacht alone. You know what I'm saying? Bring your people around.

And if they do have children, why wouldn't you want her to be protected and her mind to be free and carefree? And your children, if they don't have children, it's the next people around you, your friends, you know? Like, I made a job, so y'all don't have to suffer. You know? So I looked at it, like, even from a spiritual perspective of the fact that he's still, like, being generous

and he's giving to her. Like, you know, they didn't work out, so he's not bitter. He's healed. She's healed. They can be friends. And I want my friends to be up there with me. You know, you got your rollie on, I got my rollie on. We're here in this together. It's no fun shopping and swiping and it's a lot of money. Like what's that gonna do?

It's a lot of money. I mean, I don't know if the viewers did the research or don't know who they're, he's talking about this is wealth. And again, if you have generational wealth and you don't have children, again, I don't know anything, but your friends, employ them and make them up there with you. You know, it's a big deal. And you know, she's even dating someone else.

We're so caught up on the next getting it after us, or I worked so hard so you can't have it. We wanna hoard it. We wanna keep it for ourselves. And it's too much bitterness. And he's clearly not bitter. You can tell he still loves her. It's a respect thing at the end of the day.

And so that's what I said about the fact that that's why he's blessed, because he's going to keep getting more, which he is. He's going to keep giving it away, whether it's philanthropy, friends, or his ex or whatever. I mean, it's a bank account. And honestly, I'm sure he has more than one bank account,

but that's enough for her. He's got that, if she wanted to, she can rock him. That means she has access to everything. And he trusts her fully, and that's what we have to do. At the end of the day, that's who she is. That's her character, And he trusts that. He's trusted her then back in the day, and he trusts her now.

And I'd rather have people I trust that have access to my bank account. Maybe we don't know she's good with numbers and has been helping them pay bills and keeping them organized. We don't know anything about this stuff. Okay, it sounds all good and what you said, Lex. Now put yourself on the opposite side

and you're that new woman coming in, you probably been for about five years now, and you find out that his ex still have access to his funds. It's coming from a hill place because I'm now his new situation and because I'm with this man and we have this connection and he's honest with me, then it is what it is. I'm not harboring that energy into this new relationship. I would hope that's not attracted to a man that's generous and has that choice and that loyalty and not have that energy of like,

hatred from the ex and that heaviness. Don't bring that shit into my new relationship. It's not about hatred. I feel like... You get serious and loyal and that's a lot. Like, we're not talking about just like looking out. If you did, we can see what we talking about. We're talking about like marital access. So if you're not married anymore, I'm almost wondering

why y'all got divorced in the first place. Exactly. It's something y'all need to... There should be boundaries. Marital access. You're not married anymore. I understand that. If I had it like that, in whatever the case, she can have that access to that account fully and foremost.

And I'm sure he has another account, so no, it would not bother me. I ain't going. I ain't going for that. You ain't talking about me. We are women. We are territorial. Like, okay, now that you're in this situation, I understand y'all had something, but baby, let's respect our relationship, because what happens is,

now she still has access. It's gonna, it may not cause confusion right then and there, but eventually it's gonna cause confusion. A woman who's not with you anymore, still has financial access over all of what we have coming in. Because it's out now because we're together. This is wealth, not, you know, riches. It doesn't matter, Lex. It's just bound.

I get the boundaries, 100%, and I get that. But again, there's more than one account, guys. Like, if she has access to it, I don't mind having a family phone. I feel upset.. Girl you like. You are hilarious. There's many accounts guys. I'm looking like that. There's many accounts.

There's many accounts. Family account. That's us account. He said he didn't say it's many accounts. He said if she. We don't know. He said this out his mouth. If she wanted to she can rob him.

She can take him. She can take him. She can take him. She can take him. She can take him. She can take him. She can take him. She can take him. She can his mouth. If she wanted to, she can rob him. She can take all the money.

And she hasn't. So she has full view. She hasn't, but what we're talking about is, he's in a new relationship, married, and she's still. That wouldn't bother you? Nope. Oh, my goodness.

Oh, this comes from a Hill place, y'all. I'm really just thinking about how he let himself make up. I'm just saying. I keep asking this. Again, again, again. Go back to that. This is, we talking about like, you know, if you like, look at McKenzie Bezos and, you know, all these, these, they have, it's a lot of money out. We're talking about a lot of money. We're not talking about, you know, a regular situation,

like, you know, the masses, you know what I mean? This is, I'm just going off of what he said. He was like, I could not afford a hamburger. We broke up before I made it to this level. And he deserves that. No, that's not, daddy. We're not saying not, but to have full access of all financials when you're in a new relationship That's that's not coming and that's not normal and that's not acceptable

That's not I'm not saying it's common, but if there's open dialogue It's the open book and this is what you do and this is what y'all been doing No, it's not gonna bother me, especially if it's not hindering nothing that we got going on. That means you're being fully open and honest. Imagine all the people who have bank accounts that people don't know about, and y'all married,

and y'all together, and they hiding all this stuff behind your back. It's open. And that's true, and that's not the vibe you think. That's not the vibe either. Yeah, so that's what I'm just trying to say. That's what I'm just saying. I. That's what I'm trying to say. And I'm just being honest, Lex. I just...

I don't think anybody would agree with another woman, but especially an ex or another man, having full... I have a perfect example. ...the rock. ...having full control over your whole financial statements and have access to it. What about The Rock? What happened with The Rock? The Rock, his ex-wife is his manager. She gives him all his deals. He's very much married

and has children, a whole nother family. And she still is- Never mind, she's his manager. This let people in and take money. She's not's different. She's his manager. This like, you pull and take money. She's not a manager. She just, he's basically saying, basically, what's mine is yours. It's not a manager. Is he remarried or we just been... Yes, he's remarried with children. No, I'm talking about Mr. Barstool.

No, I don't think so. But I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. It's just, again, to the point where even the ex is actually dating. He said she's dating someone. And it's not a big deal. Again... And you know who they're eating right now.

You know, Barstool, what you mean? Yeah, well, it comes with the territory, you know what I mean? Just like someone's benefiting off of my last name or something, or you guys's or whatever, you know what I mean? Just like someone's benefiting off of my last name or something or you guys's or whatever, you know what I'm saying? It's just another way of saying, look, I just wanna open an honest relationship. Again, we don't know what people,

what work wives are doing at these men's jobs. We don't know how if they over there helping pay and the bills and they got access to the AMEX and then swiping on themselves Reservations, so it's different levels Access to what one of the cards, but that's all I'm just trying to say I rather be honest like look This is my this is my ex-wife She was there when I had nothing she has access to this account and this is what it is. This work for us, this is what I'd rather that than me finding out in the other way.

So. If that was me and the man was open and honest and he told me that I would look him right in his eyes and say, go get your woman, please. Cause you love that lady. And it's okay. You love that lady, go get that lady. Cause you love her. That's your soulmate.

Go get your lady. Cause it ain't, it can't buy some. And it's okay. You love that lady go get that lady because you love her. That's your soul may go get your lady Cuz I'm a It can't I would hope I would hope that he does love her, but he doesn't have to be with her That's not respect. I'm just saying I don't you know, that's that's a lot of um Maybe a lot. Maybe just bad. I understand it. It sounds good. But in reality no matter what It's just good. I understand it. It sounds good. But in reality, no matter how people say, it's going to eventually cause some type of

controversy, no matter how. Okay. Yes. You know, when we in that, that love stage, okay, babe, but it just naturally, it's your whole finding like over everything she can pull whenever she wants to. And it's how in the beginning, you may And you may love him in the beginning, but eventually it will cause some type of controversy. And I love the fact that, you know, he, you can tell he's that kind of guy was like,

whatever she wants, let her have it. That's a different kind of confidence. Whatever she wants in the divorce, because she deserves it. She was there for me. You don't know what she's been through. So, kudos to him for that. I'm actually glad that he said it. I haven't heard this before,

where a man has been that confident to be like, I trust her, or, you know, I'm loyal to my people. That's... I would work for this man. I will actually... I made it to be friends with him. I would like him to... I'm glad he said what he said, and kudos for, you know, shout out to Shannon Sharp for that, because I don't think I've ever heard this before,

where a man is sitting there with this access, and he is Barstool Sports, by the way. Very masculine, very macho. And he's saying, you know what by the way. Very macho. And he's saying, you know what? Which a man's weakest point is their wallet, right? You know, that's what's gonna hurt them the most. And that lets me know that he's running his business in a great way.

He's running his household in a great way. Because he is confident. You know, he's like, it's not, what's that? What's that? I got it here. She was here when I had nothing. He's rich. Yes, he's rich, it's not, what's that? What's that? I got it here. She was here when I had nothing. He's rich. Yes, he's rich. That's what it is.

So I'm glad he said what he said, because we needed to hear that, and to let you know who's healed and who's not. No, I like it. I don't think people want to meet her. Not gonna lie. She sounds like a woman. She really does. I kind of want to meet her, because she left such an impression on him, her loyalty,

what she was to him. She left such an impression on his heart and his life that he's like, my life's work, my life's work, my fortune. I want to leave it open. He was raised right. He definitely was. That's true. Because some women get carried away. You can say, you can't even take care of her.

Some women get carried away. Exactly. Exactly. And will take any and everything. You never agree how someone is after a breakup. Correct. Honestly, I'm really just sad they divorced. I'm sorry.

I'm just sad they divorced. There's people married. But people don't, they might. They can't trust each other, they can't trust, as far as they can throw you and you, these are apart and that is, that is. And then they become somebody different. You have them get to where they need to be

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You know what I'm saying? And you get a car and everyone gets a chain when I get a chain. It's that same mentality, you know what I mean and his his friend is a female It's his ex-wife and I think it's dope again We should have this energy, but a lot of us are bitter. A lot of us are holding generational heaviness I feel like it doesn't have to be better in regards to that. I feel like that is extreme Um to a certain point, especially once a new relationship is involved. But you can still take care of somebody.

Correct. Make sure that they're good without... That means you really care about them. That means he really trusts her. Yeah, he really trusts her and he really cares about her. Enough to be like, look, I'm handing this over to you. And do, you know, go, go, go, go. You know, again, when, when sexy Lexi pulls up, I can't, I don't want to be

on there by myself, y'all. Y'all have to come. Like, you know, we just got to ride. Got to ride out. Okay. So yeah. See. I mean, yeah.

So, yeah. So, yeah. So, yeah. Does this give him, he's still emotionally connected energy or could it just be conveyance interest? I think it's a combination of both. Yeah, I think it's everything. Yes, he's connected and he should be.

It's respectful. That's like his family. This extended family. And now he's a multimillionaire or whatever. And she was there when I had nothing, just as even if she was a man, same thing. What do you think, Portia? I think it's everything. I think that there is, I'm sure he still loves her. I'm not going to say he loves her romantically, but he still loves her. He definitely appreciates her because that it seems like a kind of appreciation. And, um, also I think that it couldn't, he just, he probably knows her wealth or not. She might not even be a big spinner.

She might go out and really try to blow her load and buy everything she's ever wanted and it still wouldn't mean much to him. It still wouldn't add up. She couldn't really just be one of them girls. Just like, oh, simple in that way of, you know, nothing too extravagant. She doesn't overconsume. Like he knows her. So it, you know, it feels, it sounds odd because they're divorced.

And for me, if I had found somebody, you know, as a man, and, you know, I didn't have anything, and then I have all of this, and I can still trust her with my fortune, and she's with somebody else, and he's like, yeah, she could take half a billion to pay for her own wedding, and she can do that. If I really had that type of trust and affinity for somebody,

I don't even think I'd be able to let them go, because I just feel like that's just so rare. It's rare. You know what I mean? So, I mean... Yeah, I think he loved that lady. And he needed a lady back. And it would be hard for another woman to come in and accept it. I don't care how secure you are,

but to be able to feel some shoes like that and it will cause some type... I don't care what people say, it will cause some type of insecurity if you don't have any. It's just, it's natural. It's a natural feeling. So people can say, oh, you know, this, that, and the third. No, it's a natural feeling. It's... We're human beings. Because I think a lot of divorced men

who still take care of their wives in a way that like, you know, they're still there for them or if they have a lot of divorced men who still take care of their wives in a way that like, you know, they're still there for them or if they have a lot of money, they still, and not like on some court or like, you know, I still want to make sure she's okay. This is taking it a step in a few notches. Yes, it is. It's very rare. Yeah, this is just turned up a bit, like, a lot, actually. It's a lot, actually.

It's a lot. This is the first. That's why it's like views and so many comments and all that energy because we have not heard this. To be able to take off some shit like that. Unless, you know, you got your blindfolds on, I don't care about it. No, we don't.

I want, you know, I am projecting and very much like putting out there a healed man, a generous man, a man that is very much want to love me and put me on a pedestal and be honest and coming from a healed place. So, like, you know, talk to me, let's talk about it. What works for you? Naturally, there's nothing wrong with that. That's not what I'm saying.

Like I would love to be with someone like that. What I'm saying is naturally it's still gonna cause some type of insecurities or something because naturally we're human beings. No matter how healed you are, no matter how, it's gonna, something is gonna question, wow, he really trusts this person. Or why don't you really trust this person?

What is it? It's just, it may not even be a lot, but it's still gonna raise some, some antenna, why is this person, why does this person still have full access? Even, even if he explained why, but full access while we're together. I'm gonna be, I think what's gonna end up happening, if he does like say, hey, I found someone, we're together, we're serious, then there's gonna be some differences. Like, it's gonna be a different bank account, I'm sure.

But I mean, we're speculating. I don't know. We don't know. It's funny, because like all the women are like, yes, yes, yes, King, yes, yes. And all the men are like, he's crazy. Yeah. And the men are like, yes, yes, yes, King, yes. And all the men are like... It was crazy. And the men are like... And if you walk on the other side that's just coming in,

they wouldn't be saying, yes, King, yes, King. They're gonna be like, okay, baby, let's... Pull up. Yes. I know, okay, it's enough. I know she was there riding with you, but now you have, you know, a new sheriff in town. Let's lay out some boundaries. And that's fine. And that's enough. I know she was there riding with you, but now you have, you know, a new sheriff in town. Let's lay out some boundaries.

And that's fine. And that's fine. Did he say if he has the money? I'm not saying, I'm not saying don't take care of her or stop taking care of her. Yes, you can add your boundaries. Now it's us. We're in a relationship. For sure. So, I want somebody on the outside to see what we're investing in

or what we're spending in, like, create... For sure. You want boundaries. For sure. For sure. I'm not saying you not to have boundaries, you know, at all. You definitely want to speak up and say what makes you feel any kind of way. You know? Child, that's his pocket account. That's how I feel, Gorge.

That's his pocket account. That's what I'm saying. Like, if you really... He can't stunt in the canines, baby. He got this. I'm saying. Like, if you really... He can't sell him to Kaymins, baby. Yeah, exactly. Like, it's okay, guys. It's okay. There's more where that came from. Like, I look at, again, Mackenzie Scott, who was married to Jeff Bezos. Like, she can't... It's just too much money.

She just got a kid giving it away. It's so much. You know, like, come on. He's like... She was there with me in the garage when, you know, like it is what it is. She has shares. I mean, she was there in the center and I wish more, I wish more of us. But she ain't got full access. She ain't got full access.

No, but she got her own. She got her own access. You know, it is what it is. Yeah, he took care of her. You know, he makes sure she was good. Yeah. Whatever she wants. With this situation.

I just can't be with somebody who allows their ex to have full access. I'm just saying, there's a lot more people that we just don't know. I don't mind him taking care of, like, taking care of that person. We gonna figure that together, boo-boo. I'll stay when she's not, but we gonna navigate it. We gonna figure this out. Just think of everyone who, you know, that, again, they don't know about even secret accounts.

So he's putting it out there like, look, she got access to this one, so so be it, okay? I'd rather that, I'd rather that with the ex than a secret bank account, where he's over here doing other stuff. So that's that. Yeah, but that ain't how he put it out. He said, baby girl got access to everything.

I want to meet her. She sounds like cool. Me too. She sounds interesting. Nothing against old lady. Nothing against it. Oh, will it? You know what I mean? She sounds like she got one. Yeah. Here for it. Okay, ladies, be honest.

Have you ever kept tabs on an ex-bank account, Yeah. Here for it. Okay, ladies, be honest. Have you ever kept tabs on an ex bank account emails or socials after the breakup? No. No, I didn't keep tabs. The only thing that I did with my ex is making sure that the bills are paid. But that's good. I had a lot of experience in that department. So yeah. That's great. I have limited experience in that department. So yeah.

Maybe you should. That's great. Make sure this is paid. Make sure you have tabs so they just remind you, friendly reminder, pay this. Yeah, no, it's over. So wish you well. Alexis, I get the feeling that, Gary, you had... Obviously, it looks amicable, but you had, like, your divorce.

Was it easy peasy? Hell no. Hell no? No, because you're essentially giving, paying someone two different parties who don't know anything about you. They don't know your history, they don't know your pillow talk, they don't know how you feel. They don't know your history, they don't know your pillow talk, they don't know how you feel like you're going to raise your kids, they don't know anything that you want to do together as co-parenting, as an umbrella of what you have for your family, your travel, your this, your that. So they go by regulations of a board or a metric, a metrics,

you know, this rubric scale of, slide this number in here, slide this number in here. This is what we've done because this is the law. So I was in a different position, obviously, because, you know, just because, right? We all know that. So it was not, it was a lot of, because I met Murray when we were 19. So it's been a lot of buildup of his wealth and our wealth together.

We started off very young at this again. So like, I look at it like, you know, he could have gone to the left with his career, or he could have gone to the right. But in the court, in the courts, they don't care if you're a girlfriend. They don't care if you've been put in some work and some blood, sweat, and hours and all that. If you don't have that piece of paper with your last name on there that says, this was my wife or my husband, it don't count.

You don't get benefits from the NBA. You don't get benefits from anything else. You gotta get your own medical. You gotta get your own this. You are still separate. So, like, you know, you could be with someone for so many years and get no benefits from it on paper, you know what I'm saying? So, like, it was not amicable, because people, you're coming from a hurt space too.

You also, it's very instant. You're coming from embarrassment. You're coming from a place of, like, trying to figure out the future, because at the end of the day, a divorce is like death. You know, you go through these different moods. So one day you could be mad at that person, the next day you could be sad, the next day you can have remorse, the next day you have just all these different issues.

So whatever that lawyer is putting in front of you that day and you're making that decision, you're thinking about the lifelong dream now becoming a reality in real time because this now is over. You plan to go on trips a year ahead. You plan on saving these things and your children going to this school and this, this, and this. That all is financial awareness and planning. So when it's now stripped and now being able to split, you're splitting banks, you're splitting

investments, you're splitting portfolios, you're splitting all these assets that would have collaborated, like, you know, when you're collaborating with a net worth, now you're splitting it. It's horrible. It's horrifying. And it's splitting of the generational wealth. But at the end of the day, the beautiful blessing is because we do have a family, we do have four children, we invest it properly. And we also make sure our children are good because at the end

of the day that's the focus. People start getting individual, well he's not gonna be in my house or the house that I put my money in. This shouldn't be about that. Are the kids safe? Is this where they go to school? Are there friends in the neighborhood? Is this the kind of car they should be driving because it's safer rather than you know X, Y, Z? So I look at it like this. You have to be careful who you lay with at the end of the day because you never, okay, you have to be careful who you lay with at the end of the day because the child is forever. You know what I mean? So that's who our first, our priority is, are the children. What's best for them?

Exactly. So I know what you mean by like when the attorneys come through and they're just like, you know, they don't know you personally. They don't know everything that you put in. They don't know the dynamics of the relationship. They're just going by the metric system. Mm-hmm. You have to have a separate conversation.

Be like, okay, your lawyer don't know me. He ain't fair. He finna get hit. You know what I mean? And they're doing their job, and so is mine. So they'll put in stuff in your ear like, okay, your lawyer don't know me, he ain't fair, he finna get hit. You know what I mean? Did you have to... And they're doing their job, and so is mine. So they'll put in stuff in your ear like, oh, you should do this, or in the opposing. Again, it's a battle, and it's the finale.

You know what I mean? That's it. Once there is the sign on that dotted line, it's over. You know? And you can't go back and be like, oh, I made a mistake, or I was just playing. You know what I know? Right. And you can't go back and be like, oh, I made a mistake or I was just playing. You know what I mean? No, it's setting standard because it has to be. It's a legal binding contract and you have to adhere to it. You know what I mean?

So it's just, it's a tough, it's a tough thing. That's why I don't recommend divorce to anybody. You know, you splitting and it's heartbreaking, but it has to happen sometime. Would you, um... would have tried to rekindle looking at it now and make it work instead of after going through that divorce, would you have tried to fight a little harder to make it work? Do y'all see this skin? It looks like buzz to me.

Okay, I'm looking my best. Let me just be real with y'all. Like with any breakup, okay? It looked like it bothered me. Okay. I'm doing my best. Let me just be real with y'all. Like with any breakup, okay? I'm glowing up. I'm glowing up. And this was all God's plan. And I am following my dreams. I would have been more distracted because I'm very much a hands-on wife.

And so, and I was behind this God of a man on earth that everyone worships. And that's a lot of work. Okay. That's a lot of work behind the scenes behind these doors. And we have kids and we have y'all in comments and we have everyone in our business and we got family we got to take care of. And we got UK, all these things. So that's a full-time job. So now it's different because I am learning my financial awareness for my household. I am grocery shopping for myself and my kids. I am planning and time managing my mental time and my doctor's appointments. And I'm looking out for Alexis and I'm happy. So this was all God's plan for me to not be in that situation because I am in love with Alexis and now whoever gets all of this

is getting a complete, just a whole heart. I'm saying. Baby, you need to say it again. Tell the people. You know, you a real wife and you a good wife. It's your blessing. I have no regrets. Somebody's got to get all these blessings, like I said. When you're a good wife, you were clocked in.

That's just worse. Oh, you were a good wife? Baby. Come on, now you're a clock. A good wife, that pro-bird woman, okay? I know who I am. These babies are graduating, these babies are clean, these babies are fed, they sleep good at night.

They're in a beautiful neighborhood, we safe, oh baby, we good over here. Let me just interject, because I was having this conversation with somebody earlier today. They were talking about Cardi B and, Steph, what's the name, Stephon? Stephon D.

Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. So somebody, it was a comment or something, and I had a conversation with somebody about the comment, like, oh, you know, she left her husband just to go be on, like, somebody's roster type thing. And I said, wait, wait a minute, wait now. The scary thing, the scary thing is it will look like that,

it will look like... Because she was a wife, and a lot of people feel like that is a prize, and it is a prize. It is an honor. But it's also like, if your husband has a roster, why wouldn't you be in a better position if you just stop being a wife and you gobble somebody else? And yes, you're on his roster, but you're not a wife, because being a wife is so much. It's a lot. You have so much obligation. So much sacrifice. So much energy.

I promise you, I like... If Andre wasn't here, do you think I would so freely just become somebody else's wife again? Get away from me me because absolutely not. I'm not ever gonna love another person ever this much. I think of myself the way that I have given myself. It is so serious. And if you're a good wife and you're a bad wife,

and if you really, you know, take honor in that title, it's exhausting. So I'm saying, okay, she's with this man and she might be on a roster or he could be on hers, but being a wife is exhausting. And if you're going to do all that, like, you don't want to be doing all that for your husband who got a roster.

Come on now. Yeah, it gets tiring. It's like they've been famously known to like have already been like trying to be like put the divorce papers out there, right? So she's tired. That was a toxic. That was a toxic. Be happy.

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That's it. I'm not going to be miserable. I'm not going to be... Trying to make not going to be trying to make some one side and trying to make you draining. You're doing all the wife duties and they are you got a whole roster and that's not right. That's lopsided. That's not equally yoke. But you know, I'm very much for marriage and I'd be looking to shoot a modern thank you.

You know what I mean? I'd be like, thank you. I wish they could. Well, we have more past. We've been here. We've been here. I'm very much for marriage and I'd be looking to shoot a modern. Thank you. You know what I mean? I'd be like, thank you. I wish they could. Well, we have more paths. We put in we put in we put in half of two decades.

We put in half. And guess what? He got me for a time. He got me forever with these grandbabies because I'm going to be there. He got me every graduation. We graduate. Yeah. But you know, somebody else can't get all this goodness and this blessing, baby, because I don't go back.

Yeah, that glowy skin. Sexy. Yeah. Look, let's. Go ahead. Give him a little shake, let's. This is the diamond in the rough over here. You know what I'm saying?

Listen, if y'all looking like this thing going and raining amigas, you see that skin is glowing. Let's know how to cook. She know how to clean. She know, listen, if y'all look at like, they think look and ready to make do you see that? Stan is glowing. Let's know how to cook. She know how to clean. She know how to be a fool. I know she kind of filled this up a little bit lately. I'm thinking she might might already have a little something, a little something. You guys.

Oh, yeah. Or no, possibly. She got she got some. She got three and a possible. I'm moving in my direction right now. I'm God's favor right now. Like, I'm loving it. Yeah, I'm where I need to be, like emotionally, physically,

spiritually, financially, like, you know. It's a hard time from the bottom, but you know, if I would have known what I am feeling right now, then we, of course we would feel like, okay, I can get over it, whatever, but this is work in progress. This is a lot of work in it. It was hard. You healed through it. And I'm still healing.

I'm still going through it, you know? It's always something. You're right. It takes time. But you look good, Lex. Thank you. I feel great. Thank you, Lex. You're glowing. You're glowy.

I need you to send me that routine that you doing for that skin to keep on blowing away. So it don't matter. We got to hear what the secret is today low and stand over there, you know drinking plenty of water and minding my business Amen drinking plenty of water and minding my business. Amen. Period. That's it.

All right, you guys, we got to, we got to wrap it up. What we got next. I lost my notes. It was getting good and juicy. Yeah, we, we. We, we loving it. What do we have? Humblebodies mail? What we got?

Yes, we are into the last... No, we have questions from the Humblebodies fan. We on segment four from the Humblebodies. Portia, you want to take that? You got to get stuff up. No, hold on. I don't have it. I can do it No, hold on. I don't have it. I can do it. I'm ready. I don't have it.

I got it. I'm ill-prepared. So we'll wrap it up with this, this last segment. So here are the questions from the humble baddies fans. If you had to leave the U S what are your top two places you have moved to? Ladies. I'm not answering. What are your top two places you have moved to? Ladies. Mm. I'm not answering.

Yes, you're gonna answer. You're gonna answer. Why not? I'm gonna say Italy. Yes, I love Italy. That's where I'm gonna go to. In the Caribbean. Because I love beaches and I love sun and I love sand. But Italy is... It's kind of my vibe. I love that. I love that and I love sand. But Italy is... it's kind of my vibe.

I love that. I love that. I love Italy. And I would also, um, since we lived in Israel, I would actually live back in Israel. I loved it over there. Ooh. And it's a good access point to other cities and countries too, so... Thanks.

Italy for the food. I probably would move to Paris. Ooh, Paris. Oui oui. Yes. And one other place. I'm not going to go. I'm going to go to another place. I'm probably going to move to.

Lagos. Okay. I love that. There we go. Shoo! You get one redo in life. What moment are you going back to fix or relive? And you can't say I wouldn't change anything. Oh, but I wouldn't.

No, but are you going back to fix or relive? Yeah. Okay, or relive? Yeah. Okay, or relive? Oh, man. I would relive a lot of stuff. Yeah, I would relive a lot of stuff, too. I would probably go back and relive not getting married at an early age. And experience my youth.

I wouldn't, I probably would relive, you know, having... No, because I'm blessed, my baby's, I actually, you know, getting married at an early age and, and just living and experiencing youth. Okay. So you, are we asking this question with like, okay, we could change anything, but we would end up right back here anyway? I wouldn't get married so early. I got married at 20.

Because that would change my answer. If I knew that I would have all of this right now and I'd be who I was and everything would be what it would be, then yeah, I would change something. I knew I'd still be here. Yeah, I'll still be where I'm at today if I didn't, even if I didn't get married or relive a moment. Hmm.

Ooh, trying to think. I want to say mine. LAUGHS Portia, this is uncut and unfiltered. We don't kill and we don't... We're trying to think. We're trying to think of mine. I say all the time that... It's uncut and unfiltered. We don't kill. And we don't come in the chat. We're trying to think of mine. I say all the time that...

if I could have skipped a lot of the... a lot of the growing pains in my relationship in my 20s... that I absolutely would have. Like, when he was working my nerves, if I could have just told him to go and buy his business, but I knew that we would eventually come back together and do what we're doing now, that would be perfect. But Lord, if I just could have told, you getting on my nerves, you know what I mean?

If you need to go away from me with that, and then come back 28. You know what I mean? 27, 28. And then, because let me tell you, my 20s was so tumultuous and so dramatic for no reason at all. For no reason at all. Just figuring, just us figuring out that we loved each other was exhausting.

It was exhausting. I would say that. I get that. I spent the time being exhausted. But if I know, like, if we would just end up right back here with our kids and we're married and everything is easier, then yeah, I would change that. I think for me, if I were to relive a moment, would probably be right before I had kids.

I think I would have just waited longer. But then at the same time, while you having kindergarten graduation, I have two drivers and they're two graduated. So like, I guess I would just relive that moment of like that freedom before children and just like, you know, where would I have lived or traveled to or whatever. But it's kind of worked out because it's like, you know, I'm living it right now. So, you know, I feel like it goes both ways with everyone.

At the same time, I'm like, I would have told him to go about his business, but this year he's the reason why my 20s was so much fun. Yeah, I know, right? I got it. I feel like... There was still some good with the bad. Yeah, and that's why everything... Way more good than bad. He's tired.

There's more good. There's one more good. There's definitely more good. We gotta wrap it up. We traveled the world. We had fun. All right, we gotta wrap it up, so we gotta do one more good question. Okay. Number four. Number four?

Would you date someone who doesn't believe in birthdays, holidays, or gift giving? Oh. Date? Yeah, it's a hard no for me. Not for no, because that's my love language. Yes. And receiving, do them all.

Yeah. No, I like celebrations. I like memories. Yeah, it is. I make a big deal out of holidays, and I wanna... That's great. ...be like, no. I can't force myself with you because this is gonna cause confusions. No, baby.

I love a festive partner. I want someone that's, like, pulling out the decorations before I can or just looking forward to something. You know what I mean? Like, let's turn up. Let's have a good time. Let's have people over. Let's enjoy life, yeah. Like, at the very least, I don't need you to be as enthusiastic as I am, but I need you to not contest me when I say,

I wanna throw something on the grill. Yeah. Want these people to come home. I'm gonna be... Don't roll your eyes when I say I want to be... She want her shake sodas, she want her hot dogs. She want to be petty. Childish. Yes.

With the chocolate. And the little jump juices. With the oil on top. Yes. I need that. All right, you guys, that's enough of Obanis tonight. We enjoyed you guys. We sure did.

Thank you for your stories, Lex. You know, you are amazing. You always give me great advice. Portia is funny as hell. Y'all make sure y'all follow, y'all tell them where they can follow you guys. I'm sure I'll respond to them on Instagram. I'm Alexis underscore Stoudemire on Instagram. And I'm at Portia Berto on Instagram. I'm Alexis underscore Stoudemire on Instagram. And I'm at Portia Berto on Instagram.

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