Club Shay Shay - Humble Baddies - Met Gala 2025 REACTION + Steve Smith Sr. SUED for Affair

Episode Date: May 6, 2025

Sharelle and Ashley react to the opening of the 2025 Met Gala and former NFL Star Steve Smith Sr. being sued for an alleged affair. Later, the ladies share advise for small business owners, answer mailbag questions, and much more!01:38 - Intro07:30 - 2025 Met Gala Reaction19:46 - Baddie Business Advice: Business Credit23:42 - Steve Smith Sr. Sued for Affair33:00 - Humble Baddies Mailbag(Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.) #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I get in my way, never out of my lane. Feel like you're the one and I'm on one. So what is gonna be? Baby squad. What's up? What's up? What's up? OK, girl.

Happy Cinco de Mayo. Listen, I just dogged my tacos. That's the only thing I have to represent for Cinco de Mayo today. Bring up my Dorita asks, too. I'm going, you know, I'm trying to get fine. So meanwhile, I'm trying to get fine, but I just. Drinking a can of soda.

I'm taking a break from alcohol right now because I feel like yesterday. I went to Charlotte. I surprised my best friend, you know, Christina. I surprised her. She just closed on her house. Yeah. And congratulations, Christina. And we celebrated.

I mean, we bought bottles. Like, we had three bottles of, what is it, 19, 40, is it 19, 22? I can't even think of the air conditioner. Definitely. Uh-huh. And we finished everything. And I'm like, I can't, how am I still, how am I here right now? Mm-hmm.

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I had a flight to catch at six o'clock in the morning. You had a flight to catch, child? Well, you don't look like what you've been through, amen? Listen, I got bags, y'all see them. Well, I'm gonna sit by my Margarita for the both of us. You're gonna drink from me. And I got me some chips and dip to be celebrating. Okay, y'all doing.

Y'all a big one over there. So, Weekend, what you got going on girl? You know, month, the month of May is crazy. You know, I feel like it's like the beginning of like the summer, the end of like the school year, you know, the kids got games. My mama graduated and I got to go to her graduation. Philip, I love graduating from the fifth grade. I got a middle schooler. You know, it's just so much going on Mother's Day, my wedding anniversary.

So I'm just trying to keep up, honestly. And I mean, every day is something. But girl, I feel you. What about you? I'm just trying to keep up, honestly. And I mean, every day is something, but... Girl, I feel you. What about you? Oh, it's crazy. So, I am at graduation. I just finished up prom. That was crazy.

You look so beautiful! How did y'all pick her dress? Did you have that made or what? She had it custom made. Let her tell it. My dress was custom made in Dubai. So she had her dress. She picked out her dress.

That was this. I have the baseball season is crazy. Then I'm playing for a travel team and we're going to be traveling all over this summer. So he's going to keep me occupied. Serenity want to start gymnastics. I have a huge project. So I don't know, it was discussed,

it was showed on the show a little bit. We did the groundbreaking, but we actually are, are starting the process of building our affordable homes, Joanna and I, so that has been crazy. We've been going, it's been, we've been putting in work. So by next year, I'll be having five townhomes put up in Sapa. Okay. So that's going to be good.

I'm excited for that. And then just trying to get Ariana off the college, it's just, it's a lot. That's exciting. That's so funny. That's funny. Well, I look forward to seeing you send your daughter off to college. Like, for me, like, I want to come if I can. Oh, are you going to do a trunk party? That's like the new thing.

Isn't that what you're talking about? Yes, the trunk party. Yeah. Okay. So that means like we just bring stuff for her dorm, right? Mm hmm. Why wouldn't you do that? When I went to that last. I went out to the military, but I still could have had a trunk party

going off to the military. But I'm glad whoever started that tradition, I'm glad y'all started it, because I could have absolutely I needed some stuff because that little rundown dorm room I had. I needed some stuff because that little run down door room I had. I needed everything. So that's exciting. And you got to bring denim down to hang out with the kids. Yes.

It's amazing. Oh my goodness. It's like baseball has is it takes up and you, it takes up everything though. The sports, they be acting like this is the end of the world. And I'm like, child, they only 11, they only 10. Why? Why? Why is it so serious at this age? I don't understand. All the sports moms out there. I know y'all feel us. OK, it's a lot. The practices, like the parents are crazy, too. Some of the parents are crazy. I done seen Phil get into it with some like the parents are crazy too. Some of the parents are crazy.

I done seen Phil get into it with some of the parents. Some of the coaches, and y'all know Phil don't even, he ain't even that kind of person. And you know, if Phil say something, it's a problem. But these sports these days with these kids, it's crazy. I done seen some crazy stuff. They be trying to fight, being violent at the games, need the police and stuff.

Right this here, they be trying to live through their kids. They do, don't they? And they swear they little 10 year old who can't hardly catch the ball, throw the ball, they swear he gonna go pro. That's it. Like, baby. Y'all just wanna go have fun. Oh yeah. He's like, baby. Child, just want to go. Yeah.

He's right. Like relax. Just let them have fun. It's crazy. Well, let's get into it. Have you been watching the Met Gala? Have you been on my own? Checking on these looks, honey, because this theme this year is everything. What's the theme?

Super fine tailoring, black style. I love it. And you know why I love it? Because I tend to lean more on the masculine side. Like, you know, I'm very tomboyish. I love a good. I don't really have a chance to wear like a good tailored suit anywhere, but you know, I love, you know, very masculine looks. Like I love me a cargo jean and I love a good sneakers look. Like I'm very much into the like, I lean more masculine.

So this theme, I just really feel like, you know, I, you know, you would kill it. You would have killed it because it's diving into the style of the legacy of black men. So, yeah, you probably, you definitely would have killed it. And I think that's beautiful that they are, you know, celebrating, first of all, black men. Like, how often do we get to see black men uplifted in a way and in our culture uplifted on a platform in this way. Like, yeah, we get it through music and stuff like this. But fashion, you know, we don't always get to be in the forefront, in the limelight, on this big stage.

Like the Met Gala is the Met Gala. Like there's nothing bigger than the Met Gala when it comes to fashion. So I just love the theme. Yes, the theme is nice. So what was your favorite so far? So far, I always have to give it to my girl, Tiana Taylor, the detail in her cape. I don't even before I even saw the details on the cape, I was just like blown away by the tailoring of her suit. Then she had this beautiful cape.

And then on the cape, there's a rose and Harlem stitched onto it. And then there's like roses on there. Like, it's the details for me. Because anybody can, you know, throw on a tailored suit. You know what I mean? But it's the detailing for me. Right. Who's your favorite?

My favorite was Lewis Hamilton. Lewis Hamilton did do it for the detailing for me. Right. My favorite was Lewis Hamilton. Lewis Hamilton did do it for the guys. Yeah, he did his big one. But he's a very pretty man. I never knew he was so gorgeous, like very gorgeous in the face. He is, you know. Yeah. Like, he could get married in that.

Like, I don't know if he married or not, but it just gave, like, a royal wedding, a royal groom. Like, that's what it was giving. Who was your least favorite? Ooh, my least favorite? Let me go back and look. Oh, Tyla. Ain't that her name? Tyla?

Tyla. So who was the worst out of her or Meg? Who? Meg, I would say wasn't on theme. I feel like Tyler's- You know what? It wasn't on theme. She wore a Michael Kors. I mean Michael Kors. When it comes to couture,

I think he can do what he needs to do, but it just wasn't given. It wasn't on theme. She had on like a white fur and like a silvery color down and the boobs were just sitting up. That's like all I've seen in the hair and the makeup. I don't know. It is the thing.

It didn't. It wasn't on theme for me. It just, it didn't give. What I don't know. It is the thing. It didn't. It wasn't on theme for me. It just it didn't give What I didn't say it didn't give dandyism. It didn't give tailored I had like Simone Biles outfit Simone Biles Yeah, but you know, she's so petite and so like Muscular, you know, maybe she didn't want to go too masculine with her outfit.

So maybe that's why she wore like a short mini dress. Thinking. Oh, I would have passed on that one. Diana Ross. Oh, Diana Ross did it. I love it. And I felt like it was so her, like very true to who she is, because I feel like she too often dresses kind of masculine.

Like she's not super like, you know, feminine and girly. Like, you know, she does wear dresses and stuff, but like it also has like a very masculine flair. But the fact that she brought out like the pinks, because everybody's wearing like black and white and darker colors. She pulled out like the colors, the pinks and the reds. And I thought that was beautiful. She looked great. Yeah, so the looks are still coming in.

So y'all tell us who did they do, who did and who needs help with their style, who need to fire their stylists. Let us know. Yeah, we're missing our girl Alexis. We know Lex went to the Met Gala some years ago and she looked amazing. I know she could have gave us some insight on her experience being there, but she'll be back next week, so it's just me and Rell today. Holding it down. Okay.

My question, Ashley, are things like this a real celebration of Black culture or curated marketing moments for the Met to feel inclusive? I think where we are now as far as being more open and receptive to black culture, I think this felt natural. I think we've seen a lot of other types of cultures and styles and art. And I think it was about time to uplift the black man and the black culture. And I don't know, it doesn't feel forced to me. And I'm usually the person to be like, uh-uh, no, they're just doing this to get a reaction. But to be honest with you, I really feel like this felt very natural, very on time, very needed.

And it's like, I feel like the conversations around it have been very positive and we love to see it. So I'm here for it. Yeah, I feel like everyone did their big one. It was much needed, the recognition of Black contribution. So I'm loving it. Everyone showed up and showed out. They didn't make it like a costume type event.

Like everyone put their all in. A lot of people, not everyone, a lot of people did put their all into You know and they killed it. They slain it. Okay now I will say or let me ask you What do you think? Do you think the white celebrities are? Really going on theme with their looks or are they just showing up, you know? Oh from what I've seen from what I've seen there. They're killing it. Um It's still going on Just doing a quick glimpse

What was her name Emma Emma Chamberlain Let me look her up. Who you said look we see I did like her look Emma She had on some like a pinstripe. I just saw Sabrina Carpenter pop up. She looks very. Sabrina killed it, too. Sabrina is cute. You know, I didn't think was on theme in half the way.

I felt like she looked like she was going to dinner. I didn't see her. You got to send me her. You just got on a white button up in a skirt. That's it. Damn. Yeah. But yeah, I think they understood. Everyone understood this.

The majority understood the assignment and... No, she can't. She just popped up. I don't know what to say about that. Look. What about ASAP? Let me Look. What about Asap? Let me see. You seen him already?

Rihanna is pregnant, girl. He done knocked up Rihri with her third baby on the way. We ain't getting no album when we get the third baby. Oh my god. That's why we ain't getting no album, because they busy over there making music in the bed. Oh, what a way to announce it on the way to the Met Gala. But girl, Riri.

Riri, come on, baby. Just take a pause. ASAP, all we ask is let our girl make some music. Make some music. I'm not thinking about the album. Now I gotta go over here and join the B house. Can't even go to no concerts no more. Not to take a drink, child. We ain't never gonna get an album. What? Anyways, let me find a cat. What he had on you saw his look already. I didn't see

already. I didn't see that. I see it. Yeah, he always looked. Known for his fashion. He he always looked good. But yeah, but honestly, though, it's not like, oh, he looks nice. He just always looks good. Like I expect this look of him, you know. Right. You know, it disappointed me though, now that I'm looking at it.

Then. Yeah. I think I don't remember glimpsing, but I know why Taylor suit and a hat that looked like somebody brand new beach hat. I don't like that hat. But the suit, the suit is very well tailored. I mean, she's on thing, but it's kind of boring. very well tailored. I mean, she's one thing, but it's kind of boring. Y'all know, I can't fashion is not me. I throw on some anything you keep it with me. So what's going to be pretty?

You can just throw on whatever you want. Luckily, you're blessed in that way. So this is not for me. I don't know. But listen, they I feel like she's. I would give her like, I don't know, but Liz Zendaya, I feel like she's... I would give her, like... I don't wanna say she's a fashion icon, but she always... They dress her, like, her stylist, Law Roach, like... Dressing her, damn, you know what I'm saying?

And she says that she used fashion to, like, help, you know, propel her career. You know, she wasn't standing out as much as an actor and she used like fashion to get to where she is. So I don't know. And they can't remember what she was because I just expected more from her. But it's cute. It's not a bad look. It's just.

Yeah, you would have thought. Come on now. Yeah. I got to look at hers. All right. Enough. Let's keep on. We're going to Come on now. Yeah. I gotta look at hers. All right, enough. Let's keep on watching. Dior. Dior, I'm going to say hey to y'all.

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I guess we got business credit so we can get these businesses going. Stop using your own money. Use credit. Build your credit. Yes. Okay. Now we got to get into it, because the tea is hot. Our good old boy, Steve Smith, singer, and his lawsuit.

My love and law collide is the topic of this segment. Have you heard about what's going on, Ashley? I had to catch up on it because I didn't know. Why is everybody business in the streets? Well, well, well, check. But I want't know. Why was everybody business in the streets? Why was there a check? But I want to know. Well, I think it went viral. I think the husband got in his feelings and he posted,

he recorded the conversation when he called Steve and he was like, basically you're cheating, you're sleeping with my wife. He found the messages, girl, it was some crazy messages and He was like, I'm sorry man, and I'll go to phone or something like that fast forward He's being sued because in some states if Basically if you are the person cheating with that person you can you can sue them

Mm-hmm. Yeah, it's called. What is? The home, it's called the home record law. Yes. And unfortunately, North Carolina is one of those states. So we've got to break it down. The allegations. Steve Smith, Sr. is being sued by Antonio Martinez, who alleges that Smith had a month long affair with his wife Nicole. The lawsuit claims that this affair led to the breakdown of the Martinez marriage. So he basically said, you're the reason you was over here laying this tight. Now you're the reason why me and my wife are getting a divorce. Martinez is seeking over a hundred thousand in damages, citing alienation of affection. Alienation of affection.

That's what Martinez said. He wants he wants a hundred thousand dollars for that. Intentional infliction of emotional distress and other claims. Mm hmm. Let's break down the home record law. Intentional infliction of emotional distress and other claims Mm-hmm Let's break down the home record law, North Carolina is one of the few states that still recognizes alienation of affection lawsuits Now how can you prove that because I mean it if she cheated on on her husband It has to be something else

or her husband. It has to be something else. Yeah, necessarily. And you can prove it. Say he got text messages to her and he like, baby, come on, I wanna, you know, I wanna take you to dinner tonight. And she like no or she just denying him whatever you know what I'm saying? You can prove that. My question is okay what if you know he he sues them wears the lawsuit or whatever and

they get back together. Well that's fine because she still had an affair. He still could have possibly messed up their marriage. Because we got divorced and get back together all of a sudden. That's crazy. It is. This law allows a spouse to sue a third party who is believed to have interfered in their marriage, leading to its dissolution.

To succeed, the plaintiff must prove that genuine love and affection existed in the marriage and that the defendant's actions led to its erosions. Erosion. Yeah. What if the other man was doing the most like buying her real expensive gifts or something or doing something that maybe the husband couldn't do. Well, the thing about it is, and you hear a lot of guys that, um, they'll for the right one, they will cheat.

I mean, Steve wasn't like a basic football player. He was like one of the top football players in the league during his era. So maybe she was a fan and she was like, this is the once in a lifetime opportunity. Let me go step out. But they were telling each other they love it. Girl, you got to read them text messages, child. Oh, I got to read the text. I didn't see the text. Okay.

So, I mean, I feel like this is something he should probably just like settle outside of court, like go to mediation, settle. You know what I mean? Do you feel like the Honorable lawsuit should be honored in every state? You know what? I just feel like the person you should be mad at is the person that you are in a relationship with. So I wouldn't punish the other person. It's really, cause you still got to deal with that person.

You know what I mean? Whether y'all end up divorcing or not, especially if you have kids, like you still got to deal with that person. You know what I mean? Whether y'all end up divorcing or not, especially if you have kids, like you still have to deal with that person and the repercussions of whatever happened. You know what I mean? So I just feel like adding in that other person, it's just you being bitter and trying to get something out of it and trying to hurt another person. But really the person that you should be upset with is the person that you're married to.

I understand, like, when you're mad and you're going through it, you like, okay, yeah, let me hit this man up for however much, you know what I'm saying? But at the end of the day, it's whoever you're dealing with that I feel like you need to deal with. That's true. I have, I know someone who's going through, who went through a situation like that. But I feel like some people take it, you know, take advantage of this law because it's like you was out here cheating, cheating, cheating. And now that your husband, you know, got fed up, he stepped out. And now you see this person have money night. The wife is sewing The other woman is like

You're taking advantage of this Yeah, the relationship was already messed up. That's why I said the other person don't need Yeah, I can't deal with your issues because clearly I got issues You know what I mean instead of adding a whole nother person into it, adding another lawsuit, divorces already cost a lot of money, you know? No. So for you to like bring in a whole third person into it, I think it's just extra. It's a lot.

I don't know if it's the smartest thing to make that like a lot everywhere. They need to think. And you got to be careful because people are scammers. You got couples out here that'll go out and seek people with money just to get a little comma. I'm part, too. I ain't even think about that. No. Mm, that's true.

You got to be careful with all this. There is a lot of scammers these days. People will find a way to scam. Girl, people will ride ride your behind and story. And you'll be driving and somebody behind and they'll just slam on brakes so you can hit them. It's crazy. It's all type of stuff. Yeah. Yeah. Well, we hope our boy come out. Well, you know, when you when you play those type of games,

you never know what we don't like. Praise for you, Steve Smith, that he don't, well, you know, when you, when you play those types of games, you never know what we don't play. Pray for you, Steve Smith, that he don't hurt your pockets. But I pray for this marriage, that it works. And he's also a public figure. So that's why I'm like, I just feel like you should quietly settle. You know what I'm saying? Like, don't let this keep going. Don't, don't.

I don't think, I don't think he knew that he was going to get sued. Or like this just came out a couple of days ago that he was actually, the guy was filing the lawsuit. So I mean, if you're going to cheat, why you never say that? Usually when they do this and it's for money, they ask for it first up front. And then if you don't agree to set, like give the money, then they sue. You know what I'm saying? So maybe he did already say, like, look, give me some money

or I'm gonna sue you for the money. Damn. So I felt like he probably had a chance to settle privately. Usually people do. I know. Baby, if it had to be settled quietly, you would have got $200,000. Maybe Steve's willing to fight and be like, hell no. You know, but maybe, maybe they knew something.

Maybe he had proof that they wasn't on a, I don't know. It's just a bad situation all around. It is. It is. But can you imagine what if Steve had somebody he was dealing with? And then this came out, you know, and now you got to pay somebody $100,000. I couldn't be with you no more. Like now I'm with you, but you got to pay somebody $ hundred thousand dollars I couldn't be with you no more like now I'm with you

But you got to pay it somebody hundred that cuz you broke up they marriage. Yeah, I can't be with you no more It's just bad like it just bad. That's a bad look We're gonna pray for Today is gonna be it's gonna be a short statement. We got to get into the humble baddies mail and we're going to let you go have your fun and drink your margaritas, baby. Phil's waiting on me. He just walked by. Listen, y'all might be like Rihanna and Asap after a while.

No we not. We done have the babies, okay? We like to practice, but we have another. All right. Thank you. I got the humble baddies mail. It says, hey, humble baddies, I need y'all's real unfiltered advice on this one because my head is spinning. So I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and things have been mostly solid. We've had our ups and downs like everyone, but I really thought we were in a good place.

Anyway, last weekend we were having a chill night just sipping wine and having one of those deep combos about boundaries and insecurities. Out of nowhere he tells me he's attracted to my best friend. Okay. Yes, my best friend. He said he'd never act on it and that he just wanted to be honest while wouldn't ever feel blindsided. He even said he respects me too much to ever cross that line. But ever since that combo, I can't unhear it. Like, why does he even need to say that? Should I be thankful he was honest, or was that some low-key disrespect

disguised in transparency? Now I feel weird whenever the three of us are around each other. And I can't help but feel like I'm in competition. Am I tripping, or is this a serious red flag? I would say that's a red flag. Like, don't tell me that you're attracted to my best friend. Yeah.

I can't even, like, you basically, as women, even if you not insecure, you just make this lady feel so insecure about herself by telling so every time It took things gonna happen. She's gonna start mistreating her friend Which happens a lot? Or you know, she's gonna feel like she have to go above and beyond and start being like her friend Just so she can get in, you know, it's just it's a mind thing. Like, it's crazy. Don't tell me no shit like that. Yeah, I first of all, think that.

This is a red flag just on him and his character, because like. If this is your man, does she say they was married or no? No. It don't matter. Either way, if this is your blue, this is your man, like you supposed to like protect your heart, protect your eyes, protect your mind. Like you supposed to like, of course there's other attractive people in the world. You're never going to like not be attracted to other people.

Right. other attractive people in the world, you're never gonna like not be attracted to other people, right? But like, for him to have to voice it means like, it's like eating him up inside or some shit. Because I can look at a man and be like, oh, he cute. You know what I'm saying? And like, keep it moving. But for him to feel like he needed to bring it up and say it to me. Why? You really attracted to how they even say that. That's on your mind. Like, what? That's weird. And, you know, I just think that... I don't know. I don't know that it would bother me about him liking her. Like, I don't... I wouldn't, I personally wouldn't feel like I need to be in competition.

It wouldn't mind-fuck me. It would just really mess with me in a way of like, he has eyes for other women in a way that he can't control. Because what was it about her that made you feel like you needed to tell me. Like, I get being honest and transparent, but to me, it just feels a little like it would end up going further and being a problem in the future. Yeah. Cause what if one day, you know, y'all out together and then you have, you feel like you can't go to the bathroom or leave them alone. It's just, it's just gonna cause so many confusions.

Like I wouldn't, I wouldn't, I wouldn't even want to stay with anyone like that. Exactly. And it wouldn't, and it honestly wouldn't have nothing to do with her. It would really just have everything to do with him. Cause it's now I'm looking at you at every fine ass woman that walks by. Cause I'm like. But even if they don't have to do with her, he can create confusion between them two. Like I've seen a lot of women who treated their friends a certain way because they felt like their man wanted them. And they didn't even go to the extreme of saying like, oh, you know, I'm attracted

to your friend. It's just, they'll see their friend. That's very sad. You shouldn't be with a man who would make you treat your friends weird because your friend weird. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's a whole another problem, but that's a problem with you. And yeah, you need to dig into. But if we're talking about like how this humble baddie saying, the man just came and said, I got a problem and it's because he said that she fine. I feel like that's a him problem. But if you automatically like treating your friends weird because you think your man might think she fine, then that might be a problem where we got to look within.

You know what I'm saying? But all of the situations is like you need to be with a man who makes you feel confident. You can leave him in a room full of baddies and you know it ain't nothing infinite. You can break down, period. That's the kind of man that you need to be with. You need to be with a man who only got eyes for you. Not saying that he can't acknowledge another fine woman, but. But get your friend and say, oh, I'm attracted.

Attractive is a strong word because you can acknowledge. You can acknowledge that you can acknowledge even the sexiness of a woman. But to say I'm attracted to her means that there's something in you that wants it. Like I want to me. That's what attracted something in you that wants it. Like, I want that. To me, that's what attracted means. And that would be, yeah. And so I would tell that Humble Baddie, she might need to take a step back with him, you know, because there might be other signs and other clues and things that he might be doing that might show you he may not be the one because. But I mean, I guess you can appreciate his transparency,

but just because it's transparent, it's don't mean you need to look through that shit, OK, that's why you keep it moving. That's a tough one, I can't imagine. Girl, you are not tripping, you need to get up at the relationship because it sounds like either he attracted to her and he want her, or he trying to bring her in and have a little... Yeah, he trying to test you and see what you thought about that.

Like, you like her too? What you think? You like her type shit. And I don't like that. Mm-mm. Girl, get't like that. I'll get up like that. That is a crazy situation to be in. But I feel like that probably happens often.

I'm sure it does. Yeah. It does. It's sickening. Well, you guys, we want y'all to enjoy y'all. Sync up in my yoga and have some fun. We're going to end it short today. If y'all have any questions or concerns, so y'all want to send us some HumbleBaddie mail, y'all can reach us at contact at HumbleBaddies.com. Yes, I'm Sherrell Rosato. You can find me on Instagram at SherrellRosato. You can find me on Snapchat at Sherrell.Rosato and X at Cheryl Rosato. I'm Ashley Nicole.

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