Club Shay Shay - Humble Baddies - Nicki Minaj vs Jay-Z, New era of cheating, & Trump & Elon still going at it!

Episode Date: July 12, 2025

Ashley and Alexis react to a new era of cheating in 2025 with people using the notes app, Nicki Minaj vs Jay-Z, and Trump Elon and the Epstein files are a hot topic right now and much more!  00:00 Introduction08:00 Cheating on notes app16:15 Nikki Minaj vs Jay Z25:10 Trump, Elon & Epstein files32:30 Humble Baddies Mail (Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.)#ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an iHeart Podcast. Hey, hey, y'all. Welcome back to another episode of the Humble Baddies podcast. I'm your girl, Ashley Nicole. And I'm Alexis Stottemeyer, and we're the Humble Baddies. The Humble Baddies, back with another great episode. Me and Lex, we've been out, we've been busy, been traveling this summer, but we're here holding it down for Sherelle and Portia today. So I'm happy to be back y'all. I missed y'all. What you been up to?

Girl, non-stop. My babies just got back from camp too. The boys just got back from sleep away camp safely and sound. So that was good. Asada has been home. She just got back from LA, visiting her friend that was her roommate back in the dorm at IMG. And I just returned back from being away in the mountains. A friend of mine was like come through, relax and get recalibrated because I realized I haven't rested

and really took some time of solitude and quiet and just relaxation and really over 18 months. And since I just finished school and was in the restaurant and we were filming and just lots of things going on with just with life. It was good timing to like really just unplug and really just like tap into like myself and really just have a good time. So it was just beautiful to be out in nature

and have some cooler weather and relax and just really just be, just be still. It's really a blessing to do. Beautiful, that sounds beautiful. Rest is definitely needed. It is. Especially us mamas, we definitely need to make sure we schedule our rest time,

just like we schedule everything else for everybody else. So, good for you, boo. That's what's up. Well, I just got back from Essence Festival. So, it's my very first time going to Essence Festival, and I'm kind of mad at myself because why was I not going all these other years? All these years I've been here, everybody talk about Essence Fest, Essence Fest, Essence Fest, and I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm going to go, I'm going to go.

And girl, the EssS Fest is amazing. Like, why was I not there? Well, you know, it's good timing for everything. So I actually got booked to speak on a panel at SNS Fest. So absolutely everything. I definitely, you know, wanna be more intentional about where I am, the places that I take time away from my children from.

And I definitely feel like this experience was worth it. I got to take my mom with me, so that was cool. I know she was really proud to see her baby girl up on the stage, just to be in a festival that celebrates black women, that celebrates black women, that celebrates black culture, music and business. I mean, the energy at Essence Fest is just top match and it was a great time.

I really enjoyed it myself. I hope I get to go back again. And I hope I get to go back again. And I hope I get to, you know, do more things like panelists and hosting. I'm definitely leaning into that. You know, so it was just overall a great experience. I will say I am tired to sell because people in New Orleans, they don't go to sleep, honey. The concert. We did, we did, we did, We did figure that out when we were up there in February. Exactly, girl. It was just like the Super Bowl thing.

No, that's like their everyday thing, honey. The concert every night didn't end till three o'clock in the morning. The aspergers still coming out. I was just like, the fire marshal not gonna kick us out no time soon, like the people just kept coming out. Master P brought on about 51,000 people on stage with him. I mean, it was a good ass time, it was a good ass time.

I love that. What was the panels, what segment or a panel were you on? The panel that I did is they have a bunch of panels. Honestly, there's something for everybody there. The panel that I did was for the Essence main stage and our conversation was about the impact of reality TV. I was on there with another young lady from Love and Marriage Huntsville

and our moderator, Shelby, she's an essence editor. She just basically asked us a lot of questions just in relation to obviously reality TV. What did we take from it? How were we able to build our brand from it? What are the pros and cons? How did you decide if you wanted to be on there or not? So it was just a cute little conversation, nothing too serious.

It was just fun to show our faces and get some like behind the scenes, you know, details about, you know, being on reality TV. So yeah, that's awesome. Yeah, girl. So I definitely want to go back. Definitely want to, you know, talk about some other things. But yeah, hopefully I'll be back in 2026. I know that you got to speak it. Got to speak. Yeah, girl. Absolutely. So before we well, actually,

let's get into tonight's episode. Going to be a good one, y'all. First of all, cheating through the notes app is the sneakiest trend yet. Have you heard about cheating through the notes app, Alexis? Just recently for prepping. I've been I've been unplugged. So you know, it's just I'm catching up to what's been happening. The happenings.

Yeah, I think I did see a post about it. But I guess people are literally like doing the most these days. They're getting very creative when they're trying to cheat out here. Cheating in 2025 has officially entered its ninja era. Forget about the DMs and hidden apps. People are now using the iPhone Notes app to cheat. It's silent, sneaky and leaves no trace unless you go looking for it. With the shared note feature, two people can carry on a private convo with no text, alerts,

or screenshots. Just quiet betrayal in plain sight. And trust us, people are getting creative. So have y'all ever found, have you ever found something suspicious in someone's note app? I have found something suspicious in a shared, the shared notes but it's only because it was like a contract or something like pages so it wasn't really like, and suspicious meaning like you should take out the name so I thought that was, you know,

like I shouldn't be seeing that, you know what I mean? So it wasn't really suspicious like, ooh, like whatever. It's just like the privacy thing. You have to remember, you have to turn it off. It's like a Google Doc, you know, you have to unlock it or lock it to where you have to decide who you're sharing it with too. I know I have sent notes to people,

and not to be sneaky, but just like to collaborate with, that's what it's for. And then they make their notes in, you have to be careful because you can speak, you know, you could do speak your notes too. So like that can pick up conversations and things like that. You can add pictures, you can, you know, it's a lot that you can do.

Now, if we're stooping to that, to where you're cheating, I don't want it, you know what I mean? I think you're starting to just really be very creative, which is taking away time. And so if you got to sneak through notes apps and all these other ways of communication, that's another way of distress. So, to me, everyone's going to find some fault in something,

especially if you're already thinking like I need a cheat and I need to cover it up or I need to make it look like it's something that's not. Those are already telltale signs that you're not in a, it's a red flag, you're not in a stable situation., it's a red flag. It's a, you're not in a stable situation. So it's unfortunate now that people have to like look at their notes, but I don't want it if you got to be doing all that. Right. That's not what it's for.

I mean, to be dating somebody and have to worry about their notes now is insane. I mean, I feel like, you know, at some point when you're dating, especially when you're young, like you you have insecurities, everybody has insecurities, everybody is like, at some point looks over like, oh, who they texting or who are they DMing or, you know, whose page are they stocking, you know, I feel like we all have had that feeling, you know what I mean? But I think it's to the point where I'm nervous about the notes, honey I just feel like that's a lot of energy, you know, that's a lot of energy to you know, like you said waste On you know worrying and checking because you know people are going to do what they want to do. Anyway, you've got to just let them

Um But it's technology. It's crazy how technology, you've got to just let them. But it's technology, it's crazy how technology, you know, we love technology, but it can be a gift and a curse at the same time. I actually saw another post too recently where a guy and a girl, the guy was sharing his screen to their TV. And they were like listening to music or something. And he got up and went to the bathroom and he texted another girl.

He forgot his damn phone was. Oh, he's screen sharing. Yes, he was screen sharing with his TV. So the girl just sitting on the couch, reading him, reading the text to Keisha. He talking about what you got on and can I come see you and all kind of stuff Yeah, I'm just like how you gonna be

Smart and stupid at the same time because you clearly you know how to use your phone good You spring sharing and all that but then you stupid cuz you forgot to turn it off before you went in the bathroom So people just really be doing the most Honestly and just so sloppy What the hell, honestly, and just so sloppy. What the hell? Yeah, no, that's not what we're doing. So is this smarter cheating or is it just a digital version of the same mess? Well, it's a digital deceit.

That's what it is. At the end of the day, it's just being deceitful because whatever you wouldn't do in front of your partner, to me, is considered cheating. And if you're not going to talk about it, and they don't know who you are, and you're this totally different person behind their backs, then yeah, no, it's not good. It's a red flag. I don't like it. That was my next question. So if you saw your partner using the Notes app to talk to someone intimately, would you consider that full blown cheating? to talk to someone intimately, would you consider that full blown cheating? Or is that just, you know, them being a little deceitful? It's very much deceitful because now it's like, okay, I didn't know this was a form

of communication for you and this other person. So now it's a conversation that has to be had. And why is it that, you know, now you're collaborating on notes? Because it's like, you know, it's connects to your it's another way of text messaging, and another way of emails or involved personal information. So yeah, I just think I wouldn't like it. Now I just know it's sneaky. That's one thing I try to avoid in dating in general, like really have to know who you're dealing with. And the beautiful blessing is I get to decide, you

know, what I'm going to tolerate and what who I want to be with. And if they already have these signs in a friendship dating period, I don't want it. Yeah, I agree. I think, you know, if I was to find out, you know, somebody I was dating was using the notes app to cheat, I would just feel like you're trying to really get over on me, you know, and it doesn't even matter what the conversation is. It's just the fact that you went beyond like using texts, using regular forms of communication, going out your way to be sneaky to me is like,

it makes it 10 times worse, because it's like you really didn't want me to see your true colors. You're really going out your way to be a deceitful person. And I think that makes it 10 times worse, because what else would you do to be deceit deceitful what else what am I not seeing you know so I feel like it kind of makes it worse in my opinion because it's like you not only are you know being deceitful you going out your way you being creative with it you really taking your time to make sure I don't see this

taking your time to make sure I don't see this. So, I don't like it. And you can delete, you know, it's just a lot. Cause it's interesting because we use the app for my mom. My mom has a collaborative with my sister and I with all her pertinent information. So it's like, I always get an alert too when she updates it. Yeah.

You know, so it's just like, it's too much. Yeah. That's not good. That's a lie. I don't like it. So I got a bonus tea drop. One woman found a shared note between her boyfriend and another woman where they rated all the girls

they were sleeping with, including her. Now what the hell? See what I'm saying? Them notes. Why first of all are y'all writing girls y'all sleeping with? Like, what is this conversation? Can you imagine opening up-

Cause it's a recurring note. So they can add to it and delete from it. So now that's the new, I guess, group chat way of collaborating. Yeah. Collaborating on clout. But I'm not in chat way of collaborating. Yeah. Collaborating on clout. But I'm not in these streets no more, honey. I ain't well, I ain't been in these streets since 2009.

Well, that's why I'm ready to get back, not in these streets so I can like, lock down with the ones. I'm crazy out here, okay? Yeah, there's a lot going on. There's something new, there's something else, you know, they can save, it's something else, you know, they can say it's just, it's a lot. All right, let's move on to our second segment.

You got this, Wyn. All right. The second segment we have is Nicki Minaj versus Jay-Z. Royalty, royalties, andty's, and Silent Beef. Nicki Minaj isn't staying quiet anymore. After years of speculation and behind the scenes tension, she's made it known that Jay-Z, yes, the business mogul himself, owes her money.

Whether it's royalties, bad contracts, or unreleased collaboration, she's fed up. While Jay-Z's silent, Nicki Nikki's suddenly airing grievances and lyrics and social media and fans are split. Is she speaking her truth or burning bridges? So let's start the questions off with this. Should Nikki have aired this publicly or handled it behind closed doors?

You know, I love Nikki because she is a fellow Sagittarius, okay? And I'm a Sag, so I understand my good sis, okay? And I feel like we are very much the same when we have an issue with something or someone with business, whatever. I feel like, you know, she comes off, she's a very strong woman. She's always talked about how her personality, you know, when it comes to business,

they call her a bitch because she knows what she wants. She demands respect. You know, she's just very much a business woman and she takes no shit from nobody, right? So I feel like if it gets to a point where she has to say something in public, when she has to voice her grievances or whatever it is, if she has to do it in a way that's like outlandish

or not business-like or whatever, I feel like they took her to that point, you know what I mean? I feel like she's a smart business woman. So we don't know like what she's already done behind closed doors. We don't know what she's already done behind closed doors. We don't know what's been done to her behind closed doors. And somebody like Jay-Z and Roc Nation, they are up here.

They're like, can't anybody touch them? You know what I mean? And I feel like nowadays, the way that you can touch these big giants in the industry is through social media. And I get it. Sometimes you got to take it there. the way that you can touch these big giants in the industry is through social media. And I get it, sometimes you gotta take it there. You know what I mean?

I think, especially when it comes to like your money, her royalties, I think you have every right to speak on that. It may not be politically correct, but again, this is not a politically correct industry anyway. Like that's not how this industry normally works anyway. And I think because she's a female she gets more backlash for anything that she does or says. You know I feel like we've seen, you know, even Jay-Z we've seen him go

through stuff in the media and they shut it down like that and it's nothing, you know? Nobody touches him. But I feel like the moment that Nikki says something, people just eat her up. They eat her up. So, I mean, I don't think, I don't see anything wrong personally with her, you know, coming out with what her issue is.

Maybe she feels like this is what she needs to do at this moment in time to maybe move forward and get some progress with this issue that she's having. Understand that. I agree with you. I feel like being in that space of creativity anyway in how she can switch on and off her octaves and tones, and very much in her creative space.

We've just seen it all from her. So if this is her way of expressing herself, not only creatively, but just verbally, then I receive it in its own way, because that's the best way to get anyone's attention is through the media. And if you have a platform, use it. And obviously she has a following.

And so the barbs, aren't they the barbs? I feel like that she's rallying them up to like get behind her. And here we are talking about it. So whatever it is, I don't know details on everything that, what was said, but I mean, now we're talking about it and now it's awareness.

So she definitely made a point and now it's been spoken about. Yeah. So it worked. Exactly, exactly. I'm not mad at it. Yeah, so it worked Yeah, it worked do female rappers get the same mentorship or protection as the male counterparts Um, I

Think if they're a threat I feel like they know or even if they're not a threat I think Even I feel like males in the industry Will place the female rapper where they want them to be, you know at the time like I feel like I Feel like and it just not just not just with rap but I feel like The men in the industry still want to have control on how popular and who's popular when it comes to like the females and if they're going to let them, you know, like how Drake put on sexy red and I spice, you know, I feel like that was him saying like, okay,

I'm co-signing them. So, you know, we'll let them be hot. And honestly, truthfully, I don't think they're the most talented, you know, we'll let them be hot. And honestly, truthfully, I don't think they're the most talented, you know, artists. But because he stepped in and co-signed them, it's like, okay, we're gonna let her shine, we're gonna let her shine. Whereas there might be some other artists

who are, you know, way better, but maybe they don't want them to outshine the male artists. So I feel like there's like a control thing that happens. But I feel like, you know, women always, no matter what the industry is, we always have to fight for the little bit that we get. So I feel Nikki right now, she fighting for it. Because that's what we've always had to do. Nikki right now. She fighting for it because that's what we've always had to do. Yeah, I get that. I agree with you. Just always have to fight. Yeah, it just comes with it because it is, I feel like the rap culture has always been a very masculine profession and now with the

influx of female rappers, the discussion gets, well, they're over sexy or they're over this, they're over that. And, um, well, they have to be ultra feminine, you know, it's cool. They're going against this beast that has been really, um, over time objectifying them and, um, bringing them down. So for them to stand up and really, um really show who they are and show they're like, we're not going to back down and we have a voice and we're here too. I just think it's been a bonus for them,

for the female rappers, the lyricists, to really have their own protection through their voices and really stand together. Because I noticed that a lot of them do stand together because they are the minority and they are, but they're also the exception, you know, because we love to see it. I love female rappers, you know, it's just about them getting their shine and really being supportive of one another.

So they have to represent us, you know, they say what we think and how we feel. I appreciate it. Yeah. But yeah, I don't think they get as much protection, obviously, as the male men do. That's just because it's just how it's always been. Unfortunately. Yeah. Yeah, let me see. Yes, yes. Would the industry even survive without the women? It constantly underpays. What do you think about that?

I say what it says, would the industry even survive without the women? It constantly underpays. You think? Um, I don't know. I mean, I would say no. Um, yeah, because right now I can't even imagine the rap game without the women. The women are really leading the game right now, to be honest with you. So, yeah, absolutely not. We got Megan, we got, I mean, we got a lot of people. We got a lot of rappers that are females

really out here killing it. A lot of them. A whole tours and everything. So yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well, maybe it's a shift. Here we go.

Here we go. Yeah. Okay. Yep. Moving on. All right. So moving on to segment three. Trump, Elon, and the Epstein files. What are they hiding? We're living in an episode of Succession and Black Mirror. I love both those shows, by the way. Yeah, they're both good. Yeah, Elon Musk is demanding Trump release files tied to Jeffrey Epstein shortly after the DOJ

and the FBI claim there is no secret client list. This bombshell report has the internet in a frenzy, with many believing that elites are protecting each other. Meanwhile, Elon and Trump are beefing publicly like two messy on scenes on Facebook. So do you believe the DOJ when they say there's no client list or blackmail scheme? Absolutely not. They really just gaslighting us in our face. Absolutely not. We know there's an Epstein file. We know who's in it.

And it's unfortunate that they really gaslighting us. But at this time, this is July, this is the month seven, and so much has happened in every single thing that the president has said he's going to do, he's been doing and executing. So I just look at it like this, like nothing is coming to a surprise anymore. It's almost numbing in a way, just because you're just like, well, here we go. And then if you read the Bible and you're in tune with that too, then you're just like, well, this is a sign, here we go. So it's just a lot. It's just so many layers to this. And I don't even hold my breath anymore.

I'm just here living my best life because the way we are just going through it, we were in a potential World War III going on, and we were just nuclear talks, and the Epstein Files, that's a whole nother beast. And the way that Trump pardons people and pardons himself and has new rules and all these other things, it's just turned into really a complete shit show of just like, let me show you what I can do. It's just act after act after act. It's just no surprise. It's no shock. I just, I'm just like, what else is next?

You know, what else is next? We have alligator Alcatraz right here in the Everglades, where it's a detainee camp. It's harsh conditions, I'm sure. You know, it's just out of control. They're picking up parents at kids' graduations and schools. We have so many other things that we should be thinking about, like floodings and all these things, and schools, and what the kids are eating, and urban gardens. So much more we should be doing. And all we're doing is creating more hate and confusion, really.

You know, it's just it's unfortunate. But this is what the people voted for. So that's why we live in America. It's a democracy. And this is what the voters wanted. Yeah, I agree. No Epstein files. Just poof, be gone. All right. They just confirmed that, you know, they ruled Epstein's death a suicide. Like they confirmed that it was a suicide.

What do you think about that? No surprise either. I mean, it could be a suicide. Maybe he knew something before it happened, but to me, you know, that's a tough, tricky situation in territory and itself. Speaking of that, the administration took away the hotline for transgenders, suicide hotline and prevention and all that. So that's difficult um and so when it comes to suicide that's it's just it's just a heavy it's a heavy situation you know um so did he do that maybe be out of guilt we don't know where's the letter um or was it was it staged? Was it, it's so many question marks. Where was the security like?

Yeah, it's just so many things. Where's the cameras? Where's the logs for the employees? Who's on duty? So like, if that's what they're gonna say it is, then whatever. I don't know how that works with all the victims and their lawsuits and things like that, but it's just heavy all around.

And when your name, if you're the most powerful person in America and your name happens to be in those circles and there's pictures of you and you're on logs and all these kinds of things, then you can make things disappear. Exactly. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Well, like you said, the people who voted for them, for Trump, I just, I want to know where y'all at,

where y'all at and what do y'all think now? You know? It's just so interesting how quiet people are now, now that like you said, Trump is doing everything he said he was gonna do. He laid it out in a plan. And then, yeah, y'all feel for it. It's just January, it's just July.

It's just July. It's been years. It feels like this time has been going on already for... He's moving quickly, you know, he is, look. Yeah. It's happening. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. It's happening, boo. You know, it's just, it's unfortunate, but, Yeah. You know, I look at it like, we saw Elon Musk and we saw Trump really just kind of like being babies, you know, like they're going back and forth, they're buddy, buddy, buddies. And then one is pouting and the other one is using his power to like mute and then like

going in the media, which they both love and speaking how they feel about it. And it's just like, y'all we have so much more like we should be focused on. And, you know, they're really having That's true. A black mirror in succession. Yeah. It feels like a reality TV show. It feels like, girl, the White House Instagram and Twitter,

all those videos they're posting, you saw, they posted Trump and he had the song usher playing said my daddy's home did you see that no i didn't do you follow the white house on the page i did i used to um not like is this real is there somebody has an account because what is happening like you never know what's going to pop up on that page. I'm like, who was running it? Who was running this page? Who was opening all of this stuff?

It's crazy. I can't, it's embarrassing. I can't believe this is my president. I can't believe it's just, it's embarrassing. The federalists. All right, enough of Trump and Elon. Yes, enough. This is just none but egos. That's all it is. And okay, measuring contests. It is time for humble baddies now.

Okay, all right, you ready? Yeah. Dear humble baddies, I never imagined I'd be the villain in someone's story, but here we are. I'm 15 weeks pregnant and the father is my best friend's ex-husband. Let me explain. They were married for six years and divorced over a year ago. She confided in me about their ups and downs, even the final straw. I supported her every step of the way, but a few months ago, he and I started talking. It started innocent, venting, catching up, checking in, but feelings grew.

One night turned into many and now I'm pregnant. He says he's ready to step up, he wants to be a father, but I haven't told her. I know this will break her, I love her, but I also love this baby. Am I wrong for keeping it a secret this long? Is there even a right way to tell her or have I destroyed this friendship beyond repair?

Shell, there's so many men in this world. Like, why him? Honey, I just don't understand. And if it didn't work out, like, I just feel like, first of all, my friends, husbands, ex-husbands, ex-boyfriends, ex-whatever, whatever, it'll, like, I'm not even interested. Yeah, like, it's not even a thing, first of all.

Second of all, if it didn't work out with your best friend, why would you think it's gonna be better with you, you know? Mm-hmm, yes, Ash. Like, see how the ins and outs, I'm sure, of whatever broke it. the the horrible shit do Even be turned on or interested by this person So it's an answer the question. It's wrong all of it. You're wrong Your mentality is wrong. He's wrong

The only thing is right is the baby because because God don't make mistakes, okay? But now I feel like everybody gonna need therapy as soon as this baby is here. I feel like that friendship with you and your home girl is over, because why would we be friends anymore? I can't confide in you anymore. I wouldn't feel safe around you anymore. I can't confide in you anymore. You know, I wouldn't feel safe around you anymore. Right. And then the

do the exes do they have children like it could be really messy. I'm very tricky. And so yeah, I just say this whole situation is bad and shame upon you for you know, letting it get this far because one condoms, okay? Two, like, it's so many other men out here, honey. They might not all be good, but you can go find another bad one because he don't sound like a good apple.

There's plenty of bad apples that you could eat. Yeah, that's my take on that. Yeah, I agree with you. If the friends, if this is, we're talking about an ex-husband, like this is just, she's definitely getting ready to lose a friend. I think it should not, that's not a healthy friendship. Now, all things happen for a reason.

The baby didn't ask to be here, obviously. So now you have a baby. So now the father needs to step in and be a father and the mother needs to step in and be a mother. But the old saying is you lose them how you get them. You know, yeah, the feelings came back because there was no accountability. You know, you could go back and do your thing and it was sneaking. It wasn't under the right pretense. So I don't think anything good is gonna come from this just because of how this all festered.

And it's really a tough and not healthy situation while you're pregnant, as well as gonna have a newborn and bring in another child into this situation. So, I mean, maybe you work on a- How about if you have a son or daughter, that's how you brought them into will? Yeah. And this happens every day. So that energy already coming from being sneaky and behind the backs and lying and now lying

with husbands and all that kind of stuff. And, and, and, and in a white, like, you, ex, a friend, I think it's just horrible karma. And, you know, you just gotta be careful when you playing with people. And she just, friend, you need to let her know because now is better than later. I mean, it just gets worse. And now you have to distance yourself and give her grace.

Give your friend time to really process this too, because this is also her ex-husband. Actually to your point, if there's kids involved, now you're dealing with that was such-and-such's friend. You saw me cry. You were there when I was in my lowest time, my weaknesses. You saw me venting about this man or there's a reason there are exes in the first place So here you are laying next to him and comforting him and like really, you know Now having a baby with him you now locked in for life, too

So is this is this is therapy says therapy written all over it because now y'all are really co-parenting and co-habiting and co-everything, mingling. And these are half siblings. So yeah, therapy. That's all I got to say about that, as far as to help you out. That's the advice. So please tell, the longer you wait and help you out. That's the advice. So please tell the longer you tell,

wait until the harder it's gonna be. Yeah. I feel like it gets worse. The one gets worse. And they're right in the way to tell her. Oh no. It's just honesty is the best policy. I feel it.

Like you gotta, you gotta be honest, you know? Yeah. It needs to be a public place too. Tell you that. Right. If there's a problem, we can go ahead and be there. Yeah, it's a conversation. And low key, it's the conversation with him too.

For sure. Yeah, because now he's involved. And you know, we can attack our friends more than we attack our men too. You know, our partners, which is unfortunate, you know, as females too. So maybe it's a situation where all three of them are sitting there and like, look, this is what it is.

But that's a tough situation right there, baby. I don't wish that on anybody. That's the man at office. But- Do you think the friendship can be like savaged? You know what? I don't think it would be a friendship anymore. I feel like if the friend was, you know,

a emotionally mature person, and truly has moved on from whatever feeling she had for her ex-husband. I'm sure she, you know, in a perfect world, I think there's a way that, you know, she could still be cordial, you know, not friendly. I don't think it would be smart to be friends with her anymore.

Yeah. I think she could, you know, be cordial if she's truly moved on from him. But I just don't think there is a place for that friendship anymore. I agree. I agree. All right, well, thank you all so much

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