Club Shay Shay - Humble Baddies - Part 1: Boss Mommy Life + Pretty Privilege

Episode Date: July 29, 2025

Sharelle & Alexis discuss the joys and difficulties of running successful businesses while raising children. Later, they discuss pretty privilege and if people are benefiting in the workforce based off good looks and not talent.00:00 - Intro9:35 - Pretty Privilege 21:15 - Mommyhood Meets Boss Life(Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.)#ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Oh it is I haven't been keeping up with the days of the week I've been so busy Yes, it's been non-stop It is the last Monday of the month We made it, we are here Welcome everybody with the days of the week. I've been so busy. Yes, it's been nonstop. It is the last Monday of the month. We made it. We're here.

Welcome everybody to another episode of Humble Daddies. Yes. Hey, Rae, what you been up to? I've been good, I've been good. I was gonna say our girl, Portia, couldn't make it today. She's handling her household goods and actually just living her best life. I love it.

As we all should, you know, like let's go. That's true, but I've been so busy. Oh my goodness. It's been, I mean, it's truly a blessing, but I was able, I told you before, we opened up our office in Dallas and we did our grand opening. We have about my team, the team lead, Freddie and Andre are running that down there.

And we have about a whole neighborhood on the golf course that we're listening. So we had some fun. That's, that's amazing. Congratulations. Yeah. Yeah So show us my team lead freddie and andre down there but um I went down there met all the agents. Uh, we had a big grand opening Um our first day we toured all the homes that were um, just built and the next day we played some golf Did a little turn up in Dallas. I'm liking

Dallas. I'm thinking about, you know, relocating. Oh, what'd you mean? It's so beautiful. Like relocate, like moving to Dallas. So wait a minute, time out. Are you one of those ones that when you go somewhere and you start to fall in love with the area, the people, the vibes and you're like, Hmm, I might be able to, I might want to move here. I've heard that with Turks, I've heard that with, you know, when y'all were in Africa lately. Well, you know, I can have multiple places, but seriously, my business here in Tampa, you know, we have, that's the main, I call it the main headquarters. It's running smoothly. So I have people in place.

I'm the type to put people in leadership places to run the business while, you know, I go to the next and build an empire there. The next city, build an empire there. So my Charlotte office is good. My Tampa office is good. My Miami office is good. Dallas is office is good. My Miami office is good. Dallas is good.

And I could just move around. And that's what you should do. I love that for you actually. So yeah. I have a total of 88 agents and they're killing it. That's beautiful. It's a powerhouse. Yes it is.

But I had fun. I enjoyed it. I went out. We had a good time with the agents and the nightlife was good. The restaurants were amazing. Yeah, Dallas is beautiful. It is.

It's vibrant. It has a lot of culture in its own way, being that it's Texas. So I get it. I like that rustic vibe that they have and the white boots and the hats and the oh I you. Where's my hat? I was blessed. I was blessed with the the meat. The cows everything I gotta show it next time, but I I got a nice

cowboy hat made. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. All the good stuff, those good rustic vibes. I love that. And it's so many opportunities. That's what I love about being there. There's a lot of wealth in Dallas also. Like family wealth and very much like a hustle ambition and just to really just keep the generational wealth going. That's what I have noticed about Dallas.

Yeah, so one of the listings that we did get in the community, most of the land is owned by a black family and the father, he started building and now he's passing it to his daughter. She's about 35, 36 years old, and she has became a developer, and now she's taking over building properties in that lot. So... I love that.

It was beautiful. That's good stuff. Yes. And then this weekend... Oh, I'm sorry. I gotta keep... Finish it, finish it. This weekend, I'm planning, you know,

taking my daughter on her final vacation, got her a little PJ. We're gonna go to Jamaica for the weekend. the weekend before I send her off to college. A mommy and me trip. Yes. Well, speaking of mommy and me trips, I just got off of one literally a few hours ago. Okay. Went to Cooperstown with Elijah, my youngest, who is my baseball player.

to Cooperstown with Elijah, my youngest, who is my baseball player. My good friend, family friend, Cece Sabathia, was inducted into the Major League Baseball Hall of Fame. He is the first Black left-handed pitcher to be inducted. Okay, period. In the National League and American League. So I'm so proud.

It's been a blessing to have this family that I've seen their children grow up. They have four children like myself and my best friend is Amber Sebathia. Shout out to Amber. And so we were just there to support her and support Cece and the family in this journey, which is just a big deal. Like that was my first time, one, going to Cooperstown, which is this quaint little town

that is, all the homes have been preserved. They have rules where you have to keep the standard of like very much old upper New York, Hudson Valley homes. And so they kept the integrity. And this is their major, this is twice a year is a big time for the MLB, but this is the biggest because you're inducting the five players. And so just the experience overall for Elijah being a baseball player to see this, that he can attain this, to see the journey, to see that, you know, this is New York, New York Yankee. The fact that there's so many

things that have came from being in a career of being a baseball player living in New York. And since Elijah was born in New York, when we spent time there too, it's just a beautiful thing to see a Black family being represented in Major League Baseball. And I'm wearing my shirt. I got some merch. Okay. Okay with the merch? Yes, you know, like we, we got to represent up in here, okay?

Yeah. I know that's all right. No, but they're just good people. And you know, this is, this is rare, you know, that we have a one of our, our, our friends that are, that have made it. So shout out to the family. So it was great.

Shout out to KZONE. That's what I was talking about. It was a great mommy and son trip because you know how that gets. We got to be able to spend, because I travel differently with my children. You love them differently. You have to spread your time. You have to discipline them differently. It's just all are different. So it was just good to have that time away from the other three too, just him. That's what Ariana got on to me the other day. She was like, mom, you don't discipline Serenity.

You let her do whatever she wanna do. When we was our age, we used to get toe up. You used to argue at us this. I was like, but she's a baby. Oh, see, there you go. She's the baby. She's the baby. See?

Uh-oh. I would say to each of them, I'm like, Asada, for example, my youngest daughter, I'm like, you're my favorite youngest daughter. You know? But we do certain things together, and then they do certain things together. Yeah, I feel like every parent had have a favorite child.

No matter what they say. Every parent has a favorite child. I know. Yes. Who's your favorite? So I have different is different categories. So just overall, my best friend is my is Ariana. And my favorite is probably Denim. Denim. Uh-oh. But they know that though. And Serenity gets away with it.

Serenity runs the household. That's hilarious. Yeah. But that sounds about right. Yes. So what we talking about today, girl? What's going on? Yeah. But that sounds about right. Yes. Yes, yes. So what we talking about today, girl? What's going on? So for our first segment, we have...

Pretty, privilege, or performance. So we're gonna talk about pretty, privilege versus performing. In a world where followers and filters dominate, are people being rewarded more for their appearance than their actual talent? SHERELLE LAUGHS From the casting couch to TikTok fame, the lines between talent and aesthetic appeal are blurrier than ever.

While some people naturally benefit from being conventionally attractive, others are left wondering if their skills even matter anymore. This, is this a societal issue or just the way the game works? So, Sherelle, let's get this going. Is this a societal issue or just the way the game works? So, Sherelle, let's get this going. Have you ever been told you only get something because of your looks? And how does that make you feel?

Of course. Um, I've definitely been told, oh, you only got the job because of how you look. And at first, you know, I used to downplay it like, damn was I not qualified? Like, you know, I believe it. I was young and I believed like, but I knew that I had traits to get the job done. But actually, prime example. So when I first came into the military,

two years in, I was offered a job to work for the division command sergeant major. It was an HR job, but it was the E-5 position. I was the E-4, but I was promotable. And it was out of a few of us. And they were like, oh, you only got the job because of your looks or whatever. So I felt like I had to prove a point and show it wasn't just my looks.

Like I don't want, you know, no one to care, especially being a female in a predominantly male division, 82nd Airborne Division. That's the worst reputation that can go on saying, oh, you only got the job because of your looks. Because then people start taking, you know, spreading rumors and making things worse than what they were.

So my thing was I had to prove a point. Like I'm fit for this job. I'm great at PT. I'm just good at what I do. And I feel like some looks can open doors, but it's what you do. It's not just the looks. Looks may can get you into it,

but you have to show that you're capable for that job or position. You're right, where you basically can show what you're capable of. You can show them better than you can tell them. That's the one that I always say. So I agree with you on that for sure. I just, I think being in the military too,

you know, which is very male dominated, you have to, you know, in your- Work harder. Yeah, exactly. Twice as harder. Definitely work harder. And it's not for, like you got, you gotta have thick skin being in it.

Like they're gonna say the most craziest things, but you gotta have thick skin being in it. Like they're gonna say the most craziest things, but you just gotta brush it off. And people may say, yeah, looks get you this, looks get you that, but after so long, looks can only go so far. Like I said, you have to show what you can do to determine what's next.

But I've also got rejected, I feel like because of my looks, I got overlooked on jobs. Yeah, that's definitely how it could backfire for sure. It's almost like, you're too pretty or you're too this, and they just assume that maybe you are, you know, you get you getting everything you're getting all the contracts because of your looks and so they're like, all right since she's doing this already let me go on the other way. Exactly. What about you? Have you been in a situation

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Apple podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. If a baby is giggling in the backseat, they're probably happy. If a baby is crying in the back seat, they're probably happy. If a baby is crying in the back seat, they're probably hungry. But if a baby is sleeping in the back seat, will you remember they're even there? When you're distracted, stressed, or not usually the one who drives them, the chances of forgetting them in the back seat are much higher. It can happen to anyone. Parked cars get hot fast and can be deadly, so get in the habit of checking the back seat when you leave. Hello, puzzlers. Let's start with a quick puzzle. The answer is Ken Jennings' appearance on The Puzzler with AJ Jacobs. The question is, what is the most entertaining listening experience in podcast land?

Jeopardy truthers who say that you were given all the answers believe in? I guess they would be kenspiracy theorists. That's right. Are there Jeopardy truthers? Are there people who say that it was rigged? Yeah, ever since I was first on, people are like, they gave you the answers, right? And then there's the other ones, which are like, they gave you the answers and you still blew it. Don't miss Jeopardy Legend Ken Jennings on our special game show week of the Puzzler podcast.

The Puzzler is the best place to get your daily word puzzle fix. Listen on the iHeart radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I was trying to think, um, not necessarily to me, it would be more like, um, stereotypical just like put in the box of like being like a baby mama of an athlete, you know, just being put in these, these boxes of this is all she is. And so it's like we're actually more than we do a lot more than most people just assume, you know, so I wouldn't say it's really privilege. It's more so like, yes, it's like pretty privilege plus monetary,

you can access and just fame and fortune and all these things. And combining that, you become a public figure and accessible and to the point where people want to start making things harder for you, essentially. We're our biggest critics on ourselves, but at the same time we have these strangers and fans and people that are just like, you know, they got it like this. So let them, you know, they just see that you have access.

They see that you have the front pass, the fast passes, no one ever says no pass, you know? So it's a combination of all of that for me and I feel like really since I was young into this it's been half of my life, you know That you know that I've been Pretty much being in these rooms of privilege being in these rooms of being able to have business deals Being the first ones to to be looked at in investments and first rounds, because you look at it and it's like the wealth get wealthier, the rich

get richer, because they're in these rooms. You know what I mean? So you're always on, whether it's even at a dinner or a casual setting, like at a listening party or something like that, you're still in these rooms with exclusive people. So like you are, that's a privilege in itself, you know? Well, listen, I don't get overlooked on different things. As I sit back and think about it, even like there's looks to certain things,

like even playing basketball, you know I used to play basketball. And when I tried, when I got stationed to Fort, it's Fort Liberty now, but Fort Bragg, I tried out for the base basketball team. And they was looking at me like, what this girl is? Like, this ain't no, this like a real team. They overlooked me.

They picked their little teams or whatever. They overlooked me. But when I showed what I had, they was like, okay. They used to call me Lights Out. Lights Out was my nickname. You a three point shooter? What was your position? I was a two guard.

Two guard. Okay. Yeah. I love that. I had a mean double crossover. I know that's right. But the thing, but because of how I look, I look too girly and most people think that, you know, if you play sports

you gotta be a tomboy, you gotta be this, you gotta be that. And that's not the case though. Looks can, another example. Looks can deceive you, cause I agree with you. Like when I was hooping too, I was more of the fifth like feminine player because I was like, because I also play volleyball, we're in those tights and then and then I would run track and then in those little shorts. So like, and I had body, you know, you've

seen you. You know, muscle memory. I was sick. Yes. I would like pull up to the track and or pull up to the gym. And they're like, okay, well, let's see what she gonna do You know and then now I'm giving them the business. I'm Dominique, you know Yeah, so, you know, they can get looked at it like that, but you Know the same the same thing. I have so many examples so I do government contracting as well. And I just recently got into a predominantly white male

industry, which is development, SDVOSV, Service Disabled Veteran-owned, building VA clinics. And sometimes they have pre-bid meetings where you have to go, you travel to whatever city you're bidding on for a certain project. they have pre-bid meetings where you have to go, you travel to whatever city you're bidding on for a certain project. So I come in there with my little business top on with my little pants and my little heels.

And you got these CEOs of these big businesses coming in there. And they thought I worked for the VA when it was time to do roll call or whatever. And I'm like, no, I'm Allure Management Solutions. I'm here to bid on this contract. But people overlook you thinking that you can't be in that same field. It's crazy. Or not as smart, not as capable. None of that. Yeah. Yeah. But I Yeah. Yeah.

But I love it though. Yeah, you know, it's good to always like do a silent stunt. You know what I mean? They, they, they doubted you and then you come around and like showing them like, you know what, now what? Exactly. I did it even better. Exactly.

I mean, even being in the culinary space now, it's a male dominantdominant industry. And so you have to hold your own. You cannot be sensitive. You have to be very much focused on who you are. And to me right now, just in the trend of everything, authenticity is what people are wanting and searching and yearning for. This is what we deserve because you gotta be yourself.

We can't be trying to chase cloud and be cookie cutter and just like this right now is the time for us to really shine, to like really be ourselves. That's true. That is so true. Yeah. Where are we now? But yeah, you know, privilege,

privilege is the thing. And you're right. It's really it really is in every industry. I feel like, you know, yes, it is. You just always have to prove yourself. It's crazy. You have to prove it. But I feel like it's this starting to transition. Um but I feel like it's starting to transition.

I feel like people are starting to transition away from just hiring people for looks. Like looks, hiring for just pretty have gotten a lot of people in a lot of trouble, especially when it comes to women and men. So you just have to be careful. You do, you do. Should we be holding brands and platforms accountable for pushing beauty over brilliance? I think beauty is the tool it'll get you in,

but it takes more than that. I think brands shouldn't just rely on beauty, unless it's just, you don't need anything. You're there for just pictures or they need a certain aesthetic for their brand. Yeah, yeah. Cause right now everybody, that's the number one marketing tool is social media.

And especially in the beauty industry, that's how they get their marketing and their advertisement of like, look, the more beautiful you are, the more opportunities you have. You have the hotter guy, the hotter girl, you have the better job, you have the better vacations, the dating lives or whatever, just all these things.

It's a lot of pressure. It definitely is. A lot of pressure. But I think when it comes to beauty brands, It's a lot of pressure. It definitely is. A lot of pressure. But I think when it comes to beauty brands, you don't really require it. What they're looking for, it's just looks. It doesn't require too much, especially when it comes to marketing. Yes.

Okay. Well, let's move on. Yes. All right. They did too. Mommy Hood meets boss life. It is right. Can you really do both without burning out? And is it a balance, even a real thing? And is balance even a real thing? You know what's crazy? I get this all the time and it's so hard being a, the boss, the only person in the household

that's bringing in the income, trying to take care of everything and still do mommy mode. Like I get so, like people who don't know what's going on, they criticize me so much. But I also get women who look up to me and support me because they're like, like, I just look, I admire you so much because you know, you established all this, you have this going and you're still, you know, doing what you have to do to make sure your kids are good.

Well, to me, it's been a beautiful transition of my children really seeing firsthand how I am navigating so much. Now they can appreciate it. Obviously when they're young, you see there's one now making noise, the youngest one. They get to see their mother in all these different hats that I wear, whether it's the nurse, it's their friend, it's their concert gore friend, or we vacation, we are learning, we do philanthropy, all these things. I feel like they get to see these many hats.

They also get to see the other side of it, the boss, the one that's paying the bills, that's grinding, that's keeping the lights on. Because now that my children are older and they're starting to have their own cars and things that they have to maintain, they're learning that, you know what, mom and dad, especially mom, she's holding it down. And also navigating emotional stress and all those different things that we have to deal with too. They're seeing how I'm coping, they're seeing how I'm dating, they're seeing how I'm, you know, communicating. And it's just so much education in being all of the above that you can really show them like this is the real world. Like I'm tired. Like you see these bags. We traveled today, you know, we were in the car at 2 30. We had to take

two flights, you know, we were in the car for an hour30. We had to take two flights. We were in the car for an hour and 40 minutes. I handled that like the best project manager I could be. I'm a scholar at this now. So it's like to navigate that, I'm the itinerary planner, I'm the manager, the nurse, everything. We the valet, we everybody, the chauffeurs, all these things. And so it's like, they're seeing what real life is. So forget all the people out there that are just like, you know, criticizing all that. They only see the flash, the picture that you show.

You know what I mean? They don't see that no one's there signing that check when the taxes come through or when that bill comes through or you ask somebody's asking for their phone to be fixed and they need it. So it's just all these things. So, you know. When all these bills come through, where are you?

Like people just think, and that's what I love. I only show what I want to show. People only just see, oh, they think I'm traveling, but really it's a business trip. That's, you know, that's our brand. I'm all over the place, but. You're global. That's what that's what that is. But the thing about it is, and it's very, like you stated on it, you have to, you have

to have a schedule. You have to lay it out there because it's not easy. It's hard. It's very hard. And I wake up, I had to get organized to be able to be as successful as I am to make sure that I'm not missing a baseball game. You're right. Being more organized because that's huge. You're right. You don't want to miss nothing you in it. We got a lot, but go ahead. I just want to know it's true I have Siri. I said everything I'm making sure I'm not missing the baseball game Make sure I'm not missing, you know a call with the school Ariana's going off to college

I have to make sure all her stuff is done. So I'm Allocated I'm combining both my work schedule with my personal life and I never operated off of personal life Like off a personal calendar until I became an entrepreneur. So it's trying to balance both. But with the technology here that we have today, it makes it easier. Yes, it's busy. Yes, we have to go from one place to another, but it pays off.

Absolutely. And you know, there's many categories that you're spreading yourself then too. It's not easy. I know we might make it look easy, but like, you know, here we are with y'all on a Monday night tapping in, you know what I mean? Like kids have been fed, they're coming in and out. You know what I'm saying? Like we, we knocked that out. We are now working things like that. So it's just a balance of that. And then let's add in ourselves to our self care. You starting to add that, and then you starting to add family time,

and then a boo, a spouse, you gotta cut that. That pie is getting smaller and smaller, them slices. Cause you're really having to balance all of anything that you know for your essence of who you are. And so like with the children, this is being a boss too. balance all of anything that you know, for your essence of who you are. And so like, you know, with the children, this is being a boss too. We have our friends, we got our romantic time

and our social time, and then we have to do our rest and therapy and you know, all these things. So work, all these things, it's a lot, it's a lot. But we doing it. My next question to you is, what's the hardest part of trying to balance motherhood and entrepreneurship? What's your hardest part? To me, it would be feeling guilty that like, I'm gone a lot or I am missing a game because I would be able to be more available. But now I'm wearing so many hats and I'm elevated. I was in school and now there's so many opportunities are happening.

And the beautiful thing is my children are old enough. I put in when they were younger, with those formative years of rearing them. So now they know how to be self-sufficient because now, I'm talking about 20 year olds and 18, almost 19 year olds next month, 17 years. They're old enough now. So where I can really, cause I used to feel guilty about it,

but now the minute I back up from my garage and I'm leaving in my suitcase, I know this is the beginning of so much for me. It's my time. And so I don't feel guilty about that now. You know, again, before it used to be, but now I'm just like, this is what I've been called to do. I'm now going to be speaking on panels. Now I need to be seen at these events. I need to be active.

And I'm the type of person that shows up for my people. And I'm going to show up for all the people that show up for me. And it requires a lot of energy too. But one thing about me, I'm going to balance it. You know how I get, you look up and you won't hear from me for days because I didn't unplugged, I didn't got recalibrated

because I can be super social and then I'll get, I had need to shut that, I got to shut it down and like redirect my energy back to work, back to whatever I need to do. So yeah, you have to balance it. So I used to feel guilty, but not now because now everybody grown and I did well, Alexis, you did great.

So I earned this time to now be able to move around. Because I always, I think about you, Real, too, because you had a little one. So it's like, girl, you were almost like, you know, working them down. And then here comes the baby. I know, and then boom. God damn.

Because now it's like chasing after and going, but at least you are equipped for this already because you've been there. You know, you know what's expensive. So you do have like a shortcut, low key. I do. And the good thing about it, she's at the age where she traveled with me as well.

Exactly. My dad, they both had come with me. So it works out perfect, but I would say my hardest part of trying to balance motherhood and entrepreneurship was... A foot washed up, a shoe with some bones in it, they had no idea who it was. Most everything was burned up pretty good from the fire that not a whole lot was salvageable. These are the coldest of cold cases, but everything is about to change.

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Guilty and the time not having everything organized when I first got into it. That is key. And being able to, and learning how to be selfish. That was the biggest. And it's okay to be selfish because like I always say, if you're not taken care of and you're not, then your operation, the household is gonna fall apart. So I think those were my biggest trying to learn how to take in.

So, but I mean, it's amazing. You can't continue to dwell on it. You just have to figure out a way, figure out a system that works best for you and your household, and you can get it done. But if you're dwelling on a situation, like if we both dwell on us feeling guilty this whole time, we let so much time pass by when we don't get anything accomplished.

So it's like, I damn if I do, damn if I don't, like don't focus and dwell on this, you can make stuff happen. And you just communicate and let your kids know this is what I'm doing. I'm quick to tell mom because ain't nobody finna tell you your mama always gone. You gonna know why I'm gone.

You gonna know where I'm at. You gonna know why. And because you like this lifestyle that I'm giving to you, this is why I'm doing it. So, is these people crazy? What you mean? doing it. So yeah, people crazy. Oh yeah, mama, here in these streets, people out on her people say this to other kids moms and I know they work they behind off. Like it's been single, you know,

single moms out here busting they tail. Sometimes it'll be your family members. Yeah. Yeah. Because they don't understand. They don't. But that was the biggest thing. And I feel like, you know, I did a great job communicating and being able to just keep them up to date on everything that's going on.

Love that. Yes. Let's see. What kind of support system makes the biggest difference and what happens when you don't have one? Ooh. I think, so that's another blessing, you know, the fact that my mom is right around the corner.

Again, my children are older, but beforehand I did have help. And in addition to good family members, that's a real thing when you say it takes a village. Like when I say that's a real thing. So like the beautiful privilege and blessing to be able to have hired help that is like, you know, this is what their passion is. They, your pain to like monitor your children

and take care of them. Like that's a beautiful thing. And it really, it's a testament to finding good help if you're able to, or a good daycare, a good sitter, a good babysitter, all these things, just because you have to have that balance. Honestly, I couldn't imagine raising four children like this, the things that they've seen, the places they've been, the way they've been navigated and shown so much without help, without even me being able to go.

That's another reason why I'm able to go. My mom is here, she's at my house and I have people at my house and you know, the kids can nothing, nothing changes. They're still going to be food. They're still going to be going to this practice. They're still going to go to this game. They still have this play date.

Everything keeps running even if I'm not here and that does take, you know, commitment, but I cannot imagine not having help and most people don't have help. So it's a beautiful thing that, you know, I'm privileged that I was able to have that even with a night nurse or, you know, nighttime nannies and people who care for these kids. Like, I didn't have that, but my mom was able to pick up and just be right there. And one of the beautiful thing that I'm able to have her, and I know she's watching, so shout out to my mom and my mom. But like it's trickled down to her grandkids now where she, I don't to have her, and I know she's watching, so shout out to my mom and my mama, but it's

trickled down to her grandkids now, where she, I don't even have to think about my kids. Because one, she's going to discipline them, she's going to feed them, and she's going to love them, and she's going to spoil them. So I could really go be on a panel and be happy and be vibrant and be myself. I can really go be in a kitchen and have a project and execute that. I can go and, you know, go be on a beautiful date somewhere away and not worry about my kids and no one interrupted me.

Like, so it's just all these different things I'm able to do because I do have that support system. And whether it's family, a friend, a coworker, somebody you trust, what a blessing that they can pick your kids up from school. They can, you know, you can carpool. They can go get some groceries for you. If you sick, they can take over for you.

Like, that is my number one thing is to get that help. And I just can't imagine not having it. You want that help. Because even if it's crying on someone's shoulder, like, just taking a break, because it can get overwhelming. So, I just can't break. Cause it can get overwhelming. So I just can't imagine not having a support system.

Yeah, it definitely can. I'm truly grateful for both of my parents, you know. Amen. My daddy and my mom, they are like a blessing to have. They're both retired and I can call them. They'll be here within the next hours jumping on a flight if I need them. So truly grateful. It's just hard. I have people, you know, single moms reaching out to me saying, and it's hard now. It's not like it used to be back in the days where you can have

your neighbor. Like I remember growing up, our family, they used to take turns carpooling. It's not like that anymore. So it's so hard to take turns carpooling. It's so, it's not like that anymore. So it's so hard to even try to give advice. You don't even know our neighbors. Exactly. I don't even know my neighbors. Never met them a day in my life. When you say it like that, you're right. You could be like, I'll be back in a couple of hours.

She's over there by herself for a minute or something. It's not like, it's hard to trust people. It is. It's so hard. It truly is. It's hard to give advice. Like when mothers tell me like, how do you do it? What's some advice you can give me?

I can't give no advice if you don't have a support system. It's hard. It is hard. And we don't trust that experience. Yeah. Of having it. Yeah. But I'm truly speak in that experience of having it. Yeah. But I'm truly grateful to be able to have,

that support system. And even with my daughter, she's 19 and she's just great. Like anything with serenity, she's here, she if, or, you know, didn't need to go to baseball practice, she's driving, he practiced all the way out. It's an hour and a half drive. And sometimes, you know, she see that I'm working hard.

She's like, mom, don't worry. I'll take them to practice. Take them to practice. Take them to some of his games. It's just, it's a blessing. The people that I have around me, that helps out. It's so cute. Cause I always see your father with serenity, you know.

Yes, that's his best friend. Yeah, they're freaking Frank. Freak and Frank. Left to right, like when I'm just like, you know, she know how to work him too. Oh yeah. She know how to work him. She works than me. I'll be like, you know how the parents be like, call it the,

your children are here to go get the remote and it'd be arm reach. She do the same thing. So I said, girl, where you learn this from? I feel sorry for whoever you have to deal with you when you get older. Papa! Yeah? Hand me my charger.

Oh. The charger be arm reach. He'll be like, no, you get it. She busts out crying. I said, girl, you are too spoiled. It's crazy. That girl, she is a mess. She has her daddy personality. I don't, oof, I feel sorry for whoever.

Isn't that funny? Like, it's funny how our children really do take on some of our personalities in both parents too you know. They get a little bit of that because even I see it in my kids too. I'm like yep that's your dad. Yep there he is. Right. Those mannerisms or those it's so crazy. I know you got that from your daddy. Your daddy side. The physical appearance and how they walk, how they act, everything is crazy. I love it though. I mean we wouldn't change it for anything. Like no let's be real. What's something you had to unlearn about being a perfect mom to become a present one? Oh, to me, it was really like giving myself grace. I had to really realize that Alexis,

you are doing a phenomenal job. We want to do everything for our children. We want to give them everything. And because of everything we did just speak of, you know, a little bit ago, we're wearing so many hats. And so I've really now learned to prioritize Alexis. I'm going to go to the spa. I'm going to take the trip. I'm going to go on the date. I'm going to go to the beach. I'm going to go have that meal. I'm going to go take care of myself because I know one thing if I'm not right mentally emotionally Physically and I'm unhealthy then all this shit going down What is this? I invented that binder that life binder for the tribe of Lex and It's a tight shit. You know what I mean? So

I just make sure I take care of myself because I'm the most important factor for this family. I know that and I feel that. And if anything were to happen to me that I couldn't, that was almost self-inflicted, that is just harmful for my children. If there's things I can prevent by balancing my life and taking care of myself and praying and meditating and having that girl time and talking to someone and, you know, again,

making sure I feel loved and appreciated. I'm gonna go insane. I know what I need. I need a book sometimes. I need a night out with my girls sometimes. I need that good glass of wine. I need that bath. I need actually to sleep in.

That's another thing I've been trying to prioritize. Like, you know, not responding back to texts quickly need actually to sleep in. That's another thing I've been trying to prioritize, like, you know, not responding back to texts quickly and those dings, those alerts, because I'm like, I'm living off of like alerts of other people in my house. How disrespectful is that to my, you know, my funds. So I'm like turning it off. And then I, when I'm able to return the call, the text, the message, then I can, then I will, you know, obviously to be in a timely manner of like, you know,

nothing's getting lapsed, but it's not important right now. To me, I'm the most important factor right now. I think my biggest thing I had to unlearn that a perfect mom doesn't exist. So once I understood that, like there's no such thing as a perfect mom. And as long as you're making sure that you're taking care of your kids,

they have a roof over their head, they have food in the house, they have lights, they have shelter, and you're able to give them the necessities that they need. Mm-hmm. You're doing a good job. That's all facts. So it's the biggest thing is, you know, we used to question, am I good enough?

Like, I don't want to make this mistake. Yeah. But I look back when I was a child and, you know, I used to wonder why I didn't have this or why I didn't have that. But now as I'm older, my mom in my head, she was an amazing mother because she worked her ass off to get me. I'm the person I am today because of my mom. She prayed with us, she took us to church.

She left a great guide for me to be a great mother. Yes. And I second that with you. I praise my parents too, because I got to see both of them in the household doing their part for my sister. And I tell them all the time, like y'all did a great job. Like, wow, you know, I had just attained to be parents like you guys, cause you did a hell of a job with me and you did a hell of a job with my sisters. So it's like, we are phenomenal women, we're phenomenal wives, we're mothers,

we're good people. And to what you were saying, Sherelle, like that's the best, beautiful blessing you can pass down because now here we are, the same bloodline and that's another currency of generational wealth is now being able to take care of these kids because we were seen and shown it properly. Right.

You know, we know the opposite of it. So we're like, this is not the direction we, cause we see it and we're like, no, this is not where we need to be going cause this is not the direction we, because we see it and we're like, now this is not where we need to be going because this is not what I saw, you know, you like, this ain't right. So I think, I think it's a beautiful thing. So I agree with you 100%.

We're blessed. Truly blessed. Mm-hmm. What would you do if one bad decision forced you to choose between a maximum security prison or the most brutal boot camp designed to be hell on earth. Unfortunately for Mark Lombardo, this was the choice he faced.

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