Club Shay Shay - Humble Baddies - Part 1: Settling For Love + Do You Wash Your Chicken?

Episode Date: July 24, 2025

Sharelle, Alexis, and Porsha debate proper cooking hygiene and preparation, discuss finding love in after heartbreak, and finding your soulmate!00:00 – Intro14:50 – Settling for Soulmates (Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.)#ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Sexy Lex in the building Love y'all Love friends I miss y'all. Hello friends. I miss y'all. I know. Listen, I'm feeling better. Yes. I'm looking better. Okay.

That for sure. I'm feeling so much better. Y'all, I was so sick. Oh my goodness. I was outside too much. Y'all, I talked to Sherrill right before she got on that podcast. And I said, what you gonna do with your hair friend?

I said, is you gonna put a hat on? She said, yeah, I'm gonna put a hat on. And to my surprise, lo and behold, I look on the internet and see my girl with the flyaways, with the frizzles. I said, my girl said she don't feel good and she need y'all to know. I had the hoodie on my head and Lex was like, no, take it off. I'm like, the hoodie look cute.

No, the hoodie covered everything. She was like this little bold piece. So Lex was the culprit. Yes. I was like, I did. She was like, it look cute. Put it on. Lex set me up. No, it wasn't a setup. That was that.

Don't say that. I ain't posting this one. Damn, I look bad. I wasn't saying nothing except I really did have a conversation with her before she got on. I said, you gonna put that on? She didn't say that. Well, I should have seen me looking with the cowboy hat. I was looking a hot mess. Y'all probably thought something was wrong with me. Like I just came out of a institution. Joking about the cowboy hat. I put on like a regular hat. Oh, she wasn't joking. Okay.

No, but what I can say is I was representing for my dog, bad bitch, good mom. She wasn't representing and I said, ooh, a few sales done came through. What I did? Oh, my girl was wearing it. That's why the people in my shop. Yeah.

Anybody tell you the influencer marketing doesn't work because it does. And I love that you represent the brand. You represent the business, plus you had to do today. I had a listing appointment today because I'm a real professional type of bitch. I had to go to a listing appointment. Okay. You know what I mean? I'm coming soon about to sell another house. Give me another coin. Yes. Yeah. I was working today. We about to make us some money.

I was in the field. Look at me. Andre said I look like a like girl and he said, oh, look at your little uniform. I like that uniform though. You look like a little intern though, like you just graduated from high school. I fully know. This lady is probably like, how old are you trying to fill my house? Right. Do you know what you're doing, ma'am? Are you experienced enough?

You know what I'm doing. I'm a real grown adult. Beautiful. Thank you. You're're doing, ma'am? Are you experienced enough? You know what I'm doing. I'm a real grown adult. Beautiful. Thank you. You're welcome. Yes, you do. So how was your weekend?

How has y'all day been since we last communicated? Well, y'all just communicated on Monday. Yes, we did. Yeah, but you know, Lexby, she get a lot done from Monday to Wednesday. I sure do. Lexby's flying, okay? Lexby's flying. We don't know where Lexby, she get a lot done from Monday to Wednesday. I sure do. Lexby slide, okay? Lexby slide, we don't know where Lexby, Lexby slide, my girl be outside.

She do. And low key with it. How was yesterday? Yesterday was awesome. And today was even great. Today is my wellness Wednesday. So I went to get my nails done, got my favorite flowers, and just really, just relaxed.

Asada requested a steak, and I haven't had steak in over 20 years, but I can make a good one. And so she's been like, fiending for this steak. You make chimichurri sauce with yours? No, it doesn't need it oh okay okay no it's just a good in the cast iron skillet garlic salt and pepper and some rosemary and some you get the i think i've seen you cooking the steak before with like that okay and so she just loves it and then

she's so she has steak and frites so i just spent some time with her. How long do you let your steak marinate? No marinating at all. This is a- Oh hell no. See that's what happened Lex. When y'all be going to these culinary schools- Yes, I am so trying. Y'all don't take it back to the old school and season the meat.

You gotta season it and you gotta let it marinate. Let me tell you something. It's not about old school and seasoning the meat. It's about understanding the technique and just the whole fundamentals of tasting the meat. How they messing you up. Lex, please tell Portia. You're telling the colors.

Please tell Portia what you said about your meat, what they teach you not to do no more. They teach you not to wash like more. They teach you not to wash your chicken. Oh, hell no. They say buy it the day of, that's what we were taught, buy it the day of or the day before and cook your meat. Okay, so for the people who buy in bulk, they don't wash their chicken?

Well, I mean. They don't clean their chicken. You don't think that it tastes better if you don't... I grew up cleaning my chicken. You better continue to clean your chicken. What you clean your chicken with? Who me? A paper towel.

What you clean your chicken with? A paper towel. No, I get Monica and I get Olivia, my mom used to do that too. She used to like soak it. And I pour all my fat out. Yeah. I mean, my mother-in-law boiling, scolding hot water, white vinegar, salt.

Yeah. And we were splashing bacteria and things all over the place. But it's delicious. Yeah, and we were splashing bacteria and things all over the place. But it's delicious. Yeah, it is. But you clean it. You got to clean your sink. I don't be sloppy.

It ain't like you cleaning shit. But not everybody. I mean, at home, chef has to take precaution of for our wipes and making sure they're not transferring bacteria. I clean my meat in a bowl. And that's that. Well, just put that in the bowl. I don't clean it.

But I mean, I feel you, you know, everybody do that. I mean, I'm sorry. I also don't marinate steak. Yeah, you're not supposed to. Y'all don't marinate steak. I don't marinate steak. I wait till it's room temperature because I don't, I don't. There you go.

That's the technique. Very good. I wait till it's room temperature. No.'t, I don't. There you go. That's the technique. Very good. Boom, no. Boom. Y'all gotta taste my steak. Y'all trippin'. I taste your daddy's steak. I don't know nothing about your steak, but. My steak tastes just like my papa's steak. Papa's steak is good as hell.

Papa. Papa be marinating that steak. Everybody has a papa. Papa's steak is good as hell. Yes, papa be marinating. I can't have a taste of Sherrell's steak, nice and white. My steak tastes just like Dennis Rosado's senior. Okay, well the jury's still out on that. We gonna have to see it at holiday.

You're not going to taste my cooking before. I have. I just never had the steak. So let me tell you this. Do y'all wash your steaks too? No. Yeah, I rinse my steak. I have to rinse everything because let me tell you why you're making me because no, no, I don't know. I'm grounded. But let me tell you why I rinse my state because you don't know what them butchers are doing back there when they back there handling the meat. It could have been then dropped on the floor you don't know you want to know there's nothing like clean that 400 500 degrees it was some hot grease tell me that you think the vinegar like for real for I'm really cleaning my chicken because I really do

think it make it taste better and that's true I'm not cleaning my chicken because I think that the vinegar is gonna get rid of something that the pan won't. If the pan don't sear it off, I can assure you the lemon not. And it's the thought of it. It does kill it. It will kill it with the temperature. Well, we're going to be extra killing it even more.

I don't rinse my steak. I don't know about that. I got to ask my mother-in-law about that. You know, Caribbean wash everything. I rinse my steak and I pat it dry with the paper towel But I'm not finna just take the steak out of the pack and throw it and start throw some seasoning on it and cook it well, I'll marinate steak if I'm making like a carne asada and you want to marinate it or the kids love this

Korean beef dish that I do so then I'll marinate it in those seasons and stuff. But other than that, no. Do you let us know. Give us the culinary tips. I wanna know what the people are saying. I wanna know what they're saying. You on it though. No, we need a vote.

Do y'all wash y'all meat? Yes or no? We need to know. Do y'all wash y'all meat? Yes, majority. We need to know. Do y'all wash your majority? Yes, majority. Yes, majority people do wash their meat. I'm giving you the answer. And what's wrong with the people who don't wash their meat? Because they have some kind of culinary

awareness. Because they're professional. And was taught that way. You just called us some pinions. I mean, you know, I'm just saying. I mean, you know, if I wouldn't, you know, that's the whole point of going to culinary school to get. I love it. You know, I don't know.

I just can't. I can't change. I know. It's hard to go against tradition. Even if I went to culinary school, I was still probably, I know it ain't no probably, I was still washing my meat. Because their reason for not washing your meat was not to spray bacteria. Spray bacteria and because food is trace,

you're an FDA, all that stuff. Cross contamination. And how you're supposed to keep it refrigerated, all these things. Do you think that it makes it taste better though? If you let it sit in the vinegar and you cut the little slits in it. Yeah, for sure, if that's the intended dish for it to be. Yeah.

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That's what Haitians call you when they think you dirty. Salop. You looking at me like this. Salop. Salop. This is nasty. This is nasty. Salop.

That's how she gonna be looking at me. If I would go in my grandma kitchen and my mama and my grandma see me pull some chicken out of a pack of, out of a a pack fresh out of the pack and just Throw it season it throw seasoning on a cook it I Will get the worst curses up and down that house and they probably kicked my ass and send me back down to Florida Well, my family I receive it because they're just like Lex you got it in play and would enter it up Listen my family from the South, they are country, country.

Yeah. Delicious. And they stuck in the ways. I get it. My mom is still, you know. We don't even let everybody, we don't even eat from certain family members' homes. Houses and homes.

We don't eat half the family cooking. We pay attention to who is in the kitchen. We don't eat half the family cooking. We pay attention to who is in the kitchen. Everybody can't come in the kitchen during the holidays because you'd be scratching your head. You do all this. Y'all the chat not washing their meat pause. But wait, not washing the meat.

Thank you, Jack. Because they are more educated and we're breaking generational, you know, I refuse to believe that. It's very much, it's really much from, you know, our Caribbean and our black family members and such. That's what we do. I grew up doing the exact same thing. the meat washing the meat That comes from just you know, we'll take it back all the way to slavery We had to wash everything because we were given the scraps. So we had to make something out of nothing You know, so that becomes traditional and then we in these households and we just know that we got to get this meat We got to get it in bulk. We got to freeze it all these things

You don't have to wash you that buy a fresh that day girl who is running to the grocery store every day to get a pack Where the day before? Yeah, there's there's different standards of a lot of bacteria spreading and you know, just because if you think about it it goes from from the farms to Being butchered and then, you know, you know, the whole process, distribution. So the sooner you get your meat from the store, and you should cook it.

Teach me something, Lex. Yeah, so when you freeze it, it ain't really. I mean, sometimes it's better to freeze it if you know you're not gonna eat it within a couple of days. Okay, sexy Lex chef chef girl are like Lists, you know, I'm still gonna wash my cheek. I understand I have to

All right, let's get into it. Yeah our first topic today Lauren your expectations in dating, soulmate or settling. Let's be real, are our standards in dating becoming so high that we're actually blocking love? The current dating culture is full of checklists, six figure salary, no kids, six too tall, dark and handsome, emotionally intelligent, well dressed, good teeth, owns property, passport ready and the list goes on. But are these high expectations helping us find the one or pushing potential soulmates

away? Some women are starting to wonder if I lowered my expectations, would I be in a relationship by now? Yes. Or would I just be miserable with someone I settled for? I feel like there is power in possessing who you are and what you're going to be able to bend with and to match with somebody eventually. You know, we're here to love.

The human experience is to love and endure it, to give it, to raise it, to embody it. So, you know, the hopeless romantic in me is always like, you know, let's connect, let's, you know, it's a fairy tale. Let's, you know, it's going to be this romantic, you know, cute meat. And, you know, there's real life. This is not something you can read from a fairy tale or watch it on Disney Channel. I just look at it like, if this person is meant to be with me, we're going to align, we're going to have this.

I can see that I want that connection. It's not about the law and the standard. I feel like I want to encompass somebody that I can reflect what I love to do, whether that's travel, whether that's eating out, whether that's, you know, knowing how to raise children properly and surround them with certain things and experiences.

Like, that's what I would see in somebody that's a mate. Now, the standard of what certain people have, their bar, it should be some kind of wiggle room because some people are very, you know, they can kind of cap out or they don't want to change how they are about certain things, whether they save, whether they're more frugal,

whether they aren't gonna leave the city, they're not gonna bend, just these little, these rules and passport. If you're a traveler and I don't think you should compromise, you know, if your mate is someone that should appreciate your love of travel, you know, so like there's some non-negotiables and then there's also some like you can bend like trying to make someone that you really love be your match. I feel like that is the ultimate goal, you know what I mean? So like it's okay to have some differences, but you want to have a lot of like, you want

to have a lot that you have in common that, or at least there's a sense of like, I know who she is. I know who he is. I know who they are. And that's who they, that's who, that's what they're going to do. That fuels their passion. That makes them a good spouse. That makes them, makes them a good spouse that makes them makes them a good partner all these beautiful things so

I think we got to like lay off of being super strict on what we expect You know because we should be bringing that to the table too or giving some other strengths. You know what I mean? So that's that's my take on that our expectation is the same thing What you ask for our standards and expectations like the same thing? What you ask for sure. Are standards and expectations like the same thing? Expectation seems a little bit more fluid, compromising, standards seems very, very, I don't know. Like you can't just expect for somebody to be tall, either they tall or they not.

I like that. But if they think that's what you need to be,. Either they tall or they not. I'm listening. But if they think that's what you need to be, then that's what, I don't know. I feel like either way, I agree with you Lex, people need to be flexible. And I also think that people who have too many standards are not even too many, but high. You know what I mean?

If your standards are too high, I feel like you put yourself in a situation to... Where you gonna stay single? Yeah. You're gonna stay single. And that's what I was saying, you're gonna compromise low key missing out on someone just because you're like,

they weren't all of this whole list that I've been fantasizing about and reading about or scrolling and seeing and just expecting it. We were putting way too much pressure on each other. You know what I mean? For the sake of like love or the sake of just being lonely or alone, you know, I'm a stand in this until this Prince Charming comes out the way, you know,

we're all guilty of like these romantic matches, you know, if those of us that are lucky to like experience that, but at the same time, you have to understand the integrity of what you're really getting into. Like this is serious. Like this is like building families. This is like connecting and this is like sharing assets and all these, you know, it's a lot.

So we have to take that serious. So I get having certain like, this is what is- The qualifications of what it is. Yeah, this is what I see in this person. This is what I'm praying on. This is something that is very important to me. Yeah, you can stand on that your spirituality or they're bringing in a certain amount of money

or you want this kind of lifestyle like you want to travel you want to do this you want those kind of things you can really, you know, set for yourself. But at the same time, yeah, there's more personal things that we you know, we got to start bending on, you know, set for yourself. But at the same time, yeah, there's more personal things that we you know, we got to start bending on, you know, again, but you know, one of the things that I got out of the mindset of was looking at the looks first. And I felt like every time like,

I always had a set. My type was tall, dark chocolate. You gotta be- Oh, your type, yeah. But I've got, don't look at that now. Now that I'm, you know, I'm in a new situation, he's the opposite of the tall chocolate. Right. I mean, he got a little height to him, but I mean, it's not what you would normally see.

Yeah. And I got to, instead of looking at the looks, you know, we had conversations, we talked. I didn't know what the income was, what this was. They didn't know anything. I just met that person as a person. The connection was there and everything, you know, is aligning. So I would say that it's a safe bet is to just stay open-minded because I would say when I lived in LA I worked at a restaurant and I was there for like five or six years, but I worked with all of these incredible women beautiful women They were actresses singers producers gorgeous women, right and they were you know from the age of 21

41 you know what I mean from different countries foreign women American women 41, you know what I mean? From different countries, foreign women, American women. It was easily like one of the best jobs I've ever had. And I learned so much from all of those women because we used to get off work and we sit down with a glass of wine and we would just talk. And there was a few of them, you know what I mean?

Who were very no-nonsense. Very, oh, we went on a date, he didn't call me the next day, he's done. Oh, I texted him this, and he didn't text me back, da-da-da-da, oh, it's done. Oh, we went out to date. He didn't call me the next day. He's done. Oh, I text him this He didn't text me back that it oh, it's done Oh, we went out to dinner. We had a conversation up blah blah blah and this happened. Oh, it's done And it was just like they were like You try it and you out the door

shade no shade Like They still person Like, they still want a person. Because if you have all of that stuff, if you don't give people room, if you don't give room for a man to show up, you will just, you'll end up just missing out on somebody simply because they didn't do something right,

that they didn't know they was supposed to do right. And it's insane to think that you're supposed to meet somebody and they're supposed to know exactly how to treat you. It's different. You're just like, he needs to open doors. He needs to do this. He needs to do that, blah, blah, blah. But everybody doesn't care about that.

It sounds good. Yes, you want a man to open doors and pull out chairs. They really not out. Some don't care. We go to a restaurant. Yeah, we vibing. I'm going to pull out my own chair and sit down. I don't give a shit. But some, like, but some women for them,

that's just like, it says a lot about that guy. And it's, I feel like it's unfair because those things, you don't know, they don't know how to treat you until you tell them how to treat you. That's right. And if you have these expectations that are uncommunicated, then you're just gonna lose out on somebody who simply would have done it

had he known he was supposed to. Exactly. Unexpected communicate, what is it called? Dang, what's the word? I think- Uncommunicated expectations. Yeah, uncommunicated expectations. Yeah. That's how a lot of relationships end, fail,

or you overlook, like you said he is because of that you don't know what what you this person may not know what you want unless you say it and every relationship is different that's why you got to lay it out out there you can't expect someone to think and know everything that you like and you want getting into a relationship. Communication is key for sure that should should definitely be number one on the list. That should be the standard and the expectation. Knowing how to talk, please. Tell me how you feel.

And don't shut down. Don't shut down. Let's talk about it. Oh, I hate when somebody shut down. I cannot be with someone who just shuts down. I don't like going to bed angry. I don't like, nevermind, it pisses me off when we're having a conversation. It's the biggest party of the summer.

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Especially if you're the type that wants to like, work it out then. Work it out. Yeah, when you're like, I don't care how, what time we go to sleep. We need to work it out. Don't worry about it, nevermind. Yeah.

I feel like y'all are really just describing every woman and then every man. Every woman is like, we need to talk about this. And every man is like, nevermind. I didn't want to. Because they hate communicating. A lot of men hate to communicate. A lot of men hate to express themselves.

That tone can be a little heavy too. Like, you know, when you say we need to talk, you're like having flashbacks. I don't even be like that. I mean, like, baby, can we just talk about it? We're like, true. They are the same thing. Sometimes I just be like, um, babe, and he knows. Hey babe. Oh, of course I don't have time for that. He knows. I don't even have to say that. Because they always assuming it's gonna be some type of altercation, which

probably it is, you know, women how we are. But I do not like arguing. I like to just lay it out there. I don't like going to bed angry. I want to see how we can fix this issue so we don't have to continue to go to, you know, the pit, dwell on it. But it's just like, I don't know, with our men, they do not like to communicate.

Nobody ever taught them how to talk. I think it's getting better though. You think it's getting better or you think it swings each part in the other direction? I think it's getting better just because we, again, we are having more resources at the palm of our hands. And I feel like our generations are understanding that they should be talking to therapists,

they should be talking it out, they should be figuring things out, they should be searching things out. So it's like becoming very much like our children, that's the first thing they wanna do is soak up so much energy because they're able to search for it. There's low key spelling, they're low key, you know, like they're able to search for it. There's low key spelling.

They're low key, you know, like they're trying to understand. So I look at it like our children are more informed than we were because we would have to like get to a library and go find the encyclopedias and then look for the S and knowing that it's only like two S's. The one's checked out and the one you need to look up snakes is gone. So like they're able to access so much information in so much quicker amount of time. So, you know, just think it's-

I don't know, I think we still have a long way to go. We do have a long way to go. We have a long way to go. I do also agree that people are just, black men specifically are getting more comfortable talking about Their feelings and being open to therapy and stuff Yeah, need that thing to swing too hard in the other direction because people go to therapy they start diagnosing themselves

They start leaning they start leaning on the crutches ADHD and it's like we're just feeding everyone's Narcissism because you go and you sit down with somebody and you talk about yourself for an hour and you do all the time. I just think, you know, it's exercise. This is definitely exercise. It's like practicing for everything else, you know, yeah, go often. Do we have to go to therapy often though? It's that you know. But therapy doesn't have to be sitting in, sitting to hear a third person diagnose you with all this craziness. Or not even diagnose you,

sometimes I feel like therapists just reaffirm you and they just, they, I mean, if you are, if you're the type of person that is walking around and you're not really feeling validated in your experience and your relationships or in your relationships, or in your life. I mean, I've been to a therapist. I've been to marriage counseling. I've been to a therapist on my own.

And I can't think of one thing. I know that I'm awesome, but he agreed with everything I said. And I know that I'm always right. But you know what I mean? I was like, are we paying you to agree with me because this feels too good. I feel validated right now. Well, they just going off of clinical research, obviously, and trying to help you understand your brain.

That's all it is. It's just them spending more time with helping us translate what we got going on. A lot of us are fucked up. Yeah. Like lack of lack of better words, childhood trauma. So it's like now, this is the church of trying to understand like, who am I?

Why do I do this? How can I be a better person? How can I be a better husband, wife, child, mother, father, co-parent, all these things, co-worker? Yeah. Because we have to all intertwine with each other. So like, you know, that's why there's therapy. I just feel like-

That's why you have to understand what's going on with you. People are really trying to understand their being. Yeah. I feel like the best communication and the best therapy is once you and your partner sit there and allow each other to understand each other, get to know each other and express how you feel

and learn each other. Because a third party can listen to what you say all the time. You forget, sometimes you're dating a narcissist and they can tell that therapist what they want you to hear and it's not the real them. So it's just understanding who you are and your partner and y'all communicating

it out. I just, I don't know. Tell you something about couples therapy. Couples therapy is not, it's not the jam if you're not willing to be completely honest. And that's the thing for women are more likely to go into a situation and want to lay it all out because they really do want the help. But the way that a man is set up and rightfully so, he don't really want his business and you know what I mean? It's embarrassing. It is embarrassing.

It's embarrassing. It's probably more embarrassing for them than it is for us because we're just wired differently. So for you to sit down in front of a therapist and tell them the problem that you're having with your spouse and you're talking about his weaknesses, his shortcomings, what he did wrong. And if you can't be completely honest, you're not gonna get anywhere, but then I also very much believe in the problems

that we have in our house need to be, as long as they're not detrimental to our health or our wellbeing, you know what I mean? Whatever we're dealing with, we just need to deal with that because we can and we have the tools to deal with it. But I do feel like it's very difficult for men to give people a business because they have a lot of pride and ego and sit down, tell a stranger, essentially, what they're not doing right, what they're doing wrong. That's hard for anybody, especially for me. That's hard for anyone. Yeah, that's what I was they doing wrong. That's hard for anybody, especially- That's hard for anyone.

Yeah, that's what I was gonna say. It's hard for anyone. Yeah, that's difficult. And I found that, I think the therapy did help us for that particular situation because it's crazy how it made me understand him more. It made me just, maybe just hearing it from somebody else.

He explained, he's like, you know what? Well, he's a boxer. So this is how his brain is working. And he really explained it like, Andre approaches everything like a fight. Not like he wants to fight, but he approaches everything like he's going into a fight. So he has to train for it.

He prepares for it. He's watching film on it. He's dissecting it. You know what I mean? So he really explained to me like why at the time he was acting the way he was acting. And I was like, oh, okay. So it helped in that regard.

But for me, I didn't want to like give too much information because I didn't want to offend Andre by saying everything that I thought. I didn't want to like give too much information because I didn't want to offend Andre by, you know, saying everything that I thought. Right. You know, because I was like, I got to go home with him and he's going to be looking at me like, I cannot believe you said that, bitch. Why would you say that?

Right. I don't know. I think it helps but then it doesn't help. I think with everything practice makes perfect, right? So just the more you go, if you have these or and then you can you can scale back to you know There a therapist would be like, all right, you know you've reached that peak. You've done that you can cross out anybody doing I really wanted to check they want their money That's true, okay

That's true. Okay. This is a good question. Have you ever regretted turning someone down because they weren't enough at the time you met them? Ever regretted? Like you passed up on something? No. No, I don't have any regrets for that. No. No. We overlooked someone. Have you answered the question, friend? Yes, I was about to say, Sheryl. How about ever regretted turning someone down because they weren't enough? I wouldn't say they weren't enough. I probably would say I regretted not getting to know someone.

Because I overlooked, I was looking at the wrong things at the time, like you notice now, I don't look at what I'm attracted to first. So yeah, I would say I have. We gonna talk when we get off the podcast. I'm trying to see who you talking. Why? Trying to see who you talking about, Red.

Touch your nose, push your penis, touch your nose. Touch your nose. And you finna tell me. You know who I am, friend. Girl. Shut up. Could someone who doesn't meet your physical type become your forever partner? Yeah.

Yeah. 100%. That's the situation now. Like I feel like the person who I'm talking to now, he could be my forever partner. She's gushing. I like this shirt. I like this shirt. This might be the third time she done brought him up. Let me change the subject. I don't want to change the subject because before you was just like, I mean, if I ever meet somebody and I'm sitting there looking at you, bitch, you met somebody, but it's okay. But you know. Now we're in a space where it's. Look, Portia. I got that call. He was like, in that thick accent.

Don't tell him too much now, hold up. I ain't even gonna ever take accents. Don't tell too much. He single back. Oh. No, he didn't say back. Yeah, he don't say that. So he's straight and do, but look at you over there, you got your chin in your hand.

I was like, it wasn't like that, it wasn't like that. If I were laying on your stomach and kick your feet, you over there, you got your chin in your hand. I was like, it wasn't like that, it wasn't like that. I probably said it wasn't like that. You probably were laying your stomach and kicking your feet. You over there, yeah, cause I just feel like the guy I'm with in it. Laying your stomach and kicking your feet. Kicking your feet.

Look, with the cord around the foot. I love it. We've crossed the threshold. You see how things are progressing? I like this. All right. Listen, I've crossed the threshold. You see, you see how things are progressing? I like this. All right. Listen, I'm in the ghetto. I told Lex, I said, I'll be back living the good life

in a few more days. You're so funny. Because I'm being a peasant right now. I have to drive for myself. I have to cook for myself. Charrelle. Charrelle, that is not being a peasant. I've been a peasant right now.

I miss the good life. The good life. I didn't have to do anything. I had a call button, chef. Can you make me this? Don't give the people on the team. You're supposed to give them the team. Okay, okay.

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