Club Shay Shay - Humble Baddies - Part 2: She Ain’t a Girls’ Girl + A Mailbag To Remember

Episode Date: July 4, 2025

Sharelle, Ashley & Porsha react the WILDEST Humble Baddies Mailbag yet, that sparks a debate about cheating! Later, they debate the definition of "a girls’ girl" and much more! (Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.)#ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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we will be talking about the Diddy case, and he'd be like, man, everybody's going in on Cassie. Man, everybody's saying this, everybody's saying that, everybody's saying that's what she wanted and she was complicit and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, what are you talking about? Because on my algorithm, on my phone, everyone's supporting a victim.

Everyone is saying like, they're championing her, they're cheering for her, they're this, that, but I'm a woman. You know what I'm saying? So it's like, I love to see, like we look at all the same stuff, we follow all the same people, but I bet you the stuff that's being fed to him

is completely different from what's being fed to me. And it's biased and they're showing you what either you want to see or what you engage with the most. And it was crazy how we both had this perspective of like overwhelming support for opposite sides. Or just like you know he's basically just a bunch of men just saying you know you know what men say oh you can't do anything they're gonna put you in jail for this and they're gonna put you in jail

for that and then my side is just like oh she's a woman he's a he's a beater he's an abuser he's a and we were we were both right that's what were seeing. All he saw was that and all I saw was that. Yeah. It was like it just, I don't know if it's making you lazy or if it's just validating you, but not for the right reasons. Just validating every thought that you're giving. I'm talking about anything and then it just pops up on your phone. I don't like that. It's kind of scary. It's very scary.

You know what I like to do sometimes? Sometimes I like to think about something and I don't say it because I want to see it. Who going to say it? Who going to say it? I'm going to say I'm going to see if it pops up on my phone. I swear they got to run it through our brains or something. I'm a conspiracy theorist y'all. But the thing about it, every time you running through our brains or something. I'm a conspiracy theorist y'all No, the thing about it every time you say something is crazy. You pick up your phone and it's there you could talk about something

I feel like just No, but it is a setting on the phone. They tell you they're open about it. I listen listen your microphone is on Listening and the way they're using the information is just kind of It's helpful when we need it because I be chatting GPT and the hell out of my shit. But yeah, I'm saying the whole listening to everything is a little creepy. My last question, have y'all ever counseled somebody

based on something viral then found out it wasn't even true? Let's be real. No. I don't think I've canceled anybody. I don't know that I have canceled anybody. I feel like if I did it would take me a lot to cancel somebody because I generally don't care about other people's lives that much. Yeah. I feel like everybody did cancel R. Kelly. I did not. For our generation, I feel like that was the first big, like, no, no, like he messed up. I feel like everybody-

We ain't listening to, baby, I was still playing chocolate factory. Wanna know what's so crazy? The stuff that he was accused of when we were kids is worse than what he actually got locked up for and nobody cared. You understand what I'm saying? So it's like everybody should have hardcore cared back then.

Our older siblings, our parents, nobody should have really cared back then when it was video evidence and he was doing them. He was public, especially with Elite. And I'm just like, like I'm in a very unpopular and I don't say this to people anymore. But like prior to all this stuff happening, I would have told you that R. Kelly is hands down my favorite artist ever.

I was raised on his music. I was raised on it like he's a musical genius to me obviously a very disturbed individual, but I don't put that much weight into my into Celebrities like man. I like his music when I thought about when I sang his music I not once ever thought about what he was doing what was your favorite song he did one time nope say they know shit you think you for the trip me up and have me on here singing R Kelly they just try to get me cancelled I How'd you get you canceled, girl? Well, cancel me.

No, I don't think I ever canceled him, because I was not checking for him like that. I didn't think about him like that. And I wasn't just, I don't know. I wasn't. Telling publicly. I don't know. I just wasn't.

Like, I thought it was sad, and it was wrong. But I was not one of those people with a pitchfork, with the fire and you know what I mean? And all his CDs. I can song, come on, and be like, okay, now step in the name of love. I just wasn't thinking about, but I'm also, he ain't babysitting my kids.

I ain't spending no time with him. I don't think, I feel like, yeah, I don't think I've canceled anybody, but that's like the only person I can think of that I feel like collectively, everybody was like, oh yeah, we're on the same page, don't play his music anymore, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, but we all really wanted to be down. I think they canceled him.

I had never been to a party, but we didn't play a little R. Kelly. You meant your other side. Yes, my other side. 35%. Okay. 35%. Get it right Sherelle. Portia is the best. I am. Yeah I can't think of anyone else that was to that point as anyone else that was to that point as as our Kelly.

I think our time. I can't think of anyone else. Did you guys cancel Kanye? I never like he should definitely. I feel like he should be on the cancel list. But for some reason, I feel like I have hope for him. One day he's going to wake up and like apologize and go back to being old Kanye. I don't know. I just for some reason I feel like I have hope for him like one day he's gonna wake up and like Apologize and go back to being old Kanye. I don't know I just for some reason I'm holding a spot for him to just come back and redeem himself Once Kanye got with Kim he it just went the other way

I just thought that now the old Kanye before before he was in relationships I was listening to Kanye, but then it wasn't his, I had, I stopped listening to Kanye way before he started going on his craic little rant. I still listen to his gospel album. I don't care if TikTok say he is a fake Christian. I like it. What's your favorite song?

Every Hour. And I ain't gonna sing it. How'd it go? How your favorite song? Every hour. And I ain't gonna think how I go. How I go. You're a mess. Look, speaking of public perception, let's talk about when your actual relationship becomes part of the storyline we're getting into now, Porsche, Nellie and Ashanti love on camera or reality Portia. Nellie and Ashanti, love on camera or reality TV curse? Nellie and Ashanti are giving us love goals and now they're dropping a reality show. But let's be honest, well, they dropped the reality show. Reality TV and love, it's a tricky combo.

Definitely tricky. My question to y'all, would y'all do a, just you and your man, a couples reality TV show? I don't know. I feel like if I had complete control over- Narratives. The narrative, then I would be comfortable. I would.

But given that most times you don't in these situations, I would not. I think in this day and age where reality TV is, although it has grown a lot, I still feel like there's not really a space. They haven't made a space for black love to really shine and be great. And I am not, you know, I have to protect my family,

my relationship and being on TV is not worth it to me. And I don't care, you know, how great, you know, even if, you know, we're good at home and what's shown on TV may not be true, I still feel like I want, if I'm putting my family on the spotlight like that, I want them to see what we truly are. Because what's the point? You know what I mean? If the show really truly is about your relationship and

your family and you aren't gonna show it in that life, then no, I wouldn't do it. And you know what, even if like, you do have an amazing relationship and you have a great home life, what you can always count on is that everybody is not gonna agree with you. You'll be having a back and forth with your husband

and y'all just be joking about something. Yeah, take it. It goes on TV, and then all of a sudden, the entire world perceives the situation not the way that you guys would, and convinces him or convinces you that you should be offended by something that he said, or he should be offended by something you said.

And I could easily, easily see something like that happening. You know what I mean? If that's just how y'all talk, or that's just how y'all joke. And next thing you know, they on the internet, oh, she disrespectful to him. Oh, he disrespect for her. Oh, my man would never use it.

I look at him like, but what happened? Right? We do nothing. This is every day. Like, should I be mad? But that's what happens when you open up your home to everyone basically, because they don't, they don't know you intimately, they

don't know how you guys are and you're trying to do something positive and share your world. But that's not what they're watching for. I don't care what anybody says. They can say they want positivity, they want this, they want that, but the only thing that they cling to and the only thing that they willingly make content about is the bad stuff. Is it even when wags came out, the only thing they willingly wanted to talk about was controversial. It's the only thing that was willingly given to the box was the bad stuff and they ate it up and we would post good stuff. There'll be good stuff on the show. You think anybody talks about that? No, they did it.

Not that there was enough of it, but they didn't talk about it. And they wouldn't have anyway, honestly. That's true. So I don't think I would do it. Maybe if I had control, but that don't happen. But then again, maybe not because I, I don't know, I like my marriage.

And I'm happy and I feel like that might make it unhappy. You know, you know, Mike, it will. I feel the same way. Like I would not do a, honestly, I wouldn't do a relationship type show ever again. And I wouldn't put, do a spouse because they want to get the bad things. show ever again and I wouldn't put, do a spouse, because they want to get the bad things.

It's like people, there's people out there in that world that live off of breaking up happy homes, or even exposing, like you said before, Portia, like people will take how y'all communicate with each other and say, and basically say, oh, you're disrespecting, oh, I would never wear this, that, and that, and it have you sometime not even knowing that you're questioning like, damn. So it's like, it's best just to keep, keep it away, keep your relationship

sacred, keep it with you and your spouse and y'all love each other quietly in your home. That TV shit is really not worth it. And it didn't really create any problems in my home life at all. But I could see it just wasn't worth it. I don't know. It just, if anything did happen, if anything were to come out and it would have us arguing, it absolutely would not be worth not even the pettiest argument, not even for a second. It wouldn't be worth it.

No, that's true. But good luck to them. Yes. Would you ever go public with your relationship for the world to judge? I'm never going public with my relationship ever again. Ever, ever. All y'all gonna see is a hand.

Y'all would not know who it is. Y'all would know. First it's the hand and then it's the sleeve and then you get a little, little half of the face. That's how it starts, Fran. But it's hard because when you in love you want to tell everybody Yeah, I'm gonna tell y'all my friends the people that I know love me and support me The world care about they ready to see oh she did she did she did she cheated on her husband She did, she did, she did. She cheated on her husband for a chance.

She did this. Uh-uh. Y'all take little clips and create y'all. Oh damn, there it is. Uh-uh. Y'all barely, y'all gonna see which watch you in today. Oh, wow. That's all y'all gonna see.

Sure. I mean, I think that's that's smart for you. It's very smart. I think that's smart for you, which is also why I don't know why anybody thought that she was with G's. You would never just post up no picture just on my A page. You can't give me a juice like that. Like even if you was, why would you give him the juice like that? Right.

Wouldn't you make it a little bit more dramatic? A little bit more epic? Exactly. If I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna do it now. If I'm gonna come out, I'm gonna come out. The people don't know you, Fran. They don't know. You can't do nothing on social media right now.

I won't even post his arm, his hand, whatever you say, his wrist. Oh my gosh. Watch. They're gonna zoom in and then they're gonna like, I don't know. They are never, never. Right.

Ever, ever. Speaking of relationships, speaking of relationships and how they don't be what they seem online, do y'all ever have those friends that are kind of like not really friends, specifically girls, like girls, girls, girls. Yeah.

Girls who kind of- You do? Girls who kind of like, you know, like on the internet, like very supportive and like fire emojis and gas queen and you know, do the whole thing, but they're low key like not really. It's given fake. Yeah, it's, let's talk about that.

Like girls who don't clap for you when you win, girls who move funny around you, are, you know, publicly supportive, but privately just kind of like not divide. I think a lot of women, except a lot of women are surrounded by those type, and it's not just women, it's men as well. Those type of individuals. I call them frenemies. Frenemies, definitely. Yeah, they're frenemies. You know, it's like they play nice, you know, in front of everybody, but really they have,

I don't want to say ulterior motives, because sometimes it's just that they don't really fuck with you. And it's not even that they have a problem with you, it's just they have a problem with themselves. But, you know, they don't know how to be a friend because whatever it is that's eating them up, they can't even be a friend. Well, first let me say, what is a girl's girl? By definition, what do you think of it?

When you meet a girl's girl and you know that she's one, what do you think she is? How is she? I feel like a girl's world makes you feel good. Like, it makes you, when you're around them, you feel like you can be yourself and you can have a good time. You're not worried about saying the right thing or saying the wrong thing or, you know, are they going to, you know, talk about you

when you walk out the room? Like, they, they, you feel, you leave feeling better than you came. I feel like their energy, y'all reciprocate energy. It matches. You reciprocating the energy, you reciprocating the love. It just feels good. I feel like it shouldn't even be complicated. I'm having a hard time explaining it

because I really feel like it's a feeling more so than anything, you know what I mean? Like you just know when you meet a girl's girl and you just know when like she's for you, you know what I mean? It's just a feeling. I feel like a girl girl, yes that Ashley and also someone that's not looking for something in return, like a friend that friend that's gonna be there for you, support you and not look for nothing as benefits. Like if I'm doing something for you, it's because I'm doing it out of the kindness of my heart. I'm supporting you because I'm supporting you.

I'm not looking for something back. Or a girl's girl, they're gonna support you regardless. Whatever it is, they have your back. That's what a girl's girl, they're going to support you regardless. Whatever it is, they have your back. That's what a girl's girl is to me. Now, when I hear you two say that, all I'm thinking of is that just sounds like a friend. That's how I expect my friends to treat me, and that's how I want to treat my friends.

When I hear girl's girl, I think about somebody that does that with everyone, even if they're not really your friend. You know what I mean? Just like me, I'm a support women. I'm a support, I'm a put them on. I'm a give you the book. I'm a give you the whole play sheet. I'm a give you the whole play sheet,

whether you're my friend or not. If a stranger reach out to me, and people know because strangers have reached out to me and they they asked for I don't even charge them. I don't do any of that because I see that they have that drive. They want they want change. I'm not going to do things for the benefit for it to benefit me or to get clout. I have done a lot of things and I don't look for, you know, announcements on it or something out of it. That's what a girl's girl is. Like they help their next sister to that next level.

If somebody reach out to you and help you, not just a friend, a girl's girl is gonna support women regardless of who you are. So what happened at Chappaquiddick? Well, it really depends on who you talk to. There are many versions of what happened in 1969 when a young Ted Kennedy drove a car into a pond. And left a woman behind to drown.

There's a famous headline, I think in the New York Daily News, it's Teddy escapes, blonde drowns, and in a strange way, right think, in the New York Daily News. It's, Teddy escapes, Lon drowns. And in a strange way, right, that sort of tells you. The story really became about Ted's political future, Ted's political hopes. Will Ted become president? Chappaquiddick is a story of a tragic death and how the Kennedy machine took control. And he's not the only Kennedy to survive a scandal.

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kind of get mislabeled because they just not in everybody face and they just not for everybody because I think that you can be a girls girl but then also just not want to be fooled up with every damn body. Yeah, that's true. I think both are making the same shit. Yeah, I think that that can be okay, but I feel like you can tell like, what's a red flag when you meet a girl

and you just know she ain't. I saw this post today that remind me of this. So she was basically like, when she meets a girl, she, and she wants to see, like, she wants to gauge, like, are they a girl's girl? Is this my type of girl? She'll ask them, do you like Beyonce? And she gauges their, you know, response off of it.

So she's like, if they're like, oh, I love Beyonce, like, you know, she's amazing. She's a super talented girl, blah, blah, blah, blah. Then of course, like she's a girl's girl, right? But if she says like, oh, well, you know, I'm not really like into her like that, but, you know, she has cool songs. Like it doesn't mean she's not a girl's girl. It might be that she's like one of the girls you're talking about, Portia. She's a girl's girl, but she ain't for everybody and everybody ain't for her type of girl. And then if she says she doesn't like Beyonce, she don't see

why people like her so much, everybody on her dig, da da da da, uh uh. It was good. I'm not a girl's girl because it's like, you gotta give Beyonce props, whether you like her or not. You know what I'm saying? You can't downplay Beyonce. I don't care, you just can't. You can't. I feel like that's kind of like a cute way

to like think about, you know, what you were talking about, Portia, in that question, Sherelle. I don't know. Definitely. I can't do that analogy. I like that one because if you get up there, she can't even sang that good.

She don't even be, girl shut up, go to him, get out of here. Because you're just like, girl save me, I can't save it. So if you go up there bashing Beyonce, then girl, come on, you can't get that girl her props, then you can't be a girl's girl. You know what I'm saying? It's not in you. Might be delusional. Is what you're, you can't be a girl's girl. You know what I'm saying? Like there's, it's not even you. Might be delusional.

Yeah. I mean, you know what I think it is? Sometimes you ever been around a girl who like, especially, oh, you can always tell when girls like, if you're around a girl and you're around guys too, the girl that like, Wants all the attention. Or either wants all the attention or like, like pokes fun at you to get like guys to, you know, you understand what I'm saying? Call out all the,

call out your little stuff or be like, you know, I've been around. Tell people that, you know, those are my shoes or like, just a little shit like that. Girl, my dress look good on you today. You wearing my dress, girl. Shut up, Stacey. You're a rude ass.

I'm not. Just stuff like that. Just get away. I've been around a lot of women who are not girls girls. And it's like it got to a point where it was like, they envy successful women so bad that they wanna be in their lives. It was sickening.

And I had to like really pray and ask God to remove, like I started putting some 91 in my office, everywhere, like in my car, everywhere, because it was like at one point in my time, that's all I was attracting was like, women who were not girls girls. And it was just, it's, it's, it's a nasty feeling because you know, when you attract stuff like that is when, and it's not really them. It's really you. It's not girls like that when you are not fully realizing what you are, or what you are.

When you don't realize how pretty you are, when you don't realize how nice your personality is, when you're just being yourself but you're a little bit naive to what you have to offer. Because then you're around these other women and they might be strong willed or they have like these strong personalities but you realize that they low-key kind of hate your guts. And you know you're right because I was just going through a big breakup my ex-husband it was it was horrible like it was it was the worst one of the worst times of my life so it was I wasn't thinking clearly like my life was not together. I was not like super secure and you trying to figure things out and they come into your life and you feel like they want friendship when really they want to be close to you so

they can pick out what's wrong with you so they can feel better about themselves. Because there's a lot of times you're like, people will put you on a pedestal. Right? And then when they get to you, they want to see every hole. They want to, then they just start pointing out those little things and making those little jokes and those little backhanded compliments and stuff like that. That's because it makes them feel better, because Loki, you make them feel a way about themselves. And I noticed that anytime I was like, I'd get, you know, fooled up with a friend and she, Key wouldn't be my friend. It was always because I just did not realize what I had. And she thought more of me than what even I thought of myself and she was basically

punishing me for it. And it's just really weird how that happens that once you start to feel better about yourself, you attract other women who also feel that way about themselves and y'all just vibe. And it's easy and nobody's insecure and everybody's pretty and everybody's smiling. And it's like, it's a completely different, I've lived in both worlds. It's sickening.

And then the other thing I hate, like when I see a beautiful, well, I'm not gonna say that because. I wanna hear you. Y'all know, y when I see a beautiful well I'm not gonna say that cuz y'all know y'all see a woman that don't want to be around other beautiful women they got to be the they got to be the finest one in the crew if another woman come that's cute oh they gonna find any reason not to be around that girl yeah I've seen that I've seen yeah I've seen that. I've seen, yeah, I've been around friends and they like, and their man might be around and they don't want you to be like close to them.

Like just weird, just weird stuff. Like girl, what do you think is going on? I don't know, I don't know. Girl, like what? Yeah, it's the weirdest thing, honestly. I don't, I mean, to be honest with y'all, like the whole girls, girls thing, like I don't necessarily like resonate

with being a girls, girls myself, only because I feel like I've had it so hard with girls and friendships like my whole life so I've always only had like you know one or two good friends and like you know I kind of I'm not the friendliest girl when you first meet me. You know you got to warm up you know and I got to warm up to you and you got to warm up to me. So I don't fully resonate with being a girls girl, but I mean, I do feel like I know how to be a good friend,

and I know I am a good friend. And so I take it really hard when I meet or I'm around girls who aren't that way. You know what I mean? Like I really be offended. Oh yeah, we know you do Ashley. Don't reciprocate the friendship. You know what I mean? Like I have a big problem with it and it's hard for me sometimes to just let them be them because that's ultimately what you got to do. You can't change anybody. But it's like if I'm offering you, you know, this type of friendship,

and especially if we've known each other for years, and I am continuously being a good friend to you, and I am vocal about the kind of friendship that I would like to have, and you continuously don't do it, I'd really be offended, you know what I mean? So I don't know, I'm just, that's something that do it, I really be offended. You know what I mean? So I don't know, I'm just, that's something that I personally,

I guess have to work on, just like leaving people where they at because there's a lot of girls around her who try to, you know, act like they. Like Sherelle is super social. That's you, Heffa, that's you. Social. That's me. You know what I'm saying? Like she's super social.

She, if you gon' be, oh, Shrelle is going to meet for drinks. She's going to bring eight people and they are her friends and they are Hefa. That's true. And I'm like, uh-uh, who's over there? I'm not coming. Who's all over there? Who is that?

You know what I mean? So I feel like- But I'd be like, give them a chance, they're mine. Oh, child, please. But I feel what you're saying is you actually are because you're extremely generous. You honestly, I get so much from my conversations with you guys. Y'all are very, very much pour into your friend, check on your friends, super generous, always

either one of y'all. Anytime I'm around you, you're always taking care of me, taking care of me all the time, checking in on me. Like, like you are a girl's girl. But I feel what you're saying because you're just not like. Sometimes girls just like the hey, girl, hey, but to everybody and it's not always like that. You know, sometimes that should be fraudulent.

Right. And that's why I think you're cool with everybody, but you not like... Yeah. So, girls, it's different. You got your Sherelle type, who is literally the most sociable heifer. She's good at networking. All the things that I'm like, Sucky, I don't remember people's names. I'm bad at following up. I do not be networking. I will go in that little place with my friends. I don't talk to nobody but my friends.

Sherelle is come on, come on come all everybody let's all connect let's do business let's have fun let's barbecue that's right let's have our sunday dinners everybody coming over you welcome you and me and Ashley's just like i'm finna keep these people right here because they're not gonna stab me in the back i'm gonnana keep these people right here cause they not gonna stab me in the back. I'm gonna keep these little people over here because these are my people. Now I have different areas where I put them in my friendship, in my life.

But I mean, when it comes to like, I sincerely love helping women in real life. Like I sincerely love helping women. And if I have it, no matter who it is, I'm gonna give it to you. No matter who it is. And like you said, Ashley, some people are not like that. Some people like to say things and do things or brag in your face, but they don't, they just like to tell you what they got and carry on. And meanwhile, you could do everything for them. But as a friend, you want those things reciprocated.

As a female, like, I'm not trying to take your spot. I'm not trying to do this, but I want some, I need some help, like, help me. Yeah, but that's the part of friendship, you know? I think helping each other out, like I have weaknesses that you're strong at and you always step in and be like hey girl Call this number, you know Like that's what you're supposed to do like you're supposed to be around people who want to see you do better

And you should be around people who can help you What's the point this benefit off you exactly and that's the thing there's takers takers. Takers. Just takers. Don't have anything to give, don't have anything to offer, just takers but you know they try to come off as like you know just friendly and positivity and it's all just a farce. It's just, it's not true. You know, when you get down to it, when you get down to it and I'm telling you, I've been in so many situations when you get down

to the nitty gritty and you really need somebody to show up for you, those people, they don't because it's fake. They just wanna look the part it's a lot of them out there it's a lot of them yeah i'm gonna just keep being my i'm a girl's girl but how do you how do you deal with somebody who's who you consider a friend and you find out that they're not a girl's girl. How do you navigate with that person? So what happened at Chappaquiddick? Well, it really depends on who you talk to.

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but nothing really changes. Because at the end of the day, people are who they are and they're gonna do what they wanna do. And they're gonna show up how they wanna show up. And I gotta stop expecting them to show up how I want them. This might not be the right thing to do, but I feel like I have this habit of like, kind of just letting things go on and on and on and on.

And so one day I'm just done with you and you don't know why. Like I have a really bad habit of like, but I'm also the person of like unlimited chances. And I just, I, my husband always jokes that I'm like everyone's biggest cheerleader. And I cheer for my friends real loud. You know what I mean?

I'm so proud of my friends. I show up to their events. I do their stuff. I walk in their fashion shows. I take their pictures. I buy their stuff. I do their stuff. I do all the stuff, right?

And sometimes depending on who the friend is, he'll be like, you know, like she really don't return that energy. She loves to take it. She loves to ask you for favors. She loves to ask you to come over and hold her hand and pray with her and come to her event and do this and do that. But she doesn't really show up for you and your special moments and she's not posting your stuff on Instagram and she's not commenting

and she's not mentioning your name and rooms and hooking, you know what I mean? And he is always, and I hate it when he's right, right. Always the person to point it out to me. And then I, you know, I got to see it more. And I just let it just go on and on and on. And so one day just like all right then girl it is what it is and I will really just I disappear on people I'll fade into them. Oh your cut off game. I will go like this like Homer behind the thing look like I'm done my cut off game is strong and Sherelle no I will stop talking to people Like I'm done. My cutoff game is strong and Sherelle know I will stop talking to people. I'd be like, Porsche, I'd be feeling bad for the Porsche.

Because I'm, because I'm nice, bro. I'm nice to people. So when people try me, I'm like, no, what in the hell did I do to you? And I'm done. Because life is short. I don't have time. I don't have time for people. I think I used to be like that, but now I deal with people accordingly.

Like, okay, this is how you are. You're not going to change, especially if I've spoken to you about the situation over and over and you still give the same results, then I just deal with you on an associate type situation. I'm not going to press myself on you. I'm not going to force you to you. I'm not going to force you to change if that's what it is, that's what it is and move accordingly. Because I mean, at this big grown age, you should know how it feels to be, you know, to be treated. So

why are you if I if we don't do that to you, if I don't do that to you, why would you do that to me? You know, um, y'all be unfollowing people on Instagram, like when you got a that to you, if I don't do that to you, why would you do that to me? You know what you do. Y'all be unfollowing people on Instagram? Like when you got a friend but y'all ain't have no falling out. Yeah, there was no falling out but you just like, yeah, they saying that y'all unfollowing them on Instagram? I mute them.

Or you keep a courtesy follow? I put them on mute until, I don't know. I got a couple people I'm ready to unfollow. Like not because they did anything wrong. I mean, I'm not going to be unfollowing them. I'm going to be unfollowing them. I'm going to be unfollowing them. I'm going to be unfollowing them.

I'm going to be unfollowing them. I'm going to be unfollowing them. I'm going to be unfollowing them. I'm going to be I got a couple people I'm ready to unfollow. Like not because they did anything wrong, but because like we're not friends. You understand what I'm saying? Like we know each other. We may have been cool at one point, but like we don't communicate over DM. You don't like my stuff, I don't like your stuff.

We ain't comment, we don't hang, we don't text, we don't call. We just know each other. Why are we following each other? Why do I follow you? We're not friends. Cause they wanna be known. No, but we're not friends,

but I'm following them too. And I'm just like, you know, it's almost like there is no problem, but if we unfollow each other, then there might be a problem, or you might think there's a problem and there's not. I just don't need to follow you. But some people take social media.

I guess I'm one of those people. Why can't I just unfollow these people? I gotta grow some balls. I can see you in people. I meet people all the time and then sometimes I go through my meeting and it's like damn. I'm putting her in and making me cry. It's crazy. It's crazy. That's what we got to deal with. We got to move on because you know you can't teach a friend to be a girl's girl. You can't teach a friend to be a good friend.

You just move accordingly. And that's the conversation. I think we spoke about this actually before you can't expect yourself out of people. So that's what it is. But y'all now it's time to get into humble baddies mail and we got some oh juicy, juicy juice coming in. Juicy juice. It's a little it's a little messy. Oh, juicy, juicy, juice coming in. Juicy, juicy.

It's a little, it's a little messy. Okay, let's go. It happened in the bathroom and he's married. Dear humble baddies, I've been holding this in and it's eating me alive. I need space to be honest because I don't even recognize myself right now. I was at a party a few weekends ago. The energy was fun. The drinks were flowing

and everyone was vibing. At some point during the night, this guy started flirting with me. I wasn't sure what was happening at first. I've never looked at a man that way, but he was bold. He was charming. And before I knew it, we ended up in the bathroom. And things went further than I imagined. It was quick, messy, confusing, and it was over. I felt sick, not because of what I I did but because I found out he was married his wife later came to the party that day and that's how I found out since

that night I've been spiraling I don't know if it was curiosity suppressed feelings or just a stupid mistake all I know is I feel disgusted with myself not because of the guy but because I crossed a line in his marriage so now I'm stuck with this question do I tell his wife the truth and risk breaking everything or do I carry this guilt and silence try to better better or try to be better moving forward. Sign Chris. Okay. I feel that and nasty. Because how you just end up in a bathroom with a stranger like that? Chris said.

Chris said it was messy. Oh, crazy. Because you don't have no like, oh. Like y'all really just meeting people and going in the bathroom? Man, you know, I have a lot of male gay friends, and they are very spontaneous they are very spontaneous when it comes to that you want to know why Because even though they're gay, they're still men And what man that do you know that if you just walked up to him and was just like But the husband was the cover

But the man, so the husband was on the cover. Because the husband had a wife and the wife was at the party. This is what I wanna know, Chris. Is you said, should you, should you, what she just tell? Or should you just live with the guilt? I just wanna know, are you still going to feel guilty even if you tell her?

Like how does that take the guilt away? guilt. I just want to know, are you still going to feel guilty even if you tell her? Like how does that take the guilt away? It sounds like Chris wants that man. Why would he tell the wife? Like that's not his responsibility. It's not his responsibility. I dare say that he would be doing the Lord's work because if he's undercover, you better tell that lady. Yeah, but that's going to change up everybody's world. You know what I'm saying? And I feel like.

That's just messy. I don't think he should tell the wife. I think the husband need to come out that closet and stop playing around like that. Because there's so many, especially in Texas. Did y'all see the rates of HIV? Did you repost that? Who posted that?

Why you posted that? I did. Because it's sad. It's like people need to know y'all need to go get checked. Y'all need to stop fooling around like this, Chris, and husband in the closet. Well, I don't know this situation that's a lie. I don't think I just I don't know I don't think that he should tell the wife. But the wife needs to know the husband needs to just tell his wife because the husband is this. This couldn't have been his first time missing.

We took a look and maybe send the bathroom two seconds later. He then did this for a few times and the men's testosterone be going. Okay. They'd be ready to go. They say we don't need to do all that. Chit chat. Any means. Let's go. Oh no, I'm torn. Oh, they say we don't need to do all that chit-chatting. By any means necessary. Let's go. I don't know.

I'm torn. I feel like... I feel bad for her. I feel like somebody need to tell her. She might not. Do y'all think she knows? She gotta know. Then what do you do with that information?

Like, oh my God. I would stick to my stomach. Like, why you playing with me? You don't like me, bro. Blows up everything, like your whole world. I'd just be grateful that I knew so then I could go find me somebody who liked what I got. Yeah.

Cause you don't like what I got. Well, maybe he liked what you got, but it's in the bag. Oh, Sherelle. Oh, Sherelle. Oh my God. Oh, Sherelle. This is a lot, but shame on husband. Husband is in the wrong area. The husband should be feeling guilty

because I'm sure Chris, this is not his first time doing this. He probably take advantage of a lot of these males and he want his cake in 82 and he needs to come out the closet and face reality that he like boys. I don't know, Chris. I just need to be more careful. The problem with a little girl in the bathroom

at a party, that's your wife is at. Like you got a problem. Chris, you got to be more careful, baby. More than him just being down low. Like he has a problem. Maybe he has to go and have sex in the bathroom at a party that his wife is currently in. Like that's sex addiction or something.

It's like more than just- I don't know, actually I feel like a lot of men have that problem what the problem with which the problem with just random hookups with people irresponsible ass just want to put their thing something you can't control yourself you can't control your urges i think that's sex addiction. So he needed to go to the DL therapist and the sex addiction therapist. Well I say Chris probably got to go see somebody too because he went in there now. He went too. Yeah. I was trying to find my little little boo boo.

I was trying to find my little little boo boo. Little boo boo. I was going to option it on live. What are them things called boo boo's? Serenity got 15. They said that the little boo boo's might be demonic. Oh they got to get the hell up out of here. They are going for sale. I am optioning all the boo-boos tomorrow. What they used to see like when we was kids, what was the ones that we had that looked like

little gremlins? Was they Furbies? It was the Furbies, the Furby dolls. I didn't understand either. I didn't understand either because I thought them little things were scary too. Well, Chris, we don't know what to tell you, honey child. Y'all need to get y'all lives together over there.

I say tell that lady. You think he should tell them? Tell that lady. Yeah, no nonsense. Tell me I'm conflicted and crumbling. Ain't nothing conflicted and crumbling, Chris. Put that booty on. You know what they say, Chris, sometimes your soulmate is married to somebody else. Go get your man, Chris.

Ooh, I don't want that type of soulmate. I don't want that type of I don't need the you catch my soul mate in the bathroom you damn sure better tell me you Okay Let me know All right, you guys Chris that Chris the ruin tonight for us that is the you guys Chris Chris the ruin tonight for us that is the humble baddies we had an amazing time the chats are great until next time we will be back live monday until then make sure you guys subscribe to humble baddies podcast tell your cousin tell your side chick tell your side bathroom dude subscribe to humble baddy humble baddies podcast also follow us at humble baddies podcast on Instagram

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