Club Shay Shay - Humble Baddies - Part 2: The rise of the Micro cheater & Humble baddies mail

Episode Date: May 15, 2025

Ashley & Alexis are joined by W.A.G.S star Porsha Nicole react to the rise of the Micro Cheater & Humble Baddies mail and much more!01:38 - The rise of the micro cheater25:20 - Humble Baddies ...Mail(Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.) #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Starting point is 00:02:26 No, a micro cheater? Literally never. No, never heard of that. Let me go. He didn't smash, didn't link, but he's still reacting to stories with hard eyes, staying in contact with his work wife, and watches his ex's every IG story. So what is it? Loyalty or low-key betrayal?
Starting point is 00:02:50 Honey, that's a gateway cheater right there. He's well on his way. Definitely warming it up. Yeah. No, that's a lot. All right. So we're going to define and dissect micro cheating. All the little behaviors that technically aren't cheating,
Starting point is 00:03:07 but still definitely cross the boundaries. I'm gonna give y'all some scenarios. He deletes DMs before showing you his phone just to avoid drama. Micro cheater and cheater. Yeah. What do you say, Portia? I feel like in general, because men don't know how to navigate situations, they try
Starting point is 00:03:29 to avoid them all together. That's what I think. I think his stupidity will have him deleted, even if he's not trying to be malicious. He's just done. Okay. She keeps her old situationship in her close friends but swears they don't talk anymore. Cheater. Cheater.
Starting point is 00:03:49 Look at you, your pumpkin cheater. She's on dating apps for the memes. They got memes on dating apps. Wait what? He's on dating apps for the memes. Cheater. Oh, I don't know. Yeah, well why he's on dating apps for the memes. Here. Oh, I don't know. Yeah. Well, why he on a dating app?
Starting point is 00:04:09 If you're on a date. I've seen I've seen married men on a dating app. Then they troll them for cat. Those are cheaters. Yeah. That's it. All right. So is emotional cheating worse than physical cheating? Yes, I think it is. I think it is. It's emotional is an investment.
Starting point is 00:04:35 Whereas, you know, physical cheating can be a one off and there's no connection. There's no deep, you know, deep connection. No, it's just more of a less thing. Whereas emotional, you're basically going through someone's layers of their mind, how they think. You're getting to know them as an investment of time. Whereas, you know, it can be something very minute. It can be a two-minute situa- a two-minute situation.
Starting point is 00:05:03 And that's it. You know, you can shut that off, whereas emotional you can't. You know, you're starting to think about this person, feel this person, understand this person, like, get this person, you know? That's an investment. So emotional to me is way worse. Mm. I think that depends on who you're asking. Because if you ask a man, which is where I was going to say the physical,
Starting point is 00:05:23 but if you ask a woman, she's going to say emotional, because we are emotional. And honestly, the truth is, I can fall in love with a door handle if it treats me well. I'm a woman, I can fall in love with anything if I really put my mind to it, you understand? So I would say, oh, yeah, emotional, because he's thinking about her.
Starting point is 00:05:40 But let me go out and physically do something with a man and think that my husband will ever be able to get over it. Ever, ever, ever. He was definitely a double standard. Like we, we never, that would never be able to get over. Yeah. I'm just kinda like him. Like, and then it ain't gonna hit me.
Starting point is 00:06:01 The city is still just as bad because, like, I'm thinking about... Oh, it's very bad. Yeah. I'm thinking about all of that. You know, at this point, do you feel like you like... Okay, you went over there and you think you done fell in love with somebody cool, but you went and had sex with her and then you came back and had sex with me? And now my health is in jeopardy? Oh. Everything is bad.
Starting point is 00:06:25 It's both bad, okay? Oh, it's horrific. I'm not saying one is worse. Because now you're back emotional. Is, mm-mm, mm-mm. No, so for me, they equally, I would say, I can't say which, I think they equally horrible. Horrible.
Starting point is 00:06:44 Don't do it. Well, to me, my definition of cheating anyway is anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner. So, it can be so many different layers of it. You're gonna try to start hiding things, covering up things, deleting things, all that kind of stuff. You know, you're not being your authentic self.
Starting point is 00:07:02 Yeah. But I think emotional is a little bit worse because now there's time invested. Yeah. Well, that little two minutes of pleasure. They're both horrible. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:07:19 All right. So I got a game. Both of them. Either or chill. So I'm gonna present a micro cheating scenario and y'all have to quickly decide if it's a cheater or chill, AKA harmless. And to spice it up, you have to explain your answer
Starting point is 00:07:38 and then we're gonna vote if we agree or not. All right, so he still follows his ex but never likes her picks, che agree or not. All right. So he still follows his ex but never likes her pics. Cheater or chill? He still follows the ex. He's a cheater in training. Okay. Cheating is hibernating. His hibernation cheating. He's gearing up. Yeah, I think he's keeping his options open or something. Like why? He's gearing up. Yeah, I think he's keeping his options open or something. Like why? He's gearing up.
Starting point is 00:08:08 Gotta keep your eye open. All right, he sends heart emojis to girl stories, but only celebrities and influencers. He's a lion. Horny. Yeah, I was like, he's smart. He's a lion, smart. Nah, nah.
Starting point is 00:08:24 You're a dork. So y'all gonna chill on that one? He's not a cheater? No, I don't. I don't care what he's gonna worry. He deletes messages so you won't get the wrong idea. Cheater or chill? Cheater.
Starting point is 00:08:39 Cheater. I don't know. All right. Cheater. It's, it's, it's cheatish. Yeah. Yeah. It's on this. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:08:52 It's on the scale. You never post you, but always post thirst trap. He's a whore. I'm kidding. On the way. She's on the way. Yeah. On the way. He's looking for something better.
Starting point is 00:09:07 Okay. She's looking for something better for sure. He texts a coworker, good morning every day, just to be nice. You want to die? That's horrible. That's horrible. He's on hinge, but swears he's not meeting.
Starting point is 00:09:22 Cheating. Yep. In our words. On hinge, but swears he's not meeting in. Cheating. Yep. On hinge, it just is this. Hinge is definitely... I mean, she keeps her work number saved under a fake name. Already cheating. Yeah, absolutely. The next man, the next boyfriend.
Starting point is 00:09:41 He flirts with the waitress to get a discount, but says it's just jokes. Cheater. I don't think so. If it's bad cheating, then okay, not bad cheating. If he's flirting and it's like good flirting, he's a cheater. If it's bad flirting, then it's funny. Okay, so you're saying, like, what kind of flirting
Starting point is 00:10:00 is bad flirting with a waitress? Like, if he's like... If we're there and hanging out, you know, the waitress, you know, is there, again, it's in front of me. No, not in front of you. I think this is when you're not there. Oh. You're not there and he's like,
Starting point is 00:10:15 hey, sweetheart, you looking mighty fine tonight. Can you bring me... ...bored. That's bad flirting. Horrible flirting. You're mighty fine tonight. If she... Good luck, girl. I mean...
Starting point is 00:10:34 Do y'all think that's cheating? But... no. No. No, I can't slap cheat on every day. Yeah, I was about to say that. You know what I mean? You gotta let us have this jolly. You know't know me? We had a lot of guys with Jolly. You know, what if it's only Jolly is going to this restaurant
Starting point is 00:10:50 and say, hey, you look mighty fine. Mighty texture. I'm not. Like, live your life, though. Um, let's see. He's been single on Facebook for three years, but you've been together for two. Who checks their Facebook anymore? I don't like Facebook.
Starting point is 00:11:08 Sorry. It probably forgot. It was even on Facebook. Maybe not Facebook. You don't post their relationship status on other social media. If you keep it up with that. Yeah. I... I think you might be a boomer.
Starting point is 00:11:27 I forgot check fields right now. Let me see what it is saying. You could be a boomer if you... That's hilarious. ...if you get your status on Facebook. You might belong with my mom and them. I'm just saying. My mom and them and Nancy, you know.
Starting point is 00:11:39 Right. Clem. Last one, she shares IG quotes like a man is only as loyal as his options. She's hurt. Somebody cheated on her. Yeah, this me therapy. Yeah. All right.
Starting point is 00:11:54 She's upset. That was cute. That was okay. That's a new term micro cheaters. Yeah, I learned that today. Yeah. Don't y'all be out here micro cheating and shit. I ain't never heard of that.
Starting point is 00:12:07 All right, so our last segment of the night, before we get to Humble Baddie Mel, we have a few questions from the Humble Baddie fans. So, first question, what food instantly reminds you of your childhood? Hmm. My childhood barbecue. you up your childhood. My childhood barbecue. Cause I'm from Kansas City, Missouri. You're getting home of the best barbecue.
Starting point is 00:12:35 It's that, that would be it. The smell of the, the barbecue sauce, the smokiness, um, that taps into my child. Cause my dad would cook it and he was, we had a big pit in the backyard. And so, and then we would go to Gates. Shout out to Gates. Um, they are also family friends. So we would go there, get the slabs and, or the brisket. And then they had this, the white bread underneath to catch all the grease and all the, the sauce.
Starting point is 00:13:01 And then the pickles. I'll never forget those pickles. They're so good. So that's what it would be for me. What about you, Portia? Hot dogs and peach-check soda. Oh, hot dogs. Okay. Peach-check. Like generic.
Starting point is 00:13:18 Like bar on the brick? Yes. Hot dog with a little burnt on it, yeah. Yeah. Mine would be, a little burnt on it. Yeah. Mine would be, mine is kind of boring, but cream of wheat. Because my dad used to make it for me like for breakfast, you know, but not all the time. You know what I'm saying?
Starting point is 00:13:35 And when I used to make it for me, because the way he made it, it was just, I don't know, it was like my daddy's cream of wheat. Yeah, cream of wheat. So yeah, that kind of brings me back. A little bit. I was a Brits girl. Is that a Midwest thing? Or not necessarily? No, Brits.
Starting point is 00:13:50 But that was more everyday, like, regular. But when my dad made his cream of wheat, he made his cream of wheat. You know what I'm saying? Special. Yeah, don't nobody eat cream of wheat every day. Like, you can have, like, every week. Like, cream of wheat, like, you took some time, okay,
Starting point is 00:14:04 you started, yeah. Yeah like you took some time. Okay, you start Yeah Yeah, love is some intention. Yeah. Oh, you know what else makes me? Fried fish sandwich on white bread and butter and I mean the white bread that gets stuck to the roof of your mouth Yes, yes plate and a paper plate yeah, on a paper plate too. On a paper plate. Yes, look. Hey, burn your nose. That's what I'm talking about. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 00:14:28 All right. I like my fish with mustard too, and yeah, mustard. Okay, what is something you're tired of seeing on social media, Chad? 50-50. Mm-hmm. 50-50, who paying the bills? I'm sick and tired I'm sick and tired. Of being sick and tired.
Starting point is 00:14:48 50-50. I'm tired of seeing the concerts that people are posting, and we haven't seen them yet. Oh. Okay, okay. Let us see something. Let it come to our city first. We just seen outfits, I know dance moves, I know the lyrics. I appreciate it.
Starting point is 00:15:05 I know, I'm gonna be like, I know this song coming up next. Okay, period. Like, you know. That does kind of make it fun. Her later shows is like... I know what to wear. Don't wear that. Because you look crazy. You know what I'm saying?
Starting point is 00:15:18 Like, I'm over here peeping. Like, okay, I need to make sure, like, I'm looking that way when she come out because she's gonna come out over there. Like, I'll be ready. I'm'm looking that way when she come out cuz she won't come out over there like be ready Right. I'm be ready. What you got? What are you tired of? Thing I'm tired of seeing the podcast notice playing that's what everybody's saying in the comments Everybody do got a podcast I've seen that comment that everybody, everybody don't need a podcast.
Starting point is 00:15:47 Take the mics away. Like if y'all, why are y'all here? Y'all don't have to be here. Right. You got a podcast. I thought a comment that said that the government dropped off microphones and webcams like they did crack in the eighties. And I mean.
Starting point is 00:16:05 That's a funny one. That's a funny one. That's a funny one. That's a funny one. I'm not gonna lie. If y'all write that comment, I'll be laughing at it. I will. Yeah, that's a good one.
Starting point is 00:16:14 Be more creative. Be more creative. Be more creative. Okay. Take in a more funny way. Be funny. There you go. If they made a movie about your life,
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Starting point is 00:20:25 on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Who? Who? Tracy Ellis Ross. Oh yeah, that would be a good one. I can see that one. I can see that. I can see that.
Starting point is 00:20:51 I can see that. Yep. You know, she has that tree hugger vibe like you too, because you know how you get down, Mother Earth. That's right. You got that same... Yeah, y'all have that same energy, the same accent, as you like to call it. I feel like that's who I would let it go.
Starting point is 00:21:12 Go ahead and be great, sis. Be great. Who would you have, Saeed, Portia? I literally have no idea. I have never given this an ounce of thought when I can tell that Alexis has actually thought about this before. I have never given this an ounce of thought. When I can tell that Alexis actually thought about this before. I have not. I just did. I get favored for that.
Starting point is 00:21:30 That just came off the door? I don't believe that. I said that. That's why I did not know this was a question. I'm trying to think of a question for you. The more hard for her, the better. I like this game. Hold on. Let me think. Horseshoe, horse shoe, actress.
Starting point is 00:21:45 Somebody who looks like me or somebody who can act like me. I think it has to be a little both. Like, yeah, that's what I was asking about. Who gives you a vibe? Oh, I know, kinda. I might've needed to think a little bit harder, but if this was. What about my head? I would say Zendaya. Oh, I like that.
Starting point is 00:22:16 I kind of. And they throw ass, you know, I throw ass. You know, I like the. I don't know. I don't know. That. Look at it. You know, I like that. I don't know. I don't know how to do that. Look at it. But you've seen me do that. Great actress, and I know she would figure it out.
Starting point is 00:22:34 What? I can see that. I can't rise up. No, I don't see it too. Oh, why? Because of my attitude. Because I'll be loud and I'll say crazy shit. Hey, I tell you, she's versatile. She's versatile.
Starting point is 00:22:47 She's a great actress. She can be more older, like, not older woman, but like older. Yeah, like. And I'm not an auntie yet. I'm thinking like baby boy. I think Boy. I think of her and Benjamin Button. I think of her in Taraji and Baby Boy. I get that. I don't know. I lost a girl.
Starting point is 00:23:13 I didn't see that one. She gonna have to get about eight shades lighter, because, bitch, I am transparent over here. I need a tan so bad. Oh, my God. I mean, I wasn't going off of a look. Yeah. Okay. Mine would be Zoe Saldana. Yes, absolutely. I really like her vibe.
Starting point is 00:23:32 I feel like she gives like tomboyish, and then she's a really great actress. And... Yeah. I like her. Maybe I just want to be her, honestly. All right. Maybe I just want to be her, honestly. Maybe you just... You know, I was giving skin, I was giving game. I didn't do that.
Starting point is 00:23:52 That's who I was. Yeah, let's see. She could probably play like a nice southern girl too, like very sweet. Yeah. Hey, I came up with some good ones. Yeah, that's... I'm gonna get back to y'all later. Hey. Now I came up with some good ones, awful. Yeah, that's a... I'm gonna get back to y'all later. Okay, next question.
Starting point is 00:24:08 Um, who is the most unproblematic celebrity in your eyes? Unproblematic, because I can give you a lot of problematic ones. One's that we don't know anything, that they just mind their business. Oh, I got it, Kerry Washington. That's who you are, and that's who's also unproblematic. Unproblematic. Oh, Kerry Washington.
Starting point is 00:24:31 People say that a lot. Okay, and then I feel like she's mostly unproblematic. Most because, one, she's been married to her husband for years. They keep it out of everyone's business. And she has two kids that no one knows what they look like. So, her. No one knows what they look like. Yeah, that's a good one.
Starting point is 00:24:51 Cherry wash. Or that she even had them. Like, somebody was saying, I saw something where they were like, yeah, she's like my two children. They were like, what? I only know she had them because of Scandal, because I've seen every episode, and I'm pretty sure she was pregnant. I didn't know she was pregnant while she was filming Scandal. I can't think of none, because I only know she has a scandal, because I've seen every episode, and I'm pretty sure she was pregnant. I didn't know she was pregnant while she was filming Scandal.
Starting point is 00:25:08 I can't think of nothing, because I only be paying attention to the problematic ones. Yeah, that is... They never highlight, you know, the ones that are doing good, the ones that are unproblematic. Yeah. You got one, Portia? No. I'm trying to look on the blogs and see, you know, in the comments they'll post somebody be like,
Starting point is 00:25:29 oh, she's so unproblematic. And I'd be like, is she really? But you know what? They are problematic to me. Who? They hit that internet, girl. They start cutting up. Who is unproblematic?
Starting point is 00:25:44 Beyoncé. She doesn't like address anything. Beyoncé got problems. She's just good. They start cutting up. Who is unproblematic? Beyonce. She doesn't like address anything. Beyonce got problems. She just good. She got good PR. She's just that. Can you? Yeah. I mean everyone. Beyonce but she's like she's fine. She's not like a regular celebrity. Yeah. You know what I think? I feel like it doesn't count. She's like in a regular celebrity. Yeah. You know what I think?
Starting point is 00:26:06 I feel like it doesn't count. She's like in her own stratosphere. She doesn't have to address. Yeah. Zendik. Zendik. Unproblematic. That's another good, yeah.
Starting point is 00:26:16 Unproblematic. Mind her business. Makes her coin. I agree. Yeah. You know? Yeah. Stay at the med.
Starting point is 00:26:24 Yeah, I agree. Yeah. You know? Yeah. Stay at the med. Yeah, I agree. Yeah. Okay, we'll play with those two. If you could swap lives with anyone for one day, who would it be and why?
Starting point is 00:26:41 Beyonce. I would. I wanna see. I would, I would. I want to see. I would. I would. I wouldn't be one of the people like because I don't know what they're going through. I really don't. I would be in the same. You would. If y'all got to pick somebody.
Starting point is 00:26:59 Rihanna. Rihanna. Okay. Who you got, Portia? Oh, I don't know. I need somebody who's just as rich with less responsibility. You know what I mean? You know what I mean? I probably try to pick like, I don't know. Corey Gamble. Wow, that's a good one. That's a good one. I want to set court side.
Starting point is 00:27:30 We know all that you do. I need to. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I need Cory's life. That's pretty good for us. That's a right thing. And right there he is. That's pretty good, Por. That's a major right there. And right there, he is a wild cat. That's a wild cat. Okay.
Starting point is 00:27:49 White wine in them silk pajamas everywhere he go. And I say, you better go, Madame Corrie. Matching, matching. Madame Corrie. Now, that's true. Baddest one out, okay? Okay. Let me be Corrie. That's a good one. That's a good one.
Starting point is 00:28:05 That was a great one, actually. Yeah. That was off the dome for real. That one hit my spirit. I said, ooh, that's the one. That was a good one. All right, y'all, that was great. Thank you guys so much for sending in your question.
Starting point is 00:28:23 Y'all sending more questions, because that was fun. Now it's time for Humble Baddie's Mail. Lex, you got our Humble Baddie's Mail for us tonight? Yes, now it's time for Humble Baddie's Mail. Okay, that was my little intro. I don't know where that came from, but whatever. Anyway, okay, this one comes from a baddie in Orlando, Florida. What's up, Orlando town?
Starting point is 00:28:52 Here's what she wrote. Hey, humble baddies. I need y'all to be for real with me. I've been dating my man for a little over two years now. Things were great in the beginning. The sex, the chemistry, all that. But lately, things have gotten weird in the bedroom. Every time we get intimate, the only,
Starting point is 00:29:15 he only wants to do anal. Like, every time. Oh. At first, I thought it was just him wanting to spice things up. And I was like, okay, cool. But now, it's to the point where he'll literally turn me over mid foreplay and go straight to the back door. If I try to initiate regular vaginal, vaginal, sorry, vaginal sex,
Starting point is 00:29:37 he'll say stuff like, it just doesn't hit the same, or I like it tighter. Oh. Like, huh? Sir, this is not a flesh... This is not a flesh. This is me. I will. I'll try to ask him about it, but he just laughs it off or gets defensive.
Starting point is 00:29:54 So now in my head, like, is my man gay? Is he fantasizing about something else when he's with me? Or is it just some weird preference thing I'm not understanding? Please don't clown me. I really am trying to figure out what's going on because the math is not math. It helps to severely confuse and clench in. Oh, my gosh.
Starting point is 00:30:19 Oh, baby. That's right. Let me say thank you all for sending in this because you are being very open and transparent. You know what I'm saying? Brave to, you know, ask us this question. And for advice on a situation like this. So thank you for writing us and writing into Humblebatties. But I don't know, first of all, I would just say,
Starting point is 00:30:48 if he only wants anal sex, I would ask him, you know, if he's saying it's not tight enough or whatever, maybe like you could explore options to make your vagina tighter. Cause if you have babies, maybe it's not as tight as it used to be and he's used to it being tight. First of all, that's not... I disagree.
Starting point is 00:31:13 That was my line. I was gonna say that. I was gonna say that. Okay, well, first of all, let me tell you. Your cat does not get first place. Well, they have, they have. They have that. They have that. They have that. Well, they have, they have. They have to think that maybe they have to have... They have to think that maybe you just got a little weed.
Starting point is 00:31:28 And, you know, I wouldn't even do that. And I'm not even gonna blame him. But, Tash, what'd you say? I'm not gonna blame you. But I'm not even gonna say that he's bad. I was going to say maybe I'm just a toxic millennial, because obviously I just want to be like, girl, because he's obviously super bad.
Starting point is 00:31:43 That's what I was going to say too, but I ain't want to offend people good because he's obviously so that's what I like too, but I want to fit I'd again people It is not a nice actual It's not a double. He's definitely Figure that out that that's what he likes, but but it's not gay though. Yes, everything's not gay if it's a woman ass, you know, I Say what I want to say if that's the only thing he want, and he's like, we're just a little...
Starting point is 00:32:07 Yeah, that's enduring poor play, too. It's not like it's... I was trying to find her a solution. That's why I'm saying you should go and see about getting... Doggy style. ...opera that now at the men's spots and stuff. You can go get a little... And it apparently tightens it up.
Starting point is 00:32:20 I'm just giving her a solution so she don't gotta keep getting... Yeah. Yeah, but she said mid-broadway. Mid-broadway. And then let's turn her over. Like, and then, I mean, there's different ways, you know, there's different access back there. So he opts for the higher whole.
Starting point is 00:32:45 Like, I mean, on purpose. What if he's just unimpressive? I don't know. What if it slip out? You know what I mean? Like, what if he's just not? Maybe is he given other, like, does he have other gay tendencies? Because we can start there. Because if he's doing other things, then yeah, he just gags.
Starting point is 00:33:06 You know what I mean? We can just go ahead and just say... He's probably just... He'll try to play with his butthole and see how he feels about it. It's really the thing he said that he said is not tight anymore. So he likes it tighter. Anymore? Wait. He said he likes it tighter. That's why he goes back there every time he likes it tighter. Anymore? Wait, he said he likes it tighter. That's why he goes back there every time he likes it tighter.
Starting point is 00:33:29 Like he likes a tighter access point, I guess. Yeah. We, okay, well, I think... I don't know, I feel like you're talking about her. Them fighting words, bitch. I would have pushed it. I would have pushed him right in his mouth. He's like, what you mean?
Starting point is 00:33:44 What? It doesn't hit the same. I like it tighter. Yeah, I don't know. I would say... It's a good mistake. I like, yes, see, no. I feel like he want to fight.
Starting point is 00:33:54 I don't think I would have taken that too well. Well, he's probably gay, because I just don't know a man... I don't, I ain't never experienced anything like this. I don't know, but I think he might be gay. Let's just... I'm sure our advice can go, we don't know, but it's given, gay. Sorry.
Starting point is 00:34:13 All right, to our reader. I'm going full play, mom. Ma'am. Probably gay. Full play. Yeah. And that's it. He said, let's skip to the good part, eh?
Starting point is 00:34:24 That's what he said. For him, though, very selfish. Yeah. And that's it. He said, let's skip to the good part, eh? That's what he said. For him though, very selfish. Yeah. Very selfish because that is not the bee's knees. That's awful. I'm so sorry for you. That's not used and clenched in Orlando, but thank you for writing us. Clenched, I bet.
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