Club Shay Shay - Instagram Dating, Useless Men, & Being The Side Piece | Truth After Dark

Episode Date: December 1, 2025

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lineup price picks baby okay and it feels so good to be right i love being right Hello, everybody, welcome to another episode of The Truth After Dark. I am your host, Azar Faraday. I'm your boy, The Truth. Okay. Period. Get into that, honey. Okay, so how are you feeling tonight?

You got the red silk bus down. Yeah, I'm happy for the holidays. The holidays is coming up. I'm feeling real, you know, just thankful for, you know, being able to be around close friends and family for the holidays. This is a beautiful time of year to where you can share, you know, moments with your loved ones. I'm really excited.

I love that. That's really dope. I'm really here for that. So there's been a lot of stuff going on in the media per usual, okay? The first and foremost is... That hat is busting on you, though. That's a nice hat. Thank you.

Yeah, that hat is cracking. Thank you. I appreciate that. Girl, you've been stepping, yo, since this. sun went down you've been stepping your game all the way up okay thank you what's you got going on what's like what's what's what's what you got going on what you mean what do i have going on what's like you know what's the motivation between you I mean I feel like you didn't went from from what the penthouse to the to the to the Mount Olympus I'm crying what's the motivation is just you know you

had me on here telling me I was cooked every day. So I had to remind a mother that, you know, cooked food is good too, baby. Get into that. Older women is hidden too, honey. Older women. This is older women's season. I'm not an older woman, so I don't know what you're talking about.

No, it is older women's season because summer is over. So now everybody cuddling it up with the older women. Who is the older women? You, you're sending it. I'm 34, honey. That's older. I feel like I'm older than most

younger people It's cuddle season right now I'm not an older woman It's cuddle season It's getting cold outside It's raining Everybody's looking to cuddle up Everybody's looking to boo up

Yeah all them short shorts They're in the closet To the spring All these little skirts is gone Everybody's booed up Everybody can't wear them skirts And now they got to put something on It's like ooh

The boo up is right I've been booed up I've been booed up baby Everybody looking for something extra thick too Not the extra thick The 280 Extra thick

The 280 This is extra thick season You gotta be too something to do something Extra thick Extra thick season Hey it's cold outside I'm telling you This is crazy

Okay so Anyways So Summer Walker Let's just get into Summer Walker She is Was I guess messing with Rich the kid and she basically he released a voice note of her

basically saying like I don't care if you have a girl it doesn't matter to me like get me a separate phone call me on that phone and I'll be your side chick like she whatever and then wait what they got something going

well that's what she was saying like I don't care and then she said then she said that she basically is like I'm over it because your girl be tripping like she'd be fighting people showing up places going to the flower delivery shop scene what's up doing this and she's like how am i supposed to be have a good relationship with somebody with that going on well first of all if you the side piece first off shut the

fuck up lord like know your place well that's what she's saying she's knowing her place saying like i won't say now she erring everything out like don't air it why you you well stuff out. Why you? Because this is what happens with a side chick in my opinion. You got to understand the consequences of that. Yeah. The girl is always going to come out. She might call you, have a conversation. Y'all might even meet up. Y'all might even meet up.

It might be a situation to where, I don't know, subcast that say, hold on. Y'all want to talk. Y'all want to see why it is the way it is. So, like, you can't be out here. And see, this is the culture we live in and the era and the generation we live in to where everybody got to do stuff over social media. Like, no, let me tell you what the old school side pieces wasn't blasting you. Like that. You know about that?

Not like that to where the world, no. It was like local. Right. It was like show up at the church. Like, hey, I got your baby. Something like that. This is crazy. That is, it is crazy.

Well, they got blasted still. The thing about it is is now everything is. on the internet you have to be careful but another thing is it's like when you mess with a side chick eventually someone's feelings is going to go crazy as a woman you're a woman you're not meant for that so eventually you're going to feel emotional and this is going to happen and they all like women always say oh i'm cool with it or whatever and then as soon as they're not cool with it now everything is blasted out you agreed upon the situation but now all my business is aired out and you know in the great words of paul pierce no no no no you don't you

your work. No, you said that side pieces save marriages, but I can't tell, honey. I didn't say that. I didn't say that. You have a whole viral clip that says that. I didn't say that. You said your home boy. I never said that. Please, all I'm asked is please Darnell put in the part where he says that right here. I'm so serious because I really want to show everyone how Paul just be backtracking on everything he says. I don't remember ever saying that. This is crazy. Like, this is blow with me.

That's why I said, say your words. No, because I'm saying that. I've been married. You haven't been married. I've had a girlfriend and everything. And the one conversation I was having with a dude was side piece.

Side piece conversation. He was like, P. Man, my side piece kept my relationship going longer than I wanted it to go. Because I was ready to break up with her. But if I didn't have my side piece, I would have divorced her a long time ago.

So in asking y'all on truth at the dark, as men, like, I know this ain't right. But do side pieces keep a relationship going longer than it should be? We'll move on from this because, Because, you know, I personally will never be anybody's side chick at all because I'm not meant to play the side. I'm really the main person, the main course, I'm the main attraction. There is nothing that you need.

I'm the fried chicken, the mac and cheese, the yams, screens, everything, baby. And that's just it. You don't need no extra sides because dealing with me is already a lot. You don't need to be dealing with nobody else. You need something. You need another girl. I'm going to change my hair for you. You need another look?

Okay, cool. Let me switch up the look, baby. I looked in for you tonight. What you need? Like, we're not doing that. And I promise you, let a man have a side. Let anybody have a side chick on me. So you said you, the turkey dressing, mac, greens.

But what if he won't like some sweet potato pie? Okay, but I got you, baby. What do you mean? The sweet potato pie is after the main course, though. And I got something for that, too. Don't even trip. I got something. Let me taste a thing.

I got it. I got it. Okay, okay. I'm not. I promise you, I got it. She said, I promise. You just got to let me know, and I got it. You just got to say the word.

She's advertising right now. No, I'm not advertising. Damn. I'm not advertising. I'm off the market, and I'm not apt to be advertised, honey. So anyways, moving forward, so women, there's a woman on Instagram, she went viral for saying that men are becoming too content with being useless. They don't know how to fix things anymore.

They don't know how to build nothing. They don't know how to pay for nothing. They don't know how to plan dates. Why are women even messing with men? And now there's new research that a study shows that the younger generation not wanting marriage from 1993 to today, women are 22% down. Like it decreased 22% that women don't want to be married and only 2% for men. Meaning men are still cool to be married.

Only 2% of men said no. from 1993, but 22% of men, women are like, nah, I'm cool on marriage now. Damn. So women are starting to feel like,

man, what are the use for y'all? Y'all can't build, like back in the day, like men are fixing your tire, they're changing something, they're coming in, they're building something,

they're fixing the air conditioner. Now the younger generation of men, they don't know how to fix nothing or do nothing, or that's what the women are saying. So it's like, why am I even with you?

Damn, we don't know. I don't relate to this. And I believe that to be true, though, because you got to understand those, we don't even teach dad no more to our youngest no more truthfully. Like I was telling you earlier, I had wood shop, I had tech shop, I had a tech shop, I had auto shop in high school.

Those classes is no longer in the school. So now it's more, what the kids do know, the kids are smarter. Yeah, the kids are very advanced. They're very advanced. They're smarter. It's kids out here becoming millionaires without going to school.

They understand the social media game. They understand the tech world. They understand more, they're getting smarter. So maybe that says something about men and not women. Maybe men are smartening up. Well, I would say this. We don't have to be less handy because of men making more money they can pay people to do that.

That's true. But I will say that the newer generation lacks the basic social skills, though. Like they have that anxiety if they don't have their phone. They don't know how to walk into a wrong. room and have a conversation. They lack that because they're so into the internet. They have an internet personality. They don't need that no more.

You need that though. You don't know you don't because I can have a meeting over my phone now. I can go to work from the house. You can, but it's sad because it's like we're so connected, but we're more disconnected than we ever been. You know what I mean? Like everyone's connected on social media and all of this, but there's so many people saying that they're alone and they're disconnected and it's more lonely than ever right now,

you know, because people are not. congregating. They're not having little close friends and family get together anymore. Not the younger generation are not doing those things anymore, you know? So it's like they're not into that. It's more say everything is online streaming this. It's everything

is a show. And when it comes to real life, you meet some of those people behind those screens that have the biggest personalities. They're very awkward. And it's like you don't even know how to talk to nobody. Like you don't know how to have a conversation. You have social anxiety. You can't move around. Like it's just weird. It's

Like, I don't like that. You know what this generation, they ain't got no finesse. They don't know how to walk up to a female and be like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. What is yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And the next thing you know, the rubber. Yeah, yeah. But they don't have to do that because they could just now. You know what's so weird to me?

This is how guys talk to girls now. Like for me, I would go, I would have to talk to a girl, and I really had to give her a little bit of conversation, not take her too much of her time and get right to the point to where I could convince her, like maybe we should go out. I can take you out, but I got, I got to know. I know it's the window. It's like 30, 45 seconds maybe, whereas now guys just go up to a girl, but I'm like, give me your Instagram. Yeah, that's what it is. And a girl, I'd be like, all right, here, you can have my Instagram.

And that's how they meet and that's how they exchange. But you know what's even worse than that is like this had happened to me one time. Many of times this had happened. I'll be out and I'm seeing a person and they're like in the room with me for like an hour. We're at an event. They're in the room with me for an hour. Yeah. You're standing there, you're staring at me.

You have ample opportunity to talk to me. How do you know they're staring? Because I can see them looking at me. I feel in my peripheral. No, I feel them, you know, peripheral vision. You keep like, no, I can feel it in my peripheral that someone is staring. I have my head on a swivel, honey. I know when people are looking at me.

I can feel it. I feel it. And you want them to come say something? I don't want anything. What I want is if you are going to say something, do it in. I don't like a man. Maybe a man like to admire from afar. Listen to what I'm saying.

Let me get to the point. So the point is, is this will happen, right? And then I'll get home and I'll get a DM from a man. Hey, I saw you tonight. You look so good. How are you?

I wanted to come up to you. That's weird. You had an hour in a space with me to talk to me, to come up to me. I don't think that's weird. It's weird. I don't think that's weird.

It's so not. If you don't have the confidence to come up to me as a man, then I don't want to fuck with you. No, so listen. to this. You got to think about like this. He might have saw you over there, having fun with your friends. He might have seen a dude next to you.

He didn't know if that was your dude or not. It's a lot of factors that go into this. I get what he was, like, whoever that is insane. It will be situations. He was just like, I didn't want to come up to you because I've seen a lot of going on. You was in a section or there was people around it. Because it ain't like you're going to be standing there looking like a deer in headlights. No, no, no.

This situation has happened when I've been like literally standing next to the person. Like I was in the stable center at a box. We're on the escalator. this close together. Oh, here, opening the door for me. Here you go. Won't say nothing.

How did they know your name? No idea. That's my point. It's weird. How are you finding me on Instagram and doing all of that work? But you can't be like, hey,

what's up? How are you tonight? Like, are you single? That's it. So let me ask you this. Yeah. You ain't never dated nobody just so you met off of Instagram.

I have, yeah, I have. I've been with someone off Instagram. Yes, 100%. Have you had a sexual relationship with somebody you met off Instagram? What do you mean? sexual. I've been in a relationship, a full-blown relationship of someone

I met out of a restroom, yes. Like, sexual? We were having sex. Yeah, we were in a relationship. Okay. How many times? We were in a relationship. I was with this person, like for a minute. How many times have you done this? Like once?

Yeah. One time, this internet stuff is new right now. Like, you're not just meeting people. Yeah, but you're not just meeting people just straight up off the internet. I'm not meeting people. That's the new norm. Now, yes, but I have been the new norm. I've done that once before, yes, I have done that.

So, yes, I have done that. But I didn't see this person in person. They didn't see me out and about. That's the difference. They found me on Instagram, hit me up, and then we created a relationship. I didn't go somewhere, see this person, have a conversation, and they never said anything. Have you ever met somebody off of social media? and then, like, hooked up with them the first night you met him?

No, I've never done that. What do you mean hooked up? Like, had sex? Like, you know, went somewhere, uh, connected. Yeah. And, like, maybe, like, kissed and... Okay. Like, the first night, you met him?

Stuff like that. You're great. No, I'm saying. You have a problem. I don't need everybody in my business. Have you like what Have I ever met somebody on Instagram Hook that with them

Met them Yeah met him on Instagram Hit him up Went somewhere Went out and met them Yeah Okay cool That's good for you

It was popping All right That is why That is exciting Okay It was kind of more exciting than going up to a girl Waiting for her to call you

meeting them talking to them, making for them to call you, and then you set up a day two weeks later. Ah, Instagram, let's meet up, what's you doing? What's up? Okay. Popping. That's the new normal.

And was that it? You never saw that person again, or y'all was cool? We hooked up a couple times. All right. After that. Cool. Okay, so anyways. I'm crying.

Okay, so anyways, um, Brian McKnight was on the internet and he basically said he was never... Be McNight is my boy. Okay, yeah, he said he was never in love with his wife, and he just was with her, he stayed with her for the kids, period, and he just was not feeling her none ever.

Not the beginning? He said he was never in love with his wife. Damn, that's crazy. And so my thing is, like, what do men be doing? Like, I just really want to know. But you don't understand. I can get with him. he's saying because there's certain girls that dudes like you understand like men are built different we're not emotional creatures you know so like he could just be like having sex with her

and like the sex and be in love with that but not in love with just her and you marry that people do that yeah people do that people you act like men men like they will be with a girl because of the sex And that's it They like the way they look And the sex But then it's like Really you dry Or you

You know I'm just like Yeah Whatever You know You know It's conversation week You ain't really

But the sex is cracking I could never imagine But also I'm not a man So I'm not driven by sex You know what I mean Like because personally If I can't chop it down with you Kick it hit it

vibe out I cannot be with nobody Like I just feel like so miserable. And even in my past relationship, my five-year relationship. Women are more driven by sex than men. No, that's not true. Are you a woman? That's 100% true. That's 100% true. You're a woman. Do you know that for a fact because you're a woman? How? You're not a woman. There's no way you can know that. There's no way I can know that. That's so not true. I'm going to tell you why it's I know you say this every single time. Women are more driven by sex than me. No. Driven by sex?

Driven by sex. Yes. Why? Go ahead. Say the point again. Because the like the sex is everything to a woman in a relationship. That's such a lie. It's such not a lie.

The sex is on the lowest total pole in a relationship. If sex is on the lowest total pole. Then why when a man cheats is it going to grow up to have sex with another lady? Yeah. That's your, that's out. Because sex is at the highest level. What you're saying is driven by sex is different. My motivating factor for being with a man is not sex.

Most women do need. Most women don't even come statistically from being with a man. Like, what are you talking about? If that was the driving factor for women, a lot of women wouldn't even be in a relationship. You're telling me that that's the driving factor. That's not the most important thing for a woman in a relationship. And I promise you that. I have home girls.

We talk intimately, more intimately and raw than you can imagine I'm a woman. And I'm telling you right now, that is not the highest thing for most women. You're not thinking, oh, my God, the sex. Yes, the sex isn't a factor, but for me and a lot of women, the sex is good because you love that man. The sex is exciting because you're like, damn, I want to please him. I'm enjoying this because I love him and I rock with him so heavily and I'm into him. That's why. That's why the sex is hitting, period point blank.

And that's why when women stop having sex with a man, it's because they're off of a man. Because she's having sex with another man. No, that's not what it means. Yes, it does mean that. That's not true. that's not true 100% that's not true when a woman starts having

why do men don't have sex toys like women is that true or not yeah but also we don't have a drawer but men come every time typically the average man comes

every time he has sex y'all got these toys these flowers y'all got all this shit come on I don't want to hear that's driven by sex we don't got all that in our drawer

y'all got a whole drawer all this it's not a whole drawer this is what I'm saying But this is why, this is why men are going to come 90% of the time men are going to come during sex, period. I don't know men who just don't come during sex. That's when sex is over is when the man comes. When women don't come at like men because it's more intricate and difficult.

It's not the man's fall. So women have toys so they can get themselves there. It's different. Like men always are going to get there no matter what. So yes, it's a different thing. but it's not driven by sex, like, no, a man being a man and being all the things that a woman wants, like filling him and connecting with him

and having that energy and having that relationship is important. And I think that when that goes out the woman, when do women start to feel like sex is a chore? Like, oh, God, I have to have sex with this man now. This is crazy. You know, like, and when I start to feel like that, I know that I don't longer love this person and I don't want to be in this relationship anymore

because it's all about how you feel about the man. And you don't agree with that? No. So what is your point? You think what? Just women are driven by sex? That's why y'all dress the way y'all dress, smell the way y'all smell, get the toys y'all need to get.

Like, we know what it is. This is crazy. You are tripping. I like a good woman that can throw on a suit and feel sexy and just, like, walk through the hallway or walk through the lobby and just with a swagger. Like, yeah. I don't need to be wearing this because I know I'm cracking.

Okay. Yeah. So what does that have to do with anything? I don't know. You are so stupid. I love it. Okay. So anyways, older women are starting to say in their 40s that they prefer younger men.

And we've had people on our podcasts that are in their 40s that have said this because I'm not in my 40s, so I don't. know but they're saying because they're more easy-minded they're not stuck in their ways and they're not intimidated by strong women so they're like we are and I hear this all the time the older women are saying the young man what's older woman then let's talk about that since well 40s okay so 40s or women who like younger men just like boy toys I could believe that they just like somebody because because everybody they're written them off and nobody want them and now they just want a sexual partner and they know it's not going to be a

It's not going to be no attachment Because the young dude ain't going to be A young dude eventually going to be like I'm just going to get with her and that's it And they know this ain't long term He already know it ain't long term If he's like 26, 28 He know he got a future with something else

So he just, this is just a pass along, pass by This is just taking a time Men that have been like Dreya's with, oh boy, they have a kid together. He's like 23 and she's 45 or something. But there is cases where, you know, there is cases to where an older lady can can like really like turn a young boy out. And he's just overwhelmed and he's just like, damn. I think that it's kind of strange that when men are with super young women, we're like, that's disgusting, you're this. But when women do it, it's not looked at like that.

I personally don't. don't find that that I think that's nasty and I think that there's a lot of men who've been taken advantage by women who were like older than them and they were only like 14 or 15 and they have these stories of like oh this older woman who was like this age was doing this and doing that. No for real. No that's a real thing that a lot of men. I've experienced that. Yeah. I've experienced that's a real you know that's a real. When I was 21, 22, there was like an older lady I was dating. What was her age? She was like in her 30s. Okay, that's weird.

She was like in the mere 30s. But it was like, as a young 21, 22 year old, you know, in the league with some cheese, it was just like, all right, she was like, all right, I'm going to pick you up in my, my bins. I'm like, this is ballad, this is crack. Like, you ain't seeing that from the young. So it's just like, all right, I'm going to take you. So now you intrigued by that, I'm going to put you up in this suite here. And I'm like, damn, this is crazy.

rub you down. I'm like, damn, this is... I'm not to rub you down. She got the feather. Man, she got that big feather, the big feather. I'm crying. It's like, damn, so now you over here, now I ain't going to even lie to you. My mind was gone. My mind was gone. I can imagine. I was just like, hold on.

But that's crazy, though. That's like grooming us somebody. Yeah, yeah. I was like... And when men do that, it's looked up like you're disgusting. You're nasty. You're fucked up. But I think we need to hold women accountable because what do you mean? You have a son that's his same age

and this is who you're dealing with. And men don't emotionally mature scientifically till 43. So you're telling me that you're with a 20-year-old boy or even boys who are like 15, 16. It's cracking for a man because they're looking like, this older woman, she's turning me out,

she's putting me on, but that's still not okay. Like that's weird and that's uncomfortable. Like I would never mess with any young boy like 21, 22. Like I think that that's very strange. I don't feel comfortable with that. I have a nephew that's older than that. Like, to me personally, I do not feel comfortable with that.

I don't like younger men. I don't want to date anyone younger than me. I've never been with anybody younger me. Only older than me, I don't deal with younger men. I think it's very weird. And, like, I just think that men already have a problem being mature. So it's like, then I'm being with someone who's even more. And it's like, you are taking advantage of them, it feels.

Like, you could easily, like, I can manipulate a young boy so easily right now. different because like I was like I was in the league so I seen a lot already no it doesn't matter though because I've had young boys that are in the league that be like 21 22 money rich everything trying to be like what's up and I'm like you are a child I will not fuck with you like that's weird and literally like I could take advantage of him and be like get married to him and everything take his money and do all this like it's easy that's why women are doing that I see a lot of women getting with the young young athlete boys and doing that like That's the little play.

A lot of girls are doing that right now. That's the new play right now. I see a lot. I don't even want to name the names because I feel bad. But it's a lot of women that are doing that right now. It's a ring of them. It's a bunch of them, yeah. It's a ring of them.

I don't know who the ring leader is. They got a group chat? Maybe. I think it's a group chat. I could imagine that. But I'm not dealing with that. I don't want to be, first of all, I want to be with a man who's like knows more than me, can teach me stuff, can put me on a stuff, can tell me things.

I don't want to be with someone where I'm thinking. like your mom like then it becomes like a weird like thing you know what i mean it just starts to be weird like i don't like that i don't want to be that like anyways so the game was talking about how he feels like when he's entertaining women he has no real intentions for and like he knows like i'm not going to be with this girl in a relationship i'm not going to mess with her or my heart is somewhere else already like i love someone else he admits that he like he loses sleep over that and he feels like man don't talk about that enough and they don't talk about like the fact that damn like entertaining women who I don't really fuck with like that just for sex

like he was like I'll feel so bad and sick to my stomach like the next day to the point where I had to stop doing that you know what I mean because I'm just like I'm too grown to be in that type of situation where I'm doing this and now I'm guilty and I feel so crazy you know what are your thoughts on that I agree with that I think, you know, when you start getting to the realization, when you get older, it's a waste of your goddamn time. Yeah. You're looking at a girl, and it looked good, and you're like, damn, it'll be, you know, sexually as cool, but it's like, I don't see no future with her. I don't see myself really taking her serious.

Yeah. And now I'm looking at like, damn, like, what am I doing? I'm wasting my time, because as you get older, the years, you're just like, man, I ain't got time to waste no more. it's like no you've been doing that for so long you've been doing it for so long and you're just like that's a waste of my time i'd rather be like by myself or just you know just focused and locked in than wasting my time with a girl i know i'm not going to be why am i even going to dinner with her why am i even having sex with her why am i even doing anything with her because it's like i know long i know i'm not going to be with her but i think men get lonely. I think men

love the just have, it's a lot men just tough not having somebody around. Yeah. That always with a girl and stuff like that and it happens even though you already know you might have a girl at your house or

hanging out with them doing stuff, having activities with them and you just know you don't want to be with them. You know what I'm saying? You keep the friendship and you're just like, you know, I know I ain't going to be with you, but you still, you know, do stuff. like y'all in a relationship but then it's just like you know why am i wasting my time i feel i really actually saw that and i felt what he was kind of like saying because like it's a waste of time now yeah and it's a waste of mental like you know i i get it yeah i felt that before you probably

feel like that now too huh not now but i've definitely felt that before like i why not now what do you mean i mean you probably feel like that like being an older lady like you know you just dealing with dating guys. You're like, no long-term, nothing coming from it. Oh, well, I haven't. Because time is running out for you. Time is not going nowhere for me. I'm good.

So I'm the one who I don't go off of societal what time something has to be. A lot of people, they met those marks by me, oh, I'm going to marry someone I'm going to do it, and they're miserable and they're divorced and they're unhappy and they don't have a strong relationship. I don't care about what society is putting time on. You're not going to rule my life? What kind of person am I to let anybody rule what time I'm doing anything? Are you paid?

Like, what do you, what, what? Like, I wake up in the morning, do someone else choose what time that is? When you get older, like, it's not a desperation. I don't have a desperation. I can't, for people, maybe. You don't think that's a thing, though, like when women and then get older, like, to find, like, before I stop looking a certain way or stop being a certain way or stop, and then they just become, see, this is the thing.

about women like when they start getting older and they don't have that relationship they start getting more depressed you know i started noticing that that's actually not true because statistically women who are unmarried and single are happier and men who are unmarried and single are more depressed this is a statistic done by harvard study the women if you tell me one more thing no god damn no no the women the women they didn't put up a hundred human beings no no no they I said, all right, live here until you're like 70 and we're going to see if you're going to write some shit down. Like, oh, he's depressed.

Because men need more from women when it comes to, when they get older, emotionally. I don't know about Harvard Studies. Let me tell you something. Women are now more happy being single, but I understand what you're saying where society puts a time clock on women and men of like, especially women, oh, you need to be married by this time. Why don't you have kids? Why don't you this?

Like, you even said before, like, oh, if you're over this age and you don't have a kid, something wrong with you. I never said that. You said that. So I... Why you be throwing words in my mouth? Put it in here. Something wrong with you?

Something's wrong with you. Yeah, you know what it is? You. No, I never said. You're everything that's wrong with me. So anyways... I didn't say something's wrong with you. You said that.

You said that. No, I just say that like you... You said there's something and they have a level of desperation. No, I think those women like that, they just overthinking. Or have you ever considered? that maybe they were pregnant and they were with someone who said, I don't want to have a kid right now and there was their partner. Have you ever thought about that?

Have you ever thought about women who decided not to have children and have abortions because they felt like they didn't want to be in a situation that was fucked up? And even though they were doing everything right and they were with a partner that they love, but unfortunately they couldn't. Like, there's a lot of situations in which that happens. So you can't sit there and judge anybody because you don't know what storm God has asked them to walk through. You could not sit here and put anything on anybody's life because at the end of the day

someone should tell me I should be married and I should have a kid but half of the people that I know married and had a kid on the time that society said we should are not with that person and are in a broken family and are co-parenting and are alone and now they have to raise a kid and also hopefully they can find a partner that they want and bring a partner into a situation

where they already have all this excess baggage. So at the end of the day I'm grateful that I'm my age and I don't have excess baggage baggage. I don't have a baby daddy I have to deal with in a co-parenting situation. And luckily someone who comes in my life doesn't have to deal with that. They can get someone who don't have all of that going on. And I can actually have a real chance at meeting someone that I can have a real family with and not have all this broken shit that I've created because I was young and I didn't

really know what I wanted. And I was young and I was trying to beat some biological clock. Even if you know what you wanted and stuff happens. Yeah. So it happens. But you can't judge anybody's, walk up or their path you can't say this person was better because like you can have no you can get the situation you want and then have the breakup like so like that and then you waited all day you could

have did you could have started that long time yeah but the thing is is what i'm trying to say is i'm not judging that you are you're saying that this person this people who did this were better why are women over 30 or women over 30 don't have this or man over 30 they're this you're saying that these people are better because they made this decision right i'm saying i don't feel that way. I feel like everyone has a certain walk and path that they decide. There's decisions that I've made till this day that was not getting married to someone or not having a baby. These are the decisions that I have made to be where I am here. I don't think I'm better than anyone and I don't think that they're better than me because they decided to be married, whether it was

happy or not. Do you have any regrets? I don't have regrets. No, I feel like everything that I've done so far like I'm okay with you know like I do feel like at the end of the day everything I did was to get me to where I am right now so I'm the person I am and the woman I am because of what I was you know God had me walk through so yeah I don't feel like anyone is better and I feel like for women out there that feel like they have to because men always and people you should be married you should have this why are you single why are you single why are you single because I want to be because I feel good about it. I have been blessed

because I really have not been single like that and I just feel like even in those moments, maybe I should have. Maybe I should have spent my 20 single and not in these boot up relationships my whole life. You know? I don't know.

But at the end of the day, I think that you just have to go through what you go through and don't let society or a man or any woman or anybody tell you that you need to do something differently. That's it because I don't like that. I don't like that.

Are you pissed right now? I'm not pissed I feel like people always think I'm pissed because I'm passionate I talk with passion I'm not pissed off at anything I just want people to feel that because every woman that sat here in this chair

and came on here they say the same thing people weaponize singleness for women why are you single there's something wrong with you people do that to women all the time but they don't do it to men they praise men who are single oh you're smart you're not married

you're smart you're not there's smart but then women are like why are you single because I don't want to be with the man who's smart for being Like, because I want to be with someone who I actually am in alignment with, you know? And right now I might not have that. Like, that's why.

Like, so I feel like people, you know, whatever. So I just don't want people to always feel like being single is a weapon, you know? Like, it's not, you know, even though I have not been single a lot in my lifetime, but I know a lot of women who feel like that, that's like a weapon form against them. Like when Kendrick G was on our podcast. And every comment on our thing is like, you're not married, you're single, you're single, you're old and single. Like, they're telling her that every day. And it's like, okay, like, so what?

And y'all, man, are probably single or very unhappy in your relationship, miserable, hate her, never loved her like Brian McNight, never was love. Yeah, that's crazy. So it's like, whatever. Like, they'll praise someone in an abusive, toxic relationship and be like, wow, they're married, but they're probably getting their ass beat every night. So, all right, let me ask you this. Like, oh, as you get older, and you say that you don't feel like time is running out. But, like, when you start dating, and, like, what's the timeline to know, like, I know I'm going to be with this person? Or are you more, like, say, quick to, like, say, let's be together or?

No, I'm not quick to say, let's be together, but I will say that I haven't dated a lot in my life. But I feel like when I meet someone and it's a connection. like I won't I'll know immediately if like oh I could be fuck first day yeah I can know very quickly energetically like oh I can mess with this person or I could really rock with this person long term and like you know I usually we both feel that connection it's like okay like you want to do this or you want to like what are we doing or whatever the case is you know have you ever dated somebody and then y'all been dates so long you'd be like all right so what are we I never had to go through that no but I know a lot of women who went through that you know what I mean like Are we like, what's going on?

Yeah, because I have a strong belief, if I have to ask what are we? Or what's going on? We're not doing, we're not nothing. Because I feel like if a man wants to be with you, he's going to be like, we're together. Like, that's the situation I've had. Like, you ain't got nobody else.

Like, we're together. Make sure everybody knows clean your shit up. Like, remember we said this on the episode? If you date the man for like three, four months, and you ask him what's going on, you are officially some work. Exactly. I agree.

I think you're some. work after that. You are officially the work. That's what you are. And don't even know it. And don't even know it. I think so too. I think your work, but I think a lot of women know, and I think that a lot of women like

to stay in the gray area, because once you ask, you're going to get the answer you know you don't want, so you just don't say nothing. More women like being work than in relationships. I don't think that's true, Paul. That's true. Where are you coming up with this? More women love to be work than in a relationship. That is so false.

That is not false. You think that women want to be somebody's sex toy? I didn't say that. Work is someone's sex toy, basically. I'm a sex dog. That's not it. Then what is it? Work.

What is work? Divine work. Is you some work? What is some work? You can't just say you. Somebody I just hang out with. Yeah, no, women don't like that. That's why women are like, what are we?

There's more women like being in the work. They do. You don't think women are like, what are we? What are we doing? Because most likely you work to the man, but you, you, the woman look at the man probably like some work. You know what I'm saying? It depends.

It's women that like that. I don't know. I feel like, you know, I don't feel comfortable. Like, I've been in a situation before where I was dating somebody and he was very like, what are we, what are we? And, you know, like, we were just dating. like weren't sexual and like he was catching a lot of feelings and I felt really guilty so I get what the game felt like I felt like oh my God I know that I don't want to be with

this man but like also so I'm gonna take these dinners no it wasn't the dinners it was that this is what it was I'm gonna be honest it was that he was such a nice guy and everyone was like oh my God he's a nice guy like he would never cheat on you he would never this he's handsome he's like he was like the perfect on paper right and I was like I know that this and I should want this man like I need to want him I need to love him like and I just literally couldn't do it and I was like oh my and I was forcing myself like I have to try to like him because this is the man I should marry this is the man I should be with like he's so nice and I don't want to be the woman where it's like you don't like a nice man because I do

but it was just something about him where I was like I can't get into it and like romance I couldn't even mention something and then the next day is like oh here like just everything the thoughtful the romance of this everything was there except the connection was there not there and I knew without the connection I couldn't have a real relationship so I would tell him like look I don't know I would be very transparent honest the whole time because I was like I don't know if this is what I want really I don't feel it and he would just force it press it and I'm like finally I was like look I feel so bad but I just can't I can't get into it like I'm sorry and I know I broke his heart like I felt so sick but I was honest the whole time the more and more I sit across from

you I feel like I'm your therapist I know you're lying I know you're like you're my therapist no because I'm listening I'm listening to a lot of your stories and I'm sitting here just hearing you out and okay so what is your assessment what would you think what do you think I need that's my therapist what would you say that I need um i'll write down a full evaluation for you and have it for you in the morning i appreciate that send me the invoice honey okay so before we wrap up there's this man i just think that people are doing too much it is my opinion this man said i'm a very simple man and i have no business being with someone who has both parents still alive because i'm not he said look it he said i'm not

comforting you through two parental losses I'm sorry I'm good that makes some sense though so you're gonna get you an old lady he want an old lady because most girls who parents he said he don't want a girl whose parents are alive because I'm not dealing

so you're looking for he must be a older man so he's looking for a lady that's probably in her late 40s 50s or I don't know maybe he don't really want that and he wants this is my thing people have who have both parents people have preferences that ain't even

preferenced before. Like, what do you want? He wants an older woman. Now, the emotional toll on that could be devastated. I get that. I have both of my parents. I'm just like, I don't really, like, I get it. But it's like, damn, this is now the stipulations

and I think that that's why more people are being alone than ever, because y'all got stipulations on everything. Don't have two parents. Can't do this. Can't have never did this. Can't have never. Like, it's too much. Like, damn. Like, and then you wonder, people have all these expectations you got to do this you got to be buying me my nails and my things on this by the second day you got to be like what is it a man too much or is the woman's both no no I think women more women definitely more nails hair yeah because a woman came on here I actually put this she said that if a man's not paying for her nails after two weeks of talking and getting early stage gifts then it's over damn yeah early stage gifts is blow

So you can pretty much buy, you just, you just hide in your prostitution. Yeah, you're, you're a prostitute. Yeah. 100%. I think we're in a generation more constitutional, the more transactional prostitution than ever before. And you know what, this girl, she's like an Instagram model, her name is like Chinese kitty or something.

She looks like all done up, like the VL, all the surgeries or whatever. And she basically said, I need a man to make $10 million to keep up with my baddy lifestyle because I need my injections, I need my this, I need my that, I need all the things that I need. And I'm just like, I'm so confused about how everything is a transaction. But what I thought about was she says that confidently because men will do it. Like, there's men that are like, okay, like, I'll buy you. What's up? Like, and so you feel like you can do that.

Men and women are both responsible for this transactional relationship era that we're living in because it wouldn't even be happening if the man didn't purchase it. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, we forgot about having real connection and real love and relationships. That's like for a lot of people have gone out the window.

And for someone like me, like with old school parents and old school values, like I need real connection and real love. Like, you can't buy me at all. If my girl can't make gumbo, I ain't messing with her. I'm crying.

Ooh, what about that one? Come on, I can't make gumbo. You know, this new school can't make no gumbo. If they can't make. You just got to get that Rue going. She can't make that Rue. I'm good. You got to stir that Rue.

You got to stir that Rue. This is the Daily Fantasy segment brought to you by Price Picks, where you can win real cash by playing Daily Fantasy. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first five. So, Paul, we're going to do a little segment. It's called Daily Fantasy. And basically, I love a good fantasy. You love a good fantasy?

I love a good fantasy. I love a good fantasy, honey. So, okay, I want to know, in a relationship, what do you feel like would be your fantasy? And it doesn't have to be anything like sexual. It can be just like, what do you feel like? What is my fantasy? Yeah.

Man, for a relationship, a fantasy. Ooh, my fantasy? Yeah, like in a relationship, what would be your perfect? Like, what is a fantasy that you're not? You just want to fulfill. Yeah, if you can have anything fulfilled in your relationship. Is for the woman to hold accountability, fantasy. That's a fantasy to you?

That's a fantasy. You don't feel like no woman hold accountability ever. Man, what? That's crazy. That's a fantasy. You want to know what my fantasy is? For a man not to cheat on me to know if I love him. Yeah.

Yeah, get into that. Yeah, that's a fantasy that I don't have to struggle for love, honey. So what's you saying? You've been cheating on all your relationship? Yeah, 100%. I don't have room with nobody. And, you know, maybe I did something wrong in the past life.

But I'm telling you, my fantasy is... Did you stay with them after they cheated? Yeah, I did. That's love. That's the problem. I was in love with them or wasn't dumb as hell? Which one is it? That's love.

Because, honestly, I feel like for me, I want to have... My fantasy is to not... have to struggle for love. Like I feel like in reality, a lot of women struggle first in order to have love. And men, like you said, this is from your mouth, should cheat on their women to see if they really love them. So you want to drag someone through the mud in order to see if you love them and test them

and do all these things, but you're hurting this person in the process. And to me, I fantasize about not having to be strong. I don't want to be strong. When people tell me you're strong, I don't like that. I know I am, but I fantasize about a world. We don't want a real fantasy, come on that. That's a real fantasy. That's a real fantasy.

I fantasize about not. I have to be strong my whole life. In every relationship, dating a man, it takes strength. A fantasy is supposed to be something that's like, oh. And that for you is holding women accountable? Man. You know what I'm saying? I'm crying.

Your fantasy is going to bring you to tears. And no, it's not. That's great. Just thinking about it because you fantasize it. fantasizing about that? I'm fantasizing about not having to struggle for love, which is so incredible. That's a...

Imagine I have a love where I'm not crying and I'm not going through it and I'm not sad and I'm not getting this, cheated, I'm not getting lied to it, I'm not getting hurt. That's a fantasy. Man, come on. That's a fantasy. Yours is women holding you accountable.

I guess that can be a fantasy, I guess. Like women holding themselves accountable, that's not ah. Yes, that is. Right, so that's odd to you. So you never been with any woman that was accountable? That's a tough one. That's a tough one.

That's wild to me. What about another fantasy? Do you have anything else? Yeah, for sure. So a fantasy for me is like, all right, just like, you know, a hard day you've been working and grinding as a man thinking about how you can build, get to the next level, and you come home, and, you know, you got the LEDs rolling. Okay.

You got the sexy lingerie on. Okay. Bath, water, ran. Okay. Fireplace. You got the foot bath right there. You got the big feather. What's the big feather?

The big feather. This is coming to America. This is my fantasy. You ask what's my fantasy. Okay. So what's a big feather? Please tell me Just a big feather

I don't know Like some coming to America type Like a big feather Like you can just you know Oh so she's fanning you down with the feather Yeah This is crazy So she's giving you a foot bath

And fattening you Or is it two different Is one woman Essential oils burning I'm trying to set the mood up You killing the mood I'm trying to set the picture up For the people who are watching us

To see this Okay go ahead Go ahead You know And you keep jumping in it Okay go ahead The foot bath the massage table right there

we got the LED lights moving it's low and dim with the fireplace going on the TV it's probably like got some well no you know what as a matter of fact the TV

just going to be playing some soft music and then I'm going to come in have the robe ready for me boom jump in the shower get bath

Okay. Baving. Love that. That's the, you know, cracking, get bathed. Boom, come out, towel dried off. Jump on the massage table, get rubbed down. Okay. The rub down.

Once I get off the massage table, I set up the table. There's some wine and a meal. Man, here we go. Fill my belly up. Making me not think about nothing. then I come from the dinner table sit on the couch with my feet right there

your feet right there in the foot bath in the foot bath the foot bath is rolling what is okay this is my fantasy I'm listening I'm not

damn I'm painting the picture okay and then the feather come back the feather come back is blowing me so now all I got on now is just a robe

with my feet nothing on just a robe. Just naked robe on. Yeah, leave it open. Just open up like this. Lay my headbag. Getting feathered up.

What is it? What is getting feathered up? The coconut oil come out. Okay. Then we get the coconut oil with the candles rolling. Maybe get the hot wax and drip that down. You know, get the hot wax. What is the?

This is my fantasy. What is the hot wax? You know, get the candle, the wax. Okay, okay, yeah, and drip it all down the body. Just probably in my inner thigh area where it kind of stings and you kind of get me jolt, jolt me. You know what I'm saying? You have a problem.

And then it jolts me, it gets me going, like, ooh, ooh, you know. And it's like, ooh. Man, you know, then, you know, then that's when my lady come around from behind me with a feather. And then, you know. The feather is more of me. And I just sit back and put my head back. Okay.

And then you know. Then you, if you know, you know. Okay. Come on, feather. It's the feather for me. It's the feather. Okay. It's the feather for me.

I'm about to bring a feather in so you can see what I'm talking about. Okay. Yeah. I'm excited to see that. Okay. Well, I love your fantasy. You know what I'm saying? That's what it is.

All right. You ask me what was mine. Okay. Well, thank you to our good friends at prize picks, America's number one sports pick app. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first five. Okay, so one last thing.

Ghosting, so a woman said ghosting is sinful and it disrespects a person's God-given dignity. Do you feel that way? Like if you ghost someone without any communication, and I know you don't feel that way because you seem like you just ghost anybody at any time. That's me. Paul Ghost Pierce.

I don't like that because for me personally, I don't like a ghosting because it lacks courage. It lacks responsibility. No, it does. Let me tell you what goes into ghosting. What goes into it? What goes into it? You know what it is.

What is it? And women fail time and time again to hold accountability when a man ghost is you. It's just not for nothing. It's something, but he don't have to do. have to sit and argue about it. He just, he good. I'm just good. I'm good. And no need to explain it. You know what it is. I think that's weird and tacky. That's not weird. Learn to communicate as a person. Well, it's not, I'm not in a full-blown relationship with you, first of all. Yeah.

Ghosting don't happen in a full-blown relationship. It has been with somebody you talking to, hanging out with, yeah, but if you're talking to and hanging out with someone at least, you could be like, y'all, unfortunately. You're not, but the other person probably is. Okay, well, I personally, I've never been ghosted before, and I never ghosted anybody. Huh? Huh. You ain't never been ghosted? No.

Like, I don't talk to people to where it's just, like, casual to where you just ghost me. Like, I don't have casual relationships. Yeah. But I've also been in a relationship most of my life, so I don't have, like, all these dating, fleeing things because I've been in serious relationships most of my life. Yeah. So, you know, I'm a relationship person. But I just feel like the ghosting thing Like I would at least tell someone like look

This is just not for me What if he text you back like I'm good What you mean? And then don't say nothing after that Like just text me I'm good I'm good I'm good love and joy I mean I guess I'm not gonna hit nobody up

If they're texting me like I'm good or I'm falling back Like I'm just gonna be like Okay like cool Like I'm not gonna I'm not gonna ever fuck with you again like i'm not chasing nobody i'm not that person like i'm cool if i'm on a relationship with someone yes i'm going to be like hello like you got fucked up but if it's just someone that i'm dating or something weird and they're just like cool i'm okay bye okay um okay there was more

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