Club Shay Shay - Lil Durk Beats All Charges, Papoose Disses Remy Ma, & Asking Your Husband To Sleep With Another Man. (Part 2)

Episode Date: September 17, 2026

Truth After Dark family, did you miss us? We’ve been traveling a little but we are back with a banger! Paul & Azar discuss Lil Durk being found not guilty on all charges, Papoose’s new diss to Remy Ma, Aaron Rodgers’ ex-fiancee’s crazy request, the pressure on a man and so much more! Turn your TVs up, put the kids to sleep, and get ready for another episode of The Truth After Dark! #Club Follow us: Azar Farideh: [@AzarFarideh] Paul Pierce: [@PaulPierce] Follow The Truth After Dark on all platforms: Instagram: [@TruthAfterDarkPod] TikTok: [@The_TruthAfterDark] Patreon: https://patreon.com/TheTruthAfterDark?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLinkSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I'm going to read through a few relationship scenarios, and you will answer if they need more or less of whatever the topic is. Okay. Okay. More. So a married couple Okay, so a married couple is having problems in the bedroom. The husband believes that they aren't having enough sex,

but the wife disagrees saying she thinks they do it way too much. They currently have sex four times a week. Paul, who do you think is right? Should they have more or less sex per week? It's up to the man. Is he the man of the house? Is he the provider? Well, I get, we didn't say all that.

No, like the woman was made for a man. Like, come on, provide for your man, girl. Okay, so you think more? Yeah, more, come on, don't play. It ain't, you know, that's nothing. Okay. That's nothing to do. Yeah, I agree.

Just lay there if you got to. He got to damn. What's the issue? Yeah. I sit in the same bed, right? I get it. I agree. It shouldn't be no problem.

You ain't like, you ain't got to get him up. He do. I'm good. Okay, so a girlfriend was complaining to her sugar daddy saying that he should take her on more trips. He believes that their current setup is more than enough where he takes her out of the country twice a year. Paul, what do you think? Should the sugar daddy take her out of the country more or less than twice a year? Girl, you don't stop.

All right. If I take you out more, then it's going to be less sugar. What you want? Which one you want? You know what that shit? is. And honestly, a girl who has a sugar daddy, she don't even, like, this, this ain't right because a girl who has a sugar daddy don't even want to go out of trips with the daddy, with the sugar daddy. I'm going to keep it real. Yeah, you do. There they do. No, they don't.

They don't like the trips because your other niggas ain't doing it. No, no, no. They don't like the trips because I have to spend time with you and I have to be having sex with you and I have to be there on one-on-on-law. But, like, for one, you like the sugar daddy. If you, if this is your sugar daddy. Oh, no, you're tripping. Well, don't, well, no. You know how many women don't like their sugar daddy? None of them. They don't like their sugar daddy. The whole point having a sugar daddy is you don't like them. If I liked you, you wouldn't be my sugar daddy. You would be my man. A sugar daddy. Because I

want a sugar daddy. Because he's old. I don't like him. Because nobody ain't trying to fuck with you like that. Well, obviously they have to be attractive enough to pull a sugar daddy. No, sugar daddy is going for a lot of, a lot of she is six. Women don't like their sugar daddies. Sugar daddies is taking

five being cool with them. Nah, I think sugar dodies have them more than that. Come on now. A working woman who has a nine to five job only cooks at home three times a week and her man is frustrated and thinks regardless of her job that she should cook at least five times a week. If you don't get out of here,

if I'm working nine to five just like you and we're both working a job every day and you want me to come home, I have the most viral clip on the internet about this. This is my most viral clip to this day. It has 500,000 likes. Do not play with me in my face. If I don't expect me to be a traditional woman

but you want to be a modern man. I'm not doing that. I'm not going to be going to work 9 to 5 every day and also being your housewife. Make it make sense. If you want me home, cooking, cleaning, making sure you have dinner on your table every night, I should not be working no 9 to 5 job.

The whole point of a woman being a housewife is because the man is a provider. He goes, he provides, he gets the money, he puts the roof over your head, and now anything you need, Daddy, what? You want to have sex 10 times a week? How are we going to eat then? How are we going to eat? Why, we both got to figure it out. We both work in the job. I'm tired too.

What you mean? How are we going to eat? You figure out I'm going to cook one night. You cook one night. Period. I can't cook. Well, then we're going to order in that night. We both have a job. We can't afford that. Well, then I don't know what to tell you. I'm not cooking. I'm not cooking every night. That's ridiculous. But you got a, you got a, you got a thumb in that cooking, girl. It don't matter. My feet hurt too. I just work nine to five. I'm going to rub those things. I'm going to rub yours too. I'm not cooking every. I'm not cooking. I'm not cooking every night. All right. You don't have to rub mine. I'll rub yours for more food. No, I'm not doing that. Sorry. We got to take and give here. Yeah, we got to take and give, meaning I should not be having to work a nine to five job every single day going to work nine to five. Because I can't. It's a job. So I nine, four was one extra hour. You're blowing me. No, I'm not

doing that. That sounds stupid. You said extra hour to prep the food. That sounds stupid. Don't play with me. That sounds ridiculous. And I won't ever do that. Get the nine to four. I would never do that. And And men who want that, you really deserve just, I don't even know. Yeah, she's really mad. No, because I don't like that. I think that that, this is why this clip is so viral that I have because I got so mad. But I don't like that because simply because I do not want to work nine to five every day, then have to come home and work more for you.

But get a new man. Yes, I agree. Get a new man. Well, since you in this situation, you need to do what you need to do. No, since I'm in this situation, you need to do what you need to do. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. I'm not going to be cooking for it, man. situation and this is what it was.

No, no, it was never, for me it was never that. Listen, you keep saying for you. No, I'm saying for any women who are in that situation. If you're already in a situation, this is what it is. Stop trying to be gangster now. I don't think any woman should have that situation. Get that going over there. That sounds stupid. I need that good spaghetti.

Stop playing. No, that sounds stupid. And I would never. Eh, nigger, you need to eat them leftovers. Three days and weeks is a lot for a girl to be cooking for a man, truthfully. And that's already a lot of cooking. And you gotta have some leftovers. So that's already, that's already three days a week for a woman to cook and honestly, that's a lot.

That is a lot because like you can have leftovers and two of those, that's already five days to eat. And then the other day or two, you can figure out. Get you some wings on football Sunday, you're good. And honestly, lucky that I'm cooking three times a week and going to this nine to five, to be honest. So any women that are out there doing that. You don't understand the struggle. That's what it used to be for black women. Well, no, I get understand that.

That's why black women now have money. They're not messing with these men. That's why more women are single. Are you crazy? Do you know that black women? They got more money. They make more money. They got more opportunities.

Black women are one of the most successful women right now. No, no. Don't do that because I'm not putting down black women. But what I'm saying is, it's more opportunity for women, black, white, whatever now. I get it. But there's still a lot of women that need to do what they need to do. So why they still on these songs? Why they ask for the scamming ass niggins still

if they're making the money that they need to make? It's still, like, it's still a lot of women out there that's looking for a man to take care of them. Like, right or wrong? Right or wrong? Women, like, right or wrong? That's what women want.

Women don't want to, you know what I'm saying? It is what it is. And there's more opportunities. I get it. But it's still, like, lot of women out here, like every woman that you see in that club that go to the club, they're looking for a man to take care of them. Trust that.

Don't get quiet now. No, I'm looking at the statistics on this. It does say that black women are one of the most educated and financially well off as far as network goes right now in 2006. It's compared to what? I'm saying, but care to the past. I'm talking about compared to the past. I mean, of course, everything is going to get better over time.

is that women right now are more successful, more educated, specifically black than they ever been. So yes, when I say this, I'm saying that more women are now deciding not to be in those situations because they don't have to. There were women back in the day. It's more poor men and women than women and men that have money. It's always going to be like that. But my point is, is regardless of if you're poor, you're broke or whatever the situation is,

if you are both working, then you guys should both feed each other too. I think that the thing should be split 50-50 across the board. If we're going to be 50-50 on the bills, we should be 50-50 on the dishes. What if he paying all the bills? Like the mortgage, the car, no. Then I'm cooking, I'm cleaning, I'm doing all of that. But y'all both working. But he's taking care of all the big joints.

No, then I'm doing what I need to do. Yeah, yeah. The mortgage, the car, no. But that's probably what that situation is there. No, we're talking about 50-50. If we're going 50-50 on bills, we need to be going 50-50 on dishes. We need to go 50-50 on food. You don't say that, though.

Yeah, that's what we meant by this. That's what we meant by this. We're both working 50-50. That's what we should be doing. If we're going to be 50-50, we need to be 50-50 across the board. I'm not going to be- So you're going to change the tires? Yeah, but that's not a everyday thing.

But I'm saying, you're going to do the man stuff? Hey, babe, go fix that leak in the roof. You're going to do that. But the men don't have more responsibilities than women. So if he asks you to cook more, he's taking these other things off your place. He's not changing a tire every day. He's not fixing. He's taking the big problems out of the way.

It's bigger problems. Those are not everyday things, Paul. It is everything, we're living in the crib, it's everyday things that come with it. I'm saying at the end of the day, we need to be helping each other out. It should be reciprocated and it should be feeling good. And one person shouldn't feel like everything.

But your part of the 50-50 is that. Okay, whatever works out for the people, but I still stand on what I said. Anyways, the last, it ain't my situation. Y'all don't know, but whatever works for them, I pray on that. I hope it works out. Okay, so the last one, a wife was in her closet

counting how many luxury bags she had and realized that she only had five. Hold on, she only had five. Two Chanel bags, one Louis, one Gucci, and one Aramaz-Burkin. She believes she needs a few more to be comfortable, but her husband disagrees. Do you think she needs more or less luxury bags?

This is ridiculous. I'm sorry. What do you think, Paul? Do you think she needs more or less luxury bags? It got to be based on the circumstances of what their man can provide. to be honest, if he's getting you Louis and Gucci, if he can afford Chanel bags and all that,

get her more, bro. I mean, God damn. He can afford it already. He can afford it or get her more, bro. I think a bag is one of the bags and jewelry. You know what? She's going to be happy when you come home and sitting down all day grabbing your nuts,

watching football, and ain't saying shit. Get her another bag. God damn. I'm tired of this. Here, go ahead. I'm tired of this. It's crazy. You're stupid.

Honestly, I'm crying. I think bags and jewelry is the best gifts you could probably get a woman. Go ahead. Go ahead. You know what? You're not going to be gone all day on Sunday. Go ahead. Go ahead.

You can afford it. He already got five of them. You get her another one. Go ahead. I'm screaming. Okay. Thank you to our good friends at Price Picks, America's number one sports pick app.

Use code TAD and get $150 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. Okay, so... Hold on, the homie hitting me real quick. This is crazy. Jay Crow, what up? This is Jay Crow, baby. Hey, no, I'm in the middle of the truth out of the dark. We're filming live right now.

What up, Jay Crow? Oh, okay. What are you all done? What are you doing? You pulling up? I was seeing you go. Yeah, I'm down the street filming. We're going to be done in a little bit.

Hit me when you're doing? All right, back. Yeah. All right, that was the homie, Jay Crow. That's my best friend I grew up with since, like, ninth grade. Okay. That's Jay Crow. Okay.

I love that. Okay, so. That's Jake Crow. Okay, so Aaron Rogers, future NFL Hall of Famer, he was on a podcast and he talked about how after he proposed his ex-fiance, her name is Shelina Woodley. She asked him for permission to sleep with another guy before they got married. I wish the motherfucker will say some shit like that to me before we got about to get married.

They ended up... I'm going to be using my golf swing for something else. That's crazy to me. Is that real? It's real. That's white people's shit. Is he white? Okay.

That's white people's shit. That makes sense. That's white people's shit. It is white people's shit. Come on, man. They ended up not getting married and they eventually broke up. The fact that you had the nerve to say some shit like that. Yeah, that's ridiculous.

Girl. So do you think that couples should give out yearly free passes to each other? Do you think that would, like, help out a relationship in the long run or make it worse? Like, if you're like... That's just telling me that our relationship is based on sex. That's what you're telling me. A yearly pass to do what? To do what?

To, like, go flirt and mess around with whoever you want. To give another nigger some head or something? That's what y'all want to do. I'm saying... And for each other, not just... Come on, to do what? A pass to do what? To go to the bathroom?

A hall pass to go to the bathroom to do what? I'm saying, like, to have sex. They can have a hall pass to do what? No, we're saying should couples give each other a yearly pass to go have sex with whoever and get their shit off? To have sex. Yeah, right? That's what you mean. Yeah, whatever.

This is what I will say. How are you going to present that to me? Present it to me. say, all right, let's just say, present it to me. Okay, so, babe, I've noticed, like, you know, you was looking at other women more often than usual. Stop putting this on me. No, let me say what I have to say.

And I feel like, you know, maybe so you don't end up, like, cheating or nothing ends up happening, maybe we should do something like once a year where we give each other a free pass where we can go out and you can, like, flirt and know that you still got it. and, like, feel yourself and, you know, have sex or do whatever you desire for one night. No, I'm saying-

Feel yourself, right? You said it. That's what you said. This is a real, we're having that conversation. Okay. So feel yourself. You're not feeling yourself? I'm not making you feel like you're feeling yourself.

Yeah, sometimes I don't. Okay. You know, and so sometimes- So you want validation, go to Instagram. Well, there's only so much I'm going to post on Instagram. No, no, no. There's so much validation on Instagram that some niggas going to tell you that they- Yeah, but I'm saying like it's different.

Yes, but it's different in person. You want it to be like right there, grab touch and the motherfucker. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I think that you should have that too because I feel like, you know, you know, I don't know what you have going on, but I do feel like it would be good for you to explore that for one night. I explore that for one night and then we come back to each other rejuvenated. Is that what you want?

This is our conversation. I'm going to say this is what I'm rebuttal in now. I would say like. That's what you proposed, right? It's something that I'm open to because I saw somebody talk about it, this therapist that I watched. She said that this is something that she practices in her marriage. And since we've been together for a long time, we've been married, I feel like, you know, it might be something that we should practice or explore. And if you're not open to it, then it's fine.

It's nothing that I need. But I'm always looking for new ways to make our relationship stronger. And if this is something that could. So for you to go out and get some DZ from somebody else is going to make our relationship stronger. Well, I think that... That's what you feel? I think that I don't know. I really don't.

So you don't know. No, I don't. I'm just proposing it. Okay, this is what I'm going to say. Sure, babe. Go explore. Is that what you want to do? Is that what you want?

You proposed it. Yeah, I think that'll be great. That'll be great. So are you going to... Are you going to tell me the day you do it? Yeah, but I think we should do it on the same night. You go out. tired that day. What if you want to do it that night? Like, go ahead. And then when I come home,

all my stuff is on the front lawn and the doors lock. When you come home, no. Your stuff won't be on the front lawn. Where will it be? It'll be still in the closet and everything. Everything will be good. I don't like how you're saying that. That don't sound good. That's how I'm going to say it. When I say it like that, are you going to feel comfortable doing it? No. Go ahead, babe. That's fine with me, whatever you like. No, I'm good.

Right, exactly. You feel me? Do you see how I said that? Do you think that your wife asking you that alone is enough to be like, I'm cool off of her? No. You can ask me that. Go ahead. You know what?

Go ahead, baby. Man, you know what? The thing about me, I'm older and everything. and there's certain levels to this like relationships that I've seen and heard. And for me to be in that situation, I just want to see how it makes you feel. So if you decide that do you want to go do that

right there off top, you told me that you want to break the loyalty between us. You want to break. everything that we built for some sexual pleasure. Is that what this is about then? Is this what this is built on? You want to go, go to the sex store and get you a dildo, the one you want.

Do you think that, okay, let's do this. No, let me ask. Oh, okay, go ahead. Like, is it that serious to break, like, we've built a home, we've built kids, we've shared these memories. Now you want to go have a sexual pleasure with another guy to see if that's...

And that's the thing about women. Here he goes. No, it is. It really is. Like, because women are more emotional than men and more just... Like, you guys need to be...

I feel like there's so much pressure on a man to make sure that his woman is good at all times. Right? Where a man can just be kicking back and not be true. and he watched football on Sundays, he go play golf, he go do his activities. Women want to be touched, felt, feel pretty, want to be complimented at every second of the goddamn day and hour. And sometimes if we ain't doing that and it's lacking, that's when women, the door opens for another man who's providing that to come in.

And it's not fair because it's like, damn, I know we got to be on our toes at all seconds, but why is that type of pressure put on? us men. Like, I've shown you so much and I've built so much with you to where it's like, that's going to get thrown out the window because you want to go get touched on by another man, like just for one night so you can come home and be happy. So what is that saying? What is that saying about what we built? So in past episode, when I said the homie, and I get it because men feel that way too.

Men do actually feel that way. And I get it. But at the end of the day, was this built around our sexual pleasures? Or was it built around the foundation of us having us such a great bond that those things don't matter? What percentage is what in a relationship? What's sex in a relationship? What's comfortability? what's feeling safe

like these are some of the words you give from girl I don't feel safe with you what's feeling safe what's feeling trustworthy like what are the percentages of each thing that are willing values now if sex is 50% and trust is 10%

feeling safe as 10% then I got the wrong woman and feeling protected and feeling secure those things are small percentages, then I got the wrong man. I got the wrong woman. You know, it go both ways. So do you think that if, let's say you're in a relationship, right? Whether you're married or not married, you're in a relationship. It's committed, obviously, and you guys decided to, like,

be faithful to each other. Let's say one person steps out, whether it's the man or the woman or whatever. And what does that mean? Go out to the club. Steps out, meaning like they step out the relationship, sex with someone else or cheat or whatever it is. They cheat in some capacity. Do you feel like the other person would you give the other person a pass to cheat back? So I'll say if my girl cheated on me. Yeah.

Well, you have to do it from your perspective. So let's say you cheated on your girl. And then I found out she cheated on me. No, no, no. You cheated on your girl. And then she caught you. Would you be like, all right, babe, you get a pass. Go do what you want to do so we can even the scoreboard.

Oh, because then that'll become a never-ending cycle. It'll just keep circling back every time. You know what I'm saying? It's just like, if I admit my mistake and I show that I'm sorry and I show you that was a major mistake in my life, like get back, don't resolve nothing. Yeah, I agree. Like, if I'm in the gang and I go kill him

and he killed my gang, we're going to go back and kill him again. And they're going to come back and kill him again. Again, it's a never-ending cycle. I 100% agree. You know what I'm saying? So where's the end game to this? We live in a generation now and I see this online so much where women are like, cheat back now. Oh, I'm cheating back.

Like I see so much content like this. Who's going to be the bigger person in all of this? What I also would say, though, about cheating back and about doing anything that someone else does to you that you consider to be not righteous, when you do it, you become just like them. me, I don't want to be like that. I don't want to be like you. I don't want to be a cheater. Or I don't want to be a liar. Or I don't want to be a gang bang and killing people.

Like, whatever it is, if I become you, then how am I going to sit here on this pedestal talking about something? You were wrong for that. Because then I just am wrong too. We're just two wrong people. I think that you have to lead by example and you have to show this person,

okay, let's change together, let's grow together. Like, I'm still here. I'm still in it. What I want to know is, like, I think you have to get to the foundation of it. You have to talk to each other. If you aren't going to heal and move through it, I'll be like, damn, what led to this?

Yeah. Because it's just like, what led to this? Why did this happen? But I think a lot of the time, and this is just speaking from experience and hearing other women speak to me, men have a hard time even saying that. So, like, you'll be like, oh, no, it was just a mistake.

It's just a mistake. I didn't mean to it. But they'll never be like, well, what led to it is because I do feel X, Y, and Z is happening. and I really need this from you. And I think if I got this from you, I will feel better within this relationship. Yes, I don't feel like it's any...

I don't feel like it's the other person's fault if someone's cheating. I don't. But I think that there are conversations that each other could have before you step out. Before I decide to be like, I need to go get this affection over here

because you're not giving it to me. You're not making me feel beautiful. You're not doing this. There should be a conversation. Babe, I don't feel beautiful in this relationship. I don't feel love. right now. I don't feel like you fuck with me, you know,

or whatever the conversation is or whatever you feel. And I think vice versa, like before you step out and before you decide to cheat, have multiple conversations. And if those things aren't changing and they're integral for you to be happy in a relationship, you should then consider uncoupling. You shouldn't consider cheating.

No, that ain't it. You're speaking on some artificial shit. You think that after having conversations for 10, 20 times about what you need to do. You ain't feeling beautiful. You ain't feeling sexy. Listen to what you're saying. I'm using that as a surface level example.

It's a great example. It's a great example because that's what happens. But what I'm saying, just to be very clear, is I'm not saying that's the reason. I'm saying if there are reasons, if there are things that you need in a relationship, you need it. There are non-negotiables that people need to feel good in a relationship. If your partner cannot give that to you and you've given them of, plethora of opportunities to show up in that way, then yes, I think you should decide to uncouple with that person

because they cannot be with you. You needed a house. You needed that, right? You got that? I think that's not right. Babe, you got food every night. You got that? So let me say, let me tell you this.

Oh, hey, babe, you got a car? Let me tell you this. I'm at a restaurant and I'm like, hey, can I get the Alfredo? And they're like, yeah, I got you. And they bring me some fish. And I'm like, sir, I didn't ask for that. Well, I just gave you the most expensive fish on the thing. I just wanted some Alfredo.

Well, this is the best fish that they got. You're ungrateful? I really just want some Alfredo. That's really what I need. Well, I gave you this. Why aren't you grateful to have this? Because that's not what I want. I want this.

But the end of the day, you were hungry and you got food. No, at the end of the day. You got food. Yeah, but I can- Satisfied the hunger. Yeah, but that's not. See, I grew up like whatever moms had that day. If I didn't want that, I had to eat that because I was hungry.

But that's an example. But what I'm telling you is people oftentimes, they'll say, you'll ask for something simple and they'll give you all these other things you didn't ask for, but they neglect the one thing that you really fucking want. And then they're like, you're ungrateful. I did this. I did that. I just wanted you to give me head every night before I went to bed.

I didn't need all this other stuff. Or I just wanted da-da-da-da. Like, it's simple things. women do that to men all the time. Men do that to women all the time. We're neglecting the main thing that someone is asking and then you're giving them other shit that you want to give. And then you're being mad at them for being ungrateful.

What I wanted to give, I gave them what I had to give. Yeah, but you can, you have to give certain things. I gave them what I had to give. Listen, I'm going to tell you this. I'm going to tell you this. There's things in a relationship that you compromise, period point blank. You may not like going to the movies, but your partner's obsessed with cinematic movies.

So I go to the movies which you want to month. You just contradicting everything you're saying right now. It's not. It is. You're saying you just go to the movies but you didn't want to. You just got fish, but you didn't want to. I'm saying for your partner. Okay.

I'm saying for your partner, sometimes you do things you don't necessarily love or want to do, but you do it because they are asking for that. So it's much easier for you to give me Alfredo than to cook this fish, kill it, cook it, and do all this. Just give me that. Well, what if I don't have that?

You had that because I wouldn't ask you if you didn't. You have it in you to do that. Because a lot of the time a woman's like, babe, I just need a little more reassurance. Oh, I can't give it to you. When it's like, just give me to me. You know what I mean? Or, babe, I just need our kids. I need you to help with the kids and take the kids to school every day for just a week.

Or I need you to watch them to this or whatever the scenarios are. And sometimes the partner and it's not just women. And women do this to men too. They don't do the little things. And I think that that's what causes the bigger issue. I think what causes the biggest issue is that women overlook the little things that men do. I could see that. So when the big things come and they don't deliver on the big things,

it's because they overlook the little thing. But I think that the men do the big things and they don't often do the little things, though. I think the little things are what women want more and they ask more for men. Men are like, I'm doing the big things, bitch. I got you a house. I got you a car. I've provided for you. What are the little things?

Like, I don't need to do all of that. I think men overlook- Relationships are so much of ebb and flow because when you give the big things and the major categories that the women want when you get that, now it's the little things. Now I don't get that. But it's like, damn, you want it the big things.

Now you want the little things. And I don't do, I give you the little things, but all the little things. But then it's like, damn, what else I can do? I do what you're saying and I think that relationships are hard and I think that you have to be like super prepared to be in a relationship because it does take work and it does take effort and it does take feeling like you know

you might not be feeling it and now you're like damn I got to go make this person feel good and show up for them and I don't feel like that because I don't feel good today you know there's moments but I think you have to offer each other grace in those time periods because like you said it is an ebb and flow and there's certain times where I might be on 80% but you're only on 20%. So that's when I put the battery in your back

and help charge you up. And then when it's time for me to be charged up, I want to be charged up. But I think that oftentimes in a relationship, one person's doing the charging, and then when it's time for the other person to get charged up, it's like, oh, I don't have it. You know, and that's for men or women.

I'm not saying that this is what men are doing. Let me ask you. Is there more pressure on the woman or the man in the relationship? I don't know the answer to that. You do know the answer to that. You just don't want to say. No, I could see why you would say the man

Because I feel like the man has to provide And he has to do this This is a clear answer It's always more pressure on the man Because the man always has to reassure He has to provide He has to stay 10 toes up Because it's thousands of men getting at his female

It's more men getting at females Than females are getting at men I agree with that Like Depending on who you are It don't matter who you are don't matter the female that you with

it's more men like most of the time come on females is getting God at all day every day men ain't getting just getting got at like like but we live in the DM world now and we live in it going to the grocery store getting God at like that like women are walking through the park like like

niggas are shooting a shot women ain't shooting a shot as much as men or like you know what I'm saying yeah I agree with you So it's more pressure on the man. So like, then why don't men just show up then? Because they'll say all this, but men will still be like not doing what they're supposed to do, not reassuring their girl. Like, you know what I said.

It's hard girl to show up every night. Like, I was a superstar in the league and that's 82 games. You think I'm going to show up every night. I'm going to have some bad games. Yeah, but I'm saying. And I'm still a superstar. I'm still cracking. I'm still an all-star.

I'm still one of the great. Like, I'm going to have some bad nights. Yeah, I agree with that. But the bad can't outweigh the good. That's the biggest thing. I'm going to have way more good nights than bad. It has to be. But then bad nights get so amplified to where women are ready to move on.

But I just gave you 60 good games out of 82, but you're like, God damn, this nigga can't get you. I think women are much more. You feel me? I think women are so complex and hard to satisfy. Like, God, damn. Way more. the man. Yep, coach?

God damn. Like, I got you. Shit. I got you 65 good games out of 82. Damn. Because I had a bad, this game, you all me now? I got to go run. Like, get to get out of it.

God damn. Give me a break. Yeah, well, women are more complex and a lot more sensitive. That's what I'm saying. It is. It's a lot to please the women because men just need, Well. Look it, men need like three, four things. Women need to feel good, to feel reassured, to feel satisfied, to feel sexually satisfied, to feel emotionally satisfied, to feel provided

for it, to feel invested in. Like, it's a lot more that a woman does need. And I will say that. And I think women's emotions are complex. It's not our fault, though. Even if you're emotionally regulated, like we're super hormonal because we're built to carry babies and birth. All of you guys in this room was birthed from a woman's vagina. So at the end of the day, we are, not built to be emotionally stable. Like we're really not emotionally stable. And I could admit that. No matter how much therapy of work you do,

we're very like all over the place crazy. We are. We're genuinely crazy. And I think that it takes a lot to please a woman. It really, really does. So I understand that. I not only have a job that I go to work in. I got a number of jobs.

So now my other job is pleasing my woman, which is more hours than my actual job. Like saying a man that go to drive eight hours And now he got to come on please woman For the next four hours He came asleep Didn't he only get six hours of sleep That's a tough job

But men aren't even doing that Men are coming home turning on the TV Sitting there What's up baby good? Like man ain't doing all of that Okay I don't know no man that are doing all of that There are some

But I'm not gonna say there's none But I'm sure there's some But most men are coming home from work turning on the TV kicking up. Like, what's up, baby, you good? Sometimes a man needs that, like, that, what's that period? Like, after, just, I need to just...

Decompressed, decompress. You need to decompress, doll. You don't even ask him all day was. You're so worried about the attention to you. Girls, women, are need that attention so much because now in the social media, you're getting attention all day when I'm at work. And then I come out and give you the attention

because I need to decompress. That's blowing you right now. And so now I'm at a disadvantage now because now my girl is over here getting this attention that I'm during my decompression time. Like, I did. I gave one hour of decompression. You didn't gave smiley faces to like 10 niggins on the Instagram. There ain't nobody doing all of that. But I'm saying, but you getting the smiley faces.

Yeah, you're getting it. You're getting all of that. And you're loving that. No, I think after a while it's not nothing to love. Like, it's just, it's really not that deep. You just be looking like these, eat thirsty. It's not that deep. I really think that men think that that holds more weight than it does.

Listen, we know that men will damn near fuck a lot of things, okay? A ham and cheese sandwich if they had to. So we're not that impressed by a man wanting us physically. Like, that's not doing nothing. Like, okay. See, men want anything. That is doing something, though. That's more than our relationship.

I don't think so. I don't think it's given that. I think it's like, whatever. Like, a man, no. But anyways, thank you guys so much for joining another episode of The Truth After Dark. Paul was spinning some bars today. I got to stand up for us.

He's standing up and he was saying some stuff today, for sure. I got to defend us. Yeah, he did his big one. In a good way, though. It was good and positive way. You know, I'm just saying what we go through, too. Yeah, I agree. I agree with you.

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