Club Shay Shay - Natalie Nunn’s Value Of A Baddie, Kevin Gates Sucking Toes, & The Power Of Good Looks!

Episode Date: January 12, 2026

Truth After Dark family, we’re back for the 2nd episode of the year! Paul & Azar discuss the hottest latest topics like Kevin Gates sucking toes, Natalie Nunn’s value of a baddie, J Lo’s belief that women multiply everything they touch, dating in your 40s and so much more! This episode has a lot of gems so pull out your notebooks and get ready for another spicy episode of Truth After Dark! #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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he could be no one famous or nothing. Like, I've been in a relationship with selling no one. And then a woman will start being like, well, what is he doing to her? He either putting it down crazy. Or he's breaking her off crazy. And either one of those things, I'm trying to find out. You were just with him for the cheese. No, I liked him.

I wasn't with him. I liked him. He's not ugly. He wasn't ugly, but he was shorter than me. So he was... He was... He was... He wasn't shorter than me.

My thing is to really figure out who a girl really is. You got to be a little edgy sometimes. What is a little edgy? Jailo said that women multiply

whatever you give them. So like, gross. She's basically saying like women... False. False. If I give her $100, she's going to multiply that? I see that you got your toes in. Toes is in.

Okay, okay, okay. Man, too many people was in the comments like, I'll suck on nose. I was like, let me put them up. Let me put them up. Right. They was talking about they would suck on them up toes. Yeah, I was like, let me put these up. This is to taking over the game.

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Hello, beautiful people. Welcome to another episode, the second episode of the new year of The Truth After Dark with myself, Azar Faraday. Your boy, Paul Pierce, aka A. A.K.A. The Truth, AKA 6 1 in the league today, aka what you want to do. Period. Okay. I love that. How are you feeling this evening? Happy 2026. I see that you got your toes in. toes is in. Okay, okay, okay. Man, too many people was in the comments like, I'll suck on those.

I was like, let me put them up. Let me put them up. Right. They was talking about they would suck on them toes. Yeah, I was like, let me put these. Which actually, we're going to get right into this. Kevin Gates. He actually has a girl or like a wife.

I don't know, he calls her wife. And he said that if you are not sucking your girl's toes, honey, if you're not rubbing her feet and eating that booty, then you don't love her. What you mean booty? Yeah. He said. Like the actual booty?

Booty, yeah. Okay, run down the lineup. He said you have to do if this is your girl. He said, and while he's doing it, he's rubbing his girl's feet and licking her toes while he's saying this on the Instagram. How long y'all been together? Well, I don't know how long they've been together. No, that's real, though.

On the real, when I think about it, Like, yeah, I think that goes both ways. I'm probably, like, if that's your one, you're going to do it as a man and a female, I think. As a female, you're going to be, what, sucking the toes and eating, like, all that? The booty? Yeah. That's my girl, yeah. I got to go to her, I guess.

Wait a minute, this is crazy. I'm trying to think those kids. This is wild. He said that if he's not doing that, he doesn't love you and he's a little boy. He said his post-gymail, his post-gymill is getting that protein and eating that booty. So he threw peanut butter on it. He put that protein, peanut butter on that thing. He put that meat, man.

He's talking that thing. Hey, you know what, Doug, Kevin Gates, I ain't mad at you, man. To eat her known, you know, if that's, but they, like, she might like that. So she might be like, yeah, I need that. Period. And he said this, too, on the thing. He said, clock it. Yeah.

That's what's going to make your girl happy because if you're with somebody and you're not willing to do something that your girl like, you don't really like her. Period. He also said that if his queen cheats on him, it's his fault because he wasn't doing what he needed to do to keep her happy, fed, and right.

And he said a lot of men are not on that level. I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that. If she cheat on me, that's not my fault because we're going to have some discussions and if you come back to me and say I cheat like what? So if I'm gone for two weeks and you cheat on me, that's my fault because I had, because I had some work because I had to go make this cheese.

What kind of work did you have? I had to go get this bread. So that's my fault that I went and got the bread because I'm spending the bread on you. So how is that? My fault. I don't even think he meant it like that. I just think he meant it. No, no.

But I'm not agreeing on that. People cheat because they want to cheat. It ain't because somebody else. That's just an excuse. People cheat because they want to cheat. It's like, damn, I'm curious. Damn, let me see what's going on. Like, damn, you know, the temptations is real, though.

We got more temptations today than ever. Women and people are more beautiful now than ever. So that's on you. You can't blame that on. I'm not putting that on me. If my significant other cheats, that's not my fault. We should have already broke up. If you feel that way, come tell me.

Like, you know, I ain't really feeling this. You know, it's a dark cloud in the air amongst us. Not the dark cloud. You know, like the rain and the storm. Like, you got to say relationships. You got to go through rain and storm. You can't, first sign of fog. You can't be all creeping.

No, I ain't going with that with Kev. Come on. I know you got your philosophy, though, and you got your program and how you activate, maneuver, and do all your system. but I'm not rolling with that one because it's dark times in every relationship. If you ask all

the OGs who've been with somebody 20 plus years, it's going to be some ups and down. And it might be some cheating and all of that. But it ain't, it ain't, I'm never putting that on me. That's all an action. That's a choice. Okay. So Carlos Miller, he recently said that if.

Our boy Carlos, we got to. get Carlos back. Right. I love Carlos down. No, he's cracking, for sure. He said that... You love him down? I mean, I'm saying.

Like, he's cool. I'm saying. Not in that way. Hey, like, ask, what? And I'm just saying. No. Carlos, no. Like, that's just my...

Like, he was great on the episode. We did numbers with him. Like, he said some real gems and some real stuff. Like, and he always spits them jams, low-key. But he said that you get treated with more respect and more opportunities when your lady is attractive. Your woman is a reflection of you. All right.

Carlos, that is not true. You get more respect? No. More job opportunities. More like, they're saying like when your woman walks in and she's looking good, like men look like, okay. You got the job. No, that's not.

Not even just you got the job. He's saying like you just get more respected, period. Let me see. get more respected if you're a woman looking good. You know what? When I think about it to a certain degree, you get more hate, I'll tell you that, because a lot of times you look at a girl

and you look at a guy and you look at them like, that don't match up. You know what I'm saying? Sometimes you see some of these cats up there, like, how do you get her? And that's just hate. That's just hate. Then they be like, that's just the cheese.

They think it's the money. They think it's the money. But, you know. They think it's like. But that's the thing that is equated with respect because they think is something you have clearly to get this woman. And a lot of the times it's just that the woman is delusional because he don't even have nothing for real.

But a lot, like a man. Man, hold on. Let me think about that. That's a good one, Carla. Let me see. Do you get respect based on your woman's look? Man, I don't know if I'm rocking with that because beauty is in the eye of the behind. hold her because if my woman

look coming here and she got banging cakes and body looking right and she just kind of mid but she got a nice suit on and she demand respect and she's a powerful voice and you don't know what's up and

that could be a man you don't know she might be the CEO at Bank of Englewood or something you know like you don't know like it don't matter I can't go off your look because a man is going to go with his woman and hold her hand no matter if this small woman, I don't care what she looked like,

this small woman. But we're not talking about you and how you feel. We're talking about how the others perceive it. If a man comes in with a 500-pound woman or a woman that looks dog, people are going to be like, oh, he can't, what is that? Like, they're not going to put you on a pedestal because of that. But if you come in with a woman that's looking good,

smelling good, catching a vibe, they're going to be like, oh, shoot, he really has a woman. and this is his girl and she's here and she's like respecting him and like... Okay, so let's say it's not a famous person, right? And this is a dude walking here, boom, boom, he got a suit on, but he got a bad one with him.

I think guys are going to be like, damn, what did he do? Who is that? 100%. You know what I'm saying? We see a cat's like, how he pulled her, he must be somebody. Yes. And you know what else happens?

Women also are like, I've been in this, I've been like that, like a woman will start to look at the man and be like he could be no one famous or nothing. Like I've been in a relationship with someone, no one. And then a woman started being like, well, what is he doing to her? He either putting it down crazy.

Or he's breaking her off crazy. And either one of those things, I'm trying to find out. And women will start messing with a man off of the fact that he has a bad one. That's always a fact. That always happens. Does that make him get respect, though? I think that it makes him be more like sought after. as a man for sure.

I think the women get more respect than the man in that situation. Oh, you're saying like the women want the man more? No, no, no. Like what Carlos is saying, a man gets more respected by a beautiful woman. I think the beautiful woman being with that man gets more respect than that man gets respect because they like, oh, okay, she with him, he must be popping then. So other girls is looking like, damn, who is this chick? No, that's not true.

It doesn't work like that. No, because if the woman's wood of random and then it starts to look like they might, some woman might pump that man and be like there must be something I want to find out. But then it also kind of looks like you look goofy with this man. And a lot of people say, yeah, and I've been in that type of situation before where it's like, where someone had told me what type of you when I was out and they're like. What's you doing with him? Yeah, like what is this?

But they didn't know him or what he actually did and how he was cracking. But like he's no, like, you don't. So you were just with him for the chance. No, I liked him. I wasn't with him for cheese. I liked him. He's not ugly. He wasn't ugly, but he was shorter than me.

So he was either with him for the cheese or the D's. He was like a little taller than me right here. So people would be like, what? Like, mind you, like all of my exes outside of him been like six five, six eight, like tall. So like he was just the first. You got the NBA cats. No, they would, no. It wasn't NBA, but they've been tall.

Yeah. My ex, my last ex is two, six. Like seven, yeah. But like, I feel like, yeah. That's great. He was six, seven. But they would just be like, you look crazy when I was with the guy that was like this much taller than me. And they were just like always saying, and then the girls would be on them.

Because they're like, what's going on? He's something. He's cracking. Kind of find out, girl. You can have them. Please take them. Anyways, okay, moving on. Moving on.

So Cam Newton and. Natalie Nunn, they had this interview as you've seen, and it's like all over the internet or whatever. That's an interview was going crazy. So I watched a lot of it. And so she, he had asked her, what does a baddie bring to the table? When somebody say, like, I don't see batty in the dictionary, right? Yeah. So when he asked her, what does a baddie bring to the table? This is her interpretation of it.

So why is he question? He can't, he can't question what she feel like as a. baddy because her platform is baddies. So this is her outlook on what baddies is. So like, like you might have a definition of what you think of baddie is, right? And you might ask 10 different girls, you might get 10 different answers. And I saw that. And it was just like, well, everybody got a different definition of what a baddie is. Like my definition of a baddie is different. So what does she say? So she basically said after a while, she said that A baddie, I guess, is somebody who, you, like, he may make more money than you, but she's a boss.

Okay. She's the boss and she has more followers and more popularity, right? That's what she ended up saying? Because it wasn't, the question isn't, what is a baddie? Okay, so what the question is? The question is, what value does a baddie bring to a man? So that's her definition of the value. Because she said, oh, the baddies that I'm bringing that I got on my show.

Are we cracking? They bring in following, which bringing attention to you. They're bringing a bag, which you're talking to all these holes who don't have bags. You're bringing. No, she's not saying that they have the money. She's saying you have the money, but she might be a boss and just have more followers. Well, if you're a boss, you got some money. She's saying that the man has more money.

She said the man has more money, but you can have more followers and more popularity. That's what a baddies bring to the table. So the conflicting issue is people are like, men and Cam and everyone on there is like, why is that like, what? Like, why is that bringing value to a relationship? Like, there should, and I even saw like, I don't think, I think it might have been Carlos, but I don't want to miss quote. But some, like, commented, like, what is the actual, like, tangible value that you're bringing to a man? Like, you're telling me that you, because when you ask a woman what their value is. You can't say tangible values.

You can't categorize it. that you can't say I have to being something that we all can see because like when you're bringing support I can't see support no and I get that I agree with you but they're saying like and I don't disagree with either one I don't have any side so I'm just talking about what the people are talking about like I don't have a side like I like Natalie none I think she's she's a boss she's getting her money she's getting her back she's married she's cool she's fly like I have no issue with Natalie I think she's cracking what I'm just saying what the people are saying is that basically they're like what are you talking about like when you bring value as a woman

popularity and followers is like the lowest thing on the list. No it's not it's not though because now what I'm seeing I'm seeing people hook up because of notoriety oh let's be a power couple that's bringing value so like if this streamer and this uh influencer get together they do that because it's bringing value to them. Oh, she can bring value to me. That's how people are hooking up these days. Like, let me go over here. Like, I'm seeing more and more cats in the NBA get with

celebrities. And I don't know if it's genuine. Maybe it is. Maybe it's not. They both bringing value to each other, though, and it might be a business move because they're seeing like, look, Jay and Beyonce did it, and Will Smith and Jada did it. Now you're seeing Clay Thompson and Megan Estabio.

They might bring value to each other because of they not a right. popularity and they both got bags. Right. But you're seeing more and more now on a on a level to where it's people that's like influencers, streamers. And they're like, damn, if I hook up with this other

streamer or influencer, it can bring value. And people are like hooking up because of that. And so that's why she can say like, yeah, my baddies, they're all over TV. Like we follow closely the show Love Island, right? And so now the people, People from Love Island, they got value on being with them.

So like certain ones. But we're talking about real relationships. We're not talking about, like, relationships. We're talking about relationships that you can grow from and that you can actually be married with. None of those relationships lasted. But they can grow into that. Yeah, but none of them lasted. It's not one of them.

So what I'm saying is a lot of relationships are saying, what are this long, like substantial value. But I get it. I feel what you're saying. I feel like... I understood exactly what she was saying. Yeah, I get... Yeah, I can see what she was saying. And that's not what I'm looking for,

but I understood exactly... Yeah, I get what she's saying. When she's saying, what's her baddie and what do they bring to the table? I clearly understood it, whereas when you come from old school values, you know, Cam is a little older. So he might have a little different type of what values that he, like looking for.

Whereas, like, when you start looking at this new generation, the values are really way different. I think the controversial part of it were people felt her answer prioritized like clout and power over traditional relationship. That's a cloud now. Over traditional relationship values. So I think that that was the issue

that people were facing. They're like, okay, but that doesn't seem real. You know, so a lot of people are like, if I want looking for a real relationship and I'm getting with you because you're Paul Pierce, like I'm in it for the wrong real. reasons, you know? So like what, and I think that that's was, that's why they were like having that struggle back and forth because. Yeah, he's like, I'm what? Like, because he's thinking

traditional and she's thinking like this day and age. And she even said like, I don't care about followers. Stuff with the younger generation does. She even said that. So I feel like, you know, people are giving her a hard time and they don't like, you know, she's saying what she's speaking to a young generation of what these people are caring about now. And that's real. Yep. Now to keep doing what you're doing, I clearly understood what you was talking about. Yeah.

Man, you should come on the truth out of the start. We could talk about it. Right, right, right. We would love to have you on. Okay, we love you down. Yeah. Okay, so speaking of that,

Cam Newton was on Bishop T.D. Jakes. He's been on. Yeah, this is another Cam, damn. So because we're on him. So he basically said he wants to make sure his woman is really with him for better or worse. Like, he is. going to test you or whatever the case is similar. He didn't really say cheat on your girl to test her, but he's like, now, like, I need to really

know, are you with me for better or for worse? Like, because you know me at when I'm good. So you know it could be cracking and we could be doing this, but are we going to be good when it's not good? Yeah, you know, everything is always fun in games when it's bliss and it's new and you don't go through anything. But, like, you got a really. go through something to figure out who that person is and what this relationship is.

Yeah. That's anything you go through in life, business, relationships, you got to really go through something. And, you know, a lot of people made, didn't understand me. And I didn't really, it was taken out of contents when I said, you got to cheat on your girl to really know if she didn't want. Nah, you ain't got to do that. but there's certain things that has to happen that you have to go through that's not comfortable

in a relationship to understand is this built on sand or cement? You know what I'm saying? That's real. We got to figure that out. And I don't want to intentionally do it. Right. But so how do we get to that part? How do we get to that?

and as your celebrity as a guy like cam who's made a lot of money who's been famous who's still doing this thing is always that being caught in a matrix to like damn am i in love am i infatuated am i is this is this a thing is it real there's so many questions that has to be answered when guys are in that position and girls too so yeah my thing is to really you to really figure out who a girl really is you got to be a little edgy sometimes with them.

What is a little edgy? You got to, I don't know. I don't know what that is. I don't know what that is entails. Maybe you got to lie to her about something. Like maybe you got to come home and like, babe, I slept with another girl and you know, I feel bad.

Trauma on somebody for no reason so you could feel better. Listen. Yeah. Trauma builds character. Trauma builds. Yeah, but that's not your job. We're not going back now. No, listen. No, no, listen, though.

When I break a bone in my arm, I've broken bones. You know what happens? It grows back stronger. You know that? Did you know that? Oh, because I broke a bone and it feels weak. It feels weak. It feels weak.

If you get the x-ray before, when you have x-rays, and then you break a bone, I broken this finger. So they'll show. the bone healing and coming back and it grew an extra layer of bone. The finger looks pretty messed up to me. No, no, no, no. But it grows back stronger. Like, seriously, like when you get a cut, the skin comes back and it's a stronger layer of

skin. It may not look as good. You know, it might be darker, black and a blemish, but the skin is tougher. And that's because it went through something. I think that pain is weakness leaving the body. and I do believe that you go through things that make you stronger, but I don't believe that there's any person on this earth that should decide to inflict pain, hurt, or harm onto anybody purposely.

No, not inflict. You're saying physical. No, I'm not talking about physical. I'm talking about emotional trauma can be worse than physical trauma because I can literally get like a cut and it can hurt, but someone putting something into my mind can last for a very long time, cause anxiety, lose sleep, lose trust. Like at the end of the day,

that hurts. And I feel like there's so many ways, including let's see what happens when you actually get sick. Let's see what happens when you go through a storm in your life. You're talking about common things, though. As a boyfriend, I'm supposed to be by you when we get sick. That's easy. No, no, but there's a lot of people. Let me tell you something.

My grandmother died and my nephew's girlfriend went to Puerto Rico on a girl's trip, and she was the matriarch of our family. Like, and he was taking care of her full-blown, spending bread on her doing this. There is ways you can tell if a woman is. rocking with you or not. No, because people handle trauma differently. Some people cry. Some people smile so you don't see them cry.

Some people do different things when you go through trauma that they don't want to show it. Because somebody goes through something, that don't mean I'm supposed to suck and cry. People handle it different. So don't use that. I mean, what do you mean? As a reflection of hurt. Because maybe, because like when my mom passed, I flew to Australia to, like, it, like, I could have sat in my house and mourned.

But you're hearing me wrong. The girlfriend who he wanted by his side went to Puerto Rico on a girl's trip. Oh, the girlfriend. Yes, not him. There's someone he was taken care of and putting up in a house and buying this and buying that and was there for 24-7. She was getting roses because she was on her period. And she was gone.

And he left her. So there's going to be things like that that happened that are going to help you decide what's going on. Like if I'm with somebody and something happens to my. parents, like that's going to help me know, do you really rock with me? When you go through dark periods of time, someone passes away close to you. Something happens with your kids. Like, not everything's going to be beautiful and pretty. Trust me, we know, I can't name a year why I didn't go through something.

So you're going to go through something. And when you do, you're going to see if that woman is really there for you or not. So stop trying to figure it out on your own. God going to show you always, every single time. Moving forward. Moving forward. Jailo said that women multiply whatever you give them. So like gross, she's basically saying like women are false.

False. If I give her $100, she's going to multiply that? No, but she said, she don't spend that shit. She said, Women multiply everything. She said, she said groceries become meals, a house becomes a home, a baby. You give her a little, she gets a baby. And if you give a woman,

grief, then you get a thousand headaches. She said that men do a lot, but women do more. No, no, and no. Women do not multiply things. They subtract things. Oh my God, wow. They take our heart. They take our feelings.

And then we marry them and divorces, they take half. So how is that multiplying something? Sounds like you've been with the wrong woman. That ain't got nothing to do with me. This is facts. This is data. This is not. I feel like a lot of people have been in the wrong relationships.

I feel like if you're in the right relationships, you guys multiply and help each other grow. Not always, not every day, not every hundred dollars. But in the long run, when you assess it. When Jeff Bezos divorced, what happened? She took. We're talking about people choose the wrong. They have their pickers off. And I think that that's what's happening.

We have to understand about life. There's all, like, marriage is never forever for the most part. Nobody gets married and that's the happily ever end. That's it. You go to the grave with that person. Most likely if you get married once, you're going to divorce. What's the statistics?

The statistics on that, right? So at the end of the day, there's going to be some giving, but there's going to be a lot of more taken than giving. Okay. Okay. So in Ghana, the police issued a warning that deliberately withholding sex could be considered emotional abuse under the domestic violence act and could carry penalties if proven in court.

The Ghana police put out a statement said that persistent refusal of sex within marriage could legally fall under emotional abuse if it causes harm to the spouse. If proven in court, it will be considered a part of a domestic abuse case and potentially carry penalties including jail tie. I'm wrong. I'm encouraging all you black men in America. It's time for us to move back to the motherland. It's time for us to go to Ghana because the laws are made for us.

Whereas the laws in America don't really accommodate us. But it's time. It's time. You know what I'll say to this? I think this is wild. But I will say that I feel like what's frustrating and I'm not a man so I don't know. But men spend all day doing things that they don't want to do, including going to the gym, lifting weights, working.

No, men want to do that. Okay. Name some things that men don't want to do. I feel like there's a lot of things that men have to sacrifice that they don't want to do. So I feel like if a woman is like, I don't want to feel like having sex, a man becomes frustrated because it's like, girl, I didn't want to build this house, provide his family, go to work every day and be tired, come home, take care of your ass, and now you just don't want to have sex. This is blowing me. You know what I mean? So it's like I feel like that's how I kind of look at it.

Like a man is sacrificing so much and doing so many things. things just to get rejected because, like, we're not in the mood at that moment. You know what I mean? And it's like men do a lot of things. They're not in the mood for all the time. What if a man is laying there and the girl, you know, try to get it cracking and he reject her? That might be, that's a mess of a woman, though, way more than less a man.

Yeah, because it's not normal for a man to do that, though. It's normal for a woman to do that. Unfortunately, it is. Let's normalize us denying the women there. let's normalize us when they lean over just be like, no, I'm good right now watching this show. Let's normalize that, man can't resist that urge. They can't resist that urge.

Because once she starts doing some things, they're going to be like, whatever. When we start doing some things, why you can't be like, ooh, like, damn. Come on, it should go both ways. I agree. I personally, I get it cracking. But at the end of the day, it is what it is. So I think Ghana, that's crazy.

It's time for us to move. I go to jail because I decided I wasn't the move for sex. Yeah, put her in jail. This is great. No, that ain't crazy. That's real. Oh, that's crazy. That's real.

So anyways, this is the Daily Fantasy segment brought to you by Price Picks, where you can win real cash by playing Daily Fantasy. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. So today for this segment, we're going to play a little game. And I'm going to ask you some questions, and you're going to tell me. what you would rather deal with. Okay? So there's going to be two options and you pick one and tell us why.

Okay. Okay. So... What about either option? You got to pick one. All right, all right. Okay. So number one,

a partner who is more honest but blunt and sometimes hurts your feelings or a partner who is less honest but more loving and avoids conflicts. I think I'm going to go with the person who is more loving.

Than honest. And avoids conflict. Because I feel like You're going to lie to me at some point about something It ain't even going to be a big deal You just don't want to have an argument over something Okay It might be a friend that I don't like

But you hung out with her And then you say it's a different friend You know, it's just like little stuff like that Like Ooh, those lies start to add up though I don't like those lies I like the love though I need that love

So you don't think you could have love with an honest partner that's blunt. All right, say it again, the option. So a partner who's more honest, but blunt. So like, baby, I don't like that. And sometimes hurts your feelings or a partner who is less honest but more loving and avoids conflict.

More loving than avoid conflict. I don't like conflict. You can be blunt. My feelings don't never hardly get hurt. It's hard to hurt my feelings. Then what, then what do you? That doesn't make sense. So that means you would be...

So I could deal with that, huh? Then you could deal with someone being honest and blunt. But then if somebody blunt who trying to hurt your feelings, then I... It's not saying... This is the example that I would think. Like, I could tell you like, baby, I like when you do this. I don't like how this feels when you're doing that. I don't love it.

Or I could just be like, I'm not going to say anything because I feel bad. I'm just going to deal with it and I'm just going to be more loving and pretend that I like it. The first one just sounds more irritating. Give me the second one. So you rather someone not tell you how they feel about certain things? to avoid hurting your feelings. Yeah, you're gonna do that anyway. But then you never get to a place in a relationship

where you can grow. I think- We'll figure it out. We'll throw some about on that. I think that my approach is I'm less honest, but more loving. Like, I'm not lying about anything, but I do, like, I don't wanna hurt anyone's feeling.

So if I didn't like something, I probably wouldn't say it. But I feel like I wanna work on being more like, I like it this way or I like it this and that. I feel like that gets you to a better place in a relationship, because I want someone to tell me. I want someone to tell me. me like be honest what's up you don't like this let me do it the way you like and then it nips it in the bud tonight like you know okay so the next one is a partner who makes more money but has less

time for you or a partner that makes less money but has more time and is more emotionally available to travel and do the things that you want to do that's easy number two more time more available to travel I mean like for me as a man I'm not even like focused on a female's money like that. You know, regardless if I played in the NBA, if I was just a working man, I feel like it's a man's duty to take care of his woman. So, you know, if she had money and all that, but I need, I need that care package in the second, in the second package.

Because you're going to uplift me, but just because your attitude and more loving and more, what you say? Just like emotional. There's more emotion. There's more emotion. I'm like, you're going to cap my gas up when my gas is low. Yeah. I need that.

That's going to uplift. So I'm going to roll with that. Okay. What about you? I'm going to say, I like to have quality time, but obviously, like, it's hard because I'm a woman. So I don't know. You want them, nigga, with more money, for sure. I mean, it's, but then I wouldn't want a man that has less time for you.

But that's a lot. You got to pick one or the other. I don't know. I can't pick this. I'm moving on. What you want? What you want? His money or his time?

I want his time. I'm not going to lie. But, but, like, it's hard because then we just go have a whole bunch of time, but we just broke. Like, I'm confused. When we do it. Yeah, laid up on the couch all day. I've been doing nothing.

Just laid up. Struggling to make the bills. I'm not dealing with that. No, but that's crazy, though, too. So I don't know. It's hard being a woman because as a woman, you're like, well, like, there's sacrifices you make. That's why the ladies say, like, now you have to get you an older man that's already

did what he needed to do and y'all could hit it my whole brother told me this yesterday so i guess that's what they're doing now but anyway so you said just the other day that older girls is going after the young they are but this is not an older person that told me this this is she's not younger but she's just like i'm not talking about 40 plus she's under 40 and she was saying this you know what i mean yeah she's cooked i guess anyways you run um the next one is a partner who is more dominant and decisive but less emotionally expressive. So like knows what you want, knows how to make decisions very clear, or a partner who's way more emotional but less like structured and assertive.

Start over again. Oh my gosh. A person who's more like decisive and what they want dominant, but they are less expressive emotionally. So masculine versus what? Versus a partner who's way more emotional. Like, babe, do you love me? What are you doing? But less structured and assertive, but like not

dominant. Like, you know, just wants you to make all the decisions. Doesn't know what they want to eat. What gives you more femininity, I'm taking number two. Because the sound, the first one is a little more masculine than I like. That's too assertive. You're going to say something in front of the homies one day and we're going to argue it's going to be crazy. Okay. Got you.

Their type of women always. I didn't see them type of women. Be all in front of you, your girls, and you and your homies and then she shoots something to him in front of all of them. That's foul. Like what? I'm curious to know what that would look like. Like, man, I didn't see it.

What would they say? What was sad? Man, like a dude, say you hear you a cat with your homies and it's your girl. and she's just chilling and it's your homies and say it's just her she might be like say she walked in like

like nigga why you want to ask for my calls but I'm right here or something like you didn't ask my text the other day I had to go upside your head like in front of I'm like what why you speaking all that and you can tell that he wasn't

you know he wasn't a man in the relationship you know let's you guys got to understand see you can always tell in a relationship because not always all the guys wear the, the boxers. Some guys wear the lingerie. The lingerie?

Yeah, I call it lingerie. And some of the girls wear the boxers. And it's noticeable. And, you know, it's okay. Some guys need that. Yeah. Not me, but. I don't like that.

I personally would go for a partner who's more dominant and decisive because I'm going to be the one that's like, I don't know. What do you want? Like, I don't know. want to do that. So, okay, so just two more, and then we're going to move, we're going to finish this segment, but a partner who challenges you and pushes you to grow, but obviously that causes more friction because they're challenging you and they're pushing you to your limits

or a partner who just supports you emotionally, but doesn't push you to grow. That's a good one. A partner who pushes you to grow. I like that. A partner who pushes you to grow, because that can mean in so many different things of spiritually, emotionally, financially. You know, you can grow in so many different areas in your life. And, you know, when you got a partner that's down for that, I think that's pretty cool.

You know, like if you got somebody that's encouraging or just deal with bad habits or, you know, do more of this and it notices it, I'm with that. Okay. I think the same. I would like to have somebody that pushes me to grow for sure. I'm very like I need to learn a lot of things.

thinks and I like to grow from just learning from someone who can teach me. Yeah, I don't always think I'm the smartest dude in the room. Just like when, even like when you say words, I don't know. I don't be afraid to say what that means. You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't want to come across like I know everything. I ain't like that. For sure. Okay, last one. A partner who has more boundaries and independence, but they're less emotionally attached to you. Or get them out of here. I don't even have to hear the other one. A partner who's emotionally attached, like very attached to you but has less independence. Yeah, I like the second one.

Less independence is crazy. They need you for everything. Yeah, that's cool, but I can teach you independence. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? You got more room to grow. Okay, cool. So I can roll with that.

You can rock with that. Yeah, I can rock with that. Okay, this is the last one. I thought we had two more. This is last one. All right. A partner who communicates everything immediately, even if it causes like friction. or a partner who just process things quietly

and avoids the confrontation to keep the peace. Well, you already said earlier you don't like conflict. So you want someone to just not say that thing. Like, like, because I think a lot of things, like, you go through it. Say like, like, we talked about this on the episode. Like, a lot of times you overreact when you tell something immediately, when something happens immediately. Yeah, you take time to process.

So, like, you need to take time to really process. And I've learned that over my years to, like, really process it. soaking in, uh, evaluate it and then, then make a decision on how I go about it. Because like I said, I could just go into like a restaurant and I can see the homie with a girl

and I'd be like, hold on. Or the home girl with the, with a dude and I can be like, hey, but I have a question. She over here. Like,

hey, dog, she over here, but I don't know what's going on. So like, let me process it. Let me assess it. And then I'm, I'm going to just be like,

man, maybe that's his cousin, auntie, But if you're in a relationship and you're going through something and something happens, and this is what happens sometimes. Like, and I've had this where you're trying to process, but your partner is so in tune with you energetically. I'm going to leave it along.

So no, usually they're like, what's wrong? What's wrong? I could feel something's wrong. I know you. I know something's wrong. And you're trying to process it. And you're like, nothing's wrong. Nothing's wrong.

But they're so in tune with you. So that can happen a lot in relationships to where it's like you have to just say it at that point. People try to process, but if you're with somebody and you guys are in tune with each other, processing it is different ways to process it too, because when you process it, you can't let it, like, affect you. Processing mode is like, I'm still processed and I'm going about it. Like, you don't even know what's going on. But when I'm really, I do that alone when I'm just kind of sitting there, I need to do that alone. Because when your partner know you, you show it.

And so, like, you know, you got to kind of like assess it different or come off. like you know anything going on right now let me act normal then when i get in my space i can process it better yeah but sometimes you can't just fake it though and just act normal when it's like for me you could tell on my energy on my face like i could say nothing and just be like i could see something that bothers me and then i'm saying nothing but i just have that energy where it's just like are you okay because it affects them too much right like me i'm not going to show what's bothering me off the rip you know i'm my you know my process it a little different you know processing is a little different for everybody. Okay. Well, anyways, thank you guys to our good friends at Price Picks.

America's number one sports pick app. Use code T-A-D and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. There's a viral list that women put out about all the places that they will not go on a date to. They absolutely refuse to go on a date. Hold on. Don't tell me. Okay. I want to say this. If I take her to the California pizza kitchen, she's not going? That's not actually not on the list. Damn. But the first thing on the list is cheesecake fact.

So you're saying this, cheesecake is lowered in California piece of kitchen. Well, they probably just didn't forget to put out of list. Applebee's, Chili's, Olive Garden, Chapo. No, but they're talking about franchises that's not even out there no more. All those franchises are out there. They're not out there like they used to be. Like, where is the Chili's out? There's one out here.

Where? It's in Encino in the same shopping spanner as the spot. Look how far you got to go to get that? Like there's chilies and also there's a chilies that way. Oh, there's too far to go to some of these places. Cheesecake, I get it. For you. These are average people.

You have to stop thinking about you. Oh, that chilies is by me. I know exactly where you're. Yeah, but I'm saying there's cheesecake factory everywhere. There's cheesecake everywhere. There's all of garden everywhere. We should test this theory out. I should take five girls out.

to five different places on that list and see if they reject it. So another place is the movies, your house, any fast food chain, red lobster, the gym, the church.

How old are these women? I don't know. The gym, church. I mean, not the gender. Yeah, what is the gender of these women?

Anyways, can I finish the list or no? The gym, church, Starbucks, coffee dates, ice cream dates. family functions. What race are these women?

Somewhere that requires a long drive. Bowling a hookah bar, nightclubs, a bar for just drinks. This could have been a black people. It is black people, I'm sure. This is not black people. This is all where all the black people want to go.

They don't. This can't be black people. This can't be a list for black people because all the black girls want to go to all these places. So this can't be that. Don't tell me this list. Where is this list from? I think it's black people.

No, this is probably like. It was black people in the comments. Asians don't make a list of places they're not going on a first day. The only race that's doing that is us. The only people that are talking about this is us. The only people that are really still on the internet arguing about relationships is us. Like, let's just keep it a buck. You think that Asians are like, let me put together.

of the lists of all the places. Well, Asians are married to other Asians with families and living their best life and going to go on tourist trips. They're not worried about what the hell of a first date is going on. Okay, honey. Is this consistent of, this is all women or men? This is all women. This has to be all women.

All women. So this is all, this ain't can be black women talking about this. It is. Because I'll take, we go to red lobster. Sizzler. You ain't going to Sizzler? I'm not, I don't eat Sizzler on my. Oh, no, I'm not eating no sizzler.

Cisler is crazy. Cisler, damn! I will be blowed. I'm not eating Cisler, though. And it's not even about nothing. Maybe can't take you to Cisler? I'm not eating no sizzler, though. But he can't take you there?

Just because I don't eat that. You go to Cisler and eat nothing. Maybe like a salad. Like, maybe they're like a house little salad. But I wouldn't want to. I'll be very, very like, only because I don't eat that. I didn't even, I don't eat that. I don't eat that.

Like. Damn. That's hate you. But I would go to a hookabar. I would go to a bar for drinks. I would go to... The only reason why I wouldn't go to the movies is because I want to be able to talk to you on a first day. What about his house?

This is first day? Yeah, I'm not going to your house. First date? No, I'm never going to... You've never done that. To someone's house? No, I'm not going to someone's house. You could kill me, like a murder house.

First date, you ain't never done that. No, I'm never going to your house. Hotel? No, I'm not going into a room, private room with a man I just met right now. Like that's crazy. That's scary. I'm cool. I would go on a coffee date.

What about the four seasons? Is that on there? The Ritz? No, that's not on there. The first date. The first date to the Ritz. They probably would.

They're going. The Ritz, you ain't going to that? Rooms there's 24 hour. So anyways, that's crazy. Oh, man. So speaking of.

I'll go to your house, but I'll go to the Ritz. Right. I'm not going to nowhere. That includes us being in a room together when I don't even know you. Like, that's crazy to me. I have to at least know you a little bit, like, first date,

just getting to know you. That's all cap. That list is cap. Cap. So. We know that. Come on now. Okay.

So basically, Claudia Jordan said that. CJ, I know Claudia Jordan. Yeah, so she said that dating in your 40s is harsh. Man, Claudia. Women think that they finally ready to settle down, there will be a lot of supply on the shelf and there isn't. Is Claudia married?

No, I don't think so. I think she's not. That's why she's saying this, that she's in her 40s and she's saying that when you are young, you're hitting it, you're crack it, and now she's like, you know, it's not as many people on the shelf as you would want. Yeah, that's true.

for the older ladies. Yeah. I'm trying to see if she married. I'm looking up on her. She's not married. She's not married. Okay. So, yeah, I think that's true.

She must, she's going through her right now. She's, her little 40s right now and the dating pools probably like, it slims up. Because most guys is either.

She said all the good guys are married or they're in a relationship, basically. I mean, you know, that's just what it is. She's true. She's true.

She's true. You know, when you start going through your 40s and then midlife, because midlife crisis kicks in more for females earlier than men. Because you're like, damn, I don't know what age group to deal with because now you got all these. When you're in your 40s, you start like, damn, do I mess with this young dude? Because now I got a crop of young dudes on me. But then now I got these old dudes, but he got too much issues. Then this dude, I don't know, he's my age, but he, you know, he's toxic.

It's just like, damn. Do you think that it's a red flag for a man, like to be, like a lot of women will say, like, if a man's, like, older, like, 40s up there, 50s, and he's single and you meet him that he's a red flag? No, because most men in that space are at peace. Most men in that space then did everything already. Most men at that age, they're married, and if they single, they've been divorced, maybe one or two times. and they like, you know, they get at peace with their self. They're like, they're not even tripping. What about, what about, because I remember I was dating someone

and he was like maybe like 44 or something. I don't remember. But he didn't have any kids. And I remember, like, I, like, someone told me like, oh, he's a red flag because he's in his 40s and he doesn't have kids. Well, you can't judge that because you can say the same thing about girls who in their 30s who don't got no kid.

Yeah. You know, are they a red flag? You know, we talked about that. Yeah. But then, you know, you can't like look at it like that. Yeah, I agree. You know, some guys just probably worked their whole life and was like, man, I can't afford kids or I can't afford to be married. You know, it's a lot of people like that.

But sometimes it don't even be a four thing, though. And you ain't really been out there like that. You don't want to just put a kid in the world who you can't take care of. But what if he's not? Because the situation I was in, he was actually rich, and he just didn't have kids. But his situation was like, I never wanted, like. Damn, you had a gang of different situations.

Like, he was 6-8. You had the 6-8, rich. It wasn't a gang. These are some of the same people. You realize that? No, it ain't none of the same people. Yeah, it is. You just said the 6-8, you just said the other rich.

Then you said the dude that was this height. Then you had the shorter man. Then you had the man your height. No, the shorter man of the man. My height is the same person. Because I meant to say he was a little taller than me. Yeah, you didn't have had all the situations. You'd have been through all the situations.

See, then you about to start. No, I haven't. No, my situation. What? Tell us about the rich guy. He was someone I dated. That was it. And he was in his 40s.

How old was I? Like, I don't know. You do know. No, I really don't. He was in his 40s. You was what? I was like 20 something. How much did you weigh?

Goodbye. No, I'm saying. It wasn't during that time. No, it wasn't. How you don't know? You remember so much, but you were going to get the main thing. I don't remember the ages of a lot of stuff, though. But I know I was.

Like 25. So it was a 2019 year gap. You're capping. 100% your capping. There's no chance of that. I know for sure your cap. You lie. He's just, you know, lie.

I'm not lying, though. 20 years gap. But this is the thing. It was no one that I ever took serious. It was a dating. And then I just remember one time I dated him once. We went out on day and I remember my- How you remember him so much?

I remember him because I remember that people were like, he's a red flag. That's what made me be like, do I, like, I was young, so I was impressionable. And I remember, like, always having that on my mind now. Like, is that a red flag? But is it also a red flag for a man to have seven kids? Like, you know, what, what?

Like, would you rather deal with a man with zero kids, no baggage, no baby mamas? Or would you rather deal with a man? Like, it was impressionable to me because I always remembered that. Like, do I rather deal with a man with these kids? Or do I rather deal with a man who doesn't have kids and doesn't have all that extra baggage? Like, that was an impressionable moment. Sometimes you have moments in your life that are impressionable on you.

So are you a red flag? I don't know. I hope not. I think that. You're a middle-aged lady and little kids. Middle age is crazy. Okay. Middle-age lady.

Yeah, I'm 34. I don't have any kids. Is that a red flag? Maybe it depends on who you're asking. I don't want to put that on that. I don't, it depends on who you're asking. Me personally. I wouldn't put that on you.

I wouldn't call that a red flag. Thank you. I appreciate that. You said otherwise multiple times, but I... I might have said you cooked and some other things, but I wouldn't call that a red. You talked about like a dog. No, I didn't. You do.

I just, we always talk about your journey when you was 295 pounds. I was. What? I was. It's $2.95. Man, this picture right here look crazy. Don't bring up pictures right now.

Put it down, put it down. We're not doing that. This picture not $295? No. This is at least three something. No, I've never been 300 pounds in my life. I've never been 300 pounds in my life. I haven't.

I've never been 300 pounds. That looked like 300. The way that's, that was crazy. I looked there because it came up on my feed today. I was like, damn. It came up with my feed today. I was like, damn, that looked like more than 280. Anything else you would like to say?

No, I was just, it came up on my feed. It never came up on my feed in a minute. And it came up today. You had the all black on and you was, and then you showed them to, bam, look now, though. That's what's up. Look now, though. Okay.

You breathe it all hard. Because you... I run you. You run me. I run you low. Yeah, you run me low. So, anyways, women were asked, would they rather deal with a married man that never tells you know or deal with a man?

A married man that never tells you know? Yeah. So you're a side piece. So this man went on the street and asked like a bunch of women, like hundreds of women. Would you rather deal with a married man that tells you know? That tells you know? Yeah. Never tells you know.

That never tells you no, I'm sorry. Or deal with your man who tells you know 45% of the time. About 99% women said they'll deal with the married man that never told me. First of all, this is stupid because a married man is going to say no. There's no. When you're married, you have to say no. You're married. You next to your wife, hey, come hang out with me.

No. Right. I'm chilling. I'm chilling. You're out with her at dinner. Pull up. No. I can't do that right now.

Like, that's a lie. When you marry, you gotta say no more. So that ain't real. That ain't real. Okay. Married men have to say more. But the point, but it's not about if it's real. It's the fact that women rather deal with a man that's not there.

When it comes to money, a married man, I need 10,000. Okay, that nigga, you ask your, you ask your man, I need 10,000. He's going to be like, hell no. But the merry man, like, when it comes to stuff like that, if you're talking about just like items, the merry man going to say more yes. When you talk about time, he's going to say more no.

Right, right, right. That wasn't the point of it. That was the point of it. I seen it. I've been around. I see, you know, I'm a little older, so I didn't see all of that. Okay.

So there's this viral conversation where a woman, so a man says, if I, if we were on the street and a bunch of group of men came up to disrespecting you, what do you expect me to do? And the woman was like, I expect you to beat them all up. And the man is like, disrespecting her? Yeah. And the man. Like what's the most, like what's the disrespect? Like grab her? I don't know.

They didn't say that. That's disrespectful. They just said the disrespect. Call her out of her name. Can I finish the whole thing first? Yeah, you got it. Like, damn, you've been going to be off. I can't finish the whole topic one time.

This is crazy. Like, oh my God. So she said that she wants something to be it up. And the man that were on that podcast were all like, how are we expected to pay everything, protect you, and potentially die? We're not allowed to be scared. We're not allowed to have nothing going on. Like, why I got to beat 10 men up?

Like, I don't, let's run. Like, I'm not trying to beat 10 men up and put my life at risk because he disrespected. Like, these are 10 men against me, and you want me to beat them all up one by one. It was blowing them on this thing. So I'm saying, what do you feel about that? So 10 dudes come up, I'm with my chick,

and they just come over here. I'm like, y'all got her. Let me get up out of here. What? Let me get over out of here. This is too much. It's drama. This is drama right now.

You're not going to at least get the girl. You got to be able to keep up with me on the run. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. What's the disrespect? Like, all right, all right here. On some real shit. Ten dudes come out of here.

I'm going to see that from afar. I'm like, maybe they need to walk faster to the car. Like, I'm going to see that. Ain't no 10 dudes coming up on me. I'm not going to even put myself in that type of situation. And then if I did and they disrespecting, like touching. calling you out your name, ain't no touching,

then I'm going to have to get beat up. Yeah. If touch, then I'm going to have to get beat up. But out your name, let's keep it moving. Like, words ain't nothing. But, like, disrespectful, over crossing the line is touching for me. Yeah. But, like, words, it's like, you know what?

We can deal with words. I'm grown. You know, they can call you a bee, you know, whatever. Let's get out of here. You know, well, we ain't on that. But, like, if the touching is, then that's next level. I got to be like, no, that's not going down. Then I'm going to have to get jumped.

Period. Okay. So that's interesting. I personally don't want to see my man get jumped, so I would probably just be like, let's hit it. You can't touch my girl, my wife, my significant other. You can't touch her at all. At all.

Don't even think you can do that. We're going to have to get down. I don't care. Because now, If they do that and we walk away, I got to hear it from you. And I see you more than them. So I'd rather get my ass whooped and live with that to where you're going to be loving me more. Yeah, for sure, loving more.

But I would be riddled with so much guilt. I would feel so bad. I would be fucked up. And then I feel like I owe you all this shit. And I don't want to live like that. Yeah, I don't want to live like that. I'd rather let's just hit it. Let's hit it.

Like, because then I'm going to feel so guilty every day. Like, I don't want to live like that. No. So, no. but I get it. But now, okay, so we're going to be doing a little, like, hotline. So if you guys have any questions or you want to say anything, please make sure you guys DM us, send them in, all of that.

So we're going to answer just a quick fan questions, and then we're going to wrap up. So this at Luna, oh, well, I don't know who they want us to say their Instagram names. So, let's not. So, okay, I need real advice because this has been sitting on my chest. I've been dealing with my boyfriend almost to, years now and before him I hooked up one time with someone he knows. It's not his friend, friend, but they do run into each other sometimes and they have a few mutual friends. It literally was nothing

and meant nothing and it was way before him. Part of me feels like I should tell him because I don't feel like keeping stuff from him, but part of me feels like it's just going to create unnecessary drama and jealousy for no reason. I'm also low-key scared he'll judge me or even leave me even though it was way before him. Will he respect me more if I tell him? Am I supposed to say something or just leave it alone? Shut the fuck up, girl, move on. If you don't know, don't worry about it.

What if the man tells him? He'll lie. He's lying. You say that he's lie? Show some receipts. I don't deal with the drama, girl. Just like if it's already, if it's good, leave it alone. It was before him, right?

You ain't got to bring him nothing before him, and you don't really mess with him. and they ain't really like that, that's nothing. But they run into each other, she's saying, and they see each other and they have mutual friends. That's cool, whatever. Leave it alone. It's not that serious.

Okay. Don't. You ain't got to say nothing. Keep them moving. And then so what if the man says something, and then the man, her dude, gets mad? Like, why you didn't tell me, you know I run into this guy. You know I'd be seeing him sometimes,

and we have mutual friends. You never told me, so now I look stupid because he said something. Leave it along, though. We're talking about about her. That's what she didn't tell. Like, because I didn't want to no drama. But it was before you, so what? You telling me about all the girls you before me?

Right. Okay, I feel that. Okay. I feel that next thing. My girl goes through my phone a lot. She says it's not because she thinks I'm cheating. It just makes her feel better because of the stuff that happened in her past. I don't have anything to hide, but it honestly makes me uncomfortable.

And I feel like I don't really have. privacy. I love her and I don't want to make her feel more insecure, but I'm starting to feel kind of controlled. Am I tripping? Or is this something I should actually be worried about? Red flag, you need to leave her. You can't just be telling people leave people. Yeah, it's time to go. Yeah, you're too insecure. You're probably a depressed person. I can't be with nobody like that. You handle your issues and you bring in your past into ours now, into our future. Because you said, I dealt with this before, right? So you're taking your past that you put it into our relationship, right?

So you know what? I'm not dealing with that. You need to get over that first and then move into a new relationship because clearly it's affecting ours. Okay, I get that. So I've been dating this guy for like a year and a half. He treats me really good.

We talk about the future and all of that. But he still hasn't introduced me to his family and he doesn't really post me. He says he's just private and doesn't feel like people in his business. But sometimes I feel hidden and it messes with my head. everything else is good, so I don't know if I'm overthinking or if this is a real red flag.

You're overthinking it. The time is right. It'll be right. You know, he probably dealt with some stuff before. Listen, as long as it's good between y'all two, the parents like, damn, if he going to date a girl, me, to introduce every girl to his parents that he date, no, come on, dog, it's got to be real. When y'all start living together and y'all start really, really talking engaged, that make more sense.

I get it. Leave it along. moving. It's good now. Don't overthink it. Okay. My boyfriend paid this last one. My boyfriend pays most of the bills and stuff and I'm grateful for that, but lately I feel like I'm doing way more in other ways. I'm cooking. I'm cleaning. I'm supporting him emotionally, hyping him up and all of that. Sometimes it feels like we, he really, all he really brings is money and I know that sounds bad, but that's how it feels. I don't want to make a transactional or start a fight,

but I don't want to always feel like I'm being unappropriable. appreciated. How could I even bring that up to him? All right. This is what you need to do. And you need to think about it like this. How about if the roles were reversed? And he did your job and you did his job. How would you feel? Because most girls be like, I ain't paying for him. So if you still like that, if you can reverse the rolls and be cool with it, cool. But if you feel a certain way, then everything is good. just embrace and be a star in your role in the relationship and he'll do the same and that's how things work

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