Club Shay Shay - Reaction to W.A.G.s criticisms, Valentines day hacks & Grammy Awards | Humble Baddies

Episode Date: February 5, 2025

In this episode, Sharelle, Ashley, and Alexis react to the "mean girl" criticisms from W.A.G.s to Riches on Netflix, best Valentine's Day gifts, and Beyonce's 2025 Grammys win.02:55 - Humble Baddies talk Black History Month10:00 - February is going to be a fresh start. The Humble Baddies talk Valentine’s Day plans.18:00 - Time to unpack the aftermath of W.A.G.S To Riches48:30 - Hot Girl Headlines56:40 - Humble Baddies Mail(Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.) #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Yeah, so what do you think of this outcome of Netflix? Let's be real with the people. I know they want to know, y'all. So the viewers, I feel like got a story, you know, based off of just obviously what they saw. And they don't have the full story. Welcome back, welcome back, welcome back. Hey, y'all. Hey, guys.

We in the building. We are back for another episode of Humble Baddies. I'm Sherrell Rosado. I'm Ashley Nicole. And I'm Alexis Walsh-Steinemeyer. And we are the Humble Baddies. I like it. I like it.

Not a little glow going on, ladies. Are we glowing? You know, a little something-something. You know. Y'all been in the sun? Y'all been catching some rays? No, you been in the sun. And I ain't talking about the sun, son.

I'm talking about heat. Are we going? You know, look, something, something. You know, y'all been in the sun? Y'all been catching some rays? No, you been in the sun. And I ain't talking about the sun, son. I'm talking about heat with your hot ass. Ooh, Lex, sexy Lexie. So go on, go on, Lex. Go on then with my bad stuff. Glow on, Lex, glow on. Let me, let me, let me turn my phone off.

I got you, I got you. Thank you, thank you, ladies, thank you. I love this glow, I love this. First you, thank you, ladies. Thank you. I love this, Glo. I love this. First and foremost, it's Black History Month, a time to honor, reflect, and celebrate the rich history, culture, and contributions of Black throughout history. Yes. Yes.

Let's take a moment to discuss the significance of Black History Month, why we celebrate it, and what it personally means to each of us. To me, it's recycling the black dollar, supporting a black business. That's what black history right now means to me. I love that. I love that. Well, speaking of black businesses and supporting, we are on a show that highlights black women. Yeah. You know, it's on Netflix right now, Wax of Witches.

So thank you so much for supporting us. Y'all tune in. But it does show who we are as black women. And there's, we're multifaceted. So like tune into us also off the show, but also like in our personal space, y'all can see what we tap into. How we show black excellence.

I want them to tune into my Instagram. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Tune into my Instagram. Off the show. You know, but you, we are so multifaceted and I love being a black woman. I love, you know, I love my black children. I love my blackness.

So this month, even though it is the shortest of all the months of the year, that's what makes it rare. We are rare. We are beautiful. We exude essence. So I'm just wanna say shout out to the ladies sitting here on this panel.

Y'all are definition of black excellence. So, so shout it out. Thank you so much. Thank you, thank you. Thanks Lux, I agree. I think representation matters. I think, you know, being on a platform like Netflix is huge for us.

And I think having our own platform here as Humble Baddies is huge because the reach that we have, like there's so many young black women, young black men too, who are tuned in and are listening and watching. And they're looking at us, they look up to us. And so I'm just grateful to have this platform. This is what our ancestors fought for.

So for me, that's what Black History Month is for. And also I love to always plug HBCUs. Y'all know I went to CUSP University, so every chance I get, I always like to shout out, tell your kids about the HBCUs and why they're so important to our culture, to tradition and to our history. So I like to, you know, tell my kids, take them to the schools. There's so much history.

Tuskegee University in itself is a museum, and they're sacred to us. So we can't forget about those important things that make us who we are. My daughter will be going to FAMU next year. Okay, shout out to FAMU. Some of your FAMU moms. Here it is. We gotta go to Homecoming. Yes, for sure. That's fun.

For sure, for sure. But, and shout out to Shannon Sharp. Let's support black businesses. That's right. We have our special cocktail, the Humphbettis cocktail, we'll disclose it, using Shea by La Portiere Cognac. La Portiere.

Yes. So thank you Shannon Sharp. Thank you Nightcap for the amazing Cognac. It's good. I promise you it would not put hair on your chest. Like it's smooth. So smooth and good. You did your thing with that one, Awk.

I loved having a nice Cognac though. Like to finish the evening. I saw my father have, like to pour a nice little bit over some ice and just reflect on the day. You know, it becomes like a ritual of just like, you know, just being able to ease into the week. Oh, it do it ease. And it ease you all night down your legs too.

That cognac. Make you feelin' good? Baby, the cognac do some difference. It makes you feelin' nice and warm. Yes, yes. Okay, yeah. That kayak. Make you feelin' good? The kayak do some difference. It get you feelin' nice and warm. Yes, yes. Okay, okay.

Those good warm notes, the vanilla, the caramel. Yes, you gotta get the big block of ice. Ooh, the big block. Yes, yes, yes. The big block, not the little one. Not the little one. Not the little one. Not the little one.

We do nothing little over here, ladies. Nothing little. Nothing little over here. Okay, okay. But this is a time to highlight black businesses. This is a time to use the black dollar. In our households, we thrive so much. We have become entrepreneurs.

We have our own businesses and black dollar moves. When we stop our dollar, shit shuts down. It really does shut down. We are power in numbers. So exercise your right to use that black dollar. And we've been dealing with some things in politics recently with the diversity inclusion situation. Trying to pull away black history from our schools.

Yes. And DEI, those who don't know, it stands for diversity, equity, and inclusion. And, you know, it was put in place to help entrepreneurs that are starting up from nothing and have a platform, i.e. your targets, your cost goals. They're these initiatives that the corporations have put in place for us.

And it's unfortunate now that it's becoming removed. You can't go and find what you need for us. Our hair is different, our face is different, our colors are different, our essence is different. So shout out to all the black entrepreneurs that are out there that are starting their businesses that are helping us create create just the narrative of look, we can do this too. And we're going to support you. We're there for you and help like keep continue looking at different programs that help funding

grants and scholarships that continue your dream. Don't let anything like this stop you from elevating. But we have to fight against things like this because people think that DEI is just for helping minorities, but it's also for people who have disabilities, you know? Come on now. Who have autism and things like that. It was put in place so that they could get hired

in these big corporations. So people think they just see race and it's not about that. It's such a bigger picture and people tend to always focus on the race part of it and it's not about that. It's such a bigger picture. And people tend to always focus on the race part of it. And it's not that. So, you know, that's why we're fighting for these things. That's why you have to really vote in your local elections. That's right.

Because it really is going to affect us. 100%. I think so. This is off script. What we're going to do. And I decided the ladies are going to support me. We want more black businesses. So what we want you guys to do is to email us

a short paragraph of, we want to sponsor a small black business, $2,500 we're going to give away to a small black business to help either kickstart or market your business. So send it to HumbleBattiespodcasts.gmail.com, a quick paragraph of why you deserve this 2,500 and we're gonna donate to a special. That's exciting.

I love that. I love that. Yes, yes, yes. We have to, we have to support more of our businesses because a lot don't, it could take $500 and they may not have it because of the economy. So if we have it, we're going to be here. We're going to support you guys

because we want to see you guys win. We do. We do. I'm excited. You know, February is on and popping out. It's a lot going on. It's a lot going on. You know, you have Grammys.

We need a good month in February because January was a shit show. You know, let's be real. Why was it a shit show? Let's month in February cause January was a shit show. You know, let's be real. Why was it a shit show? Let's be real. Why was it a shit show? Let's talk about it. Be real.

Be real about it. Are you relieved we're in February? Yeah. February is the new year. Okay. Yeah. I like that. It's our new year.

So we're starting new year today. We're starting off now. Listen, we're gonna start over. We gonna start over. We gonna start over. It's the month of love. Yes. Yeah, we're gonna start over. We gonna start over. We gonna start over. It's the month of love. Yes. Forgive me.

It's the month of love, guys. Forgive me. It's grace. Yeah. Anna Batty, a humble batty, was born in February, too. Period. Ooh. Okay.

We're gonna get you in my face. Yeah, so we gonna, it's gonna end well, guys. Don't worry. You nasty. You nasty. They think Scorpios are the freaks, but I'm Pisces. Pisces season. We already know, this the sex expert.

Pisces season, ladies and gentlemen. My auntie is a Pisces. Oh, Lord. It's all true. Don't tell your auntie business. It's all true. I'm not auntie, you know I love you, but she be giving me all the tips and tricks.

Yeah, you know, it's all good. You know, we're grown. But yes, February is the new year, but we have a lot of amazing things coming up. We do, we do. Not Super Bowl. Yes, Grammys. This is all good.

Like, February highlights black excellence, I feel. Like, you know, there's All-Star, there's sports, there's entertainment, and you know, the school's- Love is in the air. Love is in the air. Yeah, no, this isstar, there's sports, there's entertainment, and you know, the school's- Love is in the air. Love is in the air. Yeah, no, this is a good month. My step-daughter's birthday.

Yeah. Two of them. Yeah. And I feel like, isn't Valentine's like one of the top, like getting married months? No, Valentine's is when everybody gets pregnant. Oh. That's when the babies are conceived, like me.

I am a definitely a Valentine's Day baby. That's true. Cause I was born in November. Okay, yes. The math is math. The math is math. I definitely was like, okay, so, okay, I know what y'all was doing.

So it's romantic, sexy time. It is. Okay, I like that. It is. But what about a single? But if they say Valentine's is the most spent holiday, like people spend the most money on Valentine's Day. I would think so.

Just because of dates and you know, I feel like marketing just especially in America, it's you walk into Walgreens, you walk into CVS and it's like hearts everywhere and roses. So as single women, how would y'all go about like who you spend your Valentine's Day with if you're dating? You know, it's gonna be my first It's okay

Okay, what about you legs I haven't decided yet if it's gonna be beach or snow It's going to be beach or snow. Oh. Okay, period. Options. No. But you already know who you going with though. I might have an idea. Okay. I might have an idea.

You know. Um. Nice. See what they do. I wish they could hear our conversation off camera. Well, this is going to be my first Valentine's day without Phil. No.

Really? Yeah, cause I'm going to All-Star. I'm going for the Tuskegee Classic game. So I'm going to cover that. You know, we're supposed to play in the tournament, the basketball tournament. Yeah, the celebrity tournament. But so on Friday, no, on Saturday is the HBCU Classic game. So for All-Star weekend, they always have two HBCU teams play against each other

and just represent for HBCU. So I'll be there representing Tuskegee and covering for AT&T. Period. So I'm really excited about that. But I'm leaving Phil. He gonna surprise you. He might, that would be sweet.

Phil surprised Ashley. That would be very sweet. Ash, what do you think about that? Like being married and really comfortable in your relationship. Yeah. Is it just another day for you Valentine's Day? Like, um, no, it's not another day.

Like I expect him to still show up and show like, yeah, no, no, no. Yeah. I mean, I don't expect like anything like crazy over the top, you know, but you know, he knows what I like. You know what I'm saying? As long as I feel like he, you know, is thoughtful and you know, I don't like, it's definitely not just any other day.

But I am kind of sad that I won't be with him this year. You know what I mean? But it's for work and he's, you know, he's supportive. So I'm going to get that bag. You never know. You know what? I enjoy it. My favorite time, probably the best Valentine

was with Chad. Really? Yes, because each year he had something. Like the first year he took me to Bell Harbor and we went to go eat lunch in the middle of the courtyard. And he went down to the Chanel store. Shout out to our girl Sharonda. She's in my neighborhood, she's on big things now.

But he went to Sharonda and he got a pink Louis Vuitton bag. A classic, a pink classic. And he came back walking with- You mean Chanel bag? A pink, a pink- You said Louis Vuitton. Oh, I said Louis Vuitton. You did, it's okay.

It's this shade. I was like, I'm gonna kill you about this. A pink Chanel bag. And he came walking down the alley, you know the alley, with it. And he just sat there and said, I said, you are so sweet, like everything. And then the next time he got a helicopter,

we went to Key West for lunch, took me on a little shopping spree. I was like, you're so sweet. I like romance. Like, it's just the little thoughts that you put into it. Yeah, it's the effort. It is the effort. What you gonna give me this?

I know we need to gather in this. You still expecting a gift from him? You can get friendship gifts. Okay. Yeah, I'm, yes. Y'all still your family, my girl. I still help him with his business and everything. So does that mean he gets some that night then?

Ooh. What? I'm just saying. Oh, that's not how it work? I don't know. That's not how it work? I'm just asking. Thank you. Oh, no, Chad. You works? I don't know. I'm just asking. A thank you. I don't know, Chad. You better come with an appreciation.

No. Okay, okay. This is hilarious. Sip some ad. Why are y'all asking these questions? It's the month of love. The people wanna know. They don't wanna know.

Girl, y'all been in the blogs like every damn day. Yeah, I was just about to say that. And we're trying, it's like the date is in February. Listen to the date. Right, is y'all getting married? Cause Chad said he getting married. He said he's getting married, it's himself. Oh, okay.

Well, I don't think that's how it works. Well, he did say if it wasn't Monique, he ain't marrying nobody. Monique? Who is Monique? That's my middle name. Oh. I was gonna say who is this bitch? So when you see him side tweet Monique, he's talking about me.

OK. OK. OK. I love that. A little innuendos and a little nudge. What was the date? February 22nd, 2025. OK.

So we got a few days to check. I hope you guys are good. We have some time. It is the month of love, and I'm a hopeless romantic. So. When you get married again. Oh, wow. See what she did there.

I'm not there yet. I'm enjoying wine tasting. Oh, okay. Me too. And a little chikorri board. Yes. You know how there's a plethora of options. You got the pickles.

You got the pepperonis and the different cheeses. Yes, I like the pepper jack cheese. Okay, so there you go. There you go. I like a little smoky Gouda. Okay. I'm hungry as hell. I like an aged cheddar.

Yes, a little aged. Oh, okay. Wow. I love this. I love okay. Wow. These girls. I love this. Is this a, it's a La Portiere? Look, the La Portiere.

Make sure y'all get some shade by La Portiere for Valentine's Day. I promise you, half of y'all will be pregnant by November. And we'll have birthdays in November like Ash. Exactly. Just like that. Wait, I said half of y'all will be pregnant by November. Half of y'all to be delivered babies.

It's okay. It's The Shape by LaPorsiade. I love this. I love this. Y'all, so what do y'all think of this outcome of Netflix? Let's be real with the people. I know they want to know y'all. What do y'all think?

The people do want to know. What do y'all think about overall? It's been what? A couple of weeks now. Yeah, it's been, wait, when's there be two weeks? I'm going to be honest with y'all think about overall? It's been what? A couple weeks now. It's been, wait, when's there be two weeks? I'm gonna be honest with y'all. I was not expecting the reaction that we got

from the people or from family? From the viewers. Okay, from the viewers. From the viewers. When I watched it, I was like, oh, okay, this is interesting. Like it's not exactly what I thought the final product was gonna be.

Cause we don't see it. Exactly. We don't see it. Exactly. Let's make it clear. Because I have consultant producer credits, I have no say so over CAS, over has edit, over anything. It's just, hey, I have an idea.

I went to a production company, pitched it to them. They was like, okay, you get your credit and that's it. Boom, you're out of it. So my girl ain't got nothing to do with what y'all saw. It's no puppeteering, it's no maneuvering, it's none of that. No, nothing. Nothing.

Never out of my lane. Feel like you're the one and I'm the one. Okay, so what I was just most surprised about is a lot of the things that we did film, I didn't see. And so what you do see is it's kind of hard to really form the actual, like to get the full story because so much was left out. A lot. So when I watched it, I still was like, oh, okay, this is interesting. But I didn't feel the same reaction, I guess because I knew what actually happened. Right?

So the viewers, I feel like got a story, you know, based off of just obviously what they saw and they don't have the full story. And it did come off obviously that me and Sherelle were like mean girls and that there was like us against them type of thing. And- I hated the fact that they said you wrote my coattail. Right.

You your own person. Like this bitch is the alpha female. I'm very much my own person. Like I have my own family, my own businesses, my own life going on. And a lot of it was filmed and a lot of it was not shown. So I feel like me being your friend and I am a very direct person.

Yeah, they just kind of like lump me in with whatever you had going on. But you know, the thing about it that people don't know, we both served in the army. Right. That's another thing I want to add for you guys. Those females who serve in the army are very direct. We're taught once we go through training, keep it short and simple, you have to lead. You was an officer. Right. So you had, she had soldiers,

high ranking soldiers up under her. I was a senior enlisted. So we had to get straight to the point. And that's where it is. And I think that's where people get the, oh, you're a mean girl, but no, we're just direct about how we feel and what's going on. That's a big difference.

And I feel like with a lot of the females, they sugarcoated some of the things, how they felt they didn't know how to let it out. But see, that part of it, I think, is us having experience being on reality TV. That's another thing too. Because for me, I'm just showing up to do my job. I'm showing up to show my reaction,

to tell you what's going on in my mind, and to entertain at the end of the day. Because you have to be extra, you have to go to like, you feel like at a five, but you gotta go to like 95. It is a reality show. And yes, it does snapshot a reality, but there's so many more seconds and hours in the day. In 24 hours.

We film for hours and they chop the scenes down to like two minutes. And shout out to editing, because that's what their job is to do, is to edit, is to cut, is to play, is to create a story. They could have edited it a little bit. I mean, to be fair, I'm just saying,

people were doing their job. They were doing their job. Of course. So at the end of the day, it is a snapshot. It is very instant, you know. And they're gonna create whatever story is gonna have the people talking and y'all motherfuckers talking.

I thank you for that. Y'all were talking. We accept dialogue, okay? We all have to understand y'all are not getting like the whole like story, honestly, truly. And I feel like for me, it was a little upsetting because a lot of people are following me from my past show and just following me over years on social media.

And they're like, who is this person? I like you before. Like what happened since then? What happened? That's the same. It kind of broke my heart to see people have this reaction, oh, you're not the person that I thought you before. Like what happened since then? What happened. That's the same. It kind of like broke my heart to see like people have this reaction like, oh, you're not the person that I thought you were,

you know, because they only saw like one opinion, I guess, you know, of me. So yeah, it was a little heartbreaking at first. It was a little shocking, I would say, at first. I just wasn't expecting that. It's a new feeling. Yeah, it is. It's a little shocking, I would say, at first. I just wasn't expecting that. But- It's a new feeling. Yeah, it is.

It's a new feeling. I mean, it's a feeling that I'd never felt before. Exactly. I'm not mad about it. The only time I, you know, it crossed the line when you come from my kid. Yeah, we- We don't play, I don't play about kids.

Let's just talk about that for a second. Ladies and gentlemen, we are public figures. And respectfully, y'all really just don't know us. And I'm gonna say this very, I don't wanna speak for y'all, but I know I can speak for y'all in this tone. Family is off limits. Our children, we love our families. We work tirelessly to support them,

surround them with love, we educate them, and it's disrespectful when you start to come for our families. Y'all don't really know us like that. And when it comes to that, we are lionesses. We show up for each other, we show up for our family, and this has nothing to do with them, okay? Y'all can do, we're big girls, we're big women at our big ages, you know.

Big old ages. Big ages, we're big old ages. That's what they say. You know, big, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, are as women, as where we are as just our big old ages. So keep the kids out of it. I think my biggest thing was if I could go back and change anything. Remember, I don't have control over this show. I wish they could show more instead of me coming off, because I don't like how I was portrayed.

Like I did come off and I don't appreciate how it looked. Me stepping outside and not knowing what's going on on the inside, it didn't look good, you know, approaching Stoney because my- Good for you to say that and recognize that as Sherelle. Yeah, because I don't, I have kids and it does come off like I feel like I'm better than her. Y'all know I'm not like that.

I'm not that type of female. But I did have my holdbacks on why, the reason why I didn't want to deal with her. And it definitely didn't have to do with a sex tape. And they didn't show that. And that was my biggest issue. It made it seem like it was a sex tape revenge porn. No, she-

Which was in the forefront. Right, she didn't have control over that sex tape. Correct. But I feel like looking at it from a TV point of view, they needed to introduce her. So all the other stuff, what I had reserved while I was reserved from her, didn't matter. The thing that mattered from a production point of view was her sex tape, because that's what she was known for.

Two big public figures were attached to that sex tape, 50 Cent and Rick Ross. So of course they had to highlight that. And Lowkey, we forgot that there are moving parts of this too. This was a brought up issue that does surround her in her storyline and just very much who she is and how she's overcoming it, which Lowkey could have highlighted Stoney in a different way too. Hence her boutique, hence her searching out for help in really just some kind of, you know, she's, she's still open to like receiving. So I feel like it started to trickle a little bit, but then obviously

for entertainment purposes, so I'm going to say this, we need a season two, just so we can tie some loose ends. We can reintroduce, we can bring out some vibes. You know what I mean? We can really show and highlight. Now that y'all have got a snippet, a very tiny snippet of introduction of who we are as cast members, let's turn it up a notch.

Y'all keep supporting us, y'all keep tuning in and we will have a second season and now we know better, we'll do better. But you know what, I started off saying like, the comments that we received were a little shocking but I do appreciate the comments that were saying like, we want to see like your family and we wanna see because we did film those things.

So I hope the people, they will see that. It was really a wag, right? What's the wag? I hope they see those comments and will not cut those scenes out because we absolutely filmed family scenes and how we do life and our businesses. Businesses.

The things that make us who we are and why we are different and what black excellence Businesses. You know, the things that make us who we are and you know, why we are different and what black excellence looks like. It's part two. You know, the things that, you know, we really wanted to show because we know everybody's tired of seeing like the drama and like, of course there has to be drama.

The colorism, I hate that. Yes. They just threw that in there. If I can go back and change it, I wish Stoney would be a light skinned girl because I hate how the fans take the narrative and like, oh, a light skinned girl that gets up dark skin.

But that's crazy. You almost want to take the color out. That's crazy to me that they're saying that though because after Jules' fight, she said her little comment about like, this is my real hair and all that. You know, it's like, how would, you didn't say anything about her skin color or anything like that,

but you have another cast member that says like blatant- And I have beautiful chocolate women that- Tone death comments. And they don't say anything about, you know, her being whatever she is. You know what I mean? I think people join the trend. Like they hear a certain thing and then they just-

Gravitate to that. Gravitate to that. Yeah, whoever started that Mean Girl trend. Well, let me just be real with y'all. Miranda, MJS. In our communities, that has been an issue for decades. It has. The house in word or the field in word.

If you're lighter or a paper brown bag test, then you pass. So- Man, rapping about red bones. It's 2025. I mean, y'all know what my children look like. It was highlighted on the show. I have all shades.

I do too. All shades. I mean, this what happens. All shades. But this is what happens when, you know, black couples procreates. You're going to get everything. Yeah.

You're going to get whatever's going to come out. So the colorism thing was very, I think it's just the ED. I think it's just the ED. It's surface. It's surface. Out of everything about the show, I hated the colorism. Because y'all know better than anybody. It's unfortunate, yeah.

Yeah, I didn't like that. Yeah. That affected me the most. Do y'all really think I was a mean girl on the show? Like be honest. No, I think you was guilty by association. That's what I was gonna say. Because I'm like, tell me what part, what did I say?

You just didn't have the other side of it shown. It was only one side. It wasn't like, you know, I might feel bad about it. Or this is how I feel because, you know, the other stalker side. But you understand TV and the question that you asked to Shade was, I mean, it was part of the show. It was very valid.

It's to get conversation. It's to get, you know. But you never disrespected any female. I didn't. You supported. You never had a... I showed up on time. I did my job.

If anything, Sony came for you. She did. She was like, oh, are they swingers? Yeah. Like, you never disrespected. I've never disrespected or said anything negative about anybody. When I was asked my opinion about a certain situation,

I gave it. Against going... Yeah, Ashley, that's my answer. Again, going back to directness. Yeah, I'm just direct about how I feel. If you ask me on my opinion, I'm gonna give it. I think that's the issue. Like people think that directness is equivalent to meanness. Being a mean girl, and that's not true.

I agree with that. I agree with that. Yeah, you know I'm a Sagittarius. Sagittarius, we get bad reps. to meanness, being a mean girl, and that's not true. I agree with that. I agree with that. Yep. And you know I'm a Sagittarius. Sagittarius, we get bad reps for being, you know, little boppy bitches. Look, it was times when we was feminine, I was like, no, Ashley, don't do that to me.

Don't do that to me. When? Do what? When we was at Haiku, I was like, no, I promise you, it's a speakeasy. It's like a speakeasy. No, bitch, we need to replay that. We need to put this. You remember? You don't remember that?

I got a bad memory, child. It was all the wine you was drinking. Yeah, maybe. It's all a blur. Ashley is definitely an alpha female. A chin. The bitch be running shit. So I don't, I hated that part about you because I know how you are.

And to call you a what? A minion. A lap dog. A minion. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Yeah. So we gotta highlight these. Lap dog. Lap dog. Minion.

Minion. I just work for Sherelle. You work for Sherelle. Let's get that clear. So these agents who work, the agents who work for me, they are their own employees. They just, their license are up on their mind. I take a commission, they do their own job. They just, their license are up under mine.

I take a commission, they do their own job. I don't tell them what to do, how to do it, whatever. So you house. Yeah. You house this. I'm the broker. I'm the broker and they do their own thing. We gotta break it down for those who do not know.

I placed my license under her. You know, she takes any like liability or, you know, like. Got you. I have the insurance if they fuck up, that's it. See that? But they do their own thing, they on their own schedule, they get 1099s if you're a business owner. I cut her a check. Actually.

Exactly, she go out, that's how I get paid. Right, period. Let's be clear. Cutting checks, receiving checks. Period. That's what's going on. Just so y'all know. That's what's going on. The only way I get paid if Ashley go out and grind.

And there we go. So it seems like it's a supportive relationship. It is. Because if she is out here doing her thing and motivating and bringing back checks, then you get paid. It's win-win. And the other thing that was the issue, a lot of people were asking in regards to MJ and Stoney.

Oh, MJ ghetto, she always fighting, she this, she that, she the third. I didn't like that either. MJ, I'm responsible for MJ. Hence why she has her license under you again. He has her license up under me, so I have to, I can't just throw her away. She's young, she's only 22.

I have to guide her. She has no guidance. So I have to guide her and teach her. She's in love. She is. I don't know if she is or was, but she was in love during the time. And we all have been there.

We all have reacted. That's why I'm glad they did show the conversation. and love during the time and we all have been there. We all have reacted. That's why I'm glad they did show the conversation. I'm double her age, low key. And I was forced in this lifestyle at 20 also. So I can relate to her. This is different though. She is in a different industry

as far as music and entertainment. I was in the sports world being young in this. So that's already a nighttime dark cloud. And on top of that, you're dealing with being from a city where also the father of your children is known to that put that city on a map in his own right. And so it just comes with a lot of heaviness. And I feel like she listens. MJ is very smart. She does. And the reason, and this is what people don't know, like the reason why

I hired MJ, it wasn't because of Kodak. It wasn't because of who she was. MJ called me. And she was like, I really want to work for you. I look up for you. I seen Sel and Tampa. She practiced a cold call. She was like, how does this sound? And like, she has so much drive. She does have drive. But it's like when you're young and you're in love.

This is a lot of energy for her. We all been here before. Let me tell you something. I see so much in that little girl. I do too, I see me in her. I told her, I cried. Like I had tears when we were in that. I don't think they showed that, but I do too, I see me in her. I told her I cried, like I had tears when we were in that. I don't think they showed that,

but I was like, I used to be you. Like I literally used to be you. People don't know I grew up in the projects. I was raised in the projects. I didn't have shit. I couldn't open up Christmas gifts. It's a defense mechanism. It brings tears to my eyes because

it's like, I want so much for her. I'm sorry. But you can feel her. You feel her spirit, her energy. Because I see so much. That girl is, she is amazing. She's so talented.

She really is, Sharah. And if I can go back and change the hands of times, that's what I'm trying to tell her. Don't make the mistakes that we make. Correct. Yeah. Because we have been through it all. We really have.

She has vision. Shout out to MJ. I love you, MJ. Yeah, we love you. She got me tearing up because I see so much of myself. I used to fight. I used to do all that, but it's not worth it. You have two beautiful babies.

Yeah. You're so talented. She really is. So talented. This girl can sell a fucking home. I done cut six figure checks for MJ. I done witnessed her grinding in the studio. Like the girl is so talented. And taking care of them babies.

Exactly. While taking care of these babies. You don't have a point to prove to nobody. Get out there and hustle before it's too late. You know, I, I, I, I, she's- I'm gonna be your better big crybaby. Because that's- You can say that.

Like this is like my little sister. But you can feel it and you gave her a chance, Sherelle. And- I'm not gonna give up on her. No, you're not. This is the stuff that they need to show. And they are. That's, hello.

It's a beautiful lesson to have our- These are real- Blood relationships. In our platform, guys. Positive relationship. And they are. That's hello. It's a beautiful lesson to have our black relationships in our platform guys. Positive relationships. Yes. Yes. And I just pray for season two that they allow us to show that. Yeah MJ let me tell you like I'm happy she came to my home and listened. That was the most beautiful scene. Like it was she always say oh you always preaching to me you always preach it to me but that right there that was most beautiful scene. Like it was, she always say, oh, you always preaching to me. You always preach it to me. But that right there, that was my favorite scene. Thank you for that. She pulled up, you know, I could relate to her.

Let me tell you something. MJ's brave, braver than I am. Let me tell you something. Like, so I admire your bravery because let me, there's been many a times I wanted to crash out. Many a times where I want to pull up. I'm just saying pull up and show out. That's what I did.

That's why I said she was more brave than I am. I'm just going to throw that out there. So MJ, I resonated with you because I saw something in you that I did not see in me in that bravery. And so keep that same energy, keep that same spark. No, we got to change the energy. No, I'm saying like, just her courage. Girl, you gonna be fighting for it.

Her courage, not fighting. Not, we not, you know, I don't want, I don't want to see my girl no more mug shots and stuff. I'm not saying that. I'm just saying her bravery. We gonna change that energy into courage to something else. I just hope she focuses on herself.

That's it, right now. That bravery. Because if she don't, she'll be fighting every day. You know, it's fight or flight. It's like, all my life, I had to fight. MJ, you can't fight everybody. All my life, I had to fight. But it's just a defense mechanism. She's going through some things,

and we have to give up, Grace. It's postpartum. It's 100%. All of that, yes. It's a lot of energy. It's a lot. And get pride. Like All of that, yes. It's a lot of energy. And your pride, like she really, she held that person down.

She did. When they was locked up, she wrote letters to the judge. I seen it all. Yeah. And people don't know that. So it's like, I gave my all and held you down. Yes. And I come back to this and people don't see that.

It's like. And we can all relate to that in some kind of way. Disappointment and uneasiness. Yeah. And trying to figure it out too. You know, we all are trying to figure it out still to this day. Still trying to figure it out.

Still to this day. All of us are trying to figure it out. We all on this journey together. We sure are. We sure are. And speak of trying to figure things out. What do y'all think about this talk of like the soft life? You know, I love it.

I love it for, especially us black girls. I feel like, you know, we're tapping into something that other cultures, I feel like it's like their norm. Yes. You know what I mean? And we're like, why not us too? You know, why don't we deserve that?

I like that, Ash. You know, I feel like for a long like, why not us too? You know, why don't we deserve that? I like that, Ash. You know, I feel like for a long time, black women have to be strong and supportive and aggressive and assertive and all these, you know, strong words, but we can be soft too. We're allowed to be soft. How can you transition to that soft when you've been so hard your whole life?

Oh, that's a great question. How can you do it? I feel like we're still learning it. That's a question. That's something I need to answer because I felt like, you know, growing up, it was hard. And then going into the military in a predominantly male division,

82nd Airborne Division, that had to be hard. Yeah. For 13 years. And then going to SOCOM, Afghanistan, it's like, okay, now. I think it's like a mentality. I think it's like a choice of like where you want to be mentally. Like a lot of people, you know, for whatever reasons, they live in like a survival mode, you know, because of trauma, you know, past trauma, childhood trauma, you know. So I think like taking care of that, going to therapy,

healing whatever part of you that keeps you in that survival mode. And then once you can process that trauma, you make the choice, like, this is the life that I wanna live. This is the mental space that I wanna be in. You know what I mean? But you gotta do whatever it is.

I think I'm going through that part right now. Like I do go to therapy and I just need to learn to say, it's okay for the man to take, be the alpha. But you have to find some, a space where you feel safe to do that too. So, and I'm not saying like a man to feel space, feel safe, cause you don't need a man to, for you to have a soft life. But I'm just saying like whatever it means for you to feel safe, feel safe, because you don't need a man to, for you to have a soft life. But I'm just saying like, whatever it means for you to feel safe, like an environment,

the people around you, your career, you know, financially, all of that, you know, you have to be safe, you have to feel secure, you know, in yourself to even have a mentality, you know, I think to be out of like survival mode. I think the secure part I have, my problem is, it's the fear of neglect, the fear of failure, the fear of rejection, all those things that I have to work on. ["Born Again"] Never out of my lane, feel like you're the one and I'm to work on. I feel like over time, and to your point Ash and also you Sherelle, over time it was always

black women that had to show up. Our voices were heard, our voices were carried, we nurtured, we also nursed, we also poured into. And to me, it goes back to self-love. It goes back to self-worth. It also goes about also saying no, because we have been used, we haven't stretched to our limits, we have been poked and prodded. We have been experimented on because of our essence.

And so it looks, it goes back to us really elevating who we are and knowing who we are. So soft life to me is breaking generational curses. It is talking to people because we used to take all of this in and keep it inside. And then we explode like a volcano. And I'm getting chilled by I'm saying that because we would take so much, but we were also leading.

We were silent leaders because as women, we were always behind. We were always the backbone. We were always the soul, the nurturers. But now times are now starting to shift. They're turning because we are needed. Not only are we needed to help rear and to motivate and to teach and to show the children in the next generation,

but we're also needed for our men. We're needed to help soften them up too, because they are hard. They have these shells. They need to be penetrated with our essence and our soul. You've got to preach it, Lex. You know, it's real though. That is, yeah. That's what like exudes the soft life for me because I've had to like really understand

what the power of no means. Because- Oh, that's a powerful word. It is. We have to, like it's no, I'm not gonna do this. No, I need to have a, I need to be paid for this. No, I'm not gonna show up in this way if you haven't showed up for me.

No. And so that's becoming a soft light for me, because I feel like I'm, I was taking too much on unnecessary heaviness. Yeah, you know, and that's becoming generational for us as black women. We have just taken we're taking it on. We're taking all the darts. And it's time for us to like go to there. We're changing the narrative. We are listening to people. We're knowing our resources. We understand the black dollar, everything that comes through households. We're saying no. That's softness.

The politics that's going on right now, we don't need to be in the forefronts like Shirley Chisholm. She was out there fighting for our rights, being the first black woman to run for president. We are falling back. We tried. We can only do so much. So we gonna do things behind the scenes. We got our families, we got our friendships, we got our faith, we have all of that.

And I know it's time for us. And I love this for us. And self-error is not just a feminine thing, it's also for men too. It's it's reading a book. It's knocking off goals. It's communicating. It's communication. Phil lives a very soft life. Really? He lives in that retired life. Tell me about it. Wake up, he go work out in the gym. He'll make his little routine can be soft. He he was sex- So routine can be soft in life.

He's living his best life, honey. I love that for him and us though. It really is something to see, because I'm just like, wow, like, this is nice. And he's gonna transition for you then. And he supports you. He does support me, but- He does.

Like you said, it's for men too. It is. And I love that. I love that for him. We deserve it. We've earned it. And it's time. Yeah, it's time. I love seeing on social media, you know, everybody posting like their their little routines, whether it's like their skincare routines or their workout routines. You, I see you in your workout routines. My little pose. Very motivational. Yeah. Very motivational. Yeah, You're right. No. You're right. The skincare and what you're pouring into yourself, that's soft life. It is.

It's time. It's time for us to like get that going. Y'all listen. That was amazing Lex. I swear you need to be an inspiration coach or a life coach or something. She's the humble baddies life coach. Yes.

You know Lex life lessons. You know what I'm saying? Yes. Like, go. Now we got our favorite, one of our favorites, which is Hot Girl. Hot Girl headlines. Okay, so today in Hot Girl headlines,

we're talking about the Kendrick Lamar Super Bowl performance. And y'all know there was so much speculation, controversy about whether Kendrick Lamar- They did Lil Wayne wrong. Well, you know what, let's get into that because Lil Wayne, he hasn't put out an album in how long? Yeah, but he got like 14. Yes.

Okay, okay, I'm just playing devil's advocate here. Okay, I'm listening, I'm listening. Okay, so do y'all feel like Kendrick Lamar, does he deserve to be on the big stage? He does, but not for New Orleans. Not for New Orleans? Okay, can we take, so we all know how Super Bowl works, being in the sports and entertainment industry.

These cities have already been set. So you already know the projection of what city is gonna be. Right. Am I a Hot Boys fan? 100%. The Birdman calls and the X-Men Z. Yes, yes, yes.

Is that New Orleans essence and juvie? Is that, yes it is. It is. I personally think Lil Wayne should have been in there, but I still have hope. I feel like Kendrick might bring him out. But- And I go so hard.

Oh yeah, see, he was doing lyrics. Like, I get it, right? We want to highlight people who did put New Orleans on the map for music, right? But we have to look at it like this. Super Bowl is also a business, and so is the NFL, and so is this platform. And Kendrick on the last 16 to 24 months has been exceedingly in the forefront of the entertainment business. We should have had him

a few years ago when it was in LA. I get it. I get it. 100%. So I don't think it has to do with 100%. So I don't think it has to do with who is from where because of the city of New Orleans has been preparing for the influx of tourists for years. We are in the schedule. So respectfully, we don't even know if Lil Wayne DeKind. We don't even know. I think he did. He was upset. He was upset that he didn't get chosen. Yeah. So, here we go. Yes, because I'm a Lil Wayne fan, baby. I am too.

And I was on the news. Wheezy F Baby, please save the baby. But honestly, even if it wasn't Lil Wayne, I think it's a little premature for Kendrick. I love Kendrick. I think he's a great artist, but I feel like the Super Bowl is such a big stage. Huge. And I feel like, I mean, I don't know that he's put in his time yet.

Like I feel like- I feel like he put in his time, but to like to come to New Orleans and pick Kendrick Lamar over Lil Wayne. It's a little bit of a spot in the page. It's huge. I don't know. I just don't, I feel like, you know,

everybody's watching, everybody's watching the Super Bowl, right? Everybody is. Does everybody know Kendrick Lamar's music worldwide like that? Yes, I think so. They do. OK, I didn't know.

But Lil Wayne has a broader platform than Kendrick Lamar. That's what I think too. Lil Wayne is a staple, 100%. He has longevity. And we have seen the evolution a little way for sure. So do y'all think that Drake feels some kind of way too? No. You don't think so?

I don't think so. He tried to sue, like the streaming companies about, you know. For the beef though, like that's separate. Right. But now that Kendrick is up there. But you don't think him being on that, Kendrick being on that platform, you don't think that that made Drake even more like- I think Champagne Poppy has a lot more distractions going on, you don't think that that made Drake even more. I think Champagne Poppy has a lot more distractions

going on, you know what I'm saying? Okay, okay. We ain't talking about Champagne Poppy right now. We're talking about Drake and Lil Wayne. I feel like Lil Wayne, if Lil Wayne need to make an entrance for Super Bowl. Well, hopefully Kendrick Lamar will be respectful and shine some light on Lil Wayne and let him perform a song or two.

Does he have... Who else is going to be on there? He would earn a lot of aura points if he did that. I like that. Share the stage. Respectfully, right? I better see Lil Wayne on that stage. But you know, over time we have gravitated to the halftime show. Do you feel like it overshadows the actual game?

It's important for the women. It is. Like when Rihanna came and I knew she was breaking, when she performed, I was like, this is not the Rihanna that I know. She wasn't quite, yeah. I was like, yeah, my baby pranks. No, I think in general, like,

halftime show has been big since Michael Jackson. Michael Jackson put it on the map. I feel like it's for everybody. I feel like people look forward to the halftime show. Like ever since Michael Jackson, like it's been a big, the weekend, it's like the biggest platform. That's why there's so much fuss over it

because it is literally the biggest stage in the world. So many people tune in. Right, exactly. But you don't get paid. It's so much exposure. The whole world is watching. It's like considered one of the biggest stages to perform more.

And speaking of big stages, our girl Beyonce is headed back on tour. She surprised us with a little post over the night suggesting that we have a Cowboy Carter tour coming out soon. That's why we representing our Ivy Park. I got on my vintage Ivy Park. I've always been, you know,

avid Beyonce fan at Ivy Park. I be throwing them bees at them coming. I went to the Renaissance tour three times. Beyonce has collected a lot of coins from my household. Period. Okay. And I will be in attendance for this Cowboy Carter tour. I love Beyonce's evolution over time, just from even Destiny's Child to being a solo artist.

We've seen her grow into her own, an icon. I still remember my mom. Everything. Everything. To me, when I was 10 years old to go see Destiny's Child. We lived in Columbia, South Carolina at the time. We drove to Charlotte in a terrible storm

all the way to Charlotte, just me and my mom. And they were opening up for Christina Aguilera. And I will never forget. That's like a core memory for me. Like just going with my mom. My mom went out her way to make sure I saw Destiny's child, girl. So this for me, like to see her growth,

to see her as a mom, to see her- And still killing it. And putting her child on. To see how she's such a business woman. Yes, marketing is insane. It's an amazing journey to see, to watch. We're going to be on that cowgirl. We're going to see.

Cowboy Carter. I love how she has just brought in the culture. You know, she's highlighting who we are in our essence. She's highlighting that she's from Texas, and Texas is known for the cowboy and country era. So how she has shifted genres, and from pop to R&B to now where she was sprinkling a little rap, you know, every now and then.

She is the essence of culture for America. And not only the just America, but I would say global too, but just highlighting what it is to be an American woman and just glowing up. I love this for her. She's a 32 time Grammy award winning artist. 32. Yes, the first black woman to headline Coachella.

Come on now, Bae-chella, Bae-chella was hot. And she is a philanthropist and an activist with her Bae Good Foundation. And she's really setting an example for women all over the world. So she's definitely a humble baddie. Yes, she is. Cheers to our boo Beyonce.

I love it. I love how she just pops out to like, we'll just like drop something for us. I love it too. Have y'all tried her hair, Caroline? I have, I've tried it. It's really good. I like her mask, her hair mask.

I'm into masks. It is right, it gets us conditioned and ready to go. Shout out to our humble bae. Yes, shout out to Beyonce. Thank you so much for being iconic. Well, that's it for the Hot Girl headlines. Now it's time for the humble baddie mayo. What you got, Shabelle?

Oh, I got the humble baddie mayo. Who we got today? Carolina Thompson from Richmond, Virginia. Hey, Carolina. Okay, BA in the house. BA. First of all, hello, Virginia. Hey, Carolina. Okay, BA in the house. All right, BA. First of all, hello ladies. Hi.

Hey, hey Carolina. I appreciate the work you bosses put towards our beautiful black community in Florida. I am hoping to visit one day. Come on girl, we're gonna show you a good time. I aspire to be like you, Sherelle, coming from the same military background. Oh, Carolina. I am coming from the same military background.

I am actually currently serving in the Army. I've been stationed in career for the past three years. I'm 21 years old with my 11 month old baby girl and husband. I just want to provide for my family while being a boss ass chick. My question is, how did you manage being away from your kid and your family while away? I am looking forward to hearing more on you ladies podcast. Thank you, Queen. Hmm. Oh, Carolina. Listen, Carolina, it's very hard and it hurts at times.

Like you have to look at the bigger picture and I know some people may not understand it. You're going to receive judgment, but you can't look at times. Like you have to look at the bigger picture. And I know some people may not understand it. You're gonna receive judgment, but you can't look at that. The bigger picture is the long-term outcome. It was hard for me. I did not want to leave my daughter when I joined the military. I deployed to Afghanistan twice,

but I knew it was the best decision for me and my kids. Sometimes you have to take sacrifices. Right. And you look at the bigger picture. Don't worry about what people say, because people are going to judge you. But you know what you're getting at the end goal. And that's a great life for you and your kids.

So that was my main goal, sticking it throughout the whole 13 years. And look at me now, like I'm not perfect, but my kids are in a better situation than I was when I was their age. And it's amazing. You just gotta do what's best for you and your kids. Absolutely.

And it requires taking sacrifices. Well said. I think that's going to relate to so many people. A lot of people in the military don't talk about that. They don't talk about how it feels as a mom to be away from your kids. It's already hard enough to be going through postpartum. I know her baby is young, your baby is young. So that's a lot in itself.

And then to just put like the distance, being in the army, being in that type of environment, being in a whole nother country with a whole different culture, like there's so much on you. There's a lot going on. You know, just really, you know, focus on yourself, focus on your baby, do what's best for y'all.

And just, you know, like Sherelle said, it's all about the long-term investment that you're making. And it's, I promise you, it's worth it. It's definitely worth it. I can add just a little bit to it. I can't resonate with like having that situation happen to me. I can only attest to a little bit with my baby girl Asada

being at boarding school away prematurely than when I thought she would be leaving the house. So it's about sacrifice, but it's also getting your job done and taking care of yourself too. And these babies will be okay, especially with support systems and very much so a surrounding support group.

In the long run, they are getting educated. They are learning so much and the babies will be okay. And mama is doing what she got to do. Like that's what really counts. So I just think it's commendable. And as long as you have a support system, it's going to be beneficial to everybody. Have faith, keep God first, and don't give up.

You know what your end goal is, and you know who you are sacrificing for. That's right, that's right. Absolutely. We love you, Carolina, and we wish you nothing but the best. Thank you for writing in. Yes. We love our Humblebatties mail.

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