Club Shay Shay - Turning up in Nigeria, travel etiquette, should men comment on women's hair? | Humble Baddies

Episode Date: March 7, 2025

In this episode, Sharelle and Ashley recap their trip to Nigeria, Alexis discusses her loc journey and birthday. Later, they discuss travel etiquette, whether kids belong in first class, and answer fan questions in Humble Baddies Mailbag!02:30 - Sharelle and Ashley debrief on their trip to Africa; Alexis had her birthday in NYC12:40 - What is travel etiquette to you?21:34 - Don’t ask about the Humble Baddies’ hair30:53 - Time for some advice via Humble Baddies Mail(Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.) #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What's up y'all y'all back from the motherland. Yes girl. I didn't want to come back. Don't ask me about my hair. Okay if it look like it's mine it's mine. Are they gonna be long distance you said? Yeah. It's gonna be like.

It's gonna be long distance. I don't know I don't think that's gonna work. What's up guys? We are back with another episode of Humblebatties. I'm Sherelle Rosado. I'm Sherrell Rosado. I'm Ashley Nicole. And I'm Alexis Sotomayor. And we are the humble baddies. What's up y'all?

Y'all back from the motherland? Yes, girl. I didn't want to come back. We missed you Lex. We missed you so much. I know you should have been there. Yeah, it was a good time. You know I was celebrating my 42nd lap around the sun. Delayed it.

Thank you so much. Thank you so much. Happy birthday. Happy birthday. Thank you. Thank you. It's Pisces season. So shout out to my fellow Pisces out there.

Okay. So you had a good time. You were in the NYC. I did. It's cool to be back like full circle. I go often. And the fact that my youngest was born there and there's lots of footsteps there in New York

and the big city. Y'all spent a lot of time there. Yeah, yeah, we did. You know, it was an investment. And you know, if they say, if you can make it in New York, you can make it anywhere. So the fact that our family thrive there, they still thrive, we still have a name there.

And you know, it's just good to see friends that are family that you just haven't seen in a while. And plus it was a nice change of weather. And the vibes, the people, the- Was it snowing? No, no snow, no snow. But it was just chilly. Just a little chilly, you know.

What y'all like? A little brisk. Okay. Well, we was in the opposite. We was in Africa, girl. So tell me, tell me. I mean, are y'all jet lagged? Like, what is it?

Girls, I'm jet lagged? Like, what is this thing? I'm jet lagged, I'm tired. Tired, we was partying. This one had me outside every day, all night, until the sun came up. Wait, it wasn't us, it was the promoters, and it was Legos, listen, they know how to party. Let me write some notes about Legos.

I'm gonna tell you what you need in your packing kit when you go there. You're gonna need IV hydration packets. Because there's no sleep. You're gonna have to charge up before you leave and just go with the flow. So it's not a relaxation vacation. No, I lived off of coffee and champagne.

Oh. We were urinating champagne and Kilo the whole time. But you know what? Shout out to everybody in Lagos, everybody in Ghana. Y'all took great care of us. Y'all really showed out. Hopefully we can upload some clips. We got some clips of us.

When I tell you the hospitality there was top tier, it was top tier. They showed us so much love. They were hosting dinners. And I mean, they really laid out the red carpet. Like it was very much coming to Africa, like coming to America, but it was like coming to Africa. Yeah.

Really? Tell me more. Tell me more. We just saw you love this. Yes. So we went to Lagos and then we also went to Accra in Ghana. And I just loved Ghana. Like for me, I want to spend more time in Ghana.

Well, we are going to be spending more time. We do have some exciting news. Allure Realty has partnered with a big development company over there. We're actually going to go over there soon. So it wasn't all play. Yeah. Okay. It was work too. We definitely had some business meetings.

We definitely gonna get into the real estate business over there. That's real. There's a lot of new developments happening out there and Allure is gonna be a part of it. I hear there are great business opportunities in the motherland, especially Ghana and Nigeria. People are coming back. I think we all should invest there. And getting the citizens to sit. Like as black people, we should definitely invest business opportunities in the motherland, especially Ghana and Nigeria, people are coming back.

I think we all should invest there. Citizens should invest. Like as black people, we should definitely invest. Are price points pretty reasonable to where you... Oh yes, absolutely. Really? Amazing. The units that we're partnering with, they're starting out at $84,000 and they have a great

ROI. ROI. What you can, English for those that don't know? Return on investment. Okay. Yes. So yeah, I mean, we're here to educate and let everybody know,

I know a lot of people don't know about investing, investing in real estate and investing in a whole nother continent, let alone another country. So we're here, send us an email if you have questions and we would love to help set that up. Yes, I love that. Another great thing that I loved about Africa for us to go over there

and you don't have to walk on eggshells. You don't have to be a yes man or no man. Like you walking it, it's generational wealth over there. Like you got powerful ass black men, powerful ass black women over there just killing it. Like it was just so beautiful to see. It was very beautiful. Our kings and queens running shit.

We're basically not the minority. Not basically, we aren't, you know? Yeah. Yes. It was a beautiful thing to see. I love that. How was the food? We're basically not the minority. Not basically, we aren't. You know? Yes. Yeah. It was a beautiful thing to see. I love that. How was the food?

The food was amazing. Yes, it was amazing. The food was amazing. We went and got a massage at a waterfall. Mm. I don't know if I was supposed to say that. No, not. We're not gonna talk about that.

Why not? Why not? It was beautiful. You're in nature, you get in massage, just rest and relaxation. I mean, why not? It was a little different. It was a little different.

Oh, why was it different, Ash? Why was it different? The men in Ghana are very beautiful. I'm just- The skin. Yeah, it's the skin and the muscles. And this is who was doing the massaging or just in general? I just wanted my mic a little closer so I can.

We're talking about the massages, but in general, yeah. They're beautiful people. Beautiful country, beautiful people. Yeah. I love that. And so everyone was warm with you guys. I'm just warm and welcome. Very catering.

Yeah. Ooh, catering. Everybody wanted to make sure like we had a great time and we did. Well, Ash, did you, you did say the last episode that you were looking for, you know, a prince. Okay.

I want to know. The people do want to know. Was there some connections out there? Normally I am the matchmaker. But we know that. Thank you so much. The Nigerian men are very aggressive. I mean, we knew this already, but nah,

they walked up to my friends, my single friends, and was like, I want your number. Give me your number. So no conversation, no none of that. It was more just very direct. It was very straight to the point. It was very straight to the point. It was very straight to the point. They're very direct, assertive men.

Yeah, okay. But did I give out my number? Did you? Did you? I didn't. There was no one that piqued your interest. No. It's okay.

No. Okay, well, okay, we'll have to go back because I said we had a mission. Yeah, Ashley did say that. Okay, well, we will have to go back because I said we had a mission. Yeah, Ashley did say that. Okay. Really. Well, that was good. At least you guys went.

Y'all making me blush. I see, we see. At least you went and sprinkled a little essence there. We'll be back, so it's fine. Yeah, and I'ma go this time. Are you gonna come with us for real? I will. Okay.

It was just a little conflict of interest with my birthday and everything. Maybe. You might not want to come back. Oh. You want to be there for your birthday. Yeah. You want to be there for your birthday.

You want to be over there for your birthday. So next year? Next year. Let's make it happen. Look at Sherelle with a grin. I love that for you all though. I love that you- It's so much fun.

And I was telling Ashley and everyone, I did the Ancestry DNA and I found out it does a breakdown. I'm 26% Nigerian. Yeah, I love that. She's a Niger queen. I love that. It's beautiful, but you're going to love it. I can't wait.

I can't wait. So yeah, I need a break though. I'm tired. But you about to go back on Vogue and you're going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, you're going to love it. Yeah, I can't wait. I can't wait. So yeah, I need a break though. I'm tired. But you're about to go back on vacation. I know I got one more trip with the kids.

I got, you know, I owe the kids. It is just March. So I got to take the kids on a little spring break trip. Yeah. And then I'm set my ass down because I'm up like that. Yeah. I got to take mine too. They don't start spring break until two more weeks from now.

So. It's just the first year that I have three of my babies or there just, it's three different schedules. So nobody's going on a group trip. It'd be more individualized because they're overlapping. Once I'm spring break now, then I have Asada coming in next week and then she's a good week. And then after that is, are the boys.

So it's just all over the place. So all of March is spring break. Somebody's on spring break. Well, that's amazing. That is, it's a blessing, right? It is. Children are a blessing. They're wearing me out though.

They are. It's never a dumb moment with them because on spring break, do you feel like you have to put them in activities, keep them busy, or is that a time for everyone to rest? You got to keep them busy. I feel like I'm always trying to keep them busy, but I feel like for spring break, it is a time for us to like do something different, like get together, do something different, get out the house, you know, go on a trip, something, even if it's not like far, just get them out of their environment. And show them something different. I feel like, you know, I can speak on myself, me growing up as a child, I wasn't able to travel the world.

So just showing them the world, giving them an experience that I didn't have, I love that. It's better than just giving them money or paying for their time or putting them in a summer camp. Like let's go, let me show you the world. That's beautiful. It's hands on education. You just cannot get that back in those core memories that they'll take forever.

It is, it's amazing to always travel with your children. Chad, he reached out to me. You know, we're still nothing like that, but we still are a family at the end of the day. And he was like, have the baby ready. So Serenity's getting her hair done and the sisters are shopping. He's taking all his girls on a trip.

A daddy daughter spring break. So Serenity and her sisters, their dad leaves tomorrow to go to Dominican Republic. Oh, okay. I was like, okay, okay. Passport steps. You wanted to make it a competition, you take them to D.R.

I'm taking the girls to Dubai. Oh, damn. Big jump. So, Shade and Ariana both graduate in May, so their trip for me will be going to Dubai. That would be fun. All the girls, the older girls.

Yeah, I love that. That's beautiful. Now, when you travel, are the kids in first class? Oh, no, baby, they gonna be in economy, but mama gonna be in first class. Mama gonna be at the head and they be at the tail. Yeah. Do your kids travel first class too?

They got kicked out a long time ago. Okay. They don't drink liquor. They don't drink the liquor. They don't eat the food. And I mean, it's funny because they were like, why are you in first? I'm like, wait, what?

Especially the boys. When they met me in Japan, they were like, it was so tight in the back. I was like, look, I don't know what to tell you. You already figured it out. And they're old enough now, like they don't need to be like right, sitting right next to me. Exactly.

I mean, they're in first class, I was 30 years old. Exactly. It's a privilege. Yes, y'all gotta work for this now. It's a privilege. I'm only gonna make sure y'all get there. Yes, yes. Y'all may be in the back of the plane,

but y'all gotta work for this first class. And you're right, I don't have to be under them. They're all self-efficient. All the iPads are charged. The phones are charged. They sleep. They can watch whatever they want. Can't nobody steal them.

We all in the same spot. Yes. So like, what do you guys think of travel etiquette? I know, speaking of like traveling and these airplanes, it's real scary right now. Travel etiquette is a real thing. You know, travel etiquette is a major part. We might need to start teaching some lessons.

On the travel etiquette. But did y'all see, and I felt like that happened to me, where I seen a news article where the plane had to turn around because the guy was excessively farting. That is the same thing. How much do you have to be farting for them to turn a damn plane around? Enough to where you're sticking up to the spot Enough to where people are getting sick from the smell. That's horrible.

That's awful. Now I have let out a fart or two on the plane. Oh Ashley, I'm sorry but we family. What did I do? You remember when I was texting you and Martini, I was like, oh y'all like I got gas. It was the food. So we was on the plane. You were on the plane.

Well, you know, on the altitude, I had the, I had the, I had the blanket seal because I was like, oh, my stomach is. It was the food. Where can you stop? We take malaria pills. The malaria pills. We make my stomach. Yes, but you're eating at weird times, the jet lag, you're flying.

You have to make it turn the plane around. That is something else. So you let one out, Sherelle? They was the silent ones too. I was like, oh my goodness, I'm so embarrassed. Them be the silent killers. But no one, no, you just had to make that look for you. Travel etiquette, I think everybody's afforded one good little psh psh.

You know what I'm saying? Cause that's a long flight. That's a long flight. It is a long flight. I remember when Chad and I used to be on the plane and it was one time where I had bad gas and the people was looking at Chad rolling his eyes cause they're not gonna think that it's the woman. And I looked at him, she's so cute but she's stank.

I'm looking at him too, I at them. She's so cute, but she's stank, Lord. She's stank. I'm looking at them too, I'm like. This you, you stink. That's funny. It's that, that is the farting. To me, it's when people take their shoes off and their feet smell. Oh, yeah, that's nasty.

I was sitting next to a guy going from cross country and it's already a long flight. And we were in those kind of like the pods to where it was two, the right next. So I was like, he would, and it's long where you want to rest because if it's like, most likely if it's a red eye, you know, you ask him. I, I, so at first I was like, you don't make me sick.

I was like, is it, it has to be him, you know? Cause at first you just, it just this overwhelming foot odor. Then I looked and I was like, yeah, I think it is. So I was like, I tapped him. I was like, sir, do you mind like, you know, covering up your feet? And he was like, he looked at me and he was just like,

kind of gave me the shoulder and kind of like turned. No, he didn't. Oh my goodness. But then he did end up covering up his feet with the blanket. Did it help? No, that funk penetrated. That little blanket.

What do you call an athlete's feet? It had to be fungus. It had to be something, but I feel like people think they're at home when they're on the plane. And you forget it's a shared space. And not only is it a shared space, it's a tiny shared space.

Yeah. And you don't pay all this money to sit in, you know, first class. It seems to be uncomfortable. It's just not it's not cool. It was a crying baby on my way back from Africa. It was. And I had the long leg, the long leg. That's tough. It is tough because I remember them days flying with my baby.

And they would be crying. And I was just like, tough because I remember them days flying with my baby and they would be crying. And I was just like, damn, I remember them days. But I feel like you should always be like the type of person, because I will never forget this. There was this one flight, my baby was crying, crying, crying. And this old white man was like, let me help you. Let me help you with your baby. And I was like, no.

Like, I got it. Almost because you're just like a stranger. I got my baby, I'm good. And he was like, just let me help you. And I was like, no, no, no, I'm good. And then my baby just kept crying, kept crying. So finally he just took my baby. He didn't say nothing to me.

He just grabbed him. And when I tell you my baby, he just, this was Phillip when he was little, he just stopped crying. Just like that. And went to sleep in that just grabbed him. And when I tell you, my baby, he just, this was Phillip when he was little, he just stopped crying. Just like that. And went to sleep in that man's arms. You like, I wish I would have did this. And I looked at that man, I was like,

oh my God, like, thank you so much. I almost started crying because I really was having like a hard time. You're overwhelmed. Yeah. Because you're like, oh, what people looking at you. So I always feel like people should remember, like, you know, the mom is probably going through it

right now. Like, I always look for like the moms who like need a helping hand with their strollers and like, cause they got so much going on where you're traveling. It's a lot, you know? But in that moment in Africa for a second, I was like, I just want to go to sleep. Of course.

And then I had to be like, bitch, you remember? That used to be you. That used to be you. That used to be you. So don't forget. And I was like, okay, just put your headphones in, girl. Just put your headphones in and go to sleep. That's what I do. Ashley, we're gonna help Ashley create a loud for headphones.

The whole time we was in Africa, cause the music is loud. Ashley had the earplugs. Earplugs, yes. Because I have sensitive ears. So it's heightened. It's too loud for me in the club. I'm old.

You're not old. Okay, well, I don't know, but I do not, I can't do the loud noises in the club. So if you ever see me in the club with something in my ear, just ignore it, okay? And it was super loud. Yeah, so what I do, if I don't have my earplugs, I will get a tissue and then I like get a little piece

and I ball it up in my hand. I put it in my mouth so it can get a little wet. And then I roll it up in my hand and then I stuff them in my ears and it makes a earplug. She hear better. And I can hear better. If you try to talk to me in the club with nothing in my ear, I can't hear you.

But as soon as I put them in, I can hear you. I can't hear what like so much loud noise is going on. And I know people be looking at me like I'm crazy and I know it's annoying, but I gotta do it. So Ashley gonna come out with her own line of earplugs. Yeah. Y'all better sit. Y'all gonna be thanking me when y'all older and y'all can hear. Y'all going to the club every night.

I just can put those maxes on, turn that noise cancellation and just max out. Lex, I see something different, booze. What you see different? Did you take your locks out? I did. Oh my goodness. I'm in this hair journey of right now,

well, I would say it's been over a year of me having the locs, which I love. It's something that I didn't know I was missing, you know, like in just my vibe, just my extra like a little layer, but I'm in the stage of where they are locs. So I'm in a loc reformation phase right now. So it took hours to take out the locks.

And now I got a deep condition and it had to cover up these grays and I'm getting them all relocked permanently tomorrow. Oh my goodness. That's exciting. Are you gonna add extensions or are you just gonna use your- Yes, I'm gonna add the extensions, but like my hair grew so much.

It has so much new growth and they've already started locking. So it's just like a big step being 42 and only a week old. Yeah, like so much is going on, you know, where I'm just like, you know, it's time. And that's your crown, you know, it's very, very sacred. And so like, I love how I feel in them. I love my vibe. It's sexy. Thank you.

It's so sexy. Thank you. Thank you. So it's just my essence right now. And so I just wanted to make sure I was doing it the right way, the correct way. And so now I'm locking in, literally. And my boys, my boys had them for years.

My oldest just cut his two years ago and then my baby still has them. So I'm just gonna be like them and just rock out. One day I'm gonna lock my hair up too. Come on, L'Oreal. So my whole family can be, yes, you're right, you're the only one. My family is locked up.

So one day when I get like, I don't know what age. Hopefully that's some point. I'm inspired. I'm inspired. Your hair is so long. It's so pretty. I'ma lock it though. Cause ain't nobody finna be doing this when I'm older in age, you know what I. But at some point. Hopefully I inspire. I'm inspired. Your hair is so long. It's so pretty. I'ma like it though. You can.

Cause ain't nobody finna be doing this when I'm older in age and all. I like it. I go. I just go. Especially if you're living here in Miami. Eventually I wanna cut all my hair off and go short. You could do that.

You should. It'll grow right back too. Try it. I'm scared. I had short hair before. Like a gypsy cut. Really? We need a picture.

We need some evidence. Cause I don't like it. Oh, I got a question because I got a question. I got a question. Sure. OK, so what do you guys feel about men feeling like they have a say? So what their woman does with their hair? Do they do you do? Do we need to get permission for them to make a big hair change

if we want to do a big chop, if we want to lock up. How do you feel about that? I think I say yes. You know what's funny? Like a conversation? No, before we go into this. So I was on a plane coming back from Africa and this guy was sitting next to me and we were having a conversation. We was talking about everything and he was like, is that your real hair? And I was like, no, I have extensions. And he was looking at it. And he was like, I hate, I hate women who wear the lace front. He said, it's okay. But if it looks crazy, I don't like it. And the other thing I don't like is the smell of, because you know, some hair stinks. It has like a- It does have a particular smell. Oh no.

A horrible smell to it. And I said, I understand where you're coming from. Like that was his pet peeve. I said, I totally understand where you're coming from because I hate that smell too. Yeah. And I hate seeing when the, the lace fronts are just- Just lifting up.

Lifting and it ain't done right. Yeah. Okay. So I feel you with your man, if they don't like that, I feel like you should take heed to what they're saying. That's just like, I don't know. I feel like-

That's a little tough for me. It's a little tough. Okay, I feel like if he met me with my hair like that and he liked me enough to come and say hello and want to take me out and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, then I feel like, then he liked me enough to come and say hello and want to take me out and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, then I feel like, then he got to deal with it. But I feel like if he met me and I was natural

and then maybe I switched over, then we can have a conversation about it, but I don't think he necessarily has a say in it. Like, you can let me know, I don't prefer that, but that's fine because I like this. So I think that's what I would agree with. No, but I feel like what I was taking from your question is, okay, what if you, okay, your man met you, met me,

what if I'm saying- But you just met him on the plane. So that's why I was saying that. But what if this is your man? And you want to do a big change. You're gonna do a big change. Cause it has to be, a big change has to be. I would consult with, hey, baby,

I think I'm gonna try this. What do you think about it? Just to get their opinion. I think that's a good way to approach it. Like, especially that's your man. You know, y'all have this dialogue, y'all are friends, you have the conversation, and going off of how he met you, that's what attracted him to you in the first place.

So what a big change like that comes sometimes a life change too. You know, something could have triggered the haircut, it could have been anything because it is. It's a moment of your spirituality, your soul switching off because you want to change something. And to your all's point,

like my swag switched up a little bit with the locks and the vibes. So like low key, the right partner would have to handle that. You know what I'm saying? If that's the case, but low key, I was talking to one of my friends about it. I was like, what do you think of it? Like, you know, he was like, don't cut the locks.

He was like, you need to consult your man if you're gonna cut them locks off, cause that shit's dope. Like, and I was like, I kind of get that, you know? But I would definitely have that conversation. But I know that's what like is part of your vibe or your essence. So it is a part of who you are.

You know, it's an extension. So how do you feel about them lots being gone temporarily? They'll be back tomorrow. Don't worry. Did you FaceTime them? Not yet, not yet. Well, I mean. But you know.

Look, I'll be talking about your friend. They'd be like, let me go back to this. Somebody come in and was like, let me go back to this. Such a sexist. People think they hear me. You'll never know. You'll never find out.

They would never know, but we know. You know, it's good to have friends everywhere, guys. You know, let's just say this. You just being blessed. Bless you. Lord. Every time we talk about that friend, them cheeks get red, that smile get beat.

Can we change the topic? We were talking about hair, okay? We were talking about hair. You brought the friend up. I did, don't be shy now. You sure did. You just said a friend, like, you know what I'm saying. But we know what that a friend is.

We know what that means when you say friend. The mic's gonna be back in. Tomorrow. So you can pull on on. You're real crazy. Okay, well, I don't know. I've been thinking about like if Phil ever cut his locs because I met him, I've only known him with locs.

Yeah, it goes both ways, even with the guys. Can you imagine that? No, I cannot. Because they have facial hair changes. I can't imagine him cutting his hair. To grow a beard or not to grow a beard, to go bald or not to be bald or... I can't see Chad with any hair.

Really? I can't see him with hair either. No. Cause like, can he grow hair? He can grow hair. I mean, I was no shade. I used to be, I used to be his barber. Really? So he's choosing to be bald. He look better bald to me. I don to be, I used to be his barber. Really?

So he's choosing to be bald. He look better bald to me. I don't think he would look right. You like bald guys? Sure. I mean, I liked, when we were together, I liked that bald head man, but. Yeah. Okay.

Okay. But yeah, so I think it's also for men and women too. I think you should consult if there's a big change. Yeah, but I don't like a man asking if my hair is real or not. I feel like that's rude. Especially for you as a black woman. Exactly, but you felt okay with that man asking you that? What?

On the plane. He was like, is this your real hair? Yeah. I didn't think too much of it. I was like, I mean, I got some extensions in here. Yeah, I don't like that. But you know, I'm old school when it come to that. Like, I'm back in the day.

I'm like, I like back in the day when like, we didn't know what you had going on in your head. But now it's like everybody, it's like a flex to be like, I got that 30 inch bust down, blah, blah, blah. Right. Cause it's an accessory. You know, we've embraced hair culture now. We've embraced locks.

And I'm not mad at that. but I just, I don't know. The love journey. Yeah, like don't worry about it. Don't worry. Cause your hair is beautiful. Don't worry about it. Don't worry about it, sweetheart. Don't worry about it.

Don't worry about it. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Yeah. I understand what you're saying. Yeah. I don't know. I guess I'm old school, but don't ask me what I got going on in here. It's mine and I bought it.

But yes, it's real. But all y'all wanna know. And no, you can't touch it. But you know, in here. It's the mind I bought it. It's the mind I bought it. And no, you can't touch it. But you know, especially, let me just be 100. You know we prep for a trip for the protection of our hair. So whether it's braids, whether it's a deep condition or something, we going to switch it up for convenience.

So I feel like they shouldn't be asking, no one should be asking like, why you got that? Why are you doing that right now? Yeah. So Ashley don't like about people asking about her hair. Don't ask me about my hair, okay? If it look like it's mine, it's mine. Period. Okay?

Don't ask me no questions. And if you ask me, it's mine because I bought it. Period. And that's that. And Lex by the locks up. And no, you can't touch it. And no, you can't touch it. And no, you can't touch it. Period. And that's that. And Lex by the locks up. And no you can't touch it. And no you can't touch it. And no you can't touch it.

Period. So fellas, do not ask a woman about they hair. No. Let her come to you. Alright y'all, now it's time for our favorite time. It is the Humble Baddies mail time. Ooh yes. Alright, who do we have today?

This week's mail is from Dominique. Hey Dominique. She says, y'all I'm stuck. So I'm currently going through a divorce and guess who else is my high school sweetheart. We recently connected after six years and the vibes are still there. It's like no time has passed.

Now here's the dilemma. We both want to give this a real shot once our divorces are finalized. But he's in the military, which means we will be starting off this relationship long distance. And let me tell you, I hate long distance, but I've loved this man for 12 years. So what do I do? Do I dive in and make it work or am I setting myself up for heartbreak? Help me out, humble baddies.

Dominique. Dominique. Well, I'm gonna tell you like this, girl. You are just coming out of a relationship, right? Oh, she put the cards down for this. Because I just got out of a relationship. And, well, nevermind, go ahead. And what?

Nothing. Say it! Say it! No, I was, oh. No, say it, Ashley, we need to know. I spoke prematurely, go, go, go, go, go. Okay, okay. Listen, honey, Dominique, focus on you.

Heal you. Do whatever it is to make sure that you're happy because what you don't wanna do is get into another relationship. I don't know why you guys are ending your relationship, going through a divorce, but you need that healing time. And that's on some serious, like find out what makes you happy.

And because you don't wanna bring whatever it is from your previous relationship. It had to be something because y'all are going through a divorce into this new relationship. If he's been your high school sweetheart and you still have feelings, take it slow. Like you can communicate with him. You still can date him and date others. But find out what it is that you want because it may seem like it's happy and butterflies right now, but it can be just- It's a honeymoon stage, right? Right. It can be something to like a temporary void. So you don't want to make, you want

to make sure it's not that temporary void. So focus on you, do you, date a little bit, and then we'll see where it leads to. That's my opinion. I agree and disagree. Y'all know I'm the hopeless romantic. I feel being a divorcee, I feel like people do have an expiration date. And I also believe in divine timing.

I agree with you saying you need to heal and you also need to focus on yourself. Because that's one thing they do have in common is one, they are familiar with each other, but it's a different stage in life. They have both been through traumatic events, meaning like a marriage and a divorce and military. Y'all both know how that is. So that can also be taxing on just the mental and just really just an additive of what the healing journey is. So you're adding that and plus you're adding still trauma

from the previous relationship if there was infidelity, if there was financial reasons, whatever the cause of divorce between those parties were. So I agree with healing, but I also believe in, again, the timing is perfect in their own way so they can heal together. I feel like I like both these answers. I feel like you can't go wrong

with either one of these answers. But I feel like with some of these questions, y'all be knowing the answers. I feel like y'all be knowing the answers. I feel like y'all be writing, y'all just be writing the co-sign. Actually, you still married, girl. We done been married, the boys.

I done been married, the boys. I feel like y'all be knowing what to do. We have some life experience. Look, this my husband calling now. See, we have some life experience in that way. So I'm filming. Mama at work. Man, we filming. We filming, Mama at work. Man, we filming.

We filming, we at work. Hey Phil. Answer the question. Have Phil answer the question. Yes, Phil. Can you answer this question? We have a question from a humble baddie. Can you answer it?

The question is this girl Dominique, she just got a divorce, but she reconnected with her old high school sweetheart after six years. They're both going through divorce. They're both going through a divorce and they just rekindled, but he's in the military and they went again in a relationship, but it's going to be long term because he's in the military.

What should she do? Long distance. Put it towards the mics. It depends on what? Are they going to be long distance, you said? Yeah. What's the mic say? It depends on what? Are they gonna be long distance you say? Yes. It's gonna be long distance.

I don't know. I don't think that's gonna work. Yeah. That's what I said too. That's what I said too. I said they'd be writing these questions knowing the answer. They just want us to co-sign some bullshit.

That's the answer. Okay. Thank you, babe. Love you. I'm gonna call you in about 10 minutes. You can be done. Okay. Okay. Bye bye. I love that. Males respect. Yeah. Yeah. You know, it ain't gonna work. It's temporary healing because they both need to heal. I agree and see what they really want. It feels good and it sounds good for the moment. Yeah, but it's not gonna work. Maybe they can heal together. Dominique, it's not gonna work, girl. We don't know if it's not gonna work, Dominique.

Dominique, go and- But I say date them all. I always say date them all. Date them all, sis. Date them all. Heal, do all the things. He could be top one, but date them all. But this ain't it.

Just know that, okay? And that's okay. It's okay, girl. You see me over here blowing and having fun. We can't co-sign everything. All of us. Okay. Yeah. But anyways, thank you for writing us over here at the Humblebatties.

Thank you so much. We appreciate you and all your questions. If y'all have advice that y'all need, please feel free to write us. As always, thank you for sending in your messages. If you're facing a situation or need advice on something happening in your life, we'd love to hear from you. Yes. And where can they contact us?

Send us an email at contact at humble baddies.com and we may feature your submission on the show. So we look forward to hearing from you guys. All right, you guys, that is it for another episode of humble baddies. Make sure you follow us at humbleblebatties on Instagram, Humblebatties Podcast on Instagram. Subscribe to us on YouTube, Humblebatties Podcast on all platforms.

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