Clutterbug - Real-Life Hacks and Tips to Declutter, Organize and Clean your Home Fast - How to show up for yourself - Say YES to the life you crave today | Clutterbug Podcast # 97

Episode Date: September 10, 2020

Are you saying "yes" to those opportunities that life is giving you? Are you showing up for yourself everyday? When a door opens, are you leaping through?  In this podcast, I share some easy ways that you can show up for yourself and start saying YES to the life you crave.        You can find more Clutterbug content here: Website: http://www.clutterbug.me YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@clutterbug TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@clutterbug_me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Clutterbug.Me/   #clutterbug #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're talking about taking those opportunities when they come to you. When the doors open, the windows, even a tiny crack, are you jumping through? Hey clutterbugs. Welcome back to the clutterbug podcast. Today we're talking about taking those opportunities when they're presented to you, leaping, taking that leap of faith in your life, showing up for yourself and what that looks like. And I really want you, when you're listening to this, to ask yourself,

those hard questions to really look inside yourself and ask yourself, am I doing this? Am I showing up for myself every single day? So last week I was on Facebook and I was tagged in a post. I am part of this women entrepreneur group in the city that I live in. There's a ton of amazing entrepreneur women in this group and we just share things to inspire each other, I guess. and the admin of the group had posted just a meme that said, it said, if you could do anything for one day,

if you could like change your career for one day, what would it be? And somebody had posted, I would be a professional organizer. It's my dream to be a professional organizer. I have a gift. I love doing it. I'm super passionate about it. I was watching a new show on HGTV, Hot Mess House with my husband. And even my husband said, you should be doing this.

You should be doing what the host is doing because you're so good at it. And somebody tagged me in that post in their comment because they knew that I was, I lived in Windsor and I was the host of Potmas House. I mean, what a small world, right? This person who wanted to do this for a living and be an organizer actually was in the same group as me. So I felt like this was fate, you guys. I was like, I've been looking for somebody to mentor for a really long time.

I've been looking for somebody. I get calls all the time and messages from people in my community asking me to organize their home. I'm no longer taking on clients like that. And so I'm just like, no, I'm sorry. And I give them the names of a few other people. But what a cool opportunity to have like somebody that I work with that helps me organize, that helps me, I can sort of take under my wing. And so if nothing else, I was like, I want to meet this girl and just chat over coffee.

And so I reached out to her and I said, I live in Windsor and I'm the host of Hot Mess House and I run a successful organizing business called Clutterbug. And I'd love to meet with you. I'd love to answer any questions that you have. And I have a course. I'd love to give it to you for free if you want so you can get started. And you don't have to change your career or anything, but I would just, I would love to talk. to you about making your dream come true. I didn't hear from her for a few days. And then she ended up

messaging me back saying, now is just not a good time. She's really busy with the kids. She was a stay-at-home mom and the kids were going to go back to school soon. And I was like, okay, that, I mean, that was last week. But again, I haven't heard from her since. And I thought at first it was a little hurt, which, I mean, how ridiculous. It has nothing to do with me, right? So I don't know why I was hurt. That was my ego getting in the way, I think. But then I started realizing how many people miss opportunities like this. We say that we really want something, but are we really doing anything about it? We say we want to be debt-free.

We say we want to lose weight. We say we want to get our home clean and organized. We say we want to start a business. We say we want to write a book. Are we showing up for ourselves? and when opportunities are presented and the doors are opened, are we walking through? And the truth is, it's almost always no. It's almost always no.

Why are we not doing this? And I think sometimes it's not recognizing that opportunity, but I think more often it's fear. It's fear of failure. It's fear of adding work onto our plate. we're like, I'm already busy enough. I don't want to do anything else. Our brain constantly wants to save us from exerting ourselves. And yeah, it's really just fear. And so a good example of this would be, I cannot tell you how many people have said to me, I want to get organized. I want to

clean my house. But I would need like two weeks off of work to do it. Right. And if I ever get like two weeks where I don't have to go to work, I'm going to organize and clean my house and get caught up on all of these things or I really want to learn to sew quilts, play an instrument, but I'm just too busy. If I could ever get some time off, then I would do that. You guys, listen, we just had Corona time where a lot of us, unless we were essential workers, were home and doing nothing for weeks or even months on end. And how many of you or us or me included actually stood up, took that opportunity

and did the things we always say we cannot do because we don't have the time? And again, I'm going to guess it's very, very few of us. So why? Why are we not showing up for ourselves? And it is those people who do show up for themselves that are happier, that are more productive, and they're just living a more fulfilled life. They're doing all of these amazing things

because they're showing up for themselves. And that can be as much as replying to a message on somebody and actually showing up for coffee. That lady didn't have to, you know, start an organizing business tomorrow. She didn't have to drop everything and leave her kids who were going back to school to create a new business out of a box the next day. she could have just shown up for coffee and maybe learned something and maybe decided you know what

actually this isn't for me i don't know what it is but she just didn't show up and maybe during corona time we didn't have to clean all over our house in one day maybe every day we could have spent 15 20 minutes towards something and i know you're like okay well that's over now or we're we're moving on and and i've missed my chance but that's the thing every day another door opens every day we get another opportunity to show up for ourselves and it never looks like we expect it's never somebody just handing us our dreams on a silver platter it's us looking for little opportunities to make baby steps towards our dream maybe it's an awesome night and the kids went to bed early for some reason and they didn't fight you and you're not 100% exhausted and you're like oh what am i going to do with my time

before you put on some brando Netflix movie, if you've always dreamt of writing a book, sit down and start writing for half an hour. And the next time you have time, maybe it's next week, maybe it's next month, and you have some extra time too. Instead of escaping into something that doesn't get you closer to your dream, spend a little bit of that time getting you closer. And it sounds easy. I know, it sounds so much easier than it is.

So something that we can do to sort of push through that procrastination that our brain is telling us, relax, relax, you might have to fight or flight later, relax, you might have to find food or build shelter or expel a lot of energy. So let's rest now. We can do the Mel Robbins approach, which is the five second rule. So we count down from five. Five, four, three, two, one, and we do it. And so whenever you have a thought that comes into your head, oh, I should really do this thing right now. And then your brain's like, nah, nah, let's surf the web instead.

Right? I want you to 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and do it. If you're looking at that pile of dishes in the sink and you're like, oh, I should do that before I get ready for bed. And you're like, nah, I'll do it in the morning. Nope, it's 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and you're doing it. You're doing it now. and maybe you're just filling the sink with hot soapy water. You're just taking a step.

You're just replying to that one email. You're just making a quick phone call. You're just going to write one page in a new book. You're just going to research one thing towards a new business venture. You're just going to tidy one drawer. It doesn't have to be an all or nothing in life. It shouldn't be in all or nothing in life. It shouldn't be in all or nothing in life.

And it's this loop of procrastination and perfectionism. It's this crazy hamster wheel cycle that we're on that stops us from achieving our dreams. So today, I want you to remember Mel Robbins 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and constantly be mindful of these opportunities, these windows, these doors that are all around you, that are opening up the universe saying, here's your chance take it here's an extra half an hour use it you have an appointment and they call and they reschedule and you're like oh i have this hour free now use it those are all opportunities that are being given to you on a silver platter do not waste them recognize them for what they are

If somebody reaches out to you and is like, hey, want to get together for something or want to go to this networking event with me or do you want to blah, blah, blah, blah? We don't always have to say, yes, but what do you really have to lose? There could be something amazing that comes out of it. And I am not a social person. So, I mean, I get the antisocial aspect and nature, but every time I do show up to one of those events or end up dragging my butt out of the house and going and having coffee with someone that I really don't want to have coffee with, I always learn something new. I always take home something that I didn't have before I went.

And they're all what I call tools for my toolbox. Some of the tools are big, some of the tools are small, some of them are kind of useless. if I'm totally honest, but they rattle around my big old brain and they do get used eventually. And all of those things definitely put me closer to the life that I want to live. So I wanted to share that with you today. I want to remind you to be mindful of all of your opportunities that you could be passing up in your life. It looks like canceled appointments. It looks like phone calls from friends to catch up and have coffee.

it looks like you be invited to go out with drinks from the neighbor that just moved in that you hardly ever know that could be your new best friend that you've been craving that relief but you were like man i wish i had a best friend that i could hang out with that lives close and then your neighbor invite you over coffee you're like i don't know you no thanks right why do we do this why do we do this and every single one of these opportunities is not always going to pan out but I want you to default to yes more than no going forward. When you are presented with an opportunity, I want you to say yes, way more than you're saying no. I want you to push yourself out of your comfort zone and I want you to look for opportunities

to do the things that you've always said you wanted to do. that's all that's all i'm going to say i feel kind of bad for using this girl that i don't know from facebook as an example and she maybe is an extreme example of somebody who really wasted um an opportunity to to live her dream i mean she said it was her dream if nothing else she missed out an opportunity to learn more about something that she's really passionate about and that she likes i don't want that to be you. And I have a feeling that that's every single one of us, myself included. I need to say yes more than I say no. I need to show up for myself. I need to look at all of those times right now. I was supposed to have a meeting. I'm going to be honest with you at 10. Every Thursday I have a

meeting from 10 to 11 with a group of friends from the internet. We discuss our businesses and our goals with each other and I opened up Slack and it was canceled. And I was like, oh my gosh, my first instinct was I could go back to bed. The kids are in school. I can have a nap. Oh my gosh, what could I do with this extra hour I just gained? And my first instinct was to go lay around, right, to have a nap or watch a movie or do something that isn't going to make me happy or push my needle forward in life at all. And instead I decided to make this podcast. It's only going to take 15 minutes. I have one minute left. It's only going to take 15 minutes to do, but I'm going to feel really good about myself that I showed up and I did something that I wanted to do, that I've been putting off that I haven't

had time to do, and I was gifted that time today. And I took it. So that is the podcast today. I hope you're feeling, oh, I hope you're feeling inspired to be more mindful of your time, of your life, of all of these little opportunities that the universe presents to you on a daily basis. It doesn't look the way you think it looks. It looks like canceled appointments and phone calls from people you hardly know or emails or an invitation to some silly networking event. That's what it looks like. Say yes.

Thank you guys so much for listening. I'll see you next time.