Clutterbug - Real-Life Hacks and Tips to Declutter, Organize and Clean your Home Fast - The Power of Positivity | Clutterbug Podcast # 251

Episode Date: December 2, 2024

Have you ever felt like things happen for a reason? In this episode, Dr. Tom Myers unpacks the idea of synchronicity (it's not the same as serendipity)! We discuss subtle ways that different events in life are connected, and how your thoughts and energy can help you attract the things you want. Dr. Myers shares real-life examples of synchronicity and explains why having a positive mindset is key to opening the door to new opportunities and experiences.  We also explore how small shifts in your thoughts can lead to big changes in your life. If you've ever wondered how to align your mindset with your goals and dreams, this conversation is full of insights to help you get started. Listen and discover how synchronicity, positivity and connection can transform your life!  Learn more about Dr. Tom Myers by visiting his website here: https://www.trisyncimpact.com/     You can find more Clutterbug content here: Website: http://www.clutterbug.me YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@clutterbug TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@clutterbug_me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Clutterbug.Me/   #clutterbug #podcast #Positivity   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, clutterbugs, welcome. I'm excited today to talk about something that it might seem a little out of the box, but I really want you to have an open mind. And I want to share a story with you before I introduce today's guest. And hopefully this story will maybe make you think a little bit differently. A few years ago, when I was doing my vision board and just like getting involved in this, even way before that, I have always said, I want to save a life. I don't know where this came from. You know, it was like my life's bucket list. One of the things I've always wanted to do is save a life. Now, as a high school dropout with no medical experience, this was basically my ridiculous thought. And my only chance of ever doing this was maybe if I

stumbled upon someone who was hurt, I could help them. And I've always been really into watching medical shows, fascinated with just researching medical conditions. It's bizarre, I know. But if I'm ever driving and there's a car accident, my first instinct is like, I want to get out and help. One day I was watching a movie with my sister at the movie theater. We were watching Twilight. I think it was the third. Don't judge me for watching Twilight. But the gentleman beside us, his wife started yelling, oh, he passed out. He passed out. I don't think he's breathing. I immediately jumped up, ran over to him. I like jumped on his lap. I checked his pulse. I was ready to do CPR because it felt like this is something I'm supposed to do. And I'm telling you this because yes, part of me was just like,

this is all my bucket list. But also there was some innate something inside of me. It was always like a little twinkling. Years later, I noticed a post on Facebook from this girl Neely who, who I had never known, but apparently she was a friend. I had friended her on Facebook. I've never met this person in my life. Never. No idea why she was even a friend of my Facebook, but she had posted that she volunteered for St. John Ambulance and they were looking for new volunteers. And her quote that she put was, help save a life. And that grabbed my attention. And I was like, okay, I don't know you. Why are you a friend? This is weird. Never even met you before. We have no friends in common. But for some reason, I guess years ago, I had friended her, even though she had

never come up in any of my newsfeed in the past. We were actually friends on Facebook. I digress. I signed up. I became a volunteer for St. John ambulance. I loved it so much, became a certified medical first responder. And then I just got this inkling of, I was want more. I don't, you know what I mean? I don't know. And I was like, I wonder if there are like volunteer fire departments. I was watching Chicago Fire at the time. The show had run out of shows to watch. So I was watching Chicago Fire because Emily, who's my assistant, she was watching Chicago Fire. It's all she talked about was Chicago Fire. She was like really into Chicago Fire. So I started watching Chicago fire. And because of that, again, I had this little inkling like, I wonder if there's,

like volunteer firefighters, like there is volunteer paramedics for St. John. So I went on the website for my community and I just typed in volunteer firefighter and wouldn't you know it? The first thing that came up was that they were hiring and they were accepting resumes until the end of that week. So again, watching Chicago Fire had a thought, went on the website, they're accepting applications. this is weird just so happens every two years they hire and they only are open for like a week and here I am so I'm like well maybe this is meant to be I got to apply I'm an old lady I'm 45 I'm out of shape I'm high school dropout the odds of me being hired as a firefighter to like carry people out of burning buildings slim to none but I put in my resume

every step of the way, everyone said, this is nuts. You're never going to get hired. You're not qualified. What are you doing? It's so out of the realm of anything for you. You've never even thought about being a firefighter before. And just yesterday was my last day at school. Not only did I get hired, I've been going to calls for the last six months. Now I am graduating and getting my truck driving license. next week so I can drive the fire truck. And every time I go to a call, whether I am cutting people out of cars where I need to use, you know, the cutters or the spreaders and cut them out of a car to save them, or I'm going into a house or I'm putting out of fire, it feels so natural. Like, I can't imagine that this is not part of my life. And how did this happen? Well, today we are talking with Dr. Tom Myers. And he has his PhD in lots of different things, but he is an expert in synchronicity, which I would always call serendipity.

Basically, it's where all the things kind of fall into place. And we're going to talk more about that. But one of the core things that Dr. Myers talks about is the three A's. awareness, awakening, and action. So when I think about my own firefighting journey, and there's lots of things in my life, I think about this, but in my own journey, the awareness was noticing this Facebook post and then noticing like, well, I'm at least talking about this and like, maybe this is meant to be and I always wanted to do this. And I'm always pulling over at accidents to see if I can help. Awareness to all these little signs coming in.

And then the awakening of like, I go to the website and they're actually hiring, oh my gosh, this, maybe this is meant to be because of all these little awareness. And then this little awakening. And then the third A, which is the most important, is action. So I could have just went, well, that's ridiculous. I'm not going to be a firefighter. There's no way that would ever happen. And I could have moved on. But instead, I took action and I typed a resume, which I haven't done. in 25 years made a resume and I submitted it along with a cover letter. I took action. And that friends brought me all of it together to a place where I'm doing this incredible thing that feels like something I was supposed to be doing all along. And we're going to talk more about how you can recognize these things, how you can really alter and maybe make these things go more your way with the incredible Dr. Tom Myers. Welcome Tom to the Clutterbug podcast. I wanted to call you Dr. Myers, but he has said just to call him Tom. Thank you so much for being here. Thanks, Cass. It's great to be here with you. I saw you on Mel Robbins podcast. I'm a huge Mel Robbins fan. I'm sure a ton of

people saw you on there. She's awesome. Yeah. I was like, first, I'm jealous. Every time I see someone on her podcast, I'm jealous, but I'm always then so inspired. And I'm excited to have you here because this is your specialty is something, honestly, that I've never heard of before. So if you could explain to the listeners, first of all, like what synchricity is. Am I saying it right? Nope. Synchronicity. Synchronicity.

It's a mouthful. Yeah. It is a mouthful. Like, what even is this? Okay. And how did you get into this being your area of expertise? I think it was one of those areas where it started happening. Let's say synchronicity essentially is a meaningful coincidence that has personal meaning to you.

And it can actually change the course of your life. So I had all the sequential coincidences that kept happening to me. And I thought, how in the heck is this happening? How is this, these being at, let's say, at the right place at the right time to meet the right person, that then these things start to fall and a direction starts to fall into place. So synchronicity is the term and sometimes it gets confused with serendipity. But we'll talk about the difference, but synchronicity comes from psychologist Carl Jung, Swiss psychologist. And it's a combination of two words. Sin, the Greek word for coming together, chronos, time.

It's when things fall together in time. You're at that right place at the right time to meet that right person. And so Jung started thinking about this back in 19, late 20s, 28 or so. And he kept writing about it and thinking about it and his clinical patients he would talk to and they would have these incidences of these being at the right place at the right time, things falling together in time. And so he was writing about it, but he felt so self-conscious about publishing everything to, you know, out in the open.

So he kept it quiet. And it wasn't until the early 50s when he met a former patient of his, a guy named Wolfgang Pauly, who is the father of quantum physics. When Pauley said, no, dude, you're on. something because they're in the molecular structure in the quantum physics world of the physical sciences, there is the concept of how things are all connected. Subatomic particles, you get into the quantum physics side, there are reasons of how these particles being separated light years away can still communicate with one another. So could we as humans begin to be drawing these molecular

structures, some atomic particles that make up everything, could we then draw them? So at that point, he said, no, you are onto something. Let's come together. And so it was at that point that he wrote about the concept of synchronicity and that things, how things come together. And you know what all of Jung's critics and all of his other psychologists said at that point was that thank you for writing about this because I was thinking of the same thing. And I didn't want to be a whack job coming out talking about this kind of woohoo stuff

when I didn't have any kind of context to it. So he said, thank you for writing about that. So that kind of launched the concept of synchronicity. I love that you say that because my first thought, I feel like I'm a skeptical person. I am a skeptical person. But even I can't deny that sometimes there's been things in my life where I'm like, how did the stars all align and how did this happen? And is this manifestation?

No, I don't believe in that. And I don't want to, is this pseudoscience? And I really like closed down. I think as a society, we're very much trained that if something is different and we haven't heard of it before, we just want to become very close-minded. So I'm trying to actively be very open-minded because I cannot deny that there is something that is so unexplainable about the fact that sometimes things just come together in this beautiful and completely, how could this be a coincidence way? And so what I always call these like serendipitous moments, but what is the difference? Synchronicity, yeah, they're cousins.

So synchronicity is it's specifically meaningful to you. Serendipity came from the princes of serendip who had this, all these different formulas and things that they would create is a scientific term. That it just so happens that the right temperature and the right humidity that would also would grow, you know, spores that would then help to develop the concept of penises. But it just so happened. Everything kind of lined up at the right place. So I think of serendipity as kind of almost a one-time thing that happens, just serendipitous, that you just happen to the right place. And it's something comes from that. Synchronicity, I think, is being more from the psychological human side. And that when we are internal psyche, the Greek word for psyche is soul. So psyche is, it means soul. But when we, we are internal psyche, the Greek word for psyche is soul. But when, What we think about, all of a sudden you said the word manifestation, but what we think about then at that time manifests in its physical state. Very simply, you might be thinking, I haven't seen a friend of mine for so long, just thinking about that person.

And lo and behold, you get a text or you get an email from that at that time within a timeframe. And you might say, that is so freaky. I was just thinking about you and you called me. or I saw something about you that made me want to reach out. So the, the, the, they're kind of four concepts that we kind of derive as being or kind of define as as being synchronicity. It's a causal. So it's not something that you put into motion and then it comes back to you.

So I, I call you Cass, leave a message. You call me back. And so, oh my God, I was just thinking about you. Well, Tom, you left the message for me. You know, you started that. So it's as you say out of the blue. Something out of the blue comes to you when, and sometimes when you need it. It can come in the form of signs, symbols, dreams, inklings.

You have, and a lot of it is this intuitive sense, what you feel. It, as you said also, Cass, it has almost a freaky, we say almost a, almost a numinous or a spiritual or out of this world kind of feeling to it as the hairs in the back of your neck stand up or gives you goosebumps like this is so weird this could never happen in a million years and it's personal so it could it happens to you personally but it could also help to change the course of your life not to be overly dramatic but you may be at a difficult point in your life that this then gives you a new direction. In my research when talking with a lot of interviews, a lot of focus groups, people say this happens when I'm most vulnerable. When I'm at

kind of a wits end, what is my next step? Soon a synchronicity might could come in and a path appears. So there is a strong spiritual element to this as well. And we can define that. And all my research, I was very careful never to define that for someone. It's up to your own interpretation. But it is to believe in something larger than yourself. And I have grown up, I mean, I grew up in a very unspiritual household. It was like facts and logics and practicality. But then as I got older, I was like, I'm going to have an open mind. And I want to share a story with you because this I feel like was I've had so many little instance of what the heck is going on. So I want to know if like this is what happened falls into that. And I and I don't believe

that these can all be coincidences. So anyone listening to my podcast, if you're like me and you're a really skeptic person, here we're putting on our open mind hats here because we don't know what we don't know. So a few years ago, I was watching a show on Netflix, Marie Condo show, with my assistant on our lunch break. And I turned to her and said, we could do this. We could do a TV show. And she's like, this is crazy. We don't have money. We don't know. And I was like, you know what? I'm putting this out to the universe. I feel like we should do a clutterbug TV show. And I was like, I'm going to put this on this vision board. This is when I just began. People were telling me about vision boards. I am not kidding you. I just wrote on a piece of paper TV show. I put it up with a pin. And

And I was like, I'm going to think about this later. Not even a week and a half later, I got a call from a producer offering me a show on HGTV. Now, I say this because I have never in my life spoke to a producer, reached out to anyone, even talked about it. I've never been on TV. I'm not an actor. I live in Canada.

This is so far out of the realm of possibility. And yet, this crazy pants thing happened. And I was frightened. That was my first initial thought of like, what? And then when I really started thinking about it, and again, I am not a person who's woo-woo in any way. A lot of really crazy things have happened when I was like, you know what would be so cool? Or things even out of the blue that I had never even mentioned, things that I would like to do. Like I said to my husband, oh man, I'd love to be an.

author and write a book. That was a dream as a child. I literally got contacted by a publisher offering me a book deal not long after that. So I don't believe in magic and things like that. But all of these things happening is, I'm like, what is this? And do we have the ability to, you said there's no causal effect here, but are there things that we can do to influence this in the universe? And is that kind of what's how? happened to me, I could give you a thousand examples. These are just a few. But is this what this is? Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. I said, no causal. It's not that you don't put something into action and put it into play. You have this feeling that I want to do a TV show. Internally, you have an

intuitive sense. You're putting it out there. And what we say is that once you start to kind of put your thoughts, your emotions, desires out there, obviously, the right resources, the right things are going to come back to you at the right time. So again, that might be the synchronicity piece of it, of coming back and coming to support you at that right time. When people set a goal, like, I want to have my own TV show, you also knew the steps that were coming back to you that were going to take you to the next, each step that was going to take you to the next place.

If you then said, conversely turned it upside down or backwards and said, I'm never going to have a TV show. And we hear a lot about the positive affirmations and pieces like that. If you're putting that energy out there, like it's never going to happen to me, it just won't happen. We think that it may not happen as have a high enough percentage of return of making that happen is not. So we know, like you and I know when we were talking with folks, they just can put off a negative vibe.

Like anytime you meet them or talk to them, they kind of suck the energy out of you. It's like an emotional vampire. You also know those people who are just incredibly positive and put out a very positive vibe. So with that, people and others are. going to want to support you in your dream when you're putting out the positive aspect of that. So back to the quantum physics piece, you're kind of attracting those inter, everything is connected. Everything in the world is connected. So you're putting out an energy, if you will, from a physical sense, that is beginning to attract those pieces from subatomic interconnected ways.

I love that you're bringing science into this because otherwise I am my brain just wants to dismiss the whole idea as this can't possibly be a real thing. But and that's the other thing I wanted to ask you is does it work the same way with negative thoughts? And what you're saying is yes. Yeah. So it's like a two headed coin here, which it doesn't make sense. But I suppose it does make a lot of sense, especially I read a whole big article on quantum

entanglement and there's so many things that we have no idea how it works. I mean, they don't even know how, they just know that it is and it is a real thing and it, but no idea how that's working. And so how fascinating that that we could also be influencing energy in that way without even realizing it. And when you talk about a energy vampire, yep, all day. And what's really surprising, I have a few people in my life who are like this. Every time I'm around them, they just are always talking about the bad things, the negative things, life isn't fair. They're very much in this victim mentality and all these negative things keep happening. Yes.

Don't you, aren't you amazed? How is your, how could it get worse? And like, I'm like, are they complaining because things are bad, but then more things are happening? And it isn't things that they're purposely doing. They're not out there like. And yet, and I am in no way saying like people who get sick or have cancer. I'm not saying that this is anyone's fault, but I do see that when you're in a toxic thought process,

seems like more toxic things happen to you. Yeah. No, absolutely right. You kind of, you know, misery loves company, as they say. And I have relatives who are the same way. It's like they will tell stories of how can such bad luck happen to one person. And they love to talk about it. They loved, oh, my gosh, isn't that amazing?

You know, I can't believe what bad luck is. And so, yeah, it's a mindset. You're also as connected again to this physical sphere. And it was at 2022 that two of the Pulitzer Prize winning scientists won work because of Plano Entanglement. And it was very interesting. It was on Mel at the time when it just came out the day before. And scientists said, we don't know how their communication.

We do not know. It's there. It's evident. We see. We're able to measure this, but we still don't know how these subatomic particles are able to communicate. So there is a mystery there. And it's, I think, like a wonderful, creative thing to kind of have some awe about. It is. Yeah. And for anyone listening who has no idea what quantum entanglement is, it's, I mean, I'm no, I'm sorry. No expert. I don't really know. But basically what scientists have found, very smart scientists, that subatomic particles that could be light years away are connected. So if one is doing something, if you're doing something to one, it's happening to the same to the other one that were once and now they're far apart, but they're still whatever happens to one also is happening to the other. So super fascinating. Like how and nobody knows how. Nobody knows how, which just really shows there's so much that we don't understand and don't know about everything. Let's be

honest. I remember as a kid, they were like, eggs are bad for you. Then they were like, eggs are good for you. Actually, eggs are bad for you. We don't even know how our own body works, let alone energy and the universe and all of these things. So I'm trying to have a very open mind because I can't deny that when I really focus on the positive and I really like just try to squash those negative thoughts, replace them with positive thoughts, positive things happen to me. So what I'd like to ask you is how do we transition to a more maybe positive person or how can we influence and be more open to this whole idea of kind of having these beautiful things fall into place for us or having these moments, or is it kind of out of our control?

Yeah, no, it's within our control, 100%, 100%. And oftentimes when work with folks and clients and my research, that the right information comes to you when you can block out the noise of the world. So might that be through meditation, through a quiet walk in the woods by yourself, engaged in some sort of an art form, painting, writing, whatever that might be, what are the messages that you are getting? And when you're in this world of like frenetic chaos, and of course we're in the United States,

we have a big election happening tomorrow. There's a lot of chaos. There's a lot of anxiety. So when you're able to unplug from that, even for a short period of time, and be thinking about what, again, from a positive focus, and sometimes it can be very difficult, but what is one thing that you can focus on in your life,

keeping a quiet, present focus? And just be listening, what are the whispers or the signs and feelings? So much of it is an intuitive sense. What are you feeling? Like with your TV show, you just felt that this was going to be something that you would go after. So in your heart, you felt that. And then before I even had a chance to go after it. Right.

It just, I was like, this is weird. And then I had never even thought about vision boards. I always kind of thought that was a woo-woo thing. But I went to a conference once and someone encouraged me to do it. So I gave it a try. And the truth is every single thing. thing that I put up there as like, well, this is a huge, ridiculous thing, but this is what we do. And it wasn't like win the lottery. It was within, you know, kind of the realm of possibility, but nothing that I,

I was like, I'm going to have to work really hard for that. The truth is I didn't work really hard for anything that was kind of put on there. Things all just fell into place. And now it's, the time is to make a new one because all of those things already happened. But there is this part of me that is like, well, maybe there's like this subconscious thing. So here's an example, and I'm hoping you can tell me the difference. My daughter was driving. She crashed my minivan. I had an old rusty bucket minivan. I've never owned a new vehicle in my life. And I was like, I'm going to drive it till it's dead. Well, my daughter had her license for one week. She drove it. She smashed it. It was a write off. So I thought, I'm going to treat myself to a brand new electric car. I got a Tesla. Don't judge me. Listen, I just always

wanted one. I had never seen one driving around town. I just, I was like, oh, I want one. Now I see them everywhere. It's like I immediately bought this car and everywhere I'm like, I notice, I notice, I notice, I notice. And so what part of this is, and I know there's part of our brains, once something's important to us, that's all we see. Right? Very fascinating. So is part of this actually just like our brain now is like noticing these positive things more and it isn't like there's some magical universe thing doing it. It's just our brain noticing it or is it both? I mean, I'm really curious here because I'm trying to get to like cold hard facts, I guess. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So so our brain filters what we need. And we are as human beings, we are

survivalists. Whatever is going to come to help us achieve a goal or get to where we need to be or simply to survive. What is, you know, so our brain can hyper focus on certain, certain things. And if it's a new car or it's something that you're looking at, then lo and behold, that's all you notice. All of a sudden that filter opens up, right? So, do you know what the most important word to a human being is, is their name? So when you hear your name, it means, okay, it's something that pertains to me. I need to pay attention to this. In psychology, they have a term called the cocktail party effect.

And that you can be in a very crowded, busy room or a cocktail, right, at a party. And you can hear your name. Out of all the din, all the sound, all the conversations, all of a sudden you hear your name across the room. Like someone's talking about you. Cass, like, who said that? Yeah. And all of us, it's because we are so prone to survival that if our name is important to us, or our family or children, we are going to hyper focus on that and follow that through.

So what, again, that's part of that concept of, again, and there's psychological terms that help us to focus on this. So what you're drawn to and what you're focus on is going to, you can help bring that into, into reality. So just as you focus on the positive things in life, being healthy, being happy, having great relationships, you want that for your life. You conversely, as we talked about earlier, you can do the same damn thing on the other side is you can bring everything crap into your life if you draw that. So as I remember who said to what you think about you bring about is a simple.

what you think about, you bring about. So if you see yourself with a vision board, achieving all of these things, you may say, I don't know how the heck I'm ever going to get there, but synchronicity, those right things are going to come to you at the right time, the right resources are going to help you to get there. But you're drawing that to you. I got to take a second to thank today's podcast sponsor, ORAFrames. I have been addicted to aura frames for a couple of years now.

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and i noticed this everywhere i looked and she said i don't want you to tell your husband i want you every day here's a piece of paper it was like a journal to notice three things that he does throughout the day and write it down and and not write down the negative stuff just write down three things ways he does help three things he does that you know you appreciate for seven days i'll see you back here in a week. And I was like, well, that's going to be tough. Like, I really, but anyways, I did it because I'm, I was like, I really want to work on this. So the first day, it was, it was hard, but I wrote down like three bull crap little things he did. And then the next day, I'm like trying to all day keep track. I'm like, well, what did he do tonight? You know, and I'm trying to really focus. Then by like

the third day, I started noticing these little things throughout the day, like more than three things. I'd like run upstairs to my notebook and write something down. And by the end, and by the end, and by the end of the week when I had saw her a week later, all I saw was how helpful he was. All I saw was all and he changed nothing. The only thing that changed was what I was actively noticing in the relationship. And yeah, he probably still wasn't doing as much as he probably should have, but that's not the point. I can't describe it. Like, it was bizarre how this worked when I started actively focusing and actively trying to notice positive instead of negative, even though my habit was noticing negative, it was drastic and dramatic.

And so now I know this exercise works because I've tried it with lots of other things. Now, it's hard to keep it up to keep. Sometimes you fall back into like that negative thought. pattern, but when you know that this is a tool, you can bring this back out and literally change everything just by catching those thoughts and instead like and trying to find the opposite. Evidence of the opposite. So you're like, my life is crap. I have no money. I'm broke. I'm overweight. I'm out of shape. Where is opposite evidence for what these things that are true. You went for a 10 minute walk today and you didn't feel out of breath and like you ate a salad for

dinner and do you know what I'm saying? Am I rambling? Absolutely. No. Yeah, it's the concept of reframing. So you're reframing and you've changed the lens on your focus of your husband to look at what's positive as opposed to the negative. You kind of had maybe gotten to this kind of this rut of focusing on the negative stuff. He can always find negative things about. about people, but to just flip it to like what is right. What is what is right with him? What is going, you know, the positive aspects of that. And some of the work I do with companies, we use a concept of appreciative inquiry.

An appreciative inquiry with an organization is to not look at what's going wrong with the company. And the organization and where you're going in the future, you're always focusing on the problems. When you focus on the problems, you're essentially flipping it like, okay, what would it look like with our company, our organization, five years from now if everything was just happening and operating on all cylinders? People in the organization were doing the things they love to do, what would that look like? And sure, there are issues there. You address those. But when you reframe it to what is going right. and what is happening positively.

And it can happen specifically for the individual as well. What's going right in your life? And with a vision board, you're essentially creating a visual representation of your future. And again, all the senses as a visual person and a multi-sensory type of person too, you can see yourself in that future visually. So there's an immediate connection with brain activity and activation.

And so, yeah, we can all get in those ruts of like what stinks in the world. But pretty soon, everything is connected. You're going to start feeling, you know, again, physically, mentally, emotionally trained. And it's all all connected. Yeah. And not only that everything you see and notice will now be negative. You are not going to notice the positive things around you. you're only going to notice the negative because that's what your brain is telling you is important

and that's what your brain is telling you to focus on. And then that amplifies and amplifies. And then you're stuck in this cycle. And I feel like it also goes a step further. And this is where the energy stuff plays in. So when I was doing this practice of, I went back to my therapist and I was like, listen, he does more. And I, how is this? This is this. She's like, how about you try it for one more week. And so halfway through the next week, my husband came home and like surprised me with flowers and started doing these like loving gestures that haven't been done in years. And and when I went back and I was like, what is happening? She was like, well, now your energy has shifted into positive. And so not only are you noticing positive things and and so you're happier,

but because you're happier, now that happiness and positivity is affecting those. around you and they're becoming more happy and positive as well. You're kind of projecting on them how you see them is how they act. What you expect from them is how they treat you. And I was like, this is bizarre. I felt like a superhero for like a hot second that had some sort of magical power that could influence other people. But I don't really think it's magical at all, is it? I think this is something we all have the ability. Very real. And we have our intuitive sense that you, basically you changed your physiology too in the way you interact with your husband. It could even be just a different posture or, you know, your eyes and your smile or something

that was communicating to him that, hey, I'm doing okay. And Cass loves me and something, I want to reciprocate. I don't know what it is. I just all of a sudden emotionally, I'm feeling this from an intuitive sense. So we can communicate in so, so, so many ways, obviously non-verbally, as opposed to just speaking. And our brain can pick up on all these senses. And sometimes unbeknownst consciously to that. So, and I think that's important for your listeners to realize that you can affect. You can really affect.

And maybe with the work you're doing, if you're in a house that. is just upside down and, you know, disorganized, just think mentally, you know better than anyone. How that makes you feel if you're sitting in an office where crap is falling off the shelves and it's just your piles on your desk, you can operate that for a little while, but I think mentally after a while it's going to feel this out of control feeling. And to have a place that is organized that you feel in control, it communicates back to to who you are as well. And again, how you communicate to others about how you organize, organize your life.

There's a lot of messaging happening there. I love that you're bringing this in because I think there's two distinct areas that I've noticed with myself and with my clients when it comes to messy home. So I was like a real big messy slob for a really long time. And what I noticed with a lot of people who live in clutter, they just can't get their house in order, they tell themselves, I told myself, oh, I'm such a slob, I'm such a mess, I'm such a disaster. I can never keep up on this. It's all too much. No one helps me. I'm never going to get unburied. I'm going to clean it, but it's just going to get messy again tomorrow.

Toxic, toxic, toxic, negative, negative thoughts. And the result of that was all of those things. But when I actively was like, you know what? This is what I said to myself. I deserve a clean house. I, this is it. I'm more important than all this stuff. And when I have clients who will say to me, I can never let go. I'm terrible at decluttering. I like to hold on to everything.

I'm really sentimental. When I can work with them and start being like, you can get, you're actually good at decluttering. You just don't get rid of things that are really important, but you're great at letting go of the stuff that isn't. magically they start being able to actually let go or if I'm like you're actually really good and actually a very organized person you're probably a little too organized you know you just need to relax and let go of expectations and just allow yourself to do the thing you're great at before you know it they're getting their house organized nothing has changed except the way that they talk to themselves and how what they're noticing about themselves they're now noticing

ways that they actually are organized or noticing like, hey, actually I do empty the dishwasher on a regular basis. I am good at this. It only takes three minutes. And that can change everything. The other side that I would love to talk to you about is like this scarcity cycle, which I think is important, especially nowadays with the rising costs of everything. But again, I first want to hear just your input about that. So it's basically we have the ability to change our life in all. areas and it sounds like it's the same thing. So if we have a messy home, we focus on the positive aspects of cleaning and we focus on the ways that we are actually good at this instead of constantly focusing on the negative. Is that what you're saying? Yeah. And one little corollary is I

know every morning I need to make my bed because if I make my bed, that's control. Like I'm setting the tone for the rest of my day. And if things are an up here, an upheaval or things are a mess, again, communicates to me that I'm not controlling, not in a negative way, but just, okay, I'm on top of things. And that's what I love to do is kind of, I love to do it, I do it, but make my bed every morning. And, you know, no, matter who gets out of bed, my wife, right, first or second, it doesn't matter. But I always like to have that because it does set the tone for the rest of the day. That's so good. You're right. It affects the energy, which is why. Like, when I got my house under control,

Like, I was a hot mess in every area. Listen. But when I got my house under control, my finances dramatically improved. My job opportunities dramatically improved. My relationships. Like, what? Because maybe I was just like, I am in control. And I am, you know, I wake up every morning and I feel a little proud of myself and positive about myself.

And yeah. You got it. It's just that feeling of, I got this. I'm going to stay on top of this. I'm going to, you know, again, not in a negative way, but you are feeling confident and, you know, it kind of sets the tone for the, for your day. And all the work that you do in organization helps people to kind of have feeling of control. And I love the work you do with personalities and, you know, what type of a, you know, organizer are you? And that's the work that I do with personality as well, because on the synchronicity side,

what I may say, okay, Cass, every morning you should meditate for an hour. And that's how you're going to find synchronicity. And you may say, Tom, that's not my personality. My personality is to be doing working with people, working whatever that might be. So the work that I focus on is what is your personnel, who are you first? What are your strengths coupling with the things that bring positive energy to you by using the strengths that you have and you have? possess and then coupling or tripling that with with synchronicity how do you put that into the universe so what might work for one person to start to see the connections of synchronicity may not

work for another person but it's how do you find your unique way to cultivate synchronicity um i love that yeah and because you can all the research i've done people say what comes to me in different ways. So there is no one size that fits all. No, no, no, no, no, not at all. But when the help, what I love to do is think about how we can help folks to understand given who you are, your personality, how you take in information, how you organize your day, how you make decisions, what works for you with your strengths, then you can find that

that right avenue to start to intuitively feel this is the direction and maybe even clarify a direction that here before you had never never thought about yeah i love that you're bringing up the four organizing styles because i think it's helpful for people in more ways than just like hey you organize like this there's other things going on there and and a big part of it is people are realizing like, oh, I'm not messy. I was just using a system that doesn't work with my brain. So it's extra hard when you're trying to do something that goes against your natural instincts. When you're trying to like put yourself in a box and you're over here like a round squishy marshmallow trying to shove yourself in a square hole. Right. And so understanding yourself gives you the ability to

let go of a lot of that negative thoughts you have because now it's not you or the problem, the system's the problem. And instantly you feel better about your. yourself. And then it gives you solutions where you're way likely, more likely to have success because it's working with your natural tendency. So I think there's like two things going on when it comes to identifying your style of why it works for literally millions of people. It's because it's not, yes, it's very important to know your organizing style and it's going to set you up for success because it's going to work with your natural abilities. But more than that, it's a way of really celebrating your strengths instead of focusing on your weaknesses and negativity that I think

is the real magic and the real reason why so many people have found it helpful. Yeah, I call it a natural genius. That you are unique, the only person in the world with this combination of the personality and these strengths. And when you bring those together, it is you're a natural genius, finding who that is. and then following through with who you are. I do a fun little exercise of clients, and we can kind of do it very quickly here,

but I just tell folks, okay, pick up a pen or pencil and just simply sign your name, like you're signing a check or you're signing a contract. And then I'll ask them to switch hands. Go from your dominant hand to your non-dominant hand. right or left, left, or right. And do the same. Just simply sign your name. And for most people, it's really hard. You can do it. You can absolutely do it. In my case, on my left hand, it takes a lot of focus. So that's analogous to your personality. When you wake up in the morning, this is who

you are. You right-handed, you right, it comes easily. You don't even think about it. You can try to be someone you're not in organizing styles. I can say, oh, I'm going to be this type of an organizing person. I'm going to be a bee instead of a butterfly or whatever it might be. It's naturally not who you are. You can do it for a while, but it takes a heck of a lot of work, a lot of effort. And so you can beat yourself up saying, how come I can't be this organizing style? I should be this style. Well, it's not you. When you wake up in the morning, naturally, this is who you are. Embrace that. Focus on that. and then use your personality the way that it's meant to be. You're not, you know, you're not someone else.

You are your own unique person. I love that analogy so much. I'm going to steal the crap out of it and use it all the time. I probably got it from someone else myself anyway. Oh, that's so good. Yeah, it's who you are. Yeah, trying to use an organizing system that doesn't work how your brain works is like trying to write with your wrong hand.

with your non-dominant hand. I mean, you can do it. You're so good. You're right. But it's a lot of effort, and it's not even going to end up as well as if you literally did it the way that your brain naturally works, right? If you literally picked up the pen with the other hand, that's so perfect to describe what it's like when you are trying to manage a house in a way that doesn't work with you naturally. And it's not just your organizing style. It's also your energy levels. So if you're not a morning person, you know, your energy is at night. You're not going to get up and go to the gym in the morning or clean your house in the morning. That's going against. Don't beat yourself up for that. Don't be yourself up for that. It's not you. Embrace who you are because it's naturally who you're

meant to be. But I can see that people listening might feel like I don't even know who I am. What are my strengths. I only see my weaknesses. So how do we help? How do my listeners at home? How do you help yourself kind of know yourself better and have more self-awareness about your personality and be able to find your genius, I guess, as you say. Is that something you can help with? Yes. So there's a number, I'm certified in a number of these, the one that I love and I've always base a lot of the work I do on the personality side is Myers-Briggs. No relation to my last name, I wish, but Myers-Briggs is the four-letter type, the 16 personality types of being introverted, extroverted, sensing, intuitive, feeling, thinking, again, and then finally perceiving and judging. So it's how you take, how you, or, you know,

how you get energy internally or externally, introverted, reverted. How you take in information. Are you more intuitive? Do you see things in metaphors and stories? Or do you see the six senses of like exactly the specific, um, sight, smell sound? Again, those specifics. Third letter is how you might make decisions. Are you making decisions a lot based on how it might affect other people? Or are you making decisions based on, on more logic? Finally, the last letter, J or P, do you organize your day specifically that you like to check things off a list? Things are having, you know, an end time. Like, I got to get it done.

I'm very organized. Or do you like to keep things more open-ended? Go with the flow when you're organizing your life. That's a very, very, very elementary way of describing, you know, personality. apology and again from Carl Jung's work as well. But to know who you are and understand, well, this is how I communicate with the world. And then also it's wonderful to know, okay, I can understand that this person may be more on the introverted side, only that they get your energy from within. So might have to give this person a little bit more time to think deeply about a decision

and not expect someone to answer quite quickly. For 21 years, I was a college professor. So in my classes, I understood students who were more introverted, they get their energy from within. An introverted person might have exactly what they're going to say in their brain and be able to say almost verbatim when they talk. an extroverted person case in point is I need to be talking and I thinking while I'm talking things start to come out as I'm talking and sometimes might seem like rambling but it's the way

I get the energy and I understand you know I need to be with other things and other people to get my energy externally. Oh that's so good yeah that's so it's so interesting I mean I feel like I'm an introverted person, and yet when I'm saying something, I'm hearing my thoughts for the first time, too. There's no thought for, so I'm probably an extrovert with a low social battery. But what I find so fascinating, I love that you brought up Myers-Briggs because earlier this year, I had a follower who messaged me and said, I asked chat GTP to make the correlation between your Myers-Briggs personality and your clutterbug type, and here's what chat-G-T-P-T-T. came up with. And I was like, this is fascinating because my Myers-Briggs personality actually put me in a ladybug, which is what my organizing style was. And so what I did is I reached out to my community

and said, hey, do me a favor. Take the Myers-Briggs quiz and then tell me how that correlates to your clutterbug style. And overwhelmingly, there was the same organizing style had the same Myers-Briggs personalities. Now, it wasn't 100%, but there was a definite crazy pattern there. And I just, that blew my mind because I never thought of, I guess the organizing style as being really a fundamental personality type thing. It was like how you physically manage your stuff in your home. But here was the proof that there was more going on than even I realized. Yeah, no, I could see the correlation very easily. When I did, I did the quiz, as well. So I could see, okay, a P, me, likes to keep things open-ended. I might like to keep things out. I don't

want to put it away because I may need that soon, right? It may not have to go into the drawer right now. I want to keep it open-ended. My wife is funny because she's a J. And so she'll go to a store. She'll see a pair of shoes or sneakers that she wants. She knows exactly. Okay, and that eight size eight. I want this one, buy it and go. For me to go into a shoe store, I want to try on everything. I want to look at all the different options. And then like I'll still kind of hem and hot, do I want this now? And my wife's like, just get it now. You're going to use them tomorrow. You need them now. So it's that's kind of the openness or the J personality or the P personality. So fascinating, which obviously affects not just, yeah, it affects everything in our life, right?

It affects how we organize. It affects how we declutter. It affects our spending habits. it affects how we establish relationships and how we maintain relationships, everything. So that's so, so fascinating. I hope everyone listening will take the Myers-Briggs personality test. And I know that everyone listening would love to learn more about you and how they can just, yeah, learn more about this and how they can influence their life in a more positive way. So if you could let my listeners know how they can find you, how they can follow you, and how they can get more information.

Yeah, absolutely. So my website is trisync impact, T-R-I-S-Y-N-C- Impact, all one word. All the information is there. There's a downloadable e-book that it describes a lot of what we talked about relative to synchronicity is in a quick little e-book. I also have wonderful questions that folks can ask themselves that goes from the past. the present and the future relative to synchronicity. How have you used synchronicity, seen synchronicity happen? What are some examples in the past? How might you use it now in your current state? And then in the future, again, back to the earlier part of our conversation of manifestation, what you see in the future. How might you use synchronicity to think about going forward?

The other thing I wanted to mention too is oftentimes synchronistic. city and the events can happen noticing patterns if you keep hearing the same name come up the same book that you should read the same event you should attend from disparate places different places not one person so i had i created something called the the three a concepts of first you hear a bit of information, you log that in your brain, and that's awareness. The next time you hear an interconnecting relative event about on the same topic, you might say to yourself intuitively, that is really weird. Cass just mentioned that gets me yesterday.

Now I'm hearing it again from another person. A call is. I didn't ask that person. It came to me. The second is kind of an aware. awakening, we call it. So awareness, awakening. Head first, cognitively.

I remember this. I'm aware. Now it feels freaky. Intuitively, I feel it in my heart, my gut. This is the awakening part. Next event might be the same connection, same bit of information from a different person that's telling you, okay, Tom,

follow through, go do that. That's action. And that's the hand. So it's the head, the heart, the hand, three things that might happen. It's telling you, it's communicating very, very strongly, you need to follow through with this and take action. And that's what I think a lot of people might be missing the action. Right? We just dismiss. So you're seeing these things in your life. this kind of you're getting directed in a way that you're supposed to go, but we're just dismissing it as coincidence. And we're just dismissing it as like, oh, well, that's, that's weird and ignoring it. And what you're really saying is these are the signs we don't ignore. These are the things, the direction where you're supposed to go. And it's kind of leading you. And you are,

by ignoring it, you're really missing out on something powerful. Yeah. And it might be, it might be scared. You might, I don't know if I can make it. I'm not sure if I'm, good enough to get to that level. But I think going back to pushing through, making commitment, taking action, I don't know if it's going to work or not. I'm not sure if I can have a TV show or not if I ever will. But then those resources come to you. Once you take that step, then the path opens up.

And the resources, all resources will come to help you get there. But I think it's taking, stepping over the threshold to go in that direction. It takes guts and it takes some, you know, take, it's some risk calculated because I think it's calculated because you feel it's right and you follow through with that. And there's so many things that can open up for folks when they start to kind of open open up that way. This is so good because it doesn't even have to be a big thing. So my listeners, maybe you've noticed, you know, someone's mentioned a book that they read. And then you just happen to see an article mentioning that same book. You should probably buy that book and read it, friends.

You know, it could be something as small as that. When you're noticing these things, take action, even if it's small, because there's something you're probably supposed to be doing or learning or understanding here. So. Absolutely it. Perfect. You said it so nicely. So good.

Thank you so much for being on the Clutterbug podcast. This was good. I'm going to literally go and reevaluate these three A's in my life. because I'm noticing just talking to you all these little things like, yeah, ooh, I have been noticing these little things and not connecting the dots and not thinking maybe, yeah, this is something I need to take action on. So I appreciate this was absolutely incredible. Thank you so much for being here.

Thank you, Cass. Yeah. It's wonderful to talk with you. And again, folks can reach out. They want more information, but hopefully I've given enough information today for folks to go forward. Yeah. And I'm going to put all the links to you and where they can follow you in your website in the show notes.

So please make sure you go check that out. And thank you everyone for listening. I hope you're feeling inspired to like, you know, have an open mind here, friends. I promise you there is something to this. You just have to be open to noticing. And thank you again. Have an awesome day. Thank you to my listeners.

And we'll see you guys next time. Yeah, so lucky people. Yeah, so research Dr. Richard Wiseman out of the UK, the question was how many people say they're lucky? They go through life as being lucky. And he did this exhaustive longitudinal research study where he interviewed people 18 to 80 years old from all walks of life, all educational backgrounds, all vocations, racial backgrounds, everything. and from the conversation or the questions that he created found that there are four areas, four criteria that everyone shared that said that they are a lucky person. And even though these people have had had devastating past lives with deaths and illness and bankruptcy and everything,

they still said, no, I'm a lucky person. And so the four things that he identified, not really any, any priority in order, but number one, that people increase chance opportunities. Like when there is a, when there is a raffle for, they sign up. The more, statistically, the more opportunities you put yourself out there, statistically, and probability, the more is going to come back. So the more times, the more people you speak with, the more times you follow through on an inkling that this could be interesting, the more resumes you put out there, the more interviews you have, you increase chance opportunities. And they also understood how to use that network and to capitalize on that. So how to open the opportunities and then how to understand how to how to capitalize and leverage that. Secondly, they, again, this is all our conversation earlier, but reframing, they expect good things to happen.

Going into an interview, going into a meeting with someone, meeting someone new, they expect the best to happen, that there's going to be a positive outcome. Thirdly, when things go south, when it's negative, when it is not a good event, they are able to, not take this negativity as a failure, but are able to move on quickly. To take this as this is a learning opportunity, I made a stupid mistake. I said the wrong thing in an interview. I said the wrong thing to this person. I made a terrible mistake. I've learned from that.

I'm going to move on. There's research into pessimism. and what are the areas of pessimistic personal, pervasive, and permanent? So a pessimistic person would say, oh, it's raining out today. I didn't bring my umbrella. Damn it. It always happens to me. It's always personal.

It always pervasive. This always happens to me, right? Lucky people move on from that quickly. Kind of the adage of making, you know, lemonade out of lemons. Yep. stupid thing move on move quickly the fourth criteria that everyone shared was they went with their gut intuitively they felt that this is the right thing i don't understand why i'm making this the decision logically it may not make sense but like you in the firefighting area it just it it just

is something that is drawing you you're making a decision you're going you're going you're following your gut. And our impulse and our intuition can oftentimes see well into the future that our brain can't. We can pick up on so many more signals than our brain can. And we may say, well, I don't, my brain says this is not the best choice, but my gut tells me that this is the right thing to do. So follow your gut. So increase chance opportunities, go into every situation with a positive affect. If it doesn't work out, move on from that.

And then trust your gut. So that's the what lucky people are. You make your own luck, obviously. With those things. And I feel like I'm insanely lucky person. Like good things just constantly happen to me. I'm so lucky. And hearing you talk about those four things, all of those things.

are definitely something that I do. So this was very insightful. Thank you. Thank you. Yeah. Rosen lasagna, medium power. 15 minutes. Sounds like Ojo time.

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