Clutterbug - Real-Life Hacks and Tips to Declutter, Organize and Clean your Home Fast - You Gotta Show Up and Shake It | Clutterbug Podcast # 114

Episode Date: November 2, 2021

Do you feel stuck? Are you tired of doing the same thing over and over? You are not alone. My advice? Show up and shake it anyways. It's those times when we show up for ourselves, even when we don't want to, that make us really proud and happy in the long run.        You can find more Clutterbug content here: Website: http://www.clutterbug.me YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@clutterbug TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@clutterbug_me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Clutterbug.Me/   #clutterbug #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about feeling stuck in life. Stuck, trapped, or that you're on a hamster wheel going nowhere. If you ever feel this way, you're not alone. Hey, clutterbugs, welcome to the clutterbug podcast. I thought I'd talk about something. I talked about this a little bit in an end story coming up, but I wanted to talk more about it because it's something I don't hear very often. And every time I do talk about it with any friends or family, and then I want to talk about it.

can relate, I just feel less alone. And maybe this is just me, but there are so many times in my life where I just feel stuck, trapped, frustrated, especially not only with my career, but with everything. I remember reading a book years ago, Where'd You Go Bernadette about this mom who just took off? She was like, she was sick of life. She had like a little mental breakdown maybe. And she ran away to Antarctica and nobody knew where she was. And I just related to this book so much because I can't tell you how many times I thought about running away. I mean, I would never do it.

It's a fleeting thought. But, I mean, I've daydreamed about having an illness that wasn't like too bad of an illness that I'm going to die, but bad enough that I had to be hospitalized just so I could get a break. And don't even get me started about how many times I've thought about switching careers. Before I started doing this, I've had a million, gajillion, a thousand. and careers and I'm sure part of that is ADHD, the inability I get bored so easily to stick with something for a long time. But I also think a big part is human nature. I think nobody wants to do

the same thing all the time. No one wants to feel stuck in a rut or have a routine that's so mundane every day seems the same like groundhog day that we sort of lose that zest for life. and I guess the thing that nobody really talks about is how normal it is to feel this way. And even if you have an amazing job that you love, there's a lot of days where you just don't want to do it. And that's normal. There might be months or years where you're like, I hate this and I need a change. That's okay and that's normal. And so I remember hiring a life coach a couple of years ago and I just told her how

how guilty I feel about the fact that I get really sick about talking about organization and cleaning all the time. It's a passion of mine. I love it. I have the best job. I make videos cleaning my own house or helping other people get clean and organized. I get to work from home. I get to be a stay-at-home mom while I do something I genuinely, genuinely love. And yet I still get so sick of my job. And saying that at loud makes me feel like a terrible person because there are people out there who have jobs they hate and they're doing it because they have to so I know how lucky I am but that doesn't mean that I still don't get really sick of it just like we get sick of cleaning our house even though we could love our house or our spouse

even though we love our spouse or our children I'm just going to say it sometimes we're really sick of our kids faces and if we don't realize how normal this is we can feel like there's something wrong with us. We can feel like maybe we need a drastic change. Maybe we need to run away or change careers or God forbid have an affair to bring some zest into our life. I'm just saying I'm just saying the feeling of feeling stuck and trapped and like you just want to escape is so very normal. Whatever the situation I feel like this is the human condition and we all feel this way. And it's something we need to talk about more. Because if we don't realize that this is normal, then we're going to think there's something wrong with us.

And we're going to feel bad about ourselves. And we might even make really drastic decisions and impulsive decisions that we'll regret later. And so when I was talking to my life coach, I'm rambling. I apologize about the fact that I don't want to talk about organizing anymore and I'm so sick of it. But I can't think of any other career that I would want to do more. she said to me, think of a, like a song that you love or a band that you love. And the first thing that popped in my head was vanilla ice, an ice ice baby. I'm a 90s. I grew up listening like in my teens was in the 90s, you know, so I just love all that stuff. And so I was a huge ice ice baby fan. So

anyways, I told her Vanilla Ice Ice Ice Ice Baby. And she said this is a perfect example. because he has basically one song. How many times do you think Vanilla Ice has sung Ice Ice Baby? He's probably so sick at that song. He's probably so freaking sick of singing Ice Ice Baby. Or any, think of any artist, right, singing the same song over and over. They get sick of it. But he goes out there and Vanilla Ice shakes his butt, okay?

And he gets into it and he sings that stupid song. like it's the first time because that's his job. And he's showing up not only for the fans, but he's showing up for himself. And there's something really admirable about that. And I don't know what it was. Just her saying that, she's like everyone, no matter Kim Kardashian, Taylor Swift, they could have the greatest job. There's days where they just are sick of it.

And it's okay to take a day off and it's okay to take a break, but it's also okay to realize that everybody feels that. way, but there are days that we feel that way that we still have to show up anyways. And we have to shake our butt. We have to sing our song because we are adults and that's what we do. We don't give up. We don't run. We don't hide.

We don't make excuses. We show up. We sing the song. We do the thing we have to do. And we move on. And we do it until it passes, until that feeling like we don't want to do this passes and it always does. And there are going to be some of you out there that are listening to this, that there are times where you just, you're like, no, like legit, I don't want to sing this song anymore. I hate this job or I hate this or something about your life that you definitely want to change. But know the difference between when you're having a low moment or when you love something, but you're just sick of it for that day and where you really need to make a change. I am so glad that I didn't like shut down my website or or.

you know, cancel my YouTube channel in the days where I'm just like, if one more person asks me how to organize one more thing, or if one more person says to me, I'm not quite clear on what clutter bug I am, I will just scream and rip my hair out. Because in the next day, I love answering those questions, right? There are days where it doesn't matter how amazing your life is or your job or your family. There are days you just don't want to do it. And I wanted to talk about this today because I really think housework and just adulting in general falls under this category too. It's not just about our jobs. Sometimes we're just sick of doing the same thing over and over and over again, whether it's the dishes or the laundry or picking up after ourselves or cooking dinner.

We're just sick of it. And it's fine to take a break every now and then. but we can't just say I don't want to do it. Oh, nope, I'm not over and over again. We got to show up on stage. We got to shake our butts because we are grownups. And this is what we got to do. Because if we don't, we will regret it.

Putting things off just makes it harder and more work for us tomorrow. We got to stop procrastinating. We have to stop the excuses. We have to stop allowing ourselves to act like teenagers trying to get out of work when we know it has to be done. We have to parent ourselves and think of vanilla ice and shake our butts even when we don't want to. I just wanted to share that with you today. I don't know. I'm definitely at a place right now in my life where I needed to hear it again. I needed to hear, I'm not thrilled about talking about the same stuff over and over again.

I was really excited when I thought we were going to move. Now my husband's decided he doesn't really want to buy a new house, he wants to stay here. And the thought of just day in and day out making YouTube videos about the same things inside my house, it makes me want to run. It makes me want to run, you guys. I'm just like, I can't do this anymore. But I'm shaking my butt. Because at the end of the day, I still love my job. I love what I do. I love my family. And I feel good about myself when I show up for myself. And that's really the most important thing that I feel happier when I make an effort, even if it isn't perfect, even if it isn't ideal. We don't look at a situation and say, oh, that's not exactly how I want. So I'm not going to do anything at all. Or I'm not going to

do the thing I know I should do because it doesn't make me 100% happy 100% of the time. We're showing up. or showing up for ourselves because we deserve it and we know that that's what's really going to make us happy and really push the needle forward and really get us to where we want to be in our lives. So thanks so much for listening. I'll just make it a little short podcast today and I'll see you guys next time.