Clutterbug - Real-Life Hacks and Tips to Declutter, Organize and Clean your Home Fast - Your House Shouldn’t Be a Part-Time Job: Here’s How to Make It Work for You | Clutterbug Podcast # 275
Episode Date: May 26, 2025Are you tired of feeling like your home is just one more job on your already overflowing to-do list? You’re not alone. In this powerful episode, I’m sharing 5 simple but life-changing steps to mak...e your home burnout-proof—a place that recharges you instead of draining you. Whether it’s the never-ending laundry, the mountain of dishes, or the constant clutter that’s silently screaming at you, this episode is your permission slip to finally say: enough is enough. These practical, down-to-earth strategies will help you create a space that feels calm, cozy, and completely manageable—even on your busiest days. You don’t need perfection. You just need a better plan. Tune in and discover how to make your home fast and easy to care for, while still making it feel like your favorite place in the world. ✨ Let’s make your home work for you—not the other way around. Thank you to Caraway for sponsoring today's podcast! Visit Carawayhome.com/clutterbug or use code clutterbug to take an additional 10% off your next purchase. Watch Lise Clutter to Clean Makeover here: https://youtu.be/bduTHFsJXmM?si=2evzJX_wWUXvtmnP You can find more Clutterbug content here: Website: http://www.clutterbug.me YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@clutterbug TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@clutterbug_me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Clutterbug.Me/ #clutterbug #podcast #mondaymotivation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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I talk a lot on this podcast about getting more done and making yourself proud and being productive.
But what if to really get there, it's not about doing more, but it's all about less.
We're going to talk about burnout and how you can make your home burnout proof in today's podcast.
Hey, Clutterbugs.
Welcome back to the Clutterbug podcast.
I'm so excited to have you here.
Just like always, I'm really going to encourage you while you're listening to
today. We're just going to have a conversation. Hopefully I can inspire and motivate you and make
you just rethink your home in a different and new way. But I also want you to feel really proud
of yourself and have something checked off your list. I would recommend letting go,
having less, filling a trash bag or filling a box of donations that can go, getting one of your
many, many gift bags that you've stored somewhere in your house, and filling it with gifts
that you can donate to your local thrift store. It's a good way of reframing donating to think of them
as gifts. But every time you have less stuff, your life will be easier. It just is. And we're going to
talk a little bit about that in today's podcast, but other ways, too, that we can look at our house
a little bit differently, not like how can I get more of this stuff done, but how can I make
it easier period to take care of? How can I have my home?
make me feel recharged and refreshed and not be another thing on my to-do list.
I think one of the most exhausting parts about my home, everyone's home, is the invisible work,
the invisible labor, that is the things that it's basically filling our mind and making us feel
exhausted and war out. It's things like, do we have enough toilet paper? What's for dinner?
When's the last time we cleaned out the fridge? We have to remember when it's garbage
day and recycling. And if you have a cluttered home, this is magnified beyond what you could possibly
imagine. And I almost forget what this is like until I go back and help a client or help someone
declutter and organize their home and I'm back in their space. When it's really, really messy,
they have way too much inventory, way too much stuff. And I start to have the same physical
and emotional effects, just being in that space. It's more than just the mess stresses you out.
The mess takes your time. The mess adds to your invisible labor. And I'm going to give you an
example. Last week I was in Seattle and I was helping Jessica McCabe. She's a YouTuber that I've been
a really big fan of for a long time. She has a channel, How to ADHD, that when I was first
diagnosed with ADHD, I was just so grateful for her. And I was just so grateful for her.
all of her education and information, it made me feel like, one, I wasn't alone. And two, I learned
real tools to help me manage the chaos in my brain. So when I met her at the first ever
neurodiversion ADHD conference, she said to me, I really need your help. She had a lot of her
followers say, you need to reach out to Clutterbug and do a collab. And I had reached out to
in the past and not heard anything back. But we were in person and we were talking and she was like,
please, could you help me? I feel like I'm drowning. She had a new baby. She had a partner move in.
She wrote a book all within the last two years and she said she was drowning. She sent me a video
walkthrough of her space and I was on the verge of tears just watching her talk about her home.
and it wasn't that she was complaining. It wasn't that she, you know, was giving me a sob story.
I just could see the stress. I could see the joy. Every time she walked into another space,
I could see the joy being just sucked out of her. And she was trying to look at the positive
and point out the things she loved, but I could see the burden that her home was. So Joe and I
literally jumped on a plane, flew to Seattle. We didn't do.
even really have a plan. I was just like, she has helped me so much. I have to help her too.
And we showed up at her home. And I was there for three days. And let me tell you, it was,
I mean, I don't even know how to describe it. It was wonderful and emotional because we were
able to help her and declutter and organize. But when I was in the space, I lost my phone
about 30 times a day. We couldn't find the screws for the furniture that we were building.
We ordered lunch the first day and couldn't find a flat surface to eat on and we're just like
stuff shuffling things around. We couldn't, we didn't have a place to put dirty dishes down
because there was no place. Everything took 10 times longer than it should have because there was
so much stuff everywhere. And to see Jessica completely stressed out in
And not even realizing like the correlation, I don't think, between the clutter and any amount of stress and the amount of time that she was spending.
She just kept saying, I don't have time to do anything.
I'm so busy.
And I knew that the majority of her time being spent wasn't being a mother or even work.
It was managing the mess of the home, trying to find her keys, her wallet, her purse, the diapers, the leash to take the dog for a walk.
all of these things were adding up to hours in a day.
Every day she said she was late getting out the door.
And every day when she came home, it took like an hour longer than she thought it would
to even just feed her baby and get dinner on the table and get her to bed.
Like everything was delayed.
Everything was more complicated.
Everything was harder than it needed to be.
and Jessica is not alone.
That may be an extreme case because she does have ADHD so it's compounded, but the fact that she
had access and let's add to that, there wasn't systems in place to catch her at her busiest,
at her worst, at her most distracted. Her home didn't have any systems. It didn't have a place,
a drop zone for when she came in the door. It didn't have a place for coats and shoes that was
easy and convenient and clear to just get to. She had to push things out of the way to get to a
closet where it was full of hangers, which doesn't even work for her brain. So most of the coats and
shoes just ended up on the floor, the back of a chair or on a railing. It wasn't just the
entranceway. There wasn't a place for bills that need to be paid that was consistent. There wasn't
even a consistent place for the keys to go. It was somewhere on this surface.
The kitchen table just caught everything because none of this stuff had a clearly defined home.
And you couldn't even really create a clearly defined home because of the amount of excess.
This isn't just something I see with Jessica.
This is something that I see with every home that I visit.
I just went to Lisa's craft room.
And same story.
She was so overwhelmed in the space.
and it took so long to clear a surface to craft.
And then she'd have to take so long to clean up after she made anything
because it wasn't quick and easy to put anything away or to find anything
that it felt like what should be a,
I'm going to spend half an hour and just make something small for fun
is now a half a day affair.
And so there was real reluctance to actually engage and actually craft
and actually do something that made her really happy.
because her home was overcomplicating everything because there was all this invisible labor,
which is magnified in mess, because now we're not just talking about remembering to take out the
trash or remembering to put away the laundry or that you need to buy toilet paper.
But now it's remembering where I put my stuff.
Where are my keys?
Where's my wallet?
Where's that extra shoe?
where's the note I have to sign for my child's classroom?
Where's the permission slip?
Where do these memories go?
Where's the rice in a cabinet that's so stuffed?
You can't see it when you first open it and you're making dinner.
So much more invisible work, invisible labor that is added when you don't have an organized home,
when you don't have a decluttered, highly decluttered home.
We're not talking about minimalism.
This is not what it is, but I'm going to be totally honest.
And I use this same analogy that I did with Jessica.
And I hope it resonates with you because I saw that it really got through to her.
Your home is a container.
And I want you to imagine it like a jar and you're putting marbles in it.
Your stuff is the marbles.
And so we start out, we're just like collecting marbles. They're shiny, they're pretty, there's
marbles we need to use on a database. But very quickly, our jar of marbles becomes full. But we're continually,
we're still adding marbles to it all the time. We're getting new things. It's Christmas,
or maybe we're just out and we're picking something up. Or maybe it's things that we actually
need to use like food, but we're adding marbles. We're adding, we're adding. But now they're
kind of overflowing on the jar. So now what do we have to do? We have to take time and stack
them really neatly and really meticulously. We have to stack them slowly because if we don't,
if we just plop it on, they all come crashing and fall and overflow all over. And it's still,
even though we stack it neatly, it's still spilling over. Now we're spending time, not just
putting in new marbles, but picking up other marbles to try to constantly put the back in while
adding more and adding more. And here's what the average person does. They think, I just need a bigger
jar, right? We need a bigger house. Or they start getting like other little jars to put the
spillage over. So they add a shed or they rent a storage locker. When what we really need to do is
remove the marbles that we don't use in love and just constantly keep it at a constant. We are
always bringing stuff in. And if we're not getting stuff out at the same rate, we are overflowing
our home. And if you haven't decluttered in a year, two years, ten years, there's people who haven't
decluttered in a decade. And I'm not just talking like throwing out the trash or like the occasional
little declutter. I'm talking about big, bad, massive amounts of stuff leaving your home.
If you're not doing that, of course your jar is full and overflowing. And the only way to knock
it down is to drastically remove a ridiculous amount of marbles. And that metaphor really helped Jessica,
because as we were decluttering on the first day and going through, and she would pick up something,
everything, you know, she's like, oh, I like this. It could be, ooh, I could turn this into something.
She caught herself and said, oh, this is just a shiny marble. I love shiny marbles, but my jar is
I really can only keep the brightest, the most beautiful marbles, and the ones that are really
useful. These other ones, though, they're pretty and I like them. I don't have room. And that analogy
really helped her look at her house differently and start letting go. So that's the first step on how to
like burnout proof your home is stop picking up marbles off the floor, man. You got to you got to get
down to a mount that easily fits in your home so that you can put things away quickly.
When your drawers are stuffed, when your cabinets are stuffed, when your closets are stuffed,
you can't quickly put something away. You have to stop and take time to shove it, to cram it,
to line it all up so that everything actually fits. And all of these little few seconds that you
keep adding to shove stuff out of the way to open the closet door, what are you doing? This is all
adding up to invisible labor and visual labor too. It's adding up to unnecessary work and you don't realize
how much this is taking from your day. It's not even about the fact that it's making you
miserable in your home. You don't have time for this because at the end of the day you're going to
feel exhausted. You're going to feel like oh my gosh, I was working all day. And yet what did you
actually get done. Nothing. You just lived your life. You didn't push the needle forward. You just
got through your day. But it took you 10 times longer to get through your day than all the other
people who have an organized clutter-free home. You're not giving yourself space to grow and do
cooler things. And you look at other people and you might be like, how are they doing?
doing this? How are they possibly getting it all done? Babes, you're spending an extra five hours a day
that they don't have to. That's the difference. Imagine if you had an extra five hours in your day.
What could you do? And that's what decluttering and having a functional organized home can give you.
So decluttering is the first step. And what this looks like is not tidying.
Decluttering is not tidying. Decluttering is not cleaning.
Decluttering is not organizing. Decluttering is removing things from your home forever. It's filling bags and boxes.
And the only way to really do this is to look in your space to touch everything and make a decision on it.
Do not just open the closet and say, well, these are where my clothes go. I wear clothes. I guess I'm keeping all of this.
We can't declutter like that. We can't look at a closet.
and be able to say, okay, these things have to go. We have to pull out each shirt and say,
do I love this shirt? Do I wear this shirt? Yes. Okay, let's put it back. Let's pull out a different
thing. We don't look at whole spaces. We look at each individual item. And we might say we don't
have time for that cast, but here's what I'm telling you. You do because I spent six hours with
Jessica and her partner, her fiancee decluttering. And I have gotten texts from her every
day since that she's making it out the door on time. She's no longer late. She has so much time
at the end of the day. Yes, we spent six hours decluttering, but she's gaining back at least an
hour a day. Once we've decluttered, the next thing that we can do to really make our house
burnout free is design our day for energy, not output. So really look at the tasks that drain you.
Instead of looking at all the things that you have to do, like, what do you spend the most time on in your home?
And what is like a suck for you?
Does that make sense?
Like, what task is just eating away your time?
And I did this when I first started my organizing journey.
I really just audited, I guess, how much time I spent doing all these different household activities.
I definitely spent more time than I ever realized looking for things.
But even outside of that, I used to fold all my clothes because I thought that's what you had to do.
So putting away laundry, like doing laundry was an insane time suck for me in my family.
I had two little girls.
And I would fold their onesies and have to pair their socks and just, oh my gosh, Joe and I did Joe's clothes to.
And it was such a huge amount of time that I spent doing that.
Another thing that I spent an obnoxious amount of time on was cooking.
Because I grew up in a household where dinners were a thing.
We had mashed potatoes and gravy and roast beef and a vegetable and sometimes a salad.
Sometimes we had fresh bread.
My mom loved to cook.
And I felt this expectation as a mother that dinners had to be this big elaborate thing.
So I spent a lot of time cooking.
And then I also spent a lot of time picking up and tidying.
And those were my three, in my home, my big three energy suckers, drainers, time suckers.
So it wasn't just looking at it like all the things I have to do.
I was really identifying the big and the bad and the uglies.
And then I looked at it as instead of just I got to get this done, how can I make this less of a suck?
And that's when I started giving up folding.
and I'm not suggesting that you give up folding, but for me, the freedom of taking a basket out of the dryer of clothes, going into the room and just tossing the things away. I hang the shirts that I don't want to get wrinkled, but I have all the hangers together so it's really fast and easy. I don't sit in front of the TV and fold because then going to the space and putting away is like, I've got the time suck of sitting and folding in front of the TV, but then I've got this other time suck of putting it away later. Now,
it's like three minutes and the laundry is done and it's off my list. And if I want to sit and watch
TV, I can either do something else or just sit and enjoy relaxing and watching TV. I've saved my
time. So I don't fold. I drastically reduce the amount of clothes that I had so it was faster and
easy to put it away. And I just changed the way I did laundry. So I focused more on just done is
better than doing it great. How can I take a shortcut here? And how can I,
eliminate this big energy suck from my plate and make it as fast and easy as possible. Dinner is the same
thing. I started introducing leftover night. We're just having soup and sandwiches. I had paper plate
night. I had Friday night pizza. I cut my cooking down to like a quarter of the time I was spending.
And then the tidying. I started using really big baskets with no lids so I could chuck things away like
basketballs. I started adding labels everywhere. And I started introducing these quick tidy up times
throughout the day that my whole family would do instead of waiting till Saturday and having to spend
three hours tidying before I could actually clean and I never actually got to the cleaning because I was so
tired from the tidying. Instead of that, I set up my house so that it was really easy to put things away
super quick and everything had a clearly defined home and not just defined but like a basket to keep
it from spreading every category, every toy, every everything. And these were just cheap dish pans
from the dollar store and I like would label them with tape and write on it with a marker.
But that burn out proofed my home. Because when we did these little tidy up times, it was really
quick to put things away. We could literally throw it into the basket, like just chuck it.
Fast, fast, fast, fast, fast. The kids could get involved, too, even though they were little toddlers.
And I no longer had this huge burden on the weekends of this big energy sucking tidy time.
So taking inventory and I want you to think about your life right now in your home, what are you spending the most of your time on?
what is your big energy suck?
What is your big time suck?
And how can you redesign those, create new systems for those to cut that in half?
To give you up, to give you more time in your day.
Look at it differently, not just as an output, not just as a task that has to be done,
but realize that you can think of creative ways to make this.
to make this less work for you, less time and less of an energy suck.
So I would audit.
I would absolutely 100% think of auditing the amount of time you spend on your home and really
identifying the big, bad, ugly things.
The third thing that I recommend, nobody wants to hear.
I guess it kind of goes along with all of these, but it's really letting go of the
expectations of perfection and what you think your home is supposed to look like and what
organizing is supposed to look like and what systems are supposed to look like and just embracing
good enough. I'm going to use Jessica as another example because it's fresh in my mind because I was
just there. This is an extreme example and I don't mean to throw her under the bus, but let's just
get real. Let's talk about it. While she was giving me a virtual tour of her home, she went into
her bedroom and the dresser was full, like piled high with folded clothes. And there was baskets of
folded clothes all on the floor and all around. And she said, oh, I hate the laundry and I got to put
this away, but I hire someone to help me and they fold the clothes, but they don't fold the clothes
the way I like it. So I have to find time to refold all this clothes before I can put it away.
It's such a typical perfectionist mindset. You can't even see the floor in her bedroom.
Everything is a disaster. The whole house is trashed.
But she wants to refold folded clean clothes so that it's done in the way that she likes it.
And she read the book, The Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, and she started Marie Kondo folding her clothes.
And she loves it and she enjoys it.
And it makes her feel proud.
And she does that.
But she does that maybe once a month.
She'll spend time to do a little bit of that.
She cannot.
She doesn't have the energy.
She doesn't have the time.
She doesn't have the stamina.
She is too burnt out to fold her clothes like that on a regular basis.
So she waits until she can do it right later.
And maybe listening to this example, you're like, well, that's extreme and I'm not like that.
But I guarantee there's things that you are doing that are just as boncadongs.
I guarantee you are waiting to do your paperwork.
You are waiting to set up a system for your craft supplies.
You are waiting to clear out that spare bedroom.
You are waiting to do the garage until you're waiting.
You have the time to do it in the way that you've envisioned that it needs to be done.
Until you have the money to buy the shelving.
Till you have the money to do this, till you have a babysitter to watch the kids,
till you have a whole week off from work that you can dedicate it to just getting it all done.
This is a common issue, this perfectionist mindset instead of just saying,
done is better than perfect.
done today, done crappy. I don't want to say the S word, but listen, done S word, S-H-I-T-T-E-Y, is so much better.
It's so much better. You can always go back and make it perfect later, but let's get it off your
to-do list. Now, throw those clothes in the drawers. You know, you got kids toys, get some dollar-store
dish pans make one for each thing, put some tape on it, throw them in. I don't care if the bins are
lined up on the floor. You'll get shelving one day. We don't just leave the pile.
Create the homes. If you, Jessica is another example. She's like, I want to hang up all. I should,
this is what she said. I should be hanging up my coats in this cabinet at the end of the hall.
But I just have this coat rack for now. I'm just tossing things on because I just don't have the
capacity every day to put things on a hanger. Yeah, she's like, when I do find time and I do have
the energy, I'll take everything off the coat rack and I'll reset my landing. And I'm like, that's
bonkers. But guess what? The coat rack's also not working because now it's just like a doom coat
rack and you have to take coats off to find the coat you want. It's overflowing and it falls over
all the time because it's so heavy and it's nuts. What if we just throw up some heavy duty 3M
hooks for now inside the cabinet? You're not going to use a hanger and that's fine. And that's
But now you only have to like open the cabinet door and boop.
But now everything's jammed.
It's like you can hang a bunch of hooks inside there.
And think of like a lazy system.
Give yourself permission to have a lazy system.
She said one day I'm going to have this cute little coat, no, this cute little key rack that I bought.
And I'm going to find a special place for it.
And that's where my keys are going to go.
And I'm like, I'm just going to plop a 3M hook right on the wall right here where you naturally put it down.
That's where your keys go.
And we're moving on.
And it isn't perfect. And maybe it'll fall off the wall. But maybe you'll find the time one day
to find that cool key hook that you bought and actually install it properly. But in the meantime,
it still needs a place to go that's good enough. So we're throwing up a 3M hook. We're giving you a
basket to kick your shoes into. Whatever. Maybe you want this fancy shoe system from IKEA.
Or maybe you want a fancy shoe shelving in your closet one day. But you don't,
have the money and you don't have the time right now and that's okay so we're kicking them into a
basket because it's better than a pile on the floor that you keep tripping on we've got to just
embrace this quick easy dirty good enough we have to we can always go back and make it perfect later
because when you keep putting off setting up systems like this and creating good enough homes
you're just left in this limbo you're left in this limbo of like chaos until you can
do it right later. So while you're listening again, I hope you're kicking butt on something on your
house and you're getting stuff done and you're filling baskets and you're like, because tomorrow's
going to be easier because of the work you're putting in today, not just tomorrow, but every day
after is going to be easier. But I also hope you're thinking about the places you keep picking
up, the places that don't stay tidy, the places where you're really struggling and think,
what's something that's like good enough that I can do with the stuff I have right now? Or just like
one trip to the dollar store. What system can I create right now? Can I just have a basket for bills
that have to be paid? And where is that going to go? And can I label it? And can I start every day doing
like a, when I do my tidy up, putting the bills in there, putting the bills in there,
and then setting an alarm on Sunday to actually empty it and pay the bills every Sunday, a reoccurring
alarm? Maybe you want to, I don't know, have some elaborate other filing system. Whatever perfection is,
stop it. What crappy thing can you do today? So at least it's done. At least it's done-ish so that you can
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The next thing that I recommend to really create a burnout-free home is to embrace the power of
mini resets.
This changed my life for a couple of reasons.
One, it just gives you that, like, little boost that you need so that your house never
becomes out of control.
Think about your phone battery.
When I think about my house, having a phone battery, I used to wait till it was, like,
at zero before I recharged it.
So what I mean by that is I used to wait till my house was totally.
a mess like on the weekend. And then I would do a big reset. And I would clean a whole room or I'd
clean everything. And I'd just take hours and hours and hours and hours to catch back up. It's like
waiting till your phone's on zero to recharge it. But then I started doing these little power mini resets,
maybe five minutes. I like to do a 15 minute before I go to bed. But I also sometimes just do a one
minute, like a quick one. And at first, I had to set timers and reminders to remind myself to do this
because I was in the habit of waiting until things were insane before I tidied it up. But I would have
these tidy alarms going and they were annoying and sometimes I would snooze them. But a lot of the
times I made myself actually do these quick tidy ups. And it was like just giving my phone a little
recharge. It was giving my home a little recharge before it got to zero. It was making it so it never got to
zero. And it was never perfect and it was never, you know, all the way reset, but it was manageable
every day, all day. It never got crazy. But the other thing that happened was these little mini resets
of me throughout the day consistently just picking this up and putting it back, picking this up
and putting it in its home, picking this up and putting it in its home. It started training my
brain to do it without the alarms. So when I was done with something,
because I was so used to picking it up and putting it away. Now it was just like it was in my hand
and I was just naturally putting it away. I went from being a person who was naturally messy my entire
life to training myself to being a tidy person, to picking up after myself as I went. And not just me,
my entire family too. So my kids, my husband, we all for the most part just put things away when we're
done with them. We're not always so great to put it.
the dishes in the dishwasher. Let me tell you, that's something we still need to work on.
But everything else that we use, it's just going away when we're done. And this isn't through
nagging. This isn't through like some sort of punishment or anything. It is literally
through these tiny little resets, these power resets and making, doing them consistently,
trained us through muscle memory to now just put things away without thinking. It also was important
that we had in a way for these to go. That was fast and easy because we don't have a huge amount of
excess and everything has a home that's clearly labeled, that's quick and easy, that doesn't have a
lid. It's either a hook or a basket. I'm even like, I'm here at my desk. I can open the drawer
and I have all these little drawer divider so I just like chuck it in and it goes into a home and
doesn't mix up with other things. So whether it's food, you know, all the pasta has a basket,
all the rice, everything has a place where we can chuck it in fast, but it doesn't get mixed.
up, which means it's really easy to find things the next time we need it, just as easy to put it
away as it is to put it down. And we've trained ourselves to put it away before we ever even put it down
now. And that is the power of these little mini-recharges, these little mini resets. And I definitely
recommend that you try this. And the last thing, the last thing that I want to talk about,
I think it's also so, so important. And I'm going to use Jessica's home again as an example,
is building a nurturing home identity.
And that's just like a fancy way of saying,
giving each room a purpose that reflects you and your family
and making it feel like that purpose.
So walking into Jessica's home,
she has a four-story townhome.
So every floor, there's stairs to go up and down.
It was crazy. My legs hurt so bad at the end of the three days. But every floor kind of didn't have its own purpose and zone. It felt sort of unloved. It felt like, what is the story of this home trying to tell me? I don't know that people are just surviving in here. And when I took her and her fiancee and we stepped back and we said, like, what is your dream for this floor? So walking into her first home, she had like what should have been a little
living room, there was a pull-down projector and there was one tiny sofa and just clutter everywhere
else. This is where they watched TV. This is where they played video games, sometimes,
but nothing else. And when I said, what should this room be? Both of them were like,
I guess it should be, I don't know, it should feel like home. That's what they kept saying.
But what does home feel like to you? And that's when Jessica said,
it should be a place that we could do our hobbies. And when I said, what are your hobbies? They said
music. Both of them play guitar. Jessica played the flute and the ukulele. They play piano. None of that
was in this space. There was a piano upstairs. There was a guitar in an office. There was a flute in a
closet. There was just, this should be a music room. What else do you love to do? What else is something
that you want your home to do in your home and love in your home. They both said board games at the
same time. They're huge board game nerds. They love playing board games. There wasn't one board game in the
space. The board games were stored in the garage. It doesn't make any sense. Their home wasn't
reflecting their identity. And they weren't nurturing their identity in the home. It wasn't a
reflection of their passions. It wasn't a reflection of them and their love and how they want to
spend time together. Jessica had done a lot of artwork and it was shoved in a closet in the office.
It should have been hung here to remind her of her love of painting. And so in this space,
I didn't organize really anything at all. I moved in board games. I moved out things that didn't
represent this identity and what this room's purpose was. I hung some musical instruments on the
wall so they saw them. So it was a reminder that this is a room for play. I added board games.
I hung artwork and that's it. And guess what I got? They walked in this space and burst into tears
and said, we have a home. Nothing in this space had really changed except decluttering and
featuring the identity of this room and this space to reflect them and the things that they loved.
Think about your own home. Think about your living room. Think about your bedroom. Think about
if you have a craft room or an office. Does it reflect you and your identity and what you want
this purpose of this room to be? If you're in your family room and you're like, this is where I want
all my family to come together and spend time together. Do you have family photos in that room? Do you have
board games? Do you have activities that you like to do as a family in this space? Does the space
reflect what you wish it would be? And that is an easy thing to remedy if the answer is no.
You're doing a little bit of switching around, a little bit of decluttering. You're bringing in
the identity. You're nurturing that. You're nurturing that. You're you're nurturing that. You're you're. You're
You're creating that.
So you're seeing and it's reflecting back to you because this is the really amazing,
cool thing that happens.
When you love a space, you're way more likely to take care of it.
When you love a space, when it is a reflection of you, when you are proud of it,
when it inspires you to play and enjoy it, you're way more likely to take care of it subconsciously
without even realizing. We're decorating and organizing for comfort for the activities you do,
not for show. This isn't about what it looks like. This is about what it's saying to you.
Your kitchen. Is this a place where you want to have everybody together to eat? Is this a place
where you love to cook and create or bake? Do you have a baking station? Do you have a cooking station?
Does it reflect and nurture your dream for the space? And if not, what's going to go to make room?
How are you going to redesign? What are you going to rearrange to make it so that it does? And your
bedroom's the same way. If your bedroom is like you wanted to be a retreat and it's supposed to be
where you just like reconnect with your partner. Do you have stacks of laundry in there and work?
Do you have a home office in there? Is there another place?
that you can put that stuff, rearrange it, how can you make your home feel like a home?
I can't wait for you to see the makeover of Jessica's space. It's not coming out for a couple more
weeks and then hopefully I can do a podcast with her and we'll talk about how life-changing it is.
But I do hope that you checked out the other makeover that I recently did of Lisa's craft room
because it was a matter of decluttering and then realizing the vision of the space and creating
these really easy zoned systems, quick, fast, easy.
I was there for two days and we have gotten messages from Lees at least every few days since
of all the things that she's crafting now, of all the wonderful things that she's making,
of the other rooms in her home that she's decluttering and organizing and doing the same thing.
She is so proud of herself.
That was a couple of weeks ago.
It is staying tidy.
She loves the space.
She's crafting with her kids and her grandchildren in the space.
Two days to change your life.
No more excuses.
It's time to roll up your sleeves and take action, look at your home differently,
and create the home that you deserve.
Make it easy.
easier. Make it more fun. Make your home, your dream space. You can do this. You got to let go of
the perfection, the expectations, the mindset, embrace these crappy, quick, easy solutions.
You have to let go of massive amounts of stuff. Do you want this or not? Are you craving this or not?
you can have excuses of why you can't do it or you can have results, but you can't have both.
Be a hero, put on that cape, pick up that trash bag, pick up that box, and start radically reducing
the stuff in your home, and then take an audit of the time sucks and think about how you can
change those systems to be easier.
What can you do to take a quick little shortcut, my friends?
okay and then embrace these good enough quick and easy shortcuts and then think how can I have
my home reflect me, my family, and the activities we want to really do in this space.
It's not about redecorating.
Are the things in this space that are featured that are prominent that you see, things that
make you feel happy and excited and motivated and inspired?
Do you have a bunch of artwork on the walls that you don't even really like?
Or do you have instruments hung on the wall?
Are you inviting, is your home inviting you and reflecting you to engage in your activities
and your hobbies?
Is it photos on the walls and memories and joy?
Is it joy?
If not, do something about that right now, my love.
Every room should have a purpose.
And when you walk into that room, that purpose should be obvious.
immediately by what you can see. Okay, my friends, love spending time with you today. I hope you're
feeling motivated and I'll see you guys next time.
