Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley - 118: Kail's New Smoothie Addition, Kids And Computers, and Getting Some Things Off Our Chests

Episode Date: August 20, 2020

On this week's episode of Coffee Convos, Kail tells Lindsie all about the new ingredient she has been putting in her smoothies lately. Spoiler alert, it's not a fruit or vegetable! The ladies also chat about how Lindsie is adjusting back into home learning, and the computer usage that comes with it. What happens when your kids aren't as familiar with all the technical aspects of them? And there are some things that Kail just has to get off her chest. All this plus some major breakfast smells talk, on this week's episode of Coffee Convos! This episode was sponsored by: Homer, Fight Camp, and BetterHelp Have a question you want answered? Want to give Kail and Lindsie a call? Leave them a message at ?(609)-316-0060?. Music by Nathaniel Wyvern. Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License.

Hey guys, welcome to another beautiful episode of Coffee Combos podcast. Nobody considers this podcast beautiful, what are you talking about? They saw me right now. They definitely wouldn't think it's beautiful because I look like a fucking hot mess express. Okay, well, I actually have something to say about that in just a few seconds, but the conversation we were having before we clicked record was actually really funny. Okay, so a couple of weeks ago, you told me that you held the little recording device that has the like microphone things up to your face and the mic at the same time and

I don't do that. So I'm wondering if that's why I sound so much quieter than you. But I listened to the last episode, like the audiogram on my Instagram and it sounds like I'm too loud that it's almost fuzzy. So I'm wondering, should I put the recording device to, what did I say? Should I put the recording device down? Yeah, let's try putting it down. I mean, what do we have to lose at this point really?

Our listeners? What? I mean, does it seem like we're struggling with that, but yeah, I mean, maybe just put the little task cam thing down or whatever it's called. Okay, I put it down. I'm only holding the microphone today. So let us know if I sound better or worse and then if I sound better than I know it was a task cam problem, I was holding the recording device to my face.

But also I think it's really funny that you don't use a mic stand and you just like free range with the microphone, like you're a country singer or something. I mean, I am. I sing all the time, so basically I'm a singer. No, you know what, really when you said the intro, I for one brief second thought you were about to sing and you were really going to turn my day around, but then you didn't. So I basically kept your day shitty. Did something happen today?

You ruined my life. Fuck. Like I have that, I have that effect on a lot of people, Lindsay. This is not, this is not new to me. Oh my God. So do you ever wake up and some days you're just like ready to really seize the day? Yes. And then other days you feel like, okay, the best I can do is sling this rat's nest like

up into a mong bun and drink 12 cups of coffee because if you're the latter one, that is me today and I don't feel like dealing with anybody shit. I have a feeling that's going to be me on Thursday. This entire week is kind of chaotic for me and I'm still like getting into the groove of like having an infant in the house again. So everything is just like slinging a rat's nest on my head and calling it a day. Like I don't even think I ate breakfast this morning. Well, I don't eat breakfast any morning.

Oh, by the way, can we talk about how my day actually started? Yeah, let's do it. Okay, so Will and I, for whatever reason, love these Mexican, like little pre-made bowls that we do at home and we just keep them in the fridge. I mean, probably like 14 of them at a time. Do everything like in the Instapot, super convenient, it's healthy. That way we're not like grabbing unhealthy options basically is why we started doing it.

So I'm minding my own business, getting Jackson all set up to get on his zoom. He's in the shower, had breakfast, I'm getting ready, slinging that hair up, you know. And I start walking to go down the stairs and I start smelling Mexican at seven o'clock in the morning and the level of pissed that I was literally could not be normal. Oh, good. Okay. I don't know about anybody else is listening to this, but like I don't like the smells of strong foods like first thing whenever I wake up, like it literally makes me nauseous.

Even bacon? No, I don't want to smell that either. Like I'm just not a morning breakfast person. Like if I'm going to eat breakfast, let's do that at 11. Like we don't need to do that at six, 30 or seven o'clock. I understand that's pretty normal for people to do that, but that's just not my thing and I don't want to smell it and I certainly don't want to smell Mexican rice bowls at seven a.m. Oh, he was cooking them at six or seven in the morning.

He was starting to make them. Yes. Oh, interesting. Okay. So I mean, I've definitely been like, this is going to sound weird, but like woken up because I've smelled food and that's like, I also agree. I don't want to wake up to that. Yeah.

And I'm just like, okay. First of all, you should have pre-planned this, right? Obviously, if you were thinking about lunch for today, then you probably should have cooked this in your spare time last night, but you didn't plan ahead. So you having an emergency because you're thinking about your lunch at seven a.m. Does not constitute as an emergency on my part or my smells? Like I don't want to smell this. So he's like, well, this is actually communal space and, and I'm just like, we're really

not going down this avenue this morning. Like you're literally telling me about fucking communal space at seven a.m. when I'm just trying to survive here with a seven year old doing homeschool while you're standing downstairs, the teacher's upstairs calling role and wills downstairs, listen to fucking country music on top 20 countdown, drinking a coffee, like standing in the middle of the kitchen when I walk downstairs. And I'm like, okay, this is just, I know it's going to be a bad day. You know what though, the way that you're describing this kind of sounds good.

I kind of want to wake up to someone doing that. I just think that you always want what you don't have, but then again, I don't use specifically no, right, right, right, right. Of course. I, but then again, I don't know that I would want anyone else in my space all the time. So like, I would say would like to occasionally wake up to that. Okay. I agree that it's nice to occasionally wake up to that, but also when I don't want to

wake up to that, I don't want to wake up to that. You know what I mean? Yes. I guess. It's like sometimes I just want it to be me and the Roomba. Okay. Like just me and that whistling sound of the Roomba doing my job cleaning the floors, like that's how I thrive in the AM.

Like I'm not thriving smelling these Mexican bowls and honestly, I still smell them. So just so you know, I'm podcasting in my kitchen today. Are you going to eat them? No, I actually made myself a quesadilla just to prove a point that I wasn't going to eat one today. Lindsay, I hate you so much. I think Jackson quesadilla is like almost every day of the week for lunch because it's quick and he just loves it and he eats it good.

So today I was like, you know what, I'm going to put me a tortilla on there and I don't want to make myself a quesadilla because he's not about to come up here and see me eat one of these Mexican bowls. I was bitching about this morning. Oh good. So proved you wrong. If you're listening, we'll, we'll sneaky snake. Does he listen to our podcast?

I feel like we've had this conversation before. I feel like he does because he knows too much about what I talk about to not, you know what I mean? I will, if you're listening, leave. I would like a Mexican bowl. Bye. You're not getting one. Why?

We're on, we're on strike. We're on strike. You're right. Okay. Fine. Let's move on from the next table. I have so much to tell you. Well, what is it?

I made an only fans. What? I mean, you don't know what only fans is. No, Kale. I don't. Oh my God. What is it? This is like a, it's like a private Instagram that people pay for.

Tell me and stop making me feel like I'm stupid. Okay. Well, it's for like, it's on Instagram. No, it's like an Instagram, but it's not. You make money on it. And what do people do? Is this a fetish thing? It posts nudes and send feet pics.

You put feet pics up after you pedicure? You can. Um, someone I know, she got paid $100 for her feet pics. Will keeps telling me that I need to, for the people to ask me for feet pics all the time and like used panties and stuff, he's like, no, for those people, he said, you should send it to them. And I'm like, no, he's like, no, they pay a lot of money for that. It's like, who do you think I am?

I mean, I'm, I would definitely send feet pics. Like I for sure, I'm going to send feet pics, but do you like pose them? Like I don't even know what you would do. Like what does the background look like of your feet pics? You know? Um, I don't know because I've never done it, but I'm just saying that I would. I could totally see you doing that and appear of like worn down Birkenstocks. Like I love my Birks, you know, I really do.

So, so tell me why you posted on there because I'm not paying to be on it. Why not? You're not going to subscribe to my only fans? No, I'm going to, you better send me the pictures on text. Yeah, I'm going to, I'm going to send them to you first so that you can approve. And then, um, and then if you give me the, because I never want another horse pick situation to happen to me ever again. I never want a photographer to give me this idea and then tell me it's amazing and have

me post it. And then I'm like trusting this photographer, like I never want to do that again. So now I'm going to send my pictures to my best friends and get their approval because they don't think they would lie to me. And, um, before I post, yeah, because honestly, okay, let's talk about the little horse pick thing for a second because that was the week that I decided that I was going to be like working on my mental health and be off of Instagram. So not until I got Google alerts, did I realize that you had posted that photo and by the

time I went to go and look, it was gone. That was a horrible idea who gave you it. I'll say names, but like the photographer, was it, okay, well, obviously they think their works good. Like that's probably any photographer that thinks their works good, but maybe you were just like having Corona at that time and you just didn't have, I did have Corona at that time. Remember when you were so sick on that trip?

Yeah, I lost my sense of, my sense of smell, my sense of taste. I lost all of that. I mean, long story short, I mean, whatever, it's a shitty fucking picture and I'll never do something like that again. But also I still made an only fans and I'm still going to post pictures on there. Okay. So you need to post a feed pick just because I want you to when your pedicure is good. And I want you to send me options.

So I can be like, okay, that background is really appealing and like that one's not. Okay. And like maybe lose the Birkenstocks. Yeah, you know what, because Birkenstocks, like they like get your foot impression and then they like wear down to like where your, the soles of your feet are. So I definitely think that as comfortable as they are, they do kind of look dirty even though they're clean. Um, so yeah, that's a good idea.

No Birkenstocks, but maybe, um, maybe I'll leave like the little toe separator in my toe and get a good pedicure picture. Okay. So you definitely need to pedicure picture, but also, you know what I was thinking? You should get some like Gucci heels. So it looks like really nice. I want like a dinosaur in heels. Kale, I've seen you walk in heels and you don't walk in like a dinosaur.

Yes, I do. I look like a fucking T-Rex. Bye. Um, I also, before we talk about anything else, I really wanted to just like talk about the placenta thing because we didn't talk about that last week and I have that on my list. Oh, perfect. Okay.

Good. Let's talk about that first because there's so much stuff that we need to catch up on and I just want to answer a lot of people's questions about it. Okay. So I know that a lot, I've seen a lot of different moms because I feel like the whole blogging world right now has been pregnant or just had babies or is currently pregnant and it's all the talk about the placenta encapsulation, who's doing it, who's not doing it, the benefits of doing it, certain people saying it's taboo.

People saying that, you know, they felt the full effects of it and then other people saying that they didn't. So I just want to know your experience and basically how it all went down because I saw that shit on your counter and I'm like, okay, we need to call Mr. Clean to Kale's house. Okay. So I actually did the whole placenta encapsulation thing for Lincoln when Lincoln was born, but I didn't have the smoothie at that time and I used a different company. This time I went with Lancaster placenta co.

They do like local placentas, but they also have shipping services all over the world. This is not an ad. I'm just telling you guys my story. So she was able, she's close enough to me, I want to say within like an hour or two hours from my house. So she actually came to my house to do my placenta and I actually decided to do the smoothie option first because it's kind of like a vegetable in my head. I don't, I don't know how accurate this is, but in my head I'm like the fresher it is,

the more nutrients it has. So that was my thought. It was like, okay, I've done the placenta encapsulation thing. Let's do a smoothie or whatever. People asked me, can you taste it? No, I wasn't able, I didn't taste any like iron or blood or placenta or whatever. And honestly, like if you looked at my Instagram and saw like it was a little bit red and it had like grit to it, like I don't want to call it chunks, but like it was blended with

fruit. So we did put blueberries in there. And so it was, it literally had the consistency of like a regular smoothie. Wait, but you sent me the picture of it and you were like, guess what this is? And you said what? A mixed drink. No, you said, is that a strawberry daiquiri? Daiquiri, yeah.

That's what I thought it was because that's what it looks like. It didn't look like a placenta. No, it was, yeah, I mean, I guess if you had no idea that I had the baby, well you did, but like if I sent it to some random person and was like, do you know what this is? They would probably think it was a strawberry daiquiri, but you can put any type of fresh fruit that you want in your placenta smoothie. And yes, it is a raw chunk of placenta. So people asked me if it was the dehydrated and encapsulation version of the placenta

in the smoothie. No, it is a raw chunk, like raw meat, raw placenta in your smoothie. No, you can't taste it. It really didn't have a weird texture, anything like that. Everything was super clean. Callie did, like I said, she did it at the house and it was all super clean. It takes two full days and then people do this for energy, the postpartum benefits, you know, it helps with a lot of, I don't, I guess postpartum depression, if you have

it, it can help with that energy, like I said, in milk supply. So I struggled with milk supply for three out of four of my kids, and that was one of the main reasons why I wanted to do that again, because I was like four kids, I can't really struggle, I don't have time to struggle with milk supply. But yeah, so I did that, and then she also did a placenta balm for me, which can be used as like a nipple cream, or you can use it as a diaper rash ointment, you can put it on just like scratches and scrapes, or you can use it as like for just for like dry skin. So all of these things that I actually didn't do before was the balm, and then she made

me like little other things that, excuse me, are in the video. We made a whole video for YouTube, so that's on my YouTube channel, and all pretty much everyone's questions are answered in that video, but I just wanted to give Callie a huge shout out on my podcast too, just because she did such a great job, and I loved the whole thing. If you, even if it's a placebo effect, which I don't believe it is, it's worth it to me because if it's working, it's fucking working. You know what I'm saying?

Well, exactly, and everybody that knows me, even from the show or whatever, I've come out of a lot of my crunchy mom stuff, but like I'm still kind of crunchy, but I feel like, I don't know, I think I would, I'm trying to process it like right now, whatever we're talking about it. I don't know about the smoothie. But you do the pills? For sure. Yeah, for sure do that, but the smoothie might be a little too like direct for me, you know?

I definitely think that, you know, it's not for everybody, but if you look into the benefits, it's definitely worth a shot. Do you feel like, well I guess the best question would be, did Callie say how long it takes to notice benefits? I feel like I noticed a benefit right away, especially with the smoothie. And then for the encapsulation, like the pills, when I need like a pick-me-up, I'll just take a couple of them, and I feel a difference. You know, that newborn tired hits different when you have a newborn in the house and it

doesn't matter how freaking late you've stayed up in the past, it doesn't matter how many times you normally wake up when you have a newborn that you're waking up to. It's different sleepy. It's a different kind of freaking tired, exactly. Like I was literally, so to me, the encapsulation situation and the smoothie is so worth it to me, so I recommend it, 10 out of 10 for me. Well, I'm glad that's a 10 out of 10 for you dog, like, I'm glad that you're benefiting. In other news, we have completely forgotten to talk about this, and it's basically because

you like, you know, went off, had a baby, and then we're like, am I a for a while? I have kids. I didn't know what was going on. Me? I think. I think. Oh, okay. But we forgot to talk about the china seeds.

Oh, we definitely need to talk about the china seeds. Like that is something that we need to speak about, because my, someone I know, and people I know, we're actually getting these seeds from China. But like when they get it in the mail, does it have like a Chinese address on it? Yeah. And then we don't, they're in like a plastic sealed bag or whatever. And there was a notice on Facebook that one of Isaac's teacher sent to me and it was like, you know, if you get these in the mail, do not open them, don't plant them, don't look

into them, like literally just notify the Department of Agriculture. Because if you open the bag, we don't know what's in them. We don't know if they're going to, you know, destroy our other plants around here, if they're going to grow like wildfire, like we don't know what's going to happen. So I see this post on Facebook, right? And it's like from someone I know, and she's like, oh, just burn them. And it's literally, I comment back and I'm like, I don't think we should burn them. I think we should literally contact the Department of Agriculture because that's what it says

to do to contact them. Burning them, we don't know what's in them if they're going to get, if it's going to, you know, be airborne. Do you know what I'm saying? Well, what if it's like a toxic chemical or something like that? In them and then you're burning them and you're putting them in the air. So she was like, oh, the Department of Agriculture is just going to burn them too. And in my, I just literally commented back and I was like, okay, like I'm not going to

argue with you. If you think you know what the Department of Agriculture is going to do, then by all means then do what you've got to do. But it's really fucking scary to think that we don't even know what's coming in our mail. It's so scary. And when you sent me that, I made me think of like anthrax, does anybody remember like that anthrax days? And I was so scared to like even check the mail back in those days.

I don't know what year it was, wasn't the 90s sometime, but yeah, it was totally scary. Maybe it was in 2000s. I can't remember, but it seems like it was a very long time ago and I was just terrified to check or open the mail, but it is super scary. And back to the point of the person saying that they were going to burn them. It's like, do you not read instructions? Like if it tells you that these things are coming from China with all the things going on in the world right now, why are you going to just test fate?

Like why not just do what you're supposed to do, what you were directed to do? And guess what? If Department of Agriculture lights it on fire, then that's Department of Agriculture. Like do you work for them? I don't fucking know. Like I need her to not. Yeah, honestly. I was so annoyed.

I was like, okay, well, I'm not messing with it. I'm not doing anything it says not to do. You know what I mean? Like it's just too fucking scary. Um, anyhow, moving on from that, while we were on the baby topic. I should have brought this up, but, um, yeah, I have seen comments on some of your stuff and I've also gotten comments over the years and it genuinely seems like it's coming from a good place from like a mom that is trying to make an educated decision, um, maybe trying

to reach out to somebody that has a larger platform to see what they're doing, um, recommendations or whatever. But as far as like medical things, I don't really like to give people advice. I always try to say like go to your OB or I just always try to do that because I don't want to. We're not doctors. Right. Yeah.

Wrong advice or what might have worked for me might not work for somebody else. And so I'm always just like air on the side of caution when it comes to stuff like that. But the question that I keep seeing over and over again is about circumcision and you have four boys. I have one. So we are both of us as hosts have only boy children. So obviously that's something that you faced four times and I've only had to face once. Thank goodness.

But I just don't think, and this is my personal opinion. I feel like we can talk about a lot of things on this podcast and be very candid when it comes to decisions that we're making in regards to like our bodies and things that affect ourselves. But at some point, um, when you are given a platform and you do have kids, they're not asking for the exposure. And so I don't think it's very appropriate period to really be talking about it. But I do feel like our kids deserve privacy of their life to an extent and also their

penises. Like I just, I do. Yeah. I don't, I definitely agree with you and I don't think that our children's private parts should be a topic of conversation and I understand that it is like we should embrace our natural bodies and you know, I get all of that. But I just, for me, don't want to have that conversation about whether my children are or are not circumcised on the podcast or on social media at all because that's, you know,

our kids aren't asking for that. Well, and then you just, when it comes to stuff like that, one, it's just something that's very private and I just don't think that those are really necessarily appropriate public conversations to be having about other people's body parts. I just, I don't know. Yeah. But that's just me, you know, and with all of the things going on that we're hearing in the news that, like I've said, have been going on for so long, but it's just been publicised

basically because of media that or influencers or whatever with the sex trafficking. I'm also like, well, you know, could there be a predator, you know, I mean, I don't know. Like you, you think about the craziest things as a mom. Yeah, no, I agree. And I definitely think just with everything, like we texted the other night with predators potentially listening to the conversation, like I don't want to know. That's a hard pass for me. Just insane.

And then while we're on the topic of having babies, I'm so sick of seeing clickbait of people trying to bring drama into your life that just doesn't exist, you know what I mean? It's like just life beat. So I had actually had, I think it was you and one other person sent me some clickbait that was posted by one castmate in particular about Javi being Creed's dad. First of all, there's absolutely no truth to that. Javi and I have not been together in years. And furthermore, I don't know if people don't realise that the baby is only one-quarter white.

So Chris is half black. You mean you mean one-quarter black? Yep. That's exactly what I mean. The baby is only one-quarter black. And I don't know, there was a huge possibility that the baby could come out white. And if you put Lincoln next to Creed, Lincoln is also darker than Creed. So if that's what they were getting at, I'm not really sure that they were on the right

track, but maybe everyone should go back to high school and relearn how to do a Punnett Square because what they're saying doesn't even make sense. It's so insane to me and I think that people get wrapped up in wanting to make things something that they aren't because it allows them to not focus on things going on in their life. So then they're able to deflect whatever they're trying to project onto your life. You know, let's talk about this, the possibilities of this, and it's like, can we not just be happy that you had a happy, healthy baby? Why do we need to get into the salacious, I just don't get it.

That's a good word. I know. Because you're auntie-mom. I know. I mean, that's what I would assume because you're auntie-mom that it's this assumption that the baby daddy should be questioned. So that's what I said to, I texted Patrick yesterday and he was asking me about something and I said, I mean, I have absolutely no doubts who my child's father is.

I know that Chris signed the acknowledgement of paternity, which was quite shocking to me to be honest because he wants to question everything and he didn't question it. So it's just like, now all these rumors are coming around and I will say that even though I have no doubts, I could understand why that would make Chris second guess it. And so in that regard, it's not really fair because these people that we don't even know are kind of putting this idea in his head that maybe he is not the father. And so then I get to be humiliated once again. And like I said, I will get a DNA test to keep everyone's mouth shut.

That's fine. And we can track it on teen mom too if you all want so that you guys can all be like, oh, wow, I guess she was right. But then on the other hand, it's like, do I really need to go through that type of humiliation to prove to these fucking people that I don't know that my son's father is who I say he is? Do you know what I mean? Like it's like one of those things where it's like, do I sit here and shut everyone

the fuck up or do I just keep it moving because I know what it is? Well, exactly. And to me, it's just so such a degrading accusation, right? And that's my problem, Lindsay, is that it's so fucking degrading because people that know me know I don't sleep with everybody. Like we've had this conversation before, but like I have guy for like, then I posted my friend Keith on my Instagram in the midst of these rumors because I didn't even know that these rumors were happening.

And then people were like, oh, is you didn't even let your vagina heal and you're sleeping with him. And it's like, last time I checked, I don't have sex with everybody I'm friends with. Well, exactly. And I mean, I can vouch for the times that we've been on working trips. There's been many of people that have been around that have been friends that have been associated and it's not like that. Like at all have a ton of guy friends that it's not even like that.

So it's just mind blowing that people just are so quick to assume what they don't know. And then you feel like, because I know that I've been there too, right, in other situations, you feel like you have to jump on the defense and sometimes exactly people that you personally know, you feel like you have something to prove. Well, yes. And that's it's almost like, because I understand where Chris is coming, like he hasn't questioned me, he hasn't. But I did see a video of an Instagram live that he did where he was like, you know, you

guys make me second guess and like I watched that video and I'm like, on one hand, I want to be defensive and be like, what the fuck, like, you know, you, you know, you did this. But then the other part of me is like, I understand where he's coming from. And then furthermore, it's like, then I feel bad for Harvey because him and Lauren are trying to work shit out and it's like, they're still together. So y'all are messing with not only my life and Chris's, you know, mental health, but also you're fucking with Harvey and Lauren too, because they didn't choose to be brought into those rumors.

You know what I'm saying? Like they have their own stuff they're worried about. They don't need to be dragged into more and, and truly that's me defending Lauren and Harvey. You know what I mean? So it's like, don't fucking do that. That's my whole thing about it too, is that all differences aside with all parties that have been drug into this. It's like, you don't want anything negative for Harvey.

He's moved on. You don't want anything negative going on in their life. Ultimately that affects Lincoln. Like everybody has been affected to some degree and you're inner circle by these accusations and it's just like, wow, you know, how a shit storm can just, well, let me be fucking happy about my baby. You know what I mean? Like let us all enjoy our new born.

Let's all be excited for the new season, let's all be fucking happy and not like, they make it really fucking hard to be excited about a baby when we're constantly feeling like we're on the, we have to be on the defense as soon as we, as soon as Creed is brought up. You know what I'm saying? It's so crazy. Oh, speaking of, I just like calling him the baby. It's, I keep calling him Lux on accident.

Well, Kale, you do that with all your kids though, like whoever you're trying to call at the moment. You're like, Lincoln Lux, I mean, it's like you have a million children, you know, it's like you're just doing the roll call, like, let's see who I can get to, you know. But while we're on that topic, people were saying that eNews reported that the baby's name was one thing and then, I don't know where it was that you said that it was flipped and people had wrote in to our DMs that they wanted to know what the baby's name was. So obviously it's Creed, but is there a first or middle or is Creed the middle name?

You know what, I'm not going to answer this just to prove a fucking point that everyone is arguing about my child's name. So I'm going to, I'm not even going to answer the question. I'm not going to answer it. I'm going to let them figure it out since they claim they think they know everything about my life. Well, there's a lot of people who think that they do know everything. So I'm going to, I'm going to let them sit and figure it out and maybe they can do some

research or maybe they can, you know what I mean? I'm just going to let it, I'm just going to let it, I'm going to let that question go and I'll tell you. Sometimes things, sometimes things are better left unsaid, you know. Yeah, figured out. You guys think you know everything. So I'm going to just, I'm not going to answer. Stop giving you an answer.

Like you don't, you aren't deserving of the answer at all. So we need to talk about how digital learning is going and I know that you're about to start embarking on that journey. Yes. And let me just tell you, Jackson's been like last week and then the first two days this week, he's been working on like assessments. So they're proctored, the teacher's watching them through a zoom and they're doing these tests, but all these freaking parents are acting like they don't know how to log into

stuff. I talked about this last week, they're talking while the kids are trying to take the test and then the first grade level, basically everything is guided. So when they go to do these tests, it's like something's reading it to them and then they're happy to get the answer. So Jackson's getting like all flustered and everything and it's just like not totally ideal, well then he had a writing test today and it was on the computer and he doesn't know, like it was going too fast and then he doesn't know how to do like the shift key

and then another key to make it capital and that's part of the test. So I'm like, I do think that adding the digital aspect to certain parts of school can be incredibly difficult for young learners who aren't familiar with using a computer because Jackson's not, he's just not familiar using a computer, we don't let him play on the computer, we don't let him really do video games, like he has a switch that that's pretty much reserved for like Friday or Saturday nights. We just, we don't do computer stuff and I just was talking to one of my friends last night and we were going through the same thing, her child's first grade too, just in a different

county and she brought up a good point to say that she likes that her child is not proficient in the digital aspect of it, like she wants her child to be strictly focused on the curriculum part and not knowing how to like upload files and open other tabs and, you know, search for this, like, I don't know, for me, I just feel like there's so much that can happen on a computer or like on a TV, Jackson's not allowed to have a TV on past like 9.30, I think on the weekends, we shut it off just because if you're flipping channels, like sometimes there might be something on that you wouldn't want him to, wouldn't want your kid to see. So I don't, how do you feel about it?

Like, do you, you want your kids to be like completely proficient and able to do it like solely on their own? No. I just like hearing other people's perspective. My kids don't really know how to use the computer. I mean, very little, Isaac was just now learning this year, they had technology as one of their specials and so that was like one of, you know, once a week they would go in and use the computers or whatever and they set them up with, you know, a little email address

to log on. But Isaac was just learning, you know what I'm saying? And he's about to be going to fifth grade. Lincoln, on the other hand, has no idea, Lincoln has no idea how to use anything and I did order Chromebooks for them for school and I, I don't even know how to use a Chromebook because I don't even know what the hell it is, but I ordered them. I'm going to figure it out before they come back home and try to get them set up, but I don't know what that's going to look like for Lincoln because Lincoln isn't even interested

in a computer. Like he doesn't have any interest in getting on. So I don't even know how that's going to go. Isaac is better with technology, but, but not necessarily a computer. You know what I'm saying? And I don't think that they really need to know how to upload files and do all that stuff. I feel like that's beyond their level, right, and I just don't, I think that the focus should strictly be on like what they're supposed to be learning.

So if it's like handwriting and the foundation of putting a sentence together, like I don't think that that should have to be also adding the aspect of typing to that, you know, like that's a whole other monster. Well, if anyone else has opinions or tips and stuff like that on remote learning, especially with like younger kids and technology, let us know because I'm curious to hear what you guys are doing to kind of help the process along, especially when, you know, you have Jackson, but I don't know with two littles. And then I have Isaac and Lincoln going to be on the computer.

I don't know how I'm going to be able to like divide my time properly to make sure that they're uploading whatever they need to get done, but I guess we're going to play it by ear. I don't know. I can promise you're going to lose my mind, lose your mind or your hair, whichever goes first. I would say to definitely set them up little areas that they can be away from like their stuff because it can be a bit distracting.

So maybe like your office or if you have another place that you could put up like a desk and it's just like their computer, their schedule beside it. I got a little caddy that has dividers. So he has markers, crayons, scissors, glue, dry erase markers and his dry erase eraser and like right there. So it's easily accessible and then I got a little caddy to put like his workbooks and composition books and all of that to keep it organized and it's been working pretty seamlessly for us, but you're going to be super organized because you just have too

much stuff going on. I couldn't imagine trying to do it with two because it's been overwhelming for me with one. Well, we'll see how it goes. My kids start school on the eighth. So I just the only question I have that I'm waiting to hear back from the school district is if we're supposed to actually follow the actual schedule that they gave us. I know it was just like an example, but I don't know if there's any wiggle room for

flexibility if right now our example schedule starts at 7am. But there was mention of potentially prerecording some of the lessons. So I'm just not sure. Does Jackson have some prerecorded stuff or no? He doesn't, but I'm just wondering since they've been doing all the placement testing and all of that. And I'm sure anybody who has a child that's going to be learning digitally in whatever county that you're in, whatever state, there's certain types of placement testing that has

to happen at the beginning of the school year. That's how they divide the groups up. So like the reading groups, if you're a level, whatever, you're going to be in this group. So right now, until his teacher has everybody's reading level, once she has that, then they'll start dividing into groups and I think the times might change for certain students and it will be smaller groups. So I'm just like, and same for math, you know, where they test and their placement is for math will determine what group that they're in with the small group.

So then the times can also change on that. So I just say like, you have to be super flexible and know that it will all work out, but it's just very stressful. Like the first, we're in our third week and I'm ready for fall break. Oh, good. Okay. So that's the type of time we're going to be on. Okay.

Stressed out and ready for break already. Got it. Yes. So I mean, just, just be, just be prepared to also be optimistic and I would also say like, make sure that when this is for everybody that's listening, make sure that you have like easily accessible like little snacks and stuff that they can just grab and maybe like pre-make their lunch because you're not going to have a ton of time in between sessions. Like we don't have a ton of time in between sessions to just like try to think of something

when we get off the computer, if that makes sense, it's like, I already have to have it in my mind. Like I know I'm making a cheese quesadilla. Like I know that when I wake up in the morning, I know that when I go visit Lindsay's house, I'm going to eat a Mexican bowl. You're, no, you're not, you're going to eat a cheese quesadilla and you're going to like it. Oh, fine.

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Okay, I'm ready. So have you ever, already know what your answer is, but I just want you to answer for everybody. Have you ever received a text message of somebody talking shit about you that was like meant to go to somebody else, but you got it instead? Yes. Can you describe that feeling of like what it felt like when that happened? The feeling like that not in the pit of your stomach, like you're like, wow, that's, I just, I didn't see that coming and now it's like, you're all your feelings about that person

that said it are up in the air. Yeah. And also like, I almost felt like throw up sick. Yes. Exactly. Yes. 100%. Yeah.

So basically, I'm not going to say like who the person was that did this just for the sake of like, I don't want to deal with the drama, but it was more actually about will than it was about me. I just happened to be the recipient of the message. Right. And I was literally just sitting at my house on my couch with Jackson and watching America's funniest home videos, mine and my own damn business. And I looked down at my phone and see this text message and my immediate reaction is to

go on the defense. Right. Yeah. I'm like, what the hell is this? Like I literally had just been texting that person hours prior to that. And the person had sent me like a thank you, safe travels, heart emojis, whatever. And then the next thing I get is like this shit talking text. Nope.

I'm good. And I'm like, oh, so that's where we're going. Okay. So then I like, you know, put my hair up on top of my head and we're slinging rats nest. Remember? Yeah. We're slinging. At this point, I was slinging my rats nest because I was like, okay, we're really about

to do this. Like put me in coach. So I hate you. That's a second. So I respond back because like I said, natural reaction is to respond back in a defensive way because you're like, first of all, it's just inconsistent with the text thread. Like not only was this not supposed to go to me, but like if there was an issue, why are you sending me all these heart emojis?

And then the next thing I get is basically you talking shit about my husband. Like no, I don't play that. So then I immediately send the screenshot of the messages to will and call this person a fake bitch. And the person says that's humorous and I said, yeah, while you're talking shit, we're still laughing like, okay, like that's funny. Really haven't heard from the person since has been no apology. Every person that knows about it has one side of the story because will and I both are kind

of like, okay, we don't have anything to defend. We didn't do anything wrong. This person literally, obviously this is a character flaw because you don't know. Well, I mean, it is right. But you don't, if somebody is doing something like that, it's not like a one time occurrence that you just happen to get the text. You know what I mean? Right.

I mean, I don't know if you feel like that or not, but I feel like if somebody, if you accidentally got a text, that person just got caught up in their shit and it was bound to happen at some point because that's a path that they travel down often. Like nobody can convince me otherwise that people who do stuff like that are often doing it and then just happen to get caught. Like you're bound to get caught when you're doing shady shit. So yeah, haven't heard from the person, nothing, no apology, nothing. And I'm just like, first of all, if I sent a text message like that, I would mean to

send it to somebody. Right. But I wouldn't be talking shit about something like I've got something to say to you than I would just say it to you. Just like I called that person a fake bitch. I hate you Lindsay. I would not like to see if I accidentally did that to you or would not like to see your response because you don't play like that.

You do not play. So I'm not, I hope I will cut your throat or your kneecaps, like whichever one is more convenient for me. Like I don't, I don't give a fuck like I don't. And so then my natural reaction, like I said, is to be defensive. So then I want to literally go and delete a plethora of folks off of my social media because I constantly see them showing up where they have viewed something. But then yet they're never in my likes or never in my comments.

So I'm like, okay. So then it took it a little step further that another person was trying to get my attention on Facebook, which like first of all, bitch, if you're trying to get my attention on Facebook, that's the worst app to do it because I rarely check that shit. So try to get my attention on Facebook and then that didn't work for him. And then literally it's like the person's fell off the face of the earth. So it's just like, how do you deal? Like what is the proper, I guess where I'm going with this is like, what is the proper

response to behavior like this? You drop them like they never existed and, and move on about your life. Because I literally want to like knock them out. Yeah, I think that physically knock them out. I think in this situation, you mentally knock them out of your entire life because at this point they've not messaged with just you by accidentally sending you this message, but they've talked shit about your husband and now it's time to get them out of there. It's a bitch.

It's time to go. Yeah. Like your stay, you overextended your stay. You've worn out your welcome. You bitch, you wore that out a long time ago, but okay, so I want to say this. So then when you deal with situations like this, Will was like, okay, well, is it common courtesy to, if somebody's like birthday comes up or whatever that you sent like a courtesy message, like happy birthday, like I didn't forget, but I said, okay, well, if you do

something like that, do whatever you want to do, like you're a grown ass man. But to me, me in the situation, if that person was like shit talking me, I would be like, no, I'm not fucking telling you happy birthday. I know it's your birthday, but I'm not telling you happy birthday because that would be like maybe in fake back to you. That would be like me doing the same thing that you did. You know what I'm trying to say? Right.

Like be fake. Now here's the question. If they did this and there's a birthday party for like a mutual friend or a mutual family member, what do you do in that situation? Do you not go because you want to avoid that person or do you go and you just don't acknowledge them at all? I feel like so many people are going to relate to this like I swear I do. So Will with his type of personality, he would show up and be passive and just like avoid

the person and I would show up and try to put myself in a situation to be around that person for them to pop off at me so then I could really go off on them. Okay. Because I really like to do things in person. You know, I really like to get you to do this. I know. Oh, I know. But I do not like confrontation contrary to popular belief.

Like it makes me super uncomfortable. Actually, no, let me take that back. I do not like confrontation with people that I'm friends with or that I like. So that would make me really uncomfortable if someone that I was close to or was very friendly with did this, you know what I mean? Because it would make me so uncomfortable to have to approach them and really put them in their place. That would make me so uncomfortable.

But if it's someone that I don't fuck with, by all means. So I don't know how do you handle, you don't care if it's someone that you're friends with or that you're like. I don't care if it's Will, I don't care if it's, I don't care who it is. I don't care if it's Will. If you've wronged me, then I'm coming for you. Facts. Okay.

That's fair. Like that's just it. And we can lay it. And then that's the other thing. Because early on in my marriage with Will, he's like your family, y'all are just so at each other's throats. And I said, well, one thing that you can't say is it wasn't said, right? So.

Right. That's true. Yes. It might appear confrontational and it might appear whatever, but at least you know where that person stands. I don't like playing the fake is fucked. Don't face fuck me. Like don't sit and try to act like one thing to my face and then act like something else

to my back. Cause that just doesn't work for me and I'm no longer signed up for that. So take me off the fucking list, not interested and keep your shit moving because I'm going to keep my shit moving in this direction. Okay. That's fair. But back to, if we would go to a birthday party, um, that's a hypothetical situation. Will would probably opt not to go because he would know that if we did go and I was

in an uncomfortable situation that I would pop off. Okay. I posted something like that on, um, on Instagram the other day. It was like, um, Letty and, um, Vin Diesel from Fast and the Furious, like him holding Letty and she, it was like her making like a resting bitch face or whatever. And it was like, uh, my boyfriend had me my back and hoping I don't pop like pop off at an event basically. Um, and it's like, yeah, that defines me and will probably is like cringing.

You know, it's like will is so nice and just very passive and I'm very much like not, not I'm just, I mean, it's not that I'm not nice. I'm nice to the people that I like, but I'm real, which people I don't, but you know what? That's what, uh, that's what I like about you. It's like, you know, where you stance this, don't get it wrong. I'm literally, this makes me hyperventilate like talking about this because it just makes me want to like cuss somebody, you know? Yeah.

No, I get it. I, um, but we don't have drama in our lives right now. So I'm thankful that for that because it's been a long, no, not since I'm just saying the fricking quarantine has put everyone just like everyone's mental health. Everyone's bitter, everyone's mad because we're all just fucked up together. You know what I mean? Oh, I know. Okay.

Well, I don't want to talk about one more thing and maybe it's just like nosy. Okay. But if you've ever lived in a neighborhood and you see like these aren't maybe even people that you talk to, but you're just like very invested in where they're going. Like you see a moving truck outside of their house and you're like, oh, like I didn't even know you're moving, like where are you going? Anybody else like ever been that invested in somebody's life that you don't even know because I am her.

Yeah. I'm her also. Yeah. You said, yeah. But why do we care? I don't know. Like I'll just be driving and I'll see and it's, it's also like, okay, I also do this when I see people that I know like driving on the road, like I'll see them going a certain

direction. I'm like, oh, I wonder where they're going. Do you think that only if I've been like following up like not following, but no, I that's, I've realized that sounded bad. I'm not a stalker, but like it's someone is like in front of me or behind me and they seem to be going the same direction as me for a really long time. I'm like, oh, I wonder where they're going. Are they going to the same places me?

Are they okay? Like are they going home or do they have like an appointment? But like, I don't like look around and think that only if they see I look around with my head on a swivel. I'm like, oh, I know that person. Like I wonder where they're going. Like, you know what's weird now that you say that I like don't run into a ton of people that I know, like, you know how you just said, like, oh, I know that person.

I never really see people that I know out and about. Maybe they're just like doing different things than you feel. Yeah. But like Delaware is really small. Like really small. That's strange to me because like, I can tell you that I am notorious for going and sitting in like the Kroger or Publix parking lot and seeing somebody that I know and waiting until they come out of the store and get back in their car as if you're not a chance of somebody

else actually being in the store when I go in that I know, but like to intentionally avoid contact. Yeah. I don't I don't want to have contact. The only person I will say that I've like seen in public multiple times is Harvey. But that's because I know his truck and I guess because it has crossfit kill shot all over. Yeah.

So I maybe I would see more people if I like, well, no, I don't really give a fuck what they drive. Um, like I was going to say, where do you see hobby at like a gas station? I have seen it. Well, yep. And that's a conversation for when team mom two errors because we are not having that conversation today. Um, I have seen him at the gas station, but mainly at lights and intersections.

I always see him like, where is Harvey going and what is he doing? I need answers. Why is he running into you like, oh, you know what, I have seen Joe a couple times too. You know what? I'm starting to think that it's just because I know their vehicles. And maybe if I knew like other people, I knew his vehicles, but I just don't. Yeah, I love that you're calling it a vehicle. A vehicle.

Have you ever hear people say vehicle? Is it vehicle or vehicle? I say vehicle, but I think it's a, I think that's what like Southern people. Yeah. Like Southern people say Southern. That's what they do. Like vehicle. Yeah.

It's a vehicle. You say vehicle. I say vehicle, vehicle. It's like tomato, tomato. It's like whatever. You know. Oh, and then another thing that I did like one time. This is weird, but I was on a call and I had gone to like explore around Target and then

I was still taking my business call and so I was like driving down the road and I looked at the clock and I was like, Oh, at this time, Will's probably at the ball field. This was, this was like straight out deer and like real quarantine. So I was like, Will's probably like got Jackson at the batting cages at the high school. So instead of like calling or texting or whatever, I just pulled up there and Jackson was like, how do you know, like where we were? And it's just like, I don't know if anybody else feels like this, but some people are just like so predictable, you know?

Yeah. Facts for sure. Like a little nice split up. I would know where he was by the minute. You know, like he, he just does the same thing each day. I know at a certain time, he's going to the ball field. Like I know at a certain time he might be perusing and Kroger a certain time he might be dropping some stuff off at Goodwill.

Like that's just, that's goodwill. He's bad will today. He's all my nerves. He's making you Mexican bowls for dinner. No, I made, I made an eight hour roast in the Crop Pot, a Mississippi roast. And then I'm making asparagus, which I know that you don't like it soggy like it crisp. No, I love it crunchy. And then I also love it crunchy.

And then I'm making some potatoes. So you can't talk about me, Kayle, because I've got my meal for my man in the Crop Pot already. Well, I don't have a man. I don't like him. So not happening. I don't like him, but he's going to eat my roast. That sounds really dirty.

You're gross. Mind in the gutter. Yeah. Yeah. Oh gosh. Looks like we're out of time. Oh good. Okay.

Well, that went fast. That went by fast. Kind of felt like therapy. You know what I mean? Oh, for sure. And I need it. I got, I have therapy on Thursday and it can't come soon enough. And you're like, I'm waiting in the parking lot for you to open up for me to unload all

my problems. Facts. You're bringing it in a duffel bag. Drop my bag and drop at the door. Dropping it all off. Okay. Well, so it looks like that's all we have time for today. So if you guys have not followed us on at coffee compost podcast on Instagram, follow

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