119: Kids and Cleaning, Addressing The Rumors, and Updates Galore
00:00Hey guys welcome back to another episode of coffee combos Lindsay it's been aweek since I've really talked to you. Does he have a nice quote on the wall?Same damn one. Do your best until you know better and then do better and youwhat you know what like honestly nothing could be more applicable. But I'mgonna need him to update that because when you know better you do better so ifyou know that these quotes are inspiring us and our listeners then youwould know that it's time to update it. I hope he's listening to this. So Bill Ihope you're listening. We need our weekly inspiration. Can I also tell you
00:49that some random reason well I'm gonna get into the reason of why I think it'sin here in a minute but Will has an eight ball on his desk and I'm wonderingif he sits in place with it and makes wishes and sees if it's gonna come true.Oh that's amazing. It's kind of amazing you know I'm not gonna lie. So tell meabout your week and then I'll get into why my weekend was such a freakingdisaster. Oh that's the story of my life so I'm ready for it. My week's beencrazy because I have been scheduling all my appointments like to kind of justlike get my life back on track. I went to the dentist. I went to the dermatologist.
01:34I got my eyebrows done like just kind of like doing all the things that I neededto do while I was pregnant but like I really actually don't like if I neededdental work. I don't like doing it while I'm pregnant. I know sometimes you justdon't have a choice but like I just like the what if like I know let it came issupposed to be safe or whatever but I just didn't want to do it while I was pregnant.I go to the dentist. Turns out I don't even need any dental work done so Ididn't have to put that off. I had to have some spots removed on my skinbecause I spent so much time in the sun so that wasn't great to hear. I hate going
02:12to the dermatologist. Yeah I hate it. I literally hate it and then today I'mgoing to the GYN so that's gonna be so much fun and then you know just liketrying to catch up with appointments you know like getting back on track andadjusting to the four kids and let me just tell you that I thought that Creedwas colic and he's not colic. The pediatrician and I have determinedthat it's actually reflux and so that's what's been kind of just like hard and Ican't believe he's actually gonna be a month old when this episode airs. Oh mygosh I know. Isn't that so crazy? I feel like you were just laboring yesterday.
02:56Yes like I remember everything like it was yesterday and somehow it's gonna bea month on Thursday so that's insane but why was your weekend so crazy whywas it a shit show? Well first of all we all know that I'm severely ADD so I needto talk about this before we move on. I didn't know going to the dentist whenyou were pregnant was a thing like when I was pregnant with Jackson I just musthave read somewhere that you don't go to the dentist so I didn't. I don't knowif that's smart you go like every six months I guess so it's probably not toobad that I didn't go. Right. But I also remember when I told you that I was gonna
03:41go to the ER because I got that popcorn kernel stuck in my tooth. Yes I rememberthat. That's also when I was pregnant so I also didn't go to the dentist so maybethat was the thought process behind that but do people normally go to thedentist when you're pregnant? I just don't know. I think if it falls in likeyour normal like schedule like the six-month thing yes or if they have likean issue I just had put off the dentist mine like for an entire year. Okay I'llgo you. So that's why I was like you know what I'm and they say that pregnancyactually affects your teeth a lot like some people really just yeah like it can
04:21take a take out not take out like affect the calcium and just like make yourteeth a lot weaker so some some people have like will find themselves gettingcavities during their pregnancy or whatever and so like I was just like youknow what I'll put I've already put it off this long I might as well just waituntil I'm not pregnant anymore so any any effect that the pregnancy has had on myteeth I can just do it once I'm not pregnant you know so when I went I sworeI had something like work done that I was putting off but the dentist was likeyou don't have anything she's like you're fine so it ended up probably one of
04:56those weird dreams that you have like the just like random stuff happens it'ssomething you dreamt or maybe I thought I needed work done and I already had itdone I don't really know but she was like you don't have any cavities likeyou're good she's like we'll see you in six months and I was like okay wellthat's a relief but also like I was dreading this my entire pregnancy justto find out nothing was wrong so but yeah I don't think that like you shouldlike seek out the dentist while you're pregnant I just know that it can have forcertain people it can have an effect on your teeth and you're more like prone to
05:29stuff dang maybe that's where all my cavities came from because I'm socavity-prone and it's crazy me too yes I lost I useless Doreen yeah uh-huh wellso my dad I had a water pick when I had braces and my dentist was like you knowif you because I have a permanent retainer on my bottom teeth from when Ihad braces she said that I should just use the water pick even still like andif you know that helps if you don't floss regularly yeah I think that mightbe the problem they're like 50 bucks at Walmart no no no I'm saying I think theflossing part might be my problem you know yeah one of those people like I
06:11do floss I don't want to sound like I don't floss but I don't know if any ofour listeners ever watched newlyweds in Jessica Simpson with her teeth but likevery bad dental hygiene and just like didn't floss and whatever and that'stotally me like if I'm in the bathroom and I like happen to see the floss I'mlike oh yeah I haven't done that in a little bit so like I probably should butnow I will say it's more my normal routine because the last time I went tothe dentist I had to get like a deep cleaning and it was just not experienceand just not fun yep but I'm definitely the type of person that when I know I
06:51have a dentist appointment coming up I like vigorously floss yeah I definitelyhave done that but if you if we don't regularly floss like I've had cavitiesin between my teeth from not flossing and so it's like oh well they can stillsee the cavity or you know what I mean like why do we do that is like grownadults like why do we feel like we're gonna get in trouble at the dentist sowe just like or like oh my gosh I have an appointment coming up in three days Ineed to literally floss my teeth out like I don't know but I'm it's weirdbecause like I'm on my kids about their teeth every single morning I'm like did
07:31you brush your teeth and it's like oh they still have a big gaps between theirteeth so I don't I'm not on them about flossing but like how I have the nerve tobe on my kids like that about their teeth and I'm not even flossing everyfucking day like what's wrong with me we're all hypocrites about our kidsthough because honestly it's true we have expectations for our kids that wedon't even have for ourselves I think it's yeah no I literally will send mykids upstairs to brush again if I don't think they did a good job it's likeWill's quote when you know better you do better you enforce better right yes we
08:09need yes I like it right but seriously I'm so on Jackson about stuff like thattoo but that then rolls into my weekend okay so basically we've talked about thedigital learning thing I know your kids are about to start soon I am heavilypraying for you you might need to be medicated it's unsure very strenuousvery time-consuming very mentally draining emotionally draining trying toteach a seven-year-old how to sit still on a zoom call waiting on their turn ortheir completing assignments faster than other people because the otherstudents might not have as much help you know and they're trying to navigate
09:01the computer and stuff which I feel horrible for those kids it just I thinkall of this stuff kind of like came to a head over the weekend and then you andI have to have this conversation about parenting before too that I think ourkids forget how much they have and how much they have been given and haveaccess to this sometimes you just feel so underappreciated and it's just like anexpectation like things are expected yep and just like a lack of respect and Ijust get so sick of it so basically what I did and why this eight ball I'massuming is sitting on Will's desk was that Jackson stuff was all discombobulated
09:52in the basement that's where his playroom is and so he likes to appear thathe picks up when he picks up which is normally like a six-day process and Iknow that you and I were having that conversation about looks yes and and youcan tell your story about that but basically when Jackson finally does pickup he just shoves stuff places so like you might find underwear or socks or likea random t-shirt and the costumes or I mean it's just it's crazy and it drivesme nuts so basically I just said we're picking up all the stuff we're gonna pickup for you but we're gonna organize all the things the way they're supposed to
10:33be and then we taped everything off with like freaking caution tape so he can'tget to any of it I took all of his books out of his room because when I go inthere in the morning it literally looks like something exploded and there arethe books are absolutely everywhere so I took everything out I organizedeverything in a closet I said we're gonna have a checkout system so it'sgonna be exactly like the library you can check out two books when you getfinished with those two books you bring them back you can get two more booksbecause I am sick and tired of having all this shit everywhere like it drives
11:06me literally insane and then I also told Jackson that I was gonna send him to thelittle boys farm which is a completely made-up fucking placebasically that he was gonna go and live with this lady named Sandy and Iliterally drove him to the Boys and Girls Club to like sit outside becausethere's a bunch of buses and stuff and it's boys and girls club so he doesn'teven know what that is he thinks that's the boys farm and he thinks he's notgonna be allowed to brush his teeth and that he's gonna have to sleep on a rockand he is gonna have to have beans which is something that he hates to eat and
11:45so now he is behaving and he has been very enthusiastic about school howeverit is only Tuesday sookay so I've definitely done something similar you know it's one of thosethings and people may not agree with us but I have definitely done that like I'mnot even kidding I will say and I think I said it before on the podcast but mymy she's not my friend anymore but someone I know their teacher put Velcrostrips under the desk so that the kids could kind of play with it so that theywould like focus does that make sense like it's almost like um like a
12:44distraction but they could still pay attention but it'll give them somethingto like fidget with while they're waiting for their turn to do something so Idon't know if that's something that you have tried or willing to try or likeeven like a fidget spinner or whatever but like I know that that seemed to workfor this person I know as a child that's that's the only advice that I have forthat two things I want to touch on regarding the virtual school thing Idid get my kids Chromebooks and I noticed that they were sold out everywhere so Iknow that's like super unrelated to like what you're saying but I wanted to say
13:17that before I forgot I was super shocked and I don't know why I didn't think toget them sooner and then secondly I completely can relate to you with themess situation because Lux does not want to clean up his toys like my thing inthe house is if you're old enough to take them out you're old enough to putall your stuff back mm-hmm and it got to the point the other day where I saidalright well I'm putting them in the trash then and I physically picked themup and put them in a trash bag and he didn't even flinch why are they like thatand then I said well what do you like literally yesterday I was like what do
13:52you want to do to earn your toys back and he said I don't like he literally doesnot care he does not want to earn them back and I said well that's really sadbecause Creed wants them he wants to use them when you're you know when he'sold enough and you're done with them he said I don't want them back why are theylike hard with you but why why are they like this I I don't know cuz see that'sit that's a different situation does Jackson want to like hard-headed luckor Lux Jackson wants to do the right thing so that he doesn't have to go to theboys farm right but Lux probably would just Lux would probably just go to the
14:32boys farm like he would call me on my bluff and be like all right mom drop meoff you know like me there all right see you later I mean what do you do inthat situation now I don't know what to do about that I mean okay so at onepoint I've been threaded the boys farm for quite some time to be honest and Ithink he started thinking that boys harm like wasn't real so I had to get likereal creative so I was gonna drive to the jail which is across the street fromboys and girls club but then when I saw boys and girls club with vans I was likeoh this is the place and y'all I can't I'm literally sitting in the parking lot
15:16and Jackson's like so what's gonna happen now and I I literally fake callSandy which is will and I'm having this conversation and I'm like okay so you'regonna be in like a little red car and so Jackson's literally looking his his headson a swivel in the backseat and I'm like what are you doing and he's like wellI'm looking for Sandy's car and then he asked me what van he was gonna get onbecause I told him that she was gonna like come there and park her car andthen they had to drive up in a van to boys farm I mean he's never even been ona freaking bus like he has no idea so he was so scared and I just want to know
16:01like what works with people's kids like what makes them mind right I don't knowwe need to hear stories and experiences ace up all the advice like I just don'tknow but the weird thing is is when we bag Jackson stuff up like in plastictrash bags he will get so offended that things are going in the bag like it willbe like the most dramatic thing that you've ever experienced like screamingcarrying on like why are you doing this to my things it's literally insane theamount that he loves like his things and he holds so much value in his thingsbut I'm like okay if you value them so much then take care of them and like put
16:54them away and make sure they're not left out to be broken because when I tell youthat child will have the entire floor covered with shit and just I mean it'sa novel idea to pick something up like let's just step over it step on itpossibly break the arm off it's fine nobody cares nobody talks about thisstuff when you decide to have a kid you know what I mean like they're like it'shard but nobody talks about like this shit nobody and I'm like well somebodygonna tell me about this like the things we need to know I didn't know I would bearguing with a mini version of myself for 18 plus years yeah and Lux is
17:41literally a mini version of you because I could totally see you as a kid knowingyour personality somebody oh yeah shit and trash bags and you being like okayokay that's funny that's not funny it's not funny but it's funny I just yeahhe's but he's a different he's a different person when he's around his dadlike it's crazy because when Chris is around I mean he doesn't he doesn't hewon't tell his dad no he like Lux sometimes it will give me like he doesn'twant me to brush his hair he Lux is very very particular about his hair so likehe knows when he wants it up he knows when he wants it in braids he knows when
18:21he wants it down and I'll be like come here let me brush your hair no like hedoes not want me to touch his hair or play in it like sometimes if he's sittingon my lap or something I'll like want to play with his hair does not let me do itbut let his dad touch his hair he's fine with it so maybe I'm gonna have to startbeing but I've I've read alpha I've read that you're not supposed to threaten achild with their other parent I've read that like I'm gonna call your dad I'veread that you're not supposed to so I don't know that is one thing that I havestuck by because I also read that and when Jackson and would used to and he
19:00very rarely got in trouble at preschool but when he did if I told him thatsomething was gonna happen like I never said wait until your dad gets home oranything like that like I punished him and then if we wanted to have aconversation with him when he got home then that was one thing but like thepunishment took place by me because I was the one that was told about what Idid right so but yeah I guess you can't threaten him about his hair and be likewell I'm gonna tell your dad well it's more about the toys like cleaning up andlike the thing is that like I don't think that Chris would like punish him or
19:35anything like that I think he would just be like listen to your mom you don'tknow what I'm saying like I that's the one thing I will say at least in theexperiences I've had so far he you know he's like he does yes I will say thathe does he has backed me up like you need to listen to your mom don'tdisrespect your mom you know stuff like that but I don't know I don't know ifit's like a natural like because not like Chris is like I've never seen Chrislike truly make Lux be afraid of him does that make sense from like I don'tthink Lux is afraid of him I think but is it like a natural right like is it a
20:16natural thing between like oh my like I'm scared of my dad no I think theyjust listen to their dad so much better because Jackson's that same way and isit a boy like a son versus daughter thing because I try I feel like I have totell my kids to do shit a hundred times they and I don't know if it's like achild thing or if it's like a respect thing like do I need to work on therespect that my kids have for me or do I need to it's just a normal you have totell kids to do things a hundred times or a combination of both I think it's acombination of all things but I also think somebody told me this one time
20:53that a bond that a mother and a son has is totally different than one that afather and a son yeah and so I think that our kids literally know what theycan get away with us and they have us figured out and they know what thelimits are and so they're smart like kids are smart and they know what they canand can't get away with like when my tone changes in my voice and Jackson knowshe's pushed me to my limit at that point he's like okay I might not want to messwith this crazy lady like yeah and that's it's the same for me but I just wish itdidn't have to get to that point me I don't I don't want to have to raise my
21:34voice and and and be upset and everyone's you know now flustered I want it to belike okay I'm telling you once maybe twice because you didn't hear me but Idon't want you know what I mean like I wish that I could maybe we remember thatshow I want to say it was called like nanny 101 or something like that wherethe nanny would come and like do you remember this yes I feel like you likenanny McPhee that was a movie nanny McPhee right yes but you know what I'mtalking about right like the name come and like structure things so the kidswould listen to their parents I feel like we need one of those should we do
22:14that should we sign up for it I think we should sign up for it we should film itwe should yeah there's like yeah for sure we should do that Jackson would shithis pants I mean yeah yeah I think my kids would too we should do it for thesole fact of watching them shit their pants it's like the scared scriptscared straight but kind of like on punk to you know like where we can be in thebands like watching the video yeah I was gonna say I'm going to hell for this butcan you tell me what's going on in the teen mom world and like are you guysback to filming regular or still not actually I got a text yesterday you know
23:07the season's about to air next week and I got a text yesterday that they are thecrew is in Delaware and they're quarantining and then I guess once they'reout of quarantine they are we are gonna film we're gonna start filming so thatwas news to me yesterday and I'm hoping that things go smoothly because I justI'm curious to see how this goes and I I'm pretty sure now don't mark my wordswe're filming for nine weeks straight which oh wow yeah which is and I don'tknow if that's just a rumor or that's what I've heard but in previous seasonswe've filmed a couple days every two weeks depending on what we had going on
23:49so like the schedule is very very different like the crew would go homeand then they would come back and if something major happened I'd be like heylike we need to do this or we need to film this or whatever but from what Iunderstand because of the quarantining situation we're filming for a chunk oftime all together so that way that the crew is not going home then coming backto quarantine then filming again then going back home and like to avoidquarantining so many so often I believe that we're supposed to film just likeweek straight so I'm nervous and I don't know how this is gonna go so wait I'm
24:24supposed to be coming in October so then what does that look like so I wouldhope that I hope that we film that I hope that they'll still be here and wefilm that because we have we need some new podcast footage furthermore I feellike we're so off the chain these days that we're completely different peopleyeah we've got yeah mainly from quarantine right everybody though notjust us yeah but like it we're at the point that no f's are given I I haven'tseen my producer since March I'm concerned for you so I even texted him andI was like I think we need a day to catch up before we even film because I
25:08don't even know what you look like right like I don't even know what you looklike anymore um but yeah so that's that okay so can we talk about I havereceived no why thousands of messages about what I posted on my Instagram thispast couple of days did you see that oh yeah you did see that because you sentme a message about it I was low-key offended Lindsay I was like damn shereally if this is true and she didn't tell me I'm a little sad okay well firstof all you should know that's not true because you're gonna be one of the firstpeople to know okay fine however this message I actually laughed at your
25:50message because I was like is she crazy like does she think that she would haveto direct message me on Instagram to like find out if I am with child rightso I go on Instagram start cleaning out my messages listen to your dog spark ifI came up to your house and heard that I would shit myself oh my god I'm so sorryand I'm upstairs and I have the doors closed but hold on no I don't care okayI know the listeners hate it so I'm going to guys we've got more importantthings to talk about so he's just gonna have to bark or she whichever one butI'm just letting you know that if I came up to your house and ring your doorbell
26:37and I heard that I would literally shit myself well that's the whole point that'swhy I got him because I was like I'm sick of these fucking trolls threatening melike my dog will bite you anyway so go ahead go into my DMs and I start tryingto clear them out and because you know how it gets and it just gets veryoverwhelming so then I get to a section and it's like a bunch of messages in arow and it's basically congratulating me for my pregnancy and I'm like this isweird so then I get to one that says congratulations on the new baby Ioverheard someone talking about it in church this morning anyway wanted to say
27:17hi and let you know that I'm praying for you and your family so then I'm likeokay I'm gonna post this on my story not because I want people to think that I'mpregnant but I just want people to see like the kind of messages that comethrough on a regular basis and it's just completely false and there's a lot ofthings that I have a problem with and I was about to say that too so the firstone is you're in church so like why are you talking about me when I'm not therethat was my first thought was wow she didn't tell me my second thought was damnthese people are in church and my third thought was that why would you
28:00congratulate someone on something that they haven't announced themselves becauseyou don't know the situation but you can also relate to this right like how manytimes have you been pregnant that you haven't been pregnant I mean I'velost count I mean my kid just told me I look like I have another baby in mybelly yesterday and I was like wow I'm offended but um so evidently it wasIsaac oh my god wow thanks Isaac but yeah no I completely can relate this Ijust there's a lot of issues with it I just you're in church discussingsomeone else's potential pregnancy which is just not okay yeah and it's just like
28:47it kind of takes all of the fun out of it right you know it's like and it suckstoo because I'm sure that it was not intention intended to be rude or to beoffensive like completely get that but at the same time it's just like one ofthose things where it's like maybe even though it wasn't intended to be offensivelike you shouldn't discuss other people's pregnancies in church and onceit don't exist like furthermore so it's like not only are you gossiping inchurch or overhearing somebody gossiping and then sending me a message about itbut then it's also a lie so like those are two different things that's going on
29:25in church that shouldn't be going on in church and so I just have a big problemwith that but I did want to say thank you for the prayers because I need all ofthose so we all appreciate that right then I was even more offended becausethen I got some messages that were like why do you have to be so rude it's likeno you don't understand like it's not about being rude I just wanted peopleto see like what it's like to be talked about and it's not even true right goodor bad exactly good or bad that was the point of it like it doesn't matter ifit's good or bad just don't start rumors about people and if somebody wants you
30:06to know something then they will say it and tell it and I just I don't know itjust like I don't know it just puts an added stress like a layer of if they'resaying this like what else are they saying you know what I mean like eventhough this wasn't like the worst that could be said it's like what else whatother untrue things are going around do you know what I mean and like who elseis saying it if the people in church that you're going to church with aresaying it what else is being discussed and that actually brings me to themessages that we've gotten on the coffee combos Instagram and also my own people
30:45were very very offended by the way that I responded to Creed's name mm-hmm on thepodcast last week they said that I was very rude and it was offensive that Iacted that way about my son's name and not answering you know what his fullname was and it I didn't mean to be offensive it just is one of those thingswhere I'm gonna back you up on this really quick before you keep goingbecause I personally feel like in a situation like this when you deal withisn't probably as many trolls as you have fans it's hard to distinguishsometimes when you're trying to approach a topic that has you a type of way that
31:30I feel like it was like a natural reaction like you didn't think throughwhenever you were talking about it like it was just naturally how you wereresponding again it kind of relates to what you were just saying about thepregnancy situation though it's like people think they know me and I sawpeople arguing about my son's name and that's why I react like it's RomeloCreed oh well it's Creed Romelo well she said it's Creed Romelo Lowry Lopezfucking Mariquin Rivera Isaac Lincoln and it's like shut the hell up like youguys swear you know me and just like with you with the pregnancy it's like
32:06they swear that they knew that you were pregnant and then they're starting thisrumor you know what I'm saying and so it's kind of the same thing it was likeI'd never meant to be offensive when I was responding it's just like a naturalreaction yes do I put my life on TV yes do I put myself in the public eye yes Iget it but there are so many people who swear they know what it is and so itdoes kind of suck for the people who are genuine and are genuinely curious andare happy to know and then it makes me defensive because I'm trying to prove apoint to the people who swear they know and they don't do you know what I'm
32:37saying and same goes for you with the pregnancy it's like thank you so much forthe prayers but by saying this or listening to this rumor you're actuallyspreading things that are not true whether they're good or bad and so it'sthe same thing with the name it's like I was never you know I like I said I wasnever trying to be offensive it was just like trying to prove a point so thatrelated to what you know I 100% get it and I did see some of those messages tooand I also felt bad for the listeners that took offense to it because I don'tthink that was your intention at all no no not to them it was more towards the
33:12people who were acting like they knew and then they were arguing and they werewrong because there's many people that tune in that listen because theygenuinely want to hear us and genuinely want to be you know apart mm-hmm there'sa lot of people that tune in that do it strictly to troll right right right orthough in they literally commit just twisting the things that I say or thethings that you say you know what I mean like they're committed to twisting it tomake it look a certain way and those are the people that are like obviouslymiserable and and they might not even realize how miserable they actually are
33:49but you're right like that's there are people who tune in specifically for thatand so it just you know I I apologize for being defensive and I apologize foroffending some of you but I was just trying to prove a point well kill yourapologies mean so much to me I wanted to tell you something I read yesterday onInstagram what was it was it about me no it was about this woman who waspronounced dead but she was found alive in the funeral home did you read thatdid you see that yes you want could you imagine could you imagine but wait Ididn't only read the headline did you read more yeah I read the whole thing
34:34tell me okay I'm okay so I guess I didn't the story didn't say like why she waslike what was happening that she was pronounced dead but she does have anattorney who's suing I guess the state for like a million dollars which I'msorry but if you pronounced me dead and took me to a fucking funeral home youbetter believe I'm asking for way more than a million dollars for sure becauseyou might have killed me then we might be talking about murder charges at thatpoint like okay so this happened in Detroit it says Detroit funeral homediscovers woman declared dead is actually alive so she was 20 years old from
35:11Southfield and she was pronounced dead early Sunday morning after okay they didsay it was after a heart attack so she was taken to the Detroit funeral homewhere staff found her not dead but very much alive so it says in here officialstried to explain the error later the same day in an announcement that was senton behalf of the city's fire chief under an unusual and understand the subjectline quote mistaken pronounce pronouncement of death unquote I don'tknow how you accidentally pronounce someone dead it says that according tothe fire department which would not release the victim's name paramedics
35:54responded to the 911 call a woman was not breathing they performed CPR andtried to revive her but after 30 minutes they concluded she was likely nolonger alive what do you mean like how do you likely no longer be alive andyou're at a funeral home so it says the funeral home in Detroit confirmed itpicked up the body hours later but at the funeral home employees saw her chestrising and falling and the woman was still breathing they called EMS andwoman was taken to the hospital for treatment so we don't know the status ofher condition I know that after X amount of time not breathing you you can
36:33suffer brain damage so I don't know what the status is on her condition but thefact that you how do you say someone is likely dead I don't understand shouldn'tyou be trained medical professionals and furthermore aren't there several likeparamedics like if one says oh I think she's dead isn't there others to likeconfirm or deny like how does that happen but I'm also so confused like is theprotocol not like if let's just say she was at her home and they go out and likesee she has a heart attack or something and they pick her up would they not takeher to the hospital pronounce her dead at the hospital and then have her to the
37:11funeral home or is it different because of COVID or is that just not the processthat happens like I just need answers I don't fucking know I just thought it wasabsolutely insane so I'm curious to follow up on that story hopefully they'llbe an update next week me too and then I don't know what grade were you in whenthe Scott Peterson and Lacey Peterson case took place I was in middle school Iwas in middle yeah I was in middle so I think I was in I think I was in seventhgrade wait are you a grade behind me what year what year did you graduate 20082010 oh maybe I wasn't in middle school then kill I was either in seventh or eighth
37:56grade okay well this was in 2002 so what year would that have been we can't domath no I truly I can't truly I cannot my brain can't go that big today umanyway I thought it was very interesting and I'm very disturbed and upset by thisbut it says that if you tell me that no if you tell me right now that ScottPeterson got out I will literally fall to the floor because there's no if you ifthat's what you're about to say he needs to put his he needs to get back in jailokay well he didn't get out he can't murder us but Scott Peterson just got abig break because the California Supreme Court has reversed his death
38:42penalty sentence for murdering his wife and unborn child why what's the reasoningis the court ruled the trial judge in the case aired by dismissing prospectivejurors who oppose the death penalty but claims they could still follow the lawand impose it if the evidence was warranted it says the state's high courtruled unit on is it unanimously opposition to the death penalty alone isnot grounds to dismiss prospective jurors they can be dismissed if theywon't follow the law but some people with strong opinions still have thecapacity to follow the judge's instructions so basically on a
39:24technicality and that's bullshit I just don't have tolerance for somebody whodoes things to children and babies let alone your pregnant wife so I just don'tand I might get a lot of shit for this but I just I don't agree with that Ifeel like that's no I'm very upset by this but I'm also triggered by thisbecause I followed this case like this was one of the first like big true crimecases that I really got into so I have the hugely vested interest and and whenI saw that I was very triggered and I was like fuck you Scott Petersonhonestly though honestly that's exactly what I thought I was like I literally
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42:10that's better H-E-L-P and join the over one million people takingcharge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional infact so many people have been using better help that they are recruitingadditional counselors in all 50 states special offer for coffee combospodcast listeners you will get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.comslash combos we need to talk about how somebody sent me a message and was likeLindsay don't feel so bad about not correcting Kale on indicted and I waslike I don't even care I'm not I'm really not bothered I just thought it was
43:00funny because I was so stupid when I said it like I knew it sounded weird I'mnot offended I was just joking but then it was so funny because then the messagegoes on and it's like because Kale doesn't correct you when you mispronounceespecially what did you say how did you what did you say I say it especiallybut apparently especially especially is that right especially yeah like apparentlyI say it wrong well I do too then so why would I correct you on something that Ialso pronounce wrong especially if I'm in a conversation I say especiallyespecially is doesn't sound right I'm like if I'm typing a paper I'm not gonna
43:45put like ESS PIC however I'm saying it like especially but if I am saying itI'm gonna be like especially but if I am writing it I might be like okay come onwith that X you know wait a minute no it's spelled especially it is yes I'mgood I'm about to Google to confirm as special yes it's especially yes okay sowhat do you why would as now I'm so confused there's no X specially notwith ECS or EX at EXS no it's ESP so it's especially because I know when Itext I literally won't even type out the whole word I just say like ESP and Ijust hope that people understand that I'm saying like especially it's especially
44:38what do you mean you say it correctly I don't know but this person has told methis multiple times about the way I say especially and I'm very offended I'mlike damn I'm just talking like I can't help myself sorry um anyway moving onfrom that hey lady if you're listening I love you still but you're a jackassyes especially I'm gonna screenshot it and I'm gonna we can post it on thestory okay fine and other news can we talk about how you're coming along withthe feet pics cuz you never sent me any bitch oh I didn't oh I have some I'mgonna send them to you right now so they haven't been sitting out of people yes
45:30I have you have yeah sit down to you I don't know people asked me for peep picson only fans and I literally sent them wait they pay for them yes yes girl theypay for them bye and I can't say like I do not have it in me to send nudes likeI I don't like I really it makes me feel uncomfortable like I'm I'm doingsomething wrong like I just I have a really hard time like I don't think Iwould be able to send you describe what these feet pics look like that you havesent I'm about to send them okay there I put my feet in the pool and I took aboomerang of my feet splashing so I was like oh they'll probably really get off
46:13on this one and I'm dead I'm gonna send it to you right now and if you save itit'll tell you what the date was my so that's one thing that you said and thenI have you sent but then I also took like one like above the water of just likeone foot and I had just got you're laughing I'm being dead this is my I'msending you my one footer and then I sent both of them out of the water andboth of them just like stay like still in the water wait so like how does itwork they have to send you money before you send the pic they have to pay to openthe message but they know it's there this yeah they requested the feet pics
47:01like they requested that what and then you just get paid for it yeah but youdon't okay here's the thing like I was getting so much shit about only fans I'mliterally cracking up but people you don't have to do like it doesn't have tobe a sexual thing only fans can be for like say you and I wanted to like havelike exclusive content on only fans we can go on only fans and have an accountfor coffee combos podcast with exclusive content that people have to pay for likeall the clips that we take out yeah bloopers if we had like videos or likeepisodes of shit instead of putting it on YouTube where you make like zero
47:45dollars pretty much unless you're you know huge we you can put like I've seenpeople put cooking classes on there baking classes I saw we should do thatyeah it's like it's like a paywall for anything it doesn't have to be sexualcontent wait so while we're on that topic but then I'm gonna go back to thesefeet pics that I'm looking at I was going to send you guys we now like we'recoming up in the world we now have a Pinterest a newsletter like it's legitlike we're working friend Kristen is literally working on overtime she hasbecome a graphic designer she has become a marketing professional like she's so
48:31legit and I have been hugely impressed with her work so y'all need to besubscribing to the newsletter and to the Pinterest I don't know if yousubscribe or follow or what follow you do yep but you follow us on Pinterest Ipromised her last week that I was gonna send her pics and the recipe for thethe what did I call them the bowls the Mexican bowls yes bitching about lastweek by the way I didn't eat any this week mainly because I was proving apoint but I didn't send him to her and the main reason that I didn't send himit to her was because I wanted to take pictures of like step-by-step so they
49:14could like post the full thing so put that on our website too so that we couldlink the Pinterest to the website so when you click on it you can get the allthe step-by-steps on the website and that also has our merch and our fullepisodes and all that stuff yeah so I was like okay well I'll do step-by-step andthen I'm also gonna do the next time I do roast I'm gonna do that and the nexttime I do spaghetti cuz like literally those are the three top things they'remy most highly requested now the Mexican bowl that's been a new ad but the thespaghetti recipe and the roast recipe in the crock pot y'all I'm like a chef
49:54when I make spaghetti and roast so I I made cream cheese spaghetti last nightfor Natalie and Caden you need to put that recipe on there too okay I'll dothat also like step-by-step of you doing it and possibly get some like feetangles like while I really really really would love to work with the thevideographer who filmed my placenta encapsulation I would love for him towhen you come here in October I would love for him to film us doing somestuff even if we get an Airbnb in Philly and instead of a hotel and do likecooking stuff there and film it that would be really cool yeah should we do
50:34that you guys like should we do cooking with us I don't know if that's what it'sgonna be called it's probably gonna be called something more catchy I can'tthink of it at the moment and then we can put it on only fans and just chargelike super low subscription it wouldn't be anything crazy to do like that wouldbe super cool I think we're doing it I think we made a decision right now Ijust I think that that's something we should explore yeah we'll definitelywe'll definitely talk about it um PS are you and Chelsea gonna podcast yes weare we are we are she just got back to me she said that she saw my message and
51:17forgot to respond which I get it so I'm not even mad we are going to do that andI was thinking either we could do a recap of one of the episodes that's gonnaair or we could talk about like yeah we could I think a recap would be good yeahyou guys need to weigh in and let us know if you guys want Chelsea and killto do a recap or just like a totally off thing that's yeah it's Lee right teenteen mom would be involved in the conversation because that would be weirdfor you guys not to talk about it but like mom stuff yeah like weird stuff Idon't know I was laughing so hard because I was scrolling on my Explorer page and
52:04I saw where Chelsea had responded to a troll and this person was like you needto actually you know what I'm gonna go and pull the message off my phone cuzit's so funny like literally I was dying laughing if something that about herkeeping her legs closed like this girl is married she's been married for yearsit is about that in fact so the person says she says oh my god another babykeep your legs closed damn so then Chelsea responds and said these and thenshe does the legs emoji stay open for my husband that is the perfect responselike when people say it to me I don't get offended because I guess like me not
52:59being married I totally get why people would say that to me but when I sawthose comments on her Instagram I was like first of all she's been married forfucking years like years they already have two children together but even ifthey didn't like what are you saying you're telling a married woman to keepher legs closed like what the fuck is wrong with you but what is wrong witheveryone that just thinks that you can just go on social media apps and justtalk shit that is so I mean I still stand by the fact that these people don'teven know that they're miserable like they don't even know that that they're
53:36that miserable because I've been there I've been in a place where you're likejust like mean about everything and I didn't realize how shitty I was until Icame out of it and I think it's like one of those things where like hindsight is2020 so whoever made that comment to Chelsea hopefully will come out of theirmisery and be like oh wow I really shouldn't have said that you know what Imean but also then again there are people who just judge everyone and I'm notone of those people so I feel like mmm can't relate where I come back is amazingher comeback was amazing in a little bit like emoji I was like okay now I am dead
54:11on the floor but anyway I go on Instagram and like when first of all Ionly follow people that one I either value or two I'm personal friends withlike I don't follow randos I only follow people that add value to my life insome way whether it's like I enjoy reading what they post or they're apersonal friend of mine I want to be an encourager of them like I'm gonna postnice comments I'm always gonna like their stuff which then leads me to mypost that I posted yesterday about how sometimes as great as social media appsare and I enjoy being on Instagram like that's my favorite app and I enjoy it so
55:02much sometimes you just feel like okay I need I am feeling the urge to just likestep away and just live life and not be doing this right now and I did that lastweek like I posted in my story and stuff because I would randomly get on therelike for an hour or whatever but as far as like actually posting or engaging Ijust really wasn't and so it felt really good and I don't know it just feelsreally nice sometimes I don't think that I would ever follow someone onInstagram specifically to talk shit on their comments like that's so weird to mewhen people will message me or comment on my stuff and say like stupid shit and
55:44I go on the on their profile I click click on it and they follow me it's likefor what like why are you doing this to me why are you here why are you here likethat's like going into a store that you don't shop at that you don't like any oftheir shit and you go in there like for what like why are you even in there Idon't get it I will never understand oh and then on that topic we're gonna closeit out with I promise that I would give an update to multiple people who ismessaging me asking me about the text message situation oh right promise Iwould give an update on it so I'm gonna be a lady of my word basically there has
56:28still basically been no communication however we'll spend clearly anexcessive amount of time because he sent a three-page word document itemizingall of the issues and why he feels a certain type of way that he feelsjustifying it with bullet points like literally I thought I was reading athesis and you know as an adult I feel like that probably was the right way tohandle it to like okay lay it all out there be like okay this is you know anincident that occurred these are the reasons why I felt it was inappropriatethese are the things that I don't like these are the things that bother me this
57:14is the justification as to why I feel this way I feel like that's a very adultwhich so if I can just pause you right there I feel like which is even morethan I feel like a lot of people would do because a lot of people would be likethis is how they would just say that's how I feel and I don't owe you anexplanation so I think by will doing that he was laying it all out on the tableto hopefully come to some type of like resolution to me I agree I feel likethat's you know extending an olive branch in a way of being like okay therehas been no communication but this is you know all of the reasons I feel this
57:52way and you know I truly feel like that was the right thing yeah so then hegoes on about his business and I tell him like don't let things bother youyou've said your piece keep your shit moving basically yep he goes back onhit this was sent over email he goes back on his email to check to see if hegets a response he's still this was last Wednesday it was sent he still has notreceived a response which one I think is rude because it's like first of all it'snot timely like nobody's expecting you to respond to something that's threepages and 45 minutes but also it's basically almost seven days later at
58:35this point and you still haven't responded you're rude and it further proveswhy will feels the way that he feels right but what was interesting was thatwill received the email forwarded to him so obviously this person was againcaught up in their shit and was forwarding it to somebody else butaccidentally forwarded to will you're lying I'm not I can't make it up seethat that would be in that moment that's when I would say okay now I no longer oweyou an explanation like there's no correcting this because at that pointit's like you put it all out on the table to try to address the issue or
59:22issues and you're giving them an explanation to work it out but nowyou're you're sending this message that was supposed to be between two peopleyou're sending it to someone else or more than one person and now I don't oweyou an explanation for why I cut you the fuck off well exactly and then I toldwill I was like okay well had that been me sending the message first of allwould have been a hell of a lot nastier than what he said it was very likewills was very cut and dry right like there was no name calling like minewould have been probably petty but he did a really good job of that and then
01:00:03basically got slapped in the face yet again so I'm like okay you know whatthis these people are just rude asses at this point and I have no tolerance foryou and I also hate you at this point so please leave me alone please leave myhusband alone and also just do better because you fucking suck yeah no that'snot okay then I went on Facebook because me being a petty person you know that Iam I went on Facebook and just put a status you're always in my views butyou're never in my comments or likes so like a good neighbor stay over there andI mean it like well it's like if you why are you just like watching me like
01:00:51you're just watching me you don't have anything to say like positive at all likewhat is so why are you watching me for you know what I mean that's my wholething I'm like it will was like yeah like stop being a creeper like if you'restalking every move that you do and then no nope but then don't say anything soit's like if you're looking you can literally give a thumbs down you canliterally put a nasty comment you can literally whatever I personally don'tgive a shit but stop being a creeper stop being a stalker you're just annoyingat this point in your games old it just circles back to the conversation we
01:01:31just had it's like if you don't like me don't follow me don't even watch what Ido even if you want to comment something nice you don't like me anyway so why areyou following me in the first place stop watching my stuff you just wantsomething to talk about it just doesn't make any sense like I'm glad that Iprovide some form of entertainment for your boring ass life like that you havenothing going on like I am glad I am I can be that entertainment for you furtherproves why you are where you are mentally and emotionally and why we arewhere we are so sit down stay over there leave me alone what are your own
01:02:14graphs exactly because bitch that that stuff looks burnt like mine's greenover here you know I hear you I'm just like let me knock you out um anyway wellyeah now that we've established all that and I got all that off my chest we'repretty much out of time I know you have a doctor's appointment that sure do goingto the YN I could be glorious should I ask Instagram if I need to get fixedbecause I think that seems to be a no okay we don't need to ask people like toon CBS is calling me people love to tell me oh are you getting fixed did you getfakes fixed is this the last one so I don't know I'll leave that up for you
01:03:04guys to do some reach research on well if you can do math if she doesn't havesix then you know it's not the last okay we can go now okay all right well youguys I hope you really enjoyed that little coffee talk and I hope that wewere a fun part of your daily commute your laundry folding you cleaningshitty toilets whatever you're doing while you're listening to us I hopethat we were provided some form of entertainment for you because honestly Ipretty much entertained myself for the last hour should I post my feet bookshould I post my feet pics on our Instagram yes you absolutely should post
01:03:52the feet pics and y'all will be back at the same time in place I might not be inthis musty office but we will be back at the same time in place next week so makesure you go over to the purple podcast app and you do a little tap on thatsubscribe button and follow us over on Instagram at coffee combos podcast andnow we'll talk to you guys next week to the Lou see ya
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