Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley - 122: The Misfired Text, Taking Time For Ourselves, and Building Houses

Episode Date: September 17, 2020

On this week's episode of Coffee Convos, Lindsie and Kail start off the show with some updates. If you have been keeping up-to-date, you might remember that Lindsie has been dealing with what she is referring to as "the misfired text", and she has some updates about that. And right now, with the world being so hectic, sometimes you just need to take some time to escape and do something for yourself. Find out what Lindsie and Kail have been doing to give themselves a break. Plus Kail wants to build a home, and she has some questions for Lindsie about how she built hers. This episode was sponsored by: Skillshare, Homer, & Truvani Have a question you want answered? Want to give Kail and Lindsie a call? Leave them a message at ?(609)-316-0060?. Music by Nathaniel Wyvern. Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License.

Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Coffee Combos. I know you're sick of that intro, so Lindsay, I think I'm going to switch it up next time. What do you think you're going to say? Like I need to be prepared. I might sing it. I might. I hope you do. Well, not the cry part, because I think that's a little kind of like, you don't lead with like a depression, right? Like you kind of got to ease into that. Right, right. I mean, maybe that's why my relationships haven't worked out, because

I'm just like immediately like, here's all my baggage. And instead of like, showing them the good parts of me first, I just like dive right into it. It's kind of funny that you say that because I said, God forbid, you know, something happened with Will and I, if I got married again, well, first of all, I think I wouldn't get married again. But if I was with somebody else, right, I said, I literally would meet their family and be like, okay, I automatically know I'm not going to like you. And I'm definitely not going to like you. And if it's like three people that I immediately don't like, then I can't stay. Right. And it's just not going to work. I always wonder that with in-laws. Like,

I never really had an issue with like in-laws not liking me until things went south. You know what I mean? Yeah. And then it makes me wonder how many people just, wow, I have so much to say about this, but it just makes me wonder how much like fakeness goes on to basically just like keep the peace because I'm really not about that life either. You know, it's like, if you just don't like me or I just don't like you, I would rather just straight up tell you and be like, okay, we're not really jiving. And this is why these are all the reasons that I don't like you. And then we can move on and it can be harmonious or whatever, but I just not going to be your friend. I think just like in hindsight,

I am kind of like presently speaking. If I was to ever get married or like be with someone long term, I also would not talk to family members about my relationship issues because I feel like I would have one person that I tell somebody, either my therapist or like one good friend that I tell everything to just to like have that like venting. But like, I don't ever like moving forward. I never want to talk about my relationships with my, yeah, with any family members or like people, because I think that affects the relationship that there is with the in-laws. Well, like if I talk this shit to my family or if he's talking, he or she is talking shit about me to their family while we have problems, they're likely going to judge me just based on that alone. I agree. And

then there's always like this weird thing of, okay, if Will does something to me that like pisses me off, he's going to piss me off and then I'm going to get over it. But once I've gone and like said something, because I used to do this all the time, I would say something to my dad or say something to Julie about it. And then it was like, okay, well, they didn't forget those things, you know? Yeah, for sure. So I think in the situations like that, it's like, if you, if it's something that only you can forgive, probably don't share that information with a biased party because Exactly. Exactly. Nobody is in that situation on bias. I don't care what anybody says, like, if you're talking to your spouse's mother or dad, and it's a problem with your spouse,

probably not the people to be talking to. Correct. I agree with you on all everything that you're saying. Well, do you guys want me to give you an update while we're on this topic? Yes, I do. Okay, so we did have a sit down with the person that sent the text message to us. Okay. I call it the misfired text. Misfired text. Please name this episode the misfired text. Yes. Well, so basically, like, the way that this situation is played out is just so deranged. And I love when you say that word. I want to get merch shirts that say deranged, because I'm also deranged. It's fine. It's kind of like, I would want to send our deranged merch shirt to people that I don't like, instead of sending them a bag of dicks, send them a deranged

shirt. Okay. But anyway, yeah, so basically, all of this stuff that has been going on has been Will's side of the family and praise the Lord that it's not mine. I don't even talk to mine. So it's like, don't become and try to blame my family because, you know, we don't even talk. So, yeah, I'm used to all the time. My family was, you know, the one to blame. But yeah, so we had to sit down and, you know, I go in guns blazing in every situation. And I don't know why that is. I think it's because so much time specifically in this situation, so much time had passed. It's been like two and a half months that I think the longer that things go unaddressed, and this is in all aspects of life, the longer that you don't address something

that really like eats at you, the angrier you become. And so time out though. So in, in just to piggyback off of that, it's also not fair. This is this is something I learned in therapy. It's not fair for like something big to happen and for months to go by or weeks and weeks and weeks to go by and you don't address it with that person. And then that's not okay to like bring it up then because it's like not fair anymore. You know what I mean? Well, exactly. Like if, if so much time has gone on, but I think in our situation, we knew that we hadn't done anything wrong. So it was kind of like, well, yes, of course, exactly. We're just sitting there kind of waiting for the shoot to drop to be like, Hey, sorry. And then it's kind of weird when somebody apologizes that much

like later. Yeah, because I'm just yeah, I'm like, okay, well, that seems kind of like a force apology. And I did send a text that said that, you know, I was like, you know what, I'm going to be the bigger woman here. And I don't even give a shit about your apology. Because at this point, if you do apologize, it wouldn't you couldn't convince me that it was sincere with this much time that has passed because immediately after you did what you did, you should have been sorry. So there is another passive aggressive human being in Will's circle of life. And this person went and has gone on Facebook and just again, like been off the rails, like stalks me, always in my views. But like I said, never in my comments or never in my likes. So it's like, at

that point, you're a troll, like you're a troll, you're a stalker. And I just don't like it. So now I have gone and deleted a plethora of people that I feel are involved in the shit talking. And I just want it to be clear. And I don't care who's listening to this. If it's anybody in Will's family, if it's anybody in my family, I don't really care. I'm sure there's a combination of that going on. But with that being said, I don't really give a shit who likes me, or who doesn't. And I'm not going to stop doing what I'm doing. So if I'm making you uncomfortable because of the job that I have, not going to change. And if, you know, you feel like you don't have anything to talk to me about, because you choose not to understand, it's not going to change. I'm not

going to make myself small so other people can feel comfortable. I'm just, that's the, no, you shouldn't, that's the place that I'm out of my life. And I'm just going to, you know, keep doing me. And that's just, I agree. But I think that's the best way to do it. You have to do you. And I always say, I'm definitely going to be doing me. You need to be worrying about doing you, or who's doing you. Moving on to my next set of dramatics. This week has been literally a week from hell, actually the past two weeks. So last, I don't even know. I guess it was last week because today's only Tuesday. I leave the house, only day I've

left the house in literally like 14 days. And Will texts me and he's like, Hey, strange man at door. It's like, it's just very like weird texts. Like we're playing Clue or something. He's like, Hey, strange man at door. Wearing. First of all, I love, I love that strange man at door. We're, it's like in fragments, wearing khakis, um, wearing a butt, a collared button down with an eight by 11 envelope looking for you. And I'm like, Oh, sketchy. Interesting. So I was like, well, I'm about to go into my appointment, but I'll deal with this when I get out. So immediately, um, call my attorney and I'm like, Hey, um, can you look up and see if anything's going on? Because this is just not normal for my home environment. It's like, sure.

So get a call back and it's like, yeah, you're getting subpoenaed. And I'm like, Oh, interesting. Um, I don't involve myself in any type of legal dealings. So I was just kind of like, why is this creeper at my house? So I guess the person at will said, well, I can just give her whatever you're, you know, you've got and she'll be home later. And he was like, well, what time later will she be home? And we was like, well, I mean, I don't know. I don't, I don't know. Um, so then the person didn't come back that day. And then the next day, like 3 30, the person comes back and I literally, um, I'm not angry at the situation because it just is what it is. And I just am frustrated more than anything, but I opened the door and I just

wanted to be like, hate that person. But then I just looked at him and I was like, thank you so much. I hope you have a blessed day. Thank you so much. Like thank you so much. I hope you have a blessed day. And then I just like took the papers and it made me feel so good to know that like I was nice to this man. No, no, no, no, no, no. Say what you said to me in the text. What did I say? Do I need to read this? Yes. Okay, hold on. Please tell me, tell me more. Okay. Okay. Um, I need to find it. Okay. You said this is what you said. Um, but I just opened the door and smiled at the man, like a cat ready to pounce. But I did. It was like a Cheshire cat. Like I could imagine my face, like my lips and like

smile was probably up to my ears. Like I just was very irritated, but also like wanted pleasant. Yeah. Pleasant about it. I was very pleasant. And then I just took it and brought it inside and opened it up and, um, you know, now my attorney's dealing with it, but it's just kind of like I'm just irritated by this whole situation and it goes back to the topic that we were talking about last week and family estrangement and, um, just crazy family dealings that I just don't want to be involved with to be perfectly honest. I just think I'm past that point in my life. Right. Yeah. Absolutely. And so, um, I don't involve myself in any type of legal anything. So the fact that this person that is having me served, um, it's my dad and I'm just kind of

like, you know, your grandchild is at home doing homeschool. His math test was interrupted on, it was either Thursday or Friday when the guy came. I forget, uh, but his math test was interrupted and then the next day he came and then we were busy doing something else for school. And then that was interrupted. So it's just like have some common courtesy that this isn't my litigation. So don't be showing up creeping around my damn house, um, with some man and khakis and a button down serving me papers for something that I shouldn't be involved in. So I don't know, it was just very irritated, but, um, enough on that, I guess I just never would have thought in my wildest dreams, um, I would be subpoenaed by my own dad multiple times now. So I was always

under the impression that when you get subpoenaed, you like literally, there's no way out, but is that not accurate? Like if you have an attorney, there, is there a way out? Like I'm not speaking in your case specifically, but like in general, if you have an attorney, are there ways to get around a subpoena? Well, the fact is, is the things I can just speak on my situation and the things that were asked of me, um, one, I'm not somebody's record keeper. So any records that I have belong to me and it's because I'm a party to those. Um, and some of the things that are being asked either aren't pertinent to the case or, um, things that I legitimately don't have or have never had. So for those reasons, yeah, you can send, you can send objections, um, because you

can't produce something that never existed. Like you, so I guess that I hope that answers it. Like obviously subpoenas are court ordered and the judge signs off on them, but then I also want to educate people because if anybody listens to, um, other people speak, people act like subpoenas or the end all be all. And it's like, Oh, well, the judge signed off on it and whatever. Okay. Well, if you have a law degree and you're practicing attorney, um, you can get a, you can subpoena anybody and the judge is going to sign off on it. That doesn't mean that they're going to grant you what you're asking for because it might not be relevant. Like for example, there was things that are trying to be used, um, that are just not relevant to the case. Like my communications with

certain people that would have nothing to do with their litigation, I guess. So I don't know, in my opinion, it was just maybe a harassment tactic. Um, and if anybody, you know, listens to them speak about this, it's very clear what it was for. Um, but I don't want to give any more time to it. Just wanted to let you know that those were things that I was dealing with and then basically cleaned all weekend and then, um, it's Tuesday and now we're here. Yeah. I mean, it's been, I don't even know what I did this weekend. I feel like my, it's all a blur at this point. Hmm. Sounds about like my life at this point.

Right. Yeah, for sure. Um, oh, the last time I talked to you, your kids hadn't started school yet. For real? No, not like the last time I talked to you, talked to you, but like on the podcast, your kids hadn't started school. Yes, they did. No, your kids were starting school the next day, right? You're right, because I'm thinking on Thursday, by Thursday the 10th, they definitely started school, but you're right. When we recorded, they didn't. So, um, I mean, it's kind of a shit show. Like I just, I feel like the intentions are good and like I was kind of in favor of, um, virtual school a little bit. Like I was kind of back and forth. Like something sounded good. Some things were like iffy, but like now that we've had an entire week of it, um, I have to say

that it's just not, it's, it's not that I can't keep up and it's not that I don't want to do it. It's that there's not enough work. Like they just, there's no way to cater to 25 plus kids in a classroom online. Um, and it's just not enough. So Joe texted me this morning and he's like, we're going to have to like seriously consider other options as far as like supplementing more income or more income. Listen to me. I'm literally supplementing like more schoolwork. Yeah. Um, you could tell where my mind is. It's like where they're whatever. Um, so yeah, we need to supplement more schoolwork for the kids because it's just, it's not enough. I mean, there's like one zoom a day for 20 minutes. And the rest of the time is like, okay, here, do this or that. I just feel

like either the teachers should have like pre-record some things, which sucks because that would mean that they would have to do more work, which I don't actually think is, is even fair for them. Or like if there's a way for them to get on the zoom and like record it as they're doing it for those that can log on at that time. And then it could be like recorded for the ones that don't make it because I feel like a lot of the zoom time for us at least is spent doing attendance. And then she'll like start talking and then it'll be like, Oh, and so and so joined. And then she'll start talking and it's like, Oh, and so and so joined. Let's just like not acknowledge it and just like by the end of the zoom or like middle of the zoom, take attendance. Like you can see

who's on there. You know what I'm saying? Because I feel like I, I know that the zooms are for a time. I just, I feel so bad for these fucking teachers because I feel like their hands are tied. Like it's not even their fault. It's that there's literally their hands are tied. I have so much to say about this, but now you understand what I was talking about about people calling out, unmuting their mics, asking questions that they could literally send an email about just acting like it's this one on one session and nobody else is involved. And it's like, hello, like this is an entire class. I'm glad that you think this is, you know, like private lesson for you. But Jackson school is not cut out like that at all. So I'm wondering

if yours will change once they get used to it because Jackson's is actually broken out like from 745 to 1215. They have like five zooms that they log into. So it's for basically like each class. So for the first one is like their morning meeting and they get to watch their school announcements that's going on like actually at the school since we have the option, you know, to be virtual or in school. And then she does the attendance and then they do this whole morning meeting thing. And it's just, you know, like all the kids being able to participate and I'm sure exactly what they would do in the class. And then they do writing and they call it foundations, but it's basically like letter formation and sounds. And then they break and then go back

and then they do writing and then they break and then during their break, they do social studies on their own social studies or science at alternates by the week. Then they do that on their own time and then she'll have some other kind of, you know, like interactive assignment on there during their break. And then they go back and then they do a whole math session. And then after they log off, they have a math program that they have to get 45 minutes of time working on that program that it's mandated by the county a week. So I think ours is set up totally different. If that was the what my kids were doing, I would have no problem. Like, yes, it would be frustrating because I'm we're doing it at home a little bit. But like, overall, that sounds much more structured and

like much more disciplined than what we have. I don't know if it's north versus south at this point, like as far as the school systems or what it is, but that sounds actually amazing for virtual as good as virtual school gets. And she's teaching like during all of those sessions. So I mean, she's actually, I don't know if y'all are using Microsoft Teams, but that's what we're using. And I don't even know what that is. It's a it's a Microsoft program. And actually, the sessions are recorded for the county. So the county requires the teacher to record the sessions. And then they're uploaded, you know, in case somebody misses something. But then also for the county to be able to see the instruction, I'm sure. But she's actually teaching for every

lesson. And there's a hand raising feature on Microsoft Teams. So she basically does the same thing like if it was in the class, if you have an answer, raise your hand. And that's just how it works. And you're only allowed to unmute your mic if you're answering a question. See, I like that. And I feel like that's better. And she's so good, like Jackson's teacher is so good. And she's so structured. And she has everything like in the little system, easy to find. And, you know, you upload, like I have to take pictures or scan assignments in for her to be able to grade, like even tests, like once they, I don't, I guess you'll probably haven't had a test yet. But Jackson, I don't even think we're having tests at all. That's crazy. Like Jackson has, you know, we go

on fall break next week, but Jackson has three tests this week. And when she's administering the test, their cameras have to be on and she has to have full visibility like of them and preferably like an angle of the paper to make sure that nobody's helping. And then as soon as the administration of the test is finished, she asks the parents like right then to take the assignment and upload it into the little assignment thing. So then has to be submitted then that way there's no, you know, after the fact, Oh, I, your kid gets this wrong. And then you like try to change it for them. So there's like none of that. I mean, that makes sense. But yeah, it seems like we're having a totally different digital learning experience. And that's very scary. If that is what you're dealing with,

because then I've been thinking, even since March, I know that they don't start standardized testing until second grade here, but, and I don't know how it is everywhere, but like, what does that mean for standardized testing for these children who aren't getting the instruction from a teacher, because they're eventually going to be tested on this stuff. And if they don't have the instruction, they're not going to know it. I wish I had an answer for you. I just like I said, I don't even, these poor fucking teachers, these kids too, man, I don't know. I don't know what the age here is for standardized testing. I mean, I feel like the standardized testing is kind of bullshit anyway. Well, it's, you know, I also think the SAT or the ACT or, you know, whatever. I'm more

in favor of the ACT than the SAT because I kind of think they're bullshit to you. I don't think that determines that you're smart. Anyone's right. I agree. I absolutely agree. Like you could literally be so smart and be a horrible test taker. And that's me. That's literally me. I actually just took a practice test for the Air Force Reserves and I'm like, well, first of all, I'm a horrible test taker. Second of all, if I do get anything right, like at all, who's to say I would even score that well, like on another one, you know what I mean? Because I have like test takers anxiety and I'm sure my kids do too. So I just, I don't know. I feel like that's like not accurate. Wait, first of all, you just dropped a bomb and then just like kept going. You're like,

I just took a practice test for the Air Force. Oh yeah. That's like my goal right now is to drop 50 pounds and join the Air Force Reserves. Have you been working out? Tell me everything you've been doing. So I started, let me not say I started. I signed about this gym that's like local to my area. It's not CrossFit, but it's kind of like sort of with like the classes in that way. It's like CrossFit, but it's like resistant resistance bands and you like wear a harness and stuff and you like do these cool workouts. So like, but we've talked about this before, like working out is not the problem for me. It's the eating. That's a huge issue for me. And when I went to go meet the owners, they were so nice. And I was just explaining to them like

where I'm at and like where my head is at, because it's really mind over matter for everything, even the food discipline. I was like, you know, explaining the food shit to them and their motto is like six in one. Like if you can, for six days a week, just stay on track with your eating on Sunday. If you fuck up, like that's okay. You know what I mean? If you want to eat something and you're, you know what I mean? So if you can stay six, consistent six days a week, you should be good. But it's like, I have to get my head in the game because I swear to you, like it's hard with kids too, though. Yes. Yeah. I mean, the convenience of just like being able to like run out and grab food when you have. So like, for example, on Monday, I had all the kids at the

dentist. So three kids at the dentist, I had Lux already with me. I had to go pick up Isaac and Lincoln from their dads and then take them to the dentist. And I was like, well, nobody's eating lunch. So like after the dentist, we'll get, go get lunch. But it wasn't convenient for me to have food cooked and like bring it to them. And then I was dropping them off at their dads after the dentist. So just like, I don't know how to get myself in a mindset where I'm going to be able to eat properly with all the kids and the amount of like errands I have to go. I have four kids, you know what I mean? Like I'm not trying to make excuses. I, and I'm willing to do the work. It's just finding a way to do it that works for us. I think, um, and I've talked to other people about

stuff like this, because I used to go to the gym before COVID. I used to go to the gym every day. But I would take the weekend, you know, obviously the weekends off, but we do something active on the weekends anyway. Um, but I haven't been to the gym since COVID, like literally never went back. And so I try to just, um, if nothing else, like I walk about three and a half miles a day and you know, if nothing else, I tried to do that, but Will and I were talking about it and how we really need to get back in the gym just because it is good for your mental health. Um, right. Your physical health, obviously, but then I can tell you those bowls that we make have been lifesavers in our house. And we started doing that, um, when Corona hit and

have just been going at it ever since. And it's just so easy to have something like, you know, it's going to be something that you can grab that's not going to be fast food or whatever, but it's hard to get your mind in the right place when you have so many places to be and so many things going on. Like, you know, are you going to put a bowl in the car and it be cold by the time you eat it? Or do you eat, you know, like at 10, if you had a doctor's point? Yeah. I mean, it's just hard to, um, to do that. And especially with as many kids as you have, it's like that's just a whole nother obstacle. Excuse me. Um, sorry. I'm sneezing all over the place. I don't have Rona. Um, no, I, I agree with you. I, I just think it's like once I find a system

that works, maybe it'll get easier. And I did, I have been doing, I don't know if you saw it, but I have the recipe that I do with the protein powder. I've been doing that. Um, um, once a day, Truvani. Yeah. Yeah. I've been doing that. So I think that'll be, even it'll only work in my favor to like work out with doing that. But I also need to just do something that's, even if it's doing like the Mexican bowls that you did or something like that once a day. And like, even if I have to bring it with me, like wherever I go and like keep it in a cooler, I just need to find something that works for me. And that's where I'm going to struggle the most, I think. Um, but we'll figure it out. But I mean, at the end of the day, I got to lose

50 pounds. So I'm cheering, I'm cheering you on. I know that, um, I know that if you get your mind to it, then you can do it. Yeah, for sure. Um, can we talk about, I know that you and I briefly talked about this over the weekend. Um, or maybe it was yesterday. I literally don't even know about my days anymore. Um, but can you hear Lux whining? Is that what that is? Why is he doing that? My friend has him in the other room. And he probably doesn't want to be in there. And he's probably like, I hate you. I was trying to see what he was saying. I couldn't hear what he was saying. He's probably just mad. She probably took his Hulk. He's a mess. Okay. Go, go anyway. Um, okay. So I know that we've talked about this before, but we never play baseball in the fall.

We always play soccer in the fall, baseball in the spring, but since we got robbed of the spring season, we're playing baseball in the fall. So it's like, I know that his age group is like seven, eight. And at that point, they should have enough sense to like know when it's time for them to bat and like be able to get their mind right. But for whatever reason, I don't know if it's just boys or it's just not connecting for them yet that it's like, Hey, y'all need to be focused on the batting lineup and you guys need to be lining up. So what ends up happening is because will coaches, I end up and have been in the dugout for, I don't even know how many seasons, like since Jackson started playing baseball at three. So, um, I'm kind of getting tired of it. And I know that Jackson

knows what he's supposed to be doing and he follows the rules. So I'm kind of just like, I want to be a spectator at this point. Um, right. I want to be able to sit in a chair and take the cute pics like all the moms do and all the things. Well, so I was talking to another friend and he's, he's a friend of will and myself, but he has another team in our league and he was telling us, you know, like all these things, it just makes like things run smoother about how, you know, have people sign up to do dugout duty and then have some, you know, people sign up to do the score book and whatever. So I tell Willis and he's like, yeah, it's probably a good idea. So he sends out, I tell him, I'm like, I know specifically who's going to sign up for this,

like on the team, there'll be one person that signs up. I could do not. He sends out a sign up genius and that one person was the only person that signed up all day yesterday. Um, excuse me. And I'm just kind of like, and maybe this is just my mindset and I'm sure there's plenty of people that are listening that have children, don't have children, hear their friends that do have children, bitch about this kind of stuff. But I'm just kind of like, okay, if you're going to sign your kid up to do something, you know, there's going to be commitments involved in that. And if the commitment is you're being required to, you know, be a dugout manager for an hour and 30 minutes out of the whole season, one time, or you're sitting on

the bleachers and you're, you know, marking a scorecard or a book, whatever they call it. But I don't feel like that's asking too much. And I, I just don't know like how you be nice about it at this point. I don't think you can. Or, or, or it's one of those things where you just know what it is and you just do what you got. I mean, it's frustrating and you feel underappreciated or not appreciated at all, but it's either you don't be nice about it and you say something or you just kind of suck it up and, and, and know just what it is. I know. I'm just like, you know, I, we invest a lot into like Jackson's education and sports and, and everything. And it's like, I just want to one time be that person that gets to bring their chair and just sit in their chair and

do nothing. Like I just want to be her one time. And I've never been her. I mean, maybe, maybe you should. And then they can see what, how it, how it goes without you. And maybe someone will step the fuck up. So I took that stand last week and it didn't work out. And I turned around and there was kids swinging bats at each other fighting and I was like, and everybody else, you know, just zoned out like drinking their Starbucks or Duncan and, you know, just, and they're like, cool. Thank you so much. Thanks for this. So if your kid gets their head knocked off, you know, not on me, sis, like not on me. Anyway, can we talk about teen mom? What's going on in that life? So I'm not sure we started teen, we started filming again last week. Or actually, no,

it was Saturday. We filmed Saturday. Nope, it was Sunday. I don't know what day it was. I don't know which day is today. I'm not sure. That's all I know is after every time we film, first of all, the crew is in a in a house altogether and they're here for like nine weeks total. And every time we film with someone, they have to be tested for Corona. And then like, once the test results come back, then we can film with them. So it's definitely not like filming like we used to. I'm going tomorrow to like pick selections for my build, like flooring and tile and all that stuff, not all of the selections, but some of them. And I really wanted to film it because I feel like they missed my entire pregnancy and my birth. So I'm like, okay, well, is there anything good that they can film?

So I was like, I'm going to go meet with my builder on Wednesday, like I would love to film this. Can you like film? And they were like, well, unfortunately, we have to ask him if he wants to be tested for COVID. And if he says yes, and we get the results back in time for your meeting, then we can film. So like that's kind of been a shit show. They couldn't film Lincoln's football, which sucks because these are all like good things in my life. Like my life is not surrounded by baby daddy drama at all times, you know what I mean? I know. So that kind of sucks. But I mean, as far as like airing, I feel like so far, the things that they've aired for me are like my real life, not so messy drama things, they're like just like real life problems kind of like me and Joe

had an argument, which I think is airing tonight. But, but you know, through the season, it's more of like, instead of being like super dramatic and like fighting fighting, these are like real life disagreements that are happening in our co-parenting relationship even 10 years later, which is not something that anyone could have ever prepared us for at 16 and pregnant, you know what I mean? Right. So I, so I feel like in that aspect, like I'm, I'm so far liking the season a lot. Like it's like, these are real, they're not super messy, and people can relate, you know? I know. Well, and I think, um, to your point, I think that sometimes when it's overdramatized, it takes away from the actual issue at hand and it overshadows kind of what

it really is going on. And then it in some ways takes away from some of the relatability factor. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. Like sometimes if it gets, I mean, I know there's some messy folks out there. Like I'm sure there's some messy folks listening to podcasts. Shit, I'm messy. So there's definitely messy aspects of my life, but I just feel like they focused so much on that throughout the years that it's kind of nice to see them like not focus on that. And it's more like relatable shit. Well, listen, I'll tell y'all something that I did yesterday was, um, super messy. And Will was like, um, you need to get it together. I'm not gonna tell y'all what I did. But literally, you can tell me it was so off the chain that I was just, you know, that song

that you did that tick talk to, and I was like, that's my man. I like him. Okay. So I was singing that kind of like in my head, but I was like, I hate you. I hate you too. Like that was me yesterday. Like going off the rails being like, you're a bitch. You're a bitch too. Like, can you make that? If you say that to me in a text or something, I can use that in an audio for tick talk. Bye. Bye. But seriously, Lindsey Chrisley's voice go viral on tick talk. I mean, listen, yesterday was, was off the chain. I needed to mentally check myself because you know what, sometimes you just get so pushed to the point that you're just like, you know what, like, not another day, like not, you've been messing with me long enough. Now I've, I've tried to be

calm. Now I've lost my shit and I've got to reel it back in. And yeah, you know, when I lose my shit, it kind of takes me a minute to get there. But whenever it's lost, it's like marble scattering on the floor. Like it just kind of the shit goes everywhere. And I just start blowing up on all the people I don't like. So I mean, yeah, you said, yeah, I feel like at our age, we just don't give a fuck anymore. Yeah, it's an age thing for sure. Like in your 30s, it's supposed to be like I've heard the best years and like you also don't give a fuck, but maybe that's why it's the best years. So like I'm actually, I well, let me not say I'm looking forward to it. I'm hoping that that's the way it goes for me because you know, guys, you guys know, I have a huge phobia of

getting old. And I also think I have dementia. So it's kind of scary. But yeah, I hope I just like don't give a fuck anymore. I've decided that it's not dementia. I've decided that you've just been pregnant so many times that like your mom fog just gets like worse each time. Does that make sense? I don't know. I feel like I'm truly there's something wrong with me. No, serious, nothing wrong with you. Like that's okay. You said okay. If you say so. No, but seriously, I do think it's the mom brain thing because you know, I don't feel like I'm as sharp with my with being able to like put things together and like remember to do something. I feel like it was way sharper in college than I am now. Does that make sense? And that was before

I had Jackson. So maybe I got that too. And I just didn't realize it because I find myself things that I forget now like I wouldn't have forgotten then. Ben, right. Yeah, I could see that. And I just don't understand like what what happened like I literally need to write down on a sticky note that I put clothes in the washing machine and I need to remove them in like an hour. Oh yeah, I actually put a bunch of blankets in the wash the other day and I it was like a couple hours before I remembered that there was clothes in the wash that needed to be switched. Remember when you used to do that like and then just leave them there for days? Yeah, I've done that several times like like half my life actually.

Why do you do that? I don't anymore. I have someone that does my laundry. I don't think I've actually done like real laundry in in at least over a year. Do you have so much laundry? I mean with four fucking kids. Yeah. Yeah, I can't even imagine. But I guess on the off weeks, it's just like very minimal, right? With the way that Lincoln is set up like his whole life, his whole life is a mess. No, that boy produces more laundry than any of my kids combined than the rest of my kids combined. I so bad. So that picture of Lincoln thinking that he matched on your Instagram and oh my God, it just made me think about how our kids are all batshit crazy. Like Jackson also thinks Jackson's not colorblind, but he also thinks that he knows how to dress

himself and it's like you look like a jackass. But you know what? It's to me, it's like they are so confident in these outfits that they pick out that I like I have such a hard time and like I don't make fun of Lincoln. Like I don't say it to him, but I'll be like, Hey, Lincoln, like what color do you have on today, bud? Just to see where his head is at. Like I want to know like what he's seeing what he's seeing. And so that specific outfit on my Instagram. Okay. So he's wearing orange shorts and then a red shirt with yellow flash on the shirt. And I said, Lincoln, what, what color are you wearing, baby? And he said red, black, green and orange. And I said, Oh, yeah, I said show me. And I guess like for certain shades, he sees certain things. So if you guys

follow me on Instagram, there's he's not wearing green or black besides his shoes. And but the the shading under the flash symbol looks green to him. And he thought that the actual flash symbol was was was black. So I guess I could see why he thought if he wore black shoes, it would match. But he was so confident. So I just don't have it in me to be like, No, you're not wearing like it doesn't match. I don't want him to be like insecure about the fact that he doesn't know how to match. And then furthermore that he's colorblind. Oh, like, yeah, baby, you look so good, like good job. Well, see, I'm so glad that you're like that. And if Jackson was colorblind, I probably would be a little more sensitive. But the fact is, is that Jackson's not colorblind. So he has no excuses,

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downstairs in the basement. You're going to go play. And he's like, well, that just doesn't match. But then it's like, okay, I'm glad that that doesn't match. But then yet you go and put on a pair of black and gray camo shorts with some kind of like, let's just say like a brown shirt or something. And it's like, yeah, that doesn't look good. Or it's always like, he always manages to pair things that are too small together. So it's like the other day, he got a pair of shorts that were too small and then a t-shirt that was too small. And it's like, okay, tiny Tim, like, where did you think that that fit? Because you had to squeeze yourself into there like a sausage. So I don't know what's what's going on here. But I'll let him wear it at home. And I've been more,

I've been like more flex on it since he's doing the virtual learning that he's not like going into an actual building. But no, if we're going to dinner, like you're not dressing like that. Like you're just not. I don't think that, well, yeah, I would, I would let Lincoln wear it to school too. Like I just don't like I can't. And then Isaac on the other hand can match like Isaac has no issue. I think it must be their age. Like I wonder if it's because Lincoln and Jackson are like the same age, but they think everything they put on looks good. And it's like, yeah, it doesn't. I will try tell them both like y'all's outfits y'all look like jerks. We should put like a color. Well, my son's color blind. So I wouldn't

work here. I was gonna say we should put like color charts like this matches with these colors and this matches with these colors. But I can't even do that. I mean, maybe you should just pair Lincoln's outfits up. But then if you paired them up, it would probably just make a mess because then he would deconstruct them and come up with his own like version of, you know, what he's wearing Lincoln is literally the messiest child I have. Like every day I have to like go in his room, check it and I have to remind him to turn off his closet light, close the doors, push in your drawers, please like push them the fuck in just push them in. That's all I'm asking or like when he gets in the shower, he will pull his underwear into his shorts and then leave the underwear

attached to them inside out like the the shorts and the underwear will be inside out on the floor and he will leave them there and leave his wet towel on top of the dresser and I'm like Lincoln or Jackson and Lincoln the same people they must be because I don't know where this comes like I'm messy but I'm not like that messy like I'm I can't Lincoln is a mess nothing nothing truly bothers me more than when I go into the hamper if it has happened to make made it to the hamper like which is very rare like that's a rarity but if it did and I go in there and start sorting clothes and have to start separating shitty draws from shorts like no I don't want your nasty funky draws where you've had like skid marks in them and something that I have to

deconstruct like who am I who am I and then Jackson's like well I thought that's what you did and it's like okay well I'm glad that that's what you thought I did but that's absolutely not what I do and when you take your like your underwear off and your shorts I understand because what they're doing is they're just grabbing their like little um the little band and just like completely pulling it off and then they don't think to like take it take it out and deconstruct it because I mean that would be a novel idea and then to maybe put a novel idea maybe to put it in a hamper you know would be insane like that that's really a stretch you know um but yeah I know I actually took all of Jackson's books I think we've talked about this before that Jackson only has books in

his room and we don't do technology in the bedrooms yes um but I actually deconstructed all of his books because I would go in there in the morning and it literally looked like a library blew up and it's like books all over the place and I just got sick of it and then he wouldn't pick it up so I've got them all sorted nicely in a closet that I didn't use and I make him do a checkout system like the library I think that's amazing that's such a good idea so he gets two books a week and once he's finished with him he can bring him back to me and then I'll I'll let him into the secret closet like otherwise you're not you're not going in there I mean he needs to get it together if he wants to go check out another book damn it let me tell you what I did today so um I don't know

I definitely think the school system's on to something and they know that like teachers need a break after like six weeks of school because we pretty much have breaks and on our school calendars almost every six weeks and so and it's for a week um so fall breaks coming up next week and I'm just kind of like at my wits end I'm just like I need I need a break like the digital learning thing is going great but I just need to check out so today when Jackson got finished listen I just left I left the house I didn't tell anybody I was leaving I went to go and have my nails done I got me a coke for McDonald's um and then I text and was like hey just want to let you know um I'm alive I just went to go and get a manicure and pedicure for the beach because

I also feel like I don't know if you feel like this because I feel like you've been doing a lot of self-care but yes a ton lately for me I feel like I haven't been doing a ton of self-care lately just because I'm so wrapped up in my days pretty much gone I'm helping him with school from 745 to 1215 and I'm fully invested in that so then it's like we'll buy the time that rolls around it's like lunch time and then tutor time or baseball time or whatever right and you just don't have time for any extra like appointments or anything so I wanted to go and get my nails done before the beach because I was like I certainly can't go to the beach like with not done nails that would one just be so unlike me but also just it's not really a thing and then Will was like

well why do girls get their toes done to go to the beach because then they just get jacked up anyway mine don't why also get gel on my toes so I don't get gel on my toes I just get I just get regular polish but you're so rough like you'll knock your toenails off oh for sure I mean 100 percent have you been knocking any off lately no because I've only just started doing like my appointments and stuff since I've had the baby like I really it really started with like going to the dentist and like the gynecologist again like my postpartum appointment I mean and I went to the dermatologist and like those types of appointments but like now I did get someone to stay with my with the babies Monday Wednesday and Friday just so I have three dedicated days to do any errands I need to do

and then also to schedule appointments and like not have to like last minute look for a sitter or I can like podcast do what I have to do so Monday Wednesday Friday is now I can go to the gym I can do my appointments I can do that so tomorrow's Wednesday I'm gonna do my appointment with the builder and I'm gonna go get my nails done and then Friday I plan on going to the I'm gonna start at the gym like actually starting so I didn't know that you were that far in the building process that you were like making selections so the way that it worked so basically I am but I'm not so I have the floor plans and then the builder's name is Kevin Kevin was like I think we should the floor plans are pretty much solid let's go ahead and make all your selections so that way

when you find the land that you want and it's available and we do everything it's everything is already done does that make sense yeah so you're kind of like kind of moving backwards yeah a little bit um which is actually exciting for me because I feel like then we can hit the ground running and also I can kind of see things come to life beforehand because he basically told me since I've never you've built a house so you know how it goes I've never built one so he was telling me like any changes that I want to make I want to make them before they start breaking ground like before they break ground because they charge change fees for everything well he was saying like he's like I can't tell you how many times I've had families want to make changes once we've

already started building and it's even harder it stops the process it makes it like it just takes so much longer he's like so the sooner we get everything done the better so the only thing right now that I'm running into is like the land where I want to be I don't care if it's one acre or 15 acres that part that doesn't bother me I just I really really really don't want neighbors like I really just don't want neighbors so um right now in Delaware I don't know if it is the same in Georgia but we have a house shortage here um and then we also the land is very few and far between for the school district I want to be in and on top of it it's like everyone that I do like it's either wetlands or it's going to cost me $50,000 just to clear it and it's like I

just don't want to see $50,000 come out of my house budget because we have to clear it right yeah or more I'm I'm just throwing out numbers but um like one one that I wanted one piece of land was like three or four hundred thousand dollars and that just doesn't make sense for me like it just doesn't make sense to spend a house on the land on the land I know it's so it's so crazy and I feel like the building process is just um when you're doing a build like the type that you're talking about and what I'm about to get into that's a whole different building process it's like getting a conventional loan and whatever um or what do they call it like a construction loan yeah that's a whole different process because like the house that I'm in now yes we built it but also we were

able to just do like conventional financing um isn't that what it's called like I didn't have to do a construction loan right well and also you probably had like you're in a neighborhood so it's a lot different than a custom build on like separate property yeah so what we're about to do is not going to be like what we're where we're at now and so um I don't know I'm so excited for the future on that just for so many reasons and I I think that you can relate to a lot of the reasons but just to be able to have a home where um nobody can just like freely look up the address to be able exactly that's literally the reason why I want to do it yeah like that literally the reason I I literally because I could I still own the other house like technically I could renovate that one

and make it what I want and that's something that Kristen has brought up to me she's like well why don't you just renovate the one that you like your go back to your old house and renovate it and I was like but it will never really be what I want it to be but I also don't want people to look it up when you build a house you can't just google it and it doesn't show up on Zillow right oh I know well and I just I think when I when Will and I bought this house um I wasn't really doing much Instagram and it's like the show was still new and I've been here for like six years and so I think a lot of life things have changed since then right and I just feel the need for privacy like I just I don't know it's just unsettling feeling knowing that basically people can just

like know whatever they want to know about you yeah I don't like that I feel like that's it's just especially with like how cruel people are I mean I don't know how cruel people are to you I would probably guess it's maybe different than what I get but people literally are online threatening to come to my house so it's just like I just can't have this or like showing up at the door like I can't like I don't want I don't need inmate sending me letter letters from prison like I just don't want it anymore I know it's like you it's different seasons of life right it's like those things might not have bothered you as much in your early 20s but now it's kind of like that is a little scary I don't know the older I get the more freaked out I get by things and

maybe it's just because we have more knowledge um it's like okay but I also I like I like being in the public eye but I obviously it comes with like the cons but I you know I don't want to give up everything that I'm doing I just want a private home like I want my I want my home to be off limits like I really want my home to be my safe place and I just since I moved to Delaware I don't feel like I've had that well and I know Kristen knows about this but I knew that you would be sleeping so I text her but literally two and three o'clock in the morning I will get crazy calls text messages and it's literally like yeah people sending me my address um telling me that you know they're going to be outside of my house that you know they're coming to the suburbs that

they're doing all this and it's like no like no like and there's only so much you can do right like there's only so much you can do to protect yourself and so I just think that this house has been a season of life for us and it's been very good to us but I think that with all of the other things going on that I just I'm kind of glad and I know people are probably going to say well even if you build a house if you finance something or whatever and um the what do they call it like the deed is recorded and so anybody can get your information like I'm not nobody will be able to look it up that that's just what I'm saying so and same the exact same that's all that anybody needs to know that it just will not be um where somebody can be like oh well that's where this

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you you anyway well we are um heading to the beach on Saturday given that um um Hurricane Sally doesn't tear up the um roads and stuff for us to be able to actually get there because supposedly where we're going I'm also not gonna say that but where we're going um the roads can like get washed out or something so oh wow yeah I'm not familiar with hurricanes um or like any of that stuff but I know here um where I live we are getting some of the winds from that storm and the bad weather is supposed to move into our way I think tomorrow or either Wednesday

or Thursday um so yeah I'm hoping that we're gonna be able to go I'm like please please please please I just need a need a break um my birthday's on Thursday and I know I'm so ready for you to have a good birthday a good weekend like you need that after everything that you've been like dealing with that's a will I was like we're literally not celebrating on Thursday because I will not have peace until we are at the beach on Saturday so we're gonna pretend like Saturday is my birthday that's fine good for you you deserve that so any who will what what do you guys have going on for the rest of the week anything um tomorrow I have the build meeting which I mean that's Wednesday um no I don't have a whole lot Sundays are for football in this house

um Lincoln has football in the morning so that's super exciting but other than that I don't have a whole lot going on this week which is kind of nice because I feel like all last week and the first half of this week has been absolutely insane so um I'm excited to kind of just chill this weekend I know same I I feel you and then the last thing that I want to say before we go is that right before we got on here I was scrolling on Instagram and I also haven't been on Instagram a lot lately either um which has also been weird but I saw a picture that you posted of the baby and I think he's starting to look a lot more like Lux it's so funny that you say that because while we've been podcasting a message popped up saying from someone else I know that said oh my

gosh he's starting to look like Lux he just is they're like salt and pepper like one of them is just darker than the other that's all yeah but there are a lot of similarities I feel like I agree I definitely agree um but I he's he's getting now now that I've had my first day away from him on Monday when I had all my appointments um I was away from like nine to five and I came home and I was like wow he actually feels big like my friend my friend kept telling me when she comes over here she's like he's so he's getting big kale and I'm like no he's not but it's because I've been with him for six weeks like I have barely left the house so um I don't think I've noticed it but like now this week I'm like wow he really he's starting to get bigger he I can tell that he's growing so

much but in that picture that you posted and maybe it was just the lighting to me it looks like his eyes are gonna change I think so I think they will because at first they were like dark blue like mine but now they're like almost like a topy like that like a tan with like blue undertones so I'm thinking they might turn to brown yeah I'm thinking that they're gonna change because it just doesn't look like the kind of blue that stays blue does that make sense yes yeah well anyway we'll give the babies a kiss for me and um I guess I'll just talk to you next week I'll just be beach side I might have a drink in my hand I have a drink in my hand well I hope you have um an amazing time with that I I will and um if you guys have anything that you want to talk to us about

you can certainly send um us a voice message um I've been listening to those occasionally I'll just like hop on there and see what you guys want to hear and then we'll um talk about it sometimes like the audio on those like aren't great so I don't want to with all the audio issues that we have had up until this point I didn't want to like start putting those into the episodes and then people be like oh well that audio is horrible so I just try to bring up topics um that people put in those messages and then um we do now have a Pinterest I think we should probably link that on the Instagram page how um yes and a swipe up maybe we'll do that this week Instagram Pinterest page that has recipes on there and we'll just keep putting recipes

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