32: Fan Follow-ups, Dad Babysitting, & Childhood
00:00For 25% off your first month of personalized care of vitamins,visit Take Care Of and enter promo code COFFEE.Hey guys, welcome to Coffee Combos.Lindsay, is that high energy enough for you?Yes.Okay, right off the bat, I need to tell you about,I was watching Shark Tank when I was in LA over the weekend,and I saw these meals, right? So you know how we do HelloFresh, of course,
00:32but we, you know, I do CrossFit, and so I saw these meals that were likespecifically geared towards CrossFit people called Ice Age Meals,and I tried, I would order them so I could try them, and they came today and I leave tomorrowfor Europe. So like what do I do with all the meals, and you have to-It was a fail.Yeah, you have to order a minimum of 12 meals.You have to order in groups of 12?Yes. So I literally ordered 12 meals, and I'm leaving tomorrow for Europe.
00:59So what the fuck am I going to do with these 12 meals? Eat them all tomorrow?I think just freeze them.Oh, can I do that? Is that a thing?Yeah, that's a thing.Okay.You can do that.Okay. Well, I mean, I guess I'll freeze, I don't even know if I have room in my freezer, butalso, I know, I'm a fucking mess. Like I didn't even start packing yet.
01:20I don't even know if I have laundry for tomorrow.Also, I got an email going to invite me to the movie awards, and I don't get a plus one,and I know that this is like super, just like, I feel like a snob even complaining about it,but I don't have a plus one. So like what the, I don't know that I want to go.Well, when is it?It's in two weeks.Oh my gosh.And they didn't give you a plus one, like who goes to like a formal event like that without
01:50a date or like somebody to accompany them?Right. That's what I'm saying. So I'm like, not sure that I think I'm just not going to go.Yeah, I think that that's a good choice because like who flies solo to something like that?I don't know. And it's in LA. So I'm not.Yeah, that's, that's a strange situation there. I mean, I would accompany you, butI mean, you don't have a plus one.Right. So what the fuck?So, so, I mean, there's that.
02:24So as of last week's podcast, we got so many messages about who killed John Bonnetand it was all across the board, but repeatedly the messages that came through over and over againwas Burke.No, Burke didn't do it. He was, no, he didn't. And no, he didn't stop it right now. Stop it.He did because there was, I remember where I got that information from and like where I cameto that conclusion, there was a documentary or something like that special, I don't know whatyou want to call it, but it was on CBS. And I remember they had another child that would havebeen like the same age stature, you know, whatever to use this object to hit a skull. And it was
03:19like almost identical to the damage that was done to her head. So I don't buy it. I don't buy it.Yeah, I think, I think that you're just like way off. Kale, I think you're, I think you're off.No, I think the mom did it. I think that I blame the mom.And then somebody said that like he smeared like shit on her present and candy like for Christmas.Did you hear this before? Because I never heard that.No, you know what the message I got though that kind of irritated me was I got one message thatshe was so nasty about it too. She was like, Burke was not six. John Bonnet was six and Burke wasnine. I said, okay, like sorry, I got the ages wrong. I'm not buying it because Isaac's almost,
04:03so he's eight and a half. And Isaac would just not have the strength or anything to do somethinglike that. And also as a parent, if one of my children did hurt my other child, like in a waythat was like that, I'm not going to then go through with murdering my child. I'm going totake my child to the emergency room, and then I'm going to get my other child immediate help,right? So I just don't know that I buy that as a mom, you're going to protect one child overthe other and then you're going to finish killing the other one because your other child hurt them.I don't buy that. I would absolutely do the exact same thing that you would do if that was a situationin my house. Definitely try to get the child that was hurt immediate help and then mentally get the
04:57other child checked into some type of institution for behaving that way. I mean, I don't knowwhat other way you could look at it. I mean, I just, I don't believe in like the cover ups andstuff like that for kids or like play in favorites or whatever. That little girl was, in my opinion,seemed like the mom's favorite. She was living through the little girl. So why would she,why would they go to those lengths to protect their son? I don't know, but we, the mom did it.I mom did it. I promise we got so many messages about that and I was just like, you know what,I really think that I think that he did it and then just this is kind of like recapping froma previous week, but I also received another message to my personal Instagram
05:50and this was the message. My sister is a teacher and knowing the hundreds of dollars of suppliesthat she buys every year to make sure that every child has the supplies that they need listeningto complaints on buying a poster board made me shut the podcast for the week. Did we not clarifythat we were not saying it was the teacher's responsibility either to get the supplies? Weclarified that. It wasn't even, but we also had a podcast weeks ago that talked about howwhen I get a supply list from the school for Isaac, it literally has supply, like you,each parent gets the supplies for the entire classroom, not just for the student and Joeand I both fulfilled that entire list. So Isaac went into school with double that,
06:39double his one list. It wasn't necessarily about the poster board. It was more about the work thatI had to put in for Isaac's project. That was more what it was about and so that's kind of,I mean, she definitely took it out of context. Yeah, I think it was just taken away out ofcontext and it was at no blow to like a teacher or anything like that. It was just more so of,hey, if the school is going to ask, especially like for children who aren't, you know, what I wouldsay, I guess like privileged or able to afford, you know, there are truly some kids out there,believe it or not, there are kids out there that their parents can't afford their schoollunches or their parents can't afford the post awards. Like, come on. Yeah.
07:24To like have the extra stuff. So like, hey, lady, wake up and realize that that was what we weretalking about and not that was a no way right. We weren't taking shots at the teacher at all.So she needs to relax. So I just wanted to clarify that there was no jabs at any teachers or anythinglike that about buying supplies or whatnot. It was more so I kind of felt bad for the childrenthat have to go home and take this list to their parents and there are parents out there that wouldhave to scramble around to get the supplies for these children to be able to do the projectand just think about the kids that like their parents literally can't afford it and they justhave to do with whatever they have to do with. And then their project looks so much worse than
08:15other kids that can't afford it. And then it reflects on their grade. I just think that everythingshould just be like more of an even playing field and that you shouldn't have to like go and buy.I think she was talking about me when I was complaining about buying the poster boardfor Isaac's project the other week. I just don't understand. Like I didn't take it that waywhenever you said that. No, I wasn't. It was just more of like, okay, I have three kids,you know, and I do have my kids. I have them alone. And then I have to go to the store to go getthis. I have to go to the store to print this. I have to, you know, help him with this projectbecause he can't do all that by itself all by himself. That was it was just a lot of work
08:54for one project. It wasn't solely about the poster board. So she needs to relax.Just, I mean, chill, lady. I mean, geez, I took a chill for like months.Lady, I took a chill pill months ago and have been on cruise control for like months now. Sofor sure, you know, it is what it is. We're not doing anymore.Are you looking for a gift for the guy who has everything? Well, you guys, you should look nofurther because this Father's Day, I'm going to surprise my husband with man crates. And I hopethat he's not listening because he stalks us on coffee combos weekly. Thanks for subscribing, Will.But I plan on getting him the salami bouquet just because I think it's cool.
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11:24is for you with your boys, dads and stuff. But I always say like if I have to go do something andI know like Jackson doesn't need to go. If it's like go and get a pedicure or if I need to like goand do errands that it's like in and out of the car and it would just be easier for him to stay athome. I always say, Will, like can you babysit him? And I've heard other girlfriends say that samething about, you know, babysitting your own child, your own child. And I'm like, it's not reallybabysitting. I guess it's just like doing your part. But I always feel like I don't know likeWill doesn't make me feel like that. It's just I don't know if it's just part of being a mother orI mean, I say what when I'm talking to Chris, I'm like, Hey, can you watch him?
12:17So I guess it's the same thing. Yeah, but I just feel like that's not something thatwe should really like have to do or go through or say, Oh, hey, you know, because I mean, obviouslyWill works and so he can go and get a haircut or he can go and do like errands on lunch or, you know,have like his hour lunch break or whatever. And I mean, luckily, I get to stay at home and I get todo more unconventional work, which I'm so thankful for because he's steady Eddie. But at the sametime, I'm just kind of like, Hey, you know, I don't feel like I should even have to ask, Oh,hey, can you watch him while I go and run here? Like last night, for example, I went and got apedicure. And I had taken Jackson to the pool and we came home. And I showered him and made
13:13his dinner and made sure that he was fed before I ever left. And Will made the comment to me,he was like, Well, I mean, you act like I can't do any of this stuff on my own. And I don't know ifit's just like a mom thing, or if that's just like a me thing, or what? It's probably a littleof both. I think it could be a little bit of both, for sure. I mean, obviously, like I know that heknows how to, I'm not gonna say he knows how to make dinner, because the only thing Will reallyknows how to do is scramble eggs. But um, I don't know. He can make scrambled eggs for dinner.And kale, like when Will cooks, I swear, I mean, he can make ramen noodles. He makes such a mass,and he says that he's the cleanest cook, but he makes such a freaking mass. And he'll use like
14:08salt and pepper on the stove. And it gets like little like salt and pepper flakes like on thestove. And then I have to take the whole thing apart and then like get all the flakes off.How did you even marry this man? Because I'm just wondering how you have coped over the years.I don't know. I feel like I'm just yesterday or not yesterday, last podcast and today,like just talking about like husbands and like boys and stuff. Can I tell you that not only didLincoln ask me, no, he didn't even ask me, he told me to smell his armpits today. He also told me tosmell his breath and proceeded to blow his hot breath on my face. I mean, why would they thinkthat would be a good idea? And why do you think that I want my nose in your pits? Like why would
14:55I want to smell your armpits? Absolutely not. Like no, but I will get you some deodorant.Like we, first of all, does Jackson know that the pepper, the salt and pepper flakes are unacceptable?Like make sure that he's watching you clean them so that he knows for his future wife.Well, Jackson's future wife, okay, this is funny actually that you said that.We always like tell Jackson, hey, you have to like clean up your playroom. It's quite a mess.You really need to clean it up. And he's like, well, when I get grown and I have children,I'm never going to make them clean. And we're like, okay, well then you're going to live ina literal pigsty. And he's like, no, I won't, my wife will just do it. Well, I guess because he
15:38knows that that's what I do. So I guess he's like learned it honest. And I'm like, that poor woman,like whoever she is, like, I sympathize with you, girl. I mean, who, what child says that at fiveyears old? Oh, well, my wife will just do it. First off, you don't know anything about a wife.Clean your goddamn playroom. Exactly. Like clean it up.Just clean the room. Why are we like going into this long conversation about like when you getmarried and like all this like crazy stuff. But anyway, as I was saying, Will's just like a messyMarvin and I just wanted to get all of the dinner and whatever cooked and cleaned up before I left.And I know that he's capable of doing it. And maybe I just need to realize, okay, everything
16:31will be fine. Just go and get the pedicure. And yeah, leave him with Hello Fresh and go get yourpedicure and tell him to clean up the mess. Right. It'll everything will be fine. You know, he hasthe step by step instructions and, you know, get all of the seasoning in the pan. And that's it.Okay, all let's take a quick second so I can tell you again about the absolute easiest way tokeep your health on track with practically little or no effort. And no, we've talked about it beforeon the podcast, but care of is a monthly subscription vitamin service made from effective qualityingredients tailored to your needs. Did y'all know that 90% of people fall short of FDA recommendedguidelines for at least one vitamin or nutrient? That's a huge percentage. Because even when you
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19:43I can say. Well, still like Chris is so clean. Like he always cleans up after Yeah, he's veryclean. So anytime he's like cooked or like, even if he's like come to the house and there's dishesin my sink, he'll do them. Like he just doesn't like the mess. Okay, well, I never have dishes in mysink because the dishwasher is like right there. And that's another thing that I don't understandabout people. I mean, sometimes you're just like things are a little crazy or like,I don't know. I have three kids. So like I maybe the dish, I ran the dishwasher and it's clean.So I didn't get a chance to unload it yet. And so now there's dirty dishes in the sink. So I mean,at some point throughout the day, I'm going to empty the dishwasher and then like put the dirty
20:26dishes in there. But if Chris gets here before that happens, I will certainly he'll do them.But see, Will has that same Bozo mentality that you just said that if there's clean dishes inthere, then sometimes you'll just like get busy and put it in the sink and then no, like stopwhatever you are doing. If you just dirtied a plate and it was that important for you to dirty it,then it's that important for you to clean out the clean dishes and put those away so that youcan put the dirty one in the dishwasher. Like it's bizarre to me. You know what? I was raisedlike a barbarian. So we're just we're going through it. We're getting through it. I'm justliving. I'm rolling with the punches these days. And you know, I'm thankful that, you know, the
21:15dishes even get done at all. Like if we're being honest. And then there's that. So Will, like,he'll always say, Oh, I helped do this or I helped do that. And I'm like, well, when like 12 monthsago, did you unload the dishwasher? Like remember that one time that I clean the toilets on December15, 2012? Yeah, remember that I did my part. He always remembers like the one time and if he'sdone it one time, it like counts for like 95 times like after that. Oh, for sure. For sure.And I'm just like, no, I'm the only one that cleans out the dishwasher. Like, hey,you need to get it together because I'm tired of getting it together for you. Okay.I mean, I feel like when you get married, like you're making a conscious decision that, you know,
22:07you will essentially pick up after them because they are a child in that sense.Well, and I just think about, you know, like in college and stuff when we dated because I try tolike backtrack and think, okay, well, how was I whenever I was like 20 years old? And I guess itwas like apartment living. So I wasn't really, I wasn't a homeowner. And I was kind of likegoing with the punches too, because I had so much schoolwork. I was a business student and I had somuch schoolwork and I graduated exactly in four years. I didn't take any extra time. And so I wasconstantly like worried about my grades and then constantly at the ball field and then Will wouldhave workouts every day. So then he would bring like dirty clothes home and I would be worrying
22:51about cleaning those clothes for the next day so that you would have them clean for the next day.So it was more like my place was always clean, but I guess having a child takes a lot oftime and then I would be invested in schoolwork and stuff. So I was more of the mentality ofeverything's clean, but other things will get done, like when they get done, but when I think aboutmessy. Yeah, but like then when I became a homeowner, like things just like completelychanged for me. It's like I valued things just differently. Like I value my appliances and Ivalue, you know, like the way my floors look and whatever. I mean, I know that that's not likethe end of the world. Like it's just a house, but I just like everything to be clean in a certain
23:37way. And it's the only way I can really function. Like I can't work in like a messy area. I can't,I feel like dirty and I just feel like I need to take a shower and I don't know. Like I just,I can't do it. My house is clean, but it's messy. It's definitely lived in, but I do get what you'resaying. Like I do value, you know, my mom never owned a house because she was just a fucking mess.So, you know, the fact that I own a home is I do value that. And so I do take care of my things,but I think as far as like cleanliness, like, you know, after I do my makeup in the morning,I'm probably going to leave my makeup brushes on the vanity or like, I might not put the capon my toothpaste right away, but later on in the day, I'll for sure do it. You know what I mean?
24:23But like as far as like my house and my lawn and my yard and stuff like that, like I do try to takecare of my things, my appliances, stuff like that. But you know, you know, like I said, I don't,go ahead. I just, I don't like to look outside. Like I live in a very like clean and keptneighborhood. So I like for my yard to be the lowest cut grass, like, and I think it's likecompetitive nature to like, I like everything of mine to be like the cleanest or like the nice,like the nicest looking yard, like it's the most kept, it might not be like the most expensive,but it's like the most kept yard. I don't know. It's just like, I was raised. My dad definitelyalways like wanted us to strive for perfection. And it definitely started showing more so for
25:16me, not through like growing up years. I don't think, I don't know. I would have to ask my parents,but I didn't recognize it through my growing up years until college. And then I would get likea 98 on an accounting test, which is like unheard of. But then I would argue with my professor,I would argue with my professor like about the two points and like why it was right,because the closer I got to 100, the more like I wanted the 100. So it's almost like an addictionin a sense too of like, how perfect can I be? And I'm like that with everything, like how perfectcan my child be? Can he like be better in sports than these kids? Can he, you know, swim better?Can he, I don't know. It's just like so weird. Like is my car cleaner? Is my house cleaner?
26:05Is, and I don't say that to people, you know, or whatever, but it's just like a mentality ofjust like how to be like the best. I think, well, that definitely stems from your childhood. And Icould, I mean, I don't know your family, but I could see that. I could definitely see that.So have you guys heard of Modcloth? Modcloth is the fun friendly spot for style that's as expressiveand unique as you. Inspired daily by amazing customers, it's Modcloth's mission to serve andcelebrate the community, inspire individual style, and empower women to be the best version of themselves.That's why their signature line of apparel is offered in full size range,from extra, extra small to 4X. And that's what I love about it. If you guys are ready to make
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28:33to eat all organic. And for the past few weeks, I seriously, no joke, have gone back and forthabout if I'm ever going to buy meat again. And it's been this weird battle of I love meat.But yeah, it's internal conflict. I love meat, and I know that I probably need it.But then part of me, too, is I don't know necessarily if that's the perfect,most healthiest way of living. So how do I be more perfect?So I think my uncle was vegan. And I know a lot of vegan and vegetarians.I think that they have a lot of meat substitutes and like tofu and stuff. And I think,you know, I think there's definitely ways to do it. Are you thinking about doing like
29:27vegetarian or like vegan? Like vegetarian, I think. And I know dairy and eggs.Yes, I would have to. I know my whole household couldn't do it. I think Jackson could do it.I think I could do it. Will could probably do it like five days a week and then meet two days aweek. He's always been, I didn't really eat much meat before Will. And then when Will and I gottogether, his family always were cooking steaks and burgers and whatever. And so I just kind ofadopted not really like their style of eating because I still don't eat the same as they do,but just more so like in keeping with being able to like conform and eat something that they werehaving. We didn't really eat steaks and stuff like that growing up. I mean, we ate like vegetable
30:24dinners more so and stuff like that, like casseroles. What is a vegetable dinner? Like I'mtrying to think in the summertime, for example, sliced tomatoes, cucumbers, green beans. Likethat was a meal. Squash. Yeah, like like squash, maybe a cake of cornbread, which would be likespilling, pretty filling, I guess. You know what? I ate Doritos and like mac and cheese,maybe a frozen pizza. Like there was no cooking in my household growing up. Well, and but okay,so this is the other thing because people were asking too about us growing up and how differentour lives were and how I grew up in a trailer park. I'm bottom of the barrel, scum, white trash.Kale, you're so hard on yourself. No, okay, maybe not a trailer park, but I definitely
31:27was white trash. Like I grew up white trash. The rest of my family wasn't, but me and my mom were.Like my mom, literally the only two meals I ever remember my mother cooking for me werelike real meals were tacos, which obviously came out of a box and she made me Alfredo,broccoli Alfredo one time. That was when I was in high school. I got the Alfredo in high school.Other than that, it was Velveeta mac and cheese, which I hate now. Like I hate it. And frozen pizza.Well, and see that's just, I don't know. I grew up just completely differently. We always had a mealon the table and it was always, you know, we ate by seven o'clock, I would say by seven o'clock,like no later than seven o'clock we ate and the kitchen was cleaned and I always was like the
32:16kitchen cleaner. Of course, clean the kitchen and everything was pretty much done and shut down by,I would say 730 or 745. And then it was just like bath bed, very functional. I mean,normal people say that we're like crazy from the show and see like the crazy things thatmy family like says and does, but really as far as like our raising, it was pretty normal,I would say, you know, like am I normal to you? Yeah, normal to me, I guess. Always had a mealalways had a meal on the table, always, you know, my parents paid for private school education.You know, they valued like things that I feel like I also value. A lot of people were asking onTwitter, how is my form of parenting different than my parents? And I would say that like the
33:26core value things aren't much different than the way I was raised. But the way that I go about thingsand raising my little one is different, like my approach on things are a little different.And I think everybody could say that, you know, growing up that you when you're a little kid,you probably say, and I know I did, okay, well, when I grow up and I have a kid,then I'm going to do this or, you know, I'm going to do that. I think that's verynormal to want to do things like different than your parents, because they can't do everythingperfect, you know. But I don't think that my raising for Jackson is too far off from the waythat I was raised. I have a very different story. I was lucky if my mom was home at seven o'clock.
34:21My mom worked like a day job, and then she would go bartend at five o'clock every day,at least five days a week, so probably like Tuesday to Saturday or whatever she would gobartend. So I was pretty much on my own or had like a live and babysitter that never got paid.And yeah, she could barely make rent. And but the one thing that I there are a couple thingsthat my mom, like my mom was just not present. She just like wasn't there. And a lot of peopletook part in raising me. So but I will say that my mom didn't still like a couple values in me,one of them being like, because I bounced around so much, I always knew to take care of, you know,when I'm at somebody else's house, I always clean up better than, than I would at my own home.
35:15And I always knew to be on my best behavior at other people's houses, just because I mean,that wasn't my house. And I spent so much time at other people's houses, so I didn't want tolet my mom down in that aspect. You know, I didn't want I'm going to go spend five days with someone,I don't know when you're going to come pick me up. So let me be on my best behavior so that my mom,you know, they can at least tell my mom that I was good, you know. So other than me, when you,when you say that to me, though, just as a mother hearing that, like if you were a child,and you were in my house and you told me that, I would say that was a defense mechanism that youused so that you wouldn't have to be alone so that your friends, parents wouldn't say, oh,
35:53you can't come back. You know what's crazy? The crazy thing is like now as an adult, I'm 26 yearsold, right? So looking back at my childhood, if any parents of my friends that, you know,did tell my mom that I couldn't be there, like they never made it, they never made me feel bad,they never said it in front of me, they never, you know what I mean? Like if they ever told mymom like you need to come get her or like whatever, like they never didn't make me feel welcome. AndI think it's because anyone that was taking care of me at the time, they knew the situation.So yeah, I mean, maybe it was a defense mechanism. And I thinkI'm thankful for it. But now I think in terms of like Isaac going to a friend's house, like
36:38I'm so concerned with how he's acting over there or if he's cleaning up after himself or if he'sbehaving right, you know, some kids say crazy things. So I just like never want him to likesay something crazy or, you know, because I know what I did as a kid, like I made sure I was on mybest behavior. I never did anything crazy. I always help my friends with their chores. LikeI hope Isaac's doing the same. Right. Yeah. So guys, that was pretty much our answer tohow different or the same we parent our kids actually remember me telling you about the pool,like bacteria and whatever. Do you remember me telling you that the pool? Oh, in the hotels?Yeah, fuck yeah. Yes. Okay. So how random is it that I was just talking about that. And then on
37:35May 17th, there was an article that I ran across that says woman dies from deadly bacteria shethought was just a pimple. Indianapolis mother of an Indianapolis Indianapolis mother of fourdied earlier this month after contracting a deadly flesh eating bacteria while on vacation.And it said that she noticed what looks like a pimple on her right butt and it was sore to thetouch. She went to the hospital twice and was given antibiotics and a heating pad to treat whichlike the doctors thought it was a virus. And after two courses of antibiotics, the 50 year oldwoman's condition like didn't improve at all. So they set up a GoFundMe page and she likeeventually started vomiting and then that progressed to days of vomiting blood. And then
38:29they discovered that she had contracted a deadly flesh eating bacteria. And it was from like beingat a pool and they were car racing enthusiasts and were at an annual trip to Clearwater, Floridato see a race at Showtime Speedway. And that's where she got it. I am disgusted and I feel sosorry for her and her family. That you definitely change my perception, my perspective on pools andlike hot tubs and stuff like they just breed bacteria. I actually had my pool cleaners cometoday and they put 80 pounds of salt in my pool. So they cleaned it, they scrubbed any spots thatwere looked a little funny. And I make sure that because people, I have a lot of my friends come by,the kids come by, they have their friends over, they want to get in the pool. Even just having
39:27people that I know in my pool kind of like the thought of it is like, you don't really thinkof anything, you don't think anything of it. But after hearing that, I'm like, nope, we're goingto make sure that the levels are exactly where they should be. If they're not where they should be,don't get in the water. Well, it says that also they suspect that the location that she got it fromwas a hot tub at the Dason Hotel that they were staying at. And there was other people that werein the hot tub as well. So I don't know if she had like, I mean, she could have had, you know,even like a piece of peeled skin from like a fingernail. I mean, you know, who knows likewhere it could have like entered into her body. And yeah, just got like a flesh eating bacteria
40:15from sitting in a hot tub and died. Well, I hope nobody's eating their lunch listening to this.If I ruined your appetite or your breakfast, if you're listening to us driving to work,I am so sorry about talking about the pimple that was on this woman's ass.Oh my God, that's fine. It's completely fine. All right, y'all, it's time to tell you about oneof our new sponsors, HelloFresh. For those of you who don't know what HelloFresh is, HelloFresh isa meal kit delivery service that shops, plans and delivers step by step recipes and pre-measuredingredients so that you guys can just cook it, eat it and enjoy it. It's super easy.There's something with everyone for HelloFresh. They have three plans to choose from classic,
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43:21and I guess it literally sent her over the edge. So that was the report that shehad been in a custody battle. So I also saw this other thing on CBS News about a womankilling herself after a surgeon removed her ovaries without consent. Yes, a surgeon inBritain is under investigation after he allegedly removed a patient's ovaries without her consent.The woman was 58 years old, later killed herself because of the ongoing pain caused by the procedureaccording to like CBS, you know, news, whatever. She was having bowel surgery in 2016 at the spinehospital in England and her surgeon helped pioneer the use of mesh implants to fix likebowel problems and stuff and he basically told her it would be a complex procedure
44:24and she didn't learn until after the operation that her ovaries had been removed. He said that hethought he had done a favor to her and a favor how and how is that a favor? I have no I don't knowlike because if maybe she was like after menopause or something but she's after menopause and itshouldn't matter because you're not getting your period after that anyways. I don't know if she wasI'm just like assuming that like maybe it was she was after menopause I mean she was 58 years oldbut she maybe didn't go through menopause yet I don't I don't know but I mean how would I removethe surgeon's ballsack he probably wouldn't like that. Apparently she had told in an interview beforeher death that the surgeon had said I thought you knew a woman of your age would really wouldn't
45:14really need her ovaries and she said why did you remove them and he said they were in he said thatlike when he went to do the surgery for the bowel stuff that the ovaries were in the wayand so she said that her life was absolutely ruined and then she was found dead in her homein January so what no because if he went in for surgery for something else he wouldn't want histesticles removed right so why would he think it was okay it doesn't matter how old you are likedon't remove somebody's body parts like I don't understand what what in his right mind wouldeven make him think that that wasn't even an option like I know I know for some surgeries for exampleum you know through childbirth or like c-section whatever if you have like a massive bleed or
46:05they have to remove certain things I mean that's kind of like an emergency situation you're kindof giving them the go-ahead right so right if this you're going in for bowel surgeryand you have a completely different body part removed what did you think that the patientwas going to say well and apparently she was complaining more so from the pain from wherethe bowel surgery was unsuccessful because the the mesh like wasn't she claimed wasn't put inproperly and so she was in pain agony whatever and I don't think the pain and stuff was causedfrom the ovaries but that was just something that she had found out after the fact thatshe had had the surgery I just don't think that you should be able to go into somebody's body
46:56and just because they're under and you feel like oh well you know she's 58 she doesn't need her ovariesthat's like a personal decision you were born with them somebody shouldn't be able to just takethem from you if you want to know like the nurses in the room the anesthesiologist like nobody thoughthey baby you shouldn't do this yeah I mean what was there's got to be more to the story you knowI mean there has to be there has to be more to the story I'm not I just that's crazy I don't findthese articles Lindsay I just find like it on random like you have like I'll just you alwayshave the most off-the-wall articles that I'm like I wouldn't even know where to find thatI know well I just speaking of articles how do you feel about Kim Kardashian meeting up with
47:44Donald Trump I don't know how I feel about it I'm kind of conflicted well first of all I'm alsofeel conflicted on it I will say that prison reform is already just really hard because a lot ofthem are privately owned and I don't think that a lot of people know that like the a lot of prisonsare privately owned so they're not necessarily run by the government right correct and I just feel likeI don't know correct Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are taking a lot of L's latelyI don't know I just think that like she would have never been able to have that meeting if shewasn't Kim Kardashian you know what I mean but also I feel like I saw this one tweet that was likethe Obamas loved Jay-Z and Beyonce so much that Kim and Kanye want to they just like want to be
48:41Jay-Z and Beyonce so bad that now they're trying to like befriend Donald Trump but like I mean I'mnot saying whether you know I'm one way or the other I'm just saying like what I find on Twitteris funny and I just I don't know I feel like we're more concerned about like Kim meeting up withDonald Trump I guess then you know some other things that are going on in the world like thatthe kid that did the last shooting he there was a video posted on Twitter as well about how he waslike it was literally like selfie style video of how he was excited to do the next shooting andlike everyone was going to know who he was so like there's just so many things going on and we'refocusing on Kim and Donald speaking of speaking of oh my god there was this article that came up
49:27it was like breaking news I can't even remember where I saw it it probably wasn't breaking newsI probably just made that part up but it was breaking news to me it was about this girl inSouth Carolina she was 19 years old and she completely filed a complete false police reportto the local law enforcement that some man had driven up while she was like checking her mailat her mailbox with her baby some man had driven up and she described this vehicle like the colorof it everything and said that he punched her in the face and took her baby and so the police likego start investigating all of this stuff and she had visible marks on her face so they thought ohyou know like this is like believable you know nobody's gonna make this up so then as they start
50:16investigating she then basically starts backtracking her story and says that actually she filed afalse police report and that didn't happen and she killed her baby the police found the baby likea hundred yards from the house that she was at in a diaper box in a bag like the baby had been putin a bag in the diaper box like yards from the house where she was yes that was this week in SouthCarolina Jesus fucking Christ I just feel like like what is wrong with people like but I justdon't understand like I don't understand like the thought process of some people like if you don'twant the child and it's like too much for you there's somebody out there that will take yourbaby like literally you can drop your baby off at a hospital or a church and walk away and nobody
51:08gets hurt and you don't charge in some states you don't even get charged or anything like that it'slike a safe haven you know I remember when I gave birth to Isaac there was like a littlelike drop off crib bassinet thing right when you walk into the hospital you can like leaveyour baby there and they won't come find you that's crazy I mean I would just rather somebody take ababy and drop it off and just I don't know what like nobody gets hurt yeah nobody gets hurt likewhy did you have to kill the baby and then it was so like inhumane like she put the baby in I don'tknow if it was like a ziplock bag I don't even want to know but the baby was in a bag in a likediaper box that diapers had come in it was baby yes and I'm just like who in their right my obviously
52:05nobody in their right mind would do that but who could even like go to that extreme no matterhow mad you were like to think even to think about it yeah to even like have that thought cross yourmind like a normal train of thought is I need to do everything to keep my child like safe andnot you know the child needs to be fearful of you killing it I mean that's just so nuts I wasnot when I saw that I was like something's wrong literally something's something's wrong right forsure one side of the brain is not connecting to the other or she only has a half a brain becausethat is not normal but there had to be I always wonder about who'd be like that likedo people do they have like warning signs do they not have warning signs like as they're not
52:56any sign leading up to that point that maybe this person isn't fit to be a parent or noI don't know I I don't know I stopped trying to figure people out a long time ago becausethere's so much maybe I should do the same there's like so much bad I feel like in the world I Iwanted to like think long ago I thought like you know people are good you know generally like peopleare good I really don't feel like that I feel like there are more bad people than there are goodpeople yeah and there are more people that have like bad motives versus good motives like I amskeptical of everybody I'm with you 100% well on a completely unrelated note let's talk aboutmerchandising really quick okay um what do you want to share we want to give you guys products I
53:56know a lot of people have been asking about products and stuff like that so um we're working on it andI think that um it would be good too just for like our lot when we do get to do our live touryou know to have merchandise for you guys so if you are wanting products let us know whatproducts you want if you guys are wanting shirts or if you guys are wanting you know coffee mugsmaybe would be cute or like tumblers um Lindsay what ideas do you have well I know that I liked doinglike shirts and tumblers like that was more of the things that I was comfortable with and have someideas like already in place um I like understated things um simple muted colors and I think thatwe just want some feedback from our listeners obviously you guys are supporting us and we
54:52want to be able to give you what you guys want and so if you could just comment on our instagramjust whatever picture we'll see it um let's say the last post um comment comment on our last postand just give us ideas of things that you guys think are a good idea for merchandising andwe'll see what we can do I want a phone case like for myself also oh phone case that's a good ideaphone cases that would be super cute um also why don't you go ahead and just tell everybody aboutyour um hairline oh yeah so um I I'm not gonna say too much because I don't I don't want to give itall the way um but I am working on a hair product line so I'm doing like dry shampoo hair oil andleaving conditioner because those are the three things that I use all the time um so right now
55:49I got my my first set of samples in from the labs um it's a lab in Dallas and um so I'm just liketrying the products letting my friends try the products getting feedback I don't I know likeKylie Jenner when she first had her lip kits come out the first batch of lip kits were so badthat I'm afraid that I don't have you know I don't have the following that she has soso I don't think that people will give me a second chance the way that they gave her a second chanceyou know what I mean so I want to make sure that right my first batch of products is just as goodas the next one you know what I mean so I'm just going to take my time with it but it'ssomething that I've been working on for months actually um and I haven't really said too much
56:28but now I'm trying to figure out packaging and like a logo and um I'm super excited about it soI'm not going to say the name or anything yet because I want to make sure that we have like arelease date and all that first but just keep your eye out for my hair product line well andalso I'm a huge like proponent for quality over quantity like if you can get the qualitywhere it needs to be I would rather have less things and a really good quality product versusyou know having yeah a million mediocre things yes and I just I don't know I think it's goodto just like take your time and invest in like what you're doing invest your time invest youknow your resources invest with the people that you know are going to be using these products to
57:22know okay this is something that I'm going to be able to give to them and offer to them thatthey're really going to love so I'm super excited to be able to try it too um so you guys just keepyour eyes open make sure you're following us on the podcast instagram which is at coffee combospodcast we reached 50 000 this week on the instagram set super exciting yes and we can't wait to talk toyou guys more Kale's going on vacation so she will be out of the country for the next weekand I will be kind of MIA I'm going to take a social hiatus so I hope you guys have I hope youguys have a good week and thank you for tuning in as always and we will talk to you guys soonbye guys this podcast is brought to you by wave podcast network check out all of our shows
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