Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley - A Farting Phenomenon

Episode Date: October 16, 2023

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I hate gift giving and receiving. Receiving gifts is so weird. What do you say, thank you? This is Coffee Convos with Kale Lowry and Lindsey Chrisley. I really want you to be in your feels, Kale. That does not interest me whatsoever. I feel very attacked by you. A spirited discussion about motherhood, friendship,

family, and life in the public eye. I'm just not with the fakery anymore. There's a fakery bakery around here. Here's Kale and Lindsey. Good morning, Kale. Good morning. You look cute. Your hair looks cute. I went and got a blowout yesterday. So we had fall pictures scheduled. I go get my hair blown out, do my makeup, get home, parked in the garage, and it starts raining. Oh no, that always fucking happens. Always fucking happens. It's like when you straighten your hair, it rains, when you have pictures, that happened to me, and you know when you have multiples and

you're trying to coordinate outfits and then it rains or it snows, fucking forget it. Listen, I absolutely love getting ready for like family pictures. I love it soows. Fucking forget it. Listen, I absolutely love getting ready for like family pictures. I love it so much. I was talking to a couple of my girlfriends the other day because everybody's kind of doing fall pictures right now with families. And we were talking about how much of a shit show it is

when you have to like wrangle outfits and you like wanna be happy and you want your photos to look good, but you've like threatened your children. Jackson absolutely hates taking pictures. So does Isaac. He hates it. And so it's really just like a task in itself.

And I just want to have them for my memes, you know? Yeah, I know it. Like, why do we need pictures of ourselves? And I'm like, well, because specifically when I start pulling out photos from the archives, I don't want you looking like a crazy person. I just never really had, like, well, also, I just, yeah. My mom and I never took pictures together.

I don't have a picture with my mom, like any professional, or even just like, like I remember I had a digital camera when my mom got out of rehab and I took a picture with her. But that's the only and I lost it. And I think I was in my lacrosse uniform. So like, that's the only picture I know of with my mom that existed. And I don't even know where that's at. But I just, I love seeing my kids change throughout the years and also like adding more, more siblings throughout the years. I don't know. It's just

like maybe it's just like a thing for us like the parents. I don't know but I feel like people didn't do this back in the day. I mean Todd Chrisley has always been like ahead of trends for everything. So I'm going to go into my picture archives when this airs and try to pull out a photo. I think it was like one of our first Christmases with our parents not being together.

And it's like a picture of me, Kyle and my dad. And we went to like this picture studio. I don't know if it was like everywhere, but it was called Olin Mills. And they were like known for the best photos in town. And so Todd always took us and we always had like matching coordinating outfits and this was back in the 90s. Like this was happening. I feel like now parents coordinate kids outfits and do like these professional photos.

Most people did not do that in the nineties. Well, I was just about to say it's funny how things have evolved because I don't know of any like growing up. I don't remember there ever like now everybody knows a photographer and there's nothing wrong with that. I love that because there's people have very different styles and people are so fucking creative and good behind the lens. But I don't remember there ever like I don't remember there being like photographer jobs. It was like photographer jobs that were like in studio like J.C. Penny or like like a like a random photo studio but it wasn't like oh the photographer is going to come out to your home or go on location to shoot you, you know, in a field or, you know, at the Christmas tree farm or whatever. Like that wasn't like the thing.

Remember a long time ago how you and I talked about how you hated some people on Instagram for putting couches in fields? I hate it. That's what are they called the creatives? Like I hate it. Yeah. Like my infamous Iceland picture on the horse, like near the horse naked. Like why did the photographer think that was a good job? Like a good idea.

Because everybody was, there were people that got on the horse naked. Like everyone blew mine up because I was like pregnant in front of the horse and it looked crazy. But the women that I was with on this retreat were on the horse naked. And I was just like, why did why did anybody think this was a good idea? Okay, but do you think it's a good idea to take photos for your man like Boudoir style? Yes, I love that.

Or like, do you hate it? No, I did it before. You did? Yeah, when we broke up, he sent me the book back, thank God, because it was so expensive. But was this like in lingerie? Was this like completely nude?

I think both. Oh, wow. Like I did a whole book, like it was like, I wonder if I could find it. I hope I can find it, because if I can't find it that means somebody else. It's just appeared into the abyss No, okay, so back to the theme photos I like Seasonally themed photos, but not ones that don't make sense. So like why would we be on a couch and a cow pasture? So like, why would we be on a couch and a cow pasture?

Right, like I've seen the gowns in the cornfield and the bathing suits in the cornfield. And the, you know, we're doing just, they don't make sense. I like creatives that make sense and like, they make sense. They make, I mean, I like, if I'm doing fall themed, I want like fall themed clothing that's like on trend, leaves. I want it to look like the season, but just like us.

Mm-hmm. You know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I could not imagine having multiple children and trying to coordinate outfits, but back to what I was saying about my dad, we looked like we were off of a JC Penney catalog. Like he did both of our hair, his own hair, our outfits coordinated with his outfit. Like you couldn't tell that man shit. I love that. And you know, I hated a curling iron for most of my life and straightened

my hair mostly through high school. I don't even think I owned a curling iron in high school because I had, my mom never got me ready. So it was always just like brush your hair and do whatever the fuck you want, but like I'm not helping you. That's terrible. If I ever had a daughter, I feel like that would be like, I would love to do that.

But she was never like a girly girl, like she played basketball and ran track in school. And so she's a runner, she's a track star. So she was much better suited to be like a boy mom. Okay. My dad was very suited to be a girl dad. I love that. And that man brought up the curling iron all the time and burnt my ears so many times that I was just terrified of a curling iron. So not until I got grown did I get one and can you believe that I went had my hair blown out I just barely ran through it

and it looks like this, this is pretty good. But I'm convinced when you go to a hair salon and get your hair like, like I don't know what they're doing back there, but I'm gonna say professionally washed. It feels so much cleaner than whenever you wash it yourself at home and no one argued with me because it is a fact. I have gone to certain places for like a blowout. We don't have blowout places here like no blow dry bars, no nothing. So you

would have to go to like a full service salon to get a blowout which is incredibly inconvenient. But I've been to ones where they do like the five minute scalp massage with the wash. Wait what? You've never, are you serious? No, I've never had like a scalp massage. I mean, they use like their fingernails like I love hair stylists that have like long fingernails because you know, definitely New York where they massage your scalp with the wash, because you're coming in for a bloat. Like, it's one of those things where it's like, I feel like it's such like a short service, like to make it worth your while,

they give you like the five minute scalp massage and I live for it and I'm like, there's just nothing better. Trent and I were actually in this little, I don't know what you would call it, uh, boutique type shop. They have like all the on-trend brands, but they have like an eclectic variety of stuff. So it's almost like, think of like you're going to your grandma's house and it's like shit that she has, but it's just like all on-trend.

No, this is like literally what I, that's the kind of shop that I want on, like I want to open. Okay, well this place, you just need to go to it because they have absolutely everything that you can think of. And they had back, like old school back massagers that we had like back in the nineties. And remember those scalp massagers that have like the long legs on them?

Yes. And I was in there just like rubbing on my hair. It was like a bear claw back massager. I was using that. And then I thought, how many people have come into this place and use this and put this on their head? And then I just put it on my head. I basically have lice.

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I think that you are either a big egg person or you hate eggs. I'm not a like an I'm not a breakfast person in general. Look at what I have right here. I'm waiting for them to cool down. Like that just doesn't sound good to me. Like I'll eat like I'll eat a hard boiled egg, a deviled egg, and I'll eat eggs but I just don't I'm not a breakfast person. And I'll eat eggs, but I just don't, I'm not a breakfast person. I just love them so much. I could eat eggs for every meal. Really? I have three scrambled eggs with cheese, no salt,

just pepper. I could eat it for every meal and never get bored of it. I could eat deviled eggs for every meal. But I need to know if you are cooking scrambled eggs for your children. How many eggs, like let's say you're cooking for a family on a weekend, how many eggs are you cooking? Like 12, 13.

For your house, you're cooking 12. Well, if I'm with Trent and we have our kids, we cook eight, so that's probably about right. Yeah, we'll use a whole carton, a whole dozen of eggs. But Jackson hates eggs. Oh really? Yeah, I don't, none of my kids hate eggs. I think Isaac's not really a big scrambled egg eater.

The rest of them will eat scrambled eggs, Lincoln's hit or miss, but my two, you know, Lux and Creed, they're both of that. It's crazy because to me, they are literal spinoffs of Christopher Michael Lopez. Like even Creed that looks blonde he is the blonde version of Chris they even eat the same like they eat the same shit as Chris the same way and Chris dips his bacon and applesauce

wait what? yeah it's kind of like I don't know I think it's you know how some people put cinnamon on their bacon you said that you'd hate it mm-hmm it's, you know how some people put cinnamon on their bacon, you said that you'd hate it. It's like that sweet, savory thing. I feel like Chris is the same with the bacon and applesauce. I don't know why he learned it, how he learned it. I have no fucking clue, but even Lux and Creed eat their bacon that way. Do you ever wonder when people do like weird stuff

with their food, it's like, okay, at what point did you learn that and like why are those two things like an option together for you to even know to do that? Javier and Lincoln both put ketchup on their rice. Wait, what? Disgusting, like what possessed you to put ketchup on rice? Again, how do you even know to do that?

Like why is it ketchup out? That doesn't even sound good. I've heard people putting ketchup on rice. How, again, how do you even know to do that? Like why is the ketchup out? That doesn't even sound good. I've heard people putting ketchup on eggs. I've heard of ketchup on mac and cheese. Wait, what? Yeah, like a little dab, like a little dab of ketchup on mac and cheese. Yeah.

Okay, are all of your kids also, I was having this conversation this weekend with some of my girlfriends, you will literally slave away on holiday food and your kids will not touch the macaroni and cheese that you've slaved away at. No, everyone loves Elijah's homemade mac and cheese, so that's getting eaten. What's he doing to it? I don't, he's putting some fucking magic juice in it.

I don't know, but my kids love it. I even went out to dinner on Sunday and I even overheard from across the table, Isaac was telling our family friend's daughter about Elijah's mac and cheese. And I overheard it and I looked at Elijah. I was like, he's at a restaurant talking about your mac and cheese. Cause they're already gearing up for the holiday

because they're gonna get it. They're like, I don't care. Yeah, they didn't care. I restaurant talking about your mac and cheese. Because they're already gearing up for the holiday because they're gonna get it. They're like, I don't care. Yeah, they didn't care what I was talking about. But is it like a soupy version or is it like a bubbly version? No, it's like, it's a baked version. And it's like super cheesy, but it's like a golden color on top.

So it's not like soupy. That's how my naming makes hers too. It's just like, you put your whole dick in this because I don't know, like. Like, it's so good. He made it the other day, like on a random, I wanna say it was just like on a random,

there was, I think it was Saturday. Cause Lincoln is this new, like Lincoln's so funny. He's like, I just want so, like a random day. There was, I think it was Saturday. Cause Lincoln is this new like Lincoln's so funny. He's like, I just want soul food. Like, you know how like, not women, but like all adults, like you're just in the mood for like Mexican or you're in the, you're in the mood for pasta or like whatever. Yeah, you're craving.

Yes. Lincoln's like, I just want soul food. I just want soul food. I just want soul food. So Elijah was like, all right, say less. So he really just threw it down in the kitchen on Saturday before they went to their dads and fried chicken greens, mac and cheese, green beans. Listen, if somebody knows this is going to be a very taboo thing for me to say, but if somebody knows how to make good greens, I might marry him. taboo thing for me to say, but if somebody knows how to make good greens, I might marry them. Yeah, greens are very hit or miss for me. They have to be made correctly. Because

I've had some really good greens and I've had some greens that I'm like, Oh, I'll never eat greens again, because they almost ruined it for me. I have to admit that I never had greens until like within the last two years. What? Greens are not like big in the north, like up where I'm from, like Northern Pennsylvania. You don't hear about greens at all. Oh, my nanny, like when we were growing up, and this is so weird because as a child, you wouldn't think it would be like a favorite meal.

But I lived for her collard greens and spear ribs, and she cooks like a cake of cornbread on the side Got it sounds so good. It's so good like it will Make you slap your mama if you could find her I have never tasted better cornbread than my girlfriend bone her mom Makes the best cornbread I've ever had in my entire life and so far nothing in this world has beat it And I just need to know exactly how it's done. But is it yellow or white?

It's yellow. Okay, so you like sweet cornbread. Is there another option? Yeah, there's like a white version. And then the yellow version is the sweeter version. The white version is more... Cakey? I would say it's more of like a savory taste versus like a sweet taste. Okay. And I prefer different versions with different meals. That makes sense. That makes

sense. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But back to the macaroni and cheese. I would go out on a limb and I'm going to do a poll. How many people's kids prefer either Kraft or Velvita over homemade macaroni and cheese? Because it's every child that I know. Yeah, Lincoln's definitely picking craft over homemade. But Lincoln's a big mac and cheese eater. Lincoln's probably the most like me when it comes to mac and cheese.

And I love craft. You already know that. I've preached on it for years. You're a craft girl. Yes, I'm a craft girly, but I do love a good homemade mac and cheese and Lincoln. I mean, I'll ask him. I'm gonna, he doesn't have Instagram,

like I run his Instagram, so I'll text him later and ask him if he craft or the homemade, because that's a good question for him. Ken, you tell me what you've been doing this morning because it has been the dreariest day out here and it feels very spooky and very on theme with the fact that this is our October bonus episode and I'm also wearing an orange hat and what color is this? Burgundy? Burgundy. Yes and I feel very like fall, but very drab.

Like when we left the house this morning, it was pitch black outside. And it makes me feel like our kids should not be going to school. My kids do not have school tomorrow. It's like an in-service day. It's actually very, very nice out today. The sun is shining, the birds are fucking chirping.

I slept like hell last night, but today was, um, we're pink at school. So I said, breast cancer awareness. Yes. So I bought this one for myself when I bought the kids shirts, dropped everybody off, and I just got ready and came to the office. Like I went to Duncan. Oh, I have to tell, got a bagel. I have to tell you what happened to me this weekend and it honestly is the first time that I've ever even had the thought of lawsuit run through my mind. Go to Starbucks, get my first hot coffee of the season

and you know, you can order it like warm or hot. So I order a grande, warm caramel latte with almond milk. Get to the window, get the drinks in the car, go to pull off and put it up to my lips to take first sip before I get on the road. Piping hot. Piping hot. The tea is piping hot. The coffee is piping hot. The coffee is piping hot. Piping hot to the point that I have a blister on my tongue and

also on my throat. So nothing tastes right. That's the worst. I actually had a burn on the top of my the roof of my mouth. I had no idea where it came from. And like, it just it throws everything off. Like it throws the taste of things off. So then I Google like, when do you get your taste buds back after you have been a burn victim? And it's like it could take anywhere from 10 to 14 days. That seems like an extreme time, right?

Yeah. I don't know. I'm going to just cut my tongue off if this keeps going because I can't do this. Which is crazy because when I got my tongue pierced, I think my healing time was like three days. Yeah, you would think that that would be much more extreme situation than burning yourself. Right. Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Um, I need to ask you a question that came up in our Kiddy Gang group chat and I'm just appalled. Whoever, I don't know who said this.

They said they saw it on TikTok. Okay. Did Dix fart? No. But, but I don't think they do, but I know that like, you know how like when women sit down on the toilet and like there's a lot of holes, right?

Like we have the urethra, we have the vagina, we have the asshole, like we have holes. And sometimes women like will fart when they pee. Wait, what? You've never heard of this? Okay, so I they pee. Wait, what? You've never heard of this? OK, so I'm crazy. No, but tell me about it. So I just so like sometimes women, Kristen, please back me up here.

What the fuck? It hasn't happened to me in a long time. I'm just like not gassy like I used to be. Hold on one second. The guidance counselor's calling. OK. I am so sorry, you guys. Oh, hold on one second.

Hello? Bitch, answer your text messages. I will, okay. Okay, love you, bye. So back to Dick's farting. You were saying that women have lots of holes, like we're all there. And so sometimes when you sit like a woman, and it's crazy that you've never experienced this. Like if you like go to pee, like I've had this problem, like when one of my

exes and I first started having sleepovers, I was scared they were gonna think I was farting, but it was like, kind of a fart, but like, because of all the holes and then like like air would come out. No, no, no, no, back up. It is a fart. This lady is on my nerves today. Hold on. Okay. What? The best thing is to put some warm salt water in your mouth. Okay, well I need you to text me back. I'm on a recording. Okay, back. Look. Who was that? Annie Fay? Yeah. I love her so much.

I'm like, answer your text, not call back. Like what part? Wait, wait, wait. Okay, but I need you to back up on this story. When you started dating this person, and I'm going to figure out who it is as you continue to tell this story. Okay. Were you going into the bathroom after you guys were bumping ugly or or and well, no, it was a guy. Yeah, that's still called bumping ugly. Okay. Yeah, it's okay. I thought it was just for two girls. Got it. Okay. So, um, like sometimes when you

sit down, it's like this like little, like little bit of air and it's like, you can't control it. It's not like you can hold in a fart, right? Like- That's the queef. No, but it's not. It's like a fart, but like you can't control it because like you're like the urine is coming out and so like the air comes out.

So anyway, I was dating this other person years down the line and he said that when he stands to pee, sometimes he just has to like stop the pee because he's holding in a fart because the same thing happens to men. With their butthole? Yes, so it comes like their dicks don't fart, but they do fart when they're peeing.

If this, and none of this is making, like, you have to experience it to know what the fuck I'm talking about. Kristen, where the fuck are you? Because I need you to back me up right now. Wait, is it because, okay, let me, I'm just trying to get like a visual here. Is it because you're so like wide open and stuff

when you've been having sex that when you go and sit on the toilet, then you just fart? It's just from farting when you pee. Like you don't have to have sex for this to happen. Kristen goes like you mean just farting while peeing? Yes. And you can't control it. It's not like you can like hold it in.

It's not like a regular fart. I need to. Is that not just like an unannounced fart? Yes, but it's like specifically when you pee. Okay. So they say, so like the, so like a penis doesn't fart, but like when they go to the bathroom, sometimes this happens to them as well. But someone said that they saw on TikTok that men's dicks can fart.

Like it's coming out the dick. And you're saying no, that that's not. I don't think so. I don't, I don't know. I mean, I don't think so. Well, I need everyone that's listening to this to tell me if they know if their man's dicks ever farted, because I can just tell you that I text Trent this morning and said, this was my exact text, someone wrote in and told me that dicks could fart. Am I being scammed? He said, seriously? I said, is it too early for my shit?

He said, but did you actually believe that? I said, it could be true, but I don't have a wiener to test it. He said, they do not fart, Lindsay. They do not fart? They do not fart. Right. So, but you can go to pee and then they'll actually fart out of their butt. Kristen said, everyone asks their man, has someone's man's dick farted?

Kale text Elijah right now or call him actually call Elijah right now and just don't the only thing you're gonna say is hey does your dick fart he's gonna kill us he's gonna be like I'm at work hello hey do dicks fart? What? Do men, do they ever fart out of their penises? They fart out of their penises. Ever. Like if you go pee or like gas only comes out of your ass. Only gets it comes out to dick, it's pissed and seen.

Okay. Thanks. He's like, alright. Like it was a normal conversation. Why is that so normal? He's like, all right. All right. I cannot.

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Like does anybody have a grandmother that has like one thing that's like the go to you could be literally dying of some God awful disease. And this is what she says, put warm saltwater several times in your mouth a day gargle, have a great day. Love you. Wait, wait, what? Put warm saltwater in your mouth. It's not an infection.

No, she just says this or everything. Like I I text her because I knew that this was what she was gonna say. Like you could have the flu and she'll be like make sure you gargle with salt water. No, that's for infection. That's like, it draws the salt draws out the infection. Wait, what? That's why when you have like strep throat, they say to gargle with salt water. Nanny's made us gargle with salt water for every ailment that we've ever had since we, since the beginning of time. knew how to swish.

Oh, Kristen said it soothes burns. I don't know if I believe that. I think that that would just make it worse, honestly. Putting salt on a burn. Salt on a burn sounds crazy. Don't think they like don't put salt on a wound. Right. Right?

I've also texted her and asked her if she could film a makeup tutorial for us on how she does her makeup. Waiting on the answer for that. But moving on, we have lots of listener questions that we need to get to. So listener, God, this one is hard for me. This first listener says, how do you feel about the timeout method for your little ones? I'm currently using this form of discipline and it's really frustrating because it doesn't seem to work. I have mixed feelings on it.

It doesn't work for me. I've tried it. Um, I think it probably depends on the child. So what's your experience? I think it probably depends on the child. So what's your experience? I was always told that you should like back when I used to do like all these parenting readings when I was a stay at home mom. One minute per age of the child.

Yes. Yep. I did that too. So it didn't work. Like three minutes away from like whatever they were doing could remedy the issue. However, I've also been told if you're gonna use the timeout method that you always have to use the same spot for timeout and that doesn't always work

because let's say you're using the timeout method and they do something away from the house, then that kinda negates that whole thing. I've also been told never to use a child's bedroom as a form of punishment because it's supposed to be their safe place. Well, it's like not to compare children to dogs, but you're not supposed to put them in the crates when they're bad because that should be like like they're dead animals and you don't want to you don't want to give them you don't want them to be feel bad when they

go into their crate. You want it to be their safe space. So same idea. It has never worked for my kids specifically because, you know, I did try it, I was trying it, but depending on what the thing was that they got, you know, in time out for, they're more worried about getting out of timeout than they are worried about what they did that caused that they're not they do not have the capability or the capacity to understand, you know The consequences of their actions sometimes like they're have we're as as adults we have a hard time regulating emotions and Sometimes we're convinced that we did nothing wrong or how we reacted You know was perfectly fine and it takes a long time for us to realize like where we played our part

Mm-hmm. You how do you expect like a three-year-old like? For me as you guys all know Lindsay included like biggie's been a really difficult child for me Like Biggie's been a really difficult child for me. And so when he gets upset, there's no amount of timeouts that would make him understand what is going on. Whereas for Lux, I'll give him a break. We don't call it timeout.

I'll just say like, go to your room, like take a couple of minutes and when you're ready you'll talk to, like he knows. Like Lux is a child that very much is like, we'll go to his room and he'll come out on his own and be like, I'm ready to talk now. Or like, I'm done crying now. Like he's very much in tune. Um, and same for Isaac Lincoln was not that Lincoln was more so like creed.

He wouldn't understand why he's being set out. He didn't, you know, and so it really depends on the age of the children, the personality. I don't know. I'll tell you a method that really worked for me and I don't, I do not love the timeout method. I think that that is not realistic to for like long term. So you're not going to be putting 10 year old kids in timeout. So if I couldn't do it at 10, why am I doing it at five? Trying to get on his level. And Jackson's therapist told me this, she's like, if you are having a moment of conflict with your child, get down on their level where you are eye to eye with them and try to have a conversation and get to a point of understanding why they were doing what they were doing. And then they're going to understand you once they've had had a moment to see eye to eye with you to explain themselves whether it be right or wrong, then you're going to

have an opportunity to tell them why their action and what they were doing was wrong. I do believe and if you are misusing something in the house, like for example, we've had issues with throwing PlayStation controllers out of anger. You're not going to do that. You're not going to elevate yourself. If what you are doing and participating in electively is causing you to get to that point, then I'm going to remove you from that environment because you don't know how to control your emotions in that environment. Correct. So I will have a conversation and I will say, do you understand why I am removing this PlayStation

controller? And I will make him have a conversation back with me on his understanding of why I'm removing something. And I think that's the key point that you're talking about is them understanding the why, the how, the what, because, you know, if you're putting them in timeout, and again, this is a case by case basis, but you're putting them in timeout and you don't have the conversations about it, they're not, if you don't have a conversation, they might not know what the hill, like they just know they're being removed, but they don't know why. They don't know what was wrong, they don't know how might not know what the hell like they just know they're being removed but they don't know why they don't know what was wrong they don't know how and also

it's not giving them a solution to the problem either so they're just going to go back to the same type of thing with no coping skills or mechanisms to get through the PlayStation thing actually happened to us last night so um that's crazy that you said that we're here. Um, Lux was playing a game on the PlayStation and biggie's just not old enough, but they fight wants to be. Yeah, he wants to be. So he got the other controller that was not on. Um, and he thinks he's playing the game, which is fantastic. But, um, Lux was letting him use the real controller to do it. And then they started fighting. So we were like, OK, this is not going to work.

So we're just turning the PlayStation off. And you guys have to either learn how to participate together in a calm way, or we're removing it completely. And that's the end of the story. And then asking, do you understand why we took it away? And basically repeating it back, but in their own little way. Like, yeah, Creed wants a controller. And I didn't want to give it to him, but I gave it to him and he didn't listen, whatever it is. But if you don't, to your point, just take them out of that

environment and they have to understand the why. Remember when I was telling you about Jackson going in the attic and how it was like so scary because he could fall through the ceiling. Oh, I wasn't about the insulation too. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So in that situation, just to give like another example, I got on his level and explained to him like why that is so dangerous and why we don't do stuff like that and why that could

have turned completely different than what it did. And just because something didn't happen one time doesn't mean that it won't happen another time. So we have to be very mindful when we're choosing our actions to not choose to do dangerous things. And so for us, timeout method never really worked. Not that we didn't try it for some period of time,

because again, Will and I were married and have completely different parenting styles, and he believes in that. He also believes in, if Jackson's not eating his dinner, he's gonna put him on a timer, and if he's not done eating the dinner that he was told to eat by the time that the timer goes off, then he goes to bed.

And Jackson, that's worked for them in his house because he completely cleans his plate at his house. I don't require a clean place. Isn't that interesting now? Because same thing for my kids at my house with specifically with food, we've had this conversation like, what our kids do at our house and what they do at their dad's house is so different based on parenting styles. I don't make my kids eat if they're not hungry. I just don't. But, allegedly, and again, I don't, I don't, not a fucking fly on the wall over there. They clean their plates at their dad's. Certain plates.

I mean, but their dads might be requiring them to have clean plates. Will always has said a clean plate is a happy plate. His mom was a public school educator for 30 years. She was the one who advised Will to put Jackson on a timer. I don't believe in the timer method if he's not hungry. What is the time of four? Jackson will oftentimes not as much now, because he's a 10-year-old growing boy.

But when he was probably like five or six years old, he would stall and do everything that he could possibly do to not eat. And it's like, okay, well, we're all eating family dinner. And once we get done with this, it's going to be time for us to clean up the kitchen and you take a bath and, you know, all these things. So there's a time and a place to do this. And that time and place is now. So we started implementing this timer method and it was a complete fight when we first started doing it. And Jackson would literally watch the timer on the microwave and watch it go down, go

down, go down, and then he would start shoveling food. And to me, I just feel like that creates unhealthy eating habits because maybe he's not eating because he's not hungry. He might be eating, not eating because he's trying to be spiteful. I don't know what it is, but there's consequences for every action, right? So you get up from the table and you haven't cleaned your plate

and you come back and you start talking about how you're hungry, then I'm gonna have a conversation with you on why it was important for you to eat whenever you were served. I'm going to have a conversation with you on why it was important for you to eat whenever you are served. I'm going to try the timer method, not because I want my kids, not because I want to feed my kids when they're not hungry, but my kids are more because the playroom is right next to the kitchen.

Mm hmm. They're constantly wanting to go like they go back to the playroom. Yes. And especially the two little ones like Luxe and Creed specifically. I'm going to set it for a different I'm going to try this for a different reason. I'm going to try a timer just like, okay, all we need is you know, just 20 minutes. If you can just sit here and you can take your time eat as much or as little as you want. But just to give them like a time where they know it's like, okay, this is the start

and stop. Not because I like if they if they still don't want to eat fine, but like you're going to sit with us, you know, right? I'm gonna try it for for that reason. Like last night, the kids love that goes back to what you said though about the important family time at dinner. Like maybe explaining it like that like, hey, this is designated 20 or 30 minutes of family time. So even if you were not eating during this time, just still designated 20 or 30 minutes of family time. So even if you were not eating during this time, just still weren't going to be doing anything else. Right, right, right. Like you're not going to be in the playroom. Yeah, half the family is sitting at the table. You know, like, okay, so I might, I might try it for that. So thanks,

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Carly Russell update. And as I was trying to get ready to get on recording, I was literally hollering, laughing. No, because I had seen like the regular footage of Carly Russell getting, is it convicted and died it and dictated, whatever. And she looked like she was walking. I'll never live that down ever. That was like 2018, never live it down. So I saw the original stuff, but then one of my favorite creators, Landon Romano, he's so fucking funny on TikTok.

So he has it playing in the background and he's doing commentary. And his commentary just set me the fuck off. Like, it took me out. She literally loves and is eating up the attention she's getting because she walked into that courtroom or out of that courtroom, I don't know. Like she was walking in New York Fashion Week.

You know, I think we have probably said this before, but if we haven't, I'm going to reiterate my thoughts. It's kind of like the serial killers and stuff that commit these horrific crimes. And some of them, when they study the psychology on these people, are doing this stuff for the notoriety, even though it's so heinous. And so that's where I love the media but hate it because I love to be informed and I love following stuff like this. But at the same time, I hate it for the fact that the people that are doing this stuff

are getting their rocks off to being publicly followed and getting this attention. Like Chris Watts, for example. Yeah. Someone posted in our Kitty Gengroot chat too that, and it's all speculation of course, but this woman commented on like his fan page and was like, I'm getting married to him next year.

Like we've fallen in love and this time, like you fell in love with a murderer of his family? You're in this for attention. He loves the attention. Carly Russell loves the attention. Fucking Ted Bundy loved the attention. Y'all are a bunch of sick fucks. Mm hmm. It's it's sick. So I watched I watched Landon's TikTok and that is one tick talker. If you're trying to be like, sneaky bed watching TikTok, make sure your volume's down because number one, he's loud as hell. And number two, you're going to be cackling. So it's just going to

be shaking the bed. Yeah, to the noise. Yeah. The TikTok was so funny, but she appeared in court for and court for the fake kid, the, what would you, the hoax, yeah, for the kidnapping. And it says that she was facing two misdemeanor charges for falsely reporting to law enforcement and falsely reporting an incident which could carry up to a year in jail and a hefty fine. She entered not guilty pleas and municipal court on Wednesday, but was found guilty by a judge who recommended up to a year in jail and a fine for over $17,000. She remained out of jail, but she was found guilty without presenting a defense to a jury, but an appeal sends her case to circuit court where she has the right to trial by jury.

I'm just uncertain as to how wide that would even be a process because the facts are the facts. She did what she did. I don't know if she did. She did what she did. Also, 17,000 seems like a slap on the wrist. I mean, all perspective, right? So don't know what her buying status is.

The resources that she abused and used cost well over 17,000. So that to me sounds- I feel like they said how much it costs, but I can't remember. I can't remember the number of what they said that they spent and resources. I'll just say this woman had Alabama, the entire state of Alabama, the United States, and all of social media looking for her. And I watch, I am embarrassed to even say that I spent like $3.99, I think it was on Amazon Prime to watch the documentary that they did on her. Oh, you had to pay for it? Well, if I didn't, I did.

I didn't watch it, so I didn't know. I paid $3.99 for it. It wasn't, I did. I didn't watch it, so I didn't know. I paid $3.99 for it. It wasn't long at all. I don't feel like there's really much to tell considering they were able to put the pieces together so easily after a certain amount of days. But she was literally at the red roof in if we're basing just off of this documentary what she was doing. It shows her at the Red Roof Inn eating snacks. No. Watching the news. No. No.

Like you were doing all of this like you are at Regal Cinema while the world is looking for you. And she loved every fucking bit of it. Every bit of it. And she shows up. Um, the, the part of Landon's TikTok that like had me flatlining was, he was like, she acts like she, she's at fashion week. No, literally. And then he brought it.

He's like, whatever you think the glasses are gonna do. That was so funny. Like, why is it why did that like footage not really look like the footage that of her in the beginning, it looked like a different person to me. Well, we could say the same about us. Look at what we look like when we record and then we put ourselves together and look like we're really different humans. But her hair was laid. It was Completely done. She had her glasses on she was strutting her stuff like she knew what the fuck was up. It's got ready for court She's ready for her day. She showed She showed up. Okay. Um,

We have a little bit of a follow-up Regarding me and the Halloween candy topic. There's a true crime story on why it's a smart idea to swap out your child's candy. Ronald O'Brien, aka the Candy Man, was a dad who poisoned his son, daughter, and three other random kids with Halloween candy to collect life insurance money. That's crazy. Yes.

So, um, in that kind of- Why does the link say Wikipedia though? Well, listen, wait, do you remember? We always taught not to, not to trust Wikipedia. Let me Google this man. Google Ronald Clark O'Brien. Okay. He, okay. So this was back in the 70s. Oh no, you're right.

Okay, can we maybe not use the Wikipedia link because nobody's gonna believe that? Okay, well we can post another more credible link, but this is a run down, an accurate run down of what happened. He took his two children trick or treating in Texas, just like in a neighborhood. And his neighbor and his two children were with them.

So they visit this home where the person did not answer the door, which would be somebody like me. And the children grew impatient, ran ahead to the next home, and he stayed behind. He eventually gets caught up with a group and produced five 21-inch pixie sticks that he would later claim that he was giving from the occupant of the home that did not answer. And at the end of the evening,

he gave each of his neighbors two children a pixie stick and upon returning home, he gave the fifth pixie stick to a 10-year-old boy who he recognized from church. Before bed, one of the children asked to eat candy and he chose the pixie stick. So he had trouble getting the powdered candy out of the straw and Timothy helped him loosen out the

powder and after tasting the candy, the child said that it tasted bitter. He then gave his son Kool-Aid to wash away the taste and then the child immediately began complaining that his stomach hurt, ran to the bathroom, where he started vomiting and convulsing. And then his arms went like limp. And then he went to the hospital less than an hour

after consuming the candy. And he was, he died. The little boy died. Yeah. His own father killed him with candy. And the police, what was crazy was, and I don't even know that this is crazy because who really thinks about this stuff

unless you are... Demented? No, I was about to say, who really thinks about this stuff unless you're like a super cautious parent like me? Like the majority of people probably are just like assuming that people are good and have good intent. But someone like me, I assume that everybody is doing the wrong thing and maybe that's

the wrong way to live life, but I'm just a super skeptic. But the police didn't originally suspect that there was any wrong doings, but it was an autopsy done. And it revealed that the pixie stick that had been consumed was laced with a fatal dose of potassium cyanide. But how did they trace it back to him? I wonder, did he like have that in his house? Like I wonder how they figured out it was him. I'm gonna assume that, oh, because they questioned O'Brien

and asked if like which house he got the pixie sticks from. But how would you know that? Like that was his first mistake because, no, that wasn't his first mistake. That was one of his mistakes because if I take my kids to court treating, I don't know what they're getting from each house because they're probably walking in front of me and open their bag and they stick it in. You get what I'm saying? So like, how would you know?

The crazy thing is though, is if he just did this to like his kids, he probably would have gotten away with it because not until these other parents were like questioning this stuff, did it take a turn? And he was the common denominator with all the children. So he could have got that's sick. And that's it. That is so sick. Yeah, I'm, I don't, you guys know, I don't typically do Halloween, but it does fall in

my week and Chris, you know, he lives far. So I am going to do it this year. I am going to take Lindsay Chrissy's advice. I'm switching out the candy. I'm going to hide it in the house and I'm going to switch it out because I just don't, I don't want to take any risks. And I am just nervous because while I don't think that anything like that would happen around here, I just feel like you never know. You don't know and unfortunately for us, it also makes me freaked out. Like I'm not an important person. I'm just regular, but I can't help like when I start going down these like slippery slopes of thoughts. I can't help but think like what if someone like hated me and my child went to their house for like trick or treat

and they put something like bad in his bag? People hate me. Like, you've seen it. People hate my fucking guts. So that's, and like truly there's at least two pages on Instagram that I truly believe that those people, and I've said it before, this is not the first time I've said it. Like I truly believe the people that run those two accounts would kill me if they saw me. Like a hundred and ten percent.

I have no doubts. I wish I knew who they were. Probably someone close to me, which is kind of crazy, but I agree with you. You don't know just to just to get the last laugh like, oh, let me poison Kale's kids. People hate my guts. get the last laugh like, oh, let me poison Kale's kids. People hate my guts. No, actually I wanna ask people who don't celebrate Halloween, like what would be a good way for me to celebrate and make it still feel festive

without celebrating actual Halloween? Like what are things that I could do that would make it fun? You, you could do a boo basket. Like you can get Jackson like a little boo basket where it has like, um, like a Halloween vibe blanket. Someone actually someone gifted me a boo basket. Um, I had them on barely famous and it had like a Halloween puzzle, a little Halloween craft for the kids.

Um, it did have like, um, like a skull jar. I'll take a picture of it. It's empty now because my kids ate all the kids. It did have like a skull jar. I'll take a picture of it. It's empty now because my kids ate all the candy. And she they packed it with like a little bit of candy. You put like something like that. And we did the puzzle over the weekend. The kids loved it. It was like a, I don't know, like 200, 200 piece puzzle, something like that. Like a little Halloween craft, something like that. Like a little Halloween craft, something like that. And put it on like Hocus Pocus.

So I thought about to try to stay away from like Halloween like movies, cause I also don't do that. I thought about maybe doing like a themed night that would be festive, like a fall themed night and have fall themed stuff. So we could make like caramel apples and you know like, pizzas in the shapes of pumpkins and stuff like that and I think that we are gonna pull out from the archives Miss

Doubtfire because he's never seen it. Okay. And it was like a childhood favorite yep movie of mine. And so I think we're going to pull that one out of the archives and watch that. Anybody who has not watched Ms. Doubtfire that is listening to this, what is wrong with you? Like Kyle and I watched that with my nanny and papa so many times that we broke the V, what are they called VHS broke the VHS and my papa had to go track one down at Blockbuster and bought it from Blockbuster to replace it. We watched it so many times after my parents divorced.

And I don't know if it was just because those kids were going through something similar that we really like resonated with that movie. Yeah. But an absolute favorite. So I think we're going to do something like that. Okay, people constantly ask us in our Facebook group for coffee combos, what are some good money saving budgeting apps, tips for building credit, saving money, all of those things. And we cannot recommend Rocket Money enough. You guys know that we love Rocket Money. I saved for my in-ground pool using Rocket Money. I'm also currently saving to build a pool house if you guys didn't know that. And I was able to

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combos, rocketmoney.com slash coffee combos. Another listener writes in and says, can we talk about school fundraisers? And I feel like we've talked about this a little bit before. How stressful they are And are they even supposed to be stressful? Or is it just me overthinking? Here's the thing. This is because I used to go so fucking hard for these school fund racers. Like I'm talking Isaac and Lincoln multiple years in a row have won big, big prizes that are like literally vending machine shit, which I feel defeats the whole purpose. Like give them just like one thing

that's like worth like a big ticket item instead of all this like junk, because you're spending money on the junk that's supposed to like you're supposed to be raising. Anyway, my kids all brought fundraisers home this year. And I decided we're not doing them, we're not participating because when you are a parent that is now, now I would say a lot of the people that I would ask to buy things from have kids. So all their kids have fundraisers. So for that, I might as well just make a donation

to the school or buy the teacher's gift cards, 15, 20 bucks to Amazon. And from what I understand from my friends that are teachers, they're not getting virtually anything from these fundraisers. They're getting literally pennies. So you're better off just like donating gift cards or something to the schools.

So I think I talked about this at some point that absolutely love Jackson's schools idea behind fundraisers. They only do one a year and it's a fun run. That makes sense to me. That makes perfect sense to me. Came home yesterday. So what does that do?

It's still sitting here. Okay. And for a week, the students do donations for this run and it's based off of class, not like the school together. Okay. So they do for team rewards. So it's classroom based. So everybody like in that specific classroom is working towards a specific goal. And so we will do like grandparents, like I'll ask, would use to ask like my parents, Will's parents, my biological mom, and they'll give to this for Jackson and then Will and I individually give this to him.

But I like the way they do the prize is they do a lot of group based stuff. So it for like the classrooms that when or reach like a certain threshold, they will earn a pizza party for the entire class. So like everybody's included. And then the things that are under that like leading up to this classroom party, it might be an ice cream party, pizza party, whatever, or they can wear like hats to school stuff that they can that they can actually like use and they get excited about or items they get excited about like school, school labeled, you know, like the long socks

the kids are wearing now, like stuff like that, t-shirts, sweatshirts, water bottles. That stuff makes sense to me. I don't, the, I remember last year, a couple of my friends that didn't have kids like, bought from mine and like other people's that had kids. But then I was like, oh, well, buy from your kids because they go to a different school

and you can buy from my kids because we go to a different school. But it's just too much. Like the, what you're describing makes it also, back when we talked about sports fundraising with like the bedsheets, that makes sense to me. Those things are usable items. Yes. Like practical shit. Like I don't want.

And when my kids won the award, like the prizes for like fundraising in the past, I don't want that in my house. Oh, I know. I hate fricking clutter. I'm working so hard to just like declutter stuff that's built up around here. I don't want clutter brought into my house, but if it's like usable stuff, like the socks or, you know. The sheets, the socks that had day, love that.

Like even if it's like school branded, I don't care. I don't care. How do I go about like suggesting these to this because I used to be on the board at Lincoln's football but obviously since he doesn't play football anymore I'm not right to the PTA okay so I would write to the PTA and just say like I just have a couple suggestions about fundraising like yeah you know here are some practical fundraising that would be more beneficial, like something like that. And I can send you what Jackson School does

because I don't know of any other schools around here that has like perfected it in this way. We only fundraise one time a school year. So that's nice for one week. And I feel like they have all the prizes. I don't know if we just have like a phenomenal PTA or what it is, but the prizes are great. The kids get excited about it.

They all get rewards. It's a fun run. Yeah. They just do like a little run and I think it's up to like 30 laps or something and it's based off of how much you raise and it's classroom based. Does that make sense? Yeah. Can you send them either information? Cause I seriously will write to the PT.

Yeah. I'll be like, Hey, listen, just no suggestion for next year. It's so good. Okay. And we have one more listener topic and then we're going to do foul play. This listener says, I have a situation and I'm torn and I need some help. My sister is having a baby in a few months and she doesn't want anyone at the hospital but me and her husband. She doesn't want our parents there. Our mom, I understand. Our dad is where I'm struggling. He always means well but can come off too much sometimes and she doesn't want the stress of that. But I'm really close to my dad and I just don't want to see him hurt if he isn't there. I know

it's not about him. I just want to find a way to protect everyone's feelings. And this is a simple answer for me. This is your sister's baby. And it's not your boundaries. It's hers. And so I think at the point that you don't respect the decisions that she's making and your boundaries look different than hers, then that's a conversation for you to have and maybe for you to step out. But I don't think that it's anybody's place to determine regardless of whose feelings

you think are gonna be hurt. If it's not you giving birth, it's not your child, you're just part of an experience that's bigger than you, then I don't think that we should be sticking our nose in places where it doesn't belong. That's my opinion. Yeah, I would just say like, unfortunately, she can have that conversation.

Like if your sister is the one that needs to have the conversation with y'all's dad about this, then let so be it. But I don't think that it's your job or your place to facilitate him being there if that's not in her wishes or what she wants. So unfortunately, someone's feelings may get hurt, but everyone's entitled to have their boundaries

and some feelings do get hurt and that's what it is. And everyone's boundaries aren't the same. I think as we get older, we have to learn that just because somebody has different boundaries than you, like you can respect those boundaries and they still look different than what yours are. Yeah, you don't have to agree with them. You don't have to agree with them, but you should respect them if you're going to involve

yourself. This kind of makes me think of me thinking the other day when I have another child who I would have there and that stresses me out. I don't want anyone but my partner in the room. But like at the hospital period, like you don't want anybody there. I don't like hospital visitors. It's too stressful. It's a weird time.

I would rather have visitors come to my house. I know you have opposite feelings on this, but I would rather have visitors at the house when I need to take a nap and you guys want to hold the baby. Great. Let me take a nap while y'all take turns holding the baby. Let me take a nap while y'all take turns holding the baby and doing the dishes. Y'all help me out in real ways. It's so funny that you say that because you and I are exact opposite on that situation. I would rather have all the hospital visitors in a medical setting. And then when we go home, I'm exiting from the hospital experience. I'm exiting from everybody's energy and I'm

going home with just my spouse and my child and we're going to rest in our new piece, hopefully piece. And I don't want to be bothered. Now, a mother-in-law would be great to do all the things that you're saying, but outside of that, I don't have any interest in visitors. And then it made me think, okay, well, in the event that I get remarried, have another child, there's going to be natural curiosity from the spouses before. So like, do you allow them to come? Because I feel like it would be fine. It just depends on the relationship. Like I visited V in the hospital when she had her

daughter. Like I wouldn't think that that would be weird at all because we have kids with other people. They invited me, said that I could bring Isaac. I would invite. Yeah. So it would just, it just depends on, you know, the relationship. You know, if they wanted to come to my house, I would say no to the hospital. But if they wanted to come to my house, I would probably say yes. Because you have to consider like whoever you're with in my situation, they had a life before you, right?

And if they have kids with someone else and then I have a child with someone else, ultimately us having a child together is changing their lives in some way, because their kids lives are changing, right? So they're gaining a sibling. So I feel like it would be an appropriate thing to be like, Hey, like, you're more than welcome to bring them if you want to come out Someone. Foul play. Foul play. Hey, beauties. I have a Halloween foul play for you.

This is a long one, so buckle up. I've never been much of a drinker. I'm talking three beers and I'm drunk and my husband doesn't really drink at all, so he will have one beer and call it quits. Well, a few years ago, my husband and I were invited to a Halloween party at a friend's house. So after taking the kids trick or treating, we stopped by planning on just saying, Hey, and having one drink and heading home. Well, the party was bumping and we actually started to have a good time.

Well, my husband decided not to have any drinks. I decided to have several and several I did. My husband decided it's time to take the 30 minute ride home on the twisty hilly roads that are country Pennsylvania. Wow, sounds about right. Sure enough, on the way home, I tell him to pull over because I have to puke. He ends up pulling over three times in 30 minutes to let me puke. Oh, God, he should just say stopped. Right, like just give me a minute. I don't know about anyone else, but ever since I had kids, if I puke, I pee. So at this point, I'm in the car drunk off my ass, sitting in my own pee. When we get home, I go straight to my bedroom and strip naked while my husband takes care

of the kids and try to go to sleep. Disgusting, I know, but I literally couldn't function. Meanwhile, my 100% sober husband is taking care of the kids and tells our oldest daughter, we will call Emily, my stepdaughter, who is 12 at the time to go shower. Well, almost immediately when she gets in, I have to puke again. I bust through the door, but naked and say Emily, don't open the curtain. I begin to puke and pee and also diarrhea all over the floor. I'm so drunk, but I managed to find a towel

laying on the floor and try to wipe up the poop and pee so that my daughter didn't see it, but it was everywhere. I get as much cleaned up as I as my drunk ass can and clean myself up, but I can't get away from the toilet because I can't stop puking. My husband comes into the bathroom at this point and covers me with another towel while laying over the toilet and tells Emily to get out. He is furious with me at this point, but instead of leaving me, he cleans he cleans me up and runs me a shallow bath. I lay in the tub for God only knows how Emily to get out. He is furious with me at this point, but instead of leaving me, he cleans me up and runs me a shallow bath. I lay in the tub for God only knows how long while I'm doing, I'm sorry to my husband. The next day I was so embarrassed and Emily

had to go back to her mom's. I told my husband to tell her not to tell her mom and I hid in my room until she left. So embarrassing. To this day, he never lets me live it down and brings it up every Halloween. We laugh now, but I will never drink like that again. PS my wonderful husband also deep cleaned my car, car seat the next day too. I love you guys and hope you all have a great Halloween. Okay, absolutely hate when something like monumental happens on a holiday, where it's like, I will forever be

reminded of this, right? Yeah. Like this situation happening to this person, she will never go another Halloween in her life for as long as she lives with that man. And unless he gets dementia that she will not hear about this. Yeah. Sounds about right. Number two, I'm pretty sure that I heard one time that Halloween is the heaviest drinking day of the year.

Wait, why? It's not a weekday. I was at college. Well, it's not always on a weekday. Almost. And sometimes people celebrate Halloween like if it falls on a Monday or a Tuesday, sometimes they'll just celebrate it on that Sunday or Saturday. Like sometimes even neighborhoods around here will do that.

When I was growing up, I remember they wouldn't ever have trick or treating on like a weekday. It was always on a, where I grew up. You did the trick or treating before the weekday of, if it was Halloween on a weekday. That's really interesting. I did not know that about drinking. I would never think to, I'm also not a drinker,

so I don't know about drinking culture at all, not judging anyone that drinks. I just, I wouldn't think to, I'm also not a drinker, so I don't know about drinking culture at all. Not judging anyone that drinks, I just, I wouldn't know that people drink on Halloween. Like I wouldn't know that. Actually, I just Googled it and it says, the biggest drinking day of the year is Blackout Wednesday, also known as drinks giving, the night before Thanksgiving.

So maybe, yeah, so maybe I'm wrong, but it says- Also wouldn't picture that. I would think like New Year's Eve, Fourth of July, like those types of holidays I would think would be my guess. It says of all the holidays, Halloween ranks number five in terms of overall alcohol consumption. So I don't know. I guess I just heard that fact in college

because it probably was the heaviest drinking day for us of the year. Oh yeah, because for new years, you guys are on break in between semesters. You're not in school for 4th of July. So yeah, I mean, for college students, the Halloween situation makes sense. Excuse me, the Halloween situation makes sense.

I fear for all parents who have children, specifically daughters, and college on Halloween. The costumes, I was looking back on photos from my old Facebook, appalled. Also the amount of drinking, hunch punch, completely appalled. What is it? Hunch punch. You've never heard of this? I've heard of jungle juice. So it's like I'm going to be doing a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little We either did, well, I've never done it in the bathtub, but you know those big Tupperware, like bins? We would do it in there. I mean, I never drank it, but I've had parties where we've had it. I just need to know every person.

Kristen says, don't remind me. Oh, she's traumatized. Wait, she traumatized by the- Jungle juice. Jungle juice. So is my girlfriend, Kway, she traumatized by the- Jungle juice. Jungle juice. So is my girlfriend Kway, and I will tell that story another day. Okay, but I have never, okay, number one, when I drink, I never get sick. Like that's not a thing for me.

I just drink and go to bed. Number two, I just wonder, the people who drink and get diarrhea like that. Is it because they're allergic to the alcohol? No, it's the dad's day after drinking shit. Sometimes it's from the sugar. It's a what? Dad's. But what if it's not the day after?

What if like this lady? Well, it could be the night. So from what I understand and don't quote me on this is like the sugar in like the mixed drinks and stuff like that or I'm not sure if there's sugar and beer, which I feel like there is will cause diarrhea. Oh God. Yeah. So that sounds tragic.

The first time I ever drank at a college party was with Jose Miraquin and I'm so glad that when we went to that college party we stayed at separate houses that night because I had the dad didn't drink and so I didn't know that when we went to that college party, we stayed at separate houses that night because I didn't drink. And so I didn't know that the dad's was a thing. And I shipped my brains out thankfully before he drove us home the next day because I was so embarrassed that I was like, what if I would have had to ship my brains out?

And we were in the car, in his car. You know what I mean? Like that would have been so embarrassing. I think I could find pictures of us. we were in the car and within his car. You know what I mean? Like that would have been so embarrassing. No. No. I think I can find pictures of us. Diarrhea is like the most embarrassing thing ever. Like I don't think that it never becomes not embarrassing. I don't care if you're five or if you're 35. Agreed. 100% like I would like I hate throwing up. I hate it, but I don't get embarrassed from throwing up. I get embarrassed from having diarrhea.

I get embarrassed of shit. It's actually Will was telling me the other night he was like, do you remember when we were married and you would close like five doors to take a shit? And I'm like, yes, specifically I do. And I still do that. Goodbye. Okay. Next person says, Hi ladies, I love you both and finally have a funny, fallish play for the spooky season. One year after trick or treating with my nephews, I went over to this guy's house who lived on the same block as we were trick or treating in. After all the kids stopped coming, one thing led to the next and I gave him head. Okay. So totally forgot my face was painted. Oh my god, painted as a skeleton clown and he realized my entire face rubbed off on his

lower belly groin area literally looked like someone painted his belly as a skeleton clown. I had removed the rest of my makeup while I was cracking up laughing. We're still good friends but not that kind of friend to this day and still get a good laugh whenever we bring it up. I hope you guys got a good laugh too. Could you imagine giving head with face paint? No, I couldn't because I'm just like, what the fuck is going on? Like, how could you even take it seriously?

Or could he even get off? Like, if you're just looking down and you just like see like, could he even like get off, you know? Like if you're just looking down and you just like, you just see a clown like bobbing, like that's weird. That's yeah. That's like next level. It's so weird. Okay. Last foul play for the day.

Hey, kitty gang. I have some juicy stories, but this one burns. A few years ago, I was preparing to pull out my fall decor as as basic bitches do every late August, early September, I was getting some cleaning done and switching my plugins to fall smells at the same time. This bitch is like a fast forward to that night, my husband, my hubby and I had been giving each other sexy eyes all day and the sexual tension was intense. Knowing in the back

of my head, where the night was going and pulled out a vibrator and later on the nightstand. Things got heated literally and figuratively and my husband starts using the toy on me. Oh no. Oh no. Oh no. My whole cat was on fire. I tell him to stop and explain what I'm feeling. We start to look at the vibrator and notice a strong smell of pumpkin spices. I guess when I was changing the plugins earlier, one of them had leaked on the nightstand and the and the point it corroded the paint. Imagine what I was what it was doing to my cat. I was able to wash off most of it with don just show. But man, what a pumpkin spice disaster. Love you ladies. I'm a fan of all the podcasts.

First of all, thanks for listening to all of our shows. Secondly, the Dawn dish soap is going to continue to take me out because my nanny does that for absolutely everything. So love that for you. Um, that is why I need to do a question box on our story on our coffee combo story about like unconventional unconventional ways you use Dondish soap specifically. Like I would love to know. Because no work. We should just do like unconventional like the Dondish soap thing for sure. But like unconventional things you do while cleaning your house. Like someone told me one time to put Like someone told me one time to put like tide or game pods and really hot mop water. I've seen that on a TikTok.

Yeah. So I would love to know like other unconventional ways so that I can like up my game around this place. But I hate that your vagina was on fire. Yeah. That sucks. That sucks so bad. Hate that for you. Um, but on that note, I'm going to go and do a

little bit of laundry and I have to pack up Jackson stuff because I'm going to Trent's tonight because he has surgery and I'm going to be out of pocket for the entire weekend. But if you guys have not followed us on at coffee combos podcast on Instagram, make sure you follow us there. You can find us on any podcast app, wherever you get your podcasts, always first at podcast one. Hope you guys have a great week and we'll talk to you soon.