Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley - Ants, Chaos, and Girth

Episode Date: December 15, 2022

CC259: Lindsie's house must still think it's Halloween because she has been battling ants and has some weird paranormal activity going on.. Someone send help!Kail and Lindsie continue their talk on the new Casey Anthony docu-series. Their thoughts on Casey's body language, why did Casey shop around her story to studios, and was this series intentionally trying to make Casey look less guilty?In addition, Lindsie pitches the idea of perhaps having a child with an ex-husband if both parties are single and wanting of another child. Kail supports a listener's husband in his decision of getting penis enhancement. Lindsie recommends watching Jonah Hill's new documentary about mental health and therapy called Stutz. Today's Foul Play has us questioning people's hygiene priorities... Thank you to our sponsors! Care/of: Visit TakeCareOf.com and use code COFFEE50 for 50% off your first order Everlywell: Visit everlywell.com/convos for 20% off an at-home lab test Ipsy: Up your makeup game the affordable way and go to Ipsy.com/coffeeconvos Lomi: Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi. Use the code COFFEECONVOS to save $50 at lomi.com/COFFEECONVOS Peloton: Visit onepeloton.com to learn more! Stamps: Visit Stamps.com and use promo code COFFEE for a special offer that includes a 4-week trial, free postage, and a digital scale!

I hate gift giving and receiving receiving gifts is so weird. What do you say? Thank you? This is coffee convos with Kale Lowry and Lindsay Chrisley. I really want you to be in your feels Kale That does not interest me whatsoever. I feel very attacked by you a spirited discussion about motherhood friendship Family and life in the public eye. I'm just not with the fakery anymore. There's a fakery bakery around here Here's Kale and Lindsay This episode of coffee combos podcast is brought to you by Lomi by Pila. Visit LOMI.com slash coffee combos Happy Thursday everyone. Hi Lindsay Good morning and welcome to coffee combos podcast. What are you doing?

Um, I am really trying to stay awake. I've had copious amounts of coffee already today because Creed now has the flu and Lincoln doesn't feel well. And so it's just like pure sick chaos in the Lowry house household Creed went to bed at 6 30 last night and couldn't keep his eyes open and then was up all night Like trying to fall asleep going back to sleep Being up and I ended up sleeping with him in Lux's bed because Creed is still in a crib I know crucify me if you want But I just felt really bad like putting him in a crib. So I slept with him in Lux's bed. Lux slept on the couch

Um, Lincoln has a sore throat So he was in his bed, but he wanted me to tuck him in and lay with him But I felt bad leaving Creed by himself because sometimes between all the congestion and the snot and then if he wakes up crying and I'm not there and then he'll throw up and Then he threw up before he went to bed. And so it was just like it was a clusterfuck. How are you? That's a lot. Yeah Instantly overwhelmed lots of kids when I hear stories about how like sickness has run through our house I can relate if like I get sick and then Jackson gets sick, but I'm gonna be honest

I didn't find some wood to knock on Normally if he gets sick, I don't get what he has and he doesn't get what I have that's good That's so weird But you know what's crazy is all the and I know every don't believe everything you see on the internet But the doctors that I follow on like tick-tock and stuff like the pediatricians I follow They say like all those cold meds and things like that They're all like a gimmick basically and that like a spoonful of honey Obviously if your child is old enough to have honey does better than like all these cough medicines

And to only really give your kids. I'm not a doctor. I'm just saying what I saw on the internet Tylenol or Motrin if they're like not acting themselves so if they have a fever that's 103 and They're acting fine and still bouncing off the walls Like you don't necessarily have to get because the fever is the way of like fighting off the infection, right? So I was like wow that makes so much sense to me Wait, is this a new revelation for you? Yeah, I didn't know that because I allegedly allegedly the

high fever thing is Isn't you know like the febrile seizures? Oh, you have to take them to the ER if it's above 102 103 is only in kids that have like other I don't want to what ailments other other health conditions diagnosis Neurological situation so like in a normal child and I say normal very lightly Like Cree doesn't have any other health conditions. He has no, you know, neurological issues No, you know, nothing so if he's fine bouncing off the walls with the 103 fever Don't I don't necessarily have to give him Tylenol. Okay, so I have gone off of that rule for forever

Jackson's pediatrician was my pediatrician. I don't know if I've talked about that before but if I have so obviously like older very old school believes in allowing the body to Let the infection run its course and kind of like heal itself And so I've always gone off of that since I had Jackson like I don't even think we own Cold medicine or like cough syrup or anything like that Always like natural remedy has always been my go-to and I only ever give Tylenol if

He has a fever because I know that when you have a fever Nothing is worse than having a fever and like feeling that that like achy like lethargic Just like so uncomfortable. Yeah, it's so bad. So I will give him Tylenol Like for that but outside of that. We just don't do other types of meds ever. Yeah. Yeah. No, I was I guess not shocked I guess it confirmed my beliefs anyway, but When I love tiktok docs, yeah, I mean and they're like we're actual doctors So that makes me feel better. Obviously listen to your own pediatrician over tiktok But when I went and took them to the doctor, they pretty much said the same thing like you kind of have to let them run their course

And anyway, so yeah, I'm hoping that he gets better soon because he's just not feeling well and neither is Lincoln So Well, can I tell you what happened to me and it's been going on for like a week? Oh, no, what? I Need everyone to help me honestly Does Georgia have diarrhea? No, thank God because that's one thing that like I literally couldn't deal with right now. I Hear you dog diarrhea is like next level shit And I cannot but okay, so I have an ant problem at my house

Oh, no, and they're like those tiny my nanny calls them piss ants, but I don't like really think that's the name of them They're just like these tiny little nuisances that are just like creeping around my house And I kid you not I will be sitting on the toilet and feel like an itchy on my leg And I look down and it's an ant shut up in the night her Yes, I've heard of them in the spring in the summer because Like fruit is out and you know if you're eating in I don't know whatever eating in the house They come and I just thought they died off in the winter to be honest or hibernate or something Okay, well these fuckers didn't die off

It's been extremely wet in Atlanta for like almost two weeks So I thought well, maybe the waters bringing them because sometimes that will happen And then I told Jackson I was like maybe it's all the crumbs that you create to like this is a specific time that you need to eat over your plate I'm walking around with Clorox wipes Cleaning off the floor any crumbs off the counter that I can find I also found them in my shower going to my sugar scrub Interesting. I wonder if that would kill them

No, I think they're trying to eat it. Yeah, but wouldn't it kill them if they eat it? I hope it does Yeah, there's a pain in the ass like just such a Frickin pain in the ass and here's another thing that happened to me we were Jackson will and I Jackson graduated his Play therapy therapy last week, which I'm so happy for him and excited But we went to that and then went to dinner to celebrate and came home and one of my friends had sent me a

Box of donuts from Duncan like on uber eats or whatever it is I was so excited about it and I told Jackson I was like look you got a whole box of donuts for the morning I come in the kitchen and I open it up and literally Ants were all over every one of them. What the fuck. Oh, no, was he so disappointed? Yeah, he was like we literally can't eat those because they're it's infested. Oh Yeah, what to do. I have tried Okay, so I bought a can of raid because I was like I'll just blast the fuckers and then

That didn't really work and they're still hanging around Is it gonna just be like a little bit of time until like I get every last one if I just like keep spraying the raid or like What's gonna help get him out? Those little they have these like little packet things that you can set like on like under your What is it called like traps Kind of I think they're kind of like traps and you can put them under your like cabinets like on the floor or you could put Them you can put them in your in your bathroom. They're I guess they're kind of like traps. I guess they go in it and they don't come out I don't know. Okay. This is another thing that I did. I sprayed my

garbage bag Like my trash can it's kind of like a cabinet. So like you pull it out I sprayed my entire garbage bag with raid So if they get in there then instantly they'll die Okay, I don't know what to do, but I'm losing sleep over this and I need everyone to like literally send me help Can we get an exterminator over there? Like I'm not I'm not even kidding Outside of that I need to tell you a story and I need to know if you have ever had Like paranormal activity ever happened to you before no, I have not you haven't mm-hmm

Okay, so I woke up in the middle of the night. This was like last week. I told Kristen about this I was so alarmed. I was like Kristen Have has anything like this ever happened to you like is someone pranking me like is Ashton Could you're gonna pop out and be like you're on punk? Yes immediately? Yes, what's happening? So I Wake up middle of the night to me. It's middle of the night. It's probably like morning for some people, but 4 17 a.m I feel like I hear the doorbell ring So I sit straight up in the bed and I'm like, oh my god, who would be here at 4 17 a.m No, one's there. Mm-hmm. So I am in the shower and

I feel like I hear the doorbell ring in the shower get out of the shower walk to the door Nothing there happened one other time nothing there and I need to know is that like Someone who's like passed away trying to get my attention. Oh my god, and now my light I swear to you just flickered. Did you hear that? I heard the charger go listen you guys hold on Did you hear that? Yeah, okay, like I'm telling you there's paranormal activity and some things going on It's like that phantom the the phantom baby crying when you don't actually there's no baby there But you swear you hear a baby crying. You know what I'm talking about. Yes. Yeah, why is this happening? Literally, I'm telling this story. What was that static? I have hives right now. I think um

my entire lights just flickered all through the house my power surged and my TV turned on static. I was wondering what that static was Is it like someone that's dead like trying to talk to me? I think it is someone. Yeah, I mean, I'm good I could Google it like I'm literally not okay I I'm weirded out by it and I need to know if this has happened to anybody else and if it did like what it meant and What does it mean when you like phantom hear doorbell rings? But no one's there. Um, I just googled it Is it gonna scare me? It says interference occurs when unwanted radio frequency signals disrupt your use of television

The occurrence known in paranormal circles as electric voice phenomena or EVP is the basis for a new oh That's just like there's not really a whole lot of information on here Okay Well, we need to like call ghostbusters call ghostbusters channel a medium Something because I need answers because now I'm just like super super freaked out. Yeah I wouldn't want to stay home. I wouldn't want to stay home if that was me So kudos to you for her recording at home because I would not I would be out the door so fucking fast first of all if you

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That's IPSY.com slash coffee combos ipsy the best kept secret and beauty Completely unrelated but also Freaky and just strange and bizarre. Did you finish the casey anthony doc? I did So the first two episodes this is a if you have not watched the first two episodes This is a if you have not watched it already. It's a three-part documentary docu-series situation and The first two episodes really pissed me off because I didn't feel like there was any new information like I just felt like It was more about some like weird

Incessuous relationship between her and her attorney and like how they took her in and stuff like that um the third episode really opened my eyes to Potentially and I guess other people have felt this way all along Um in that George knew more than you know what he went on to get people to believe um The other thing was that I watched this um It was like I guess like on court tv I was like scrolling and it was a court tv and and it it was

professionals talking about her body language and how um it was Was very very deceitful like the her body language was um would lead them to believe that she's being deceitful and they made a point that And I guess I missed it somewhere in the docu-series where George was holding Kaylee And she was cold and wet and lifeless um Why was she cold and wet and and lifeless like where what was the what was what happened to her that led her like that

To be like that and then Casey said that um George then took her away and said that she was going to be okay Where was that information in the actual trial? Here's the thing I feel like they've had so much time to concoct completely different stories add to take away change narrative

that I am completely of the belief that this documentary was done for self-serving purposes only um and for Casey to cast a net for people

Who believed that she did it to give some of those people doubt that George did outside of that I don't think that the documentary I think it was well done, but I hate the fact that I watched it because if it patted her pocketed in any way like that pisses me off um I I rest on the fact that I believe that George had way more to do with it than we all knew Yeah, I definitely didn't think that before um because the last time I talked to you about it um

I was like Casey did it and you can't change my mind and then lo and behold I watched the third episode and I was like wow like George There is definitely discrepancies in in George's stories and further in all of their stories They're the cop that was on there said that they've all lied to him at some point along the way And so to me I mean George was an ex cop, right? Yeah, so he knows what a dead body smells like He also knows how to um lie

manipulate and Direct yep take control of the story the narrative. Um The thing that got me about George was his adamants. I don't even know if that's a word adamant. Um He was adamant that Casey did it. Um on um off camp was it on camera off camera like basically two detectives He was like Casey did it. She's you know, whatever Why are you trying so hard to convince everybody that she did it to get her the death penalty when that's your daughter at the end of The day like if you don't truly know what happened, why would you Why are you gunning for that?

Yeah, and then secondly to your point the last time we talked about this You had said something about the animals the way that George would wrap up the family animals when they passed away and bury them Was very similar to the way that they disposed of Kaylee's body Which is really heartbreaking and i'm not going to talk about what it was. Um, you guys can watch the documentary but um Again to your point Casey could have seen George do it and then replicated that Or it was George. I mean, I don't know And I do agree with your point again, um with the mom having some form of stockholm syndrome because what the fuck

There's just something so strange about the mom that I can't put my finger on. Um, it's almost like Just a person that has has existed in some form of abusive relationship for like a very very long time and just created coping mechanisms to Stay existing in that. I think she's rather delusional, um And I don't know. It's just something about her body language. The the way she moves

I don't know. I can't put my finger on it, but it's definitely something Yeah, it's it's very strange. Um, and I also wish that I heard more from her brother Um, same I didn't even know that I mean when we covered it back weight like months ago I remember you saying uh saying that he had she had a brother Um, which I don't remember when I originally watched everything. Um, but I still don't feel like we've heard enough especially From the the trial and her then blaming him for um essay trigger warning, um, you know sexually assaulting her

after the dad Um, it just it the whole situation is very very weird Um, and the best friend that I still think is so bizarre You say she's such a great mom and then you said in the same exact sentence But case he did what she always does which is lie So I just feel like that that's still so weird to me I will say again that

a lot of her behaviors To me are very telling that it's likely That there was some type of sexual abuse that transpired in Her childhood the way she moves the way she lies the way she manipulates. I'm not saying that every Person that's ever been sexually abused moves in that way But I do think that there is extreme trauma that happened somewhere along the way that formed her to be

Who she is and the way that she I just don't understand like some of the lies that she told and like why That would have been a logical thing to her unless everything that she ever did was a lie And my parents always told me growing up that the truth will set you free When you lie you have to tell another lie to cover up the first lie And then like you just have to continue lying and that's exactly what she did Well, and then at that point you don't remember where you first started the lies and that was something that Was said in the court tv

Clip that I posted I actually posted it in the coffee combos facebook group Um, they said that she contradicted so many things that she originally said in trial She contradicted them in the docu series And christen actually just sent us a link right now Your tango.com and it says kasey anthony has been paid for sharing kaley's story in the past While peacock has not yet released details on whether anthony was paid for the series The now 36 year old has been criticized for selling her story in the past It says um in 2010 it was revealed during anthony's trial that she had received $200,000

in Licensing fees from abc news Um, the network paid for exclusive rights to photos and videos of anthony her family and kaley and then Um, allegedly she teamed up with the producer to pitch a 750,000 dollar interview special in 2011 Um sternberg sternberg was allegedly asking between 500 and 750,000 to deliver anthony However, the production never transfer transpired um so

She's definitely made money off of this so I would not be surprised if because abc paid her for The rights to her story or whatever, but I wonder if that was up And so then they were able to do the peacock thing which would make her more money because it was the first thing that she's ever spoken on directly in 11 years The fact that it is very likely That you killed your daughter very likely at this point based off of other information that we have found out that Your dad had some involvement and that you have basically

used that horrible Horrible thing to make a career out of essentially. Yep. I don't get it. I don't get it either I'll never get it. I will never get it. Are the mom and the dad's are george and cindy still married because I tried googling that um, I just don't know it feels very um Like remember the john bennett ramsey case and the parents had two different attorneys and they ended up They believe they stayed married until patsy died, right? I don't know. I don't I don't think so Oh, they got divorced before she passed. I thought they were divorced because didn't we hear that like

natalie holloway's I'm googling it. I know people hate when we google it, but we just I never I couldn't have predicted this information Says patsy died of ovarian cancer in 2006 at age 49 after his wife's death ramsey met bev holloway mother of missing natalie holloway. Okay. Well, it doesn't really matter Um, I was just thinking like there's so many similarities and I was just curious to know if that because I know that Cindy and george didn't always see eye to eye and because she has some form of stockholm syndrome I well, I assume she does um

I just wondered if they could potentially still be together today or did it completely Implement, I mean they were together in that documentary, but I don't I don't know the answer to that Um, maybe somebody can find out the answer and let us know Um, I do have a question for you though. Okay completely unrelated to this Um, this is also hypothetical. So I don't want anybody to You know go on Reddit or facebook or whatever and like be making up theories. So completely hypothetical Would you

Have another child with your ex-husband post divorce if neither of you were in other relationships and desired another child Yes, tell me more Um If we both wanted another child and we were already co-parenting for one child I don't see why not like I don't see why we wouldn't do that so my thoughts on this and I had actually I've had the conversation with

Two different people not going to name them but if I was let's say 35 years old not in a relationship Wanted another child my heart desired that other person was not in a relationship their heart desired that I would sign up for that for multiple different reasons one Genetics

knowing that I already have one child with that person Don't have kids with anybody else That would be like a logical play to me. Um, there's already an established schedule so You know that child would just essentially fit into the fold

Um, but here's another question that I have. Okay. So let's say that you do this You have get pregnant have this baby with your ex-husband What do you do when the child's an infant? I would say Unfortunately like unfortunately the mom would probably take on most of the care the caretaker responsibility is just because of If you choose to breastfeed or pump um, if not, I think it would be a little bit of a

Cluster fuck in the beginning because you want both parents to bond to the baby, you know Um, you know as much as you can so you'd probably either the baby would have to go back and forth Um, pretty frequently early on Um, until a routine is established is my thought and then is that also Like the negative side of it is you're knowingly bringing a child into this world and already preset chaos But is it preset if there if the two are already getting along well enough to even consider the idea of having another baby together?

Like is it that much of chaos for them? And is it chaos at all if they don't know any different if the routine is already working for said child? Um, that they have together already And it's working or getting along. You're like, okay. This is working out so well that you know, we both want another child Why not? Let's just have one together and keep the same schedule. You know what I mean? Like is that really chaos? I mean it would be the The norm for that child because they were being born into that and that would be all that they would know So they would never know what the other child knew right at one point

but I'm like, could you imagine just having a baby with your ex-husband? like you just go bone and like get pregnant and then You're just like going to these doctor's appointments probably like by yourself doing all these things essentially

Maybe maybe homeboy will still go to the appointments Well, then okay that poses the next question Are you kind of together or is that a situation ship an entanglement? Like what what is that? Because if you Are solely looking at it as more of like business transactional um donor type vibes Then they wouldn't be doing all of those other things. That's almost like A relationship, but like not a relationship

Right. I think it probably would depend on the couple like so chloe Kardashian and Tristan Thompson did this and then allegedly Kylie and Travis did this um Wait, what? Yeah, they they claimed that they were not together and they were just like Co-parents for stormy and the new baby. I mean, I think it's gone back and forth

More for Kylie and Travis is like they're together. They're not together. They're just co-parenting. They're just You know, whatever, but yeah, that that's been at least what I from what I've seen See, why is life so confusing? and then um Travis and chloe did it and I think it just depends on the couple and like you mean Tristan and chloe What did I say Travis and chloe? Yeah Tristan and chloe I think it just depends like I don't think it would be a bad idea. Um, you know, if they're right if the circumstances were right

I don't know. I mean, I'm not saying that I'm doing it I'm just saying I think it's an interesting thing to talk about and also just like stress people out when they're listening to this so You just like to stress people I love a good stress moment Everly well, okay I downloaded the app finally to um Everly well because I was just checking on their website. They do have an app and I just actually sent in my metabolism test

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Oh, gee, sorry guys. Um, I don't know what's actually happening It it legitimately sounds like there is a race car that is in my backyard. So oh good, okay I don't know what's going on there. I was trying to pull up this article. I saw it on fox news Um, the article is on fox business and I'll post it But it was about this home depot worker that died Um, it says home depot says it continues to fight crime on all fronts after elderly worker died

Did you see this? I did not see this. I have not heard this is the first time I've heard of it Okay, so Home depot says it's outraged that an elderly worker had died after being shoved during a store theft in north carolina this fall However, the world's largest home improvement retailer said it continues to fight crime on all fronts. This man was 83 years old He died on december 1st due to complications from injuries that he sustained when a suspect allegedly shoved him While stealing pressure washers in october security video released Showed how the elderly employee had approached the alleged shoplifter while he was trying to leave the store with stolen items However, the suspect shoved the man out of the way fled according to the footage

um Medical examiner ruled his death was a homicide And the company has deferred to comment on anything pertaining to the incident to local authorities But said safety of its associates and customers is a number one concern. So I pulled up the article while you were reading it That's what the sound was. Um, it was like a little pop-up on this website And there's an actual photo of the guy pushing the elderly man and it's a literal one-handed push um That makes me so sad like this guy was probably just like trying to pay a bill or two and

Socialized with other human beings at 80-something years old and getting shoved by this fucking criminal pisses me off That makes me so sad. I mean not that it would make it any better that it was a Other aged person. Right, right, right, right However, I mean that is probably so true. He's probably just like a lot of times when people Get older like in their 70s 80s. They'll take jobs You know doing this because they get to socialize with people they get to meet people Um, I actually think home depot pays pretty well. Um, but to see that this man died over three

Ryobi pressure washers pisses me off. Yeah, that really is so that's so fucking sad. That is so sad I'm not well We have something from the facebook group um And it's a little long. So I'm gonna read it and then we will give our take which no one probably really gives a fuck Um, this is gonna be long, but I'm desperate. My husband made comments here and there about himself being small Apparently his ex-wife said it before I've never said it or even thought it

Well, I for a few too many cocktails. He tells me he's gonna get injections to make it thicker good for him No, okay I was flabbergasted and upset that he felt that he had to do that He was badgering me asking me if I can tell a difference from my ex who was 10 years ago Like what the fuck I don't even think about him or want anything to do with that person after 20 plus minutes of him telling me That I'm being nice how my lady bits have changed over have changed. It's tighter now I tried explaining how my body works, but I'm also 100 pounds heavier and have pushed out to humans So maybe stuff changed but not because of him

I don't have to lie and him constantly interrupting me. I said out of flustered frustration My ex was long ago. So if you're trying to change thickness to achieve what you think I want then know the facts Well, it hit the fan after I'm so anxious. We fight. He said it's always been Something that he's insecure and secure about and now I confirmed it. He cries. He shut down and uncomfortable I feel like I was being badgered and pushed and he says it now He knows that he's gonna change it and hope and change it or hopefully I forget it's changed our dynamic massively I don't know what to do. There has been gaslight There's been gaslighting blame put on me, but I call it out real quick. Any advice is so appreciated

I love that it says do not be judgy bitches I feel like If he is insecure about it and he wants to make it thicker let him make it thicker. I mean, um I have an ex who was extremely small. Um, very very very small and you know Kale, did you feel like you really needed to like emphasize? small by being like very very Very small. No, I shouldn't have done that. That's awful. That's horrible You told me one time

That it was not even the size of your pinky I think It's about the size of my pinky Okay, that's not working So I under see I can relate to this if he I mean she says my husband hold on About himself being small. Okay, but she's never said it. So on one hand you have You know him being insecure about something on his body then maybe I say good for him He wants to change it. He wants to make himself feel better great for him

I think she should just support him and and she could have just said hey like I don't think you're small. I've never said you were small But if that's how you're feeling then I'm I 100% support you going to you know, make those changes That's how I feel but I'm okay. I got a couple things to say One why does any ex in this situation matter that drives me nuts because If she was interested in that ex then she would either Be with that person Or it would have come up in their relationship before

Or about how she liked his dick better than his that's savage That is so savage if someone says that in a relationship that they're in and they're like my ex had a better dick than you Like that's horrible. Well, I'm sure it happens all the time. I'm sure it does. You're right I'm sure it does but she's saying in here that she's never said that and after too many cocktails He's telling me he's gonna get injections to make it thicker blah blah blah I think the bottom line is They should not be fighting about this. There's nothing to fight about it's like I'm satisfied with your penis if you're not satisfied. I support you in making those changes period end of discussion

Okay, but then this leads to a whole other conversation because I need to know if you like a man who is like overly confident in himself a man who is confident but He doesn't like play confident. He's just like a confident person Or do you like someone that is a little insecure?

I think I like the middle version that you just described where they're like confident But they don't act like they're confident. I like that um I think that that's probably preferred for for most um Overconfidence is definitely a turnoff turn off for me because I'm like if you're that confident then why do you You need me here because like you have everything that you need And you really don't need a grandmother because you patch your own back

All the time. So you don't need me or her um, so I I don't like an overly confident Person I want someone to be confident in themselves because I think that's super healthy um, but I don't like insecure either So Kristen just messaged and she said that the woman is basically saying that the length is the issue after he was pushing her So I got it wrong. I guess when she was saying like know the facts like know what you're saying Um, he's worried about the thickness where she was saying

Her x was was long So if you're trying to change the thickness to achieve what you think I want then know the fact So her x was longer Um, and that's what has changed the dynamic. Okay. Well, it shouldn't really have gotten to that point um But he really shouldn't have brought up her x in the first place So I feel like first of all any time that you are in a sexual relationship and you've made it that far in a relationship with someone else You automatically should know and if you don't this is a public service announcement and you need to know

You don't need to be having conversations about your x's kuchi dick Whatever whatever it is that you're out there doing You don't need to be having conversations about x's that is a recipe for a fight and a recipe for insecurities um period whether whether it be You're not going to make someone else feel more confident in a current relationship by

Downplaying what you had before because they're probably going to be like oh They're just trying to make me feel better and they're still going to be insecure And you definitely don't need to be telling your current partner that your x was so much better Right, right, right, right like that's just not that shouldn't come up But then that now that you say that um Do you think that length matters or girth

I prefer girth Um over length But I do think that at some I mean It just I guess it depends on the person because It it matters a little bit, but not like tell me more Like the length matters a little bit because you want to get all the spots, but I feel like it's not the end all be all Yeah, but if the length isn't hitting the spots then it's irrelevant, right, right, right, of course, of course Okay, here's another one

Curve or no curve That I don't know because I've never had someone with a curve Wait, what I don't I've never been with anyone that has like a like a significant curve at all So they're just like straight. Yes. So they just poke out. Mm-hmm not up or down. No or to the side Mm-hmm Interesting. So now that we have um, we know all of your x's we now know that none of them Have a curve good. I hate myself so much. I hate myself Good for them. Um, I can't I will say I think that um

It needs to be like thick enough, but like not too thick. Mm-hmm. I don't know what that measurement would be um And if it's too big No Um, if it's too small. No, I think I'm just like a middle of the rotor for everything. I'm like I like a person That's confident. That's not talking about their confidence and then I just like uh,

Like middle of the road. Okay. Yeah, I I agree. No, you don't liar yet. You like it big Like you're such a liar about that. Um, I I think Medium kill You are a liar because listen. I have seen photos of stuff The ones that you like are not medium And if they are then the ones I like are small You hear me I was trying to come up with a comeback and I couldn't

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Neither a friend or any benefits because at the very end it's time loss focus loss But situationships are supposed to be an entanglement between two people that is supposed to be drama free casual sex There's no destination. No goals. No feelings. Well, let me tell you drama is just beginning It's the most toxic form of relationship if you want to call it a relationship You're better off in my opinion having sex with a complete stranger on a one night stand And have your fun whatever it is that you're into then drag along a person and hopes that you get them Over you get them over you or more attached to you One person's going to get attached while the other gets detached. It may start as just casual sex

But we're human. There's emotions involved in the process of losing a friend Losing focus keeping each other from meeting other people. Yeah, what are your thoughts? Um, I I agree with this. I think that um, I've tried a friends with benefits situation and I end up with two kids with this man so um, and I I I don't I personally don't think that friends with benefits. I mean, I don't know Maybe now in my life I could probably do it and I because I just know I don't think I could Because one person they're gonna get attached to me and I won't get attached to them at all

Kill you you have been attached to one person. I know that you were in a friends with benefit situation Yeah, but I'm saying now if I was to do it They would be attached to me and I wouldn't be attached to them. Yeah based on what happened to me the last time and I was so in love and just I you couldn't tell me shit and you as you know Um, I agree with this person. It just it may start as casual sex But one person is gonna end up falling for the other And that's never I'd rather keep my friendship and just have a casual hookup if that's what I was looking for Um, I would need some training on that because I've told y'all in the past

I don't know how to go from point a to point b like if I were to like go out and meet somebody But so I would need some coaching on that maybe like a wing woman Uh, but yeah, no friends with benefits is not it for me. Okay, so Tell me this if you have been in a relationship with someone And then you guys break up and then like time passes And then you try to do friends with benefits. Do you feel like that's gonna work or it's gonna end up toxic? No, it's gonna end up toxic. Okay. Are you saying it's gonna end up toxic because you've done it? Yes Okay, do you think it's gonna end up toxic?

Shut up kailh Yes, absolutely It it definitely ends up toxic every single time because here's the thing whether it starts friends with benefits There there's a reason why you two are sexually engaging and it's because one person might not have feelings but they're in it just for the

physical Attachment with that person the other person is going to be The person that does have emotions invested. So it's just gonna end up toxic But if you are a person that's been in a relationship with someone you break up And then you think you're gonna be friends with benefits I'm here to tell you that that's absolutely not what it's gonna be You're going to be enemies with benefits that Um is just gonna turn into an absolute fucking disaster because

All that relationship stuff that you had at one point is not going to be a race because time passed Right. It's and it's gonna bring up feelings. It's gonna bring up old feelings old fights old arguments old whatever like Wholeheartedly agree with that and I do believe that When you find yourself in situations like that Um and an entanglement you do lose focus um and Maybe this is like more Acceptable and I would be like, okay

This this would fly if you're like in your 20s or something at my age now Absolutely not because I'm not trying to be entangled with somebody That I have no destination no goals. No feelings loss of focus Um and also you're wasting my time because I could be meeting like mr. Perfect. No, I agree with you That's what that's specifically what's not gonna happen. I'm specifically not wasting my time on that moving forward in my life. So um We need to talk about Jonah Hill's documentary. Okay. I tried I did try when you told me about it

I tried to watch it and I just I'm gonna give it a second try Um because I've noticed that like sometimes when I try to watch something and I'm not interested It's mainly because of my surroundings like either my kids keep talking to me or my you know my animals whatever the case may be So I'm gonna try to give it a second Go but I could not I was like 11 minutes in and I texted Lindsay last night and I was like I can't do this Like I can't watch this Um, did you get through the whole thing? I actually did watch the entire thing

um and I have a bit to say about it. Um It's called stud studs. Yeah studs. I think that's how you say it. Um, but this documentary, um was Jonah Hill directing and interviewing phil studs. Um, he is a world leading psychiatrist Um helped countless patients over 40 years. Um, including world-class creatives and business leaders. Um

He Was very interesting. Um, and I did get some Good information. Um I do think that Their dynamic was very interesting because they very much have a personal have built a personal relationship and friendship Um outside of what I feel like is a normal therapy situation. I do feel like you Um inevitably when you're sharing so much about your life with another person

Um, and they're constant that there is going to be some form of relationship Built but in the way that I watched on this documentary not not as much um I had seen something on instagram and it was watchers of the documentary weighing in on the importance of the film And um, this is a quote. I just watched studs. Jonah Hill's new movie on netflix And I learned more about mental health in 90 minutes than I did with six years of reading self-help books and going to various therapists So that's what originally like struck my interest in watching it in the first place. Um, I do think that

this Man gave great insights on a lot of different aspects of the therapeutic process um Jonah was saying that Basically, it was very helpful through the therapy process that he gave um

A required like an action Um to to give a tool to change your experience to change your mood um Putting big ideas on note cards. Um he talked about um Your life force and how you have relationships with your body um

relationships with other people and then relationships with yourself and um He was talking about with the relationship with yourself. How therapeutic it is To write and I know that you've talked about that before um, so I thought that that was very interesting. Um, and He he just talked about so So much goodness, but I feel like it was definitely um targeted at a specific audience. Um, you either need to have

Been through therapy to understand some of the stuff or have an interest in the therapeutic process for it to make sense Okay. Yeah. I mean, I definitely agree with that. Um, but I wonder how that woman that Well, I guess she said that she tried therapy and self-help help books. So that makes sense. But yeah, so maybe for people that have not kind of been to therapy or experienced any of that they couldn't relate. It's what you're saying I think that it gives good information, but I almost feel like because it's so high level that It's kind of hard to follow. Okay. So So, so then maybe not necessarily raising awareness then because if the people the only people that can take away something are people that have

Been to therapy or experience something like this. They're the only ones that can relate the people that haven't Can't relate. I would love to know anybody who has watched this documentary What your thoughts were on it? Um, I took a lot of notes on it and I plan to put that together and post it on the instagram um Just because it's a lot to to go through and cover on here And I don't know how much interest that people would actually be interested in hearing about it. So

I'm going to put it together and put it over there. Um outside of that I also saw a quote that made me think of you and I want you to know I want you to tell me how you feel about it Um, it said people who were raised on love see shit differently from people raised on survival I saved that from a tiktok that I saw and I So agree with that and it's really hard because people who were raised on love will never understand someone who was raised on survival um, and people who were raised on survival are They don't understand people who were raised on love like it's just so

That's so crazy that you saved that because I literally I might have even sent it to christin that tiktok that I saw I mean, I don't know if that's where you got it from but that's I had just seen it probably the other day I was like that's keel. Yeah Right about now seasonal excitement or dread is really starting to settle in. I think it's dread for me excitement for lindsay But especially for small businesses. So slaying through traffic to the post office is a literal hassle I actually needed to send something to christin and I didn't even want to do that So inbox more like a blizzard than a winter wonderland Rushing out to send cards and gifts to loyal clients. Whatever that is for your business

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We usually do a big meal, but with everything costing so much this year. There's only six of us at this christmas We always have way too much food and never eat at all looking for suggest looking for suggestions for something new um Okay, so I know that you probably don't do it But I always celebrated christmas with will's family like every year since we've been together and We always do more of what I would consider like a traditional christmas meal

where we do like um pork or beef tenderloin and then like rolls and southern sides like asparagus casserole macaroni and cheese um green beans like stuff like that so it is more traditional um my parents however christmas eve we always with julie's parents did christmas eve with them and

always like finger foods And that's nice because you can kind of like put it up and have it later or again um That's like my favorite is to do finger foods or like appetizer style. That's my absolute favorite Um, and then I don't know what we eat on christmas. Honestly. I need to ask my nanny. I don't know I've never had a christmas meal in my life. What do you mean? Like even when my family was together like my extended family when I was a kid

Um, we would go over to my great-grandmother her house my nana. Um, but there was no meal I have heard of people doing like um, I don't even know if there was food. Was there food? I don't think there was food there on on christmas morning. We would go every christmas morning. We would it was that noon um We'd go to my nana's house and we would just exchange gifts, you know the aunts uncles cousins whatever. I mean I was the youngest but um There was no meal like we didn't eat like a lunch or anything I don't even maybe maybe there was a lunch like a finger food situation, but nothing that I remember

I never remember ever having a christmas dinner in my entire life. Okay, so here's a couple of ideas that I think would be good ones um Boston market. Oh my god You could go to boston market. You could go to cracker barrel. Um I think a good idea would be to do like a lasagna or like something like that spaghetti um orders um

Or you could order pizza. Um, I don't know I feel like so many people get wrapped up in having to have like to carry on the tradition and as much as I Agree with that to some extent. I've kind of like gotten out of That mindset and it's like whatever I want to do for that year is what I'm going to do for that year So it doesn't really matter I think we've had chicken and dumplings before on thanksgiving. I mean on christmas

Um, yeah, I don't really know. I don't know Yeah, I don't have any ideas because I've never done. I mean if it was me I'd want I would want a mini version of a thanksgiving dinner, but that's just me I'll probably never do that But if I were to have a uh christmas dinner, that's what it would be wait christin. Tell us What is a christmas meal? She eats like I want to say ribs Okay, so

christin says that the night before christmas Aka christmas eve they do a pasta bar and there's no meat involved and then They do prime rib mashed potatoes Broccoli with cheese sauce so very similar to what will's family did. Yeah, so I don't know No, if anybody has any ideas, please let us know because evidently we don't have any Um foul play let's

All right Well foul play. Hi there. First of all, I love your podcast can't get enough of it, but I have a foul play story for you Unfortunately, it's not about shit, but it's still a good one So I've been a hairstylist for six years And my first job I worked at was smart style the salons inside walmart in hunting hunting done PA Before I start the story I have to say this so you can understand in huntington We have a bunch of pizza shops called

OIP and they are known for their subs and hoagies Also known to put what is a hoagie. It's like a sub. Okay Also known to put lots of onion on their hoagies Now onto the story one of my co-workers also my best friend got a client in the shampoo bowl And before my co-worker started washing her hair the client stops and says I'm so sorry if I stink But I've had an ingrown hair on my armpit for a few weeks And I haven't been able to put deodorant on and it smells worse than an OIP hoagie with extra onion

My co-worker and I were mortified and dying laughing at the same time. I will never forget First of all, my god, this is like one of My biggest fears like to have bad breath or body odor or something stuck in my teeth or to lose my teeth Okay, I just listed a lot of fucking things but like I only have one fear and then you list a hundred. Yeah This is terrifying. So but here's the thing if that's the case for me Um, I'm not going to go get my hair done until I figure out my armpit situation Um, because that's not I've had an ingrown hair on my armpit for a few weeks And I haven't been able to put deodorant on. Okay. I thought she was going to say and I haven't been able to get into the dermatologist

Either way, she hasn't gone into the dermatologist and she also has not put on deodorant I feel like you should subject Someone that you definitely know and are close with so that you don't smell like an OIP hoagie with extra onions To people that you don't know and maybe have them get a tweezer to your ingrown hair to get it out So then you can actually wash your pits Put on deodorant and then I have solved every problem that you allegedly have

at the point that you know that you stink like a hoagie with extra onions At the hair salon. That was your notice to not go Well, also, I'm I'm guessing that the ingrown hair is to a point where Somebody that she knows can't Just pull it out because then you need to make an appointment. Yeah at the derm or at Urging wax center, Brazilian wax center, whatever the hell it's called Go in get that situation fixed before you're worried about the hair on top of your head because I can assure you

Your hair on top of your head isn't going to matter if you smell like a hoagie with extra onions facts I agree with you love that next Okay, hey guys love the pod and thought I'd throw this humiliating gem out there when I was a teenager I had plenty of sex in my parents home. Oh shit. Definitely not with their knowledge I have always been serious about sakes safe sex. So condoms were always in the mix Afterwards I would always make sure there was no evidence left behind by taking care of the wrapper and making sure nothing was visible in the bathroom trash I always assume that those used condoms were wrapped in toilet paper and buried deep

What that's what a reasonable person would do, right? No a reasonable person is not. Okay. Keep going Years later my parents were having their septic and leech field redone by a close friend of my parents Who has an excavating business? I already know where this is going While digging up the yard dozens of condoms started coming up to the surface Exposing years of my sexual encounters Apparently every dude I was ever with in my parents home flushed the condom down the toilet My dad was mortified that not only was his side yard filled with years of used condoms that they were Used. Oh my god that they were used on his only daughter

But one of his best friends was also there to bear witness And just for good measure, he was mortified one once more to have to tell me this happened as you can imagine I was more than a little embarrassed. So if you didn't know now, you know, do not flush condoms Love you both and christen. Happy holidays. Wow Happy holidays Merry Christmas. I'm appalled What's reasonable is that We aren't having sex in our parents house because I can tell you right now if any person

Any of my siblings or myself ever had sex under Todd chrisley's roof and he found Condoms goodbye like I can absolutely not We're literally Dead like he's sending us somewhere for help um, and he's also going to go and get help but like The safest thing would have been to just like not be having sex. I'm really glad that you Um safely had sex and used condoms

This is absolutely Mortifying and I kind of want to know roughly how many condoms Were found it's I think she said dozens right dozens. So there's 12 and a dozen and there's several dozens Okay, well, are we talking like three dozen or six dozen like I need to know the amounts of dozens that were going on also Um, wait, but I wonder why they came up in the yard because I've had I also have septic tanks In all the houses that I've lived in and they just suck it all up in their like Hose and then it goes into the truck like I've never seen remnants around

Well, I don't know unless they had a septic issue Right. Okay. That's true. You know like maybe you're not having septic issues Also, how did you safely have dozens of times Sexual encounters in your parents home and also not get caught Well for one if she got home after school and the parents didn't get home till five or six There's an opportunity

Um, if her parents are let our deep sleepers in the middle of the night is an opportunity Um, or you do it right under their nose while your parents is home and then they don't they don't suspect anything because they're home They're like, oh my god, nothing's gonna go on wait. Were you having sex in Susie's house? Absolutely not Absolutely not. I was having sex at my boyfriend's house And in the car Also in the car. Yes We love that. We love that so much. Okay. Well Anybody out here that is having sex in their parents home

That's something that I don't even know would be like okay for me to do If I was legitimately married And just like staying with my parents like I'm mortified like I already I'm turning red So for that I'm gonna go and work on my paranormal activity that's been going on in this house I'm I literally see ants crawling on my floor right now. So I'm gonna get the raid out for that Um, I hope that you guys don't have any of the same problems that I'm currently having Um, and I hope that you guys have great sex this week and

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