Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley - Inner Labias & Tucking Up The Butt

Episode Date: February 9, 2023

CC268: Kail has bounced back and is FEELING herself this week! Lindsie has a follow up on last week's labia curiosity. Lindsie realized that Jackson is also like Kail in the way that he also had middle of night anxiety over the most random thing. Kail confesses that she no longer lets her kids use swear words around the house.. she explains why. Listener topics are on theme with the parenting talk which have Kail and Lindsie thinking about the times they don't feel like adequate as parents. Foul plays are FOUL! Lindsie exposes herself when she mentions where she positions her tampon strings. Thank you to our sponsors!Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/coffee today to get 10% off your first monthCare/of: Visit TakeCareOf.com and use code COFFEE50 for 50% off your first orderHello Fresh: Visit HelloFresh.com/convos65 and use code convos65 for 65% off plus free shippingKiwico: Get 50% off your first month on ANY crate line at kiwico.com/COFFEEOura Ring: Visit OuraRing.com/COFFEECONVOS to get $15 off your purchaseProgressive: Visit progressive.com to learn moreTrailmix Games: Download Love & Pies for free at the App Store or Google PlayZocdoc: Go to Zocdoc.com/CONVOS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE

I hate gift giving and receiving receiving gifts is so weird. What do you say? Thank you? This is coffee convos with Kale Lowry and Lindsay Chrisley. I really want you to be in your feels Kale That does not interest me whatsoever. I feel very attacked by you a spirited discussion about motherhood friendship Family and life in the public eye. I'm just not with the fakery anymore. There's a fakery bakery around here. Here's Kale and Lindsay Hello coffee convos. Good morning. Good morning Lindsay Chrisley. What are you doing? I am chillin. I'm chillin. I'm chillin I went on Instagram live this morning to get ready, and I was just like checking it out seeing what everyone was up to I feel like I'm like an influencer influencer now, you know, why do you feel like that? I've been like getting a lot of cool stuff online. Don't christen if you think you hear heard this you didn't

And so I've been like linking everything and then also because I'm going to Thailand next month I which I finally was able christen rescheduled my trip for me from last year So if I'm turning 30 that 31 this year, I'm actually not I'm turning 30 again We're redoing all of that. And so I've been linking every frickin thing books that I got for the flights shirts that I got I got this really fucking you cute Like lounge set. I think you would really like it and I'm just like linking everything. I feel good I I get ready every day. You know what I mean? Like I'm just feeling good. You feel me. Oh my gosh Well, let me tell you

Immediately whenever I saw your hair on this recording. I thought of Jennifer Aniston and friends and I got jealous So did you blow out your own hair or did someone blow it out for you? No, Taylor did it. She put rollers in it Yeah, that's a vibe. It's for sure Look at what I look like today I'm like, you know what I was not feeling the hair washing today So I was like, I'm gonna throw on a baseball cap because I've literally been all over Georgia and it is raining again Oh, yeah, I was really I cannot I can't escape the rain And I just want to circle back on the trip thing

Is it not the best feeling ever when you feel like you can be so prepared that you pre Do things before your trip instead of like tonight before yes, I and I'm so excited. I have like all the tiktoks I'm gonna play it. I want to do like pack with me I have so many things that I want to do. I actually got somebody sent me I don't remember who it was somebody sent me a book for Thailand to my office when I was gonna go last year And so I actually I kept it and so I gave that to Natalie because she's gonna come to Thailand with me And which I'm very excited about because we've never done a trip together like this and we've always had the kids, you know Like she's been number one supporter for me with the kids

And so it's gonna be really nice for us to both go without the kids and we don't have to worry So no kids are going. No, so they're staying with your dad like help for okay back up How long are you gonna be gone and are the kids staying with their dad dads the whole time or like what's happening? Yeah, the kids are going with their dads. I guess I have to figure out a situation for Lux and Creed because they're When I texted Chris saying like hey, I'm going away. I need you to take the kids He said he can't because he's gonna be on a trip to so Well, we're gonna figure it out. It's gonna be fine And the rest of the kids are gonna go with their dads. Okay, so as a single mom

I don't know if you experienced this but I very much have experienced this and I also experienced it when I was married So I don't know if it's just a single mom thing for me or just like a major life hiccup but I have a real hard time wanting to go places and then Doing all this work and I'm like I'm gonna do this as an adult trip and then every time it comes to getting ready to go I always take Jackson with me because I feel like I don't want to have experiences That he's not having and I don't know why I'm like that So I would love to be able to take the kids on this trip It because I'm going for longer than a week just with travel

Unfortunately, I didn't want to take them out of school and some of the days do fall on their dad's time And so I just asked them to take the three extra days or whatever But because I take my kids on a lot of trips I don't feel guilty when I go on when I'm going on this one, especially because I was supposed to go on one for my 30th I didn't get to do that. I didn't get to experience it And they haven't really showed any interest in Thailand the Thailand is when a top two bucket list for like literally 10 years If I go and I well when I go and if I love it then I come home and tell them about it And they want to go 100% that I'll already know some of the spots to go to some of the things that are kid-friendly

Then I don't feel as bad and we're going to Mexico in August. So I don't feel super super bad Lux has really bad separation anxiety from me. So I will say that I Do feel bad for him Because he's already when I talked about it. He was already like are you coming back? Where am I gonna go? Like he he's very much asking questions But yeah, no, I can completely understand that especially because you only have one and you're able to take them You can take Jackson wherever you go like that completely is understandable to me Well, and it happened when I was married too

So like I would have these great ideas to do like a couple's trip or like a couple's weekend And then it would get close to time and I was like, well, let's just take Jackson with us Like this would be something he would also enjoy and I just feel like such a sense of guilt if I am somewhere that's nice and like Tropical that I know that he would enjoy and I'm just like lounging by the pool And if he FaceTime me like I am the type of person that I would have to go into the bathroom to pretend like I'm doing nothing fun So that he didn't see it and feel like he's missing out. Oh, that's that's I wonder if it's like a mama's boy thing Because that's how I am with Lincoln like I want to hide if I'm doing something that he can't come to or he can't But when I had to do some work here at the office yesterday last night

So I was here from literally 4 30 until almost midnight When I tell you that Lincoln was like texting me asking if he could just come here to the office and me telling him No broke my fucking heart. And so that's why I get so Anxious like just podcasting knowing that like if I have to record with you and like I don't want listeners to get frustrated about my kids But like my kids want to be wherever I'm podcasting So whether it's at home in the office or here they want to be here and so if you can hear them and stuff It's just literally because I can't I try to tell them no But I always end up either bringing them here or letting them in my office at home

And then I hate it because it's so hard It's so hard and like for you guys to want to come just to the freaking office with me Like how am I supposed to say no to that? Well, and I don't ever remember like Hooting and hollering and being like, yeah, I want to go to my parents office. Like I don't ever remember having those thoughts and I don't know if it's because we have Like more non-traditional jobs or we're just generally cooler parents

Probably both I have no idea We're just it could be a combination of both Um, you let your kids cuss. So like you're probably like I have an update on that. Okay. Tell me I no longer let the kids cuss What you no, no, no, like you can't just I know you can drop F bombs this that the third and then Now they're on a no cuss rule. They are on a no cuss rule. Um, they we've been that it's been like two months Um, six weeks maybe two months

I revoked their cussing privileges because they were stop Well, because here's the thing this was my theory and this is why I did it in the first place I thought if they were exposed to it and allowed to cuss That they wouldn't give a shit and they would not cuss. Do you know what I mean? Because it wasn't like the forbidden fruit, right? Mm-hmm. No My middle children specifically Lux and Lincoln Every other fucking word out of their mouth was a cuss word so immediately I was like this is too much and we're done

And I'll have you know, like a no, no, no back up back up Give me a scenario of like them cussing like they're just at home and you hear him cussing like what are they saying? um Well, lux loved to say what I always say, which is you're pissing me off so He told natalie that she was pissing him off and like when I gave him permission to cuss I meant like if you drop something on your foot and you say, oh shit, you know that hurt um, or um

You know shit. We're out of milk, you know things like that But when you're saying you're pissing me off and like he would do it in a funny way Like it wasn't like he wasn't trying to be rude Um, but it just got to a point where I was like, okay, this was this backfired on me I thought I was doing something, you know to basically des desensitize but also like them not give a fuck Um, and it didn't work. So they haven't cussed for like six weeks. I mean, I'm sure they do it behind my back But they're not letting me hear it. Oh, no, they're cussing behind your back, honey We know they're cussing behind your back and almost I want to do

A test on coffee combos podcast where you put some type of like recording devices in Their room and them not know it and let's listen for them cussing. I wish I still had an intercom system I had one at my whole house. That would be so good. That would be so funny. That would be so funny Wait, what do your dads think about your no cuss rule that You have now and what did they think about the cussing when they were just like cussing up a storm? Their dads didn't let them cuss Um, which is fine. Um And again, I thought that it would kind of it was like they knew when to turn it on and off

So they knew that they could do it in certain places in the comfort of their own home And then they couldn't do it in public and at their dad's houses Um, which is still a good thing. But also I was like, no, like this is too fucking much And so their dads never let them cuss and they just knew that when they go to their dads, they can't cuss That's so funny. My parents always used to tell us growing up. They would they would say Do as I say not as I do period and I never Really realized that Um, and what that actually meant until I became a mom

And I find myself wanting to say it all the time where I'm like, yes is what I am doing Specifically is very stupid and don't ever do it But yes, I'm doing it and that makes me hypocrite Isn't that so crazy though? Like when you think about do as I say not as I do like Because I didn't understand that like when my mom would say that or um, like other adults in my life would say that I wouldn't really understand it. But like now as an adult I fully understand. Oh, yeah Oh, and if we were caught cussing when we were growing up

We were given a dictionary and told that we were We were uneducated and that we need to find other words if that's all we can do is sit around and say Fuck shit. Damn Whatever then go into the dictionary and find another word Yeah, get a get a synonym an adjective to describe whatever you're trying to say Oh my god, wait, I have a follow-up. Okay. What's the follow-up from the labia? Okay. I need to hear this I need to hear this So I sent a couple of texts out. I'm not going to say who I sent the text to it's not important

But you probably have a couple of guesses sent a couple texts and said Do you suck the inner labia when you're going down on someone? One of the responses I got was I'm not telling you my tricks Oh Oh, and I was like that doesn't answer my question I need to know if you're sucking the inner labia the other response that I got was People might be pissed off whenever you say this, but it's not you saying it. It's me saying it

That the inner labia is the part where If it's not flush, it looks like roast beef curtains chances are if they had a inner labia That was able to be sucked on like that It's because it was like more like out Okay, does that make sense? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes, then like and in flat I don't care what the fuck it is. I don't think that that is pleasurable for me for it to be sucked on like I just don't think that that part of my lady parts is

Pleasured in that way. I don't know if that's ever happened to me. Um I don't think that it has and so I think that both of the people that I talked to are probably just full of shit But I thought it was a great update. That is a fantastic update. I I love that they were like, I'm not telling you like my secrets. I'm just not This episode of coffee combos is brought to you by better help I want to remind you guys how important that mental health is take right now to really take a second about how What kind of person that you want to be moving forward? and if you are having trouble dealing with conflict or you know, anxiety any type of

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And that's what they call like Itbs or like whatever like the standardized testing is at school or whatever. Oh, okay. Yep And he's like what happens to you if You like do bad on it and I'm like, I don't know and then it made me think I don't ever remember like Any person getting in trouble or like having any repercussions for Those types of tests. Do you know? No, um, I one of my friends who's a teacher actually told me that

You really don't even have to show up for those testing like it's for the state only. Oh wait, really? Yeah, because I don't know if it was like this for you when you were a kid, but I was under the impression that like You have to be there. You have to take the test. It is like So important you can't miss it and like your worst nightmare would be to not be in school for one of those tests In fear of having to make it up and then being behind on other work and stuff like that But I've had actually one or two people maybe even three friends tell me that they don't even let their kids take those standardized testing What? Yeah, I thought it was like

Mandatory. Wait, I thought it was another funny thing. No, no, no. So now I realize that I'm raising a keel. That's one The second thing is is Jackson comes home the other day because I checked him out of school early And he said his teacher asked where he was. He went to a doctor's appointment and He said that she talked to the whole class because the majority of the class was missing one day And she talked about these people that like come to your house to check on you if you're not at school And I'm like, well, who did she say these people were that we're going to come to your house? And he said, well, she didn't say that they were going to come to my house specifically

But they just like come and check on you at if you're not at school and then it made me start thinking of last year and Me wanting to just like exercise My right as a parent to be able to take Jackson like if I'm going on a trip or whatever and I'm like, you know It's okay. As long as he's at school until 11 o'clock. He's counted for the full day Nobody's going to be concerned. Whatever. Well at the end of the school year Um, I did that like six times or something and at the end of the school year They send a thing and I remember my parents doing this for me too

Like they would just like take us on trips. Whatever. And then the school year you get this email And it's like there can be like no more checkouts or whatever Um, or we're gonna have to do like a check You know what's crazy I got a letter from Isaac's school saying that like he was truant because he missed three days of school No, he was shitting his brains out and throwing up. It was the literal stomach bug and I'm not too excited It was the literal stomach bug and I'm not taking him to the doctor for a stomach bug that we all got And got over within 72 hours and he's not truant. So I ignored it

Oh wait also You have to have like a doctor's note for it to be considered excuse And it's like do you want me to send this state? A photo of like the diarrhea shit in the underwear and like the puke like on the toilet like is that what you're looking for? I Right like I don't know like as a for

I have multiple kids, you know that so like I am not taking like like what I would have taken Isaac to the doctor for for like a child's like a school note or whatever Previously, I'm not doing that now for every little thing. I'm not getting a Doctor's note for a fucking shit bug. You know what I mean? Like I'm not doing it I'm like honestly the risk for me to take my child to the doctor He's probably gonna pick up something else while we're in the waiting room like you're risking My safety and also my kids safety because while he likely has stomach flu um, he could get

Any type of other illness that's sitting in the waiting room So I'm specifically not going to get a doctor's note for that reason But then an email came home not just specifically to me but this went to the whole school And it says attendance matters missing a day of school here and there may not seem like much But absences add up and then it gives all these statistics When a student misses two days a month, they will miss 20 days a year They will miss 30 hours of math over the school year They will miss 60 hours of reading and writing over the school year and they will miss over one year of school by graduation

When a student misses four days a month, you double all of those things. So like they will miss 40 days a year 60 hours 120 hours of reading and writing and two years of school by graduation And then I'm out here thinking to myself I don't know of any person That is a parent that would allow their children to consecutively miss two or four days a month for these statistics to actually matter because I can specifically tell you Jackson Campbell is not missing two or four days

Because his ass is going to school facts like Literally, I can think of and I remember the last time we talked about this. I never was letting my kids play hooky Like I just wasn't now maybe You know, I know that, you know, we went to the post Malone concert in October. I let the kids play hooky the next day Because they It was a mental health day and like they were excited about the concert and then we didn't get home till super late And it was a really great experience. Isaac still says it was the best night of his life

Um, so I let them miss for the next day. It was a friday um I let lux miss yesterday and he ended up Getting they this whole school got early dismissal anyway. So I'm like, um, I don't really feel bad about that Lincoln's dad Um is one that would probably let Lincoln stay home for two or four days a month. Like that is very much hobby Um, but thankfully we stop he will clear it clear it with me first like get my opinion. Um, Yeah, no two or four days a month seems seems excessive like a day of hooky here and there is fine

But two or four days like do people really not they let their kids stay home that much? I'm like, how do they even come up with those statistics? I guess people are letting their kids stay home that much. I have no idea. I'm like, what the hell is going on like no Also, who's to say that like Those whatever they're playing hooky for um, and I know that there are obviously situations that people can't control and you know Things like that. I'm not talking about those people. I'm talking about people who are playing hooky Um, but who's to say that it's not like when I let them stay home from school not that long ago We went to a museum in Philly, you know what I mean?

So like they didn't go to school But we went and did like an educational activity and we went to go To a basketball game and like stuff like that. And so like for me it was like We went and did something educational. So like you can't even those statistics wouldn't even apply to us Oh, I say that too. I'm like, well typically If he's missing school, there is some type of educational aspect or it's like for a medical need Like that's the reason why he's skipping school but we should normalize that children need mental health days just like adults need mental health days and

You know when will and I were going through all of our stuff last year Jackson did need a couple of mental health days and it's okay. And I'm not apologizing for that I know I agree with you. I mean, I definitely again two to four days is excessive. Also, I don't know I mean feelings have kind of changed about school over the years. I'm more upset about like If they're late a lot then like one day of hooky Do you know what I mean? Like if they're just like habitually late, that's more of a problem to me than one day of hooky like every other month I'm like you just need to get your ass up out of the bed a little bit sooner then like why are we being habitually late?

Like that's not a thing. Um, I did just want to also say if Anyone who is listening to this was not in our telegram group live event You truly missed a good time um And all we're going to share of what happened during that live event is that carol is kill's new bff And that's all anyone needs to know No, it was off the chart and I literally said when I hung up off of that I was talking to somebody and I said somebody I can't

Yeah, somebody I can't wait till the next one like I'm gonna have snacks I'm gonna have drinks and no one's gonna complain about me eating like they have in the past because it's a live event And I can do whatever the fuck I want. So I will be eating snacks Um and gulping whatever I'm drinking Um, I have to tell you I agree with you on all of that Um, have you ever had Days where you're just so fucking overstimulated that you just drive in silence. Yeah That's like a weekly occurrence for me. Literally the last like month

I have listened to very little music in the car where I used to be like listening in the car to everything that I ever wanted to hear um If I listen to music in the car now, it's very like calming music like hits might hits me in my fucking soul Like meaningful music Um, but a lot of times I'm finding myself driving in silence Funny that you say this because Kristen and I talked about this on the southern tea and how This wouldn't apply to you, but it might apply to other people who are listening to this too that don't listen over there but

I listened to worship music. I find myself listening to worship music. So it's the same as like you listening to calming music It's like good for the soul It feels meaningful and like I'm getting something out of it And my mental health is not like suffering from what I'm consuming. Yep and you do have to be so mindful of Like I'm I'm down for like some good music and you know, like being with the stuff like I'm totally down with that But there's a time and there's a place for it and it's not every time you turn on your car And it will change your life like that is I know that that sounds crazy, but it truly will change your life

It also changes how I drive and just like my overall mood. Yes. I agree with you 100% I just like one day I was driving and it just hit me and I was like I've really been driving in silence all week Like I've really just been chilling by being collecting my thoughts thinking I'll get some ideas for the podcast and I'll type them in the notes on my phone at the next stop light like Shit like that. I can really just gather my thoughts and just be I don't know at peace and also just having so many kids and animals and three podcasts and an office over here and a home office over there and Shopping and planning and all the things I'm like I just need quiet like I just need

silence Actually, my therapist was telling me about being intentional with your time And clearing your space and being present like where you are And I think a lot of times we don't even realize the things that we're consuming That is causing us not to be able to be present where we should be present. Okay. I mean I found myself listening to music to just like Be with the people, you know, just like Know all the stuff. Mm-hmm. Just you know be with them and

and completely like just I don't know what it is but just like distorted My thinking process to the point of like I It was so clouded upstairs that like I couldn't think outside of what was going on in my car And so there is something to be said for listening to peaceful music listening to worship music. I put together a Spotify like worship playlist. You should put a calming one together. I did Yeah, that's so weird. So I have always had Spotify Um, but I'd never really made like lists on there. Like I never made like playlists

Um, and the other day I sat down and I started like, okay, these are like the calming songs These are the breakup songs. These are like the good vibe songs. Um, Spanish songs like all of the lists So I have like whatever it is and then I have a list of like podcasts for like positive thinking um, or just like chill podcasts because that's also a thing. I know you don't listen to other podcasts, but I do and um I sometimes I just need like I don't give a shit if it's bullshit. I don't care if it's a placebo effect. I just need a positive podcast to like

Trick my mind into like believing whatever it is that I need to believe or like get me into a better mood Um, so I started doing that on my pot on my spotify. That's so crazy. We're all we're right here. You know what I mean? We're we're in sync. Um Actually people ask me all the time when I do like question boxes on Instagram What podcast that I would recommend and you're like no and I'm like coffee combos and just Listen to the podcast that either I do or the people that I do a podcast with Also do because I don't listen to podcasts. So like I can't tell you Right

What to listen to isn't that so crazy and I haven't maintained that I will say that is something that I have been steadfast in From the time we started podcasting Until current that I just do not listen to other podcasts and that's fine. That's completely fine I don't I don't want the vibes to like change, you know And I'm afraid for like something to imprint on me that like I can't Shake and I like coming up with my own ideas So I just I don't I will say just to piggyback off that thought as far as like You know, you don't want to change the way we do things or be influenced even subconsciously because I think that's something that

You know, people don't realize how much like who they listen to who their friends with influences them, right? So um When I do ticktocks and stuff, I'm so tired of having to be like, oh This person influenced me or this I saw this thing on like constantly giving credit to someone else like yeah once in a while it's like, okay, they for something good, but like It's it's exhausting to have to constantly credit somebody else for something And I feel like if you're listening to other podcasts and then you set you say one thing that's similar to somebody else's podcast

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But you know how I said I was going through like that list of stuff like cleaning out stuff Yeah, and had all these perfume bottles and so many that had just like not even been touched or That I have specific attached memories to those smells that like I won't use them anymore Yes, um, do you have that? Yes, there was I think it was called mad about you was a body mist by bath and body works Um That was a scent that I wore a lot um when Chris and I were first together like on our first trip together and stuff and so

Um in that aspect it was good memories, but for me he was not a good like we weren't good for each other and so In a way it's like bittersweet right like that scent brings back so many good memories, but the outcome was so sad I can't smell it. I don't like the smell of it. I don't want to smell it I would I would recognize it immediately and probably have PTSD also Natalie wears the same perfume as my mom So when I first smelled the perfume on her I looked at her and I was like is that design and she was like, yeah, why I was like Susie wears that like Susie like I'm having a lot of memories right now

that isn't that so crazy how we connect a scent with specific places we've been or people that we were with you know, um Or like you can attach a scent to identify identifying moments of your life. Yes, like specific like I can In point certain smells with certain times like how insane is that? so I think that we should make a list of scents that we identify

moments of our life or like relationships or whatever and see if people can guess Who we're identifying with that. Okay. I will definitely I can do that I feel like people are gonna guess mine right away. I need to know. I know you have douching a lot of light blue I know that's one of your scents honey that so When I got my one of my first jobs We always went to florida over the summer and I would get like a little summer job

And I was working at the ice cream place that I really wanted to work at like the little makeup store And it was like a tiny little like makeup hut And I wanted to work there so bad and I would try like all the makeups and like all the stuff and And douching and gabbana light blue had come out and I was saving up For me to be able to get it And I got a discount on everything and I've been wearing that perfume ever since then and I probably was in like ninth grade That's so funny. I've been wearing it that long

It doesn't smell the same on everyone like people's pheromones are different and um, you always smell good to me But it does not smell good on me It's funny that you say that because one of my girlfriend's um, her son plays basketball with Jackson And she always asks me she's like, what are what are you wearing that smells so good? And I'll say it and she'll say oh, well, I've tried that and it does not smell like that on me So I don't know if it's um, I've heard that has something to do with like your ph or something Oh, all perfumes are just that one No, like your your body's ph and how it reacts to

certain Well, so I got um, are you familiar with soul de Janeiro like the product like the boom boom cream? um So I recently got the perfume that I I wanted to order the because I've smelled the um the body sprays But they have like an actual fragrance um So I got that I accidentally ordered two so I gave one to Natalie and she was like Like you smell so good. Like what is that and I told her and she's like, no

She's like that doesn't smell like that on me and I'm like, no try it again. Like I don't know But I think you're right. I think it just smells different on like different scents smell different on different people Okay, so I have one more thing that I want to ask you and it's something that I saw on tiktok And it was about the the tiktok. I don't even have it but I just saw it on there and it was about these people who um Go into their bedroom at night and they never know which side of the bed that they're going to be sleeping on with your No significant other they're mentally ill and they need to see somebody

So it made me want to ask you but then also pose the question to everybody who's listening Do you find it weird to not have a specific side of the bed? Because I feel like that is just something that you create a habit and once you Start that then that just becomes your side and that's where you go No, I've always well In a relationship I always had a side but when I'm single or no one's sleeping in my bed I sleep in the middle but that is my spot like I I sleep in the middle of my bed when I'm by myself and that is my spot when I'm by myself. There's you know what I mean

um But typically I always sleep on the left side of the bed on the left the left side of the bed Okay, so that's not how I was left like my left like if I'm laying down The left side not if you're looking at it the left side Okay, so I was always told growing up that the man sleeps closest to the door Okay, so every left side has always been closest to the door. So I guess I'm the man in the relationship That's just how I was raised like the the man sleeps close to the door. And so that's how Will and I

Always did like no matter what house we were in whatever however the bed was positioned Whatever was closest to the door is the side will slept on and the furthest away was the side that I slept on but when We were in the process of going through the divorce He decided to take up residency on the other side And then we like reconciled While still going through the process And he still made me sleep on the side closest to the door

And I don't know if it was like a territorial thing or like what exactly was going on um, but I do feel like a little odd if I'm sleeping with someone else in the bed and I I would be close to the door like that's just like a weird feeling That's always furthest from the door huh I never really cared I guess about that like I never thought about that But I also didn't have like nobody taught me anything like that and I also feel like that's like very southern values

like that's like very gentlemen type of traditional That's what it sounds like to me So it doesn't surprise me, but that is something that like I guess I never really thought about Yeah, well But you are confirming that like you do have a side of the bed. Yeah, either the middle or the left 100 percent Okay. Yeah, so that is crazy. That's what we're saying. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah

If someone just walks in their bedroom And the person that you're sleeping with is just like on a different side every night That just doesn't make sense to me. No, that screams chaos and screams like we don't have a plan and no one knows what's going on You're flying by the seat of your pants and like Even I don't do that. You know what I mean? Like I have a side Um, I saw this one thing um on instagram. It was just like, you know how they'll have like those quotes and stuff Yeah, and it was about current life focus and It said, um, it was talking about like not running from your life

But embracing it and I feel like I have finally arrived to that point And I feel like you're kind of there as well. Um For a long time. I wanted everything to just be like so perfect and just You know the more that I could make perfect the better that my life would go and like the more Fixed it would feel the more planned it would feel Because everything that was happening would just be like executed perfectly And I don't know if it's age or if it's just growth and therapy or if it's just like some hard knocks that have happened that like I'm Fully okay with just like embracing

Where I'm at. Yeah. No, totally. I like it's okay. I'm on board with that and I think Maybe that's our 30s. Like I've heard that 30s is like you really come into your own your own You really come into your own. You're okay with things. You care about Very different things or like maybe not care about different things, but Certain things are less important and you just are you become comfortable well, and then You know, also, I think watching your journey too um, you came from a very different show background than what I did and so

I think that's helped me come vicariously like through you come out of my shell A little bit because I have always been so guarded when you have all these eyes on you and people having all these opinions or think they know something and then, you know their opinion is said so many times and then other people start saying it so then it becomes or what feels like, you know, the public's opinion of the truth, which is just It's

totally untrue. I have just learned to be okay with where I'm at but also there's just like certain things that I think that in general The way your show was filmed. I feel like yes, is there editing aspects of that? Yes but You weren't like you were filming pretty real stuff, you know, like Your co-parenting like all of those aspects of your life

and as hard as that would be to have to face it head-on and to know that people are seeing that and you don't have like a lot of privacy I feel like when you don't have that there's also a negative to that as well because there's been a lot of things that people have just assumed about my life that is just completely untrue and there are so many aspects of my life that

I just have not publicly shared and I do plan to start sharing those things and I've talked to my therapist about it because In a sense, I do feel a personal responsibility to share it at the point that you can personally identify that There are certain things that people don't know that you know if you were sharing that part of your story that people would learn something from it or gain a better understanding or feel like they're not so alone then I do feel a personal responsibility to share those things

Right, right. No, I think that's fair. I think that's fair. Um I did an interview with dr. Ish. Um, he's a psychiatrist and he was saying like share When you're basically share when you're ready, but also Share with people who deserve to hear it. You know what I mean who have earned the right to hear Kind of what you have to say and what your story is or whatever, you know, it is that you're going through Um, don't share it with people who don't earn it and I think that is like the second part of what you're saying You know what I mean because you're you're ready to share it

You want to share it and you feel kind of like a responsibility to share it And so in that way people Earn the right to hear those parts of your story or your life How did you get to a point to Was it because of the way that The show was that that you just kind of like leaned into that or did you feel pressured into doing that? In times that you didn't want to do it. Um

Like did you feel in control of your own story at all times? No, I never felt in control of my story and I think that's why towards I would say in the middle of the whole experience and all the way up until the end I didn't feel controlling of my story and I also felt like I had so much experience about how it could be perceived Um, so it was a mix of not having control Um How it would be perceived and then as you know just fitting it into such a very short

Timeline to make it make sense Um cuts a lot of corners. So it was like I'm being defensive I'm not wanting to share certain aspects and then on top of it. It has to make sense the way that it's edited Um, and so it was just a lot and so for me at at some points and even now sometimes I feel like this is the narrative that was given so I might as well fit fit the mold I might as well like you have to lean into Yeah to that narrative and I I think that you just get to a point at the age that we are now and maybe through healing that

We are now that that you don't have to fit into a mold that you didn't create Right, you know, that's not my responsibility to fit into something that was created for me. So I am excited to take on that journey and I've been writing down so many things of just aspects of my life that people don't know And I want to share those but I want to make sure when I'm sharing those that I don't want to come across one sided by anything because there's always two sides to everything and I just want to be authentic when sharing it. Right. I agree. I definitely agree with you Oh, hello, fresh. I love an easy meal an easy recipe

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I'm still feel like I'm a little bit sick. I'm congested. I don't I don't have strep anymore I don't have killed covid. So I really need to know like what's going on, right? So doc doc is the only free app that lets you find and book doctors who are patient reviewed, which is really nice Um, and they can tell you whether they take your insurance. So whenever you need them They're available and they can treat every condition under the sun. I also agree with you I can't stand to feel like I'm just like lost in the sauce And I want a doctor who's going to focus on me and who's going to listen to me and also prioritize my care and so

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So I'm going to start watching it this weekend and I will report back. What whatever I find out, but Um, and I think that you probably started growing interest around the same time that I did about consuming like cleaner alternatives when purchasing products and just more so being mindful about it and so this show or documentary whatever, um Is the first ever comprehensive large-scale investigative Exposed of

cosmetics beauty and personal care industry, which I thought was so interesting because we talk about so many Things that we like and that we use and whatever And so someone had told me they were like you need to you totally need to watch this and it's basically just like talking about the hidden hazards of cosmetics um and find how to find budget-friendly alternatives for

daily products and also safe Safer versions of products. I started following all kinds of accounts Um on tiktok and instagram for cleaner and it's not just cosmetics. It's like food too Um, but a lot of them are like, okay They push the agenda for sunscreen so bad But the sunscreens that people are using are They're protecting from UV rays, but they're causing cancer So it's like what what is what is the lesser of the two evils like letting my skin burn and sizzle in the sun or

Putting skin on my or putting products on my skin that are literally causing cancer and like have like What is it called? Benz benzyme benzymes or something? Benzine. Thank you. Benzine. I said it wrong. I don't want to get caught up like indicted um benzine And so I followed I think it's called just ingredients on Instagram is one of them And I know like I changed my toothpaste. I use modere toothpaste modere laundry detergent that has no dyes Um and things like that. I also Skyler beauty is another um, it's a perfume that I wear

I still love my regular perfumes, but I do have clean beauty perfumes as well Um, I started shopping at aldi. I started shopping at um, well, I didn't start shopping at trader joes. I want to um Aldi is it like it kills face What is it? It's aldi Aldi what the fuck ever I started shopping at aldi, right? You know those shirts that are like

Chloe and kim and kylie and cory mine's gonna be like indicted and aldi and benzyme And it's gonna be like all my mispronounced words. Y'all know what the fuck i'm talking about though Stop trying to act like you don't know what we're talking about. That's just like offensive But you have to watch this because I feel like I'm just so into like educational stuff right now and educating myself and documentaries And like all the things so I'm gonna need you to also watch this. I'll take notes in case you don't um, but supposedly There's like someone told me about this and then she told me that she started using this app

And I'll have to figure out like what the name of the app is so that I can share it But she was saying that Basically a lot of these like organic said products are actually worse than Other products that are like not organic So she had compared like one macaroni and cheese not going to say the brand to another brand of macaroni and cheese one was supposedly like a way cleaner version And then the other was not and when she scanned it on the app um

It told her like how bad it was for you So the good the good alternative was just as bad. Yeah Yeah, that's that's what I'm saying. It's like kind of like this this um sunscreen thing Um, and it's just it's so sad and so crazy because I mean, I don't know if you know this But Gatorade is like literally banned in other countries. What? Yeah, Gatorade you can't buy Gatorade in every country our beloved Gatorade. Yeah, because it's so bad for you I just don't tell me that right at this moment because I just consumed a lot of it from my stomach bug. So Don't be talking to me about that. But if you guys have not watched not so pretty on netflix

I'm gonna be talking about it next week because I'm gonna watch it this weekend. Listener topics. Let's go Okay, listener topics Curious to know what others have done with their children while laboring slash giving birth to their siblings We live in colorado. Both of our families live in jersey We don't we really don't have anyone in terms of support My mom is very willing very willing to hop on a plane asap But that doesn't guarantee she can be here on time our hospital does not allow any visitors under 13 So it seems like I'm going to give birth to our second alone. So my husband can look after our son until they fly in

I just don't know what to do. I'm thrown around maybe trying to interview babysitters in the next coming weeks But that's all I've thought about to do to help any suggestions Or what you would do in the situation. Also, I'm 30 weeks. My baby is currently breached and I had a c-section with my first I really think just doing a scheduled c-section would be easiest just because it has a higher probability of me being able to plan Someone flying out here But at my appointment today, my doctor made it seem like if I do a second c-section I should tie my tubes Or if there is a possibility of wanting to have a third we should try for a v-back

My husband and I didn't like hearing my the tubes tying Um, we never fully ruled out a third, but don't really have plans for a third right now either I guess I didn't really think of all the logistics and now that I'm in my third trimester. It's stressing me out To just have all this up in the air. Um, I've actually There's a lot going on there. There is and I have met people who Um, and I've been friends with people who don't have they've never even Considered the idea of finding a good babysitter and so I've heard of people bringing their kids Um to give birth. I have a friend

Um, she's got four kids and her man. They've been together for Since high school. She said she brought all of her kids with her for each child's birth um, and I think it was her that said that he missed one of the children's birth because he was watching the other kids. Um That's really difficult and for me Like I I don't know everybody's finances, right? Like I don't know that situation However, even when I was on welfare I had like a friend that would be willing to watch my kids just like if I had to get called into work, which had happened

Um, medical things like that and so it really really hurts me when I see that people don't have that support system, but also You know one of my girlfriends had called me crying a couple years ago And she was like I'm overwhelmed and she had the funds to find somebody She had the financial ability and flexibility to find somebody and it was almost like She didn't want to be solution oriented. And so at that time I was just like I can't Offer you any other advice other than literally care.com because that's what I told her to do I can tell you that

I think it's when you get into your third trimester because I remember this like so vividly whenever I was pregnant That you get into that mode where you feel like you have to fix everything like right at that moment You know and so like you start stressing out and I couldn't imagine because I don't have a second So I can't imagine what it would be like to like have one And then be pregnant with another and be trying to come up with solutions like that would be very difficult In a perfect world for me if I was having a second child I got to have that experience with

Jackson uninterrupted and I feel like I would want that with a second child with my partner whomever it may be And the baby without another child being there, but might not be realistic for some people Um to me with the c-section that is a whole another situation because if she's going to have to be in an operating room Like a kid's not going to be able to go in there. So then what do you? What do you do actually? Um, so my kids were born at different hospitals. The only ones that were born at the same one was um Lincoln and lux and then obviously had creed at home Um, there's like a big hospital around here. Um, I didn't I didn't give birth to Lincoln or lux there, but

Um, the one that's like up north that one has like a little child care center. Yeah Oh, that's super nice to be able, you know for emergency situations or whatever Also, just wanted to say that my doctor's office um If you have a c-section the first time they do not like they always schedule C-section the second time because I was told that if if I carry Jackson full term that I would have never been able to birth him vaginally

And so I was going to be scheduled for a c-section, but then I ended up having him Um, so much earlier. So I didn't have to do that, but had I had a c-section and then had another baby They would have automatically scheduled a c-section. No v back and I wonder if that's common with doctor's offices or if it's just certain doctor's offices or whatever But that also would stress me out. Um I feel like you should be able to have a choice Huh, I want yeah, I think some people have it like Um, when I gave birth to creed at home

Um, I remember the midwife saying like her She wasn't affiliated with any hospitals, but she was saying how like A lot of clients would come to her Um, because their doctor or their hospital didn't they would not let them have a v back So she would fully support women in having v backs and um, She'd been delivering babies for over 20 years. So it's you know, I would have trusted her as well Yeah, my doctor's office does not perform v backs. So if you've had a c-section If you're staying at that doctor's office, your next baby is

c-section um Also just wanted to say too I would be so devastated If my spouse or significant other could not be there for My birth that is and I know that it happens all the time. You've got military women You know that are out here having babies without their partners or you know People end up on business trips and you have and that just

Happens that way. But if my Partner was at home and was having to take care of my other kid and couldn't experience that moment with me Which should be such like a precious moment. I would be devastated Coffee combos podcast is brought to you by progressive insurance. Let's face it. Sometimes multitasking can be overwhelming Like when your favorite podcast is playing and the person next to you is talking and your car fan is blasting All while you're trying to find the perfect parking spot But then again, sometimes multitasking is easy like quoting with progressive insurance They do the hard work of comparing rates so you can find a great rate that works for you

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That's love and pies free to download at the app store or google play Okay, next person from the facebook group says why do I feel like a bad mom at times? Well sister I have to tell you because you a mom Um, I don't with the back of my head. I'm doing a great job. I guess maybe I feel like I could do better I don't know ma'am. You are a mom. I talked about this the other day with one of my girlfriends that you can feel like such a just like literal turd on a stick No, I'm not a turd on a stick. Ew You can just feel like a turd on a stick some days and you're just like

Why do I feel just like I'm not doing enough? But like you definitely are doing enough. It's just self doubt like yeah Yeah, you are entitled to have a bad day even as A mom and like that is totally okay No, I relate to this because I I know I'm a good mom overall But there are definitely places I fall short. There are definitely places I could improve and that's okay um as long as you Know that and you're aware of it and then you try to make efforts to do better That is okay. You're we're all fucking human and also sometimes moming is just fucking hard and like have you ever just like

gotten onto your kids so bad and you're just like telling them about themselves and stuff and then you go to bed And then you just start crying. You're like Yes, I have done that so many times especially because I rock creed to sleep every night still. Um, I mean the I don't know why I'm still congested because I'm not even sick but um He's about to transition to a big boy bed, but I still rock him before I put him in the in the crib and mainly with him There are so many times where we're just having our moments and I'm rocking him and I'm just balling because I'm like I Need to do better. I can do better. I want to do better Or maybe I maybe I had an attitude with them today or whatever the case may be and I've just cried like just I'm sorry. I'm crying

I don't I don't know. I've had those I've had I've had to learn through therapy that Being a mom you're still human and so You you don't have like we do have superpowers probably but like That doesn't mean that you can't mess up and I think that a lot of people and I was one of those people that you get so Down on yourself for feeling like you fall short But you have to give yourself grace. You have to be able to pick up move on to the next day

I actually had this conversation with my sister not too long ago as she started her journey with taking over my siblings And their care And I told her I said you're gonna have hard days and it's gonna be hard because that's what being a parent is Whether you're a mom whether you're a dad. It's not easy. It's not gravy. Like that's just the way that the cookie crumbles But you cry it out. You pick up you move on and tomorrow's a new day and kids are forgiving They're resilient and they probably don't even care that they got blessed out because they got slime all over the fucking couch Like they probably don't even care about it. You you care about it. They don't I think

To like we are more aware and more willing to apologize to our kids for where we feel guilt or where we feel bad or where we fucked up And at least I didn't experience that growing up. I don't feel like I ever gotten apology for anything ever um, and so Hopefully, you know, if we do feel like we can do better. We do feel like we didn't have a great day to our kids, you know They are already resilient and understanding I feel like but on top of it if we acknowledge it and apologize and talk to them about it They also see us as human and not just their parent Absolutely

Love that. Okay, Isaac. Isaac just texted me and said mom. I don't want to be here. I said why he goes math and social studies I said, oh Like why is your phone? You're like, why is your phone out? Literally get off your phone and that's the question just texted me right now, but I'm like my kid's texting me um, ma'am Okay, the last one from the facebook group before we do foul play Says where is the best place to travel within the states? In june for a three to four day trip for canadiens who aren't used to the heat have been to la and seattle before

But that is it. Thank you in advance Um, Chicago. I feel like you have to go you have to go to places that have low humidity I would say wyoming jackson hall wyoming. Um, we're saying all these places that we've never been jackson hall wyoming Or chicago, I have been chicago Um, chicago is cool. You go see like the little the little bean thing um I would recommend somewhere in the state of california because I feel like they have got great weather

But the humidity is low But I think they already been to california Yeah, but they said la so there's other places that they can go like they can go san francisco. Yeah Um, san francisco would be a great a great place to go. I love san francisco Um, I'll try to find some places and and maybe put together a little list And I'll write that down right now actually to do that Okay, hope that we were helpful, but probably not Okay, jackson hall might not be, um

Super hot. Okay. Well, I'm ready to be foul. You're ready. I hate you so much. I'm ready to be foul Okay, here we go Foul play. Okay. Hey kaolin. Lindsay. This story is extra foul. So no judgments It was also from when I was in my revenge era as a 22 year old I'm 27 now, but I will always laugh at how bad karma got me same so much same I was coming off a breakup with my boyfriend and we will call him jake at the time After the dust settled in the breakup. I had somehow got back in communication with an ex from college who moved to texas We will call him chris. No, we won't call him chris

I'm just kidding. I thought chris was one of the one who got away at the time My birthday was coming up and chris wanted to get me a ticket to come spend my birthday weekend with him in texas Even though jake and I were still seeing each other regularly Regularly and hooking up like the toxic and bitter bitch. I was at the time I packed my bags to go see if the chemistry was still there between chris and I I'm such a believer in instant karma because hours before my flight. I was at work and got my period Whatever though, no worries, right? So I'm in texas with chris the hospitality group I worked for at the time had clubs in texas too. So naturally we went to those and got absolutely belligerent off champagne

I'm blacked out at this point and don't even remember hooking up with chris not a single recollection But I woke up naked. So I'm assuming we did In it's the morning after now and I'm packing up to go home I don't feel a tampon string which honestly was expected as we seemingly hooked up, right? So I put the tampon in and head to the airport I fly home feeling fine hung over but fine. I land in chicago to A fucking polar vortex. We're talking negative 40 degree weather and my car is buried in snow So I add a stop to my uber to take me to jake's apartment

Which was close by because I was just not dealing with that shit same. I also would do the same He's happy to see me because he had no clue who I was actually in texas with We put on a movie and start to get cozy me still being the bitter ex. I was at the time I decided it wasn't enough to hook up with my ex in texas. I had to hook up with jake too To make it all come full circle and really be the bigger asshole as we're getting cozy That's when I start to feel absolutely awful. I get dizzy hot to the touch and seeing black spots everywhere I was convinced I was going to pass out at any second because I was feeling sicker by the minute I knew something was very wrong and started panicking telling jake

We had to go to the emergency room in this literal frozen tundra. Chicago was at the time He agrees and something told me to get up and change my tampon since we'd be stuck in the emergency room for a while I go to change out my tampon and I feel it rub against something inside me that feel like it shouldn't be there At this point I couldn't even stand up so I called jake in and he asked if there was something up there The visual is me laying on the bathroom floor and jake shining his flashlight up my kitty to which his response is I think it's a tampon all the way up there Kitties I was so drunk when chris and I hooked up but I couldn't I didn't take my tampon out Apparently neither did he and it literally pushed it so far up my kitty. I thought there was nothing there the morning after

Jake ran she has toxic shock syndrome. Yes. That's exactly what it is Jake ran to the kitchen grabbed a disposable pair of gloves and reached up there and pulled it out when I tell you it was So foul smelling it literally smelled like rotten garbage that left that was left out in the heat to marinate and it was black Not dark dark dark red but black Almost immediately after this tampon was out of me. I started to feel better. I was starting to experience symptoms of toxic shock Shock syndrome. I'm sure needless to say I didn't ever speak to chris again And I got my shit together with jake because anyone who does that Has to really love you

Let me be an example as to why you should never go out of your way to be a grimy bitch to someone because karma will get you And it will get you fast. Jake is now my fiance and we have two kids together I will literally take this to the grave with I will literally take this to the grave with me But I had to tell the kitty gang Absolutely adore you all and thanks for being traumatized with me after hearing the story I told my story the same thing happened to me like I fully understand I I wasn't being a grimy bitch, but like also I have been in my life. So like I fully understand this Okay, there's a couple things that I need to

Disact from this Do we feel like if you are broken up from an ex But you're still seeing them Hooking up with them regularly That you owe them An explanation as to what you're doing when you're not doing them. No, absolutely not See, I do I feel like if you have been in a relationship with someone and

You are kind of like I don't know really where this is going or what's going on But we aren't officially together. We're not officially not together because we're hooking up. We're Seeing each other regularly, you know doing relationship stuff just like not with a relationship status I feel like if you are having sex with someone That you have been in a relationship with that you do owe them To some degree Answers as to what you're doing when you're not with them If you're still hoping up with them. Yes

because people's health are people's health is at risk um, and For that reason, I feel like you owe that to them But if you're not hooking up with them anymore, you absolutely do not owe them Yeah, I think if if you're not hooking up with them and you're just in communication I think no harm no foul. You're not engaging with that person sexually. They're not engaging with you So that's a whole different story. But when you are I do think that you

You know, it's like common decency like I wouldn't want it done to me. So I'm not going to do it to someone else um, also I will tell you I learned about toxic shock syndrome from my fifth grade teacher and have been traumatized by toxic shock syndrome ever since and She told us about how long you should be leaving tampons in and how long it's like too long How long and so when I Well, I think it's like four hours or something but

I don't know like I don't know that I've ever left a tampon in that long I don't think Like more than four hours. I don't think even when I'm sleeping Um, but I think I'm still so traumatized from that conversation that I have been so afraid of toxic shock syndrome since fifth grade I don't even have a period in fifth grade. So let's also preface that but I've been scared of it since then um I'm just not leaving a tampon in that long and also She had sex with two people with that same tampon in

Oh Did the cum go on the tampon? He might have wore a rubber from both people or yeah, they could have worn a rubber but That's just I'm not judging. I'm not being judged duty. But like I'm just saying that You guys should be aware of toxic shock syndrome It's a scary thing I've been traumatized since fifth grade. Just like do your research on it. Don't be forgetting tampons up there like find your string

um, I have heard of people before In the summertime like cutting their strings to their tampon to wear bathing suits and forgetting that it's in there Yeah, yeah, and I need to know do you ever cut your tampon strings or you just tuck it in your butthole? What if you're going if you've got your period and you're like on a tropical Lady, I cannot believe that just came out of your fucking mouth. I have never In my 30 years Have I ever heard of someone tucking their string into their butthole? They do. They know they don't I am officially telling you that they do

So nobody does that had your period you have had your period You are wearing a bathing suit out and you just let that string just like hang around No, I don't know a bathing suit that I have that you wouldn't see that string Why not just tuck the string into your vagina? No, I'm not tucking it that way. I'm tucking it that way So you tuck the string into your butthole. Oh, yeah, absolutely do Absolutely do No, yeah, yes, I do

When you're putting it in you're like this. Okay, you're like this. Hold on It's like, okay, like up and then you're like and then you just like go on about your day No, Lindsay. No one ever sees it. No, I'm That is the best and worst thing I've ever heard in a long time Wait, Kristen also just text me and said no, she didn't I tuck it to my butt To her like more people do this. So you're telling me you wad up that string And tuck it in your koochie. No, I just put it in the bathing suit bottom Like I don't do anything with it. I do nothing with it

I don't have a bathing suit bottom that is big enough Where you would not see the string and like the thought oh my god It is literally makes me so scared. Are you the type of person that like you've ever had your period and You are like laying out like on a lounge chair And you like look in your crotch and you're like, oh, is there a string like I need to make sure like it's not down there Yeah, I'll just like tuck it. I also do that to see if I'm really hanging out Mine's never hanging out because it's in my butthole And I know more people are gonna I know more people are gonna write in and say that that is a normal thing

And you wadding it up and like literally putting it between your koochie lips is like a weirdo thing Like that's just not that's just not happening But you said it with so much confidence like Do you cut the string or do you just tuck it in your butthole? And it's like I've never done either I've never cut the string and I've never tucked it in my butthole. So the fact that you said it with so much conviction I'm posting this immediately. Yes, ma'am. Also um I just

Need to know if I've never been in a situation where I have broken up with someone continued You'd okay. Yes, I have I've been in a situation where I've broken up with someone Continue to see them continue to hook up with them But never would I be in a situation where I did that and they weren't wondering where the frick I was for like a whole weekend where I'm just like off like gallivanting around Texas like gallivanting around What is that a thing they would be asking me like what are you doing? Like where are you? You Where are you well, where were you I wasn't I was being honest. Hey

She wasn't this girl wasn't she was hanging out hooking up going to Texas Getting tampon stuck going back Screwing jake and then going to the hospital and then he not only did she screw someone else Jake then had to fish the tampon out. Oh, so he didn't wear a rubber That yeah, he probably he's a G for sure Wow, I really like Jake honestly I'm glad he's a gaber. He's a real one. He's a real one. He honestly is a real one. Wait I also need to ask you when did you find out about toxic shock syndrome and are you scared of it?

I found out about toxic shock syndrome in high school I think And I am afraid of it because I had a similar story where I left it in Um, only the difference is that I don't know how long mine had been in and I started to it hers I felt like was on set quickly mine did not mine was not like my Symptoms if if there was any was not as quick as that was so, um, it is terrifying because I feel like you just don't know

It could happen in 24 hours or it could happen in a week. Like you really don't know Um, but now I'm like well I bleed so heavy at this point that I have to change my tampons like literally every 30 minutes to every hour So I it wouldn't happen again. So I don't I'm not scared of it if that makes sense, ma'am I'm scared that you have to change your tampon that many times like that is nothing like you can't even leave home Like you might as well just like save post it. I really don't like going anywhere when I have my period Um, I've been bleeding on and off all month like all of january like have random days where I'll just start bleeding and even, um

This month, I mean, it's only the eighth and I've already bled for just two days out of this month. And so, um I don't like to go anywhere when I have my period because it's I just never know if I'm gonna bleed through my shit Honey, your pcos Is traumatizing you? Well, I have at this point. It's traumatized me I'm going to I'm gonna see a doctor from uPen on march 29th. Oh, you are. Yeah, you'll have to give us Updates on that. Yes, I will. I definitely will um, also before we go, I just wanted to Read you guys this list of top 10 mental well-being tips

Um, and you can let me know how many you do or how many that you need to work on 7 to 8 hours of sleep hydration connection breath work and meditation nourishing foods movement journaling sunlight finding joy and repeating boundaries with self and others I love that list. I love that you're a list a list. Um maker taker also, um Just want to say I learned about breath work through pilates And didn't realize like how important it is to actually do that and it does make you feel so much better So maybe you and I Can start working on breathing exercises together and then once we get like our breath work down

We can start teaching other people how to do it. Oh, I love breath work. That's something I've I've been working on that for a long time So I'm down you have I'm yeah Okay, okay, so then we're we're signing up to do this and we're gonna teach people like how to do it You're probably you're so cliche like it's one of those things that people like really don't listen to Um, but when you do it in like everyday situations that are not stressful Um, it really fucking helps when times are rough and you need to ground yourself or bring yourself back like center yourself Um, yep But like my therapist was teaching me to do those like do these breathing exercises

You know in the car when you're just driving or you're just sitting on your phone scrolling Like you practice the breathing so it becomes second nature when you do when you have Very stressful or high-conflict situations. Chris. Listen, that is literally Everything that I've been learning in Pilates And why didn't you teach me this before I started Pilates because now I feel offended that like you didn't care about me No, it's not that I mean It's good that you learned it on your own because you probably wouldn't have listened to me if I tried to teach it to you I honestly thought it was a joke when I started doing it. I told you

I'll be honest. I thought it was a joke and then I was like, you know what? No, this is actually really important Um, it's really helpful. And in fact, um, what we're gonna do is we're gonna Like work on it together a couple of times and then our next live chat that we do on telegram We're gonna start we will demonstrate and show people how to do Breathwork or how we do it. That's gonna be on february the 20th at eight eastern standard time We'll make sure we post the link for you guys to be able to go in and And subscribe to the telegram. Um, and I'm excited for it. If you guys have not subscribed to our show You can do that by searching any podcast app

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