Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley - No Filter Kids, Preventing Burglary & Choosing Teen Pregnancy

Episode Date: April 18, 2024

CC344: Lindsie and Kail wonder why some kids love to air their family's dirty laundry. Kail had a period situation during her spring break vacation which leads to the conversation on whether parents should educate their young boys on women's periods and to what extent. The story about a man suing a Facebook group goes viral and neither Lindsie or Kail are about it. A video about mothers arguing with their first borns resonants with Kail but with a different child, and a listener's question about their teen being pregnant has us asking why are they choosing to be a teen mom? Check out our Instagram @coffeeconvospodcast for more! Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/coffee today to get 10% off your first month IQBar: Get 20% off every IQBar product plus free shipping when you text CONVOS to 64-000. By Texting 64000, you agree to receive recurring automated marketing messages from IQBAR. Message and data rates may apply. No purchase required. Terms apply, available at IQBAR.com. Reply "STOP" to stop, "HELP" for help Progressive: Visit Progressive.com to learn more! Rocket Money: Manage your expenses the easy way by going to RocketMoney.com/COFFEECONVOS Thrive: Get an exclusive 20% off your first order when you visit thrivecausemetics.com/COFFEE

I hate gift giving and receiving. Receiving gifts is so weird. What do you say? Thank you. This is Coffee Convo's with Kale Lowry and Lindsey Chrisley. I really want you to be in your feels Kale. That does not interest me whatsoever. I feel very attacked by you.

A spirited discussion about motherhood, friendship, family and life in the public eye. I'm just not with the fakery anymore. There's a fakery bakery around here. Here's Kale and Lindsey. Hi Lindsey Chrisley. bakery around here. Here's Kail and Lindy. Hi Lindy, Chrisley. Welcome to Coffee Combo's podcast. How are we? We're telling secrets. First thing in the morning. I literally go to get on this recording y'all and Kristin and Kail are whispering, telling secrets. So.

Secrets do make friends after all. Remember that saying when we were in elementary school, it was like, secret, secrets do make friends after all. Remember that saying, um, when we were in elementary school, it was like secret secrets are no fun unless you tell everyone. No, I don't. I don't know that one. Wait, what? I don't know that rhyme, that nursery rhyme. You didn't say that whenever you were growing up?

No, all I knew was secrets don't make friends and I didn't understand it at the time. And I kind of still don't understand it. Secrets don't make friends because friends do make secrets. There are certain people who are great secret keepers and then there's other ones who are like the worst secret keepers of all time. Well, we all know that I tell my friends absolutely everything to my detriment and then it ends up on the internet. I stopped doing that a good three months ago and you know what's funny is that today this

morning I googled myself and oddly enough no news or rumors have surfaced on the internet since about the beginning of February. So I thought that was really interesting. The only news or rumors that have surfaced about me on the internet most recently are not from anything that was told to people. It's interesting how that plays out and how that works. Like I have really, really narrowed down my circle and it's just ironic how everything played out. But O.J. Simpson has passed away. I did not even know he had cancer. I had no idea he was sick. I haven't really kept up with

him over the years outside of being convinced that he murdered his ex-wife and her significant other. I will never be convinced otherwise. Some of the comments were saying that he's looking up at us. I hate that his family is grieving, number one. Number two, I will be very interested to see if any truth does come out now that he has passed. It's interesting because one of our friends, a friend that I met through you texted us,

Kristen texted us, like people knew because we covered this case way back when. We've kind of kept up with headlines, but not necessarily with him. But I must have missed the headline where he had cancer because if that was public knowledge, I must have missed that one. Do we know what kind of cancer he had? It said that he, Simpson's cancer diagnosis was initially reported by Local 10 News in

February. And I don't know that they said what type of cancer it was. I didn't look that far into it because I don't necessarily care about all of his accolades and accomplishments. I just wonder like where the bronco is. Do you think they still had that? Like you think- I don't know.

I've always wondered like if he held onto it or if it was gotten rid of or if somebody else purchased it. I call it the murder mobile. So. I would be curious to know what happened to that. Maybe they like auctioned it off. Maybe so.

I have to ask you this question because it's something that's going on in my house right at this moment. It's pouring down rain outside. Does anybody have dogs that have anxiety from just hearing rain? I've never had that experience from any of the dogs that I've had in my, you know, adulthood.

That would be a Kristen question because Kristen has a lot of dogs. So maybe she has, but mine don't want to go outside because they're like little princesses and they don't want to get dirty and wet. But other than that, no anxiety here. Della has always like from the time that we got her has always had anxiety from like hearing really any noises, but like specifically rain doesn't have to be a thunderstorm. She can just like hear it hitting the windows and her breathing patterns honestly are very

scary to the point that I feel like I need to order her a thunder shirt. Do you remember like back when those were so popular, it was like a trend to get a thunder shirt for your dog. I've never even heard of that. Wait, what? What is that? It basically like wraps them up and supposedly relieves anxiety from them when they're like in a storm. So like a weighted blanket, but for dogs.

Yeah. And I tell her every single time that she does this panting shit, I'm like, Della, the rain's not going to get you. Like it's outside. Yeah. So I feel very sad for Will that he has to deal with this on a regular basis. I have the dogs and Jackson and have been going through some co-parenting stuff that has not been fun over the last 24 hours. Just had a school meeting with Jackson's

teachers and we are in the last six and a half weeks of school. And when I tell you, I cannot wait for summer, I cannot wait for summer. I'm actually really looking forward to summer as well. I got Isaac's going to high school in the fall. So we got his flyaway ceremony information for eighth grade. And I'm a little bit sad because we are a blended family and we also are, Joe and I are actually dealing with some co-parenting

difficulties and you know, we got the information for his ceremony to graduate sort of into high school and only two people can come. So like the extended slash blended families are not allowed to participate or be a part of it and I know that it's like for safety reasons or whatever, but like they make graduation work and you know, I'm, I am very disappointed, especially because, you know, we aren't seeing eye to eye right now. And that's an Isaac and Elijah are so close that I'm like, I know Elijah wants to be there.

So it sucks that I'm looking forward to summer because the amount of seats that are available. That was my, I think so. I think it's like a safety fire exits, that sort of thing. I don't know that. I don't know for sure. It just sucks because not just for our case, but I know a lot of kids come from blended families where they're bioparents or caregivers plus they're extended. Even if it's only open to specifically parents,

I just don't think that, how do you pick and choose if mom and stepdad or dad and stepmom or, you know what I mean? Because now like- So I've heard though here like in high schools and I truly until you just said that have never even thought that far in advance to like eighth grade graduation or high school graduation because we're just not there yet. But I have heard that people get a certain

amount of tickets for like the high school graduation. And if you don't use those, you can gift them to someone else. Correct. Is that how it works for y'all too? Yes. Okay. Yeah. So I don't know. That will be very interesting if like Will and I are both Remarried by that time or even just in committed serious relationships Yeah, where you would want them to because I know I haven't even told Elijah yet because I'm like I don't want to I don't want to hurt his feelings. So don't it's not that I wouldn't have had him come

It's just that you know, Joe also is gonna be there, you know, so Sucks. I absolutely hate that. I need to ask you a question. I saw this video on TikTok when I was scrolling last night in the bed and I feel like you might have a child like this woman has. Okay. But I was literally howling and I watched it three times over because just the way like she presented everything was so funny and just honestly, it was a comedy show. She said that she took her daughter to the dentist and the children at her

dentist office go back by themselves without the parents. Same thing happens at my dental office and it's like an open room where your kids like they're all getting their teeth cleaned, right? where your kids like they're all getting their teeth cleaned, right? She said she comes back out in like 10 minutes and then the next week she has a dental appointment. So she has the same hygienist that her daughter saw. And in the matter of that short amount of time of this dental cleaning, this woman knew like this hygienist knew everything about this child's mom's personal life. And she was like, to the point that she knew that I had a child when I was 15, that I have new boyfriends all the time, that I argue about child support, like all of these things. Then she took it a step further and she said the same thing

happened at a parent-teacher conference with the child's teacher that like she comes to school every single day just like airing out all of her dirty laundry. And she said, I finally got to the point where I just had to tell my daughter like, bitch, tell about yourself like, don't be talking about me. So basically, my kids haven't done that unless they kind of like, if someone comes to our house, and it's like my friend Emily or something, my kids will air it out. unless they kind of like, if someone comes to our house, and it's like my friend Emily or something, my kids will air it out. And they'll be like, you know, because they know her. I haven't yet experienced them

doing it to someone that we don't know or that we're not familiar with. But I would not hold my breath for that not happening. I'm 100% sure it would happen. You know what I mean? Like Lux Crea, honestly, Isaac Lincoln and Lux, all of them. What scares me now, and this was actually a conversation at football practice last night was like, one of the moms who's talking about how her kid will literally be like, remember that remember that time you hit me and you beat me all the time and

say shit like that. And I'm like, you know what's so funny? me all the time and say shit like that. And I'm like, you know, what's so funny? Creed lately has had the craziest appetite I've ever seen in any of my kids. So he'll eat all this stuff and then still be hungry for like a full meal, which maybe it's a growth spurt. Right? So he'll walk around and he'll be like, I'm hungry. And I'm like, we're in public. We're in public. And you have people thinking I don't feed you. You literally just ate a protein bar, a banana and an apple. Like I, you're not hungry. You're not, but it's just the way that he whines when he says it that I'm like, people are going to think I starve you.

So that's more so like where I'm scared right now. I know I'm thankful and my fingers are crossed that my kids will like keep the only saying like funny shit and airing me out with my with people that we're familiar with. But I would be more if I don't, I would be so scared if I because Lux would be the one that like goes to school and like tell somebody something. And so I don't know what his teacher knows. Like, oh, because my this actually is a great like pivot to something I wanted to talk to

you about is like, we were on vacation, and I I got my period and it was like this whole thing. Oh my god. That like walk goes to school and it's like, and then my mom started bleeding on the beach. Like he would be like that kid. Oh my. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy is a fantastic way to kind of get ahead of issues as they arise, but also to tackle things that are in your real life now, right? So if you guys want to give online therapy a try, betterhelp.com slash coffee can help get you on your way

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you can switch therapists at any time for no additional charge. Find your social sweet spot with BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com slash coffee today to get 10% off your first month. That's better help. H e l p dot com slash coffee. Wait, do your kids know about periods and stuff? So that's what I was getting at. So they all know about periods. Creed knows that I bleed. He doesn't know why or what it is. I just say like when girls get their periods, and I don't think he's made the connection with like blood equals period. Lux knows, Lincoln knows, Isaac knows. They all know on different levels, like to their understanding. But what's funny is like, I made a TikTok about raising awareness about teaching your sons about

periods. And for me, especially like I'm irregular. So now I used to be like clockwork and very heavy, but like it was still possible to always bleed through my stuff. And so for that reason, I had to tell my kids, but now that I'm done having kids, I got my tubes taken out, I'm very irregular, so I don't know when it's coming. And when we were on vacation, I got my period. Not only did I bleed onto my white bathing suit cover-up, I needed tampons and I had to change them every 30 minutes. So you can imagine how hard it would be to have a three-year-old and a 14-year-old

and they're swimming in the pool, and I'm like, I can't leave my three-year-old out here, but he doesn't wanna get out of the pool for me to go to the bathroom, change my goddamn tampon. So like, I have to teach them about it. And I think that, you know, how early you teach them is, it will vary by every family. But I do think it's really, really important

to teach your boys about their period. And so with that all being said, I made the TikTok about this, right? And yesterday, Jessica Beale posted my TikTok to her Instagram story and tagged me because she has a children's book coming out about periods. Oh, wow. So I was all Jessica Beale, number one, like, congratulations, you have been seen and you made it. So I was like, I'm going to talk to Lindsey about this because I don't know what your perspective is on like the period thing with Jackson. And I thought it would give an interesting,

it would give insight to people because I think a lot of people in my comments, especially were talking about like, how do I approach this topic? It's not that they were against it. They just didn't know at what age and how much to share. And I do think that that varies by family. But what does Jackson know? He doesn't know anything about it. And to be honest, I've never really thought about sharing any information with him like that, because he's not going to get one. So it's not like important for him to know that I'm putting a tampon in.

Well, no, he doesn't need to know about a tampon and you know what that is. But maybe he does like this is what you know, some women choose to use this for their period. But what if you were to like leak or you didn't have something would he know what to grab for you? Because that was for me was, you know, I have this in my bog bag, I have this pouch, I'll do a video showing you guys. I have this clear pouch that I attached to the inside and while we were on vacation, I stuffed it with tampons and then my kids bought all these like ninja turtles that had all these little pieces and parts, right?

That I was like, oh God. And so I put them in the same little clear thing. So we're on the beach and Lux is like grabs the bag to get the little pieces and parts out. And he was like, mom, why are there so many tampons in here? And he's just taking them out to get the toys. But like, he knows the word tampons, he knows that I need them. But he doesn't make a big deal. And so I feel like kind of de stigmatizing desensitizing him to

periods is actually going to be helpful in the long run, I hope. So I just never thought about even having a conversation because it's not something that he's going to experience. But now that you say it, it probably is important to have the conversation. If I ever said the word tampon, he would be like, what's that? Like what and then it would go into like a whole full blown. Well, why do you need that? And what do you use it for? You know, it's like a slippery slope. So maybe I need to get the book. Yeah, that would be a good idea. Also, I mean, even if you had like a little bag that your

hygiene products are in and he doesn't necessarily know like tampon or pad, it's just like, hey, like mommy has this, this is what goes on. I don't know. I'm not saying for you specifically, but just for people who are wanting to talk to their sons about it, you know, I keep this little bag and there are certain times

where mommy bleeds and has, you know, this or whatever. And so if I ever need it, this is what the bag looks like. And you know, if I ever ask you for it, this is where you can find it kind of thing. And so I think there are definitely levels to it, but I just thought that was interesting. And I didn't know that there was a, I didn't see that she had a children's book when I posted the TikTok. It was just happening to me on vacation. And then when she reposted, I saw her book and I was like, wow, like a book might, I'll be interested to see it. I'll be interested to read it and kind of see and to show the boys

because they, I might explain it to them different than she has in the book. So I'll be, I'll be curious to see. You'll have to follow up with me on that since obviously your kids are much farther along in that process than what mine is. I, how do you even approach the conversation though? Like, well, it started with me because well, one, I bleed a lot. So I'm heavy, heavy, heavy. I have changed my clothes in the middle of the night and everything. So, but one of my kids walked in on me putting a tampon in because my kids don't have goddamn manners and don't knock. So that's how the conversation started. And they referred to that. I would be appalled, Kayl, if that happened to me, or if anybody saw me putting like a tampon in, I would be appalled. Itl, if that happened to me, or if anybody saw me putting like a tampon

in, I would be appalled. It could be like my sexual partner. I put tampons in in front of like my sister or my mom, something like that. But anybody else, I would be so alarmed that I would be more traumatized than that person. When I walked in on my mom putting a tampon in once, it was when she was living in a hotel and it was already uncomfortable because she was living in a hotel, right? So like it was just, it was very weird energy already. And I walked in and she was mortified.

I wasn't mortified. I was a kid, but I wasn't mortified. Like I just, I didn't know what I saw at first until it like sunk in. My mom was more mortified than me, but I didn't give a fuck. Like it just didn't, I just feel like certain things in my house,

and I'm not judging anyone who doesn't live this way, but my boys I think are desensitized to certain things because I was a single mom for so long that I just talked to them about it. And I think that they are smarter than we give them credit for sometimes, even the young ones. Just explaining certain things on certain levels, like my mom never really explained what a tampon was to me until I walked in on her.

Even then, the only time I had a conversation about how to correctly use a tampon was because I was complaining that it hurt. It's because I was putting it in wrong the whole time. Things like that where I was like, I'm a woman, my mom should have, or even a young girl, I should have known. Somebody should have told me and explained it to me better. Oh, I know. Not me thinking about how I'm going to set up traps with tampons laying around so that he comes to me and says, what is this? While we're on the topic of kids though, I do need to ask you, do you find random things around your house in places that they should not be like this morning, for example, Fixed

Jackson breakfast and he's had time to get ready in the bathroom. Please tell me why the toothbrush with the toothpaste ended up on the kitchen counter and a hairbrush. Wow. We must have identical mornings because you know what I walked into in Lux and Creed's upstairs? Peeled oranges upstairs on the carpet in a line. Creed said, I'm making a circle. He was with the orange slices making a circle. I mean, it smelled good, but I was like, I don't believe food belongs upstairs, let alone in your room, let alone on the carpet. See, that's why I absolutely hate carpet. The new house is not getting carpet at all. There was a TikTok that I saw not too long ago that it was this huge debate about people

loving carpet and then haters of carpet. I want to know the reasoning behind why people love carpet. I've talked to one person in real life about it and they said it's cozy on their feet whenever they wake up. And I'm like, that's what an area rug is for. No, I will say I do like carpet. There are times where I think that carpet is best in my opinion, in homes where there are not small children and there are no animals at all. And when I say no animals at all, I mean no cats, no dogs, because I

don't care how clean you are. And I would, I'm messy, but I would say that I'm a clean person. I do not think any amount of cleaning would keep the dander and the hair and the, you know, cats and dogs do throw up and they do have accidents no matter how potty trained they are. For me, I don't want carpet again. I mean, even with small kids, I just don't- I cringe when I see influencers posting about their stair runners and their beautiful carpets. That looks really great, but it's not realistic for the life phase that I'm in. See the stair runners that I do understand only because of the slipping situation. And I don't

think that the grips look very nice. So I'll say the stair runners. Okay. I will also say that I say that because I've never had situations on the stairs. So like I haven't ever had like throw up down, trickle down stairs or like a animal pee on stairs. And so I don't think that I've ever struggled in that way. And I also think it's way easier to replace a stair runner than an entire floor with a carpet where you have heavy furniture on top of it. So the stair runner doesn't bother me. You're like the hallway runner that's like permanent, but I will never make the mistake of putting carpet in

bedrooms again. I feel like you can just never get it clean or looking how it looked right when it was installed. Agreed. You know? It's like there's track marks everywhere. You can tell where somebody's been playing basketball in their room because there's a specific spot. somebody's been playing basketball in their room because there's like a specific spot. It's like, we gotta get rid of it. This episode is brought to you by IQ Bar. And one of the things that is on my to-do list today is to order more products from IQ Bar.

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Just text combos to 64,000 to get your discount. Text combos to 64,000. That's combos to 64,000. Message and data rates may apply. See terms for details. In other news though, do you remember when we talked about the Facebook group that are in different cities about, are we dating the same guy? Yes. Okay. So I saw this in the news. It says this man sues 27 women and an are we dating the same guy? Yes. Okay, so I saw this in the news. It says this man sues 27 women in an are we dating the same guy Facebook group.

This man's from Chicago and the attorney for the man said that there were disparaging remarks made about him to a digital Scarlet letter. And they're calling it the modern day battle of the sexes. Chicago man is suing dozens of women over comments about him in a private Facebook group. Women across the country use these types of groups to vet potential suitors. However, the man behind the Chicago lawsuit claims that it's more about

defamation of character. He has no leg in this race. That's not, I mean, you can't sue someone for their experience. He has no leg in this race. You can't sue someone for their experience. My thing is, first of all, why do we need to have Facebook groups like this? If you're just conducting yourself the way you should be conducting yourself, there wouldn't be a reason for women to go on there and feel the need to search to find out if you're dating somebody else. I had a personal friend who I'm no longer friends with that was on this group locally

in Atlanta and would find out all kinds of tea on everybody. I guess, I don't know how Hinge and the other dating apps work, but I guess, I don't know how like Hinge and the other dating apps work, but I guess you can set it to your location wherever you are within a certain amount of miles. And so you could easily find guys on this Facebook group that were seeing or going on dates with other women. And some of the stuff that was being said about them was just God awful stuff.

But at the same time, why do you care if somebody saying this god awful stuff about you if you're not doing it? Don't do that stuff if you don't want people to talk about it. It's just right. Obviously, we know that there's there's there are lines, right? Like, certain people are going to exaggerate things. And there are going to be, you know, people who you you could help somebody and they're going to talk shit. So I do think that there are lines, but overall, if you're generally doing the right thing when it comes to dating and you're honest, people aren't going to have to post about you.

I mean, everybody has a past, right? When you're out here dating, you've obviously dated other people and one experience with somebody might be very different than your next experience or whatever. But this article said that the man was claiming that all the information on there that was posted about him was false and the lawsuit targets nearly 30 women, many of them who are moderators of this Are We Dating the Same Guy Chicago and the Facebook's parent company Meta for allegedly boosting the famatory the Facebook's parent company, Meta, for allegedly boosting defamatory comments to make more money.

Meta did not respond to the request for comments and neither did the women. So he's trying to say that 30 women are essentially conspiring against him? Essentially, yeah. So then, as I'm continuing to go down this rabbit hole, I find a Daily Mail article that says that the judge dismisses the $2.6 million claim by the 32-year-old bachelor against these women and ruled in favor of the defendants. So I don't really know. It says that like some of these women were saying that he was labeled as a murderer and he was accused of having STIs on the forum, like all different

kinds of stuff. And while those things can be very damaging. If one person comes to the table in the courtroom with proof that he had it or he gets deposed one fucking time and it's set and they ask him, have you ever had an STI? Boom, already he's wrong. He's already in the wrong. If you had an STI and you admit to it on the fucking stand or had one conversation with one of the girls saying that he had an STI at one point, then it's already null and void. He's already full of shit.

And do we think that these types of Facebook groups should be allowed or do we think that they should be banned? Because I'm a little bit indifferent on it. I don't like when people harass me or make statements about me online that are not true, but I'm not going to go as far to... I'm not gonna call the person out. I've moved on from that phase of my life. Believe whatever you want to. I know what the truth is, so fuck you. I just... I don't like it, but at the same time you are putting yourself out there in a way that it's gonna cause people to want to talk about you. And if

you're putting yourself in multiple like dating situations, you think women aren't going to be out here talking. That's delusional. I agree with you. I think that at one point I was screaming from the rooftops, like, stop posting about me, stop this, stop that. But I'm kind of beyond the point where I'm going to truly believe what you want because at the end of the day, you're not paying my bills and I'm not paying yours.

So, fine. I also feel indifferent. I don't care one way or another. Like I would never join it, but I'm not gonna be upset because I know somebody else joined it for whatever reason they joined it. I'm on one. Oh, you are on one?

Yeah, I'm on one of the Delaware ones. I'm probably gonna get banned now because I think in the rules, I'm not supposed to say that. It's like the podcast clip comes out and it's like, Kill Lowry banned from Are We Dating the Same Guy, Delaware. Okay. Are you on it because you're just being nosy? I'm on it because someone told me about it and was like telling me the tea that was in there and I was like, Oh, I want to go be a part of this. I'm not going to tell y'all what city or whatever, but it was like, what is this? Wait, but it was more for market research.

Like I wanted to know like. What's going on in your area? I, and truly I have never seen a post of someone I even know in it. Okay, well that's good news. Yeah, so that's- That would be very bad news if it was somebody that you knew.

One of my ears sticks out further than the other. I think everybody has that. This is the first time in my 32 years that I've ever noticed that. Wow, Kale. I'm glad that you're doing research on your ears while we're on this recording. And completely unrelated news to that.

Do your kids eat Lunchables? Yeah, they love them. I mean, I don't buy them often, but yeah. Okay. Well, saw this article, says consumer report asked USDA to remove Lunchables from school lunch menus. We said when are they on school lunch menus? Okay, that's what's going to be the question that I asked you because I've never known them to be like served in school for lunch. I don't know if it's something you know how like when kids go

through the lunch line and they get hot lunch or whatever. Is it something that some schools have and they're like grab and go section maybe? Lunchables are expensive, so I can't imagine them having that. Because if you want your kid to have a lunchable, which I don't typically send my, if I was to buy a lunchable, they're more so like a snack for us. I wouldn't consider them like a lunch. So they're expensive. I can't imagine a school having those as an option. Me either. So would love to know anyone who's listening to this, if your kid's school provides Lunchables at their school lunch, but Jackson takes a Lunchable almost every day to school

from my house because it's the only thing that he will eat. And Lunchables are like the OG charcuterie boards. They are. So do you add stuff with the Lunchable or is it only the Lunchable? Yeah, no. So you know how there's like all the different types of Lunchables so you can get the ones that just have

like the meat and cheese and then maybe like a cookie in it? I'll do those and then I'll add like his own drink, some fruit, like an apple sauce, like whatever. But this says that the advocacy group Consumer Reports is urging the federal government to remove Lunchables from the national free and reduced price school lunch program after an analysis found high amounts of sodium and elevated levels of heavy metal. That makes me very alarmed

and I don't know that I'm gonna be buying Lunchables if this is actually true. It says the Lunchables and similar lunch kits were tested, contained, were that they tested contain certain concerning levels of sodium and harmful chemicals that can lead to serious health problems over time. The USDA should remove Lunchables

from the National School Lunch Program to ensure that kids in school have healthier options. They found high levels of sodium in Lunchables detected lead and calcium in TAS and also observed a presence of phthalates, is that what it is? Phthalates, whatever, which can impact reproductive health and the human hormonal system.

But here's my thought on that. I don't know that the school lunches in general are very healthy. Like they are saying nutritional options and things, but I would beg to differ. So then it says that- So if you're gonna remove, if that was an option in some of the schools

and you're worried about that, where is the concern for the rest of the school meals? Because I wouldn't, I would not go out on a limb and say that school lunches are healthy in any way, shape or form. Every slot in the nutrition pyramid, but I could not, I would not say that they're probably all healthy. No. So that was their argument about this. They said that the Lunchables should be paired with fruit, vegetables and milk. In addition, a school who wanted to serve higher sodium product one day has to balance that with lower sodium items on has to balance that with lower sodium items on another. Kraft Heinz says it stands by the quality of its Lunchables

and said that all of their products meet strict safety standards and that lead and calcium occur naturally in environment and may show up in food at low levels. That they are proud of Lunchables and stand by them and the quality and integrity that it goes into making them. They also said that they have improved nutritional benefits of Lunchables recently by adding fresh fruit and reducing the sodium that's found in its crackers.

So I have not seen any Lunchables out there that has fresh fruit in them. So if you have, please tell me where I can buy those. Because I have- I also even know, because I would just, if that's the case, if you know, they're standing by their statement, just like you said, pear, fresh fruit and milk with them on your own, you know what I mean? And same for the schools. I just I can't. My kids come home on a regular

basis talking about how nasty school lunches are. And so if they're not eating them at all, I can't imagine and I don't know, I just I have such a problem with that because no, I just think about it. When I was growing up, these were things that my parents would have never even thought twice about. It was like money was just put on your lunch card and they probably had no idea what I was getting for lunch. I could have been going to the baked potato bar. I could have been getting the pizzas that we all know that we had during school lunch that are oddly shaped. Could have been eating cookies for lunch. They would have never had any idea. Jackson will never eat school lunch. So when I was sending him to school and putting

money on his account, you could log on and see what items were purchased. And there was always extra items purchased purchased so he would get the school lunch but then he would purchase the extra items and he would eat like chips, cookies and ice cream but never the actual school lunch. So that's when we started packing. Yeah, Lux prefers to pack. He will, we don't pack every day but he prefers to pack. The other kids aren't so picky with it but Creed's, I have to send the lunch with Creed. So that's not provided. You guys know we love Rocket Money.

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she sends surveys to prisons for inmates and they fill out these different surveys. And this one was very interesting to me. She said that she will send different types of surveys. So this one was specifically about burglars, but then there, she will send, you know, to like child molesters or murders or whatever, like whatever type of research that she's trying to do. And she basically gives all this information to consumers

to just bring awareness to the information that she's gathering from these incarcerated people. And in the survey that she sent to these burglars in prison, she asked them things that they would like to see in a house that makes it a good target, and then things that they don't like to see in a house that makes it like a less attractive target. And it was very interesting to me. I feel like I knew

most of this stuff, but a little bit of the stuff, I was caught off guard by a little bit. Allegedly, they hate to see a barking dog. And I think that that was very interesting because I just don't know if like a true like mastermind burglar, like, do you really think that they would be absolutely afraid of a barking dog? Are you talking about the woman whose both of her parents were physicians? I believe yeah, I believe so. I saw that I didn't watch the whole thing in its entirety. I would not go, if I was a robber, a burglar, I would not go somewhere where there's a barking dog because it draws attention.

So that was one of them. The second one was an alarm sign because it was found through this research that they believe when you have alarms, like an alarm system, that you probably set it every time you leave or sometimes even when you're at home. So when you have alarms, like an alarm system, that you probably set it every time you leave or sometimes even when you're at home. So when you see like little signs in a yard where it's like, you know, security by ADP or you know, like whatever it is, or like the little sign on the window

that they look for stuff like that. And anytime that I've ever had an alarm system in a home, I always throw those stickers away because I don't want them to be on my window. I don't throw them away. And even like the little signs that are on us, like a little post that you stick in, like right by your front steps. I actually, when you roll up to my house, you can see the cameras and you might think

that you're not in the camera's view, but my cameras are like not 360. But I mean, you can see, like, are you familiar with ring camera and how wide that one goes? Yeah, my cameras are like that. So like, you might think that you're in the clear on the corner, on the corner cameras, but you're not. So I, you can see like where the cameras are too. So I would hope that I mean, but for me, I think that there's such a discrete way to have like there are camera systems that you can't see them. And so even if someone doesn't

have a sign, you're taking a huge risk. Well, my thing is, it drew a lot of questions for me, I'm going to finish telling you what it said in the video, and then I'll tell you what I thought. But the other thing was that you have some kind of sticker on the window that says like neighborhood watch or alert neighbors, which I have never even heard of. What does that mean? So when I was growing up, when we moved to our first neighborhood in Atlanta, there was like, what do they call it? There was like, what do they call it? Like neighborhood like mom watch or like kid, you know, whatever.

And it's like my parents were one of those people. So they were like on the lookout for, you know, other children and whatever. I never knew that there was like a sign or something that you put up that would alert somebody that you have like a neighborhood watch. So give me an example. So like say some weird car was like driving by my house, the neighborhood watch would like alert somebody or someone would alert the designated neighborhood watcher. Yeah, like that, yeah.

I mean, I feel like we've come up with that kind of on our own around here. My neighbors know like paparazzi vehicles have been out before in the last two years. So if anything like that, people will be like, I think paparazzi, like they'll text me and say like, Hey, I think paparazzi is, you know, over here. But other than that, we haven't really experienced too much of like crime. I do think that we would recognize like the weird, the hard part about it is though, like with door dash and drivers who are in unmarked vehicles, Amazon drivers that are no longer driving Amazon trucks, like things

like that, where it's like, you might get notified for stuff that isn't necessarily an actual concern, but I'd rather be safe than sorry. I've told you before that I've been very alarmed, like been in my driveway, getting out of my car and just like a random car pull up and it's like door dash or you know, whatever that kind of stuff does a little bit freak me out because I am a single mom just like living in this house by myself. So I don't like that. And I wish that those types of vehicles had to have some type of like decal or like something on them that would alert you of what they are because I am a little

bit more of a scared type person. But then it said that they watch for trends. So if you're a type of person that your shades are always up and then you go to go out of town and then you put your shades all the way down, a lot of times they might not specifically target you. They might be targeting a neighborhood or something or like a street. So if you, this burglar, they're coming through your neighborhood and they're looking at all these houses and they're taking notes on like, okay, on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday,

those blinds were like always closed. But then today those blinds are open. So like there's obviously activity going on in the house. So they're watching for these types of trends, not maybe necessarily a specific home. And then cars parked differently than normal, which I thought was really interesting. So if somebody's coming in your neighborhood

and they're just, what do they call it? Like scouting or... Soliciting? I don't know what the word is. It's like surveying. Surveying. Like around, you around. I would never really think... My cars are always constantly moving because I'm always leaving and coming to and from my house. But what I will say is I did park the car that I took to the beach. I parked

my other car in the driveway, but it was unintentional. And now I'm kind of glad that I did. Not that I'm really worried about a robber but cars parked differently than normal and this video said that if you were going out of town to always leave your blinds the way that they would be as if you were at home and if you're taking like if you're a one vehicle home to see if somebody else can like park their car where yours would be parked so that it's not sketchy. And then this one was really interesting. Trash on trash day that burglars will watch to see patterns if like you've taken out the trash and your trash is at the road or it's not. And if it's not, then it's probably likely that you're not home.

So my question is for some, for a burglary- Canvassing, Kristin said. Casing, canvassing. Casing out the joint, casing the joint. I don't think I live in an area like that. I don't live in a community. So I don't think, and where I live is we're not high profile. So there are no million dollar homes outside of mine and very few and far between. Or I don't think there's very few, there's not million dollar communities in where I live. I know in towns near here there are. So I don't think that I would have to be concerned necessarily. I also think that situations like that are like LA suburban communities that have those types of things.

Even if I lived in a neighborhood like that, nobody's coming to my house because you truly net like there are people in my house and there might not be any cars in the driveway because my childcare provider doesn't have a car. So like if I'm not home and she's here, you wouldn't know. Also, my cleaners come deliveries might you know, there's so I'm and in that way, I kind of like the chaos of my life because I don't have to worry about stuff like that. But for those that do these are really, really great tips. And maybe Kristin

could possibly make like a little slide of like some of these tips for because we have a lot of followers and listeners who are single parents or, you know, parents that maybe couldn't defend themselves or something where, you know, maybe someone's sick or whatever. But even single dads, like they can get singled out. And I think dads are no offense, but sometimes they don't have the greatest common sense. And so I, you know, this could benefit dads too. So I definitely think that we should put this on our socials and like raise awareness about that. For sure.

The question that it brought up in my mind though was even if let's say you don't have like a ring camera or like the other brands that they have out there, right? Chances are if you live close to somebody, somebody else has a ring camera and they're probably going to catch you on it. So I really just don't understand crime in today's time with technology. Like I keep going back to that. Someone just did, I saw yesterday, someone just did a TikTok on that and he, I'm pretty sure he was like British or something. And he's like, people are still trying to commit

murder around here. Like he was like, why are you not wearing gloves? He's like, you went somewhere where there's cameras like, yeah, he was cash like, no, but seriously, one of the books that I just read, there was a murderer in, in this story. And he was talking about how he only used cash and he didn't go anywhere where he knew had CCTV. And I was like, it doesn't make sense to me that anyone would commit burglary or robbery or anything. There's literal every single person we know has a ring camera, they might not have like the greatest security system of all time. But those ring

cameras, they go far and wide, far and wide. And you never know like what's caught on somebody else's. So like, even if it wasn't caught on yours. Yeah. What? Yeah. Oh, yeah. Hello. It's, it's insane. So like even if it wasn't caught on yours. Yeah. What? Yeah. Oh yeah. Hello. It's insane. So that's why I'm like, okay, anybody that's listening to this podcast that has ever like considered committing a crime immediately, like take this as your public service announcement. Do not because you are going to get caught. You're going to get caught. Thrive Cosmetics is my favorite mascara. I have the Thrive Cosmetics mascara on right now.

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off your first order. Okay. Since we've been talking a lot about our kids on this episode, I saw this video and it was a dad and it made me laugh so fucking hard. He was talking about, so they have one son and he was talking about moms arguing with their firstborn sons like they're your siblings. He said, my son just got home from school, sat at the table having his little snack and then he got to doing his homework. I step outside to my own business and I come back in and they're arguing with each other over homework. I step in and shut it down because neither of them is about to yell louder than me in my own house.

I was just laughing so hard about this because I do believe that people argue with their firstborn kids more than any of the other children. Not me. Even when Isaac and I went like a rough couple years, it was like one or two years that was like really rough for us. We weren't arguing. I argue with Lux and Creed the most. The most? Yeah.

But do you think- And it's not even arguing. It's just they don't want to do, like I tell them to do something they don't want to do it and I literally have said to Creed, I'm not arguing with you. Like this is not, this is not up for debate. Go brush your fucking teeth. Okay. But if you have a child that is like super argumentative back, Lux Russell Lowry, it's like, why are we sitting here having a conversation about this? Like this is in

fact not a conversation. It's more like a demand. Like I'm telling you that this is what you're about to fucking do. This is a monologue. Like I'm telling you and you're not even saying anything. But I do think that it's true. It made me go back in time when I used to study for spelling tests. Like my dad never… I'm telling you, in my entire life, he probably has taken me to school like two times. And Julie always helped me with my homework and stuff and study for spelling tests. And I was in the spelling bee like one time, not because I'm a great speller, but just because I knew the words that they listed. And remember like when you had to

line up in the classroom, it's like, who's going to be the representative for the spelling bee for this class? Yes. And I took it so very fucking seriously. But Julie was like big on spelling words and stuff. And this man was giving an example about how his wife was arguing with his son, because she was doing a mock spelling test. And he added like two P's to a word when it was only like one and that she was cussing him out. And she was like, where the fuck did you get the second P? And it made me think of Julie because she would get so pissed

off. If she had gone through something like multiple times and I still got it wrong. She would just go to my paper and like, erase the shit so fast. And she was like, keep doing it until you get it right. No, the he's she's not wrong. Actually, you know what I think it is about my kids and why I don't argue, they're all the oldest kids on their dad's side. All of them. All of them. No, not Creed. Well, Isaac Lincoln and Lux and Rio, they're all the oldest. They have the qualities of oldest child and wherever their pecking order is in their sibling line. So I think for Lux- That's so interesting. And I just thought of that when you said that

because you're sitting here. Lux has main fucking character energy, right? Like main fucking character, oldest sibling, independent, headstrong, all the energy, right? Like main character, oldest sibling, independent, headstrong, all the things, right? Because he is the oldest on his dad's side. So when he goes to his dad's, he's the oldest. But Lincoln is too. Lincoln's the oldest when he goes to his dad's and he goes to his dad's half the time. So he very much has first kid personality qualities. Isaac too. But Isaac and I had some trauma over I was traumatized with him. So a couple months back we there was a spelling bee. And Isaac was I mean, when I tell you that he on his own with no help from me really except

for asking him words when he asked me to memorize memorized every fucking word on the list, right? And then he was, I think I talked about this on the podcast back when it happened, and then they really fucked him because it said seventh grade words and eighth grade words. So he studied every single eighth grade word there was, but they started with the seventh grade words. And I just felt like that was extremely misleading, and I actually ended up calling the school

because I was like, I don't feel like that was fair. And if you would have told the students to study the seventh grade words, he would have, but you kind of did him, you kind of fucked him. You know what I mean? That was a little dirty. We're traumatized by the spelling bee. Maybe their theory is because he's in eighth grade,

he should have already known the seventh grade spelling words, but really who the fuck cares? Whatever. He would have. He would have known them. Yeah. And could have memorized them. He would have. Listen, when we did spelling bee, like back in the day, they never even told us what words they were.

No, they didn't. And I remember that very clearly as like they didn't give you a list. No. It's like you just had to go off of what you thought it was and pray for the stars that you don't get out. Okay. We have a listener topic and I feel like this is more geared towards you and you would be able to give better advice. But this person says, I need advice. My 15-year-old daughter just told me that she's pregnant. I'm absolutely heartbroken. She has only had sex with this boy one time. They are no longer together. I've talked to her about the options and she's just determined to stay pregnant. I'd never imagined that I'd be a grandma at 36 I'm so disappointed sad and frankly embarrassed, especially being a labor and NICU nurse. I thought I had educated her I feel like it was a little intentional because I've shown her the period app what each section means

She suspected she could be pregnant pretty much immediately and it's been stressing me out ever since we got the confirmation today. I've been dealing with a lot of behavioral issues from her. She has ADHD and anxiety. She's been in therapy for years. If you were a teen mom, what did your mom do or not do that made you feel supported or encouraged to get your life together? She can barely take care of herself and is doing very poorly in school at this time. Her life is about to get even harder if she's truly wanting to be a mom.

Based on the information only that was given here, I'm gonna be completely honest with you and say that I don't believe she's only had sex one time. I think that's probably a fib that she told you. And if you have been educating her on this, and then it was probably also intentional. And I only say that because there was, and I have talked about this in my book, so it's no surprise, but I was pregnant before I had Isaac by someone else in high school.

And I looked at Joe dead in his face. I don't know if I told this part in the book. I looked at Joe dead in his face and I said, if I ever got pregnant again, I would keep it and we still did what we did. So he knew what he was doing. I knew what I was doing. And while I wouldn't say it was intentional, I would say that there was, we didn't prevent it to the point that we should have. And it was reckless, not intentional. It was, it was absolutely reckless. But I also remember saying, oh, I was on birth control, which I was. I had been on and off, but half truths, I think. As a mom and a labor

nurse, NICU nurse, I definitely think that she knows, she knew better. I think that this is more about the relationship because I think it was the same for me at the time was, you know, Joe and I were not, we shouldn't have been together, right? Like his mom didn't want us together. We were very unhealthy. We had already broken up a bunch of times. We hadn't even been together for a year yet. Like, it just wasn't good. But I think at the time when you're 16 or 17 or 15 in this case, because I also was pregnant at 15, you romanticize the idea that having a child will keep you guys together and you're not mature enough to understand that that's not a fact. That's not the truth. That's not sex won't make him stay and a baby won't really, you know, sex won't make him love you and a baby won't make him stay kind of thing. So unfortunately, I think that the best thing that you can do is just be supportive of whatever because she's, she is immature at 15 years old.

We can't ever say, we can't say that we made the best decisions at 15 and I wasn't getting good grades at 15 or 16 either. And so this is tough because as a mom, I wouldn't want my child to go through this. I do think that the only thing you can do is be there for her because at the end of the day, it is still her body no matter how immature she is or no matter how bad her grades are, it is ultimately her choice. I think that that's a scary place to be for her at 15 because it could go either way. She could still make it out on top, but I mean, what do you do, Lindsay? What would

you do at Jackson's home and said, I got my high school girlfriend pregnant? What would you do? I would tell him that he better be ready to man up. And that there was going to be no choice. You know, you need to man up and you need to do the right thing because ultimately you were engaging recklessly. And I would hope by that point that the conversations would have already been had know, been had with him about how to protect from that situation happening. And if it happens, then it happens and you're going to have to be a man. The thing is that this goes deeper than the pregnancy itself.

I feel like this is not even about the pregnancy. There's something else going on because no normal, and I'm saying this from my own experience, no normal 15 year old, if you're already, and I hate to say this because I don't have the same blinders on cause she's not my kid. So it's like, I'm speaking from experience. Like this was intentional.

And so that's the bigger problem is the fact that it was intentional, not necessarily that she was having sex and that she's now pregnant. It's just like mentally speaking, emotionally speaking, you know, that piece of it. But I would like to know what else is going on in her life, I guess, that ultimately made her make the decisions that she made. And does she feel like that having a baby will fix some of the things that are wrong in her life and other ways? Because I do think that that's very

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So try to follow the bouncing ball here. I could not tell you to the, when I looked at Joe and his face, I remember the apartment, the bedroom, everything I looked at him and I said, if I ever got pregnant again, I'm keeping it. Why would I say that? What was the driving, what were the driving feelings or what I was going through? What was the purpose of that? Because to me, what would a baby solve? Like

I, to this day, I don't know. I don't know what the desire was there to say that. And then to follow through once it came to fruition. Putting myself back into the 15-year-old mindset or even just looking at other pregnant teens, you think that this is going to keep the man with you, but also adults do that. Adults who are stable, they also do that. It can't be that. I hear people talk about, oh, it was a baby that was someone that would love me unconditionally. I just don't know that that was it. I don't think that was a driving force for me.

I don't know what it was. I just remember both of my grandparents have had separate conversations with me regarding my parents' pregnancy with me. And they were very much struggling with that. It was an unplanned pregnancy. My mom was 18 at the time, I believe, still in high school or like the summer of her senior year when she was pregnant with me. Her and my dad could never get along or make a decision together for their life. At some point, I will go into more detail on who wanted what

and why they wanted it. But my dad does believe that me coming into his life fixed him in a lot of ways. And so I just wonder if certain people like have that mindset, maybe they've had some type of trauma in their life as a child and they're looking for what feels like an innocent situation with a child that is just completely innocent, that would love you unconditionally, is that what she's seeking? So Isaac, truly, having a child lit a fire under my ass, right? I got to figure this out somehow, some way. I'm going to make it. In what way? I don't know, but I'm going to figure this shit out. But the love, I want someone to love me unconditionally piece is like, not I don't know that that there has to be more layers to that because I still

don't really understand that piece of it. I would, I would be curious to know unless it's just that, you know, the argument that people will say they don't think that their teenagers are mature enough to have relationships. I think this is more so one of those things. Like certain people in general, whether it be male, female, whatever, are not mature enough to have these really, really deep relationships at that age. And I think some people handle it better than others. And so once you get to that place, like myself, it was like, okay, maybe this will keep us together. Or maybe I can hold on to this somehow because this is permanent. Maybe that's what it... I don't know. It's just immaturity as a whole. And sometimes it kind of gets you to where you need to be. And sometimes it's like, okay, I got pregnant in high school and I still

never matured to the point that I needed to mature to be where I need to go. I would love to know more from this listener who wrote in if you could give us more details about the circumstances surrounding this and maybe a little backstory on your daughter's life and upbringing might bring a little bit more perspective to the situation. Agreed. And on that note, we are going to do foul play. Hey, ladies. Oh, do I have a foul play for y'all? My sweet darling 11-month-old Great Dane does not always go potty outside when it's raining. Didn't we just talk about

it? What? It's full circle episode. Yeah. Well, my eight-year-old daughter wanted him to sleep in her room a few nights ago when it was raining. Guess the shit so I woke up to before work. The weird part, I smelled it. I couldn't find it. I asked about it and was told the dog farted mom, there's no poop. Fast forward three days and loading her clothes into the wash. In the middle of the school week, I smell the shit ladies. As you can imagine, she snuck the shit

into her laundry basket and tried to wash it all without me noticing. When I asked her if there was dog shit in the washer, she goes, I had an accident. It's not that bad. I told her we'll be going to the doctor right now for poop smells like that. Emrah is going up in no man's land, girl. At this point, she screams and cries and says, it's not needed. She's fine now. Y'all, she tried taking responsibility for the dog's accident. Needless to say after taking out all the dirty clothes and the dog shit I made her clean the washing machine. Hope you find this funny. I feel weirdly satisfied in solving the poop mystery. The fact that this dog this girl is taking

up riding so hard for her dog. She's a rider. I love that for her. We love that for her. No, as the dog. Absolutely no way would I put dog shit in a laundry basket. And that goes to show you how silly children can be because it's like, did you not think about maybe getting some toilet paper and picking it up off the floor and putting in the toilet and flushing it? Like you have created such a major problem that could have just been completely avoided. Also to say that the dog farted, like that's hilarious. And this is truly something that my son would do.

Oh, a hundred percent something Lux would do. Like without a doubt Lux would have been like, yeah, I was creed farted and don't worry about it. But she's eight, so I can't even fault her because I also feel like, you know when people, if you've had puppies, so you know, like when they have an accident, to me the first, like the best case scenario is toilet paper and flushing it in the toilet

because that's where people poop and it's flushable and it's all those things and like to have it stinking in the trash. I don't understand. I don't wanna smell that. Like I don't wanna get with some dog shit like when I'm walking by the trash. If I don't put to smell that. I don't want to get with dog shit when I'm walking by the trash. If I don't put it in the toilet, I'd at least get a grocery bag and pick it up with a paper

towel and then put it in my outside trash can. But if it's a little bit of a mess, you just clean it up in the toilet. Correct. I don't think kids think that way and she's ace and grace, but I love that she was going, she's loyal to the soil with that dog. Oh my God. So this next person says, hey girls, I love the podcast. Been listening since the beginning.

I love you guys and the dynamic between the two of you. Anyway, my foul play. I was about 23 years old and my mom invited me to go to her boss's daughter's wedding with her at the last minute. I of course didn't want to go because I didn't know anyone there, but she enticed me with an open bar. Feeling bad sending my mom alone, I decided to go with her and take advantage of some free drinks and food. The venue was gorgeous on a golf course overlooking the ocean and Orange County. I also would have gone honestly at 34. They were running a little behind schedule for

the ceremony but had their bar open full swing and boy did I take advantage. I'm not a big drinker in my normal day-to-day life, but today I was. I had to have downed at least four waiting for the ceremony. The ceremony goes off without a hitch and then it dawns on me I have not eaten anything all day. My mom looks at me and was like, oh, you're not going to throw up, are you? I tried to play it cool. Duh, mom, I'm fine and it's just hot. I figured once I ate, I would be fine. Got in the line for the buffet. I was not fine.

I looked at my mom and she must have some real good intuition because she knew and jumped out of the way. I projectile vomited all over the place and was mortified. To make matters worse, the bride and groom could not have been more lovely. They thought I was actually sick and not just a sloppy bitch. They insisted me on giving some of the groom's medicine he takes for his Crohn's disease. I didn't know how my mom didn't disown me

at that exact moment. She knew that it was my time to go. We made our little Irish goodbye and bounce. Needless to say, I've been off the hook for any plus one wedding invites from my mom ever since. If someone projectile vomited in front of my wedding buffet. If someone projectile vomited at my wedding in general, and like some things are completely unavoidable, right? Like if you have food poisoning or something, or like you have Crohn's disease, right?

Like those things are, you can pardon those. If you are throwing up because you can't control your liquor or you didn't eat, I'm pissed. I'm immediately pissed and I am not offering you medicine for Crohn's. I'm going to ask somebody to please escort you out. But I'm glad everyone laughed about it. I will say that the groom and the bride handled it very well. They didn't want to ruin their own day, right? But in front of the buffet sucks.

I know. I'm like, did anybody eat? I feel like I also need to know more. Because that scent lingers. That foul smell lingers. God, honey. Speaking of vomit, when Trent and I went to a concert like months ago, we were like in this open downstairs area that was just like general admission tickets, whatever. And it was like standing room. And all of a sudden I started like getting like a waft of, I didn't know if it was like shit or vomit or like what it was, but then people started gagging. We look over and there is a high school kid that has not only thrown up everywhere, but also shit

their pants and it had to close down like the entire thing for them to be able to get basically like a hazmat team in there to clean it all up for them to restart. And when I tell you, there is nothing worse than smelling like adult vomit and shit in a place that should not have adult vomit and shit. But also when you're at a concert in your in standing room, there's also like other bodily smells like yes, goals, Bo and like just things like that. I also think that the sounds of throwing up are just as bad as throw up itself. Are you like good with throw up and like diarrhea stuff when your kids are sick?

My own kids. I can't deal with it with other kids, no. Yeah, me either. You can deal with your own brand because it's your kid, but if it's not yours, then say the fuck over there. Yeah. And on that note, I got other shit to do. So thank you guys for always supporting our show. Please subscribe and review on the Apple Podcast app. Follow in right on Spotify or listen wherever you get your podcasts. Don't forget to follow us on Instagram and join our Facebook group to connect with us

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