Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley - No to Legos and Homework

Episode Date: November 30, 2023

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I hate gift giving and receiving receiving gifts is so weird. What do you say? Thank you This is coffee convos with kale Lowry and Lindsay Chrisley. I really want you to be in your feels kale That does not interest me whatsoever I feel very attacked by you a spirit and discussion about motherhood friendship family and life in the public eye I'm just not with the fakery anymore. There's a fakery bakery around here. Here's Kale and Lindsay. Good morning. I haven't brushed my hair since yesterday so if you're wondering why I look like this that's that's why. Well I just this is like the best bun that we can get at this point because I just didn't do my hair and I don't want to and So it's fine. How are you? Um, I have had

Better days. Do you ever get like in a weird state where you just feel like I need to change? Everything like about myself. Yeah, just had this the other day. I was like My near is not laying right. Mm-hmm, I feel like I have a million dead ends. I want to chop it, but I want to keep it. I want it blonde, but I want it broad. Like what's wrong with me? Well, so my roots are so long because I told Taylor the last time I went, I wanted it less high maintenance and I actually canceled my last two

appointments for recordings. And I'm, that's not something that I typically am willing to do. But I was just like, I have to get this work done. So I go next week for my hair appointment. And I'm like, I don't know if I should chop it because it's pretty long at this point. I've missed two appointments. My hair is essentially brown.

I was so scared yesterday when I was getting ready. It was like, if I find a gray hair in my head. Stop. Like I'm nervous. I've just colored my hair and bleached my hair for so long that like, I'm sure they're in there. I just have never seen one. So I was really nervous about it.

When do you get gray hairs? I think it varies for people. Like I think some people can get it in like, they're 20s, they're 30s. What? My mom, I think was a can get it in their 20s, their 30s. What? My mom, I think, was a little bit later, like maybe late 30s, early 40s for gray hair. Does Susie have grays?

Now she does. Oh, wow. Wow, she's really coming up in this world. We just need to talk about also any person that has textured hair. I don't know what the routine is that I need to be participating in so that my hair does not look like this whenever I wake up. I am not one of those girlies that can wash my hair, fix it and ride with it for a couple

of days. Like that's not a thing for me. Do you go to bed with wet hair? No. And I went to bed. And you still wake up like that? Yes. Like what am I doing in my sleep?

Stop. You still wake up like that. Yes, I still wake up like this. My hair looks crazy whenever I wake up. Could you try putting in like braids, like two pig tail braids? Don't you feel like your hair just needs to be like down all around whenever you're sleeping? No. What do you mean? No, I actually hate it makes

me hot and then sometimes I lay on it and then it's uncomfortable. I know. Okay, and I also need I see this on Instagram all the time where bloggers are out there posting like do I get the mom chop or like, do I not? I did that and had to ride with that for such a long period of time and kept having to cut it. Because then it gets in like this weird phase where you just look like you don't really have any idea what's going on.

So like you keep cutting it. I have to be able to have a bun. Like it's a non-negotiable. Yeah, like I have to be able to just like throw it up if I need to. Yeah, I get that. I do get that. Um, can you tell me about your weekend? Cause it looks like you guys were just chopping and screwing around. Yeah.

We were up cleaning the house Lindsay in our pajamas and like getting shit done. Cause the Sunday is like a reset day for us since they go to their dads on Monday. So they have to put their clothes right side out on Sunday so that they have clean clothes for the week. I'm not Natalie is not I am not Elijah is not putting their clothes inside out for them. They need to do that before they go to their dads, their rooms need to be clean before they go to their dads and the playroom needs to be clean before they

go to their dads and I don't give a fuck who's mess it was. It actually ended up being like a really productive weekend but like nobody went to bed until like 9 30 because sh-t, how do you get done? And I wasn't fucking playing with these kids. I have so many questions from everything that you just said. Number one, I want to talk about the trampoline because I was talking about trampoline activity with Trent this weekend and how I feel like kids today

play on trampolines way different than we played on trampolines when we were kids. Okay. Like I grew up having one and I could go outside and eat cereal on it and everything was fine. Like would eat snacks on it after school and bite people on the street over and we would jump and play games and had no net whatsoever. So it was like if you fall off then like be self aware. Yeah, like you might go to the hospital, you might not. Just going to hope for the best. Yeah.

It's different and parenting today than how our parents parented because they literally just did not give a fuck. They're like, you know what, no, we bought the trampoline and we're not going to buy a net to keep you on it. So if you're so clumsy, then you deserve to break your neck. I never had a trampoline. But the first trampoline I ever got from my kids was in-ground. Because allegedly it's supposed to reduce the chance of injury because you're not falling off. I mean, obviously you can still get injuries.

Also, this is a disclaimer for anyone listening. We understand the dangers of trampolines and that many professionals have recommended against trampolines and do not understand the dangers of trampolines and that many professionals have recommended against trampolines and do not recommend children jumping on trampolines. I'm not going to judge a parent that has a trampoline because you can get hurt literally driving in the car, also playing football. You can get hurt anywhere like you could be walking in the house

and get hurt. Trust me, I know because my kid does it all the time. So I my kids got a trampoline this summer at the new house and it came with a net. Like I paid for the one with the net and like the little basketball hoop. My kids wrestle on it more than they jump on it. Oh yeah, that's commonplace.

And it's like there's knees to the chins, there's possible chance of teeth getting knocked out. There's a lot of things that can go on on a trampoline that just makes me feel super uncomfy and I just don't understand are kids clumsier today or do they just give less of a fuck than we did? I think they probably give just as much of a non-fuck as we do, did. No, I cared. Oh, you cared. I care because I wasn't trying to go the ER. I

never thought about getting hurt on a trampoline. I don't think our kids think about getting hurt on a trampoline, but I have a question for you related to the playroom madness that we incurred that we endured last night. Oh God. Now I know you're a mom of one, but if you were a mom of multiples, would you have the rule that if there's a playroom, a basement, a playroom, or whatever, would you have all your kids clean it up or would you have them clean up their own individual messes? Because here, let me give you a question. Yeah, because there's context here. Like, sometimes I know who's mess is who's,

but other times they're in and out of the playroom all day and I'm not gonna have them, I don't typically have them like stop and clean up and I know that that's something that I should work on. I just haven't gotten there yet. There's no way of knowing who's mess is who's, like if they're in there all day or if they're in and out all day,

I don't know who's is who, so I just make them all clean it up. I mean, lucky for me, if there's any mess in this house, I know who to point the finger at, and it ain't me. So that's lucky for me, I guess, the benefits of having one child, but they're aware of what they played with, right? So it's like, the playroom's getting cleaned, everybody's gonna go in there and clean their mess together.

Because I don't care if you're picking up a G.I. Joe or you're doing what you pick up, what you drug out. Well, so Lux and Creader still very much like play with the same stuff, like their wrestlers and their wrestling rings and their nugget couches. But Isaac and Lincoln, they, excuse me, they have this game where it's like last to fall off. So they stack up the nugget couches as high as they can get them.

And then they all get on there and they like do this thing where they like try to knock it over, last to fall off, whatever. So they're all participating in this. I don't, it takes 10 minutes. Just go fucking clean it up. I don't give a shit whose mess is whose's like y'all figure that out on your own But I'm not you're not leaving this room until it gets cleaned up. Oh, no, I completely agree with that

But that's way more dangerous than trampoline in my opinion Like last to fall off of the nugget couch It's like Listen if you fall on a Lego the wrong way like forget it Yeah, so glad that we are out of the phase of Legos. Like this might be something that I get hate for, but I absolutely hate Legos. I know that there's a lot of benefit

for like putting Legos together, but I was never so glad to see something go. We're not, I'm not out of the Lego phase. I will never forget walking into my basement whenever Will and I were still married and he had all super glue and Legos. And I was like, what the hell is going on? And like, why do you have all super glue?

And he's like, oh, because I'm specifically putting this together one time, one time only. And I'm gonna assure that it does not come apart. And I kind of agree with it. I'm like, listen, it's a lot of time investment. Nine times out of 10, your kids want the Legos that are above their skill level. Because the box looks cool. What's on the picture on the outside of the box? They're so expensive. Legos are so expensive. And if you're dedicating time,

I'm just like, if this is what you're looking at, like this photo is the aesthetic that you're looking for and you wanna see it all of the time, then we should be super gluing these together. Yeah, yeah. But my kids, what do you do with the leg? And there's Lego collectors. So this is more a question for like the Lego collectors

who children, they wanna build it, but then what do they do with it? Like if they're not a collector, what do they do with it? If it's not glued together, they just take it apart and then what put it? Oh, I'll tell you what happens. I'm very aware of what happens. Do they get away with garbage?

No, they go into bins and then you keep adding pieces to the bins and then you make your own things instead of like having a actual project that you're working on, you make your own whatever. Okay, so that kind of becomes a free for all. Yeah, and I hate the free for all. Absolutely fucking hate the free for all.

Well, once things start missing pieces, whether it be Legos, Puzzles, I lost my shit last week when I had the kids and we were cleaning up the playroom because I pay for love every. I love the little play crates. I don't know if they're called crates or kits and they're wooden and they're supposed to be per year skill level and the puzzle,

I don't know what happened to this piece, one of either the cats were chewing on it, the dog was chewing on it, I don't know. I lost my ever loved one mind because now I feel like the whole puzzle has to go away because the entire, that one little piece is missing and now it's all fucked up and now I'm pissed off and my feelings are hurt and I spent all this money. So like to me then the whole puzzle has to go in the trash. Oh no, yes. If there is a piece missing,

everything goes straight to the garbage. But you would think that after the amount of children that I have, you would think that I would be okay and I'm less okay. It's that time of year, Lindsay, where I'm getting bombarded with messages and comments and DMs and all the things asking me for budgeting tips so that everybody can go into the new year, right?

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That's rocketmoney.com slash coffee combos, rocketmoney.com slash coffee combos. That also applies to socks for me and my house. Like if I get done with laundry for the weekend and there are random loose leaf socks, they're immediately going to the garbage because I'm never going to find them. And any person that has on top of their dryer, a basket that has loose leaf socks. This is a PSA for you to get rid of it because you're never finding it. When we cleaned out everything the last weekend when I had everyone, we cleaned out like the mudroom, the shoes, the everything because we have a bad habit of like putting shoes

in the upstairs, like in their clothes, their clothes closets. And then when they like don't fit them anymore instead of if they're in good condition, passing them to the next brother, they'll skip that brother because we forgot about them, whatever, whatever. Well, we found four shoes that don't have a shoe that match it and they're in almost mint fucking condition.

And I'm pissed off because these are Nike's, these are Adidas and these are fucking Puma. These are good brands that were expensive. Puma. And we can't find the fucking matching pair, the matching shoe to, you know, the pair. And I'm pissed off because I'm like, how do we lose shoes? Like, we're not nomads, like we're fucking human beings in a home.

Why are we, and we went through everybody's closets, everybody's mudroom, the garage, the cars, nowhere to be found. I'm not getting rid of them because they're gonna, they're gonna be found. And one of my fucking kids is gonna wear them. And I don't care. Call me frugal, call me cheap, call me whatever you want.

Somebody, one of these fucking kids is gonna wear the shoes because they're virtually brand new. Well, since everybody likes to talk about us being natural consequence parents, I think the natural consequence of having the missing shoe is they have to wear two shoes to don't match. That problem solved. Now figure it out because you guys lost the shoe.

Now you gotta wear them until they're like a match. Well, but Lux and Cre would be happy to do that. So just imagine them walking into school with like two different shoes. I cannot. I think people would expect it from Lux. So I don't even think he wouldn't care. I have a story to tell you that happened to me. Tell me.

I didn't call Kristen until the next morning. Okay. What'd you do? Did you need bail money? Well, I mean, the cops could have shown up. We go to dinner with Trent and his kids, and Jackson and I are. It already sounds like a shit show.

We're bringing pigs to dinner. Cruisin' in the Bronco, nice weather outside, super, super chilly, but nice to ride with a top down. We're in sweatshirt mode. We go to dinner, we go to get in the car, and Trent looks at me as I'm closing the door and he goes, make sure that you put your top up before you drive in your garage.

Why? I'm like, duh, like, do you think I'm that stupid? First of all, is it automatic? No, because I got the soft top on mine for many reasons. One, if you get the hard top, it's a lot harder to take off and it's heavy. And Broncos do not have automatic tops on them. The factory does not make an automatic top.

So the soft top, I can just like pop the two things and put it back. And in the event that I was like driving with it down and it just started like a piss storm, I could pull over really quick and get it up and not get wet. So that's why I opted for that. So in my garage, the Bronco is too tall to go in with the top open. I mean, it's too short. It's not tall enough to go in with the top open. You know how those metal things hang down on your garage

that holds it together? Okay, well, those are too low for the Bronco to go in and not get hit on the top if the top is open. Why would the cover? Why would the soft top? Because there's two modes you can put it in. You can either put the top all the way back or you can put the top halfway back. And if it's halfway back, it like sits up like a little bit. Okay.

Right? Yeah. So I'm like, duh, like do I look stupid? Like I would do that. Like I'm smart enough. Okay. And he's like, all right, let me know whenever you get home safe. So Jackson and I are cruising, listening to music.

And as I'm pulling in the neighborhood, I start giving the mom talk. I'm like, when we get in, you are immediately to go to the shower. Do not give me any lip. Yep. Do not get the floor soaking wet. Please hang your towel. I was like, Oh, shit, I hit a bucket of balls, which was the only other thing in my garage. So I get out of the car and I tell Jackson, I'm like, just sit

there. I need to investigate this bucket of balls I get out of the car and I tell Jackson, I'm like, just sit there. I need to investigate this bucket of balls, get out of the car, look at the bucket of balls, everything looks fine. So I'm like, what was that? Like this is a conundrum. I go to get back in the car and Jackson looks up and he goes, I think I've identified the problem. No, he didn't. I was like, your child. I was like, oh wow. Yeah, I think I've also identified the problem. And I think that garage has identified the problem as well because I hit the entire casing on the outside of the garage.

So it messed up a little bit of my siding. It messed up the seal of my garage. And at this point, I had two options like I could keep driving forward and Fuck around and find out see what's happening or I could reverse but already knew what happened whenever I came in so obviously If I backed out the same thing was gonna happen, right? So Jackson looks at me and he goes honestly just called dad And I'm like I am absolutely not calling your father like I'm not calling him Jackson looks at me and he goes, honestly, just call dad.

And I'm like, I am absolutely not calling your father. Like I'm not calling him. I'm gonna figure this out on my own. Just call him. Just stop talking. Stop talking. I would have sent him to the shower at that point. Just go to the house, don't talk to me. Just go do what you need to do

while I figure this shit out. So I just keep pulling forward. Nothing happens and I manage to be able, once the garage door can go down, I'm able to get the top on. Come inside, text Trent and I'm like, can you come fix my house? And he goes, why?

You forgot to put your soft top on. Yep, that's exactly what happened. And so he was like, oh, babe, it's okay. Like it was just a little bit of the garage, like that can totally be fixed like really soon, like whatever. And I'm like, no, when something like that happens to your house, like it needs to be fixed immediately, like I need a repairman out there right now, because every time I look at it, I am reminded of the trauma that I experienced when I created that problem. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I hear you. I also, well, I hit, I pulled into my driveway

and I scraped the whole driver side of my vehicle. So I, and I just leave my vehicle like that, but I fix, Elijah fixed the house because I tore off the seal of my garage as well. So I very much resonate with your story. So did you end up just pulling it in and then just putting the soft top while you were in the garage or was it too low? Yeah. Okay, okay, okay. So once the garage door was able to go down, it gave me enough

clearance to be able to put it on. But then I left it there for like two days and Trent was like, why are you driving your Lexus? And I was like, well, specifically, because I'm afraid to pull that Bronco out because I don't know what's going to happen. Like, I already know what happened one time, and I think it's just going to sit there for the rest of its life. And I call Kristen the next morning, and I tell her this whole story about what happened. And I said, well, listen, my garage, like the front wall of my garage, when you're pulling in that you see.

Yeah. If you hit that, you are crashing into my master closet. So I said, could have been way worse. Like I could have crashed the front end of the car and wrecked into my closet. So at least it's just like this part of the problem. But is it me or everybody else that when you mess something up, you're so pissed off that you did it because you were Aware that it was a possibility that it could happen And then it's all messed up and you don't want to look at it like you just want it fixed immediately

Yeah, I'm deaf. I've definitely been there. I also but also I just feel like it could have been really it could have been way Worse so like but the car didn't get fucked up, right? No, the car is fine. Like the car is fine. Built off, right? Or, or built off. Wait, tell me about why your whole side of your car is messed up and- Well, it's just a mirror now.

It's the, Elijah or Scooter, somebody buffed out like the streak on the side of my car, but my mirror, like the driver's side mirror, I should think both mirrors because I think I've scraped both. Well the whole thing was like, sorry Kevin, the builder of my home, I asked for an oversized garage and because I was in such a rush, I didn't recheck the oversized garage. When I said oversized, I meant like, essentially, a third car could fit in there, but it's only meant for two, but like use the third bay for storage. And I also wanted one door instead of the two. And then I wanted, because I drive a suburban,

I wanted to be able to open the trunk while my car is in there, my truck is in there. If it's raining to get like groceries and stuff, well, he only gave me two extra feet of room in the front of instead of like the, I'm like, I drive a suburban, I have kids, I have car seats, I have this, I have that. And so it's a really tight squeeze and I didn't put my mirrors in. Oh, this is a public service announcement to Kristin when I go to build my next house. Same, because also it is coming. I am going to build it again.

I am going to build again. I just don't know when. Oh yeah. I need like a lot of clearance on the top. Like we want oversized garage, not just like oversized. As much as I love an oversized sweatshirt, I love an oversized garage. I need it to be tall and I need it to be tall. And I need it to be wide. Yep. Sounds about right.

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Light Fram.com slash combos So I literally text a number that I found on Google and was like, Hey, can you help me? I text this person. They called me. I said, Hey, and she was like, Hey, do you have a problem? And I'm like, yeah, quite a few actually. Since since my garage is now messed up, I need you guys to come out and like investigate

this. Also the baseboard that Georgia like chewed off. And then also three fans that possibly have like electrical issues in my house that could cause a fire. She's like, okay, can you send me photos of these things? And I'm like, yeah, certainly send photos. And she's like, just let us know if you want us to get you on the books. And I'm like, yeah, immediately.

Like when is that? Like I need you to fix all of these things. So listen, if my garage, if me hitting that causes the other issues that I've been sitting with for like months now to be fixed, then I'll take the L. Kristen actually just text us and said that- What she quit? When we go to build her next home, she quits at that time.

I mean, I don't blame her because although she has given me very many kudos because I've never once like when I tell you that I have never once during that building process ever lost my cool or like got angry or like flipped out, I never did. Like that's, that's a fact. Like I never got upset. It was just like, and Kristin told me, she's like, you're gonna be happy with your upstairs, like unhappy, like you're gonna be, it's not like you're kind of rushing it,

you're gonna be unhappy. And I'm like, no, like it's fine. Like I'm just gonna sign it and just, you know, it's done, it's whatever. No, she's correct. I hate my upstairs. I absolutely hate my upstairs. I hate my upstairs.

I hate my upstairs. I hate my upstairs. I think that when you're in the building process and you are by the time you get to the point of it, like almost being done, you're so excited to be able to get in it, that the small little things you're overlooking. The garage was one of them.

That was something that I specifically wanted and asked for. I overlooked it and kind of put my must have aside because I was so excited. And then my upstairs is I'm so pissed off and it's not, it's not my builder's fault. It's completely not my builder's fault. It's my own fault. And so now we just deal with it until one day I rebuilt. So my girlfriend is a builder like she and her dad are she does the design part and then he does all like the contracting and he's the one like out at the projects. And I told her the other day I said if you are going to build for me the process of floor planning and all of that is going to be probably just as long for me as the

building process. So if you're saying that it's going to take 10 months to get something up, then consider it 20 months because I'm going to pick apart every piece of this. I have now built three homes and I feel like I am burst enough to know like my must have items. And I'm not in a situation to where I have to sell my house that I'm in now. And so I can just stay here until it's right. I've only built one time,

but this one time was all I needed. I know, and I will make sure that I take my time. I mean, I typically stay in the house until my next house is ready. I've done that for as long as I can remember, but yeah. Any person that is in the building process at all or has ever built, tell me if you feel like you settled on a laundry room that you did not want because I did in this house and I don't care.

I feel like I need a laundry room as big as a bedroom. Me too. I have two laundry rooms in this house. I have one upstairs and I have one downstairs and I did, again, I wasn't really thinking about like the space and I wish that I did bigger laundry room situations. I wish that in my laundry room,

it was big enough to where I could do like ironing, folding, hanging to dry if you need to, washing, like the entire confection. Because then it makes a cluster in every other part of my house because I don't have that. So that would be like my one thing outside of the garage. That would be my one thing that I would be splurging on in a new build. Agreed. Can I tell you something that I ran across? It was this video and I need to know what you think about it. It's about co-parenting and conferences at school.

And this person who was giving advice on this video was saying, do not conference together as co-parent. It's nearly impossible to match schedules. You don't want to make it awkward for the teacher. Does not matter if you're getting along or not. You want to be able to ask questions that you want to know regarding the way that you know your child and your co-parent knows them

in a different way. So just let the teacher know that the child has two homes and you'll be coming separately. But time out. Let me stop you right there. I already don't know how I feel about that, simply because now you're putting an extra meeting on the teacher that she did not ask for

and she did not get paid for. So I already feel that is not the teacher's job to set up. I mean, I'm sure some are willing to do that, but like the co-parents need to get their shit together enough to both ask questions without being disrespectful to the other parent there. To me, this video was kind of like going against what we should be preaching

and trying to achieve in co-parenting. Like you should be a united front as much as you possibly can. And in situations like that, when it's specifically regarding your child's education, why does any part of what you guys have going on play into that? Why do two parents not have the same goals for their children academically?

That, that's a bigger question. So it continues. So she says that just let the teacher know that child has two homes, she'll be coming separately and please make copies of anything being handed out. So whoever comes first can have choice of artwork, leave something for the second parent. You're not in a situation where you have to throw one parent under the bus. And that teachers actually prefer this and you're more likely to open up freely if you're by yourself. Most of the time, even when married, one parent only comes anyway. And while I understand that one parent typically only comes because that was the case for us. Like I always did conferences and stuff.

And then I just informed Will of what happened at these conferences. No need for us to both set aside, you know, time in our day when I can just relay all of that information. However, you're not in that situation anymore. Right. So you are now in a two household situation where it's important for both parents to know what's going on.

So why are we even comparing a nuclear household to a split one? Also, I don't love the idea of whatever parent comes first gets a choice of like whatever they want and then whatever parent comes second gets, I guess whatever is left that's being handed out. I don't like that either. I made a face when you said that because I was like, wait a minute, what? You have to get to a point and co-pay.

And I know it sounds like foreign to so many people because it sounded so foreign to me, but like at the end of the day, if you really have your child's best interest at heart, that should be no problem. Same for the co-payment. I remember last year, I couldn't make it to parent teacher conference during that week.

And I'm pretty sure Hobby was like, like, I got it. Don't worry, like I'll relay it to you. But she said, if you did want to schedule, she'll schedule another time outside of conference week. And I just don't think that's fair to the teachers. So I hear what you're saying, that the teachers prefer that, but do they? Because sometimes parents don't show up at all.

Like some kids- Well, that's why I brought this up. Because I want to know- Why would I text my friend who's a teacher? Because she's taught in elementary school and high school. I'm about to text her right now and say in split homes, would you, what was it like, would you prefer? For parents to come together or separately to conferences.

That's why I even brought this up because I would love to know people who are educators, which you do prefer and if this is accurate, because to me, I feel like the same as you, that it's creating more work for the teacher. That's more awkward for the teacher in my opinion too, because now what if a parent did throw another parent under the bus?

Or what if the other parent did pick the better projects and then you have to basically say, she said together, right off the bat, she said together. Yeah, and to me, I feel like getting to hear from the teacher and her hearing two perspectives, if it's two households, she's gonna kind of get a better, she or he are kind of gonna get a better gauge on what the child is experiencing at home with both parents versus this is mom and this is dad. Yeah.

Right? Right. And I would love to know how people split like school stuff that comes home. So like if your child did like artwork and this project comes home, like how do you, who gets it? Javi and I have never, I don't know what projects go home with Lincoln at Javi's house. And I don't know, he doesn't know what comes home

at my house. If there was something really cool, cause Lincoln's in Spanish immersion, that was like for Guatemala, I would ask Javi, does he want that? I also have these things in our playroom that have like the kids art stuff that I switch out infrequently,

but switch them out nonetheless. If Javi brought that up and was like, hey, like I want that, I'd be like, okay, I don't care. If I give it to him. Will and I don't really argue over stuff like that. It's like there's plenty of stuff that comes home in my opinion that there's room for everyone to share. I'm not expecting if it comes home to his house

that he like gives it to me. Or if it comes home to my house that I give it to him. It's just whatever comes home in the house that I give it to him. It's just whatever comes home the backpack typically stays at whatever parents house. Yeah. It's not worth arguing over. Memory boxes and for anyone listening, I can post pictures when I had the neat method from Philly come to my house to like organize everything. I have a bin for each child and I they're not fireproof. I wish they were and maybe I should like invest later on. And then we don't keep everything, we don't.

But like the stuff that we like to keep, I put it in their bins. I'll post a picture on the coffee combo story. If it doesn't go in like our art room or like our playroom, whatever, it goes in the bins. But like again, if Javi was like, I really want that, I'd be like, okay, take it. Cause it's just gonna go to Lincoln

when he moves out anyway. You know, like it's just, that's for Lincoln's like memory. I just wanna read what my friend, who'd be like, okay, take it. Because it's just going to go to Lincoln when he moves out anyway. You know, like it's just that's for Lincoln's like memory. I just want to read what my friend who's a teacher, she's been a teacher in elementary school for 15 years, and then the high school for two years. And I believe she's going to start working at the middle school. So she's kind of well versed across the board. She said she prefers them together. That way it's one meeting for their teacher, first of all, and less of their time taken. I'm assuming she means the parents. And two, no parent can say something was said to them

and not the other parent. And then I said it would also be awkward if a parent throws another parent under the bus, which is what you said. She goes, I've had that happen too. And that she also has had parents argue in meetings up in front of her. But she still prefers the meetings together.

Yeah, I think that that is best case scenario. While Will and I don't agree on everything when it comes to parenting, we have two different parenting styles, but the same goals in mind, I guess. Right, same for me and Javi. So we are going about things in different ways, but we are trying to get to this same

end goal. And so typically it's really easy for us when it comes to like sports or academics or I don't know if there's like a problem with Jackson with friendships or you know, whatever it may be, we might respond to whatever that is in a different way. I'm probably gonna always be way more lenient and Will's gonna be way more firm on that situation, but we both know that about each other. And I think that it's important as co-parents

to know who you're co-parenting with and how they're gonna respond to something. And why does it need to be an argument in front of a teacher? Like, you feel your way, I feel my way. But we have this child together, we have these children together. And this end goal should be the exact same. We want our kids to succeed. Right. 100%.

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And speaking of kids in school. Oh, God. Have you been on TikTok at all? No, not this weekend. This was a couple of weeks ago, but very relevant. A seventh grade teacher got on TikTok and was basically saying like, why doesn't everyone know that their seventh graders are on like a fourth grade reading level? Like why doesn't anyone?

Wait, what? Yeah, like, then the US in general, like collectively, are so far behind in like, they're not reading, comprehending, doing any of those things on their level, like they're severely behind. Hundreds of stitches also went viral. So it's like this original video, and then all the stitches with it have gone viral as well. Basically, other teachers, like, agreeing with this teacher basically saying, one, the school systems with the no child left behind are passing these kids through to the next grade, to the next grade, to the next grade when they're not even getting the concepts

from their grade level that they're on, right? So that's one of the issues. The other issue is that the parents are coming to things like parent-teacher conferences, not knowing that their kids are this far behind, right? So it's interesting because they'll be like, oh, you know, little Karen doesn't know, you know, what these letters and alphabets are, and, you know, and she's in third grade. And mom's like, yeah, she does. Like, yeah, she like, quiz her right now and she quizzes her right now. And it's, it's, no, she doesn't know any of them. Well, oh, that's right. Like my older son was supposed to be working with her.

Well, oh, that's right. Like my older son was supposed to be working with her. Things like that are being, you know, the excuse or whatever. And, you know, some people are blaming COVID. Some people are saying it's the technology. Like it's the phones, it's the computers, it's the Chromebooks. It's, you know, everyone's having an excuse. Some people are even saying, well, you know, the kids aren't getting homework anymore

because they, you know, we're valuing like family time. Well, those same families that are valuing family time are not actually spending time together as families. They're just home, you know, like they're not proud. The ones that, and then another argument was the kids who need practice at home are the ones that are not practicing. They're the ones that are not doing homework, not participating, like doing any extra work. The kids who don't really need it and who are on grade level are the ones that

are going home, doing their homework, making sure things are done. So I just thought it was really interesting because, you know, Lux is in a weird situation because he's the youngest in his class. So like everyone is turning seven, like his, one of his best friends is turning seven this month. Lux just turned six. So he's already kind of behind the curve a little bit in terms of like being an entire year behind. So he has to work a little bit harder on any given day. But like the

kids that are in seventh grade and they're on a fourth grade reading level, not knowing how to spell simple things like through, I went through the hallway and put my stuff in my locker asking teachers how to spell things like that. And I'm just like, what is the solution to this? Like what is it? Because parents don't want homework. The kids don't that need the homework are not doing it. We can blame technology and the pandemic, but like, what is the solution? Like we can point fingers all we want. What is the solution? I mean, it might be a common thing that parents feel this way or I don't know. That's just how I feel. I absolutely hate homework.

I think homework and there are studies that show that homework is not beneficial. It's not. It's not beneficial. Um, I can tell you that if your kids are doing what they are supposed to be doing in the classroom, there should be zero need for homework. The problem is, is there is so much technology in schools today, which I absolutely hate technology in school.

Like, I wish that it did not exist and I wish they took it straight back to the basics. I wish everything was on pen and paper. I absolutely hate that the programs, there are beneficial programs for like math and reading and comprehension. There are beneficial programs that are on the computer. However, we should be tapping into those at home that are guided versus tapping into those at school

and kids relying on a computer to teach them these things. You know, at this Jackson play, look it. No, he has like a math program called like I ready math. Look it was created by my former attorney son. Oh, really? And I actually advertised it. He was like, do you mind like posting this? And I was like, yeah, my kids all use it in their district. And I, you know, it's cool because like, I know one of the, one of the software or whatever it is, like, I know one of the developers, which is kind of cool. But I agree. I definitely agree with that.

Like the me checking Isaac stuff, even checking his grades online, Elijah went to the school, right? So I'm like, I don't know what I'm doing to even like, if I miss a click, I miss seeing a certain assignment on Isaac's stuff. If I miss a click, I'm not seeing all of his grades, missing assignments, done assignments, what's next week? You know how dumb I feel that I'm 31 and I'm asking Elijah to show me because he graduated,

he graduated later than I did. So I'm like, hey, can you get on home access and show me like what to click and how to get there and things like that. And it's like, oh, this assignment is due this day, but oh wait, the she forgot to turn on, you know, the part where it's like you can you're able to hand in the assignment. So now it's late and now we got to email the teacher and now it's, you know, you're losing points. And that's, you know, the technology aspect of it is definitely hard. I think for us, it's harder for them. They don't know any different, but well, the last time we talked about technology in schools, I had a lot of teachers send me

messages and say, it's not our fault because all of this stuff is coming down from the county and I can completely understand that. But I do think as parents, we should be advocating not only for our kids, but for these teachers too, to simplify things. Because I think a lot of things are getting lost in the sauce by using all of this technology, focusing so much on that, where there's not enough time to be able to focus in the classroom because we're so worried about what we're missing on technology or how we're trying to keep up.

And kids are also losing. You want to talk about, you know, kids not having enough personal interactions because they're on their phones and they're on their tablets and they're whatever. Are we not preaching that same message when we're putting kids on the computers and classrooms to do programs instead of having that interaction with the teacher? Lindsay, last year, thankfully, knock on fucking wood. It wasn't this year. Last year, I was on his Chromebook doing assignments, but he was emailing his friends.

Oh, yeah. I've heard so many stories. You're not doing what you need. I mean, thankfully, we haven't had that problem. I think last year was his first year getting a Chromebook, like not with, because I think they got him during like COVID situation. But he didn't have his friend's emails at that time. Last year was the first year that he had like his friend's emails from school with their Chromebooks, and you can only email within the district. So I'm catching him when he's supposed to be doing certain things. And I'm like, what in the fuck is going on?

Also, he had to hand in an assignment last week because when I tell you I stay on top of Isaac, like why do I'm fucking rice? Because he's too smart for his own good. I pulled up a fucking plagiarism thing because I was like, there's no fucking way that you wrote this yourself. He did, I pulled up the plagiarism fucking way that you wrote this yourself. He did.

I pulled up the plagiarism thing, but that's like a whole other thing. It's like, it's almost too easy for them because they have the resources to be sneaky and do shit like that. But I had to even think about my eighth grader, possibly plagiarizing because they're on a Chromebook and they just know how these days. Like, I didn't know. I didn't know what plagiarism was until I was in high school, you know, because we didn't work on computers in seventh and eighth grade for middle school. And, you know, thankfully he didn't.

If you were going to cheat, it was, it was just pen and paper. Like, yeah, like, now it's too easy to be able to look something up, get an answer from someone else, text your friend from another class, use their answer, email your friend, like no. Like if you got caught cheating like back in the day, it was because your friend was dumb enough to copy your math homework. This actually happened to me one time. I let my girlfriend copy my math homework and she copied everything like verbatim, like even my misspellings.

But then you both get in trouble. And then we both got in trouble. So I'm like, bitch, I did my math homework and I let UG as a courtesy to you. And now you're so dumb that you copied all of everything that I spelled wrong on this paper. That's why AI is scary. Look at the chat that Kristen just sent us.

She said, chat GPT is something parents should all be aware of. It literally will write your shit for you for free. Chat GPT is what it's called. It's AI. That's scary because people like Isaac, when I tell y'all, like y'all don't understand, when I tell you guys that Isaac is gifted

and gifted acted academically, I'm not kidding. Like he's like Matilda, like adding numbers in his numbers from three years old. Like he's gifted and he knows it and so he knows how to get away with shit too. The AI is the shit that Isaac like I have to check him on like he thinks he can pull a fast one on me but he can't. Now I know what this is. AI is scary for kids like Isaac because Isaac is not dumb. I also want to just briefly talk about the no child left behind. You're leaving kids behind by putting them in the next grade and them not being ready for the next grade and then them having an expectation, their being expectation on these children for them to be able to learn what they have not learned before to get to what they

should be learning now. That is in fact leaving a child behind and it's a big problem. I actually address this with Jackson, one of Jackson's teachers not too long ago, that if we are seeing a pattern of him not mastering a skill in math and we're not being reached out to, then there is a disconnect between the school and at home for us to be able to give him the proper help because I'm not in the classroom. So if he's being left behind, math builds, right? Everything builds off of a past skill.

So if he's not mastering one skill, but then they're moving on in the classroom to the next, then he's probably not gonna master that skill. So it's just a trickle down effect. But then in terms of his confidence and how he feels about himself, like I don't know about Jackson, but for me, when I was a kid, when I got bad grades,

I hated it. It was like I didn't have the resources to study and have family members helping me out and stuff, but I also fucked with my confidence at the same time. I hated getting bad grades, but nobody's helping me. So if Jackson doesn't have, if you don't know what's going on, and his teachers or whoever is at school not making sure that he's mastering that skill and then he fails the next test. That's going to start to fuck with him too because it's like you see that he needs help and nobody's telling anybody.

That's my biggest thing. So if there are multiple kids, I don't know about other kids' grades in the class, right? But if there are multiple kids that are in that class that have not mastered a skill, why are those children not being pulled for remedial help to master that skill? So then they can move on to the next lesson. But I think so much is coming down from the county that they have to have X, Y, and Z done by a certain date so that they can move on. And they're not worried about the kids mastering skills.

They're worried about checking off the boxes for themselves to say, okay, we did this, we taught this, this was the expectation. And if they master it, they master it. And if they don't, they don't. And if they don't, then too bad. It just, it hurts my heart because there's two issues here. One, we all know, and we've said it before,

teachers are overwork, underpaid, don't have, the schools don't have the, I don't know if they have the funds or the resources for the remedial help, right? I was one of the kids that did not have access to tutoring. I did not have resources at home or outside of the school to help me with math. And to this day, don't ask me anything about math

because I can't tell you. And it's sad because nobody was pulling me out of the classroom to help me understand. Like basically everything that you're describing, nobody did that. And so I resonate with those kids that are, they want to do better, but they don't have the resources. Like I couldn't sign up for after school tutoring because I didn't know how I was going to get home. I didn't know, I didn't have a cell phone until I was 16. So I also, I just, I didn't know how I was going to get home. I didn't know if it costed money. I didn't know where to sign up.

I was embarrassed to sign up. I didn't have like the resources. So the kids today that are also in that situation is like, what the fuck do you do? And if you don't have parents who will advocate for you, stay on top of stuff, you're lost out. Yeah. You're lost out. Like, it's insane.

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God, I had to think about it for a second. Um, if we're talking like the first couple of dates that we're going on, then that might be a little bit of a red flag to me because maybe you are in a situation to where we need to be going wherever we're going for you. You need to pull out your gift card. However, let's say Christmas time rolls around and you get all these gift cards to, I don't know, you know how they'll have like the gift cards to like all of Garden Caraba, like all those different places. And somebody is gifted you that.

And we go out to eat at this place and you probably wouldn't go to this place with anyone else, but you have a gift card for this. Why are you just like throwing away money for no apparent reason? So if you wanna pull out that gift card, then I don't really care, but I am going to kind of like feel away about it. I would be uncomfortable. And I don't know why. Tell me why.

I just, it's just like, I would understand more if it was like after a holiday, kind of like you said, like if you got a gift card tree for Christmas, you just got a bunch of gift cards, like nobody really knew what to get you. So here you go. Cause I am very practical in that way. I like, if someone gave me a Wawa gift card, I'm getting gas like a hundred percent. Like I'm going to Wawa.

If we go to Del Frisco's or STX or, you know, somewhere and you pull out a gift card. Okay. We're going on a nice date and you pull out a gift card. I'm gonna be pissed, but like if we're going to Olive Garden. Right, right. Like Olive Garden don't care, but like if you're planning this like really nice date for me and then this is like because whoever gave you that gift card, why didn't they just give you cash? I mean, this is very true, but here's my thing.

If you get a gift card for somewhere and you want to like take me on this day, let's just immediately nix the day and let's just get it to go and eat at home. And then I don't even know about the gift card. So you've done me a favor and yourself. That's a good one. That's a good one. That's a really good one. Okay. You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.

But I just don't know how it would feel if you have asked me to go on this day and we're going to this nice restaurant and the bill comes and you put your gift card in there. Why are you putting your gift card in there? But also if they're smart, you won't be able to see the gift card. Like if the person that's paying with the gift card is smart and sneaky, they're just going to put their card with the gift card because surely it's going to be more than the gift card, right? And then you still tip on the full amount, not what you paid on your debit card or your credit card.

The good thing about my situation is that all of the places that I'm okay with gift cards being used, Olive Garden, Applebee's, Texas Roadhouse, that's all we have. We don't have nice restaurants. There's no restaurant around here that it would be like a dress up situation here in Dover. Okay, so you just made me want to ask another question. If you are not paying, are you looking at the bill? No. I feel like that's so rude. Like, if I am paying, you don't need to be in my business, evidently. Correct.

Because it was not your money that's paying for this. So why are you in my business? Well, right. That's what I'm saying. Like, if you're the one paying and you have the gift card and you're sneaky enough, you can just put it in there and then nobody knows how much the bill was in that you had a gift card. For sure. But like, let's say, let and you have the gift card and you're sneaky enough, you can just put it in there and then nobody knows how much the bill was in that you had a gift card.

For sure, but like let's just take the gift card out of it altogether. Let's just say like check comes and you switch on and off like who pays? Sometimes you pay, sometimes I pay. Okay, if I am the payer. Do not look at the bill. Do not look at my shit.

Like why are you in my business? That's not your business. If you're paying, it's not my business to be looking at whatever it costs. What about if you're on a date with someone that like only, like they can only budget a certain amount. What do you mean? Like.

The fuck are you talking about? Like, like, you know, Kristen is like a budgeter, right? Like she's like a budget girly. So what if someone is like Kristen, who, but like, I'm not saying Kristen does this, I'm just saying she's a budget girly. If we went on a date with someone who had a very specific budget and you could not order over 50 bucks or $75, like you have a cap that they're willing to pay only. Okay, number one, I don't think that's like a real conversation that like has ever happened.

This is never Kristen Texas and said, I would fuck anyone that paid with a gift card because then I am more inclined to believe that you are good with your funds. Even if it's a gift card to like, I didn't even finish my sentence. And she's like, Yes. So okay. But you're also married, go back to like the dating situation. If someone was to

not fucking them if they're paying for my meal at Olive Garden with a gift card, like, I'm'm sorry. Like that's not happening. That's not fuckable behavior. I just feel if you're going to do that, make it stealthy. I would rather gift card than money in their bank account. But what if they don't have any money in their bank account at all? And then they take you out on this date with took Olive Garden with a gift card, and they don't have money to cover the difference because that's doesn't just because they're paying for with a gift card doesn't mean,

oh, I would rather a gift card than negative money in their bank account. Of course, 100%, 100%, but I'm saying if this person takes me on a date with a gift card and then there's a balance after the gift card and they are still negative funds in their account, if you don't have the funds to pay the difference, we shouldn't be out. Agreed.

But that's not always the case. Okay, but I have never been on a date where someone has been like, hey, we can eat at this place, but I'm only spending $50. Like, at that point, you're basically telling me that I need to get off the kid's meal and I don't know why I'm here. Remember my friend Danielle who told us our dating stories and how they would be like, all right, give me your card before the waitress comes back so she can think that I'm paying or when the bill comes, let's argue about it, but then you take it or we'll say split

down the middle. Like why are you taking me on this date, sir? Okay, but let's just say you have like a $50 cap and you're going out to eat. Literally most places I swear to you, they charge like 350 for a soft drink. So like those funds are not gonna go very far. I think in that type of situation,

then maybe you should reconsider going out on a date and maybe invite the person over for a meal at home or maybe get takeout because you already know how much it's going to cost. Right, right, right, right. Like if you do a pickup, you know exactly what's what. Yeah. Yeah, I'm just not a fan of that idea.

I would never do that to someone, and I wouldn't want somebody to do that to me. Right. So if anyone's listening that I would potentially date, don't do that. Okay. And on that note, foul play. All right. You guys want nursing home intel?

Yes, we do. I've got some foul play for you. 104 year old woman will call grandma. I had sat her in a recliner in the common dining area after breakfast one morning, came back a bit later and her leg was shaking. I pulled back her blanket thinking she was having a seizure. Nope, she was rubbing one out. I said to her, grandma, you're in the dining room. Another lady kept using her cordless phone as a dildo. So the nurse went and bought her one instead. Wait, what? At 104, you know how to still rub one out?

I think that's at the point where like no fucks are given. Like it doesn't matter where anything is happening. You're just like... I'm so uncomfortable and I thought that she would... Living for your last breath. I didn't. Like you thought she was having a seizure and she was rubbing one.

I don't know what I would do, feel, say, I think I would pass away, pass out myself. But like how unsanitary is that? She was like in some communal space rubbing her koochie and then she's probably like touching stuff whenever she's walking out to get back to where she needs to be going. Or touch stuff like railings and stuff to get to where she was. Also the one with the phone, what? Why?

Like how would you even, wait, what? She was using the phone as a dildo. But like how do you do that? Oh, like putting it all the way in? Yes. My God, she had a gaping hole. But like, don't they just buy up? There is no way she'd get a whole phone.

I thought after menopause, women don't wanna have sex. Like I don't know. No, I don't think that it's that they don't want to have sex. Oh, they just need lube? Yeah, I think that you just get like, try out or something. But I don't think that's like for everybody. I think that like some people do and some people don't. Got it. Okay. Um, but first of all, grandma, you're in the dining hall. Like what? Like how do you even have enough sense at 104 to know that you need to rub one out? That's my question.

Like you need to rub, like don't have to mention or something. Could you imagine just like seeing that and like what would that look like? I just don't, I don't even know and I'm very uncomfortable by that. And then also the person who was using a phone as a dildo, like I love the nurse that like got her an actual one. Right?

I don't know. Yeah, the nurse was actually looking out because you're like, this is the sanitary way to do it. If you needed this, just say something, but like also probably didn't want to ask her family members. So the nurse was really looking out. But okay, just think about how unsanitary that stuff is though. Like, could you imagine that she goes and puts this in her coochie and then she talks on it? I think at some point in your life, like when you're that old and you're in a nursing home,

there are no fucks given and sanitary is not even a thought. Oh no. Sanitizing, I mean, it's not. That's why I'm never going to one of those places. Like I swear to you, I've told Jackson like, please never put me in a home, like poison me. But like don't put me in a home. Like I can't go to one of these places

I am not built for that. I'm not made for that. I don't like communal spaces I cannot picture Lindsay. I cannot picture you in a communal space Now let alone when you're old and you're like on your way out. Yeah, no, I will be the grouchiest bitch Okay next foul play. I dated this guy who ended up being a complete psycho. Haven't we all? I broke things off with him. And the next night I came home late to my front door. Nothing seems to be missing until I go into my bedroom and notice my underwear and bra drawer open. It's

completely cleaned out. He had literally taken every pair of my underwear, every bra I owned, I call the cops and they come and I make a report. Obviously know who it was that did it. Next morning, I woke up to voicemails. I start listening and this deranged psycho literally says that when he came in, he stuck my toothbrush up his ass. His words were along the lines of,

you like to talk shit, how to shit taste, shitty, shitty, shitty. I stuck your toothbrush up my ass last night, fucking deranged human being. I thank God every day that I had listened to those voice mails before brushing my teeth that morning. This was a few years ago and I have the voice mail, voice mail say very traumatizing at the same time you have to laugh or you'll cry. I am absolutely terrified of anyone ever sticking their tooth, my toothbrush and their butthole will used to tell me whenever we are married that he did that to me all the time. And like, what do you do in that situation? Like, how do you know for sure

if someone did it? Well, like they could literally just like rub the bristles like across their like, pooter, like just like rub the bristles on there and stick it back on the sink. Like, are you fucking kidding? If I'm not even, I don't even want to find out. I'm just getting a new, actually keep extra toothbrushes in my closet

all the time, at all times. There's an extra pack No, but let's just say in a hypothetical situation Okay You're in a fight with your man and he goes into the bathroom and he comes out laughing and he's like I Just rubbed your toothbrush on my butthole Sir, no you did not because if you, I can promise you I'm killing you. Like if I ever found out that somebody actually rubbed their asshole on my toothbrush and I put that in my mouth, I mean- I think I would sue somebody. Like talk about being so happy, like

I'm gonna sue you. I might be tried for murder, but I'm also suing you. Like I'm suing you in the process of being tried. No, 100%. Like you're going to see me in court on the witness stand asking me to testify. Why did I murder this person? And I'm going to say, you know, he rubbed his tooth, my toothbrush on his asshole. And I'm going to say also, while you decide if I'm guilty or not, I'm telling you that I'm suing him as well. So like, you can convict me, but I'm also, someone's going to run me some funds for emotional damages and unsanitary environment.

Listen, I think that's the type of situation where you could get away. What's the defense like being psycho? Temporary insanity. Yeah. You have temporarily made me insane because the shit is about to hit the fucking fan. I need to know what a jury would say. What would the jury say about that? You killed your man because he rubbed your toothbrush on his asshole and he sounded...

We tried to get on that jury so bad. When I found out deeps like what was going on, I'm saying I'm there for every part. I'm not convicting her. I'm not convicting her either. I'm like, no, like he did what he did. He deserved it. We're like conspiring against like,

people are gonna be like, can't I let Lindsay need to go to prison? Yeah. Right now. Headlines, Kale, Lowry and Lindsay Chrisley go to prison. Do you know we can never be on jury duty? Did you know that? Why? Because we would be considered distraction. What are you talking about? We can't distraction to who? Um just because we've both been on TV,

we're not allowed to be. Is that why I don't get notices anymore? Correct. You're kidding. I wonder what happened to him. Interesting. You know what? You learn some new shit every day. Before we go though, can we just talk about weirdos who like to have people that they've been with panties? Because-

That's weird to me. That's just strange. It's like, first off, I don't even have any panties, so that doesn't apply to me. Like that crazy ex could never break into my house and steal all my bras and underwear because I don't have any. I don't have any. Um, yeah, the smelling thing and like people selling their used panties for the, for that is like weird to me. I don't understand it. I don't understand that. Like I would

never want to smell my man's balls. Like I wouldn't keep his boxers to smell his balls. So like what is it about men who want to keep women's panties? Like I don't. I'm not smelling your rusty crusty balls. Like whether they're in your drawers or whether on your body. I don't want to smell your balls. I don't want to. So I just need to know if anybody who's listening to this,

that if you have ever been asked like for a pair of your panties Or if you've ever like kept somebody's boxers for whatever reason like I just need I need to know and on that no I've got honestly shit to do so See you later If you guys have not subscribed to us make sure you do that from any podcast app wherever you get your podcasts. Always search at podcast one. Hope you guys have a great week and we'll talk to you soon. See ya.

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