Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley - She's Bad!

Episode Date: April 14, 2022

She's a baddie! Lindsie catches the eyes of some youngins during her vacation, Kristen admits she's been throwing it down on the dancefloor since middleschool. Also, Lindsie shares the moment she found out her divorce was finalized, as well as how she was diagnosed with ADHD at 19 years-old. Thanks to our sponsors! Bloom: Get 15% off your purchase of Bloom's Greens & Superfoods blend when you go to bloomnu.com/coffee Cerebral: Go to Cerebral.com/convos for 65% off your first month CBDx: Visit CBDX.com and use code COFFEE for 20% off your first order Chime: Get started at chime.com/convos Peloton: Visit onepeloton.com to learn more The Jordan Harbinger Show: Search for The Jordan Harbinger Show wherever you listen to podcasts

I hate gift giving and receiving. Receiving gifts is so weird. What do you say, thank you? This is Coffee Convos with Kale Lowry and Lindsey Chrisley. I really want you to be in your feels, Kale. That does not interest me whatsoever. I feel very attacked by you. A spirited discussion about motherhood, friendship,

family, and life in the public eye. I'm just not with the fakery anymore. There's a fakery bakery around here. Here's Kale and Lindsey. Good morning and welcome back to another episode of Coffee Convos podcast. Good morning, Kristen. Hello, Lindsey.

How are we? I am, you said, how are we? We are well because I feel good and refreshed and on some new shit, so we're doing well. Good, I had to take your line and ask, are we well or unwell? But you are coming off spring break and clearly are well. Yes, I am.

We all need to have that personal time to just disengage with absolutely everything. And I was dying at you and Alexa. You guys probably know who Alexa is, but she's mine and Kale's PR. And you all were sending me messages to my stories and just like you are living your best vacation life. Oh, you were on a whole other level.

I could tell it was a whole other Lindsey that came out during that trip. I can't wait to hear all about it. Wait, were you guys gossiping about me? Oh, Alexa and I definitely were. You guys definitely were gossiping about me? Yes, 1,000%. We were talking about how you were just doing the best.

All of the stories that we saw, first of all, the little kids and you, it was the funniest shit that I've ever seen. We were like, we were acting to who you are. Wait, I have to talk about that. Yes, we need to know everyone asked, so. Yeah, so I saw that I was on a couple of threads actually about this photo on my Instagram story.

And some people just like truly don't have personalities and I'm like, please go find one because you're being a snooze right now. But no, I took Jackson to play basketball and he's just like obsessed. It's the first sport that he has played that he has truly just found like such a passion for and he wants to play all the time.

Like every moment that he can have a basketball in his hand, he's wanting to play. And I wanted to take him to see my parents' old house and where I spent my summers and right across the street is a basketball hoop. So I said, you can bring your basketball and we'll go over there. So of course, there's millions of teenagers

or what felt like millions of teenagers around everywhere and they're playing basketball. And so I just said he's got next game. Like he's gonna shoot on his own and they were perfectly fine with that. Well, when I walked by, one of the boys said, oh, she bad. And I was like, pardon. And he was like, oh, my friend just thinks you're bad.

And I was like, oh, okay. And then these boys kept coming up to me telling me that they were 18. And I'm like, okay, that's good and great. I'm glad that you think that you look like you're 18, but you're not. I'm not being boosted by you. And it doesn't matter if you were 18 or not.

I'm still not talking to you. I literally could be your mother. Oh my God. They looked like they were like maybe 13 to 15. There's no way that they were 18. I saw the photo, we will be posting the photo and they were not 18 at all. So then this one boy, he's like, oh my God,

like they were super fan girling for sure. And they were like, can I get tagged on your Instagram? And Jackson was like, yeah, my mom will tag every single person here on her Instagram if you guys play basketball with me. Oh my God. So they were like lit. So then they start playing basketball

and of course I had to follow through because I couldn't let my kid be a liar. I get in this photo, look at the photo after I post it and realize that when I zoom in, half of these boys are like making kissing faces at me. And I'm like, this is not okay. Well, so one of these kids comes up to me and he goes kiss or slap.

Oh no. And I was like, huh? And he was like kiss or slap. And I was like, I don't know what that is. And he was like, you either kiss me or you slap me. And I go, I'm legitimately doing neither. Like I'm not trying to be a part of this right now. And you guys need to go and do that with your age people.

And I'm definitely not slapping you to end up on TMZ. So goodbye. I feel like you were being set up. Like if that had to be set up. Absolutely. It was about to be a set up and I was not okay. They were trying to scam you with some little teeny boppers. For sure.

But we had the best, best little trip. I don't know if any of you guys ever watched Party Down South on CMT, but my girlfriend, Taylor, which would have been known on the show as Little Bit, she came down to the beach with her son and my girlfriend, Caroline, who's often on the Southern T with me.

She was down there and then, you know, like I met, I felt like everybody was at that beach this weekend. So we had a really good time, had a boil, had a girls brunch. I got the permanent like little bracelets, kind of felt like I was getting a tattoo, like I was on college spring break. It was a huge commitment for me.

And yeah, we were just really thriving, honestly. Honestly, I was following along on your stories and I was like, I want to be there. Like I was very jealous. That's the whole point, you know? It's like, you're making people have FOMO. Oh, I 1000% had FOMO. I was home cleaning and working,

so that was not, it was not it. I was not having as good of a time. It's the worst ever when one of your good friends is like on the most amazing vacation and your vacation schedule doesn't line up with your vacation schedule and you're seeing all this shit that they're posting and you're like, okay, bitch, we get it.

Yes, but like I was enjoying seeing you living your best life. So I didn't feel like that, but it was, I was just like, she, I've never seen Lindsay this relaxed with my life. My God, except in Dallas when you and I got on our day drunk. So that was fun.

That's always fun. Kristen also always is sending TikToks to the coffee combos group chat. And I was just dying laughing when I was on vacation. I was like, okay, honestly, if anyone ever got my phone and I wanted to ask all of the listeners this, like what would be your one text thread

that you would not want someone to see if they got your phone? Ooh, that's a good one. Because mine would definitely be coffee combos group chat. I, yeah, I'd have to agree because the amount of stuff that gets put in that group chat, whether it's actual texts or TikTok links or screenshots is unreal, unreal.

The fuckery that goes on on that is appalling, honestly. And so I also love how long it like the response times. Like that also backs me up. Wait, let's talk more about this. You've got Kale who's like hit or miss with responding at all. Yep. I've got you who will respond,

but on their own timeline. So it could be in five minutes. It could be in five days. We don't know. And then there's me who I feel like I respond like pretty instantaneous. So just the stuff like I could have sent five TikToks by the time you're responding to number one.

This is very, very true. And I need to know if people are, there's a couple of questions that are going on here in my mind. It's like, okay, are you a fan of group chats? Because the answer immediately is no, but for the sake of coffee combos podcast, there is no like way around having a group chat at all.

So we have to have it and it keeps our lives sane for the most part. Sometimes there's some fuckery that goes on that like disturbs my piece, but then like outside of that, we have to have it. I'm not a fan of group chats. And then the other thing is, is are you a very fast responder or are you like me?

And it's like, I'm gonna do it on my time. I am genuinely curious how many people are like, you where it could take however long or like Kale where she's either responding or not. There's no in between. And then me, who's just pretty quick. Yeah, no, I'm, I literally, okay. It is so bad sometimes.

I think Kale and I've talked about this before where at what point does it become rude that you didn't respond and then you respond, right? It's like, okay, Lindsay, like great. I'm glad that you showed up to life today five days later and you're now engaging in this. Like, is that rude or is that just like, okay, no, like she just got to it?

I'm so used to it. Like I would say that it doesn't, I'm not like, oh, rude. Like if I'm sending a TikTok, I'm not expecting a quick response. If I'm sending something important, I'm like, all right, these bitches better answer. But if you don't, I'll just text Heather. So it's fine.

Kristen's like ring, ring, bitch, answer the phone. I'm here. Heather gets so, like she told me, she was like, well, you can, I know when you have your phone on focus, you can call you three times and then it like pushes it through. I'm pretty sure Heather's the one who said that.

Someone told me that. And then Heather called me not this past week, but like the Tuesday before that and she lifted up my garage and she was like, wow, I'm like really not going to the house right now because I don't know if there's like anything going on in there. And I'm like, why didn't you just call me?

And she's like, I did your phones on focus all the time because I'm focused, bitches. You're focused literally. Okay. You're using it to its fullest potential. I absolutely am. That feature is my fave. I love it.

I just updated my phone because that's not something I'm good at doing. I always get scared. It's going to like totally crash my phone or something. So I finally updated it and got the focus mode. And I was like, oh my God, like I can't wait to use this. Wait, you haven't used it yet?

No, cause I'm always scared. I'm going to miss something important. So. So see, I miss something important and that's when you start calling Heather and you're like, where is that bitch? Like, where is she? I feel like when you're the one who gets called

when something goes wrong, I don't think you're like allowed to have your phone. Yeah, that's very true. Wait. So this TikTok that we got was so funny. Kristin's in it, we'll post it, but it's basically about grinding at school dance parties or whatever.

Oh yeah. Like where are your parents kind of vibe? Oh, for sure. And so when she sent that, I was like, I have the funniest story that I have to tell everyone on this. And it's like, it's funny to me now, but at the time it wasn't fucking funny at all.

My dad, we lived in California for a brief period of time. And I went to a school dance, which I thought was unsupervised. It was supervised by the teachers, but it's like, obviously you're probably gonna do things in front of your teachers that you wouldn't do in front of your parents likely. And no parent supervision.

So I'm just like having a good time walking around this dance, like hit songs are coming on and it's all good and great. And I should chew not. But I turn around to the back of the gym. My dad's standing on the wall. No. Yes.

Oh my God. Oh my God. Oh no. And I'm like, can I not even have a seventh grade life? No, you weren't allowed. Like sir, you are a psychopath for doing that. And he literally was like one with the wall. Like he was like all the way up against the wall.

Like he was a chameleon. He was up against that wall. His hands were up against the wall. No. Like sir, I see you. Like I see you. How long was he standing there? We don't know the answer to that.

I don't know that I'll ever know the answer to that. Thank God I wasn't doing anything. What did he see? I was gonna say, were you grinding Lindsay? No, I don't even know how to grind. Like what is grinding? Like what? What?

Kristen. Oh man. OK, don't make me pull out that video of you from Dallas and show the entire world. Wait, Kristen was like, what was that text that you sent? You were like, whoever posts this? I forget. Hold on.

Let me pull it up. I was like, whoever posts this, I'm going to kill or something. I don't know. I think I've threatened lives with that. Yeah, she did. You were like, whoever posts this, I'm going to kill them. I don't have a bra on. And I was like.

I was very worried, OK? So wait, Kristen obviously knows how to grind. She knows how to twerk for those of you who don't know about this. But I don't know how to do any of that stuff. And to be very frank, I'm kind of awkward in social scenarios. And especially like, OK, and this is something I've always wondered as like an adult. If you're going somewhere and you're dancing,

there's music going on, and you just like find this like rank stranger, and you're like, I'm going to grind on you. Like, what is that? I mean, that never happened to me. I just was like the hoiest of hoes when it came to grinding at my school dances and like probably in my college days. Like what?

Oh, I was getting down. What? I was that kid that didn't talk in class, but like put me on a dance floor and give me some like usher. And oh, I'm basically on the floor. Like just don't even don't play. Kristen, I am dead. Like, would you have been appalled if your mom was

one of the wall? Oh, I would have been dead. My mom would have literally slit my throat on the spot. Like this, no way. Absolutely no way. I was like, I would be dripping in sweat by the end of a school dance. My parents would pick me up and they'd be like,

did you have a good time? And I'm like, yeah. Kristen! And my parents pick me up and I looked like I looked exactly when I left the house. No, there's no. No, I'd have like when I started wearing makeup to dances, I had like my eyeliners like dripping down my face.

Like, no, no, I didn't play. Kristen, your parents were literally wondering if you were in there fucking or if like what was going on? Yeah, they're like, this is not normal. No. Pick up a tire and I'm concerned for you. I'd have a complete different hairstyle than when I arrived when they picked me up

because it was just like everywhere. Stop. Oh my god. No. OK, but I need an answer to this. Who told the general population that when music like hits at a club or like you're out at like a happening bar and this great song comes on and people just like start

grinding like we've all seen this. Don't act like you're brand new and like you haven't seen this. Why do we think it's OK or normal to just be grinding on some stranger that we don't even know? I don't know. I'm like you're all up on his junk. Like you can feel it on your back and you're like, OK, no. You knew you were not when you could feel it.

If you couldn't feel it, you were like, oh, something's wrong with you. I mean, I would like to know where it started to be because I don't know. But I just know that when that music hits, I'm shaking my ass and whoever is behind me better watch out. Kristen, no. Like that's not a thing.

I would never be the type of person that's just going to like go into I don't even go to a club or like a bar or whatever. But if I did, I would not be the type that would just like walk in and be like, yeah, hey, let me just like start grinding on you. Like the fuck. I feel like the way that it always happened would be like me and my girls would be dancing. And then like some guy just came up behind you and just

put his stuff on your back. Like that's. Yeah, that's exactly how it happened. It was never like a condo like, hey, you want to grind? It was just like all of a sudden someone appeared behind you and it was like, you're either going to keep dancing or not. But then when you got older, you would have the girls like your friends if they really were your friends.

They would give you the look if the guy behind you was like not attractive and they'd give you the look and then you immediately just like make up a reason why you could no longer do that. And you would just run. OK, so that's how it went down. OK, that kind of makes sense. Kind of it was bringing back memories. I'm kind of like, oh, you know, well, that's exactly what it looks like.

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I honestly don't know. Currently, I'm so nervous. I'm picking off my eyelashes. So no. OK, well, it's not that bad. Like, I'm like, I'm going to hit you with the hard questions first, OK? Because I'm not going to lie at all on these questions.

So I'm like, should I be nervous about this truth hour? Did you and Kale really sneak out of Todd Crisley's house or was that just a TikTok idea with the song choice? Why'd you have to start with that? I have to hit the hard one first. OK, so obviously, I'm not sneaking. I'm a grown adult and Kale's a grown adult. So like, we aren't sneaking out of anyone's house first.

It was something funny to say. Like, we're sneaking out of Todd Crisley's house. This is what it would be like. This is what it would look like. Like, if we were teenagers, this is what would be going on. So no, we legitimately did not sneak out of his actual home. Have you ever snuck out of the house? No.

Yeah, but not from my dad's house. Oh my god, he'd kill me. I snuck out from my grandparents, though. Oh, see, I feel like that's easier. The older you get, the easier it is to sneak out of like an older person's house. But then you got to feel bad because you're like, OK, wait. Like, why did I think that that was OK to literally bamboozle

my grandparents? Like, no lie. OK, no one has ever known this. This is the first time I've ever acknowledged this in my entire life. So one time, I decided that I was going to sneak out of my grandparents' house. And I was like, OK, this is probably

going to be like pretty easy. And you know how those door chimes, like some houses have door chimes, so you have to tape the chime so it doesn't hit when you close the door and open it? Yes. Yeah, so it was like a full. This was premeditated.

So there was no way around, if I got called. Like, if this was just like a lapse of judgment, like, no. This was like a straight up premeditation. I put blankets, like it was a body on the bed, did all of that, snuck out, and went to my friend's house, a couple of houses down. So yeah. Oh, OK.

I mean, you really committed. Yeah, I was not going to a boy's house, though, so. Well, I mean, OK, that's better. I feel like that would have been just really, really bad if you got a call doing that. I'm like, honestly, why did I even have to sneak out to go straight down the street to my friend's house?

Just some of the stuff you think about now, you're like, why did I do that? Like, why? Yeah, like, it doesn't even make sense. And it's like, just like, I don't know. Right. That should not even be a thing. Yeah.

The next question that I pulled was, her ADHD story, did she always have ADHD? Did she get diagnosed as an adult? What are her struggles? What are her coping mechanisms? So I think that I probably always had it. And I didn't really realize until I had to start doing, this sounds so dumb,

but until I had to start doing everything on my own, and I didn't have any help. Because obviously, you know, like college student, and you have to manage and try to balance all these things in your life. And I didn't realize what a distracted person that I actually was. And I think once I really started realizing it,

it almost was the point of too late. And I would do weird stuff, like try to be productive, but then do tasks that I wouldn't see through to completion. Right. So it would be like, I'd start something, and then I'd be like, oh, I'll get to it. And it's like, oh, fuck. Like three days later, it's like, oh, yeah,

I was doing laundry like three days ago. I probably should follow up on that, you know? And so I thought maybe something is wrong. And then I would get super anxiety when I would take tests and stuff. And it wasn't because I was like afraid of the test. It was because it was like very, very overwhelming to me. And I couldn't stay focused.

I would be on one question. And then I would automatically be reading like the next one and going to the next one without doing the answer. Like it was very overwhelming. And so yeah, I was diagnosed with ADHD at 19. And for a while, I was on vivants. And decided that I really, if you guys have ever heard me talk about like not being like a huge advocate

for medication, it's not that I'm advocating against it. Because I definitely think it has its place. And if you're on it and it works for you, then good for you. I just have always been of the mindset that I don't want to be dependent on any type of medication. And so I have started using or had started using more coping mechanisms through therapy to be able to have a successful day without having to be medicated.

And there are certain times that I'm like, OK, there's no way for me to do this day without being on my medicine. But then there's some days that I'm like, OK, I can just do it and be fine. And honestly, every day looks very different. And I see a lot of things that I struggle with and Jackson too. So that's interesting.

OK. I mean, I feel like it's not diagnosed as much in women. Like I think women kind of slip through the cracks when it comes to getting diagnosed with ADHD and don't end up getting diagnosed till later in life. And I didn't really know that until honestly I started watching TikToks. And it's a huge topic on TikTok all the time about how long it's

taken women to get diagnosed, even though they've had symptoms since childhood. It's kind of just dismissed. It's always kind of put on hormones or this, that, whatever. But that's really interesting. People always ask us about your ADHD journey and your diagnosis and stuff like that. So I didn't know that you got diagnosed at 19.

Yeah, well, and just a couple of things that I was noticing that was occurring very often in my life was just making kind of careless mistakes on things and just not truly paying attention. Like I might be paying attention, but I was not paying attention to details. So overlooking or handing in work, I might not have read the whole assignment

and then handing in work that was inaccurate because I didn't read everything thoroughly. And truly difficulty of paying attention in class. So I would have a lecture and to sit there and try to take notes. And because in college it was very different. I went to a private high school. I graduated with 39 kids and my graduating class. So if you weren't paying attention,

it wasn't hard to fucking spot you. Right. But like in college, when you are in a class that might have 500 people in there, it's like if there's a conversation going on beside you, someone's doing something beside you, I'd be focused on that and not the lecture. And one bad thing was like not listening to someone

when I'm being spoken to directly. Like just obvious distraction, you know? Yeah, no, definitely. That must have been rough. I want to know how many people have kids who never follow through with their chores or take a long time to do stuff. Children with ADHD because that is the most frustrating thing

ever, like having a bedtime routine and it literally taking an hour for them to be able to complete it. It's like, OK, I actually brush my teeth 45 minutes ago. Like why is this going on? Yeah. OK, next question was upcoming summer plans. And does your custody schedule change in the summer

since there's no school? OK, so I have tons of upcoming summer plans. I have a couple of things in limbo though because my custody schedule is actually in limbo. So I'm going to give you guys a little bit of update on this. I never realized how many things would actually change after starting to try to co-parent with someone outside. You know, we all co-parent even when you're married, right?

So you have this person's ideas, that person's ideas, and then you find a meeting in the middle. But when you're divorced, it's a lot harder because he's at his house, I'm at my house, and there's not a requirement really to find common ground. And so with my custody schedule changing, I don't know what that's going to look like for our summer breakdown.

And so I have loose summer plans, like a couple of vacations planned. But I'm trying not to set dates and stuff until I just know more of what that custody schedule is going to look like. And I do have an update for you guys. My divorce is actually final. I found out when I was on vacation, and I did cry.

And I don't know if it was a relief cry or what type of cry it was. I haven't really identified that part yet. But it just feels so weird. I was with him for so long, and it just feels like even though it was closed so long ago, it just truly feels like it's ended, like it's all done. Yeah, it's like that was the final piece.

Yeah, and so anyone who has ever watched Chrisley Knows Best, you know that Will did not ask my dad for my hand in marriage. And that was always a huge bone of contention for them. And my dad is very southern and old school when it comes to that, like if you want to marry my daughter, you will be man enough to ask the man who raised her for her hand in marriage.

And so when I was 19, I didn't really understand the value in that as much because I'm like, wait, that just sounds so weird. Like, why is that important? Don't get your panties in a wad about this. Like, this is just weird. But now, as I've gotten older, if I ever did get remarried, I'm like, if you don't ask my dad, that would be very bad.

Like, I definitely see the value in that now. Will actually got engaged to me on Father's Day without asking for my dad's hand in marriage. And then my divorce was final on my dad's birthday. So it just kind of felt like a full circle. Yeah, like it was full circle. And I did restore my name, so to its wit. So I am officially Lindsay Brooke Chrisley.

And of course, for school purposes, I can use FKA, which is formerly known as Lindsay Campbell. And I did that for a couple of reasons, because one, I'm 32 years old. So the probability of me, even though I say I'll never get married again, whatever, that's really just me talking shit, because I just got out of one. And when you've been in a relationship that shit just

goes south, you're like, I could never imagine putting myself in a situation to be stuck again. And the more that I've been removed from it, I'm like, OK, maybe that's kind of dumb for me to say I'll never get married again. I'm 32 years old. The way I look at it was the last name of his was borrowed until it wasn't anymore.

Right. And that is how I view it. And I don't look down upon other women who keep their ex-husband's last name because of their kids or whatever purpose that you're keeping it. I think it's a decision that you just have to make and what feels right for you. But it just didn't feel right for me to be so young,

potentially be in a serious relationship in the future, get married, and I'm still carrying my ex-husband's last name. It just did not sit right with me. And it's like, you know what? I gave you everything back, literally everything and some. And that's it. We're done.

It's good. I am me. I'm back to my original government. Right. So does it bother you that you and Jackson don't have the same last name now? Or does that not something that bothers you? So partially and then kind of not really,

because I was married to Will when I had him. And so I think that that kind of changes it a little bit. He is Will's son, even though he's also my son. We were married when we had him. So I think that it's fair for him to carry the last name Campbell. However, I have been struggling a little bit, because I feel like he's as much my son, if not more, than Will's son, because I had him.

I'm like, we should hyphen. It should be Jackson Chrisley Campbell. And I know that Kale went through some stuff like that with her boys and trying to figure out exactly what was right. And I just want to make the right decision. But I also think that Jackson's old enough to want to make that decision for himself.

Right. And we have had those conversations. And he does have an interest in also carrying my last name. So I think it'll be interesting for the future to see what happens. Yeah, definitely. Well, I think it's just coming from someone who obviously doesn't have kids yet.

I just feel like you are the one who goes through the whole pregnancy. And then, obviously, a lot of the child raising is on the mom. But you don't get to give that part. Well, and that's something that I've more so been struggling with. I didn't struggle with it at all,

because it was just natural instinct for him to have Campbell as the last name when we had him, because that was also my last name. But now that I'm on the other side of this, and I have restored my last name, and it was granted on the same day. My name restoration was granted on the same day as my divorce, my final decree.

And now that I feel like I am fully me again, I want to share that with Jackson. And I feel like I have every right to do that. Yeah. I just wonder how many people have, like, how many people that are having kids, like, now-ish? Do they hyphen? Do they sometimes just take the mom's last name?

Even if, you know what I mean? I just wonder how many people kind of change it up now instead of automatically going with the dad. I don't know. That would be an interesting question. I feel like we have enough listeners to give us. Let us know. Some answers on that.

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Next question. All right. Everyone is asking what your workout routine is. My workout routine. Since you're a baddie. Oh my God. She bad. I'm like, wait, what?

No, I got that question so many times over the week. And I guess it's just because I don't post in bathing suits. Like I'm not just like posted up on the gram like in two piece all the time. Yeah. And so there were some funny little threads between coffee combos, fan, Instagram page and then the Southern Tea fan page

where people were like, where did those boobs come from? Like where did those abs come from? And I'm like, well, I've had them. I just don't regularly show them all the time. I, for example, yesterday went to the gym, rode the bike for five miles, did a couple of leg workouts, squats, abs, left the gym.

Every day I either do like the stair master to start off or I ride the bike. I probably ride the bike five days a week. Okay. So you like your bike workouts and cardio and stuff? I do. And I will say that I think abs come from eating. So I don't think you're gonna get that

from just working out. Like that is a component that definitely helps, but also your diet definitely plays a role in that. And I have noticed now that I have kind of like cleaned up my eating a bit, which I say that, but then I just like literally went and got carbs before this I went and got a large hash brown from Chick-fil-A.

That's called balance. For the most part, I've cleaned it up. So I try to eat pretty healthy Monday through Friday and then Saturday and Sundays or kind of like the days that I don't try to like overindulge, but at the same time I'm not watching what I'm eating at all on the weekends. And I think that like that's where your definition

really comes from your eating for sure. I've heard that first. I've definitely heard that like abs are made in the kitchen. I've heard that saying for ever and ever and ever. So maybe we should do like a Lindsay takes us to the gym Instagram story thing and you can like. And then I'm just like showing you guys all the machines that I'm getting on for like an hour and a half.

Yeah, I mean, because a lot of people have gym anxiety because they don't know how to use machines. Well, we've all seen people in the gym and you're like, okay, one time I saw this lady at the gym, bless her heart and she was on the elliptical and she was riding it backwards. Oh, wow. I've actually seen like workout influencers

do some crazy shit like that though. So I wonder if she was trying like a trend. Maybe this lady was not trendy. Like she was up in there making the elliptical. You know, like how the foot parts moving and you're like supposed to move it forward. She was going the opposite direction. Oh no.

And I was like, oh, do you want me to show you how to use that? But then you probably feel bad like trying to like ask that because you don't want them to think you're like watching them or trying to correct them. So it's probably equally as awkward for you as it is for them when they realize that they've been doing it wrong.

Absolutely. And of course, I'm not saying anything, you know, like I am definitely not going to say anything to that lady but I will for sure take you guys through a little workout. I'll plan it with you, Kristin. Yeah, I think that could be fun. We'll do that. But you guys, if you want to know my eating habits,

that's kind of like a hard one to follow because every day looks different. Like I try to like make smart choices based off of like wherever I'm at in life, like what I'm doing, you know, so it's like, okay, well, if I am at a restaurant, like I just try to make like the healthier choices of what's offered. Yeah, like your Chick-fil-A hack is great.

Oh my, what, tell them my Chick-fil-A hack. It's the kale salad and then you get the, what is it, the eight count nugget? Eight count grilled nugget. And then what dressing do you get? I forget. I do half of a buffalo pack and half of a ranch pack, toss it in the kale salad and it's delicious.

Yeah, that's like, it looks amazing. I can't eat a Chick-fil-A but it looks great. And I'm like, Chick-fil-A doesn't have to be so unhealthy, like I'm not just because I'm going, doesn't mean I'm eating fried chicken. Right, so you're just making the healthier choice. I like that, I like that mentality instead of being like, oh, I can't have this,

like no, I'm just choosing the healthier version. Because that's not realistic, right? It's like, for the most part, my days I'm at home enough that I could definitely like do better than what I already do. But it's a lifestyle, right? So it's like, you have to be accommodating to some extent and I don't want to be so extreme that I can't go,

I love to be able to say I can go anywhere. Someone was asking me the other day, they were like, where do you like to go and eat? And I said, I can find something on any menu. Yes, this is true. You really will. You know, so you're like, we know Lindsey, we know you will. It's boom.

That is true, you're not really picky. No, no. And I used to be as a kid and then also through my marriage, but what I've discovered is I think that I had very little control. And so I would be picky because it's something that I could control. Right, which that happens.

I hear about that all the time too. People can try and control what they can. So, fun. Next question we have, have Della and Georgia met and do they get along? Actually, I have a cute photo, Kristen, I'll send it to you right now. Georgia is actually at Will's house right now.

And they semi-get along. Della is very used to being the queen of the palace and Georgia is like a bull in a china shop. She is definitely a tomboy personality-wise and she's running full force. She likes to chase balls. She likes to play chase in the yard. She has the zoomies all the time.

Like she's wild and out there. And it's kind of funny because I think it's like mine and Will's personalities. It's like Della is him and I am Georgia. See, and you just got it in dog form now. Yes, ma'am. I'm sending you this photo so that you can post it, but also you need to look at it like right now.

Oh my God, I can't wait. While I'm waiting for that to come through, everyone's asking how puppy training is going because this person has a seven month old Beagle and Lab and says they feel like they're drowning. Oh my God, that picture. Della was like, I don't wanna be here. And Georgia's like, love me.

Love me, love me or leave me. Puppy training honestly has not been bad for Georgia at all. She was pretty well, and I know this sounds crazy, but we got her at eight weeks old and she was already trained, or the process of training her to go to the bathroom outside was already in progress.

And so it wasn't that hard for that. And she's just been a fairly easy puppy. No, I will say she's been the most high maintenance as far as like she's had an ear infection. She had like something else go on. But as far as like the training part, she hasn't like torn up any furniture. I hear so many people be like,

oh, my dog tore up so much furniture, like ate the legs off of every piece of furniture, like all this stuff. And she hasn't done that, but I do spend a heavy, heavy amount of time with her. And so I don't really know that my method would be realistic for someone who is leaving their dog at home

for like long periods in the day, because if I'm not home, Heather's here, you know? And so Georgia's really never left by herself. And so she's a pretty pampered pooch and she's always got someone to play with. But she's been a very, very easy dog to train. Like when I tell you, we didn't even have to use puppy pads.

Oh, that's awesome. You got lucky, but that is awesome. And she is getting fixed on actually tomorrow. Oh, okay. Well, obviously, first of all, you know, I'm a dog lover, I have way too many dogs, but thoughts are with her. I'm sure she'll do great.

I'm sure she'll act. Jackson's like, but I want her to have puppies. And I'm like, absolutely not. They are so much work. And I said the same thing. I've always thought, oh, like, let my dogs have puppies, it might be cute. And then I rescued two dogs right before COVID hit.

And they ended up getting stuck together one day, like let them in from outside. And they were stuck together. And she got pregnant and she had 10 puppies. And that was so much work. You would have thought I had 10 children. I would love to know people who adopt, purchase, whatever a dog is a pet.

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that you can get in when you wanna do an hour or whether you only have 10 or 15 minutes, it works out great for your schedule. So I love the fact that their new series, their new artist series music selections. So Peloton has added fun new artist series classes. So you can work out to the music of a single artist for an entire class from your favorite hits

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okay, is co-parenting getting any better? You said that it got really rough there for a while, hoping things are better. Yeah, so I think that ebbs and flows for sure. I think once we realize that we were not, and I don't know why it took so long to realize this, I don't have an explanation for it, but when we realize that we are never going to see eye to eye

on everything and he's not gonna see it the way I see it and I'm not gonna see it the way he sees it. But once I realized that like, I've not required to see it the way he sees it and he's not required to see it the way I see it, there's a reason that you have a parenting plan, right? And it's like, okay, this person is making decisions on this and like, they have full control of this.

And like, this person is making decisions on this because they have full control of this. I think that's helped a little bit. And then just generally realizing, it's really hard to co-parent with someone that you have just romantically like cut everything off with, you know, because I think you're still navigating those feelings and once you can get to the point

of no longer having to navigate those feelings and you're only navigating the child, then it just automatically gets easier. And it's like, okay, there's certain concessions that I would make at the beginning that I would never make today because I'm like, okay, well, I was making those concessions strictly because we were still romantically involved with each other.

Right, right, now that you have the separation there, you're like, actually on second thought, no, thank you. Yeah, on second thought, we're not gonna do that. But I will say, generally, I am very flexible when it comes to Will and Will is very flexible when it comes to me. So like, if I got caught in downtown Atlanta coming home from a meeting and needed to text him

to be like, hey, do you think you can get Jackson from school or vice versa? Like, that wouldn't be an issue. And so I just really feel for the parents out there that don't have the co-parenting thing worked out. And I don't think that you can ever say, oh, we've got this, like, we've got this really worked out and under control and like, we're perfect at doing this

because that's very misleading. But I will say, we both have Jackson at the forefront. And because of that, I think it makes it a lot easier. Like, we don't think about the other outside stuff, if that makes sense. And well, that's really important. And I'm sure it's so hard to keep like, personal feelings and everything aside,

but just making sure that you're making the best choices on behalf of Jackson probably is hard, but also probably makes it easier. And I'm no longer worried about things like, oh, is he dating someone or is he, you know, like none of that stuff. Yeah, like that's all past. And so now I feel like I just have like a clear vision

of what's going on. And I think that it would be naive and misleading to say that even after you have filed for divorce, and I would imagine this is true for most people that have children involved, you're like, did I make the right choice? Like, I want to fight for my family. And, you know, I can't believe that this is actually

coming to a head and it's ending. And, you know, whatever, like all these thoughts that you have that's just like a running train of thought all the time. But I think that once you get past that, that part and like really identifying like, okay, this is my new life and this is like my new normal. And I'm no longer with him.

So the things that I used to care about when it involves him from a personal standpoint, no longer is my business. And the things that he used to care about from a personal standpoint when it comes to me is no longer his business. I think once that that is identified and there is a boundary set there,

the co-parenting becomes easier. That makes sense. That definitely makes sense to me. I actually, I have a follow up from something you said before about how like you actually do co-parent obviously while you are still with the other parent. So do you think that the any parenting differences that you guys had then are still the same?

Just kind of was the added bullshit of personal feelings when you got divorced that kind of made things go astray? Or do you think that the actual parenting differences kind of exacerbated when you got divorced? So I think that it's a combination of those things. I don't think that either of us necessarily parent differently than we parented when we were in the marriage. I think that now we full force can parent in that way

50% of the time when we have him. So it's like 50% of the time I can full force implement the way that I want to parent and other 50% of the time he can full force implement the way he wants to parent. Got it, okay. Where we were having to kind of like meet in the middle and find common ground when we were married because if we didn't,

then it would constantly be a battle, a fight, an issue. So I would make concessions, he would make concessions now. Neither of us really have to make concessions. The one thing I will say is I think for children, it's hard when you have two different parenting styles and you're sharing 50, 50 custody and you're trying to do week on week off because that has not worked for us

because it's too inconsistent. Even though the schedule is consistent, the parenting is inconsistent. And so finding maybe more transition throughout the week but more access to each parent throughout the week, it doesn't seem as extreme when they're exchanging after seven days, if that makes sense. Yeah.

I've always wondered that just because of the time period that they would go and like how is that parent parenting versus, okay, now I have to come home and readjust to how this parent is parenting, that has to be stressful and a little hard. Well, and Will often refers to, if you guys listened to my other show, I've talked about this before,

but he refers to my house as the bachelor pad and he's like whatever goes at Lindsay's house. And I'm like, no, that's definitely not true. Do I feel like I have a more lax parenting style than Will? Yes. I definitely am more of a gentle painter and since we filed for divorce, definitely implementing the natural consequence parenting

and allowing Jackson to like mess up and have to figure it out on his own. I think that kids learn best that way. And I allow him to have his own personal space. So like in my house, the whole upstairs like is basically dedicated to him. Like his playroom, his bedroom, there's a loft up there that has his game, his couch,

like all of that stuff. And so he has his own free space to be able to do kind of like whatever he wants to do. And he has those spaces at Will's house too, but I let him kind of like do him and Will doesn't let him do him as much. And so it's hard when you're going like seven days and it's like, okay,

I've just like been getting to do me for seven days and now I'm going to dads. And he's like, nope, you ain't doing you over here. No, I gotta do him. Exactly, exactly. Oh, I see on this list, a question that looks like you dodged. It's the second question.

Let me see, hold on. Oh, yes, this is perfect. Would you ever get back with Will and would you date someone with kids? I laugh so hard when Kale's like, I would not date someone with kids. And it's like, Kale, you literally, when you go somewhere, people are like,

okay, is a tribe showing up? What's going on? Kale and her chaos. Kale and her chaos, but she is a hard like, I am not dating a man with kids. And like she says that, she has said that about Javi before being like, no, he's got kids, like, no, not.

But wait, that's your kid. But the first question, would I ever get back with Will? And I'm a big on never say never, but on this one, I'm going to say never. Mainly because I think in certain situations, you can recover from things. In this situation, I think too much has gone on.

And I think that too much has been said and too many people involved that it would just never work. And in fact, I was having a conversation with someone in my family this past week. And I said that moving on into the future, I didn't really think there was a huge importance on your in-laws or like the family.

But my advice to myself and to everyone listening is really vet the person that you're going to be with, what their parents are like, what their siblings are like, because if you're going to be spending an extended amount of time with these people, those relationships do matter. And the only time in-law relationships don't matter

is if your in-laws are dead. I would agree, like that's the only time. And so I think because there has just been so much that has gone on between like the families and it's just so deep that neither of us could get past the hurt parts, I think. And so for that reason alone, I would say absolutely under no circumstances would we ever reconcile.

And I absolutely would date someone with kids. You're so sure about it, just like Kale is like not sure. Like absolutely, like you're sure about you would and she's so sure that she won't. So that's so funny to me. So my justification in this is that, like I said a couple of episodes ago, I wouldn't want someone to rule me out

because I have a child. Like that was something that I did in my 10 year marriage and I shouldn't be penalized for that. But with that being said, I think that it's very healthy for you to know, like absolutely I would date someone with kids or absolutely I wouldn't because it sets a boundary there that's like, okay, you know, I couldn't deal with a baby mom

or I couldn't deal with a baby daddy. So, you know, and if that's where you stand, I think that's the healthy approach. For me, I think because of therapy and because of just life experience, I don't think that it's a deterrent for me. I don't look at someone any differently if they have kids or if they don't.

And frankly, I think that that would be so cool. Like I am from a family that my parents got divorced. My dad had other children. My biological mother had other children. The man that my mom married had six kids. Oh wow, so this is like, you're used to this. This is very blended. Yeah, so for me, I'm like,

that would just be probably more normal than anything for me to be with someone with kids. And, you know, I have felt for so long and different on do I wanna have another baby, do I not? And I was talking about this the other day that in an ideal world, would I want another child? Yes, but do I want another child at the expense of just like having one and it not being

a solid relationship and, you know, like I don't want to go out here and just have a baby for the sake of having a baby. Like I would want that to be like, I am in love with someone. That person is in love with me and they want to have a child with me. And if it was that circumstance,

and I absolutely would, but I'm not dead set on. And I'm like, okay, well, if I'm with somebody that has kids, it's like those kids just get to become my bonus children and we can be set. Like that's fine. Right. Well, and like I look at it from the point, I don't have my own kids yet,

but it's not even the kids for me. I wouldn't date somebody that has a baby mama because, oh my God, the baby daddy drama that I've seen. I can only imagine. Well, I think that it definitely depends on the maturity level though. You know, it's like, if everyone's looking out for the best interests of the children,

the adults in the equation should be able to be mature enough to coexist with one another and to be able to do what's best for the kids and what's best for the kids is for all the people in their lives that are imprinting on them for those people to be happy, whatever that looks like. No, definitely. I was actually just talking to Kale about

how people, I swear, have lost the ability to civilly coexist with someone you don't need to be friends. You just have to be cordial and civil and friendly. So I feel like I totally agree with you. If the maturity level was there, it'd be very, very different. But I think a lot of people are lacking at these days. I could never imagine honestly being in a situation where I would like try to come after a person

that I was with like their children's mother. Like I could just never, I would never do that. Like one, it's not my place. And two, like what are we fighting about? Yeah. And that would never be on your to-do list at all, ever. No, never. That would not make it, it wouldn't make the cut.

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and kind of thriving sisterhood. Follow us on Instagram at Viven and Kind of Thrive-In. We'll catch you on Mondays. Okay, so I'm gonna do one last question. Okay, make it good. It's a goodie. What is your go-to meal to cook on a Sunday evening? I don't cook on a Sunday evening.

Oh, damn. Okay, so pick any other day of the week. My go-to meal is definitely going to be spaghetti or pot roast for sure. Hmm, see those are good. And it's easy because it's like crock pot. Like my go-to meal is gonna be in a crock pot for sure. Okay, I mean, and some people will do crock pot.

Some people like air fryer. So we're team crock pot, I get it. Yeah, I'm definitely team crock pot. And I think that it makes your life so easy. It's like you put it on in the morning and then you get to like reap the benefits in the evening and it's like not a whole lot of work. And you can like pre-prep your crock pot.

So it's like, okay, it makes it even less work because it's like you can put everything in the crock pot, put it in the refrigerator, pull it out, put it on low for like eight hours and Bing, bam, boom, done. And I'm like, okay, why are we not posting more crock pot meals? We need to.

Everyone's been asking us to bring back coffee combos cooks. So we got to start sharing some recipes. We should definitely do that. I do want to answer this one question though, before we go. Have you always been so blunt or was it learned as you got older? I love it and listen for it.

Honestly, I think every single person in my family is blunt and I don't know if it's like a hereditary trait or and I've just become more comfortable with it as I've gotten older. There's pros and cons to this though because I feel like sometimes when I deliver a message to someone, the delivery is way off but the intention is right on.

Like it's pure, it's right on but the way that I delivered the message was off and I'm not trying to send somebody soul to hell. I'm just like, this is how I feel, this is what needs to happen. I think to establish good working boundaries that sometimes in life you have to be very blunt and direct. And I have always been that way

but more so as I've come into myself post-divorce, I think that I have gained my voice back and so because of that, it's just easier for me to truly be who I am at my core. Yeah, I mean, I definitely think that there's like a misconception in society that like directness and bluntness are rude and I don't agree but I definitely see what you're saying with the delivery

because I struggle with that sometimes where I'm trying to be direct and it comes across completely different and I'm like, I'm not trying to be an asshole. I'm literally just saying this. It's like, okay, are you just a bitch or are you direct, like which one are you? It's like regards in an email

or I hope this email finds you well, but it's like. And you're like, do you actually hope that or are you just being an asshole? It's like, no, I actually hope that this email does not, this email is about to not find you well. Oh my God, no, I definitely, and I think too that delivery is always something that everyone has to work on

because it's so affected by your emotions of what you're going through in your life. It just comes across in your words. Like people say texts are hard to read. No, sometimes your attitude is speaking is hard to read. Oh my God. Not you personally, just in general. I think that like.

But also me. So I think that's hard. But no, you know what you want and you say it, so. I definitely do. And I actually said that to someone this morning. I was like, they said you need time to like truly process all the things that you've been through through the last year.

And I'm like, no, like I processed those things before I ever left the marriage before. And I feel like generally that women process things before they do them, right? So it's like before they make a big life decision. What is that saying that women are done long before they leave? Oh yeah, like men always think it's a shock

but women have been gone long before they actually left. Yes. And I'm like, no, I processed that actually last summer. In fact, so thanks for the concern, but yeah. You're like, get on my timeline because this is not due to trauma, thank you. Yeah, is this, wait, what's that?

Someone sent me, they were like, okay, is this considered toxic or is this trauma? And I'm like, combo of both actually probably. Wait, so I posted about Taco Bell. I posted a. What was it? You posted a story. Yeah.

Yeah. I'll have to see if I can grab it and post it again because I was dying and you had tagged. It was something about Taco Bell and I forget what it was, but I was dying and I was like, I have to tell you a story about Taco Bell. Okay, well I'm gonna pull up the, okay, this is it. It says the Taco Bell drive-thru at 1 a.m.

will have a 200,000 Mercedes S65 waiting right behind a 96 Cavalier that's never had oil change followed by a moped ridden by three people all craving the same thing to live mass. Truly the last great melting pot of class in this history and in this country. And I'm like, okay, nothing could be more true. And I still crave Taco Bell all the time.

Like I used to eat it all the time in college and sometimes I just pass it and I'm like, you know what, I'm gonna swing right in there. Kale actually just discovered, she's gonna have to tell you what she just discovered, newly found love for Taco Bell. So I'll let her tell everyone about that. Oh, she has, this is new? Like I'm talking within the last few days.

Okay, great. So what is this story? I'll let her tell that. I don't know where she's been. However, the last time I was at Taco Bell was after a night out and I was driving my friend because I was the DD and I don't need to drink to have a great time, so, you know, whatever.

So my friend was drunk, we went to Taco Bell, we go through the drive-thru. I hadn't been at Taco Bell for years, so we go. And she was snoring her words and I could have sworn, she said, I want a caramel and banana, but the way that she said it was, it sounded like I want a caramel and banana. So I leave through my window and they were like anything

else and I said, yeah, my friend wants a caramel and banana, like said it just like. Yeah, just like she said it. And it was an empanada and they thought, what? I was on drugs and they had like some type of dessert and it was called like a caramel, apple, empanada. Yeah. And I'm over here shouting caramel, apple and banana

through the window. And they literally were like, are you okay through the drive-thru? And I was mortified when I got up there and they were like, we think you were asking for an empanada and I was like, sure, sure. And you're like, oh my God. I have never wanted to jump out of a moving vehicle

more in my life. I was like, you have, like I was committed and they had me say it three times and I was just like, okay, great. Everyone who's been to Taco Bell knows that I'm not lying whenever I say this. Truthfully, it's always a grab bag when you go to Taco Bell. It's like we don't know what is actually transpiring

in this bag right now. Like this could be what I ordered, but this possibly could be something else that's gonna taste exactly the same as what I ordered. Yes. So I'm just gonna keep this. Yeah, cause you don't know. You really don't know.

Cory goes there and he can literally blow like $35 on himself. And I'm like, what are you getting besides the whole damn menu? You're like the whole fucking thing. I'm like, I got a taco box and I'm like, what? I used to get the bean burrito. That's what I get and the cheesy fiesta potatoes.

I'm dead. There's no telling. My order changes almost every time. Like I don't have a consistent order ever. Okay, wait. So you also sent another TikTok to both Kale and I over the weekend about these decomposing bodies. What the hell is going on there?

So I'm gonna have to post the TikTok, but I need to do a further dive on some research about it. However, this TikToker stumbled across the situation of a family who lives in a house in a neighborhood. It's not like they're in a rural area. They live in a neighborhood. They have an HOA and evidently their bodies, there was like three people.

I think it was the mom, the dad and maybe the son were found decomposing in their house. And upon further investigation for this TikToker, something said that it was like 16 to 18 months they've been there decomposing. And I'm just like, if you had an HOA- I have so many questions about this. Like-

So many. So I need to do further research. And I'm hoping that the listeners have more details when I post this because I'm so intrigued by it. But how do you, no one called about you. You have nobody, like the neighbors haven't seen you come and go or has someone been coming and going and it wasn't you.

Like what, I'm lost. I'm just like, how does this happen? So an article on the New York post says cops find three bodies that had been decomposing for a year in California home. Three severely decomposed bodies of a California family were discovered in their home by police Wednesday morning and what is being investigated as a year old murder suicide. Cops were conducting a welfare check on the family

at their Irvine residence when they stumbled upon the decaying remains of a father, mother and their adult son. The corpses had been decomposing for more than a year, extended family members of the residence of the home reported to Canadian authorities. They had been unable to reach the residence in over one year and were concerned. Responding officers entered the home,

discovered three severely decomposed bodies inside and appeared that they were all adults. There was no sign of forced entry. The home and the police found evidence of a domestic related incident that resulted in a murder suicide. So I don't know what evidence that was. And they give no more information.

It's a pretty short article, but my thoughts are, okay, these Canadian family members, they didn't find it to be weird when they reported this. Like, oh, we haven't heard from them in over a year. I'm like calling the cops, like if I don't hear from someone in two hours, I don't, it's just odd. And then like my other thing is,

so they're part of an HOA, HOA is like deer grass cutting and they have rolls and all kinds of stuff like that. So like if your landscaping wasn't being maintained, what the hell is going on? Same thing with like you're not paying your mortgage. So how did you not get foreclosed on and like evicted at that point?

I just, it's something's weird. I have a couple of things on this though. Okay, so because of COVID, that could explain why they didn't get evicted or like the mortgage stuff. And then in my neighborhood, the HOA does all the lawn maintenance. Oh, okay.

I'm wondering if that neighborhood also did all the lawn maintenance. We need to know, we need more answers. That's crazy. But like how, how did, it wasn't like one person. It was three. How did three people, no one from like, that knew the three of those people

went looking for one of them within a year? I, that just can't be right, right? Like that's not. I need answers. I need someone to like do more research because I have so much research to do for our true crime that's coming up this week that like I don't have the capabilities of researching more.

So I want this just dropped in my inbox to be frank. Outside of that, we're gonna do foul play. Oh yeah. Okay, so I have two for you today. Perfect. Are we ready? So this was submitted to the email. We usually get them in the DMs,

but our email is also open. So we got this to the email today. So it's foul play drunk edition. It was Christmas Eve night, also my birthday. My boyfriend and I went to my parents' house and all my family was over there, drinking, eating, having a good time. My uncle kept trying to have my boyfriend and I drink.

He kept giving us shots, mixing white on dark, beer, et cetera. My boyfriend drank beer for his first time and mixed liquors as well. He got so drunk, he ended up passing out on the bed in my parents' guest room. I've never seen him this drunk before.

My aunt and I were talking and she was asking me questions about him throwing up when drinking. I'm like, every time he drinks, he's never thrown up. My aunt literally said, oh wow, you're so lucky. Literally a minute later, I go to check on my boyfriend

and when I turned around, it's throw up everywhere. All over the bed, the sheets, his phone, his phone case, I was disgusted. I knew I had to immediately clean everything up. I tried waking him up and he was passed out. He ended up rolling out of bed

and falling on the floor, didn't even feel it. When I looked, it was throw up all over him, all over his clothes, now everywhere. I had to clean his phone, change his clothes out, wipe him down and throw all the sheets in the washer. He ate, he had ate so much. Some type of taco, Berea tacos prior. So it was literally fucking thrown up Berea everywhere.

I wanted to cry and when I cleaned him up, he ended up throwing up again. It was like flesh meat. It was like fresh fucking meat. Just coming out of his mouth, I stepped on it on accident. We couldn't go home because he didn't wake up till the next morning.

When I told him everything that happened and showed him the pictures, he apologized to all of this. Anyway, I don't ever want to eat these tacos in my life again and I'll never jinx myself again. Okay, so I don't know if I would rather have to clean up throw up or a fucking turn.

Right, like that's a tough, I'll pick pee any day over both. I'm like, I'm gonna automatically go with a turd because I'm like, I can just like scoop that into something literally almost throw up myself and call it a day. But I'm gagging, like to clean up this kind of throw up from someone I would be so pissed. And actually Caroline and I were talking about at the beach.

We were with Heather and her parents too. And Caroline was like, Lindsay never gets hung over, like ever, like I don't get sick. I don't get hung over, like nothing. And so when I hear these stories, I don't know what these people are doing, but evidently they are poisoning themselves because this is terrible and throw up,

like even to clean up like little kid throw up is bad, but like a grown adult with like chunks of food in there, like I would rather die to be frank. And just like vomit has a smell and I'm just, that's all I'm gonna say about that. Well, so does shit. But I feel like that smell actually goes away faster than vomit.

Like if someone puked, you know someone puked even if it was like five hours ago. Wait, we talked about the rolling turd at the beach so much and we just still need answers on the rolling turd. No, we had the follow up last week. We, the- Oh, I wasn't there. Oh, yes, okay.

So the follow up was that it was the same look and consistency of the grape Welch's fruit snacks. Oh, foul. And that's why she thought it was a fruit snack. I still, I'm like, I don't think if I saw a turd, I'm not thinking it's a fruit snack. I'm like, nah, could you imagine like me with like my future boyfriend or husband

like changing a baby diaper? And me just like casually passing my couch like as a passerby and just like seeing a fucking rolling turd there. I would be like- You would literally be like, we're burning the couch. So thank you. You immediately should not talk to me today.

Oh my God. Yeah, I was cracking up. Okay, next. Next one. This is fresh from this morning. Okay, this was, this just happened. Okay. They said, this literally just happened to me.

I'm an elementary school teacher. I went to use the bathroom because I had period and coffee shits in tandem. So I did the deed, the toilet was blown up with bloody toilet paper and of course poop. I go to flush it and it wouldn't flush. The toilet was running. I tried to pull the back off and fix it myself,

but no luck. I tried to wait for it to fill up, no luck. So I made the most logical decision. I took the toilet paper out of the dispenser, stuck my hand in the toilet, retrieved the shit and bloody toilet paper, went to another stall, went to another stall and flushed. I'm horrified, but I love the podcast.

Ew, okay, first of all, what is period shits? That's first of all. You've never experienced that before? I need to know how many people have because I definitely can attest that there are things. What is period shits? What is that? You just have it, you just have the shits

during your period. You don't know if you're cramping or if you have to go to the bathroom. But is it diarrhea shits or like what? It's definitely not solid. Okay, and I mean, I know coffee shits are a thing. I don't have them, but like. I've heard they're a thing.

I don't drink coffee, so I can't attest to those, but definitely can attest to the period shits. No way am I ever pulling any of that stuff out of a toilet and then putting in another toilet and flushing it like. No, I would immediately leave the bathroom and act like that wasn't me. That's what I would do.

And then you like feel horrible because you know someone's gonna have to clean it up, but it's like just give me the plunger like something, but I am absolutely under zero circumstances. Putting my hand down in that and pull, no. Like no, ma'am. And then if you're saying that period shits are an actual thing combined with coffee shits.

I can't imagine. I'm like, that to me sounds like an actual crime scene that I'm not willing to investigate. No, I'm right there with you because no, I will not touch toilets that I didn't clean myself. No, no, no, no, no. Wait, okay, before we go, how many people squat and how many people like sit on a toilet,

a public toilet without putting paper down? So I squat, I do the hover, but I heard it's really bad for your pelvic floor. Why? I don't know. I actually, I wanna find out, but I recently saw a TikTok saying that doing the squatting thing

is wrecking our pelvic floor muscles. Oh, wow. Don't know anything about that. Oh, well, apparently it's like your pelvic floor has a lot to do with why people after they have kids say like, you know, a little pee comes out sometimes. So I've heard. I don't have that.

But I do know multiple people that tell me about it. And I've just never experienced that. I've never had an issue like making it to the bathroom or ever like peeing on myself. But yeah, I don't know how that would be an issue. Because wouldn't that be like the same thing as like using a squatty potty? Or no.

No, because your muscle, I think that like you're not, because you're using your muscles to hold yourself up to like hover. Oh, with a squatty potty you're sitting and your legs are just up. Oh, yeah. Okay.

Okay. I'm definitely a hover and I would never sit in a public toilet without toilet paper. You know, like layers of toilet paper down. I don't know if they still have them cause I haven't seen them in a long time. I don't really go anywhere.

But my mom, when I was growing up, she always had those liners. Yeah, like the liner that goes over. I don't, I haven't seen them in a while, but those were clutch. Yeah. Everyone let us know which one you are. And if you just like bare ass sit on the public toilet.

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